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Speaker 1: My wife refused to help me financially, so I divorced her.

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Speaker 2: I mean, marriage is a financial game. You know what,

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Speaker 2: the contract is just for money. It kind of is,

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Speaker 2: it kind of is. And this is the answer when

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Speaker 2: as a partner pushed you too far. And by the way,

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Speaker 2: you could join us live on YouTube every single weekday

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Speaker 2: at three pm. Did you know that you well, now

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Speaker 2: you do freaking do it.

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Speaker 1: So this comes from Leathery only sixty nine eighty one,

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Speaker 1: who says, I thirty mail am divorcing my wife, thirty

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Speaker 1: female four years because she did not help me financially

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Speaker 1: when I needed it.

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Speaker 2: I work in a very niche industry. Niche Industryiche industry

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Speaker 2: is such a throwback. Chiche industry is back, dude. It's

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Speaker 2: always with these niche industries. They never tell us what

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Speaker 1: I've met to the Okay Dictionary discordination, and last year

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Speaker 1: or so has been really difficult due to market conditions.

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Speaker 1: Many of my colleagues got laid off and so was I.

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Speaker 1: At the time I had I had newly refurnished our home,

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Speaker 1: so I was in debt. My wife also works but

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Speaker 1: earned less than me. Back then, I went to her

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Speaker 1: and asked she could help me while I search for work.

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Speaker 1: I propose that we should sell some of the gold

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Speaker 1: that was given to us at the wedding.

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Speaker 2: Gold. Are you like a minor?

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Speaker 1: We live in Turkey and there's a tradition of giving

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Speaker 1: gold to newlyweds to help them financially. Dope tradition.

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Speaker 2: I want gold, dude, giving like just getting a bunch

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Speaker 2: of stacks of gold. I would love some gold, please,

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Speaker 2: that's gold new donation bar, gold bars bars? Uh? These

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Speaker 2: are gold bars? Me? Yeah, no, we should get some Yeah,

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Speaker 2: that's actually yeah, maybe that'll work for end of your plans.

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Speaker 1: These are meant and would just put them as in

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Speaker 1: the background she's on the bars. These are meant to

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Speaker 1: be used during difficult times.

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Speaker 2: The gold is.

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Speaker 1: She rejected the idea and said I do not want

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Speaker 1: to sell my golds. I tried to reason with her

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Speaker 1: sort it out myself somehow. I asked her to at

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Speaker 1: it back. Context here is that I let her save

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Speaker 1: things myself, due to women being due to women being

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Speaker 1: vulnerable to financial changes more than men are. Here, I

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Speaker 1: the retirement account as well. I asked her to give

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Speaker 1: her back once I sort myself out. She refused that too,

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Speaker 1: And I think this is probably a good place to

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Speaker 1: take a real quick pause here.

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Speaker 2: Welcome to the stream. Welcome, Welcome. Also, guess what you

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Speaker 2: get thirty extra medics because King Frederick came in with

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Speaker 2: a little sneaky dono. Last time guys extended the stream.

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Speaker 2: What a goat? Yeah, the goateed king got a King Freddie.

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Speaker 2: But yeah, so going back to the story, yes, uh, basically,

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Speaker 2: and like to add context to their specific situation, he

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Speaker 2: was like, hey, let me let me kind of pay

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Speaker 2: she'll be in a more financially vulnerable position, and yeah,

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Speaker 2: items like she's not a good as good a partner

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Speaker 1: Yeah, they they had this like great agreement and she's

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Speaker 2: And they're married, right, and they're married and they're married

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Speaker 2: for four years. Isn't like his debt her debt too?

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Speaker 2: Maybe not in Turkey, I don't know. Maybe not in Turkey.

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Speaker 2: I would imagine that it would be they would consolidate

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Speaker 1: And the fact that, like, think about it this way,

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Speaker 1: when when he was like, oh, could you dip into

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Speaker 2: And it was for both of them. It was for

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Speaker 2: And he's like drowning under this debt right now. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: And that he was like he he was that He's like, oh,

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Speaker 2: what happens. But I wonder, Oh, if he divorces, will

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Speaker 1: My guess is that maybe not maybe that's what they

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Speaker 1: he was alluding to when he said that women are

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Speaker 1: one force like seventy five divorce in inheritance and divorce.

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Speaker 2: So he might get three fourths of the debt assets

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Speaker 1: I don't even know if he gets a who knows

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Speaker 2: But let's see, Aliyah j says the gold is for

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and we don't even know if they are. But

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Speaker 1: but let's say, yes, that is true. So this period

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Speaker 1: has been extremely difficult for me. I fell into depression

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Speaker 1: and contemplated my choices in life. Funny thing is, everything

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Speaker 1: was going great before this, and I thought we would

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Speaker 2: That's everyone's help except her. Why are you even married

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Speaker 2: to her? She's not gonna help. You know what Riley

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Speaker 2: he would still marry them with a prenum with a

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Speaker 3: Still I would without the prenum, love of my life.

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Speaker 2: Of course, yeah, they would take on crippling debt for

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Speaker 2: a roll the clip. That's all I'm saying.

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Speaker 1: So, but sister helped me with the monthly installments during

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Speaker 1: that time, God bless her soul. At the beginning of

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Speaker 1: after what happened, and started divorce talks with a lawyer

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Speaker 2: Oh who called it? Who called it? Well? I did.

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Speaker 1: I let her know my decision and she was served

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Speaker 2: Basically I would have talked to I would have said like, hey, there,

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Speaker 1: Or just like I a little ahead. Yeah, yeah, I

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Speaker 2: That is what it is. Yeah, that is what it is.

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Speaker 2: I mean I feel like I feel like giving a

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Speaker 1: Well for her, apparently it was an unexpected thing and

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Speaker 2: I mean, of course it's going to make sense. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: blindsided her with it.

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Speaker 1: Belle Conkling says, my mic cut out. Oh whispering it

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Speaker 1: So she tried to talk, She tried to talk me

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Speaker 1: Families tend to be involved with each other here, and

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Speaker 1: put the divorce, She's like, family, convince him to not

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Speaker 2: out to science, science maybe, but now, but now she's

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Speaker 2: doing it anyways, exactly So I think I would have

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Speaker 1: I do not want to be married to someone who

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Speaker 2: Uh? Very much? Specific financial specifics Oh, dude, I love

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Speaker 2: financial specific detail. Dude. Details get me just going ooh.

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Speaker 2: always want to know what niche industry. They're in, dude,

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Speaker 2: after after, after yesterday's stream, details are just going to

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Speaker 2: Is OP the A hole? Here? I don't is OP

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Speaker 2: But I think giving your wife a heads up on

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Speaker 2: the divorce for something like this would have been a

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Speaker 2: more cash money move. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I think I'm right about like right before the mark

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, I just I mean, it just seems like

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Speaker 2: There's a scenario. So he has all this debt, his

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Speaker 2: like no, what if? She's thinking gold's gonna be like

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Speaker 2: appreciating more than your debt's going to be accruing. It

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Speaker 2: And there's like there's some financial long term reason. She's

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Speaker 2: She's just like, it's not it doesn't make financial sense

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Speaker 2: with I don't know freaking what whether what's the rate

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Speaker 1: Yeah, the gold appreciates ten percent, the debt is five percent.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's like we turn double or we're getting into

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Speaker 2: hard for details. Yeah, but you would make you would

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Speaker 2: And I think if he approached her it was like, hey,

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Speaker 2: I don't think we know. We don't know the background

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Speaker 2: we have right now and for everyone asking for a TLDR,

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Speaker 2: The blessing goes around. See, this is what it's this

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Speaker 2: first half. John blessed me in the second half, and

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Speaker 2: then we all get sick. But that's how this relationship

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Speaker 2: and so OPI's like, I was helping you, and now

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Speaker 2: What the heck's going on here? So he is basically

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Speaker 1: The optimal balance is both sides giving to each other

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Speaker 2: But let's see what happens.

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Speaker 1: So top comments the sideburn state says, not the ahle.

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Speaker 1: You you don't have a partner. You have a person

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Speaker 1: gonna make bad decisions, says. He wanted a partner and

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Speaker 1: Zelli's Ideal fifty five says, not the a whole. After marriage,

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Speaker 1: going to solve it together. She refused that, so she

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Speaker 1: op The divorce is a logical conclusion of what she

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Speaker 2: I do so. I do think generally that's true, and

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Speaker 2: I think that's the kind of relationship that I would

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Speaker 1: This is true, and everyone everyone has different splits as

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Speaker 1: long as they're both in agreement and like yeah, heck yes,

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Speaker 1: And it sounds like they're not in agreement. Sounds like

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Speaker 1: they're not in agreement. Bleet Blue Blot Blue seventy seven

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Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, oh who sam E with a two

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Speaker 2: daughter is asking, where's the worm queen? Sam E.

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Speaker 1: I am going to get as I should be thrown

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Speaker 1: out very shortly and the worm queen will be taking

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Speaker 1: my place. That is a promise. We are getting me

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Speaker 1: out of here.

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Speaker 2: So are you cold? Yeah, we can bump up the cold.

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Speaker 2: We'll bump it up, bump, bump, bump it up or

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Speaker 2: bump it down down that makes it colder. Well, uh, well,

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Speaker 2: I guess yeah. I was more thinking like the the

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Speaker 2: intensity of the conditioning of the air would be bumped down,

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Speaker 2: which would mean that the actual dial would be bumped up. Correct.

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Speaker 1: Science science science Once again, but the overall judgment from

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Speaker 1: everyone in the post was not the a hole.

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Speaker 2: Even Ava said, so hey, buddy, so yeah, I mean

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Speaker 2: we agree, Yeah agrees.

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Speaker 1: Oh oh dang, get a room you guys.

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Speaker 2: Yeah cut Yeah, dude, she locked inside of my lips. Yay,

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Speaker 2: thanks safe, Thank you for you can chill out here

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Speaker 2: if you want. Feel so validated. Yeah. So, but guys,

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Speaker 2: we have an update. I want to hear this update.

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Speaker 2: We'll help me with it.

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Speaker 1: It's been three rough months, but in the end, we

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Speaker 1: managed to come to an amicable divorce terms with my

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Speaker 1: soon to be ex wife.

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Speaker 2: Oh so they get they got divorced.

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Speaker 1: They got divorced, but amicably. At first she tried to

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Speaker 1: stop At first, she tried to stop me from divorcing,

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Speaker 1: but I didn't change my mind. These are the terms

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Speaker 1: we came to agree and the juicy details that we

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Speaker 1: were teasing earlier. She gets to keep the goals, which

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Speaker 1: I did see someone did comment before. I believe I

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Speaker 2: Marriage, the gold usually goes to the world.

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Speaker 1: Yes, and point number two, I'll only get twenty percent

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Speaker 1: not paying monthly alimony. Point number three, I get to

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Speaker 1: keep the furnitures and own our marital debt fully point

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Speaker 1: number four. Rest of the assets split fifty to fifty

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Speaker 1: and final point house is not shared because it is.

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Speaker 2: My Dat's interesting. So he only he gets twenty percent

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Speaker 2: of their retirement savings, but he doesn't have to pay alimony.

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Speaker 2: He doesn't. Yeah, so there's so that's that's he doesn't

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Speaker 2: have any outgoing payments from this whole ordeal, right, he

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Speaker 2: just receives a lesser amount, right, But I mean, I

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Speaker 2: guess good to just get it over with now he

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Speaker 1: Actually, it seems like not the great because he's like,

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Speaker 1: I keep the furniture and own all the marital debt.

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Speaker 2: That sounds terrible, but I guess it's fifty to fifty

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Speaker 2: everything else everything, and so maybe everything else is like

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Speaker 2: how much is the retirement savings? Though? Yeah, I mean

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Speaker 2: it sounds something says that's a pretty good deal, to

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Speaker 1: It sounds like they didn't have a whole lot though

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Speaker 1: maybe the all of.

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Speaker 2: The assets weren't that much, but I don't know.

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Speaker 1: Oh, we do get some more context here, So her

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Speaker 1: retirement savings became so much that even twenty percent of

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Speaker 2: Is it just her retirement saving or it's both of yours.

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Speaker 1: Her retirement savings because remember he was like paying for

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Speaker 1: retirement savings, et cetera, et cetera. So she was just

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Speaker 2: So all the debt going out on top I don't know.

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Speaker 2: We don't know.

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Speaker 1: Overall, my lawyer says it's a pretty good deal considering

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Speaker 1: many spouses prefer dragging the divorce and taking everything they

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Speaker 1: can in Turkey.

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Speaker 2: I guess if you view it like.

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Speaker 1: Hey, it's an amiicals thing, we both came to an agreement.

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Speaker 1: That's definitely I could see it totally. So for my

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Speaker 1: always wanted to travel to Asian countries like Japan, Korea, Thailand, Indonesia, China,

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Speaker 2: Pay off your debt first, dude, Nah, Now I'm going

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Speaker 2: to travel the world. He needs to pay off his debt. No, no,

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Speaker 1: My current role is My current role is work from home,

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Speaker 1: so I might have an Asia trip this year. Other

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Speaker 1: than this update, there's not much drama. There was some

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Speaker 1: but it cooled down after a while. She accepted that

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Speaker 1: our marriage is over, and I'm glad that she did

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Speaker 1: not try.

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Speaker 2: To drag the divorce process.

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Speaker 1: Court hearing a scheduled for September and after that will

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Speaker 1: be done hopefully, and we have these relevant comments to

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Speaker 1: close us on out here.

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Speaker 2: Should we do?

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Speaker 1: Foxy sliled Stony Fox says, good luck. You seem to

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Speaker 1: have escaped, relatively unscaped from a horrible sequence of events.

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Speaker 1: Divine Tara says, good to hear things are working out

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Speaker 1: so well in the end. Hopefully, should you remarry, you

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Speaker 1: find a partner whose support is mutual between the two

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Speaker 1: of you, rather than someone who've used the relationship in

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Speaker 1: a monodirectional fashion. Opie says, I am not planning on

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Speaker 1: remarrying anytime soon, but appreciate.

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Speaker 2: Your words and advice.

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Speaker 1: Name Thy Poison says that depends on whether you just

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Speaker 1: The goal that is the wife's backup for her and

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Speaker 1: the children if the husband fails her. Ah, that's where

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Speaker 1: that comes from. She can't just hand it over. I

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Speaker 1: think she needs I think this needs too much cultural

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Speaker 1: context to be judged here, and then leather Aoli comes

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Speaker 1: back again.

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Speaker 2: Oh that's OPI. We are both circics. I offered to

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Speaker 2: pay back the gold I took.

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Speaker 1: She refused. She also refused touching her savings. In the end,

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Speaker 1: I received money from my older sister, though I was

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Speaker 1: ashamed to ask for it. I paid it in less

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Speaker 2: So the money that he borrowed, he paid it, He

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Speaker 2: paid back in two months. Yes, so.

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Speaker 1: They came to an amic, amicable divorce. They both agreed.

