WEBVTT - Dating During a Pandemic with DJ Danl + Ali 0:00:00.080 --> 0:00:02.560 My name is Alex, and I cannot imagine how shitty 0:00:02.560 --> 0:00:10.760 it is to date in the pandemic. No, no, it 0:00:10.840 --> 0:00:26.320 will be alright forever nor forever alright. So yeah, like 0:00:26.360 --> 0:00:28.280 I said, I don't know. I don't even know what 0:00:28.320 --> 0:00:30.200 would it would be like to be single right now. 0:00:30.280 --> 0:00:33.280 I'm very, very fortunate that I have an incredible girlfriend 0:00:33.320 --> 0:00:37.080 that I've dated for quite a bit before the pandemic started. 0:00:37.400 --> 0:00:40.040 But when the pandemic started, uh, not to give too 0:00:40.159 --> 0:00:43.440 much personal information, she went home to her parents house, 0:00:43.479 --> 0:00:45.040 about like an hour and a half away from where 0:00:45.040 --> 0:00:47.800 I live, and her parents did not want her to 0:00:47.920 --> 0:00:50.360 leave the house at all. So for the first month 0:00:50.400 --> 0:00:53.040 and a half of the pandemic, I did not get 0:00:53.080 --> 0:00:57.920 to see my girlfriend, which for me, uh. My therapist 0:00:57.960 --> 0:01:01.840 says that I have something called mental health issues, and 0:01:01.960 --> 0:01:04.080 for me at least, I'm a pretty dependent person, so 0:01:04.120 --> 0:01:06.039 I love being with other people. I don't really like 0:01:06.080 --> 0:01:09.240 being alone. So it was not a great time, especially 0:01:09.280 --> 0:01:13.679 for me and and Madison. We fought, sorry, Babe, but 0:01:13.720 --> 0:01:15.760 we didn't. We would fight about stupid things, and I 0:01:15.800 --> 0:01:17.880 would make all this fuss about not getting to see her, 0:01:18.160 --> 0:01:20.320 But eventually I got to see her and it was. 0:01:20.400 --> 0:01:23.679 It was awesome. I also, since the pandemic started, moved 0:01:23.720 --> 0:01:26.160 to a new house, which doesn't seem like it makes 0:01:26.160 --> 0:01:28.960 sense right now, but with that new house came new roommates. 0:01:29.000 --> 0:01:31.479 And both of my roommates, one of them has been 0:01:31.520 --> 0:01:34.440 single the whole pandemic and the other was in a 0:01:34.480 --> 0:01:38.319 relationship and that relationship ended during the pandemic, so now 0:01:38.440 --> 0:01:40.839 is also single. So I got two single roommates, ladies. 0:01:41.040 --> 0:01:43.160 But if you are single and you live in Los Angeles, 0:01:43.720 --> 0:01:45.680 actually no, I can't say that. Damn it, We're in 0:01:45.720 --> 0:01:48.160 the pandemic. That's what this whole episode is about. That's 0:01:48.160 --> 0:01:51.320 exactly why we're having this episode is because through all 0:01:51.360 --> 0:01:55.400 of this madness of being single and having to quarantine. 0:01:55.560 --> 0:01:57.520 But also I think one of the biggest things is 0:01:57.840 --> 0:02:00.120 the angry therapist that we have on on one the 0:02:00.120 --> 0:02:02.600 episodes of this podcast said, you're you know, we're not 0:02:02.680 --> 0:02:05.680 meant to live life alone. And if you're single and 0:02:05.720 --> 0:02:08.280 you live away from your family and some people don't 0:02:08.280 --> 0:02:10.640 even have a roommate, and we're supposed to be locked 0:02:10.680 --> 0:02:13.600 away in our houses and staying home, it's kind of 0:02:13.639 --> 0:02:15.160 like the opposite of that, Like we're not meant to 0:02:15.200 --> 0:02:17.079 live life alone, but at the same time, don't leave 0:02:17.080 --> 0:02:19.280 your house. And if you live by yourself, tough luck. 0:02:19.680 --> 0:02:23.360 So what got me thinking? How do you date during 0:02:23.360 --> 0:02:26.600 a pandemic? And more importantly and more dramatically for Catherine 0:02:26.639 --> 0:02:28.600 Law who wrote this out herself, I think we need 0:02:28.680 --> 0:02:32.000 this how do you fall in love when the world 0:02:32.600 --> 0:02:39.960 falls apart? No? What is up everybody? This is let's 0:02:39.960 --> 0:02:42.040 get into it. This is my