1 00:00:00,120 --> 00:00:02,480 Speaker 1: My ex and I broke up, but he won't move 2 00:00:02,480 --> 00:00:05,320 Speaker 1: out of the apartment. What do I do? Grab his 3 00:00:05,440 --> 00:00:09,480 Speaker 1: shit and throw it out the front door. Calm Down 4 00:00:09,520 --> 00:00:19,160 Speaker 1: with Erin and Chrissa is a production of iHeartRadio. Welcome Everybody. 5 00:00:19,239 --> 00:00:23,280 Speaker 1: She's a calm down pre game. First of all, it's 6 00:00:23,360 --> 00:00:27,680 Speaker 1: Christmas Week. Happy First have Mary Mary to everyone. I 7 00:00:27,680 --> 00:00:31,400 Speaker 1: would have to enjoy friends and family. Whatever you are doing, 8 00:00:31,440 --> 00:00:33,479 Speaker 1: and while you're doing that, or maybe you're just listening 9 00:00:33,520 --> 00:00:34,839 Speaker 1: to this in the other room because you want to 10 00:00:34,840 --> 00:00:36,919 Speaker 1: get away from your family. Oh and if you can 11 00:00:36,960 --> 00:00:39,879 Speaker 1: see Aaron how he's on the couch in the background, 12 00:00:39,880 --> 00:00:43,040 Speaker 1: I can't even take it. Sweet baby, all right, Megan Numbers, 13 00:00:43,200 --> 00:00:45,440 Speaker 1: she said, what happens if you are sick? Do you 14 00:00:45,520 --> 00:00:48,639 Speaker 1: have someone on standby to cover games? That is a 15 00:00:48,680 --> 00:00:54,440 Speaker 1: great question, great question. It's not me. One time when 16 00:00:54,480 --> 00:00:59,600 Speaker 1: my appendix ruptured on a Saturday night and I was 17 00:00:59,640 --> 00:01:03,000 Speaker 1: in the hot hospital, Peter Schreger filled in for me 18 00:01:03,560 --> 00:01:06,160 Speaker 1: on It's the only time I've ever had to have 19 00:01:07,680 --> 00:01:10,720 Speaker 1: somebody fill in because I was in the hospital. But yeah, 20 00:01:10,800 --> 00:01:13,440 Speaker 1: I mean, obviously I don't care if it was anything 21 00:01:13,480 --> 00:01:16,000 Speaker 1: other than like a life threatening situation. I would have 22 00:01:16,000 --> 00:01:17,640 Speaker 1: gotten my ass out on that set and dealt with it. 23 00:01:17,680 --> 00:01:19,920 Speaker 1: There's been plenty of times we've been sick, but yeah, 24 00:01:19,920 --> 00:01:22,800 Speaker 1: that was a situation where I couldn't get up. I 25 00:01:22,840 --> 00:01:26,520 Speaker 1: was in an AID car and AID car I was 26 00:01:26,560 --> 00:01:29,280 Speaker 1: taken to the hospital in a car. So Shregs filled 27 00:01:29,280 --> 00:01:35,199 Speaker 1: in and obviously was a professional and did a great job. 28 00:01:35,360 --> 00:01:37,600 Speaker 1: But yeah, I don't know. I guess what would you do. 29 00:01:38,080 --> 00:01:41,160 Speaker 1: You've never had to have someone fill in, right, I mean, 30 00:01:41,240 --> 00:01:45,280 Speaker 1: knock on wood, I did when I COVID like, they 31 00:01:45,360 --> 00:01:48,280 Speaker 1: wouldn't let me go because our makeup artist tested positive, 32 00:01:48,360 --> 00:01:49,880 Speaker 1: so they made us sit out. But that was like 33 00:01:49,920 --> 00:01:53,720 Speaker 1: the whole weird stuff during then. But yeah, no, I 34 00:01:53,760 --> 00:01:56,560 Speaker 1: mean I've had my cervix removed twice and I've literally 35 00:01:56,640 --> 00:01:58,920 Speaker 1: will parts of it and I go back out there. 