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Speaker 1: Opie seems happy. The wife, the ex wife, it seems

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Speaker 2: I mean, I guess it's a it's it's good. I

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Speaker 2: mean talking about like when does a partner push you

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Speaker 2: too far? I feel like there this is more like

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Speaker 2: when is a partner not pushing for you enough? Like

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Speaker 2: I feel like not giving not giving an yeah, I

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Speaker 2: feel like this, this this relationship felt for very one sided,

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Speaker 2: position to do the same didn't. And it's just like

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Speaker 2: and then when the other person's given that opportunity, it's

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Speaker 2: not done. And given like, given Ope's response of like

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Speaker 2: basically pretty quickly being like I want a divorce, that

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Speaker 2: was a massive misalignment in both of their expectations. And

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Speaker 2: I think, you know this probably showed up in other ways,

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Speaker 2: but this was the breaking point. And honestly, good on

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Speaker 2: Ope for being so firm in that decision, because you know,

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Speaker 2: it's not an easy decision to make. By Rock, you

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Speaker 2: let's get in to this next story or some donus. Oh,

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Speaker 2: we could go some donuts. Let's do a donut.

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Speaker 1: Thanks for the five forty six, don't forget the thirty

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Speaker 2: But I've been really having a really rough time with

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Speaker 1: Oka and Ikoru, thanks for the five bucks. Thank you

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Speaker 2: So I'm an orange. Yeah it could be fun, Ray

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Speaker 2: ray Sunshine. Thanks for the four months of membership. I'll

482
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Speaker 2: have to hop off soon when the hubby gets home,

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Speaker 2: but I'm at four months. Woot. Why don't you watch

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Speaker 3: Husbands and significant others think of us?

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: Please let us know. Always curious of like we always

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Speaker 3: hear them boys in the background. She can't stop listening

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Speaker 3: to him. That's what I think, Like my mom think,

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Speaker 3: is anyone else's husbands or significant others?

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Speaker 2: Someone told me that they're significant Uh? Other calls me

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Speaker 2: I love that. And Sammy, thanks for the ten gifted membership. WHOA,

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Speaker 2: We appreciate you. Also, Jack, Jack Gordon is talk calling

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Speaker 2: right now answering WHOA. Let's get him on the horn. Bro,

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Speaker 2: YouTube pal. He's nineteen yeah or no, no, he's twenty.

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Speaker 2: He's twenty, he's twenty.

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Speaker 3: Basically check him out.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, check out's great. He makes great videos. Jack, I'm

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Speaker 2: on live on stream with chat. Were literally literally with

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Speaker 2: chat right now. Oh my god, no way, speakerphone. You're

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Speaker 2: be on speakerphone, we can we can chat later. Okay,

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Speaker 2: I'll call you later. Okay, I love you by.

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Speaker 1: Samy didn't say it back. That's the Riley test right there?

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Speaker 1: Oh man, Tam. How does one get a membership? Two ways?

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Speaker 2: So there's just a little joint button on YouTube right

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Speaker 2: down here. Also, people like sam A have been gifting

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Speaker 2: memberships and that's like our favoritest ever way of doing

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Speaker 2: on over to YouTube. You're so should we get into

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Speaker 2: this next work? Let's do it let's freaking do it. Okay,

516
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Speaker 2: So my husband and our twenty year old babysitter are

517
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Speaker 2: having sleepovers and I want a divorce. What if he's innocent?

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Speaker 2: What if what if she she's just helping him with

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Speaker 2: the baby at night? Wow, that's awful. So the house

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Speaker 2: at her house, the baby's gone, the baby like it's stressful.

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Speaker 2: You know, it's stressful having a kid. You know, you

522
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Speaker 2: need someone to babysit the parents. She was giving him

523
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Speaker 2: a massage to ease the stress of parenting. You know,

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Speaker 2: it's a full service babysit, full service babyester. And this

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Speaker 2: is all answering the question when as a partner pushed

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Speaker 2: you too far? And just also make sure to not

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Speaker 2: push us away because we go live every weekday at

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Speaker 2: three pm PST. So hop on in get our profile.

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Speaker 2: You should, you should should come into our lives. So

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Speaker 2: this first story comes from sour Actually this second story,

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Speaker 2: this story, this story comes from sad Boys and Barry

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Speaker 2: eight three two eight, And they say, my husband thirty

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Speaker 2: nine male, and I thirty six female, have been together

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Speaker 2: for twelve years and married for nearly seven. Wow. We

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Speaker 2: have two children, five male and two females. Yep, yep, Bradley's.

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Speaker 2: We have a really good life and my husband is

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Speaker 2: great in every way. He's extremely kind and good to me.

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Speaker 2: He is an even better father. He has never so

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Speaker 2: much as called me a name or raised his voice.

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Speaker 2: Just calls the baby sitter's name. Yeah, he never calls

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Speaker 2: my name when you're like hooking up and doing some

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Speaker 2: spicy sleep. He just those babysitters calls me Sarah, which

543
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Speaker 2: is is kind of strange, but you know, he's just

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Speaker 2: a really thoughtful person who's probably thinking about how to

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Speaker 2: take care of her better. He's a sweet guy. This

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Speaker 2: sweet guy, um, I smelled the pineapple. Within the last

547
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Speaker 2: few months, I started noticing somewhat odd interactions between he

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Speaker 2: and our longtime babysitter twenty female and as a reminder,

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Speaker 2: he is thirty.

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Speaker 1: Nine, long time, long time twenty female babysitter.

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Speaker 2: Long time drake. Oh dude, not the cody bad month

552
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Speaker 2: too soon? Okay, My gut was telling me something was off,

553
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Speaker 2: and it's never steered me wrong in the past. For

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Speaker 2: some background, I have known our sitter since I was

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Speaker 2: a teen and she was a child and she was

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Speaker 2: my next door name and her parents are still neighbors

557
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Speaker 2: with my parents. Our sitter attends college in the neighboring state.

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Speaker 2: My family and children are extremely close with the sitter

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Speaker 2: and her family. My kids love her and she loves them.

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Speaker 2: She also accompanies us to community activities and also spends

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Speaker 2: time with us at our home whenever she is home

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Speaker 2: from school, summer holidays, long weekends.

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Speaker 3: A lot of combing is happening here.

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Speaker 2: Combing.

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Speaker 3: Yep, you know what they you do?

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Speaker 2: Oh oh, I see, I see you go to the

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Speaker 2: dog groomers. Yeah, dogs, yeah.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, we're not striking chords like a minor big layer.

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Speaker 2: Oh god, Now onto the red flags. If there weren't

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Speaker 2: already enough, No, none of those were red flags. These

571
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Speaker 2: are the red flags. Here we go. So I knew

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Speaker 2: my husband and our sitter texted occasionally and didn't mine

573
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Speaker 2: because I thought it was in freak and assumed it

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Speaker 2: was always the sitter initiating the messages. She also occasionally

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Speaker 2: texts me and also text my husband and I in

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Speaker 2: a three way message opure my family. I have long

577
00:32:15,840 --> 00:32:18,080
Speaker 2: suspected she has a crush on my husband. However, that

578
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Speaker 2: doesn't bother me as I trust him. I'm confident, and

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Speaker 2: my sitter is young slash immature. Also, not to be rude,

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Speaker 2: but as far as your stereotypical beauty standards go, I

581
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Speaker 2: am far more attractive than she is. Go off op boom.

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Speaker 2: A few months ago, I started noticing that she knew

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Speaker 2: things that had happened within my family, such as spats

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Speaker 2: between my sisters, et cetera. I asked her how she

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Speaker 2: knew about them, and she responded that my husband was

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Speaker 2: texting her when it happened. I found that to be

587
00:32:52,640 --> 00:32:56,960
Speaker 2: really strange and somewhat inappropriate. Really questioned, like a quick

588
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Speaker 2: quick temperature check from from the audience, is texting your

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Speaker 2: babysitter about the inner workings of your familial dynamic a

590
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Speaker 2: red flag? Or not? Put your answers in the jackda? Yeah,

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Speaker 2: how she is she needs to take care of the baby.

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Speaker 1: Well, how else is she gonna know all of these

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Speaker 1: private texts with the husband about it?

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Speaker 2: Jolly x Toaster says, age of consent is not a

595
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Speaker 2: target to hit. Oh, what's so funny, bro? It's so

596
00:33:33,560 --> 00:33:42,560
Speaker 2: funny dude anyway? Ick Next, there were two nights recently

597
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Speaker 2: where she spent the night to spend time with a

598
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Speaker 2: kid again she loves them. While I was working it

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Speaker 2: over and I learned afterwards the two of them stayed

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Speaker 2: up watching movies together into the night after putting our

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Speaker 2: kids to sleep.

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Speaker 1: It's almost like she wants to be their mom.

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Speaker 2: Me. That's good.

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Speaker 3: That's good. Good conspiracy theory, Like she's trying to push

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Speaker 3: the wife out and become the mother.

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Speaker 2: I'm all right, See, like I feel like Chat right

607
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Speaker 2: now is putting blame on babysitter, I'm putting blame on husband.

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Speaker 2: I'm putting I'm putting blame on husband, big time, big time,

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Speaker 2: big time, big time, big time on the husband, like

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Speaker 2: more more so like the I feel like the movie

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Speaker 2: thing is less of a like red flag to me

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Speaker 2: than the uh still red flag, but less of red

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Speaker 2: flag than the talking about the inner workings of the

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Speaker 2: familial dynamic. Yeah, which would you? Oh? Here we call?

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Speaker 2: Would you rather here we go? Here we go? Gentlemen,

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Speaker 2: would you rather your significant other text the babysitter about

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Speaker 2: all of your relationship problems? Or watch late night movies

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Speaker 2: after the kids in bed? Honestly? Which one? Which one? Emotional?

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Speaker 2: You would go? Movie? Yeah? Because like you would rather

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Speaker 2: the movie I would rather, Yes, I would rather than

621
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Speaker 2: the movie too. Yeah, I would rather than the movie.

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Speaker 2: Really I would I would like because because that with

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Speaker 2: the familiar of dynamics. That's like secret secret.

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Speaker 3: Okay, I will pick familial dynamics. But all my family

625
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Speaker 3: is dead.

626
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Speaker 2: Can't do that unless.

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Speaker 3: Well there's not a lot of drama in my my family.

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Speaker 2: We can we can we do a poll on this here?

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Speaker 2: Can we do a poll? Would you would you rather

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Speaker 2: your significant would you rather your s o? Uh uh? Yeah?

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Speaker 2: Text or movie? Which one? What is it? Which one? Yeah?

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00:36:02,400 --> 00:36:05,799
Speaker 2: I think you have to choose movie. I would rather

633
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Speaker 2: because like because like, because the movie could be innocuous.

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Speaker 3: That's time spent.

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Speaker 2: Dog, it's time spent.

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Speaker 3: But all right, two hours, three hours some movies your face.

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Speaker 3: So what if they want to do a TV series?

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Speaker 2: That's a lot of time.

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Speaker 3: I mean yeah, things that took me twelve hours to

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Speaker 3: get through.

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Speaker 2: How much movies did you and John watch? Was gone?

642
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Speaker 2: Oh dude, A lot a lot. We watched a lot

643
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Speaker 2: of time. He slept over every time. He slept over

644
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Speaker 2: every time, like three or three days in one week

645
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Speaker 2: he's slept over. John was lowly, dude, I was that.

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Speaker 2: It was great. Yeah, little strawberries into his back. Okay,

647
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Speaker 2: So people would rather have the movie happen to them.

648
00:37:04,200 --> 00:37:07,080
Speaker 2: I'm I'm I'm on movie side too. I would rather

649
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Speaker 2: than watch a movie.

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Speaker 3: I do text because a lot doesn't happen in my

651
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Speaker 3: family anyways.

652
00:37:10,520 --> 00:37:18,360
Speaker 2: So fun is movie divorce worthy? Now? Is text divorceworthy? Uh? No?

653
00:37:18,920 --> 00:37:22,839
Speaker 2: I think they both have the possibility of being innocuous.

654
00:37:23,000 --> 00:37:26,439
Speaker 3: But you can put a phone in water, you can't

655
00:37:26,440 --> 00:37:32,279
Speaker 3: put a movie in water. Oh sorry, babe, she can't

656
00:37:32,320 --> 00:37:34,879
Speaker 3: text them anymore. I'm a gene.

657
00:37:35,840 --> 00:37:37,840
Speaker 2: You can turn off the movie. You can put a

658
00:37:37,920 --> 00:37:40,080
Speaker 2: VCR in water. I don't know why I went straight

659
00:37:40,120 --> 00:37:42,240
Speaker 2: to VCR retro.

660
00:37:43,120 --> 00:37:45,640
Speaker 1: So basically like, yeah, you can stop the texting, but

661
00:37:45,680 --> 00:37:47,000
Speaker 1: you can't stop the stuff.

662
00:37:47,239 --> 00:37:51,080
Speaker 2: Yes you can. You can just break your TV. Yeah, anyway,

663
00:37:51,760 --> 00:38:00,759
Speaker 2: I'm gonna keep going. So last Sunday. Oh wait, no,

664
00:38:00,800 --> 00:38:04,799
Speaker 2: here we go next. So strange and sum are appropriate? Next?

665
00:38:04,800 --> 00:38:07,839
Speaker 2: There were two nights recently where she spent the night

666
00:38:07,880 --> 00:38:09,520
Speaker 2: to spend night with the kids again she loves them.

667
00:38:09,840 --> 00:38:12,440
Speaker 2: While I was working overnight, I learned afterwards the two

668
00:38:12,440 --> 00:38:15,200
Speaker 2: of them stayed up watching movies together into the night

669
00:38:15,280 --> 00:38:18,799
Speaker 2: after putting our kids to sleep. Maybe not so strange,

670
00:38:19,040 --> 00:38:23,560
Speaker 2: question mark, Maybe not so strange. Well, my husband never

671
00:38:23,719 --> 00:38:27,600
Speaker 2: initiates hanging out with her. Oh, my husband never initiates

672
00:38:27,640 --> 00:38:30,359
Speaker 2: hanging out with me. After the kids go to bed,

673
00:38:30,640 --> 00:38:34,080
Speaker 2: we usually sleep separately, each with one of our kids

674
00:38:34,280 --> 00:38:37,440
Speaker 2: because they love co sleeping. We are aware we need

675
00:38:37,480 --> 00:38:40,560
Speaker 2: to break that habit. But I'm being honest for the

676
00:38:40,560 --> 00:38:43,400
Speaker 2: sake of the story. So I'm immediately hurt that he

677
00:38:43,480 --> 00:38:46,200
Speaker 2: is staying up late and watching movies with our sitter

678
00:38:46,520 --> 00:38:49,799
Speaker 2: and doesn't do the same with me. And also I

679
00:38:49,880 --> 00:38:55,120
Speaker 2: find it strange and inappropriate. Well, last Sunday, my son

680
00:38:55,239 --> 00:38:58,280
Speaker 2: was watching Netflix on my husband's phone and I saw

681
00:38:58,320 --> 00:39:03,279
Speaker 2: a message come in from the sitter. I take the phone,

682
00:39:03,760 --> 00:39:05,759
Speaker 2: grab it for the kid. It's like, no, I want

683
00:39:05,760 --> 00:39:11,160
Speaker 2: to watch Cuckoo Baby Bean, and tap on it. Prior

684
00:39:11,239 --> 00:39:15,040
Speaker 2: to this, I have never ever looked or a wanted

685
00:39:15,120 --> 00:39:18,239
Speaker 2: to look through anyone's phone other than my own. But

686
00:39:18,360 --> 00:39:21,600
Speaker 2: my gut had been telling me something is up, so

687
00:39:21,719 --> 00:39:28,120
Speaker 2: I looked. What do you think she found? Innocent? Completely? Oh,

688
00:39:28,160 --> 00:39:31,919
Speaker 2: he was buying her about and a new wedding book.

