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Speaker 3: My mother in law has disrespected me throughout my pregnancy.

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Speaker 3: I want to ban her from seeing my kids. You

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Speaker 3: know what, just banner forever from everything banned. This is

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Speaker 3: kind of rambly and long. Sorry in advance. Back in February,

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Speaker 3: I twenty five gave birth to my beautiful baby girl,

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Speaker 3: who I'll call Jay, and before I went into labor,

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Speaker 3: I had my mom come to help me with the

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Speaker 3: newborn and postpartum phase as she wasn't able to do

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Speaker 3: so with my son, who's four I'll call him A.

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Speaker 3: She stayed for about ten days and then sadly had

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Speaker 3: to leave. By the way, this comes from user Harry

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Speaker 3: investment for one one and you can submit your stories

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Speaker 3: to the r slash Okay Storytime subreddit. Well, my mother

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Speaker 3: in law was given very strict guidelines by me to

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Speaker 4: One.

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Speaker 3: She cannot bring her two granddaughters, ages ten and eight. Two,

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Speaker 3: she cannot be sick. Three wash your hands. Four do

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Speaker 3: not treat this as a vacation.

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Speaker 5: I feel like three is just common sense.

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Speaker 3: Definitely wash your hands around the newborn and child. My

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Speaker 3: mom had similar rules, as I did not want to

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Speaker 4: And this is where things go south.

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Speaker 3: Dear husband twenty five I'll call him eight, said I

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Speaker 3: hate his family because I didn't want mother in law

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Speaker 3: forty nine to bring her two granddaughters with her, and

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Speaker 3: she was adding fuel to the fire by saying I've

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Speaker 3: never liked her or them, and I'm just trying to

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Speaker 3: keep her from seeing my kids. So I explained to

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Speaker 3: want more than just mother in law visiting, as his

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Speaker 3: nieces have serious behavioral problems that cause me severe anxiety

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Speaker 3: and stress, which is not good for me. But I'm

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Speaker 3: also worried about exposure in germs as they're coming from

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Speaker 3: a different state and traveling through several major airports, not

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Speaker 3: to mention they're just not clean in any way, and

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Speaker 3: have even been caught blowing their noses on my couch

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Speaker 3: during their stay at my house before just last year.

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Speaker 3: Husband said he understood and told mother in law my demands,

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Speaker 3: but ultimately she brought the girls anyway. We had a

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Speaker 3: huge fight about how she had been treating me while

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Speaker 3: I forgot to mention I also have an autoimmune disease

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Speaker 4: The girls were being.

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Speaker 3: Very loud and even screaming at each other and slamming doors,

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Speaker 3: my bed unless absolutely necessary, yeah, that seems like a nightmare.

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Speaker 3: I was forced to go out for dinner and sat

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Speaker 3: then told I was scarring the girls because they had

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Speaker 3: to witness my dramatics. According to my mother in law,

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Speaker 3: they spent almost every day gone, treating their visit like

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Speaker 4: With the newborn.

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Speaker 3: They were here for two weeks and the entire two weeks.

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Speaker 3: I only saw A a few times. I told husband

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Speaker 5: Why is the mother in law not taking care of

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Speaker 5: anything here? It seems like the mother in law's doing

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Speaker 5: nothing in her power to take care and help because

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Speaker 3: Obviously, during those days, mother in law made a huge

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Speaker 3: the girls, and A all got sick. Yes, more like

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Speaker 3: the girls came here sick. Mother in law ended up

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Speaker 4: It's call him Albert.

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Speaker 2: Jay is Judy.

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Speaker 3: When that happened, she tried to gaslight me into saying

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Speaker 4: I had a few days before she got there.

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Speaker 3: I brought up to my husband how I felt like

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Speaker 3: I was being ignored, ostracized, and like I was a

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Speaker 3: to be a part of the family. Why does everyone

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Speaker 3: in this story stick so hard?

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Speaker 5: Everyone hears husband's the nieces.

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Speaker 5: Only people here I don't are Judy, Helper and Opie.

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Speaker 5: And you know what, there's still time for the children

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Speaker 5: to as well. I mean, the children came sick and

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Speaker 5: were screaming. Even I don't care because they were double

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Speaker 5: digit ages, they could be at least a little bit respectful, especially,

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Speaker 5: I guarantee you. Opie said, hey, girls, did you just

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Speaker 5: more cleanly because I just, you know, had a baby

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Speaker 5: and they're sleeping.

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Speaker 3: I can tell you exactly what they said. No, that's

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Speaker 3: exactly what this is due. And then they ran as

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Speaker 3: fast as they could. Mother in law heard what I

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Speaker 3: said in regards to the ostracizing and stormed out of

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Speaker 3: I told husband I don't feel comfortable with her doing that,

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Speaker 3: and he instead went to comfort her and told her

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Speaker 4: He'll handle me.

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Speaker 5: Bro, this sounds literally like a horror movie.

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Speaker 4: Why are you being just disregarded?

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Speaker 5: You just gave birth, disregarded as a human being now.

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Speaker 3: Then she came out and started calling me all sorts

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Speaker 3: her and because I was abused by my dad, I

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Speaker 3: should know how it feels and know what I'm doing

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Speaker 4: Wow, like me not coming out of the room telling

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Speaker 3: To scream or slam doors, kissing Judy cough when they

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Speaker 3: was standing behind her, smirking and just staring at me.

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Speaker 5: I really hate the husband. I hate the mother in law.

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Speaker 5: I hate the husband.

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Speaker 4: So far everyone on your husband's side of the family

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Speaker 5: Him, the nieces as well. I called it. I told

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Speaker 5: you the nieces, I guarantee you ope, he's going to

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Speaker 5: tell the nieces, Hey, could you please do not do that?

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: And they did exactly what I said, And I guarantee

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Speaker 4: I yelled at you.

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Speaker 5: What a way to apologize?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, with the most condescending tone, and rolled her eyes.

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Speaker 3: Then left and sat in our front yard with Albert

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Speaker 3: and just stared at me and then left when I

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Speaker 3: didn't say anything back to him. What the entire time

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Speaker 3: they were here, they disrespected me, left dirty underwear in

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Speaker 3: mother in law left nasty smelling pads all over the bathroom.

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Speaker 5: Floor.

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Speaker 3: So when they finally left a few days after her

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Speaker 4: Never interact with these people again.

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Speaker 3: When I talk to a husband about everything that transpired,

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Speaker 3: he and I finally talked things out and he realized

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Speaker 3: and then excused his mother's behavior as that's just how

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Speaker 4: She's just an abrasive person.

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Speaker 3: I told him I would no longer have contact with

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Speaker 3: which includes the kids, as I do not wander her

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Speaker 4: Again, Fully support this decision.

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Speaker 5: And guess what, what do you think husband's gonna say?

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Speaker 3: Oh? I bet you he's gonna be like, you're over reacting,

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Speaker 3: Oh honey, relaxed.

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Speaker 4: No, honey, it's just the way my mother is. She's

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Speaker 5: You just gave birth to our child. You need to relax.

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Speaker 3: Because of how his mother acted, Albert now disrespects me

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Speaker 3: and refuses to listen to me unless husband intervenes. Albert

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Speaker 3: even called me a bee and flipped me off. What

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Speaker 3: I wonder where he learned that from what this is?

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Speaker 4: Crazy?

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Speaker 3: Husband is saying that I shouldn't cut contact, shouldn't keep

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Speaker 3: my children away from mother in law just because I'm

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Speaker 3: mad at her.

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Speaker 4: So am I the a hole?

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Speaker 2: No?

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Speaker 3: No, I feel so bad that you married into this

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Speaker 3: poopy diaper family.

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 5: I was gonna say, oh, the husband is gonna make amends,

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Speaker 5: but no, no, no, no, husband double down and didn't

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Speaker 5: even apologize to you.

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Speaker 3: It's like, first of all, when they show up and

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Speaker 3: they're starting to treat it like vacation, that's my mom

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Speaker 3: and she's disrespecting my wife and be like, mom, you're

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Speaker 3: going home.

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Speaker 4: Get out, You're going home. You are going home.

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Speaker 5: First of all, they should have never been there because

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Speaker 5: that was your wish and you just had a baby.

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Speaker 3: Well she did say it's like you can come, just like,

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Speaker 3: don't bring the kids, don't She had just a couple

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Speaker 3: of demand.

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Speaker 5: They want to see the baby.

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Speaker 4: I can see the baby later.

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Speaker 3: Also, it sounds like they didn't want to see the

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Speaker 3: baby because they left them abandoned alone at the.

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Speaker 4: House all day.

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Speaker 5: I feel so about for op, let's get into the update.

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Speaker 3: I plan on talking to him my husband again tomorrow

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Speaker 3: since I also want to.

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Speaker 4: Ask him about the texts I read.

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Speaker 3: I've currently changed everything on my social media so she

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Speaker 3: She has gone on several vacations for weeks before and

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Speaker 5: Oh so she's selfish. I mean, we already knew.

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Speaker 3: This is actually all about us. It's spring break, spring

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Speaker 4: Pregnant and that our son was not his. She's always

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Speaker 3: Then. Yeah, husband ended up cutting her off while I

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Speaker 5: Yeah, why are people calling you spineless when you already

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Speaker 3: After Judy's birth, I had several complications which caused me

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Speaker 4: And to do physical therapy. Dude, you can't catch a break.

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Speaker 3: I was in tremendous amounts of pain during that time,

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Speaker 3: had brought up my past abuse when she was yelling

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Speaker 3: So that honestly made me just shut down.

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Speaker 5: Oh dude, with that too.

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: I just want to let anyone who's listened to this

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Speaker 5: Your mother in law used your trauma as pretty much

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Speaker 5: a weapon. The husband smirking is what's getting me that

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Speaker 5: really pisses me off. He flipped sides back to your

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Speaker 3: Put his foot down. He would know how to put

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Speaker 3: his foot down. Already just a trash situation. By that time,

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Speaker 3: I was just exhausted. Husband had always been supportive of

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Speaker 3: this whole situation happened, So I had an inkling that

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Speaker 4: And here he is that update.

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Speaker 3: So husband and I had about a three and a

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Speaker 3: half hour talk last night. He admitted he did a

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Speaker 5: I don't take the apology.

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Speaker 3: I mean with thank god he's at least like doing that.

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Speaker 3: But yeah, it's that doesn't make it better, Like I

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Speaker 3: need more than that, Yeah, way more now. He said

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Speaker 3: because mother in law was in his ear the whole time.

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Speaker 3: What what, I'm sorry, You're a full grown man and

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Speaker 3: you can't think for yourself. That's the lamest excuse I've

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Speaker 3: That's almost as equally big of a red flag as

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Speaker 3: like the way like I would have almost preferred that you,

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Speaker 3: I don't know, were just like, yeah, I was just

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Speaker 5: Take accountability a hole? Yeah, ugh, my mom made me

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Speaker 5: do it, bro.

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Speaker 4: My mommy made me do it. Shut up.

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Speaker 3: He also admitted that he was enabling her and at

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Speaker 3: the time thought I was being a witch because I

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Speaker 3: needed the girls to quote stop being kids because they

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Speaker 3: demands you laid out, No, do not bring the girls.

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Speaker 5: So now your husband's a moron too, A holick moron,

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Speaker 5: no alic morn, moronic, a hole. Thank you, your husband's

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Speaker 5: a moronic a hole.

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Speaker 4: He said.

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Speaker 3: None of that excuses how he acted, and realized that

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Speaker 3: He didn't realize that her attitude, her treatment of me,

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Speaker 3: it as her just being her. He pretty much owned

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Speaker 3: because he enabled her and was being abusive because she

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Speaker 3: wanted a vacation and he wanted Albert to be able

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Speaker 5: and you can't go out to dinner because you just

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Speaker 4: Stupid.

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Speaker 5: Also, Albert is twisted in the mind now because his

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Speaker 3: It's pathetic. You don't know what to think. You're letting

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Speaker 3: So he thought my attitude and how upset I was

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Speaker 3: he feels horrible and regrets everything. Husband also said that

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Speaker 4: Maybe she took the truck. I don't know.

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Speaker 3: As for them making plans for him and Albert to

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Speaker 3: that I probably don't remember because I was dealing with

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Speaker 4: Brought it up, he didn't bring it up at the

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Speaker 5: Heck, we don't even know about this, so yeah.

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Speaker 3: I told him that mother in law is not welcome

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Speaker 3: We agreed that mother in law is no longer welcome

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Speaker 3: She's no longer allowed to see our kids or be

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Speaker 4: I doubt it.

