Speaker 1: My ex and I broke up, but he won't move
Speaker 1: out of the apartment. What do I do? Grab his
Speaker 1: shit and throw it out the front door. Calm Down
Speaker 1: with Erin and Chrissa is a production of iHeartRadio. Welcome Everybody.
Speaker 1: She's a calm down pre game. First of all, it's
Speaker 1: Christmas Week. Happy First have Mary Mary to everyone. I
Speaker 1: would have to enjoy friends and family. Whatever you are doing,
Speaker 1: and while you're doing that, or maybe you're just listening
Speaker 1: to this in the other room because you want to
Speaker 1: get away from your family. Oh and if you can
Speaker 1: see Aaron how he's on the couch in the background,
Speaker 1: I can't even take it. Sweet baby, all right, Megan Numbers,
Speaker 1: she said, what happens if you are sick? Do you
Speaker 1: have someone on standby to cover games? That is a
Speaker 1: great question, great question. It's not me. One time when
Speaker 1: my appendix ruptured on a Saturday night and I was
Speaker 1: in the hot hospital, Peter Schreger filled in for me
Speaker 1: on It's the only time I've ever had to have
Speaker 1: somebody fill in because I was in the hospital. But yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean, obviously I don't care if it was anything
Speaker 1: other than like a life threatening situation. I would have
Speaker 1: gotten my ass out on that set and dealt with it.
Speaker 1: There's been plenty of times we've been sick, but yeah,
Speaker 1: that was a situation where I couldn't get up. I
Speaker 1: was in an AID car and AID car I was
Speaker 1: taken to the hospital in a car. So Shregs filled
Speaker 1: in and obviously was a professional and did a great job.
Speaker 1: But yeah, I don't know. I guess what would you do.
Speaker 1: You've never had to have someone fill in, right, I mean,
Speaker 1: knock on wood, I did when I COVID like, they
Speaker 1: wouldn't let me go because our makeup artist tested positive,
Speaker 1: so they made us sit out. But that was like
Speaker 1: the whole weird stuff during then. But yeah, no, I
Speaker 1: mean I've had my cervix removed twice and I've literally
Speaker 1: will parts of it and I go back out there.
Speaker 1: I don't. I mean, I did have a fear the
Speaker 1: other day when I was getting ready to sit down
Speaker 1: with Mike Tomlin. The night before I told you this,
Speaker 1: I had a piece of pizza and knee sausage tasted off,
Speaker 1: and I thought to myself, Oh my god, what if
Speaker 1: I get food poisoning? The damn supposed to sit down
Speaker 1: in my dealin and I had. I don't care. I
Speaker 1: will pump any medicine in my body like I'm not
Speaker 1: missing a game. No, And I'm knocking on wood right
Speaker 1: now because I don't even want to think about this.
Speaker 1: My hypochondriac friend was freaked out about it. I said,
Speaker 1: here's what we're going to do. We're not putting that
Speaker 1: out in the universe like it's actually gonna happen. You're fine,
Speaker 1: don't think that, because if you think it, then it
Speaker 1: might happen next crazy here we go, Kimberly Rene zero zero.
Speaker 1: What do you do when you outgrow your friends or
Speaker 1: friendship groups? Huh? Conversation or let it go. I don't
Speaker 1: really want to have that conversation. I feel like your
Speaker 1: actions say enough, right. Oh yeah, I think it's very
Speaker 1: I don't think you have to guess with Aaron and
Speaker 1: I we're interested continuing friendship or if we've outgrown it. Yeah.
Speaker 1: I think there's just the point where you stop responding
Speaker 1: to text or calls or invites or those kinds of things.
