WEBVTT - Episode 295: Pregame - HELP! My Ex Won’t Move Out

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<v Speaker 1>My ex and I broke up, but he won't move

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<v Speaker 1>out of the apartment. What do I do? Grab his

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<v Speaker 1>shit and throw it out the front door. Calm Down

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<v Speaker 1>with Erin and Chrissa is a production of iHeartRadio. Welcome Everybody.

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<v Speaker 1>She's a calm down pre game. First of all, it's

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<v Speaker 1>Christmas Week. Happy First have Mary Mary to everyone. I

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<v Speaker 1>would have to enjoy friends and family. Whatever you are doing,

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<v Speaker 1>and while you're doing that, or maybe you're just listening

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<v Speaker 1>to this in the other room because you want to

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<v Speaker 1>get away from your family. Oh and if you can

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<v Speaker 1>see Aaron how he's on the couch in the background,

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<v Speaker 1>I can't even take it. Sweet baby, all right, Megan Numbers,

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<v Speaker 1>she said, what happens if you are sick? Do you

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<v Speaker 1>have someone on standby to cover games? That is a

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<v Speaker 1>great question, great question. It's not me. One time when

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<v Speaker 1>my appendix ruptured on a Saturday night and I was

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<v Speaker 1>in the hot hospital, Peter Schreger filled in for me

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<v Speaker 1>on It's the only time I've ever had to have

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<v Speaker 1>somebody fill in because I was in the hospital. But yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, obviously I don't care if it was anything

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<v Speaker 1>other than like a life threatening situation. I would have

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<v Speaker 1>gotten my ass out on that set and dealt with it.

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<v Speaker 1>There's been plenty of times we've been sick, but yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>that was a situation where I couldn't get up. I

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<v Speaker 1>was in an AID car and AID car I was

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<v Speaker 1>taken to the hospital in a car. So Shregs filled

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<v Speaker 1>in and obviously was a professional and did a great job.

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<v Speaker 1>But yeah, I don't know. I guess what would you do.

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<v Speaker 1>You've never had to have someone fill in, right, I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>knock on wood, I did when I COVID like, they

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<v Speaker 1>wouldn't let me go because our makeup artist tested positive,

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<v Speaker 1>so they made us sit out. But that was like

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<v Speaker 1>the whole weird stuff during then. But yeah, no, I

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<v Speaker 1>mean I've had my cervix removed twice and I've literally

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<v Speaker 1>will parts of it and I go back out there.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't. I mean, I did have a fear the

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<v Speaker 1>other day when I was getting ready to sit down

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<v Speaker 1>with Mike Tomlin. The night before I told you this,

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<v Speaker 1>I had a piece of pizza and knee sausage tasted off,

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<v Speaker 1>and I thought to myself, Oh my god, what if

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<v Speaker 1>I get food poisoning? The damn supposed to sit down

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<v Speaker 1>in my dealin and I had. I don't care. I

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<v Speaker 1>will pump any medicine in my body like I'm not

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<v Speaker 1>missing a game. No, And I'm knocking on wood right

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<v Speaker 1>now because I don't even want to think about this.

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<v Speaker 1>My hypochondriac friend was freaked out about it. I said,

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<v Speaker 1>here's what we're going to do. We're not putting that

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<v Speaker 1>out in the universe like it's actually gonna happen. You're fine,

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<v Speaker 1>don't think that, because if you think it, then it

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<v Speaker 1>might happen next crazy here we go, Kimberly Rene zero zero.

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<v Speaker 1>What do you do when you outgrow your friends or

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<v Speaker 1>friendship groups? Huh? Conversation or let it go. I don't

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<v Speaker 1>really want to have that conversation. I feel like your

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<v Speaker 1>actions say enough, right. Oh yeah, I think it's very

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think you have to guess with Aaron and

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<v Speaker 1>I we're interested continuing friendship or if we've outgrown it. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>I think there's just the point where you stop responding

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<v Speaker 1>to text or calls or invites or those kinds of things.

