1 00:00:01,240 --> 00:00:04,040 Speaker 1: It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if 2 00:00:04,040 --> 00:00:07,440 Speaker 1: you need advice on a relationship's work, sex, parenting, or more, 3 00:00:07,840 --> 00:00:11,119 Speaker 1: please submit your Strawberry letter to stefarfm dot com. All 4 00:00:11,119 --> 00:00:13,840 Speaker 1: you have to do is click submit Strawberry Letter and 5 00:00:13,840 --> 00:00:16,079 Speaker 1: we could be reading your letter live on the air, 6 00:00:16,280 --> 00:00:19,120 Speaker 1: Pop Pop, just like we're gonna read this one right here, 7 00:00:19,200 --> 00:00:21,599 Speaker 1: right now. You never know, it could be yours. You 8 00:00:21,760 --> 00:00:23,880 Speaker 1: never know. Buckle up and hold on tight. We got 9 00:00:23,880 --> 00:00:25,880 Speaker 1: it for you here it is draw up very letter. 10 00:00:26,480 --> 00:00:30,160 Speaker 1: Thank you. Nephew's subject. My husband really enjoyed the prom. 11 00:00:30,520 --> 00:00:33,960 Speaker 1: Just Stephen Shirley. I've been married for eleven years and 12 00:00:34,080 --> 00:00:36,760 Speaker 1: I have one daughter that's fifteen, and my husband and 13 00:00:36,800 --> 00:00:39,080 Speaker 1: I have an eight year old. My husband is a 14 00:00:39,120 --> 00:00:41,200 Speaker 1: great man, and he stepped up to be a father 15 00:00:41,280 --> 00:00:45,440 Speaker 1: to my daughter, whose biological father passed away. My husband 16 00:00:45,479 --> 00:00:48,040 Speaker 1: is a tutor at my daughter's school and he volunteers 17 00:00:48,120 --> 00:00:51,360 Speaker 1: at events as the makeshift security guard at the school. 18 00:00:51,800 --> 00:00:54,760 Speaker 1: Prom was last weekend and my husband volunteered to be 19 00:00:54,800 --> 00:00:58,400 Speaker 1: a chaperone, so he got a tux and everything. We 20 00:00:58,480 --> 00:01:00,640 Speaker 1: allowed our daughter to go to the prom, but we 21 00:01:00,640 --> 00:01:03,280 Speaker 1: were nervous. We were a nervous wreck because she is 22 00:01:03,320 --> 00:01:06,280 Speaker 1: so young. When my fine husband left to go to 23 00:01:06,319 --> 00:01:09,400 Speaker 1: the prom, he was sharp. It was fun to see 24 00:01:09,440 --> 00:01:12,119 Speaker 1: my husband so excited about it, because he never went 25 00:01:12,160 --> 00:01:14,560 Speaker 1: to his prom. I got a call from one of 26 00:01:14,600 --> 00:01:17,800 Speaker 1: my sorrows who was working as a chaperone too, and 27 00:01:17,959 --> 00:01:21,760 Speaker 1: she hinted that my husband was doing too much at 28 00:01:21,800 --> 00:01:24,880 Speaker 1: the prom. Apparently he was on the dance floor with 29 00:01:24,920 --> 00:01:28,600 Speaker 1: the cheerleader coach and even slow danced with her. I 30 00:01:28,680 --> 00:01:31,120 Speaker 1: let him have his fun, and I was watching a 31 00:01:31,200 --> 00:01:34,440 Speaker 1: movie at home. My daughter observed her curfew and she 32 00:01:34,600 --> 00:01:38,240 Speaker 1: was home by midnight. My husband was supposed to be 33 00:01:38,360 --> 00:01:41,880 Speaker 1: right behind her, but she said he left the prom 34 00:01:42,040 --> 00:01:46,440 Speaker 1: around eleven pm. I told her to watch her brother 35 00:01:46,520 --> 00:01:48,920 Speaker 1: and I'll be back. I went to the school and 36 00:01:49,000 --> 00:01:51,520 Speaker 1: my husband's car was there, but he wasn't in the gym. 37 00:01:51,760 --> 00:01:54,120 Speaker 1: I call my husband's phone and he was out of 38 00:01:54,160 --> 00:01:57,280 Speaker 