WEBVTT - #50 Sex Ed 0:00:00.480 --> 0:00:04.480 Hell I Suck At Dating with Dean, Vanessa and Jared 0:00:04.760 --> 0:00:10.200 and I heart radio podcast. Hello everyone, thank you for 0:00:10.280 --> 0:00:12.520 joining us on another episode of help by Suck At 0:00:12.600 --> 0:00:16.079 Dating as always Dean Angler joyed in studio by Jared. Hey, 0:00:16.360 --> 0:00:20.200 what's going on? Markie Wong? Yes, I missed you guys 0:00:20.280 --> 0:00:24.599 in Vegas. I wasn't part of that show. Hey Easton 0:00:24.720 --> 0:00:27.080 was there? Mark? Where were you? I go to as 0:00:27.080 --> 0:00:29.000 little as possible. I don't blame it, and so I 0:00:29.040 --> 0:00:30.880 skipped that one. I might have to go next year. 0:00:30.920 --> 0:00:32.880 I mean it was super fun, but it was a lot. 0:00:33.360 --> 0:00:35.000 Did I. I were just gonna say that right now. 0:00:35.040 --> 0:00:37.159 You missed a lot. We missed you out there. Thank you. 0:00:37.320 --> 0:00:39.960 Eastern and I recorded a podcast together on the festival 0:00:40.040 --> 0:00:44.320 grounds Saturday day stage, which was fantastic. I'm sure that 0:00:44.360 --> 0:00:47.960 everyone's probably listening to that podcast by now right. Uh, yeah, 0:00:48.120 --> 0:00:50.920 everyone's listening to It's not gonna see the light of day. Well, 0:00:51.960 --> 0:00:54.040 it's really loud out there. Well, just a Dean show. 0:00:54.080 --> 0:00:55.440 We'll put that one into the vault. No, it was 0:00:55.480 --> 0:00:58.600 the Dean Beccas show. It was I'm trying to get 0:00:58.600 --> 0:01:00.200 the powers that be to let us release a because 0:01:00.200 --> 0:01:01.840 actually was really good. I think the thing with that 0:01:01.880 --> 0:01:04.240 one was there was a live band playing a hundred 0:01:04.319 --> 0:01:06.880 yards away from us. Max was playing Lights down Low, 0:01:07.080 --> 0:01:09.600 not far from where we were recording. Max was phenomenal, 0:01:09.640 --> 0:01:12.840 But uh, yeah, great weekend in Vegas. I think hopefully 0:01:12.840 --> 0:01:14.480 you guys have listened to the last episode where we 0:01:14.520 --> 0:01:17.320 recorded exactly from the Vegas pool party with Jason and Blake. 0:01:17.360 --> 0:01:18.920 With Jason and Blake exactly, it was a good one. 0:01:18.959 --> 0:01:20.800 Was a lot of bro talk, a lot of bro talk, 0:01:21.080 --> 0:01:23.680 which is not necessarily something have or not something that 0:01:23.720 --> 0:01:25.240 we have often on this show. So it's nice to 0:01:25.280 --> 0:01:27.960 be able to kind of like speak candidly about our lives. 0:01:28.120 --> 0:01:29.399 But I think a lot of girls thought there are 0:01:29.400 --> 0:01:32.040 going to be very interested to hear Blake and Jason's 0:01:32.080 --> 0:01:36.160 perspective and how they're dating right now and what's going 0:01:36.200 --> 0:01:39.640 on with their lives. It's crazy because it changes so quickly, 0:01:39.959 --> 0:01:42.399 so so drastically and so quickly. You know, it's like 0:01:42.440 --> 0:01:45.240 they went from being already like attractive, good looking, desirable 0:01:45.280 --> 0:01:49.000 guys to then having the recognizability that you get coming 0:01:49.000 --> 0:01:51.080 off of the TV show, and it's like it's something 0:01:51.120 --> 0:01:52.880 you can really prepare yourself for and so it's always 0:01:52.880 --> 0:01:56.080 interesting to hear their input about what's changed for them personally. 