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Speaker 1: It's time to catch a Cheater. Only on the Tuble Show.

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Speaker 1: Kim is on the phone today for to catch a Cheater.

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Speaker 1: She's been with her husband Rob for four years, but

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Speaker 1: now she thinks something might be going on. So in

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Speaker 1: a few minutes, we're going to call and see if

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Speaker 1: we can catch him if he is cheating, but hopefully

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Speaker 1: he's not. Kim, what's going on? Why do you think

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Speaker 1: Bob might be cheating on you?

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Speaker 2: Basically, when we met, we met at a time.

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Speaker 3: When we were just kind of done with the whole

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Speaker 3: dating scene. Bob had actually been married before before we met.

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Speaker 3: They separated amicably. They all still keep in touch. You know.

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Speaker 3: They had met at Berkeley and they both were kind

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Speaker 2: Hippie types, so they clicked.

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Speaker 3: Rob, in his own words, is kind of like grown

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Speaker 3: up since then, and he's happy where he's at.

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Speaker 2: We don't really fight much.

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Speaker 3: At all, and he's never really been the longdering eye

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Speaker 2: He still is very loving and doting.

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Speaker 3: And after forty years, like he still treats me to

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Speaker 3: lemantic nights out and gives me gifts and buys me flowers.

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Speaker 4: That kind of.

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Speaker 2: Feels a little silly that I'm even calling. But basically.

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Speaker 3: Rob's ex wife, Emily, like I said, they still talk

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Speaker 3: a little bit. We've met a few times. She's been

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Speaker 3: our wedding. She's wonderful. They have a son, but he's

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Speaker 3: grown and older, and nothing like trying them really together much,

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Speaker 3: you know. And also with having a son, I understand

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Speaker 3: there's going to be co parenting, there's going to be

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Speaker 3: conversations together and stuff.

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Speaker 2: So that's not a problem with me. They are on

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Speaker 2: good terms and I appreciate that.

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Speaker 3: I've never felt threatened by his relationship with her until lately.

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Speaker 3: So basically the last three weeks, it seems like they've

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Speaker 3: been talking a lot more than usual. Again, not like

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Speaker 3: a big deal, but he's been secretive about it, like

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Speaker 3: when she calls, he kind of leaves the room or

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Speaker 3: text he'll like get up and walk away. I've tried

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Speaker 3: really hard not to pry. He's a drama free kind

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Speaker 3: of guy, so he's very open and usually shares everything

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Speaker 2: So I thought it was weird that.

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Speaker 3: He was kind of sneaking away sim if there's anything wrong,

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Speaker 3: if there was anything I could do to help him,

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Speaker 3: you know, because he seemed a little closed off and

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Speaker 3: He just basically responded like, don't worry, I'm handling things

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Speaker 2: So I don't know.

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Speaker 3: I just want to know if there's something I need

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Speaker 3: to worry about, if he's rekindling something with his ex,

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Speaker 3: or maybe there's something more.

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Speaker 2: I just don't know.

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Speaker 5: That's something that's super vague, he says, I'm handling it.

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Speaker 5: If it makes it sound like there's a problem, I

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Speaker 5: don't know.

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Speaker 2: It's not like it was an emergency situation. It just

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Speaker 2: seems like I don't know. They're having a conversation. He

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Speaker 2: doesn't want me to see it.

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Speaker 1: Or hear it, And that's yeah, strange. If it's it's

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Speaker 1: been four years and everything's been cool and now you're

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Speaker 1: having concerns, that means something's changed.

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Speaker 2: You'd be surprising you.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, like your birthday son.

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Speaker 2: Uh.

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Speaker 3: The other thing is, like you know, I said, she

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Speaker 3: and I are We're not close by any means.

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Speaker 2: We know each other, But it would be weird that

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Speaker 2: he would plan something.

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Speaker 1: That'd be a strange person to plan your birthday went

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Speaker 1: all right, well, well, yeah, plays song come back? You

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Speaker 1: already told us a grocery store. He's a rewards card

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Speaker 1: member at so we'll call and pretend to be from

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Speaker 1: the grocery store and say that every single month, we

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Speaker 1: choose one random Rewards card member who gets free flowers

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Speaker 1: delivered from our florial department, and we'll see if he

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Speaker 1: sends them to you or to somebody else.

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Speaker 2: Okay, that's good, thank you, I appreciate it.

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Speaker 1: Plays on come back, get you here to Catch a

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Speaker 1: Cheeter next? If you're just joining us for today's to

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Speaker 1: Catch a Cheater. Kim is on the phone and she's

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Speaker 1: been married to her husband, Bob for four years, but

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Speaker 1: now she thinks he might be cheating. So in a second,

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Speaker 1: we're going to call him and pretend to be from

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Speaker 1: the grocery store that he's a rewards card member at,

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Speaker 1: and say that every single month, choose one rewards member

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Speaker 1: who gets free flowers delivered from our floral department, totally free,

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Speaker 1: and see if he believes us, and if he does,

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Speaker 1: see who sends them to if he sends them to

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Speaker 1: his wife or to someone else. So, Kim, before we

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Speaker 1: do that, why don't you catch everybody up on your situation.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, my husband and husband, Bob and I have been

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Speaker 3: married for four years. He was previously married to his

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Speaker 3: ex wife Emily. They stay in communication, but not much,

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Speaker 3: and lately he's been sneaking off to speak with her

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Speaker 3: and it's making me question thing.