36 00:01:58,960 --> 00:02:01,360 Speaker 1: I don't. I mean, I did have a fear the 37 00:02:01,440 --> 00:02:02,880 Speaker 1: other day when I was getting ready to sit down 38 00:02:02,920 --> 00:02:04,960 Speaker 1: with Mike Tomlin. The night before I told you this, 39 00:02:05,640 --> 00:02:08,600 Speaker 1: I had a piece of pizza and knee sausage tasted off, 40 00:02:08,600 --> 00:02:10,680 Speaker 1: and I thought to myself, Oh my god, what if 41 00:02:10,680 --> 00:02:13,359 Speaker 1: I get food poisoning? The damn supposed to sit down 42 00:02:13,360 --> 00:02:16,360 Speaker 1: in my dealin and I had. I don't care. I 43 00:02:16,400 --> 00:02:18,680 Speaker 1: will pump any medicine in my body like I'm not 44 00:02:18,720 --> 00:02:21,040 Speaker 1: missing a game. No, And I'm knocking on wood right 45 00:02:21,080 --> 00:02:22,799 Speaker 1: now because I don't even want to think about this. 46 00:02:23,240 --> 00:02:25,919 Speaker 1: My hypochondriac friend was freaked out about it. I said, 47 00:02:25,919 --> 00:02:27,639 Speaker 1: here's what we're going to do. We're not putting that 48 00:02:27,680 --> 00:02:30,239 Speaker 1: out in the universe like it's actually gonna happen. You're fine, 49 00:02:30,520 --> 00:02:33,000 Speaker 1: don't think that, because if you think it, then it 50 00:02:33,080 --> 00:02:39,960 Speaker 1: might happen next crazy here we go, Kimberly Rene zero zero. 51 00:02:40,480 --> 00:02:42,920 Speaker 1: What do you do when you outgrow your friends or 52 00:02:42,919 --> 00:02:47,400 Speaker 1: friendship groups? Huh? Conversation or let it go. I don't 53 00:02:47,400 --> 00:02:49,680 Speaker 1: really want to have that conversation. I feel like your 54 00:02:49,720 --> 00:02:54,359 Speaker 1: actions say enough, right. Oh yeah, I think it's very 55 00:02:54,760 --> 00:02:56,560 Speaker 1: I don't think you have to guess with Aaron and 56 00:02:56,600 --> 00:03:03,440 Speaker 1: I we're interested continuing friendship or if we've outgrown it. Yeah. 57 00:03:03,600 --> 00:03:06,480 Speaker 1: I think there's just the point where you stop responding 58 00:03:06,520 --> 00:03:10,240 Speaker 1: to text or calls or invites or those kinds of things. 59 00:03:10,520 --> 00:03:14,200 Speaker 1: And I think I used to be someone that wanted 60 00:03:14,240 --> 00:03:16,600 Speaker 1: to maintain all these friendships because I just want to, 61 00:03:16,840 --> 00:03:18,600 Speaker 1: you know, I don't want anyone to be mad at me, 62 00:03:18,639 --> 00:03:21,440 Speaker 1: and I want to me not anymore. I am looking 63 00:03:21,560 --> 00:03:23,600 Speaker 1: to get rid of people, okay, And I'm gonna tell 64 00:03:23,600 --> 00:03:25,880 Speaker 1: you why not in a brady way, just in like 65 00:03:26,000 --> 00:03:28,400 Speaker 1: I want to give the energy that I have and 66 00:03:28,440 --> 00:03:30,440 Speaker 1: the time that I have to the people that I 67 00:03:30,440 --> 00:03:32,960 Speaker 1: want to give it to. Because there are when the 68 00:03:33,360 --> 00:03:36,400 Speaker 1: some situations have happened in my life, there have been 69 00:03:36,440 --> 00:03:39,520 Speaker 1: a very clear delineation of who is team Carissa and 70 00:03:39,560 --> 00:03:42,600 Speaker 1: who isn't. So that was an opportunity for me to 71 00:03:42,640 --> 00:03:45,160 Speaker 1: take inventory and it made it really easy for me 72 00:03:45,360 --> 00:03:49,200 Speaker 1: to cut down on the Christmas card list, if you will, 73 00:03:49,320 --> 00:03:54,960 Speaker 1: on that. So I think it's healthy to also purge 74 00:03:55,120 --> 00:03:57,800 Speaker 1: some of these relationships that don't benefit you. And it's 75 00:03:57,840 --> 00:03:59,880 Speaker 1: not in a narcissistic way. It's just like, hey, by 76 00:03:59,880 --> 00:04:02,920 Speaker 1: the way, you might not serve what they need either, 77 00:04:03,080 --> 00:04:06,200 Speaker 1: So just holding on and like it feels like hoarding, right, 78 00:04:06,320 --> 00:04:10,440 Speaker 1: Like we donate our clothes, we donate our bathroom supplies, 79 00:04:10,480 --> 00:04:11,800 Speaker 1: we get rid of things like why are we going 80 00:04:11,840 --> 00:04:14,400 Speaker 1: to hold onto some relationships that we know don't benefit 81 00:04:14,480 --> 00:04:16,159 Speaker 1: us anymore? There was a time, there was a place, 82 00:04:16,160 --> 00:04:19,720 Speaker 1: there was a chapter keep it moving. So I fully 83 