WEBVTT - Dating For Today

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Carefully Reckless, the production of our Heart Radio

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<v Speaker 1>and the Black Effect. Nice still as back there, Nice

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<v Speaker 1>still aspect, I still aspected, Nice still as still a

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<v Speaker 1>y'ash your girl Jets Hilarious, and welcome to Carefully Reckless

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<v Speaker 1>with my Crazy Family. If you are avid Jets Hilarious

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<v Speaker 1>podcast listeners, then you know I talked my ship all

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<v Speaker 1>the time, but Shawin never hit me. Talk shit with

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<v Speaker 1>these for motherfucker's say, what's up to my family? All

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<v Speaker 1>my right is my cousin London. Closer to me is

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<v Speaker 1>my brother Brand to the left of me, little baby father,

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<v Speaker 1>what's up? Roy? And then over there to the far

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<v Speaker 1>left is my best friend Shane. What's going on? Listen?

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<v Speaker 1>So I missed the memo because everybody got on black

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<v Speaker 1>but me. But I'm special. I'm a star and I

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<v Speaker 1>shine like a diamond, So listen. The topic is dating

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<v Speaker 1>for today. I don't know if these spoil will agree

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<v Speaker 1>with me, but a lot people date for today. That's

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<v Speaker 1>what it's called dating for today. Back in the day,

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<v Speaker 1>you would date to get married. A lot of people

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<v Speaker 1>date to get married anymore. A lot of people just

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<v Speaker 1>date because it looks cute, because as they want to

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<v Speaker 1>be relationship goals on social media and ship like that.

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<v Speaker 1>So we're gonna get into that now. Me, I've dated

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<v Speaker 1>it a lot of men to get where I am

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<v Speaker 1>now and where I am now as in a relationship. Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>I've dated a lot of men, though to to get

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<v Speaker 1>to this point. What's a lot of men? Who's counting?

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like that's what you have to do. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>I've dated a couple, you know what I mean. I

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<v Speaker 1>ain't just ain't no who here slob and every nob

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<v Speaker 1>as my cousin London would say. But I think that, uh,

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<v Speaker 1>that's what you have to do to find the one

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<v Speaker 1>that that you love. You know what I'm saying. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't think it's a problem dating, but it's been a

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<v Speaker 1>low lot. How many have you did? Seem like it's

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<v Speaker 1>been a problem of them shere? Goddamn lie? Maybe she's

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<v Speaker 1>not who kids. The one I'm dating now is the

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<v Speaker 1>only one that matters. Yeah, so listen and y'all, y'all,

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<v Speaker 1>y'all gonna be quie jruggle and just let people think

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<v Speaker 1>I'm the only home understanding. I think you might be right,

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<v Speaker 1>Mr Infamous. I think my home, my wholeness has been

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<v Speaker 1>deleted because I'm in a relationship right now. But listening,

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<v Speaker 1>what's up? What do you think men? I'm at you

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<v Speaker 1>because you are a man. Do you think men dating

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of women is acceptable? Yes? Okay, why because

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<v Speaker 1>you don't Each of those women do different things for

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<v Speaker 1>us that men might need. Okay, they do stuff for

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<v Speaker 1>y'all that your need. What every woman said their purpose? Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>so that's why you date multiple the sayings because yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like that at a time at a time, Okay, date,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not a relationship. I'm not married. I can date

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<v Speaker 1>one for women, and you absolutely can't because that's what

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<v Speaker 1>dating is. You're just having fun getting to know somebody.

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<v Speaker 1>You can definitely date with the one person. Am I

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<v Speaker 1>to say it right? A wrong? Yeah? You're like, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>you're nobody. Somebody watch this. When I say dating, that

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<v Speaker 1>don't mean I'm fucking on that. Okay, just because you

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<v Speaker 1>think he doesn't mean I'm sleeping with him. Are you

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<v Speaker 1>talking about how you guys are? You know I'm in

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<v Speaker 1>a relationship, baby, and oh yeah I got that guy reship.

