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Speaker 4: to another episode of the Truth After Dark.

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Speaker 2: I'm your host, Azar Faaraday.

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Speaker 1: And I'm the Truth paul A Pierce. Okay, the A

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Speaker 3: they gave it to me at an exhibition game in China.

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Speaker 3: Not the championship ring. But it looks nice. All work.

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Speaker 4: So today we have a very special episode because we

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Speaker 4: So if you submitted a question, then listen for it

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Speaker 4: on this episode because we might be answering your question tonight.

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Speaker 2: So we'll get right, we'll get started.

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Speaker 4: So one of the first questions that someone asked was

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Speaker 4: I do see that a lot. I notice like the

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Speaker 2: And it's like, I wonder why.

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Speaker 3: I'll tell you this.

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Speaker 1: I think they recycle the same women because they are

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Speaker 1: most rappers, athletes and celebs try to they like the

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Speaker 1: And then like you see an athlete or celebrity or

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Speaker 3: Let me give me a crew.

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Speaker 1: So then if they got a crew, like two or

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Speaker 1: Yeah, they'd be like, I'm gonna get me some cool

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Speaker 2: No, they're gonna catch the first person, yeah that they get.

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Speaker 4: And all these people complaining and she did this and

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Speaker 4: And it's like, why do you think that you're not

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Speaker 4: why they be blasting man and doing this, because you

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Speaker 4: So I just say, you know, man, they have to

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Speaker 1: No. But the thing is, they look at this generation

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Speaker 3: Next man she mine?

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Speaker 1: Now, So say a rapper got your eggs, she gonna

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Speaker 3: He's gonna post it. Oh, I snatched your You know what.

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Speaker 4: If you can snatch how you get them is how

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Speaker 4: you lose them. If you snatch someone up, someone else

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Speaker 2: It's just period.

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Speaker 3: But now I'm up.

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Speaker 1: Now, I'm up, I'm up one you know what, I'm

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Speaker 1: I'm up what And don't let it be like an

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Speaker 4: You know what, Jay Cole says, Shout out to the

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Speaker 4: LA women, Shout out to the LA hoes. Real men

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Speaker 4: Real people recognize real That's all I'm gonna say about that.

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Speaker 4: And I feel like that's why we're in a gender war.

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Speaker 4: And this is actually the next question that people are asking,

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Speaker 4: And where do you think that this is stemming from?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I think just the gender wars. We're fighting for

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Speaker 2: All these men are becoming very extremely Yes, absolutely.

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Speaker 4: And I feel like I think that the roles have

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Speaker 2: Period point.

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Speaker 1: Well, the key for a masculine man is to find

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Speaker 3: Woman and you know it works that way. Yeah, those

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Speaker 1: And then for the feminine man to find a masculine

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Speaker 3: You really know?

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Speaker 2: Can I ask you a question?

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Speaker 3: Yes, of course?

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Speaker 1: Know, damn you know what she cool? You know she's

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Speaker 2: It is sad.

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Speaker 1: It is sad, but you're in that position. It's sad

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Speaker 1: And that's Guss Like, all right, whatever, you know what,

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna just do me. You know, I know a

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 4: What I will say is I think even as a woman,

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Speaker 2: You're saying celebrities athletes. I'm not saying the celebrities.

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Speaker 4: I hate when people say high value men cause it's

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Speaker 4: You may not see it that way. So for me,

443
00:22:12,440 --> 00:22:15,720
Speaker 4: someone that just has a normal life that isn't like

444
00:22:15,760 --> 00:22:17,480
Speaker 4: this person's trying to use me. I'm going to test

445
00:22:17,520 --> 00:22:20,360
Speaker 4: everything about them, like where it's like yo, like I'm

446
00:22:20,920 --> 00:22:25,200
Speaker 4: why do I come into a relationship having to prove myself.

447
00:22:24,760 --> 00:22:26,359
Speaker 2: Or prove I love you?

448
00:22:26,480 --> 00:22:29,600
Speaker 4: I love you every second when it's like in reality,

449
00:22:29,640 --> 00:22:31,960
Speaker 4: how is that fear for the counterpart? You know, like

450
00:22:32,160 --> 00:22:35,639
Speaker 4: you guys, as celebrities and athletes, choose to be with

451
00:22:35,760 --> 00:22:38,080
Speaker 4: women who don't love you because you're lonely and you

452
00:22:38,119 --> 00:22:42,439
Speaker 4: want to share memories and you don't really value having

453
00:22:42,480 --> 00:22:46,240
Speaker 4: that real partnership. It seems like so it feels like

454
00:22:47,240 --> 00:22:49,720
Speaker 4: maybe that is a good match because it's the same thing.

