Speaker 1: Welcome to Carefully Reckless, the production of our Heart Radio
Speaker 1: and the Black Effect. Nice still as back there, Nice
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Speaker 1: y'ash your girl Jets Hilarious, and welcome to Carefully Reckless
Speaker 1: with my Crazy Family. If you are avid Jets Hilarious
Speaker 1: podcast listeners, then you know I talked my ship all
Speaker 1: the time, but Shawin never hit me. Talk shit with
Speaker 1: these for motherfucker's say, what's up to my family? All
Speaker 1: my right is my cousin London. Closer to me is
Speaker 1: my brother Brand to the left of me, little baby father,
Speaker 1: what's up? Roy? And then over there to the far
Speaker 1: left is my best friend Shane. What's going on? Listen?
Speaker 1: So I missed the memo because everybody got on black
Speaker 1: but me. But I'm special. I'm a star and I
Speaker 1: shine like a diamond, So listen. The topic is dating
Speaker 1: for today. I don't know if these spoil will agree
Speaker 1: with me, but a lot people date for today. That's
Speaker 1: what it's called dating for today. Back in the day,
Speaker 1: you would date to get married. A lot of people
Speaker 1: date to get married anymore. A lot of people just
Speaker 1: date because it looks cute, because as they want to
Speaker 1: be relationship goals on social media and ship like that.
Speaker 1: So we're gonna get into that now. Me, I've dated
Speaker 1: it a lot of men to get where I am
Speaker 1: now and where I am now as in a relationship. Yes,
Speaker 1: I've dated a lot of men, though to to get
Speaker 1: to this point. What's a lot of men? Who's counting?
Speaker 1: I feel like that's what you have to do. You know,
Speaker 1: I've dated a couple, you know what I mean. I
Speaker 1: ain't just ain't no who here slob and every nob
Speaker 1: as my cousin London would say. But I think that, uh,
Speaker 1: that's what you have to do to find the one
Speaker 1: that that you love. You know what I'm saying. I
Speaker 1: don't think it's a problem dating, but it's been a
Speaker 1: low lot. How many have you did? Seem like it's
Speaker 1: been a problem of them shere? Goddamn lie? Maybe she's
Speaker 1: not who kids. The one I'm dating now is the
Speaker 1: only one that matters. Yeah, so listen and y'all, y'all,
Speaker 1: y'all gonna be quie jruggle and just let people think
Speaker 1: I'm the only home understanding. I think you might be right,
Speaker 1: Mr Infamous. I think my home, my wholeness has been
Speaker 1: deleted because I'm in a relationship right now. But listening,
Speaker 1: what's up? What do you think men? I'm at you
Speaker 1: because you are a man. Do you think men dating
Speaker 1: a lot of women is acceptable? Yes? Okay, why because
Speaker 1: you don't Each of those women do different things for
Speaker 1: us that men might need. Okay, they do stuff for
Speaker 1: y'all that your need. What every woman said their purpose? Okay,
Speaker 1: so that's why you date multiple the sayings because yeah,
Speaker 1: I feel like that at a time at a time, Okay, date,
Speaker 1: I'm not a relationship. I'm not married. I can date
Speaker 1: one for women, and you absolutely can't because that's what
Speaker 1: dating is. You're just having fun getting to know somebody.
Speaker 1: You can definitely date with the one person. Am I
Speaker 1: to say it right? A wrong? Yeah? You're like, yeah,
Speaker 1: you're nobody. Somebody watch this. When I say dating, that
Speaker 1: don't mean I'm fucking on that. Okay, just because you
Speaker 1: think he doesn't mean I'm sleeping with him. Are you
Speaker 1: talking about how you guys are? You know I'm in
Speaker 1: a relationship, baby, and oh yeah I got that guy reship.
Speaker 1: I am in a relationship, but I wasn't. My whole
Speaker 1: wish ways that was okay, you keep eyeing me, prince man,
Speaker 1: because don't left turn I'm trying to come back. Then
Speaker 1: don't apply to me. You know what is going on.
Speaker 1: It don't apply to me no more. You are I was?