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<v Speaker 1>I am in a relationship, but I wasn't. My whole

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<v Speaker 1>wish ways that was okay, you keep eyeing me, prince man,

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<v Speaker 1>because don't left turn I'm trying to come back. Then

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<v Speaker 1>don't apply to me. You know what is going on.

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<v Speaker 1>It don't apply to me no more. You are I was?

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<v Speaker 1>You are faithful. He's saying about it too. That's why

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<v Speaker 1>I changed my friends, because you don't believe in me. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>I have a question, and just miss Jess. Why can't

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<v Speaker 1>you keep it? Man? You dated so many why can't

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<v Speaker 1>you keep on? Because I just didn't know a lot

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<v Speaker 1>about myself. Honestly, I was. You know, a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>people date, you know, with the notion that they are perfect,

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<v Speaker 1>and that's how I've always thought. And then you know,

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<v Speaker 1>I learned something about myself with every person that I've dated.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, I also learned um, Like in my relationship now,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm learning a lot of things that I didn't learn

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<v Speaker 1>from previous guys. That Also, when you date somebody, it

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<v Speaker 1>can kind of like you kind of see like your pattern,

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<v Speaker 1>like I have a type, and then you can see

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<v Speaker 1>whether you have a type or not because the person

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<v Speaker 1>I'm dating now ain't know I'm like the guys that

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<v Speaker 1>I am before, And so you can kind of see

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<v Speaker 1>where you've evolved as well, because now you pay attention

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<v Speaker 1>to certain things like other things that you've never paid

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<v Speaker 1>assentence to before. So I date to get experienced and

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<v Speaker 1>I learned myself and I'm loving it. Okay, So what

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<v Speaker 1>did not do? Right? Every listen? Listen? That brings me

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<v Speaker 1>to the next segment, which is called scenario. So I'm

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<v Speaker 1>gonna give everybody scenarios, and y'all gonna tell me how

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<v Speaker 1>y'all will feel and be honest about it. If one

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<v Speaker 1>of your friends are dealing with somebody and you find

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<v Speaker 1>something out about that person, or you already know something

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<v Speaker 1>about that person, would you tell your friends? No? No, okay, bro,

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<v Speaker 1>no you wouldn't. I want to know why. I don't, Carrious?

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<v Speaker 1>Why not? Shanna? I mean I would have before until

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<v Speaker 1>just proved to me that I can. Okay, I ain't

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<v Speaker 1>gonna get into it. Why not because I don't remember that?

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<v Speaker 1>What would you? What's the question? I actually would, if

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<v Speaker 1>the circumstantial, I would, if that person would be open

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<v Speaker 1>to hearing me, I would be like, wow, girl, I

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<v Speaker 1>can't believe this. Why y'ada y'all? But if she's like,

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<v Speaker 1>not my man, girl, and I'm saying, oh well, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>gonna let you find out by yourself. And then what

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<v Speaker 1>she found out, gona say, I told you some baby girl,

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<v Speaker 1>but you thought she thought she called the right nick.

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<v Speaker 1>It's not the one I need. Yeah, I like the

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<v Speaker 1>mama been doing Nash. I like the mama. But if

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<v Speaker 1>it was a family member like me, you would you

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<v Speaker 1>tell me if the guy that I messed with was

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<v Speaker 1>with somebody, If it was a guy that I was

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<v Speaker 1>messed with as my cousin, would you tell me that

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<v Speaker 1>there was something about it? Yeah? Yeah, of course I made.

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<v Speaker 1>We tell each other everything, like everything about guys that

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<v Speaker 1>we did. But one thing I round Jesson is I wait,

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<v Speaker 1>I've learned to wait because she does not take the

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<v Speaker 1>uh you know from the beginning. She has to learn

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<v Speaker 1>her lessons to side and it's like you know that person.