0:01:56.080 --> 0:01:59.920 Do you remember the moment when your name got released. Yeah, 0:02:00.240 --> 0:02:02.480 I was on my way to do blood work for 0:02:02.560 --> 0:02:05.920 Paradise and I was in the parking lot, and I 0:02:05.960 --> 0:02:08.720 remember my mom called me. It was like, ABC just 0:02:08.760 --> 0:02:11.160 released your guy's names for the Bachelor rete And it 0:02:11.240 --> 0:02:13.919 was one of the scariest moments of my life because 0:02:13.960 --> 0:02:16.880 a couple of hours later, the local Providence journal put 0:02:17.120 --> 0:02:19.600 um my picture up and said he's twenty six, his 0:02:19.680 --> 0:02:23.760 name is Jared uh He is a restaurant manager in Providence. 0:02:23.960 --> 0:02:27.600 Anything you know about him, please send this email. And 0:02:27.639 --> 0:02:33.320 I remember thinking like, oh, like, I wonder do I 0:02:33.320 --> 0:02:35.480 have enemies out there there? People are gonna like talk 0:02:35.520 --> 0:02:38.080 crap about me. What's about to happen in my life? 0:02:38.080 --> 0:02:40.640 And it was a super intimidating moment. I remember I 0:02:40.680 --> 0:02:43.079 was playing golf I think when our profiles got released, 0:02:43.080 --> 0:02:44.800 and one of the first text messages I got was 0:02:44.880 --> 0:02:48.960 from my college girlfriend, who I've discussed in brief on 0:02:49.040 --> 0:02:51.600 this podcast about how she was always kind of the 0:02:51.639 --> 0:02:54.680 one that got away whatever whatever. Within maybe twenty minutes 0:02:54.680 --> 0:02:55.959 of the profile was being released, I think it was 0:02:56.000 --> 0:02:58.000 on the eighth hole or something like that. She texts 0:02:58.080 --> 0:03:01.440 me a snapshot of my profile and saying, so it 0:03:01.480 --> 0:03:05.200 looks like you got over me. Huh kind of low. 0:03:05.360 --> 0:03:08.360 How long? How long? We did a year? A little 0:03:08.360 --> 0:03:10.000 over a year in college when I was nineteen, So 0:03:10.000 --> 0:03:12.840 we've been apart for seven years, okay, but like it's 0:03:12.840 --> 0:03:15.120 been like going like, yeah, there's it was. But it 0:03:15.160 --> 0:03:16.920 was just one of the first reactions that I had gotten. Like, 0:03:16.919 --> 0:03:19.120 obviously my friends and all that reacted and um, some 0:03:19.280 --> 0:03:22.400 of to your story. There was someone that worked for 0:03:22.480 --> 0:03:24.720 one of those news outlets like People E whatever, it 0:03:24.840 --> 0:03:28.280 was us Weekly that reached out to like fifty of 0:03:28.360 --> 0:03:30.520 my friends. And every single time that she reached out 0:03:30.520 --> 0:03:32.000 to one of my friends, they would obviously send me 0:03:32.000 --> 0:03:34.120 a screenshot and say like, Hey, this person is reaching 0:03:34.120 --> 0:03:36.200 out to me asking me questions about you, like hey, 0:03:36.240 --> 0:03:37.720 how do you know Dean, how is he as a person? 0:03:37.720 --> 0:03:39.520 Blah blah blah blah blah. And I was like, that's 0:03:39.560 --> 0:03:43.080 just really weird that people are asking my friends about 0:03:43.120 --> 0:03:46.560 me that don't know them. I remember being on Facebook 0:03:46.920 --> 0:03:50.200 and remembering the scene the first like thread about me, 0:03:50.640 --> 0:03:53.160 and it was like Jarard's on the Bachelor, and it 0:03:53.200 --> 0:03:55.160 was always people I knew from high school. It was 0:03:55.200 --> 0:03:57.760 so weird for people just to be talking about me 0:03:57.880 --> 0:04:00.760 without me involved in the conversation. That was as experience 0:04:00.760 --> 0:04:04.280 that I ever had about any type of my mind 0:04:04.360 --> 0:04:06.960 was mine was unique because I went on live TV 0:04:07.640 --> 0:04:11.440 right and so everyone and then I had