Speaker 1: You are faithful. He's saying about it too. That's why
Speaker 1: I changed my friends, because you don't believe in me. Okay,
Speaker 1: I have a question, and just miss Jess. Why can't
Speaker 1: you keep it? Man? You dated so many why can't
Speaker 1: you keep on? Because I just didn't know a lot
Speaker 1: about myself. Honestly, I was. You know, a lot of
Speaker 1: people date, you know, with the notion that they are perfect,
Speaker 1: and that's how I've always thought. And then you know,
Speaker 1: I learned something about myself with every person that I've dated.
Speaker 1: You know, I also learned um, Like in my relationship now,
Speaker 1: I'm learning a lot of things that I didn't learn
Speaker 1: from previous guys. That Also, when you date somebody, it
Speaker 1: can kind of like you kind of see like your pattern,
Speaker 1: like I have a type, and then you can see
Speaker 1: whether you have a type or not because the person
Speaker 1: I'm dating now ain't know I'm like the guys that
Speaker 1: I am before, And so you can kind of see
Speaker 1: where you've evolved as well, because now you pay attention
Speaker 1: to certain things like other things that you've never paid
Speaker 1: assentence to before. So I date to get experienced and
Speaker 1: I learned myself and I'm loving it. Okay, So what
Speaker 1: did not do? Right? Every listen? Listen? That brings me
Speaker 1: to the next segment, which is called scenario. So I'm
Speaker 1: gonna give everybody scenarios, and y'all gonna tell me how
Speaker 1: y'all will feel and be honest about it. If one
Speaker 1: of your friends are dealing with somebody and you find
Speaker 1: something out about that person, or you already know something
Speaker 1: about that person, would you tell your friends? No? No, okay, bro,
Speaker 1: no you wouldn't. I want to know why. I don't, Carrious?
Speaker 1: Why not? Shanna? I mean I would have before until
Speaker 1: just proved to me that I can. Okay, I ain't
Speaker 1: gonna get into it. Why not because I don't remember that?
Speaker 1: What would you? What's the question? I actually would, if
Speaker 1: the circumstantial, I would, if that person would be open
Speaker 1: to hearing me, I would be like, wow, girl, I
Speaker 1: can't believe this. Why y'ada y'all? But if she's like,
Speaker 1: not my man, girl, and I'm saying, oh well, I'm
Speaker 1: gonna let you find out by yourself. And then what
Speaker 1: she found out, gona say, I told you some baby girl,
Speaker 1: but you thought she thought she called the right nick.
Speaker 1: It's not the one I need. Yeah, I like the
Speaker 1: mama been doing Nash. I like the mama. But if
Speaker 1: it was a family member like me, you would you
Speaker 1: tell me if the guy that I messed with was
Speaker 1: with somebody, If it was a guy that I was
Speaker 1: messed with as my cousin, would you tell me that
Speaker 1: there was something about it? Yeah? Yeah, of course I made.
Speaker 1: We tell each other everything, like everything about guys that
Speaker 1: we did. But one thing I round Jesson is I wait,
Speaker 1: I've learned to wait because she does not take the
Speaker 1: uh you know from the beginning. She has to learn
Speaker 1: her lessons to side and it's like you know that person.
Speaker 1: Then you're like, okay, I know how, ain't no points
Speaker 1: I learn not You're just gonna watch and look sleep
Speaker 1: And you're like, okay, how you learn experienced back? And
Speaker 1: I've never none of these homes anyway? What is the
Speaker 1: deal breaker? Okay? So, and when you date people, there
Speaker 1: are deal breakers. It could be something that like really
Speaker 1: really turns you off. It could be little, but if
Speaker 1: it's a pet people of yours and it keeps happening,
Speaker 1: it could be big. So what is a deal breaker
Speaker 1: for you? We're gonna do from small to big? What's
Speaker 1: a small? A deal breaking from me would be if
Speaker 1: you're not um like committing to something right, So if
Speaker 1: you're not taking me out, if you're not calling me
Speaker 1: checking up on me, so you're checking out on my
Speaker 1: mental you know, it's my love language communication. So yeah,
Speaker 1: it's like I need that. So that's if you're not
Speaker 1: giving me that because I'm a talker. So if you're
Speaker 1: not a hummunicating with me, you're gonna get You're gonna
Speaker 1: get cut off. Deal breaker, prince break. I hate a
Speaker 1: lie and having motherfucker okay one right now neither. A
Speaker 1: deal breaker from me now would be a married but
Speaker 1: separated man. I feel like that's like that that is
Speaker 1: so I can't ever do that again. Y'all know how
Speaker 1: to that. I ain't doing that no more. I need
Speaker 1: no rings. I need to know you know. I need
Speaker 1: to get to know a person. That's why I said
Speaker 1: learning a person, learning before you just dumped a relationship
Speaker 1: is very important. That's why dating for today is really
Speaker 1: important for this segment. Listen, deal break for you not
Speaker 1: spending enough time, Okay, you're making time time time. I
Speaker 1: feel like everybody makes time when you want to make time.