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<v Speaker 1>Then you're like, okay, I know how, ain't no points

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<v Speaker 1>I learn not You're just gonna watch and look sleep

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<v Speaker 1>And you're like, okay, how you learn experienced back? And

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<v Speaker 1>I've never none of these homes anyway? What is the

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<v Speaker 1>deal breaker? Okay? So, and when you date people, there

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<v Speaker 1>are deal breakers. It could be something that like really

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<v Speaker 1>really turns you off. It could be little, but if

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<v Speaker 1>it's a pet people of yours and it keeps happening,

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<v Speaker 1>it could be big. So what is a deal breaker

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<v Speaker 1>for you? We're gonna do from small to big? What's

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<v Speaker 1>a small? A deal breaking from me would be if

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<v Speaker 1>you're not um like committing to something right, So if

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<v Speaker 1>you're not taking me out, if you're not calling me

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<v Speaker 1>checking up on me, so you're checking out on my

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<v Speaker 1>mental you know, it's my love language communication. So yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>it's like I need that. So that's if you're not

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<v Speaker 1>giving me that because I'm a talker. So if you're

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<v Speaker 1>not a hummunicating with me, you're gonna get You're gonna

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<v Speaker 1>get cut off. Deal breaker, prince break. I hate a

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<v Speaker 1>lie and having motherfucker okay one right now neither. A

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<v Speaker 1>deal breaker from me now would be a married but

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<v Speaker 1>separated man. I feel like that's like that that is

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<v Speaker 1>so I can't ever do that again. Y'all know how

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<v Speaker 1>to that. I ain't doing that no more. I need

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<v Speaker 1>no rings. I need to know you know. I need

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<v Speaker 1>to get to know a person. That's why I said

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<v Speaker 1>learning a person, learning before you just dumped a relationship

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<v Speaker 1>is very important. That's why dating for today is really

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<v Speaker 1>important for this segment. Listen, deal break for you not

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<v Speaker 1>spending enough time, Okay, you're making time time time. I

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<v Speaker 1>feel like everybody makes time when you want to make time.

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<v Speaker 1>So when you're not making time, yeah that's yeah. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>And consistency okay. Would you date a woman with five kids? Shots? Well,

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<v Speaker 1>every so that's close enough, So I guess I would. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>how about it. Yeah, you don't get tying, no, no,

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<v Speaker 1>no time. I ain't have no time with her. I

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<v Speaker 1>didn't used together like six seven years. Yeah, but you

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<v Speaker 1>were children, yeah everything. Yeah, so she was a steps

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<v Speaker 1>I love that. Yeah, that's great, look at me now, yo,

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<v Speaker 1>all right cool. Oh I asked you. Would you date

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<v Speaker 1>a guy was five different baby mamas? Yes, I would

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<v Speaker 1>if he was involved in the children's lives. He can't

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<v Speaker 1>be a dad. Well, I don't see the kids. He

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<v Speaker 1>doesn't talk about the children, because at the end of

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<v Speaker 1>the day, like kids are like our next generation. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>that's your offspring. I can respect that as a mother.

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<v Speaker 1>But if I see your kids, you're hanging with them, Hey,

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<v Speaker 1>we can go. We can take myself to the park,

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<v Speaker 1>you know. But if you have children and you don't

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<v Speaker 1>claim them, I'm not claiming you either, Okay, I caught you.

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<v Speaker 1>If you love me, you'll listen to this commercial and

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<v Speaker 1>then we'll be right back. Last, but not least, this

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<v Speaker 1>one's gonna get you off. What you deal with someone

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<v Speaker 1>that your friend has dealt with in the past, even

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<v Speaker 1>if they told you it was okay, go away because

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<v Speaker 1>we weren't necesarious. You can fun with it. But yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>you can take out whatever. Na. No, Now, you wouldn't

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<v Speaker 1>deal with somebody that's your friend gave you permission to

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<v Speaker 1>do because there's so many guys out here in the

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<v Speaker 1>world like why did that? Thank you? I like that?

