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Speaker 1: Scrubbing in with Beca Tilly and Tanya Red and iHeartRadio

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Speaker 1: and two times People's Choice Award winning podcast. Hello everybody,

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Speaker 2: That intro reminded me of something we forgot to speak

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Speaker 2: on on Monday, and that is that the Golden Globes

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Speaker 2: has a podcast category. Yeah and it again, It just

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Speaker 2: like reignited something in me where like I felt proud

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Speaker 2: to be in that space. Mm, but also like we

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Speaker 2: have to get nominated one year, Like I don't know

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Speaker 2: what we.

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Speaker 1: Have to do. We have to get Sandra out. Remember

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Speaker 1: we have to have a Golden Globes no.

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Speaker 2: Nominee, so maybe we need a lot of Golden Globe nominees.

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Speaker 2: Which let's send the word out to Matthew Reese.

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Speaker 1: Pull her on our podcast.

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Speaker 2: I love her, I mean, yeah, podcasting our podcast, but why.

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Speaker 1: Why do I have to honor you? Thinking Patrick Dempsey's

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Speaker 1: going to do our podcast, but another fellow woman podcaster wonted.

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Speaker 2: Because she has her own podcast to do. What's Patrick

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Speaker 2: Dempsey doing right now?

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Speaker 1: I actually is a new movie coming up. Maybe he

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Speaker 1: wants to promote it here.

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Speaker 2: I'd love to have Amy Poller on, but I'm like

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Speaker 2: we have to get if we have to get the nominees,

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Speaker 2: like we need the Carrie Russell's of the world, happy

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Speaker 2: to have them. I don't know what we gotta do,

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Speaker 2: but we gotta do something. We have to get nominated.

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Speaker 1: Like I was like laughing because I knew you were

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Speaker 1: going to bring this up, and I was like, it

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Speaker 1: was like Amy Poehler SmartLess, Mel Robbins call her daddy,

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Speaker 1: call her Daddy's the only one kind of like in

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Speaker 1: our like world even but it's hard to even say that.

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Speaker 2: No, right, she's so far beyond our.

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Speaker 1: Sixty Yeah, slightly.

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Speaker 3: Five million. Good for her.

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Speaker 1: She's one when thank herself more than more than we have.

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Speaker 1: But yeah, it was I knew you were going to

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Speaker 1: bring this up, and I was just like giggling to myself, thinking,

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Speaker 1: who we but we you know, we did win the

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Speaker 1: People's Choice Award against Oprah.

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Speaker 2: Shumer, Like we beat Oprah. There's where there's a will,

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Speaker 2: There is a way, and I just have to figure

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Speaker 2: out that way. Yeah, and I'm you know, uh, who

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Speaker 2: votes for the Golden Globes?

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Speaker 4: Mark Hollywood Foreign Press tough not to track.

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Speaker 1: I do love that Amy one against her ex husband. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: that was the Sweetest Revenge, which I don't even know

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Speaker 1: of their situation.

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Speaker 2: But I think they're friendly. Okay, I think I think

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Speaker 2: still got to feel good totally.

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Speaker 1: And her podcast is new, very new, so but she

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Speaker 1: feels kind of like us, That's what I'm saying. I

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Speaker 1: think we'd have a great call.

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Speaker 5: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Like, she's so good at interviewing people, and she's so

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Speaker 1: like calming, and she even made a mistake interviewing Gwyneth Paltrow.

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Speaker 1: Did you see that?

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Speaker 4: No?

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Speaker 1: She was like, tell me about Cold Mountain, and Gwyneth

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Speaker 1: is like, I wasn't in Cold Mountain, but thank you

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Speaker 1: for thinking I'm like Nicole Kidman and she goes, yeah,

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Speaker 1: well then that doesn't matter, Like she just it wasn't

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Speaker 1: an awkward moment. It was just like, continued in the conversation.

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Speaker 2: She's such a mistakes everybody makes, even the best of us.

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Speaker 2: But anyways, that's gonna be. I actually haven't made my

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Speaker 2: vision board this year yet. Oh wow spoiler alerts, Wow, Yeah,

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Speaker 2: I was. Actually what's crazy is I was in the

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Speaker 2: process of making my vision board like I do. It's

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Speaker 2: kind of like a two day step thing. I rip

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Speaker 2: everything out one day and then I like glew it

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Speaker 2: down the next day. The day I was ripping was

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Speaker 2: the day I went to the er, so kind of

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Speaker 2: set that aside.

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Speaker 1: A different kind of ripping was needed, Yes.

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Speaker 2: Very different. So I haven't made my vision board, but

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Speaker 2: I think I'm gonna put Golden Globe nominated podcast winning

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Speaker 2: podcast to be nominated when you can win child's play,

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Speaker 2: and you know what, we won't be a box in

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Speaker 2: the screen. We will be there.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, we will be there. Yeah we won't. Yeah, please,

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Speaker 1: we'd be like what's it called?

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Speaker 5: Like?

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Speaker 2: Uh whatever? Yeah, anybody that's listening, If anybody knows how

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Speaker 2: you go about doing that, please dm me things.

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Speaker 1: Does it have any connections to the Hollywood form Press?

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Speaker 1: What did you say? Who wrotes on it? Yeah, she

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Speaker 1: don't have any contacts. Let us know.

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Speaker 2: I can send an amazing box of cookies, we can

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Speaker 2: make some sourdough. Whatever we got to do, we can do.

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Speaker 1: Yeah yeah yeah. What did you think about the mom

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Speaker 2: It was the story that never ended. I could not

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Speaker 1: So here for those of you who don't know anything

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Speaker 1: her site that was titled You're Allowed to Leave your

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Speaker 2: So I'm not sure if the Cut picked it up.

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Speaker 1: Oh no, she expanded our essay. Yeah, so she expanded

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Speaker 1: on her essay, and she basically just said, which.

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Speaker 2: Was interesting to me, It was like public, I already

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Speaker 2: putting it on your blog is making it public. I

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Speaker 1: Yeah, oh yeah. But she basically described the group as

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Speaker 2: Well, the way she was saying was like they were

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Speaker 2: doing a seating chart is stressful enough, Like you don't

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Speaker 1: Here's my thing. My take on it is that two

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Speaker 1: Don't think that's a fair thing, Like you don't you

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Speaker 2: So I found it interesting in the article she said

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Speaker 2: I'm like really curious which the one is. Oh, do

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Speaker 1: No, But that's why I keep seeing people spec I'm like, there's.

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Speaker 2: A person in particular that she says like they could

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Speaker 2: I don't know the answer. But what's been so interesting

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Speaker 2: person commenting about it. Hillary Duff's sister Haley liked Ashley

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Speaker 1: Well, I guess Haley and Hillary had some sort of

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Speaker 2: Megan Trainer posted like when you learned about the thing,

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Speaker 3: Well, the comment said, so you're saying Ashley was right.

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Speaker 2: Basically this proves right, right, and then all these other

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Speaker 2: Can you pull up on?

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Speaker 1: Said? Uh, creating a parody cover like basically a cover

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Speaker 1: Okay, And he said the most self obsessed, tone deaf

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Speaker 2: Yeah, so what I read is that apparently Mandy Moore

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Speaker 2: So it's like I don't know. And I've heard Hillary

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Speaker 2: So it's like I don't know who to believe.