1: breath and clearly startled. I told him I was at 39 00:01:57,320 --> 00:01:59,480 Speaker 1: the school, and he said he was on his way home. 40 00:02:00,040 --> 00:02:02,320 Speaker 1: His car was no longer in the parking lot, so 41 00:02:02,360 --> 00:02:06,160 Speaker 1: I left. He got home an hour later, a bit disheveled, 42 00:02:06,480 --> 00:02:09,080 Speaker 1: and he had been drinking. He will not allow me 43 00:02:09,120 --> 00:02:12,040 Speaker 1: to question him about it, and that doesn't sit well 44 00:02:12,040 --> 00:02:14,840 Speaker 1: with me. Should I call my sorrow for more info? 45 00:02:15,000 --> 00:02:18,760 Speaker 1: Or let this go and trust him? Please? Do not 46 00:02:18,880 --> 00:02:22,359 Speaker 1: let this go. You deserve some respect, You deserve some answers. 47 00:02:22,440 --> 00:02:25,119 Speaker 1: Is about what happened, and you're asking should you trust him? 48 00:02:25,400 --> 00:02:28,960 Speaker 1: Should you trust the man who your daughter said left 49 00:02:28,960 --> 00:02:33,600 Speaker 1: the prom around eleven pm? The man whose car was 50 00:02:33,639 --> 00:02:35,720 Speaker 1: at the school but he was nowhere to be found? 51 00:02:35,720 --> 00:02:38,919 Speaker 1: Should you trust him? The man who answered his phone 52 00:02:38,960 --> 00:02:42,000 Speaker 1: all out of breath and who was clearly startled when 53 00:02:42,040 --> 00:02:45,799 Speaker 1: you his wife called. Should you trust him? The man 54 00:02:45,840 --> 00:02:47,600 Speaker 1: who told you he was on his way home and 55 00:02:47,600 --> 00:02:50,880 Speaker 1: didn't get there until about an hour later, all drunken, disheveled. 56 00:02:51,240 --> 00:02:57,280 Speaker 1: Trust him. This man won't even allow you, allow you 57 00:02:57,280 --> 00:03:00,680 Speaker 1: your words his wife to ask him questions about that night. 58 00:03:01,240 --> 00:03:04,919 Speaker 1: Trust him? No, I say, trust your own instincts. You 59 00:03:05,160 --> 00:03:08,239 Speaker 1: already said this doesn't sit well with you. It doesn't 60 00:03:08,240 --> 00:03:10,960 Speaker 1: sit well because it doesn't feel right. I know you're 61 00:03:11,000 --> 00:03:13,680 Speaker 1: thinking that he and the cheerleader coach did something that night. 62 00:03:13,760 --> 00:03:16,440 Speaker 1: All the signs point to it. Just know that when 63 00:03:16,440 --> 00:03:19,840 Speaker 1: you ask him, he's gonna lie. He is going to lie. 64 00:03:20,040 --> 00:03:22,320 Speaker 1: Be ready for that that's why he doesn't want you 65 00:03:22,360 --> 00:03:25,480 Speaker 1: to talk about it. But so what you gotta ask 66 00:03:25,520 --> 00:03:29,440 Speaker 1: him anyway? You should be able to ask him anything. 67 00:03:29,639 --> 00:03:33,760 Speaker 1: Find your voice, use it, say what you feel. He's 68 00:03:33,800 --> 00:03:36,960 Speaker 1: your husband. He's acting guilty, he's acting guilty. All those 69 00:03:36,960 --> 00:03:40,800 Speaker 1: things point to guilt. Whatever the case, this needs to 70 00:03:40,840 --> 00:03:43,840 Speaker 1: be addressed. It needs to be resolved. Shutting you down 71 00:03:44,200 --> 00:03:47,400 Speaker 1: is only making it worse, and it's making him look worse. 