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Speaker 1: Scrubbing in with Scatilly and Tanya Brad and iHeartRadio and

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Speaker 1: People's Choice Award winning.

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Speaker 2: Podcast Happy Monday. Everybody, we are scrubbing in. Hi, Tanya,

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Speaker 2: H'm beca. How are you super good?

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Speaker 3: Are you?

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Speaker 2: Does it feel like a good Monday? A fresh start?

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Speaker 2: I'm art it does feel like Is it a fresh start?

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Speaker 4: It feels like a.

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Speaker 5: Fresh start today? And yeah, summer's here. If we finally

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Speaker 5: got summer weather in La and it feels like summer.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I went to the beach yesterday and I am

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Speaker 2: so burnt, Like I don't think I've had a sunburn

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Speaker 2: like this, and quite sometime I did. My face is

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Speaker 2: fine because I was very I wore a hat, I

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Speaker 2: wore sunscreen, but for some reason, I thought, I'm not,

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Speaker 2: I'll be fine out here, like I don't need sunscreen.

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Speaker 2: I'll just put tanning lotional.

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Speaker 6: It's like a hundred degrees yet.

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Speaker 7: Yeah, I don't.

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Speaker 2: I don't know why that was my mentality, but I

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Speaker 2: guess I think I'm like eighteen again.

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Speaker 7: I don't know what happened.

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Speaker 2: I think every summer I'm like, oh, I'm fine, and

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Speaker 2: then I get a bad burn. And then I learned

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Speaker 2: a lesson, so like it won't happen again, but it's

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Speaker 2: happening now, and anything touching me is very uncomfortable.

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Speaker 7: Almost came in here naked, but thought that'd be round

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Speaker 7: up on.

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Speaker 6: I was like the complete obvioste.

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Speaker 8: Yesterday I literally went out in like long sleeve shirt

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Speaker 8: and like a hat because I didn't want any sun

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Speaker 8: touching me.

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Speaker 2: Tanya, you know you're gonna be youthful for a long

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Speaker 2: time because of these.

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Speaker 6: I wasn't old, lady.

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Speaker 2: No.

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Speaker 8: I used to like bake in the sun, and my

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Speaker 8: mom would be like stop because I had the same

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Speaker 8: skin as my mom. And now I'm already paying the price.

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Speaker 8: I've got all these like skin things.

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Speaker 7: It was hot yesterday.

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Speaker 2: I was wondering if you went to the farmer's market

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Speaker 2: because I was like, that is I mean, it's it's

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Speaker 2: a doozy out there.

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Speaker 6: It was so hot at the farmer's market. Everything was

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Speaker 6: like really squishy ew.

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Speaker 7: It was like overheated. Yeah.

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Speaker 6: Yeah.

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Speaker 8: I had like a really sweet exchange with this like

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Speaker 8: woman at the farmer's market because we were trying to

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Speaker 8: pick out lemons and the Meyer's lemons, which are the

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Speaker 8: ones that I really enjoy buying. For my water and

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Speaker 8: we're really squashy, and so she was kind of helping

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Speaker 8: me like decide between the lemons, and then I she

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Speaker 8: didn't have enough cash to like pay for her lemons,

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Speaker 8: so I just bought her lemons and she like had

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Speaker 8: like a like a reaction, kind of started crying and

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Speaker 8: was like like really had a moment with me. And

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Speaker 8: it like was the sweetest thing because it was literally

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Speaker 8: three dollars.

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Speaker 7: You're her lemon angel.

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Speaker 8: Yeah, but it made me realize, like there's so many things.

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Speaker 8: There's so many instances in our day where we can

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Speaker 8: just like go out of our way and just like

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Speaker 8: the silliest little thing and it can like really affect

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Speaker 8: somebody else, you know what me Like, I want to

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Speaker 8: start doing that more.

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Speaker 7: You should do it more.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, just like be open to it. You know.

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Speaker 8: Like sometimes I just feel like I'm just going through

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Speaker 8: my day to like get my errands, you know, I

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Speaker 8: go to the farmer's marketing to get my airants done

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Speaker 8: and like keep moving, and it's like if I just

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Speaker 8: like pause and just do something nice for somebody, because

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Speaker 8: when somebody does stuff like that for you, it really

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Speaker 8: makes an impact.

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Speaker 7: Yeah, totally.

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Speaker 2: So I've ever been in one of those experiences where

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Speaker 2: someone you know, in the drive through where someone pays

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Speaker 2: in front of you. Never experienced that, but it sounds

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Speaker 4: Yeah, how does that work?

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Speaker 9: Like do you just say, like, here's my credit card,

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Speaker 9: like let the person behind me go crazy?

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Speaker 3: Like how does that work?

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Speaker 7: I think you just hope that they don't go crazy.

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Speaker 9: I try to do it once and the guy's like,

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Speaker 9: you gotta get you gotta tell me how much to charge.

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Speaker 9: I'm like, well, I don't know what they want.

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Speaker 4: And Discovery Awkwards, I'm like, well, let's.

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Speaker 9: Just say I did it and I left.

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Speaker 7: Let's say I tried.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, you know, I tried.

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Speaker 7: It was awkward, I know, but yeah it is.

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Speaker 2: It's true like small gestures like that go a long way,

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Speaker 2: especially for someone who maybe they're having a really bad day.

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Speaker 2: Like even though it was just three dollars to you,

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Speaker 2: that was like a I think, more of a meaningful

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Speaker 2: gesture more than it was about the price of the limons.

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Speaker 6: I agree.

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Speaker 8: There's so many times, like in our day that we

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Speaker 8: do that, like at a coffee shop or like at

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Speaker 8: the gas day.

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Speaker 6: I don't buy somebody's gas because I could really rack up.

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Speaker 2: That would be a very generous Yeah, very generous thing

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Speaker 2: to do for someone. So do we even go into

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Speaker 2: your like you being just a good liar or do

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Speaker 2: we do you want to touch on that right now

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Speaker 2: or do you want to wait and do that later.

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Speaker 6: We can do whatever you want.

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Speaker 3: Paging doctor Tillian, doctor.

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Speaker 6: Red, thank you for that.

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Speaker 7: Thank you.

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Speaker 2: That's what we've just been wanting to happen. Well, first

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Speaker 2: of all, I, first of all, I did not see

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Speaker 2: Fecca going to the farmer's market, you know what. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: and you had a whole week to take her along.

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Speaker 7: With you, you know.

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Speaker 6: And I was going to take her to the farmer's market.

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Speaker 8: And I realized I forgot her when I was like

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Speaker 8: halfway there and I was in like my long sleeves

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Speaker 8: and it was one hundre degrees and I was like,

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Speaker 8: I can't do it.

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Speaker 6: Okay, well I will do I will do it.

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Speaker 8: I will do it, but but I just for literally

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Speaker 8: just forgotten. Then I was just like so hot that

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Speaker 8: I didn't want to turn around cause I had my

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Speaker 8: long sleeves on. I will do it, Yeah, I will

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Speaker 8: do it though.

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Speaker 2: Okay, all right, well we'll just be waiting patiently waiting. Well,

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Speaker 2: I got home after carrying that giant, beautiful pillow you

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Speaker 2: gave me last week. I got home and I sat

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Speaker 2: out on my couch and I watched Bachelorette and I

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Speaker 2: kind of had it up, like kind of.

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Speaker 7: As a joke because she was just like our face

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Speaker 7: was right there next to me.

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Speaker 2: And then the next day I got home and I

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Speaker 7: Like I'm I don't know how.

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Speaker 2: I'm gonna keep this around because it's really does not

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Speaker 2: going my living room aesthetic, but I'm into this. So

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Speaker 2: Haley comes over and she walks in and she goes

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Speaker 7: To go, and I was like, I know.

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Speaker 2: But it's actually surprisingly comfortable. And she's like it's just

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Speaker 2: and I was like, I know.

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Speaker 7: At one point, I.

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Speaker 2: Turned around because sometimes Phoebe barks and looks past me,

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Speaker 2: which makes me feel really ghost and I turned and

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Speaker 2: I see Tanya's page right there. Scared me so bad.

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Speaker 2: So anyways, Hailey's like, get rid of that. So then

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Speaker 2: she sits down and she leans against it, and she's like, oh,

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Speaker 2: like this is really nice. I need one of these,

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Speaker 2: and I was like, one of these. And the funny

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Speaker 2: part is she goes, well, can we just flip it

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Speaker 2: like on the other side. I'm like no, Tanya's on

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Speaker 8: That was the best videos because I get did you

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Speaker 8: send me the video as that was happening.

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 8: I opened it and it's yeah, it's Hailey leaning back

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Speaker 8: first of all, saying like, oh, you need to get

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Speaker 6: And then she leans back to us, I need to

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Speaker 6: get one of those.

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Speaker 7: Yeah.

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Speaker 6: It's like everyone to Haley also.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, maybe maybe just one sided, maybe just yeah, give

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Speaker 6: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: So anyways, we went to dinner with We went and

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Speaker 2: got sushi on that was Saturday night, and it was

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Speaker 2: we had made plans.

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Speaker 7: Actually, I I Canetti had reached out.

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Speaker 2: To me Tanya and then they're Ashley's best friend from

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Speaker 2: back home, Lizzie, and she reached out and said, I

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Speaker 7: So it ended up.

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Speaker 2: Being me, Tanya, Hayley, Lizzie, Ashley, and Ashley's sister Lauren

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Speaker 2: and we went and got Sushie had a fun girls dinner,

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Speaker 2: and then I was like, why don't y'all come over

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Speaker 2: from where I live. And I want to introduce you

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Speaker 2: to this card game. And I'm not a huge game person,

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Speaker 2: but I found this game that I am obsessed with

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Speaker 2: and want to play all the time, and I want

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Speaker 2: to introduce everyone I know to it. And it's called Coup.

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Speaker 2: It's spelled cup and basically it's kind of like the

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Speaker 2: game like bullshit, like the game oh sorry, the card

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Speaker 2: game where you have to like lie about how many

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Speaker 2: cards you're putting, you know what I'm talking about. But

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Speaker 2: it's it has characters, so you're like played with a characters,

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Speaker 2: so it's a you are actually you're having to lie

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Speaker 2: and kind of manipulate to try and win. And I

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Speaker 2: was thinking, man, Tanya and Ashley I are not gonna

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Speaker 2: be good at this game, Like They're gonna go down

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Speaker 2: quick each time. Tanya I discover lied about her cards

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Speaker 2: the whole game and wins the first one.

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Speaker 7: First of all.

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Speaker 8: First of all, I like was that person that was like,

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Speaker 8: I don't really want to play the game because I

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Speaker 8: was going out, like I was only hanging for like

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Speaker 8: maybe twenty minutes and then I was going out after

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Speaker 8: so I was like, I don't really want to learn

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Speaker 8: just seemed really complicated because there's all these characters and stuff,

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Speaker 8: and I was like, I'm not gonna like learn it

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Speaker 8: and enjoy it. So I was like, I'm just gonna

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Speaker 8: sit it out. Then I was like, you know, I'm

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Speaker 8: down with this, So I started learning the game. It's

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Speaker 8: so complicated first of all, you know it is when

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Speaker 8: you first get it. I was like, there's no way

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Speaker 8: I'm learning this. So then I'm like watching, I'm watching

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Speaker 8: everybody go and I'm like, well, the person with this

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Speaker 8: do character gets all the coins?

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Speaker 6: I was like, I'm just like I don't know what

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Speaker 8: I didn't realize that they said it on the first

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Speaker 8: so I was like, I don't know if this guy's

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Speaker 1: Thank you, thank you. Then you wonder why I'm single, Well,

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Speaker 7: That means a lot.

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Speaker 1: But that's also why we call ourselves Asians, not visions.

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Speaker 7: Get it.

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Speaker 1: It took me a minute, okay.

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Speaker 1: We did a live panel. We were on live TV.

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Speaker 1: No, I'm holding your hand right now. This is so

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Speaker 8: But it's because I have been met with the opposite before,

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Speaker 1: If you ever thought you weren't, you're doing great jobs.

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Speaker 1: So thank you for that number one. Number two, I

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Speaker 1: make this network a lot of money. Guess who gets that?

447
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Speaker 1: You know, it's right, just that mentality. It's the whole

448
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Speaker 1: bucket of crabs thing. You guys have heard of that, right,

449
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Speaker 1: I mean, it's such an old adage, I guess. But basically,

450
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Speaker 1: like if you have a bucket and there's a bunch

451
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Speaker 1: of crabs at the bottom of it, if one crab

452
00:18:52,160 --> 00:18:54,359
Speaker 1: fights the other to try to get outside of the bucket,

453
00:18:54,400 --> 00:18:56,160
Speaker 1: then they all fall, they all kill each other. It's

454
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Speaker 1: like a mess. But if they all kind of rally

455
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Speaker 1: together and knock the bucket over it, guess what happen.

456
00:19:00,560 --> 00:19:03,440
Speaker 1: It's life for everybody. So I just remember that moment,

457
00:19:03,480 --> 00:19:05,520
Speaker 1: and I remember looking at her and her bad weave

458
00:19:05,560 --> 00:19:07,080
Speaker 1: when she walked away, and I literally was like, I

459
00:19:07,080 --> 00:19:09,879
Speaker 1: will never be that way, and I will always remember

460
00:19:09,920 --> 00:19:11,560
Speaker 1: what that felt like to be to feel less than

461
00:19:11,600 --> 00:19:14,159
Speaker 1: even though you're not. So I appreciate that because I

462
00:19:14,200 --> 00:19:16,080
Speaker 1: bet you anything, even though I didn't mentally think that

463
00:19:16,080 --> 00:19:18,600
Speaker 1: that came from that. And Tanya, to be honest with you,

464
00:19:18,640 --> 00:19:23,760
Speaker 1: when we work together, you were incredibly hot like seriously

465
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Speaker 1: talented and great at where you did for somebody who

466
00:19:26,040 --> 00:19:29,359
Speaker 1: is who is who was nervous because they always tell you,

467
00:19:29,480 --> 00:19:31,399
Speaker 1: especially in the city, to fake it till you make it.

468
00:19:31,840 --> 00:19:34,480
Speaker 1: Hell Na, dog, you gotta face it till you make

469
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Speaker 1: it one hundred percent. So that's what you did. If

470
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Speaker 1: you were nervous, I couldn't tell. You literally got out

471
00:19:39,040 --> 00:19:41,680
Speaker 1: and you were like and then they get three two

472
00:19:41,720 --> 00:19:43,760
Speaker 1: one action, you were like, Hey, what's up. I'm Tanya rad.

473
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Speaker 7: I'm so excited here.

474
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Speaker 6: This is awesome.

475
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Speaker 1: I can't wait for this artist. And that's the way

476
00:19:46,960 --> 00:19:48,720
Speaker 1: you gotta be in this in this industry. And you

477
00:19:48,720 --> 00:19:50,440
Speaker 1: gotta only believe in yourself because there are gonna be

478
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Speaker 1: a lot of people on TV being like, she don't

479
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Speaker 1: know what she's talking about, and then another person who's

480
00:19:54,119 --> 00:19:56,600
Speaker 1: gonna comment on your grab. But you gotta believe in yourself.

481
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Speaker 1: And so I love that. Oh, I mean it's so cool.

482
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Speaker 8: It was like truly like just this moment. And then

483
00:20:03,480 --> 00:20:05,439
Speaker 8: when we got to work together again, like you did

484
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Speaker 8: the exact same thing, Like it was just so like

485
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Speaker 8: if you like when.

486
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Speaker 6: You do good, we do good, and we all do

487
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Speaker 6: good together.

488
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Speaker 8: It was just like that like that is such a

489
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Speaker 8: one of my like favorite mentalities that anybody can have.

490
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Speaker 6: It's like if you do good, we do good, and

491
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Speaker 6: we all do good.

492
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Speaker 1: Yes, I can't wait to see And you do it already.

493
00:20:23,359 --> 00:20:25,320
Speaker 1: I know this. I'm sure you feel it all the time,

494
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Speaker 1: like being beside her, but you do it all the

495
00:20:28,280 --> 00:20:30,359
Speaker 1: time to encourage other women, and you'll see the fruit

496
00:20:30,400 --> 00:20:33,440
Speaker 1: from that is so much better, so much better. That's

497
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Speaker 1: really good, you guys. That's so cool, Tanya. Thank you

498
00:20:35,520 --> 00:20:37,280
Speaker 1: for sharing that story though. I'm so glad we get

499
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Speaker 1: to be there. So I'm here at Tanya's work, which

500
00:20:39,200 --> 00:20:40,760
Speaker 1: is crazy because I know what she does, but I

501
00:20:40,760 --> 00:20:42,879
Speaker 1: don't picture it because I don't know what it looks like.

502
00:20:42,920 --> 00:20:44,879
Speaker 1: You know, like when your parents, like back in the day,

503
00:20:44,880 --> 00:20:45,960
Speaker 1: you didn't know what the hell they did when they

504
00:20:45,960 --> 00:20:47,439
Speaker 1: said they were an engineer, Like what does that mean?

505
00:20:47,480 --> 00:20:50,199
Speaker 1: They're you're wearing a like conductor's hat, Like are you

506
00:20:50,240 --> 00:20:51,600
Speaker 1: going to a train set? Like I don't know what

507
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Speaker 1: that means?

508
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Speaker 2: You know.

509
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Speaker 1: So it's cool to be at your work and actually,

510
00:20:55,119 --> 00:20:57,480
Speaker 1: you know, see you in action, see you not.

511
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Speaker 10: Yeah, Genie is like so good at her like we

512
00:21:01,840 --> 00:21:04,640
Speaker 10: would they would be like counting us down from commercial

513
00:21:04,680 --> 00:21:06,440
Speaker 10: and be like three two one, and she would literally

514
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Speaker 10: be in conversation with somebody like I don't know, and

515
00:21:08,480 --> 00:21:12,280
Speaker 10: then the second it says one, she's like that Ever back,

516
00:21:12,960 --> 00:21:14,040
Speaker 10: I was like wow.

517
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Speaker 8: And then when we had like off time, like I

518
00:21:16,320 --> 00:21:17,800
Speaker 8: would be like Brad and I would like go and

519
00:21:17,840 --> 00:21:20,800
Speaker 8: get food or just like talk about Ariana Grande or something,

520
00:21:20,800 --> 00:21:22,800
Speaker 8: and Genie would like be like, I have three conference

521
00:21:22,800 --> 00:21:24,399
Speaker 8: calls like back to actually would be like on a

522
00:21:24,400 --> 00:21:26,840
Speaker 8: conference call doing something on her computer. When we had

523
00:21:26,920 --> 00:21:29,440
Speaker 8: like fifteen minute break or something, I was like, this

524
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Speaker 8: girl works.

525
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Speaker 1: Like you always been like this, like have you like

526
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Speaker 1: uh okay, So I just want to make clearer to

527
00:21:36,040 --> 00:21:39,720
Speaker 1: everybody you don't have This is a choice for me

528
00:21:39,800 --> 00:21:42,040
Speaker 1: to be like this. I do work a lot because

529
00:21:42,080 --> 00:21:44,600
Speaker 1: I'm passionate about what I do, and I also believe

530
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Speaker 1: in this industry. And actually, if you want to be

531
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Speaker 1: the best at any at any role of being yourself,

532
00:21:50,440 --> 00:21:53,080
Speaker 1: you gotta be on it, like like this hardcore where

533
00:21:53,119 --> 00:21:56,119
Speaker 1: you you jump at any opportunity to make sure that

534
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Speaker 1: you are shedding your best light or giving your all.

535
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Speaker 1: Your moral compass is always consistent with everything you do.

536
00:22:03,040 --> 00:22:06,960
Speaker 1: If you don't do this. I'm just I only know

537
00:22:07,080 --> 00:22:09,600
Speaker 1: people who are really stellar at their jobs go about

538
00:22:09,600 --> 00:22:11,280
Speaker 1: it this way, and I respect that. So I just

539
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Speaker 1: want to be clear, Like, I know, I work a lot, Yeah,

540
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Speaker 1: but I love my work, you know. Have I always

541
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Speaker 1: been this way?

542
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Speaker 7: No?

543
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Speaker 1: I actually sucked in school really bad. I was a

544
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Speaker 1: really bad kid. I went through some situations. If you

545
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Speaker 1: watch my digital series Hello Hannai, Hello Hanai, Hannai, How

546
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Speaker 1: I do well you? I learned that I'm only good

547
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Speaker 1: at what I really care about. So when I was

548
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Speaker 1: in school, I didn't do well, and I thought I

549
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Speaker 1: was dumb. I really did. I was the Asian that

550
00:22:39,359 --> 00:22:44,239
Speaker 1: couldn't do math. Go figure. I was good at like

551
00:22:44,400 --> 00:22:47,480
Speaker 1: my jobs, but not the kind of jobs you want

552
00:22:47,480 --> 00:22:52,639
Speaker 1: to be good at. So anyway, No, really I was

553
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Speaker 1: that girl. I was actual who got into a lot

554
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Speaker 1: of trouble and I did. I was in questionable situations,

555
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Speaker 1: questionable tramps, damn tattoos to tell you the stories of it.

556
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Speaker 1: And then when I realized that all the things my

557
00:23:02,680 --> 00:23:05,119
Speaker 1: teacher had told me, I was known. I had to

558
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Speaker 1: take add type pills back in the eighties that they

559
00:23:08,240 --> 00:23:10,520
Speaker 1: were kind of similar to adderall because they said I

560
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Speaker 1: was over hyper.

561
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Speaker 7: I am.

562
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Speaker 1: I'm super hyped. I have a lot of energy, but

563
00:23:13,800 --> 00:23:15,520
Speaker 1: you can see that if it's in a concerted place,

564
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Speaker 1: if it's in the right area, it's going to be

565
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Speaker 1: managed the right way. I didn't know what I liked

566
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Speaker 1: to do in school, so I was all over the place.

567
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Speaker 1: I also really love talking to people. I love I'm

568
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Speaker 1: an mpath but I had to learn that. I had

569
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Speaker 1: to learn that I really enjoy listening to people's stories

570
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Speaker 1: and getting to deep, heartfelt conversations. I don't like small talk.

571
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Speaker 1: If you meet me at a cocktail party, I'm the

572
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Speaker 1: girl who's like getting into more. Like what's your life purpose?

573
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Speaker 1: What's your goal? What do you love about him? What

574
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Speaker 1: does you make you do that you can do without him?

575
00:23:39,840 --> 00:23:42,720
Speaker 1: Or whatever it may be their deeper questions. So until

576
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Speaker 1: I learned those things about my personality, I was able

577
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Speaker 1: to cultivate it to see, Okay, what am I supposed

578
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Speaker 1: to do with it? That adds value? That's purpose. Otherwise

579
00:23:50,880 --> 00:23:52,560
Speaker 1: you just sit and talk to your friends in circles

580
00:23:52,560 --> 00:23:54,760
Speaker 1: all day. But what can I do that actually compensates

581
00:23:54,760 --> 00:23:58,359
Speaker 1: me and makes change and makes moves movements? So today,

582
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Speaker 1: being a television personality, being an advocate to fight human trafficking,

583
00:24:02,040 --> 00:24:04,520
Speaker 1: being a big sister or sister period to other women

584
00:24:04,520 --> 00:24:06,480
Speaker 1: out there. It's huge for me. So I jump out

585
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Speaker 1: of bed at the opportunity to do whatever feeds that

586
00:24:09,200 --> 00:24:10,800
Speaker 1: you know, and I'm very clear about what jobs I

587
00:24:10,800 --> 00:24:12,080
Speaker 1: don't take. If it doesn't do that.

588
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Speaker 6: That's like hurt your role.

589
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Speaker 8: On the Real, I feel like everybody kind of has

590
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Speaker 8: like a little bit of like a role, and I

591
00:24:17,240 --> 00:24:19,800
Speaker 8: have you are like the advocate like you have, like

592
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Speaker 8: you stand up for things that you're passionate about.

593
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Speaker 1: Yeah, I think all the women are really really passionate

594
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Speaker 1: and they stand for things that they they believe in.

595
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Speaker 1: That's the great thing about The Real is that the

596
00:24:29,320 --> 00:24:32,480
Speaker 1: panel is so strong that Lonnie loved to, Maria Moore, Houseley,

597
00:24:32,680 --> 00:24:38,560
Speaker 1: Adrian Houghton are all super They're super forward about what

598
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Speaker 1: they stand for. But I and so I am too,

599
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Speaker 1: So we all are. But I do find myself ranting

600
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Speaker 1: a little bit more about women's issues, about minority rights,

601
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Speaker 1: about trafficking, sexual abuse victims, about therapy. So yeah, there

602
00:24:53,680 --> 00:24:56,480
Speaker 1: are some things that I'm a little bit more louder

603
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Speaker 1: about because I didn't have that in my culture, and

604
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Speaker 1: nobody taught me about that until I had money. Till

605
00:25:01,119 --> 00:25:02,560
Speaker 1: I had money, people are like, you know, you could

606
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Speaker 1: do those extra dollars and all that stuff that's going

607
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Speaker 1: on in your head, go get some therapy.