I had 0:04:11.480 --> 0:04:15.160 no way of seeing the reaction afterwards because they still 0:04:15.200 --> 0:04:16.800 had they had my phone. I couldn't get on my 0:04:16.839 --> 0:04:18.960 email anything like that, and so I remember the first 0:04:19.000 --> 0:04:21.400 time that I was able to get on my Facebook 0:04:21.400 --> 0:04:24.719 page was just before my hometown. We were hungover. We're 0:04:24.720 --> 0:04:27.600 staying over in a hotel in Los Angeles before the hometowns, 0:04:27.600 --> 0:04:30.000 you know how that works. And I remember like at 0:04:30.000 --> 0:04:31.640 this point it was me in the final four, but 0:04:31.680 --> 0:04:33.800 like I was just accompanied by my one producer that 0:04:33.800 --> 0:04:35.560 I was working closely with, and so I was like, hey, 0:04:35.560 --> 0:04:36.720 like I'm gonna go down to the pool and just 0:04:36.720 --> 0:04:38.480 like relax for a little bit. She's like, all right, fine, 0:04:38.480 --> 0:04:40.120 I'm gonna stay up here. So obviously, like the first 0:04:40.120 --> 0:04:42.320 thing I did my first second of being alone in 0:04:42.400 --> 0:04:44.680 two months is I go to the computer, get on 0:04:44.720 --> 0:04:47.200 my Facebook page, and I see just like a hundred 0:04:47.200 --> 0:04:49.520 and fifty wall posts of Oh my god, I can't 0:04:49.560 --> 0:04:52.280 believe Dean did this and is on TV and said 0:04:52.320 --> 0:04:54.600 this to Rachel and now he's in a track to 0:04:54.680 --> 0:04:57.400 find love, and like people were like reaching out to 0:04:57.400 --> 0:04:59.800 my brother, and my brother was like saying funny stuff, 0:05:00.040 --> 0:05:02.880 like like complimentary and like encouraging stuff. But it was 0:05:02.920 --> 0:05:04.840 always just like you said, it's funny to see people 0:05:04.880 --> 0:05:06.600 talking about you without you being part of the conversation. 0:05:06.720 --> 0:05:10.600 I remember your opening line, yes, and what was your 0:05:10.640 --> 0:05:13.400 opening line again, which I think that we can all 0:05:13.440 --> 0:05:15.480 look back and laugh at now. But I think it's funny. 0:05:15.560 --> 0:05:17.039 I said, Rachel, I want to go black and never 0:05:17.120 --> 0:05:20.760 go back. Yeah. And then I think there's a lot 0:05:20.760 --> 0:05:23.400 of people that were like, is Dean racist? And then 0:05:23.440 --> 0:05:25.839 my brother came out and said, my brother is the 0:05:25.920 --> 0:05:27.839 nicest person in the world. I think him and Rachel 0:05:27.880 --> 0:05:29.680 would make an incredible couple together, because I think a 0:05:29.680 --> 0:05:31.440 lot of people were reaching out to my brother being like, hey, 0:05:31.520 --> 0:05:33.719 is your brother racist? And my brother is obviously like, oh, 0:05:33.800 --> 0:05:36.520 he's not hot, he's just he was joking the whole 0:05:36.560 --> 0:05:39.440 premise of the season. It was the first black lead 0:05:39.600 --> 0:05:41.400 on one of those shows that was a big deal, 0:05:41.480 --> 0:05:43.400 and I think, oh, you're doing is referencing that right 0:05:43.480 --> 0:05:46.000 that exactly. It's not like ABC wasn't referencing that. They 0:05:46.040 --> 0:05:48.880 sure were. One of the lines that I is a 0:05:48.920 --> 0:05:51.160 pet peeve of mine that I don't like is I 0:05:51.200 --> 0:05:53.840 don't see color. It's like, no, I see color. It's 0:05:53.880 --> 0:05:56.640 just how you treat everybody. You treat everybody equally as 0:05:56.680 --> 0:05:59.320 a human being, like I see color. So like just 0:05:59.560 --> 0:06:02.440 uh remark like that. I've always taken it's a joke 