455
00:22:49,760 --> 00:22:52,320
Speaker 4: If you do get a real woman that really rocks

456
00:22:52,359 --> 00:22:54,080
Speaker 4: with you, then she has to be up against a

457
00:22:54,160 --> 00:22:56,720
Speaker 4: test every day, like do you love me?

458
00:22:57,280 --> 00:22:59,320
Speaker 2: Like you know what I mean? So it just seems

459
00:22:59,359 --> 00:23:02,919
Speaker 2: like may that's that's the cheat code. Maybe that is

460
00:23:02,960 --> 00:23:03,639
Speaker 2: the cheat code.

461
00:23:03,640 --> 00:23:04,040
Speaker 3: You know what?

462
00:23:04,400 --> 00:23:09,840
Speaker 1: I think we need to start doing athletes, rappers.

463
00:23:10,720 --> 00:23:12,280
Speaker 2: Why do I feel you're gonna say the.

464
00:23:14,000 --> 00:23:14,320
Speaker 3: Career.

465
00:23:14,480 --> 00:23:17,960
Speaker 1: But you need to stop getting with these girls that's

466
00:23:18,000 --> 00:23:19,600
Speaker 1: waiting at the front of the line at the club.

467
00:23:20,720 --> 00:23:23,680
Speaker 1: Get you one of these ghetto girls. I'm telling you

468
00:23:23,720 --> 00:23:26,200
Speaker 1: need to go to the ghetto and get one. I'm

469
00:23:26,200 --> 00:23:29,600
Speaker 1: trying to tell you she is gonna.

470
00:23:30,040 --> 00:23:32,800
Speaker 3: Rock with you. She's gonna mess with you.

471
00:23:33,000 --> 00:23:35,680
Speaker 1: She gonna mess with you because of who you are,

472
00:23:36,200 --> 00:23:39,520
Speaker 1: but she gonna be so appreciative because she ain't been

473
00:23:39,560 --> 00:23:42,480
Speaker 1: messing with all these other rappers and celebrities. Get you

474
00:23:42,520 --> 00:23:46,960
Speaker 1: one of them decent girls from the hood. I'm talking

475
00:23:47,000 --> 00:23:51,040
Speaker 1: about this. She do everything, cut clean, do all that.

476
00:23:51,160 --> 00:23:53,520
Speaker 1: She live in a one bedroom apartment with like five

477
00:23:53,560 --> 00:23:57,880
Speaker 1: people with her mama still with her mama. You need

478
00:23:57,920 --> 00:24:01,679
Speaker 1: and she sleep on the couch. Find you on like that.

479
00:24:01,680 --> 00:24:03,600
Speaker 1: That's what you really need to do. That one right

480
00:24:03,640 --> 00:24:07,679
Speaker 1: there ain't gonna never leave you and you can, Hey,

481
00:24:08,040 --> 00:24:11,760
Speaker 1: you can make her. You gonna uplift her I'm crying.

482
00:24:12,480 --> 00:24:15,040
Speaker 1: You're trying to tell you you can uplift that one.

483
00:24:15,440 --> 00:24:17,240
Speaker 1: It don't matter what race either, you ain't got it

484
00:24:17,240 --> 00:24:19,360
Speaker 1: ain't gotta be black, it could be any race. They

485
00:24:19,400 --> 00:24:22,920
Speaker 1: them ones, go shoot them the ones that's gonna be man,

486
00:24:23,320 --> 00:24:26,000
Speaker 1: find you one that's sleeping on the couch. If she

487
00:24:26,000 --> 00:24:29,240
Speaker 1: ain't sleeping on the couch, then man, that ain't the one.

488
00:24:29,359 --> 00:24:30,959
Speaker 4: She ain't never gonna leave you because you don't want

489
00:24:30,960 --> 00:24:32,960
Speaker 4: to go back to sleeping, to go back to that couch.

490
00:24:33,040 --> 00:24:36,520
Speaker 4: So that's the same scenario. You're creating another woman that's

491
00:24:36,520 --> 00:24:37,600
Speaker 4: dependent on you for.