689
00:39:32,520 --> 00:39:36,400
Speaker 3: She's probably stuck in a washing machine somewhere and is

690
00:39:36,520 --> 00:39:37,359
Speaker 3: asking for help.

691
00:39:39,880 --> 00:39:48,520
Speaker 2: Yeah. Uh, Also, innocent's gonna be so innocent I looked,

692
00:39:49,280 --> 00:39:54,920
Speaker 2: I scrolled back aways and saw they were texting a lot,

693
00:39:56,560 --> 00:39:59,719
Speaker 2: sometimes about the kids, but usually not. It was con

694
00:40:00,000 --> 00:40:04,240
Speaker 2: consistent messaging on almost a daily basis, if not daily.

695
00:40:04,880 --> 00:40:09,239
Speaker 2: They both initiated conversation with varying topics. He texts her

696
00:40:09,280 --> 00:40:25,160
Speaker 2: more frequently than he does me, smoking gun yep, says

697
00:40:25,200 --> 00:40:28,719
Speaker 2: when I'm gone nine. Then he does me say when

698
00:40:28,719 --> 00:40:31,520
Speaker 2: I'm gone nine to thirty six hours a day at

699
00:40:31,560 --> 00:40:33,520
Speaker 2: work nine to thirty six hours a day. What does

700
00:40:33,520 --> 00:40:34,080
Speaker 2: that even mean?

701
00:40:34,200 --> 00:40:35,000
Speaker 3: We're in overtime.

702
00:40:35,560 --> 00:40:39,719
Speaker 2: I found this constant communication to be super concerning and

703
00:40:39,760 --> 00:40:41,680
Speaker 2: not okay for a married man to be engaging with

704
00:40:41,760 --> 00:40:47,160
Speaker 2: a twenty year old female twenty years his junior, never

705
00:40:47,239 --> 00:40:50,520
Speaker 2: mind the power imbalance at play in a situation like this,

706
00:40:50,600 --> 00:40:53,640
Speaker 2: given the age gap and the fact that we regularly

707
00:40:53,760 --> 00:40:59,600
Speaker 2: employ her and supplement her income. I confronted him right away,

708
00:40:59,800 --> 00:41:03,000
Speaker 2: and his excuse was that she is family, he is

709
00:41:03,040 --> 00:41:05,319
Speaker 2: my friend. I thought, you text her all the time,

710
00:41:05,520 --> 00:41:10,719
Speaker 2: nothing has happened. Nope. Didn't accept his dumb booty response. Oh,

711
00:41:11,320 --> 00:41:13,640
Speaker 2: I asked him one. I asked him if one of

712
00:41:13,960 --> 00:41:17,120
Speaker 2: his married friends were to be interacting with their babies

713
00:41:17,120 --> 00:41:19,240
Speaker 2: that are like this, if he thought it was okay.

714
00:41:19,800 --> 00:41:23,520
Speaker 2: He said no. I asked if he thought their wives

715
00:41:23,520 --> 00:41:27,560
Speaker 2: would be okay. He said no. I let him know

716
00:41:27,719 --> 00:41:32,719
Speaker 2: that I want to separate and live separately. You, of

717
00:41:32,800 --> 00:41:35,879
Speaker 2: course did not want this. Part of me thinks financials

718
00:41:35,920 --> 00:41:38,120
Speaker 2: play a role, as I make three times what he

719
00:41:38,239 --> 00:41:41,440
Speaker 2: makes and he could not live in this expensive city

720
00:41:41,480 --> 00:41:45,560
Speaker 2: without my income. Tough oo. I haven't spoken to him

721
00:41:45,600 --> 00:41:48,200
Speaker 2: in three days and have made it a point to

722
00:41:48,239 --> 00:41:52,400
Speaker 2: be working or at my mom's with the kids so

723
00:41:52,520 --> 00:41:55,759
Speaker 2: I don't have to see him. He has been messaging me,

724
00:41:56,480 --> 00:42:00,759
Speaker 2: but I barely responded. I would love and really appreciate

725
00:42:00,920 --> 00:42:06,200
Speaker 2: some outside perspective. Am I the A hole? Am I overreacting?

726
00:42:06,280 --> 00:42:11,840
Speaker 2: And John? Yes, there are some quick relevant comments that

727
00:42:11,880 --> 00:42:14,680
Speaker 2: I'm going to read right now. Please also, we're live

728
00:42:14,760 --> 00:42:18,239
Speaker 2: right now. Hit our profile. We're live, hit it, hit

729
00:42:18,280 --> 00:42:22,960
Speaker 2: the profile, go check us out relevant comments, so Baddie,

730
00:42:23,400 --> 00:42:26,880
Speaker 2: But Saddie says he knew what he was doing, and

731
00:42:26,920 --> 00:42:28,960
Speaker 2: he knew it was inappropriate, but he enjoyed the ego

732
00:42:29,000 --> 00:42:31,840
Speaker 2: boost of a young woman being interested in him. You

733
00:42:31,920 --> 00:42:34,279
Speaker 2: also need to get rid of her. She knew what

734
00:42:34,320 --> 00:42:37,120
Speaker 2: she was doing, not the a hole and big lips

735
00:42:37,160 --> 00:42:41,080
Speaker 2: Magoo says, here's the thing. At forty years old, he's

736
00:42:41,120 --> 00:42:44,319
Speaker 2: old enough to know that three times income feels much

737
00:42:44,320 --> 00:42:48,160
Speaker 2: better than any attention from anyone ever, Like keep your

738
00:42:48,160 --> 00:42:51,399
Speaker 2: six packs, sir. My husband is fully vested and has

739
00:42:51,560 --> 00:42:57,239
Speaker 2: vision and dental. That's so funny, that's amazing. And that's

740
00:42:57,280 --> 00:43:01,680
Speaker 2: where the story ends, all answering the question when has

741
00:43:01,680 --> 00:43:04,439
Speaker 2: a partner pushed you too far? And what you do? Dude,

742
00:43:04,440 --> 00:43:07,240
Speaker 2: I wasn't ready for that story to end. I'm that story.

743
00:43:06,880 --> 00:43:13,160
Speaker 2: She's done, So wow? Is OP the a hole? Huh? Okay?

744
00:43:13,400 --> 00:43:18,680
Speaker 2: Is this divorce worthy? Would you divorce if you caught

745
00:43:18,960 --> 00:43:22,880
Speaker 2: your significant other being a little bit too friendly with

746
00:43:23,400 --> 00:43:27,960
Speaker 2: the babysitter? Would I divorce in the same quickness and

747
00:43:28,000 --> 00:43:32,680
Speaker 2: manner as? Ope? No, I think Like.

748
00:43:34,960 --> 00:43:37,840
Speaker 1: While his response was terrible, and it was terrible because

749
00:43:37,840 --> 00:43:42,319
Speaker 1: the appropriate response would be hey, I honestly didn't realize,

750
00:43:42,560 --> 00:43:45,319
Speaker 1: you know, I thought it was just totally you know,

751
00:43:45,400 --> 00:43:48,040
Speaker 1: friendly and normal, like having a conversation without a family member.

752
00:43:48,280 --> 00:43:52,080
Speaker 1: But now that I know how how you feel, I'm

753
00:43:52,080 --> 00:43:54,560
Speaker 1: definitely going to not like how what how do you

754
00:43:54,600 --> 00:43:56,920
Speaker 1: think I should interact with her? So that way, I'm

755
00:43:56,920 --> 00:44:00,000
Speaker 1: not like overstepping any of your like boundary.

756
00:44:00,200 --> 00:44:02,560
Speaker 2: I feel like that would have been the appropriate response

757
00:44:02,719 --> 00:44:05,640
Speaker 2: versus he was like on full defense, like, no, this

758
00:44:05,760 --> 00:44:08,160
Speaker 2: is yeah, he should have he should have opened. He

759
00:44:08,200 --> 00:44:11,839
Speaker 2: should have Like I had more of a conversation about it.

760
00:44:12,120 --> 00:44:14,240
Speaker 2: Question do you think they do you think anything happened?

761
00:44:15,360 --> 00:44:19,360
Speaker 1: You know what, I I'm not sure if anything happened physically,

762
00:44:19,719 --> 00:44:22,320
Speaker 1: but I think one could easily argue this is already

763
00:44:22,360 --> 00:44:26,640
Speaker 1: an em bear because he is in contact with her

764
00:44:26,680 --> 00:44:29,960
Speaker 1: and sharing things with her more frequently than his own wife,

765
00:44:31,160 --> 00:44:35,000
Speaker 1: and that seems to be something super super super important

766
00:44:35,200 --> 00:44:38,920
Speaker 1: to ope to to Opie and she's like, hey, this

767
00:44:39,080 --> 00:44:42,320
Speaker 1: is a She didn't say it explicitly, but it basically

768
00:44:42,320 --> 00:44:45,720
Speaker 1: seems this is a deal breaker for her to engage

769
00:44:45,719 --> 00:44:47,440
Speaker 1: in a kind of like emotional affair.

770
00:44:47,360 --> 00:44:50,399
Speaker 2: You know, like really it's it's it's it takes two

771
00:44:50,440 --> 00:44:52,560
Speaker 2: people to be in a relationship, and she doesn't want

772
00:44:52,560 --> 00:44:54,560
Speaker 2: to be in that kind of relationship. It's up to her.

773
00:44:54,719 --> 00:44:57,919
Speaker 2: If I was in Opie's shoes, I think I would

774
00:44:57,960 --> 00:45:00,439
Speaker 2: take a similar approach to you. I think guy would

775
00:45:00,480 --> 00:45:02,799
Speaker 2: be I would be like, hey, I don't really think

776
00:45:02,840 --> 00:45:07,359
Speaker 2: this is appropriate, and also like very inappropriate. I think

777
00:45:07,360 --> 00:45:13,040
Speaker 2: it's I think it's inappropriate to be texting someone that much.

778
00:45:13,120 --> 00:45:15,319
Speaker 2: And I think also what it sounds like too is

779
00:45:15,360 --> 00:45:18,080
Speaker 2: the subtext of this here, and you can kind of

780
00:45:18,080 --> 00:45:19,960
Speaker 2: pick up from it in a couple of different places.

781
00:45:19,960 --> 00:45:22,840
Speaker 2: And the story is I don't think the husband is

782
00:45:22,840 --> 00:45:26,879
Speaker 2: putting any effort into the relationship, and I think it

783
00:45:26,920 --> 00:45:30,240
Speaker 2: feels like, you know, they're sleeping separately, they're not watching

784
00:45:30,280 --> 00:45:33,080
Speaker 2: movies with each other. It sounds like they're they're not

785
00:45:33,239 --> 00:45:36,719
Speaker 2: really they're not really prioritize, or at least he's not

786
00:45:36,800 --> 00:45:37,839
Speaker 2: prioritizing her.

787
00:45:38,160 --> 00:45:41,120
Speaker 1: That's such a great point. And Opie also mentioned very

788
00:45:41,120 --> 00:45:44,000
Speaker 1: subtly all of the family thinks that she has a

789
00:45:44,040 --> 00:45:47,080
Speaker 1: crush on him, So I'm.

790
00:45:46,840 --> 00:45:49,000
Speaker 2: All the family thinks the babysitter has a crush.

791
00:45:48,800 --> 00:45:52,120
Speaker 1: On So there, I am almost positive that he's aware

792
00:45:52,560 --> 00:45:56,279
Speaker 1: of that dynamic. Yeah, he's probably He's probably aware, and

793
00:45:56,320 --> 00:46:00,359
Speaker 1: he's probably leaning into it. I don't think he there

794
00:46:00,360 --> 00:46:01,880
Speaker 1: has been anything physical.

795
00:46:02,560 --> 00:46:04,880
Speaker 2: We don't have any evidence to this that there is

796
00:46:04,920 --> 00:46:08,560
Speaker 2: anything physical. But I think what is happening is he's

797
00:46:08,719 --> 00:46:12,480
Speaker 2: prioritizing the happiness of this babysitter and putting more effort

798
00:46:12,880 --> 00:46:16,920
Speaker 2: into the relationship with his babysitter than his own wife, yes,

799
00:46:17,000 --> 00:46:19,879
Speaker 2: which is a red flag and also maybe is an

800
00:46:19,880 --> 00:46:22,920
Speaker 2: indicator that the marriage is kind of over, like you know,

801
00:46:23,200 --> 00:46:27,279
Speaker 2: they've been growing up apart for a while now, and

802
00:46:27,400 --> 00:46:30,439
Speaker 2: this is just the proof that he's not, like he can't,

803
00:46:30,600 --> 00:46:33,320
Speaker 2: like the classic thing that I always see on Instagram,

804
00:46:33,440 --> 00:46:36,040
Speaker 2: if he could or if he wanted to, he would,

805
00:46:36,400 --> 00:46:39,000
Speaker 2: you know, And I always see that on Instagram, and

806
00:46:39,040 --> 00:46:41,960
Speaker 2: I think it's like, I think, uh, I think that's

807
00:46:42,040 --> 00:46:45,040
Speaker 2: that's the case here, Like if if he wanted to,

808
00:46:45,200 --> 00:46:47,960
Speaker 2: he would, And you're seeing evidence of that. You're seeing

809
00:46:47,960 --> 00:46:51,920
Speaker 2: evidence that like he uh, he could put in the

810
00:46:51,960 --> 00:46:55,040
Speaker 2: time and effort with the he didn't put in the

811
00:46:55,040 --> 00:47:00,480
Speaker 2: time and effort with the babysitter and uh and and

812
00:47:00,640 --> 00:47:02,920
Speaker 2: you know, now now I think the marriage is suffering

813
00:47:02,960 --> 00:47:07,200
Speaker 2: as a result of it. I agree. I agree. Hello,

814
00:47:08,360 --> 00:47:17,640
Speaker 2: except Chris Miles. Miles Miles. Yeah, there's a person, you

815
00:47:17,680 --> 00:47:19,000
Speaker 2: know in the studio.

816
00:47:19,520 --> 00:47:21,840
Speaker 1: Are you guys ready, Are you guys ready for the

817
00:47:21,880 --> 00:47:29,600
Speaker 1: grand reveal? Let's do it, Chris, Papa squad partner right here?

818
00:47:34,160 --> 00:47:36,680
Speaker 1: How you doing, dude? I don't know if we have

819
00:47:36,800 --> 00:47:38,880
Speaker 1: officially Oh here. We'll get you micd up here correctly.

