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Speaker 1: Shot Jones and Big Onme the call back in this

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Speaker 1: time for another episode of Big Facts Friday. What's up? Everybody?

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Speaker 1: Everybody feeling? What's what's on everybody mind? This beautiful day,

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Speaker 1: feeling good? Everybody's blessed? Right? Anything on anybody's mind or heart?

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Speaker 1: I ask you all that every week, and y'all be

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Speaker 1: really do do you have anything? I'm good? Are you good?

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Speaker 1: I'm good? Your shockers on line? My shockers are anything's

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Speaker 1: good because I worked them. I worked on them. You meditate, yes,

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Speaker 1: make do too? Know why why we can't? Oh no,

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna say that for them, So go ahead, all right,

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Speaker 1: thinking of some ship. But this big thing come, we

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Speaker 1: just I just can't be a dream and we go

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Speaker 1: to sleep? Is reality? That's a great question. Hit them?

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Speaker 1: You feel that? Mean? I feel with my dream? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Because you have you know that, No, you haven't been

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Speaker 1: working in your dream? You feel it have a wet dream,

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Speaker 1: bro it ain't this ain't that type of shows PTSD,

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Speaker 1: I keep telling even made it a minute then now

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Speaker 1: the kids can't watch God damn. Thought about that though,

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Speaker 1: Like what if right now is not really happening and

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Speaker 1: we're dreaming? You know, you have a dream and you

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Speaker 1: what up and you had a miss called from the

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Speaker 1: person your dream? But yeah, that has not happened to

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Speaker 1: Have you ever thought about somebody and they start calling

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Speaker 1: you happen till Yeah, that's kind of that could be coincidental.

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Speaker 1: How does this happened too often? People? But people calling

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Speaker 1: me that I ain't talked to a year? That's what

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Speaker 1: I'm saying. That mean your third eyes open? Yeah, I'm

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Speaker 1: tapping say less. Yeah, I don't think that happens to

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Speaker 1: people as much unexplained because I keep seeing ship that

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Speaker 1: I say that same scenario, same conversation with the same people.

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Speaker 1: How m you ever smell some ship and took you

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Speaker 1: back to the place you guess that's sensory. But like

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Speaker 1: if you hear a song, it'll bring you back all

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Speaker 1: the way years ago and make you think of a

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Speaker 1: certain I mean that ain't really but that's that's really

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Speaker 1: like nothing memory, yeah, make you Yeah, actually I'll do,

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Speaker 1: but I'll be thinking, like I jumped to myself, like

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Speaker 1: what I don't know, it's some scary ship. You don't

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Speaker 1: gotta be scary, like this ship be so much the

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Speaker 1: thought be so crazy to be like no, Okay, I

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Speaker 1: see what you're saying, because I've seen some ship like

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Speaker 1: it's gonna will but you know, like we're cooking this

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Speaker 1: ship like and and drank it cloged up. I've seen

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Speaker 1: some ship online to say, would you send this ship

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Speaker 1: for five million dollars? And now the picture of the

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Speaker 1: straw within the water you're talking abo junk. Yeah, I

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Speaker 1: get what you're saying. Make you jump, so I enter

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Speaker 1: my thing about the others start that's so fucking nasty. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: that's what I'm saying. That like like something to make

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Speaker 1: your make your skin skin cross the baby like ship.

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Speaker 1: You get what I'm saying. Like it could be a

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Speaker 1: thought too though, Yeah, I mean I do that if

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Speaker 1: I like, well, that's not really a thought. If I

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Speaker 1: So is that like do you think of ship and

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Speaker 1: you have to reject it like bad thoughts you don't

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Speaker 1: want to think about there's anything like stupid ship. It

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Speaker 1: could be tripping fucking thinking about that dumbash like if

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Speaker 1: I see like uh, if I'm driving, I see like

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Speaker 1: a hearsing song that my mind did not have to

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Speaker 1: I don't even want to think about all that. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: here on this plan. Yes, so all that multiverse ship

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Speaker 1: coming from from go ahead, go ahead. They're trying to

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Speaker 1: slowly transition us into that world. We don't say everything

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Speaker 1: that we have seen in movies, come come, come to

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Speaker 1: pay right, Yeah, like all the endemic all ship it

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Speaker 1: has been one where the aliens it really as us

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Speaker 1: the movies with the fucking and the fucking, So that

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Speaker 1: It could be a fact I think I am, m hmm. Thank,

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Speaker 1: j what we're doing today. Okay, So the word of

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Speaker 1: That's so are we talking about well, obviously we're not

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Speaker 1: but primarily you're both of them. But life trauma emotional trauma.

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Speaker 1: like anytime you know you think she's going wrong. I've

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Speaker 1: And I've been in too many situations where I escaped

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Speaker 1: by hair. You'mpa Yes, yeah, absolutely, especially when you think

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Speaker 1: about like life circumstances, like you know, if you're boring

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Speaker 1: into like parents that's like drug addicts or that type

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Speaker 1: of nature, you're definitely born into trauma because in that way,

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Speaker 1: You're gonna be dealing with bs Off the dribble so

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Speaker 1: you're definitely boring into drama, I mean trauma, but exactly

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Speaker 1: that maybe that's a conundrum. Desensitize, Yeah, yeah, you can

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Speaker 1: see you can see so many some so many times

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Speaker 1: see it on TV. You see it on television. But

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Speaker 1: I tried not to watch any of these police killers

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Speaker 1: think it's the trauma that we're exposed to. I think

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Speaker 1: it's the the violence and the it's I can't think

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Speaker 1: ship that we're being exposed to is causing the trauma.

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Speaker 1: But what we're actually being exposed to is I can't

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Speaker 1: the violence and the and the like the negative ship,

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Speaker 1: trauma that we're experiencing. So how do you or can

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Speaker 1: expiration in therapy? Therapy? What's some other ways? Though? I

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Speaker 1: disconnect from the world. That's the only way, m or

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Speaker 1: find an outlet, find an outlet, disconnect. You gotta read

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Speaker 1: yourself up to me, you know what I'm saying. What

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Speaker 1: you mean like, you gotta literally make yourself not give

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Speaker 1: through your thoughts in triggers. But it's like a recorded

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Speaker 1: like your mind records your life, right, so it's like recorded,

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Speaker 1: You gotta program youah man, They're just like but if

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Speaker 1: get say, don't give a funk about that. I'm saying,

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Speaker 1: like with Jay was saying, you disconnect, like move yourself

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Speaker 1: I had to start being real with myself or why

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Speaker 1: So when you have those triggers happen, you realize like, damn,

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Speaker 1: So you've got programs said not even give a funk

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Speaker 1: because my mom wouldn't know what that means. You grown now.

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Speaker 1: But some people deal with like some people deal with

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Speaker 1: No matter how we try to ship in shape it,

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Speaker 1: So if somebody would be like, I ain't ship because

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Speaker 1: just saying like, but you, but from your perspective, that's perspective, Like, Okay,

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Speaker 1: don't me. You can't got them continuously go through something

425
00:22:21,520 --> 00:22:25,399
Speaker 1: and and not just check out of it. That's just

426
00:22:25,560 --> 00:22:29,400
Speaker 1: my opinion on that. I can go through some ship

427
00:22:29,560 --> 00:22:32,640
Speaker 1: that affects me forever in my life, but not even

428
00:22:32,720 --> 00:22:36,280
Speaker 1: that keep doing it. It's like, fool me once, I

429
00:22:36,320 --> 00:22:39,520
Speaker 1: got a choice, right, Yeah, fool me once. Shame on me,

430
00:22:40,880 --> 00:22:42,760
Speaker 1: fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice. Same

431
00:22:43,520 --> 00:22:47,280
Speaker 1: re rewire yourself. Like if you knowing this woman beat

432
00:22:47,359 --> 00:22:52,119
Speaker 1: on you, bro or whatever she doing, you're gonna keep

433
00:22:52,160 --> 00:22:53,680
Speaker 1: going back that when you do it because you're leaving

434
00:22:53,680 --> 00:22:55,280
Speaker 1: the house. I just seeing that the folk got you

435
00:22:55,440 --> 00:22:58,440
Speaker 1: chained to the bed. They're different. That's different when having

436
00:22:58,440 --> 00:23:00,479
Speaker 1: the folks and dungeons and all that ship. That different.

437
00:23:01,280 --> 00:23:04,119
Speaker 1: But but you're going around people, but I'm missing you.

438
00:23:04,200 --> 00:23:07,479
Speaker 1: Gotta find me. If that's truma, I gotta go there,

439
00:23:07,560 --> 00:23:12,119
Speaker 1: going to right, that's just you and your strong minds.

440
00:23:12,359 --> 00:23:13,760
Speaker 1: You know, what are you saying? What are you saying?

441
00:23:14,880 --> 00:23:17,600
Speaker 1: You and let him keep doing what you what he's

442
00:23:17,600 --> 00:23:21,720
Speaker 1: speaking of life and choices like everybody isn't able to

443
00:23:21,760 --> 00:23:24,399
Speaker 1: say everybody can make their own choices, not saying that

444
00:23:24,640 --> 00:23:26,880
Speaker 1: there are not people that's not strong will that don't

445
00:23:26,920 --> 00:23:28,520
Speaker 1: make the right choices. But he's saying that at the

446
00:23:28,600 --> 00:23:30,879
Speaker 1: end of the day, you can't take your kids and

447
00:23:31,000 --> 00:23:34,720
Speaker 1: go to Wyoming if you want to, how you gonna

448
00:23:34,720 --> 00:23:39,919
Speaker 1: get there? Well, what money you're saying, you're saying you're

449
00:23:39,920 --> 00:23:42,520
Speaker 1: speaking of somebody that's just depending on the abuser. You're

450
00:23:42,560 --> 00:23:47,320
Speaker 1: saying that if they aren't that nor menally in the

451
00:23:47,400 --> 00:23:50,479
Speaker 1: place to be able to leave, one of the reasons,

452
00:23:50,520 --> 00:23:52,440
Speaker 1: and one of the factors that they aren't able to

453
00:23:52,520 --> 00:23:56,240
Speaker 1: leave is because this person is their supports depending on

454
00:23:57,119 --> 00:24:00,040
Speaker 1: That is a different situation if they're financially dependent on

455
00:24:00,200 --> 00:24:03,600
Speaker 1: this because nine times out of tend if you're not

456
00:24:03,920 --> 00:24:08,480
Speaker 1: financially or whatever dependent on this person, you have a

457
00:24:08,520 --> 00:24:11,160
Speaker 1: strong enough mind to be able to try to lift

458
00:24:11,200 --> 00:24:14,160
Speaker 1: yourself out of that situation. But if you don't, then

459
00:24:14,240 --> 00:24:17,159
Speaker 1: you can't. Do you think that's some type of that

460
00:24:17,280 --> 00:24:19,879
Speaker 1: put you in the wrong too, for giving somebody that

461
00:24:20,000 --> 00:24:22,879
Speaker 1: much power. I would just kind of try to say that,

462
00:24:22,960 --> 00:24:26,359
Speaker 1: like that is there a weird comfort in this situation?

463
00:24:26,560 --> 00:24:28,600
Speaker 1: Like are you Are you comfortable in this situation in

464
00:24:28,640 --> 00:24:32,440
Speaker 1: a weird way? Like kind of like, well, this bad

465
00:24:32,600 --> 00:24:36,520
Speaker 1: is happening, but at least I know you see what

466
00:24:36,560 --> 00:24:41,119
Speaker 1: I'm saying. But I think I think that comfortability comes

467
00:24:41,320 --> 00:24:46,760
Speaker 1: from a place of kind of being stuck and stagnant

468
00:24:46,840 --> 00:24:50,280
Speaker 1: in this situation, Like it's not it's not there's no

469
00:24:50,440 --> 00:24:53,600
Speaker 1: excuse for it, for allowing someone to have that much

470
00:24:53,680 --> 00:24:56,920
Speaker 1: power over you. But whatever caused you to be in

471
00:24:57,040 --> 00:25:02,320
Speaker 1: that situation, like you know, certain different things happened like

472
00:25:02,680 --> 00:25:05,080
Speaker 1: that caused people to get in situations like that. But

473
00:25:05,200 --> 00:25:07,800
Speaker 1: at the end of the day, it's like if you're

474
00:25:07,800 --> 00:25:11,440
Speaker 1: a victim in a situation, true enough, like there's no

475
00:25:11,600 --> 00:25:15,120
Speaker 1: excuse for again you're allowing to have that much power

476
00:25:15,160 --> 00:25:17,080
Speaker 1: over you. But at the end of the day, like

477
00:25:17,800 --> 00:25:20,760
Speaker 1: we don't know what the factor's words that let up

478
00:25:20,880 --> 00:25:23,800
Speaker 1: or that caused that situation, or that caused that person

479
00:25:23,840 --> 00:25:26,240
Speaker 1: to be in a situation where that person had to

480
00:25:26,320 --> 00:25:29,520
Speaker 1: have that much power over them. It's unique situations. He's time,

481
00:25:31,400 --> 00:25:34,240
Speaker 1: but that's still you still coming from an excuse place

482
00:25:34,400 --> 00:25:37,119
Speaker 1: to me. If you're gonna allow if you're gonna put

483
00:25:37,119 --> 00:25:40,840
Speaker 1: yourself in a situation that you're uncomfortable with for your game,

484
00:25:42,000 --> 00:25:44,560
Speaker 1: you're wrong too. You're just as wrong as the abusing

485
00:25:45,359 --> 00:25:49,000
Speaker 1: for receiving it and accepted it, just as wrong you're

486
00:25:49,080 --> 00:25:52,480
Speaker 1: using them. You funk with them because there aren't times

487
00:25:52,520 --> 00:26:00,560
Speaker 1: where they're There are times that I'm experience from the

488
00:26:00,640 --> 00:26:03,399
Speaker 1: people that I know that have been in domestic situations,

489
00:26:03,640 --> 00:26:06,200
Speaker 1: and it's not about that they didn't funk with the

490
00:26:06,320 --> 00:26:09,520
Speaker 1: person like the nigga or whatever. They really loved this

491
00:26:09,600 --> 00:26:11,679
Speaker 1: nigg and they really care for this nig and they

492
00:26:11,760 --> 00:26:15,200
Speaker 1: really like really gave their life up for this, for

493
00:26:15,400 --> 00:26:19,840
Speaker 1: this nigga or whatever. And he in turn chipped away,

494
00:26:19,920 --> 00:26:22,879
Speaker 1: chipped away, chipped away, chipped away, broke it down, isolated them,

495
00:26:23,160 --> 00:26:26,160
Speaker 1: got him away from everybody, whatever, whatever, and then made

496
00:26:26,200 --> 00:26:29,159
Speaker 1: them feel like, okay, like you're nothing without me. And

497
00:26:29,240 --> 00:26:32,240
Speaker 1: then once he started, you're feeling like nothing without me

498
00:26:32,320 --> 00:26:35,879
Speaker 1: or whatever whatever. That's when, okay, like the depression set in.