492
00:24:39,160 --> 00:24:41,520
Speaker 1: She's gonna appreciate the ones that sleep on the couch,

493
00:24:41,600 --> 00:24:44,080
Speaker 1: is gonna hold accountability, and that's gonna hold her. It's

494
00:24:44,080 --> 00:24:47,280
Speaker 1: gonna they're gonna give you that double a baseball accountability.

495
00:24:48,560 --> 00:24:52,080
Speaker 2: You're so accountabilities and.

496
00:24:52,359 --> 00:24:56,680
Speaker 3: What's the other a appreciation? Appreciation? Right?

497
00:24:58,000 --> 00:25:00,840
Speaker 4: Anyway, So now moving on another their person wants to

498
00:25:00,880 --> 00:25:05,080
Speaker 4: talk about what what about the friends that you have

499
00:25:05,119 --> 00:25:07,960
Speaker 4: who could never be single, Like they're hopping from relationship

500
00:25:08,000 --> 00:25:10,479
Speaker 4: to relationship, they never are single.

501
00:25:10,600 --> 00:25:12,720
Speaker 2: They never take time to heal, they never.

502
00:25:12,560 --> 00:25:16,800
Speaker 4: Take time with themselves, Like, what what do you think

503
00:25:16,840 --> 00:25:17,320
Speaker 4: about that?

504
00:25:17,480 --> 00:25:22,040
Speaker 1: Well, I think those people have attachment issues absolutely. Yeah,

505
00:25:22,119 --> 00:25:25,680
Speaker 1: they just like they are lost when somebody because they've

506
00:25:25,720 --> 00:25:29,199
Speaker 1: been in long term relationships two three years plus and

507
00:25:29,240 --> 00:25:32,760
Speaker 1: they used to somebody being there, and then when they

508
00:25:32,760 --> 00:25:35,120
Speaker 1: don't have that, they jump something in the jumping into

509
00:25:35,160 --> 00:25:38,480
Speaker 1: something real quick, and they make bad decisions most of

510
00:25:38,520 --> 00:25:38,880
Speaker 1: the time.

511
00:25:39,160 --> 00:25:40,960
Speaker 2: Do you feel like you have ever been like that?

512
00:25:41,400 --> 00:25:45,439
Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, I've made bad decisions, like I think you learned.

513
00:25:45,880 --> 00:25:46,520
Speaker 2: I've been like that.

514
00:25:46,680 --> 00:25:50,399
Speaker 1: No bad decisions, you know, but the only way you

515
00:25:50,440 --> 00:25:52,280
Speaker 1: get better is to make bad decisions.

516
00:25:52,520 --> 00:25:56,320
Speaker 4: Yeah, but also not just make bad decisions, but recognize

517
00:25:56,320 --> 00:25:59,840
Speaker 4: your decisions and understand that everything you've been through is

518
00:26:00,119 --> 00:26:00,800
Speaker 4: learning lesson.

519
00:26:01,400 --> 00:26:04,200
Speaker 2: So you know, you got to take that time for yourself.

520
00:26:04,720 --> 00:26:06,840
Speaker 4: Until you take that time for yourself, you don't really

521
00:26:06,880 --> 00:26:09,080
Speaker 4: know what you like and what you want and what

522
00:26:09,160 --> 00:26:12,040
Speaker 4: you'll tolerate and what you want to deal with period

523
00:26:12,320 --> 00:26:14,600
Speaker 4: because you're so used to being in a relationship that

524
00:26:14,640 --> 00:26:17,919
Speaker 4: you don't know how to set boundaries or understand the

525
00:26:17,920 --> 00:26:20,720
Speaker 4: things that you want, you know, like I did not

526
00:26:21,000 --> 00:26:23,280
Speaker 4: and I did. I was one of those people when

527
00:26:23,280 --> 00:26:25,520
Speaker 4: I was younger, and I've always was in like long

528
00:26:25,560 --> 00:26:29,080
Speaker 4: relationships until I finally like took time for myself.

529
00:26:29,400 --> 00:26:32,320
Speaker 2: And once I took that time, it made me make

530
00:26:32,359 --> 00:26:34,240
Speaker 2: better decisions about my partners.