820
00:47:38,920 --> 00:47:41,240
Speaker 2: So I don't think we've spent Maybe maybe i've spoken

821
00:47:41,400 --> 00:47:42,920
Speaker 2: he's been at the end of the house. I think

822
00:47:42,920 --> 00:47:49,759
Speaker 2: I've spoken like three to seven words. Yeah, probably probably same. Yeah,

823
00:47:49,800 --> 00:47:52,080
Speaker 2: what a great first way to have a conversation. Yeah

824
00:47:52,120 --> 00:47:55,680
Speaker 2: on a show, you know, Chris.

825
00:47:55,680 --> 00:47:56,720
Speaker 3: This is actually Miles.

826
00:47:57,000 --> 00:47:57,120
Speaker 2: Uh.

827
00:47:57,360 --> 00:47:59,720
Speaker 3: Fun fact about Miles. I met him at the comedy

828
00:47:59,760 --> 00:48:01,720
Speaker 3: store and he made fun of me for my overalls

829
00:48:01,760 --> 00:48:04,000
Speaker 3: and I was like, this guy's hilarious. I have to

830
00:48:04,000 --> 00:48:06,919
Speaker 3: have him on the show sometime. So yeah, what else

831
00:48:06,960 --> 00:48:07,239
Speaker 3: do you do?

832
00:48:08,640 --> 00:48:21,839
Speaker 2: Actor? This is true? It do be expensive. That's where

833
00:48:21,840 --> 00:48:27,000
Speaker 2: we're at. You know, I'm sold. Where do I buy there?

834
00:48:29,760 --> 00:48:30,520
Speaker 2: O f dot.

835
00:48:32,760 --> 00:48:35,800
Speaker 1: By the way, I'm wearing a very different fit today.

836
00:48:35,800 --> 00:48:39,000
Speaker 1: Could you could you quickly rate slash roast my fit?

837
00:48:39,400 --> 00:48:42,560
Speaker 1: I'll give I'll give a little spin for dude.

838
00:48:42,560 --> 00:48:47,840
Speaker 2: He he he has the the gen Z jeans. Yo.

839
00:48:48,440 --> 00:48:51,080
Speaker 2: I'm like gen zed out. So yeah, what chat and

840
00:48:51,360 --> 00:48:52,360
Speaker 2: mild chat?

841
00:48:54,560 --> 00:48:56,880
Speaker 5: Yeah, I like it feels I don't even know you

842
00:48:56,880 --> 00:48:59,680
Speaker 5: that well. Yeah, like you know it doesn't think that's

843
00:48:59,719 --> 00:49:00,799
Speaker 5: kind to someone else.

844
00:49:01,040 --> 00:49:05,520
Speaker 1: It's funny because it feels like not me, but it's

845
00:49:05,560 --> 00:49:06,239
Speaker 1: like a cool fit.

846
00:49:07,200 --> 00:49:09,799
Speaker 2: What feels like John most to me is a suit. Yeah,

847
00:49:09,800 --> 00:49:14,040
Speaker 2: that's the thing. Tailored suits, tailored suit. What I what

848
00:49:14,200 --> 00:49:16,839
Speaker 2: I see John John making? Also, I don't know if

849
00:49:16,840 --> 00:49:22,600
Speaker 2: we can hear Miles, Miles, welcome. We just finished up

850
00:49:22,640 --> 00:49:27,880
Speaker 2: a story about a babysitter moving in on a marriage,

851
00:49:27,920 --> 00:49:31,240
Speaker 2: and we're about to pop into another story. Do you

852
00:49:31,280 --> 00:49:36,120
Speaker 2: do you I'm gonna give you. Do we need a brief? Miles? Yeah?

853
00:49:36,160 --> 00:49:37,120
Speaker 3: I briefed him last night.

854
00:49:37,280 --> 00:49:40,919
Speaker 2: Brief. What's up? I'm briefed. You know what's up? Okay, brief?

855
00:49:41,840 --> 00:49:45,600
Speaker 2: Shall we go to this next story? Let's do it?

856
00:49:45,719 --> 00:49:50,640
Speaker 2: Thanks you me? That's me by the same episode. Uh,

857
00:49:50,680 --> 00:49:54,960
Speaker 2: miss Santiago, who is Miles Miles as our friend and

858
00:49:55,000 --> 00:49:58,960
Speaker 2: he's coming in hanging out. Also comedian that's right that

859
00:49:59,040 --> 00:50:00,759
Speaker 2: we saw on the show and was very funny. Got

860
00:50:00,760 --> 00:50:04,240
Speaker 2: many laughs, got oodles of laughs.

861
00:50:04,400 --> 00:50:07,280
Speaker 3: My favorite one, my one.

862
00:50:10,239 --> 00:50:20,920
Speaker 2: That about your chin ble put it in your mouth. Actually,

863
00:50:21,080 --> 00:50:25,400
Speaker 2: hold on, I'm gonna help it so your mouth is

864
00:50:25,600 --> 00:50:27,000
Speaker 2: see how I'm like boom right there?

865
00:50:27,120 --> 00:50:27,279
Speaker 4: Yeah?

866
00:50:27,920 --> 00:50:32,640
Speaker 2: Nice, wait, let me be helping to Yeah, there we

867
00:50:32,680 --> 00:50:37,240
Speaker 2: go now it's perfect. Oh yeah, dude, as my heads

868
00:50:39,120 --> 00:50:41,440
Speaker 2: man needs the whole headspace. It does. There we go

869
00:50:41,680 --> 00:50:45,040
Speaker 2: to John looks his age for the first time. Is

870
00:50:45,040 --> 00:50:47,719
Speaker 2: that in a positive way or a negative way? Is

871
00:50:47,760 --> 00:50:50,919
Speaker 2: it that he looks a hundred or because low key?

872
00:50:51,080 --> 00:50:52,799
Speaker 1: When I came in this morning, I was telling Now,

873
00:50:52,840 --> 00:50:54,120
Speaker 1: before I came in, I'm like, I feel like they're

874
00:50:54,120 --> 00:50:57,000
Speaker 1: going to roast me and be like, oh, like trying

875
00:50:57,000 --> 00:50:57,600
Speaker 1: to look young.

876
00:50:57,680 --> 00:51:00,040
Speaker 2: I see, you know what I mean. So I I

877
00:51:00,080 --> 00:51:02,640
Speaker 2: didn't even think about that. Actually thought I know. I

878
00:51:02,719 --> 00:51:07,320
Speaker 2: was Lord, I was truly shocked. He's still so quiet.

879
00:51:07,520 --> 00:51:09,200
Speaker 3: Uh oh, oh, just talk louder.

880
00:51:09,800 --> 00:51:11,720
Speaker 2: Was it coming through? I can speak up? Yeah? There

881
00:51:11,760 --> 00:51:11,920
Speaker 2: we go.

882
00:51:11,960 --> 00:51:12,319
Speaker 3: There we go.

883
00:51:12,520 --> 00:51:16,279
Speaker 2: You have any volume on the Yeah? Nice? Cool? Thank you?

884
00:51:16,320 --> 00:51:19,359
Speaker 2: All right with that? Shall we do it? Uh? Yeah?

885
00:51:19,400 --> 00:51:21,799
Speaker 3: And Teddy did not warn him about chat, so he's

886
00:51:21,840 --> 00:51:23,320
Speaker 3: just gonna have to build the wrath.

887
00:51:23,880 --> 00:51:25,480
Speaker 2: Here we go, let's do it.

888
00:51:25,680 --> 00:51:27,440
Speaker 5: Did not warm me at all, But this is very

889
00:51:27,560 --> 00:51:30,240
Speaker 5: I like it. It's interesting. Keeps me on my toes.

890
00:51:30,360 --> 00:51:32,120
Speaker 2: That's right. Here we go.

891
00:51:32,960 --> 00:51:37,000
Speaker 1: So my partner called me disgusting. I don't know how

892
00:51:37,080 --> 00:51:37,960
Speaker 1: to move past it.

893
00:51:38,160 --> 00:51:40,400
Speaker 2: You don't you just adopt your new identity as a

894
00:51:40,440 --> 00:51:44,680
Speaker 2: disgusting person. Yeah, divorce more by the divorce.

895
00:51:45,040 --> 00:51:46,960
Speaker 1: Uh, this is all the answer question when has a

896
00:51:47,000 --> 00:51:49,440
Speaker 1: partner pushed you too far? And by the way, you

897
00:51:49,440 --> 00:51:51,680
Speaker 1: can join ourly YouTube every single day at three pm

898
00:51:51,800 --> 00:51:52,680
Speaker 1: PSD every week.

899
00:51:52,680 --> 00:51:53,120
Speaker 2: We're live.

900
00:51:53,239 --> 00:51:55,560
Speaker 1: We're live right now, so just do it. This comes

901
00:51:55,560 --> 00:51:57,759
Speaker 1: from mindful guy thirty three, who says, hello everyone. A

902
00:51:57,760 --> 00:51:59,719
Speaker 1: bit of background, I thirty two mail am inn a

903
00:52:00,040 --> 00:52:02,720
Speaker 1: situationship with someone we will call Matt.

904
00:52:02,880 --> 00:52:06,799
Speaker 2: Also thirty two male, already red flag. Yeah, we can't

905
00:52:06,840 --> 00:52:08,879
Speaker 2: trust him, Matt am, I right, and he can't trust

906
00:52:08,920 --> 00:52:10,520
Speaker 2: the situationship.

907
00:52:09,880 --> 00:52:13,400
Speaker 1: Ooh, double red flag agap. We've known each other for

908
00:52:13,480 --> 00:52:16,240
Speaker 1: over a year, and in the past five months things

909
00:52:16,280 --> 00:52:21,440
Speaker 1: have gotten non sexually romantic. We like each other and

910
00:52:21,480 --> 00:52:23,360
Speaker 1: are both aware of our feelings, but we want to

911
00:52:23,400 --> 00:52:26,560
Speaker 1: take things through. About four months ago, Matt lost his

912
00:52:26,680 --> 00:52:29,000
Speaker 1: job and I hired him at my place of employment,

913
00:52:29,400 --> 00:52:32,440
Speaker 1: where I hold a leadership position. I am in management

914
00:52:32,520 --> 00:52:36,600
Speaker 1: and he is not. I'm kind of feeling a poll

915
00:52:36,640 --> 00:52:39,000
Speaker 1: of higher or not because I feel like they have

916
00:52:39,080 --> 00:52:43,879
Speaker 1: a budding romantic albeit non spicy sleep is our word for.

917
00:52:45,800 --> 00:52:48,120
Speaker 2: It. Oh, I like that, so as a non spicy

918
00:52:48,160 --> 00:52:51,200
Speaker 2: sleep relationship, Well, no, I think they have a spicy

919
00:52:51,239 --> 00:52:56,320
Speaker 2: sleep relationship. My interpretation is they have a spicy sleep relationship.

920
00:52:56,360 --> 00:52:59,959
Speaker 2: It's a situationship, but recently things have trended more romance

921
00:53:00,640 --> 00:53:03,680
Speaker 2: and now they're discovering these new feelings about that are

922
00:53:03,719 --> 00:53:06,359
Speaker 2: that are growing in between each other and they're like, oh,

923
00:53:06,440 --> 00:53:09,719
Speaker 2: what is this? Is this a situationship turn relationship? Are

924
00:53:09,719 --> 00:53:14,560
Speaker 2: we exiting the twilight zone of our relationship into less

925
00:53:14,640 --> 00:53:22,759
Speaker 2: murky waters? And then he hired him? Ah wait, wait

926
00:53:22,800 --> 00:53:28,319
Speaker 2: who hired? Who reading got reched? Okay, wait, so wait

927
00:53:28,320 --> 00:53:31,239
Speaker 2: what was the poll hire or not hire or not?

928
00:53:31,640 --> 00:53:34,160
Speaker 1: Yes, so basically what happened was but by the way,

929
00:53:34,160 --> 00:53:36,200
Speaker 1: we don't know if there was any any spicy sleep

930
00:53:36,239 --> 00:53:36,480
Speaker 1: at all.

931
00:53:36,560 --> 00:53:40,359
Speaker 2: It could be. But with the situation they said, they

932
00:53:40,400 --> 00:53:42,960
Speaker 2: said situation. It's like the whole basis of a situation.

933
00:53:44,320 --> 00:53:47,799
Speaker 2: But there isn't any any explicit mention. Just dude, you

934
00:53:47,840 --> 00:53:51,400
Speaker 2: don't need explicit mention. If someone says a situationship, they

935
00:53:51,480 --> 00:53:56,000
Speaker 2: didn't detail it. They didn't give us exactly. The only

936
00:53:56,040 --> 00:53:59,120
Speaker 2: thing in a situationship is the situation is.

937
00:53:59,200 --> 00:54:03,480
Speaker 1: According to the text, as things have gotten non spicy

938
00:54:03,480 --> 00:54:05,719
Speaker 1: sleep romantic, so it's romantic. But they're not sleeping with

939
00:54:05,760 --> 00:54:09,280
Speaker 1: each other, it seems, or not getting too too intimate.

940
00:54:10,160 --> 00:54:19,880
Speaker 2: But uh op hired the other guy after the situationship

941
00:54:20,840 --> 00:54:23,120
Speaker 2: during it, basically during it, they're still in the midst

942
00:54:23,120 --> 00:54:26,240
Speaker 2: of the situation. Had to see a sticky situation.

943
00:54:27,280 --> 00:54:34,279
Speaker 1: And it's about four months ago, so they started the

944
00:54:34,360 --> 00:54:37,440
Speaker 1: situationship one month later, hires him.

945
00:54:39,600 --> 00:54:47,040
Speaker 2: So do we need to witeboard? I think I get it.

946
00:54:47,040 --> 00:54:50,880
Speaker 2: It just feels like the hiring thing came out of nowhere.

947
00:54:50,920 --> 00:54:54,400
Speaker 2: It's crazy, right, what the what? What are they hiring

948
00:54:54,440 --> 00:54:54,919
Speaker 2: them for?

949
00:54:55,719 --> 00:54:57,680
Speaker 1: I hired him at my place of employment, where I

950
00:54:57,680 --> 00:55:00,799
Speaker 1: hold a leadership position. I am in man and he

951
00:55:01,080 --> 00:55:01,360
Speaker 1: is not.

952
00:55:02,760 --> 00:55:08,319
Speaker 2: Power dynamics at play too. Okay, I'm big daddy, your

953
00:55:08,360 --> 00:55:11,720
Speaker 2: little daddy. You have to do exactly what I say. Yep.

954
00:55:12,120 --> 00:55:18,520
Speaker 1: Well, our interactions at work are strictly professional. As a leader,

955
00:55:18,600 --> 00:55:21,000
Speaker 1: I believe in allowing my team to do their job

956
00:55:21,120 --> 00:55:25,879
Speaker 1: with minimal supervision. Okay, I do nothing, just kidding, though

957
00:55:26,000 --> 00:55:28,080
Speaker 1: there are times when I have to be stern.

958
00:55:28,080 --> 00:55:31,000
Speaker 2: Have to be on top of them.