0:06:02.800 --> 0:06:06.400 and it's fine. But that was I remember now. I 0:06:06.400 --> 0:06:09.000 remember that was now, and it's all coming back to 0:06:09.040 --> 0:06:11.360 me seeing you on my TV and being like, that's right, 0:06:11.560 --> 0:06:13.560 like that before you even knew me, dude, I was 0:06:13.600 --> 0:06:15.520 loved man when I got to the limo. I don't 0:06:15.520 --> 0:06:19.240 know if you even want you your Superman shirt the 0:06:19.279 --> 0:06:20.920 other day and you said something about love man, and 0:06:21.000 --> 0:06:22.599 I was gonna text you and be like, what the 0:06:22.600 --> 0:06:26.600 hell is love man? Dean? I am love ben um. 0:06:26.640 --> 0:06:28.400 So when I got out of the limo, I had 0:06:28.440 --> 0:06:33.000 a shirt made for me, a blue shirt with like 0:06:33.040 --> 0:06:35.160 the Superman symbol, but instead of an S, it was 0:06:35.200 --> 0:06:40.640 an L for love man. And what I was you know, 0:06:41.320 --> 0:06:46.039 obviously it was a collaboration, you know, to come up 0:06:46.080 --> 0:06:47.760 with that idea to figure out what I was gonna 0:06:47.760 --> 0:06:50.560 do a limo, and somebody suggested maybe you should like 0:06:50.880 --> 0:06:53.480 jump out of the limo and rip your shirt open 0:06:53.520 --> 0:06:56.640 and run up to Brittain Caitlin and and say that 0:06:56.680 --> 0:06:59.640 your love man, and you're here to like rescue them 0:06:59.720 --> 0:07:02.880 from the other evil bachelors that are trying to steal 0:07:03.040 --> 0:07:06.440 their heart. And I was like, there is no I 0:07:06.640 --> 0:07:08.360 cannot do that. I can't come out of the gate 0:07:08.440 --> 0:07:14.040 so strong with your affection and infatuation with and just cheesiness. 0:07:14.360 --> 0:07:16.560 Well but that is kind of who you are, but 0:07:16.600 --> 0:07:20.840 you can't be like that. So what I ultimately did 0:07:20.960 --> 0:07:23.560 was walked out of the limo, introduced myself to both 0:07:23.560 --> 0:07:27.520 women and then said that I have this alter ego, 0:07:28.200 --> 0:07:31.560 I have this other side of me, and he represents 0:07:32.040 --> 0:07:37.120 um humility and care and love and support. And there 0:07:37.160 --> 0:07:40.160 it is. Eastern's bringing up a picture right now that 0:07:40.320 --> 0:07:42.600 was that that was in Providence, Rhode Island, that I 0:07:42.720 --> 0:07:46.480 filmed in front of the State House ums. That shirt 0:07:46.560 --> 0:07:48.640 was made at the side of the Providence placed mall 0:07:48.880 --> 0:07:51.720 on the stairs next to Prenaire bread on one of 0:07:51.760 --> 0:07:54.200 the producers on his hands and knees, coloring in this 0:07:54.360 --> 0:07:57.560 red heart over this white T shirt. Mind you, this 0:07:57.680 --> 0:08:01.480 was February, so it's like twenty degrees outside and I'm 0:08:01.560 --> 0:08:04.440 just in this T shirt and these gym shorts that 0:08:04.480 --> 0:08:08.520 they bought for me, which was apparently my superhero outfit. Um, 0:08:08.600 --> 0:08:11.040 and then that continued into the limo entrance as well, 0:08:11.120 --> 0:08:13.800 so cringing pretty harder. Dude, it was, Dude, is so bad. 0:08:13.880 --> 0:08:15.480 It was so bad. And I remember like I had 0:08:15.560 --> 0:08:17.840 unbuttoned my shirt and show them the l and I 0:08:17.840 --> 0:08:20.440 was like, I had the shirt made for me, thank god. 0:08:20.480 --> 0:08:23.120 Though in the opening they really just kind of like 0:08:24.680 --> 0:08:27.880 through that, and then it just everybody forgot about it. 0:08:28.400 --> 0:08:31.200 I think the whole, the