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Speaker 2: Well something according to Ashley, one of them is oh yeah,

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Speaker 2: but the whole group as a whole I don't believe

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Speaker 1: Yeah. I think actually just needs to find her people.

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Speaker 2: I think she found her people. Oh good, seems like it.

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Speaker 1: Oh it's all handled.

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Speaker 2: But what I find so interesting is like every day

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Speaker 2: this story that never dies, like it's just not going away.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, won't end. You know, what else doesn't see woe

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Speaker 5: now they're back, but then they're like, give us privacy

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Speaker 5: while we was privacy while we na getting back together.

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Speaker 2: It's so exciting. Do you know they're doing a dual

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Speaker 2: No, who knows. But they're bringing back the live finale.

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Speaker 3: I saw that.

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Speaker 1: It's crazy. You have to find a way to go.

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Speaker 2: That's why I feel like I was like, I saw

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Speaker 1: It's back, do everything you can to get I will.

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Speaker 2: Do everything that for me for my regret.

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Speaker 3: Okay, okay, did you watch the Crazey Anatomy return it? Okay,

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Speaker 3: I'll just say this. They need to stop leaving the hospital.

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Speaker 1: Are they dangling off a cliff?

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Speaker 3: No, it's not that bad.

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Speaker 1: Okay, No, anyway you could spoiler alert. Is Joe alive?

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Speaker 3: She's currently a living character on that show? Yes, but

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Speaker 1: Oh, that's tough.

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Speaker 2: I could get back into graze all the time I've had, Yeah.

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Speaker 2: I watched run Away. You know there's a new show

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Speaker 1: You're so deep into Netflix. You're getting recommendations like a

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Speaker 3: Oh I know I'm talking about I'm like, okay.

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Speaker 2: And then I watched People you Meet on Vacation.

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Speaker 2: It was so cheesy.

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Speaker 1: That is the craziest thing that you said. Some of

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Speaker 2: So I saw your post about how much you loved it,

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Speaker 1: But I love the leads.

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Speaker 1: Well you only watched the part where they're just met.

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Speaker 1: I like that. I like that year of takes. There's

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Speaker 2: I was so excited for that movie to come out,

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Speaker 1: You should give it another shot.

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Speaker 2: He goes l L with This is about Becca's pickup that's.

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Speaker 2: I said, Becca has a pickup basketball game tomorrow. He said, llol,

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Speaker 1: Right, Dear Bonya.

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Speaker 3: Anonymous, Hi, Becca'm market Eastern. I'd love your perspective on

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Speaker 3: I'd love to hear your thoughts.

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Speaker 2: Love you guys, Taylor.

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Speaker 1: Time You've had a dream wedding, So how do you

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Speaker 2: I feel like both things can exist at the same time.

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Speaker 1: I have an idea, what if you have your courthouse

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Speaker 1: have an idea of how much you're willing to spend

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Speaker 1: on your dream wedding, like what budget out what your

441
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Speaker 1: dream wedding, how much that would cost, And then you

442
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Speaker 1: put a savings account and you get to a place

443
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Speaker 1: where when that savings account reaches what you want it to,

444
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Speaker 1: that you can do your dream wedding knowing that that

445
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Speaker 1: money was intentionally for a celebration and a party, and

446
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Speaker 1: you get to have your dream like weekend or day

447
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Speaker 1: or whatever it is with your favorite people in address

448
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Speaker 1: and doing all the things that you want to do,

449
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Speaker 1: but you don't feel stressed that you've done something irresponsible financially.

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Speaker 3: I think there's also a happy medium here. It's not

451
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Speaker 3: courthouse or wedding of the century, like you could have

452
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Speaker 3: a really modest ceremony with all of your friends and

453
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Speaker 3: family there.

454
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Speaker 1: Yeah, but she's specifically saying dream wedding, so it's making

455
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Speaker 1: me think it's a.

456
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Speaker 3: Think you can have a scaled down dream wedding. I

457
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Speaker 3: think the courthouse is not what you want. I think

458
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Speaker 3: the courthouse is giving in.

459
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Speaker 1: But the court cast to me is like you you

460
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Speaker 1: have it with your person and a select few people

461
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Speaker 1: that's really in, and you get a photographer and take

462
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Speaker 1: really like put a beautiful something that you feel beautiful

463
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Speaker 1: and didn't take beautiful photos. Those are like I love,

464
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Speaker 1: I love when I see elopements like that. But then

465
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Speaker 1: I think, if she wants the celebration and having a

466
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Speaker 1: band or whatever she wants, then it's like you plan

467
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Speaker 1: that when when you feel like that's not going to

468
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Speaker 1: be a burden on you financially.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, And I think I really think that social media

470
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Speaker 2: plays such a part into the like the wedding culture,

471
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Speaker 2: because I feel like people will look at my wedding

472
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Speaker 2: and think that that was like the most extravagant wedding

473
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Speaker 2: that they've ever seen. But then I looked at other

474
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Speaker 2: weddings and I was like, oh my gosh, like we

475
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Speaker 2: cut on, Like there were so many things that we

476
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Speaker 2: cut on because we did we didn't want, you know,

477
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Speaker 2: we wanted to like stick within a certain budget, and

478
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Speaker 2: like there was things that I was like, oh I

479
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Speaker 2: wish you know, like oh I didn't I didn't do

480
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Speaker 2: that second look, or I didn't do this whatever night,

481
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Speaker 2: and we didn't do a cake and you know what

482
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Speaker 2: I mean. Like there was just all these all things

483
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Speaker 2: and I feel like you compare stuff that you see

484
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Speaker 2: on social media. So I don't want you to do

485
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Speaker 2: that because I feel like that takes you down such

486
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Speaker 2: like a bad rabbit hole.

487
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Speaker 1: Right.

488
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Speaker 2: I think when you just take a look at like

489
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Speaker 2: what's really important to you when you think of dream wedding,

490
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Speaker 2: what is that? Who is that? And then work from there,

491
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Speaker 2: there are ways to cut costs and still have a

492
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Speaker 2: really beautiful wedding.

493
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Speaker 1: I think that's smart, like look at the things that

494
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Speaker 1: are important to you and not like what social because

495
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Speaker 1: I saw a post on the Facebook group that was

496
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Speaker 1: talking about how our lives aren't relatable based on like

497
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Speaker 1: what we spend like money, how much money we spend

498
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Speaker 1: on things and like the extravagant trips we take and everything.

499
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Speaker 1: And I think it's that's the perspective though, of like

500
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Speaker 1: what social media does, because they're looking at us, and

501
00:24:42,320 --> 00:24:44,720
Speaker 1: then we have people that we look at and we're like, well,

502
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Speaker 1: we could never imagine doing that, and that's just life

503
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Speaker 1: and comparison and it steals any joy. So I would

504
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Speaker 1: say literally, think of what your dream wedding is, not

505
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Speaker 1: not a Pinterest board of what your dream wedding is,

506
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Speaker 1: but like when you think about who's there, what food

507
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Speaker 1: do you have, what it looks like from like an

508
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Speaker 1: overhead view, and a memory that you're going to have.