00:04:19,760 --> 00:04:24,240 Speaker 1: believe in this Kimberly, and I think that depending on 84 00:04:24,279 --> 00:04:26,919 Speaker 1: who you are and what your personality is, if you 85 00:04:27,000 --> 00:04:29,839 Speaker 1: feel better addressing it and having that conversation, you should 86 00:04:29,839 --> 00:04:32,240 Speaker 1: do that. But for me and Aaron, I think we're 87 00:04:32,279 --> 00:04:35,680 Speaker 1: both in the same thing. We just let it fizzle out. 88 00:04:35,839 --> 00:04:42,599 Speaker 1: Oh yeah, no, yeah, I'll see Aubrey one fourteen. How 89 00:04:42,640 --> 00:04:45,560 Speaker 1: do you not get distracted by someone speaking in your 90 00:04:45,600 --> 00:04:49,800 Speaker 1: ear piece while you also talk. That's a great question 91 00:04:49,800 --> 00:04:51,880 Speaker 1: because I know probably for a lot of people that 92 00:04:51,960 --> 00:04:54,800 Speaker 1: seems weird that someone's talking in your ear while you 93 00:04:54,880 --> 00:04:58,360 Speaker 1: have to speak words. It's just a muscle. It's like anything. 94 00:04:58,400 --> 00:05:00,880 Speaker 1: I think you the more you do, the longer you 95 00:05:00,960 --> 00:05:03,279 Speaker 1: do it, the more you get used to it. And 96 00:05:03,760 --> 00:05:06,000 Speaker 1: I don't know how the brain works. I don't know 97 00:05:06,080 --> 00:05:08,159 Speaker 1: if my brain works sometimes, but the left and the 98 00:05:08,240 --> 00:05:10,359 Speaker 1: right where it's like taking in of the information and 99 00:05:10,360 --> 00:05:12,120 Speaker 1: then being able like your motor skills. I don't know 100 00:05:12,120 --> 00:05:14,919 Speaker 1: if that's your left or right side, but retention of 101 00:05:14,960 --> 00:05:17,760 Speaker 1: information and then the other side of your brain is 102 00:05:18,000 --> 00:05:20,240 Speaker 1: doing something else. The same way that we can multitask, 103 00:05:20,360 --> 00:05:22,880 Speaker 1: and you know, think about all the things you can 104 00:05:22,920 --> 00:05:25,040 Speaker 1: do two things at once. I think for in this 105 00:05:25,080 --> 00:05:27,080 Speaker 1: particular case. It's just the more you get used to it, 106 00:05:27,120 --> 00:05:30,520 Speaker 1: the easier it is. At first it was awkward, but now, however, 107 00:05:30,560 --> 00:05:34,000 Speaker 1: many years in, it's easy for me to do you same. 108 00:05:34,400 --> 00:05:37,600 Speaker 1: I just think it's like practice habit. It's just it 109 00:05:37,680 --> 00:05:40,239 Speaker 1: is what it is. I don't actually feel comfortable unless 110 00:05:40,240 --> 00:05:42,880 Speaker 1: I have seven voices in my head and mine is 111 00:05:42,920 --> 00:05:44,920 Speaker 1: the loudest one, which is crazy. And we don't mean 112 00:05:44,960 --> 00:05:50,680 Speaker 1: the IFB sure, okay, easy E. Three thoughts on Bill 113 00:05:50,720 --> 00:05:54,359 Speaker 1: Belichick getting hired on with the Chapel Hill football program. 114 00:05:54,560 --> 00:06:00,240 Speaker 1: Obviously a big conversation with my announcing crew this week. Yeah, 115 00:06:00,320 --> 00:06:03,000 Speaker 1: interesting move. Didn't see it coming. Kind of thought we'd 116 00:06:03,080 --> 00:06:06,039 Speaker 1: either see him back in the NFL somewhere in the NFC. 117 00:06:06,080 --> 00:06:10,120 Speaker 1: Maybe that's what I believed. It goes to show. I 118 00:06:10,160 --> 00:06:13,760 Speaker 1: don't know shit. Yeah, I'm shocked, and actually for a 119 00:06:13,839 --> 00:06:16,880 Speaker 1: school that's more of a basketball program than a football program. 