podcast where we talk 0:02:42.080 --> 0:02:44.880 about everything, things that I go through for the most part, 0:02:44.919 --> 0:02:46.440 but a lot of the times we also talk about 0:02:46.480 --> 0:02:48.200 things that I don't go through, things that I have 0:02:48.320 --> 0:02:51.240 to kind of hear other people's stories about. And so 0:02:51.320 --> 0:02:53.519 today we have an awesome episode that is going to 0:02:53.600 --> 0:02:56.960 get three different views of what it's like to date 0:02:57.400 --> 0:03:00.120 during a pandemic. Myself, like I had mentioned, I've been 0:03:00.160 --> 0:03:03.040 in a relationship since before the pandemic, and my two 0:03:03.120 --> 0:03:06.640 guests both have unique stories themselves as well. First up, 0:03:06.680 --> 0:03:11.960 I have a DJ podcast engineer, podcast producer, podcast editor 0:03:12.080 --> 0:03:15.880 occasional on my personality for I heart radio, longtime music 0:03:15.919 --> 0:03:18.119 lover with the history and dance music. As a part 0:03:18.160 --> 0:03:21.519 of the DJ duo Gladiator. He's been recognized at Sweet 0:03:21.520 --> 0:03:27.280 Green ones, Daniel, Daniel DJ Daniel good Man, what's up 0:03:27.480 --> 0:03:29.840 for having me? I'm honored to be here. How you doing, man, 0:03:30.480 --> 0:03:32.320 I'm doing really well. I'm starting to think after that 0:03:32.320 --> 0:03:34.160 that might have been my best intro I've ever done. 0:03:34.200 --> 0:03:36.520 And I'm starting to Catherine, we need to we need 0:03:36.560 --> 0:03:39.120 to add some like some pump up music, like like 0:03:39.160 --> 0:03:42.240 as if we're yeah, like some basketball coming out of 0:03:42.400 --> 0:03:47.280 basketball intro music. Um, Daniel, we're gonna be hearing about 0:03:47.320 --> 0:03:51.080 your dating life and your dating his story of being 0:03:51.080 --> 0:03:54.640 in a pandemic and still finding love. I'm so excited 0:03:54.680 --> 0:03:56.800 and with you. We have another story, and this one's 0:03:56.920 --> 0:03:59.640 very interesting. We're gonna keep her last name out of 0:03:59.680 --> 0:04:03.080 it because we want the juiciest of the juicy details. 0:04:03.240 --> 0:04:07.600 She is, she lives in a place ken I'm not 0:04:07.600 --> 0:04:09.600 even gonna say we're gonna keep it anonymous because I 0:04:09.640 --> 0:04:12.000 want I want the juicy details that I have been 0:04:12.040 --> 0:04:15.080 told are going to come on this episode. So Aside 0:04:15.080 --> 0:04:18.440 from emulating Carrie Bradshaw's dating mishaps, she spends much of 0:04:18.440 --> 0:04:21.679 her free time producing stand up comedy, most recently producing 0:04:21.680 --> 0:04:24.520 outdoor shows to raise money for a local nonprofit in 0:04:24.600 --> 0:04:28.000 her own neighborhood. How sweet is it? Ali? Last name? 0:04:28.120 --> 0:04:30.320 How are you? Ali? Last name? I'm good, Thanks for 0:04:30.400 --> 0:04:33.440 having me, Alex. I'm so excited to hear these stories. 0:04:34.279 --> 0:04:36.200 We're gonna have some cool topics. We're talking about love 0:04:36.279 --> 0:04:38.240 during the lockdown. That is going to be you and me, 0:04:38.360 --> 0:04:40.920 big big, big d Big Daniel. I'm not going to 0:04:41.000 --> 0:04:45.200 call you big d. I felt I was going to 0:04:45.320 --> 0:04:47.000 let it slide, but it felt a little it felt 0:04:47.000 --> 0:04:50.480 a little bit weird with both of our girlfriends. Um uh. 0:04:50.600 --> 0:04:52.479 Then after that, Ali, you and I are gonna be 0:04:52.480 --> 0:04:55.599 talking about a fresh hell of first date. I cannot 0:04:55.680 --> 0:04:59.040 wait for that. Um. And then lastly, we have Netflix 0:04:59.080 --> 0:05:03.320 and absolutely zero chill. But before we get into those topics, 0:05:03.560 --> 0:05:05.400 I have a question that I ask all of my guests, 0:05:05.400 --> 0:05:08.159 and that question is what are you doing this week 0:05:08.600 --> 0:05:12.200 to improve yourself? Um? I'll go first. I've had a 0:05:12.320 --> 0:05:16.000 craziest