499
00:26:36,040 --> 00:26:39,480
Speaker 1: Like when they got isolated from everybody, they didn't feel

500
00:26:39,560 --> 00:26:43,080
Speaker 1: like being around people because it was just so much

501
00:26:43,119 --> 00:26:46,280
Speaker 1: ship going on. Then when they started getting like beat

502
00:26:46,320 --> 00:26:48,520
Speaker 1: on and ship, they didn't want to go around anybody,

503
00:26:48,640 --> 00:26:50,280
Speaker 1: let them see like the bruises and you know what

504
00:26:50,280 --> 00:26:52,880
Speaker 1: I'm saying, all that s it's just is the ship

505
00:26:53,000 --> 00:26:55,239
Speaker 1: is just like it's just fucked up. It's fucked up,

506
00:26:55,440 --> 00:26:58,000
Speaker 1: it's funked up. But you're still make an excuse for

507
00:26:58,200 --> 00:27:01,640
Speaker 1: this person to beat on you. Regardless of what you're saying,

508
00:27:01,680 --> 00:27:04,520
Speaker 1: You're still making any excuse. If you got hid the

509
00:27:04,600 --> 00:27:06,800
Speaker 1: fact that somebody is abusing you, what are you doing?

510
00:27:07,600 --> 00:27:09,760
Speaker 1: So what you're saying is and when this ship happened,

511
00:27:10,359 --> 00:27:12,800
Speaker 1: it should just be out there. And that's like, just

512
00:27:12,880 --> 00:27:16,280
Speaker 1: put it out there women, because a lot of women

513
00:27:16,560 --> 00:27:20,720
Speaker 1: don't put it out there. Worse happening. Yeah, Okay, he

514
00:27:20,840 --> 00:27:22,800
Speaker 1: just he just smacked me this time. But if I

515
00:27:22,880 --> 00:27:25,280
Speaker 1: go out there and let somebody see it and then

516
00:27:25,320 --> 00:27:27,040
Speaker 1: I have to explain to somebody what's going on, and

517
00:27:27,119 --> 00:27:29,320
Speaker 1: then I have to tell him that this nigga smacked me,

518
00:27:29,680 --> 00:27:31,760
Speaker 1: then this nigga might stop me out the next time,

519
00:27:31,800 --> 00:27:34,119
Speaker 1: where this nigga might kill me next time, or like

520
00:27:34,240 --> 00:27:39,680
Speaker 1: anything next time. If you want what was always a

521
00:27:39,760 --> 00:27:42,159
Speaker 1: threat of him killing you? It don't matter what what

522
00:27:42,400 --> 00:27:46,040
Speaker 1: was it? But again, like I said, it's easier to

523
00:27:46,119 --> 00:27:48,520
Speaker 1: say when you're not in that situation. What was it?

524
00:27:48,640 --> 00:27:51,119
Speaker 1: What was it? What Tina? Do you think if for

525
00:27:51,280 --> 00:27:54,920
Speaker 1: Tina it was like for Tina Turning? I'm just speaking

526
00:27:54,960 --> 00:27:57,240
Speaker 1: because we saw the documentary in the movie, like, do

527
00:27:57,359 --> 00:28:00,920
Speaker 1: you think that that was her not being strong? Will?

528
00:28:01,040 --> 00:28:03,359
Speaker 1: Do you think that was her comfortability with this is

529
00:28:03,520 --> 00:28:05,920
Speaker 1: my record producer of the person that kind of moves

530
00:28:06,000 --> 00:28:08,320
Speaker 1: my career and I need his career. I feel like

531
00:28:08,640 --> 00:28:12,560
Speaker 1: her trying to say face for both of them. Yeah,

532
00:28:12,560 --> 00:28:14,399
Speaker 1: But at the same time, I mean, I give you that.

533
00:28:15,280 --> 00:28:17,199
Speaker 1: Most of the time, when women are in a situations

534
00:28:17,280 --> 00:28:19,440
Speaker 1: like you don't want to admit that, like, yo, the

535
00:28:19,520 --> 00:28:21,840
Speaker 1: person that I said I'm in love with is now

536
00:28:22,200 --> 00:28:25,159
Speaker 1: beating my back. It's embarrassing. And on top of that,

537
00:28:25,280 --> 00:28:27,320
Speaker 1: you don't want to go and say, like, let's say

538
00:28:27,359 --> 00:28:29,280
Speaker 1: you did hit me right and you're telling me you

539
00:28:29,320 --> 00:28:31,240
Speaker 1: ain't gonna never do that again. You don't want to

540
00:28:31,280 --> 00:28:33,920
Speaker 1: go and tell screaming and now scream gotta beat for

541
00:28:34,000 --> 00:28:36,240
Speaker 1: this man because I didn't told a scream that he

542
00:28:36,280 --> 00:28:38,360
Speaker 1: didn't woop my ask this one time, and it may have.

543
00:28:38,560 --> 00:28:40,480
Speaker 1: I'm believing that it was just that one time. A

544
00:28:40,560 --> 00:28:42,200
Speaker 1: lot of times women don't know that they're gonna get

545
00:28:42,200 --> 00:28:44,520
Speaker 1: their as beat again, but then again and again and again.

546
00:28:44,640 --> 00:28:52,120
Speaker 1: Look at speaking even goes back to that's still an excuse.

547
00:28:52,480 --> 00:28:59,400
Speaker 1: You know what you got, you know you in your face,

548
00:29:00,040 --> 00:29:01,560
Speaker 1: so you gotta nip that in the bud right there.

549
00:29:01,600 --> 00:29:04,160
Speaker 1: If you don't like that, I mean, I agree, and

550
00:29:04,240 --> 00:29:07,840
Speaker 1: I'm saying that no, no, it's gonna happen. Great, let

551
00:29:07,880 --> 00:29:10,320
Speaker 1: me get the funk I'm around you. But no woman

552
00:29:10,400 --> 00:29:12,440
Speaker 1: knows that it's gonna happen when that when that first

553
00:29:12,520 --> 00:29:17,040
Speaker 1: time from somebody that you feel like I'm gonna know

554
00:29:17,040 --> 00:29:18,880
Speaker 1: how to deal with. But when it happened the first time,

555
00:29:19,440 --> 00:29:21,440
Speaker 1: should that should that not be a deal? Breakup? That

556
00:29:21,520 --> 00:29:23,800
Speaker 1: should that shouldn't be That's what I'm saying. So that

557
00:29:23,960 --> 00:29:25,880
Speaker 1: after that, after that, any time after that, what are

558
00:29:25,920 --> 00:29:31,520
Speaker 1: you doing? But some people manuse but he don't matter,

559
00:29:31,680 --> 00:29:35,760
Speaker 1: It don't matter what the underlying excuses. It's dealing excuse. Okay,

560
00:29:35,880 --> 00:29:37,280
Speaker 1: let me let me say this for him, just taking

561
00:29:37,320 --> 00:29:40,880
Speaker 1: the icon Tina situation for instance, Like I got Tina

562
00:29:41,000 --> 00:29:45,760
Speaker 1: when she was what sixteen? He took her, He changed

563
00:29:45,800 --> 00:29:49,080
Speaker 1: her life. In the beginning, he wasn't ending her. He's

564
00:29:49,120 --> 00:29:50,800
Speaker 1: all she knew. He wasn't beating on her. None of

565
00:29:50,880 --> 00:29:54,120
Speaker 1: that ship they did, all of this ship, they made

566
00:29:54,120 --> 00:29:57,920
Speaker 1: a career, they had kids. Then slowly but surely, it

567
00:29:58,040 --> 00:30:00,680
Speaker 1: started turning for the worst. It wasn't like, Okay, he

568
00:30:00,840 --> 00:30:02,440
Speaker 1: just beat the funk out of her the first time,

569
00:30:02,840 --> 00:30:04,440
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. It started with a smack,

570
00:30:04,800 --> 00:30:07,160
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. Then he like grabbed her

571
00:30:07,200 --> 00:30:10,680
Speaker 1: hair or whatever, and but every time he apologized. So

572
00:30:10,920 --> 00:30:14,520
Speaker 1: it's like she was into this situation so deep. So

573
00:30:14,720 --> 00:30:17,920
Speaker 1: every time this nig apologized. Okay, there was a piece

574
00:30:17,960 --> 00:30:21,040
Speaker 1: of hope there. Okay, maybe he was like serious and

575
00:30:21,120 --> 00:30:24,719
Speaker 1: he's not gonna do this anymore. Whatever, but come out

576
00:30:24,720 --> 00:30:27,880
Speaker 1: of tea you're dealing with and drink Bill, drink. Look

577
00:30:28,880 --> 00:30:31,200
Speaker 1: he's snapping on everybody, be beating on their being, on

578
00:30:31,240 --> 00:30:33,520
Speaker 1: all the bad members and everything. How the fun's gonna

579
00:30:33,520 --> 00:30:39,040
Speaker 1: believe this ain't him tonight because I'm bleeding, ain't know

580
00:30:39,160 --> 00:30:52,000
Speaker 1: something making her making skills Like if I'm with a chicken.

581
00:30:52,160 --> 00:30:54,040
Speaker 1: She stabbed me once, I'm not gonna get stay around

582
00:30:54,080 --> 00:30:56,720
Speaker 1: and get stabbed again. I don't care how much I

583
00:30:56,760 --> 00:31:00,080
Speaker 1: think I'm parting the hit home Girl through goddamn it

584
00:31:00,560 --> 00:31:03,880
Speaker 1: all of leader who along the whole crazy She stopped

585
00:31:03,920 --> 00:31:05,640
Speaker 1: him when you said that, I mean leaving alone with

586
00:31:05,680 --> 00:31:07,200
Speaker 1: crazy and that's don't shot at me on a wheelchair

587
00:31:07,200 --> 00:31:08,280
Speaker 1: for the rest of the life. That bitch ain't know

588
00:31:08,280 --> 00:31:13,040
Speaker 1: where to be found. M He was making excuses. She

589
00:31:13,240 --> 00:31:15,959
Speaker 1: was just mad. Bro throw don'gree something. No, this bitch crazy,

590
00:31:16,080 --> 00:31:19,239
Speaker 1: bro right a wrong. You can love the motherfucker so much,

591
00:31:19,320 --> 00:31:22,280
Speaker 1: do you traumatize your damn self as all I'm saying. Yeah,

592
00:31:22,440 --> 00:31:27,120
Speaker 1: I agree, I agree, but you're making excuses. At the

593
00:31:27,200 --> 00:31:31,640
Speaker 1: same time, if you ain't coming up like the other

594
00:31:31,680 --> 00:31:33,880
Speaker 1: women you see a lot of women, it would be

595
00:31:34,000 --> 00:31:36,040
Speaker 1: deal break up. But this nigga raised his voice in me.

596
00:31:36,920 --> 00:31:38,800
Speaker 1: I'm not doing that. I'm not I'm not playing like

597
00:31:38,920 --> 00:31:44,120
Speaker 1: that and won't call you no more. Yeah, I'm serious

598
00:31:44,320 --> 00:31:46,280
Speaker 1: that that's a person that's not making excuses for you.

599
00:31:46,360 --> 00:31:49,760
Speaker 1: I'm gonna how mad you get, don't do that, hopefully

600
00:31:49,760 --> 00:31:51,440
Speaker 1: I say I. Hopefully I say it another one because

601
00:31:51,440 --> 00:31:53,520
Speaker 1: you don't been the hell let me no more. I'm not.

602
00:31:54,120 --> 00:32:00,080
Speaker 1: That's that's still that. That's like, that's that's a and

603
00:32:00,480 --> 00:32:04,240
Speaker 1: level minded person, any any level minded person that like

604
00:32:04,640 --> 00:32:06,360
Speaker 1: that's a deal breaker for me, Like I'm not gonna

605
00:32:06,400 --> 00:32:09,280
Speaker 1: do my fuck you, I'm not gonna do that, but somebody.

