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Speaker 1: All right, So Taylor Lautner did not marry Taylor Lautner.

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Speaker 1: Taylor Lautner married Taylor Dome Dome and now they're Taylor's Lautner.

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Speaker 2: They are Taylor's Lawner and think cute story. It's so cute.

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Speaker 1: And Taylor Latner famous from.

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Speaker 2: Famous from Twilight, and he was Jacob Black and he

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Speaker 2: and Taylor his wife. They had their one year wedding

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Speaker 2: anniversary and they celebrate it by having a gala for

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Speaker 2: the Lemon's Foundation. And actually I attended it. It was Sunday night.

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Speaker 2: And the Lemon's Foundation is it's to advocate for people

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Speaker 2: that are struggling with mental health. It's a really amazing foundation.

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Speaker 2: But on the carpet, they were talking about the biggest

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Speaker 2: lesson that they learned in their first year of marriage,

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Speaker 2: and that is that communication is key. So everybody says this,

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Speaker 2: we know it, but the two of them communicate very differently.

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Speaker 2: So Taylor girl, Taylor said, when we do get in

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Speaker 2: a conversation or disagreement, he knows that I go mute

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Speaker 2: and I don't really speak. Boy, Taylor said, it is

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Speaker 2: frustrating because it's like I want to talk about everything

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Speaker 2: right then, and there and get it over with. And

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Speaker 2: so I found those very interesting because I think that

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Speaker 2: I'm also in a relationship that's very much like this,

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Speaker 2: And I think that when you're newly in a relationship

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Speaker 2: learning how your partner communicates, if they need time and

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Speaker 2: space to process or if they want to handle it

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Speaker 2: right then and there, I feel like finding that fine

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Speaker 2: line where you both feel like you're being seen and

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Speaker 2: heard is such a hard thing to do.

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Speaker 1: Can I say something, sisany do you find I find

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Speaker 1: it that there's never time or a good time to

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Speaker 1: have any of these hear me communication conversations. Never like

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Speaker 1: it's never a good time, right. I feel like there's

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Speaker 1: always something moving along or you know, with everybody's schedule,

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Speaker 1: that it's hard to find a good time to have

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Speaker 1: these conversations. Is not like any time an issue comes up,

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Speaker 1: it's the perfect time to have a communication conversation. I know.

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Speaker 2: But the thing is, if you don't have these conversations,

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Speaker 2: that's how you build resentment.

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Speaker 1: But I hope it goes away by morning.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, sometimes it does. Sometimes I just it right and

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Speaker 3: it's nice. I don't know, do I have the energy?

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Speaker 3: You don't have the energy every single time because sometimes

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Speaker 3: it's happening as you're rushing or trying to get out

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Speaker 3: the door for whatever reason, and you're already late, and

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Speaker 3: that's probably why you're arguing.

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Speaker 1: And you figure, if I take a deep breath and

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Speaker 1: we go to sleep, maybe tomorrow things are better, the

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Speaker 1: sun will come up.

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Speaker 3: Sometimes they are, but you.

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Speaker 1: Don't want to build resentment. Resentment's a bad thing to build.

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Speaker 1: I think that like you and a relationship would be

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Speaker 1: like being with a life. Coaching a relationship like you

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Speaker 1: would bring it out of Robbie.

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Speaker 3: Right.

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Speaker 1: I'm sure Robbi's a great communicator, but you probably have

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Speaker 1: to more often than he say, let's just talk this down.

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Speaker 2: Yes I am. I'm definitely the therapist in the relationship.

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Speaker 2: But he also the way he thinks about things. Sometimes

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Speaker 2: I'm just like God, I wish I wish I thought

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Speaker 2: about things that way. Like I feel like my life

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Speaker 2: would be so much easier if I let things roll

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Speaker 2: off my back the way he does.

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Speaker 1: Try it. Yeah, what's the problem? I mean, that doesn't

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Speaker 1: sound so tough, like let.

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Speaker 3: Things go to the other side.

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Speaker 2: I'm I don't know.

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Speaker 1: If that doesn't sound so complicated.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, he goes, you know, as long as I know,

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Speaker 2: I did nothing wrong. The other people's feelings are their feelings.

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Speaker 2: I don't have to like, I don't worry about that.

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Speaker 2: And I'm like, wow, what to live a life in

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Speaker 2: those shoes?

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Speaker 1: Let's try, because having these conversations over and over again

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Speaker 1: here and I don't want that resentment