stressful week. If we're dating or time stamping, where 0:05:16.040 --> 0:05:18.640 this recording is happening, I just finished my virtual tour 0:05:19.320 --> 0:05:22.200 for the Gospel of twenty three. I worked with two 0:05:22.240 --> 0:05:26.000 different brands, I sent in two different auditions, and it 0:05:26.080 --> 0:05:29.120 was literally it felt like for Monday through Thursday from 0:05:29.120 --> 0:05:33.360 from actually probably Sunday till Thursday, I spent maybe ten 0:05:33.400 --> 0:05:36.880 minutes in total not working, like not even a lie. 0:05:36.920 --> 0:05:38.680 I'm either sleeping or I was working. And I had 0:05:38.720 --> 0:05:41.520 ten minutes of of a break and uh, and I 0:05:41.560 --> 0:05:43.599 was getting super super stressed and I was being super 0:05:43.600 --> 0:05:46.120 super hard on myself. And in the middle of that, 0:05:46.240 --> 0:05:48.000 I spoke with one of my really really good friends 0:05:48.000 --> 0:05:50.720 and also my girlfriend, who both of them said this 0:05:50.839 --> 0:05:53.240 mantra that I tell everybody, and I'm very bad at 0:05:53.240 --> 0:05:55.280 taking my own advice, but it was one thing at 0:05:55.320 --> 0:05:56.920 a time. You just gotta focus on one thing at 0:05:56.920 --> 0:05:58.919 a time, don't focus on the big picture of everything 0:05:58.920 --> 0:06:01.600 that has to get done, just you know, like Jude Weang, 0:06:01.680 --> 0:06:04.360 the director of our movie Finding All Hanna said when 0:06:04.400 --> 0:06:06.839 we were filming Bird by Bird, one thing at a time, 0:06:06.880 --> 0:06:08.600 we just gotta just gotta get it done. So that's 0:06:08.600 --> 0:06:10.520 something that I've been trying to really implement, taking my 0:06:10.560 --> 0:06:14.120 own advice and doing that. That being said, Danield, you 0:06:14.160 --> 0:06:18.039 got something for me, um sure, you know. Very recently, 0:06:18.080 --> 0:06:20.000 this is also a bit of a side note personal story, 0:06:20.040 --> 0:06:23.800 but a third roommate just moved into our apartment and 0:06:23.960 --> 0:06:27.920 with that came kind of a whole new energy around uh, 0:06:28.200 --> 0:06:31.120 personal health. We've all been getting into working out, so 0:06:31.120 --> 0:06:33.320 there's three people in the house total. We've been getting 0:06:33.320 --> 0:06:36.840 into working out as a trio and being each other's 0:06:36.880 --> 0:06:40.080 biggest cheerleaders and spotters when it comes to stuff like 0:06:40.120 --> 0:06:43.039 you know, bench pressent whatever, but like just having a 0:06:43.120 --> 0:06:46.240 third person in the house to really kick up the 0:06:46.279 --> 0:06:50.000 notch on better physical health, mental health, just a little 0:06:50.000 --> 0:06:52.719 bit of everything. And so having having that third person 0:06:52.800 --> 0:06:55.599 in here has been a really really good opportunity to 0:06:55.760 --> 0:06:57.640 kick the working out part in the high gear. We 0:06:57.760 --> 0:07:01.320 We've gotten the self low out during the pandemic, and 0:07:01.400 --> 0:07:03.360 now it's the all right, let's kick that back up 0:07:03.400 --> 0:07:06.520 into building up some muscle strength there. Oh, that is huge. 0:07:06.640 --> 0:07:09.000 That is huge, especially with Dylan and Sam in my house, 0:07:09.000 --> 0:07:11.360 that they're the only reason that I haven't eaten myself 0:07:11.400 --> 0:07:14.920 into oblivion, like I I very much. That's an incredible 0:07:14.960 --> 0:07:18.280 thing to get al. Al, you've got to you got 0:07:18.280 --> 0:07:20.760 two examples. Give us something. What are you doing this 0:07:20.800 --> 0:07:23.400 week to improve yourself? Well, it ties back to dating, 0:07:23.480 --> 0:07:24.800 and I don't want to make it seem like dating 0:07:24.840 --> 0:07:26.960 is my whole world and I'm not gonna lie it 0:07:27.040 --> 0:07:30.680 seems like it. I'm just kidding. I know it's definitely true. 0:07:30.760 --> 0:07:32.960 Like I make a joke that dating is my hobby, 0:07:33.200 --> 0:07:36.360 but it's more like a part time job. But really 0:07:36.520 --> 0:07:38.920 I'm trying to reel back on that and not spend 0:07:38.960 --> 0:07:41.640 so much time on dating apps because right now there's 0:07:41.680 --> 0:07:45.520 really no way to meet other people in person, so 0:07:45.600 --> 0:07:47.760 dating apps can be like all consuming like any other 0:07:47.840 --> 0:07:51.000 form of technology. So I'm trying to like put limits 0:07:51.000 --> 0:07:53.760 on how much swiping I do. Like fortunately some of 0:07:53.800 --> 0:07:55.400 the apps limited for you, but other ones you can 0:07:55.440 --> 0:07:59.800 swipe for like I'm working from home, so like no, 0:08:00.200 --> 0:08:02.640 you know, I'm trying to be more mindful about like 0:08:02.680 --> 0:08:06.280 how much time I'm spending. So I'm trying to invest 0:08:06.320 --> 0:08:08.680 myself into some other projects that are like taking my 0:08:08.720 --> 0:08:11.960 mind off of dating apps and dating because it can 0:08:11.960 --> 0:08:15.320 be very gamy. You know. That is that is the 0:08:15.360 --> 0:08:18.600 perfect answer. That is a perfect answer for this episode 0:08:18.600 --> 0:08:20.280 because it is at the end of the day. I 0:08:20.320 --> 0:08:23.360 think one of the takeaways is like you gotta still 0:08:23.360 --> 0:08:25.560 focus on the love part because I think digitally it 0:08:25.600 --> 0:08:28.800 can become, like you said, very gamy, and so I 0:08:28.880 --> 0:08:30.400 love that that was your answer, and it was the 0:08:30.400 --> 0:08:33.280 perfect segue for us to get going. So we'll be 0:08:33.280 --> 0:08:35.520 talking with you in just a bit, Ali, but Daniel's 0:08:35.520 --> 0:08:37.280 time for us to go one on one. All Let's 0:08:37.280 --> 0:08:40.760 do it, baby, alright. So Daniel, you have quite the story. 0:08:40.960 --> 0:08:44.400 So I've heard um. What before we get into the 0:08:44.440 --> 0:08:47.680 actual pandemic part of it, what was your pre quarantine, 0:08:47.679 --> 0:08:52.440 your pre pandemic dating life like, Well, I would say 0:08:52.440 --> 0:08:55.079 pretty average. I was really heavy on the apps, just 0:08:55.200 --> 0:08:59.160 participating in your traditional kind of like going to bars 0:08:59.240 --> 0:09:01.600 with friends kind of stuff, and you know, trying to 0:09:01.640 --> 0:09:04.480 do big dinner dates and big friend gatherings, just like 0:09:04.600 --> 0:09:06.640 getting as many people into the mix as possible to 0:09:06.679 --> 0:09:09.200 make it fun. I I love, you know, a standard 0:09:09.200 --> 0:09:11.280 one on one date, but sometimes just like playing it 0:09:11.360 --> 0:09:14.000 up with friends of friends and people you've never met 0:09:14.000 --> 0:09:15.720 before like that always just like a great way to 0:09:15.760 --> 0:09:17.880 you know, just meet new people and hopefully somebody really 0:09:17.880 --> 0:09:21.800 like UM. And that was fun. It wasn't really working 0:09:21.840 --> 0:09:23.960 for me. I will also say that, you know, while 0:09:23.960 --> 0:09:26.120 I was on the road for the past like ten years, 0:09:26.160 --> 0:09:28.120 I wasn't dating a whole lot. I was very busy. 0:09:28.200 --> 0:09:30.440 We were gone every weekend, so it just wasn't offering 0:09:30.440 --> 0:09:32.680 a lot of opportunities for me to like I wanted 0:09:32.720 --> 0:09:34.600 to be with someone who I wasn't being like, Okay, 0:09:34.640 --> 0:09:36.520 well you know, i'll see you in like two weeks by. 0:09:36.960 --> 0:09:39.559 This didn't seem fair to me. So yeah, my pre 0:09:39.640 --> 0:09:42.320 pandemic dating life was filled with a lot of those 0:09:42.400 --> 0:09:46.160 kinds of like the occasional one on one really standard date, 0:09:46.200 --> 0:09:47.920 but a lot of these kind of like group to 0:09:48.000 --> 0:09:51.360 get together as Korean barbecue kind of gatherings. I actually 0:09:51.360 --> 0:09:53.880 like those though, because even in a relationship, I like, 0:09:54.400 --> 0:09:56.320 