531
00:26:34,680 --> 00:26:36,040
Speaker 1: This is what I would say for you men and

532
00:26:36,080 --> 00:26:38,639
Speaker 1: women when you are like that, this is what I

533
00:26:38,680 --> 00:26:42,800
Speaker 1: will say, don't stop looking for a relationship and stop.

534
00:26:42,600 --> 00:26:44,280
Speaker 3: Looking for love period.

535
00:26:44,480 --> 00:26:47,560
Speaker 1: I swear every girl I've ever been with I wasn't

536
00:26:47,600 --> 00:26:49,520
Speaker 1: even looking for her.

537
00:26:49,960 --> 00:26:50,240
Speaker 2: Yeah.

538
00:26:50,280 --> 00:26:51,960
Speaker 3: It just smacked me in the face.

539
00:26:52,560 --> 00:26:56,080
Speaker 1: And you know, I always been a relationship guy, and

540
00:26:56,119 --> 00:26:58,200
Speaker 1: I was in a journey to where I was like, man,

541
00:26:58,280 --> 00:27:01,080
Speaker 1: I want to be alone. I'm never gonn get in

542
00:27:01,080 --> 00:27:05,080
Speaker 1: a relationship error again, and I'm never I love my

543
00:27:05,240 --> 00:27:08,040
Speaker 1: piece and I like being sitting on the couch watching

544
00:27:08,160 --> 00:27:11,480
Speaker 1: TV and nobody complaining about this, needing attention for this.

545
00:27:11,640 --> 00:27:14,320
Speaker 1: And you know, like when I go pick up my

546
00:27:14,640 --> 00:27:18,240
Speaker 1: my my remote, it's not where I put it because

547
00:27:18,240 --> 00:27:19,040
Speaker 1: she done moved it.

548
00:27:19,160 --> 00:27:21,000
Speaker 3: You know, you like, damn, that's feel good.

549
00:27:21,280 --> 00:27:24,880
Speaker 1: That feel good, like when somebody around that's moving your

550
00:27:24,920 --> 00:27:27,240
Speaker 1: shit like that. People hate that. But then it was

551
00:27:27,320 --> 00:27:35,200
Speaker 1: just like damn, it smacks you in the face. And

552
00:27:35,240 --> 00:27:37,639
Speaker 1: every time you like, damn, I wasn't even intending on

553
00:27:37,800 --> 00:27:40,439
Speaker 1: being with this chick. It's like I wasn't even like

554
00:27:40,600 --> 00:27:43,120
Speaker 1: looking for that shit, and then it's just like wow,

555
00:27:43,240 --> 00:27:43,800
Speaker 1: next thing, you know.

556
00:27:43,760 --> 00:27:45,439
Speaker 3: You like with somebody.

557
00:27:45,800 --> 00:27:49,080
Speaker 1: So like, you know, when you have an opportunity to heal, heal,

558
00:27:49,400 --> 00:27:51,640
Speaker 1: do your shit. Go by yourself, go to restaurant, eat

559
00:27:51,640 --> 00:27:53,320
Speaker 1: by yourself, go have a drink by yourself, go to

560
00:27:53,359 --> 00:27:54,880
Speaker 1: the movies by yourself.

561
00:27:54,920 --> 00:27:57,480
Speaker 3: Travel by yourself. It's just a peace of mind.

562
00:27:58,560 --> 00:28:03,119
Speaker 1: It helps you just like reset and look at the

563
00:28:03,160 --> 00:28:07,400
Speaker 1: world different and you know that you're like.

564
00:28:08,920 --> 00:28:11,480
Speaker 3: You can exhale. That's a great feeling.

565
00:28:12,080 --> 00:28:13,880
Speaker 1: And then when that one person comes to your house,

566
00:28:13,880 --> 00:28:15,159
Speaker 1: you ain't even gonna be looking for it.

567
00:28:15,160 --> 00:28:16,320
Speaker 3: It's gonna be like right there.

568
00:28:16,359 --> 00:28:19,760
Speaker 4: So and they also say, like, if you go to

569
00:28:19,800 --> 00:28:24,680
Speaker 4: the grocery store hungry, you'll pick anything, you'll make bad decisions.

570
00:28:25,119 --> 00:28:29,520
Speaker 4: But if you're already satiated and then you go right

571
00:28:29,600 --> 00:28:30,560
Speaker 4: for you satiated.