606
00:32:09,720 --> 00:32:13,800
Speaker 1: But there are people out there that aren't able to

607
00:32:14,000 --> 00:32:17,160
Speaker 1: process that like that, and it and it may be

608
00:32:17,280 --> 00:32:20,040
Speaker 1: an excuse, it may not be whatever whatever, based upon

609
00:32:20,160 --> 00:32:22,160
Speaker 1: whatever they've been through in their life. I can't say.

610
00:32:22,480 --> 00:32:24,680
Speaker 1: But at the end of the day, it's like it's

611
00:32:24,800 --> 00:32:27,000
Speaker 1: it's once you're in that situation, and once you're in

612
00:32:27,080 --> 00:32:29,240
Speaker 1: it so deep, it's not that easy to just say

613
00:32:29,280 --> 00:32:32,320
Speaker 1: fuck it. Yeah, And then you never know. She already

614
00:32:32,360 --> 00:32:36,920
Speaker 1: dealt with previous trauma, so whatever he bringing is almost normalized.

615
00:32:37,240 --> 00:32:39,120
Speaker 1: I get exactly what y'are saying, trust me, and I

616
00:32:39,280 --> 00:32:43,719
Speaker 1: don't disagree. But what I'm saying is I don't understand

617
00:32:43,800 --> 00:32:46,600
Speaker 1: it because everybody has a choice at the end of

618
00:32:46,640 --> 00:32:49,800
Speaker 1: the day. You're saying, if a nigga take care of you, okay,

619
00:32:49,920 --> 00:32:51,840
Speaker 1: then go broke it for even sleep up butting the

620
00:32:51,880 --> 00:32:54,840
Speaker 1: motherfucking bridge with them and then beat on't you? So

621
00:32:54,960 --> 00:32:57,800
Speaker 1: what are you doing? There are some people that sleep

622
00:32:57,840 --> 00:33:00,880
Speaker 1: in the bridges that get abused, and I'm just saying

623
00:33:01,920 --> 00:33:08,080
Speaker 1: the normal They ain't doing that, bro. If this is

624
00:33:08,160 --> 00:33:10,880
Speaker 1: my brain is working. So if a hustler in the

625
00:33:11,000 --> 00:33:17,120
Speaker 1: streets hustling, can they code? They can cold turkey leave

626
00:33:17,160 --> 00:33:21,760
Speaker 1: the game. But it's gonna come. It's gonna be difficult,

627
00:33:21,760 --> 00:33:24,400
Speaker 1: it's gonna be a process. You can you can wait up, bro,

628
00:33:24,640 --> 00:33:26,960
Speaker 1: if you want to quit that ship, you can quit it, right,

629
00:33:27,280 --> 00:33:33,160
Speaker 1: But will it come with something? What you don't say

630
00:33:33,200 --> 00:33:35,120
Speaker 1: you're gonna do something, you can do it and just

631
00:33:35,200 --> 00:33:36,760
Speaker 1: the bottom line, you can't make it. You Well, I

632
00:33:36,800 --> 00:33:38,280
Speaker 1: gotta do this because I gotta pay my bill here

633
00:33:38,280 --> 00:33:39,600
Speaker 1: and I gotta figure out how gonna pay my bill.

634
00:33:39,600 --> 00:33:43,959
Speaker 1: I ain't suck streets no more. It's just what it is, bro.

635
00:33:44,240 --> 00:33:46,400
Speaker 1: No matter what you're doing, you have a choice. We

636
00:33:46,560 --> 00:33:49,160
Speaker 1: make We make choices out of being comfortable. Bro, you

637
00:33:49,240 --> 00:33:54,120
Speaker 1: got to understanding sometimes that comfort Now I said earlier,

638
00:33:54,360 --> 00:33:57,680
Speaker 1: comfort put you get comfortable and kind of fucked up

639
00:33:57,720 --> 00:34:01,600
Speaker 1: situation sometimes like they're comfortable, and the situations like that

640
00:34:01,680 --> 00:34:03,240
Speaker 1: could be the case in the streets, that could be

641
00:34:03,360 --> 00:34:06,040
Speaker 1: the case in the abusers relate. That's all I'm saying.

642
00:34:06,080 --> 00:34:07,320
Speaker 1: So at the end of the day, if you really

643
00:34:07,360 --> 00:34:09,000
Speaker 1: want to get the funk away around me, no matter

644
00:34:09,040 --> 00:34:11,440
Speaker 1: how entirely threing you, no matter because he's already abusing you.

645
00:34:12,560 --> 00:34:15,279
Speaker 1: What's worst and getting the funk on what? Wait? What

646
00:34:15,520 --> 00:34:19,120
Speaker 1: I'm going? What? What? What? Um? What? Partners fear playing

647
00:34:19,160 --> 00:34:25,840
Speaker 1: it though, people because some people that might be abuse

648
00:34:25,960 --> 00:34:28,560
Speaker 1: watching this. So if they're if they're in fear, what

649
00:34:28,920 --> 00:34:31,160
Speaker 1: we tell them. And it's not that we're counselors, are professional,

650
00:34:31,320 --> 00:34:34,440
Speaker 1: You're just talking to me. I feel like anytime I'm scared,

651
00:34:34,920 --> 00:34:39,600
Speaker 1: if I'm scared, what I'm gonna do? Yes, I see

652
00:34:39,640 --> 00:34:41,440
Speaker 1: your motherfucking bad In the words I'm an run even

653
00:34:41,440 --> 00:34:43,560
Speaker 1: though they're talking about ste back and heyy baron, No,

654
00:34:44,200 --> 00:34:46,719
Speaker 1: I'm that's just what you know, what I'm saying, that's

655
00:34:46,719 --> 00:34:51,680
Speaker 1: just yeah, like if you see motherfucker's shoot, what's your

656
00:34:51,680 --> 00:34:56,880
Speaker 1: first nime you're gonna do? Get low and rung. But

657
00:34:57,160 --> 00:35:01,120
Speaker 1: I'm just saying, whatever it is, nigga, stop dropping road

658
00:35:01,239 --> 00:35:03,239
Speaker 1: either yeah it's on fire, they tell you stop dropping road,

659
00:35:03,280 --> 00:35:09,640
Speaker 1: didn't get up in wrong whatever. Usually defense mechanism, like yeah,

660
00:35:09,680 --> 00:35:12,800
Speaker 1: you know you're like you said, defense mess kicking m

661
00:35:13,560 --> 00:35:15,799
Speaker 1: So what you're doing, you're finding something about that ship

662
00:35:15,880 --> 00:35:18,239
Speaker 1: you like and making a nigger skills. I don't think

663
00:35:18,320 --> 00:35:22,439
Speaker 1: it's that. What is nothing Nobody wants to Nobody likes

664
00:35:22,480 --> 00:35:24,279
Speaker 1: being abused. Let's just put that out. I said, you'll

665
00:35:24,320 --> 00:35:27,560
Speaker 1: find something about the situation. Nobody like the sation. Some

666
00:35:27,680 --> 00:35:30,239
Speaker 1: people are like for real, like everybody don't have the

667
00:35:30,280 --> 00:35:32,560
Speaker 1: mindset that you have. Everybody had a mindset Jade and

668
00:35:32,640 --> 00:35:34,880
Speaker 1: I have, Like everybody don't have that, so like and

669
00:35:35,000 --> 00:35:38,520
Speaker 1: everybody don't deal with they're like trauma the same type

670
00:35:38,520 --> 00:35:41,960
Speaker 1: of ways neither. So what I'm saying is some people

671
00:35:42,040 --> 00:35:46,920
Speaker 1: are really, really really at their lowest point, especially like,

672
00:35:47,000 --> 00:35:49,080
Speaker 1: if you're not, you know what I'm saying. Hold on,

673
00:35:49,200 --> 00:35:50,680
Speaker 1: let me let me say this shot. You're not you

674
00:35:50,719 --> 00:35:52,920
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. Trust me, I know everybody is

675
00:35:52,960 --> 00:35:56,600
Speaker 1: not having strong wheel. Strong minded people are in certain

676
00:35:56,640 --> 00:36:00,200
Speaker 1: situations because they feel like their forced to be, not

677
00:36:00,360 --> 00:36:03,080
Speaker 1: because they are for they feel that way. They feel like.

678
00:36:03,480 --> 00:36:05,760
Speaker 1: So when you're feeling a certain type of way because

679
00:36:06,440 --> 00:36:08,640
Speaker 1: you're when you're feeling weak, what are you're doing? You're

680
00:36:08,680 --> 00:36:11,280
Speaker 1: making an excuse for yourself to stay in that situation.

681
00:36:11,680 --> 00:36:14,200
Speaker 1: I ain't saying this right or wrong. I ain't saying it.

682
00:36:14,440 --> 00:36:16,040
Speaker 1: I ain't been a situation that I don't want to

683
00:36:16,040 --> 00:36:17,600
Speaker 1: be in. I ain't saying I don't do things that

684
00:36:17,680 --> 00:36:19,640
Speaker 1: I don't want to do. I'm not saying that. I'm

685
00:36:19,640 --> 00:36:21,239
Speaker 1: not saying that I don't make excuse of What I'm

686
00:36:21,239 --> 00:36:25,759
Speaker 1: saying is when you're standing up abutiful situation or or

687
00:36:25,840 --> 00:36:28,399
Speaker 1: the streets because I need to pay my bills, that's

688
00:36:28,400 --> 00:36:36,359
Speaker 1: an excuse. With other options options, and you're doing something

689
00:36:36,400 --> 00:36:38,960
Speaker 1: that's that you don't want to do, you're making an excuse.

690
00:36:39,000 --> 00:36:42,000
Speaker 1: But even taking, even taking like a person that's in

691
00:36:42,040 --> 00:36:45,239
Speaker 1: a deep depression, when you're down in that hole. You

692
00:36:45,320 --> 00:36:48,240
Speaker 1: don't see those other options. Those other options aren't visible

693
00:36:48,280 --> 00:36:50,480
Speaker 1: to you. And it takes a lot to pull yourself

694
00:36:50,560 --> 00:36:54,359
Speaker 1: out of that hole. It's not, it's not it takes

695
00:36:54,480 --> 00:36:56,319
Speaker 1: more than a lot. It takes more than a little

696
00:36:56,360 --> 00:36:58,279
Speaker 1: bit to pull yourself out of that hole. And when

697
00:36:58,320 --> 00:37:02,440
Speaker 1: you're when you're in that hole of depression or abuse,

698
00:37:02,600 --> 00:37:04,200
Speaker 1: or you know what I'm saying, whatever it is, it's

699
00:37:04,280 --> 00:37:07,480
Speaker 1: like you're down there and you're looking up, but there's

700
00:37:07,520 --> 00:37:10,799
Speaker 1: no light there because whatever reason. You know what I'm

701
00:37:10,800 --> 00:37:12,480
Speaker 1: saying that, like you said, it may be an excuse

702
00:37:12,920 --> 00:37:18,320
Speaker 1: or whatever, but it's not always that's simple. Did I

703
00:37:18,400 --> 00:37:21,000
Speaker 1: just said it. I ain't saying that it's simple or easy.

704
00:37:21,120 --> 00:37:24,840
Speaker 1: I'm saying at the end of the day, the bottom

705
00:37:24,920 --> 00:37:29,640
Speaker 1: line to it, the what you call it, the diagnosis

706
00:37:29,880 --> 00:37:33,919
Speaker 1: of it is an excuse. You always can change your mind,

707
00:37:34,320 --> 00:37:38,320
Speaker 1: come on, trip it can you? Even if you're depressed,

708
00:37:38,360 --> 00:37:41,840
Speaker 1: can't you change your mind to be not? Have you

709
00:37:41,920 --> 00:37:44,640
Speaker 1: seen people come come out of depressure? Yeah? Why did

710
00:37:44,680 --> 00:37:48,000
Speaker 1: they come out of depressure? Help? Even if I'm saying

711
00:37:48,040 --> 00:37:50,160
Speaker 1: niggas that don't that don't don't get help, how they

712
00:37:50,200 --> 00:37:52,000
Speaker 1: come out of depression? It's not just a clicker to

713
00:37:52,120 --> 00:37:54,839
Speaker 1: change your mind? Banks what else is it? Then? Shot?

714
00:37:55,040 --> 00:37:59,279
Speaker 1: Sometimes they diagnosis teen years. I don't know, but you're

715
00:37:59,320 --> 00:38:01,520
Speaker 1: still at ain't your mind? You have to make a

716
00:38:01,640 --> 00:38:06,279
Speaker 1: choice that I'm not going You gotta making the choice

717
00:38:06,360 --> 00:38:08,239
Speaker 1: to get help is a big part of that, because

718
00:38:08,280 --> 00:38:11,239
Speaker 1: some people just will be stuck in this ship. Yeah.

719
00:38:12,080 --> 00:38:17,160
Speaker 1: I understand that it's an illness, right, Yes, definitely a

720
00:38:17,239 --> 00:38:21,520
Speaker 1: drug drug addition is an illness to us. But can't

721
00:38:21,520 --> 00:38:23,399
Speaker 1: you make up your mind? And ain't smoking crack normal?

722
00:38:23,480 --> 00:38:27,080
Speaker 1: You got to change your life, people, That's all I'm saying. People,

723
00:38:27,480 --> 00:38:29,920
Speaker 1: and they who say, God, damn, bro, the don't got me.