608
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Speaker 7: Yeah.

609
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Speaker 1: I was like, what Asian people don't get therapy? What

610
00:25:09,400 --> 00:25:10,840
Speaker 1: are you talking about? You know what I mean? Like

611
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Speaker 1: we go and like do tai chi in the park

612
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Speaker 1: and keep to ourselves. No, you go and get therapy

613
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Speaker 1: so you can talk about it and learn how to

614
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Speaker 1: take those emotions and move it somewhere so that it

615
00:25:19,720 --> 00:25:21,680
Speaker 1: heals and then it can actually come out in the

616
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Speaker 1: right way to help you process. And I know that,

617
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Speaker 1: you know. So yeah, it's crazy. So so anything I

618
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Speaker 1: can say to help somebody else Now, I'm like, oh

619
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Speaker 1: my god, let me.

620
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Speaker 2: Tell you what worked for me. So you found where

621
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Speaker 2: to put the energy for sure?

622
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Speaker 1: Yes, yeah, I think.

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Speaker 2: Well it's funny even talking about therapy. Like I grew up,

624
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Speaker 2: it was just like I grew up in a Christian home,

625
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Speaker 2: and so I there was like there was we didn't

626
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Speaker 2: talk about therapy because it was like just pray about it,

627
00:25:44,520 --> 00:25:46,840
Speaker 2: which I totally believe in prayer. Yeah, but I do

628
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Speaker 2: think there's something very valuable in therapy and being able

629
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Speaker 2: to talk to someone. So it's like great to have someone.

630
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Speaker 2: I think we have a lot of girls in our

631
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Speaker 2: We have a huge Facebook group and they're very passionate

632
00:25:55,640 --> 00:25:58,159
Speaker 2: about the podcast and they reach out to each other

633
00:25:58,200 --> 00:25:59,800
Speaker 2: about advice. It's like amazing.

634
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Speaker 1: But if your guys is fan following, yeah, can I

635
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Speaker 1: be down?

636
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Speaker 7: Like what's that?

637
00:26:06,160 --> 00:26:07,880
Speaker 1: How do you join? And who's on Facebook?

638
00:26:07,920 --> 00:26:08,160
Speaker 6: Still?

639
00:26:09,480 --> 00:26:12,320
Speaker 1: Why can't we do an Instagram following where we can

640
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Speaker 1: comment below?

641
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Speaker 6: I know it's interesting because Instagram doesn't have the ability to.

642
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Speaker 1: Like to interact.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, yeah, you're right.

644
00:26:18,920 --> 00:26:23,200
Speaker 1: You're right. Then that's what's missing. So so to piggyback

645
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Speaker 1: on what you were saying, it is interesting because I

646
00:26:25,080 --> 00:26:28,680
Speaker 1: love Jesus too. But I do believe that even though

647
00:26:28,720 --> 00:26:30,400
Speaker 1: you pray about it, you pray so that you put

648
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Speaker 1: a seat of intention with what you're saying to God

649
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Speaker 1: you're going to do. So it's like, God, listen to me,

650
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Speaker 1: this is what I want to see happen. And God

651
00:26:35,880 --> 00:26:38,840
Speaker 1: is either going to navigate that that way or show

652
00:26:38,880 --> 00:26:40,560
Speaker 1: you a way why you shouldn't have gone that route,

653
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Speaker 1: or whatever it may be. But at the end of

654
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Speaker 1: the day, He's also like, all right, then, don't just

655
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Speaker 1: sit there and talk to you. Don't go and do

656
00:26:46,000 --> 00:26:48,120
Speaker 1: it with the actions and the talents and the connections

657
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Speaker 1: that I'm giving you.

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Speaker 2: And like he he created someone with the mind to

659
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Speaker 2: be able to listen and to help people that become therapists.

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Speaker 2: So it's like he created those people and gave them

661
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Speaker 2: those gifts. So like go to those people, yeah, because

662
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Speaker 2: he gave them.

663
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Speaker 6: Do you know Devon Franklin at all?

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Speaker 1: I love Devon and his wife, They're great. What does

665
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Speaker 1: he say?

666
00:27:05,520 --> 00:27:10,000
Speaker 8: He said, don't just pray about it or uh, I'm

667
00:27:10,000 --> 00:27:12,879
Speaker 8: gonna mess it up. But essentially I pray. Don't just

668
00:27:12,920 --> 00:27:15,879
Speaker 8: pray about it, prepare for it. So it's like, pray

669
00:27:15,960 --> 00:27:17,639
Speaker 8: for it, but also prepare.

670
00:27:17,280 --> 00:27:19,320
Speaker 1: For it because when that opportunity comes, you need to

671
00:27:19,320 --> 00:27:20,280
Speaker 1: be ready to strike.

672
00:27:20,480 --> 00:27:21,359
Speaker 7: Yes that it's.

673
00:27:21,200 --> 00:27:23,200
Speaker 1: Sitting there with your eyes closed and not been missing

674
00:27:23,240 --> 00:27:24,000
Speaker 1: the sign completely.

675
00:27:24,080 --> 00:27:26,080
Speaker 8: Yeah, He like basically tells the story of his wife.

676
00:27:26,160 --> 00:27:27,840
Speaker 8: She was just praying for She wanted to be taken

677
00:27:27,880 --> 00:27:31,160
Speaker 8: seriously as like an action like an action star. And

678
00:27:31,200 --> 00:27:33,639
Speaker 8: he was like, you're praying about it, but like you

679
00:27:33,680 --> 00:27:35,280
Speaker 8: need to like go to the gym and get that

680
00:27:35,359 --> 00:27:36,840
Speaker 8: action body like you know what I mean, Like you're

681
00:27:36,840 --> 00:27:39,199
Speaker 8: an actress, like get your body ready, and then like

682
00:27:39,200 --> 00:27:41,199
Speaker 8: she started going to the gym and getting ready, and

683
00:27:41,200 --> 00:27:43,080
Speaker 8: then the call came and she got she got the right.

684
00:27:43,119 --> 00:27:46,160
Speaker 1: Think about all those all that energy that's going towards

685
00:27:46,200 --> 00:27:48,680
Speaker 1: making it happen because you're actually moving and thinking and

686
00:27:49,600 --> 00:27:52,679
Speaker 1: acting in it. That's that's probably true too for my career.

687
00:27:52,760 --> 00:27:56,960
Speaker 1: I absolutely did, you know what. I absolutely did go

688
00:27:57,080 --> 00:28:01,320
Speaker 1: around moving myself as a as a television personality, as

689
00:28:01,320 --> 00:28:04,879
Speaker 1: a person who already was like successful working in Hollywood,

690
00:28:05,160 --> 00:28:06,960
Speaker 1: even though I didn't have much to my name as

691
00:28:07,040 --> 00:28:09,159
Speaker 1: far as money, didn't have any connections with friends. But

692
00:28:09,200 --> 00:28:11,440
Speaker 1: I moved like I did, And I think that's why

693
00:28:11,480 --> 00:28:13,800
Speaker 1: you see that. I think that's why, Tanya, you've see

694
00:28:13,800 --> 00:28:16,080
Speaker 1: an aura about me that comes off like she's gone

695
00:28:16,080 --> 00:28:18,119
Speaker 1: all together because I don't, but I know how to

696
00:28:18,280 --> 00:28:19,280
Speaker 1: face it till I make it.

697
00:28:19,680 --> 00:28:21,520
Speaker 8: No, you do, though, you have you have like this

698
00:28:21,680 --> 00:28:24,000
Speaker 8: like really good aura, Like I just want to, like

699
00:28:24,480 --> 00:28:26,439
Speaker 8: we don't hang out that much, but.

700
00:28:26,320 --> 00:28:28,200
Speaker 2: Like you called me, maybe we would.

701
00:28:28,359 --> 00:28:31,040
Speaker 8: I wish we did, because I just want to, Like

702
00:28:31,280 --> 00:28:33,240
Speaker 8: you actually said something recently that really struck me. It

703
00:28:33,280 --> 00:28:35,720
Speaker 8: was like, and you can correct because I'm probably gonna

704
00:28:35,720 --> 00:28:37,080
Speaker 8: butcher it, but it was something like do they give

705
00:28:37,080 --> 00:28:39,800
Speaker 8: you weight or do they give you wings? And it's

706
00:28:39,800 --> 00:28:41,800
Speaker 8: like about having the people in your life, like don't

707
00:28:41,800 --> 00:28:43,480
Speaker 8: have people in your life that put weight?

708
00:28:43,760 --> 00:28:43,960
Speaker 6: Yeah?

709
00:28:44,040 --> 00:28:45,959
Speaker 8: Wait on, you have people in your life that give

710
00:28:46,000 --> 00:28:47,640
Speaker 8: you wings and like help you fly. And I feel

711
00:28:47,640 --> 00:28:49,480
Speaker 8: like you're one of those, even though you're not in

712
00:28:49,560 --> 00:28:51,200
Speaker 8: my daily life, Like you're one of those people that

713
00:28:51,200 --> 00:28:52,640
Speaker 8: I feel like gives me wings in my life.

714
00:28:52,720 --> 00:28:54,120
Speaker 1: Tanya, we should hang out more.

715
00:28:54,880 --> 00:28:57,080
Speaker 7: I'm serious. I just like you're awesome.

716
00:28:57,840 --> 00:29:01,040
Speaker 1: Yes, because if it's that way when we're sober, imagine

717
00:29:01,040 --> 00:29:04,040
Speaker 1: when we have something, it's gonna be so much better.

718
00:29:04,640 --> 00:29:07,280
Speaker 1: I'm so serious and I'm not that deep. Like honestly,

719
00:29:07,280 --> 00:29:08,920
Speaker 1: throw me a hot dog and some chias seeds and

720
00:29:08,960 --> 00:29:12,760
Speaker 1: I'm like, we could be first friends forever. Gus, Yes,

721
00:29:13,040 --> 00:29:15,040
Speaker 1: cheeseas are my life. That's like the one I thought.

722
00:29:14,880 --> 00:29:16,560
Speaker 7: You said cheese sticks like Montrell sticks.

723
00:29:16,600 --> 00:29:20,520
Speaker 2: I was like, the same, No, not the same.

724
00:29:21,680 --> 00:29:25,040
Speaker 8: Ge taught me that the hack of three tablespoons of

725
00:29:25,080 --> 00:29:27,920
Speaker 8: chia seeds and you remember it well, guys, bowel movement.

726
00:29:28,520 --> 00:29:32,200
Speaker 1: Okay, so I can see it so much better than

727
00:29:32,280 --> 00:29:35,600
Speaker 1: Tanya's did, because we want to get a hashtag spawn

728
00:29:35,680 --> 00:29:38,960
Speaker 1: from this. No, honestly, I travel a lot and I

729
00:29:39,000 --> 00:29:41,880
Speaker 1: don't get to always eat regular meals. I have to

730
00:29:41,920 --> 00:29:43,920
Speaker 1: eat wherever I can, and and let's be honest, not

731
00:29:43,920 --> 00:29:46,400
Speaker 1: everybody eats the amount of fiberally should a day. So

732
00:29:46,760 --> 00:29:49,400
Speaker 1: when you have three tablespoons of chia seeds and take

733
00:29:49,400 --> 00:29:50,920
Speaker 1: it in a shot of orange juice, take it in

734
00:29:50,960 --> 00:29:52,400
Speaker 1: like a quick yogurt you don't like, put in a

735
00:29:52,400 --> 00:29:54,239
Speaker 1: big old smoothie, expect yourself to finish it in your

736
00:29:54,440 --> 00:29:56,640
Speaker 1: full at the end, put in something quick. But I

737
00:29:56,720 --> 00:29:59,320
Speaker 1: promise you if you do that three times, three tablespoons

738
00:29:59,360 --> 00:30:02,080
Speaker 1: a day, you drink enough water which is at least

739
00:30:02,560 --> 00:30:05,840
Speaker 1: half your water in half your weight in bounces, you

740
00:30:05,880 --> 00:30:11,120
Speaker 1: will see the friend that leaves your body every day

741
00:30:11,600 --> 00:30:14,400
Speaker 1: and feels so much better about seeing what you eat

742
00:30:14,480 --> 00:30:17,080
Speaker 1: leave and being having a healthy digestive system. So I'm

743
00:30:17,120 --> 00:30:17,880
Speaker 1: really big on that.

744
00:30:17,920 --> 00:30:21,480
Speaker 2: Seriously, Wow, that's something I could try.

745
00:30:21,640 --> 00:30:23,640
Speaker 7: Yeah, I'm trying. Have you tried?

746
00:30:24,320 --> 00:30:24,760
Speaker 6: Yeah?

747
00:30:24,760 --> 00:30:31,400
Speaker 8: I went that day when she told me, I literally bays.

748
00:30:29,160 --> 00:30:32,000
Speaker 1: Talk about doing your hair, real friends talk about pooh.

749
00:30:32,480 --> 00:30:33,120
Speaker 7: That's true.

750
00:30:33,800 --> 00:30:35,440
Speaker 8: Okay, well, I want to talk a little bit about

751
00:30:36,560 --> 00:30:39,520
Speaker 8: your Oh. Holy Moly comes out on June twentieth.

752
00:30:39,640 --> 00:30:41,000
Speaker 1: Yes, it's so much fun.

753
00:30:41,400 --> 00:30:43,720
Speaker 6: And that was season one that wrapped. Yep, you're done.

754
00:30:43,840 --> 00:30:45,680
Speaker 1: This is the first season that we just shot. It

755
00:30:45,800 --> 00:30:49,719
Speaker 1: is an extreme golf. It's an extreme version of miniature golf.

756
00:30:50,320 --> 00:30:53,360
Speaker 1: Steph Curry is the executive producer. My first ever show

757
00:30:53,400 --> 00:30:58,280
Speaker 1: that had so much action and so much passionate passion

758
00:30:58,360 --> 00:31:02,600
Speaker 1: and personality. So imagine the team of Holy Moly. These

759
00:31:02,640 --> 00:31:07,120
Speaker 1: executive producerscured the US for the most extreme miniature golf fans.

760
00:31:07,320 --> 00:31:09,440
Speaker 1: These are people that have gotten married on golf courses,

761
00:31:09,600 --> 00:31:12,040
Speaker 1: people who have built their houses to turn into golf courses,

762
00:31:12,280 --> 00:31:17,160
Speaker 1: tattoos on their body, name their pets or their children

763
00:31:17,240 --> 00:31:20,719
Speaker 1: off of holes. It's like insane. So I know, So

764
00:31:20,800 --> 00:31:23,360
Speaker 1: I come and I'm like, okay, this is We're gonna

765
00:31:23,360 --> 00:31:25,480
Speaker 1: be some crazies. It's gonna be so fun. I'm gonna

766
00:31:25,480 --> 00:31:27,480
Speaker 1: get some memes out of this. It's a great No.

767
00:31:27,960 --> 00:31:31,880
Speaker 1: These are the most passionate and amazing loving American people

768
00:31:32,280 --> 00:31:35,640
Speaker 1: who have these incredible stories where miniature golf bonded them

769
00:31:35,800 --> 00:31:40,400
Speaker 1: or got them closer to their childlike side of their life,

770
00:31:40,400 --> 00:31:42,560
Speaker 1: which is really most important, right. I feel like we

771
00:31:42,560 --> 00:31:44,880
Speaker 1: grow up so fast we need concert reminders to be

772
00:31:44,920 --> 00:31:47,080
Speaker 1: a kid again, and this is that for these people.

773
00:31:47,560 --> 00:31:50,440
Speaker 1: So these people go and compete for twenty five thousand

774
00:31:50,480 --> 00:31:52,400
Speaker 1: dollars in their bragging rights to say that they're the

775
00:31:52,400 --> 00:31:55,960
Speaker 1: best miniature golfer. But this course is insane in the

776
00:31:56,000 --> 00:31:59,560
Speaker 1: freaking membrane. Yo. It's like think about like big larger

777
00:31:59,640 --> 00:32:02,240
Speaker 1: line windmills that are the size of buildings that can

778
00:32:02,360 --> 00:32:06,240
Speaker 1: throw you into a bed of tulips, or having to

779
00:32:06,400 --> 00:32:11,560
Speaker 1: race against slippery slidery cold slippy slidy cold ice glaciers

780
00:32:11,600 --> 00:32:13,000
Speaker 1: to fight a polar bear so that you can get

781
00:32:13,040 --> 00:32:15,400
Speaker 1: your ball in the hole. Like crazy things like that

782
00:32:15,560 --> 00:32:17,920
Speaker 1: larger than life logs that are rushing at you. You

783
00:32:17,960 --> 00:32:19,760
Speaker 1: have to either jump over the logs or duck from

784
00:32:19,800 --> 00:32:21,360
Speaker 1: them to get your ball in the hole at the top,

785
00:32:21,400 --> 00:32:22,920
Speaker 1: like crazy stuff and.

786
00:32:23,280 --> 00:32:24,600
Speaker 7: Wipe out of miniature.

787
00:32:24,680 --> 00:32:27,120
Speaker 1: It's exactly it's exactly that, And the best part is

788
00:32:27,160 --> 00:32:29,520
Speaker 1: you're allowed to laugh at them. You're allowed to laugh

789
00:32:29,520 --> 00:32:31,960
Speaker 1: at these people because you can't help it. When a

790
00:32:32,040 --> 00:32:34,920
Speaker 1: human body goes flying through the air, it does moves

791
00:32:34,960 --> 00:32:38,040
Speaker 1: in ways that you've never seen before, like you literally

792
00:32:38,320 --> 00:32:40,480
Speaker 1: you thought you you couldn't robot or you thought your

793
00:32:40,480 --> 00:32:42,400
Speaker 1: neck couldn't work. It will in the air when these

794
00:32:42,400 --> 00:32:45,120
Speaker 1: things like throw you off. So it's so fun. And

795
00:32:45,160 --> 00:32:47,760
Speaker 1: I also haven't done a show where you can watch

796
00:32:47,800 --> 00:32:51,560
Speaker 1: with anybody, like even The Real which I love. Sometimes

797
00:32:51,840 --> 00:32:53,880
Speaker 1: we talk about things your kids may not get right.

798
00:32:53,920 --> 00:32:55,920
Speaker 1: So this you could watch with your kids, you could

799
00:32:55,960 --> 00:32:57,920
Speaker 1: watch with your neighbor, you can watch with your girlfriends,

800
00:32:57,920 --> 00:32:59,760
Speaker 1: your boyfriend and whatever. And it's just fun. If it's

801
00:32:59,760 --> 00:33:02,680
Speaker 1: a smart within the first fifteen seconds, you're already like

802
00:33:02,800 --> 00:33:04,400
Speaker 1: laughing because it's so crazy.

803
00:33:05,560 --> 00:33:08,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, Easton was was auditioned to be on the show.

804
00:33:08,920 --> 00:33:11,640
Speaker 1: But now I get why you didn't make it stream

805
00:33:12,400 --> 00:33:14,320
Speaker 1: Wait did you really audition because you're a major.

806
00:33:14,560 --> 00:33:18,320
Speaker 9: I'm a big manchure golfer and I was an alternate,

807
00:33:18,400 --> 00:33:20,040
Speaker 9: so I didn't make it up to the I didn't

808
00:33:20,040 --> 00:33:23,480
Speaker 9: get to the big show, but I was preparing like crazy,

809
00:33:23,600 --> 00:33:26,560
Speaker 9: and minture golf is a big passion of mine. I

810
00:33:26,800 --> 00:33:28,560
Speaker 9: would take every girl on their first date to go

811
00:33:28,600 --> 00:33:30,440
Speaker 9: miniature golfing And.

812
00:33:30,400 --> 00:33:34,440
Speaker 1: Uh, you agree, yes, And because why why was that

813
00:33:34,520 --> 00:33:36,640
Speaker 1: the place to go for a girl? And for you

814
00:33:36,680 --> 00:33:38,160
Speaker 1: to get to go know a girl.

815
00:33:38,400 --> 00:33:40,360
Speaker 9: I think it's a good way to get a feel

816
00:33:40,360 --> 00:33:42,400
Speaker 9: for my personality. And also I think it's a good

817
00:33:42,440 --> 00:33:44,040
Speaker 9: way to when you're getting to know someone if you

818
00:33:44,080 --> 00:33:47,760
Speaker 9: pair something physical with it, that's wholesome and uh, you know,

819
00:33:48,040 --> 00:33:50,240
Speaker 9: you're like walking around, you're moving things of the blood's pumping.

820
00:33:50,320 --> 00:33:52,880
Speaker 9: I think that links makes a positive link in their brain.

821
00:33:53,040 --> 00:33:53,880
Speaker 7: That's so cool.

822
00:33:54,320 --> 00:33:56,000
Speaker 1: It's true. I mean, when's the last time you guys

823
00:33:56,000 --> 00:33:57,440
Speaker 1: have gone to a miniature golf date?

824
00:33:57,960 --> 00:33:59,840
Speaker 2: My well, I was going to say that was I

825
00:34:00,080 --> 00:34:02,320
Speaker 2: went on a date. I mean, it's been a long time,

826
00:34:02,400 --> 00:34:05,280
Speaker 2: but that was our first date. Wasn't miniature golf?

827
00:34:05,320 --> 00:34:06,640
Speaker 1: And it's memorable, isn't it?

828
00:34:06,720 --> 00:34:06,880
Speaker 4: Yeah?

829
00:34:07,120 --> 00:34:10,280
Speaker 2: It was memorable and also it calmed. I was nervous

830
00:34:10,320 --> 00:34:11,640
Speaker 2: because it's a first date, and I was like, what

831
00:34:11,680 --> 00:34:12,880
Speaker 2: are we going to talk about? And it was like

832
00:34:12,920 --> 00:34:14,520
Speaker 2: we didn't have to worry about what we were going

833
00:34:14,560 --> 00:34:15,200
Speaker 2: to talk about so.

834
00:34:15,200 --> 00:34:17,880
Speaker 5: Much as my third day with my wife was miniature golfing.

835
00:34:17,920 --> 00:34:20,799
Speaker 5: And now I was twenty two years ago. Tanya, we've

836
00:34:20,800 --> 00:34:23,280
Speaker 5: had this discussion before. She's anti mini golf in terms

837
00:34:23,280 --> 00:34:23,760
Speaker 5: of dating.

838
00:34:24,000 --> 00:34:26,399
Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, I want to hear this why and congratulations

839
00:34:26,400 --> 00:34:29,960
Speaker 1: on continuing the marriage after minstre golf. So why though,

840
00:34:30,120 --> 00:34:33,840
Speaker 1: I just like to just you want to connect and

841
00:34:33,880 --> 00:34:34,800
Speaker 1: you don't want to distract.

842
00:34:34,840 --> 00:34:36,640
Speaker 8: I don't want to distract. I want to like figure out,

843
00:34:36,719 --> 00:34:38,040
Speaker 8: like do I vibe with you?

844
00:34:38,160 --> 00:34:42,160
Speaker 1: Okay, so not first date? Yeah, but okay, See I

845
00:34:42,200 --> 00:34:45,320
Speaker 1: would agree because I like deep conversation. But I also

846
00:34:45,320 --> 00:34:47,759
Speaker 1: wouldn't mind if I if I didn't have a choice

847
00:34:47,760 --> 00:34:49,320
Speaker 1: and that was where they took me. What I judged

848
00:34:49,320 --> 00:34:51,319
Speaker 1: that right away. I wouldn't mind being able to see

849
00:34:51,320 --> 00:34:53,880
Speaker 1: how you interact with everyday people, how you interact with patients,

850
00:34:53,920 --> 00:34:58,560
Speaker 1: how you are competitively, because I have not I have patients. Yeah. Well,

851
00:34:58,560 --> 00:35:01,680
Speaker 1: and I also there's a thing with guys, some guys,

852
00:35:01,800 --> 00:35:03,680
Speaker 1: I mean, just like road rage. I think it's a

853
00:35:03,680 --> 00:35:05,399
Speaker 1: turn off. If I see a guy not even able

854
00:35:05,400 --> 00:35:07,319
Speaker 1: to handle somebody cut them off, You're like, dang, dude,

855
00:35:07,560 --> 00:35:10,160
Speaker 1: Yeah that's how hot? How hot you get over that?

856
00:35:10,760 --> 00:35:12,680
Speaker 1: But I also have met guys who are perfect in

857
00:35:12,719 --> 00:35:15,440
Speaker 1: every arena and then when they are playing against you,

858
00:35:15,480 --> 00:35:16,200
Speaker 1: they get weird.

859
00:35:16,239 --> 00:35:16,799
Speaker 6: Competitive.

