WEBVTT - “MY PARENTS ARE HOLDING ME HOSTAGE” 0:00:02.400 --> 0:00:04.080 Hello, it's your name, big money player. 0:00:04.760 --> 0:00:05.520 This is Derek. 0:00:06.000 --> 0:00:10.080 Derek. You ever seen then no Disney Channel show called 0:00:10.640 --> 0:00:11.600 Life with Derek? 0:00:11.840 --> 0:00:12.880 How have I not seen that? 0:00:14.680 --> 0:00:15.040 Is that? Like? 0:00:15.360 --> 0:00:16.320 Is that a lot older? 0:00:16.440 --> 0:00:17.600 Or how old are you? 0:00:18.040 --> 0:00:19.720 I'm twenty nine. 0:00:19.920 --> 0:00:22.400 You would have you? Maybe you were too old for 0:00:22.440 --> 0:00:25.360 Disney Channel when it came out. Probably, Yeah. 0:00:25.360 --> 0:00:26.920 I was more of a Nickelodeon kid, you know. 0:00:27.360 --> 0:00:29.400 Okay, would you watch on Nickelodeon. 0:00:30.160 --> 0:00:32.360 Fucked on of Blues Clues? Bro that was my ship. 0:00:33.200 --> 0:00:38.480 That's cool. I remember when the Blues Clues movie came 0:00:38.520 --> 0:00:41.879 out and they had the dog. The dog was in 0:00:41.920 --> 0:00:45.559 a costume and it was a crazy game changer to me. 0:00:45.800 --> 0:00:48.800 I actually saw that and was like, how did they 0:00:48.840 --> 0:00:50.839 do that? How did they make this? 0:00:50.920 --> 0:00:51.080 Yeah? 0:00:51.159 --> 0:00:52.080 Man come alive? 0:00:52.440 --> 0:00:56.080 And I imagine like seeing that at the at a 0:00:56.120 --> 0:00:57.560 young age man's mind blowing. 0:00:59.080 --> 0:01:01.600 Well, Derek, I assume you didn't call in to talk 0:01:01.640 --> 0:01:03.720 about how awesome the Blue School's movie was. 0:01:05.600 --> 0:01:08.640 I did not, You're correct, although I could if you want. 0:01:08.480 --> 0:01:12.080 To tell me what you wanted to talk about initially. 0:01:14.319 --> 0:01:14.759 Yeah. 0:01:14.800 --> 0:01:19.640 So I have very overbearing parents. They I even at 0:01:19.680 --> 0:01:21.959 the age of twenty nine, they really don't give me 0:01:22.040 --> 0:01:29.520 much freedom, and it's it's concerning to say the least. 0:01:30.360 --> 0:01:36.080 Okay, when you say they don't give you much freedom freedom, well, 0:01:36.440 --> 0:01:38.840 I mean I have a few questions. But okay, when 0:01:38.840 --> 0:01:42.280 you say that freedom to do what specifically what things 0:01:42.319 --> 0:01:43.760 do they not give you the freedom to do? 0:01:44.760 --> 0:01:46.760 Just like normal adult things, Like they don't even let 0:01:46.800 --> 0:01:48.280 me move out of their house, even though I have 0:01:48.360 --> 0:01:50.560 definitely the financial means to be able to do it. 0:01:52.280 --> 0:01:56.800 They even and because I'm under their roof, they feel 0:01:56.800 --> 0:02:00.880 like rightfully so, because it's their house that they can dictate, 0:02:01.000 --> 0:02:03.440 like who I hang out with, what I eat, what 0:02:03.600 --> 0:02:04.080 I drink. 0:02:06.480 --> 0:02:11.720 So yeah, okay, so I'm if you have the means 0:02:12.480 --> 0:02:18.359 with by what authority do they control these things? 0:02:20.080 --> 0:02:23.640 I just I just think because maybe maybe it's me 0:02:23.880 --> 0:02:26.680 just not putting my foot down, but I just feel 0:02:26.720 --> 0:02:29.040 like if they if they really want me to stay there, 0:02:29.600 --> 0:02:31.720 that I have to respect that because they're my parents, 0:02:31.760 --> 0:02:35.120 you know, like like you know what I mean, maybe 0:02:35.280 --> 0:02:38.320 maybe I shouldn't be doing that, but I do feel like, 0:02:38.360 --> 0:02:39.960 you know, they did a lot for me growing up, 0:02:40.040 --> 0:02:42.520 So I thought, I think the least I could do 0:02:43.080 --> 0:02:45.519 in my mind, not saying it's right or wrong is 0:02:45.560 --> 0:02:47.760 to stay there with them. They don't really need any 0:02:47.800 --> 0:02:49.240 help or anything, just to stay there. 