Speaker 1: And I think I used to be someone that wanted
Speaker 1: to maintain all these friendships because I just want to,
Speaker 1: you know, I don't want anyone to be mad at me,
Speaker 1: and I want to me not anymore. I am looking
Speaker 1: to get rid of people, okay, And I'm gonna tell
Speaker 1: you why not in a brady way, just in like
Speaker 1: I want to give the energy that I have and
Speaker 1: the time that I have to the people that I
Speaker 1: want to give it to. Because there are when the
Speaker 1: some situations have happened in my life, there have been
Speaker 1: a very clear delineation of who is team Carissa and
Speaker 1: who isn't. So that was an opportunity for me to
Speaker 1: take inventory and it made it really easy for me
Speaker 1: to cut down on the Christmas card list, if you will,
Speaker 1: on that. So I think it's healthy to also purge
Speaker 1: some of these relationships that don't benefit you. And it's
Speaker 1: not in a narcissistic way. It's just like, hey, by
Speaker 1: the way, you might not serve what they need either,
Speaker 1: So just holding on and like it feels like hoarding, right,
Speaker 1: Like we donate our clothes, we donate our bathroom supplies,
Speaker 1: we get rid of things like why are we going
Speaker 1: to hold onto some relationships that we know don't benefit
Speaker 1: us anymore? There was a time, there was a place,
Speaker 1: there was a chapter keep it moving. So I fully
Speaker 1: believe in this Kimberly, and I think that depending on
Speaker 1: who you are and what your personality is, if you
Speaker 1: feel better addressing it and having that conversation, you should
Speaker 1: do that. But for me and Aaron, I think we're
Speaker 1: both in the same thing. We just let it fizzle out.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, no, yeah, I'll see Aubrey one fourteen. How
Speaker 1: do you not get distracted by someone speaking in your
Speaker 1: ear piece while you also talk. That's a great question
Speaker 1: because I know probably for a lot of people that
Speaker 1: seems weird that someone's talking in your ear while you
Speaker 1: have to speak words. It's just a muscle. It's like anything.
Speaker 1: I think you the more you do, the longer you
Speaker 1: do it, the more you get used to it. And
Speaker 1: I don't know how the brain works. I don't know
Speaker 1: if my brain works sometimes, but the left and the
Speaker 1: right where it's like taking in of the information and
Speaker 1: then being able like your motor skills. I don't know
Speaker 1: if that's your left or right side, but retention of
Speaker 1: information and then the other side of your brain is
Speaker 1: doing something else. The same way that we can multitask,
Speaker 1: and you know, think about all the things you can
Speaker 1: do two things at once. I think for in this
Speaker 1: particular case. It's just the more you get used to it,
Speaker 1: the easier it is. At first it was awkward, but now, however,
Speaker 1: many years in, it's easy for me to do you same.
Speaker 1: I just think it's like practice habit. It's just it
Speaker 1: is what it is. I don't actually feel comfortable unless
Speaker 1: I have seven voices in my head and mine is
Speaker 1: the loudest one, which is crazy. And we don't mean
Speaker 1: the IFB sure, okay, easy E. Three thoughts on Bill
Speaker 1: Belichick getting hired on with the Chapel Hill football program.
Speaker 1: Obviously a big conversation with my announcing crew this week. Yeah,
Speaker 1: interesting move. Didn't see it coming. Kind of thought we'd
Speaker 1: either see him back in the NFL somewhere in the NFC.
Speaker 1: Maybe that's what I believed. It goes to show. I
Speaker 1: don't know shit. Yeah, I'm shocked, and actually for a
Speaker 1: school that's more of a basketball program than a football program.
Speaker 1: So cool, good Anya, Yeah, I think it was. Jimmy
Speaker 1: Johnson spoke about this this week, what he said last weekend,
Speaker 1: whatever it was. He just said that it's fascinating that
Speaker 1: the what's you know often spoke about as the greatest
Speaker 1: coach of all time can't get a job in the NFL.
Speaker 1: I mean, there was all those coaching positions open last
Speaker 1: year and he didn't get one for whatever reasons. I
Speaker 1: say the same thing as Julian. Edelman also echoed those
Speaker 1: same sentiments. Of course, having played under Bill, that it
Speaker 1: was interesting to both of them that he didn't get
Speaker 1: a job in the NFL or those opportunities didn't present itself.
Speaker 1: But I also think that you know, I'm with you.