509
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Speaker 1: And I think Mark's right. I think you can have

510
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Speaker 1: a dream wedding. I just want it. I personally feel

511
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Speaker 1: like it's not worth and maybe I'm speaking from not

512
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Speaker 1: having the experience, but I can't imagine if you're not

513
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Speaker 1: in a financial place to do it that you will

514
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Speaker 1: feel that it was worth it for one day, so

515
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Speaker 1: I would get to a place where it's not going

516
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Speaker 1: to feel like you've totally put your family in a

517
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Speaker 1: bad place financially. But I also think you deserve to

518
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Speaker 1: have your moment.

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Speaker 2: Mm hm.

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Speaker 3: The average cost of a wedding in America is thirty

521
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Speaker 3: two thousand dollars Gosh's and that's not practical.

522
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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's crazy, all right.

523
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Speaker 3: Next one, Dear Banya and Meston, I have been in

524
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Speaker 3: a serious relationship with my boyfriend for about two almost

525
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Speaker 3: three years now. When I hear the way Tany's obsessed

526
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Speaker 3: with Robbie in his hands, the way beca loves on

527
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Speaker 3: Haley with pure intentionality, the way Mark it's excited about

528
00:26:00,760 --> 00:26:03,040
Speaker 3: his future with Amy even after all these years together,

529
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Speaker 3: and the way efton our Caramel Korn Princess talks about

530
00:26:05,920 --> 00:26:09,160
Speaker 3: enjoying every niche moment with Alison. I can't help sit

531
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Speaker 3: in my car and reflect on my own relationship. It

532
00:26:12,200 --> 00:26:15,480
Speaker 3: inspired me to, unbeknownst to you, join you in the

533
00:26:15,560 --> 00:26:19,720
Speaker 3: Artist's Way Workbook. Through the pod and the workbook, I

534
00:26:19,800 --> 00:26:21,960
Speaker 3: still don't feel the way about my boyfriend that you

535
00:26:22,080 --> 00:26:25,520
Speaker 3: all sound about your respective partners. I don't feel seen

536
00:26:25,600 --> 00:26:27,480
Speaker 3: in the way that you all have shared that you are.

537
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Speaker 3: Is seeniness something that has developed over time that you

538
00:26:31,480 --> 00:26:34,159
Speaker 3: each have worked on in your relationships or is this

539
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Speaker 3: my cue that I don't feel seen and I never

540
00:26:36,440 --> 00:26:39,240
Speaker 3: will with him. He's a firefighter with a kind heart.

541
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Speaker 3: He's my best friend, but I can't seem to shake

542
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Speaker 3: this feeling that I should be obsessed with him and

543
00:26:43,720 --> 00:26:46,960
Speaker 3: I'm not. My delulu of being a day one scrubber

544
00:26:46,960 --> 00:26:48,800
Speaker 3: has convinced me that we're all friends. So I trust

545
00:26:48,840 --> 00:26:51,200
Speaker 3: your input as if I were hearing from long distance buds.

546
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Speaker 3: Please help, Sincerely, A scrub A struggling scrubber.

547
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Speaker 2: Shoot, I don't know because she said best friend, which

548
00:27:01,600 --> 00:27:03,680
Speaker 2: is like, that's what you want, you know, you want

549
00:27:03,680 --> 00:27:07,240
Speaker 2: to like be with your best friend, But if you're

550
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Speaker 2: not obsessed with them, maybe that's just not your personality.

551
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Speaker 1: Gosh, I'm I'm so torn on this because my personality

552
00:27:17,080 --> 00:27:21,959
Speaker 1: before Haley was that maybe that's just not my personality. Oh,

553
00:27:22,040 --> 00:27:25,040
Speaker 1: you know, every time I felt and people would talk

554
00:27:25,040 --> 00:27:27,959
Speaker 1: about it, and I'm like, well, I don't necessarily have that,

555
00:27:28,000 --> 00:27:31,080
Speaker 1: but I don't think it's in me. And then I

556
00:27:31,119 --> 00:27:32,160
Speaker 1: realized it was in me.

557
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Speaker 2: And right, So I feel like I know your advice here, Yeah,

558
00:27:39,680 --> 00:27:40,040
Speaker 2: I don't.

559
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Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't know. I don't like that

560
00:27:44,560 --> 00:27:46,560
Speaker 1: life has to be like I don't want it to

561
00:27:46,560 --> 00:27:49,320
Speaker 1: be like your relationship has to look like our spirit

562
00:27:49,440 --> 00:27:50,000
Speaker 1: to be good.

563
00:27:50,320 --> 00:27:51,960
Speaker 2: I know. And that's the thing I keep think because

564
00:27:51,960 --> 00:27:54,040
Speaker 2: I'm like, we're fresh, we're like newly married. Will I

565
00:27:54,119 --> 00:27:57,679
Speaker 2: be as obsessed with Robbie in twenty years? I think so?

566
00:27:57,880 --> 00:28:01,119
Speaker 1: But I don't know, right, but she's not even married.

567
00:28:01,160 --> 00:28:02,080
Speaker 1: They're two defensers.

568
00:28:02,119 --> 00:28:07,280
Speaker 4: I know, I know, I know, I know, but I

569
00:28:07,280 --> 00:28:11,000
Speaker 4: don't want to overreact here either. He sounds a great guy, right,

570
00:28:11,280 --> 00:28:15,120
Speaker 4: I think you need to ask yourself, like do I

571
00:28:15,160 --> 00:28:17,439
Speaker 4: look at other guys? Do I find myself envious of

572
00:28:17,480 --> 00:28:20,080
Speaker 4: other relationships not ours? Like people in your life? You know,

573
00:28:20,200 --> 00:28:22,240
Speaker 4: Like do you like? I think, do you find your

574
00:28:22,680 --> 00:28:25,520
Speaker 4: mind or I wandering? And if that is the case,

575
00:28:25,560 --> 00:28:28,719
Speaker 4: that's a sign. Otherwise I think I don't know.

576
00:28:28,840 --> 00:28:31,680
Speaker 3: I like this guy for you kind of mart firefighter

577
00:28:31,720 --> 00:28:34,879
Speaker 3: best friend like that seems like he checks a lot.

578
00:28:34,760 --> 00:28:36,840
Speaker 2: Of boxes, Yeah, important boxes.

579
00:28:36,920 --> 00:28:38,360
Speaker 3: Obsessed is a big word.

580
00:28:39,320 --> 00:28:41,200
Speaker 2: I know. That's why I feel like some people just

581
00:28:41,240 --> 00:28:45,480
Speaker 2: don't have an obsessive personality. So that's why I have that.

582
00:28:46,120 --> 00:28:48,720
Speaker 1: I'll say I don't.

583
00:28:48,960 --> 00:28:50,880
Speaker 2: Yeah, I know, like I wish you were more obsessed

584
00:28:50,880 --> 00:28:53,560
Speaker 2: with me, but you're not.

585
00:28:54,680 --> 00:29:00,880
Speaker 1: I think that gosh, man, life is life is so short? Yes,

586
00:29:01,320 --> 00:29:02,480
Speaker 1: And there's so many.

