Speaker 1: Hey, Rebel Eaters, We're launching season three so soon. This
Speaker 1: season we're focusing on tools, tools for dating, tools to
Speaker 1: help you reconnect to nature and exactly the body. You have,
Speaker 1: tools to help raise a kid with a positive relationship
Speaker 1: to food, and we ask you to send in your questions.
Speaker 1: You had so many good ones, and one of the
Speaker 1: episodes this season, I feel that that with my good friend,
Speaker 1: an anti diet crusader, Isabel Fox and Duke and I
Speaker 1: wanted to share a taste, a snack, an appetizer if
Speaker 1: you will, of that episode with you. So here's a
Speaker 1: question that one of you sent in that really made
Speaker 1: me smile. This person says, I want more fat friends.
Speaker 1: Sometimes I'll see a fat babe and I think that
Speaker 1: I want to be friends with them, but I don't
Speaker 1: know how to approach it without saying, Hi, I notice
Speaker 1: that you're fat and I want to hang out with you.
Speaker 1: Do you have any advice about how I can start
Speaker 1: building relationships with more fat folks? I will say I
Speaker 1: have a little bit of extra information. I do know
Speaker 1: this person is also a fat person, so I'm going
Speaker 1: to ask them. They're looking for community, so I have
Speaker 1: some thoughts, which is like, first, I want to say, like,
Speaker 1: I love this energy. I think fat community is so important.
Speaker 1: It's so valuable when you're a fat person to be
Speaker 1: able to sort of have I mean, anybody you share
Speaker 1: an identity with or some part of your background with.
Speaker 1: There's almost like an intimacy that's sort of baked into
Speaker 1: the exchange, which can be so nice. And especially when
Speaker 1: you're constantly doing labor, if you're a marginalized person, it
Speaker 1: can be nice to not have to explain or you
Speaker 1: have a shorthand that you can kind of share with somebody.
Speaker 1: But anyway, I think important. So I'm going to put
Speaker 1: that as like the overall sort of you know, the vibe.
Speaker 1: But I want to say, in terms of strategy, I
Speaker 1: personally always gauge where that person is at about being
Speaker 1: fat first, Like, so I have to figure out, like,
Speaker 1: is this a conversion situation where I'm gonna try Yeah,
Speaker 1: maybe I don't even know, Yeah right, they could not
Speaker 1: be fat positive actually a hundred statistical likelihood that they
Speaker 1: are not. Yeah right, So I got I want to
Speaker 1: like gauge, right, and then I'm like, are they am
Speaker 1: I converting? Do I want to Is that okay? Do
Speaker 1: they consent to this right, and or they already on board,
Speaker 1: And I think what's cool is you get to make
Speaker 1: the call on how much work you want to put
Speaker 1: into it. Like I'm the kind of person who like,
Speaker 1: if I'm looking for fat community, I'm looking for fat
Speaker 1: fat positive community. Yeah. Like that's what I mean when
Speaker 1: I say that, Right, you get to make the call
Speaker 1: on how much work you want to do and put
Speaker 1: into it. And I've had situations backfire when I've been
Speaker 1: like I can convert. I think there's home and then
Speaker 1: they're actually there's none, and I've just spent like ho
Speaker 1: hours weeks arguing with another fat person. Yeah. I mean,
Speaker 1: I will say though, I have a fat friend who's
Speaker 1: fat positive. She is an expert at converting. She's also
Speaker 1: like she's like an organizer, so she like converts people
Speaker 1: on everything from like anti capitalism. She converts people to feminism.
Speaker 1: She's like literally converted this entire group of like regular
Speaker 1: as stratement into like some kind of women supporting like
Speaker 1: support network that they meet monthly or whatever. So she's like,
Speaker 1: really good. I'm like, if you're like that magician, that's
Speaker 1: your superpower, go for it. Otherwise I would say go
Speaker 1: for someone who seems like and I would say, signs
Speaker 1: that they're on the same page, signs like they look.
Speaker 1: Start to look for the clues, like, because I think
Speaker 1: fat positive people flag in certain ways through gestures that
Speaker 1: they're fat positives. That might be clothing, Yeah, it might
Speaker 1: be how they talk about stuff. If they're already political
Speaker 1: about other things, it's likelier that they'll be political about this.
Speaker 1: I know of many fat folks who don't necessarily identify
Speaker 1: as political, but who just are living their best lives
Speaker 1: in their own body and they're just not participating a
Speaker 1: diet culture and it's not necessarily political. It's just kind
Speaker 1: of who they are. I think, like a good portion
Speaker 1: of my friends at this point in my life are
Speaker 1: just they're not they're not necessarily political, but they're also
Speaker 1: just not dieters, right, Like I just don't hang with
Speaker 1: dieters really anymore. Yeah, I mean, one hundred once you
Speaker 1: kind of aren't doing it. It's a very specific vibe
Speaker 1: that you don't want to super be around. Um, you know.
Speaker 1: I mean, it's just in my experience, but I think
Speaker 1: also my last two tips are like, it's okay to
Speaker 1: sort of learn how to start a friendship reach out
Speaker 1: to but he asked them to coffee. I do that
Speaker 1: all the time enough, I feel a little sparkle. Ye'll
Speaker 1: just be like, do you want to get coffee? I
Speaker 1: don't even think about it anymore. I'm just like do it?
Speaker 1: Just ask yeah, Dad. I think the last thing that
Speaker 1: my last tip is, you know, always be recruiting a
Speaker 1: br Always be recruiting, which like create situations. I mean
Speaker 1: my producer was like, you know, maybe they could start
Speaker 1: their own rebel eaters club, or maybe you could have
Speaker 1: like some kind of an anti diet. Like I mean this,
Speaker 1: like if you're on a college campus or you're somewhere where,
Speaker 1: like you have a coworking space, you can create a
Speaker 1: little group and those people will self select and that
Speaker 1: could be your posse potentially, like letting a large a
Speaker 1: group of people know they can opt into a situation
Speaker 1: where y'all could be friends. And I think that's a
Speaker 1: very smart move, right, It's really I mean, ultimately, it's
Speaker 1: like really just a question of like how do I
Speaker 1: make friends with somebody I want to be friends with? Right?
Speaker 1: And that is all about just putting yourself out there
Speaker 1: and just you know, you get to decide if it's
Speaker 1: not weird, Yeah, one hundred percent und I love my
Speaker 1: friend Isabel and real talk. Rebel Eaters Club is a
Speaker 1: bit like having a whole buffet of excellent new friends.
Speaker 1: Season three comes out on May third. Listen wherever you
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