959
00:55:31,880 --> 00:55:35,279
Speaker 1: Let's get to the bottom of this, Okay, guys, While

960
00:55:35,280 --> 00:55:38,719
Speaker 1: remaining empathetic and professional to lead any team or an individual,

961
00:55:38,760 --> 00:55:42,040
Speaker 1: towards a needed outcome. Matt, I've come to learn, has

962
00:55:42,080 --> 00:55:45,800
Speaker 1: a problem with authority, and although he is not directly

963
00:55:46,000 --> 00:55:46,520
Speaker 1: under me.

964
00:55:47,760 --> 00:55:52,399
Speaker 2: His bosses. So there is no spicy sleep I now,

965
00:55:52,440 --> 00:55:55,480
Speaker 2: I'm confused. Chah was saying that it was it was

966
00:55:55,560 --> 00:55:59,239
Speaker 2: actually not. But who calls a non spicy thing sleep thing?

967
00:55:59,239 --> 00:56:05,439
Speaker 2: A situation? Yip? This may be this person not using

968
00:56:05,480 --> 00:56:07,400
Speaker 2: the term right that. I agree.

969
00:56:07,640 --> 00:56:11,120
Speaker 5: I agree, But yeah, someone in the chat said that's

970
00:56:11,160 --> 00:56:12,680
Speaker 5: just a friendship and that's kind of what it is.

971
00:56:14,800 --> 00:56:22,000
Speaker 2: That's a great point. Actually, yeah, does that mean we

972
00:56:22,000 --> 00:56:26,520
Speaker 2: were not hooking up and we're yeah, dude' they're they're romantic. No,

973
00:56:26,719 --> 00:56:30,640
Speaker 2: they're knocking up. They weren't romantic until recently it's gotten

974
00:56:30,760 --> 00:56:36,080
Speaker 2: trended more romantic. It's like it's like your date, that

975
00:56:36,160 --> 00:56:43,120
Speaker 2: person that was really romantic but she had Yeah, but peace,

976
00:56:43,320 --> 00:56:45,040
Speaker 2: I digress.

977
00:56:45,239 --> 00:56:49,200
Speaker 1: So here's the thing. During a recent conversation, Matt called

978
00:56:49,239 --> 00:56:52,480
Speaker 1: me disgusting. I was shocked and asked why he thought so.

979
00:56:52,880 --> 00:56:56,600
Speaker 1: His response was, you're a boss. I don't like that

980
00:56:57,000 --> 00:56:59,640
Speaker 1: you work so hard and expect people to work as

981
00:56:59,680 --> 00:57:02,400
Speaker 1: you do. You pride yourself in doing your best and

982
00:57:02,440 --> 00:57:03,520
Speaker 1: working with excellence.

983
00:57:03,960 --> 00:57:08,360
Speaker 2: That disgusted me. This version of you discussed.

984
00:57:07,880 --> 00:57:08,960
Speaker 3: If they're trying to turn them on?

985
00:57:09,920 --> 00:57:13,480
Speaker 2: Is that a joke? I mean it kind of breaths

986
00:57:13,560 --> 00:57:13,879
Speaker 2: like it.

987
00:57:14,239 --> 00:57:18,040
Speaker 5: Basically, they said, you exemplify all the qualities that a

988
00:57:18,120 --> 00:57:20,520
Speaker 5: boss should have, and that's disgusting to me.

989
00:57:20,600 --> 00:57:21,280
Speaker 2: Yeah, that is.

990
00:57:21,600 --> 00:57:23,720
Speaker 5: You're a hard worker, and you treat people fairly, and

991
00:57:23,760 --> 00:57:27,520
Speaker 5: you give us fair wages. And what's with this maternity leave,

992
00:57:28,360 --> 00:57:32,200
Speaker 5: like like you encourage us to unionize. I hate this

993
00:57:32,280 --> 00:57:34,920
Speaker 5: so disgusting. I don't understand. Yeah, it seems like an

994
00:57:34,960 --> 00:57:37,760
Speaker 5: awesome boss, That's that's what it seems like.

995
00:57:38,040 --> 00:57:41,520
Speaker 2: Maybe they're like an anarchist, you know, and like they

996
00:57:41,560 --> 00:57:43,560
Speaker 2: have like a bunch of tats and stuff, and like

997
00:57:43,640 --> 00:57:46,160
Speaker 2: they were when they were getting together in this situationship

998
00:57:46,200 --> 00:57:49,440
Speaker 2: it was like down with the government, and then all

999
00:57:49,440 --> 00:57:53,320
Speaker 2: of a sudden, realizing corporate, he's nothing but a suit, dude.

1000
00:57:53,640 --> 00:57:56,600
Speaker 2: The relationship got corporate and the spark is gone because

1001
00:57:56,880 --> 00:57:59,640
Speaker 2: like they thought they were getting a bad boy and

1002
00:57:59,800 --> 00:58:02,360
Speaker 2: really they were just getting a just getting a boss

1003
00:58:02,400 --> 00:58:05,680
Speaker 2: bob from HR from HR dude. Come on.

1004
00:58:06,360 --> 00:58:09,840
Speaker 1: So I was shocked mainly because I'm not a mean boss,

1005
00:58:09,960 --> 00:58:12,640
Speaker 1: nor do I have much interaction with him at work. Well,

1006
00:58:12,680 --> 00:58:15,360
Speaker 1: I understand that everyone is entitled to their opinions. This

1007
00:58:15,400 --> 00:58:17,560
Speaker 1: comment has been really hard for me to move past.

1008
00:58:17,840 --> 00:58:20,320
Speaker 1: I also love how we're like not even addressing in

1009
00:58:20,360 --> 00:58:26,280
Speaker 1: the story the weird whole situation of hiring your situationship partner.

1010
00:58:26,240 --> 00:58:29,480
Speaker 2: But it sounds like it wasn't. They didn't directly hire,

1011
00:58:29,520 --> 00:58:33,400
Speaker 2: It was just hired two levels below, right, because they like.

1012
00:58:33,400 --> 00:58:38,240
Speaker 1: That's still ever hire someone that you're like getting into

1013
00:58:38,440 --> 00:58:39,000
Speaker 1: it with.

1014
00:58:40,040 --> 00:58:44,960
Speaker 2: I don't think so.

1015
00:58:44,960 --> 00:58:46,760
Speaker 1: So I tend to be a private person, and I've

1016
00:58:46,840 --> 00:58:48,720
Speaker 1: let this person into my life and have been incredibly

1017
00:58:48,800 --> 00:58:51,880
Speaker 1: vulnerable with them. So being seen this way by someone

1018
00:58:51,920 --> 00:58:54,880
Speaker 1: I care about deeply has been pretty painful. So I

1019
00:58:54,880 --> 00:58:56,760
Speaker 1: wrote him a letter because I thought it would be

1020
00:58:56,760 --> 00:58:59,000
Speaker 1: good to give him time to process what I had

1021
00:58:59,040 --> 00:59:01,240
Speaker 1: written without the sure of having to respond to me

1022
00:59:01,360 --> 00:59:01,800
Speaker 1: right away.

1023
00:59:02,360 --> 00:59:03,960
Speaker 2: I expressed my pride.

1024
00:59:03,640 --> 00:59:07,920
Speaker 1: In him, reminisced about our shared experiences, and acknowledged how

1025
00:59:08,000 --> 00:59:11,160
Speaker 1: much our relationship has contributed to my personal growth. In

1026
00:59:11,200 --> 00:59:15,520
Speaker 1: that letter, I wrote, recently, you called me disgusting, filthy

1027
00:59:15,520 --> 00:59:18,760
Speaker 1: little boss. Well, I understand that is your opinion, and

1028
00:59:18,800 --> 00:59:21,120
Speaker 1: I try not to take it personally. I'm struggling to

1029
00:59:21,120 --> 00:59:24,080
Speaker 1: move past it. Given my feelings for you. It's challenged.

1030
00:59:24,200 --> 00:59:27,600
Speaker 1: It's challenging to reconcile being seen this way by someone

1031
00:59:27,640 --> 00:59:30,200
Speaker 1: I've let into my life, with whom I've been vulnerable.

1032
00:59:30,560 --> 00:59:33,280
Speaker 1: It's difficult to move on such from such a harsh judgment.

1033
00:59:33,560 --> 00:59:36,200
Speaker 1: Your words have left a deep impact, making it hard

1034
00:59:36,200 --> 00:59:39,000
Speaker 1: for me to navigate our connection despite this, I'm trying

1035
00:59:39,000 --> 00:59:42,000
Speaker 1: to understand and process everything, but it's but it's a

1036
00:59:42,000 --> 00:59:44,520
Speaker 1: struggle when I've been so open with you.

1037
00:59:47,320 --> 00:59:52,040
Speaker 2: So can I can I do a TLDR for myself?

1038
00:59:52,040 --> 00:59:56,800
Speaker 2: Please do it? Okay? I said it, So TLDR for myself.

1039
00:59:57,200 --> 01:00:02,439
Speaker 2: Uh Op and Matt were in in a relationship that

1040
01:00:03,000 --> 01:00:06,880
Speaker 2: was not not completely sexual. It was or maybe it was.

1041
01:00:07,000 --> 01:00:11,040
Speaker 2: Maybe it wasn't. It was like but it was trending romantic.

1042
01:00:11,160 --> 01:00:14,920
Speaker 2: And then all of a sudden, Uh Matt is hired

1043
01:00:15,080 --> 01:00:19,800
Speaker 2: at Op's company Matt. Uh Op was the one who

1044
01:00:19,920 --> 01:00:24,400
Speaker 2: hired Matt. Op directly hired Matt one month into their situationship.

1045
01:00:24,720 --> 01:00:27,480
Speaker 2: And we know that for a fact that Op directly

1046
01:00:27,600 --> 01:00:31,760
Speaker 2: hired Matt. He was the direct hire. Oh, which is

1047
01:00:32,040 --> 01:00:34,640
Speaker 2: and I hired him at my place of employment. I

1048
01:00:34,720 --> 01:00:38,840
Speaker 2: hired him. Yeah, that's pretty weird. That's that's pretty weird.

1049
01:00:38,960 --> 01:00:41,600
Speaker 2: And then Matt's like, you gave me a job and

1050
01:00:41,680 --> 01:00:44,960
Speaker 2: exemplify all of these traits of a good boss. You're disgusting.

1051
01:00:45,720 --> 01:00:53,080
Speaker 2: This all around feels confusing and weird, and I'm I'm

1052
01:00:53,160 --> 01:00:56,240
Speaker 2: kind of confused on both sides. Why both sides are

1053
01:00:56,280 --> 01:00:59,880
Speaker 2: reacting the way they did. Why is OP hiring someone

1054
01:01:00,160 --> 01:01:05,640
Speaker 2: that they were becoming intimate with, and why is Matt,

1055
01:01:05,960 --> 01:01:10,400
Speaker 2: who took the job obviously and the opportunity getting mad

1056
01:01:10,440 --> 01:01:13,800
Speaker 2: at Op for being disgusting. Well, Miles, you're in a happy,

1057
01:01:13,840 --> 01:01:19,840
Speaker 2: healthy relationship. I'm assuming How did you know that? I

1058
01:01:19,840 --> 01:01:22,320
Speaker 2: didn't tell you that because I was at the same

1059
01:01:22,320 --> 01:01:25,200
Speaker 2: party as you, the plant party. Yes, So.

1060
01:01:27,080 --> 01:01:30,440
Speaker 1: A month into your relationship, your partner's like, hey, I'm

1061
01:01:30,440 --> 01:01:31,200
Speaker 1: going to hire you.

1062
01:01:32,600 --> 01:01:33,520
Speaker 2: What is your response?

1063
01:01:34,600 --> 01:01:37,360
Speaker 5: I'm your she would have hire me. I would say yes,

1064
01:01:37,840 --> 01:01:38,560
Speaker 5: and it's good pay.

1065
01:01:38,760 --> 01:01:44,520
Speaker 2: But like, imagine, imagine you don't like you obviously, now

1066
01:01:44,520 --> 01:01:47,560
Speaker 2: you're deeper into the relationship. Imagine this is the very beginning.

1067
01:01:47,560 --> 01:01:50,320
Speaker 2: It's still a month in. It's it's it's super fresh,

1068
01:01:50,400 --> 01:01:53,680
Speaker 2: it's super new. You don't know one hundred percent if it's.

1069
01:01:53,560 --> 01:01:57,120
Speaker 1: Like this is going to be like full on, like

1070
01:01:57,480 --> 01:01:59,480
Speaker 1: I'm dating this person, a relationship with this person.

1071
01:02:00,320 --> 01:02:04,400
Speaker 5: I guess that would depend on where I met with

1072
01:02:05,240 --> 01:02:08,440
Speaker 5: my job financially, like, if I need it, then sometimes

1073
01:02:08,600 --> 01:02:10,320
Speaker 5: you need it. Got to roll the dice you need

1074
01:02:10,480 --> 01:02:13,160
Speaker 5: you're broke. But me and my current partner we met

1075
01:02:13,920 --> 01:02:18,120
Speaker 5: at work. We are co workers currently, which is not

1076
01:02:18,200 --> 01:02:21,440
Speaker 5: usually my mo because that can get sticky, right, and

1077
01:02:21,480 --> 01:02:23,320
Speaker 5: it almost did because we had a bit of a

1078
01:02:23,360 --> 01:02:27,440
Speaker 5: falling out. I did something dumb that I've learned from since,

1079
01:02:28,120 --> 01:02:31,720
Speaker 5: but I said something really silly to her that almost

1080
01:02:31,800 --> 01:02:32,480
Speaker 5: ruined everything.

1081
01:02:32,560 --> 01:02:37,640
Speaker 2: And for a week there it was very awkward. No,

1082
01:02:37,680 --> 01:02:40,440
Speaker 2: but we're back. We're back now, don't do it.

1083
01:02:41,600 --> 01:02:44,080
Speaker 3: I wouldn't know, Sam, I.

1084
01:02:44,120 --> 01:02:45,720
Speaker 2: Mean, of course I want to know, but I'm not

1085
01:02:45,720 --> 01:02:49,600
Speaker 2: going to press our new guest. We want, we won't

1086
01:02:49,920 --> 01:02:52,440
Speaker 2: we want six hundred people? Yeah, grill him on his

1087
01:02:52,600 --> 01:02:53,080
Speaker 2: very first.

1088
01:02:53,280 --> 01:02:54,680
Speaker 5: I wouldn't want the whole crowd to turn on me

1089
01:02:54,720 --> 01:02:56,800
Speaker 5: because it was really a dumb thing that I said.

1090
01:02:56,920 --> 01:03:00,320
Speaker 5: It was dumb and kind of mean, and and I

1091
01:03:00,400 --> 01:03:03,040
Speaker 5: regret it. Thankfully she's forgiven me.

1092
01:03:04,000 --> 01:03:06,520
Speaker 2: Yeah. Shout out to growth, Shout out to growth a

1093
01:03:06,560 --> 01:03:11,840
Speaker 2: shout out to moving past this. I'm going to the

1094
01:03:11,880 --> 01:03:17,840
Speaker 2: next part of the story. Okay, so where was I?