0:02:55.919 --> 0:02:59.839 M hmm. Are you and are you in their house 0:03:00.040 --> 0:03:00.359 right now? 0:03:01.919 --> 0:03:03.400 I am, Yeah, I'm in the basement. 0:03:04.000 --> 0:03:07.720 Just you or any siblings. 0:03:08.800 --> 0:03:10.560 No, I'm an only child. 0:03:10.960 --> 0:03:12.440 Okay, so just you mom and dad? 0:03:13.760 --> 0:03:14.600 Correct? 0:03:15.200 --> 0:03:17.280 Parents still together, They're not remarried or anything. 0:03:18.639 --> 0:03:21.000 Yeah, they don't have the best relationship, but they're still together. 0:03:21.600 --> 0:03:27.600 Okay. Yeah, if you have the means to move out, 0:03:27.960 --> 0:03:30.600 and maybe you've explained this already, but if you have 0:03:30.680 --> 0:03:32.839 the means to move out financially, how come you don't 0:03:32.880 --> 0:03:33.120 do it? 0:03:36.000 --> 0:03:37.560 Like I said, I think, I think it's just kind 0:03:37.560 --> 0:03:40.160 of like a subliminal thing, Like I want to I 0:03:40.200 --> 0:03:43.760 want to respect my parents wishes since they like raised 0:03:43.760 --> 0:03:47.000 me and like paid for my college and all that. 0:03:47.080 --> 0:03:47.640 You know what I mean. 0:03:53.080 --> 0:03:56.240 Do you want to leave your parents' house or do 0:03:56.280 --> 0:03:57.520 you kind of like it there? 0:03:59.720 --> 0:04:02.960 I mean, I don't mind it, It's just I feel 0:04:03.520 --> 0:04:06.480 self conscious about it, I guess is my thing, like 0:04:06.520 --> 0:04:08.600 because because all my friends my age are all like 0:04:08.800 --> 0:04:11.200 with their own homes, their own families, you know what 0:04:11.200 --> 0:04:13.040 I mean, And I'm kind of the only one who's 0:04:13.080 --> 0:04:18.039 still here. Even though I don't need to be, but 0:04:18.080 --> 0:04:18.880 I'm comfortable. 0:04:19.960 --> 0:04:21.200 Do you ever leave the house? 0:04:22.760 --> 0:04:26.040 I do, Yeah, I like go hang out with my friends, 0:04:26.040 --> 0:04:28.760 But like I said, there's sometimes where like I'll say 0:04:28.760 --> 0:04:33.000 I'm going to hang out with Matt and they'll say no, no, no, 0:04:33.000 --> 0:04:37.080 you can't hang out with Matt, and I just I 0:04:37.200 --> 0:04:42.159 just I don't I follow their wishes. I don't know, 0:04:42.160 --> 0:04:43.719 maybe they're greenwashed me or something. 0:04:47.880 --> 0:04:55.760 Do you have a more do you have a I 0:04:55.800 --> 0:05:01.080 guess a more compelling reason to stay in your mom's 0:05:01.080 --> 0:05:04.240 house other than you feel like you owe her. 0:05:08.680 --> 0:05:13.120 I guess just my own comfort, which is being content 0:05:13.200 --> 0:05:14.560 with what I've known forever. 0:05:15.520 --> 0:05:21.680 Right, And I struggle. I'm taking long pauses what I'm 0:05:21.680 --> 0:05:27.120 talking to you, because I really do struggle with this 0:05:27.200 --> 0:05:31.320 thing of like, I truly believe that everyone's wired differently 0:05:31.400 --> 0:05:35.839 and that there is no right or wrong way to 0:05:35.880 --> 0:05:41.680 live your life. But if we're talking about whether or 0:05:41.760 --> 0:05:46.760 not you would be happier not living in your mom's 0:05:46.800 --> 0:05:49.480 house and being able to go hang out with your 0:05:49.480 --> 0:05:55.960 friends and live life and not be subject to your 0:05:56.000 --> 0:05:58.360 parents telling you what to eat and what to drink 0:05:58.680 --> 0:06:02.160 and who you can and can't hang out with I 0:06:02.200 --> 0:06:08.200 would hypothesize that you would be happier, But do you 0:06:08.240 --> 0:06:08.880 agree with that? 0:06:10.279 --> 0:06:11.320 I don't disagree at all. 0:06:11.480 --> 0:06:12.800 I guess I guess where I'm in. 0:06:12.839 --> 0:06:14.840 It's like I don't even know how to start that conversation. 