120 00:06:16,960 --> 00:06:21,880 Speaker 1: So cool, good Anya, Yeah, I think it was. Jimmy 121 00:06:21,920 --> 00:06:25,120 Speaker 1: Johnson spoke about this this week, what he said last weekend, 122 00:06:25,200 --> 00:06:29,320 Speaker 1: whatever it was. He just said that it's fascinating that 123 00:06:29,400 --> 00:06:33,560 Speaker 1: the what's you know often spoke about as the greatest 124 00:06:33,600 --> 00:06:36,360 Speaker 1: coach of all time can't get a job in the NFL. 125 00:06:36,480 --> 00:06:39,240 Speaker 1: I mean, there was all those coaching positions open last 126 00:06:39,279 --> 00:06:43,159 Speaker 1: year and he didn't get one for whatever reasons. I 127 00:06:43,200 --> 00:06:45,800 Speaker 1: say the same thing as Julian. Edelman also echoed those 128 00:06:45,800 --> 00:06:48,400 Speaker 1: same sentiments. Of course, having played under Bill, that it 129 00:06:48,480 --> 00:06:51,800 Speaker 1: was interesting to both of them that he didn't get 130 00:06:51,800 --> 00:06:54,200 Speaker 1: a job in the NFL or those opportunities didn't present itself. 131 00:06:54,440 --> 00:06:58,600 Speaker 1: But I also think that you know, I'm with you. 132 00:06:59,000 --> 00:07:00,680 Speaker 1: I'm not in the front off. I don't make those 133 00:07:00,720 --> 00:07:04,440 Speaker 1: decisions that is above our pay grade. But just from 134 00:07:04,480 --> 00:07:09,279 Speaker 1: an observation as a football fan, I'm excited that Bill. 135 00:07:09,360 --> 00:07:11,840 Speaker 1: Obviously his love of coaching is still there, that he's like, hey, 136 00:07:11,960 --> 00:07:16,160 Speaker 1: I'll go and coach. It's not it's not like a Georgia. 137 00:07:16,280 --> 00:07:19,760 Speaker 1: It's not Alabama, it's not this huge football program. But 138 00:07:19,800 --> 00:07:22,960 Speaker 1: I know that it's also very meaningful to him, you know, 139 00:07:23,040 --> 00:07:25,040 Speaker 1: a full circle moment for him. And he grew up 140 00:07:25,040 --> 00:07:27,800 Speaker 1: and his dad was a big they lived there, I think, 141 00:07:27,880 --> 00:07:30,559 Speaker 1: did they live whatever the connection was, whether his dad 142 00:07:30,720 --> 00:07:34,480 Speaker 1: was his dad there, lived close to it or staff 143 00:07:34,600 --> 00:07:37,280 Speaker 1: or something, there's a personal connection there. I know. In 144 00:07:37,320 --> 00:07:39,480 Speaker 1: his press conference he said that he just remembered being 145 00:07:39,520 --> 00:07:41,600 Speaker 1: a young kid and growing up and all he learned 146 00:07:41,640 --> 00:07:43,880 Speaker 1: was how to say, you know, beat Duke, So I 147 00:07:43,880 --> 00:07:45,960 Speaker 1: think it must there's got to be a number of 148 00:07:46,040 --> 00:07:48,560 Speaker 1: different variables that go into making that decision. But excited 149 00:07:48,840 --> 00:07:51,400 Speaker 1: Bill Belichick being in football, whether it's the collegiate level 150 00:07:51,440 --> 00:07:54,000 Speaker 1: or the pro level, is always good in my opinion, 151 00:07:54,120 --> 00:07:58,360 Speaker 1: So definitely brings eyeballs to that program. I love what 152 00:07:58,440 --> 00:08:03,120 Speaker 1: Jewel said about the Nikes and just saying like, yeah, 153 00:08:03,160 --> 00:08:05,400 Speaker 1: you know when the Bill Belichick Jordan's come out, like, 154 00:08:05,600 --> 00:08:07,840 Speaker 1: that's so funny and it's great. I'm also curious to 155 00:08:07,840 --> 00:08:10,800 Speaker 1: see how he does with the landscape of college football 156 00:08:10,840 --> 00:08:14,120 Speaker 1: because it is completely different. Some would argue kind of 157 00:08:14,160 --> 00:08:15,840 Speaker 1: needs to go back a little bit. It just kind 158 00:08:15,880 --> 00:08:18,200 Speaker 1: of seems like there's not enough rules in terms of 159 00:08:19,040 --> 00:08:21,320 Speaker 1: I don't know the money and all that kind of stuff, 160 00:08:21,600 --> 00:08:24,680 Speaker 1: nil and all the things. But again that's above all 161 00:08:24,720 --> 00:08:26,840 Speaker 1: of my pay grade. But it's different. It's different from 162 00:08:26,840 --> 00:08:28,600 