587
00:29:02,240 --> 00:29:06,120
Speaker 2: People out there, a plethora.

588
00:29:05,280 --> 00:29:08,800
Speaker 1: And being with someone good doesn't mean they're the right

589
00:29:08,840 --> 00:29:09,480
Speaker 1: person for you.

590
00:29:10,680 --> 00:29:10,920
Speaker 2: Huh.

591
00:29:11,160 --> 00:29:12,160
Speaker 1: Being with someone.

592
00:29:11,880 --> 00:29:14,280
Speaker 2: Who's good ah h I see, it doesn't.

593
00:29:14,000 --> 00:29:16,960
Speaker 1: Mean that they're your person. And it has nothing to

594
00:29:17,040 --> 00:29:19,320
Speaker 1: do with anything that he's done or who he is

595
00:29:19,360 --> 00:29:22,280
Speaker 1: as a person. This is about you growing and learning

596
00:29:22,280 --> 00:29:24,480
Speaker 1: about what you want and what's important to you in

597
00:29:24,520 --> 00:29:28,200
Speaker 1: a relationship. If you want a relationship where you feel

598
00:29:29,120 --> 00:29:32,560
Speaker 1: crazy about your partner, then this doesn't seem like this

599
00:29:32,600 --> 00:29:35,520
Speaker 1: is your guy. Yeah, And you can't force yourself to

600
00:29:35,560 --> 00:29:36,800
Speaker 1: feel crazy about someone.

601
00:29:36,880 --> 00:29:38,320
Speaker 2: But you know what I think is keeping you in

602
00:29:38,360 --> 00:29:40,760
Speaker 2: this relationship because he does check the boxes, and he

603
00:29:40,800 --> 00:29:42,280
Speaker 2: has a kind heart, and he is a good guy,

604
00:29:42,280 --> 00:29:43,720
Speaker 2: and he is your best friend. So you're kind of

605
00:29:43,720 --> 00:29:48,120
Speaker 2: complacent and you're like happy ish, And I think what

606
00:29:48,320 --> 00:29:51,560
Speaker 2: scares people is the thought of ending something that's like

607
00:29:52,120 --> 00:29:55,360
Speaker 2: something with a good guy to find great because they're

608
00:29:55,360 --> 00:29:57,280
Speaker 2: scared they're not going to find better. Do you know

609
00:29:57,320 --> 00:29:57,720
Speaker 2: what I mean?

610
00:29:58,240 --> 00:30:00,640
Speaker 1: Mm hmm, do you know what I think?

611
00:30:00,720 --> 00:30:00,920
Speaker 2: Hear?

612
00:30:01,520 --> 00:30:04,440
Speaker 1: I think what is meant for you will find a way.

613
00:30:04,840 --> 00:30:07,360
Speaker 1: I truly think that if if you go on your

614
00:30:07,400 --> 00:30:10,200
Speaker 1: journey and you're on a self discovery of figuring out

615
00:30:10,280 --> 00:30:12,240
Speaker 1: what you want, like let's say you and things in

616
00:30:12,280 --> 00:30:16,160
Speaker 1: this relationship, and you let him know that you have

617
00:30:16,240 --> 00:30:18,720
Speaker 1: so much respect for him and think so highly of him,

618
00:30:18,760 --> 00:30:20,880
Speaker 1: but this is like something you need to do for yourself.

619
00:30:21,480 --> 00:30:23,640
Speaker 1: I think you go on that journey and figure out

620
00:30:23,680 --> 00:30:26,760
Speaker 1: exactly what you want. And I think if this guy

621
00:30:26,880 --> 00:30:29,040
Speaker 1: is your person, at some point in your life, you

622
00:30:29,080 --> 00:30:31,480
Speaker 1: will find yourself back in each other's lives. I really

623
00:30:31,480 --> 00:30:34,520
Speaker 1: believe that if it doesn't end on like bad terms.

624
00:30:35,160 --> 00:30:37,000
Speaker 1: But I don't think it's fair for you to hold

625
00:30:37,040 --> 00:30:42,960
Speaker 1: yourself back in something that doesn't have elements of a

626
00:30:43,040 --> 00:30:46,440
Speaker 1: relationship that you want. And I think that you can

627
00:30:46,480 --> 00:30:49,960
Speaker 1: find a thousand good guys who have a kind heart.

628
00:30:51,120 --> 00:30:54,640
Speaker 2: Beck's preaching right now, but also she's preaching imagine the future.

629
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Speaker 3: That's I always that's one of my preachers, always imagine

630
00:30:57,600 --> 00:30:59,880
Speaker 3: the future. I don't know hoole the thing. You're twenty five, now,

631
00:31:00,120 --> 00:31:02,600
Speaker 3: imagine you're thirty. Imagine you're thirty five and you're with

632
00:31:02,680 --> 00:31:04,800
Speaker 3: this guy and you're raising kids with this guy. Does

633
00:31:04,840 --> 00:31:06,240
Speaker 3: that make you feel like you or does it make

634
00:31:06,280 --> 00:31:08,080
Speaker 3: you feel like, oh, that'd be so nice? Like that, like,

635
00:31:08,160 --> 00:31:10,520
Speaker 3: really put yourself in that moment. That's going to tell

636
00:31:10,560 --> 00:31:10,920
Speaker 3: you a lot.

637
00:31:11,160 --> 00:31:16,000
Speaker 1: What if she's just like indifferent and different, that's not great.

638
00:31:17,040 --> 00:31:20,360
Speaker 2: Yeah, Like I'm indifferent about a vibrator, do you know

639
00:31:20,400 --> 00:31:20,800
Speaker 2: what I mean?

640
00:31:21,480 --> 00:31:21,720
Speaker 3: Yeah?

641
00:31:22,320 --> 00:31:24,560
Speaker 2: Like take it or leave it.

642
00:31:25,360 --> 00:31:29,360
Speaker 1: So my advice is that I don't know your age,

643
00:31:29,440 --> 00:31:31,560
Speaker 1: but I actually don't even think age matters.

644
00:31:31,640 --> 00:31:35,240
Speaker 2: It doesn't find You're never too old to be happy.

645
00:31:35,360 --> 00:31:37,920
Speaker 1: Find yourself. It sounds like she's fine, she sounds like happy,

646
00:31:38,320 --> 00:31:44,640
Speaker 1: But give yourself a chance to be ecstatic. And it

647
00:31:44,680 --> 00:31:46,520
Speaker 1: doesn't make you a bad person. It doesn't mean that

648
00:31:46,560 --> 00:31:48,600
Speaker 1: you're greedy, It doesn't mean that you're selfish. It just

649
00:31:48,640 --> 00:31:51,200
Speaker 1: means that you have an idea of something that you

650
00:31:51,240 --> 00:31:54,800
Speaker 1: want that you don't have right now. And if not you, who,

651
00:31:55,080 --> 00:31:59,640
Speaker 1: and if not now, when, and if not here where.

652
00:32:01,200 --> 00:32:01,640
Speaker 2: Exactly?

653
00:32:03,720 --> 00:32:04,040
Speaker 5: All right?

654
00:32:04,080 --> 00:32:04,800
Speaker 3: We got one more?