0:06:16.320 --> 0:06:18.800 Yeah, like to break apart from it. 0:06:18.760 --> 0:06:21.279 You know, tell me more about why you agree with 0:06:21.320 --> 0:06:23.640 the hypothesis that you would be happier. 0:06:25.400 --> 0:06:28.719 Because I think, even even though I'm comfortable, I think, 0:06:29.000 --> 0:06:33.800 deep down I know that having the freedom would be. 0:06:33.640 --> 0:06:34.920 Better for me in the long run. 0:06:35.360 --> 0:06:36.279 What do you do for work? 0:06:39.000 --> 0:06:43.520 I designed a website cool you from web developer? 0:06:44.080 --> 0:06:47.920 I do okay, cool? So you can go anywhere? Really, 0:06:48.000 --> 0:06:50.279 you don't even have to stay in? What stay you in? 0:06:51.960 --> 0:06:52.840 I'm in Colorado? 0:06:53.360 --> 0:06:57.360 Okay, Oh my god, you can go anywhere if you 0:06:57.480 --> 0:06:59.520 had to. How would you start this conversation? 0:07:01.400 --> 0:07:01.960 I had to? 0:07:03.160 --> 0:07:04.719 Yeah, I mean, I think the right thing to do 0:07:04.760 --> 0:07:07.440 obviously was just to, like, you sit down with them 0:07:07.480 --> 0:07:13.280 and be honest. But there's a lot of anxiety around that. 0:07:13.600 --> 0:07:17.160 I think most people would have, just just because you fear, 0:07:18.480 --> 0:07:21.680 I fear of the many different reactions I would get 0:07:21.720 --> 0:07:23.720 from them, and you just like never know until you 0:07:23.760 --> 0:07:24.120 do it. 0:07:24.360 --> 0:07:24.640 You know. 0:07:26.200 --> 0:07:28.240 What reactions do you fear you would get from them? 0:07:29.840 --> 0:07:32.040 I mean, in my mind, they could. They could get 0:07:32.080 --> 0:07:35.360 kind of upset about it, just because they've been kind 0:07:35.360 --> 0:07:38.840 of like controlling for the whole time that I've been around, you. 0:07:38.800 --> 0:07:48.400 Know, Okay, I asked this question honestly. Yeah, what is 0:07:48.440 --> 0:07:52.360 so bad about your parents being upset at you because 0:07:52.400 --> 0:07:54.440 you're moving out? 0:07:56.200 --> 0:08:00.840 Just the fact that I'm disappointing them. It just goes 0:08:00.880 --> 0:08:04.720 back to like being grateful for what they've done for 0:08:04.760 --> 0:08:05.880 me as a person. 0:08:08.000 --> 0:08:11.200 I think that you can be grateful for them for 0:08:11.280 --> 0:08:14.240 what they've done for you as a person, and not 0:08:15.000 --> 0:08:19.040 view and not let that gratefulness serve as some sort 0:08:19.080 --> 0:08:22.880 of eternal debt that you need to pay back by 0:08:22.920 --> 0:08:24.880 allowing them control over your life. 0:08:29.480 --> 0:08:30.840 Right, I see what you're saying. 