1095
01:03:18,200 --> 01:03:22,120
Speaker 2: Is there any chance this story is fake? No? Yeah,

1096
01:03:22,160 --> 01:03:25,600
Speaker 2: that's one hundred percent stories facts. Okay, one hundred percent facts.

1097
01:03:25,600 --> 01:03:27,920
Speaker 2: All right, take it. That was nothing on the internet

1098
01:03:27,960 --> 01:03:33,160
Speaker 2: that could be fake. All internet Internet is truth? So Riley,

1099
01:03:33,200 --> 01:03:36,400
Speaker 2: do you know where it was? Ooh beautiful?

1100
01:03:37,320 --> 01:03:40,720
Speaker 1: But Matt has not mentioned the letter, nor have I

1101
01:03:40,760 --> 01:03:43,120
Speaker 1: At work. He insisted on bringing me a drink from

1102
01:03:43,120 --> 01:03:45,520
Speaker 1: my favorite coffee shop, and he did, but we have

1103
01:03:45,640 --> 01:03:48,880
Speaker 1: not interacted much since. I genuinely want to support Matt

1104
01:03:48,920 --> 01:03:51,960
Speaker 1: and still like him, but I find myself stuck. I've

1105
01:03:52,000 --> 01:03:53,520
Speaker 1: tried to be there for him, and while I don't

1106
01:03:53,600 --> 01:03:56,400
Speaker 1: usually hold grudges, this one comment has made it tough

1107
01:03:56,440 --> 01:03:59,280
Speaker 1: for me to feel the same about our relationships. So

1108
01:04:00,040 --> 01:04:01,840
Speaker 1: am I the a hole for struggling to get over

1109
01:04:01,920 --> 01:04:05,240
Speaker 1: him calling me disgust? Should I just let it go

1110
01:04:05,360 --> 01:04:08,480
Speaker 1: and move on? Should I continue to pursue a relationship

1111
01:04:08,480 --> 01:04:12,000
Speaker 1: with Matt. Let's answer all of these questions in order,

1112
01:04:12,360 --> 01:04:17,240
Speaker 1: First of which, am I the a hole for struggling

1113
01:04:17,320 --> 01:04:18,720
Speaker 1: to get over him calling me disgusting?

1114
01:04:19,080 --> 01:04:21,320
Speaker 2: I don't think you're the a hole for odd, I

1115
01:04:22,160 --> 01:04:25,280
Speaker 2: don't think isn't the word I would use. Yeah, but

1116
01:04:25,360 --> 01:04:29,320
Speaker 2: I think you're a little bit silly for hiring this person. Yeah,

1117
01:04:29,360 --> 01:04:32,640
Speaker 2: this was a that was so stupid. That was a

1118
01:04:32,800 --> 01:04:38,320
Speaker 2: dumb idea. I'm just Yeah, especially a situation. Ship is

1119
01:04:38,360 --> 01:04:42,960
Speaker 2: a situation, not even a girlfriend. No, I don't like it.

1120
01:04:42,960 --> 01:04:46,120
Speaker 2: Next question, So should I just let it go and

1121
01:04:46,160 --> 01:04:50,160
Speaker 2: move on? Yes? Yes, yeah, fire them? Maybe yeah, fire them.

1122
01:04:50,440 --> 01:04:55,040
Speaker 2: That's probably, that's probably just like if any.

1123
01:04:54,920 --> 01:04:57,240
Speaker 5: Other subordinate has said this to you, Like, I think

1124
01:04:57,240 --> 01:04:58,480
Speaker 5: it's disgusting for your.

1125
01:04:58,840 --> 01:05:00,920
Speaker 2: Cause you have cause you can't fire them.

1126
01:05:01,000 --> 01:05:04,720
Speaker 5: Yeah, Like you know, cofege you reacted any other situation interesting,

1127
01:05:04,840 --> 01:05:06,920
Speaker 5: it probably wouldn't bother you this much. You'd be like whatever,

1128
01:05:07,000 --> 01:05:09,160
Speaker 5: Like I'm two ranks above you, like, you know, I'm

1129
01:05:09,160 --> 01:05:10,720
Speaker 5: doing my thing, killing it.

1130
01:05:11,800 --> 01:05:15,120
Speaker 1: But I think there is the case that could be made.

1131
01:05:16,600 --> 01:05:20,080
Speaker 1: There is the case that could be made. Coffee, coffee

1132
01:05:20,560 --> 01:05:21,800
Speaker 1: and caffeinating beverages.

1133
01:05:22,840 --> 01:05:26,720
Speaker 2: You literally worked at Starbucks. We have a machine to

1134
01:05:26,840 --> 01:05:28,720
Speaker 2: have machines. We have machine. How do you make your

1135
01:05:28,760 --> 01:05:34,960
Speaker 2: coffee with border vessel? We squeeze it on tablet stone

1136
01:05:35,880 --> 01:05:39,240
Speaker 2: Boom boom, boom, boom. But yeah, I.

1137
01:05:40,240 --> 01:05:43,520
Speaker 1: Think there could be a potential there is a case

1138
01:05:44,120 --> 01:05:47,400
Speaker 1: that it is because they did have a romantic in Blint,

1139
01:05:48,080 --> 01:05:50,760
Speaker 1: that it could come back to biop even though even

1140
01:05:50,800 --> 01:05:54,200
Speaker 1: though to your point, if that was said outside of

1141
01:05:54,320 --> 01:05:57,600
Speaker 1: if there was zero romantic entanglement, I think you are right,

1142
01:05:57,640 --> 01:06:01,560
Speaker 1: and there could be grounds too, like possibly fire have

1143
01:06:01,640 --> 01:06:03,520
Speaker 1: some sort of some sort.

1144
01:06:03,360 --> 01:06:06,680
Speaker 2: Of I mean, but he was he was directly disrespectful

1145
01:06:06,720 --> 01:06:09,360
Speaker 2: to a superior like I feel like that at work,

1146
01:06:09,360 --> 01:06:11,120
Speaker 2: which is grounds for dismissal.

1147
01:06:11,760 --> 01:06:16,360
Speaker 1: Yeah, even if firing seems pretty harsh for obviously that's

1148
01:06:16,360 --> 01:06:18,960
Speaker 1: that I would say, like separate them from working together

1149
01:06:19,400 --> 01:06:21,440
Speaker 1: if they're if they're a large enough company where this

1150
01:06:21,840 --> 01:06:24,720
Speaker 1: I feel like they're probably fairly large. Yeah, the hierarchy

1151
01:06:24,800 --> 01:06:27,960
Speaker 1: that they have, so just I would try to probably

1152
01:06:27,960 --> 01:06:29,480
Speaker 1: try to separate them, and you can if you have

1153
01:06:29,520 --> 01:06:31,760
Speaker 1: him like one last at least one last try or something,

1154
01:06:31,800 --> 01:06:33,640
Speaker 1: then maybe this weird situation.

1155
01:06:33,720 --> 01:06:35,400
Speaker 2: Why are you putting yourself in this situation?

1156
01:06:37,400 --> 01:06:40,160
Speaker 1: But there's one question left, which is should I continue

1157
01:06:40,200 --> 01:06:44,160
Speaker 1: to pursue a release Matt, which I want to pull?

1158
01:06:44,760 --> 01:06:45,400
Speaker 2: Yeah? Pull?

1159
01:06:46,960 --> 01:06:50,880
Speaker 5: Why they would like they're not doing the spicy sleep

1160
01:06:52,360 --> 01:06:54,760
Speaker 5: they don't have a good working relationship.

1161
01:06:55,920 --> 01:06:57,280
Speaker 2: But the but the romantic.

1162
01:06:57,840 --> 01:07:01,880
Speaker 1: Their dates are adorable, their dates are just, but they're

1163
01:07:01,880 --> 01:07:03,600
Speaker 1: obviously not enough.

1164
01:07:03,920 --> 01:07:07,880
Speaker 5: Yeah, that on its own is enough to keep a relationship.

1165
01:07:08,960 --> 01:07:12,640
Speaker 1: But what if what if it's literally like every time

1166
01:07:12,760 --> 01:07:15,360
Speaker 1: they go on a date, it's like, Oh, I'm renting

1167
01:07:15,360 --> 01:07:16,920
Speaker 1: out Central Park and filling it.

1168
01:07:16,920 --> 01:07:21,320
Speaker 2: With candles and elephants and elephants. Yeah, who's doing this?

1169
01:07:21,360 --> 01:07:22,520
Speaker 2: Matt's doing this? Matt piece.

1170
01:07:24,080 --> 01:07:26,080
Speaker 5: Oh well, then the reason the dates are great is

1171
01:07:26,080 --> 01:07:28,760
Speaker 5: because Op is great. They could be great with anybody.

1172
01:07:29,440 --> 01:07:34,200
Speaker 5: Such a Wow, you don't need Matt John date Tom,

1173
01:07:34,440 --> 01:07:35,040
Speaker 5: don't date me.

1174
01:07:35,840 --> 01:07:39,720
Speaker 2: You can't. Yeah, you couldn't handle all of that.

1175
01:07:40,640 --> 01:07:45,880
Speaker 1: So we do have some relevant comments, so spare. Articles

1176
01:07:45,880 --> 01:07:48,360
Speaker 1: three ninety six says you should have never hired him

1177
01:07:48,400 --> 01:07:50,880
Speaker 1: at your job where you're respior to him.

1178
01:07:51,000 --> 01:07:52,120
Speaker 2: Yes, big mistake.

1179
01:07:52,320 --> 01:07:54,680
Speaker 1: If you're such a private person, you don't bring your

1180
01:07:54,680 --> 01:07:58,880
Speaker 1: situationship into your job life. So crazy OP says, you

1181
01:07:59,120 --> 01:08:06,960
Speaker 1: might be right, It's possible, Just baby, you might be right.

1182
01:08:07,160 --> 01:08:13,120
Speaker 2: I can't believe Op is realizing this right now, right dude, God,

1183
01:08:15,400 --> 01:08:18,920
Speaker 2: At the moment, I was just trying to help. I

1184
01:08:19,000 --> 01:08:21,559
Speaker 2: just wanted to lend a helping hand because he lent

1185
01:08:21,640 --> 01:08:28,320
Speaker 2: me his hand, mah hand for a hand. He gave me,

1186
01:08:29,160 --> 01:08:31,240
Speaker 2: I don't know. He gave me a job, so I

1187
01:08:31,280 --> 01:08:35,719
Speaker 2: gave him a job. That now that's what I call

1188
01:08:35,920 --> 01:08:42,800
Speaker 2: a quality. Oh and then spare article response right now, right,

1189
01:08:43,240 --> 01:08:45,519
Speaker 2: But you are now kind of screwed at work your

1190
01:08:45,640 --> 01:08:50,040
Speaker 2: second levels. You're a second level supervisor and your situationship

1191
01:08:50,080 --> 01:08:53,479
Speaker 2: is kind of nuts, and you're super private. This has

1192
01:08:53,479 --> 01:08:55,679
Speaker 2: the potential to turn super sour.

1193
01:08:56,240 --> 01:08:59,760
Speaker 1: And now he has private info about you, has a

1194
01:08:59,840 --> 01:09:02,320
Speaker 1: le or even and he could very well blast your

1195
01:09:02,360 --> 01:09:06,040
Speaker 1: private info to all the employees for funsies.

1196
01:09:06,080 --> 01:09:07,759
Speaker 2: Oh he gave him a paper trail.

1197
01:09:10,160 --> 01:09:14,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, Oh, I guess it's not the ul to the company.

1198
01:09:14,080 --> 01:09:16,360
Speaker 1: It's not dude.

1199
01:09:17,560 --> 01:09:18,160
Speaker 2: Oh p.

1200
01:09:19,760 --> 01:09:27,320
Speaker 1: Oh my god, got quit find Honestly, do you disclose

1201
01:09:27,439 --> 01:09:29,240
Speaker 1: to your do you do?

1202
01:09:29,280 --> 01:09:29,439
Speaker 2: You?

1203
01:09:29,640 --> 01:09:32,519
Speaker 1: Did you disclose to your employer that you are in

1204
01:09:32,520 --> 01:09:35,599
Speaker 1: a relationship with this guy? What's going to happen when

1205
01:09:35,680 --> 01:09:38,360
Speaker 1: his boss fires him? What do you think Matt is

1206
01:09:38,400 --> 01:09:40,680
Speaker 1: going to do? Maybe he'll blame you and say the

1207
01:09:40,720 --> 01:09:43,320
Speaker 1: firing was because he wouldn't.

1208
01:09:42,840 --> 01:09:46,439
Speaker 2: Sleep with you. This is a powder cake, there's no

1209
01:09:46,720 --> 01:09:50,519
Speaker 2: Maybe you're right, you need to tread very carefully and

1210
01:09:50,680 --> 01:09:56,720
Speaker 2: stop putting stuff in writing and that and that's the

1211
01:09:56,920 --> 01:10:01,759
Speaker 2: end of the story. That was literally we have set

1212
01:10:01,800 --> 01:10:08,000
Speaker 2: a trap for himself and is walking into it, and

1213
01:10:08,040 --> 01:10:11,519
Speaker 2: the whole Internet is screaming at him stop walking. And

1214
01:10:11,520 --> 01:10:14,599
Speaker 2: he's like, oh, He's like, should I invite him out

1215
01:10:14,640 --> 01:10:20,080
Speaker 2: on another date? Should I run faster? A little trap?

1216
01:10:20,160 --> 01:10:22,439
Speaker 2: Right in front? There's a nuke over there? Should I

1217
01:10:22,439 --> 01:10:28,880
Speaker 2: Should I get into Ferraris? Yes? I should. Yeah. I

1218
01:10:29,439 --> 01:10:32,320
Speaker 2: think Op is making all the wrong decisions, but hopefully

1219
01:10:32,400 --> 01:10:36,200
Speaker 2: the internet has maybe right in his course a little bit.

1220
01:10:36,960 --> 01:10:38,880
Speaker 2: One can only pray. One can pray.

1221
01:10:40,240 --> 01:10:43,000
Speaker 1: And when to answer the question when has a partner

1222
01:10:43,040 --> 01:10:46,639
Speaker 1: pushed you too far? I think OP pushed himself too far?

1223
01:10:47,400 --> 01:10:49,880
Speaker 1: Scenario Yeah, I think so too. You pushed yourself too far,

1224
01:10:49,960 --> 01:10:53,200
Speaker 1: my guy, You were pushing yourself off a ledge to

1225
01:10:53,320 --> 01:10:55,760
Speaker 1: an abyss. Let you know what abyss you should always join?

1226
01:10:55,840 --> 01:10:58,080
Speaker 1: Is our lives a file?

1227
01:10:59,520 --> 01:11:05,200
Speaker 2: We said, same time. She'll get his next story, though.

1228
01:11:05,439 --> 01:11:09,920
Speaker 2: Let's do it after some donos dono reads, here we.

1229
01:11:09,880 --> 01:11:15,720
Speaker 1: Go, whoa uh, alrighty delight, first dono, whoa. By the way,

1230
01:11:15,760 --> 01:11:19,400
Speaker 1: a lot of first dons in first chats in the stream,

1231
01:11:19,479 --> 01:11:21,360
Speaker 1: so heck yeah, sound off Kings and Queens.