655
00:32:04,840 --> 00:32:29,000
Speaker 1: But first, are we're back.

656
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Speaker 2: We're back all.

657
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Speaker 3: Right, Anonymous says, dear Bonya and Marston. Oh, I like

658
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Speaker 3: that better than beston Marston's really nice first off, Sydney Me.

659
00:32:38,440 --> 00:32:42,640
Speaker 3: Congratulations Rebecca and Haley on your engagements. My partner and

660
00:32:42,720 --> 00:32:46,320
Speaker 3: I women loving women. Have been together for almost eight years.

661
00:32:46,360 --> 00:32:49,000
Speaker 3: We got married last year and are absolutely loving being

662
00:32:49,000 --> 00:32:52,640
Speaker 3: in our wife era. My wife, however, is not out

663
00:32:52,760 --> 00:32:57,040
Speaker 3: to anyone in her family. For context, not judgment. They're

664
00:32:57,080 --> 00:33:00,240
Speaker 3: not accepting of the LGBTQ community due to their particular

665
00:33:00,320 --> 00:33:02,640
Speaker 3: religious beliefs. Well, I'm going to judge. If you don't

666
00:33:02,760 --> 00:33:06,120
Speaker 3: want to, I'm going to. She lives many states away,

667
00:33:06,120 --> 00:33:08,360
Speaker 3: and over the years has gone home for holidays, vacations,

668
00:33:08,360 --> 00:33:10,240
Speaker 3: and other visits with intentions to come out, but this

669
00:33:10,320 --> 00:33:13,680
Speaker 3: hasn't yet materialized. Her being in this position breaks my heart,

670
00:33:13,760 --> 00:33:17,360
Speaker 3: especially given how family oriented she is. At the same time,

671
00:33:17,480 --> 00:33:20,480
Speaker 3: I worth that continuing to delay maybe making already difficult

672
00:33:20,480 --> 00:33:24,560
Speaker 3: situation only harder. She agrees and has expressed regrets about

673
00:33:24,560 --> 00:33:26,520
Speaker 3: not coming out sooner. I want to support her and

674
00:33:26,560 --> 00:33:28,440
Speaker 3: not make things harder for her, but I'm struggling to

675
00:33:28,520 --> 00:33:30,760
Speaker 3: know what that support looks like at this stage of

676
00:33:30,800 --> 00:33:33,240
Speaker 3: the journey. Thank you for letting us into the gift

677
00:33:33,320 --> 00:33:35,840
Speaker 3: that is your friendship, dynamic and sharing your lives over

678
00:33:35,920 --> 00:33:36,320
Speaker 3: the years.

679
00:33:37,800 --> 00:33:41,640
Speaker 2: Wow, Oh you should lead this one.

680
00:33:42,240 --> 00:33:46,120
Speaker 3: They're married really something.

681
00:33:46,320 --> 00:33:48,200
Speaker 1: Congratulations on getting married.

682
00:33:48,480 --> 00:33:49,520
Speaker 2: Yes, so exciting.

683
00:33:51,240 --> 00:33:56,360
Speaker 1: Man, this is so hard. Religion is really a complicated

684
00:33:56,720 --> 00:34:02,800
Speaker 1: topic in terms of coming out and homosexuality in general.

685
00:34:03,880 --> 00:34:07,080
Speaker 1: I obviously had people in my life that had a

686
00:34:07,120 --> 00:34:14,719
Speaker 1: really really hard time with it, and I, you know,

687
00:34:14,880 --> 00:34:16,880
Speaker 1: there were people that I chose to come out to,

688
00:34:17,080 --> 00:34:19,680
Speaker 1: and there were people that I was outed to, and like,

689
00:34:20,480 --> 00:34:22,520
Speaker 1: there's parts of me that are upset with the person

690
00:34:22,520 --> 00:34:24,719
Speaker 1: who outed me because for a long time I was

691
00:34:24,719 --> 00:34:26,680
Speaker 1: like I didn't even get to tell people how I

692
00:34:26,760 --> 00:34:31,160
Speaker 1: wanted to tell them. However, I think in hindsight, I'm

693
00:34:31,200 --> 00:34:33,120
Speaker 1: glad it was almost like they ripped a band aid

694
00:34:33,120 --> 00:34:35,680
Speaker 1: off for me, And not that it made it easier

695
00:34:35,760 --> 00:34:40,200
Speaker 1: in some ways, but it kind of did this really

696
00:34:40,239 --> 00:34:46,120
Speaker 1: hard thing for me. So I have so much grace

697
00:34:46,160 --> 00:34:50,319
Speaker 1: for your partner and your wife. I also think that

698
00:34:52,360 --> 00:34:55,920
Speaker 1: she's living a life where they don't know such a

699
00:34:56,719 --> 00:35:00,279
Speaker 1: massive part of who she is, and I I hope

700
00:35:00,320 --> 00:35:04,319
Speaker 1: that she's able to get to a place where she

701
00:35:04,600 --> 00:35:08,240
Speaker 1: has found her family and support maybe with other people.

702
00:35:08,360 --> 00:35:11,680
Speaker 1: I think when I came out publicly, I had already

703
00:35:12,120 --> 00:35:15,279
Speaker 1: I had such a strong support system around me that

704
00:35:15,360 --> 00:35:18,480
Speaker 1: I knew that no matter how people reacted, I had

705
00:35:18,520 --> 00:35:21,120
Speaker 1: that love and support in my life. And so I

706
00:35:21,120 --> 00:35:23,479
Speaker 1: hope that your wife has that. And I also think

707
00:35:23,520 --> 00:35:31,719
Speaker 1: that it is on her time, however she's Gosh. I

708
00:35:32,120 --> 00:35:34,520
Speaker 1: don't want her to feel pressured to do it because.

709
00:35:34,320 --> 00:35:38,000
Speaker 2: I know I like, I feel for your wife. I

710
00:35:38,000 --> 00:35:40,319
Speaker 2: feel for you though, and I feel for her too.

711
00:35:40,600 --> 00:35:42,880
Speaker 2: I totally I feel for everybody, but I just feel

712
00:35:42,880 --> 00:35:46,399
Speaker 2: like forcing somebody to do something before they're like actually ready.

713
00:35:46,440 --> 00:35:48,960
Speaker 2: But there is a fine line because it's like they're married,

714
00:35:49,000 --> 00:35:52,160
Speaker 2: Like what is she telling her family? Yeah, she's single,

715
00:35:52,920 --> 00:35:55,480
Speaker 2: that she's dating a man, Like, like, what is she

716
00:35:55,560 --> 00:35:59,959
Speaker 2: telling her family? I think that's the trickiest part.

717
00:36:00,080 --> 00:36:02,080
Speaker 1: And I think there's going to be an adjustment period

718
00:36:02,080 --> 00:36:04,680
Speaker 1: no matter what, even if they end up coming around

719
00:36:04,719 --> 00:36:07,320
Speaker 1: in some capacity, and if they might not come around,

720
00:36:07,360 --> 00:36:10,719
Speaker 1: because I know there's when it's religion, you you really

721
00:36:10,760 --> 00:36:14,600
Speaker 1: can't compete with God, like you stop to compete with God. Yeah,

722
00:36:14,920 --> 00:36:19,360
Speaker 1: but I would like to hope that they can process,

723
00:36:19,480 --> 00:36:25,080
Speaker 1: and also maybe there's a way they secretly know and

724
00:36:25,160 --> 00:36:27,360
Speaker 1: they're waiting. I don't know how how do you?