0:08:31.480 --> 0:08:34.880 You know, I this is not me. This is something 0:08:34.920 --> 0:08:39.720 I read on Reddit at some point. Your parents raising 0:08:39.760 --> 0:08:42.240 you is not some kind of a debt that you 0:08:42.280 --> 0:08:46.520 need to pay back. Okay, it's I I think it's 0:08:46.600 --> 0:08:50.080 nice that you're being grateful to your mom and your dad, 0:08:50.800 --> 0:08:54.439 but you don't owe them anything, and you certainly don't 0:08:54.440 --> 0:08:58.920 owe them, you know, your birth. Your birth certificate doesn't 0:08:58.960 --> 0:09:01.959 come with a claw that they own all the rights 0:09:01.960 --> 0:09:09.960 to your existence, uh, in perpetuity. So I don't think 0:09:10.000 --> 0:09:13.559 it would be I don't think you need to live 0:09:13.679 --> 0:09:13.959 like that. 0:09:16.200 --> 0:09:16.640 For sure. 0:09:17.000 --> 0:09:20.160 For sure, I know I definitely get that, And I 0:09:20.200 --> 0:09:23.520 think it all just comes down to in my like 0:09:23.559 --> 0:09:26.200 I said, I'm just like worried about I've always worried 0:09:26.200 --> 0:09:30.120 about their reaction to me wanting to get out, and 0:09:30.240 --> 0:09:31.480 I need to stop worrying about that. 0:09:32.200 --> 0:09:38.280 M h. It's not that bad. It's not going to 0:09:38.320 --> 0:09:43.280 be that bad. People being upset with you, People being 0:09:43.360 --> 0:09:46.720 upset with you is not that bad, especially dude. People. 0:09:46.840 --> 0:09:51.720 People being justifiably upset at you is not that bad. 0:09:51.800 --> 0:09:55.040 People being unjustifiably and upset at you, that's like, that's nothing, 0:09:55.520 --> 0:10:00.880 you know right right? I mean you and I both 0:10:00.960 --> 0:10:03.720 know I I understand that you're afraid, but I think 0:10:03.720 --> 0:10:07.400 you I think you know that you gotta put your 0:10:07.440 --> 0:10:12.280 foot down and it's getting upset with you. 0:10:12.280 --> 0:10:14.600 You were mentioning earlier about being a people pleaser, like 0:10:14.640 --> 0:10:15.280 I feel. 0:10:15.000 --> 0:10:20.439 Like, sure, you know, sure, I thing with people pleasing 0:10:20.600 --> 0:10:23.920 is it's I think it's OK. I think it's good 0:10:23.960 --> 0:10:28.680 to be cognizant of people, but not until it has 0:10:29.000 --> 0:10:34.080 a detrimental effect on you. Yeah, and this is having 0:10:34.160 --> 0:10:40.720 a Yeah. And also you know you're not like A 0:10:41.800 --> 0:10:48.080 You're not like I don't know, disabled and need to 0:10:48.120 --> 0:10:52.000 stay home and like can't, don't, I don't have the 0:10:52.720 --> 0:10:58.160 means to, you know, leave your house like you're you're 0:10:58.160 --> 0:11:04.480 a you have friends, you're like you know, you got 0:11:04.480 --> 0:11:08.080 to you got a whole life except for this little thing. 0:11:08.320 --> 0:11:11.760 And I think you need to sit down with your parents. 0:11:11.800 --> 0:11:13.400 I mean, you don't even you don't even need to 0:11:13.400 --> 0:11:14.920 sit down with them. You can leave them a note, 0:11:14.960 --> 0:11:18.000 but I should think it'd be good. I think it'd 0:11:18.000 --> 0:11:19.440 be good for you to sit down with them because 0:11:19.440 --> 0:11:22.160 you got to face this fear, because it's gonna severely 0:11:22.280 --> 0:11:24.040 hold you back in life. And you don't want to 0:11:24.040 --> 0:11:27.440 be forty and living and you know, still repaying this, 0:11:28.480 --> 0:11:32.080 you know, theoretical debt to your parents and realize that 0:11:32.120 --> 0:11:35.600 you just wasted a bunch of your life. Right, you're 0:11:35.640 --> 0:11:37.720 still very young. You can go out and do a 0:11:37.720 --> 0:11:42.520 billion different things, so you know, go do that all. 0:11:42.679 --> 0:11:48.920 I mean, also, look, people shit on it, but hanging 0:11:48.960 --> 0:11:52.559 out in your mom's basement eating chicken tenders and playing. 