860
00:35:17,000 --> 00:35:22,359
Speaker 1: Yes, like that, but you would need to know that

861
00:35:22,520 --> 00:35:25,480
Speaker 1: on the first date, wouldn't you, So that you don't continue.

862
00:35:25,600 --> 00:35:26,840
Speaker 6: That's true, I would not like.

863
00:35:26,920 --> 00:35:28,759
Speaker 1: The goal of the first date is always to get

864
00:35:28,800 --> 00:35:30,360
Speaker 1: to know the person and see any red flox, So

865
00:35:30,400 --> 00:35:32,160
Speaker 1: you just save your time. Nobody has time anymore. I

866
00:35:32,160 --> 00:35:33,839
Speaker 1: don't even have time to filter my pictures. I tried

867
00:35:33,880 --> 00:35:35,680
Speaker 1: to just get a camera that has a built and

868
00:35:35,680 --> 00:35:36,319
Speaker 1: filter for me.

869
00:35:36,960 --> 00:35:37,800
Speaker 7: You know what I'm saying.

870
00:35:37,920 --> 00:35:40,840
Speaker 1: So so this is so good now that you know Tanya,

871
00:35:40,840 --> 00:35:43,360
Speaker 1: I'm telling you you're sleeping on it. Man, it'll be

872
00:35:43,360 --> 00:35:44,000
Speaker 1: a good first date.

873
00:35:44,040 --> 00:35:45,200
Speaker 4: I tell you what endeared me.

874
00:35:45,320 --> 00:35:47,480
Speaker 5: We were a mini golfing and I was trying to

875
00:35:47,480 --> 00:35:50,120
Speaker 5: make a putt and she sneaked up behind me and

876
00:35:50,160 --> 00:35:52,400
Speaker 5: she started pulling on my leg hairs to distract me

877
00:35:52,400 --> 00:35:52,920
Speaker 5: from putting.

878
00:35:52,960 --> 00:35:54,279
Speaker 4: And I thought that was the cutest thing.

879
00:35:54,640 --> 00:35:58,759
Speaker 1: That is a door, No, it's adorable everything. Yes, it's

880
00:35:58,760 --> 00:36:01,040
Speaker 1: just depended for a second where those hairs were coming.

881
00:36:00,800 --> 00:36:02,960
Speaker 4: From, but yes, below the knees.

882
00:36:05,320 --> 00:36:09,320
Speaker 7: I started tugging on my hair. I was like, is going.

883
00:36:10,080 --> 00:36:12,680
Speaker 1: I loved picturing that sweet moment.

884
00:36:12,840 --> 00:36:13,840
Speaker 7: That's really cool.

885
00:36:14,360 --> 00:36:16,880
Speaker 1: That really is cute. I remember the guy when I

886
00:36:16,920 --> 00:36:18,799
Speaker 1: went on the first date. This is why I loved

887
00:36:18,920 --> 00:36:20,799
Speaker 1: to do I wanted to do Holy moly, so bad.

888
00:36:20,880 --> 00:36:24,920
Speaker 1: Is because the guy on my first date, he when

889
00:36:24,920 --> 00:36:28,279
Speaker 1: I whenever we walked, he took my my golf club

890
00:36:28,360 --> 00:36:30,360
Speaker 1: and he walked it for me, which I just thought

891
00:36:30,400 --> 00:36:32,600
Speaker 1: was like a gentleman. Let me think about it. Guys

892
00:36:32,600 --> 00:36:34,880
Speaker 1: opened the door for you whatever, and that's that's that's cool.

893
00:36:35,200 --> 00:36:36,600
Speaker 1: But he was like, let me get that for you.

894
00:36:36,680 --> 00:36:38,640
Speaker 1: And every hole we walked you he held my club like,

895
00:36:38,719 --> 00:36:42,160
Speaker 1: come on, you are definitely getting a little boom touch

896
00:36:42,200 --> 00:36:42,600
Speaker 1: after that.

897
00:36:44,239 --> 00:36:50,520
Speaker 7: Just the nip, just the nip. Wait, that is so good?

898
00:36:50,600 --> 00:36:53,400
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, I used zoom, I used jim, but I

899
00:36:53,400 --> 00:36:55,719
Speaker 1: also said I had it at that age. At that time,

900
00:36:55,760 --> 00:36:58,160
Speaker 1: I had one inverted nipple. So there was a very

901
00:36:58,160 --> 00:37:00,360
Speaker 1: specific one he would get because he couldn't see that

902
00:37:00,440 --> 00:37:02,399
Speaker 1: I had an invert a nipple. So it was kind

903
00:37:02,440 --> 00:37:04,040
Speaker 1: of worked out for me that he could only have

904
00:37:04,160 --> 00:37:05,160
Speaker 1: one thing, one.

905
00:37:05,040 --> 00:37:09,560
Speaker 2: Touch for you. Is there any way we can get easton.

906
00:37:10,080 --> 00:37:11,960
Speaker 6: Yes, season two, we'll have to see.

907
00:37:12,280 --> 00:37:14,399
Speaker 1: I don't want to pull up your audition tape now.

908
00:37:15,840 --> 00:37:16,919
Speaker 1: Oh no, I don't.

909
00:37:16,960 --> 00:37:18,640
Speaker 9: I don't have a tattoo or anything, but I have

910
00:37:18,680 --> 00:37:20,720
Speaker 9: a lot of enthusiasm and name.

911
00:37:20,600 --> 00:37:22,160
Speaker 7: Your do you have a dog? Can we rename the

912
00:37:22,200 --> 00:37:23,600
Speaker 7: dog something.

913
00:37:23,760 --> 00:37:26,879
Speaker 9: Yeah, yeah, my my dog Marty could be uh could

914
00:37:26,880 --> 00:37:30,520
Speaker 9: be a captain Captain Jack and Billy Bones's final four.

915
00:37:30,840 --> 00:37:33,840
Speaker 6: That's insane because course that totally works.

916
00:37:34,080 --> 00:37:36,399
Speaker 1: You just have to have some lineage to it that

917
00:37:36,520 --> 00:37:38,719
Speaker 1: makes you as passionate as you come off to be.

918
00:37:38,880 --> 00:37:41,400
Speaker 1: That's it. You don't just look like somebody who answered

919
00:37:41,400 --> 00:37:42,080
Speaker 1: to craigsill side.

920
00:37:42,280 --> 00:37:44,879
Speaker 4: Gotcha, Yeah, I know that for season two?

921
00:37:45,120 --> 00:37:46,319
Speaker 1: Got you? You have a hook up?

922
00:37:47,440 --> 00:37:49,640
Speaker 8: Okay, So I have two more questions to you, you

923
00:37:49,719 --> 00:37:52,520
Speaker 8: got it. One of them is career focus. One of

924
00:37:52,560 --> 00:37:53,880
Speaker 8: them is love focused.

925
00:37:53,960 --> 00:37:57,799
Speaker 1: Okay, I'm okay, but I don't want to talk about

926
00:37:57,800 --> 00:38:00,520
Speaker 1: anything left because I I as long as we're just

927
00:38:00,520 --> 00:38:01,320
Speaker 1: not doing specific.

928
00:38:01,840 --> 00:38:04,120
Speaker 6: Oh now you make me want to go specific.

929
00:38:04,040 --> 00:38:06,080
Speaker 1: Okay, then I'll answer it in my way and you'll understand.

930
00:38:06,120 --> 00:38:08,759
Speaker 8: Okay, Okay, okay, fine. So you're doing Holy Moly, that

931
00:38:08,840 --> 00:38:10,560
Speaker 8: Yes premiary on June twenty. That's major.

932
00:38:10,840 --> 00:38:12,799
Speaker 1: Yeah, thanks to you. Yeah, no, so fun you guys,

933
00:38:12,800 --> 00:38:16,440
Speaker 1: please do watch and tweet me post caption on Instagram

934
00:38:16,440 --> 00:38:17,960
Speaker 1: whatever it is. I want to hear from you what

935
00:38:18,000 --> 00:38:19,879
Speaker 1: you think about the show because I had so much fun.

936
00:38:19,960 --> 00:38:21,200
Speaker 6: Tell them the handle so.

937
00:38:21,200 --> 00:38:24,520
Speaker 1: Mine is the Genie my at on Instagram, thh e

938
00:38:24,640 --> 00:38:27,279
Speaker 1: Genie my in Google it it's the girl that looks

939
00:38:27,320 --> 00:38:32,080
Speaker 1: like Brenda Song. And then my Twitter is Genie my okay.

940
00:38:32,120 --> 00:38:33,920
Speaker 8: And then you obviously you're on the reel. You have

941
00:38:34,000 --> 00:38:36,000
Speaker 8: Hello Hanai. You have a lot of a lot of

942
00:38:36,040 --> 00:38:40,120
Speaker 8: things going on. Yeah, what do you see for Genie

943
00:38:40,160 --> 00:38:42,719
Speaker 8: my in the next five ten? Like what's your goal?

944
00:38:43,120 --> 00:38:45,680
Speaker 1: I would like to executive produce more shows that deal

945
00:38:45,800 --> 00:38:50,879
Speaker 1: with minority lives, like women who have crazy culture come

946
00:38:50,960 --> 00:38:53,480
Speaker 1: up stories. I am excited about that, right, Oh, I

947
00:38:53,520 --> 00:38:55,439
Speaker 1: feel you raise the little hands in the back there

948
00:38:55,480 --> 00:38:57,799
Speaker 1: when I listen. When you meet somebody and you see

949
00:38:57,800 --> 00:38:59,200
Speaker 1: the way they think, or the way they move, or

950
00:38:59,200 --> 00:39:00,440
Speaker 1: the way they eat their food or what they put

951
00:39:00,480 --> 00:39:02,120
Speaker 1: on the brito, like, you immediately want to know what

952
00:39:02,160 --> 00:39:04,479
Speaker 1: the hell did you grow up? Where did you learn

953
00:39:04,520 --> 00:39:06,360
Speaker 1: how to do this? How did you get this job?

954
00:39:06,560 --> 00:39:09,520
Speaker 1: It's all about the story, And today it kills me

955
00:39:09,760 --> 00:39:12,040
Speaker 1: when we fight so much about what America looks like

956
00:39:12,040 --> 00:39:14,359
Speaker 1: and what America's supposed to be, when really, like these

957
00:39:14,440 --> 00:39:16,800
Speaker 1: individual stories of how you became the human being you

958
00:39:16,880 --> 00:39:19,160
Speaker 1: are is really what contributes to what makes America dope.

959
00:39:19,600 --> 00:39:22,880
Speaker 1: So I am proud of shows on air like Blackish

960
00:39:22,960 --> 00:39:24,520
Speaker 1: or Fresh off the Boat, but I want to see

961
00:39:24,520 --> 00:39:26,640
Speaker 1: more of it. Right, that's the first time I'm seeing

962
00:39:26,640 --> 00:39:28,960
Speaker 1: that since when I grew up, you know, loving threes

963
00:39:29,000 --> 00:39:31,120
Speaker 1: Company and Who's the Boss and stuff. But I need

964
00:39:31,120 --> 00:39:34,040
Speaker 1: to see more of these these different variations of how

965
00:39:34,080 --> 00:39:39,200
Speaker 1: households look from all all price brack or income bracket

966
00:39:39,400 --> 00:39:41,560
Speaker 1: that you fit into. Yeah, you know. Yeah, so that's

967
00:39:41,719 --> 00:39:42,480
Speaker 1: that's what I want to do.

968
00:39:42,560 --> 00:39:44,400
Speaker 8: It's funny that you say that because my mom and

969
00:39:44,400 --> 00:39:46,040
Speaker 8: I My mom was actually telling me that she thinks

970
00:39:46,040 --> 00:39:48,120
Speaker 8: any to go to I have like really bad imposter syndrome,

971
00:39:48,160 --> 00:39:50,400
Speaker 8: like I feel like I don't deserve or belong like

972
00:39:50,440 --> 00:39:53,000
Speaker 8: what I have, And she thinks it comes from because

973
00:39:53,000 --> 00:39:54,759
Speaker 8: she felt this exact same way because they moved here

974
00:39:54,760 --> 00:39:56,759
Speaker 8: from Serbia and she never felt like she fit in.

975
00:39:57,000 --> 00:39:58,759
Speaker 8: She had like an accent, she didn't really know how

976
00:39:58,800 --> 00:40:01,000
Speaker 8: to like spell things, and she always felt like she

977
00:40:01,040 --> 00:40:03,480
Speaker 8: needed to prove herself, and so she thinks like I

978
00:40:03,520 --> 00:40:04,200
Speaker 8: inherited some.

979
00:40:04,200 --> 00:40:05,359
Speaker 6: Of that that way.

980
00:40:05,400 --> 00:40:07,840
Speaker 8: That's so I think if you went to therapy, you

981
00:40:07,880 --> 00:40:09,799
Speaker 8: could really like work through it or whatever. Yeah, it's

982
00:40:09,800 --> 00:40:13,000
Speaker 8: interesting because there is a lot that comes from her

983
00:40:13,080 --> 00:40:16,160
Speaker 8: being like for generation here that she had a struggle

984
00:40:16,160 --> 00:40:18,239
Speaker 8: through that. Like also, you know what I mean, I

985
00:40:18,280 --> 00:40:19,600
Speaker 8: would never think about it. So all the stuff I'm

986
00:40:19,640 --> 00:40:21,120
Speaker 8: learning as an adult I never thought of when I

987
00:40:21,160 --> 00:40:21,560
Speaker 8: was younger.

988
00:40:21,600 --> 00:40:23,840
Speaker 1: You know, I absolutely agree. And I just posted I

989
00:40:23,880 --> 00:40:25,920
Speaker 1: want I'm going to I'm going to tag your is

990
00:40:25,920 --> 00:40:27,680
Speaker 1: your mom on Instagram? I feel like, no, she's not,

991
00:40:27,719 --> 00:40:30,400
Speaker 1: okay show her this. But I just posted today a

992
00:40:30,440 --> 00:40:34,680
Speaker 1: post about being having an accent. When I grew up,

993
00:40:34,680 --> 00:40:36,160
Speaker 1: so I didn't speak English until I was about eight

994
00:40:36,239 --> 00:40:39,799
Speaker 1: years old, and so my mom is the one that

995
00:40:39,920 --> 00:40:42,200
Speaker 1: taught me that somebody who has an accent means that

996
00:40:42,239 --> 00:40:45,880
Speaker 1: they're a survivor. Any person you meet has come from

997
00:40:45,960 --> 00:40:48,239
Speaker 1: some type of hardship to get here where they are now,

998
00:40:48,280 --> 00:40:50,160
Speaker 1: and if they had an accent meant that they have

999
00:40:50,200 --> 00:40:52,560
Speaker 1: an accent to actually let us hear it. So to

1000
00:40:52,760 --> 00:40:54,960
Speaker 1: just remember that I don't know about you yourself, or

1001
00:40:55,239 --> 00:40:57,520
Speaker 1: that'll give you a little bit of that seed to

1002
00:40:57,640 --> 00:41:00,439
Speaker 1: know that you belong here and you belong where. Every

1003
00:41:00,440 --> 00:41:02,319
Speaker 1: piece of success that has been given to you is

1004
00:41:02,320 --> 00:41:04,480
Speaker 1: because you came from a mom. For you to get

1005
00:41:04,480 --> 00:41:06,320
Speaker 1: here and for you to have to prove that yourself

1006
00:41:06,320 --> 00:41:08,640
Speaker 1: and don't let that generational curse follow you because I'm

1007
00:41:08,640 --> 00:41:10,239
Speaker 1: sure your mom doesn't want that of you that she

1008
00:41:10,239 --> 00:41:15,520
Speaker 1: didn't for her, right, Yeah, that's crazy. Nap snaps A

1009
00:41:15,600 --> 00:41:19,359
Speaker 1: snap snap. I guess not better than you, guys, because

1010
00:41:19,360 --> 00:41:26,080
Speaker 1: I have a crylics Okay, now love life? Okay, what

1011
00:41:26,120 --> 00:41:26,319
Speaker 1: I mean?

1012
00:41:26,560 --> 00:41:28,480
Speaker 7: You gave us a teaser at the beginning. I know,

1013
00:41:28,640 --> 00:41:29,560
Speaker 7: I come back to this.

1014
00:41:29,680 --> 00:41:31,239
Speaker 1: You know what I said? Can I be honest? I

1015
00:41:31,280 --> 00:41:33,000
Speaker 1: said it because I was so comfortable with you not

1016
00:41:33,080 --> 00:41:36,000
Speaker 1: knowing you were on. So you did.

1017
00:41:35,880 --> 00:41:38,359
Speaker 8: Go through a divorce and that is like you've been

1018
00:41:38,400 --> 00:41:40,839
Speaker 8: open about that, yes, and so do you go about

1019
00:41:40,920 --> 00:41:43,400
Speaker 8: dating differently now having gone through a divorce?

1020
00:41:43,880 --> 00:41:47,440
Speaker 1: That is a major question. So I'm very thankful for

1021
00:41:47,480 --> 00:41:49,759
Speaker 1: everything that got me to worry. I'm really could I

1022
00:41:49,800 --> 00:41:53,080
Speaker 1: have been different about navigating it so I could save time? Yes?

1023
00:41:53,320 --> 00:41:56,680
Speaker 1: So one thing I've learned crystal clear, and it's actually

1024
00:41:56,719 --> 00:41:59,359
Speaker 1: made me look hotter in my dates because of this,

1025
00:41:59,760 --> 00:42:02,280
Speaker 1: is that I'm mad straight up about what I want

1026
00:42:02,400 --> 00:42:04,040
Speaker 1: and what I need and what I don't like in

1027
00:42:04,360 --> 00:42:07,160
Speaker 1: first up in the dates, straight up. So I have

1028
00:42:07,200 --> 00:42:10,200
Speaker 1: to be honest I was. I was openly dating, you know,

1029
00:42:10,280 --> 00:42:12,680
Speaker 1: like just like let's go out on dates and going

1030
00:42:12,719 --> 00:42:14,680
Speaker 1: with the intention of I'm gonna have a damn good time,

1031
00:42:14,840 --> 00:42:16,680
Speaker 1: enjoy what I want to eat, what I want to drink,

1032
00:42:16,800 --> 00:42:19,120
Speaker 1: and if that guest stays till the end, great, If

1033
00:42:19,120 --> 00:42:20,919
Speaker 1: that guest is going to come back for the next one, great,

1034
00:42:20,920 --> 00:42:22,960
Speaker 1: But I'm going out on a date with myself, So

1035
00:42:23,000 --> 00:42:24,439
Speaker 1: I want to talk about things I want to talk about.

1036
00:42:24,480 --> 00:42:26,359
Speaker 1: I want to ask questions that I'm curious to know.

1037
00:42:27,239 --> 00:42:28,759
Speaker 1: That's how I went about the dating, and I had

1038
00:42:28,800 --> 00:42:32,319
Speaker 1: a great dating experience. And I also found that men

1039
00:42:33,480 --> 00:42:36,720
Speaker 1: will be very clear if they're open to talk about

1040
00:42:36,920 --> 00:42:39,799
Speaker 1: the hard stuff or not. And that cleared out the

1041
00:42:39,840 --> 00:42:41,520
Speaker 1: way for me the ones that I wanted to date

1042
00:42:41,520 --> 00:42:43,040
Speaker 1: and the ones that I didn't. That made it very

1043
00:42:43,040 --> 00:42:44,880
Speaker 1: clear about who I like right now. So I just

1044
00:42:44,960 --> 00:42:46,919
Speaker 1: want to say to women out there, I mean, don't

1045
00:42:46,920 --> 00:42:50,000
Speaker 1: wait for divorce to show you this. But first of all,

1046
00:42:50,000 --> 00:42:52,160
Speaker 1: you can't get married off of love alone at all.

1047
00:42:52,440 --> 00:42:54,799
Speaker 1: I mean, I was, I was in love, but that

1048
00:42:54,800 --> 00:43:00,479
Speaker 1: doesn't sustain a marriage. Would you agree as far as okay,

1049
00:43:00,480 --> 00:43:02,080
Speaker 1: it takes a different type of work and a different

1050
00:43:02,320 --> 00:43:04,719
Speaker 1: type of connection. After the love becomes kind of it

1051
00:43:04,800 --> 00:43:08,239
Speaker 1: fades or it becomes regular, becomes it becomes normal to

1052
00:43:08,280 --> 00:43:10,440
Speaker 1: love somebody, then you need something else that evolves you,

1053
00:43:10,480 --> 00:43:14,160
Speaker 1: stimulates you, nurtures you. It's something else that bonds you

1054
00:43:14,160 --> 00:43:16,160
Speaker 1: guys together. Especially for me if I'm not having kids,

1055
00:43:16,640 --> 00:43:19,800
Speaker 1: So for me, I'm gonna need vision, dream, what's your goal,

1056
00:43:20,440 --> 00:43:24,960
Speaker 1: and conversation and some compatibility with things. I didn't look

1057
00:43:24,960 --> 00:43:26,919
Speaker 1: for that in my first marriage. So now I'm very

1058
00:43:26,960 --> 00:43:30,360
Speaker 1: clear about those things in my dating and some guys

1059
00:43:30,400 --> 00:43:32,439
Speaker 1: who really love getting deep about it. Oh my god,

1060
00:43:32,440 --> 00:43:34,800
Speaker 1: it's so hot. It's so hot when you find another

1061
00:43:34,800 --> 00:43:38,239
Speaker 1: guy that's open to talk about his past and his

1062
00:43:38,320 --> 00:43:40,359
Speaker 1: ex and you also hear about how he talks about

1063
00:43:40,360 --> 00:43:42,040
Speaker 1: his ex. You hear what he owns, about what he

1064
00:43:42,080 --> 00:43:44,680
Speaker 1: could have done better or different, and you also talk

1065
00:43:44,760 --> 00:43:47,480
Speaker 1: to you guys about what their needs are, you know.

1066
00:43:47,640 --> 00:43:51,040
Speaker 1: I mean, like, dude, stimulating the mind is such a

1067
00:43:51,080 --> 00:43:54,840
Speaker 1: sexy thing with a guy. I'm also a sapio sexual,

1068
00:43:55,239 --> 00:43:57,919
Speaker 1: Like I get turned on after I learn about your mind.

1069
00:43:58,320 --> 00:44:00,640
Speaker 1: Everything else I don't care. You could like swing that

1070
00:44:00,640 --> 00:44:02,160
Speaker 1: thing in front of me and does nothing. It's just

1071
00:44:02,200 --> 00:44:05,279
Speaker 1: an egg plant. But like, when you like, talk to

1072
00:44:05,280 --> 00:44:07,839
Speaker 1: me about your change your goals, what's difficult for you?

1073
00:44:07,880 --> 00:44:11,799
Speaker 1: Show me vulnerability. Oh my god, that egg plant looks

1074
00:44:12,320 --> 00:44:17,120
Speaker 1: it's good, delicious.

1075
00:44:18,080 --> 00:44:21,480
Speaker 8: It's so good that that is some solid advice.

1076
00:44:21,560 --> 00:44:24,160
Speaker 7: Yeah, So how long did you? Did you start dating.

1077
00:44:23,880 --> 00:44:26,000
Speaker 2: Quickly after the divorce or were you pretty? Like?

1078
00:44:26,239 --> 00:44:27,840
Speaker 7: Were you kind of good question?

1079
00:44:28,080 --> 00:44:31,080
Speaker 1: I could have mentally because I had moved on from

1080
00:44:31,080 --> 00:44:32,920
Speaker 1: my marriage, but out of respect to my ex, I

1081
00:44:32,920 --> 00:44:34,480
Speaker 1: wanted to make sure that there was enough time. Once

1082
00:44:34,520 --> 00:44:36,600
Speaker 1: I found that person had moved on, I was good.

1083
00:44:37,600 --> 00:44:42,000
Speaker 1: My advice to other people would be I should say

1084
00:44:42,080 --> 00:44:44,920
Speaker 1: I went for a year really dating myself. It sounds

1085
00:44:44,920 --> 00:44:50,120
Speaker 1: so cliche, Okay, I get it, Girlandra, Yeah.

1086
00:44:50,080 --> 00:44:52,439
Speaker 8: I did three sixty five single and it was It's

1087
00:44:52,520 --> 00:44:53,960
Speaker 8: the best time ever.

1088
00:44:54,160 --> 00:44:59,359
Speaker 1: Oh my god, you're like, I'm so hot. I I

1089
00:44:59,480 --> 00:45:03,040
Speaker 1: love myself after spending super time getting to know myself,

1090
00:45:03,080 --> 00:45:05,640
Speaker 1: making myself out to dinner by myself, being excited about

1091
00:45:05,640 --> 00:45:08,799
Speaker 1: going home to a good book, or just having the

1092
00:45:09,480 --> 00:45:12,399
Speaker 1: sound of your mind thinking again instead of just what

1093
00:45:12,480 --> 00:45:15,200
Speaker 1: you want the other person to hear or what you're

1094
00:45:15,200 --> 00:45:17,319
Speaker 1: supposed to be saying. To keep in a relationship or

1095
00:45:17,360 --> 00:45:21,240
Speaker 1: your work, like actually just being like maybe Tanya, Like, Tanya,

1096
00:45:21,239 --> 00:45:22,800
Speaker 1: what's going on in your head right now? Are you happy?