725
00:36:28,080 --> 00:36:30,360
Speaker 2: But also I know there's no no competing with God.

726
00:36:30,480 --> 00:36:32,680
Speaker 2: But it's like, also there comes a point where you

727
00:36:32,800 --> 00:36:36,359
Speaker 2: just have to when you're married, like tell them no.

728
00:36:36,400 --> 00:36:39,000
Speaker 1: I'm saying, like the parent, like whether they support her

729
00:36:39,120 --> 00:36:39,719
Speaker 1: or not, right.

730
00:36:39,640 --> 00:36:42,160
Speaker 2: But she just needs to when she says, when she

731
00:36:42,280 --> 00:36:49,719
Speaker 2: comes out to them, they might not react well. They

732
00:36:49,760 --> 00:36:52,080
Speaker 2: probably won't react that they won't react well.

733
00:36:52,360 --> 00:36:55,520
Speaker 1: And also there's going to be hurt, probably in the

734
00:36:55,600 --> 00:36:59,440
Speaker 1: sense of like it's been eight years that we haven't

735
00:36:59,480 --> 00:37:02,600
Speaker 1: known and you're married. We miss like a huge part.

736
00:37:02,640 --> 00:37:07,160
Speaker 1: But but no matter what, I think, I think the

737
00:37:07,200 --> 00:37:09,279
Speaker 1: main thing is that no matter what, it's going to

738
00:37:09,320 --> 00:37:13,040
Speaker 1: be hard because you can't predict how they're going to react.

739
00:37:13,080 --> 00:37:15,960
Speaker 1: They might react, they might surprise you. They might have

740
00:37:16,000 --> 00:37:18,719
Speaker 1: a great reaction or better reaction than you could imagine.

741
00:37:18,880 --> 00:37:21,399
Speaker 1: They might react horribly. But I think that you have

742
00:37:21,480 --> 00:37:25,839
Speaker 1: to be prepared for what you you know, she knows

743
00:37:25,840 --> 00:37:27,839
Speaker 1: her family. You have to be prepared for how they're

744
00:37:27,880 --> 00:37:30,640
Speaker 1: going to respond, and know that you have a wife

745
00:37:30,680 --> 00:37:33,719
Speaker 1: who loves you, you have friends who love you and

746
00:37:33,760 --> 00:37:36,359
Speaker 1: support you, and you have to be able to live

747
00:37:36,400 --> 00:37:40,160
Speaker 1: your life. Like I remember reading Seven Husbands of Evelyn Hugo,

748
00:37:40,600 --> 00:37:42,080
Speaker 1: and I don't want to give anything away if you

749
00:37:42,120 --> 00:37:44,839
Speaker 1: haven't read it, but I remember at the very end,

750
00:37:45,160 --> 00:37:48,160
Speaker 1: she's just talking about like her life and how she

751
00:37:48,239 --> 00:37:51,360
Speaker 1: had so many regrets of not living her truth about

752
00:37:51,360 --> 00:37:55,680
Speaker 1: who she was. This like this character at the end

753
00:37:55,760 --> 00:37:58,280
Speaker 1: is talking about how she wished that she hadn't wasted

754
00:37:58,320 --> 00:38:01,000
Speaker 1: so much time not letting people know who she really was,

755
00:38:01,040 --> 00:38:03,160
Speaker 1: and it impacted me so much that, like I think

756
00:38:03,200 --> 00:38:05,720
Speaker 1: a month later is when I came out publicly because

757
00:38:05,760 --> 00:38:09,920
Speaker 1: I finally was like, I'm living my one life based

758
00:38:09,960 --> 00:38:13,239
Speaker 1: around what other people are going to respond to my love, Yeah,

759
00:38:13,600 --> 00:38:16,200
Speaker 1: to something that is like the most beautiful thing and

760
00:38:16,239 --> 00:38:18,799
Speaker 1: the most beautiful gift I've ever had, And I've never

761
00:38:18,840 --> 00:38:22,759
Speaker 1: had feelings like this, and I'm suppressing it because of

762
00:38:23,320 --> 00:38:26,040
Speaker 1: people who have an opinion. Yeah, And it's just not

763
00:38:26,200 --> 00:38:29,520
Speaker 1: worth living our life and not being free to be

764
00:38:29,640 --> 00:38:32,400
Speaker 1: who we are. And people are going to disappoint you

765
00:38:32,440 --> 00:38:35,520
Speaker 1: and how they react. They're going to disappoint you and

766
00:38:35,560 --> 00:38:38,880
Speaker 1: their response and you just have to know that, like

767
00:38:40,480 --> 00:38:44,640
Speaker 1: they're processing something and it has nothing to do with you. Yeah,

768
00:38:44,800 --> 00:38:47,960
Speaker 1: So I don't really know that I have advice except

769
00:38:48,000 --> 00:38:50,759
Speaker 1: that it's not going to get easier as time goes on.

770
00:38:51,760 --> 00:38:55,359
Speaker 1: It's just going to get harder, you know, because as

771
00:38:55,440 --> 00:38:58,480
Speaker 1: more time goes by than beyond the shock of you

772
00:38:58,600 --> 00:39:00,120
Speaker 1: coming out, they're gonna.

773
00:39:00,239 --> 00:39:02,400
Speaker 2: Getting married and being.

774
00:39:02,160 --> 00:39:05,240
Speaker 1: Married and living this life for so long without them knowing.

775
00:39:05,800 --> 00:39:09,040
Speaker 1: But your family should love you, and that's the that's

776
00:39:09,080 --> 00:39:11,960
Speaker 1: my main takeaway is like family, family should just love

777
00:39:12,000 --> 00:39:14,879
Speaker 1: you for being exactly who you are.

778
00:39:15,239 --> 00:39:20,280
Speaker 2: And if they don't initially, maybe they'll come around in time.

779
00:39:20,640 --> 00:39:24,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, sometimes it takes time. Sometimes it takes and time

780
00:39:24,200 --> 00:39:26,239
Speaker 1: heals a lot of wounds. And it might be that

781
00:39:26,320 --> 00:39:27,800
Speaker 1: you don't talk to them for a while, and it

782
00:39:27,880 --> 00:39:30,719
Speaker 1: might be that you have some holidays that you don't

783
00:39:30,760 --> 00:39:33,200
Speaker 1: spend with them. Yeah, but you find your people and

784
00:39:33,239 --> 00:39:35,920
Speaker 1: you find your family. And I'm really sorry y'all are

785
00:39:35,960 --> 00:39:37,680
Speaker 1: having to navigate this. And I wish I could hug

786
00:39:37,680 --> 00:39:39,200
Speaker 1: both of you and let you know that you're like

787
00:39:39,800 --> 00:39:43,719
Speaker 1: so loved and so supported and you're going to find

788
00:39:43,719 --> 00:39:47,480
Speaker 1: your people, and just let her know that she's strong

789
00:39:47,760 --> 00:39:50,960
Speaker 1: and like you, she has you. Yeah, And I will say,

790
00:39:50,960 --> 00:39:53,600
Speaker 1: Haley was so patient. We were together for four years

791
00:39:53,640 --> 00:39:57,080
Speaker 1: before I came out, and there was never once pressure

792
00:39:57,120 --> 00:40:00,719
Speaker 1: from her to come out to certain people. But I

793
00:40:00,760 --> 00:40:03,840
Speaker 1: also never wanted her to feel hidden or like a secret.