1232
01:11:22,320 --> 01:11:24,120
Speaker 2: Mixed emotions Thanks to two bucks.

1233
01:11:24,160 --> 01:11:27,760
Speaker 1: I've got ninety nine problems, but a dono ain't one.

1234
01:11:27,840 --> 01:11:30,840
Speaker 3: And they also gifted one membership as well that didn't

1235
01:11:30,840 --> 01:11:31,240
Speaker 3: show up.

1236
01:11:31,320 --> 01:11:32,760
Speaker 2: Oh cool, Yes, thank you.

1237
01:11:32,800 --> 01:11:36,559
Speaker 1: Mixed emotions, Asian persuasion. Thanks for to two bucks. Sounds

1238
01:11:36,600 --> 01:11:38,479
Speaker 1: like he's miles away.

1239
01:11:40,680 --> 01:11:44,000
Speaker 2: Good one got you tinam dot thanks him five to

1240
01:11:44,080 --> 01:11:47,240
Speaker 2: forty six John, This fifty nine year old says, your

1241
01:11:47,280 --> 01:11:52,880
Speaker 2: clothes look age appropriate. It was extremely positive. Thank you,

1242
01:11:53,560 --> 01:11:54,640
Speaker 2: uh for ninety.

1243
01:11:54,400 --> 01:11:56,200
Speaker 1: Six thanks to five bucks on a door like if

1244
01:11:56,280 --> 01:11:59,040
Speaker 1: John shaved, people would probably think he's younger than he is.

1245
01:11:59,640 --> 01:12:02,320
Speaker 2: I would one thousand percent look like a child.

1246
01:12:03,040 --> 01:12:06,439
Speaker 1: If I shaved my beard and cut my hair, I

1247
01:12:06,479 --> 01:12:07,719
Speaker 1: would look eighteen again.

1248
01:12:09,200 --> 01:12:17,800
Speaker 2: Where's Avo? Oh oh she's there? We go? Oh yeah,

1249
01:12:18,160 --> 01:12:21,200
Speaker 2: she would have barked at myles. Thank you for the tea, Sophia,

1250
01:12:22,360 --> 01:12:25,800
Speaker 2: thank you want to say hi to stream? Yeah, they

1251
01:12:25,840 --> 01:12:30,320
Speaker 2: totally just hurt. There is who was asking for worm

1252
01:12:30,400 --> 01:12:33,720
Speaker 2: queen before I forget one of the donos? Oh no,

1253
01:12:33,760 --> 01:12:38,080
Speaker 2: I think it was Sammy Queen. That was Sammy Samy

1254
01:12:38,160 --> 01:12:40,160
Speaker 2: was asking for Sammy. There we go.

1255
01:12:40,439 --> 01:12:42,840
Speaker 1: It's Brittany Beach became a new member of the Nights.

1256
01:12:42,920 --> 01:12:46,599
Speaker 1: Let's first go oh, celebrating one month membership. Rather right, right?

1257
01:12:46,760 --> 01:12:48,160
Speaker 1: I remember to like the stream so we could get

1258
01:12:48,160 --> 01:12:50,519
Speaker 1: a wheel spin. You guys always make my days better

1259
01:12:50,520 --> 01:12:52,519
Speaker 1: and help this stay at home mom keep her sanity.

1260
01:12:53,000 --> 01:12:55,240
Speaker 2: I feel like we haven't done a wheel spin in ages.

1261
01:12:55,280 --> 01:12:57,840
Speaker 2: Oh it's been we have. I don't, but you guys

1262
01:12:57,960 --> 01:12:59,960
Speaker 2: just haven't been here. I haven't been to a wheel

1263
01:13:00,120 --> 01:13:06,880
Speaker 2: spin in a long time. So I have six hundred Yeah, wheelspin,

1264
01:13:07,280 --> 01:13:10,920
Speaker 2: sound off my life. Yeah, we're at three hundred eighty

1265
01:13:10,960 --> 01:13:13,840
Speaker 2: three likes out of five hundred. We get to five

1266
01:13:13,920 --> 01:13:16,519
Speaker 2: hundred likes, we will spin that wheel. So if you

1267
01:13:16,680 --> 01:13:21,880
Speaker 2: haven't liked this already, I hate you. I literally I

1268
01:13:21,920 --> 01:13:24,439
Speaker 2: will come to your house and I will grab your hand.

1269
01:13:24,479 --> 01:13:27,320
Speaker 2: Oh my god, and you canna push the like button. Yeah,

1270
01:13:27,320 --> 01:13:29,800
Speaker 2: that's gonna happen. So get ready for you will come

1271
01:13:29,840 --> 01:13:33,280
Speaker 2: into your house in the middle of the night. What

1272
01:13:33,360 --> 01:13:38,960
Speaker 2: is what these worms? Sophia is the worm queen. Sofia

1273
01:13:39,000 --> 01:13:41,920
Speaker 2: is the worm queen. She's the queen of all the worms. Okay,

1274
01:13:42,000 --> 01:13:44,439
Speaker 2: so when she's here. The chat is filled with worm

1275
01:13:44,880 --> 01:13:50,160
Speaker 2: It's true. That's what happens. Like a good it's a great,

1276
01:13:50,280 --> 01:13:56,519
Speaker 2: great thing. You got a tiara and everything. Wow.

1277
01:13:57,200 --> 01:13:58,599
Speaker 5: I mean if all the things I could be queen

1278
01:13:58,680 --> 01:13:59,880
Speaker 5: of worms would be top ten.

1279
01:14:00,720 --> 01:14:02,800
Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah, there's a lot of worms. It's a lot

1280
01:14:02,840 --> 01:14:10,439
Speaker 2: of worms. We got some donuts. Sharzard McNaughton. Thanks for

1281
01:14:10,439 --> 01:14:13,559
Speaker 2: two months of membership. It's my birthday. Twenty seven club.

1282
01:14:13,960 --> 01:14:18,320
Speaker 2: Don't join twenty seven club, just just be twenty seven. Yeah,

1283
01:14:19,160 --> 01:14:23,599
Speaker 2: and go to twenty eight too. Yeah. Uh certifiably gen

1284
01:14:23,640 --> 01:14:27,519
Speaker 2: thanks for the two bucks. Don't poop where you eats.

1285
01:14:27,560 --> 01:14:32,080
Speaker 2: Teddy two months of membership? Dang onto third month now,

1286
01:14:32,200 --> 01:14:35,719
Speaker 2: love y'all melting in a heat wave? No ac Son help?

1287
01:14:35,880 --> 01:14:38,879
Speaker 2: Oh that's criminal. Teddy, be like one of our cameras

1288
01:14:38,880 --> 01:14:40,800
Speaker 2: and snuggle up to a nice pack. There we go,

1289
01:14:41,200 --> 01:14:48,880
Speaker 2: Teddy Jesse or tt Jesse I always say definitely t

1290
01:14:49,320 --> 01:14:53,519
Speaker 2: I'm guessing as tt tt Jesse A right, thanks for

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Speaker 2: two months of membership, like the stream let's get a

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Speaker 2: wheelspin and I korro thanks for two buck have you

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Speaker 2: up on both my YouTube counts and like jump both

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Speaker 2: that is that dellocation. That's how it's dedication, would like

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Speaker 2: to say. And then Josephine and Medola Burquiz come into

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Speaker 2: my house unliking now because because she wants you to

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Speaker 2: come into her house and of course her know with

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Speaker 2: a drill.

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Speaker 1: I am in a relationship. This guy is not directed

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Speaker 1: all over.

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Speaker 2: Here right now.

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Speaker 3: This guy's single.

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01:15:34,040 --> 01:15:38,360
Speaker 2: This guy's single. I think I'm the only single person

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Speaker 2: in this room.

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Speaker 1: That's dude. How the tables turned the table. It just

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Speaker 1: felt like we're all just ganged up on you right now.

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Speaker 2: Man. But hey, I got I almost have set up

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Speaker 2: a date. Good job, Fami's first date. I need to

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Speaker 2: I need to, I need to respond. Yeah, well because

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Speaker 2: I need to think of a date to do. Could

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Speaker 2: run out part? Yeah, that's what that would be a

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Speaker 2: great it would be a great one. All right? What

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Speaker 2: what episode next? Two? All right? Six forty two? Also

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Speaker 2: this is where I bid, Oh yeah, you do you

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Speaker 2: have recall? Right now? I do?

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Speaker 5: Ah?

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Speaker 2: Buddy soon Bye?

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Speaker 3: Everyone, I love you, Chris Sony Hello, yeah lower acast good?

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Speaker 2: No they oh okay, but whatever you'd like?

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Speaker 4: Sam with your warm tea. I'm only gonna get toast here.

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Speaker 4: How's it going how is your stream going?

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Speaker 2: So good?

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Speaker 4: I like the blonde hair.

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Speaker 2: Thanks, it's really cool.

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Speaker 5: It's a little yellower than I wanted to be, so

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Speaker 5: I think I'm gonna bleach it and tone it again.

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Speaker 2: You want like white, like silver silver. I'm also told

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Speaker 2: that's the hardest color to do.

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Speaker 4: It is, That's what I've never I've never dyed my hair,

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Speaker 4: but I've heard that as well.

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Speaker 2: The one time that I dyed my hair, it was

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Speaker 2: around that color. Yeah, well, how'd you feel about it? Tell? Great?

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Speaker 5: Okay, yeah, it's it does feel kind of good. I'm

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Speaker 5: a little over the slim shady jokes, but other than that.

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Speaker 2: And it looks good, and it looks good. I do

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Speaker 2: think though, like going full silver would be best. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: that's what I'm That's what I was trying to do too. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: crap out of it? And are you doing yourself?

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Speaker 5: If I have to, hopefully not, Hopefully I can get

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Speaker 5: my friend to help me.

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Speaker 4: I think you should go half and half because you've

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Speaker 4: got the mixed metals going on.

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Speaker 2: Oh half and half? Are you allowed to make sure

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Speaker 2: medals this way?

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Speaker 4: Uh? Yeah, like down the middle? Yeah exactly, Or I

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Speaker 4: guess you.

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Speaker 2: Could do like polka dots. Oh, guy with polka dots recently.

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Speaker 4: That's that's it. These are all great suggestions for you.

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Speaker 2: I think considered Alla ready all right, m J grow

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Speaker 2: thanks to five bucks. Sam just putonically connecting with people.

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Speaker 2: That's me, Josephine, Madela bur Quest. Sam My door is

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Speaker 2: unlocked in the building code is two three six nine.

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Speaker 4: I hope that's not actually building six.

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Speaker 2: Joseph and uh Shazar like not totally forgot what twenty

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Speaker 2: seven club actually means. I'll make it to twenty eight,

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Speaker 2: I promise, Sam.

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Speaker 4: I was about to say, live. I just saw The Doors,

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Speaker 4: the movie The Doors with Val Kilmer. It's about the doors.

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Speaker 2: Oh like the door like doors, but the music band.

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Speaker 4: The music band The Doors with Jim Morrison who was

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Speaker 4: a part of the twenty seven Club. That is a

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Speaker 4: wild movie.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 4: I've never been on acid, but it's like being on acid,

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Speaker 4: I assume.

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Speaker 2: Noted.

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Speaker 4: It starts off like silly and then it just gets

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Speaker 4: depressing and then silly. No, it never gets silly. He

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Speaker 4: dies at the end. It never gets Spoilersol's spoilers.

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Speaker 2: All right, Well, let's get in to this next story.

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Speaker 2: So would I be the a hole. If I called

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Speaker 2: the FBI on an old woman for selling us a

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Speaker 2: home that isn't hers, send her to jail, send her

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Speaker 2: straight through jail. And this is all answering the question

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Speaker 2: how do you handle housing issues? And an issue I

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Speaker 2: want to address is join our Live. If you haven't

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Speaker 2: joined our live, you should click our profile. Do it

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Speaker 2: right now. This first story comes from our slash Okay

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Speaker 2: story Time, which is our own subreddit here on the

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Speaker 2: Little Internets. And this first story comes from Far Earth

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01:19:52,640 --> 01:19:54,519
Speaker 2: nine one to nine. And they say hello to all,

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Speaker 2: but more so to the worm queen. Yeah, this is

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Speaker 2: a real one. I take these stories. So, my thirty

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Speaker 2: five female and my husband thirty eight mail had moved

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Speaker 2: into a home that we are buying from the quote

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Speaker 2: unquote owner, an old woman somewhere maybe in her seventies.

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Speaker 2: We moved into a trailer park cause with the side

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Speaker 2: of slim we moved into a trailer park because my

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Speaker 2: husband worked for the park as a maintenance man. So

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Speaker 2: the home we were offered was an old manufactured home

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Speaker 2: for fifteen thousand dollars. We had paid our five hundred

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Speaker 2: a month agreement and also paid at times with more

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Speaker 2: during income tax time. Well, this last tax time, we

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Speaker 2: had more than enough to pay the rest of what

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Speaker 2: was owed, and she told my husband she just needed

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Speaker 2: to find the title to the home. She would sign

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Speaker 2: it over everything hunky dory. Well, come to find out

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Speaker 2: her name is not on record with the county because

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Speaker 2: the taxes are in another man's name.

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Speaker 4: Possibly her husband possible, or like a relative.

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Speaker 2: The man lived here about ten years ago and passed away.

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01:21:07,920 --> 01:21:10,600
Speaker 2: He was the only one and had no one to

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Speaker 2: take over the home, so it's been sitting in his

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Speaker 2: name since then. Uh, And the manager of the park

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Speaker 2: told his cousin to move in due to no one

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Speaker 2: being in it. So where she had gotten this title

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Speaker 2: she was talking about, I have no idea, So I

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Speaker 2: believe that this person's kind of just moving in and

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Speaker 2: squatting while these and then.

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Speaker 4: The squatter was like, hey, I'm gonna be a landlord now.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, hey, this is mine now right, squatter's rights.

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Speaker 4: If you have squatters' rights for long enough, you just

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Speaker 4: become the landlord. Those are the rules.

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Speaker 2: I think there is a rule that's kind of like

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Speaker 2: you become you've come a land Well, like there's ownership rights.

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Speaker 4: Well yeah, no, there are ownership right. I think in

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Speaker 4: California it's five.

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Speaker 2: Years, five years, and you own it. Yeah.

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Speaker 4: I wrote a story about this.

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Speaker 5: You squat somewhere for five years, you own it?

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Speaker 4: No, but you have it right, Yeah.

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Speaker 2: You can't be evicted to like you so kind of

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Speaker 2: like you're kind of leasing it. Yeah.

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Speaker 4: I wrote a story about a dragon who was a squatter.

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Speaker 4: She had to do research for dragon code for something

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Speaker 4: no no like no, I'm an and so I wrote

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Speaker 4: a fantasy story about an actual dragon who.

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Speaker 2: Was basically like and she had to research and.

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Speaker 4: About squatting.

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Speaker 3: I thought it was the Hobbit.