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Speaker 3: I feel like she's trying to weasel her way back

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Speaker 3: but she will not be near me or my children.

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Speaker 3: He said that he'll be going low contact with her

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Speaker 3: he's not going to take her words at face value

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Speaker 3: as her treatment of me brought up a lot of

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Speaker 3: as well as behavioral issues with Albert. I can't believe

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Speaker 5: Yeah, it's like your husband.

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Speaker 3: Became your number one enemy. Your husband was reveling in

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Speaker 3: the fact that you were like.

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Speaker 5: You were being called out by his mom.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, he was basically like, oh, like rubbing his hands together,

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Speaker 5: She's getting yelled at by my mommy because she deserves it.

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Speaker 5: She's getting put in her place. Bro, his husband doesn't

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Speaker 3: Ope, at least from the sound of what I've heard,

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Speaker 3: to get back in my good graces. Has admitted that

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00:19:01,320 --> 00:19:03,280
Speaker 3: during the time his mom was yelling at me in

448
00:19:03,320 --> 00:19:05,760
Speaker 3: the kitchen and said things about my past abuse, he

449
00:19:05,880 --> 00:19:09,320
Speaker 3: was not listening and was mentally not there because he

450
00:19:09,400 --> 00:19:12,080
Speaker 3: was shocked I had raised my voice, as I've never

451
00:19:12,119 --> 00:19:12,840
Speaker 3: done that before.

452
00:19:13,000 --> 00:19:14,880
Speaker 4: Shut up, you weren't there, you were smirking.

453
00:19:15,040 --> 00:19:16,840
Speaker 5: We were there, We remember.

454
00:19:16,680 --> 00:19:17,040
Speaker 4: He said.

455
00:19:17,040 --> 00:19:19,560
Speaker 3: The smirk on his face wasn't because of mother in law,

456
00:19:19,640 --> 00:19:21,960
Speaker 3: but because I had grown up and finally stood up

457
00:19:22,000 --> 00:19:25,040
Speaker 3: for myself by raising my voice and showing my anger

458
00:19:25,119 --> 00:19:27,000
Speaker 3: as I usually try to be quiet and just avoid

459
00:19:27,000 --> 00:19:28,080
Speaker 3: confrontation when we fight.

460
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Speaker 5: Boo lame.

461
00:19:29,080 --> 00:19:30,879
Speaker 4: The apple has not fallen far from the tree.

462
00:19:30,960 --> 00:19:33,560
Speaker 3: Sky is lying to you, and he's trying to manipulate

463
00:19:33,600 --> 00:19:36,320
Speaker 3: you into thinking that he was actually what your cheerleader.

464
00:19:36,600 --> 00:19:40,680
Speaker 4: This guy's pathetic lame, a pathetic lie, he said.

465
00:19:40,720 --> 00:19:42,920
Speaker 3: In hindsight, it was really rude of him, and he

466
00:19:42,960 --> 00:19:45,119
Speaker 3: wishes he could go back and make it so I

467
00:19:45,160 --> 00:19:47,600
Speaker 3: shouldn't have had to raise my voice in the first place.

468
00:19:48,119 --> 00:19:50,640
Speaker 3: Husband thinks that it's pointless to confront his mom about

469
00:19:50,640 --> 00:19:52,320
Speaker 3: what she did to me when he was in another

470
00:19:52,440 --> 00:19:54,919
Speaker 3: room or when she thought he couldn't hear, as he

471
00:19:55,000 --> 00:19:57,400
Speaker 3: knows she will only deny or gaslight him and try

472
00:19:57,400 --> 00:19:59,919
Speaker 3: to manipulate him into thinking I made it up. So's

473
00:20:00,000 --> 00:20:02,560
Speaker 3: it's just going to tell her our agreement on contact

474
00:20:02,640 --> 00:20:05,399
Speaker 3: with her. My parents know of the whole situation and

475
00:20:05,520 --> 00:20:08,520
Speaker 3: came to help us with the house and for Albert's birthday.

476
00:20:08,720 --> 00:20:11,719
Speaker 3: I think having them here has helped Albert's attitude and

477
00:20:11,840 --> 00:20:14,639
Speaker 3: behavior as well, because he saw how my parents were

478
00:20:14,680 --> 00:20:16,760
Speaker 3: not letting him get away with being treated that way,

479
00:20:17,160 --> 00:20:20,960
Speaker 3: as well as how they treated me. Now he's back

480
00:20:21,000 --> 00:20:23,439
Speaker 3: to being his usual sweet self, and every now and

481
00:20:23,480 --> 00:20:26,080
Speaker 3: then has his moments, but we're working through them together.

482
00:20:26,480 --> 00:20:28,800
Speaker 3: I don't hold how he was treating me against him,

483
00:20:29,119 --> 00:20:32,639
Speaker 3: as he is just a child and had such bad examples.

484
00:20:32,840 --> 00:20:36,359
Speaker 4: Monkey see, monkey do. And speaking of doing, I want

485
00:20:36,400 --> 00:20:38,159
Speaker 4: you to do something. I want you to listen to

486
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Speaker 4: full episodes with stories like this.

487
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Speaker 3: All you have to do is go to Spotify or

488
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Speaker 3: Apple Podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts and search

489
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Speaker 3: Okay story time, and there you.

490
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Speaker 4: Will find a.

491
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Speaker 3: Near limitless selection of full episodes with stories like this.

492
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Speaker 5: And we're still adding to it to this day daily. Tomorrow,

493
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Speaker 5: we are adding daily the next day. So before we

494
00:21:00,200 --> 00:21:02,480
Speaker 5: finished this story, I mean, what do we do here

495
00:21:02,840 --> 00:21:03,600
Speaker 5: as Opie.

496
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Speaker 3: You know it's complicated. You just had another child, you

497
00:21:06,680 --> 00:21:08,960
Speaker 3: already have a child. You know a lot of people

498
00:21:09,040 --> 00:21:11,160
Speaker 3: are going to jump to like you need to leave

499
00:21:11,200 --> 00:21:13,360
Speaker 3: this guy, and it's like, well, I think there needs

500
00:21:13,400 --> 00:21:17,080
Speaker 3: to be at the very least an extremely serious conversation

501
00:21:17,119 --> 00:21:21,159
Speaker 3: where it's like, hey, this cannot happen ever again.

502
00:21:21,320 --> 00:21:23,560
Speaker 5: And it looks like that's the point in case right now.

503
00:21:24,080 --> 00:21:26,720
Speaker 5: But I think Opie deserves a vacation after she gets

504
00:21:27,080 --> 00:21:30,000
Speaker 5: at some rest, actually gets to hang out with the baby,

505
00:21:30,200 --> 00:21:32,359
Speaker 5: actually just the kids, just get you know, get some

506
00:21:32,440 --> 00:21:36,600
Speaker 5: relaxation sometime to herself. But I think husband needs to

507
00:21:36,880 --> 00:21:39,560
Speaker 5: make and show you know how much he cares and

508
00:21:39,600 --> 00:21:41,920
Speaker 5: loves and how much he messed up by giving her

509
00:21:41,960 --> 00:21:42,800
Speaker 5: an actual vacation.

510
00:21:42,880 --> 00:21:46,040
Speaker 4: He needs to take action and go above and beyond.

511
00:21:46,040 --> 00:21:47,280
Speaker 3: And I think that needs to be part of the

512
00:21:47,320 --> 00:21:49,879
Speaker 3: conversation where it's like, dude, what has transpired in the

513
00:21:49,960 --> 00:21:53,960
Speaker 3: last week has made me seriously doubt the logistics of

514
00:21:54,040 --> 00:21:54,800
Speaker 3: this relationship.

515
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Speaker 5: You as a husband, you as a father, you as

516
00:21:58,000 --> 00:22:01,480
Speaker 5: anything in this family is on just the nice yeah.

517
00:22:01,320 --> 00:22:03,800
Speaker 3: And it's like all it takes is one week with

518
00:22:03,880 --> 00:22:05,560
Speaker 3: your mom and all of a sudden, now you're my

519
00:22:05,880 --> 00:22:07,880
Speaker 3: number one enemy, You're my opponent.

520
00:22:07,960 --> 00:22:09,720
Speaker 5: Now you've turned her against me.

521
00:22:09,840 --> 00:22:12,000
Speaker 3: Like how do you let your mom convince you that

522
00:22:12,400 --> 00:22:17,720
Speaker 3: your bedridden postpartum wife is actually just being an a hole.

523
00:22:17,600 --> 00:22:19,440
Speaker 5: With everything that Opie told us.

524
00:22:19,560 --> 00:22:22,000
Speaker 4: Don't you see her standing up getting herself food and

525
00:22:22,080 --> 00:22:24,880
Speaker 4: water so that she doesn't literally die.

526
00:22:25,280 --> 00:22:26,439
Speaker 5: Why aren't you doing that?

527
00:22:26,720 --> 00:22:28,800
Speaker 4: Yeah, maybe you should be getting the food and water.

528
00:22:28,960 --> 00:22:32,200
Speaker 3: Look at her thinking, she's so cool getting her own

529
00:22:32,200 --> 00:22:32,880
Speaker 3: food and water.

530
00:22:33,000 --> 00:22:35,040
Speaker 4: She's fine, let's go to the aquarium.

531
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Speaker 5: I think it's the phrase action speak louder than the words,

532
00:22:37,600 --> 00:22:40,000
Speaker 5: and I think it's gonna take a lot of action here.

533
00:22:40,280 --> 00:22:44,119
Speaker 3: Yeah, to speak louder, just be honest, own it. God dang,

534
00:22:44,320 --> 00:22:47,399
Speaker 3: all right, let's finish this story. Things came out about

535
00:22:47,400 --> 00:22:49,840
Speaker 3: his mom and his past, which are not mine to share,

536
00:22:49,960 --> 00:22:52,679
Speaker 3: but that past played a role in what happened. I

537
00:22:52,720 --> 00:22:55,400
Speaker 3: signed him up for individual therapy and to us for counseling.

538
00:22:55,840 --> 00:22:58,520
Speaker 3: I'm not excusing or condoning his behavior, but I haven't

539
00:22:58,600 --> 00:23:01,280
Speaker 3: left him because I knew there was a driving force

540
00:23:01,320 --> 00:23:01,920
Speaker 3: behind it all.

541
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Speaker 2: Yeah.

542
00:23:02,400 --> 00:23:03,480
Speaker 4: I think that's another good point.

543
00:23:03,560 --> 00:23:07,080
Speaker 3: It's like, this is clearly there's a traumatic relationship there

544
00:23:07,119 --> 00:23:11,199
Speaker 3: between the husband and his mom that has been the

545
00:23:11,280 --> 00:23:12,560
Speaker 3: catalyst for this behavior.

546
00:23:12,720 --> 00:23:15,760
Speaker 4: It comes from childhood. Things are complex. I'm glad.

547
00:23:15,760 --> 00:23:17,919
Speaker 1: Ope he can see that, but still he needs to

548
00:23:17,920 --> 00:23:18,560
Speaker 1: make up for it.

549
00:23:18,600 --> 00:23:19,840
Speaker 4: I told him he has one.

550
00:23:19,800 --> 00:23:22,200
Speaker 3: Last chance and if this happens again, me and the

551
00:23:22,280 --> 00:23:25,280
Speaker 3: kids will be gone. Thank god, Thank you everyone for

552
00:23:25,320 --> 00:23:29,960
Speaker 3: the advice and advice. Yeah, well you're welcome and you're welcome,

553
00:23:30,240 --> 00:23:32,240
Speaker 3: and thank you. Yes, thank you. And that is the

554
00:23:32,359 --> 00:23:32,960
Speaker 3: end of that story.

555
00:23:34,119 --> 00:23:36,840
Speaker 5: My brother in law sister is trying to sabotage his wedding,

556
00:23:37,200 --> 00:23:38,359
Speaker 5: so I exposed her.

557
00:23:38,480 --> 00:23:41,600
Speaker 4: Get exposeded nerd.

558
00:23:41,920 --> 00:23:43,080
Speaker 5: It's sabotage.

559
00:23:43,520 --> 00:23:45,480
Speaker 4: Shabah blah blah blah blah blah.

560
00:23:46,520 --> 00:23:49,040
Speaker 5: It was my cousin sister's wedding and we are Indian.