1097
00:45:23,080 --> 00:45:24,719
Speaker 1: If you're not, what kind of adjustment should you make?

1098
00:45:24,800 --> 00:45:28,080
Speaker 1: Like talking to yourself? It's so good. So I spent

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00:45:28,160 --> 00:45:29,960
Speaker 1: that year and I know that that's why I was

1100
00:45:29,960 --> 00:45:32,400
Speaker 1: so hype about dating. Afterwards. I was like, let's do this,

1101
00:45:32,480 --> 00:45:33,200
Speaker 1: Let's have some fun.

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00:45:33,680 --> 00:45:36,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, so you think you think we have a lot

1103
00:45:36,040 --> 00:45:39,279
Speaker 2: of I've noticed, especially in our group, that people have

1104
00:45:39,320 --> 00:45:44,239
Speaker 2: been posting about going through like long relationship breakups and

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00:45:44,320 --> 00:45:46,480
Speaker 2: like why do I Like they were in a relationship

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00:45:46,480 --> 00:45:49,040
Speaker 2: for like four to six years and then it's ended

1107
00:45:49,080 --> 00:45:50,400
Speaker 2: and they're like I don't even.

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00:45:50,320 --> 00:45:51,520
Speaker 6: Know what's upset?

1109
00:45:51,600 --> 00:45:53,880
Speaker 7: What to do? Who I am without this person?

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00:45:54,120 --> 00:45:54,359
Speaker 2: Yeah?

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00:45:54,640 --> 00:45:57,320
Speaker 7: So like your advice would be to embrace being single?

1112
00:45:58,080 --> 00:46:00,880
Speaker 1: Yes, yeah, in the relationship if you can back up

1113
00:46:00,880 --> 00:46:04,160
Speaker 1: a few steps, never lose sight of who you are. Okay, So,

1114
00:46:04,400 --> 00:46:06,799
Speaker 1: oh man, this is a big one. So I find

1115
00:46:06,800 --> 00:46:08,440
Speaker 1: that one big mistake. And I actually talk to a

1116
00:46:08,480 --> 00:46:11,560
Speaker 1: lot of mine, guy friends, my dates or not just

1117
00:46:11,600 --> 00:46:14,319
Speaker 1: guy friends about it. But one thing we do is

1118
00:46:14,360 --> 00:46:16,319
Speaker 1: we start to change who we are to become like

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00:46:16,520 --> 00:46:19,239
Speaker 1: the other person. Or become one. So if you were

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00:46:19,800 --> 00:46:22,799
Speaker 1: a successful or not successful, let's just say, if you

1121
00:46:22,800 --> 00:46:25,160
Speaker 1: were a successful working woman with your own schedule, you

1122
00:46:25,200 --> 00:46:27,520
Speaker 1: went out on Friday nights with your girlfriends, you golfed

1123
00:46:27,520 --> 00:46:31,080
Speaker 1: on Sundays, and that guy falls for you. Don't change

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00:46:31,120 --> 00:46:33,080
Speaker 1: those things that made you who you are when he

1125
00:46:33,160 --> 00:46:34,800
Speaker 1: started to fall for you. Because what happens when you

1126
00:46:34,840 --> 00:46:37,200
Speaker 1: get in a relationship is you cancel the golf thing,

1127
00:46:37,239 --> 00:46:39,240
Speaker 1: You stop doing that, you stop going into your workouts,

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00:46:39,360 --> 00:46:41,799
Speaker 1: you exchange your girlfriends for him, and you spend more

1129
00:46:41,840 --> 00:46:44,440
Speaker 1: time lamenting about him than having those great moments by

1130
00:46:44,480 --> 00:46:47,000
Speaker 1: yourself during the week. When you get into a relationship,

1131
00:46:47,000 --> 00:46:49,040
Speaker 1: you bring your whole side to the picture and you

1132
00:46:49,080 --> 00:46:52,279
Speaker 1: continue to spin that dish of that who you are

1133
00:46:52,880 --> 00:46:54,960
Speaker 1: as you add him in and let him enjoy and

1134
00:46:55,000 --> 00:46:57,640
Speaker 1: share some of those moments with you. But some women,

1135
00:46:58,080 --> 00:47:00,520
Speaker 1: we become whatever it is they want we to, like,

1136
00:47:01,000 --> 00:47:02,839
Speaker 1: spend more time with him, put our toothbrush over at

1137
00:47:02,840 --> 00:47:04,879
Speaker 1: his house, spend all the time with him. Just only

1138
00:47:04,880 --> 00:47:07,000
Speaker 1: eat what he wants to eat, whatever, and then when

1139
00:47:07,200 --> 00:47:09,680
Speaker 1: when he leaves, if he does, because ninety nine percent

1140
00:47:09,680 --> 00:47:11,680
Speaker 1: of the people today are gonna leave, that's okay, but

1141
00:47:11,719 --> 00:47:15,080
Speaker 1: then you're just left with, like, what happened, I was

1142
00:47:15,160 --> 00:47:16,879
Speaker 1: my relationship, I was my day. So I just think

1143
00:47:16,960 --> 00:47:19,279
Speaker 1: number one before getting to the breakup part, my advice

1144
00:47:19,320 --> 00:47:21,319
Speaker 1: would be, don't lose who you are. By the way,

1145
00:47:21,400 --> 00:47:23,640
Speaker 1: keep what it was that attracted him in the first place.

1146
00:47:23,680 --> 00:47:26,319
Speaker 1: So good, right, Yeah, that's a major one. And then

1147
00:47:26,400 --> 00:47:29,440
Speaker 1: after when things happen and okay, so you get a

1148
00:47:29,440 --> 00:47:33,359
Speaker 1: little discombobulated and now you forget that you who you were.

1149
00:47:34,040 --> 00:47:36,280
Speaker 1: This is where you've got to really let that sound

1150
00:47:36,520 --> 00:47:39,200
Speaker 1: of yourself talking and kick back in. Go back to

1151
00:47:39,239 --> 00:47:41,040
Speaker 1: the music you like to listen to, the book books

1152
00:47:41,080 --> 00:47:42,799
Speaker 1: you like to read, the nerdy stuff that you like

1153
00:47:42,840 --> 00:47:45,080
Speaker 1: to do. If he's sitting with a face mask and

1154
00:47:45,160 --> 00:47:47,839
Speaker 1: picking out your toes, do that. Go do the things

1155
00:47:47,880 --> 00:47:50,200
Speaker 1: that you love to do. Because what you need to

1156
00:47:50,239 --> 00:47:52,799
Speaker 1: do is you need to feel the weight of who

1157
00:47:52,880 --> 00:47:55,719
Speaker 1: you are. Come back so that it's so bold you

1158
00:47:55,760 --> 00:47:57,360
Speaker 1: start to ownly, start to have a great sense of

1159
00:47:57,400 --> 00:47:59,359
Speaker 1: humor about it, and that's what makes you sexy again

1160
00:47:59,360 --> 00:48:00,960
Speaker 1: for the next person. Then don't lose it again when

1161
00:48:01,000 --> 00:48:01,319
Speaker 1: you date.

1162
00:48:01,680 --> 00:48:03,560
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, that's great advice.

1163
00:48:04,280 --> 00:48:06,520
Speaker 1: It's mad, real, guys, Genie my everybody.

1164
00:48:06,640 --> 00:48:08,400
Speaker 7: Yeah, Genie uye.

1165
00:48:10,280 --> 00:48:12,160
Speaker 6: Okay, so thank you so much for coming in today.

1166
00:48:13,120 --> 00:48:15,080
Speaker 1: Want for a while, So I love this. Thank you

1167
00:48:15,120 --> 00:48:16,360
Speaker 1: so much, seriously, thank you.

1168
00:48:16,880 --> 00:48:19,520
Speaker 8: The Holy Moly is premiering in June twentieth on ABC.

1169
00:48:19,960 --> 00:48:24,400
Speaker 8: Everybody follow the Genie My on the Genie My on Instagram.

1170
00:48:24,480 --> 00:48:25,720
Speaker 1: Yeah, thank you on Instagram.

1171
00:48:25,760 --> 00:48:26,279
Speaker 7: I'll see you there.

1172
00:48:26,360 --> 00:48:33,120
Speaker 2: Comment below like, like, Okay, Genie is amazing, truly.

1173
00:48:33,200 --> 00:48:35,400
Speaker 7: I get why you are obsessed.

1174
00:48:35,560 --> 00:48:36,879
Speaker 6: She has this thing about her.

1175
00:48:37,120 --> 00:48:39,080
Speaker 2: It's it's similar to what you have about you, So

1176
00:48:39,120 --> 00:48:39,800
Speaker 2: I get your.

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00:48:39,760 --> 00:48:43,040
Speaker 6: Like, yeah, I appreciate that. That's very kind of It's

1178
00:48:43,080 --> 00:48:43,640
Speaker 6: a little.

1179
00:48:43,400 --> 00:48:46,640
Speaker 2: More edgy and hardcore than you, but it's the same

1180
00:48:46,719 --> 00:48:49,360
Speaker 2: overall thing, which is a compliment.

1181
00:48:49,480 --> 00:48:51,840
Speaker 6: Thank you. I'm taking it because I'm like so obsessed

1182
00:48:51,880 --> 00:48:52,120
Speaker 6: with her.

1183
00:48:52,280 --> 00:48:54,880
Speaker 2: But we have one of our favorite people back on

1184
00:48:54,920 --> 00:48:57,120
Speaker 2: the show with us today. He was on our one

1185
00:48:57,120 --> 00:48:59,040
Speaker 2: of our original mantles.

1186
00:48:59,239 --> 00:48:59,600
Speaker 6: Mm hmm.

1187
00:48:59,719 --> 00:49:01,800
Speaker 7: Yeah. We have Brooks Lace in the building.

1188
00:49:03,000 --> 00:49:03,879
Speaker 6: It's actually light.

1189
00:49:04,239 --> 00:49:08,600
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's it. I would say it late too if

1190
00:49:08,640 --> 00:49:11,120
Speaker 3: I looked at it, but it's spelled like late.

1191
00:49:11,200 --> 00:49:13,600
Speaker 2: I remember. Actually, we went back and forth when you

1192
00:49:13,600 --> 00:49:15,719
Speaker 2: were coming on the first time. How do we say

1193
00:49:15,719 --> 00:49:18,440
Speaker 2: this and they we got it right, but I messed

1194
00:49:18,440 --> 00:49:18,640
Speaker 2: that up.

1195
00:49:19,040 --> 00:49:21,200
Speaker 3: You're not the first, so it's brook Like.

1196
00:49:21,320 --> 00:49:23,680
Speaker 7: So just so you know what we're talking.

1197
00:49:23,400 --> 00:49:26,640
Speaker 3: About today, close Brooks Like, oh my.

1198
00:49:26,560 --> 00:49:30,200
Speaker 2: God, it was my first podcast ever.

1199
00:49:31,040 --> 00:49:31,800
Speaker 7: Thanks for coming.

1200
00:49:32,800 --> 00:49:37,479
Speaker 2: I'll be leaving. Well, you're actually here to announce something

1201
00:49:37,520 --> 00:49:39,759
Speaker 2: really exciting. So it's really good that we really got

1202
00:49:39,760 --> 00:49:43,160
Speaker 2: your name down right so that everyone knows when they're

1203
00:49:43,200 --> 00:49:45,480
Speaker 2: listening to this new venture that you're on.

1204
00:49:45,920 --> 00:49:49,520
Speaker 3: Yeah, I've joined the iHeart team with you, guys. I've

1205
00:49:49,560 --> 00:49:51,480
Speaker 3: joined the iHeart team, which.

1206
00:49:52,600 --> 00:49:54,920
Speaker 8: Very good because when you were on like, I was like,

1207
00:49:54,960 --> 00:49:56,759
Speaker 8: I just need to hear more from I.

1208
00:49:56,719 --> 00:49:57,759
Speaker 6: Need more Brooks in my life.

1209
00:49:57,920 --> 00:49:58,640
Speaker 3: I appreciate it.

1210
00:49:58,960 --> 00:50:00,320
Speaker 6: So now you have your own pot.

1211
00:50:00,480 --> 00:50:03,200
Speaker 3: So I'm co hosting a podcast with Gavin de Gras

1212
00:50:03,480 --> 00:50:06,440
Speaker 3: and we have a couple other gentlemen that are involved

1213
00:50:06,480 --> 00:50:09,080
Speaker 3: in it too, And it's called How Men Think, So

1214
00:50:09,280 --> 00:50:12,840
Speaker 3: it's open sourcing and opening the brain of a man

1215
00:50:14,000 --> 00:50:19,480
Speaker 3: for male listeners. It's our thought process, it's our perspective

1216
00:50:19,520 --> 00:50:23,720
Speaker 3: how we look at situations in our life, career, relationship, family, sex,

1217
00:50:23,800 --> 00:50:26,839
Speaker 3: all these kinds of things. What is life through a

1218
00:50:26,880 --> 00:50:29,839
Speaker 3: man's eyes and for the female listeners, it's the same thing.

1219
00:50:29,880 --> 00:50:31,560
Speaker 3: You get to be a fly on the wall and

1220
00:50:31,560 --> 00:50:34,120
Speaker 3: listen to the kinds of conversations that guys have and

1221
00:50:34,160 --> 00:50:36,520
Speaker 3: also ask us questions. It's a lot like you guys do.

1222
00:50:37,480 --> 00:50:39,600
Speaker 3: You'll have your community and then you'll bring a guy

1223
00:50:39,640 --> 00:50:40,240
Speaker 3: on to give.

1224
00:50:40,080 --> 00:50:41,120
Speaker 4: A different perspective.

1225
00:50:41,400 --> 00:50:42,719
Speaker 3: And we want to kind of do the same thing

1226
00:50:42,760 --> 00:50:46,600
Speaker 3: that's flipped where we're five guys talking about male issues,

1227
00:50:46,640 --> 00:50:48,560
Speaker 3: how men go through life, and then we'll bring on

1228
00:50:48,600 --> 00:50:51,799
Speaker 3: a lot of exceptional female guests that will give us

1229
00:50:52,280 --> 00:50:55,000
Speaker 3: the female perspective and just have these high level conversations

1230
00:50:55,040 --> 00:50:56,440
Speaker 3: mixed in with a lot of laughter and a lot

1231
00:50:56,480 --> 00:50:59,080
Speaker 3: of fun. But we have married guys, we have single

1232
00:50:59,120 --> 00:51:01,640
Speaker 3: guy and we just how do you approach life, how

1233
00:51:01,640 --> 00:51:03,840
Speaker 3: do you approach certain situations and what are we currently

1234
00:51:03,880 --> 00:51:07,640
Speaker 3: going through? And hopefully it's a value add to our

1235
00:51:07,680 --> 00:51:09,720
Speaker 3: listeners and hopefully they also have a lot of laughter.

1236
00:51:10,440 --> 00:51:13,719
Speaker 2: Well, I felt like that episode that we did with

1237
00:51:13,880 --> 00:51:15,520
Speaker 2: all of you, and I think that it was the

1238
00:51:15,600 --> 00:51:19,319
Speaker 2: dynamic of having married well Brad's married as well, but

1239
00:51:19,560 --> 00:51:22,640
Speaker 2: married single and like having those different perspectives.

1240
00:51:22,719 --> 00:51:25,320
Speaker 7: I think that people love that.

1241
00:51:25,160 --> 00:51:29,120
Speaker 2: And I think female listeners because we give advice all

1242
00:51:29,200 --> 00:51:33,719
Speaker 2: day long, but I think they want to know what

1243
00:51:33,840 --> 00:51:36,200
Speaker 2: is this guy thinking that I'm trying to date, like

1244
00:51:36,480 --> 00:51:39,360
Speaker 2: that I'm talking to that I'm confused about, like what

1245
00:51:39,520 --> 00:51:41,879
Speaker 2: is going on in his mind? And we don't know

1246
00:51:42,040 --> 00:51:43,000
Speaker 2: and we can't answer.

1247
00:51:43,160 --> 00:51:45,359
Speaker 3: So a lot of the times we don't know either.

1248
00:51:46,200 --> 00:51:48,719
Speaker 3: To be fully transparent, we don't know either. But and

1249
00:51:48,760 --> 00:51:50,400
Speaker 3: that's what it is we want to dive into. For

1250
00:51:50,480 --> 00:51:53,919
Speaker 3: myself personally, I have a lot I feel I've learned

1251
00:51:53,920 --> 00:51:55,880
Speaker 3: a lot through professional sport that I want to share

1252
00:51:55,920 --> 00:51:58,279
Speaker 3: that can help and impact people. And then also I

1253
00:51:58,320 --> 00:52:00,840
Speaker 3: want to challenge myself and growing areas that I know

1254
00:52:00,960 --> 00:52:03,759
Speaker 3: I'm not sufficient at, that I know I'm not educated at.

1255
00:52:03,800 --> 00:52:07,000
Speaker 3: So a lot of these conversations are also curiosity and

1256
00:52:07,040 --> 00:52:09,880
Speaker 3: discovery from my standpoint, which is why we want to

1257
00:52:09,880 --> 00:52:14,200
Speaker 3: have on a lot of specialized guests, female guests, especially

1258
00:52:14,200 --> 00:52:17,440
Speaker 3: in certain areas, to teach us about some nutrition, about

1259
00:52:17,480 --> 00:52:21,840
Speaker 3: some intimacy, about connection, about relationship, a female perspective on

1260
00:52:21,920 --> 00:52:24,080
Speaker 3: these type of things where we can learn and grow together.

1261
00:52:24,160 --> 00:52:26,840
Speaker 3: So it's it's as much a learning as it is

1262
00:52:26,880 --> 00:52:27,960
Speaker 3: a sharing podcast.

1263
00:52:28,040 --> 00:52:30,360
Speaker 6: I have a good guest that you should book for

1264
00:52:30,480 --> 00:52:32,080
Speaker 6: your podcast.

1265
00:52:35,000 --> 00:52:39,760
Speaker 8: But Gwyneth Paltrow just opened up about this intimacy expert

1266
00:52:39,800 --> 00:52:42,000
Speaker 8: that she sees. I don't know who it is, but

1267
00:52:42,640 --> 00:52:44,239
Speaker 8: she sees an intimacy expert, So.

1268
00:52:44,440 --> 00:52:47,560
Speaker 2: They should have Gwyneth or the intimacy ext I'm horrible.

1269
00:52:47,719 --> 00:52:50,040
Speaker 8: I don't know how many podcasts one At is doing,

1270
00:52:50,120 --> 00:52:53,560
Speaker 8: but an intimacy expert, I feel like would be very fascinating.

1271
00:52:53,600 --> 00:52:56,759
Speaker 3: We actually have lined up very early in our in

1272
00:52:56,800 --> 00:53:00,080
Speaker 3: our podcast season, my wife Juliann Huff is going to

1273
00:53:00,120 --> 00:53:05,359
Speaker 3: come on for an intimacy and sex discussion about our relationship,

1274
00:53:05,360 --> 00:53:09,440
Speaker 3: about what is the relationship of intimacy and sex? How

1275
00:53:09,440 --> 00:53:11,120
Speaker 3: does how do I look at it? How does my

1276
00:53:11,160 --> 00:53:13,120
Speaker 3: wife look at it? How does it impact our relationship?

1277
00:53:13,160 --> 00:53:15,920
Speaker 3: Does intimacy come before sex? Does sex become? And then

1278
00:53:16,040 --> 00:53:19,520
Speaker 3: does sex become before intimacy? So she's coming on for

1279
00:53:19,600 --> 00:53:21,400
Speaker 3: a conversation which is going to be amazing. Then we

1280
00:53:21,400 --> 00:53:24,200
Speaker 3: also have an intimacy expert, Lee La Deville that's going

1281
00:53:24,239 --> 00:53:26,839
Speaker 3: to come on as well. So we have some we

1282
00:53:26,960 --> 00:53:30,760
Speaker 3: have some I'm excited to learn. I mean, I'm excited

1283
00:53:30,800 --> 00:53:33,239
Speaker 3: to grow in this area. This is area is an

1284
00:53:33,280 --> 00:53:35,560
Speaker 3: area of my life that traditionally I've not been strong

1285
00:53:35,600 --> 00:53:38,000
Speaker 3: at that. I've learned a lot since being married to

1286
00:53:38,040 --> 00:53:41,560
Speaker 3: my wife at And for guys out there listening, they

1287
00:53:41,560 --> 00:53:42,920
Speaker 3: go through a lot of the same thing too. I

1288
00:53:42,920 --> 00:53:45,759
Speaker 3: think females are maybe more advanced in this area and

1289
00:53:45,840 --> 00:53:48,439
Speaker 3: want a stronger connection and it comes more natural to them.

1290
00:53:49,239 --> 00:53:51,719
Speaker 3: And we want to open the platform of that of

1291
00:53:51,840 --> 00:53:54,600
Speaker 3: what is intimacy to a man and how do we

1292
00:53:54,640 --> 00:53:56,360
Speaker 3: look at it and how does a female look at it?

1293
00:53:56,640 --> 00:54:00,480
Speaker 3: And how can they communicate so that you have of

1294
00:54:00,520 --> 00:54:03,400
Speaker 3: the best intimacy and sex in your relationship that kind

1295
00:54:03,400 --> 00:54:05,560
Speaker 3: of stuff. So we're diving into all this crazy stuff

1296
00:54:05,640 --> 00:54:09,080
Speaker 3: that dudes usually don't talk about, but we're eager to

1297
00:54:09,120 --> 00:54:11,760
Speaker 3: grow and learn and to share our experiences with our listeners.

1298
00:54:12,000 --> 00:54:16,880
Speaker 2: Is Julianne like nervous about you opening up about y'all's marriage.

1299
00:54:16,960 --> 00:54:20,040
Speaker 3: No, she's not, because this is how it goes in

1300
00:54:20,040 --> 00:54:22,160
Speaker 3: our relationship. Sometimes she walks in the door and she

1301
00:54:22,200 --> 00:54:25,560
Speaker 3: goes babe, and I'm like, oh no, she's like I

1302
00:54:25,640 --> 00:54:27,600
Speaker 3: said too much in an interview. They asked me this

1303
00:54:27,719 --> 00:54:29,759
Speaker 3: question and I just said the answer, and I'm like,

1304
00:54:30,040 --> 00:54:32,080
Speaker 3: you need to know that you're in charge of every interview.

1305
00:54:32,120 --> 00:54:34,799
Speaker 3: Love you you cannot answer a question. You can say

1306
00:54:34,800 --> 00:54:37,239
Speaker 3: I don't want to answer that. But she's just an

1307
00:54:37,239 --> 00:54:39,399
Speaker 3: open book and so she shares that. I'm a lot

1308
00:54:39,440 --> 00:54:42,520
Speaker 3: more protective of our relationship and keeping private things private.

1309
00:54:42,600 --> 00:54:45,120
Speaker 3: So on the air or on the podcast, I will

1310
00:54:45,160 --> 00:54:47,360
Speaker 3: dive into a lot of things, but I'll always protect

1311
00:54:47,360 --> 00:54:50,320
Speaker 3: our relationship first. But my wife, she just answers questions

1312
00:54:50,400 --> 00:54:51,719
Speaker 3: right from the hip, and she's like and then she

1313
00:54:51,800 --> 00:54:55,839
Speaker 3: comes home she's like, I'm sorry, babe. So yeah, she's

1314
00:54:55,880 --> 00:54:58,240
Speaker 3: not too worried about me. It's sexually the opposite way around.

1315
00:55:00,360 --> 00:55:02,920
Speaker 8: How long have you guys been together, like, not married,

1316
00:55:02,960 --> 00:55:04,719
Speaker 8: like just together a little.

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00:55:04,440 --> 00:55:05,960
Speaker 3: Over five years, almost five and a half.

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Speaker 6: Years, And so I would assume because I think people.

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00:55:10,080 --> 00:55:11,879
Speaker 8: Especially like I feel like in our Facebook group are

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00:55:12,640 --> 00:55:15,560
Speaker 8: in particular, there was a conversation that started happening this

1321
00:55:15,560 --> 00:55:18,279
Speaker 8: week which I just was obsessed with how to give like.

1322
00:55:18,239 --> 00:55:20,400
Speaker 6: Can you say head on the podcast? Okay? How to

1323
00:55:20,400 --> 00:55:21,000
Speaker 6: give good.