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<v Speaker 1>I agree? What's up? No, it depends because on one

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<v Speaker 1>it depends on how serious it was. Okay, so you're

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<v Speaker 1>open to that. You're not opposing, you know, I'm open

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<v Speaker 1>to it. Okay. It depend on the relationship now your

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<v Speaker 1>baby mama, no years? No, yeah, just somebody you hung

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<v Speaker 1>out with the for me, it depends on their stass

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<v Speaker 1>because that could be my my wife there, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>come with me. I like that? So what about you wrong? Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>that's what Yes, ma'am. We deal with a person who

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<v Speaker 1>data data one of your access would you would you

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<v Speaker 1>like it? If one of your friends data one of

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<v Speaker 1>your asses, would you be willing to pass that up?

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, I didn't happened to you, so it happened.

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<v Speaker 1>It has not happened to multiple time you always wear ivery,

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<v Speaker 1>think is about you? I would did it happened? He's like,

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<v Speaker 1>what happened? Mean? Tell us about it briefly. I don't understand, man,

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<v Speaker 1>I four different children moms like that impossible? Right? Not

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<v Speaker 1>that one? Okay? You know I was a friend of mine's.

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<v Speaker 1>Once you're not friends, no more like their mutual friends.

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<v Speaker 1>Now I see him, he see me, yes, and when

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<v Speaker 1>you speak whatever it a peace me be. But I

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<v Speaker 1>felt I feel like you know, I mean, he didn't

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<v Speaker 1>that though, you know, we just duped my child mom.

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<v Speaker 1>I think I couldn't get mad at him because he's

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<v Speaker 1>a man. Man do what they want, right. I felt

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<v Speaker 1>more so like mad at the child mom because I

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<v Speaker 1>thought l Yalt was like she brought it to me.

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<v Speaker 1>She did bring it to me. I can't take that

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<v Speaker 1>from her. She brought it to me. I told her

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<v Speaker 1>how I felt about it. She's still pursuit m you

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<v Speaker 1>know it was what it was. It didn't last week,

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<v Speaker 1>which it wasn't but well, that's why you're baking my

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<v Speaker 1>last dated looking about her. She wasn't looking for nothing

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<v Speaker 1>like that wasn't last anyway, Like I said, like, I

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<v Speaker 1>ain't gonna speak too much on it, like it because

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<v Speaker 1>it troubles him, Like I still feel type of way

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<v Speaker 1>about it. But go ahead, I'm sorry, go ahead, I'm sorry.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm getting to I don't like her soul was. But

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<v Speaker 1>like I said, what it is, I ain't feeling type

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<v Speaker 1>way about him. I ain't feeling no type of way

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<v Speaker 1>to him. I felt it to the child mom, like

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<v Speaker 1>you like thing. I thought it was better than it.

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<v Speaker 1>So you're talking about are you talking about question? And

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<v Speaker 1>everybody gonna be like, are you talking about jobs? Are

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<v Speaker 1>you talking about jobs? Like? Did she put you in

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<v Speaker 1>the circumstance what you were about to say? What did

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<v Speaker 1>you give it? He im talking about it's always med

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<v Speaker 1>you had just up for her too, never did it

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<v Speaker 1>to her? You did a lot to you that nigga

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<v Speaker 1>w your friend. That's what I wanted. You won't your friend.

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<v Speaker 1>But you felt like he ain't nobody freend because you

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<v Speaker 1>told me that he was an opportunist and that's the

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<v Speaker 1>thing he is. He was only your friend. You were

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<v Speaker 1>an opportunity. You were an opportunity to So he got

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<v Speaker 1>used that he knew. So if if that's the claim

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<v Speaker 1>that you want to take on, I take that at

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<v Speaker 1>the standpoint, I want to block claim, standpoint whatever. I'll

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<v Speaker 1>take that. Look, this is for the world. I'll take

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<v Speaker 1>that right. But to be clear, if I take me personal,

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<v Speaker 1>you know I'm selfish. If I let you hold something,

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<v Speaker 1>you're my friend. No, no, no, fuck what you ring

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<v Speaker 1>if you let somebody hold something? Yeah, I got listen,

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<v Speaker 1>I was young. Listen, I got and now so the

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<v Speaker 1>last I know that was a greenist. But that was

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<v Speaker 1>young and dumb. Yeah, I can't hold you that was greenish.