but even when you're single, I think they're really good 0:09:56.360 --> 0:09:57.920 because if you're with your friends, I feel like you 0:09:57.960 --> 0:10:00.000 get a little bit more comfortable, You're you're more natural 0:10:00.000 --> 0:10:02.440 old self, whereas on the date, you're kind of like 0:10:02.520 --> 0:10:05.319 playing chess with each other, like Okay, what's gonna impress this? 0:10:05.559 --> 0:10:07.160 You know, Whereas with your friends, you kind of forget 0:10:07.240 --> 0:10:10.199 that you need to impress somebody, or you forget that 0:10:10.200 --> 0:10:11.839 that's a thing, and so you get to just kind 0:10:11.840 --> 0:10:14.160 of be yourself. And I feel like that's the most 0:10:14.160 --> 0:10:16.439 important thing I would want someone to the person i'm 0:10:16.480 --> 0:10:19.000 with to see me in my most natural self. There's 0:10:19.040 --> 0:10:21.000 nothing worse than when you date somebody and then like 0:10:21.040 --> 0:10:22.559 you go on the first few dates with them and 0:10:22.559 --> 0:10:24.520 you're like awesome, nice, and then all of a sudden 0:10:24.559 --> 0:10:27.120 that that is something and you're just like, oh, I 0:10:27.160 --> 0:10:33.840 did not know that was you. Well, luckily for for you, 0:10:33.840 --> 0:10:36.520 you get to join me in in the being in 0:10:36.520 --> 0:10:40.080 a relationship during a pandemic thing. But you're very lucky 0:10:40.280 --> 0:10:44.760 yours didn't start necessarily before, you know, a long time 0:10:44.800 --> 0:10:47.520 before the pandemic went crazy. So tell us about that. 0:10:47.880 --> 0:10:52.640 Our first date was February one. We all went into lockdown. 0:10:52.679 --> 0:10:55.840 Belie was March, so we had about three weeks of 0:10:55.920 --> 0:11:00.360 dating before everything was shut down. So I will say 0:11:00.400 --> 0:11:02.560 those first couple of dates, we even talked about do 0:11:02.559 --> 0:11:04.320 you hear about this thing going on in China? Like 0:11:04.400 --> 0:11:06.720 you hear they shut down the country pretty much, and 0:11:06.760 --> 0:11:09.920 just those kinds of like very light conversations while going 0:11:09.960 --> 0:11:12.840 to restaurants and standing at line at kasun Ori and 0:11:12.880 --> 0:11:17.720 just being like, yeah, crazy stuff, huh. And then the 0:11:17.800 --> 0:11:20.920 pandemic hit and we were both a little nervous, we 0:11:20.920 --> 0:11:24.320 were both you know, worried, and we basically took three 0:11:24.400 --> 0:11:26.560 weeks off of seeing each other or two weeks off 0:11:26.559 --> 0:11:29.319 of seeing each other. Because we were like, neither of 0:11:29.400 --> 0:11:31.280 us knew what to do, neither of us. I mean, 0:11:31.480 --> 0:11:34.400 I think, you know, it's a pretty common feeling. At 0:11:34.440 --> 0:11:36.839 the very beginning of all this, we were like what 0:11:36.840 --> 0:11:40.280 what what is actually happening right now? And we took 0:11:40.320 --> 0:11:43.120 basically two weeks apart where we talked every day and 0:11:43.200 --> 0:11:44.920 just about how much we were like, wait, we were 0:11:44.920 --> 0:11:47.640 really going. We had such a good first three dates 0:11:47.679 --> 0:11:50.240 and then just like shut down completely. It was it 0:11:50.320 --> 0:11:53.080 was weird, but there was definitely something about it that 0:11:53.200 --> 0:11:55.600 drew us so much closer right at the start. So 0:11:55.679 --> 0:11:57.240 how did you know, though, Like, how did like I 0:11:57.280 --> 0:12:00.880 obviously because this is the thing is is we would 0:12:00.880 --> 0:12:02.559 like you have to remember because it feels like it's 0:12:02.559 --> 0:12:05.480 been forever, but remember that rush of the pan when 0:12:05.480 --> 0:12:08.000 it first started, you were like I can't, I gotta 0:12:08.160 --> 0:12:10.760 people were like stalking toilet paper because they thought they 0:12:10.840 --> 0:12:13.040 were never gonna have to like we could never leave 0:12:13.120 --> 0:12:15.960 our