724
00:38:31,520 --> 00:38:34,120
Speaker 1: I just can't shake it, Okay, But that's not an

725
00:38:34,160 --> 00:38:36,320
Speaker 1: excuse because you can't, cause we have seen people do it,

726
00:38:37,600 --> 00:38:39,360
Speaker 1: That's all I'm saying. We've seen people come out of

727
00:38:39,400 --> 00:38:41,960
Speaker 1: all these situations that everybody helped been in. Are you

728
00:38:42,080 --> 00:38:43,640
Speaker 1: also seen a whole bunch of people not be able

729
00:38:43,640 --> 00:38:47,160
Speaker 1: to come out those true? Because they're still making excuses. No,

730
00:38:47,400 --> 00:38:49,640
Speaker 1: some people tried to leave and still got killed and

731
00:38:49,719 --> 00:38:52,640
Speaker 1: all that other stuff. So now like w even domestic violence,

732
00:38:52,640 --> 00:38:53,960
Speaker 1: you know what I mean? And how many people tried

733
00:38:54,000 --> 00:38:56,040
Speaker 1: to leave and end up getting killed because they left,

734
00:38:56,080 --> 00:39:00,040
Speaker 1: they tried to leave. I'm just saying like, that's with

735
00:39:00,120 --> 00:39:02,399
Speaker 1: a lot of people fear. Like when you when you're

736
00:39:02,400 --> 00:39:05,080
Speaker 1: in no situations, you're not fearing that, oh, if I leave,

737
00:39:05,160 --> 00:39:07,040
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna be able to make it without this person.

738
00:39:07,080 --> 00:39:09,279
Speaker 1: You're more fear. You're in fear of what this person

739
00:39:09,400 --> 00:39:11,919
Speaker 1: may do by me attempting to leave. But that's most

740
00:39:11,960 --> 00:39:15,640
Speaker 1: people when they're in these domestic violence. But is like,

741
00:39:15,760 --> 00:39:19,120
Speaker 1: if if it comes to that, let's say your life

742
00:39:19,200 --> 00:39:21,960
Speaker 1: comes to it end or whatever, something extreme, would you

743
00:39:22,080 --> 00:39:27,920
Speaker 1: rather that be kind of like honorably makings or kind

744
00:39:27,960 --> 00:39:34,239
Speaker 1: of going outside like then we wish, right? But also

745
00:39:34,280 --> 00:39:35,920
Speaker 1: I feel like in a lot of those situations, like

746
00:39:35,960 --> 00:39:38,279
Speaker 1: I said, if that was that's how it ended, I

747
00:39:38,360 --> 00:39:40,400
Speaker 1: feel like it was all it was always you was

748
00:39:40,440 --> 00:39:42,120
Speaker 1: with a killer. If you're gonna kill you, if you

749
00:39:42,239 --> 00:39:44,520
Speaker 1: if you try to leave regardlessly you could have made

750
00:39:44,560 --> 00:39:48,000
Speaker 1: this Bologney sound was wrong. He was he was gonna

751
00:39:48,040 --> 00:39:50,520
Speaker 1: do that. That That's how it was gonna end you

752
00:39:50,680 --> 00:39:54,879
Speaker 1: living dead? Right, Yeah, I don't know, And that's fun.

753
00:39:55,000 --> 00:39:57,359
Speaker 1: It's think about the ship. That's how it was. Either

754
00:39:57,400 --> 00:39:59,560
Speaker 1: you're gonna live. You're gonna die living with this thig

755
00:39:59,640 --> 00:40:02,920
Speaker 1: or you gonn that running. I don't know. I think

756
00:40:02,960 --> 00:40:05,200
Speaker 1: anybody that's dealing with them as violence and trauma disc

757
00:40:06,360 --> 00:40:10,239
Speaker 1: please see that. That's the first weapons that is sending

758
00:40:10,280 --> 00:40:12,160
Speaker 1: the house saying okay, because I'm in it comes this way.

759
00:40:12,160 --> 00:40:13,719
Speaker 1: They ain't got nowhere else to go. I ain't did

760
00:40:13,760 --> 00:40:15,400
Speaker 1: some I'm scared and they're gonna kill me. Go get

761
00:40:15,440 --> 00:40:18,160
Speaker 1: you some help, and they hopefully go get some help.

762
00:40:18,320 --> 00:40:21,200
Speaker 1: They show you how that you are, They show you

763
00:40:21,360 --> 00:40:25,120
Speaker 1: that it can be okay. Yes, you know what I'm saying.

764
00:40:25,200 --> 00:40:28,000
Speaker 1: You can make a different choice. You don't have to

765
00:40:28,040 --> 00:40:29,759
Speaker 1: make any excuse for this, nigga. You don't have to

766
00:40:29,760 --> 00:40:33,480
Speaker 1: be scheduled nigga, and you don't have to be comfortment

767
00:40:33,480 --> 00:40:36,440
Speaker 1: in okay just because you gotta leave this house. So what,

768
00:40:37,120 --> 00:40:40,720
Speaker 1: I'm not being abused no more? Yeah? How many women'

769
00:40:40,719 --> 00:40:42,640
Speaker 1: all the scenes up and leave everything? I don't care about, No,

770
00:40:42,800 --> 00:40:44,560
Speaker 1: don't give a damn about then. I want the voice.

771
00:40:44,560 --> 00:40:46,120
Speaker 1: You can have everything. I many women you don't see

772
00:40:46,120 --> 00:40:50,880
Speaker 1: you do that? Could they choosing them? Yeah? Yeah, but

773
00:40:52,920 --> 00:40:55,680
Speaker 1: there was a process. That's that's that's all I'm saying

774
00:40:55,800 --> 00:40:58,919
Speaker 1: there was a long process to get to that point,

775
00:40:59,160 --> 00:41:02,439
Speaker 1: to choose themselves facts them facts. That's what I'm saying.

776
00:41:02,480 --> 00:41:03,560
Speaker 1: But at the end of the day, when you you

777
00:41:04,200 --> 00:41:09,960
Speaker 1: gotta start it, and starting it is a decision, right,

778
00:41:10,160 --> 00:41:13,600
Speaker 1: I agree you start the process is a decision once

779
00:41:13,640 --> 00:41:15,399
Speaker 1: you ultimately make a decision. I give what y'all saying.

780
00:41:15,400 --> 00:41:17,600
Speaker 1: When you get down and not in depression, will you

781
00:41:17,719 --> 00:41:21,359
Speaker 1: really can't even think clearly? True? But before but while

782
00:41:21,400 --> 00:41:24,600
Speaker 1: you're down, you're still thinking. I promise you it's coming

783
00:41:24,640 --> 00:41:27,480
Speaker 1: up in your head how I can get away. And

784
00:41:27,560 --> 00:41:29,360
Speaker 1: I guarantee you don't thought of a good way to

785
00:41:29,400 --> 00:41:32,719
Speaker 1: get away. You just didn't do it. M hm, right wrong,

786
00:41:33,080 --> 00:41:34,839
Speaker 1: right now? Yeah, yeah, you may have a big fact

787
00:41:34,880 --> 00:41:38,399
Speaker 1: right there, Like the nigga locked themselves twenty four hour day,

788
00:41:38,600 --> 00:41:40,440
Speaker 1: all you're doing thinking about how you can squeeze out

789
00:41:40,440 --> 00:41:44,640
Speaker 1: the balls. You might can't get out that mothercker, but

790
00:41:44,640 --> 00:41:46,919
Speaker 1: you're still thinking about how you're gonna get out of there, bitch, Yeah,

791
00:41:48,320 --> 00:41:51,439
Speaker 1: right right. I ain't like, I ain't trying to sound

792
00:41:51,480 --> 00:41:53,480
Speaker 1: like the nigga who's saying like, okay, up in leave.

793
00:41:54,320 --> 00:41:56,520
Speaker 1: I understand it because I don't see all this you're

794
00:41:56,520 --> 00:41:58,640
Speaker 1: talking about too. I don't think that. But at the

795
00:41:58,760 --> 00:42:00,760
Speaker 1: end of the day, it all board out to choices.

796
00:42:00,840 --> 00:42:05,160
Speaker 1: Though regardless how small, how weak you here, what made

797
00:42:05,200 --> 00:42:08,400
Speaker 1: you that week trauma, but you're gonna continue to go

798
00:42:08,520 --> 00:42:11,880
Speaker 1: through and make yourself work. That's the choice. That's the choice.

799
00:42:12,840 --> 00:42:16,560
Speaker 1: Some people make the right choices, like just at the

800
00:42:16,719 --> 00:42:19,760
Speaker 1: right time. You know, certain people that was gonna crash

801
00:42:19,840 --> 00:42:21,719
Speaker 1: out or be fucked up if they didn't make that

802
00:42:21,880 --> 00:42:24,239
Speaker 1: choice like that. It's like a light bulb. We've all

803
00:42:24,320 --> 00:42:26,480
Speaker 1: done it, but y'all take it to another level with

804
00:42:26,520 --> 00:42:28,200
Speaker 1: the mists of violar ship. I was basically to my

805
00:42:29,080 --> 00:42:32,400
Speaker 1: people making excuses why they can't come up, or they

806
00:42:32,400 --> 00:42:35,600
Speaker 1: ain't got no job, or ain't this or every time

807
00:42:35,680 --> 00:42:37,520
Speaker 1: like niggas don't want to work, don't want to keep

808
00:42:37,560 --> 00:42:40,840
Speaker 1: their job, is because of this. I don't think that's trauma.

809
00:42:40,920 --> 00:42:43,879
Speaker 1: I think that that's what people that use that as

810
00:42:43,920 --> 00:42:49,439
Speaker 1: an excuse, they always got an excuse trauma. Nobody taught

811
00:42:49,480 --> 00:42:51,640
Speaker 1: me how to be man, Nobody taught me how to

812
00:42:51,719 --> 00:42:55,280
Speaker 1: treat women. Nobody taught me. Bro You use an excuse,

813
00:42:55,440 --> 00:43:00,719
Speaker 1: you know, that's definitely nobody. Something something is used to

814
00:43:00,800 --> 00:43:04,000
Speaker 1: a line nobody taught me how to love, Like niggers

815
00:43:04,080 --> 00:43:06,600
Speaker 1: really be telling women like nobody taught me how to love,

816
00:43:06,800 --> 00:43:10,520
Speaker 1: and that's why I can't love. But that's that's a

817
00:43:10,600 --> 00:43:17,480
Speaker 1: real thing. It's excused. But this households without love. Yeah, definitely,

818
00:43:18,480 --> 00:43:20,920
Speaker 1: they don't know nothing about that. It didn't come up

819
00:43:20,960 --> 00:43:23,640
Speaker 1: like that. All they saw was domestic. But how long

820
00:43:23,680 --> 00:43:25,560
Speaker 1: are you going to use that as your excuse them

821
00:43:28,000 --> 00:43:31,560
Speaker 1: use your trauma? I think because whenever, like when if

822
00:43:31,560 --> 00:43:33,239
Speaker 1: you're saying, like, nobody taught me how love, but you

823
00:43:33,320 --> 00:43:34,680
Speaker 1: know how you would want to be loved, so you

824
00:43:34,719 --> 00:43:36,400
Speaker 1: would know the feeling of love. So when you get

825
00:43:36,520 --> 00:43:41,919
Speaker 1: it like, it's still you might not know how. Yeah,

826
00:43:42,560 --> 00:43:44,040
Speaker 1: how you want to be loved, The way you might

827
00:43:44,080 --> 00:43:46,960
Speaker 1: want to be loved might be the trauma that's causing

828
00:43:47,000 --> 00:43:49,680
Speaker 1: you to fucking not know. There you go, Okay, yeah,

829
00:43:49,719 --> 00:43:51,799
Speaker 1: I didn't think of it like that. There. I feel

830
00:43:51,800 --> 00:43:53,400
Speaker 1: like that's like a like a like a dude that

831
00:43:53,480 --> 00:43:55,400
Speaker 1: grew up without a father telling his kid with it.

832
00:43:55,480 --> 00:43:57,040
Speaker 1: I ain't hand no father. You know, I don't know

833
00:43:57,120 --> 00:43:58,520
Speaker 1: what I'm doing. I mean, you gotta learn how to

834
00:43:58,560 --> 00:44:01,080
Speaker 1: do that ship. Yeah, my niggas that I know they

835
00:44:01,160 --> 00:44:04,400
Speaker 1: grew up without fathers to have sons and have daughters

836
00:44:04,440 --> 00:44:08,840
Speaker 1: and children overcompensate for the fact that they didn't have fathers,

837
00:44:08,920 --> 00:44:11,600
Speaker 1: to try to make sure that their kids are in

838
00:44:11,640 --> 00:44:14,960
Speaker 1: a better situation and a better predict will not predicament,

839
00:44:15,080 --> 00:44:18,960
Speaker 1: but are way off better than Yeah, they kind of

840
00:44:19,000 --> 00:44:21,400
Speaker 1: give them what they didn't have. I think making an

841
00:44:21,520 --> 00:44:26,200
Speaker 1: excuse and being embarrassed about your trauma or or being

842
00:44:26,280 --> 00:44:32,000
Speaker 1: traumatized ultimately leads to suicide and depression. That's why I

843
00:44:32,040 --> 00:44:35,640
Speaker 1: feel like suicide. I feel like suicide comes from being

844
00:44:36,080 --> 00:44:42,439
Speaker 1: embarrassed about your trauma, like trying to like that you're saying,

845
00:44:42,480 --> 00:44:44,960
Speaker 1: trying to keep a secret, trying to do this, and

846
00:44:45,239 --> 00:44:48,759
Speaker 1: trying to make everything perfect in fear, in fear. Other

847
00:44:48,800 --> 00:44:54,640
Speaker 1: people may think it's basically opinion. Yeah, exactly, it's basically

848
00:44:54,640 --> 00:44:59,399
Speaker 1: be an opinionate. Okay, if you didn't give a funk,

849
00:44:59,440 --> 00:45:01,440
Speaker 1: then what you do I mean, if you didn't give

850
00:45:01,440 --> 00:45:03,080
Speaker 1: a funk about what people thought, what would you do?