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Speaker 1: Okay, all right, you ready first to Colin?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, okay, here we go.

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Speaker 2: Hello.

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Speaker 1: Hi, this is Corbyn calling from I was looking for

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Speaker 1: our Rewards card member named Bob.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, that's me, Bob.

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Speaker 1: Please don't hang up. This is not marketing phone call.

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Speaker 1: I'm actually calling to say congrats. Here this month's big winner.

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Speaker 4: Oho. What surprised or is there? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Every single month we choose one Rewards Card member to

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Speaker 1: say thank you very much for shopping with us and

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Speaker 1: being a loyal customer. You've just won thirty six long

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Speaker 1: stem red roses, a box of chocolates, and a card

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Speaker 1: to be delivered to anybody that you want within the

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Speaker 1: fifty United States.

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Speaker 4: Oh cool, awesome.

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Speaker 1: I can take the information down over the phone.

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Speaker 4: I know who I'm going to send it. I can

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Speaker 4: tell you over the phone.

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Speaker 1: So first I'll need the first last name of the

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Speaker 1: person who'd like to send them to.

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Speaker 4: Kim. Okay, same as mine. We're married.

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Speaker 1: Oh, your this is your wife.

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Speaker 4: In my wife?

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Anything you want to put on a card?

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Speaker 4: Uh sure, I'll say I love you too, and we

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Speaker 1: Well, I guess you can talk to her right now,

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Speaker 1: because Bob, this is actually the Jewbill Show. It's a

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Speaker 1: radio show. My name is jewbile Hi, I'm Nina Hi,

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Speaker 1: and I'm Victor, and we do a segment on the

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Speaker 1: show called to Catch a Cheater where if you think

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Speaker 1: your significant other mind me messing around, you can try

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Speaker 1: to see who they send flowers to. And your wife,

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Speaker 1: Kim is actually on the phone.

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Speaker 4: Ta see what's up. Why I'm a little bit cost guard.

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Speaker 4: Why did you set this up?

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Speaker 2: Well, I am. I wasn't really sure what else to do.

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Speaker 3: I kind of feel like there's something going on with

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Speaker 3: Emily that you're not telling me.

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Speaker 2: You're right, yeah, are you?

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 4: I mean there's yeah. So I don't really want to

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Speaker 4: be doing this over the son. But Emily, as I've

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Speaker 4: told you, is still working in economic development. She's developing

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Speaker 4: programs around the US. She's obviously had a more lucrative

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Speaker 4: as you have joked. She's an economic specialist, as I've

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Speaker 4: the Peace Corps and she's being sent abroad to a

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Speaker 3: Wow, I mean I believe that because I know you

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Speaker 2: As she was working for the Peace Corps.

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Speaker 3: But I still don't understand why the sneaking around.

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Speaker 4: So it's pretty sensitive information, like she ever want to

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Speaker 4: and I was right. She said that she still loved

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Speaker 4: me very much, and I was clear about the fact

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Speaker 4: that I love my wife, you Kim. Last week we

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Speaker 4: there's a solid chance that she never would see me again.

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Speaker 2: She told you that she still loves you.

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Speaker 5: Like she's just gonna be working over there and not

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Speaker 4: It is really intense. I mean the nature of her

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Speaker 5: So there is a So of course you say that

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Speaker 4: But she expressed feelings for me and we did have sex.

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Speaker 1: Oh oh wow, whoa.

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Speaker 4: Okay, I am really ashamed of it, and it was

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Speaker 4: a mutual choice to do it. I regret it. I

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Speaker 1: Is that what you said you need to talk about

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Speaker 4: Yeah? Yeah, I've been planning to tell you today or

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Speaker 4: the next time we got a chance. I know we've

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Speaker 5: But I know, I don't know a lot about the

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Speaker 5: by saying that I'm not going to see you because

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Speaker 3: I kind of don't know what to say right now.

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Speaker 3: Obviously we need to talk in person. Yeah, I just

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Speaker 3: But yeah, I'm going to probably come home right now

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Speaker 3: and we'll talk about this.

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Speaker 1: You're apologizing to him.

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Speaker 5: I told you that he slept with his ex y.

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Speaker 2: Mostly to you guys in the listener.

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Speaker 1: Right now that Oh, don't apologize us, go handle your business.

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Speaker 1: I mean, it's totally, totally, totally. I'm glad you found out,

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Speaker 1: even though it sounds like Bob was going to tell

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Speaker 1: you anyway, but you never know.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm sorry for a lot of reasons and a

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Speaker 4: lot of things, but I'm also sorry for you finding

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Speaker 2: But I'll be it.

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Speaker 4: I'll be at home, okay, all.

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Speaker 1: Right, Well, kim uh let us know if we can

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Speaker 2: Yeah, thank you.

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Speaker 4: Guys, thanks for having me on the show. I appreciate it.

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Speaker 5: I'm sorry for all of the things.

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Speaker 3: Good luck, thank you the double shows to Catch a

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