0:11:52.400 --> 0:11:57.560 Xbox there's nothing like it. 0:11:57.720 --> 0:12:00.440 There's nothing like it's a great life. It's pretty sick. Yeah, 0:12:00.480 --> 0:12:03.040 it's pretty That's okay. This is why I said at 0:12:03.080 --> 0:12:04.680 the beginning. I was like, there's no right way to 0:12:04.679 --> 0:12:07.880 live life. I honestly think a guy who you know, 0:12:08.080 --> 0:12:12.520 travels the world and get you know, gets in perfect 0:12:12.600 --> 0:12:16.040 shape and falls in love and has a family and 0:12:16.360 --> 0:12:22.120 you know, gets an award for creating windmill whatever stuff. 0:12:22.200 --> 0:12:25.240 I honestly think that guy and a guy who hangs 0:12:25.240 --> 0:12:29.559 out in his mom's basement playing Red Dead Redemption and 0:12:31.200 --> 0:12:33.760 getting high and stuff. I think both of those lives 0:12:33.800 --> 0:12:37.480 are good in different ways. So you know, you do 0:12:37.559 --> 0:12:37.920 you man? 0:12:39.200 --> 0:12:41.800 Yeah, I appreciate that. Gek, I think I think I 0:12:41.880 --> 0:12:45.400 just needed to talk this out with someone and it 0:12:45.840 --> 0:12:48.080 was really helpful. I appreciate it. I think I'm going 0:12:48.120 --> 0:12:49.440 to try and talk with them tomorrow. 0:12:49.960 --> 0:12:52.679 Okay, good, please do And please, dear guy, what's your 0:12:52.760 --> 0:12:58.079 name again, Derek? Derek, listen to me. Do not be 0:12:58.559 --> 0:13:01.720 afraid of your parents. It's being upset with you because 0:13:01.760 --> 0:13:03.640 you want to go out and live your own life. 0:13:05.200 --> 0:13:05.440 Fuck. 0:13:05.520 --> 0:13:08.400 Yeah, all right, So is there anything else you want 0:13:08.400 --> 0:13:09.760 to say to the people of the computer before we go. 0:13:11.440 --> 0:13:13.360 H No, thanks for the time on appreciate it. 0:13:13.840 --> 0:13:23.080 Take care m. I'm actually about to go move back 0:13:23.120 --> 0:13:30.600 into my parents' basement two and I'm excited. I think 0:13:30.600 --> 0:13:33.040 I'm gonna get sick of it after I think it's 0:13:33.040 --> 0:13:37.520 gonna be pretty sick for like three weeks. That's you 0:13:37.559 --> 0:13:39.400 know what. That's the thing is I and I actually 0:13:39.440 --> 0:13:42.680 take back what I said about the like living your 0:13:42.720 --> 0:13:45.240 life to the fullest versus sitting in your mom's basement 0:13:45.280 --> 0:13:48.240 playing video games of the same thing. I think the 0:13:48.559 --> 0:13:54.240 first three weeks of getting high all day playing video 0:13:54.320 --> 0:13:57.679 games is like if you could have that, if the 0:13:57.800 --> 0:14:01.400 first three weeks was the whole existence of that, it 0:14:01.440 --> 0:14:03.760 would be sweet. It would be better than living your 0:14:03.800 --> 0:14:06.160 life to the fullest. But after those first three weeks 0:14:06.160 --> 0:14:10.920 it the returns diminished significantly, so it's probably better to 0:14:11.040 --> 0:14:18.360 leave your mom's basement. Hello, Hey, what's up? 0:14:19.320 --> 0:14:19.480 Is this? 0:14:19.560 --> 0:14:19.840 Wile? 0:14:20.560 --> 0:14:20.800 Yeah? 0:14:20.840 --> 0:14:21.240 Who is this? 0:14:22.200 --> 0:14:23.600 This is kay? Yeah? 0:14:23.680 --> 0:14:25.120 What's up? Okay? How's life. 0:14:26.680 --> 0:14:27.040 Currently? 0:14:27.200 --> 0:14:29.560 I am dealing with COVID for the first time, so 0:14:29.880 --> 0:14:32.440 I feel like asked, So that's where we're at. 0:14:32.880 --> 0:14:35.360 You have you have Let's see wait, so you got through? 0:14:35.680 --> 0:14:38.720 I mean it's been three years for the first time. 0:14:39.600 --> 0:14:42.400 Yeah, my mom's hast been positive this morning and then 0:14:42.640 --> 0:14:44.640 it just all happened today. 