houses again. So it's not just that like, oh, 0:12:16.000 --> 0:12:18.120 I like you, we should keep talking, but it's also 0:12:18.160 --> 0:12:22.680 like I'm willing to like brave the final days with you, 0:12:22.679 --> 0:12:26.120 you know, like it was a serious thing. It was, 0:12:26.160 --> 0:12:28.400 it was very serious and it's funny that you mentioned 0:12:28.400 --> 0:12:30.960 that in particular because one of our and and you know, 0:12:31.120 --> 0:12:33.720 my girlfriend might not not kill me, but she she 0:12:33.800 --> 0:12:35.360 might laugh at the fact that I'm telling one of 0:12:35.360 --> 0:12:37.720 our inside jokes to the podcast nation. But I just 0:12:37.720 --> 0:12:39.800 think the story is so funny and it's so emblematic 0:12:39.840 --> 0:12:42.960 of like what made us fall in love really was. 0:12:44.600 --> 0:12:48.120 After that two weeks I had picked up. I picked 0:12:48.120 --> 0:12:50.280 her up, by the way, her name is Stephanie. I 0:12:50.280 --> 0:12:52.400 have forgot to mention that at the start, and as 0:12:52.440 --> 0:12:57.880 to meet you virtually podcast wise, Stephanie exactly perfect. So 0:12:58.400 --> 0:13:00.320 after we had taken our two weeks off from seeing 0:13:00.320 --> 0:13:02.319 each other, I picked her up because we were going 0:13:02.360 --> 0:13:04.560 to she needed, you know, she had a prescription to 0:13:04.559 --> 0:13:06.160 pick up. We're going to pick it up going back 0:13:06.200 --> 0:13:08.840 to her place, and we were kind of really mulling 0:13:08.840 --> 0:13:13.839 over the potential of what's going on now. A little 0:13:13.880 --> 0:13:16.640 backstory is as a podcast producer on this network, I 0:13:16.720 --> 0:13:19.439 worked with one of one of the people in the 0:13:19.480 --> 0:13:22.120 network named Robert Evans, and Robert Evans is like a 0:13:22.120 --> 0:13:24.600 war journalist. He does a show call behind the Bastards. 0:13:24.640 --> 0:13:26.080 We're not here to plug that. But that's just a 0:13:26.080 --> 0:13:28.520 bit of context, give it, give it some love. I 0:13:28.559 --> 0:13:33.959 heart Radial family goes behind the bastards. But as a 0:13:34.160 --> 0:13:36.400 gift for working on this show, you know, I think 0:13:36.440 --> 0:13:39.040 a lot of podcast people you get like a you know, 0:13:39.120 --> 0:13:42.360 basket of cookies, some you know, a nice personal self 0:13:42.400 --> 0:13:46.560 care gift, Robert gave me a knife. Robert gave me 0:13:46.600 --> 0:13:48.400 a knife for working on his show. He said, Damn, 0:13:48.440 --> 0:13:51.040 I really appreciate you. Protect yourself. Here's a knife. Here's 0:13:51.080 --> 0:13:53.240 a knife. Yes, here's a knife. I need you to 0:13:53.280 --> 0:13:55.200 explain this knife. Like what kind of knife is this? 0:13:55.240 --> 0:13:56.719 We gotta we gotta figure out what kind of NiFe 0:13:56.720 --> 0:14:01.359 we're going. We're talking it is this CRC KAT CRKT 0:14:01.559 --> 0:14:04.200 Like three here damage you got? You could you could 0:14:04.200 --> 0:14:07.080 do some damage with that knife. I mean he really 0:14:07.080 --> 0:14:08.800 he really get I found it. I was like, this 0:14:08.840 --> 0:14:10.360 is this is a real knife. You gave me a 0:14:10.400 --> 0:14:12.280 real knife. He was like, yes, it is for you 0:14:12.360 --> 0:14:15.200 for protection. I like, Robert, Now I'm scared. Anyway, So 0:14:15.920 --> 0:14:19.400 we're talking, We're talking about these um talking about the 0:14:19.400 --> 0:14:21.520 potential of like you know, where we're going, what we're doing. 0:14:21.600 --> 0:14:24.520 She's like, what, like what if the city is overrun? 0:14:24.600 --> 0:14:26.440 Like what if? What if things really go wild, and 0:14:26.480 --> 0:14:30.600 I was like, look, I will be here to protect you, 0:14:30.760 --> 0:14:33.080 like we're in this together now, I'm not going anywhere. 0:14:33.520 --> 0:14:36.040 We are in this together and I will be here 0:14:36.080 --> 0:14:38.720 to protect you. And almost like in a tear eyed moment, 0:14:39.440 --> 0:14:43.040 she goes and she says, is it because of your knife? 