851
00:45:03,400 --> 00:45:08,520
Speaker 1: You always be happy, traumatized, You didn't give a funk

852
00:45:08,520 --> 00:45:10,719
Speaker 1: about everybody knowing, and you weren't trying to keep this

853
00:45:10,840 --> 00:45:14,160
Speaker 1: nigger face looking good or whatever, keep the relationship making

854
00:45:14,200 --> 00:45:17,239
Speaker 1: seem like it or not making excuse you? What would

855
00:45:17,239 --> 00:45:21,839
Speaker 1: you do if you didn't want to be traumatized? Yeah?

856
00:45:22,960 --> 00:45:28,000
Speaker 1: Mhm so who really? So who really harming you? Is

857
00:45:28,040 --> 00:45:34,600
Speaker 1: what I'm axing yourself? You're mental? Who really harming you? You? Yeah?

858
00:45:35,920 --> 00:45:37,880
Speaker 1: I think that's going because people only do to you

859
00:45:38,000 --> 00:45:41,239
Speaker 1: what you're allowed them to do. You're the control of

860
00:45:41,320 --> 00:45:45,480
Speaker 1: your destiny for sure. When those choices are deep. There

861
00:45:45,520 --> 00:45:47,799
Speaker 1: are circumstances, just like we always say, they are a circle.

862
00:45:47,840 --> 00:45:52,160
Speaker 1: There's there's exceptions to every rule, right, But you're ultimately

863
00:45:52,600 --> 00:45:56,280
Speaker 1: responsible for your destiny and your choices. That's all I'm saying.

864
00:45:57,600 --> 00:46:00,279
Speaker 1: If you won't leave your lead, If you don't, won't

865
00:46:00,760 --> 00:46:03,960
Speaker 1: you feel stuck? You're making any exhues because you never stuck.

866
00:46:05,200 --> 00:46:08,719
Speaker 1: You just gotta let your pride down, go work in it, well,

867
00:46:10,000 --> 00:46:14,080
Speaker 1: go live in it. Well yeah, but again, like I said,

868
00:46:14,280 --> 00:46:18,640
Speaker 1: like a lot of the times, it's not necessarily it

869
00:46:18,680 --> 00:46:20,920
Speaker 1: doesn't necessarily have anything to do with pride. It's like

870
00:46:21,600 --> 00:46:27,880
Speaker 1: a mental thing here. Like they've been I don't know,

871
00:46:30,560 --> 00:46:36,000
Speaker 1: as they've been broken. She's saying, they've been broken a processes.

872
00:46:36,000 --> 00:46:37,360
Speaker 1: I know, want to see a pussy, I don't know

873
00:46:37,400 --> 00:46:40,400
Speaker 1: what you're telling, man, Niggas ain't copssing because they they

874
00:46:40,440 --> 00:46:42,680
Speaker 1: want to do. I'm gonna say, this ship without a pimp,

875
00:46:42,680 --> 00:46:47,359
Speaker 1: I just need you for protection. Let's be realm, every

876
00:46:47,400 --> 00:46:50,200
Speaker 1: hole that's a whole wanted to be a hope. No,

877
00:46:52,160 --> 00:46:54,360
Speaker 1: unless they got raped of someone. There was kids and

878
00:46:54,680 --> 00:46:56,640
Speaker 1: a lot of their minds. Okay, but I'm saying the

879
00:46:56,719 --> 00:46:59,160
Speaker 1: one that jumped off the porch signed up. I want

880
00:46:59,200 --> 00:47:01,879
Speaker 1: to be a hope. How what a nigga said, Ain't

881
00:47:01,880 --> 00:47:06,440
Speaker 1: nobody told them to do that? Yeah? Too, sure, Yeah,

882
00:47:06,600 --> 00:47:08,200
Speaker 1: I can think some of them because you think some

883
00:47:08,280 --> 00:47:10,200
Speaker 1: of the prostitutes want to leave their pimp. That's the

884
00:47:10,280 --> 00:47:12,080
Speaker 1: part that I'm talking about. They might want to leave

885
00:47:12,160 --> 00:47:27,479
Speaker 1: them the internet, Oh yeah, oh yeah, down said something.

886
00:47:27,880 --> 00:47:30,160
Speaker 1: But the fact that they're jumping from pimp to pimp

887
00:47:30,360 --> 00:47:38,000
Speaker 1: isn't that. Oh this is my job, manager of the manager.

888
00:47:38,719 --> 00:47:43,760
Speaker 1: I want. I want to I wonder statistically, and we can't.

889
00:47:44,200 --> 00:47:51,560
Speaker 1: We can't can't prove I wonder statistically. We can't prove

890
00:47:51,640 --> 00:47:55,279
Speaker 1: this fact if a woman, women who leave abusive relationships

891
00:47:55,440 --> 00:47:57,359
Speaker 1: end up in other ones. We can't prove this fact.

892
00:47:57,400 --> 00:47:58,800
Speaker 1: We don't have stats in front of us. But I

893
00:47:58,880 --> 00:48:03,440
Speaker 1: just wondered, curious women more do than not? More do

894
00:48:03,520 --> 00:48:11,360
Speaker 1: than not? Yeah, oh no, because they I believe they

895
00:48:11,440 --> 00:48:14,640
Speaker 1: do until they find something different. Because a lot of

896
00:48:14,719 --> 00:48:16,680
Speaker 1: times she's been to go from a one nigga who

897
00:48:16,719 --> 00:48:21,279
Speaker 1: did it like this to the same nigga. So no,

898
00:48:21,360 --> 00:48:24,239
Speaker 1: what I'm saying, we're gonna tell you what it is.

899
00:48:24,320 --> 00:48:27,040
Speaker 1: I don't mean to cut you off. What it is is, okay,

900
00:48:27,200 --> 00:48:30,800
Speaker 1: if she does get enough strength to leave this nigga,

901
00:48:32,520 --> 00:48:34,480
Speaker 1: this is I'm and I'm just speaking from personal experience

902
00:48:34,520 --> 00:48:36,879
Speaker 1: from the people that I know that have gotten into

903
00:48:37,239 --> 00:48:40,839
Speaker 1: other bad situations. When they find enough strength to leave

904
00:48:41,000 --> 00:48:45,560
Speaker 1: the first initial nigga, they still have things that they

905
00:48:45,600 --> 00:48:46,880
Speaker 1: need to work on and things that they need to

906
00:48:46,920 --> 00:48:51,440
Speaker 1: fix within themselves, and they still have those broken traits

907
00:48:52,080 --> 00:48:56,520
Speaker 1: and another I don't want to say abuse are nigga,

908
00:48:56,600 --> 00:49:01,239
Speaker 1: but another nigga that's sim alert to her last nigg

909
00:49:01,400 --> 00:49:04,800
Speaker 1: is gonna pick up on those traits and you know,

910
00:49:05,760 --> 00:49:07,480
Speaker 1: bet her in for lack of a better way to

911
00:49:07,520 --> 00:49:10,200
Speaker 1: put it, in the beginning with the you know, the

912
00:49:10,880 --> 00:49:12,320
Speaker 1: caring and that, you know what I'm saying, all that

913
00:49:12,400 --> 00:49:15,760
Speaker 1: ship and then slowly but surely again the whole cycling,

914
00:49:15,800 --> 00:49:19,600
Speaker 1: the whole process is gonna start over. But if she's

915
00:49:19,680 --> 00:49:24,719
Speaker 1: able to but here here's the conundrum. Here's the conundrum

916
00:49:24,800 --> 00:49:29,239
Speaker 1: and the dilemma. If she's able to find somebody that's

917
00:49:29,280 --> 00:49:31,640
Speaker 1: not an abuser and that really wants to try to

918
00:49:31,760 --> 00:49:35,279
Speaker 1: love her for real and try to help fix her,

919
00:49:36,000 --> 00:49:38,880
Speaker 1: that's also gonna be an uphill battle because she's not

920
00:49:38,920 --> 00:49:40,960
Speaker 1: gonna believe that this nick is really trying to love her.

921
00:49:41,360 --> 00:49:44,640
Speaker 1: So it's just gonna be it's it's fucked up all

922
00:49:44,640 --> 00:49:49,480
Speaker 1: the way around, because it's like it's just sucked up

923
00:49:49,480 --> 00:49:52,320
Speaker 1: all the way around. This is sucked up all the

924
00:49:52,360 --> 00:49:56,840
Speaker 1: way around. But shout out to the people that you know,

925
00:49:57,080 --> 00:50:00,640
Speaker 1: try to love people that have been or try to

926
00:50:00,719 --> 00:50:06,239
Speaker 1: love people that have been traumatized and really like love

927
00:50:06,360 --> 00:50:08,359
Speaker 1: them and try to, I don't want to say, nurse

928
00:50:08,400 --> 00:50:11,520
Speaker 1: them back to health, but try to, you know, try

929
00:50:11,560 --> 00:50:13,960
Speaker 1: to help them become bad people, because that's a full

930
00:50:14,040 --> 00:50:24,040
Speaker 1: time jobs. We're not get big. So in real life,

931
00:50:24,120 --> 00:50:27,640
Speaker 1: you think, do you think do y'all think when you

932
00:50:27,760 --> 00:50:31,560
Speaker 1: have been traumatized it's smart to get into another relationship

933
00:50:31,600 --> 00:50:34,040
Speaker 1: without seeking help? No, No, not at all. No, But

934
00:50:34,200 --> 00:50:36,400
Speaker 1: people do it all day. I understand people do it

935
00:50:36,440 --> 00:50:39,120
Speaker 1: all day. So because a lot of times calling causing

936
00:50:39,200 --> 00:50:41,480
Speaker 1: this trauma to you yourself, but a lot of times

937
00:50:41,560 --> 00:50:46,560
Speaker 1: they think that that them. Okay, if you if you've

938
00:50:46,560 --> 00:50:49,279
Speaker 1: been get into another abuse relationship, right, they don't know,

939
00:50:49,960 --> 00:50:52,120
Speaker 1: they don't know from the beginning. But okay, you're saying,

940
00:50:52,160 --> 00:50:55,839
Speaker 1: y'all don't know it's abusive. We okay, cool, But when

941
00:50:55,880 --> 00:50:59,759
Speaker 1: I meet it's the quicks like a duct. It's a

942
00:51:00,080 --> 00:51:03,719
Speaker 1: duck when I meet that. It don't matter when I

943
00:51:03,920 --> 00:51:07,520
Speaker 1: see it the first time I see it. What you said,

944
00:51:07,719 --> 00:51:10,600
Speaker 1: Oh I'm in love now, I'm too far in saying yeah.

945
00:51:11,440 --> 00:51:13,319
Speaker 1: That's how they go. That's only how that goes when

946
00:51:13,320 --> 00:51:18,200
Speaker 1: the trump Okay, so how people get the voice being

947
00:51:18,239 --> 00:51:22,000
Speaker 1: long too? Right? Yeah, when the nigga do some simple ship.

948
00:51:22,080 --> 00:51:23,839
Speaker 1: You can find a number some women. You can find

949
00:51:23,880 --> 00:51:25,520
Speaker 1: a number in the nigga phone. She is out of

950
00:51:25,560 --> 00:51:28,560
Speaker 1: there some women women, Okay, some women. And that comes

951
00:51:28,640 --> 00:51:33,240
Speaker 1: from what she had been cheated on. She's seen the signal. Okay.

952
00:51:33,320 --> 00:51:36,399
Speaker 1: So so if I'm in a relationships, said she could

953
00:51:36,440 --> 00:51:39,080
Speaker 1: just that could just be hurt. She knows what she's

954
00:51:39,080 --> 00:51:41,279
Speaker 1: not going. It might not have been anything she's been

955
00:51:41,320 --> 00:51:44,080
Speaker 1: through prior to Okay, so but just when I'm trying,

956
00:51:44,120 --> 00:51:46,120
Speaker 1: I'm trying. I'm just trying to understand a person has

957
00:51:46,160 --> 00:51:48,640
Speaker 1: already been traumatized. That was the worst experience for them,

958
00:51:48,760 --> 00:51:52,959
Speaker 1: right in relationship, they go to another relationship and starts

959
00:51:52,960 --> 00:51:54,959
Speaker 1: seeing the same signs, not even seeing the same size.

960
00:51:55,000 --> 00:51:57,560
Speaker 1: When this dude raised his voice or do any type

961
00:51:57,600 --> 00:52:00,399
Speaker 1: of thing. I'm gonna give a beginning middle in. You're

962
00:52:00,440 --> 00:52:05,279
Speaker 1: gonna see those tracks. You're gonna see even if it's

963
00:52:05,280 --> 00:52:08,399
Speaker 1: not with me. I can see that. Bro, you gotta

964
00:52:08,440 --> 00:52:13,640
Speaker 1: fund up temple mm hmm. While I'm dating you, I can.

965
00:52:13,960 --> 00:52:15,880
Speaker 1: I'm gonna gelling to see some of this ship. Right.