0:14:44.800 --> 0:14:49.800 So yeah, hm, well, I feel like, well, you're fine. 0:14:49.840 --> 0:14:51.480 You can probably I mean, no one cares anymore, so 0:14:51.560 --> 0:14:52.359 you can probably. 0:14:52.160 --> 0:14:52.600 Just go out. 0:14:53.640 --> 0:14:56.840 Yeah, but do I really want to know? It's kind 0:14:56.880 --> 0:14:58.080 of nice in the comfort. 0:14:57.800 --> 0:15:03.440 Of my home. It's true, that's true. Okay, what's up? 0:15:03.520 --> 0:15:04.880 What do you want to talk about today? 0:15:06.320 --> 0:15:08.680 Well, I'm gonna say it was about a year ago 0:15:09.080 --> 0:15:13.400 I saw my sister's booths online with my best friend warmingly. 0:15:15.760 --> 0:15:18.200 Just for our backstory really quick, I am not close 0:15:18.280 --> 0:15:21.640 with my sister anymore. She's about twenty two years old. 0:15:23.640 --> 0:15:26.000 At that time. I was at my dad's apartment every 0:15:26.040 --> 0:15:28.880 weekend and she was living there for a little bit 0:15:28.920 --> 0:15:32.760 of time as well, And basically she told my dad, Hey, 0:15:32.920 --> 0:15:35.200 I'm gonna go see your friends for the weekend. My 0:15:35.320 --> 0:15:39.400 Dad's like, okay, whatever, I don't really care. The weekend 0:15:39.440 --> 0:15:42.960 goes by, we've heard nothing from her, only to find 0:15:43.000 --> 0:15:45.400 out that she flew out to California to hook up 0:15:45.440 --> 0:15:46.120 with the girl. 0:15:50.880 --> 0:15:51.160 Cool. 0:15:52.960 --> 0:15:56.320 Yeah, so I had to do some internet digging to 0:15:56.480 --> 0:15:59.040 kind of figure out, like what the hell, why why 0:15:59.160 --> 0:16:02.120 is she not home? So yeah, she was out in California. 0:16:02.680 --> 0:16:06.360 And long story short, I started figuring out that she 0:16:06.520 --> 0:16:10.440 was on this platform like TikTok. I'm not going to 0:16:10.480 --> 0:16:10.920 say the name. 0:16:11.320 --> 0:16:12.880 How old is How old is she at the time? 0:16:14.040 --> 0:16:21.080 She was probably twenty twenty one, twenty one? Yeah, So 0:16:21.480 --> 0:16:24.560 basically I found out that she was streaming on this 0:16:25.160 --> 0:16:28.000 app kind of like TikTok. Again, not going to say 0:16:28.000 --> 0:16:32.760 the name, but basically she was producing the crowd. She 0:16:32.880 --> 0:16:35.240 was like on this kind of like a TikTok live, 0:16:35.400 --> 0:16:39.680 but that other app, and she was basically telling me 0:16:39.760 --> 0:16:40.880 what she was on. 0:16:41.680 --> 0:16:43.800 She was she was on a cam like a cam site. 0:16:43.840 --> 0:16:48.880 She was camming basically, all right. So, long story short, 0:16:49.000 --> 0:16:50.840 my best friend and I get into the live and 0:16:50.960 --> 0:16:55.160 we all have our code names whatever. So she's like, oh, 0:16:55.360 --> 0:16:56.040 you need to tell me. 0:16:56.200 --> 0:16:59.280 Sorry, I'm sorry. You and your friends find out that 0:16:59.800 --> 0:17:03.240 you're her sister is camgirling, And as you get you 0:17:03.400 --> 0:17:05.240 just start hanging out in her live with all the 0:17:05.280 --> 0:17:09.159 guys that are jacking off to her exactly, So what 0:17:09.400 --> 0:17:11.359 inspired you to? You know, go ahead, I'll save my 0:17:11.480 --> 0:17:12.560 questions for the end of this story. 0:17:13.560 --> 0:17:18.240 So, long story short, my best friend Isaac. He decided 0:17:18.359 --> 0:17:21.679 to pay to get into the live like the next stage. 