Speaker 1: So when you're not making time, yeah that's yeah. Yeah.
Speaker 1: And consistency okay. Would you date a woman with five kids? Shots? Well,
Speaker 1: every so that's close enough, So I guess I would. Okay,
Speaker 1: how about it. Yeah, you don't get tying, no, no,
Speaker 1: no time. I ain't have no time with her. I
Speaker 1: didn't used together like six seven years. Yeah, but you
Speaker 1: were children, yeah everything. Yeah, so she was a steps
Speaker 1: I love that. Yeah, that's great, look at me now, yo,
Speaker 1: all right cool. Oh I asked you. Would you date
Speaker 1: a guy was five different baby mamas? Yes, I would
Speaker 1: if he was involved in the children's lives. He can't
Speaker 1: be a dad. Well, I don't see the kids. He
Speaker 1: doesn't talk about the children, because at the end of
Speaker 1: the day, like kids are like our next generation. You know,
Speaker 1: that's your offspring. I can respect that as a mother.
Speaker 1: But if I see your kids, you're hanging with them, Hey,
Speaker 1: we can go. We can take myself to the park,
Speaker 1: you know. But if you have children and you don't
Speaker 1: claim them, I'm not claiming you either, Okay, I caught you.
Speaker 1: If you love me, you'll listen to this commercial and
Speaker 1: then we'll be right back. Last, but not least, this
Speaker 1: one's gonna get you off. What you deal with someone
Speaker 1: that your friend has dealt with in the past, even
Speaker 1: if they told you it was okay, go away because
Speaker 1: we weren't necesarious. You can fun with it. But yeah,
Speaker 1: you can take out whatever. Na. No, Now, you wouldn't
Speaker 1: deal with somebody that's your friend gave you permission to
Speaker 1: do because there's so many guys out here in the
Speaker 1: world like why did that? Thank you? I like that?
Speaker 1: I agree? What's up? No, it depends because on one
Speaker 1: it depends on how serious it was. Okay, so you're
Speaker 1: open to that. You're not opposing, you know, I'm open
Speaker 1: to it. Okay. It depend on the relationship now your
Speaker 1: baby mama, no years? No, yeah, just somebody you hung
Speaker 1: out with the for me, it depends on their stass
Speaker 1: because that could be my my wife there, you know,
Speaker 1: come with me. I like that? So what about you wrong? Yes,
Speaker 1: that's what Yes, ma'am. We deal with a person who
Speaker 1: data data one of your access would you would you
Speaker 1: like it? If one of your friends data one of
Speaker 1: your asses, would you be willing to pass that up?
Speaker 1: I mean, I didn't happened to you, so it happened.
Speaker 1: It has not happened to multiple time you always wear ivery,
Speaker 1: think is about you? I would did it happened? He's like,
Speaker 1: what happened? Mean? Tell us about it briefly. I don't understand, man,
Speaker 1: I four different children moms like that impossible? Right? Not
Speaker 1: that one? Okay? You know I was a friend of mine's.
Speaker 1: Once you're not friends, no more like their mutual friends.
Speaker 1: Now I see him, he see me, yes, and when
Speaker 1: you speak whatever it a peace me be. But I
Speaker 1: felt I feel like you know, I mean, he didn't
Speaker 1: that though, you know, we just duped my child mom.
Speaker 1: I think I couldn't get mad at him because he's
Speaker 1: a man. Man do what they want, right. I felt
Speaker 1: more so like mad at the child mom because I
Speaker 1: thought l Yalt was like she brought it to me.
Speaker 1: She did bring it to me. I can't take that
Speaker 1: from her. She brought it to me. I told her
Speaker 1: how I felt about it. She's still pursuit m you
Speaker 1: know it was what it was. It didn't last week,
Speaker 1: which it wasn't but well, that's why you're baking my
Speaker 1: last dated looking about her. She wasn't looking for nothing
Speaker 1: like that wasn't last anyway, Like I said, like, I
Speaker 1: ain't gonna speak too much on it, like it because
Speaker 1: it troubles him, Like I still feel type of way
Speaker 1: about it. But go ahead, I'm sorry, go ahead, I'm sorry.