561
00:23:49,440 --> 00:23:51,960
Speaker 5: So if you are Indian or know an Indian, or

562
00:23:52,040 --> 00:23:53,800
Speaker 5: have a friend or been to a wedding, you know

563
00:23:53,960 --> 00:23:57,280
Speaker 5: the drill, the day's long wedding events, the heavy dresses

564
00:23:57,320 --> 00:24:01,840
Speaker 5: and jewelry, and also some serious family drama. By the way,

565
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Speaker 5: this comes from user Klutz twenty six twenty seven, and

566
00:24:04,480 --> 00:24:06,480
Speaker 5: by the way, you can submit your stories on the

567
00:24:06,640 --> 00:24:09,520
Speaker 5: r slash ok. Storytime subpared it. So my cousin and

568
00:24:09,520 --> 00:24:12,040
Speaker 5: I are very close, even if there is a huge

569
00:24:12,080 --> 00:24:15,280
Speaker 5: age gap between us. Naturally, when her wedding came around.

570
00:24:15,440 --> 00:24:17,600
Speaker 5: I was very excited and I helped a lot with

571
00:24:17,680 --> 00:24:21,520
Speaker 5: planning and decorations and with the food, literally everything. It

572
00:24:21,640 --> 00:24:24,200
Speaker 5: was exactly as we have imagined her wedding to be, like,

573
00:24:24,960 --> 00:24:29,280
Speaker 5: just perfect in every way possible. But again, it's a wedding.

574
00:24:29,640 --> 00:24:32,920
Speaker 5: How is a wedding ever complete without drama. The man

575
00:24:33,000 --> 00:24:35,520
Speaker 5: that my cousin was marrying, my current brother in law,

576
00:24:35,680 --> 00:24:38,080
Speaker 5: is an amazing man who has been with my cousin

577
00:24:38,160 --> 00:24:40,639
Speaker 5: since their college days. They were friends in their college

578
00:24:40,680 --> 00:24:43,399
Speaker 5: days and when they started working, they joined the same company,

579
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Speaker 5: so they remained close to each other. The friendship turned

580
00:24:46,240 --> 00:24:48,960
Speaker 5: into love and they decided to date, and eventually here

581
00:24:49,040 --> 00:24:52,040
Speaker 5: we are getting married. Both the families were informed and

582
00:24:52,280 --> 00:24:56,400
Speaker 5: everyone is very happy with their decisions except one person.

583
00:24:56,640 --> 00:24:58,080
Speaker 5: It was brother in law's sister.

584
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Speaker 3: Mmmmm.

585
00:24:59,160 --> 00:25:02,000
Speaker 5: She didn't have any personal problems with my cousin. Her

586
00:25:02,119 --> 00:25:05,520
Speaker 5: only issue was that her best friend liked my brother

587
00:25:05,600 --> 00:25:09,040
Speaker 5: in law. Let's name this friend the idiot, because she

588
00:25:09,160 --> 00:25:11,560
Speaker 5: truly is an idiot, and this is honestly the nicest

589
00:25:11,600 --> 00:25:13,440
Speaker 5: word I can use for her. We're gota changed the

590
00:25:13,480 --> 00:25:16,560
Speaker 5: name idiot to a Dina all right. When Idiot found

591
00:25:16,560 --> 00:25:18,800
Speaker 5: out that brother in law loved someone else and was

592
00:25:18,840 --> 00:25:22,480
Speaker 5: getting married. She went ballistic. She has been trying to

593
00:25:22,520 --> 00:25:25,560
Speaker 5: get his attention for so many years and he wasn't

594
00:25:25,600 --> 00:25:28,680
Speaker 5: ever interested, as he's always been head over heels for

595
00:25:28,840 --> 00:25:31,520
Speaker 5: my cousin. I understand that she was upset. I have

596
00:25:31,720 --> 00:25:33,960
Speaker 5: been a girl in love and in heartbreak too, but

597
00:25:34,119 --> 00:25:36,920
Speaker 5: I wouldn't try to break up someone else's marriage because

598
00:25:37,000 --> 00:25:40,399
Speaker 5: of my heartbreak. Yes, she tried to stop their marriage

599
00:25:40,560 --> 00:25:43,159
Speaker 5: via brother in law's sister. The two came up with

600
00:25:43,280 --> 00:25:46,320
Speaker 5: all types of absurd accusations about my cousin and tried

601
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Speaker 5: to not honestarily sneak in the accusations by means of

602
00:25:48,920 --> 00:25:52,480
Speaker 5: messages from unknown numbers to my cousin's then future father

603
00:25:52,560 --> 00:25:55,760
Speaker 5: in law and mother in law. This included emails and

604
00:25:55,840 --> 00:25:58,880
Speaker 5: even letters delivered to their doorstep. My cousin was really

605
00:25:58,920 --> 00:26:01,359
Speaker 5: stressed because she thought that the father in law and

606
00:26:01,440 --> 00:26:03,920
Speaker 5: mother in law would think the accusations were true and

607
00:26:04,040 --> 00:26:07,119
Speaker 5: would stop the wedding. I told her, don't worry, Sisso

608
00:26:07,560 --> 00:26:10,040
Speaker 5: I am here at dramatic music here and imagine a

609
00:26:10,119 --> 00:26:12,880
Speaker 5: cape on my back. My cousin's father, my maternal uncle,

610
00:26:13,280 --> 00:26:15,240
Speaker 5: me and my brother first went to the father in

611
00:26:15,359 --> 00:26:17,280
Speaker 5: law and mother in law to let them know that

612
00:26:17,480 --> 00:26:20,480
Speaker 5: all of this was false and that my cousin is innocent.

613
00:26:20,760 --> 00:26:22,600
Speaker 5: We asked them for some time and that we will

614
00:26:22,680 --> 00:26:25,840
Speaker 5: find proof of who has been sending these messages and

615
00:26:25,920 --> 00:26:28,120
Speaker 5: will let them know everything, and that they are free

616
00:26:28,160 --> 00:26:31,120
Speaker 5: to judge and make their own decisions. We got permission

617
00:26:31,160 --> 00:26:33,680
Speaker 5: from them and decided to get to work immediately. They're

618
00:26:33,720 --> 00:26:37,479
Speaker 5: like Scooby Doo, and we went to work. One thing

619
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Speaker 5: I forgot to mention was that brother in law used

620
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Speaker 5: to live in his own house in a different state

621
00:26:41,920 --> 00:26:44,040
Speaker 5: from where his parents lived after he got a job.

622
00:26:44,280 --> 00:26:46,200
Speaker 5: Before this, my cousin and brother in law used to

623
00:26:46,240 --> 00:26:48,640
Speaker 5: live on one town and went to college together. Once

624
00:26:48,680 --> 00:26:50,879
Speaker 5: they got their jobs, they both came to my city,

625
00:26:51,280 --> 00:26:52,960
Speaker 5: and then brother in law got his own house and

626
00:26:53,080 --> 00:26:55,480
Speaker 5: my cousin came to live with me. His family came

627
00:26:55,520 --> 00:26:57,520
Speaker 5: to live with him when he told them that he

628
00:26:57,640 --> 00:27:00,520
Speaker 5: wanted to marry to help with the wedding arrangements. What's

629
00:27:00,600 --> 00:27:04,520
Speaker 5: unfortunate is that the sister also brought her best friend, aDNA.

630
00:27:05,080 --> 00:27:05,920
Speaker 5: What did that mean?

631
00:27:06,240 --> 00:27:09,080
Speaker 3: His family came to live with him when he told

632
00:27:09,160 --> 00:27:13,280
Speaker 3: them that he wanted to marry to help with the

633
00:27:13,400 --> 00:27:17,119
Speaker 3: wedding arrangements. I guess he wanted to get married to

634
00:27:17,359 --> 00:27:20,440
Speaker 3: help with the wedding arrangements, or is that just a

635
00:27:20,520 --> 00:27:22,960
Speaker 3: typo and that he just wanted to help with the wedding.

636
00:27:23,040 --> 00:27:24,720
Speaker 5: I think he wanted to help with the way. What's

637
00:27:24,800 --> 00:27:29,000
Speaker 5: unfortunate is that the sister also brought her best friend, aDNA,

638
00:27:29,440 --> 00:27:31,200
Speaker 5: who was in love with my brother in law since

639
00:27:31,240 --> 00:27:34,280
Speaker 5: she was fifteen and my brother in law was seventeen.

640
00:27:34,600 --> 00:27:36,960
Speaker 5: I mentioned brother in law having his own separate house

641
00:27:37,000 --> 00:27:39,560
Speaker 5: in a new town because it was important to mention

642
00:27:40,040 --> 00:27:43,879
Speaker 5: both his sister and aDNA didn't know. He installed security

643
00:27:43,920 --> 00:27:46,480
Speaker 5: cameras in his house, and the camera was pretty well

644
00:27:46,560 --> 00:27:49,880
Speaker 5: hidden so they couldn't have noticed either. We asked brother

645
00:27:49,920 --> 00:27:51,879
Speaker 5: in law if we could see the cameras recordings, and

646
00:27:52,000 --> 00:27:54,840
Speaker 5: we saw someone early in the morning, around four am,

647
00:27:55,160 --> 00:27:58,879
Speaker 5: dropping off the letter. Guess who it was, Dakota, do

648
00:27:58,880 --> 00:27:59,400
Speaker 5: you have a guess?

649
00:27:59,600 --> 00:28:03,240
Speaker 4: It was a Dinaina?

650
00:28:03,400 --> 00:28:05,840
Speaker 5: Adina Adina. We showed it to my cousin's father in

651
00:28:05,920 --> 00:28:08,520
Speaker 5: law and mother in law and they cross questioned Adena

652
00:28:08,760 --> 00:28:12,000
Speaker 5: about it and she was in tears and admitted to everything.

653
00:28:12,160 --> 00:28:14,560
Speaker 4: I've low key wish we would have just called her

654
00:28:14,560 --> 00:28:15,560
Speaker 4: the idiot this whole time.

655
00:28:15,680 --> 00:28:17,320
Speaker 5: I think that's a little too of herus is it?

656
00:28:17,480 --> 00:28:20,720
Speaker 3: Because she is being an idiot and you know what,

657
00:28:21,040 --> 00:28:24,200
Speaker 3: and she was trying to break up this union, So

658
00:28:24,520 --> 00:28:26,160
Speaker 3: I think she's very stinky.

659
00:28:26,280 --> 00:28:29,119
Speaker 5: She's very stinky, a stinky adena. She and brother in

660
00:28:29,200 --> 00:28:33,320
Speaker 5: law sister apologized for everything they were forgiven, and it

661
00:28:33,480 --> 00:28:37,720
Speaker 5: was happily ever after, or so you thought. Everything after

662
00:28:37,840 --> 00:28:40,880
Speaker 5: that was pretty peaceful. All their ragements were made, and

663
00:28:41,000 --> 00:28:43,560
Speaker 5: we are now at the wedding day. My cousin was

664
00:28:43,640 --> 00:28:46,200
Speaker 5: really jumping and on her toes the whole time. She

665
00:28:46,360 --> 00:28:49,160
Speaker 5: was panicking so much about everything. My brother and I

666
00:28:49,320 --> 00:28:51,360
Speaker 5: had to sit her down and talk her out of

667
00:28:51,400 --> 00:28:54,720
Speaker 5: her panic. She however, mentioned that she was scared that

668
00:28:54,880 --> 00:28:57,840
Speaker 5: aDNA might try to pull some six stunt to ruin

669
00:28:58,040 --> 00:28:58,920
Speaker 5: her wedding day.

670
00:28:59,000 --> 00:29:01,360
Speaker 4: Well, she should be scared, because you're talking about an idiot.

671
00:29:01,520 --> 00:29:03,720
Speaker 5: The wedding day is the perfect day to make things

672
00:29:04,240 --> 00:29:07,640
Speaker 5: go away. I however, told her to calm down because

673
00:29:07,640 --> 00:29:11,320
Speaker 5: I wouldn't let my precious angel's wedding get ruined. Op's

674
00:29:11,360 --> 00:29:14,600
Speaker 5: ready on standby, and I knew that you always need

675
00:29:14,680 --> 00:29:17,040
Speaker 5: to have a backup plan prepared in advance in situations

676
00:29:17,240 --> 00:29:20,680
Speaker 5: like this, and so I did. I collected a lot

677
00:29:20,720 --> 00:29:24,040
Speaker 5: of information and evidence just in case. I had my

678
00:29:24,160 --> 00:29:26,080
Speaker 5: suspicions that they would do something to mess up the

679
00:29:26,120 --> 00:29:28,920
Speaker 5: wedding way before it even became a thought in my

680
00:29:29,000 --> 00:29:31,840
Speaker 5: cousin's mind. So I did a little research about the two.