0:17:21.800 --> 0:17:24.000 So if you didn't pay, you know, if you didn't 0:17:24.040 --> 0:17:25.880 pay for the next part, you were just kicked out. 0:17:26.840 --> 0:17:30.120 We were screen recording the entire time, and it alerted 0:17:30.160 --> 0:17:33.160 my sister, which we had no idea that was a thing. 0:17:33.880 --> 0:17:37.360 So so it alerted my sister and she's like, oh 0:17:37.400 --> 0:17:39.680 my god, do not record. I'll let you stay in, 0:17:39.840 --> 0:17:42.480 but cut it out now or you're kicked out. So 0:17:42.600 --> 0:17:44.600 we just kept it going because we weren't going to 0:17:44.640 --> 0:17:45.200 stop it whatever. 0:17:45.320 --> 0:17:48.080 Okay, okay, all right, so stop right there, all right. 0:17:48.240 --> 0:17:51.440 So I'm gonna not why are you doing all of this? 0:17:53.160 --> 0:17:54.200 Just to figure out why. 0:17:56.520 --> 0:17:58.520 You hold on? So you you find out that your 0:17:58.600 --> 0:18:05.520 sister is cam girl. You go into her cam to 0:18:05.640 --> 0:18:09.399 the chat thing you screen recorded. She expresses that she 0:18:09.480 --> 0:18:11.720 does not want it to be screen recorded, and you 0:18:11.800 --> 0:18:15.360 continue to screen record it correct why. 0:18:17.160 --> 0:18:20.120 It was more this sounds terrible proof for my dad, 0:18:20.200 --> 0:18:22.719 I'm like, she is not doing good things. You need 0:18:22.800 --> 0:18:23.400 to kick her out? 0:18:24.240 --> 0:18:25.480 What why why would you? 0:18:27.560 --> 0:18:27.720 Now? 0:18:28.840 --> 0:18:31.159 Okay, So for in my entire life, she has been 0:18:31.200 --> 0:18:36.040 a pathological liar. She wasn't able to walk at graduation. 0:18:36.280 --> 0:18:40.280 She was just a very bad person overall. So her 0:18:40.320 --> 0:18:43.920 and I never really clicked together. And at that point 0:18:44.040 --> 0:18:46.639 she wasn't paying rent to my dad. She was just 0:18:46.920 --> 0:18:54.640 again lying like everything happened and yeah, so what Basically, yeah. 0:18:54.920 --> 0:18:55.399 How old are you? 0:18:56.600 --> 0:18:57.200 I'm nineteen? 0:18:57.920 --> 0:18:59.520 Why do you give why do you fuck? Why do 0:18:59.600 --> 0:19:01.080 you give a fuck about any of this? 0:19:02.880 --> 0:19:03.040 Now? 0:19:03.240 --> 0:19:06.600 I don't have a problem with like sex work online. However, 0:19:06.760 --> 0:19:10.120 it kind of hit different when it was like my sister, Yeah, 0:19:10.160 --> 0:19:12.159 I grew up with her when I you know, I 0:19:12.280 --> 0:19:15.640 was little whatever. But then she was trying to take 0:19:15.800 --> 0:19:19.520 that route again just from our history and shit, I 0:19:19.640 --> 0:19:22.800 was like, nah, you could be doing that or thing. 0:19:22.960 --> 0:19:27.720 Okay, what's your name? Okay, Okay, I'm going to highly 0:19:27.880 --> 0:19:36.040 suggest to you that, Okay, I'm gonna highly suggest to 0:19:36.119 --> 0:19:40.879 you that you abandon your interest in your sister's I'm 0:19:40.880 --> 0:19:45.200 gonna highly suggest that you abandon your interest in chastising 0:19:45.320 --> 0:19:52.440 your sister's life for any reason other than out of 0:19:52.760 --> 0:19:58.720 out of out of love for her and desire for 0:19:58.880 --> 0:20:02.320 her to you know, be better whatever you think that 0:20:02.480 --> 0:20:07.960 looks like. Highly suggests you abandon chastising your sister's life 0:20:08.359 --> 0:20:11.760 and focus on your own because this, like I mean 0:20:11.840 --> 0:20:14.800 screen recording your sister's cam sessions and send them to 0:20:14.840 --> 0:20:19.200 your dad. There's there's just no reason for you to 0:20:19.280 --> 0:20:19.760 be doing that. 0:20:21.320 --> 0:20:21.520 Yeah. 0:20:21.600 --> 0:20:24.080 It was like, it's it's not helpful for anyone. 