Speaker 1: I'm getting to I don't like her soul was. But
Speaker 1: like I said, what it is, I ain't feeling type
Speaker 1: way about him. I ain't feeling no type of way
Speaker 1: to him. I felt it to the child mom, like
Speaker 1: you like thing. I thought it was better than it.
Speaker 1: So you're talking about are you talking about question? And
Speaker 1: everybody gonna be like, are you talking about jobs? Are
Speaker 1: you talking about jobs? Like? Did she put you in
Speaker 1: the circumstance what you were about to say? What did
Speaker 1: you give it? He im talking about it's always med
Speaker 1: you had just up for her too, never did it
Speaker 1: to her? You did a lot to you that nigga
Speaker 1: w your friend. That's what I wanted. You won't your friend.
Speaker 1: But you felt like he ain't nobody freend because you
Speaker 1: told me that he was an opportunist and that's the
Speaker 1: thing he is. He was only your friend. You were
Speaker 1: an opportunity. You were an opportunity to So he got
Speaker 1: used that he knew. So if if that's the claim
Speaker 1: that you want to take on, I take that at
Speaker 1: the standpoint, I want to block claim, standpoint whatever. I'll
Speaker 1: take that. Look, this is for the world. I'll take
Speaker 1: that right. But to be clear, if I take me personal,
Speaker 1: you know I'm selfish. If I let you hold something,
Speaker 1: you're my friend. No, no, no, fuck what you ring
Speaker 1: if you let somebody hold something? Yeah, I got listen,
Speaker 1: I was young. Listen, I got and now so the
Speaker 1: last I know that was a greenist. But that was
Speaker 1: young and dumb. Yeah, I can't hold you that was greenish.
Speaker 1: I did. Yeah, I got opportunists. But admit that. That's
Speaker 1: that's part of your healing. You got used by opportunity.
Speaker 1: I can't get used as much as she did. It
Speaker 1: doesn't matter, bro, it's not a comparison. You got used
Speaker 1: by opportunists. No sinner is greater than no sin. Brother.
Speaker 1: I take that, Bro, you got used. I take that.
Speaker 1: That's motherfucker. I take what are you talking about? I
Speaker 1: take that you didn't get used like I mean, didn't
Speaker 1: get nough back. I'm sorry, oh we still shoot because no, no,
Speaker 1: I'm saying that's like, man, you know, as a man
Speaker 1: and a woman, you know you gotta open up and
Speaker 1: you know what you mean. You use like what? Oh
Speaker 1: my god, we used for? What can we liken use what?
Speaker 1: Welcome to care? Folive reckless? That's what we're doing. I
Speaker 1: was young, I was done and I'm learning. Keep it
Speaker 1: this that alright? Used for? Oh all right, because I
Speaker 1: I just want to make joy. Nigga want talking about
Speaker 1: no money. I used your dick just like you use
Speaker 1: my pussy, but he better you Yeah, got them, she
Speaker 1: got money. You know you're still paying payments. But whatever
Speaker 1: your damn right. Look everything is still at least every
Speaker 1: goddamn thing though, just like and we're moving to that's
Speaker 1: why y'all was friends. No that's not don't touch me,
Speaker 1: no man anyway, So listen. That brings me to confessions.
Speaker 1: Everybody has to go around the room and confess something
Speaker 1: thirsty that they did to gain one's interest in the past.
Speaker 1: So basically, when was you a thirsty is nigga? Bitch? Yes,
Speaker 1: just don't wait. I was at working on a flight yesterday.
Speaker 1: Actually no, no, no, no, actually was not thirsty hold up,
Speaker 1: but I don't. When I was thirsty last night, yeah,
Speaker 1: call you run. So I was I gonna call you
Speaker 1: back control of that. No, I was d trying to
Speaker 1: tell you someone already got you had them my already. No,
Speaker 1: I wouldn't heat come over the phone. I'm talking about
Speaker 1: the restaurant when you went over to somebody table you
Speaker 1: need know, came back, came back moment. That's thirsty moment. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I think I think I haven't setually called my ass over.
Speaker 1: I came over. I don't know, but it was good.