72 00:03:47,480 --> 00:03:50,840 Speaker 1: He's handling this all the way wrong, which makes it 73 00:03:50,880 --> 00:03:53,720 Speaker 1: even harder for you to trust him ever again. And 74 00:03:53,840 --> 00:03:59,280 Speaker 1: you deserve some answer, Steve, Come on, I know you 75 00:03:59,360 --> 00:04:03,080 Speaker 1: have a reason for every lie. Oh girl, you know 76 00:04:03,160 --> 00:04:08,640 Speaker 1: the question you posed really through me? All you said 77 00:04:09,320 --> 00:04:15,600 Speaker 1: he is going to lie? Yeah? Uh yeah, what he 78 00:04:15,720 --> 00:04:21,279 Speaker 1: supposed to do? If that was ever a time for 79 00:04:21,520 --> 00:04:28,480 Speaker 1: a lie? Clearly this is it. See I don't even know. 80 00:04:28,520 --> 00:04:31,000 Speaker 1: I don't even know why you aren't here. You know, Sherley, 81 00:04:31,080 --> 00:04:34,240 Speaker 1: your comments are spot on for a woman that you 82 00:04:34,240 --> 00:04:36,240 Speaker 1: don't want to know. All this bedoumb out of a girl. 83 00:04:36,320 --> 00:04:46,120 Speaker 1: He gonna lie, duh, yes, but he gonna lie? What want? 84 00:04:46,720 --> 00:04:53,640 Speaker 1: What good will the truth do? In this letter? I 85 00:04:53,760 --> 00:04:58,800 Speaker 1: will walk you through this letter. I will show you 86 00:04:58,880 --> 00:05:01,800 Speaker 1: in this letter. Look, I don't know what happened, but 87 00:05:01,839 --> 00:05:08,039 Speaker 1: I'm gonna show you how to lie. I'm on I'm 88 00:05:08,080 --> 00:05:11,360 Speaker 1: on him. How this story got to go. You've been 89 00:05:11,400 --> 00:05:14,520 Speaker 1: married eleven years, you got a daughter and fifteen Your 90 00:05:14,600 --> 00:05:17,320 Speaker 1: husband and I got an eight year old together. Husband's 91 00:05:17,360 --> 00:05:19,120 Speaker 1: a great man, stepped in and be a father from 92 00:05:19,120 --> 00:05:23,000 Speaker 1: my donal laws, her father, her father passed away. You know, 93 00:05:23,120 --> 00:05:26,320 Speaker 1: my husband is a tutor at my daughter's school. Now 94 00:05:26,800 --> 00:05:31,080 Speaker 1: that's very rare. My husband is a tutor at my 95 00:05:31,200 --> 00:05:36,200 Speaker 1: daughter's school. So obviously this man is educated. Smart guy. 96 00:05:36,680 --> 00:05:39,359 Speaker 1: You know, I can't be no tutor at the school. 97 00:05:39,839 --> 00:05:43,800 Speaker 1: All these kids feinn't fail. This is nothing about you. 98 00:05:44,120 --> 00:05:47,640 Speaker 1: I'm just saying, so you you lucky right there that 99 00:05:47,680 --> 00:05:52,520 Speaker 1: you got a man that can tutor kids. Then he 100 00:05:52,680 --> 00:05:56,800 Speaker 1: volunteers at event as a makeshift security guard at the flow. 101 00:05:57,200 --> 00:05:58,919 Speaker 1: This ain't a public school. I can tell you that 102 00:05:59,040 --> 00:06:01,680 Speaker 1: right now, because you can't go in as a makeshift 103 00:06:01,760 --> 00:06:04,680 Speaker 1: security guarding the real inner city public school, not the 104 00:06:04,720 --> 00:06:07,240 Speaker 1: one on mar Luke King you asked. Got to go 105 00:06:07,320 --> 00:06:12,200 Speaker 1: in here with gun handling, the experience, judo ass whipping. 106 00:06:12,320 --> 00:06:14,479 Speaker 1: You got to be. You got to really have set 107 00:06:14,480 --> 00:06:16,960 Speaker 1: of hands in here, because some of these kids will 108 00:06:17,120 --> 00:06:20,560 Speaker 1: knock your ass out. So this is not a public school. 