Speaker 1: when I covered it, and it's different from when I 163 00:08:28,640 --> 00:08:31,320 Speaker 1: went there. So I'm interested to see how he does 164 00:08:31,600 --> 00:08:36,040 Speaker 1: with all that the changes. Yep, Anonymous, My ex and 165 00:08:36,080 --> 00:08:38,800 Speaker 1: I broke up, but he won't move out of the apartment, 166 00:08:38,880 --> 00:08:42,320 Speaker 1: what do I do grab his shit that's not going 167 00:08:42,440 --> 00:08:47,520 Speaker 1: out the front door. I have a couple thoughts on this. Obviously, 168 00:08:48,559 --> 00:08:51,480 Speaker 1: this is the apartment in your name, Is this leaves yours? 169 00:08:51,520 --> 00:08:53,920 Speaker 1: If it is not yours, then grab your stuff and leave, 170 00:08:54,240 --> 00:08:57,960 Speaker 1: because I just I will not be held hostage by 171 00:08:58,600 --> 00:09:02,080 Speaker 1: somebody saying, oh, I'm not going to move out. And again, like, 172 00:09:02,160 --> 00:09:05,800 Speaker 1: if you have to get first of all, first and foremost, 173 00:09:06,320 --> 00:09:09,319 Speaker 1: be safe. Okay, But if it's something where it's contentious 174 00:09:09,320 --> 00:09:11,520 Speaker 1: and he's like not, you know, moving out, then just 175 00:09:11,800 --> 00:09:13,600 Speaker 1: you got to grab your stuff and you got to move. 176 00:09:13,720 --> 00:09:15,160 Speaker 1: It might not be what you want to do, but 177 00:09:15,200 --> 00:09:16,760 Speaker 1: at this point, if he's going to be so stubborn 178 00:09:16,840 --> 00:09:19,040 Speaker 1: and make your life miserable, then just take the high 179 00:09:19,120 --> 00:09:22,320 Speaker 1: road and say fine, unless that place is in your name, 180 00:09:22,679 --> 00:09:25,080 Speaker 1: do not move out, because then if he destroys the place, 181 00:09:25,120 --> 00:09:27,720 Speaker 1: I don't know, you know how intense this breakup was, 182 00:09:27,760 --> 00:09:30,120 Speaker 1: but you don't want anything to affect, whether it's your 183 00:09:30,160 --> 00:09:32,439 Speaker 1: credit or just any of that kind of stuff. So 184 00:09:32,480 --> 00:09:36,520 Speaker 1: I would say, you know, obviously, try to have a 185 00:09:36,760 --> 00:09:39,880 Speaker 1: reasonable conversation with him, offer to help him move the 186 00:09:39,920 --> 00:09:42,280 Speaker 1: stuff out, offered. I would even offer to pay anything 187 00:09:42,320 --> 00:09:44,520 Speaker 1: to just get him out of there, and if he 188 00:09:44,559 --> 00:09:46,440 Speaker 1: won't move, then you need to get a couple of 189 00:09:46,480 --> 00:09:50,079 Speaker 1: your friends over and get the stuff out. But yes, 190 00:09:50,679 --> 00:09:54,760 Speaker 1: that is ridiculous. Grow that's a sad situation and also scary, 191 00:09:54,760 --> 00:10:00,800 Speaker 1: and I echo, please be safe. Yeah, yeah, Camil, Yeah, 192 00:10:00,840 --> 00:10:04,880 Speaker 1: I know it. Okay, Well, I love you. Merry Christmas 193 00:10:04,920 --> 00:10:07,720 Speaker 1: to everybody. I hope you have a gay, happy and 194 00:10:07,880 --> 00:10:12,280 Speaker 1: healthy one. And yeah, holy shit, before we know it's 195 00:10:12,280 --> 00:10:15,560 Speaker 1: gonna be twenty twenty four. Wow, twenty twenty five. I 196 00:10:15,600 --> 00:10:20,320 Speaker 1: missed the whole year. Lots happened. Love you guys, and 197 00:10:20,320 --> 00:10:23,439 Speaker 1: thank you as always for being loyal, loving listeners of 198 00:10:23,480 --> 00:10:28,400 Speaker 1: the Calm Down podcast. We love you and appreciate you always. 199 00:10:29,720 --> 00:10:33,120 Speaker 1: Calm Down with Erin and Carissa is a production of iHeartRadio. 200 00:10:33,320 --> 00:10:37,640 Speaker 1: For more podcasts from iHeartRadio, visit the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, 201 00:10:37,720 --> 00:10:43,800 Speaker 1: or wherever you get your podcasts.