Speaker 1: Was a little right back in me thirsty moment I
Speaker 1: had two fifteen. It was a female that I wanted
Speaker 1: bought a bag. Thought I was gonna get a I
Speaker 1: ain't get up. I wanted my bag, bag your big fellow.
Speaker 1: That was fun. I was like, I aren't alight hello
Speaker 1: all right, um, I'm like my thirstiest moment. Um, I
Speaker 1: actually was. I wanted to date this guy right, Oh
Speaker 1: my god? So it And I was actually cool with
Speaker 1: his girlfriend and we weren't like friends like I was
Speaker 1: cool with her and I knew that she was cheating
Speaker 1: on her boyfriend and I got proof and I told
Speaker 1: him said it to him, and then we started talking.
Speaker 1: He end up being a clown. So I was like,
Speaker 1: why did I go through all this? But yeah, I
Speaker 1: know he no, no, no no, it was okay cool. I
Speaker 1: used to work with her. She would tell me about
Speaker 1: when she would cheat on her boyfriend, and so I
Speaker 1: just got proof. I showed him and so didn't up
Speaker 1: breaking up with her and with men. But then he did.
Speaker 1: Did he ever? Did ever get back to him her
Speaker 1: that it was for him? No, I put my job on,
Speaker 1: didn't fight. Yeah, I got fired. I was stilling. That's
Speaker 1: why I had I got caught. Listen anyway, all right,
Speaker 1: anybody else, baby's not thirsty before your little ugly I mean,
Speaker 1: give me a little bit consos now I'm like grassing
Speaker 1: my hand in the club or something like that. Definitely, Yeah,
Speaker 1: when she get drunk, every man when she when she
Speaker 1: drunk should be like, you want to go with me?
Speaker 1: I mean, what the funking that boy? And I'm not thirsty,
Speaker 1: but I can't get thirst You've been thirsty, so let
Speaker 1: me hear it. At that time, we was down to
Speaker 1: Samy and she grabbed in the hands. Okay, location precise,
Speaker 1: but yeah, listening, you've grabbed plenty of hands hands like
Speaker 1: this we can do. I'm listening. That's it. I get
Speaker 1: a little I get right first. I get right personal
Speaker 1: with people when I drink. But not on the regular ship.
Speaker 1: You would never catch touching nobody. I don't know regularship.
Speaker 1: Where's my mask? People talking too? So that's enough confessions
Speaker 1: because apparently hand don't have one? Do you have one?
Speaker 1: On my turney, I was waiting to be next. You
Speaker 1: goes moment I just think, oh I go. It was thirsty.
Speaker 1: I just say this here we all say that we
Speaker 1: don't let us slide. I ever done was boils on
Speaker 1: my car. Okay, but it was new like like they're
Speaker 1: still having a new date cap Like wow, that's nice,
Speaker 1: little going like I was in my prom. I was
Speaker 1: in my prom. I was up. You know, we all
Speaker 1: got a listen lest say listen. We can go on
Speaker 1: about this ship all day. But we got gyms to drop.
Speaker 1: Anybody got a gym before we leave these beautiful people,
Speaker 1: because we talked a whole bunch of ships. But it
Speaker 1: only add as if we close with a message. So
Speaker 1: anybody got a gym to drop? What is it? Tell us? Mr? Player?
Speaker 1: Date for yourself and not to not for the perception
Speaker 1: of others. Give us that again, date for yourself and
Speaker 1: not for the perceptive of others. Like that, alright, Well
Speaker 1: to be like, yeah, that's good, all right, Mine would
Speaker 1: be I would say, well, in my relationship right now,
Speaker 1: I'm being taught patient, So I would say learning each other.
Speaker 1: Like I have said, it's not a bad thing. Um,
Speaker 1: And I'm gonna also give you all this and my experience.
Speaker 1: I was so used to everything happening so fast, like
Speaker 1: you know, and I don't like clinging people, but I
Speaker 1: like like to be clung to and it's so freaking weird, right,
Speaker 1: But I know I like people cling to me, but
Speaker 1: I don't like when people are clinging, right, that's just
Speaker 1: a getting me letting myself, how about it? So this
Speaker 1: is the thing, learning each other. It's really not a
Speaker 1: bad thing. It doesn't have to be fast. Time is everything.
Speaker 1: Take your time and we're gonna end just like that.
Speaker 1: Make sure you got tune and next week we're my
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