whole, we started this conversation 0:08:31.240 --> 0:08:35.120 talking about Blake and Jason kind it's all about us, really, 0:08:35.640 --> 0:08:37.480 it's all about us. Well, guys, definitely check out Blake 0:08:37.520 --> 0:08:39.719 and Jason's podcast that we record in Vegas. But I 0:08:39.720 --> 0:08:41.720 guess the point that we were making was because you 0:08:41.760 --> 0:08:43.400 said when you when you were announced, you were getting 0:08:43.400 --> 0:08:46.720 your blood work done for Paradise. Yeah, and they obviously 0:08:46.760 --> 0:08:51.120 did not go to Paradise. So I think which almost helps, uh, 0:08:51.360 --> 0:08:53.679 kind of like what's the word I'm looking for, Like 0:08:53.800 --> 0:08:56.440 when you into the world a little bit better because 0:08:56.880 --> 0:08:58.880 when you go to Paradise, as you know, your first season, 0:08:58.920 --> 0:09:01.720 you're in Paradise all your season is airing, and so 0:09:01.760 --> 0:09:04.640 you don't necessarily fully grasp the idea of how it 0:09:04.640 --> 0:09:07.600 all works, at least I didn't personally, um, And so 0:09:07.640 --> 0:09:08.920 it's nice for them they can kind of, you know, 0:09:09.040 --> 0:09:11.319 enjoy it for the next year. You know, maybe you 0:09:11.320 --> 0:09:12.400 want to be the Bachelor, maybe you want to go 0:09:12.400 --> 0:09:14.040 to Paradise, but at that point they'll have at least 0:09:14.360 --> 0:09:15.880 lived it and enjoyed it and kind of know what 0:09:15.920 --> 0:09:19.400 to expect more forward. It's also interesting for the audience 0:09:19.440 --> 0:09:21.000 because it's probably a lot of people don't know this, 0:09:21.120 --> 0:09:23.880 but you don't get to watch your season of The 0:09:23.880 --> 0:09:26.640 Bachelorette before you go on Paradise. Like for the girls 0:09:26.640 --> 0:09:29.000 going to Paradise, they've seen their entire season to the 0:09:29.040 --> 0:09:32.280 Bachelor's unfair. I've talked about this before. I think, do 0:09:32.320 --> 0:09:34.840 you think it helps or hurts the guys to not 0:09:35.120 --> 0:09:40.080 see themselves what the audience reaction is towards them hurts 0:09:40.320 --> 0:09:45.719 for But I also do think that some guys manifest 0:09:46.120 --> 0:09:50.679 this not edit, but like, if you come across as 0:09:50.720 --> 0:09:52.959 the nicest guy alive on TV, then all of a sudden, 0:09:52.960 --> 0:09:56.320 you're gonna try to cater to that and not be yourself. 0:09:56.360 --> 0:09:59.559 I absolutely with that. And then reversal, if you come 0:09:59.600 --> 0:10:02.520 off like a douche, you're gonna do everything you can 0:10:02.720 --> 0:10:05.720 to try to shake that. You think, probably why not 0:10:05.840 --> 0:10:08.080 unless you really just want to own it like some 0:10:08.120 --> 0:10:10.040 guys have in the past. I guess there are people 0:10:10.080 --> 0:10:13.000 that have gone in, been edited certainly way come out 0:10:13.080 --> 0:10:16.280 and then just embody that lifestyle moving forward. But I 0:10:16.400 --> 0:10:18.320 definitely think that. I think I was talking to Christine 0:10:18.320 --> 0:10:21.160 about this because it's like you go on the Bachelor 0:10:21.320 --> 0:10:23.480 and then you have like five months off until paradise, 0:10:23.520 --> 0:10:26.480 and as going on the Bachelorette, you film it boom 0:10:26.520 --> 0:10:29.280 quickly two or three week break paradise, and it's like 0:10:29.320 --> 0:10:31.560 a lot to like even just process emotionally. And then 0:10:31.600 --> 0:10:34.280 on top of that, you also don't understand exactly how 0:10:34.679 --> 0:10:37.880 the public is going to like perceive you unless your 0:10:37.920 --> 0:10:40.079 grocery store Joe and then you go home night one, 0:10:40.120 --> 0:10:43.240 but you're still just an absolute rock star. Sure, because 0:10:43.280 --> 0:10:46.280 most of the people that are memorable from the Bachelorette 0:10:46.520 --> 0:10:50.439 are usually you know, top six, so he's definitely an anomaly. 