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<v Speaker 1>I did. Yeah, I got opportunists. But admit that. That's

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<v Speaker 1>that's part of your healing. You got used by opportunity.

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<v Speaker 1>I can't get used as much as she did. It

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<v Speaker 1>doesn't matter, bro, it's not a comparison. You got used

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<v Speaker 1>by opportunists. No sinner is greater than no sin. Brother.

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<v Speaker 1>I take that, Bro, you got used. I take that.

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<v Speaker 1>That's motherfucker. I take what are you talking about? I

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<v Speaker 1>take that you didn't get used like I mean, didn't

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<v Speaker 1>get nough back. I'm sorry, oh we still shoot because no, no,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm saying that's like, man, you know, as a man

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<v Speaker 1>and a woman, you know you gotta open up and

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<v Speaker 1>you know what you mean. You use like what? Oh

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<v Speaker 1>my god, we used for? What can we liken use what?

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to care? Folive reckless? That's what we're doing. I

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<v Speaker 1>was young, I was done and I'm learning. Keep it

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<v Speaker 1>this that alright? Used for? Oh all right, because I

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<v Speaker 1>I just want to make joy. Nigga want talking about

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<v Speaker 1>no money. I used your dick just like you use

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<v Speaker 1>my pussy, but he better you Yeah, got them, she

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<v Speaker 1>got money. You know you're still paying payments. But whatever

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<v Speaker 1>your damn right. Look everything is still at least every

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<v Speaker 1>goddamn thing though, just like and we're moving to that's

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<v Speaker 1>why y'all was friends. No that's not don't touch me,

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<v Speaker 1>no man anyway, So listen. That brings me to confessions.

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<v Speaker 1>Everybody has to go around the room and confess something

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<v Speaker 1>thirsty that they did to gain one's interest in the past.

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<v Speaker 1>So basically, when was you a thirsty is nigga? Bitch? Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>just don't wait. I was at working on a flight yesterday.

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<v Speaker 1>Actually no, no, no, no, actually was not thirsty hold up,

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<v Speaker 1>but I don't. When I was thirsty last night, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>call you run. So I was I gonna call you

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<v Speaker 1>back control of that. No, I was d trying to

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<v Speaker 1>tell you someone already got you had them my already. No,

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<v Speaker 1>I wouldn't heat come over the phone. I'm talking about

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<v Speaker 1>the restaurant when you went over to somebody table you

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<v Speaker 1>need know, came back, came back moment. That's thirsty moment. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I think I think I haven't setually called my ass over.

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<v Speaker 1>I came over. I don't know, but it was good.

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<v Speaker 1>Was a little right back in me thirsty moment I

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<v Speaker 1>had two fifteen. It was a female that I wanted

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<v Speaker 1>bought a bag. Thought I was gonna get a I

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<v Speaker 1>ain't get up. I wanted my bag, bag your big fellow.

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<v Speaker 1>That was fun. I was like, I aren't alight hello

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<v Speaker 1>all right, um, I'm like my thirstiest moment. Um, I

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<v Speaker 1>actually was. I wanted to date this guy right, Oh

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<v Speaker 1>my god? So it And I was actually cool with

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<v Speaker 1>his girlfriend and we weren't like friends like I was

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<v Speaker 1>cool with her and I knew that she was cheating

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<v Speaker 1>on her boyfriend and I got proof and I told

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<v Speaker 1>him said it to him, and then we started talking.