0:20:24.960 --> 0:20:25.160 Yeah. 0:20:25.280 --> 0:20:27.200 So we were getting stuff like in the mail, like 0:20:27.280 --> 0:20:29.399 it was for taxes, so like basically she had to 0:20:29.480 --> 0:20:32.320 pay whatever company it was, but she wasn't paying them. 0:20:32.440 --> 0:20:34.520 My dad it had like a weird name. He's like, 0:20:34.560 --> 0:20:37.399 can you figure this out? What I am looking at here? 0:20:37.480 --> 0:20:40.359 I'm like yeah, okay. So then that kind of firaled 0:20:40.400 --> 0:20:43.960 into me finding what the thing was and all that stuff. 0:20:47.760 --> 0:20:50.840 Still, why do you like? This just doesn't seem like 0:20:50.960 --> 0:20:52.800 something that's productive for you to get involved in. 0:20:54.680 --> 0:20:57.159 No, but it was very interesting with the outcome of 0:20:57.240 --> 0:21:00.760 it because it was not expecting it at all type 0:21:00.800 --> 0:21:01.120 of thing. 0:21:03.800 --> 0:21:05.520 What's your relationship? Like with your sister? 0:21:06.760 --> 0:21:09.960 We do not talk. I've tried reaching out and being like, hey, 0:21:10.160 --> 0:21:12.720 how are you. She moved to a different state. I 0:21:12.760 --> 0:21:16.080 think she's in Lake Tennessee right now. I'm like, hey, 0:21:16.880 --> 0:21:18.680 you want to talk and she's like, oh yeah, and 0:21:18.760 --> 0:21:21.560 then kind of just dropped everything. Whatever. 0:21:22.600 --> 0:21:24.920 I don't think I don't think if you have the 0:21:25.000 --> 0:21:27.720 desire to repair your relationship with your sister, I don't 0:21:27.720 --> 0:21:29.080 know if this is the way to go about it. 0:21:30.080 --> 0:21:30.280 Yeah. 0:21:30.440 --> 0:21:32.840 I mean she doesn't know that I told my dad, 0:21:32.960 --> 0:21:37.280 so that was like nothing in the work. So yeah, 0:21:37.720 --> 0:21:40.680 I would love to repair my relationship with my sister, 0:21:40.880 --> 0:21:45.120 but from everything she did in like my childhood and whatnot, 0:21:45.200 --> 0:21:49.879 it was just like it's hard to get back to it. 0:21:50.000 --> 0:21:50.159 You know. 0:21:51.680 --> 0:21:54.119 Listen, Kay, I'm not going to tell you whether or 0:21:54.119 --> 0:21:57.359 not you should attempt it to repair your relationship with 0:21:57.440 --> 0:22:01.639 your sister, but I will say to you, I'm like, 0:22:05.480 --> 0:22:07.320 get it and you and the fact the fact you 0:22:07.400 --> 0:22:10.840 say it's interesting, right, yeah, like this was this was 0:22:10.920 --> 0:22:11.960 like entertainment for you. 0:22:13.920 --> 0:22:14.320 Somewhat. 0:22:14.440 --> 0:22:17.680 Yeah, Okay, I think you should. I think and I 0:22:17.760 --> 0:22:19.840 mean this, I'm not saying this to like be addict 0:22:19.840 --> 0:22:23.159 to you. I think you should find better sources of entertainment. Okay. 0:22:23.320 --> 0:22:27.440 I think, like, you know, one thing that will just 0:22:28.200 --> 0:22:34.040 fuck you up hard is if you don't have anything 0:22:34.119 --> 0:22:37.919 going on in your own life, and as a distraction 0:22:38.880 --> 0:22:41.680 from doing whatever you got to do to make it 0:22:41.760 --> 0:22:43.440 so that there's stuff going in your own life, you 0:22:43.960 --> 0:22:47.280 fuck around with other people. You know, that's a that's 0:22:47.320 --> 0:22:51.400 a and and what I mean whatever, Man, you're like young, 0:22:51.520 --> 0:22:56.040 So I don't fault you for not understanding that right now, 0:22:56.160 --> 0:23:00.640