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Speaker 1: Hey, everybody, Emily, body here. You're listening to five Minute

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Speaker 1: Friday from Hurdle, and I'm so happy you're here. That

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Speaker 1: really is an understatement. I feel slightly disconnected from the

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Speaker 1: hurdle community lately, which is odd because I'm at the

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Speaker 1: forefront of it. But for me, such a large part

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Speaker 1: of what I do is one way communication, and so

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Speaker 1: it really helps me when I hear from all of you.

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Speaker 1: When you're in my dms, when you're leaving reviews and

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Speaker 1: thoughts on the review page in Apple podcasts, when you're

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Speaker 1: commenting on the newsletter. All of this is a contributing

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Speaker 1: factor for me to feel as though I'm doing doing

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Speaker 1: something right. And I feel like you've been a little

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Speaker 1: quiet lately. So do me a solid. If you're listening

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Speaker 1: to this, tag the show on social hit up over

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Speaker 1: at Hurdle podcast DM me, say Hi, what's up? What's happening?

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Speaker 1: Email me? Even the email for Hurdle is hello at

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Speaker 1: Hurdle dot us. I want to hear from you, seriously.

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Speaker 1: It really does mean a lot to me when y'all engage.

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Speaker 1: And I know I did just mention the reviews, but

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Speaker 1: I am positive. There are so many people listening to

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Speaker 1: this who have not rated this show yet, I promise

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Speaker 1: you it takes less than one minute of your time.

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Speaker 1: I'm going to show a demo on the Socials on

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Speaker 1: the day. This goes up on how to rate and

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Speaker 1: review the show and my stories. But if you ever

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Speaker 1: want to and I are having trouble, let me know.

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Speaker 1: I got you. I got you. That's the summary of

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Speaker 1: what's going on, and it's also what I want to

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Speaker 1: talk about for five minute Friday today, is that I

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Speaker 1: got me. I was on the subway home the other

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Speaker 1: day and had this resounding thought about the importance of

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Speaker 1: continuing to show up and what showing up looks for

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Speaker 1: me right now. There have been times in my life

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Speaker 1: where showing up in the most important aspect for myself

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Speaker 1: was simply getting out of the bed in the morning

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Speaker 1: and moving my body. And I knew that if I

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Speaker 1: showed up for myself in that way, I would be

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Speaker 1: able to handle anything else that came my way throughout

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Speaker 1: the rest of the day. That's showing up. Showing up

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Speaker 1: for me right now is a layered version of that,

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Speaker 1: in that I know firmly with all of the balls

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Speaker 1: that I am juggling at this moment. Not only do

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Speaker 1: I need to show up and move my body in

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Speaker 1: the morning, but then that continues throughout my day in

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Speaker 1: different phases, through different actions and choices. For me, showing

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Speaker 1: up right now is choosing kindness when I feel as

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Speaker 1: though I am about to boil over. Showing up right

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Speaker 1: now means responding instead of reacting to someone that may

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Speaker 1: not completely understand what your point of view is or

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Speaker 1: where you're coming from. For me, showing up is choosing

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Speaker 1: the things that help me be my best, whether it

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Speaker 1: is through the way that I move my body or

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Speaker 1: perhaps sometimes removing myself from a hectic situation. Showing up

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Speaker 1: for me lately is truly pausing. It's pausing to the

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Speaker 1: best of my ability, so that when I execute, when

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Speaker 1: I communicate, when I do X or Y, I am

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Speaker 1: doing so in a way that would make me feel proud,

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Speaker 1: regardless of the situation. I don't want to just act

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Speaker 1: okay considering what's at play. I want to act every

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Speaker 1: day and present myself every day in a way that

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Speaker 1: makes me proud period. I say this with compassion as well.