572
00:28:30,960 --> 00:28:32,520
Speaker 3: Okay, I learned a new word. I don't know what

573
00:28:32,560 --> 00:28:32,880
Speaker 3: that means.

574
00:28:32,920 --> 00:28:35,359
Speaker 4: It means like you're not fool and you're not hungry,

575
00:28:35,359 --> 00:28:36,159
Speaker 4: you're satisfied.

576
00:28:36,840 --> 00:28:37,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, like you're.

577
00:28:37,440 --> 00:28:39,600
Speaker 3: Saying, give me a new word, satiated.

578
00:28:39,840 --> 00:28:43,719
Speaker 4: Yeah, So when you are satiated and you go you

579
00:28:43,760 --> 00:28:45,240
Speaker 4: can't go looking for something.

580
00:28:45,240 --> 00:28:47,720
Speaker 2: When you're desperate, you're gonna pick anybody.

581
00:28:48,000 --> 00:28:50,120
Speaker 4: First of all, you shouldn't be looking, or you shouldn't

582
00:28:50,160 --> 00:28:52,800
Speaker 4: be chasing, because chasing is the opposite of attraction. You

583
00:28:52,840 --> 00:28:56,280
Speaker 4: should be attracting everything that comes to you. So you

584
00:28:56,360 --> 00:28:59,360
Speaker 4: have to get out of that space of like desperation.

585
00:28:59,600 --> 00:29:03,240
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's real. You gat me some good words, You got.

586
00:29:03,080 --> 00:29:05,360
Speaker 2: Me some anyway, good advice.

587
00:29:05,920 --> 00:29:08,400
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591
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Speaker 4: for our segment, you have to tell me what is

592
00:29:23,120 --> 00:29:26,800
Speaker 4: your fantasy when it comes to a woman in a

593
00:29:26,880 --> 00:29:30,560
Speaker 4: relationship or not just a woman that you're dealing with.

594
00:29:32,200 --> 00:29:42,880
Speaker 3: Ah, my fantasy, well, my fantasy is more foot rubs,

595
00:29:43,960 --> 00:29:49,520
Speaker 3: more feeding me, and less talk.

596
00:29:50,880 --> 00:29:55,520
Speaker 1: More more or less the fantasy right there?

597
00:29:56,000 --> 00:29:59,360
Speaker 4: So do men just want women not to talk or

598
00:29:59,480 --> 00:30:01,720
Speaker 4: just talk less? Because that's what I hear men say

599
00:30:01,760 --> 00:30:04,800
Speaker 4: all the time. They're just like shut up. So you

600
00:30:04,880 --> 00:30:08,200
Speaker 4: just don't want a woman to say nothing at this point,

601
00:30:08,280 --> 00:30:09,000
Speaker 4: just talk.

602
00:30:09,040 --> 00:30:10,520
Speaker 2: Less, talk less?

603
00:30:10,560 --> 00:30:13,120
Speaker 4: But what does that mean, because I think that I'm

604
00:30:13,120 --> 00:30:20,320
Speaker 4: going to do more talk less and do more. Okay,

605
00:30:20,360 --> 00:30:26,080
Speaker 4: that's crazy, less and more, Okay, I heard that. I

606
00:30:26,120 --> 00:30:30,840
Speaker 4: think for me, I would say my fantasy would be

607
00:30:30,960 --> 00:30:39,480
Speaker 4: more communication less less like what's the word for people

608
00:30:39,520 --> 00:30:42,760
Speaker 4: who hold shit in? Like less holding stuff in, more

609
00:30:42,800 --> 00:30:46,960
Speaker 4: communicating it and moving past it. That's what I feel

610
00:30:47,040 --> 00:30:49,200
Speaker 4: because I feel like men they have a problem with

611
00:30:49,320 --> 00:30:51,880
Speaker 4: like holding it and holding it and holding it and

612
00:30:51,920 --> 00:30:54,920
Speaker 4: then they're pissed off and then that it creates resentment

613
00:30:55,360 --> 00:30:58,160
Speaker 4: when you could just tell someone little stuff like hey,

614
00:30:58,240 --> 00:30:58,680
Speaker 4: I hate.

615
00:30:58,520 --> 00:31:01,120
Speaker 2: When you do that. Okay, I didn't know that. You

616
00:31:01,160 --> 00:31:02,680
Speaker 2: know that's a big thing.