966
00:52:17,160 --> 00:52:21,000
Speaker 1: That's not gonna trigger it is, that's that's exactly what

967
00:52:21,360 --> 00:52:25,040
Speaker 1: But what it what it could possibly trigger is the

968
00:52:25,160 --> 00:52:29,800
Speaker 1: familiarity of what you're used to. And even though again

969
00:52:29,880 --> 00:52:33,560
Speaker 1: it might not be right, that might be like something

970
00:52:33,760 --> 00:52:38,000
Speaker 1: like if he raises his voice and then apologizes, Okay,

971
00:52:38,280 --> 00:52:41,160
Speaker 1: but that's what you did. Yeah. But what I'm saying

972
00:52:41,200 --> 00:52:43,239
Speaker 1: to you is that even though that's what the last

973
00:52:43,280 --> 00:52:45,560
Speaker 1: nigger did, and you know that you got out of

974
00:52:45,640 --> 00:52:49,440
Speaker 1: that situation because you didn't like that. Some people fall

975
00:52:49,520 --> 00:52:51,360
Speaker 1: back into the same pattern. It's just like a crackhead

976
00:52:54,239 --> 00:52:56,160
Speaker 1: and start. I'm not trying to talk about but what

977
00:52:56,320 --> 00:53:00,080
Speaker 1: you're doing that? What are you doing them? You can

978
00:53:00,239 --> 00:53:03,200
Speaker 1: back saying from the beginning, you're still gonna make excuse

979
00:53:03,280 --> 00:53:05,239
Speaker 1: for this nigga, but this is a new nigga. He't

980
00:53:05,320 --> 00:53:08,400
Speaker 1: hit me yet. He just called me a bit or

981
00:53:08,520 --> 00:53:10,960
Speaker 1: even beyond that, like say, you're dealing with some emotional right,

982
00:53:11,040 --> 00:53:13,719
Speaker 1: like you know somebody they give me you ghost in tendencies,

983
00:53:13,960 --> 00:53:16,319
Speaker 1: but I'm tired of this ghost to me and ship. Well,

984
00:53:16,480 --> 00:53:19,839
Speaker 1: if you're going this PTSD, y'all, can we go talking

985
00:53:19,840 --> 00:53:32,400
Speaker 1: about you got the man just stopped drinking. Whatever the fun?

986
00:53:32,560 --> 00:53:39,840
Speaker 1: That's ghost the passport. You know we're gonna have. I

987
00:53:40,000 --> 00:53:41,640
Speaker 1: got goes to the passport. So if I see a

988
00:53:41,680 --> 00:53:43,719
Speaker 1: woman that I'm talking to in the future that's giving

989
00:53:43,719 --> 00:53:46,200
Speaker 1: me the same signs, why the funk I'm gonna stick around.

990
00:53:47,160 --> 00:53:49,160
Speaker 1: I know how that ship made me feel, so I'm

991
00:53:49,160 --> 00:53:51,320
Speaker 1: gonna leave you before you're trying to leave me. But

992
00:53:51,440 --> 00:53:56,520
Speaker 1: let me ask you this. In situations like that on

993
00:53:56,719 --> 00:54:00,680
Speaker 1: this side, because I always played devil, do y'all think

994
00:54:00,840 --> 00:54:07,440
Speaker 1: that PTSD from previous situations can sometimes cause people to

995
00:54:07,520 --> 00:54:13,680
Speaker 1: jump the gun and miss out, and you can make

996
00:54:14,040 --> 00:54:16,239
Speaker 1: choice that way too. What you no, No, that's just

997
00:54:16,360 --> 00:54:19,200
Speaker 1: like me. I don't like crowds unless it's my crowd,

998
00:54:19,280 --> 00:54:22,560
Speaker 1: unless unless it's my event. So ain't you You better

999
00:54:22,560 --> 00:54:24,640
Speaker 1: to see me at my friendship because I don't like

1000
00:54:24,760 --> 00:54:26,800
Speaker 1: crowd because I got pts D. What can happen in

1001
00:54:26,880 --> 00:54:29,759
Speaker 1: the crowd out of my control. I'm not gonna go

1002
00:54:29,880 --> 00:54:32,880
Speaker 1: to no ship just because Nicholas want me to go,

1003
00:54:34,000 --> 00:54:36,439
Speaker 1: because I'm gonna be uncouple of my own anxiety's gonna

1004
00:54:36,440 --> 00:54:38,200
Speaker 1: be way up. Why the fun are going to put

1005
00:54:38,280 --> 00:54:40,359
Speaker 1: myself in a situation where my anxiety gonna be high.

1006
00:54:41,360 --> 00:54:44,440
Speaker 1: That's the same thing with a relationship, right If I

1007
00:54:44,600 --> 00:54:48,279
Speaker 1: see this bitch do things that I don't like the

1008
00:54:48,400 --> 00:54:51,319
Speaker 1: signs yeah if yeah, it don't matter. I'm not gonna

1009
00:54:51,360 --> 00:54:53,280
Speaker 1: try to look over to see what people be thinking anything,

1010
00:54:53,320 --> 00:54:55,600
Speaker 1: and they can love you out of being you, love

1011
00:54:55,680 --> 00:54:57,560
Speaker 1: you out of your trauma. Yeah, love you out of

1012
00:54:57,640 --> 00:54:59,440
Speaker 1: being who you are. That's who you is. I need

1013
00:54:59,440 --> 00:55:02,080
Speaker 1: to get the fun wait around you because I ain't

1014
00:55:02,080 --> 00:55:03,640
Speaker 1: doing them and put myself in a situation and I

1015
00:55:03,760 --> 00:55:09,080
Speaker 1: can't handle mhm, right from the point trauma can't be avoided.

1016
00:55:09,200 --> 00:55:15,600
Speaker 1: It's all I'm saying. Some people sometimes people like somebody

1017
00:55:15,680 --> 00:55:19,880
Speaker 1: so much that they like damn and you know what

1018
00:55:19,920 --> 00:55:21,640
Speaker 1: I'm saying, and they think they could change a little bit.

1019
00:55:24,960 --> 00:55:27,600
Speaker 1: Everybody ain't gonna be perfect. Maybe this is this is

1020
00:55:27,680 --> 00:55:36,400
Speaker 1: the but then becomes some ship. But I get but

1021
00:55:36,520 --> 00:55:41,319
Speaker 1: eight twenty is goddamn this nigga, goddamn come home late,

1022
00:55:41,480 --> 00:55:46,200
Speaker 1: not traumatize me. Yeah, she is supposed to be deal breakup. Okay,

1023
00:55:46,200 --> 00:55:47,480
Speaker 1: they didn't even take care of me, but he beat

1024
00:55:47,520 --> 00:55:49,600
Speaker 1: the funk out of me. Don't even matter that, don't

1025
00:55:49,640 --> 00:55:53,000
Speaker 1: even match, don't matter, don't you don't weigh up? Yeah,

1026
00:55:53,280 --> 00:55:57,120
Speaker 1: that's all I'm saying. Like sir, ship don't even go together. Yeah,

1027
00:55:58,120 --> 00:56:00,520
Speaker 1: I concur I get what y'all say. And like some

1028
00:56:00,680 --> 00:56:05,200
Speaker 1: people be broken down to their core. That's true. That's true.

1029
00:56:05,239 --> 00:56:07,239
Speaker 1: We haven't see any movies, we don't see any real life.

1030
00:56:07,400 --> 00:56:12,839
Speaker 1: That's true. But ultimately, if you're not locked in, how

1031
00:56:12,840 --> 00:56:14,680
Speaker 1: don't folk be locking them folks in them houses and

1032
00:56:15,200 --> 00:56:17,600
Speaker 1: and what you call the coas and all that ship

1033
00:56:18,280 --> 00:56:20,320
Speaker 1: You can get away, you can get a knife in

1034
00:56:20,400 --> 00:56:23,759
Speaker 1: and so let me let me throw one last curve ball. So,

1035
00:56:24,000 --> 00:56:28,000
Speaker 1: but what what if and there are circumstances, what if

1036
00:56:28,080 --> 00:56:31,359
Speaker 1: that trauma or those actions come so much deeper into

1037
00:56:31,400 --> 00:56:34,400
Speaker 1: the situation, like what if? What if? What if that

1038
00:56:34,480 --> 00:56:37,279
Speaker 1: abuse don't come to ten fifteen years later? What if

1039
00:56:37,360 --> 00:56:40,279
Speaker 1: that trait from that woman or the man or whatever

1040
00:56:40,400 --> 00:56:43,839
Speaker 1: don't come to years later. You got a lot of kids,

1041
00:56:43,920 --> 00:56:46,520
Speaker 1: You got a lot of synergy going on, and then

1042
00:56:46,560 --> 00:56:48,640
Speaker 1: you start to see the because sometimes the bullshit don't

1043
00:56:48,640 --> 00:56:51,440
Speaker 1: be one or year one and be ten fifteen years

1044
00:56:51,480 --> 00:56:55,600
Speaker 1: down the instagram the ninety ninety what ninety six year

1045
00:56:55,640 --> 00:56:58,480
Speaker 1: old man found that founds a little letter from his

1046
00:56:58,560 --> 00:57:02,040
Speaker 1: wife from sixty years ago? Bitch by it's been my

1047
00:57:02,200 --> 00:57:11,320
Speaker 1: lad ten days by myself. Wait what happened? The husband

1048
00:57:11,400 --> 00:57:15,600
Speaker 1: was ninety six, the wife was like ninety three or something,

1049
00:57:15,640 --> 00:57:17,600
Speaker 1: that was moving in apartment. He thought some love that

1050
00:57:17,680 --> 00:57:19,720
Speaker 1: was from sixty years ago when she cheated on him

1051
00:57:20,920 --> 00:57:23,160
Speaker 1: and he kicked her out. And she didn't necessarily cheat.

1052
00:57:23,200 --> 00:57:27,560
Speaker 1: I don't think I think she just relationship from a relationship.

1053
00:57:27,720 --> 00:57:29,520
Speaker 1: It was love of love from a prior relationship which

1054
00:57:29,560 --> 00:57:32,000
Speaker 1: she was shamed sixty years ago and he kicked her out.

1055
00:57:32,880 --> 00:57:36,680
Speaker 1: He got he made a real divorce at ninety six.

1056
00:57:38,320 --> 00:57:42,960
Speaker 1: Again where it depends with your morals and the same ship,

1057
00:57:43,440 --> 00:57:45,760
Speaker 1: and I did the same ship. At the end of

1058
00:57:45,800 --> 00:57:47,160
Speaker 1: the day, I ain't gonna be able to I don't

1059
00:57:47,160 --> 00:57:48,440
Speaker 1: give it to the damn from in the little third

1060
00:57:48,440 --> 00:58:01,440
Speaker 1: of momentutes, I ain't been using a note. Fuck you said, no,

1061
00:58:01,640 --> 00:58:06,160
Speaker 1: that's not bullshit, because because if you're die, you're married.

1062
00:58:06,240 --> 00:58:10,120
Speaker 1: She to get your ship, but that ain't you're married.

1063
00:58:10,400 --> 00:58:15,400
Speaker 1: I'm saying marriage paperwork, Yes, marriage paperwork. So if this

1064
00:58:15,520 --> 00:58:20,200
Speaker 1: nigga died and why he hate her, she's you did so.

1065
00:58:20,280 --> 00:58:23,400
Speaker 1: She don't even want you to have my name rights

1066
00:58:23,520 --> 00:58:25,720
Speaker 1: you at the funeral. I don't even want you. Never

1067
00:58:26,320 --> 00:58:31,720
Speaker 1: move up. Eve, you no more test because you know

1068
00:58:32,400 --> 00:58:34,760
Speaker 1: what you're standing on is what you're standing on. Some

1069
00:58:34,840 --> 00:58:38,760
Speaker 1: people might have thought about that. That might be the

1070
00:58:38,840 --> 00:58:42,560
Speaker 1: wrong choice. He comes game, but he could have gave

1071
00:58:43,680 --> 00:58:46,080
Speaker 1: a game six years ago. You were good, but you

1072
00:58:46,160 --> 00:58:51,680
Speaker 1: were good, You were good. Yeah you got but I

1073
00:58:51,720 --> 00:58:54,640
Speaker 1: ain't fin it. I can see where he's coming from though,

1074
00:58:55,160 --> 00:58:59,560
Speaker 1: because he probably questioned her about this nigga. She's got over.

1075
00:59:00,880 --> 00:59:02,880
Speaker 1: But it's the fact of how you look in my

1076
00:59:03,080 --> 00:59:07,280
Speaker 1: eyes for sixty years lying, But you want to asking

1077
00:59:07,320 --> 00:59:14,240
Speaker 1: her she was cheating? Yeah, shut up, it's like what

1078
00:59:14,360 --> 00:59:22,320
Speaker 1: else about? Yes, yeah, he's maybe not all that ship

1079
00:59:22,400 --> 00:59:24,600
Speaker 1: come into play. Well that's the answer to my ten

1080
00:59:24,680 --> 00:59:28,000
Speaker 1: fifteen years. Did you see the one on Instagram where

1081
00:59:28,040 --> 00:59:30,240
Speaker 1: the guy was getting married and at his wedding he

1082
00:59:30,320 --> 00:59:32,919
Speaker 1: showed the sex tape with the wife and his brother,

1083
00:59:34,560 --> 00:59:37,400
Speaker 1: Like at their wedding walking down the out the tape

1084
00:59:37,440 --> 00:59:39,800
Speaker 1: start playing with five minutes of the wife having sex

1085
00:59:39,880 --> 00:59:42,960
Speaker 1: with his brother. I'm not saying that just because a

1086
00:59:43,040 --> 00:59:46,840
Speaker 1: woman has been broken down and she is she appeared

1087
00:59:46,880 --> 00:59:49,840
Speaker 1: to be weak. I'm saying you can always find strength.