1324
00:55:22,640 --> 00:55:27,200
Speaker 8: Oral And so it's like just all these women chiming

1325
00:55:27,200 --> 00:55:30,439
Speaker 8: in on how they how they think that it's done

1326
00:55:30,480 --> 00:55:32,840
Speaker 8: best or whatever, and how to keep the intimacy alive

1327
00:55:32,960 --> 00:55:36,400
Speaker 8: in their relationships. And I think it's something that I

1328
00:55:36,440 --> 00:55:39,440
Speaker 8: would be interested to see, like from a guy's perspective,

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00:55:40,120 --> 00:55:43,399
Speaker 8: what that is, because in the beginning, it's like you guys,

1330
00:55:43,480 --> 00:55:46,080
Speaker 8: just like it's in the beginning, everybody just like wants

1331
00:55:46,080 --> 00:55:46,839
Speaker 8: to romp all the time.

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00:55:47,480 --> 00:55:49,600
Speaker 6: As the years go by, it's not so much like that.

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00:55:49,960 --> 00:55:52,239
Speaker 3: Yeah, So we had Actually, it's funny you bring this up.

1334
00:55:52,280 --> 00:55:55,120
Speaker 3: We had a unbelievable conversation last night. I was just

1335
00:55:55,160 --> 00:55:57,440
Speaker 3: in veiled for the last four days competing at the

1336
00:55:57,440 --> 00:55:59,520
Speaker 3: GoPro Mountain Game, so we were apart for the last

1337
00:55:59,520 --> 00:56:01,120
Speaker 3: four days, and then I got home last night and

1338
00:56:01,120 --> 00:56:06,000
Speaker 3: we had an incredible conversation about sex and about our relationship,

1339
00:56:06,000 --> 00:56:09,120
Speaker 3: about how in the last couple of months the friendship

1340
00:56:09,160 --> 00:56:12,200
Speaker 3: element of our relationship has been exceptional, and how we

1341
00:56:12,239 --> 00:56:15,520
Speaker 3: want to now actively grow the sexual part. Like I

1342
00:56:15,520 --> 00:56:17,960
Speaker 3: think in relationships, you go through different phases of life

1343
00:56:18,000 --> 00:56:21,120
Speaker 3: as people are busy with their careers. As your relationship, naturally,

1344
00:56:21,160 --> 00:56:25,359
Speaker 3: you'll just sometimes connect friendship wise more and sometimes you'll

1345
00:56:25,360 --> 00:56:28,239
Speaker 3: connect romantically more. These this happens in the course of

1346
00:56:28,520 --> 00:56:30,880
Speaker 3: a relationship, and that's what we're learning. And so we

1347
00:56:30,920 --> 00:56:35,959
Speaker 3: actually had a really fun light last night. But it Yeah,

1348
00:56:36,160 --> 00:56:39,280
Speaker 3: I'm a smiling man here today.

1349
00:56:38,560 --> 00:56:39,240
Speaker 7: He's glowing.

1350
00:56:39,400 --> 00:56:43,160
Speaker 3: Yeah, did somebody just pay a baby sound?

1351
00:56:45,719 --> 00:56:47,200
Speaker 7: I thought it was celebration.

1352
00:56:47,480 --> 00:56:49,600
Speaker 3: I thought it was a baby sound there or not

1353
00:56:49,680 --> 00:56:50,080
Speaker 3: there yet?

1354
00:56:50,120 --> 00:56:51,759
Speaker 4: But but I.

1355
00:56:51,680 --> 00:56:54,520
Speaker 3: Think it's important for couples to talk about that kind

1356
00:56:54,560 --> 00:56:56,720
Speaker 3: of stuff and listen, I learn all of this stuff

1357
00:56:56,760 --> 00:56:58,440
Speaker 3: from my wife. Let me just be honest, like I

1358
00:56:58,640 --> 00:57:00,400
Speaker 3: I before I met her, I didn't know any of

1359
00:57:00,440 --> 00:57:05,239
Speaker 3: this stuff, but it does lead to amazing connection and relationship.

1360
00:57:05,480 --> 00:57:08,840
Speaker 3: And also for your point on ony for the Facebook group, like,

1361
00:57:09,160 --> 00:57:12,480
Speaker 3: that's a perspective from probably a lot of females. Well

1362
00:57:12,480 --> 00:57:14,279
Speaker 3: what about from a guy? How do we look at

1363
00:57:14,320 --> 00:57:17,080
Speaker 3: it right? You know, like I have to ask my

1364
00:57:17,160 --> 00:57:18,520
Speaker 3: wife like what feels like?

1365
00:57:18,560 --> 00:57:19,200
Speaker 4: What feels good?

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00:57:19,240 --> 00:57:20,600
Speaker 3: Do you? I think I have an idea of what

1367
00:57:20,720 --> 00:57:23,040
Speaker 3: does but like, please tell me because I don't have

1368
00:57:23,080 --> 00:57:25,440
Speaker 3: the playbook on this, Like you are holding the playbook

1369
00:57:25,480 --> 00:57:26,840
Speaker 3: on this, so please share that with me.

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00:57:27,040 --> 00:57:27,480
Speaker 7: Yeah, it was.

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Speaker 2: It was funny because obviously it's all women chiming in,

1372
00:57:31,560 --> 00:57:32,560
Speaker 2: and I was like, I wish.

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00:57:32,360 --> 00:57:33,800
Speaker 7: A guy would be like no, no, no.

1374
00:57:34,600 --> 00:57:36,360
Speaker 8: I was waiting for a guy to jump into that

1375
00:57:36,400 --> 00:57:38,080
Speaker 8: thread and be like, well, actually this is what we

1376
00:57:38,280 --> 00:57:40,760
Speaker 8: like but no, just like I don't even know how

1377
00:57:40,760 --> 00:57:42,800
Speaker 8: many comments from women it was hilarious.

1378
00:57:43,120 --> 00:57:44,919
Speaker 3: So that's our show too, is we want to have

1379
00:57:45,080 --> 00:57:48,240
Speaker 3: female guests on to say, hey, this is not how

1380
00:57:48,280 --> 00:57:50,440
Speaker 3: it goes and we're like, oh, dang, I didn't see

1381
00:57:50,480 --> 00:57:53,520
Speaker 3: that point of view. So are it's called how men Think?

1382
00:57:53,520 --> 00:57:55,960
Speaker 3: But it's very much a community for male and female

1383
00:57:55,960 --> 00:57:59,000
Speaker 3: listeners very much how you guys will bring on male

1384
00:57:59,040 --> 00:58:00,960
Speaker 3: guests to give a different perspective, we want to do

1385
00:58:01,000 --> 00:58:02,320
Speaker 3: the same on our show.

1386
00:58:02,800 --> 00:58:06,560
Speaker 2: Yeah, I feel like like both sexes could benefit from

1387
00:58:06,600 --> 00:58:09,800
Speaker 2: listening to Like I feel like men could probably benefit

1388
00:58:09,840 --> 00:58:12,120
Speaker 2: listening to our podcast. They might roll their eyes a lot,

1389
00:58:12,120 --> 00:58:14,040
Speaker 2: but they'd be like, oh that's interesting I never thought

1390
00:58:14,040 --> 00:58:16,600
Speaker 2: about and vice versa. I think a lot of women

1391
00:58:16,760 --> 00:58:19,960
Speaker 2: are looking to know. You know, there's that movie What

1392
00:58:20,040 --> 00:58:22,760
Speaker 2: Women Want, and it's like all about like being in

1393
00:58:22,800 --> 00:58:25,439
Speaker 2: a woman's mind, and I think women, I think even

1394
00:58:25,560 --> 00:58:28,240
Speaker 2: more so want that from men because women we get

1395
00:58:28,280 --> 00:58:31,720
Speaker 2: so confused of like am I reading into this? What

1396
00:58:31,760 --> 00:58:33,920
Speaker 2: does this mean? When he hasn't texted me and he

1397
00:58:34,000 --> 00:58:36,760
Speaker 2: stopped texting me? You know, like these are the questions

1398
00:58:36,760 --> 00:58:39,720
Speaker 2: that people are just seeking. So I think this is

1399
00:58:39,760 --> 00:58:41,880
Speaker 2: so fun that y'all are going to have this weekly

1400
00:58:42,040 --> 00:58:45,640
Speaker 2: and be like involving people who are listening and having

1401
00:58:45,800 --> 00:58:46,400
Speaker 2: guests on.

1402
00:58:46,480 --> 00:58:48,080
Speaker 7: So I'm super excited for it.

1403
00:58:48,200 --> 00:58:50,360
Speaker 3: Yeah, and we'd love to have you guys on.

1404
00:58:50,720 --> 00:58:53,480
Speaker 2: So we're here just to give probably the best advice

1405
00:58:53,520 --> 00:58:54,920
Speaker 2: you could get for any guests.

1406
00:58:55,320 --> 00:58:55,840
Speaker 3: I love it.

1407
00:58:56,160 --> 00:58:56,320
Speaker 2: Uh.

1408
00:58:56,360 --> 00:58:57,600
Speaker 4: Here's a question for you, guys.

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00:58:57,680 --> 00:59:01,800
Speaker 3: If you were to ask our group, like our How

1410
00:59:01,880 --> 00:59:04,920
Speaker 3: Men Think group, a question about how guys look at

1411
00:59:05,000 --> 00:59:08,000
Speaker 3: a certain issue or something, what would that be. Do

1412
00:59:08,000 --> 00:59:09,920
Speaker 3: you have like a burning topic where you're like, I

1413
00:59:09,920 --> 00:59:13,240
Speaker 3: would love to know how a man approaciates or approaches

1414
00:59:13,400 --> 00:59:17,040
Speaker 3: this topic, have anything burning?

1415
00:59:17,320 --> 00:59:24,520
Speaker 8: I mean, let me get through the I would be

1416
00:59:24,640 --> 00:59:29,280
Speaker 8: interested in hearing your perspective on like just dating a

1417
00:59:30,160 --> 00:59:34,360
Speaker 8: I think that for me dating in the past, for me,

1418
00:59:34,440 --> 00:59:36,680
Speaker 8: I was very much a chameleon, like I would just

1419
00:59:36,760 --> 00:59:39,480
Speaker 8: adapt to the man that I was like with what

1420
00:59:39,560 --> 00:59:42,320
Speaker 8: he liked doing, and I didn't really have a sense

1421
00:59:42,360 --> 00:59:44,840
Speaker 8: of like myself. And now I think I've come on

1422
00:59:44,880 --> 00:59:47,360
Speaker 8: the way far other end of that, where I'm very

1423
00:59:47,440 --> 00:59:49,439
Speaker 8: secure in myself and who I am, and I feel

1424
00:59:49,440 --> 00:59:51,160
Speaker 8: like dating can be a little bit of a challenge

1425
00:59:51,200 --> 00:59:54,080
Speaker 8: because I'm like, I'm I don't want to say stuck

1426
00:59:54,080 --> 00:59:56,240
Speaker 8: in my ways, but I'm like, just I don't know

1427
00:59:56,280 --> 00:59:59,120
Speaker 8: how to explain it, but I'm like, I know who

1428
00:59:59,120 --> 01:00:03,760
Speaker 8: I am and I don't want to like give any discounts.

1429
01:00:03,360 --> 01:00:06,960
Speaker 6: That makes sense. Yeah, when I'm dating, though, does that

1430
01:00:07,000 --> 01:00:09,240
Speaker 6: come off as like aggressive or.

1431
01:00:10,880 --> 01:00:13,560
Speaker 3: No, I don't think so unapproachable.

1432
01:00:13,040 --> 01:00:15,560
Speaker 8: Or I don't really know what the right word that

1433
01:00:15,600 --> 01:00:16,760
Speaker 8: I'm trying to find.

1434
01:00:17,920 --> 01:00:21,840
Speaker 3: So I actually my first ever date with my wife,

1435
01:00:21,960 --> 01:00:24,040
Speaker 3: we discussed this and I had been through a phase

1436
01:00:24,040 --> 01:00:26,000
Speaker 3: of about twelve months in my life where I really

1437
01:00:26,040 --> 01:00:29,120
Speaker 3: discovered that I need to protect the things that are

1438
01:00:29,120 --> 01:00:31,760
Speaker 3: most important to me. So there's probably two or three

1439
01:00:31,880 --> 01:00:33,600
Speaker 3: four things in my life at that time that I

1440
01:00:33,640 --> 01:00:36,520
Speaker 3: was like, I have to protect these. These are foundational

1441
01:00:36,600 --> 01:00:38,800
Speaker 3: and core elements of who I am as a person

1442
01:00:38,840 --> 01:00:41,600
Speaker 3: that I know, And a lot had to do with sport,

1443
01:00:41,680 --> 01:00:44,680
Speaker 3: and I was playing hockey at that time. And I

1444
01:00:44,800 --> 01:00:46,960
Speaker 3: encouraged her because she had been the same She had

1445
01:00:47,000 --> 01:00:49,680
Speaker 3: kind of been a chameleon and taken on identities of

1446
01:00:49,720 --> 01:00:52,480
Speaker 3: other people until she found herself, and I encouraged her

1447
01:00:52,520 --> 01:00:55,160
Speaker 3: find those things that matter to you, protect the heck

1448
01:00:55,200 --> 01:00:57,520
Speaker 3: out of them, and then the true partner that comes

1449
01:00:57,520 --> 01:01:00,280
Speaker 3: into your life will love and support those things. So

1450
01:01:00,600 --> 01:01:04,200
Speaker 3: I love that you have flipped from being the chameleon,

1451
01:01:04,560 --> 01:01:07,640
Speaker 3: the falling into somebody else's identity and have your own identity,

1452
01:01:08,000 --> 01:01:10,720
Speaker 3: and some guy will come or girl will come into

1453
01:01:10,760 --> 01:01:15,120
Speaker 3: your life and appreciate and respect and love you for

1454
01:01:15,160 --> 01:01:17,200
Speaker 3: that will that will be the type of person they're

1455
01:01:17,240 --> 01:01:19,720
Speaker 3: seeking and searching for. And as a man, it is

1456
01:01:20,120 --> 01:01:23,000
Speaker 3: the best to have a confident woman as a partner.

1457
01:01:23,600 --> 01:01:24,560
Speaker 4: I love that.

1458
01:01:24,560 --> 01:01:27,960
Speaker 8: That's actually very refreshing to hear, because sometimes I feel

1459
01:01:28,000 --> 01:01:31,880
Speaker 8: like I need to just back down a little bit,

1460
01:01:31,880 --> 01:01:33,280
Speaker 8: like I need to be a little bit more.

1461
01:01:35,400 --> 01:01:37,000
Speaker 6: I don't know the right word. Do you know the word.

1462
01:01:37,040 --> 01:01:39,200
Speaker 4: I'm trying malleable.

1463
01:01:39,680 --> 01:01:41,440
Speaker 8: That might be the right word, because I feel like

1464
01:01:42,360 --> 01:01:45,000
Speaker 8: in the past it was like, oh, you know, I

1465
01:01:45,040 --> 01:01:46,640
Speaker 8: have to go to this thing, and I would just

1466
01:01:46,720 --> 01:01:48,760
Speaker 8: drop all my work commitments. I wuld drop everything and

1467
01:01:48,800 --> 01:01:52,160
Speaker 8: just be there for him. And now I'm like, I

1468
01:01:52,160 --> 01:01:53,439
Speaker 8: have to go to bed at a certain time because

1469
01:01:53,440 --> 01:01:56,640
Speaker 8: I work in the morning. Like I'm very much in

1470
01:01:56,720 --> 01:01:59,320
Speaker 8: my day to day. But I do think I'm looking

1471
01:01:59,360 --> 01:02:01,880
Speaker 8: for a partner that will rise the occasion and want

1472
01:02:01,880 --> 01:02:04,360
Speaker 8: to maybe go out at six pm because that's when

1473
01:02:04,440 --> 01:02:06,080
Speaker 8: I need to go out, you know what I mean.

1474
01:02:06,480 --> 01:02:08,520
Speaker 8: But then I'm like, is that unrealistic?

1475
01:02:08,920 --> 01:02:09,960
Speaker 6: Am I being? Am I.

1476
01:02:11,480 --> 01:02:12,160
Speaker 4: Be malleable?

1477
01:02:12,920 --> 01:02:13,600
Speaker 6: Yeah? Kind of.

1478
01:02:14,360 --> 01:02:17,720
Speaker 3: I don't think it is unrealistic. And that's the balance

1479
01:02:17,760 --> 01:02:21,520
Speaker 3: of a relationship is you'll find the things that are

1480
01:02:21,560 --> 01:02:23,480
Speaker 3: most important to you and you'll protect those, and then

1481
01:02:23,480 --> 01:02:25,960
Speaker 3: you'll also find a way to give and take with

1482
01:02:26,000 --> 01:02:28,640
Speaker 3: your partner where it doesn't have to be I don't

1483
01:02:28,640 --> 01:02:31,040
Speaker 3: think if it's like a hard line yes or no,

1484
01:02:33,440 --> 01:02:35,160
Speaker 3: that it has to be that way or else you

1485
01:02:35,200 --> 01:02:37,280
Speaker 3: can't function. And I believe that there is a little

1486
01:02:37,280 --> 01:02:40,400
Speaker 3: bit of give and take. I'm searching for another word.

1487
01:02:40,680 --> 01:02:41,280
Speaker 3: What's the other word.

1488
01:02:41,320 --> 01:02:42,760
Speaker 7: I'm talking compromise.

1489
01:02:42,960 --> 01:02:45,120
Speaker 3: Compromise, that's the one. Yeah, a bit of compromise in

1490
01:02:45,120 --> 01:02:48,080
Speaker 3: a relationship. But there's gonna be a couple things in

1491
01:02:48,120 --> 01:02:50,200
Speaker 3: your life that you were like, I have to do

1492
01:02:50,280 --> 01:02:53,200
Speaker 3: this for me, and if you support that, I'm the

1493
01:02:53,200 --> 01:02:55,240
Speaker 3: best version of me. And look out, I'm coming at

1494
01:02:55,240 --> 01:02:57,320
Speaker 3: you because I love that you support me. I'm so

1495
01:02:57,440 --> 01:02:59,200
Speaker 3: fulfilled and happy as a human being. I'm going to

1496
01:02:59,200 --> 01:03:02,040
Speaker 3: be the best version and myself for you. So, but

1497
01:03:02,080 --> 01:03:04,760
Speaker 3: that comes through communication with your partner. It's almost a

1498
01:03:04,760 --> 01:03:06,840
Speaker 3: litmus test did you find the right partner or not?

1499
01:03:07,480 --> 01:03:10,000
Speaker 3: As somebody that is supportive of that and says, go

1500
01:03:10,240 --> 01:03:11,360
Speaker 3: do your thing, I love it.

1501
01:03:11,800 --> 01:03:12,600
Speaker 4: How can I help?

1502
01:03:12,680 --> 01:03:15,480
Speaker 3: I mean, that's the person you're going to gravitate towards

1503
01:03:15,600 --> 01:03:18,600
Speaker 3: long term versus somebody that tries to stop you from

1504
01:03:18,640 --> 01:03:22,120
Speaker 3: being who you truly are. That that's not going to last.

1505
01:03:23,640 --> 01:03:25,560
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean I think when you meet your guy,

1506
01:03:25,640 --> 01:03:27,440
Speaker 2: he's gonna be like, oh my gosh.

1507
01:03:27,600 --> 01:03:31,120
Speaker 7: You go to that Jonas Brothers concert and go to sleep.

1508
01:03:31,160 --> 01:03:34,120
Speaker 2: Here's at six am, and you wake up and go

1509
01:03:34,160 --> 01:03:36,560
Speaker 2: to the farmer's market at seven am on Sunday.

1510
01:03:37,600 --> 01:03:40,720
Speaker 3: How can I help? How can I help facilitate? Should

1511
01:03:40,720 --> 01:03:44,160
Speaker 3: I like just bring in a panel of guys, Like

1512
01:03:44,640 --> 01:03:46,400
Speaker 3: four of our guys are married, we have some one

1513
01:03:46,480 --> 01:03:49,200
Speaker 3: single guy. But should I just like run a contest

1514
01:03:49,400 --> 01:03:50,680
Speaker 3: like a get a Date with Hanya?

1515
01:03:50,800 --> 01:03:53,560
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's like a Bachelorette, but like your podcast. I

1516
01:03:53,640 --> 01:03:56,240
Speaker 2: heart podcast Bachelorette with Tanya.

1517
01:03:56,400 --> 01:03:57,720
Speaker 3: Yeah, because a lot of our dudes, We'll have a

1518
01:03:57,760 --> 01:03:59,760
Speaker 3: lot of dudes listen to this podcast, Like we could

1519
01:03:59,760 --> 01:04:00,800
Speaker 3: do some sort of.

1520
01:04:01,640 --> 01:04:03,480
Speaker 8: But they have to go through the Brooks filter, like

1521
01:04:03,520 --> 01:04:04,600
Speaker 8: I trust your judgment.

1522
01:04:04,680 --> 01:04:06,200
Speaker 6: They need to be like a solid dude.

1523
01:04:06,280 --> 01:04:09,960
Speaker 3: Okay, so what oh so I'll have to put I'll

1524
01:04:09,960 --> 01:04:13,000
Speaker 3: have to put together some sort of questionnaire or something

1525
01:04:13,000 --> 01:04:14,720
Speaker 3: that like filters these dudes out.

1526
01:04:14,920 --> 01:04:19,520
Speaker 7: Yeah. Now we can't have any just regular joke come

1527
01:04:19,560 --> 01:04:19,919
Speaker 7: in here.

1528
01:04:21,000 --> 01:04:24,680
Speaker 3: No, no, we're looking for somebody exceptional. You come on

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01:04:24,800 --> 01:04:27,680
Speaker 3: this girl. She deserves This woman deserves somebody exception.

1530
01:04:27,800 --> 01:04:29,640
Speaker 7: She deserves nothing less than that.

1531
01:04:30,160 --> 01:04:31,760
Speaker 5: We have anima from Lizzie. This might be good to

1532
01:04:31,760 --> 01:04:34,200
Speaker 5: get a guy's perspective on it. So she's twenty three,

1533
01:04:34,280 --> 01:04:36,680
Speaker 5: her boyfriend's twenty six. They've been together three years, but

1534
01:04:36,680 --> 01:04:38,800
Speaker 5: they've been off and non since they were fifteen or

1535
01:04:38,840 --> 01:04:41,760
Speaker 5: she was fifteen, he was eighteen. Anyway, they do long

1536
01:04:41,760 --> 01:04:43,760
Speaker 5: distance half the year. They're currently long distance. So one

1537
01:04:43,840 --> 01:04:46,280
Speaker 5: day she was drunk and decided to go into his Instagram.

1538
01:04:46,680 --> 01:04:50,400
Speaker 5: She's noticed that he looks at one specific girl's account

1539
01:04:50,480 --> 01:04:54,000
Speaker 5: quite often and keeps going to it. Now she realizes

1540
01:04:54,120 --> 01:04:56,840
Speaker 5: she goes on guys accounts, but they're unattainable guys. In fact,

1541
01:04:56,920 --> 01:04:59,880
Speaker 5: Nick viol is one that she mentions, Uh, but this

1542
01:05:00,160 --> 01:05:02,120
Speaker 5: a girl. He went to high school with someone who

1543
01:05:02,120 --> 01:05:04,040
Speaker 5: could he could easily get in contact with her if

1544
01:05:04,040 --> 01:05:06,120
Speaker 5: he wanted to. Am I being crazy by me being

1545
01:05:06,160 --> 01:05:08,040
Speaker 5: bothered by this? Should I bring it up to him?

1546
01:05:08,040 --> 01:05:10,000
Speaker 5: All advice to welcome seriously? And then she has wonderful

1547
01:05:10,000 --> 01:05:12,440
Speaker 5: thing to say about the podcast. She loves you guys, drives,

1548
01:05:12,520 --> 01:05:14,720
Speaker 5: runs and gym sessions are all made better because of

1549
01:05:14,760 --> 01:05:15,920
Speaker 5: your podcast.

1550
01:05:16,200 --> 01:05:17,800
Speaker 3: So you want the man's perspective on that?

1551
01:05:17,800 --> 01:05:18,440
Speaker 4: What's he up to?

1552
01:05:18,840 --> 01:05:23,200
Speaker 3: I would say, honestly, where there's smoke, there's fire, That's

1553
01:05:23,240 --> 01:05:24,360
Speaker 3: what I would say on that one.

1554
01:05:24,520 --> 01:05:26,760
Speaker 5: I agree, like I sometimes feel like I'm supposed to

1555
01:05:26,760 --> 01:05:29,080
Speaker 5: defend these guys, but I think I think he's he's

1556
01:05:29,120 --> 01:05:31,600
Speaker 5: at least sniffing out the opportunity something.