794
00:40:03,960 --> 00:40:08,120
Speaker 5: So y'all both deserve the best, and I'm rooting for

795
00:40:08,160 --> 00:40:10,080
Speaker 5: you both to sucks.

796
00:40:10,480 --> 00:40:14,879
Speaker 1: Sucks well, but not in my stomach for them.

797
00:40:15,080 --> 00:40:15,640
Speaker 2: Yeah.

798
00:40:16,480 --> 00:40:20,440
Speaker 1: But man, that's why I feel like the show like

799
00:40:20,480 --> 00:40:22,719
Speaker 1: he did Rivalry, even though, like I said, it's like

800
00:40:22,760 --> 00:40:26,280
Speaker 1: so there's a lightheartedness to it and a lot of sex,

801
00:40:26,320 --> 00:40:30,719
Speaker 1: but there is like this underlying message of like coming out.

802
00:40:31,280 --> 00:40:35,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, and like I was so scared when his dad

803
00:40:36,000 --> 00:40:41,080
Speaker 2: saw yeah, Like I was expecting like some explosive yeah.

804
00:40:41,200 --> 00:40:41,399
Speaker 5: Yeah.

805
00:40:41,440 --> 00:40:45,080
Speaker 2: And the way they didn't like made me so emotional.

806
00:40:45,200 --> 00:40:46,040
Speaker 1: It was like healing.

807
00:40:46,400 --> 00:40:49,160
Speaker 2: Yeah. It was really really really sweet, really well done.

808
00:40:49,200 --> 00:40:52,160
Speaker 1: Your parents have expectations of how your life is going

809
00:40:52,239 --> 00:40:54,520
Speaker 1: to be, Like most parents have this idea of what's

810
00:40:54,520 --> 00:40:57,160
Speaker 1: going to happen, and especially for me, like I went

811
00:40:57,200 --> 00:40:59,600
Speaker 1: on The Bachelor or twice, like, there was definitely expectations

812
00:40:59,600 --> 00:41:01,520
Speaker 1: of what my life was going to be, and so

813
00:41:01,719 --> 00:41:04,040
Speaker 1: I always remember what I've learned in therapy is like

814
00:41:04,280 --> 00:41:06,359
Speaker 1: I kind of went on my own path, Like they

815
00:41:06,360 --> 00:41:09,040
Speaker 1: didn't really change. Like my family and like friends who

816
00:41:09,080 --> 00:41:10,920
Speaker 1: were close to me, they didn't really change who they

817
00:41:10,920 --> 00:41:13,200
Speaker 1: were what they believed. But I kind of stepped out

818
00:41:13,239 --> 00:41:16,520
Speaker 1: and did my something separate. So like giving people time

819
00:41:16,560 --> 00:41:20,799
Speaker 1: to be surprised and process is normal. But you do

820
00:41:20,920 --> 00:41:26,759
Speaker 1: deserve to be loved, yes, and not question that. So Anonymous,

821
00:41:27,040 --> 00:41:27,479
Speaker 1: we love.

822
00:41:27,440 --> 00:41:29,360
Speaker 2: You, We love you. Sorry you're going through that.

823
00:41:29,680 --> 00:41:34,399
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's so hard. Do we have any to end

824
00:41:34,400 --> 00:41:34,640
Speaker 1: it on?

825
00:41:35,480 --> 00:41:35,800
Speaker 5: Well?

826
00:41:36,000 --> 00:41:38,520
Speaker 3: Uh, there was a woman who asked the best meal

827
00:41:38,560 --> 00:41:40,759
Speaker 3: you ever had in your life? In Japan was oh,

828
00:41:40,800 --> 00:41:44,319
Speaker 3: my gosh. Yeah, she took a screen shop and now

829
00:41:44,360 --> 00:41:45,240
Speaker 3: you can't find it.

830
00:41:45,239 --> 00:41:53,800
Speaker 1: It was it's called like Neora Gion and it's Kobe beef.

831
00:41:54,800 --> 00:41:58,520
Speaker 1: It's in Kyoto, and it was like the best stake

832
00:41:58,600 --> 00:42:00,560
Speaker 1: we've ever had in our life. It was such a

833
00:42:00,560 --> 00:42:04,920
Speaker 1: fun experience to go to. So that was Mariah Gion.

834
00:42:05,800 --> 00:42:08,719
Speaker 1: And then we had so many good meals, but that

835
00:42:08,840 --> 00:42:10,839
Speaker 1: was the one I said was the best stick I've

836
00:42:10,840 --> 00:42:13,040
Speaker 1: had in my life. You would have loved it.

837
00:42:13,160 --> 00:42:16,879
Speaker 2: Oh, it me tell you something I've also been doing

838
00:42:16,960 --> 00:42:21,000
Speaker 2: the past three weeks. Oh, eating cumfort eating has become

839
00:42:21,120 --> 00:42:23,840
Speaker 2: our our new foretest.

840
00:42:23,880 --> 00:42:26,520
Speaker 3: It's something super decadent that you would not normally eat,

841
00:42:26,520 --> 00:42:27,720
Speaker 3: but you ate during this stretch.

842
00:42:28,800 --> 00:42:31,680
Speaker 2: Okay, So there's this place that I go to and

843
00:42:31,760 --> 00:42:33,800
Speaker 2: they have excellent breakfast burritos. They wrap them in a

844
00:42:33,800 --> 00:42:37,440
Speaker 2: gluten free tortilla, so it gets like eggs, avocado, cheese,

845
00:42:37,600 --> 00:42:41,919
Speaker 2: and my gluten free and tortilla. I had them put

846
00:42:41,960 --> 00:42:46,520
Speaker 2: like lamb shwarma or like some sort of like lamb

847
00:42:46,640 --> 00:42:50,400
Speaker 2: meat in it with turkey, bacon and hash browns.

848
00:42:50,600 --> 00:42:51,120
Speaker 3: Wow.

849
00:42:52,440 --> 00:42:55,720
Speaker 2: I would never eat that normally and it was amazing.

850
00:42:55,880 --> 00:42:56,240
Speaker 3: Wow.

851
00:42:57,320 --> 00:42:59,800
Speaker 2: I had a waffle the other day on top of

852
00:42:59,840 --> 00:43:05,719
Speaker 2: my eggs for breakfast. Yeah, I've had some. I'm just

853
00:43:05,800 --> 00:43:06,759
Speaker 2: kind of been letting loose.

854
00:43:06,920 --> 00:43:07,120
Speaker 3: Nice.

855
00:43:07,239 --> 00:43:11,000
Speaker 1: That's so funny. It's like protein still, Like you're still

856
00:43:11,200 --> 00:43:12,439
Speaker 1: like lamb still pro.