0:14:43.560 --> 0:14:47.800 And we both both just burst out laughing. We were 0:14:47.800 --> 0:14:51.200 having this supertense serious moment. She's just like, is it 0:14:51.240 --> 0:14:54.560 because of your knife? Man? And I gotta tell you 0:14:54.600 --> 0:14:58.000 something as a boyfriend who knows exactly how that feels 0:14:58.000 --> 0:15:00.240 when you're really trying to pour it out to like 0:15:00.240 --> 0:15:02.840 I'm really trying to show you, and they come through 0:15:02.880 --> 0:15:06.240 and it wasn't even meant like like you're just like, ah, 0:15:06.280 --> 0:15:09.360 what a hilarious moment. We just died in the car. 0:15:09.480 --> 0:15:13.440 It was great. That is classic. That is classic. So 0:15:13.520 --> 0:15:18.080 how long was the time then from pandemic starts to like, okay, 0:15:18.160 --> 0:15:20.640 I want to see you, like I want to physically 0:15:20.760 --> 0:15:24.200 be in your presence, not just like we should talking. Sure, 0:15:24.240 --> 0:15:26.600 it was probably I would say it was two weeks. 0:15:26.640 --> 0:15:29.360 We took the quarantine idea seriously like we have been 0:15:29.400 --> 0:15:30.960 We have been seeing each other pretty much like every 0:15:31.000 --> 0:15:33.960 couple of days up until March thirteenth, when we both 0:15:34.000 --> 0:15:36.880 got the we're out of the office working from home order, 0:15:37.320 --> 0:15:40.080 and we just tearfully admitted that we probably shouldn't see 0:15:40.080 --> 0:15:42.760 each other for two weeks just to be safe. Wow, 0:15:42.760 --> 0:15:45.640 And it was the right, science e thing to do. 0:15:45.680 --> 0:15:47.680 We were like, Okay, two weeks off entirely, let's just 0:15:47.680 --> 0:15:51.239 not you know, no contact, both of us, stay at home, no, 0:15:51.240 --> 0:15:54.880 no grocery store, no nothing, no whatever. But honestly, those 0:15:54.920 --> 0:15:58.040 two weeks of like just talking to each other and 0:15:58.160 --> 0:16:01.120 being our main point of contact, being like our rock 0:16:01.240 --> 0:16:03.920 for each other in those moments, was so it just 0:16:03.960 --> 0:16:07.880 built such a foundation of us, like basically going through 0:16:07.920 --> 0:16:12.760 the trauma together in the first month of our relationship, 0:16:13.000 --> 0:16:16.800 like going through all of like the you say, it's 0:16:16.800 --> 0:16:19.800 those big, scary global events that really define how you 0:16:20.160 --> 0:16:21.920 each see each other. And I feel like we went 0:16:22.000 --> 0:16:25.840 through that global defining moment three weeks into our relationship, 0:16:26.120 --> 0:16:29.520 and yeah, we really got to see our true colors 0:16:29.520 --> 0:16:31.280 and our true selves in that moment, and I think 0:16:31.360 --> 0:16:34.400 it really helped us, you know, kind of pick up 0:16:34.440 --> 0:16:37.600 the Okay, well we're really we're really talking about all 0:16:37.600 --> 0:16:41.280 the serious ship, right here straight off the bat, right right. Well, 0:16:42.000 --> 0:16:45.600 you talked about earlier, UM with the with the exercising bit, 0:16:45.680 --> 0:16:47.560 that you have roommates, and I think the biggest thing 0:16:47.640 --> 0:16:50.680 for me before I got to see my girlfriend. If 0:16:50.720 --> 0:16:54.400 you've listened to my Found Family episode, UM, this the 0:16:54.440 --> 0:16:57.440 same time frame, I was living with my best friend's parents, 0:16:58.160 --> 0:17:02.120 and on top of my girlfriend having to convince her parents, 0:17:02.160 --> 0:17:05.440 I had to convince my found parents. My Found Family 0:17:05.480 --> 0:17:08.520 parents too. Are not convince them, but make sure that 0:17:08.520 --> 0:17:10.679 they were okay with it. And luckily they said, you know, 0:17:10.760 --> 0:17:14.000 make sure she gets tested, make sure she's been quarantined 0:17:14.080 --> 0:17:16.000 for you know, for a long time, nobody