681
00:29:32,200 --> 00:29:34,280
Speaker 5: Since we all come from the same hometown, I got

682
00:29:34,320 --> 00:29:36,360
Speaker 5: in contact with my friends who still lived in the

683
00:29:36,400 --> 00:29:38,480
Speaker 5: town that my cousin and brother in law used to

684
00:29:38,600 --> 00:29:41,360
Speaker 5: live in. I asked around about these two baboons and

685
00:29:41,480 --> 00:29:43,680
Speaker 5: found out that brother in law sister had a boyfriend

686
00:29:44,080 --> 00:29:50,880
Speaker 5: and had even slept with him. Oh, premarital spicy time

687
00:29:51,120 --> 00:29:54,280
Speaker 5: is a big no no here. As for Edna, I

688
00:29:54,360 --> 00:29:56,520
Speaker 5: found out that she was slowly getting brother in law

689
00:29:56,600 --> 00:30:00,920
Speaker 5: sister into illegal substances and into becoming a a call girl.

690
00:30:01,280 --> 00:30:07,280
Speaker 5: Who whoah, Dina, You're such a bad influence. Again, that's

691
00:30:07,320 --> 00:30:09,920
Speaker 5: a big no no. And I think no parent would

692
00:30:09,920 --> 00:30:12,120
Speaker 5: want their child to do something that would cause trouble

693
00:30:12,160 --> 00:30:14,960
Speaker 5: for them and the child as well. I knew my

694
00:30:15,040 --> 00:30:17,080
Speaker 5: cousin's father in law and mother in law would be

695
00:30:17,200 --> 00:30:20,400
Speaker 5: worried about their daughter and take action immediately if I

696
00:30:20,520 --> 00:30:22,959
Speaker 5: let them know about this. I would have told him

697
00:30:23,000 --> 00:30:25,120
Speaker 5: this after the wedding was over, and that would have

698
00:30:25,200 --> 00:30:27,400
Speaker 5: been in private, so no one else would know. But

699
00:30:27,840 --> 00:30:31,880
Speaker 5: I guess the girls wanted something else. Oh boy, Opie

700
00:30:32,000 --> 00:30:33,640
Speaker 5: was ready, like she had the holster and she was

701
00:30:33,720 --> 00:30:36,360
Speaker 5: like ready to go pute. Once the wedding ceremony started

702
00:30:36,480 --> 00:30:38,720
Speaker 5: and the guests were all there, they were enjoying themselves.

703
00:30:38,840 --> 00:30:40,880
Speaker 5: Everyone was having fun and giving their blessings to their

704
00:30:40,920 --> 00:30:42,920
Speaker 5: new husband and wife to be. These two paint in

705
00:30:42,960 --> 00:30:45,800
Speaker 5: the butts were going around and gossiping about my cousin

706
00:30:45,920 --> 00:30:49,040
Speaker 5: to everyone. We noticed that, and we came up with

707
00:30:49,120 --> 00:30:51,520
Speaker 5: a quick solution. I asked my two male friends, who

708
00:30:51,560 --> 00:30:54,960
Speaker 5: are very attractive, to go and talk to the girls. However,

709
00:30:55,520 --> 00:30:57,920
Speaker 5: I told them to switch on their recorder and be

710
00:30:58,080 --> 00:31:02,760
Speaker 5: with them no matter what. Oh some like secret agent

711
00:31:02,800 --> 00:31:06,720
Speaker 5: stuff here, spy stuff. God bless my two friends. They

712
00:31:06,800 --> 00:31:09,480
Speaker 5: did exactly what I told them without question. They came

713
00:31:09,560 --> 00:31:11,280
Speaker 5: to me after an hour or so and told me

714
00:31:11,400 --> 00:31:13,640
Speaker 5: what was going on. The two girls were planning to

715
00:31:13,720 --> 00:31:16,280
Speaker 5: ruin her wedding dress. When I tell you that crap

716
00:31:16,400 --> 00:31:19,960
Speaker 5: was costly, it was costly. It was really heavy, with

717
00:31:20,000 --> 00:31:22,280
Speaker 5: all these heavy stonework that was done on the cream

718
00:31:22,360 --> 00:31:23,920
Speaker 5: colored lahenga.

719
00:31:23,520 --> 00:31:26,000
Speaker 4: Because this is like an Indian wedding dress.

720
00:31:26,120 --> 00:31:28,560
Speaker 5: And if it was stained, it would be ruined. We

721
00:31:28,640 --> 00:31:31,680
Speaker 5: could not afford that at any cost. She was taking

722
00:31:31,720 --> 00:31:34,000
Speaker 5: a glass of juice from the juice counters and tried

723
00:31:34,040 --> 00:31:36,680
Speaker 5: sitting right behind the bride, but I stepped in and

724
00:31:36,760 --> 00:31:38,720
Speaker 5: told her to go sit behind her brother and that

725
00:31:38,840 --> 00:31:42,200
Speaker 5: I would sit behind my cousin. She was trying so hard,

726
00:31:42,760 --> 00:31:45,360
Speaker 5: but my brother and I kept pushing her off and

727
00:31:45,480 --> 00:31:46,680
Speaker 5: away from my cousin.

728
00:31:47,000 --> 00:31:50,280
Speaker 3: Dude, crazy, Just like sitting there with a glass of

729
00:31:50,440 --> 00:31:52,960
Speaker 3: juice ready to throw that ohp right.

730
00:31:52,920 --> 00:31:55,760
Speaker 5: Now is secret service. She's keeping an eye on everything

731
00:31:55,840 --> 00:31:59,680
Speaker 5: and she knows who prime target is. Eventually, she did

732
00:31:59,800 --> 00:32:02,640
Speaker 5: make to throw it, but it accidentally landed on someone

733
00:32:02,680 --> 00:32:06,000
Speaker 5: from the groom's side, and she got scolded by her.

734
00:32:06,400 --> 00:32:09,000
Speaker 5: While her grumpy face was funny to see, I still

735
00:32:09,040 --> 00:32:12,080
Speaker 5: had enough because if that auntie wasn't there, it would

736
00:32:12,080 --> 00:32:15,120
Speaker 5: have been my cousin. After the wedding was over, people

737
00:32:15,200 --> 00:32:17,480
Speaker 5: were going to start taking photos with the couple. I

738
00:32:17,640 --> 00:32:21,520
Speaker 5: announced that my brother and I had some things to say. Initially,

739
00:32:21,640 --> 00:32:24,760
Speaker 5: we talked about the bride and groom, but then we

740
00:32:24,880 --> 00:32:28,000
Speaker 5: shifted the attention to the groom's sister and her friend.

741
00:32:28,560 --> 00:32:30,560
Speaker 5: We played the audios of the calls I had with

742
00:32:30,640 --> 00:32:32,880
Speaker 5: her friends in the hometown as a surprise to the

743
00:32:32,920 --> 00:32:34,680
Speaker 5: groom's sister. I don't like that.

744
00:32:34,920 --> 00:32:37,000
Speaker 4: I don't like that either. Not a fan of that.

745
00:32:37,320 --> 00:32:39,160
Speaker 5: I wouldn't have done that, because now you're putting the

746
00:32:39,160 --> 00:32:41,240
Speaker 5: attention on them just a little bit. I know, maybe

747
00:32:41,360 --> 00:32:43,720
Speaker 5: in the hindsight it's like, oh, that's funny, and maybe

748
00:32:43,880 --> 00:32:46,880
Speaker 5: your cousin wanted it, but that's taking attention for our

749
00:32:46,920 --> 00:32:49,520
Speaker 5: way from the wedding. I would have just confronted them personally,

750
00:32:49,800 --> 00:32:51,560
Speaker 5: like I have this evidence. If you keep going, I'm

751
00:32:51,560 --> 00:32:54,480
Speaker 5: gonna do this exactly. There are a lot of angry faces,

752
00:32:54,920 --> 00:32:57,760
Speaker 5: some on the sister and some on my brother and I.

753
00:32:58,240 --> 00:33:00,880
Speaker 5: I tried to explain that had she and her friend

754
00:33:00,960 --> 00:33:03,800
Speaker 5: tried to ruin my cousin's sister's wedding dress, this would

755
00:33:03,840 --> 00:33:06,640
Speaker 5: have been broadcasted to the entire wedding venue. I then

756
00:33:06,760 --> 00:33:09,320
Speaker 5: called my two male friends, and both of their faces

757
00:33:09,760 --> 00:33:12,800
Speaker 5: were in gasps. Both of them pulled out their phones

758
00:33:13,080 --> 00:33:15,600
Speaker 5: and I played the recordings on one of the phones.

759
00:33:15,880 --> 00:33:17,840
Speaker 5: One of the phones which explained how they were still

760
00:33:17,880 --> 00:33:20,800
Speaker 5: spreading fake news about my cousin and also them planning

761
00:33:20,840 --> 00:33:23,400
Speaker 5: to ruin my cousin's dress. We also got the video

762
00:33:23,480 --> 00:33:26,600
Speaker 5: recording of them actively trying to throw the red colored

763
00:33:26,640 --> 00:33:29,600
Speaker 5: drink on my cousin's dress as well. Both of them

764
00:33:29,680 --> 00:33:32,600
Speaker 5: got kicked out from there and weren't allowed to enter

765
00:33:32,720 --> 00:33:35,520
Speaker 5: until the rest of the ceremony was over good. Both

766
00:33:35,560 --> 00:33:38,120
Speaker 5: of them stood outside making attempts to convince anyone who

767
00:33:38,160 --> 00:33:40,760
Speaker 5: would listen to them and let them in, but no

768
00:33:40,880 --> 00:33:43,960
Speaker 5: one paid heed to any of them. Once everyone got home,

769
00:33:44,120 --> 00:33:47,040
Speaker 5: they were scolded badly, and my brother in law sister

770
00:33:47,160 --> 00:33:49,360
Speaker 5: kept screaming at me that I was so mean and

771
00:33:49,440 --> 00:33:52,360
Speaker 5: rude to have their truths exposed to not just her family,

772
00:33:52,760 --> 00:33:55,440
Speaker 5: but to every relative and friend who was there to

773
00:33:55,480 --> 00:33:56,240
Speaker 5: witness the show.

774
00:33:56,560 --> 00:34:00,520
Speaker 3: Oh sounds like this stinky lady doesn't like her stinky

775
00:34:00,680 --> 00:34:03,880
Speaker 3: business being aired out in public. But that's just what

776
00:34:04,000 --> 00:34:08,120
Speaker 3: happens when you make a little plot at someone's wedding.

777
00:34:08,520 --> 00:34:11,400
Speaker 5: Well, I want you to witness our shows with your

778
00:34:11,560 --> 00:34:15,360
Speaker 5: ears and sometimes your eyes, because we have full episodes

779
00:34:15,440 --> 00:34:19,240
Speaker 5: with stories just like this. Just go to Spotify, Apple Podcasts,

780
00:34:19,320 --> 00:34:21,480
Speaker 5: or any other platform that you listen to your podcast

781
00:34:21,560 --> 00:34:24,120
Speaker 5: on and search. Okay, story time, because we have a

782
00:34:24,280 --> 00:34:26,840
Speaker 5: plethora of stories just like.

783
00:34:27,040 --> 00:34:29,759
Speaker 4: This one exactly, and you should listen to all of them.

784
00:34:30,000 --> 00:34:33,359
Speaker 5: Yes, there's another relevant update, but where are we at?

785
00:34:33,480 --> 00:34:37,320
Speaker 3: Yeah? Honestly, these people should like recount themselves lucky that

786
00:34:37,400 --> 00:34:39,600
Speaker 3: they were even let back into the wedding at all,

787
00:34:39,920 --> 00:34:42,160
Speaker 3: or that anyone still wants to talk to them, Like

788
00:34:42,719 --> 00:34:44,319
Speaker 3: if I find out you're the kind of person who

789
00:34:44,400 --> 00:34:48,040
Speaker 3: plots against the wife on their wedding day to look

790
00:34:48,080 --> 00:34:49,239
Speaker 3: what ruined their wedding dress.

791
00:34:50,760 --> 00:34:52,840
Speaker 5: Again, I'm not a big fan of how you did it,

792
00:34:53,040 --> 00:34:55,160
Speaker 5: how you did it in front of everyone. This should

793
00:34:55,160 --> 00:34:57,120
Speaker 5: have been like, you know, I have this in my

794
00:34:57,200 --> 00:35:01,360
Speaker 5: pocket ready to be let known that you will be exposed.