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Speaker 2: So it's been sitting in his name since then. The

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Speaker 2: manager of the park told his cousin to move in

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Speaker 2: due to no one being in it. So where she

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Speaker 2: got this title, I have no idea. My husband had

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Speaker 2: asked her how much do we owe to pay off

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Speaker 2: the home. She gave him a number, and he paid

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Speaker 2: that he had done work for her in her yard

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Speaker 2: and other things, and she said she would take it

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Speaker 2: off what we owed, and said the number sounded weird,

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Speaker 2: but yet he did work, so we thought we paid

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Speaker 2: it off. Basically, she's just kind of having them work

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Speaker 2: for free. Well, he went to ask her for the title,

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Speaker 2: and she said, no, you still owe me four thousand dollars,

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Speaker 2: when from my calculations and money orders that we have,

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Speaker 2: if she didn't take off the money he had worked for,

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Speaker 2: it would have been one one hundred and fifteen dollars,

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Speaker 2: not four thousand. So we decided she gets no more

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Speaker 2: money until she provides proof that she actually has the

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01:23:26,680 --> 01:23:29,759
Speaker 2: title to the home. But they've already paid like almost

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Speaker 2: fourteen thousand dollars.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, so it's like they're not getting the title still.

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01:23:34,240 --> 01:23:36,960
Speaker 2: Yeah, they're already in the whole. So is this for

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Speaker 2: a trailer because literally a manufactured home?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, because I was confused because they already have the

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Speaker 4: park owner saying you can you can live there, So

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Speaker 4: I'm wondering what.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, well, but but like I think, is a trailer

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Speaker 2: If you live in a trailer lot, you can own

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Speaker 2: the lot. And then they're still like the manager of it.

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Speaker 2: It's like it's like the manager of apartment buildingtcha. She

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Speaker 2: so which she never has the title, that is, she

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Speaker 2: just keeps asking for more and more money. She has

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Speaker 2: a lawyer that has sent us a paper saying we

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Speaker 2: are behind in our payments and to pay them within

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Speaker 2: five days or the eviction process will start. Well, yesterday

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Speaker 2: we got the core papers with an eviction court date.

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Speaker 2: My husband's name is wrong for his first name, last

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Speaker 2: name is correct. But she's now saying we owe her

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Speaker 2: insurance when we already have insurance on the home. I

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Speaker 2: feel like she's she's good winking them. I think she's

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Speaker 2: just making them up. She sounds like a connor. Yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 2: but pretty successful connutter. She's doing well.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean she successfully got people to like.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and at seventy you know, it's it's hard to

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Speaker 2: con people, you know.

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Speaker 4: It's hard. You're getting conned more than conning.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah, I mean, I mean she has all this experience,

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Speaker 2: but she's getting older, you know, Like I feel like,

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Speaker 2: just let her have it.

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Does let her have a last one? Yeah, the last Yeah,

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01:24:59,200 --> 01:25:03,360
Speaker 2: social Security exactly. Also for the late feed, for the

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01:25:03,439 --> 01:25:07,439
Speaker 2: late fee. Now we had to go in and pay

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01:25:07,479 --> 01:25:10,639
Speaker 2: the last five years of taxes and we only lived

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Speaker 2: there for two years. We're having a title agency inspector

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Speaker 2: come out, come out this week, and we are going

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Speaker 2: to try and get the title of the home. Says

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Speaker 2: everything we get about the home is in the man's name.

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Speaker 2: She's not related to that man in any way. So

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01:25:28,760 --> 01:25:31,439
Speaker 2: I looked up what to do when someone is selling

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01:25:31,479 --> 01:25:34,320
Speaker 2: a home that is not theirs, and an FBI number

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01:25:34,360 --> 01:25:36,120
Speaker 2: came up. So they're going to go to the police

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01:25:36,120 --> 01:25:39,760
Speaker 2: who and said, call that number if you are being

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01:25:39,800 --> 01:25:41,800
Speaker 2: sold a home by someone who doesn't own the home.

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Speaker 2: Our court date is on July twenty sixth and tbd.

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Speaker 2: What happens there?

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Speaker 4: Well, twist the number is the old lady.

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Speaker 2: She's like, there's an agent. But should I call the

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Speaker 2: FBI and have an investigation open on her before or

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Speaker 2: after the court date? I feel like sooner the better. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: thank you for your thoughts. FYI, my husband and I

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Speaker 2: have two kids that are in their preteens, and I

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01:26:08,760 --> 01:26:11,280
Speaker 2: worry that she may have some sneaky way to possibly

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01:26:11,280 --> 01:26:13,280
Speaker 2: get us kicked out of her home. I have panic

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01:26:13,320 --> 01:26:16,559
Speaker 2: attacks and achoraphobia. F you're leaving the home. Moving into

1506
01:26:16,560 --> 01:26:18,599
Speaker 2: this home was very hard on my mental state. So

1507
01:26:18,640 --> 01:26:21,400
Speaker 2: maybe just something to have me feel that everything could

1508
01:26:21,400 --> 01:26:25,720
Speaker 2: be okay and I'm just overthinking things. Thanks again, and

1509
01:26:25,800 --> 01:26:28,560
Speaker 2: there are two updates.

1510
01:26:28,760 --> 01:26:32,360
Speaker 4: Yes, that's WHOA. I'm so sorry op that that's aught

1511
01:26:32,439 --> 01:26:32,840
Speaker 4: to deal with.

1512
01:26:32,880 --> 01:26:34,640
Speaker 2: And this is from the okay gang, Yeah, this is

1513
01:26:34,640 --> 01:26:36,800
Speaker 2: our family parts in the chat for ope, hearts in

1514
01:26:36,840 --> 01:26:40,760
Speaker 2: the chat for op. Yeah, but I guess, like.

1515
01:26:41,080 --> 01:26:43,840
Speaker 4: I think, immediately open up a case because I mean,

1516
01:26:43,880 --> 01:26:45,519
Speaker 4: if that can only help in your court case.

1517
01:26:45,600 --> 01:26:48,120
Speaker 2: The sooner the sooner you do something like this, the

1518
01:26:48,160 --> 01:26:50,559
Speaker 2: more the more quickly you can get it resolved, so.

1519
01:26:50,720 --> 01:26:52,680
Speaker 4: And the more information that you have when you go

1520
01:26:52,760 --> 01:26:53,160
Speaker 4: to court.

1521
01:26:53,400 --> 01:26:56,479
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, let's see, everyone's in the chat saying

1522
01:26:56,600 --> 01:27:00,200
Speaker 2: open up the case as soon as possible, and I

1523
01:27:01,000 --> 01:27:04,759
Speaker 2: think I agree to. But she's seventy, dude, but she's seventy.

1524
01:27:04,880 --> 01:27:07,880
Speaker 4: Oh too freaking bad.

1525
01:27:07,920 --> 01:27:08,160
Speaker 3: I don't know.

1526
01:27:08,920 --> 01:27:12,400
Speaker 2: Yeah, artists, they live on the edge. They do it,

1527
01:27:12,520 --> 01:27:15,000
Speaker 2: which means she probably doesn't have that much money that

1528
01:27:15,040 --> 01:27:15,640
Speaker 2: you could sue for.

1529
01:27:16,520 --> 01:27:20,440
Speaker 4: Probably not, but hopefully you could get at least.

1530
01:27:20,280 --> 01:27:22,000
Speaker 3: You know, much money, not much time.

1531
01:27:22,120 --> 01:27:25,320
Speaker 4: Well, you might be able to sue not just her,

1532
01:27:25,439 --> 01:27:27,360
Speaker 4: but the park manager because he was in on it.

1533
01:27:27,439 --> 01:27:29,599
Speaker 2: Oh okay, well he wasn't in on it. We don't

1534
01:27:29,600 --> 01:27:31,599
Speaker 2: necessarily enough, but maybe he was negligent.

1535
01:27:32,040 --> 01:27:35,080
Speaker 4: So you what we do know is that he let

1536
01:27:35,120 --> 01:27:38,120
Speaker 4: her stay, or it said something about you let the cousin.

1537
01:27:38,920 --> 01:27:41,559
Speaker 2: Let the cousins see. Yeah, I think she is related.

1538
01:27:41,560 --> 01:27:44,519
Speaker 2: But someone along the line let her in.

1539
01:27:44,800 --> 01:27:46,680
Speaker 4: Yeah, someone had to have let her in.

1540
01:27:46,800 --> 01:27:49,719
Speaker 2: And Miss Santiago says there's no age limit on being

1541
01:27:49,760 --> 01:27:57,000
Speaker 2: a raging ahole. Nope, yeah, ages e the number ages

1542
01:27:57,400 --> 01:28:02,639
Speaker 2: for everyone on a whole. But there is an update

1543
01:28:03,600 --> 01:28:06,599
Speaker 2: and let's get into it. So I did a background

1544
01:28:06,680 --> 01:28:10,080
Speaker 2: check of sorts and come to find out the owner

1545
01:28:10,760 --> 01:28:13,840
Speaker 2: is still here. He lives in California, and I'm trying

1546
01:28:13,840 --> 01:28:15,720
Speaker 2: my hardest to get a hold of him to let

1547
01:28:15,800 --> 01:28:17,400
Speaker 2: him know what is going on.

1548
01:28:17,520 --> 01:28:17,600
Speaker 4: Now.

1549
01:28:17,640 --> 01:28:20,679
Speaker 2: He's still alive. He's still alive, and he's in California. Twist,

1550
01:28:21,240 --> 01:28:23,720
Speaker 2: but he is the owner. The old lady is not

1551
01:28:24,240 --> 01:28:26,120
Speaker 2: wished me luck on trying to get hold of the

1552
01:28:26,160 --> 01:28:29,519
Speaker 2: true owner. Somehow, reason we thought he had passed because

1553
01:28:29,520 --> 01:28:33,559
Speaker 2: we all thought he was dead. Okay, is the people

1554
01:28:33,560 --> 01:28:36,240
Speaker 2: who lived here for years believed he passed. They were like,

1555
01:28:36,280 --> 01:28:39,320
Speaker 2: oh that guy, I just all thought he passed. Yeah,

1556
01:28:39,600 --> 01:28:43,680
Speaker 2: which is kind It's like, oh, like have you seen Miles, Yeah,

1557
01:28:43,720 --> 01:28:48,400
Speaker 2: he's dead. Literally thought he walked in. I thought I

1558
01:28:48,439 --> 01:28:53,960
Speaker 2: thought he was gone. The only possible I already believe dead. Well,

1559
01:28:54,000 --> 01:28:56,559
Speaker 2: I think it was his father who had passed and

1560
01:28:56,600 --> 01:28:58,760
Speaker 2: the owner decided to move back to California. But yeah,

1561
01:28:58,920 --> 01:29:01,320
Speaker 2: don't know if that's what happened. But a new development

1562
01:29:01,400 --> 01:29:03,160
Speaker 2: in this whole thing, just a little update. Will keep

1563
01:29:03,240 --> 01:29:06,680
Speaker 2: updating as things come to light. And another update. On

1564
01:29:06,760 --> 01:29:11,120
Speaker 2: July seventeenth, which was yesterday today, we got word from

1565
01:29:11,160 --> 01:29:13,759
Speaker 2: our title company that has told us the old lady

1566
01:29:13,840 --> 01:29:17,880
Speaker 2: doesn't have the title to this home, but the man does.

1567
01:29:18,320 --> 01:29:20,920
Speaker 2: So now she has no leg to stand on in court.

1568
01:29:21,200 --> 01:29:23,720
Speaker 2: We are going to file a lawsuit against her for

1569
01:29:23,800 --> 01:29:26,240
Speaker 2: the money we had paid her for the home. She

1570
01:29:26,320 --> 01:29:29,559
Speaker 2: is not home, still having horrible panic attacks, but at

1571
01:29:29,640 --> 01:29:35,920
Speaker 2: least she is Ava is whining, but at least this

1572
01:29:36,000 --> 01:29:38,760
Speaker 2: is a step to a good outcome. And so if

1573
01:29:38,960 --> 01:29:40,880
Speaker 2: I want to know what you think on this whole story,

1574
01:29:42,320 --> 01:29:44,200
Speaker 2: but that is where the story ends.

1575
01:29:44,479 --> 01:29:49,080
Speaker 4: Yeah, I think definitely, I think that definitely you could

1576
01:29:49,200 --> 01:29:52,519
Speaker 4: call the get the FBI involved. Also, just don't look

1577
01:29:52,520 --> 01:29:54,559
Speaker 4: at her and she'll be good. Yeah, don't look at her.

1578
01:29:54,720 --> 01:29:57,280
Speaker 4: Just give her like a second, just gonna yeah, we

1579
01:29:57,400 --> 01:29:59,960
Speaker 4: gonna don't look at her?

1580
01:30:00,080 --> 01:30:05,000
Speaker 2: Are so blue? Oh? I know, look at her? Not?

1581
01:30:05,040 --> 01:30:06,200
Speaker 2: How can I look at her? Look at her?

1582
01:30:08,240 --> 01:30:09,640
Speaker 4: What not?

1583
01:30:09,680 --> 01:30:09,800
Speaker 2: Look?

1584
01:30:09,960 --> 01:30:11,439
Speaker 4: What do you think about this story.

1585
01:30:11,680 --> 01:30:13,960
Speaker 5: I think the more evidence you get the better.

1586
01:30:14,200 --> 01:30:19,040
Speaker 2: Ye. Court is never a slam dunk when.

1587
01:30:18,880 --> 01:30:21,920
Speaker 4: You know, and it just takes so much time, and

1588
01:30:22,200 --> 01:30:26,520
Speaker 4: you know the cost of getting lawyers and going to court, probably.

1589
01:30:26,479 --> 01:30:28,599
Speaker 5: Come in with as much ammunition as you can possibly get.

1590
01:30:28,640 --> 01:30:31,880
Speaker 5: And even if you don't win that much money, stopping

1591
01:30:32,000 --> 01:30:34,400
Speaker 5: this lady from doing this to anybody else, that's when

1592
01:30:34,600 --> 01:30:34,960
Speaker 5: in and.

1593
01:30:34,880 --> 01:30:37,439
Speaker 4: Of it exactly just making sure that people know that

1594
01:30:37,520 --> 01:30:38,960
Speaker 4: this is a scam.

1595
01:30:39,240 --> 01:30:41,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, And like you want to make sure she doesn't

1596
01:30:41,160 --> 01:30:45,320
Speaker 2: do that to anyone else, which is what Yeah, that Sorry,

1597
01:30:45,360 --> 01:30:49,400
Speaker 2: I was distracted with Dava. Also, we should we don't

1598
01:30:49,400 --> 01:30:50,679
Speaker 2: want her to do this anyone else.

1599
01:30:50,920 --> 01:30:53,479
Speaker 4: Guys, Guys, I think you should just we don't want

1600
01:30:53,479 --> 01:30:54,519
Speaker 4: her to do this to anyone else.

1601
01:30:54,600 --> 01:30:55,439
Speaker 2: That would be a bad thing.

1602
01:30:57,560 --> 01:30:58,040
Speaker 4: Yeah,