1557
01:05:31,680 --> 01:05:34,920
Speaker 3: Yeah, especially one. I don't know even how. I'm amazed

1558
01:05:34,920 --> 01:05:37,360
Speaker 3: how she even got into Like she got into his

1559
01:05:37,360 --> 01:05:39,520
Speaker 3: Instagram account or she just explained that.

1560
01:05:39,800 --> 01:05:42,640
Speaker 5: He logged into it on her phone a few months

1561
01:05:42,640 --> 01:05:44,439
Speaker 5: ago and he was already in there.

1562
01:05:45,280 --> 01:05:48,640
Speaker 3: Damn she checking his DMS. That's what it is. Yeah,

1563
01:05:48,640 --> 01:05:49,680
Speaker 3: I should I'm shocked.

1564
01:05:49,680 --> 01:05:52,200
Speaker 2: I mean, I'm proud that she just got drunk and

1565
01:05:52,280 --> 01:05:52,640
Speaker 2: checked it.

1566
01:05:52,680 --> 01:05:57,320
Speaker 7: I'd be in there, like gross how did I get

1567
01:05:57,400 --> 01:05:58,560
Speaker 7: into his accounting camp.

1568
01:05:58,640 --> 01:06:01,800
Speaker 3: Well, even even for that touching on that, I think

1569
01:06:01,880 --> 01:06:05,040
Speaker 3: that is even she's already curious of something, there's already

1570
01:06:05,120 --> 01:06:07,760
Speaker 3: something there, Because if you're secure in your relationship and

1571
01:06:07,760 --> 01:06:10,280
Speaker 3: trust one another, I don't think you ever even look

1572
01:06:10,360 --> 01:06:12,360
Speaker 3: to go do that, even if you are drunk. I've

1573
01:06:12,400 --> 01:06:14,360
Speaker 3: never looked to go into my wife's or ask her.

1574
01:06:14,680 --> 01:06:16,560
Speaker 3: I don't give a damn and she's never asked me.

1575
01:06:17,040 --> 01:06:19,040
Speaker 3: But I trust her completely and she trusts me. So

1576
01:06:19,480 --> 01:06:21,600
Speaker 3: even the fact that she is going there, there's some

1577
01:06:21,640 --> 01:06:24,120
Speaker 3: sort of inkling that she doesn't trust this guy already,

1578
01:06:24,160 --> 01:06:27,080
Speaker 3: and she's looking almost for validation of that.

1579
01:06:27,080 --> 01:06:28,400
Speaker 7: That's actually really good advice.

1580
01:06:28,480 --> 01:06:30,600
Speaker 5: It was a woman on Facebook last night who was

1581
01:06:30,640 --> 01:06:33,080
Speaker 5: just bothered by her boyfriend because he's liking a lot

1582
01:06:33,080 --> 01:06:35,680
Speaker 5: of girls pictures on Instagram and it's bikini shots and

1583
01:06:35,680 --> 01:06:38,080
Speaker 5: stuff like that. And he says it's no big deal,

1584
01:06:38,200 --> 01:06:41,200
Speaker 5: and she says, and she actually kind of her instinct

1585
01:06:41,320 --> 01:06:42,520
Speaker 5: is that it's no big deal, but her friends are

1586
01:06:42,560 --> 01:06:44,960
Speaker 5: telling her, no, no, no, this is not good. I

1587
01:06:45,000 --> 01:06:49,000
Speaker 5: think it's flirting. I think liking a bikini shot is

1588
01:06:49,120 --> 01:06:52,200
Speaker 5: flirting with that girl. It's like saying, girl, you're looking good,

1589
01:06:52,520 --> 01:06:55,360
Speaker 5: Like that's what you're saying by hitting that like button.

1590
01:06:55,520 --> 01:06:57,640
Speaker 3: I see it from both sides. I agree with you.

1591
01:06:58,120 --> 01:07:00,280
Speaker 3: I don't think dude should be doing that, Like if

1592
01:07:00,320 --> 01:07:02,840
Speaker 3: you're if you're in a committed relationship, if a girl

1593
01:07:02,920 --> 01:07:06,760
Speaker 3: posts a bikini photo or something, you don't need to

1594
01:07:06,960 --> 01:07:09,360
Speaker 3: like that, right, you know, what is what is really

1595
01:07:09,400 --> 01:07:12,320
Speaker 3: the value of you doing that, other than if you

1596
01:07:12,400 --> 01:07:15,720
Speaker 3: have some sort of ulterior motive. So it's it's also

1597
01:07:15,840 --> 01:07:17,840
Speaker 3: just how you want to portray, portray yourself and be

1598
01:07:17,920 --> 01:07:20,440
Speaker 3: in your relationship. Like I wouldn't do that out of

1599
01:07:20,480 --> 01:07:22,200
Speaker 3: respect because I don't want to do that as a man,

1600
01:07:22,400 --> 01:07:23,800
Speaker 3: but also out of respect for my wife.

1601
01:07:23,840 --> 01:07:24,400
Speaker 4: I don't want to.

1602
01:07:24,560 --> 01:07:27,480
Speaker 3: I don't want her to have any sort of inkling

1603
01:07:27,520 --> 01:07:30,240
Speaker 3: like I'm up to something else. So but that's that

1604
01:07:30,320 --> 01:07:31,760
Speaker 3: comes from me who I want to be as a

1605
01:07:31,760 --> 01:07:33,960
Speaker 3: man and what how I want to represent myself in

1606
01:07:34,000 --> 01:07:34,760
Speaker 3: my relationship.

1607
01:07:35,000 --> 01:07:36,680
Speaker 4: Maybe all guys aren't like that.

1608
01:07:36,720 --> 01:07:38,520
Speaker 3: Maybe it is just a friend and just double tapp

1609
01:07:38,560 --> 01:07:40,240
Speaker 3: and it's a mindless double tap to like it.

1610
01:07:40,280 --> 01:07:42,480
Speaker 4: I don't know, mindless a lot of the time. Yeah,

1611
01:07:43,080 --> 01:07:43,360
Speaker 4: I don't know.

1612
01:07:43,440 --> 01:07:47,240
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's just I think it seems like a little thing,

1613
01:07:47,280 --> 01:07:49,520
Speaker 3: but it could be a big thing in a relationship,

1614
01:07:49,600 --> 01:07:51,000
Speaker 3: and it's just how do you want to show up

1615
01:07:51,080 --> 01:07:52,720
Speaker 3: as a man in your relationship.

1616
01:07:52,840 --> 01:07:57,080
Speaker 2: I do think it's interesting though, because like there's no

1617
01:07:58,240 --> 01:08:00,560
Speaker 2: especially if she says she's uncomfortable with it, it should

1618
01:08:00,640 --> 01:08:02,000
Speaker 2: that should be the end of it. He should not

1619
01:08:02,040 --> 01:08:04,000
Speaker 2: even defend himself. He should be like, I'm sorry, I

1620
01:08:04,000 --> 01:08:06,680
Speaker 2: didn't even realize that. I won't do that anymore. If

1621
01:08:06,680 --> 01:08:09,520
Speaker 2: he if it's that innocent, if it doesn't matter.

1622
01:08:09,880 --> 01:08:12,720
Speaker 3: But it's it's very possible he might not even see that.

1623
01:08:12,800 --> 01:08:14,440
Speaker 3: It might be a friend of his that is a

1624
01:08:14,440 --> 01:08:16,840
Speaker 3: great friend of it. He's just like he just likes every.

1625
01:08:16,720 --> 01:08:20,080
Speaker 2: Photo, love that slimsuit girl, good quality.

1626
01:08:21,600 --> 01:08:23,680
Speaker 3: If he posts like a little of emoji of like

1627
01:08:23,720 --> 01:08:26,719
Speaker 3: the two eyeballs or something like that, he'd be creeping.

1628
01:08:27,320 --> 01:08:29,040
Speaker 3: He's creeping hard, especially if.

1629
01:08:29,000 --> 01:08:30,280
Speaker 6: She's in like a thoughty position.

1630
01:08:31,360 --> 01:08:35,680
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, no, I would advise against it. Guys, if

1631
01:08:35,680 --> 01:08:38,040
Speaker 3: you're in a committed relationship, and maybe that's a good

1632
01:08:38,040 --> 01:08:40,320
Speaker 3: test for you as a guy. If you're still doing that,

1633
01:08:40,400 --> 01:08:42,080
Speaker 3: maybe you're not that into your relationship.

1634
01:08:42,400 --> 01:08:44,040
Speaker 5: If she tells you shouldn't do that and you get

1635
01:08:44,080 --> 01:08:46,920
Speaker 5: all like whoa, hey, whoaah, come on, don't change my

1636
01:08:47,000 --> 01:08:47,559
Speaker 5: whole life.

1637
01:08:47,600 --> 01:08:48,600
Speaker 4: Maybe you're not ready for this.

1638
01:08:49,240 --> 01:08:49,760
Speaker 7: Yeah.

1639
01:08:49,840 --> 01:08:52,000
Speaker 8: I want to be in a relationship where I don't

1640
01:08:52,080 --> 01:08:57,400
Speaker 8: even have like the tiniest inkling to go on their Instagram,

1641
01:08:57,800 --> 01:09:01,200
Speaker 8: get in their Facebook password, search their phone, like I

1642
01:09:01,200 --> 01:09:03,840
Speaker 8: don't want, I just don't. I want to be in

1643
01:09:03,840 --> 01:09:06,120
Speaker 8: a relationship that's very, very like secure.

1644
01:09:06,640 --> 01:09:06,800
Speaker 2: You know.

1645
01:09:07,120 --> 01:09:08,360
Speaker 7: Yeah, I think that's the goal.

1646
01:09:08,439 --> 01:09:09,000
Speaker 6: That's the goal.

1647
01:09:10,000 --> 01:09:13,480
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's a beautiful place to be. It's it's honestly,

1648
01:09:12,560 --> 01:09:15,839
Speaker 3: it's it is. It is, it completely is. It takes

1649
01:09:15,960 --> 01:09:20,840
Speaker 3: transparency and communication to get there, continual throughout your relationship.

1650
01:09:21,160 --> 01:09:23,640
Speaker 3: But honestly, when you find it, when you have the

1651
01:09:23,680 --> 01:09:25,880
Speaker 3: partner that's like that, there's no other way to live.

1652
01:09:26,439 --> 01:09:27,880
Speaker 3: There is no other way to live.

1653
01:09:28,040 --> 01:09:30,640
Speaker 8: I just I was cheated on the past, and so

1654
01:09:30,840 --> 01:09:34,760
Speaker 8: I brought that burden onto every guy dated since him,

1655
01:09:35,000 --> 01:09:36,760
Speaker 8: and I was like dating a guy that was just

1656
01:09:36,920 --> 01:09:39,360
Speaker 8: not that would never cross his mind to cheat on me.

1657
01:09:39,400 --> 01:09:41,439
Speaker 6: And I was always projecting. I was always like waiting

1658
01:09:41,479 --> 01:09:43,720
Speaker 6: for the shoot to drop. That's not a way to live.

1659
01:09:44,400 --> 01:09:47,479
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's it's I understand that I've never been cheated

1660
01:09:47,479 --> 01:09:52,479
Speaker 3: on that I know of anyway, But it's not the

1661
01:09:52,560 --> 01:09:55,080
Speaker 3: new guy's fault, right totally. You know, he didn't do

1662
01:09:55,120 --> 01:09:57,720
Speaker 3: anything wrong to deserve any sort of that. But I

1663
01:09:57,760 --> 01:10:00,559
Speaker 3: can't imagine how hard it is to trust somebody after

1664
01:10:00,640 --> 01:10:02,840
Speaker 3: you've already trusted somebody and maybe had your heart broken,

1665
01:10:02,880 --> 01:10:05,559
Speaker 3: your head, something unfortunate like that happened. So I can't

1666
01:10:05,920 --> 01:10:08,479
Speaker 3: fathom what that feels like. But for the new guy,

1667
01:10:08,560 --> 01:10:09,759
Speaker 3: it's not his fault.

1668
01:10:09,800 --> 01:10:10,679
Speaker 4: He didn't do that.

1669
01:10:10,920 --> 01:10:12,280
Speaker 8: I to learn.

1670
01:10:12,320 --> 01:10:16,480
Speaker 2: That is the podcast out now.

1671
01:10:15,520 --> 01:10:19,160
Speaker 3: It comes out on Father's Day, So on Sunday it

1672
01:10:19,200 --> 01:10:22,519
Speaker 3: comes out. Yeah, right. The teasers up right now, so

1673
01:10:22,560 --> 01:10:24,400
Speaker 3: you can listen to the teaser. It's about a minute long,

1674
01:10:25,120 --> 01:10:28,320
Speaker 3: and then we launch on this Father's Day. You can

1675
01:10:28,320 --> 01:10:31,160
Speaker 3: find us at how Men Think podcast. You can find

1676
01:10:31,240 --> 01:10:33,519
Speaker 3: us on wherever you get your podcasts. You can subscribe

1677
01:10:33,560 --> 01:10:36,160
Speaker 3: to it now. I'm super excited for it. I'm really

1678
01:10:36,360 --> 01:10:38,719
Speaker 3: I'm really proud of the episodes, the first couple episodes

1679
01:10:38,760 --> 01:10:41,680
Speaker 3: that we shot already, and proud of where this is

1680
01:10:41,720 --> 01:10:43,479
Speaker 3: going to go, the platform that we're going to create,

1681
01:10:43,520 --> 01:10:46,080
Speaker 3: the engaging community that we're going to create. We're gonna

1682
01:10:46,720 --> 01:10:50,320
Speaker 3: take listeners calls, emails. We're going to talk about it's

1683
01:10:50,320 --> 01:10:52,839
Speaker 3: a vessel of service for the community.

1684
01:10:53,000 --> 01:10:53,840
Speaker 7: I love that word.

1685
01:10:54,280 --> 01:10:57,000
Speaker 3: What do you people want us to talk about? We

1686
01:10:57,120 --> 01:10:59,080
Speaker 3: might have some expertise, we might not. If we don't,

1687
01:10:59,080 --> 01:11:01,000
Speaker 3: we'll bring in somebody that. But we're going to dive

1688
01:11:01,000 --> 01:11:03,080
Speaker 3: into this thing in a raw, authentic, genuine way and

1689
01:11:03,080 --> 01:11:04,000
Speaker 3: see what we can come up with.

1690
01:11:04,280 --> 01:11:06,479
Speaker 2: I'm so excited for you. Which about Kevin de Groff

1691
01:11:06,520 --> 01:11:07,000
Speaker 2: for a second.

1692
01:11:07,600 --> 01:11:11,200
Speaker 6: Yeah, I've been hearing I've been hearing some wonderful things

1693
01:11:11,200 --> 01:11:11,720
Speaker 6: about him.

1694
01:11:11,960 --> 01:11:15,320
Speaker 3: He's fantastic. I can't wait for you.

1695
01:11:15,520 --> 01:11:17,160
Speaker 7: Does he get the Brooks approval for.

1696
01:11:20,200 --> 01:11:22,120
Speaker 4: He is? He is one.

1697
01:11:22,200 --> 01:11:25,080
Speaker 3: He is so funny. He like you'll you'll be able

1698
01:11:25,080 --> 01:11:27,599
Speaker 3: to pick out his voice instantly when you hear him

1699
01:11:27,640 --> 01:11:32,400
Speaker 3: talk on our podcast. But he is amazingly he's got humor.

1700
01:11:32,479 --> 01:11:35,720
Speaker 3: And then he is amazingly thoughtful and deep and has

1701
01:11:35,760 --> 01:11:38,760
Speaker 3: a tremendous perspective where sometimes you just sit back and go,

1702
01:11:39,160 --> 01:11:43,040
Speaker 3: oh my god, you said that beautifully like he is? Yeah,

1703
01:11:43,080 --> 01:11:46,960
Speaker 3: like he He has really super impressed me as I've

1704
01:11:47,000 --> 01:11:48,920
Speaker 3: got to know him through the podcast. I didn't know

1705
01:11:49,000 --> 01:11:52,040
Speaker 3: him before and just met him through this project and

1706
01:11:52,439 --> 01:11:55,479
Speaker 3: super impressive guy and human in the way he sees

1707
01:11:55,520 --> 01:11:58,519
Speaker 3: the world and his thoughts on things. So I think

1708
01:11:58,560 --> 01:12:00,840
Speaker 3: a lot of our community they know is music, but

1709
01:12:00,920 --> 01:12:02,479
Speaker 3: now you're get going to get to know the man

1710
01:12:02,560 --> 01:12:04,360
Speaker 3: behind it and the way he sees the world and

1711
01:12:04,400 --> 01:12:08,760
Speaker 3: what shows up in his songwriting. It's he's fantastic.

1712
01:12:09,360 --> 01:12:12,519
Speaker 6: That's what I've been hearing. Danielle's like shaking her head.

1713
01:12:12,760 --> 01:12:15,040
Speaker 8: Everybody's telling me, like Gavin de Gras, he's like this

1714
01:12:15,320 --> 01:12:16,240
Speaker 8: amazing unicorn.

1715
01:12:16,240 --> 01:12:17,959
Speaker 6: I was like, well, where is this, said unicorn?

1716
01:12:18,640 --> 01:12:24,120
Speaker 8: Hmm, But then you know it makes me It's I

1717
01:12:24,160 --> 01:12:26,479
Speaker 8: listened to I'm a big fan of Dax Shepherd's podcast

1718
01:12:26,920 --> 01:12:28,920
Speaker 8: and the thing that I'm like so impressed by, and

1719
01:12:29,000 --> 01:12:31,120
Speaker 8: this is the vibe I'm getting about Gavin de Gras,

1720
01:12:31,240 --> 01:12:34,360
Speaker 8: So correct me if I'm wrong. He is very self aware.

1721
01:12:34,840 --> 01:12:38,280
Speaker 8: So like when he's in the situation and he's like

1722
01:12:38,640 --> 01:12:41,200
Speaker 8: irritated or agitated or something's going on, he takes a

1723
01:12:41,200 --> 01:12:43,720
Speaker 8: step back and he looks inward and he's like, what

1724
01:12:43,840 --> 01:12:48,680
Speaker 8: is it about this this situation that like I'm contributing to,

1725
01:12:49,320 --> 01:12:52,880
Speaker 8: And he'll like figure out internally why he's reacting the

1726
01:12:52,880 --> 01:12:55,759
Speaker 8: way that he is and then he like addresses the situation.

1727
01:12:56,280 --> 01:12:58,320
Speaker 8: I was like, that's what I want to marry, Like,

1728
01:12:58,360 --> 01:12:59,519
Speaker 8: do you know what I mean? Somebody that's just so

1729
01:12:59,560 --> 01:13:02,439
Speaker 8: self aware of like what's going on. They're not always

1730
01:13:02,439 --> 01:13:04,360
Speaker 8: I mean obviously that he gets in fights with Kristen

1731
01:13:04,400 --> 01:13:06,599
Speaker 8: and like, you know, marriage takes work, and he's very

1732
01:13:06,600 --> 01:13:07,679
Speaker 8: like transparent about.

1733
01:13:07,439 --> 01:13:08,040
Speaker 6: All those things.

1734
01:13:08,280 --> 01:13:10,840
Speaker 8: But he's just really self aware and I think that's

1735
01:13:10,880 --> 01:13:12,680
Speaker 8: like such an amazing quality to have.

1736
01:13:13,080 --> 01:13:14,640
Speaker 3: Yeah, and I think Gavin has a lot of that.

1737
01:13:14,720 --> 01:13:18,280
Speaker 3: I think he one understands who he is as a man.

1738
01:13:18,479 --> 01:13:20,840
Speaker 3: He also has a great understanding of his flaws and

1739
01:13:20,880 --> 01:13:23,760
Speaker 3: where he wants to be and we get into some

1740
01:13:23,800 --> 01:13:27,840
Speaker 3: of that we talk about that, uh. And but also

1741
01:13:27,920 --> 01:13:32,080
Speaker 3: he has a he has a unique perspective. He's he

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01:13:32,360 --> 01:13:35,040
Speaker 3: opens up on the podcast of how his mom passed

1743
01:13:35,040 --> 01:13:37,320
Speaker 3: away a year and a half ago and how that

1744
01:13:37,439 --> 01:13:40,800
Speaker 3: has shifted and shaped his perspective, how it sent things spiraling,

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01:13:40,840 --> 01:13:44,599
Speaker 3: and then how it actually brought him to connect truly

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01:13:44,640 --> 01:13:46,519
Speaker 3: with his self and his identity who he wants to

1747
01:13:46,560 --> 01:13:49,200
Speaker 3: be in the world going forward. So he opens up

1748
01:13:49,200 --> 01:13:52,280
Speaker 3: a lot about a lot of that as well. But yeah,

1749
01:13:52,320 --> 01:13:54,920
Speaker 3: he's I love sitting next to him. I just look

1750
01:13:54,920 --> 01:13:57,559
Speaker 3: at him and we start laughing, and he's just there's

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01:13:57,600 --> 01:14:01,479
Speaker 3: he has so many funny hypotheticals too. He'll relate something

1752
01:14:01,520 --> 01:14:03,600
Speaker 3: to He'll relate like a problem that a man and

1753
01:14:03,640 --> 01:14:05,600
Speaker 3: a woman has to being in a lifeboat in the

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01:14:05,600 --> 01:14:07,960
Speaker 3: ocean in a storm. Like he just he has these

1755
01:14:08,000 --> 01:14:10,040
Speaker 3: hypotheticals that are just wild, and you can sit back

1756
01:14:10,080 --> 01:14:11,040
Speaker 3: and just listen to him talk.

1757
01:14:11,280 --> 01:14:13,519
Speaker 4: You're right, he's like, dude, where does this come from?

1758
01:14:14,120 --> 01:14:17,639
Speaker 3: That's very similar to but maybe we get you in Tanya.

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01:14:18,080 --> 01:14:20,280
Speaker 3: We sit you like maybe you guys share a mic,

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01:14:20,400 --> 01:14:23,720
Speaker 3: or we really close to each other and just see

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01:14:23,880 --> 01:14:24,479
Speaker 3: what happens.

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Speaker 7: If the sparks fly, see what happens.

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Speaker 3: But I'm happy to make that connection if you wanted.

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01:14:32,200 --> 01:14:34,439
Speaker 3: I'm here for you, girl. I'm here for you and

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01:14:34,479 --> 01:14:36,439
Speaker 3: I love you both. You two have never met, but

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01:14:36,479 --> 01:14:37,120
Speaker 3: I know you both.

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Speaker 4: I love you both.

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01:14:37,840 --> 01:14:38,799
Speaker 3: That would be amazing.

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01:14:40,680 --> 01:14:42,960
Speaker 2: Well, we are honored that you came on to talk

1770
01:14:43,000 --> 01:14:45,240
Speaker 2: about the new podcast. We're so excited. Oh do you

1771
01:14:45,240 --> 01:14:46,760
Speaker 2: want to talk about I know we've talked about it

1772
01:14:46,760 --> 01:14:49,879
Speaker 2: on the last podcast. But Open Gym, which is your company?

1773
01:14:50,280 --> 01:14:54,400
Speaker 3: Yeah, my training app. Yeah, it's it's awesome. It has

1774
01:14:54,439 --> 01:14:56,920
Speaker 3: actually been an immense source of joy in my life.

1775
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Speaker 3: It's open gym training programs. You can find it on

1776
01:15:00,080 --> 01:15:03,559
Speaker 3: the Apple store, Android store. There's three different programs. There's

1777
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Speaker 3: the cross Train Pro, which is for a professional athlete,

1778
01:15:06,000 --> 01:15:09,200
Speaker 3: somebody that wants to make a living in athletics. Then

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01:15:09,240 --> 01:15:11,559
Speaker 3: there's a cross Train Program, which is for the person

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Speaker 3: that wants to train about an hour a day, so

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Speaker 3: a little more intense than just general fitness, somebody that's

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01:15:16,200 --> 01:15:19,840
Speaker 3: like I live an active and healthy lifestyle. And then

1783
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Speaker 3: there's the body Weight program, which is twenty minutes a day,

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01:15:22,600 --> 01:15:25,400
Speaker 3: no equipment necessary. Do it in a five foot like,

1785
01:15:25,520 --> 01:15:27,040
Speaker 3: do it in your living room, do it at home,

1786
01:15:27,120 --> 01:15:29,000
Speaker 3: do it in the office on a lunch break. My

1787
01:15:29,120 --> 01:15:31,840
Speaker 3: mom does it every single day. My mom messaged me

1788
01:15:31,880 --> 01:15:33,559
Speaker 3: the other day She's like, I haven't missed a day

1789
01:15:33,680 --> 01:15:35,240
Speaker 3: of open gym since January.

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Speaker 4: First.