1088
00:59:50,800 --> 00:59:53,040
Speaker 1: That's all I'm saying to any woman out up, being

1089
00:59:54,320 --> 00:59:59,040
Speaker 1: mistreated anything, If you want to leave, you can. It's

1090
00:59:59,080 --> 01:00:03,600
Speaker 1: your choice. He's your choice right to anybody women, anybody

1091
01:00:04,360 --> 01:00:08,560
Speaker 1: in a in a situation unless you locked up now

1092
01:00:08,640 --> 01:00:11,240
Speaker 1: you you can't really change that. All you can do

1093
01:00:11,360 --> 01:00:13,760
Speaker 1: is change your mind set. Start reading like a lot

1094
01:00:13,760 --> 01:00:15,120
Speaker 1: of things say when I go to jail, it's the

1095
01:00:15,120 --> 01:00:17,880
Speaker 1: best thing happened to me. I came free. But what

1096
01:00:17,960 --> 01:00:20,480
Speaker 1: I'm saying is if you're not confined and it's in

1097
01:00:20,600 --> 01:00:24,720
Speaker 1: your control, you can fix it. You always can fix it. Yeah,

1098
01:00:25,240 --> 01:00:30,520
Speaker 1: to me, well, make sure final words you say you're

1099
01:00:30,520 --> 01:00:32,080
Speaker 1: gonna let the mother fucker break you to the point

1100
01:00:32,120 --> 01:00:36,080
Speaker 1: to well you accepting it. That's basical what you are saying, right,

1101
01:00:36,520 --> 01:00:39,680
Speaker 1: you can never live your best life because you're broken.

1102
01:00:40,400 --> 01:00:42,200
Speaker 1: You're accepting it because you make an excuse it for

1103
01:00:42,280 --> 01:00:47,200
Speaker 1: this nigga or this woman who that's all him? Are you?

1104
01:00:47,920 --> 01:00:52,360
Speaker 1: M h? I think the key word is speared, and

1105
01:00:52,480 --> 01:00:55,960
Speaker 1: you know, fear guides a lot of people. The thing

1106
01:00:56,040 --> 01:00:58,080
Speaker 1: about it is you would fear every day if you're

1107
01:00:58,080 --> 01:01:00,480
Speaker 1: being traumatized. You don't know when this nick don't for them,

1108
01:01:01,880 --> 01:01:07,600
Speaker 1: so you're already in fair every day. Like captivity. Yeah, yeah,

1109
01:01:08,080 --> 01:01:11,840
Speaker 1: that's worse. It's like somebody kidnapping you like ship. They're

1110
01:01:11,880 --> 01:01:14,840
Speaker 1: gonna eventually kill you. It might be what they want

1111
01:01:14,880 --> 01:01:16,120
Speaker 1: to do, and they're gonna kill if you try to

1112
01:01:16,160 --> 01:01:18,040
Speaker 1: run away. What you're gonna do, What decsion you're gonna make,

1113
01:01:18,560 --> 01:01:21,080
Speaker 1: You're gonna stay in captivity. You're gonna try to do slavery.

1114
01:01:21,920 --> 01:01:26,760
Speaker 1: It's kind of what is it? Slavery? The neigas who

1115
01:01:26,800 --> 01:01:31,120
Speaker 1: got damn slavery was a choice. I can't say it was.

1116
01:01:32,320 --> 01:01:36,000
Speaker 1: I can't say it with a choice, but I get

1117
01:01:36,000 --> 01:01:40,920
Speaker 1: what he was saying. Do you want to live or die? Yeah? Basically,

1118
01:01:41,120 --> 01:01:44,000
Speaker 1: is this situation working enough that you got them? Are

1119
01:01:44,040 --> 01:01:46,400
Speaker 1: you gonna be trying to get away? Yeah, that's all

1120
01:01:46,440 --> 01:01:48,840
Speaker 1: I'm saying. I feel like, if you're to me, if

1121
01:01:48,880 --> 01:01:52,080
Speaker 1: you're being traumatized, it's worth risking everything to try to

1122
01:01:52,120 --> 01:01:54,200
Speaker 1: get away from it. Yeah. That's that's only what I'm saying.

1123
01:01:54,200 --> 01:01:56,440
Speaker 1: And when people do saying the choice, not all the choices,

1124
01:01:56,800 --> 01:01:59,320
Speaker 1: That's what I'm saying. No matter what depression, where you

1125
01:02:00,160 --> 01:02:03,440
Speaker 1: you if this ship because trauma. I looked that ship up.

1126
01:02:03,680 --> 01:02:06,320
Speaker 1: That ship got every negative word you can think, go

1127
01:02:06,480 --> 01:02:10,600
Speaker 1: with go with trauma. So what's worse than that? Right?

1128
01:02:10,960 --> 01:02:13,160
Speaker 1: Is the bottom? You are you already at the bottom.

1129
01:02:13,200 --> 01:02:15,760
Speaker 1: What's what you're fearing to get away from it? To

1130
01:02:15,800 --> 01:02:17,360
Speaker 1: get away from it? What are you fearing? There should

1131
01:02:17,360 --> 01:02:21,480
Speaker 1: be no fear though, mm hmm. If you if, if

1132
01:02:21,480 --> 01:02:22,960
Speaker 1: you want to get it, if you want to leave

1133
01:02:23,040 --> 01:02:29,440
Speaker 1: that situation, and you don't leave that situation, what are

1134
01:02:29,480 --> 01:02:33,520
Speaker 1: you doing? You're making an excuse. M you gotta be

1135
01:02:34,600 --> 01:02:37,040
Speaker 1: it don't matter because when you say cause, that's an

1136
01:02:37,080 --> 01:02:44,080
Speaker 1: excuse right. I can't leave cause because you can't leave right,

1137
01:02:44,360 --> 01:02:46,440
Speaker 1: you're just not prepared to stand on what come with leaving?

1138
01:02:46,560 --> 01:02:57,400
Speaker 1: Thank you Big Facts Friday, the words from Bank. Everybody

1139
01:02:57,760 --> 01:02:59,959
Speaker 1: a nigger jet laying in his mama house at forty

1140
01:03:00,040 --> 01:03:03,760
Speaker 1: years old. Bro, you're making every excuse in the world

1141
01:03:03,840 --> 01:03:07,600
Speaker 1: why you broke Damn My mama got me the bike.

1142
01:03:07,640 --> 01:03:09,520
Speaker 1: When I was in middle school, I would have It's

1143
01:03:09,520 --> 01:03:13,560
Speaker 1: just like a nigga having a rich homeboy, but he broke.

1144
01:03:13,680 --> 01:03:17,360
Speaker 1: His excuse is thish nigga ain't putting me on. That

1145
01:03:17,360 --> 01:03:21,160
Speaker 1: should happened a lot. That's an excuse because you feel

1146
01:03:21,160 --> 01:03:23,200
Speaker 1: like a nigga owe you something? How nigga ow you something?

1147
01:03:23,280 --> 01:03:25,360
Speaker 1: I got it, you can get it. What's stopping you?

1148
01:03:25,600 --> 01:03:27,880
Speaker 1: You would to me? Even the niggas out up with

1149
01:03:27,960 --> 01:03:30,640
Speaker 1: the signs so you have ani their shirt all cut

1150
01:03:30,720 --> 01:03:33,240
Speaker 1: up into every plane we're working food dude, Poe, give

1151
01:03:33,280 --> 01:03:36,760
Speaker 1: me something. Bro there, that's an excuse you doing. I've

1152
01:03:36,760 --> 01:03:39,840
Speaker 1: been thinking that you can go. You can gonna do anything. Now.

1153
01:03:39,920 --> 01:03:42,200
Speaker 1: The people with you can tell they got a mental

1154
01:03:42,240 --> 01:03:45,400
Speaker 1: illness or like the older or some ship. Yeah, I

1155
01:03:45,720 --> 01:03:47,919
Speaker 1: I look out for them. But when they were nigga,

1156
01:03:47,960 --> 01:03:50,000
Speaker 1: my agg begging at the games' getting the funk out

1157
01:03:50,040 --> 01:03:57,240
Speaker 1: of my face? You make an excuses, Yeah, like I

1158
01:03:57,240 --> 01:03:59,560
Speaker 1: ain't know. But now if you got an illness, that's different.

1159
01:04:00,160 --> 01:04:03,160
Speaker 1: Now we're talking about able body women, that's something I

1160
01:04:03,160 --> 01:04:05,360
Speaker 1: ain't somebody female with a with an illness like a

1161
01:04:05,480 --> 01:04:09,000
Speaker 1: meltal illness, that's different. I'm somebody female that's doing all

1162
01:04:09,080 --> 01:04:11,400
Speaker 1: the same ship that everybody else is doing. She still

1163
01:04:11,480 --> 01:04:13,680
Speaker 1: go to the club, she still do this, she still

1164
01:04:13,760 --> 01:04:15,600
Speaker 1: do that, she still get ahelp? Does she still do

1165
01:04:15,720 --> 01:04:17,680
Speaker 1: all this? How the fund is you that down or

1166
01:04:17,680 --> 01:04:19,400
Speaker 1: not that you can't get the funk away from this? Nigga?

1167
01:04:20,480 --> 01:04:24,200
Speaker 1: Everything us working right here. I'm gonna just keep saying

1168
01:04:24,400 --> 01:04:27,160
Speaker 1: final words. J what's your final words? We don't have

1169
01:04:27,240 --> 01:04:29,920
Speaker 1: to agree that. I don't have no final words. I

1170
01:04:30,040 --> 01:04:35,360
Speaker 1: just my final word, just like that ship is. Don't

1171
01:04:35,920 --> 01:04:39,479
Speaker 1: you say? You say circumstances Sometimes it don't be that simple.

1172
01:04:40,560 --> 01:04:44,280
Speaker 1: But you do agree that. Hey man, you're gonna but

1173
01:04:44,640 --> 01:04:50,360
Speaker 1: you do agree that choices every individuals based their own choices.

1174
01:04:51,040 --> 01:04:56,200
Speaker 1: Yeah so, but yeah, but I guess y'all think I

1175
01:04:56,240 --> 01:05:00,520
Speaker 1: need comes from a negative place. This ship. Somebody to

1176
01:05:00,560 --> 01:05:02,040
Speaker 1: get up about in the house and be like, man,

1177
01:05:02,360 --> 01:05:07,720
Speaker 1: they go quick, making excuse for the hopefully the end

1178
01:05:07,720 --> 01:05:09,360
Speaker 1: of the day. That's the way you gotta look at it.

1179
01:05:09,400 --> 01:05:11,440
Speaker 1: If you look at it, like, if everybody look at

1180
01:05:11,480 --> 01:05:13,240
Speaker 1: it the way I'm saying, you're making an excuse, what

1181
01:05:13,320 --> 01:05:15,160
Speaker 1: would they would they be in a bettle to situation

1182
01:05:15,240 --> 01:05:18,120
Speaker 1: or worse. But if they're looking at it the way

1183
01:05:18,160 --> 01:05:20,920
Speaker 1: you're saying, like, Okay, she's broken down, that means you're

1184
01:05:20,920 --> 01:05:26,200
Speaker 1: not gonna try to physically you're good, right, good? I

1185
01:05:26,520 --> 01:05:30,600
Speaker 1: say they're they're not good, like they feel like they're

1186
01:05:30,640 --> 01:05:33,920
Speaker 1: not good enough. They've been beaten into submission by and

1187
01:05:33,960 --> 01:05:37,880
Speaker 1: they're morality so so. But I understand what you understand

1188
01:05:37,920 --> 01:05:43,080
Speaker 1: what you're saying, and understand what she's saying circumstances, But

1189
01:05:43,520 --> 01:05:47,200
Speaker 1: the core of it, outside of just the mystic abuse

1190
01:05:47,280 --> 01:05:49,760
Speaker 1: and everything, the core of your life and your direction

1191
01:05:49,920 --> 01:05:54,080
Speaker 1: comes from your choices. Yes, we all have choices, Yeah

1192
01:05:54,360 --> 01:05:58,120
Speaker 1: for sure, shout out forty. Yeah. I just know the

1193
01:05:58,280 --> 01:06:00,760
Speaker 1: niggas be making excuses why they ain't got no money

1194
01:06:01,040 --> 01:06:03,680
Speaker 1: or why I don't know that that funk with me

1195
01:06:03,800 --> 01:06:07,280
Speaker 1: don't know about it? What the funk are you doing? Yeah?

1196
01:06:07,360 --> 01:06:09,800
Speaker 1: And women make excuses because of their niggas, like my

1197
01:06:09,880 --> 01:06:11,760
Speaker 1: nigga not giving me money and blah blah blash. So

1198
01:06:11,840 --> 01:06:14,520
Speaker 1: I ain't where I need to be the same ship, Damn.

1199
01:06:14,680 --> 01:06:16,880
Speaker 1: I can see you saying I got a glitch from

1200
01:06:16,920 --> 01:06:19,960
Speaker 1: the ship I've been through. That's a difference. But you

1201
01:06:20,040 --> 01:06:23,920
Speaker 1: still gotta pay your bills. I wake up every day,

1202
01:06:24,040 --> 01:06:27,640
Speaker 1: still didn't pass trouble, but I still gotta come in

1203
01:06:27,680 --> 01:06:31,680
Speaker 1: and do my job. M So I'm laying around every

1204
01:06:31,760 --> 01:06:35,520
Speaker 1: day into and just be life. Ship. Man, I ain't

1205
01:06:35,880 --> 01:06:38,920
Speaker 1: My grandma rayed me, my dad and went to prison.