617
00:31:03,160 --> 00:31:05,760
Speaker 3: Yeah, okay, so more of.

618
00:31:05,720 --> 00:31:13,680
Speaker 4: What more communication less withdrawing, communication less holding stuff.

619
00:31:13,360 --> 00:31:15,200
Speaker 2: In and building resentment.

620
00:31:15,600 --> 00:31:18,680
Speaker 4: Yeah, because in all my relationship men don't do that.

621
00:31:19,000 --> 00:31:20,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's a fantasy.

622
00:31:20,800 --> 00:31:24,760
Speaker 4: I fantasize about having someone that's vulnerable and communicative.

623
00:31:25,200 --> 00:31:26,640
Speaker 2: Yes, and women love that.

624
00:31:27,840 --> 00:31:30,440
Speaker 4: It doesn't have to be rubbing feet down. But if

625
00:31:30,480 --> 00:31:34,600
Speaker 4: I'm gonna do something like that, then more romance. The

626
00:31:34,640 --> 00:31:43,200
Speaker 4: more romance candles, okay, like sweet thoughtful things, candles, flowers

627
00:31:43,240 --> 00:31:45,640
Speaker 4: like once a month flowers. I don't think that's a

628
00:31:45,640 --> 00:31:48,040
Speaker 4: lot to ask for, like little stuff that makes a

629
00:31:48,080 --> 00:31:51,880
Speaker 4: woman feel like feminine and like happy, like oh wow,

630
00:31:51,920 --> 00:31:53,320
Speaker 4: you thought of me, you know what I mean?

631
00:31:53,440 --> 00:31:54,200
Speaker 2: Just little stuff.

632
00:31:54,200 --> 00:31:57,000
Speaker 4: It doesn't have to even include money, you know, just

633
00:31:57,160 --> 00:32:00,520
Speaker 4: little stuff. I would think more romances imports it in

634
00:32:00,560 --> 00:32:01,400
Speaker 4: a relationship.

635
00:32:02,560 --> 00:32:04,640
Speaker 3: If a man was like, hey, I'm gonna give you

636
00:32:07,160 --> 00:32:08,720
Speaker 3: so much money every two.

637
00:32:10,840 --> 00:32:18,080
Speaker 2: I think that's romance. Roman as well as you're taking

638
00:32:18,120 --> 00:32:19,600
Speaker 2: care of me, I think.

639
00:32:19,840 --> 00:32:21,760
Speaker 4: I think, yes, if a man is taking care of

640
00:32:21,800 --> 00:32:23,920
Speaker 4: you and stuff like, that's romance. But even when I'm

641
00:32:23,960 --> 00:32:26,920
Speaker 4: just talking about like little things of just like being thoughtful,

642
00:32:26,920 --> 00:32:28,600
Speaker 4: and I think women should be that way too.

643
00:32:28,640 --> 00:32:29,760
Speaker 2: I don't think it's just a man.

644
00:32:29,840 --> 00:32:32,920
Speaker 4: I think women should do little gifts and little thoughtful things,

645
00:32:32,960 --> 00:32:34,520
Speaker 4: and I think men should do that too.

646
00:32:34,720 --> 00:32:36,800
Speaker 2: And again, it doesn't have to involve money. It could

647
00:32:36,840 --> 00:32:37,640
Speaker 2: just be like I.

648
00:32:37,600 --> 00:32:39,840
Speaker 4: Cooked for you and lit the candles up, or I

649
00:32:39,920 --> 00:32:42,760
Speaker 4: ran you a bath and there's rose petals in there.

650
00:32:43,480 --> 00:32:46,560
Speaker 2: I picked you a flower from outside. Yeah, little stuff.

651
00:32:46,600 --> 00:32:52,680
Speaker 1: I think romance. True romance is something that doesn't.

652
00:32:52,400 --> 00:32:54,680
Speaker 2: Cost anything exactly. I agree.

653
00:32:55,000 --> 00:32:57,160
Speaker 3: So like flowers cost you can.

654
00:32:57,040 --> 00:33:01,080
Speaker 4: Go pick flowers where outside?

655
00:33:03,960 --> 00:33:07,080
Speaker 3: So what do you what do you special gas.