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Speaker 3: My mom is sixty three. She's training. We go to

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Speaker 3: climb Kilimanjarrow in three weeks. So my mom's been training

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01:15:41,400 --> 01:15:43,800
Speaker 3: to climb to nineteen and a half thousand feet and

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01:15:43,840 --> 01:15:46,519
Speaker 3: she's using our program, our app to do it. So

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Speaker 3: it's been a big joy and source of fulfillment in

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01:15:51,880 --> 01:15:54,479
Speaker 3: my life to give back all the things fitness and

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01:15:54,520 --> 01:15:57,880
Speaker 3: health wise I've learned through athletics. So if you guys

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01:15:57,880 --> 01:16:00,160
Speaker 3: want it all, unlock it for you for sure. But

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Speaker 3: it's been a lot of fun and it's high value

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Speaker 3: at a very affordable price.

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Speaker 7: That's amazing. You do it all? Does it all?

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01:16:07,439 --> 01:16:07,559
Speaker 3: No?

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01:16:07,680 --> 01:16:08,040
Speaker 4: I don't.

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01:16:09,280 --> 01:16:11,800
Speaker 3: I don't, but I'm trying. I'm starting to figure out

1805
01:16:11,840 --> 01:16:14,920
Speaker 3: what my new purpose is in life, and Open Gym

1806
01:16:15,000 --> 01:16:17,280
Speaker 3: is one of them. Helping people, helping make high level

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01:16:17,320 --> 01:16:20,880
Speaker 3: fitness affordable and available to people, and then also having

1808
01:16:20,920 --> 01:16:23,839
Speaker 3: a platform to discuss high level conversations that can impact

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01:16:23,880 --> 01:16:26,679
Speaker 3: people that they can take action items and implement them

1810
01:16:26,720 --> 01:16:29,160
Speaker 3: into their lives. So the open Gym and the podcast

1811
01:16:29,200 --> 01:16:30,880
Speaker 3: are kind of the areas I'm going to live in

1812
01:16:30,920 --> 01:16:34,720
Speaker 3: here for the near future, but still figure out what

1813
01:16:34,760 --> 01:16:36,400
Speaker 3: else I want to do with my life. I don't

1814
01:16:36,400 --> 01:16:37,920
Speaker 3: have it all figured out. I'll be the first to

1815
01:16:37,960 --> 01:16:39,320
Speaker 3: tell you. My wife will be the second.

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Speaker 6: I love Julianne.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, she's fantastic. Yeah, thank you.

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Speaker 6: Well, thank you so much for being here.

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01:16:46,840 --> 01:16:47,760
Speaker 3: I love being here.

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01:16:49,000 --> 01:16:50,759
Speaker 2: This is going to be more It's going to happen

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01:16:50,760 --> 01:16:52,439
Speaker 2: more often. We'll both be in the studio.

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Speaker 7: It'll be great.

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01:16:53,680 --> 01:16:56,760
Speaker 3: Do you think we should do like a dual yes, Like,

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01:16:56,920 --> 01:16:58,360
Speaker 3: I don't even know what it'd look like. I've never

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01:16:58,400 --> 01:17:01,720
Speaker 3: thought about it, but like how men Scrubby Scrubby and

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Speaker 3: podcast Helman scrub Scrubby and think, Yes, I don't know

1827
01:17:09,800 --> 01:17:12,600
Speaker 3: what Danielle's Danielle's like, yes, okay, so we'll leave it

1828
01:17:12,640 --> 01:17:14,360
Speaker 3: up to Danielle and Amy to figure out what the

1829
01:17:14,400 --> 01:17:16,439
Speaker 3: concept that that would be. But I think we should

1830
01:17:16,439 --> 01:17:18,680
Speaker 3: also maybe like have teams, like one team here, the

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Speaker 3: Red team something.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

1833
01:17:21,439 --> 01:17:25,639
Speaker 3: I love competition, but not not like not you guys

1834
01:17:25,640 --> 01:17:26,280
Speaker 3: against us?

1835
01:17:26,560 --> 01:17:29,400
Speaker 2: No, no, no, yeah, yeah.

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01:17:29,040 --> 01:17:30,360
Speaker 3: I don't know, but that would be fun. I love

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01:17:30,400 --> 01:17:32,519
Speaker 3: I love your podcast, I love being here. I love

1838
01:17:32,560 --> 01:17:34,240
Speaker 3: you guys. You guys are so fun and what you

1839
01:17:34,280 --> 01:17:36,559
Speaker 3: do for your community is amazing. So I spoke with

1840
01:17:36,760 --> 01:17:39,240
Speaker 3: I spoke with you back up before of like giving

1841
01:17:39,280 --> 01:17:41,840
Speaker 3: me some advice and tips on what what does a

1842
01:17:41,880 --> 01:17:44,000
Speaker 3: podcast look like? And you guys have both helped me

1843
01:17:44,040 --> 01:17:48,439
Speaker 3: out amazingly, and so I thank you for the opportunity.

1844
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Speaker 7: Your stand up. You are three of my favorite men

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Speaker 7: in one room.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, it's just an embarrassment.

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Speaker 8: Of riches, and this is why our standards are so high,

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Speaker 8: because we're and buy these like amazing men.

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Speaker 7: Yeah, they should be right, The standard should be high.

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Speaker 3: It should be yeah.

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Speaker 8: Okay, Well we all love a good subscription box, don't we, Yes.

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Speaker 2: We do.

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Speaker 8: From food boxes to wellness boxes, they're all the rage.

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Speaker 8: So what about a subscription box for your kids that's fun, educational,

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Speaker 8: and helps them develop creative confidence to change the world.

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Speaker 2: So Kiwiko creates super cool hands on projects for kids

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Speaker 2: to make learning about Steam fun. And if you don't know,

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Speaker 2: STEAM stands for science, Technology, Engineering, art and math.

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Speaker 6: Wow, I did not know that MEI fun.

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Speaker 5: Factoid was STEM and now it's stem art into it.

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Speaker 5: Yeah kids, yeh yeah yeah.

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Speaker 8: go to the soccer practice and get in some quality

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Speaker 8: time together, but work together with your child to create

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Speaker 8: avoid that dreaded I'm bored.

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Speaker 5: I made it twenty two hours into summer before I

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Speaker 5: heard the first I'm bored of summer. Woww Yeah, school

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Speaker 5: Saturday morning, Dad, I'm bored. I was like, well, it's

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Speaker 5: been a good.

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Speaker 8: Summer, and you don't just want to give them like

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Speaker 8: an iPad, like, you want to give them something that

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Speaker 8: they can.

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Speaker 4: A Kiwiko could really come in handy.

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Speaker 7: Yeah, I want to send these to my nephews. This

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Speaker 7: is so cool.

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Speaker 4: I thought Brooks was great. I think it's gonna be

1894
01:20:09,840 --> 01:20:10,639
Speaker 4: a really good podcast.

1895
01:20:11,280 --> 01:20:12,400
Speaker 7: Yeah, we love him.

1896
01:20:12,640 --> 01:20:15,639
Speaker 2: He's the best, and Genie's the best.

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01:20:16,640 --> 01:20:17,000
Speaker 7: Tonya.

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01:20:19,080 --> 01:20:24,080
Speaker 8: I'm like, I just really love Brooks. Brooks like is

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01:20:24,200 --> 01:20:24,880
Speaker 8: a gem that.

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Speaker 2: Was embarrassing, but glad we all got.

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01:20:28,160 --> 01:20:30,960
Speaker 6: Yeah, because it's spelled it's spelled late, I know.

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01:20:31,080 --> 01:20:34,680
Speaker 2: But for some reason, I remember thinking we had this

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01:20:34,760 --> 01:20:37,160
Speaker 2: conversation about his last name, and I thought I was

1904
01:20:37,200 --> 01:20:39,080
Speaker 2: saying it the right way. So I was just really

1905
01:20:39,120 --> 01:20:42,320
Speaker 2: mortified and then I like spiraled and couldn't get the name.

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Speaker 8: No, you're fine if it's gonna happen to anybody, I mean,

1907
01:20:45,680 --> 01:20:46,720
Speaker 8: couldn't be a nicer guy.

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01:20:47,040 --> 01:20:47,439
Speaker 7: Whatever.

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Speaker 5: H Oh, I was gonna tell you something to tell

1910
01:20:50,800 --> 01:20:55,560
Speaker 5: you it's it doesn't sound like a compliment, but it

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01:20:55,600 --> 01:20:58,880
Speaker 5: will be a so trust Wow, here we go. You

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01:20:58,920 --> 01:21:03,200
Speaker 5: mentioned again the pastor syndrome. Yes, I understand why you

1913
01:21:03,280 --> 01:21:07,920
Speaker 5: have impost syndrome above even other people. Again, it doesn't

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01:21:07,920 --> 01:21:10,080
Speaker 5: sound very nice, does it. But here's why I say that,

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01:21:10,320 --> 01:21:13,479
Speaker 5: you're doing a job that didn't exist before. There was

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01:21:13,600 --> 01:21:16,840
Speaker 5: no third microphone on air with Ryan Seacrest. It was

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Speaker 5: Ryan and Ellen, and then it was Ryan and Cincinny

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Speaker 5: and you just because you were so good, are now

1919
01:21:23,000 --> 01:21:26,400
Speaker 5: the third mic on that show? Like if you left tomorrow.

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Speaker 4: We're not good. We need to find a new Tanya.

1921
01:21:27,520 --> 01:21:29,800
Speaker 4: There is no new Tanya. Wow, you know what I'm saying.

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Speaker 7: This is good stuff.

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Speaker 5: Seriously, if you were doing it, if I were doing

1924
01:21:36,760 --> 01:21:39,160
Speaker 5: a job that like it does didn't exist before I

1925
01:21:39,200 --> 01:21:40,680
Speaker 5: showed up, I feel like I would understand that.

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Speaker 4: Plus, I know of all the people that have told

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01:21:42,840 --> 01:21:44,880
Speaker 4: you that you're worthless.

1928
01:21:44,640 --> 01:21:48,320
Speaker 5: And not and not contributing and not a value to

1929
01:21:48,360 --> 01:21:51,160
Speaker 5: the show, none of those were ever Ryan, because he

1930
01:21:51,280 --> 01:21:52,280
Speaker 5: always saw in you.

1931
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Speaker 4: So you know, like I get it with you. I

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Speaker 4: totally get Okay.

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Speaker 8: I appreciate that you say that, because sometimes I'm like

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01:21:58,400 --> 01:21:59,800
Speaker 8: I just need to get out of my own way,

1935
01:22:00,120 --> 01:22:01,320
Speaker 8: need to be out of my own head. But it's

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Speaker 8: nice to hear that, like it is a little valid,

1937
01:22:03,560 --> 01:22:05,759
Speaker 8: like there is some some reason why.

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Speaker 7: I have this.

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01:22:06,439 --> 01:22:08,720
Speaker 5: Yeah, But also but know that it's just you were

1940
01:22:08,760 --> 01:22:10,840
Speaker 5: so good that there was no stopping you. And the

1941
01:22:10,880 --> 01:22:14,200
Speaker 5: other element to that is every other person has a path.

1942
01:22:14,240 --> 01:22:16,640
Speaker 5: In radio, there is a certain path you're supposed to

1943
01:22:16,680 --> 01:22:19,400
Speaker 5: go on, and you went all the way around it.

1944
01:22:19,439 --> 01:22:21,880
Speaker 5: You just skipped the entire path because you know, in radio,

1945
01:22:21,920 --> 01:22:25,760
Speaker 5: you're supposed to go to Lubbock, Texas and do middays,

1946
01:22:25,800 --> 01:22:28,080
Speaker 5: and then you do overnights in Dallas, and then you

1947
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Speaker 5: kind of build your way up to the bigger markets.

1948
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Speaker 5: Tanya went from zero, Well you went, You're in that

1949
01:22:32,800 --> 01:22:35,160
Speaker 5: one in Arizona, right, and then here you are at

1950
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Speaker 5: the biggest radio station in America, right, just like.

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Speaker 4: That, Yeah, on the morning show.

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Speaker 6: Okay, So do you think a therapist could help me

1953
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Speaker 6: work through this?

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Speaker 5: I think perhaps, Okay, But I don't know if it's

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Speaker 5: Is it holding you back in some way? Do you

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01:22:45,800 --> 01:22:49,120
Speaker 5: feel like it's causing any debilitation a little bit?

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Speaker 8: Because I feel like I'm and I always want to

1958
01:22:51,520 --> 01:22:54,799
Speaker 8: be grateful, but I feel like I'm like overly grateful

1959
01:22:54,840 --> 01:22:58,240
Speaker 8: and telling people how much I appreciate and like the opportunity,

1960
01:22:58,280 --> 01:22:59,519
Speaker 8: and it's like I need to be a little bit

1961
01:22:59,520 --> 01:23:02,519
Speaker 8: more confident in the fact that like I can do it.

1962
01:23:02,720 --> 01:23:05,720
Speaker 5: That makes sense, Yeah, you should be confident and but

1963
01:23:05,720 --> 01:23:07,040
Speaker 5: but I think it's a good balance of both.

1964
01:23:07,200 --> 01:23:10,160
Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah, I think being grateful should never go away.

1965
01:23:10,479 --> 01:23:13,040
Speaker 8: No, but I think it does come with a little

1966
01:23:13,040 --> 01:23:15,360
Speaker 8: bit of like gil Am, I doing it right?

1967
01:23:15,479 --> 01:23:16,120
Speaker 6: Like how much?

1968
01:23:16,160 --> 01:23:19,040
Speaker 8: More Like I'm constantly trying to go above and beyond

1969
01:23:19,080 --> 01:23:19,760
Speaker 8: if that makes sense.

1970
01:23:19,840 --> 01:23:21,760
Speaker 6: Yeah, and that's I don't want to get rid of that.

1971
01:23:21,880 --> 01:23:23,720
Speaker 4: But but that's that's the teeter totter. You got to

1972
01:23:23,760 --> 01:23:24,800
Speaker 4: keep it flat if you can.

1973
01:23:25,040 --> 01:23:27,439
Speaker 5: You know, Yes, I am lucky and fortunate to be

1974
01:23:27,520 --> 01:23:29,960
Speaker 5: here because there's always luck involved in any success. And

1975
01:23:30,040 --> 01:23:31,920
Speaker 5: on the other side, I'm so good they created a

1976
01:23:32,000 --> 01:23:32,519
Speaker 5: job for me.

1977
01:23:33,200 --> 01:23:35,000
Speaker 6: Yeah, I need I need to find it. I need

1978
01:23:35,000 --> 01:23:36,280
Speaker 6: to do the dance.

1979
01:23:36,880 --> 01:23:40,519
Speaker 5: Anna need some encouragement from you guys. In Wisconsin. To

1980
01:23:40,520 --> 01:23:42,559
Speaker 5: become a licensed teacher, you need to pass four separate

1981
01:23:42,600 --> 01:23:45,559
Speaker 5: exams outside of graduating college. I've passed the first three,

1982
01:23:45,600 --> 01:23:48,640
Speaker 5: I can't pass the fourth I passed, I missed the

1983
01:23:48,640 --> 01:23:50,920
Speaker 5: ones by one point. I don't know what to do

1984
01:23:50,960 --> 01:23:52,439
Speaker 5: because at this point, I feel like the system is

1985
01:23:52,439 --> 01:23:54,200
Speaker 5: trying to make me quit. I'm only twenty three and

1986
01:23:54,200 --> 01:23:55,479
Speaker 5: I have a lot of support around me, but I

1987
01:23:55,479 --> 01:23:57,559
Speaker 5: feel like I need something meaningful for myself in order

1988
01:23:57,560 --> 01:23:59,640
Speaker 5: to feel accomplished. Any advice would be appreciated.

1989
01:24:00,840 --> 01:24:04,519
Speaker 2: Anna, do you want to be a teacher? Is that

1990
01:24:04,640 --> 01:24:07,040
Speaker 2: your passion in your life and what you want to

1991
01:24:07,080 --> 01:24:11,320
Speaker 2: do because if so, you go take that test the

1992
01:24:11,400 --> 01:24:17,320
Speaker 2: fifth time. That's what I think, Anna, Is that good advice,

1993
01:24:18,640 --> 01:24:19,400
Speaker 2: y'all just say to me.

1994
01:24:19,439 --> 01:24:21,559
Speaker 7: I felt like I wasn't saying I was saying something wrong.

1995
01:24:21,840 --> 01:24:25,720
Speaker 8: No, I was just looking down the notes because I

1996
01:24:26,120 --> 01:24:28,400
Speaker 8: was missing one fact and I found it on the sheet.

1997
01:24:28,840 --> 01:24:34,000
Speaker 6: Anna. They don't want you to pass the test.

1998
01:24:34,960 --> 01:24:40,479
Speaker 8: Who they the haters, them, the universal them, They don't

1999
01:24:40,479 --> 01:24:42,599
Speaker 8: want you to be a teacher. But you know what

2000
01:24:43,400 --> 01:24:45,840
Speaker 8: you are meant to be a teacher. You are meant

2001
01:24:46,040 --> 01:24:50,799
Speaker 8: to take your life and instill your passion and drive

2002
01:24:51,000 --> 01:24:54,960
Speaker 8: and enthusiasm onto these kids that I don't know what

2003
01:24:55,120 --> 01:24:59,040
Speaker 8: grade you want. Doesn't say, but if you feel like

2004
01:24:59,080 --> 01:25:01,599
Speaker 8: that's your life purpose and you just keep messing up

2005
01:25:01,640 --> 01:25:05,639
Speaker 8: with this, exams are such bs, by the way, like

2006
01:25:05,640 --> 01:25:09,720
Speaker 8: like this is not don't let this stupid test like

2007
01:25:09,840 --> 01:25:12,360
Speaker 8: deter you from some passion that's so in your heart.

2008
01:25:12,400 --> 01:25:14,160
Speaker 8: If it's a passion in your heart, is put there

2009
01:25:14,200 --> 01:25:16,599
Speaker 8: for a reason. You were meant to do this. Keep

2010
01:25:16,600 --> 01:25:18,599
Speaker 8: taking the test. You could take the test ten thousand times.

2011
01:25:18,680 --> 01:25:20,760
Speaker 2: Yeah, if you were going to take a driver's test,

2012
01:25:20,800 --> 01:25:22,880
Speaker 2: you're gonna keep going till you pass that test because

2013
01:25:22,880 --> 01:25:23,599
Speaker 2: you want to drive.

2014
01:25:23,720 --> 01:25:26,479
Speaker 8: Yeah, I mean I never even passed the entrance entrance

2015
01:25:26,920 --> 01:25:30,480
Speaker 8: math test for college, and guess what, I still somehow graduated.

2016
01:25:30,880 --> 01:25:34,639
Speaker 8: So Anna, do not let this deter you. You can five

2017
01:25:34,680 --> 01:25:35,720
Speaker 8: figured a way around it.

2018
01:25:36,080 --> 01:25:39,760
Speaker 2: Okay, Anna, We're just saying, be confident. If this is

2019
01:25:39,800 --> 01:25:41,400
Speaker 2: what you want to go, if this is what you

2020
01:25:41,400 --> 01:25:43,760
Speaker 2: want to do with your life and your passion, take

2021
01:25:43,800 --> 01:25:45,439
Speaker 2: the test until you get there.

2022
01:25:45,640 --> 01:25:47,040
Speaker 4: Yes, good advice.

2023
01:25:47,080 --> 01:25:50,519
Speaker 8: And Christianna, let me could you imagine if you were

2024
01:25:50,560 --> 01:25:51,920
Speaker 8: like eh Anna, maybe you could do like.

2025
01:25:53,560 --> 01:25:56,480
Speaker 7: What are your other what are things you're gonna.

2026
01:25:58,640 --> 01:26:00,519
Speaker 5: Christian I'll just sum these things out for a while.

2027
01:26:00,520 --> 01:26:03,080
Speaker 5: They dated a long time ago, or they've known each

2028
01:26:03,080 --> 01:26:04,800
Speaker 5: other forever, that's what it is. They've known each other

2029
01:26:04,840 --> 01:26:07,360
Speaker 5: fifteen years. They just started dating. Oh yes, they were

2030
01:26:07,439 --> 01:26:10,840
Speaker 5: virgins before. She's still a virgin. There were three years

2031
01:26:10,840 --> 01:26:12,479
Speaker 5: and there they were kind of hazy. They weren't really

2032
01:26:12,479 --> 01:26:14,320
Speaker 5: in touch very much. She's not sure if he's still

2033
01:26:14,320 --> 01:26:16,960
Speaker 5: a virgin. She wants to find out if he's still

2034
01:26:17,000 --> 01:26:18,519
Speaker 5: a vision, but she doesn't want to bring it up

2035
01:26:18,520 --> 01:26:20,160
Speaker 5: in a way that sounds like she's judging him or

2036
01:26:20,200 --> 01:26:21,800
Speaker 5: puts him on the spot and makes it all weird.

2037
01:26:22,240 --> 01:26:25,000
Speaker 2: Wait, does she know that he's had sex before or

2038
01:26:25,120 --> 01:26:26,599
Speaker 2: she This is what she's trying to figure out.

2039
01:26:26,760 --> 01:26:28,559
Speaker 5: What she's trying to figure out those three hazy years.

2040
01:26:28,560 --> 01:26:30,080
Speaker 5: She's trying to figure it if sex happened in those

2041
01:26:30,080 --> 01:26:33,120
Speaker 5: three hazy years. She knew when he was a virgin

2042
01:26:33,640 --> 01:26:35,639
Speaker 5: and she knows him now. Oh, I see, she knows

2043
01:26:35,640 --> 01:26:37,160
Speaker 5: she still has a virgin, but she's not sure what

2044
01:26:37,200 --> 01:26:38,480
Speaker 5: happened to him.

2045
01:26:38,640 --> 01:26:41,160
Speaker 2: I would say normally it'd be like the past of

2046
01:26:41,200 --> 01:26:43,160
Speaker 2: the past, you don't need to know. But I kind

2047
01:26:43,160 --> 01:26:46,720
Speaker 2: of get this one because I think that if it's

2048
01:26:46,760 --> 01:26:49,760
Speaker 2: important to you to know for your relationship to deepen, like,

2049
01:26:50,680 --> 01:26:54,240
Speaker 2: is it a deal breaker if he has had sex? Like?

2050
01:26:54,320 --> 01:26:57,439
Speaker 2: I think that kind of makes a difference because I

2051
01:26:57,439 --> 01:27:00,400
Speaker 2: don't think personally, I don't think it's should be, But

2052
01:27:00,520 --> 01:27:01,000
Speaker 2: I think.

2053
01:27:00,920 --> 01:27:02,200
Speaker 4: It is the vibeaking from the emails.

2054
01:27:03,040 --> 01:27:06,320
Speaker 5: She wants are they are they both going to do

2055
01:27:06,360 --> 01:27:08,400
Speaker 5: this for the first time together or has he done

2056
01:27:08,439 --> 01:27:10,800
Speaker 5: this with others before as well? Different mindset going in.

2057
01:27:10,960 --> 01:27:13,599
Speaker 2: I think maybe somehow you bring up that you're still

2058
01:27:13,600 --> 01:27:16,760
Speaker 2: a virgin, like that you've still waited, and and go

2059
01:27:16,840 --> 01:27:21,479
Speaker 2: from there into you know, a conversation of maybe right

2060
01:27:21,520 --> 01:27:23,920
Speaker 2: off the bat he'll say I am too, or maybe

2061
01:27:23,920 --> 01:27:27,040
Speaker 2: he'll say, yeah, I'm not anymore, like maybe you won't

2062
01:27:27,080 --> 01:27:29,280
Speaker 2: even have to go are you still a virgin?

2063
01:27:30,000 --> 01:27:30,720
Speaker 7: That's what I would do.

2064
01:27:30,920 --> 01:27:34,240
Speaker 8: Yeah, I think I think it will come up like

2065
01:27:34,920 --> 01:27:36,360
Speaker 8: an organically.

2066
01:27:36,880 --> 01:27:37,519
Speaker 6: I really do.

2067
01:27:37,760 --> 01:27:40,639
Speaker 8: Like I think if you just pointedly ask the question,

2068
01:27:40,720 --> 01:27:42,160
Speaker 8: it might come off a little judging.

2069
01:27:42,240 --> 01:27:44,240
Speaker 6: He might get a little like what's I.

2070
01:27:44,240 --> 01:27:45,880
Speaker 2: Don't think she should ask, though, And I think she

2071
01:27:45,960 --> 01:27:48,800
Speaker 2: said she wants to know as their relationship deepened, so

2072
01:27:48,880 --> 01:27:51,040
Speaker 2: she doesn't want to continue if it's a deal breaker

2073
01:27:51,120 --> 01:27:54,040
Speaker 2: for some reason, she needs to know. She don't want

2074
01:27:54,080 --> 01:27:57,360
Speaker 2: to keep dating him without with that like in the

2075
01:27:57,400 --> 01:27:59,400
Speaker 2: back of her mind weighing her like down.