1206
01:06:39,560 --> 01:06:42,640
Speaker 1: My mom wasn't there. How long that she's gonna land?

1207
01:06:43,640 --> 01:06:47,840
Speaker 1: Oh god, I agree, how long that she ain't gonna land.

1208
01:06:48,080 --> 01:06:49,520
Speaker 1: But a lot of people just gotta looking themselves in

1209
01:06:49,560 --> 01:06:51,200
Speaker 1: the mirror and made that decision like that. You know what,

1210
01:06:51,280 --> 01:06:53,680
Speaker 1: I'm gonna make a decision for me to make myself better,

1211
01:06:53,800 --> 01:06:57,920
Speaker 1: make my life better. Women, period, trust me, because I

1212
01:06:58,000 --> 01:07:01,080
Speaker 1: don't know how they love whatever, but I can speak

1213
01:07:01,120 --> 01:07:04,080
Speaker 1: to them and tell them, baby girl, you're making excuse

1214
01:07:04,120 --> 01:07:07,320
Speaker 1: for this nigga. If that you ain't right, get out

1215
01:07:07,360 --> 01:07:09,440
Speaker 1: of that whatever it takes. But do you think sometimes

1216
01:07:09,480 --> 01:07:12,520
Speaker 1: people need a friend that's gonna help tell them that, hey, man,

1217
01:07:12,600 --> 01:07:15,880
Speaker 1: you get off your hands. Come stop making excuses like

1218
01:07:15,960 --> 01:07:17,560
Speaker 1: are you a real friend? Are you a real friend

1219
01:07:17,600 --> 01:07:21,840
Speaker 1: if you let your friend make excuses for themselves. No, No,

1220
01:07:22,400 --> 01:07:24,600
Speaker 1: that's why. That's why I lose a lot of friends

1221
01:07:25,920 --> 01:07:28,200
Speaker 1: because I tell the nigga, Bro, my son, you just

1222
01:07:28,280 --> 01:07:31,160
Speaker 1: called me the other day on some music about the

1223
01:07:31,280 --> 01:07:33,200
Speaker 1: music show. Like, Bro, that's excuse not calling my phone.

1224
01:07:33,240 --> 01:07:36,200
Speaker 1: You're saying you gotta go to the mall, todel your

1225
01:07:36,280 --> 01:07:39,520
Speaker 1: video shoot. That's excuse you been all the video shoot

1226
01:07:39,520 --> 01:07:43,200
Speaker 1: for two weeks. Right, You're just being lazy. Just say

1227
01:07:43,240 --> 01:07:46,440
Speaker 1: you're being lazy. Don't say God damn, I'm gonna be

1228
01:07:46,560 --> 01:07:49,160
Speaker 1: late because it is you. That's your excuse for being late,

1229
01:07:49,760 --> 01:07:54,560
Speaker 1: and you were bullshit. That's the that's the answer, Big,

1230
01:07:54,600 --> 01:07:56,040
Speaker 1: I've been a bullshit. I gotta go to the mall.

1231
01:07:57,120 --> 01:07:59,240
Speaker 1: That's just what it is. I can accept that. I

1232
01:07:59,320 --> 01:08:01,120
Speaker 1: can't step reading what man. I had to go to

1233
01:08:01,160 --> 01:08:03,640
Speaker 1: the mom Bro, you know you've been know about this

1234
01:08:03,680 --> 01:08:05,360
Speaker 1: ship two or three weeks. But that's a level of

1235
01:08:05,400 --> 01:08:08,080
Speaker 1: accountability and other people, like a lot of people have

1236
01:08:08,200 --> 01:08:10,160
Speaker 1: a reached it. I'll be telling myself like, damn, instead

1237
01:08:10,160 --> 01:08:11,880
Speaker 1: of waiting too the morning to do some ship. If

1238
01:08:11,920 --> 01:08:13,720
Speaker 1: I got time now, I need to take care of

1239
01:08:13,760 --> 01:08:15,440
Speaker 1: this ship because if I if I went into the morning,

1240
01:08:15,840 --> 01:08:17,439
Speaker 1: I'm probably gonna be able to do it. It's gonna

1241
01:08:17,479 --> 01:08:20,120
Speaker 1: set me set my whole day back. If y'all send

1242
01:08:20,160 --> 01:08:22,200
Speaker 1: me a time and say we gotta be here eleven o'clock, right,

1243
01:08:22,479 --> 01:08:25,000
Speaker 1: I'm gonna be here ten third. I'm gonna leave the

1244
01:08:25,080 --> 01:08:27,040
Speaker 1: house the full time. I'm not gonna set the time

1245
01:08:27,040 --> 01:08:28,840
Speaker 1: at eleven o'clock because I know it's gonna make me late.

1246
01:08:29,800 --> 01:08:31,280
Speaker 1: I like to bullsh it around. I like to come

1247
01:08:31,320 --> 01:08:33,479
Speaker 1: look at my leptop Calma while you do whatever I

1248
01:08:33,560 --> 01:08:36,360
Speaker 1: need to do properly prep myself to do this ship fact,

1249
01:08:36,439 --> 01:08:38,040
Speaker 1: instead of trying to get him on time. That's gonna

1250
01:08:38,040 --> 01:08:39,680
Speaker 1: make me late. See, I'm like that too. But I'm

1251
01:08:39,720 --> 01:08:41,400
Speaker 1: I'll be I'll be the top of neigger. I'll be

1252
01:08:41,479 --> 01:08:45,240
Speaker 1: scrolling twittering, scrolling Instagram. And if I tell if we

1253
01:08:45,320 --> 01:08:47,160
Speaker 1: got to be somewhere in eleven o'clock, I'm in my mind,

1254
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Speaker 1: I'm saying, damn, I gotta be there at eleven o'clock. Mind,

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Speaker 1: I'm trying to be that leven clock. I'm gonna get

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Speaker 1: that eleven thirty, So I need to be there. I

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01:08:53,960 --> 01:08:55,759
Speaker 1: need to tell myself, I need to be that tense

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01:08:55,800 --> 01:08:57,800
Speaker 1: every time you're trying to get some well and you

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01:08:57,920 --> 01:08:59,280
Speaker 1: pressed it for a time, but you're gonna get caught

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01:08:59,320 --> 01:09:02,680
Speaker 1: it every read you're gonna forget something. I forgot my

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01:09:02,720 --> 01:09:04,400
Speaker 1: boo bad in my head, turned everybody around and get

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Speaker 1: my bull back. Like it's just that's just how it goes, bro.

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Speaker 1: Proper preparation is everything right performance? No, that's that's what

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Speaker 1: I'm saying, Like real p pep, the real Picky. I

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Speaker 1: don't know, man, I just I hope it ain't come off.

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Speaker 1: And this ship, like god damn, it's something you need

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01:09:27,640 --> 01:09:29,560
Speaker 1: to hear that dude, But that ship. Excuse to me,

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Speaker 1: I don't give a funk what you're saying, Snap out

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01:09:32,520 --> 01:09:36,880
Speaker 1: that ship. How much ship people go through? Man, you

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01:09:36,960 --> 01:09:38,600
Speaker 1: need to go go to one and come back with

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01:09:38,800 --> 01:09:42,120
Speaker 1: real ptn D and gotta goddamn a jest back to

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01:09:42,200 --> 01:09:43,960
Speaker 1: this world. Imagined he would go to prison seeing all

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01:09:44,000 --> 01:09:45,960
Speaker 1: that bullshit come in. Still has the jested the world

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01:09:46,000 --> 01:09:48,160
Speaker 1: and they ain't got make no excuses when you get

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01:09:48,280 --> 01:09:50,479
Speaker 1: right out, when you get out. You got a whole family.

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01:09:50,640 --> 01:09:54,360
Speaker 1: You gotta goddamn feet. Thank me for when of them excuses.

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01:09:57,000 --> 01:09:59,080
Speaker 1: I've been to jail for sixteen year, What do that mean?

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Speaker 1: You get out? You know you're trying to get back

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01:10:02,120 --> 01:10:06,600
Speaker 1: to the responsibilities. I'm trying to make no mother fucking excuses.

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01:10:08,400 --> 01:10:12,639
Speaker 1: You've been in the wall. You shouldn't have win. He right,

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01:10:14,000 --> 01:10:16,400
Speaker 1: just saying that's just what it is. Man. The streets

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01:10:16,400 --> 01:10:17,960
Speaker 1: fun me or you shouldn't win in the streets, then

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01:10:19,000 --> 01:10:25,360
Speaker 1: the streets facts. She got Snap out that ship. I

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01:10:25,479 --> 01:10:34,360
Speaker 1: know it's hard about this ship or not whatever, But

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01:10:34,439 --> 01:10:38,080
Speaker 1: when you don't, don't blame nobody else. And know when

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01:10:38,120 --> 01:10:40,360
Speaker 1: the nigga tell you, But that's excuse. Don't get in

1287
01:10:40,400 --> 01:10:44,880
Speaker 1: your feeling because that's where it is. Everybody in the

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01:10:44,960 --> 01:10:47,360
Speaker 1: situation because they putting themselves in a situation. I can

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01:10:47,400 --> 01:10:48,800
Speaker 1: see because at the end of the day, if you

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01:10:48,920 --> 01:10:50,640
Speaker 1: was trying to make it better, it would be it

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01:10:50,680 --> 01:10:55,639
Speaker 1: wouldn't be as bad as it is. M hm. Neither

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01:10:55,720 --> 01:11:01,800
Speaker 1: go steal something, do something, oh love man, do anything, bro.

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01:11:01,840 --> 01:11:04,080
Speaker 1: They're too much way to get money, too many way

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01:11:04,160 --> 01:11:09,280
Speaker 1: to do whatever. But do something now. S making excuse

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01:11:09,400 --> 01:11:12,280
Speaker 1: to be up be be to beat some bullshit, then

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01:11:13,160 --> 01:11:17,040
Speaker 1: why do this and make myself some bullshit? That's that's

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01:11:17,080 --> 01:11:22,200
Speaker 1: how niggas go to the streets too, like being punked up,

1298
01:11:22,360 --> 01:11:26,320
Speaker 1: being broke, see the easy way and still with a choice. Right,

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Speaker 1: this is an easy way, So I'm gonna go. I

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01:11:28,640 --> 01:11:30,840
Speaker 1: didn't get it because I need it right now. But

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Speaker 1: you gotta think you're a kid. You still didn't gonna

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01:11:33,040 --> 01:11:34,760
Speaker 1: shoot the butch that shoe. You just gotta you can't

1303
01:11:34,760 --> 01:11:36,120
Speaker 1: give a funk about what they come out with these

1304
01:11:36,160 --> 01:11:39,760
Speaker 1: shoes because this niggas that stayed down, same niggas that

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01:11:39,800 --> 01:11:43,000
Speaker 1: we looked at, like where you laying here, Nerd in school. Whatever,

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01:11:43,200 --> 01:11:45,439
Speaker 1: the niggas stayed down, their path went right for them.

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01:11:47,479 --> 01:11:49,040
Speaker 1: So that little trauma we're putting them through. But I

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01:11:49,120 --> 01:11:51,320
Speaker 1: got damn clouding on their shoes. And now they ain't

1309
01:11:51,320 --> 01:11:54,720
Speaker 1: nenna laughing. Y'all gonna be in the jail, Like y'all

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Speaker 1: got different kind of trauma. I don't look at my shoe,

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01:11:57,720 --> 01:12:02,559
Speaker 1: now look at you. It was a choice that they made.

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Speaker 1: I ain't going out there. I got plenty friend, Like bro,

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01:12:05,920 --> 01:12:08,160
Speaker 1: that ship, look out the rip the ship we were doing,

1314
01:12:08,439 --> 01:12:12,840
Speaker 1: thought that that was lane. That's lane, but we're looking

1315
01:12:12,840 --> 01:12:15,479
Speaker 1: at you. You a square. No, he just knew, he

1316
01:12:15,640 --> 01:12:19,560
Speaker 1: knew what he wanted. I know it's gonna take to

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01:12:19,640 --> 01:12:22,360
Speaker 1: I got more patient than y'all nickels, y'all going to

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Speaker 1: rush to do that, So we cause our own trauma.

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Speaker 1: Big Facts, if who weren't born into it? Yeah, something

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Speaker 1: I ain't got ptft from gunshots. Something I ain't never

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01:12:33,160 --> 01:12:40,120
Speaker 1: heard gunshots in person. Yeah right, Yeah, we put ourselves

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Speaker 1: right there and then didn't want to blame ship after that. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I'm not nigga. You choked. That was your choice, bro,

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Speaker 1: deal with it. I concur facts on the Friday, Banks

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Speaker 1: on the Friday. I just always said I ain't gonna

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Speaker 1: sign up for then. I can't deal with the consequences

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01:12:56,280 --> 01:12:59,080
Speaker 1: up as I signed up for it, whatever come way

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01:12:59,160 --> 01:13:02,040
Speaker 1: that came with it, I should be everybody, whatever comeny

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01:13:02,120 --> 01:13:03,519
Speaker 1: came with it, and then I could take that ship

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Speaker 1: with a smile, just what it is, bro, They do

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