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<v Speaker 1>And I think I used to be someone that wanted

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<v Speaker 1>to maintain all these friendships because I just want to,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, I don't want anyone to be mad at me,

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<v Speaker 1>and I want to me not anymore. I am looking

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<v Speaker 1>to get rid of people, okay, And I'm gonna tell

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<v Speaker 1>you why not in a brady way, just in like

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<v Speaker 1>I want to give the energy that I have and

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<v Speaker 1>the time that I have to the people that I

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<v Speaker 1>want to give it to. Because there are when the

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<v Speaker 1>some situations have happened in my life, there have been

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<v Speaker 1>a very clear delineation of who is team Carissa and

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<v Speaker 1>who isn't. So that was an opportunity for me to

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<v Speaker 1>take inventory and it made it really easy for me

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<v Speaker 1>to cut down on the Christmas card list, if you will,

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<v Speaker 1>on that. So I think it's healthy to also purge

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<v Speaker 1>some of these relationships that don't benefit you. And it's

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<v Speaker 1>not in a narcissistic way. It's just like, hey, by

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<v Speaker 1>the way, you might not serve what they need either,

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<v Speaker 1>So just holding on and like it feels like hoarding, right,

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<v Speaker 1>Like we donate our clothes, we donate our bathroom supplies,

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<v Speaker 1>we get rid of things like why are we going

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<v Speaker 1>to hold onto some relationships that we know don't benefit

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<v Speaker 1>us anymore? There was a time, there was a place,

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<v Speaker 1>there was a chapter keep it moving. So I fully

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<v Speaker 1>believe in this Kimberly, and I think that depending on

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<v Speaker 1>who you are and what your personality is, if you

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<v Speaker 1>feel better addressing it and having that conversation, you should

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<v Speaker 1>do that. But for me and Aaron, I think we're

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<v Speaker 1>both in the same thing. We just let it fizzle out.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh yeah, no, yeah, I'll see Aubrey one fourteen. How

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<v Speaker 1>do you not get distracted by someone speaking in your

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<v Speaker 1>ear piece while you also talk. That's a great question

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<v Speaker 1>because I know probably for a lot of people that

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<v Speaker 1>seems weird that someone's talking in your ear while you

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<v Speaker 1>have to speak words. It's just a muscle. It's like anything.

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<v Speaker 1>I think you the more you do, the longer you

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<v Speaker 1>do it, the more you get used to it. And

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know how the brain works. I don't know

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<v Speaker 1>if my brain works sometimes, but the left and the

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<v Speaker 1>right where it's like taking in of the information and

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<v Speaker 1>then being able like your motor skills. I don't know

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<v Speaker 1>if that's your left or right side, but retention of

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<v Speaker 1>information and then the other side of your brain is

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<v Speaker 1>doing something else. The same way that we can multitask,

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<v Speaker 1>and you know, think about all the things you can

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<v Speaker 1>do two things at once. I think for in this

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<v Speaker 1>particular case. It's just the more you get used to it,

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<v Speaker 1>the easier it is. At first it was awkward, but now, however,

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<v Speaker 1>many years in, it's easy for me to do you same.

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<v Speaker 1>I just think it's like practice habit. It's just it

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<v Speaker 1>is what it is. I don't actually feel comfortable unless

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<v Speaker 1>I have seven voices in my head and mine is

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<v Speaker 1>the loudest one, which is crazy. And we don't mean

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<v Speaker 1>the IFB sure, okay, easy E. Three thoughts on Bill

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<v Speaker 1>Belichick getting hired on with the Chapel Hill football program.

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<v Speaker 1>Obviously a big conversation with my announcing crew this week. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>interesting move. Didn't see it coming. Kind of thought we'd

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<v Speaker 1>either see him back in the NFL somewhere in the NFC.

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<v Speaker 1>Maybe that's what I believed. It goes to show. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know shit. Yeah, I'm shocked, and actually for a

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<v Speaker 1>school that's more of a basketball program than a football program.

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<v Speaker 1>So cool, good Anya, Yeah, I think it was. Jimmy

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<v Speaker 1>Johnson spoke about this this week, what he said last weekend,

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<v Speaker 1>whatever it was. He just said that it's fascinating that

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<v Speaker 1>the what's you know often spoke about as the greatest

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<v Speaker 1>coach of all time can't get a job in the NFL.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, there was all those coaching positions open last

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<v Speaker 1>year and he didn't get one for whatever reasons. I

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<v Speaker 1>say the same thing as Julian. Edelman also echoed those

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<v Speaker 1>same sentiments. Of course, having played under Bill, that it

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<v Speaker 1>was interesting to both of them that he didn't get

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<v Speaker 1>a job in the NFL or those opportunities didn't present itself.