795
00:35:01,640 --> 00:35:03,920
Speaker 5: Rather than just expose them, I would have like, stop

796
00:35:03,960 --> 00:35:07,120
Speaker 5: your crap before I, you know, revealed the truth back

797
00:35:07,160 --> 00:35:08,960
Speaker 5: to the story. While my cousin was glad that I

798
00:35:09,000 --> 00:35:11,120
Speaker 5: had her back and my brother is standing in support

799
00:35:11,160 --> 00:35:14,080
Speaker 5: of me, my parents and some of our relatives think

800
00:35:14,120 --> 00:35:17,360
Speaker 5: that it should have dealt within the family and shouldn't

801
00:35:17,400 --> 00:35:20,600
Speaker 5: have been exposed to anyone outside of the immediate family members.

802
00:35:20,960 --> 00:35:23,719
Speaker 5: Am I the a hole? Note? I am sorry if

803
00:35:23,760 --> 00:35:25,840
Speaker 5: the post ended up being too long, but I just

804
00:35:25,880 --> 00:35:27,760
Speaker 5: wanted to give all the contacts that would be required

805
00:35:27,760 --> 00:35:31,160
Speaker 5: to judge the entire situation and my actions as well. Also,

806
00:35:31,320 --> 00:35:33,960
Speaker 5: something doesn't make sense. Just blame it on my sleepy

807
00:35:34,000 --> 00:35:36,279
Speaker 5: head because I wrote it in half sleep mode.

808
00:35:36,400 --> 00:35:37,440
Speaker 4: Half sleep mode.

809
00:35:37,680 --> 00:35:40,359
Speaker 5: Okay, so are you the a hole?

810
00:35:40,920 --> 00:35:40,960
Speaker 3: No?

811
00:35:41,719 --> 00:35:42,960
Speaker 5: But I think I would have done it in a

812
00:35:43,080 --> 00:35:46,840
Speaker 5: better way. But in the broader spectrum of things, you

813
00:35:46,920 --> 00:35:47,560
Speaker 5: are not the a hole.

814
00:35:47,719 --> 00:35:49,200
Speaker 4: Yeah, no, I agree, I agree.

815
00:35:49,400 --> 00:35:51,719
Speaker 5: That's the end of that story. John.

816
00:35:51,760 --> 00:35:53,560
Speaker 2: Here, we're gonna get back to this juicy story. But

817
00:35:53,600 --> 00:35:55,440
Speaker 2: a quick three minute break of ads from our sponsors.

818
00:35:56,160 --> 00:35:59,960
Speaker 3: My in laws banned me from Christmas, so I said,

819
00:36:00,000 --> 00:36:04,560
Speaker 3: and them dollars store gifts ho ho no throwaway account

820
00:36:04,600 --> 00:36:07,400
Speaker 3: for anonymity. I thirty one female married my soon to

821
00:36:07,440 --> 00:36:11,120
Speaker 3: be ex husband, male thirty three in twenty eighteen. My

822
00:36:11,200 --> 00:36:13,759
Speaker 3: in laws never liked me and made it clear I

823
00:36:13,840 --> 00:36:15,960
Speaker 3: soon to be ex insisted that they're just putting up

824
00:36:15,960 --> 00:36:18,239
Speaker 3: a tough exterior and that they'll grow to love me.

825
00:36:18,480 --> 00:36:20,640
Speaker 3: And by the way, this comes from user potential low

826
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Speaker 3: eighty six forty five. And if you want to submit

827
00:36:23,160 --> 00:36:25,600
Speaker 3: your own stories, where do you go the r slash

828
00:36:25,600 --> 00:36:28,080
Speaker 3: showcase story times. I read it, of course, to show

829
00:36:28,120 --> 00:36:30,200
Speaker 3: how evil they are. One time I joined them for

830
00:36:30,280 --> 00:36:32,480
Speaker 3: dinner and brought a cake I had made because I

831
00:36:32,640 --> 00:36:35,480
Speaker 3: always raised to be a gracious guest, and when I

832
00:36:35,520 --> 00:36:37,920
Speaker 3: stepped into the kitchen offered the cake to his mother

833
00:36:37,960 --> 00:36:39,960
Speaker 3: as a thank you for inviting me. She took the

834
00:36:40,040 --> 00:36:42,840
Speaker 3: plate over to the garbage bin, dumped it in, and

835
00:36:43,040 --> 00:36:45,280
Speaker 3: handed me the plate back. When I told my husband

836
00:36:45,360 --> 00:36:47,760
Speaker 3: what she did, he confronted her, and all of a sudden,

837
00:36:47,800 --> 00:36:50,960
Speaker 3: the crocodile tears started as she claimed she grabbed the

838
00:36:51,000 --> 00:36:52,920
Speaker 3: plate but didn't get a good grip. I let go

839
00:36:53,040 --> 00:36:55,040
Speaker 3: too quickly and it fell to the floor, so of

840
00:36:55,160 --> 00:36:57,320
Speaker 3: course it had to be thrown away. My sister in

841
00:36:57,440 --> 00:37:00,920
Speaker 3: law confirmed that was what happened. Soon to be ex

842
00:37:01,040 --> 00:37:03,799
Speaker 3: owned his own business, and they called me a gold

843
00:37:03,920 --> 00:37:07,000
Speaker 3: digger behind his back. Of course, they insisted on prenup,

844
00:37:07,040 --> 00:37:09,279
Speaker 3: which I didn't care about because I never thought my

845
00:37:09,360 --> 00:37:12,160
Speaker 3: marriage would end and it would appease them and may

846
00:37:12,239 --> 00:37:15,080
Speaker 3: allow them to finally treat me kindly. No, his business

847
00:37:15,160 --> 00:37:18,760
Speaker 3: failed once the VID hit. We went through his savings

848
00:37:18,960 --> 00:37:21,440
Speaker 3: and my own trying to keep it afloat. I refused

849
00:37:21,440 --> 00:37:23,239
Speaker 3: to go into debt to keep it going, so he

850
00:37:23,360 --> 00:37:25,800
Speaker 3: closed it down in twenty twenty two. He was suffering

851
00:37:25,840 --> 00:37:28,000
Speaker 3: from really bad depression because he lost his business and

852
00:37:28,040 --> 00:37:30,800
Speaker 3: couldn't find any new work. He suggested we moved to

853
00:37:30,880 --> 00:37:33,759
Speaker 3: his hometown, closer to his family so he had a

854
00:37:33,840 --> 00:37:37,920
Speaker 3: larger support network. Against my best judgment, we did. He

855
00:37:38,120 --> 00:37:40,840
Speaker 3: wanted to only work part time while he trained to

856
00:37:40,920 --> 00:37:43,640
Speaker 3: restart his business, so I became the main breadwinner, and

857
00:37:44,040 --> 00:37:46,640
Speaker 3: as with most wives, I became the person in charge

858
00:37:46,680 --> 00:37:50,120
Speaker 3: of buying gifts. Stupid old me thought that buying them thoughtful,

859
00:37:50,200 --> 00:37:53,319
Speaker 3: expensive gifts would finally make them see I wanted to be.

860
00:37:53,440 --> 00:37:54,239
Speaker 4: Accepted by them.

861
00:37:54,320 --> 00:37:56,960
Speaker 3: Gifts to us were a couple's gift, but clearly for

862
00:37:57,160 --> 00:37:59,759
Speaker 3: my soon to be X only every holiday was spent

863
00:37:59,800 --> 00:38:03,200
Speaker 3: with them, monthly dinners with the whole family. After a year,

864
00:38:03,360 --> 00:38:05,520
Speaker 3: I realized that if I ever tried to talk or

865
00:38:05,680 --> 00:38:08,640
Speaker 3: join a conversation, everyone would go quiet, so I just

866
00:38:08,719 --> 00:38:11,920
Speaker 3: stopped talking. When I visited in early December, they finalized

867
00:38:12,000 --> 00:38:14,120
Speaker 3: plans for Christmas. A few days later, my soon to

868
00:38:14,160 --> 00:38:16,560
Speaker 3: be ex said his family decided they didn't want me

869
00:38:16,640 --> 00:38:18,960
Speaker 3: to join them for Christmas Eve dinner and Christmas lunch.

870
00:38:19,080 --> 00:38:22,480
Speaker 3: Because I ruined the family vibe, I replied, fine, we'll

871
00:38:22,520 --> 00:38:24,600
Speaker 3: do our own thing instead. My soon to be ex

872
00:38:24,840 --> 00:38:27,680
Speaker 3: sheepishly looked away and said he was still going to go.

873
00:38:28,000 --> 00:38:30,800
Speaker 3: I was livid and so disappointed in him. That was

874
00:38:30,880 --> 00:38:33,360
Speaker 3: the moment I knew my marriage was over. So I

875
00:38:33,480 --> 00:38:36,120
Speaker 3: returned the presence I had bought for his family. In

876
00:38:36,200 --> 00:38:39,480
Speaker 3: their place, I got one pair of novelty business socks

877
00:38:39,520 --> 00:38:42,600
Speaker 3: for father in law, a supermarket brand bottle of shampoo

878
00:38:42,880 --> 00:38:48,160
Speaker 3: for mother in law, and the nastiest, thankiest, stinkiest perfume

879
00:38:48,200 --> 00:38:50,920
Speaker 3: I could find at the dollar store for sister in law.

880
00:38:51,160 --> 00:38:54,360
Speaker 3: The most expensive gift was a large raw hide bone

881
00:38:54,520 --> 00:38:57,239
Speaker 3: for brother in law and his wife's chihuahua, too big

882
00:38:57,320 --> 00:39:00,600
Speaker 3: for it to get its jaw around, rendering it useless.

883
00:39:01,400 --> 00:39:04,120
Speaker 3: I saved about six hundred to put on a deposit

884
00:39:04,239 --> 00:39:06,760
Speaker 3: for a new apartment. My husband came home from Christmas

885
00:39:06,840 --> 00:39:09,480
Speaker 3: lunch telling me I humiliated him and embarrassed him in

886
00:39:09,520 --> 00:39:12,560
Speaker 3: front of his family. I asked him, why would he

887
00:39:12,800 --> 00:39:15,120
Speaker 3: think I'd buy nice gifts for people who clearly don't

888
00:39:15,320 --> 00:39:18,600
Speaker 3: like me and don't want me around? Served divorce papers

889
00:39:18,719 --> 00:39:20,960
Speaker 3: last week. Remember how he was supposed to be a

890
00:39:21,040 --> 00:39:23,480
Speaker 3: millionaire by now, so we had that prenup soon to be.

891
00:39:23,800 --> 00:39:25,920
Speaker 3: X is not eligible for any of my savings. It

892
00:39:26,040 --> 00:39:29,680
Speaker 3: was required to keep separate accounts, and he's not eligible

893
00:39:29,719 --> 00:39:33,080
Speaker 3: for alimony. He doesn't have money for rent and auto insurance.

894
00:39:33,320 --> 00:39:37,880
Speaker 3: Not my problem anymore. Some of my friends and family

895
00:39:38,200 --> 00:39:41,239
Speaker 3: and on my side are proud that I went out

896
00:39:41,320 --> 00:39:43,759
Speaker 3: in a blaze of glory. Others are telling me that

897
00:39:43,880 --> 00:39:46,600
Speaker 3: I was being way too petty, which isn't really like me.

898
00:39:46,880 --> 00:39:48,439
Speaker 4: So am I the a hole?

899
00:39:48,680 --> 00:39:51,520
Speaker 3: Anybody telling you that you were being too petty? Look,

900
00:39:51,680 --> 00:39:54,760
Speaker 3: I only advocate not being like petty or like seeking

901
00:39:54,840 --> 00:39:58,200
Speaker 3: vengeance for our own peace. Yes, our own piece. So

902
00:39:58,360 --> 00:40:01,640
Speaker 3: here's some comments. Ope's response. Commenter says, I would say,

903
00:40:01,840 --> 00:40:04,279
Speaker 3: be glad you did not have children with him. Yeah,

904
00:40:04,320 --> 00:40:06,240
Speaker 3: you could say that again. Be glad you can escape

905
00:40:06,280 --> 00:40:09,640
Speaker 3: and be free with no strings ps. This relationship should

906
00:40:09,640 --> 00:40:11,480
Speaker 3: be a learning lesson on the love that you want

907
00:40:11,560 --> 00:40:14,040
Speaker 3: for yourself and the life you want, not as a loss.

908
00:40:14,120 --> 00:40:16,759
Speaker 3: Opie responds. First thing I did after I moved into

909
00:40:16,800 --> 00:40:19,759
Speaker 3: my new apartment was adopt an older car, an older cat.