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Speaker 1: I say this knowing that some days it feels a

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Speaker 1: lot harder to show up than others. There have been

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Speaker 1: certainly circumstances in my life where I have felt incapable

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Speaker 1: of showing up in a way that I once was,

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Speaker 1: and I have so much grace and compassion for that

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Speaker 1: Emily as well. But I know this to be true,

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Speaker 1: is that the beginning of showing up starts so small.

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Speaker 1: It begins with what is one small thing that I

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Speaker 1: can do in this moment that makes my current and

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Speaker 1: future self proud? And that's it. And then each day,

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Speaker 1: as you start to execute in that way, you'll realize

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Speaker 1: that you're starting to drift into this place of alignment

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Speaker 1: where your actions match up with your feelings, where you're

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Speaker 1: acting in a way where you you can answer the

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Speaker 1: question what's best for Emily, what's best for inserting my

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Speaker 1: name here? Sometimes showing up for yourself means letting down

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Speaker 1: other people, and no one wants to do that. But

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Speaker 1: ultimately this is a little lame, But I'm going to

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Speaker 1: say it. The ones who mind don't matter, and the

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Speaker 1: ones that matter don't mind, and that's it. So right

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Speaker 1: now I'm in a phase of really asking myself, how

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Speaker 1: do I show up in a way that makes my

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Speaker 1: current self and my future self proud? What small things

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Speaker 1: It all adds up my prompt for you this week,

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Speaker 1: what does it look like when you show up for

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Speaker 1: yourself and what does that typically involve? What does it

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Speaker 1: look like when you show up for yourself and what

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Speaker 1: does it typically involve? And now a listener.

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Speaker 2: Question as a future off for summer break. I'm noticing

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Speaker 2: that I am and having a hard time slowing down

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Speaker 2: and not feeling like I have to do things all

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Speaker 2: the time and be productive. My question for you is,

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Speaker 2: when things slow down, how do you embrace the calm

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Speaker 2: and allow for that space before things ramp back up again.

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Speaker 1: This is a good question and candidly something that has

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Speaker 1: been an exercise for me, and that how does a

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Speaker 1: muscle strengthen you give it something to push up against.

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Speaker 1: How does your will strengthen you also give it something

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Speaker 1: to push up against. For me, this being okay with stillness,

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Speaker 1: being okay with the slowdown has truly been an exercise

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Speaker 1: that has required strengthening. And what I will say is

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Speaker 1: little bit more comfortable with that stillness. Just because you

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Speaker 1: won't get back to that pace that makes you feel

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Speaker 1: a little bit more alive at times. And something I

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Speaker 1: do to really embrace these slower periods is I have

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Speaker 1: a list of things that I wish I had the

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Speaker 1: time to do. So there's books on there I want

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Speaker 1: to read. There are candidly things that I want to

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Speaker 1: write about, whether that is a prompt or reflect on

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Speaker 1: a certain memory. There are places that I want to go,

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Speaker 1: some of them that are absolutely free in New York,

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Speaker 1: and I've just never made the time, and so candidly

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Speaker 1: having this list makes me feel like I have options.

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Speaker 1: And it also circling back brings me back into this

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Speaker 1: deep gratitude for the opportunity to slow down, to find

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Speaker 1: the time. That reframe is really important when we think

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Speaker 1: about slowing it down instead of thinking this, this is

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Speaker 1: a time where I feel a little bit blah, a

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Speaker 1: little bit like what's going on? I'm lacking structure. What

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Speaker 1: if you looked at it as Wow, what an opportunity

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Speaker 1: to do the thing that I've been wanting to do.

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Speaker 1: What an opportunity to rest, What an opportunity to fill

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Speaker 1: my cup up and do the inquiry as to what

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Speaker 1: it would take for you to fill your cup up.

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Speaker 1: Embrace the rest. It's not easy. I get it. I'm

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Speaker 1: a little bit anxious with it too, but that list

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Speaker 1: that powerful, powerful reframe what an opportunity it is to

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Speaker 1: have this slower time. That's it for this week, Another

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Speaker 1: hurdle conquered. Catch you guys next time.

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Speaker 2: He