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<v Speaker 1>But I also think that you know, I'm with you.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not in the front off. I don't make those

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<v Speaker 1>decisions that is above our pay grade. But just from

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<v Speaker 1>an observation as a football fan, I'm excited that Bill.

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<v Speaker 1>Obviously his love of coaching is still there, that he's like, hey,

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<v Speaker 1>I'll go and coach. It's not it's not like a Georgia.

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<v Speaker 1>It's not Alabama, it's not this huge football program. But

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<v Speaker 1>I know that it's also very meaningful to him, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>a full circle moment for him. And he grew up

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<v Speaker 1>and his dad was a big they lived there, I think,

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<v Speaker 1>did they live whatever the connection was, whether his dad

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<v Speaker 1>was his dad there, lived close to it or staff

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<v Speaker 1>or something, there's a personal connection there. I know. In

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<v Speaker 1>his press conference he said that he just remembered being

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<v Speaker 1>a young kid and growing up and all he learned

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<v Speaker 1>was how to say, you know, beat Duke, So I

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<v Speaker 1>think it must there's got to be a number of

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<v Speaker 1>different variables that go into making that decision. But excited

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<v Speaker 1>Bill Belichick being in football, whether it's the collegiate level

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<v Speaker 1>or the pro level, is always good in my opinion,

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<v Speaker 1>So definitely brings eyeballs to that program. I love what

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<v Speaker 1>Jewel said about the Nikes and just saying like, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>you know when the Bill Belichick Jordan's come out, like,

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<v Speaker 1>that's so funny and it's great. I'm also curious to

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<v Speaker 1>see how he does with the landscape of college football

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<v Speaker 1>because it is completely different. Some would argue kind of

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<v Speaker 1>needs to go back a little bit. It just kind

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<v Speaker 1>of seems like there's not enough rules in terms of

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know the money and all that kind of stuff,

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<v Speaker 1>nil and all the things. But again that's above all

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<v Speaker 1>of my pay grade. But it's different. It's different from

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<v Speaker 1>when I covered it, and it's different from when I

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<v Speaker 1>went there. So I'm interested to see how he does

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<v Speaker 1>with all that the changes. Yep, Anonymous, My ex and

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<v Speaker 1>I broke up, but he won't move out of the apartment,

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<v Speaker 1>what do I do grab his shit that's not going

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<v Speaker 1>out the front door. I have a couple thoughts on this. Obviously,

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<v Speaker 1>this is the apartment in your name, Is this leaves yours?

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<v Speaker 1>If it is not yours, then grab your stuff and leave,

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<v Speaker 1>because I just I will not be held hostage by

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<v Speaker 1>somebody saying, oh, I'm not going to move out. And again, like,

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<v Speaker 1>if you have to get first of all, first and foremost,

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<v Speaker 1>be safe. Okay, But if it's something where it's contentious

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<v Speaker 1>and he's like not, you know, moving out, then just

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<v Speaker 1>you got to grab your stuff and you got to move.

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<v Speaker 1>It might not be what you want to do, but

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<v Speaker 1>at this point, if he's going to be so stubborn

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<v Speaker 1>and make your life miserable, then just take the high

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<v Speaker 1>road and say fine, unless that place is in your name,

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<v Speaker 1>do not move out, because then if he destroys the place,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know, you know how intense this breakup was,

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<v Speaker 1>but you don't want anything to affect, whether it's your

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<v Speaker 1>credit or just any of that kind of stuff. So

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<v Speaker 1>I would say, you know, obviously, try to have a

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<v Speaker 1>reasonable conversation with him, offer to help him move the

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<v Speaker 1>stuff out, offered. I would even offer to pay anything

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<v Speaker 1>to just get him out of there, and if he

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<v Speaker 1>won't move, then you need to get a couple of

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<v Speaker 1>your friends over and get the stuff out. But yes,

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<v Speaker 1>that is ridiculous. Grow that's a sad situation and also scary,

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<v Speaker 1>and I echo, please be safe. Yeah, yeah, Camil, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I know it. Okay, Well, I love you. Merry Christmas

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<v Speaker 1>to everybody. I hope you have a gay, happy and

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<v Speaker 1>healthy one. And yeah, holy shit, before we know it's

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<v Speaker 1>gonna be twenty twenty four. Wow, twenty twenty five. I

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<v Speaker 1>missed the whole year. Lots happened. Love you guys, and

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<v Speaker 1>thank you as always for being loyal, loving listeners of

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