that she's 0:17:16.000 --> 0:17:19.600 been with has it. And then they're okay with her 0:17:19.640 --> 0:17:21.920 coming over. She's still even when the first few times 0:17:21.920 --> 0:17:24.879 she came over, she would come over, go straight to 0:17:24.920 --> 0:17:27.040 my room, jump in the shower. I would take her clothes, 0:17:27.040 --> 0:17:29.520 put them in a plastic bag, go downstairs, throw them 0:17:29.520 --> 0:17:31.680 in the Washington like we were. We were real deal 0:17:31.760 --> 0:17:34.200 about it. So I want to ask you about your 0:17:34.280 --> 0:17:39.040 roommates because especially with uh now having roommates who aren't 0:17:39.560 --> 0:17:42.080 kind of parental, you know, I looked at Mickey and 0:17:42.119 --> 0:17:44.800 Sandy has like staring. I had to go ask for permission. 0:17:45.200 --> 0:17:47.639 You know, you're paying your rent, you are free to 0:17:47.680 --> 0:17:50.160 do in your space whatever. In my own opinion, when 0:17:50.160 --> 0:17:52.000 you pay rent, if you have roommates, it's like the 0:17:52.040 --> 0:17:54.320 common areas. I think it's always a good move to 0:17:54.359 --> 0:17:56.280 ask permission or ask like, hey, are you guys cool 0:17:56.280 --> 0:17:58.159 with this? But your own space, like you should be 0:17:58.160 --> 0:18:00.680 allowed to do whatever you want. How did your roommates 0:18:00.760 --> 0:18:04.080 go about about you being in a relationship and having 0:18:04.320 --> 0:18:08.239 this girlfriend eventually over to your house? Great question, you know, 0:18:08.520 --> 0:18:10.919 I think in all things in life, it's about communication. 0:18:11.200 --> 0:18:13.239 We're all very open and honest with each other. They 0:18:13.280 --> 0:18:15.000 knew that I was in a new relationship. They knew 0:18:15.000 --> 0:18:16.640 it was something that was fresh, and that was something 0:18:16.640 --> 0:18:19.320 that was feeling good, and we all just came to 0:18:19.400 --> 0:18:22.080 the similar consensus that like, look, we have to get 0:18:22.119 --> 0:18:24.400 tested on a semi regular basis just as a good 0:18:24.400 --> 0:18:28.720 health thing. Yes, we'll mostly stay in my areas of 0:18:28.720 --> 0:18:31.399 the house. But everybody just had a kind of common 0:18:31.480 --> 0:18:33.960 understanding that as long as we're all obeying the rules 0:18:34.800 --> 0:18:38.119 and our pod is as small as possible, then it 0:18:38.200 --> 0:18:41.000 can be safe. Thankfully, my girlfriend Stephanie doesn't live with anybody. 0:18:41.000 --> 0:18:44.639 She has no roommates, So basically our life was me 0:18:44.720 --> 0:18:47.040 either going there or picking her up and bringing her 0:18:47.119 --> 0:18:49.520 to our place, and just going back and forth between 0:18:49.520 --> 0:18:53.159 those two places. And that's pretty much. That was like 0:18:53.200 --> 0:18:55.280 our entire physical contact. And so I mean, I will 0:18:55.320 --> 0:18:58.520 say for you know, for her, I have to imagine 0:18:58.560 --> 0:19:01.680 that like living alone during this time, it's gonna be tough. 0:19:02.440 --> 0:19:04.600 And she was very thankful to be able to come 0:19:04.600 --> 0:19:07.280 to the house and just be around people right now 0:19:07.480 --> 0:19:11.760 when you know that is at this point a luxury. Yeah, what, 0:19:12.040 --> 0:19:14.879 So what surprised you the most about? Luckily of cool roommates? 0:19:14.920 --> 0:19:16.760 So you guys got to spend time together, But what 0:19:16.840 --> 0:19:19.680 surprised you the most? You mentioned that in big world 0:19:20.040 --> 0:19:23.199 events you find out a lot about your significant others. 0:19:23.920 --> 0:19:25.639 But what surprised you about it? I think for me, 0:19:25.720 --> 0:19:28.160 the biggest thing is like to keep my girlfriend happy 0:19:28.240 --> 0:19:31.080 and excited and keep myself excited and us engaged really 0:19:31.119 --> 0:19:35.000 like full throttle almost honeymoon phase esque for longer than 0:19:35.040 --> 0:19:37.200