109 00:06:20,920 --> 00:06:23,240 Speaker 1: This nice little cushion ass private school where you can 110 00:06:23,320 --> 00:06:26,200 Speaker 1: volunteer and be a couple of things. Yeah, yeah, you 111 00:06:26,360 --> 00:06:30,600 Speaker 1: we have a kid at our school. Real security, look 112 00:06:30,680 --> 00:06:34,000 Speaker 1: like security. Look your husband ain't it? And he'd the 113 00:06:34,120 --> 00:06:36,600 Speaker 1: volunteer touted you came, you can't tu to me in 114 00:06:36,720 --> 00:06:40,960 Speaker 1: math and then whip my ass and you just hang on, Steve, 115 00:06:41,080 --> 00:06:43,800 Speaker 1: hang on. We'll have part two of your your response 116 00:06:43,839 --> 00:06:46,760 Speaker 1: coming up at twenty three minutes after the hour. Today's 117 00:06:46,800 --> 00:06:50,679 Speaker 1: Strawberry Letters, subject to my husband really enjoyed the problem. 118 00:06:50,880 --> 00:06:53,840 Speaker 1: We'll get back into it right after this. You're listening 119 00:06:54,080 --> 00:06:58,200 Speaker 1: to morning show. All right, Come on, Steve, let's recap 120 00:06:58,240 --> 00:07:02,960 Speaker 1: today's strawberry letter, the subject my husband really enjoyed the problem. 121 00:07:03,279 --> 00:07:05,839 Speaker 1: Now let's get back into this ridiculous letter. Who has 122 00:07:05,920 --> 00:07:08,520 Speaker 1: Shirley posed the question to the woman, You've got to 123 00:07:08,560 --> 00:07:11,760 Speaker 1: find this stuff out? What you do? And then Shirley 124 00:07:11,840 --> 00:07:14,280 Speaker 1: Ford warned the woman that he is going to lie. 125 00:07:15,760 --> 00:07:22,880 Speaker 1: My response to that, yeah, of course he has to lie. 126 00:07:22,880 --> 00:07:26,200 Speaker 1: What what This is the perfect time for same time? 127 00:07:26,320 --> 00:07:30,520 Speaker 1: Tell the truth now let's walk. Hey, what Shirley. He 128 00:07:30,560 --> 00:07:33,880 Speaker 1: should have lied before he shut her down. That's that's 129 00:07:33,880 --> 00:07:36,800 Speaker 1: the real issue. That's because he because he ain't used 130 00:07:36,800 --> 00:07:40,320 Speaker 1: to line. Yeah, he volunteered all down at school tutors 131 00:07:40,360 --> 00:07:42,760 Speaker 1: and all this head and didn't make shift security guard. 132 00:07:43,120 --> 00:07:45,680 Speaker 1: He ain't good at this. Me really no player. He 133 00:07:45,760 --> 00:07:48,880 Speaker 1: just got caught up. Your husband is a two at 134 00:07:48,880 --> 00:07:52,800 Speaker 1: your daughter school. He volunteers as events or makeshift security 135 00:07:52,800 --> 00:07:55,280 Speaker 1: guard at the schools. He is a nice, little little 136 00:07:55,360 --> 00:07:58,960 Speaker 1: little little public private school. You go. The prom was 137 00:07:59,080 --> 00:08:02,760 Speaker 1: last weekend. Husband volunteered to be a chaperone, so he 138 00:08:02,800 --> 00:08:05,720 Speaker 1: got a text and everything. We allowed our daughter to 139 00:08:05,760 --> 00:08:07,680 Speaker 1: go to the prom, but we were nervous as wreck, 140 00:08:07,960 --> 00:08:12,000 Speaker 1: nervous wreck because she was so young. When my fine 141 00:08:12,080 --> 00:08:14,559 Speaker 1: husband left to go to the prom, he was shop 142 00:08:14,720 --> 00:08:20,160 Speaker 1: now right here, he's fine, you know, you saying he fine? 143 00:08:20,280 --> 00:08:25,320 Speaker 1: You know, well, yeah, that's that's you know he you know, 144 00:08:26,840 --> 00:08:29,040 Speaker 1: I mean, you know he could be you know, well, 145 00:08:29,120 --> 00:08:33,680 Speaker 1: you know what it is. Well, Tommy, thank you where 146 00:08:36,080 --> 00:08:40,520 Speaker 1: you know. But she said it about her husband, right see, 147 00:08:40,520 --> 00:08:46,679 Speaker 1: But you know, both people can be wrong. Somebody said 148 00:08:46,760 --> 00:08:50,600 