857
00:43:12,600 --> 00:43:14,919
Speaker 3: What about like ice cream? Any indulgence like that?

858
00:43:15,120 --> 00:43:18,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, cake pie not so much a cake gal pie goal,

859
00:43:18,760 --> 00:43:21,120
Speaker 2: but I've done. I've dabbled in a lot of ice

860
00:43:21,200 --> 00:43:25,279
Speaker 2: cream over the holidays. So I have this thing that

861
00:43:25,320 --> 00:43:28,359
Speaker 2: I really love. It's a date filled with some sort

862
00:43:28,360 --> 00:43:31,879
Speaker 2: of nut butter dipped in dark chocolate with sea salt

863
00:43:31,960 --> 00:43:35,560
Speaker 2: on top. That sounds great, It's delicious. I'll eat like

864
00:43:35,600 --> 00:43:36,480
Speaker 2: three or four at a time.

865
00:43:36,760 --> 00:43:37,439
Speaker 1: They're so good.

866
00:43:37,480 --> 00:43:38,600
Speaker 2: They're so like good.

867
00:43:38,640 --> 00:43:40,719
Speaker 1: Relatively healthy compared to like a candy bar.

868
00:43:41,160 --> 00:43:43,960
Speaker 2: Yeah, but I yeah, I've just kind of been letting myself,

869
00:43:44,080 --> 00:43:47,080
Speaker 2: Like I had mac and cheese the other night.

870
00:43:49,719 --> 00:43:52,080
Speaker 1: The eating in this house, in our house has been

871
00:43:52,400 --> 00:43:53,720
Speaker 1: absolutely out of control.

872
00:43:53,920 --> 00:43:55,759
Speaker 2: Yeah. Well, first it was like the holidays and we

873
00:43:55,760 --> 00:43:58,200
Speaker 2: were like in this whole thing, and then like, yeah,

874
00:43:58,200 --> 00:44:00,759
Speaker 2: I just we're all you know, when you go off

875
00:44:00,760 --> 00:44:03,160
Speaker 2: the rails and you're just really hard to get back

876
00:44:03,200 --> 00:44:04,000
Speaker 2: on the rails.

877
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Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, So you know how normally you buy biscuits

878
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Speaker 1: and it's in a can of biscuits, like a Canna biscuit.

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Speaker 3: Like Pillsbury. Yeah, like a Pillsbury.

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00:44:14,040 --> 00:44:15,840
Speaker 1: So that's what I've always had. And then I go

881
00:44:15,880 --> 00:44:17,840
Speaker 1: home to Florida and my mom had like a bag

882
00:44:17,880 --> 00:44:19,880
Speaker 1: of biscuits that we're in the freezer, so like she

883
00:44:19,880 --> 00:44:21,560
Speaker 1: could just make as many as she wanted to take

884
00:44:21,600 --> 00:44:23,319
Speaker 1: out the bag and then put it so it wasn't

885
00:44:23,360 --> 00:44:25,400
Speaker 1: like you're wasting all these biscuits. Because every time I

886
00:44:25,440 --> 00:44:28,120
Speaker 1: want biscuits, we make them and then we have like

887
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Speaker 1: so many leftover and they just go to waste. So

888
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Speaker 1: I was like, I wonder if they have those in La.

889
00:44:33,120 --> 00:44:37,520
Speaker 1: So I found the bag of biscuits Pillsbury, and I

890
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Speaker 1: am not kidding. I would say ninety percent of the

891
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Speaker 1: day since we've been home, we've had a biscuit every

892
00:44:46,000 --> 00:44:51,440
Speaker 1: morning and bacon, real bacon. It was like so southern,

893
00:44:52,040 --> 00:44:53,640
Speaker 1: but it was just lovely. It was just like, oh,

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Speaker 1: you want a biscuit.

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Speaker 2: Have you heard of this new place in La called

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Speaker 2: Max and Helen?

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: I want to go.

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Speaker 2: Okay, So it's all rage. It's literally all I've seen

900
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Speaker 2: on social media. And it's like comfort food.

901
00:45:04,440 --> 00:45:05,560
Speaker 1: Like it's like like a new diner.

902
00:45:05,640 --> 00:45:07,239
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's like a diner. So it's hot chocolate with

903
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Speaker 2: like this little like roasted marshmallow on top, and it

904
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Speaker 2: looks like these pancakes are so fluffy and delicious, and

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Speaker 2: I'm like, I want that. I've been wanting that my

906
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Speaker 2: whole winter break was Max and Helen's Okay, we go.

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Speaker 2: We won't show up to Max and Helens put in

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Speaker 2: our name in eight hour.

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Speaker 3: Yeah. Wow.

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Speaker 2: Robbie was so mad.

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Speaker 1: Eight hours. He's like that is.

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Speaker 2: So like just say we're booked up today, do you

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Speaker 2: know what I mean? Like saying eight hours is so

914
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Speaker 2: just like what.

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Speaker 3: Is it They text you when your table is ready,

916
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Speaker 3: So just stay within a block radius for eight hours?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I think you got to stay around because like

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Speaker 2: the line was not eight hours, like there was like

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Speaker 2: people outside, but not eight hours.

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Speaker 3: That is ludicrous?

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Speaker 2: Can you believe that? Is? So now Robbie won't go

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Speaker 2: back with me. I'm just like.

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Speaker 3: I'm of like with you. Something fundamentally wrong with the process.

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Speaker 2: So yeah, but not even that, Like it's like just

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Speaker 2: say we're booked today like tomorrow or like yeah, no

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Speaker 2: you can't have breakfast yere, but you can come back

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Speaker 2: for dinner.

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Speaker 1: Can you make reservation?

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Speaker 2: No? What's the whole the heck? Hm?

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Speaker 1: What day did y'all try to do this? Was it

931
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Speaker 1: a weekend?

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Speaker 2: No, it was like a Tuesday. But it was winter break,

933
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Speaker 2: so it was like all the days kind of like

934
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Speaker 2: it was that that dead week between Christmas and New Year's.

935
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Speaker 1: We should go on a random Wednesday. We might get it.

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Speaker 2: It's not going to be less than an.

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Speaker 1: Hour, well an hour. It's like you can ride, it's

938
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Speaker 1: so cute.

939
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Speaker 2: Yeah we can. Like I have a puzzle with a puzzle.

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Speaker 1: I love puzzle. I love a puzzle.

941
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Speaker 2: But yeah, I've been like really wanting that was like,

942
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Speaker 2: I love a pancake. I love a fluffy pancake. To me,

943
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Speaker 2: there's nothing better in life than like a fluffy, fluffy pancake.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but eight hours for a pancake, I only make

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Speaker 1: me high and leve.

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Speaker 2: Take make me a million dollars.

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Speaker 1: I remember. All Right, Well, that's the end of this episode,

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Speaker 1: and we love you so much. We love you, Thank

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Speaker 1: you for being here. Another year with us, another year

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Speaker 1: with you. But how lucky are we us two. We'll

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Speaker 1: be back next week and I hope you have a

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Speaker 1: wonderful weekend.

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Speaker 2: Love you so much.