0:10:50.480 --> 0:10:52.920 For sure, you don't get to see your entire bachelorette 0:10:52.920 --> 0:10:55.679 experience before you go to Paradise, but grocery store, that's 0:10:55.679 --> 0:10:57.280 a great point. I got to see that. I will 0:10:57.320 --> 0:11:00.120 say I thought that I was going to be I 0:11:00.120 --> 0:11:01.920 didn't think that I was gonna be very well received 0:11:02.000 --> 0:11:03.920 by everyone. Why did you think that? I just had 0:11:03.960 --> 0:11:05.960 no idea, Like I was like, okay, like their goal 0:11:06.040 --> 0:11:08.719 is to make us all look bad. Um, I had 0:11:08.800 --> 0:11:12.920 honestly no idea. And then even like my hometown, I 0:11:12.920 --> 0:11:14.600 was like, it was the weirdest hometown ever. Like they're 0:11:14.600 --> 0:11:17.280 gonna do whatever they can to make it look as 0:11:17.280 --> 0:11:19.280 bad off for me as possible. I felt like, but 0:11:19.320 --> 0:11:21.640 obviously they didn't necessarily In like my first one on 0:11:21.640 --> 0:11:24.079 one when I opened up about my whole experience and stuff, 0:11:24.080 --> 0:11:26.040 I was like, Oh, everyone's gonna give me crap for that, 0:11:26.800 --> 0:11:28.400 But I mean, obviously not so much the case. So 0:11:28.400 --> 0:11:31.240 so it's like, even if you go into Paradise with 0:11:31.280 --> 0:11:33.840 an idea, you never fully know. So, like I said, 0:11:34.160 --> 0:11:36.160 Jason and Blake, if they decided to Paradise or if 0:11:36.160 --> 0:11:39.079 one's the Bachelor, at some point, like they'll have lived 0:11:39.080 --> 0:11:41.480 out their airtime on TV and fully really know what 0:11:41.520 --> 0:11:44.319 they're going into a second time instead of just kind 0:11:44.320 --> 0:11:46.160 of going and blind and like an understanding of how 0:11:46.160 --> 0:11:47.800 it works, but not how it's going to be received. 0:11:48.640 --> 0:11:50.400 That's my take on it. And so, yeah, so like 0:11:50.440 --> 0:11:52.640 to hear about how their dating life is going now 0:11:52.800 --> 0:11:56.040 outside of the show is a unique experience because, like 0:11:56.080 --> 0:11:58.560 you said, you went to Paradise immediately following I don't 0:11:58.559 --> 0:12:00.679 remember how your first Paradise went. Did you didn't leave 0:12:00.679 --> 0:12:02.280 in a relationship, did you? No? No? No, No No? I 0:12:02.360 --> 0:12:04.720 left alone, So I was there for it was pretty 0:12:04.800 --> 0:12:07.760 much probably the same dude I left the day before 0:12:08.440 --> 0:12:11.080 the road ceremony going into was that the controversial one 0:12:11.080 --> 0:12:13.840 of U Kayla? And actually was so who did you? 0:12:14.160 --> 0:12:16.160 I don't alone? No, I didn't have. I only was 0:12:16.240 --> 0:12:18.840 with Ashley, really, and then I want to date with Claire. 