Speaker 1: somebody is fine. You get mad. It was fun to 149 00:08:50,640 --> 00:08:53,280 Speaker 1: see my husband so excited to be out about it 150 00:08:53,320 --> 00:08:56,360 Speaker 1: because he never went to his prom. Got a call 151 00:08:56,480 --> 00:08:58,240 Speaker 1: from one of my soul rolls who was working as 152 00:08:58,240 --> 00:09:01,320 Speaker 1: a chaperone too. She hinted that husband was doing too 153 00:09:01,440 --> 00:09:05,319 Speaker 1: much at the prom. Apparently he was on the dance 154 00:09:05,360 --> 00:09:08,439 Speaker 1: floor with the child the coach and even slow dance 155 00:09:08,520 --> 00:09:15,000 Speaker 1: with Huck. Yeah, yeah, it didn't got good. Well, you 156 00:09:15,520 --> 00:09:19,360 Speaker 1: did say he missed the prom. Now, I bet you 157 00:09:19,440 --> 00:09:24,120 Speaker 1: the chill eading coach his friend that, I bet you. Yeah, yeah, 158 00:09:24,160 --> 00:09:26,040 Speaker 1: he put that tucks on. He out there with the 159 00:09:26,160 --> 00:09:30,720 Speaker 1: chill eading coach. Yeah, you wasn't now, and you know 160 00:09:30,800 --> 00:09:33,360 Speaker 1: he slowed dance with him. I let him have his 161 00:09:33,520 --> 00:09:37,000 Speaker 1: fun and I was watching a movie at home. You 162 00:09:37,120 --> 00:09:40,720 Speaker 1: might have calm about this. My daughter observed her curfew 163 00:09:40,760 --> 00:09:44,600 Speaker 1: and she was home by midnight. My husband was supposed 164 00:09:44,600 --> 00:09:46,920 Speaker 1: to be right behind her, but she said he left 165 00:09:46,920 --> 00:09:54,160 Speaker 1: the prim round eleven. Yeah, I can bet you that 166 00:09:54,280 --> 00:09:58,440 Speaker 1: the chill leading coach was gone too. I told her 167 00:09:58,480 --> 00:10:00,680 Speaker 1: to watch her brother and I'll be I went up 168 00:10:00,720 --> 00:10:04,480 Speaker 1: to the school and my husband's car was there, but 169 00:10:04,600 --> 00:10:08,480 Speaker 1: he wasn't in the gym. I called my husband's phone 170 00:10:08,520 --> 00:10:11,120 Speaker 1: and he was out of breath and clearly startled. Now 171 00:10:11,240 --> 00:10:15,240 Speaker 1: right here, this is the amateur that he is. What 172 00:10:15,600 --> 00:10:21,439 Speaker 1: the hell did you answer that phone? Because you had 173 00:10:21,520 --> 00:10:25,600 Speaker 1: the phone on silence so you wouldn't disrupt the music 174 00:10:25,760 --> 00:10:31,559 Speaker 1: at the promp. That's why you had that phone on solid. 175 00:10:32,120 --> 00:10:39,200 Speaker 1: But he gonna answer, Hey, hey, baby, what's happing? What 176 00:10:39,320 --> 00:10:44,079 Speaker 1: you need? I told him, I'm at the school. I'm 177 00:10:44,160 --> 00:10:47,319 Speaker 1: up at school. He said, well, I'm on the way home. 178 00:10:48,000 --> 00:10:50,200 Speaker 1: His car was no longer in the parking lot. See 179 00:10:50,200 --> 00:10:53,320 Speaker 1: when you came out the gym, See he saw your 180 00:10:53,360 --> 00:10:56,000 Speaker 1: car park up, park pull up. They was in a 181 00:10:56,120 --> 00:10:59,360 Speaker 1: classroom looking at the parking lot. When he saw your 182 00:10:59,480 --> 00:11:03,000 Speaker 1: car pull up, he started pulling himself together. So when 183 00:11:03,000 --> 00:11:06,040 Speaker 1: you went into the gym, he lass came down off 184 00:11:06,080 --> 00:11:09,280 Speaker 1: that second floor, ran round the back of the school. 