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<v Speaker 1>He end up being a clown. So I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>why did I go through all this? But yeah, I

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<v Speaker 1>know he no, no, no no, it was okay cool. I

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<v Speaker 1>used to work with her. She would tell me about

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<v Speaker 1>when she would cheat on her boyfriend, and so I

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<v Speaker 1>just got proof. I showed him and so didn't up

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<v Speaker 1>breaking up with her and with men. But then he did.

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<v Speaker 1>Did he ever? Did ever get back to him her

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<v Speaker 1>that it was for him? No, I put my job on,

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<v Speaker 1>didn't fight. Yeah, I got fired. I was stilling. That's

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<v Speaker 1>why I had I got caught. Listen anyway, all right,

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<v Speaker 1>anybody else, baby's not thirsty before your little ugly I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>give me a little bit consos now I'm like grassing

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<v Speaker 1>my hand in the club or something like that. Definitely, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>when she get drunk, every man when she when she

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<v Speaker 1>drunk should be like, you want to go with me?

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, what the funking that boy? And I'm not thirsty,

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<v Speaker 1>but I can't get thirst You've been thirsty, so let

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<v Speaker 1>me hear it. At that time, we was down to

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<v Speaker 1>Samy and she grabbed in the hands. Okay, location precise,

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<v Speaker 1>but yeah, listening, you've grabbed plenty of hands hands like

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<v Speaker 1>this we can do. I'm listening. That's it. I get

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<v Speaker 1>a little I get right first. I get right personal

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<v Speaker 1>with people when I drink. But not on the regular ship.

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<v Speaker 1>You would never catch touching nobody. I don't know regularship.

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<v Speaker 1>Where's my mask? People talking too? So that's enough confessions

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<v Speaker 1>because apparently hand don't have one? Do you have one?

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<v Speaker 1>On my turney, I was waiting to be next. You

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<v Speaker 1>goes moment I just think, oh I go. It was thirsty.

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<v Speaker 1>I just say this here we all say that we

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<v Speaker 1>don't let us slide. I ever done was boils on

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<v Speaker 1>my car. Okay, but it was new like like they're

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<v Speaker 1>still having a new date cap Like wow, that's nice,

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<v Speaker 1>little going like I was in my prom. I was

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<v Speaker 1>in my prom. I was up. You know, we all

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<v Speaker 1>got a listen lest say listen. We can go on

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<v Speaker 1>about this ship all day. But we got gyms to drop.

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<v Speaker 1>Anybody got a gym before we leave these beautiful people,

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<v Speaker 1>because we talked a whole bunch of ships. But it

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<v Speaker 1>only add as if we close with a message. So

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<v Speaker 1>anybody got a gym to drop? What is it? Tell us? Mr? Player?

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<v Speaker 1>Date for yourself and not to not for the perception

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<v Speaker 1>of others. Give us that again, date for yourself and

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<v Speaker 1>not for the perceptive of others. Like that, alright, Well

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<v Speaker 1>to be like, yeah, that's good, all right, Mine would

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<v Speaker 1>be I would say, well, in my relationship right now,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm being taught patient, So I would say learning each other.

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<v Speaker 1>Like I have said, it's not a bad thing. Um,

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<v Speaker 1>And I'm gonna also give you all this and my experience.

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<v Speaker 1>I was so used to everything happening so fast, like

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<v Speaker 1>you know, and I don't like clinging people, but I

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<v Speaker 1>like like to be clung to and it's so freaking weird, right,

0:20:42.680 --> 0:20:44.320
<v Speaker 1>But I know I like people cling to me, but

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<v Speaker 1>I don't like when people are clinging, right, that's just

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<v Speaker 1>a getting me letting myself, how about it? So this

0:20:50.960 --> 0:20:55.040
<v Speaker 1>is the thing, learning each other. It's really not a

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<v Speaker 1>bad thing. It doesn't have to be fast. Time is everything.

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<v Speaker 1>Take your time and we're gonna end just like that.

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<v Speaker 1>Make sure you got tune and next week we're my

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