910
00:40:20,000 --> 00:40:24,759
Speaker 3: I adopted Lightning McQueen from the shelter cell. He was

911
00:40:24,840 --> 00:40:27,680
Speaker 3: allergic and I couldn't ever adopt one since we first

912
00:40:27,719 --> 00:40:31,000
Speaker 3: started living together. We're just two old hags living our

913
00:40:31,040 --> 00:40:33,680
Speaker 3: best lives. After being rejected, I wouldn't even say you

914
00:40:33,800 --> 00:40:36,040
Speaker 3: were rejected. I'd say that you like woke up and

915
00:40:36,160 --> 00:40:38,960
Speaker 3: realized that you didn't want to be with somebody who

916
00:40:39,120 --> 00:40:43,640
Speaker 3: literally has jellyfish spine. Yeah, you rejected him as he's

917
00:40:43,800 --> 00:40:47,719
Speaker 3: so so deserts Yeah, low desert. That person has no

918
00:40:47,840 --> 00:40:50,800
Speaker 3: business being in your life. Commenter says, you're not old silly,

919
00:40:51,160 --> 00:40:53,759
Speaker 3: so glad you're enjoying the company of an older cat.

920
00:40:54,000 --> 00:40:57,040
Speaker 3: Car is interesting, but not as cuddly that your kitty

921
00:40:57,120 --> 00:41:00,239
Speaker 3: friend will appreciate you and will show far more than

922
00:41:00,320 --> 00:41:02,760
Speaker 3: you assume to be ex EVI did. Don't just notice

923
00:41:02,800 --> 00:41:05,720
Speaker 3: the typo, says Ope, keeping it in because it's actually hilarious.

924
00:41:05,920 --> 00:41:08,200
Speaker 3: Commenter says, not the a hole. He chose his family

925
00:41:08,280 --> 00:41:10,560
Speaker 3: over you and still expect you to buy all the presents.

926
00:41:10,640 --> 00:41:13,520
Speaker 3: This was perfectly planned and well deserved for every one

927
00:41:13,560 --> 00:41:16,600
Speaker 3: of them, including him. OPI says he only worked twelve

928
00:41:16,680 --> 00:41:19,120
Speaker 3: hours a week at Walmart so he could do non

929
00:41:19,239 --> 00:41:23,240
Speaker 3: existent work restarting his business. I made just over six figures,

930
00:41:23,280 --> 00:41:25,560
Speaker 3: and I can't believe I didn't realize years ago. I

931
00:41:25,680 --> 00:41:29,120
Speaker 3: was the family at M commenter, not the a hole.

932
00:41:29,239 --> 00:41:31,880
Speaker 3: So thoughtful of them to insist on a prenup. I

933
00:41:32,000 --> 00:41:34,719
Speaker 3: hope you send them a sincere thank you note after

934
00:41:34,800 --> 00:41:36,000
Speaker 3: the divorce is finalized.

935
00:41:36,160 --> 00:41:36,960
Speaker 2: Real op says.

936
00:41:37,000 --> 00:41:39,120
Speaker 3: My lawyer even laughed at that prenup that was set

937
00:41:39,239 --> 00:41:41,160
Speaker 3: up for him is going to be what we use

938
00:41:41,239 --> 00:41:43,960
Speaker 3: for me. It required both spouses to maintain separate bank

939
00:41:43,960 --> 00:41:46,279
Speaker 3: accounts and each spouse could keep one hundred percent of

940
00:41:46,400 --> 00:41:53,880
Speaker 3: their savings. No spouse eligible for aliment ah. No update,

941
00:41:54,200 --> 00:41:56,439
Speaker 3: many things to everyone for their support in my last post,

942
00:41:56,480 --> 00:41:59,200
Speaker 3: I thought i'd send a small update first for those

943
00:41:59,239 --> 00:42:02,000
Speaker 3: who asked how deposit on my new apartment was only

944
00:42:02,200 --> 00:42:04,200
Speaker 3: the six hundred dollars I saved on the gifts. It

945
00:42:04,280 --> 00:42:06,800
Speaker 3: certainly wasn't I had to dip into savings, but that

946
00:42:06,920 --> 00:42:09,560
Speaker 3: six hundred dollars helped. My soon to be X didn't

947
00:42:09,560 --> 00:42:11,920
Speaker 3: bother reaching out to me after I left until he

948
00:42:12,040 --> 00:42:14,239
Speaker 3: was served the divorce papers and my lawyer made it

949
00:42:14,320 --> 00:42:18,160
Speaker 3: clear were exercising the prenup. Then it was loving voicemails

950
00:42:18,280 --> 00:42:20,719
Speaker 3: and texts I never picked up from him and his

951
00:42:20,840 --> 00:42:22,920
Speaker 3: family for a few days, trying to convince me to

952
00:42:23,000 --> 00:42:26,640
Speaker 3: come back, which eventually turned into threatening and cruel voicemails

953
00:42:26,680 --> 00:42:28,920
Speaker 3: and texts. When it was clear that I wasn't going

954
00:42:28,960 --> 00:42:31,400
Speaker 3: to budge, my lawyer suggested, I don't block them so

955
00:42:31,520 --> 00:42:34,440
Speaker 3: we have evidence of harassment if needed. Basically, give them

956
00:42:34,480 --> 00:42:37,240
Speaker 3: the rope so that they can make their own fate

957
00:42:37,600 --> 00:42:40,759
Speaker 3: with this object ecise. But then last night I got

958
00:42:40,800 --> 00:42:43,440
Speaker 3: a call after call from my soon to be X.

959
00:42:43,680 --> 00:42:45,840
Speaker 3: I stupidly picked it up, thinking that there was some

960
00:42:45,960 --> 00:42:48,480
Speaker 3: kind of emergency. I barely got hello out when he

961
00:42:48,520 --> 00:42:50,560
Speaker 3: said the rent is a week late. I told him

962
00:42:50,640 --> 00:42:53,399
Speaker 3: that's strange because I paid my landlord six days ago.

963
00:42:53,600 --> 00:43:01,640
Speaker 4: Ah nicey uh. He paused and sighed dramatically and replied, no,

964
00:43:02,200 --> 00:43:05,879
Speaker 4: the rent for here where I live.

965
00:43:06,239 --> 00:43:10,400
Speaker 3: I reminded him I don't live there ooh, and he

966
00:43:10,480 --> 00:43:14,000
Speaker 3: shouldn't expect rentque His parents both texting me that they're

967
00:43:14,040 --> 00:43:16,600
Speaker 3: going to sue me to pay the remainder of the lease. Entirely,

968
00:43:16,719 --> 00:43:18,759
Speaker 3: I'm not worried about having an eviction on my record

969
00:43:18,800 --> 00:43:21,400
Speaker 3: since the apartment is in his parents' names. When we

970
00:43:21,600 --> 00:43:24,000
Speaker 3: first announced we were moving to his hometown, they rented

971
00:43:24,040 --> 00:43:26,359
Speaker 3: an apartment for us right away so we could move

972
00:43:26,440 --> 00:43:28,880
Speaker 3: right in. They've been renewing the lease each year. We

973
00:43:29,000 --> 00:43:31,560
Speaker 3: had to pay his parents and then they write a

974
00:43:31,640 --> 00:43:34,040
Speaker 3: check to the landlord, who has no idea who soon

975
00:43:34,120 --> 00:43:36,160
Speaker 3: to be X and I are let alone that we

976
00:43:36,280 --> 00:43:36,640
Speaker 3: live there.

977
00:43:36,840 --> 00:43:39,839
Speaker 2: Dude, I love how the parents set them They they're

978
00:43:39,880 --> 00:43:41,719
Speaker 2: the ones that pushed the prenup. They're the ones that

979
00:43:41,800 --> 00:43:44,360
Speaker 2: did this lease. They dug their own grave, and I

980
00:43:44,440 --> 00:43:44,680
Speaker 2: love it.

981
00:43:44,800 --> 00:43:47,960
Speaker 3: The parents were like just completely set themselves up for

982
00:43:48,239 --> 00:43:52,560
Speaker 3: for maximum failure, red flag. I know. I'm glad I

983
00:43:52,680 --> 00:43:55,239
Speaker 3: had a few weeks to prep my leaving since they'd

984
00:43:55,280 --> 00:43:57,680
Speaker 3: probably used the fact that it's their apartment to punt

985
00:43:57,760 --> 00:43:58,719
Speaker 3: me out immediately.

986
00:43:58,880 --> 00:43:59,960
Speaker 4: And by the way, I.

987
00:44:00,160 --> 00:44:03,040
Speaker 3: Want to like drop back and pass you all the

988
00:44:03,080 --> 00:44:05,160
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990
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Speaker 3: Just search okay story time and you will find what

992
00:44:14,640 --> 00:44:18,480
Speaker 3: is now forty nine consecutive days worth of stories to

993
00:44:18,600 --> 00:44:18,920
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994
00:44:19,280 --> 00:44:20,680
Speaker 4: Till your heart's content.

995
00:44:20,640 --> 00:44:21,440
Speaker 2: And that's a touchdown.

996
00:44:21,520 --> 00:44:23,839
Speaker 3: And that right, there's a touchdown. In fact, I'm gonna

997
00:44:23,880 --> 00:44:26,479
Speaker 3: call that two touchdowns. There's a little bit of story

998
00:44:26,560 --> 00:44:29,280
Speaker 3: left here, so let's finish it off. Divorce is probably

999
00:44:29,320 --> 00:44:31,319
Speaker 3: going to be a bumpy ride with this man child

1000
00:44:31,400 --> 00:44:34,120
Speaker 3: and his psycho parents. Any advice from anyone who's been

1001
00:44:34,200 --> 00:44:36,640
Speaker 3: through it is welcome. And we have some comments from

1002
00:44:36,680 --> 00:44:39,160
Speaker 3: OP here. Commenter says, do you even have a contract

1003
00:44:39,239 --> 00:44:40,880
Speaker 3: at the place you're soon to be ex's living? I

1004
00:44:40,920 --> 00:44:42,680
Speaker 3: don't think they have a basis for suing you. What

1005
00:44:42,800 --> 00:44:43,680
Speaker 3: does your lawyer say?

1006
00:44:43,800 --> 00:44:44,000
Speaker 4: Yeah?

1007
00:44:44,040 --> 00:44:46,279
Speaker 3: And OP says, lawyer is confident they don't have any

1008
00:44:46,360 --> 00:44:48,839
Speaker 3: legs to stand on. I haven't signed any type of lease,

1009
00:44:48,880 --> 00:44:51,319
Speaker 3: and utilities are in their name too, because they were

1010
00:44:51,360 --> 00:44:53,960
Speaker 3: afraid of having too many names connected to the apartment

1011
00:44:54,000 --> 00:44:56,080
Speaker 3: and the landlord finding out, so they are on the

1012
00:44:56,120 --> 00:44:58,160
Speaker 3: hook for everything that doesn't get paid. But hey, it

1013
00:44:58,239 --> 00:45:01,560
Speaker 3: was their choice, and they're scheming f around and find

1014
00:45:01,600 --> 00:45:05,200
Speaker 3: out boom baffo and that faffo.

1015
00:45:05,000 --> 00:45:06,880
Speaker 4: Is the end of that story. Ooh, believe it on

1016
00:45:06,960 --> 00:45:08,480
Speaker 4: a good, nice little faffo right there.

1017
00:45:08,560 --> 00:45:10,040
Speaker 5: That's right. We love a good fat po to edit

1018
00:45:10,080 --> 00:45:10,400
Speaker 5: it off on.

1019
00:45:10,600 --> 00:45:11,000
Speaker 4: That's true.

1020
00:45:12,160 --> 00:45:14,319
Speaker 1: Hey, it's Sam Oghus. We're gonna get back to these

1021
00:45:14,360 --> 00:45:16,759
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Speaker 2: I served my husband divorce papers the day before. He

1024
00:45:21,680 --> 00:45:24,440
Speaker 2: thought he was coming back home. Oh that's what he thinks.

1025
00:45:24,520 --> 00:45:28,000
Speaker 2: Oh gott you think you thought. Trigger warning. There's some

1026
00:45:28,040 --> 00:45:30,040
Speaker 2: substance of use and violence in this story. If that

1027
00:45:30,200 --> 00:45:31,600
Speaker 2: is something that you want to skip, go to the

1028
00:45:31,680 --> 00:45:33,560
Speaker 2: next story and we'll see there. I'm sorry, this is

1029
00:45:33,640 --> 00:45:36,880
Speaker 2: really long backstory. I fifty nine female, was married to

1030
00:45:36,960 --> 00:45:39,759
Speaker 2: my now ex fifty seven male we'll call him Ed

1031
00:45:40,040 --> 00:45:42,279
Speaker 2: for ten years and we were together for thirteen in total,

1032
00:45:42,360 --> 00:45:45,759
Speaker 2: but originally met him forty years ago as teenagers. He

1033
00:45:45,920 --> 00:45:47,480
Speaker 2: was in my circle of friends, but we never dated.