185 00:11:09,760 --> 00:11:13,040 Speaker 1: He and his card. Now, so when you said I'm 186 00:11:13,040 --> 00:11:16,640 Speaker 1: at the school, where are you? I'm on my way home, 187 00:11:16,720 --> 00:11:18,720 Speaker 1: he pulled his car out of that So now you 188 00:11:18,760 --> 00:11:25,400 Speaker 1: ain't even seeing his carving another line. His car was 189 00:11:25,440 --> 00:11:27,400 Speaker 1: no longer in the parking lot. So I left. He 190 00:11:27,440 --> 00:11:30,920 Speaker 1: got home an hour later. God dumb, But then he 191 00:11:30,960 --> 00:11:33,000 Speaker 1: had to go back to finish. See you what you 192 00:11:33,000 --> 00:11:35,880 Speaker 1: don't understand is he got back out. He told her 193 00:11:35,880 --> 00:11:38,200 Speaker 1: to wait right here. He drove his card in the 194 00:11:38,240 --> 00:11:40,559 Speaker 1: parking lot, waited on you to lead, and he hooked 195 00:11:40,559 --> 00:11:42,640 Speaker 1: back around on the other side of that school, went 196 00:11:42,679 --> 00:11:44,680 Speaker 1: on back up stairs with the chill lead to coach 197 00:11:45,040 --> 00:11:48,880 Speaker 1: that what happened him? So now he was a He 198 00:11:48,960 --> 00:11:52,600 Speaker 1: got home later, Yeah, he had to. Why would he 199 00:11:52,679 --> 00:11:55,520 Speaker 1: get home an hour later? So you gotta finish it 200 00:11:55,640 --> 00:11:58,880 Speaker 1: was unfinished business. He got home an hour later, a 201 00:11:59,000 --> 00:12:02,120 Speaker 1: bit dishevel. He had been drinking. He will not allow 202 00:12:02,200 --> 00:12:04,320 Speaker 1: me to question about it, and that doesn't sit well 203 00:12:04,360 --> 00:12:06,920 Speaker 1: with me. The reason he won't allow you to question 204 00:12:07,040 --> 00:12:09,920 Speaker 1: him about it because he don't have to lie together yet. 205 00:12:10,480 --> 00:12:13,520 Speaker 1: Should I call my soul or for more info or 206 00:12:13,640 --> 00:12:17,079 Speaker 1: let this go and trust him? So now, surely ask 207 00:12:17,160 --> 00:12:19,160 Speaker 1: me whatever you want to ask me about the night, 208 00:12:19,200 --> 00:12:21,080 Speaker 1: and I can tell this dude how to go ahead, 209 00:12:21,120 --> 00:12:23,560 Speaker 1: sy anything. Okay, I came to the school. I drove 210 00:12:23,640 --> 00:12:27,800 Speaker 1: up to the school to find you. Where were you home? 211 00:12:28,400 --> 00:12:31,960 Speaker 1: You weren't in the gym. Your car was outside though, Oh, 212 00:12:32,000 --> 00:12:34,760 Speaker 1: that wasn't my car. Excuse me, that wasn't my car. 213 00:12:35,640 --> 00:12:39,640 Speaker 1: Maybe that was your car, your baby? That ain't the 214 00:12:39,640 --> 00:12:43,240 Speaker 1: only foward, they say, But it's the only one with 215 00:12:43,440 --> 00:12:47,280 Speaker 1: your license plate. Okay, that didn't have my license plate. 216 00:12:47,720 --> 00:12:52,800 Speaker 1: The chemistry teacher got license plate. Damn there, Jeff light Line. 217 00:12:53,880 --> 00:12:58,320 Speaker 1: These are some weak lies. Well right now that's strong enough, 218 00:12:58,360 --> 00:13:03,240 Speaker 1: because you ain't seen all right, listen, Please leave your 219 00:13:03,240 --> 00:13:07,120 Speaker 1: comments on Today's Strawberry Letter on Instagram and at Steve 220 00:13:07,120 --> 00:13:10,360 Speaker 1: Harvey FM. Please check out the Strawberry Letter podcast on demand. 221 00:13:10,640 --> 00:13:14,080 Speaker 1: Coming up next Sports Talk with Junior. Right after this, 222 00:13:14,720 --> 00:13:17,439 Speaker 1: you're listening to the Stave Harvey Morning Show.