2076
01:27:59,680 --> 01:28:02,000
Speaker 8: Yeah, but I think that it'll come up in a

2077
01:28:02,240 --> 01:28:04,960
Speaker 8: in a more natural way, in a more natural setting.

2078
01:28:05,000 --> 01:28:06,680
Speaker 8: And I think she can like make light of it,

2079
01:28:06,880 --> 01:28:08,600
Speaker 8: you know, like not make light of it, but like

2080
01:28:08,680 --> 01:28:12,080
Speaker 8: kind of bring it up in a not so serious

2081
01:28:12,920 --> 01:28:13,759
Speaker 8: judge manner.

2082
01:28:14,200 --> 01:28:14,960
Speaker 6: Does that make sense?

2083
01:28:15,280 --> 01:28:17,519
Speaker 5: Yeah, you know, not like I have a lot of

2084
01:28:17,520 --> 01:28:19,599
Speaker 5: experience in that area, like little jokes like.

2085
01:28:19,479 --> 01:28:22,479
Speaker 8: That kind of Yeah, And just to kind of get

2086
01:28:22,520 --> 01:28:23,960
Speaker 8: his vibe, I think you'll just get his vibe.

2087
01:28:23,960 --> 01:28:25,960
Speaker 5: It sounds like you're not having sense tomorrow. I think

2088
01:28:26,000 --> 01:28:27,639
Speaker 5: there's time to figure this out naturally.

2089
01:28:27,760 --> 01:28:29,920
Speaker 2: But I feel like you're all about I'm just going

2090
01:28:30,000 --> 01:28:31,720
Speaker 2: to be straight to the point. If i want to

2091
01:28:31,720 --> 01:28:33,120
Speaker 2: know something, I want to know something.

2092
01:28:33,240 --> 01:28:35,360
Speaker 8: Yeah, I'm not saying what I would do. I'm saying

2093
01:28:35,400 --> 01:28:39,920
Speaker 8: what I think she should do. It's very different.

2094
01:28:40,280 --> 01:28:44,599
Speaker 2: Why, Well, because she is in.

2095
01:28:44,720 --> 01:28:47,559
Speaker 6: She was, she's known this guy for fifteen years.

2096
01:28:47,960 --> 01:28:50,120
Speaker 2: No, but why why are you not saying what you

2097
01:28:50,160 --> 01:28:52,400
Speaker 2: would do? That's what she's asking? What would you do?

2098
01:28:52,800 --> 01:28:53,439
Speaker 7: What should I do?

2099
01:28:55,120 --> 01:28:58,120
Speaker 8: Because I'm also at the point in my life now

2100
01:28:58,240 --> 01:29:01,840
Speaker 8: where I'm just to the point. Does that make sense

2101
01:29:02,600 --> 01:29:03,280
Speaker 8: like I would now?

2102
01:29:03,280 --> 01:29:06,559
Speaker 2: I wish you had been there earlier to avoid wasting

2103
01:29:06,600 --> 01:29:07,040
Speaker 2: your time.

2104
01:29:07,200 --> 01:29:09,519
Speaker 8: No, because I don't think anything that I did was

2105
01:29:09,560 --> 01:29:12,200
Speaker 8: a mistake or like, don't if I think if I

2106
01:29:12,240 --> 01:29:14,320
Speaker 8: was the way that I am now back then, I

2107
01:29:14,320 --> 01:29:18,120
Speaker 8: wouldn't have learned through all those like past relationships, because

2108
01:29:18,160 --> 01:29:20,200
Speaker 8: like I made these mistakes. I think it's important to

2109
01:29:20,280 --> 01:29:23,559
Speaker 8: kind of be the way that I was to now

2110
01:29:24,160 --> 01:29:25,640
Speaker 8: be as direct.

2111
01:29:25,400 --> 01:29:27,400
Speaker 6: As I am, because I also just don't have the time.

2112
01:29:27,600 --> 01:29:29,760
Speaker 5: But is the directness working, Like, I feel like we

2113
01:29:29,800 --> 01:29:31,639
Speaker 5: haven't really heard much from mister D since he asked

2114
01:29:31,640 --> 01:29:32,679
Speaker 5: if he was seeing anybody else?

2115
01:29:32,760 --> 01:29:35,800
Speaker 8: Right, It's true, No, it's probably not working, But I

2116
01:29:35,880 --> 01:29:38,640
Speaker 8: just feel like I don't know how else to be

2117
01:29:38,680 --> 01:29:41,480
Speaker 8: at this point.

2118
01:29:42,520 --> 01:29:46,240
Speaker 2: I think you should if y'all are having a conversation,

2119
01:29:47,520 --> 01:29:49,760
Speaker 2: I think you should mention that you are still a

2120
01:29:49,840 --> 01:29:52,519
Speaker 2: virgin and that you've still waited, and see where it goes.

2121
01:29:52,560 --> 01:29:54,639
Speaker 2: I don't think at any point you should go are

2122
01:29:54,680 --> 01:29:57,200
Speaker 2: you are you still a virgin? I think that will

2123
01:29:57,479 --> 01:29:59,880
Speaker 2: no matter how you say it or what your intention is,

2124
01:30:00,160 --> 01:30:04,240
Speaker 2: it'll come off as judgmental or like aggressive, And I

2125
01:30:04,280 --> 01:30:07,519
Speaker 2: think that you should just give him, give him the

2126
01:30:07,520 --> 01:30:11,599
Speaker 2: same respect that you want as like a virgin who's waiting.

2127
01:30:12,600 --> 01:30:14,360
Speaker 2: You don't think your direct approach is working?

2128
01:30:15,160 --> 01:30:16,720
Speaker 6: Uh, well, clearly not.

2129
01:30:18,720 --> 01:30:20,040
Speaker 7: What's the status update?

2130
01:30:20,800 --> 01:30:24,880
Speaker 8: We're supposed to go out this week? I haven't heard

2131
01:30:24,960 --> 01:30:26,439
Speaker 8: much from him?

2132
01:30:26,720 --> 01:30:30,599
Speaker 6: Well, not like moving in a forward direction.

2133
01:30:30,800 --> 01:30:31,719
Speaker 4: Did you text you today?

2134
01:30:31,960 --> 01:30:32,200
Speaker 6: No?

2135
01:30:32,400 --> 01:30:34,040
Speaker 4: Oh, I am somebody else?

2136
01:30:34,040 --> 01:30:35,920
Speaker 6: Tex texted me, somebody else texted me.

2137
01:30:35,960 --> 01:30:38,800
Speaker 4: Okay, So when was the last time you're spoken on

2138
01:30:38,880 --> 01:30:39,360
Speaker 4: the phone?

2139
01:30:39,960 --> 01:30:42,640
Speaker 3: Thursday and you've texted.

2140
01:30:42,800 --> 01:30:43,400
Speaker 6: That was it.

2141
01:30:44,040 --> 01:30:45,680
Speaker 8: He sent me like a photo over the weekend, but

2142
01:30:45,720 --> 01:30:47,640
Speaker 8: I didn't respond because I just didn't know.

2143
01:30:48,000 --> 01:30:50,680
Speaker 2: Well, we all were supposed to go out on Thursday

2144
01:30:51,200 --> 01:30:52,040
Speaker 2: and he canceled.

2145
01:30:52,160 --> 01:30:54,439
Speaker 6: Yeah, and then like so he called me.

2146
01:30:54,479 --> 01:30:56,200
Speaker 8: I was here at work, and so we talked for

2147
01:30:56,280 --> 01:30:59,400
Speaker 8: like a little bit and he had to cancel the date,

2148
01:30:59,439 --> 01:31:01,920
Speaker 8: which was fine because things happened. I don't think he like,

2149
01:31:02,120 --> 01:31:05,920
Speaker 8: you know, thinks come up. But so then we didn't

2150
01:31:05,920 --> 01:31:07,519
Speaker 8: really get to talk because I was like, there's all

2151
01:31:07,520 --> 01:31:09,000
Speaker 8: these people around, So He's like, do you need to

2152
01:31:09,000 --> 01:31:10,040
Speaker 8: go and I was like yeah. I was like, i'll

2153
01:31:10,040 --> 01:31:11,639
Speaker 8: call you when I leave the event. So I went home.

2154
01:31:12,080 --> 01:31:14,439
Speaker 8: We got home at like what seven thirty, and I

2155
01:31:14,520 --> 01:31:17,360
Speaker 8: called him back and he didn't answer.

2156
01:31:17,960 --> 01:31:19,479
Speaker 4: But he sent you a photo the next.

2157
01:31:19,320 --> 01:31:21,320
Speaker 6: Day, no, like two days later.

2158
01:31:22,000 --> 01:31:24,720
Speaker 5: And you didn't respond to the photo. Yeah, So I

2159
01:31:24,760 --> 01:31:28,200
Speaker 5: feel like we're starting the games have begun on both sides.

2160
01:31:29,479 --> 01:31:32,080
Speaker 5: I didn't later, but I want to answer. I'll send

2161
01:31:32,080 --> 01:31:33,439
Speaker 5: her a picture. I'm not going to respond to it.

2162
01:31:33,479 --> 01:31:35,760
Speaker 8: Like I feel like the games have begun, Yeah, and

2163
01:31:35,800 --> 01:31:38,400
Speaker 8: the games weren't there before, and it's like annoying.

2164
01:31:39,160 --> 01:31:40,200
Speaker 4: But you're playing the game too.

2165
01:31:40,360 --> 01:31:42,680
Speaker 8: I didn't intentionally do that, Like I honestly got it.

2166
01:31:42,720 --> 01:31:44,360
Speaker 8: And then I actually asked you, like, what do I

2167
01:31:44,400 --> 01:31:45,880
Speaker 8: say back to that? And I was trying to come

2168
01:31:45,920 --> 01:31:49,120
Speaker 8: up with something and then I just like just never

2169
01:31:49,160 --> 01:31:54,000
Speaker 8: did I didn't respond, there was no response. No, I

2170
01:31:54,040 --> 01:31:55,960
Speaker 8: try and really tried hard myself. I'm like, what do

2171
01:31:56,000 --> 01:31:56,680
Speaker 8: I say back to this?

2172
01:31:56,720 --> 01:31:58,240
Speaker 2: And then I was just like, yeah, he didn't give

2173
01:31:58,280 --> 01:32:01,240
Speaker 2: you much sor I would not have responded.

2174
01:32:02,680 --> 01:32:03,320
Speaker 4: Heart in the corner.

2175
01:32:03,400 --> 01:32:04,400
Speaker 6: No, I don't do those.

2176
01:32:06,200 --> 01:32:08,800
Speaker 2: Like if anything, I've been like that looks beautiful, but

2177
01:32:08,920 --> 01:32:10,080
Speaker 2: like what it was weird?

2178
01:32:10,120 --> 01:32:11,479
Speaker 7: It was like a scenic photo.

2179
01:32:12,240 --> 01:32:15,960
Speaker 2: But you did say something really cute to me the

2180
01:32:16,000 --> 01:32:18,400
Speaker 2: other night, So tany sins?

2181
01:32:19,000 --> 01:32:19,960
Speaker 7: Can I read the text?

2182
01:32:20,080 --> 01:32:20,280
Speaker 6: Yeah?

2183
01:32:20,320 --> 01:32:25,760
Speaker 2: Okay, I get the the most you know, the the

2184
01:32:25,880 --> 01:32:28,519
Speaker 2: beca text just beca period.

2185
01:32:28,920 --> 01:32:29,760
Speaker 6: I do that a lot.

2186
01:32:30,240 --> 01:32:36,360
Speaker 2: So I'm always like, oh no, and wait, you did

2187
01:32:36,400 --> 01:32:38,400
Speaker 2: it again. When I said do you miss the West Side?

2188
01:32:38,520 --> 01:32:39,240
Speaker 2: You said Becca?

2189
01:32:40,400 --> 01:32:42,000
Speaker 6: I do not like never.

2190
01:32:43,600 --> 01:32:48,120
Speaker 2: Okay, so she said Becca, and I said what I

2191
01:32:48,200 --> 01:32:51,120
Speaker 2: was like excited, she goes. I was just kind of

2192
01:32:51,160 --> 01:32:53,880
Speaker 2: low and like date blow off and blah, and this

2193
01:32:54,040 --> 01:32:58,479
Speaker 2: Jonas album has brought me back to life. So as

2194
01:32:58,520 --> 01:33:00,880
Speaker 2: I read it, I laugh about life, but I don't.

2195
01:33:01,120 --> 01:33:03,400
Speaker 2: I don't say ha ha, I just say, oh really.

2196
01:33:03,479 --> 01:33:05,519
Speaker 2: I was like, that's all you needed, some new Jonas

2197
01:33:05,600 --> 01:33:08,200
Speaker 2: music love, And she said, can I tell you why?

2198
01:33:08,240 --> 01:33:11,400
Speaker 2: I think it's helping. I'm listening to these lyrics, all

2199
01:33:11,439 --> 01:33:14,360
Speaker 2: these of these men who would do anything for their wives,

2200
01:33:14,400 --> 01:33:17,679
Speaker 2: and I'm like, I deserve that, that not this BS.

2201
01:33:18,200 --> 01:33:20,479
Speaker 2: I said, yes, I love that, and she said does

2202
01:33:20,520 --> 01:33:23,439
Speaker 2: that make sense? I said yes, so then she said, so,

2203
01:33:23,520 --> 01:33:26,040
Speaker 2: I'm going to need your help on how to articulate

2204
01:33:26,439 --> 01:33:29,160
Speaker 2: articulate that when mister de does reach back out.

2205
01:33:30,000 --> 01:33:31,760
Speaker 5: I think that if you do see him this week,

2206
01:33:31,800 --> 01:33:33,840
Speaker 5: it could really ramp up again in a big way.

2207
01:33:34,880 --> 01:33:36,680
Speaker 5: I think there's been some weirdness with a lack of

2208
01:33:36,680 --> 01:33:39,080
Speaker 5: communication on both sides, and both of you are not

2209
01:33:39,160 --> 01:33:41,280
Speaker 5: quite sure where you stand with the other one. When

2210
01:33:41,280 --> 01:33:43,360
Speaker 5: you guys are face to face next, that's all going

2211
01:33:43,439 --> 01:33:45,240
Speaker 5: to go away and you're going to click like you

2212
01:33:45,280 --> 01:33:47,880
Speaker 5: did on that first date and the second date. You think,

2213
01:33:48,040 --> 01:33:50,360
Speaker 5: I do. I have not given up hope on this.

2214
01:33:50,400 --> 01:33:51,840
Speaker 5: I feel like you may have, but I have not.

2215
01:33:55,040 --> 01:33:56,280
Speaker 7: You haven't given up I do.

2216
01:33:56,439 --> 01:33:58,320
Speaker 5: I think they just need to see each other, and

2217
01:33:58,320 --> 01:33:59,720
Speaker 5: then the next time they do, I think things are

2218
01:33:59,720 --> 01:34:00,679
Speaker 5: going to feel good.

2219
01:34:02,200 --> 01:34:02,479
Speaker 1: Yeah.

2220
01:34:02,560 --> 01:34:04,479
Speaker 8: I Actually it's funny because I was going to cancel

2221
01:34:04,840 --> 01:34:06,880
Speaker 8: because I was gonna, like, just do all the things

2222
01:34:06,920 --> 01:34:08,600
Speaker 8: I needed to do before we leave for Hawaii. But

2223
01:34:08,640 --> 01:34:10,120
Speaker 8: now I'm like, maybe I should just not do those

2224
01:34:10,120 --> 01:34:13,000
Speaker 8: things and see him.

2225
01:34:13,160 --> 01:34:15,240
Speaker 4: I think make makes some time. You don't have to

2226
01:34:15,280 --> 01:34:16,479
Speaker 4: make seven pm to two in.

2227
01:34:16,479 --> 01:34:18,439
Speaker 8: The morning, right, I think that's where my mind went.

2228
01:34:18,479 --> 01:34:20,559
Speaker 8: It's like, I don't have the time to be super tired.

2229
01:34:20,560 --> 01:34:22,479
Speaker 6: The next day, I see him for dinners like a

2230
01:34:22,520 --> 01:34:24,520
Speaker 6: normal human because golfing.

2231
01:34:26,360 --> 01:34:27,040
Speaker 7: Mini golfing.

2232
01:34:27,360 --> 01:34:31,519
Speaker 2: To bring it full circle, yeah, I think you. I

2233
01:34:31,520 --> 01:34:33,360
Speaker 2: think you give it, give it a chance, because I

2234
01:34:33,640 --> 01:34:35,599
Speaker 2: told you. I was like, I think either way you'll

2235
01:34:35,640 --> 01:34:37,920
Speaker 2: either be like, oh I I like him and I

2236
01:34:37,960 --> 01:34:40,679
Speaker 2: do care about seeing him again, or it's like all right,

2237
01:34:40,880 --> 01:34:41,479
Speaker 2: I'm over it.

2238
01:34:41,840 --> 01:34:44,599
Speaker 5: Right, It's amazing what face the face can do, because

2239
01:34:44,600 --> 01:34:47,599
Speaker 5: with texting and even talking on the phone, there's always

2240
01:34:47,600 --> 01:34:48,360
Speaker 5: going to be weirdness.

2241
01:34:48,560 --> 01:34:48,760
Speaker 2: Right.

2242
01:34:48,840 --> 01:34:51,120
Speaker 7: He just hasn't tried to talk on the phone, which

2243
01:34:51,160 --> 01:34:51,599
Speaker 7: is where.

2244
01:34:51,439 --> 01:34:54,400
Speaker 6: I don't love that he was in the beginning. That's

2245
01:34:54,439 --> 01:34:56,960
Speaker 6: what's so it's like something weird.

2246
01:34:58,080 --> 01:34:59,840
Speaker 4: You texted him and said that you're seeing other people.

2247
01:35:01,760 --> 01:35:04,519
Speaker 7: There's a chance that could go south.

2248
01:35:04,720 --> 01:35:07,920
Speaker 8: So and you know what, I'm I still I still

2249
01:35:07,920 --> 01:35:08,759
Speaker 8: stand by my decision.

2250
01:35:09,640 --> 01:35:14,440
Speaker 7: You always stay by your decision. Next week Hawaii Halai.

2251
01:35:15,240 --> 01:35:17,599
Speaker 8: Oh yeah, okay, so we want to talk about this

2252
01:35:17,640 --> 01:35:19,920
Speaker 8: because Becca was like, I really want to play some

2253
01:35:19,960 --> 01:35:21,880
Speaker 8: sort of like spill your guts or fill your you know,

2254
01:35:21,880 --> 01:35:24,559
Speaker 8: the James Corden game that he does.

2255
01:35:25,000 --> 01:35:26,559
Speaker 6: He was like, Okay, this is really great.

2256
01:35:26,640 --> 01:35:29,040
Speaker 5: If you don't know, he asked them a very personal

2257
01:35:29,120 --> 01:35:31,120
Speaker 5: question his guests, and if they don't want to answer,

2258
01:35:31,160 --> 01:35:33,120
Speaker 5: they can eat something disgusting instead.

2259
01:35:33,240 --> 01:35:34,960
Speaker 4: Yes, fill your guts or fill your guts.

2260
01:35:35,040 --> 01:35:38,320
Speaker 8: Yes, So we're going to do it, but with alcohol

2261
01:35:38,680 --> 01:35:41,479
Speaker 8: in Hawaii. So Mark is going to come up with

2262
01:35:41,520 --> 01:35:45,519
Speaker 8: the questions. They're going to be pointed at Becca and myself.

2263
01:35:46,120 --> 01:35:51,760
Speaker 8: Easton can be the reporter or the host.

2264
01:35:51,960 --> 01:35:52,479
Speaker 6: Of the game.

2265
01:35:52,960 --> 01:35:56,559
Speaker 8: Except thank you and uh, we're gonna really get some

2266
01:35:56,560 --> 01:35:58,240
Speaker 8: good stuff, like we really want you to like go

2267
01:35:58,280 --> 01:35:59,080
Speaker 8: to town on these.

2268
01:35:59,200 --> 01:36:02,639
Speaker 2: And it's gonna be we're drinking, we're shots right, correct,

2269
01:36:02,880 --> 01:36:06,360
Speaker 2: So it'll be the more shots you take, the more

2270
01:36:06,400 --> 01:36:07,080
Speaker 2: open you'll.

2271
01:36:06,960 --> 01:36:10,000
Speaker 8: Feel, right, well, but like you can pick my shot

2272
01:36:10,040 --> 01:36:11,920
Speaker 8: and I'll pick yours. So you don't just get to

2273
01:36:11,960 --> 01:36:15,320
Speaker 8: take a shot of whatever you want. What let's say,

2274
01:36:15,400 --> 01:36:17,000
Speaker 8: Mark says Becca, I'm.

2275
01:36:16,840 --> 01:36:18,639
Speaker 7: Not trying to get sick while we're doing.

2276
01:36:18,920 --> 01:36:19,880
Speaker 6: Then just answer the truth.

2277
01:36:22,479 --> 01:36:25,160
Speaker 2: You're going to be the one that's down so fast

2278
01:36:25,720 --> 01:36:26,680
Speaker 2: ever dream.

2279
01:36:26,720 --> 01:36:29,120
Speaker 8: Because like Jagger for her, I'm like, I will answer

2280
01:36:29,200 --> 01:36:30,000
Speaker 8: any question.

2281
01:36:31,680 --> 01:36:33,240
Speaker 2: Yeah, I feel like there's gonna be way more of

2282
01:36:33,280 --> 01:36:35,439
Speaker 2: a I need you to really think of a challenging

2283
01:36:35,479 --> 01:36:37,519
Speaker 2: thing for Tania to open up about, because you know

2284
01:36:38,000 --> 01:36:42,000
Speaker 2: she's okay, a much more difficult for you.

2285
01:36:42,040 --> 01:36:44,200
Speaker 4: It's gonna be like what shampoo do you use for her?

2286
01:36:46,560 --> 01:36:47,760
Speaker 7: That is not fair.

2287
01:36:48,640 --> 01:36:51,360
Speaker 4: I will know there will be some tough questions.

2288
01:36:51,439 --> 01:36:55,760
Speaker 8: Yeah, but what I'm saying is because you have but

2289
01:36:55,800 --> 01:36:57,759
Speaker 8: it's not just like, oh, I'll take a shot of vodka,

2290
01:36:57,840 --> 01:37:00,160
Speaker 8: Like I'm gonna get to pick what your shot is.

2291
01:37:01,000 --> 01:37:02,679
Speaker 6: So just keep that in mind as you young.

2292
01:37:04,160 --> 01:37:06,000
Speaker 7: Yeah, I walk up early today?

2293
01:37:06,160 --> 01:37:10,559
Speaker 4: What time? Oh my goodness, crazy? Our show was almost over.

2294
01:37:13,240 --> 01:37:14,360
Speaker 7: It's so good.

2295
01:37:14,680 --> 01:37:17,240
Speaker 2: But you have to realize I went to sleep at two.

2296
01:37:17,520 --> 01:37:19,920
Speaker 5: You know, like seven and a half hours does not

2297
01:37:19,920 --> 01:37:21,679
Speaker 5: cut it for you.

2298
01:37:21,720 --> 01:37:25,360
Speaker 7: No, I said, I mean nine to ten. We've discussed this.

2299
01:37:26,160 --> 01:37:28,519
Speaker 8: God, I went to bed at two on Saturday and

2300
01:37:28,560 --> 01:37:29,599
Speaker 8: I'm about at nine.

2301
01:37:29,680 --> 01:37:33,240
Speaker 6: I was like, ugh, did it so good?

2302
01:37:33,880 --> 01:37:34,120
Speaker 4: Was it?

2303
01:37:34,320 --> 01:37:35,280
Speaker 2: Ru? Ugh?

2304
01:37:35,439 --> 01:37:35,719
Speaker 4: Yeah?

2305
01:37:35,720 --> 01:37:36,599
Speaker 7: Okay, thank you.

2306
01:37:36,680 --> 01:37:38,920
Speaker 6: Yeah, going to bed at two am is not the move.

2307
01:37:39,360 --> 01:37:42,320
Speaker 7: Yeah not all right. Well we'll see you next time.

2308
01:37:42,360 --> 01:37:47,439
Speaker 2: We'll be in Hawaii, starting over.

2309
01:37:47,600 --> 01:37:48,320
Speaker 7: Let's go again.

2310
01:37:48,439 --> 01:37:49,840
Speaker 6: Could you imagine.

2311
01:37:50,120 --> 01:37:52,679
Speaker 2: Time of Death thirteen oh four.

2312
01:37:59,760 --> 01:38:01,840
Speaker 6: I'm I'm literally going to order the book Genie Mi

2313
01:38:02,000 --> 01:38:02,599
Speaker 6: told me to buy