0:12:19.200 --> 0:12:22.839 There's other girl there, Um right, that's right, Yeah, of 0:12:22.880 --> 0:12:25.680 course you know Claire. Claire's great, she's a sweetheart. Um. 0:12:26.640 --> 0:12:29.160 On Paradise season two, it was really just Ashley and I. 0:12:29.920 --> 0:12:32.960 And then that's why we became really good friends during filming, 0:12:33.000 --> 0:12:35.920 but not into a relationship. And then I left by myself, 0:12:35.960 --> 0:12:38.480 and then Ashley left the next day. But you weren't 0:12:38.559 --> 0:12:40.720 dating actually after the show or anything like that. No, 0:12:40.720 --> 0:12:43.720 no, no no, we started becoming close in October of that 0:12:43.800 --> 0:12:46.080 year are are We had a charity event together and 0:12:46.080 --> 0:12:48.200 then I saw her and we started hanging out. And 0:12:48.200 --> 0:12:52.000 then that's when we become you know, it started. I 0:12:52.040 --> 0:12:55.560 started realizing that we were going to become close in 0:12:55.679 --> 0:12:58.200 one way or another. I guess my experience with it 0:12:58.240 --> 0:13:01.080 was I went off Paradise and and I continued to 0:13:01.240 --> 0:13:03.920 date from Paradise, you know what I mean. So it's 0:13:03.920 --> 0:13:06.640 like I didn't necessarily come off the show. I came 0:13:06.640 --> 0:13:09.320 off the show The Bachelorette more single than ever. This 0:13:09.360 --> 0:13:11.560 actually brings up a question of mine that I wanted 0:13:11.559 --> 0:13:14.920 to ask you. Within relationships. You said that you continue 0:13:15.000 --> 0:13:17.920 dating right afterwards, not even your personal experience, but just dating. 0:13:18.160 --> 0:13:20.520 Anybody listening and can relate to this. If you're in 0:13:20.520 --> 0:13:25.960 a relationship that's not going well, do you advocate taking 0:13:26.040 --> 0:13:30.000 a break and cutting off communication or do you advocate 0:13:30.040 --> 0:13:33.679 trying to fight through it and continue dating that person? 0:13:33.760 --> 0:13:36.520 I think, because like I heard a story yesterday where 0:13:36.600 --> 0:13:38.600 this girl's dating this guy. They they've been on and 0:13:38.640 --> 0:13:40.520 off for three years. It's not really going that well 0:13:40.600 --> 0:13:43.160 right now, but they're best friends. They lived together, and 0:13:43.200 --> 0:13:44.959 I was saying, you know, sometimes the best thing is 0:13:45.000 --> 0:13:47.080 really caught off communication and figure out if you can 0:13:47.120 --> 0:13:50.120 live without this person, because a lot of times, you know, 0:13:50.160 --> 0:13:52.199 you take a break from somebody and then you realize, 0:13:52.240 --> 0:13:55.040 oh my god, I can't live without this. Everything that 0:13:55.120 --> 0:13:57.760 I was complaining about I overrated in my head because 0:13:58.240 --> 0:14:02.800 it's so small compared to my life without you. I 0:14:02.840 --> 0:14:06.480 think relationships are like farts. If you have to force it, 0:14:06.480 --> 0:14:10.400 it's probably and an on and off again, an on 0:14:10.480 --> 0:14:13.240 and off again relationship after three years, it sounds like 0:14:13.240 --> 0:14:16.000 you're about to your pants. So you would advocate cutting 0:14:16.000 --> 0:14:20.040 off all communication. In my opinion, it's there are definitely 0:14:20.040 --> 0:14:22.640 certain circumstances where you become rare reliant on each other, 0:14:22.640 --> 0:14:26.600 and that's important. But in my opinion, it's like relationships 0:14:26.600 --> 0:14:28.360 do take work, and then is necessary to put work 0:14:28.360 --> 0:14:31.080 into them, but it's not constant. If like, if you're 0:14:31.160 --> 0:14:33.920 constantly like having to remind yourself how important relationship is, 0:14:33.960 --> 0:14:37.200 and maybe it just isn't meant to be. Yeah, I 0:14:37.200 --> 0:14:40.720 would also say I I jump off that. Sure it 0:14:40.920 --> 0:14:45.680 may not meant to be, but I think you really 0:14:45.680 --> 