1034
00:45:47,520 --> 00:45:49,799
Speaker 2: By the way, it comes from a CACS sixty five,

1035
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Speaker 2: And if you want to submit your own stories, go

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Speaker 2: to the r slash Okay Storytimes sober So. We used

1037
00:45:53,880 --> 00:45:55,759
Speaker 2: to live in Florida, but when I was nineteen, I

1038
00:45:55,880 --> 00:45:58,919
Speaker 2: moved back to Michigan, where I'm originally from. Twenty seven

1039
00:45:59,040 --> 00:46:01,360
Speaker 2: years later, I went back to the city in Florida

1040
00:46:01,440 --> 00:46:03,759
Speaker 2: where I used to live to visit friends. I ran

1041
00:46:03,800 --> 00:46:06,160
Speaker 2: into Edwall on vacation and we began talking on the

1042
00:46:06,239 --> 00:46:08,960
Speaker 2: phone daily. Three months later, he left for Florida and

1043
00:46:09,160 --> 00:46:11,840
Speaker 2: moved in with me. Three years later, we got married,

1044
00:46:12,160 --> 00:46:12,960
Speaker 2: not my first.

1045
00:46:12,960 --> 00:46:13,560
Speaker 5: But his first.

1046
00:46:13,719 --> 00:46:15,440
Speaker 2: We had her ups, we had her downs, but we

1047
00:46:15,560 --> 00:46:17,640
Speaker 2: mainly got along fine and didn't argue much. He would

1048
00:46:17,680 --> 00:46:20,040
Speaker 2: throw tantrums if things didn't go his way and would

1049
00:46:20,160 --> 00:46:22,680
Speaker 2: punish me by sleeping on the edge of the bed,

1050
00:46:22,920 --> 00:46:25,160
Speaker 2: which was fine with me, or he would not talk

1051
00:46:25,200 --> 00:46:27,640
Speaker 2: to me and slam things. That doesn't sound great. Two

1052
00:46:27,680 --> 00:46:30,160
Speaker 2: years into our marriage, things went horribly wrong when he

1053
00:46:30,320 --> 00:46:31,600
Speaker 2: got into substances.

1054
00:46:31,840 --> 00:46:32,560
Speaker 5: It was horrible.

1055
00:46:32,680 --> 00:46:34,680
Speaker 2: One night, I finally had had enough and was on

1056
00:46:34,800 --> 00:46:36,560
Speaker 2: the phone with my mother in law telling her I

1057
00:46:36,719 --> 00:46:39,120
Speaker 2: was sending him back to Florida when the Sheriff's Department

1058
00:46:39,200 --> 00:46:42,480
Speaker 2: knocked on my door. Someone had found my husband unconscious,

1059
00:46:42,840 --> 00:46:45,640
Speaker 2: attacked in a ditch a block from our house. We

1060
00:46:45,760 --> 00:46:47,720
Speaker 2: lived in a small village with woods across the street.

1061
00:46:47,800 --> 00:46:50,040
Speaker 2: I raced the hospital and didn't recognize him when I

1062
00:46:50,080 --> 00:46:52,279
Speaker 2: saw him. He was so swollen. Now, my husband was

1063
00:46:52,280 --> 00:46:53,839
Speaker 2: a man who could fight, and he was strong. Come

1064
00:46:53,920 --> 00:46:55,560
Speaker 2: to find out, he took three men to do this.

1065
00:46:55,719 --> 00:46:57,560
Speaker 2: They thought they could rob him since it was payday,

1066
00:46:57,680 --> 00:46:59,640
Speaker 2: But when he had been home purposefully, he had left

1067
00:46:59,680 --> 00:47:02,000
Speaker 2: his wall at home. I sat with him twenty four

1068
00:47:02,000 --> 00:47:04,879
Speaker 2: to seven while he was in neuro says trauma ICU.

1069
00:47:05,040 --> 00:47:06,920
Speaker 2: I slept on a couch in his room. I prayed

1070
00:47:06,960 --> 00:47:08,839
Speaker 2: over him, I bathed him and took care of him

1071
00:47:08,960 --> 00:47:11,960
Speaker 2: even after he came home. This actually saved his life.

1072
00:47:12,120 --> 00:47:14,800
Speaker 2: He got clean, went back to work full time, always

1073
00:47:14,840 --> 00:47:17,520
Speaker 2: putting me and my grandson first before his needs. He

1074
00:47:17,680 --> 00:47:19,920
Speaker 2: went to work and came back home and that was it.

1075
00:47:20,320 --> 00:47:23,000
Speaker 2: Four years later, I finished my education and became an

1076
00:47:23,239 --> 00:47:25,520
Speaker 2: ordained priest and have been a pastor at my church

1077
00:47:25,560 --> 00:47:27,520
Speaker 2: ever since. At first he didn't mind, but then he

1078
00:47:27,560 --> 00:47:29,800
Speaker 2: would say things like I didn't set up for this.

1079
00:47:30,280 --> 00:47:32,239
Speaker 2: Even though I never pushed church on him, I knew

1080
00:47:32,239 --> 00:47:34,520
Speaker 2: he believed in God and prayed daily. I would invite

1081
00:47:34,600 --> 00:47:36,879
Speaker 2: him to Christmas and Easter service, and he also came

1082
00:47:36,960 --> 00:47:39,839
Speaker 2: when I ordained my grandson, who calls him Grandpa, who

1083
00:47:39,920 --> 00:47:43,200
Speaker 2: was baptized. For several years, things were really good. Then

1084
00:47:43,280 --> 00:47:46,880
Speaker 2: suddenly he began coming home from work, showering, changing clothes

1085
00:47:47,239 --> 00:47:47,800
Speaker 2: and leave it.

1086
00:47:48,080 --> 00:47:49,600
Speaker 4: That's some suspicious behavior.

1087
00:47:49,760 --> 00:47:51,320
Speaker 2: It's almost as shocking.

1088
00:47:51,600 --> 00:47:52,040
Speaker 4: Shocking.

1089
00:47:52,360 --> 00:47:54,959
Speaker 2: Indeed, seven years things were really good. Then he began

1090
00:47:55,120 --> 00:47:57,319
Speaker 2: coming home from work, showering, changing clothes, and leaving. At

1091
00:47:57,440 --> 00:47:59,759
Speaker 2: first he said it was to watch whatever sports were

1092
00:47:59,760 --> 00:48:02,319
Speaker 2: play on TV because we didn't have live TV. Then

1093
00:48:02,360 --> 00:48:04,560
Speaker 2: he told me that he'd be back whenever he got back.

1094
00:48:04,640 --> 00:48:07,520
Speaker 2: Then things went back to how they were. We laughed

1095
00:48:07,520 --> 00:48:09,800
Speaker 2: a lot, we joked around, and I began getting the

1096
00:48:09,880 --> 00:48:11,919
Speaker 2: usual kiss goodbye before I left for work. Why toight,

1097
00:48:12,000 --> 00:48:13,680
Speaker 2: he had done his laundry like he always did, and

1098
00:48:13,760 --> 00:48:15,840
Speaker 2: I talked to him while he was folding it. He

1099
00:48:15,920 --> 00:48:17,960
Speaker 2: never wanted me to do his laundry, so that wasn't new.

1100
00:48:18,080 --> 00:48:20,480
Speaker 2: We ended the night laughing as he was trying on

1101
00:48:20,600 --> 00:48:23,200
Speaker 2: some old clothes. The next morning, woke up and went

1102
00:48:23,200 --> 00:48:25,000
Speaker 2: out to the living room to ask what time he

1103
00:48:25,040 --> 00:48:26,839
Speaker 2: had to be at work at, but he was gone.

1104
00:48:26,920 --> 00:48:28,840
Speaker 2: I assumed that he had to be there early, so

1105
00:48:28,880 --> 00:48:30,959
Speaker 2: I walked back in the bedroom and saw his key's

1106
00:48:31,040 --> 00:48:33,200
Speaker 2: on the bed, which made me wonder why he would

1107
00:48:33,280 --> 00:48:35,320
Speaker 2: walk to work on such a cold day. It was

1108
00:48:35,400 --> 00:48:39,560
Speaker 2: December first. Dakota Darius say, things are getting escalatingly suspicious.

1109
00:48:39,719 --> 00:48:43,160
Speaker 4: Yeah, he's going up the escalator of suspicion right.

1110
00:48:43,160 --> 00:48:47,960
Speaker 2: Now, eskelats of suspicion. I started leaving the bedroom again

1111
00:48:48,040 --> 00:48:50,320
Speaker 2: and noticed his laundry basket missing. So I went to

1112
00:48:50,400 --> 00:48:52,239
Speaker 2: the laundry room and it wasn't there. I went back

1113
00:48:52,239 --> 00:48:54,880
Speaker 2: into the bedroom and noticed his closet was empty. I

1114
00:48:54,960 --> 00:48:56,520
Speaker 2: called him to see where he was at and asked

1115
00:48:56,520 --> 00:48:58,640
Speaker 2: if he had moved out, and of course his answer

1116
00:48:58,920 --> 00:49:00,759
Speaker 2: was yes. Come to find out that he had met

1117
00:49:00,800 --> 00:49:03,080
Speaker 2: a woman at his job who works for one of

1118
00:49:03,160 --> 00:49:06,040
Speaker 2: those shopping apps where people buy and deliver your groceries.

1119
00:49:06,239 --> 00:49:08,440
Speaker 2: He worked for a large grocery store chain. He had

1120
00:49:08,480 --> 00:49:10,719
Speaker 2: moved in with her. Over the next six months, he

1121
00:49:10,880 --> 00:49:13,920
Speaker 2: called almost daily and would say things like, our marriage

1122
00:49:13,960 --> 00:49:16,399
Speaker 2: will survive this, just give me time. He even told

1123
00:49:16,480 --> 00:49:18,960
Speaker 2: me he would be mad if I began date. During

1124
00:49:19,000 --> 00:49:20,600
Speaker 2: one of our phone calls, he told me he wasn't

1125
00:49:20,640 --> 00:49:23,360
Speaker 2: happy with her and it was going down to Florida

1126
00:49:23,440 --> 00:49:25,560
Speaker 2: to visit family. He wanted to come back to me

1127
00:49:25,880 --> 00:49:28,600
Speaker 2: when he came back to Michigan. The plan was he

1128
00:49:28,640 --> 00:49:30,920
Speaker 2: would pack his things that he couldn't live without, believe

1129
00:49:30,960 --> 00:49:33,080
Speaker 2: a few things at his new girlfriend's house to make

1130
00:49:33,160 --> 00:49:35,920
Speaker 2: her think he was coming home to her. He planned

1131
00:49:35,960 --> 00:49:38,680
Speaker 2: on giving a two week notice to his job while gone,

1132
00:49:38,920 --> 00:49:42,080
Speaker 2: and planned on looking for another job when he came home.

1133
00:49:42,320 --> 00:49:44,040
Speaker 2: By this time, I knew I didn't want him back.

1134
00:49:44,080 --> 00:49:47,040
Speaker 2: I found myself worth again and had made new friends

1135
00:49:47,040 --> 00:49:49,160
Speaker 2: with neighbors once he was gone. Come to find out,

1136
00:49:49,360 --> 00:49:51,319
Speaker 2: nobody liked him. Even the woman at the gas station

1137
00:49:51,400 --> 00:49:53,400
Speaker 2: across the street told me how he flirted with them

1138
00:49:53,440 --> 00:49:55,719
Speaker 2: when he came in. Even an elder at my church

1139
00:49:55,800 --> 00:49:58,080
Speaker 2: found out he was cheating, but didn't tell me because

1140
00:49:58,120 --> 00:49:59,040
Speaker 2: she didn't want to hurt.

1141
00:49:59,320 --> 00:50:02,480
Speaker 4: Can we normal telling people that they're being cheated on?

1142
00:50:02,640 --> 00:50:02,960
Speaker 3: Please?

1143
00:50:03,200 --> 00:50:05,719
Speaker 4: Please? Can we normalize that? I know there's a lot

1144
00:50:05,760 --> 00:50:08,880
Speaker 4: of like, and there's maybe very seldom. There are some

1145
00:50:09,080 --> 00:50:11,440
Speaker 4: occasions where it's like, maybe mind your own business.