Speaker 1: I'm not in the front off. I don't make those
Speaker 1: decisions that is above our pay grade. But just from
Speaker 1: an observation as a football fan, I'm excited that Bill.
Speaker 1: Obviously his love of coaching is still there, that he's like, hey,
Speaker 1: I'll go and coach. It's not it's not like a Georgia.
Speaker 1: It's not Alabama, it's not this huge football program. But
Speaker 1: I know that it's also very meaningful to him, you know,
Speaker 1: a full circle moment for him. And he grew up
Speaker 1: and his dad was a big they lived there, I think,
Speaker 1: did they live whatever the connection was, whether his dad
Speaker 1: was his dad there, lived close to it or staff
Speaker 1: or something, there's a personal connection there. I know. In
Speaker 1: his press conference he said that he just remembered being
Speaker 1: a young kid and growing up and all he learned
Speaker 1: was how to say, you know, beat Duke, So I
Speaker 1: think it must there's got to be a number of
Speaker 1: different variables that go into making that decision. But excited
Speaker 1: Bill Belichick being in football, whether it's the collegiate level
Speaker 1: or the pro level, is always good in my opinion,
Speaker 1: So definitely brings eyeballs to that program. I love what
Speaker 1: Jewel said about the Nikes and just saying like, yeah,
Speaker 1: you know when the Bill Belichick Jordan's come out, like,
Speaker 1: that's so funny and it's great. I'm also curious to
Speaker 1: see how he does with the landscape of college football
Speaker 1: because it is completely different. Some would argue kind of
Speaker 1: needs to go back a little bit. It just kind
Speaker 1: of seems like there's not enough rules in terms of
Speaker 1: I don't know the money and all that kind of stuff,
Speaker 1: nil and all the things. But again that's above all
Speaker 1: of my pay grade. But it's different. It's different from
Speaker 1: when I covered it, and it's different from when I
Speaker 1: went there. So I'm interested to see how he does
Speaker 1: with all that the changes. Yep, Anonymous, My ex and
Speaker 1: I broke up, but he won't move out of the apartment,
Speaker 1: what do I do grab his shit that's not going
Speaker 1: out the front door. I have a couple thoughts on this. Obviously,
Speaker 1: this is the apartment in your name, Is this leaves yours?
Speaker 1: If it is not yours, then grab your stuff and leave,
Speaker 1: because I just I will not be held hostage by
Speaker 1: somebody saying, oh, I'm not going to move out. And again, like,
Speaker 1: if you have to get first of all, first and foremost,
Speaker 1: be safe. Okay, But if it's something where it's contentious
Speaker 1: and he's like not, you know, moving out, then just
Speaker 1: you got to grab your stuff and you got to move.
Speaker 1: It might not be what you want to do, but
Speaker 1: at this point, if he's going to be so stubborn
Speaker 1: and make your life miserable, then just take the high
Speaker 1: road and say fine, unless that place is in your name,
Speaker 1: do not move out, because then if he destroys the place,
Speaker 1: I don't know, you know how intense this breakup was,
Speaker 1: but you don't want anything to affect, whether it's your
Speaker 1: credit or just any of that kind of stuff. So
Speaker 1: I would say, you know, obviously, try to have a
Speaker 1: reasonable conversation with him, offer to help him move the
Speaker 1: stuff out, offered. I would even offer to pay anything
Speaker 1: to just get him out of there, and if he
Speaker 1: won't move, then you need to get a couple of
Speaker 1: your friends over and get the stuff out. But yes,
Speaker 1: that is ridiculous. Grow that's a sad situation and also scary,
Speaker 1: and I echo, please be safe. Yeah, yeah, Camil, Yeah,
Speaker 1: I know it. Okay, Well, I love you. Merry Christmas
Speaker 1: to everybody. I hope you have a gay, happy and
Speaker 1: healthy one. And yeah, holy shit, before we know it's
Speaker 1: gonna be twenty twenty four. Wow, twenty twenty five. I
Speaker 1: missed the whole year. Lots happened. Love you guys, and
Speaker 1: thank you as always for being loyal, loving listeners of
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