0:14:48.120 it's I don't think you can know that until you 0:14:48.200 --> 0:14:52.120 let it go, if that makes any sense. For example, 0:14:52.160 --> 0:14:56.120 I think I heard something about like Justin bal They 0:14:56.120 --> 0:14:59.680 were dating for like three years and then they broke up, 0:15:00.320 --> 0:15:03.800 and then two months later, Justin was like, I cannot 0:15:03.800 --> 0:15:06.720 live my life without you, which apparently is what mirrors 0:15:06.840 --> 0:15:09.720 is all about. Like Jessica Biel is his mirror, Like 0:15:09.800 --> 0:15:13.800 he can't just not look at himself without seeing her. 0:15:13.920 --> 0:15:23.080 I don't know what, but actually we should bring the 0:15:23.120 --> 0:15:26.160 guest here, all right, hold on one second before we 0:15:26.200 --> 0:15:28.080 get to Lacy. I want to talk about something that's 0:15:28.200 --> 0:15:30.440 very close to my heart right now, because I actually 0:15:30.480 --> 0:15:32.520 just watched the creed To trailer and it made me 0:15:32.560 --> 0:15:35.000 really want to get back into the gym because I 0:15:35.040 --> 0:15:38.200 saw um Michael be joining with the shirt off and 0:15:38.200 --> 0:15:40.720 realized that I really need to start working out again. 0:15:40.800 --> 0:15:43.160 So what I've been doing, and Dean, you've been talking 0:15:43.160 --> 0:15:46.320 about this a lot as well, is beach Body on Demand. Now, 0:15:46.360 --> 0:15:48.400 you guys, you've heard us talking about beach Body on 0:15:48.480 --> 0:15:50.920 Demand for a while have you gotten your free trial yet? 0:15:51.120 --> 0:15:53.680 Because listen, it has the history of success. This is 0:15:53.720 --> 0:15:58.720 the company behind pet Insanity, one Day Fix. 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I think 0:16:26.560 --> 0:16:28.960 it's all about like personality for me, Like if you're 0:16:29.000 --> 0:16:32.120 going and being like the sexiest man ever, it's like 0:16:32.120 --> 0:16:34.000 you can you need that confidence, but like I wanted 0:16:34.000 --> 0:16:36.080 to also be like fun, you know what I mean, 0:16:36.120 --> 0:16:38.120 Like if you're going in and being oh, totally I'm 0:16:38.160 --> 0:16:41.680 not going in trying to be sexy. I'm totally going Yeah, 0:16:41.760 --> 0:16:43.960 That's where I would like if he was like dead serious, 0:16:44.000 --> 0:16:45.920 being like I'm going to be the best of my career. 0:16:45.960 --> 0:16:47.920 This is my life, is my identity. I'd be like, okay, 0:16:47.960 --> 0:16:49.920 maybe like you're have a great body. No, I don't 0:16:49.920 --> 0:16:52.320 plan on waxing my chest or anything like that, but 0:16:52.400 --> 0:16:54.600 I do want to get a dance routine going and 0:16:54.720 --> 0:16:57.680 like gray tan to uh you know, I've actually gone 0:16:57.720 --> 0:16:59.280 back and forth about a spray tan because I don't 0:16:59.280 --> 0:17:00.840 want to be, you know, rip off my shirt and 0:17:00.880 --> 0:17:03.320 have everybody be blinded by bad paleness. But they can 0:17:03.360 --> 0:17:06.800 add ads. Well, apparently it's like more like baby a right, 0:17:06.840 --> 0:17:08.800 ads like an extra line. I got that from neighbors too. 0:17:08.840 --> 0:17:11.560 That's what zach Efron said, So it's gotta be true obviously. Well, 0:17:11.600 --> 0:17:13.879 beach Bondy on Demand, I'm definitely doing for that. But also, 0:17:14.200 --> 0:17:17.680 Beach Bondy on Demand doesn't do just workouts. They do well. 0:17:17.840 --> 0:17:19.959 They do a lot of different fitness level stuff. 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