1146
00:50:11,280 --> 00:50:14,600
Speaker 2: But anonymous, not like that, but like that boom. I

1147
00:50:14,680 --> 00:50:17,000
Speaker 2: went to the courthouse and got a divorce packed and

1148
00:50:17,200 --> 00:50:19,279
Speaker 2: filled out all the paperwork. Where I live, I was

1149
00:50:19,320 --> 00:50:21,920
Speaker 2: able to serve him myself. I decided that since he

1150
00:50:22,080 --> 00:50:24,240
Speaker 2: chose to end our marriage while working at the store,

1151
00:50:24,320 --> 00:50:26,400
Speaker 2: I would officially end it there. So the day he

1152
00:50:26,520 --> 00:50:28,320
Speaker 2: was supposed to fly to Florida, I made sure I

1153
00:50:28,400 --> 00:50:32,800
Speaker 2: looked really good, new hairstyle, new makeup, am my outfit.

1154
00:50:34,400 --> 00:50:36,799
Speaker 2: I went to his job, found him and handed him

1155
00:50:36,880 --> 00:50:39,760
Speaker 2: the divorce papers. I told him that he was wrong.

1156
00:50:40,080 --> 00:50:43,239
Speaker 2: Our marriage wasn't surviving this. You should have seen his face.

1157
00:50:43,400 --> 00:50:45,400
Speaker 2: He was actually upset with tears in his eyes, and

1158
00:50:45,520 --> 00:50:47,560
Speaker 2: for a moment I felt bad, But then I reminded

1159
00:50:47,640 --> 00:50:49,680
Speaker 2: myself what he had done to me. He didn't just

1160
00:50:49,760 --> 00:50:50,840
Speaker 2: leave me in the middle of the night, but he

1161
00:50:50,880 --> 00:50:53,359
Speaker 2: stopped talking and doing things with my grandson, who thought

1162
00:50:53,400 --> 00:50:55,800
Speaker 2: Grandpa was the greatest. Left me in a house I

1163
00:50:55,800 --> 00:50:57,960
Speaker 2: couldn't afford without him, and I would have been homeless.

1164
00:50:58,080 --> 00:51:00,839
Speaker 2: My church hadn't have paid for him apartment. He told

1165
00:51:00,920 --> 00:51:03,200
Speaker 2: me women were stupid. He actually thought that he could

1166
00:51:03,200 --> 00:51:05,560
Speaker 2: come home as if nothing had happened. That was one

1167
00:51:05,640 --> 00:51:07,760
Speaker 2: thing that he said to me on the phone, because

1168
00:51:07,840 --> 00:51:10,680
Speaker 2: I never brought up the past. Last week, six months

1169
00:51:10,719 --> 00:51:13,960
Speaker 2: after a divorce was final, my car was repossessed. When

1170
00:51:14,000 --> 00:51:16,560
Speaker 2: we were together, he got two loans and I agreed

1171
00:51:16,560 --> 00:51:19,880
Speaker 2: to use my SUV as collateral because I never pictured

1172
00:51:19,920 --> 00:51:23,120
Speaker 2: my life without him, and now here we are picturing

1173
00:51:23,200 --> 00:51:26,080
Speaker 2: your life without him and no suv. Now I wasn't

1174
00:51:26,120 --> 00:51:28,680
Speaker 2: notified because they sent him the letters. They wanted me

1175
00:51:28,840 --> 00:51:30,440
Speaker 2: to pay off his loans to get it back.

1176
00:51:30,560 --> 00:51:33,480
Speaker 5: I burst out laughing a hahaha.

1177
00:51:33,200 --> 00:51:34,960
Speaker 2: And said that will never happen. So my question is

1178
00:51:35,120 --> 00:51:37,799
Speaker 2: am I the a hole for serving him the way

1179
00:51:37,840 --> 00:51:39,880
Speaker 2: I did. There's an update. Thank you for the comments

1180
00:51:39,960 --> 00:51:41,880
Speaker 2: and for the support. Here's a reminder of what happened.

1181
00:51:41,920 --> 00:51:43,440
Speaker 2: My now ex husband got a loan while we were

1182
00:51:43,480 --> 00:51:45,680
Speaker 2: married and used my own car as collateral. A year later,

1183
00:51:45,760 --> 00:51:47,680
Speaker 2: he left me for someone he met at work. He

1184
00:51:47,760 --> 00:51:49,880
Speaker 2: kept telling me that our marriage would survive, just to

1185
00:51:50,000 --> 00:51:52,440
Speaker 2: give him time. He ended up not being happy with her.

1186
00:51:52,600 --> 00:51:54,880
Speaker 2: Planned to come back to me after he left to

1187
00:51:55,000 --> 00:51:57,080
Speaker 2: visit his family out of state. He planned on not

1188
00:51:57,239 --> 00:52:00,640
Speaker 2: telling his girlfriend he was leaving her, pulling the that's

1189
00:52:00,880 --> 00:52:04,040
Speaker 2: that's his classic, bae. It's the classic classic boom.

1190
00:52:04,320 --> 00:52:07,160
Speaker 4: Hey, I've done this one before. It was a huge hit.

1191
00:52:08,200 --> 00:52:10,440
Speaker 2: His plan was to return home to me when he

1192
00:52:10,560 --> 00:52:12,800
Speaker 2: came home the day before he left to visit his family.

1193
00:52:12,880 --> 00:52:15,359
Speaker 2: I served him with the divorce pace Two weeks ago,

1194
00:52:15,560 --> 00:52:17,640
Speaker 2: my car was repossessed and the bank wanted me to

1195
00:52:17,680 --> 00:52:19,799
Speaker 2: pay off three grand of his two loans that he'd

1196
00:52:19,840 --> 00:52:22,360
Speaker 2: stopped paying on seventy fifty seven hundred total. I was

1197
00:52:22,400 --> 00:52:24,319
Speaker 2: willing to pay in my car off, but told them

1198
00:52:24,360 --> 00:52:26,640
Speaker 2: I'd never pays for his loans and they refused. Here's

1199
00:52:26,640 --> 00:52:28,200
Speaker 2: what happened since my post. So we're getting into the

1200
00:52:28,200 --> 00:52:30,520
Speaker 2: real juice now. I found out where my car was

1201
00:52:30,640 --> 00:52:33,040
Speaker 2: being held at two cities away. When I went to

1202
00:52:33,080 --> 00:52:35,879
Speaker 2: the website, I discovered that it's also a location where

1203
00:52:35,920 --> 00:52:40,080
Speaker 2: they sell repossessed cars at an online auction. They hold

1204
00:52:40,120 --> 00:52:42,320
Speaker 2: it every Monday for twenty four hours. I called and

1205
00:52:42,400 --> 00:52:44,120
Speaker 2: asked if I could have my belongings out of it,

1206
00:52:44,239 --> 00:52:46,160
Speaker 2: and they said yes. When I arrived, they had my

1207
00:52:46,239 --> 00:52:48,440
Speaker 2: things in a bag, including my license plate. I registered

1208
00:52:48,520 --> 00:52:51,080
Speaker 2: online and this past Monday began bidding for my car.

1209
00:52:51,239 --> 00:52:55,800
Speaker 2: I ended up buying my car for twenty seven hundred. Wow,

1210
00:52:56,160 --> 00:52:59,040
Speaker 2: that is like three thousand dollars cheaper than the full

1211
00:52:59,120 --> 00:53:00,560
Speaker 2: payout of all the loans. When I showed up to

1212
00:53:00,600 --> 00:53:02,200
Speaker 2: get my car, the people laughed and said I'm not

1213
00:53:02,280 --> 00:53:04,080
Speaker 2: the first person to do this. I put my plate

1214
00:53:04,200 --> 00:53:07,239
Speaker 2: back on and went home. By the way, you can

1215
00:53:07,520 --> 00:53:09,680
Speaker 2: slap a plate in your car, drive home and listen

1216
00:53:09,760 --> 00:53:12,880
Speaker 2: to the greatest show on Earth. In fact, full episodes

1217
00:53:12,920 --> 00:53:15,040
Speaker 2: of it with stories just like this. You go to Spotify,

1218
00:53:15,080 --> 00:53:19,080
Speaker 2: Apple wherever you listen search Okay, story time, You're welcome. Huzzah,

1219
00:53:19,560 --> 00:53:20,279
Speaker 2: listen to the pod.

1220
00:53:20,600 --> 00:53:20,759
Speaker 3: Now.

1221
00:53:21,000 --> 00:53:22,920
Speaker 2: I know the bank can still come after me for

1222
00:53:23,040 --> 00:53:24,960
Speaker 2: the balance, but I honestly don't care if it hits

1223
00:53:25,000 --> 00:53:26,759
Speaker 2: my credit report. I don't use credit cards, and in

1224
00:53:26,880 --> 00:53:29,160
Speaker 2: October my daughter closed on a brand new house. I

1225
00:53:29,200 --> 00:53:31,239
Speaker 2: had no other bills except my cell in utilities. I'm

1226
00:53:31,280 --> 00:53:33,400
Speaker 2: now living with her and my grandson. I was lucky

1227
00:53:33,520 --> 00:53:36,440
Speaker 2: enough to have enough time in to retire when my

1228
00:53:36,640 --> 00:53:39,880
Speaker 2: muscular distro feat began causing more health issues and the

1229
00:53:39,920 --> 00:53:41,840
Speaker 2: money that goes to my other bank. My mother in

1230
00:53:41,960 --> 00:53:44,000
Speaker 2: law was happy to give me his new address so

1231
00:53:44,120 --> 00:53:46,279
Speaker 2: I can sue my ex for the other half of

1232
00:53:46,360 --> 00:53:49,200
Speaker 2: our income tax return that he kept last year.

1233
00:53:49,400 --> 00:53:49,680
Speaker 3: Let's go.

1234
00:53:50,280 --> 00:53:53,440
Speaker 2: She's even having us, me, daughter, grandson day with her

1235
00:53:53,880 --> 00:53:56,680
Speaker 2: when we visit Florida during my grandson's spring break.

1236
00:53:56,880 --> 00:53:59,919
Speaker 3: Op has Literally the mom is really like, I choose

1237
00:53:59,960 --> 00:54:02,759
Speaker 3: you over my own son, which I mean, it makes

1238
00:54:02,760 --> 00:54:03,479
Speaker 3: sense at this point.

1239
00:54:03,600 --> 00:54:05,560
Speaker 2: We love to see it. We honestly love to see.

1240
00:54:05,440 --> 00:54:07,760
Speaker 4: He's a stinky little closet emptier.

1241
00:54:07,760 --> 00:54:12,680
Speaker 2: Right she's calling Ed's ex girlfriend Teresa Trina Tracy everything

1242
00:54:12,800 --> 00:54:14,880
Speaker 2: except her real name, which to start with the letter T.

1243
00:54:15,160 --> 00:54:16,040
Speaker 2: I love woman.

1244
00:54:16,200 --> 00:54:16,680
Speaker 4: That's nice.

1245
00:54:16,920 --> 00:54:19,000
Speaker 5: And you know, we we like that a little bit.

1246
00:54:19,120 --> 00:54:22,440
Speaker 4: We like being a little annoying sometimes. Hmmm, if it's

1247
00:54:22,719 --> 00:54:23,759
Speaker 4: annoying people.

1248
00:54:23,880 --> 00:54:27,080
Speaker 2: The people who truly like this man right here. Oh,

1249
00:54:27,120 --> 00:54:30,479
Speaker 2: he did everything and he still he leaves no word,

1250
00:54:30,640 --> 00:54:32,840
Speaker 2: gets with new girl, pulls the same thing on her,

1251
00:54:32,880 --> 00:54:34,879
Speaker 2: and expects he's coming back to open arms.

1252
00:54:35,160 --> 00:54:37,000
Speaker 4: Yeah, because he's Ladies, just so dumb.

1253
00:54:37,360 --> 00:54:41,959
Speaker 2: What a crazy thing to think. He says that said

1254
00:54:42,160 --> 00:54:46,080
Speaker 2: out loud on the phone to her about their's own situation.

1255
00:54:46,400 --> 00:54:51,000
Speaker 3: You, my friend, are the stupid one. Wow, my friend

1256
00:54:51,440 --> 00:54:53,879
Speaker 3: my enemy. That's a whole other can of words. I'm

1257
00:54:53,880 --> 00:54:56,600
Speaker 3: at the open right now. This guy my enemy, enemy,

1258
00:54:56,719 --> 00:54:57,560
Speaker 3: he's my enemy.

1259
00:54:57,960 --> 00:54:59,040
Speaker 2: But that's the end of that story.