656
00:33:07,400 --> 00:33:10,680
Speaker 4: So what about like running a bath that doesn't cost

657
00:33:10,960 --> 00:33:17,000
Speaker 4: taking someone off, about oiling them down, massaging them, putting

658
00:33:18,120 --> 00:33:18,920
Speaker 4: so don't have.

659
00:33:18,880 --> 00:33:20,400
Speaker 2: Oil, then just rub them.

660
00:33:20,240 --> 00:33:27,680
Speaker 4: Down and then get some put on a favorite movie

661
00:33:27,760 --> 00:33:28,880
Speaker 4: like little cute stuff.

662
00:33:29,000 --> 00:33:32,280
Speaker 2: Just having like have a subscription for something.

663
00:33:33,040 --> 00:33:35,680
Speaker 4: Well if you don't have, like you have a subscription

664
00:33:35,760 --> 00:33:39,200
Speaker 4: people have, that's not nothing to do with nothing.

665
00:33:39,200 --> 00:33:41,080
Speaker 2: You're not getting the suspection I'll tell you.

666
00:33:41,480 --> 00:33:44,920
Speaker 1: Tell me doesn't cost tell me romantic because everything you're

667
00:33:44,920 --> 00:33:51,080
Speaker 1: doing about saying costs something at some point.

668
00:33:51,200 --> 00:33:57,000
Speaker 4: Okay, you tell me so like rubs, Okay, back rub.

669
00:33:57,520 --> 00:34:00,720
Speaker 1: Scratches, you know what I'm saying, Like, say, if I

670
00:34:00,760 --> 00:34:05,360
Speaker 1: paint it like your fingernails because girls always gonna have

671
00:34:05,400 --> 00:34:06,320
Speaker 1: fingernail polished.

672
00:34:06,520 --> 00:34:11,839
Speaker 2: Always painting your fingernails is crazy? Whatnot? That's not all.

673
00:34:11,960 --> 00:34:14,239
Speaker 4: I don't rock with that because you for me, I

674
00:34:14,280 --> 00:34:16,279
Speaker 4: go to a nail artist to get my.

675
00:34:17,800 --> 00:34:19,400
Speaker 1: About to get your nails down tomorrow. He was like,

676
00:34:19,440 --> 00:34:21,239
Speaker 1: let me try to do it and you'll just sitting there.

677
00:34:21,640 --> 00:34:25,920
Speaker 4: Okay, I think that's setting to the fire. Okay, that

678
00:34:25,960 --> 00:34:27,640
Speaker 4: costs money. What kind of man are you to have

679
00:34:27,640 --> 00:34:30,000
Speaker 4: a fireplace? You have to have a house and a fireplace.

680
00:34:31,160 --> 00:34:34,040
Speaker 4: But you already got the subscription for the movie then, so.

681
00:34:34,040 --> 00:34:34,960
Speaker 2: Don't try to run me.

682
00:34:35,160 --> 00:34:37,239
Speaker 4: You already have an oil or a lotion if you're

683
00:34:37,239 --> 00:34:40,520
Speaker 4: not putting on lotion as a black man already.

684
00:34:40,320 --> 00:34:41,520
Speaker 3: Or an oil, I don't wear.

685
00:34:42,040 --> 00:34:45,160
Speaker 4: You wear oils or something for sure. I'm sure you

686
00:34:45,480 --> 00:34:47,719
Speaker 4: wear a yeah, so don't try it.

687
00:34:48,360 --> 00:34:50,400
Speaker 2: You can do. You can do things without money.

688
00:34:50,400 --> 00:34:53,319
Speaker 4: And I think like rubbing someone down is a daily thing,

689
00:34:53,440 --> 00:34:55,919
Speaker 4: like in a relationship. I'm rubbing my person down every

690
00:34:56,000 --> 00:34:58,160
Speaker 4: day that I see them. So I don't know that

691
00:34:58,160 --> 00:34:59,040
Speaker 4: that's romance.

692
00:34:59,080 --> 00:34:59,880
Speaker 2: I think it is. It's not.

693
00:35:00,040 --> 00:35:03,880
Speaker 4: It's intimate, it's romance, but it's like something that I'm daily.

694
00:35:03,560 --> 00:35:05,120
Speaker 2: Gonna be doing around my life.

695
00:35:05,320 --> 00:35:09,000
Speaker 4: The words, yeah, I think thoughtful words are nice. But

696
00:35:09,040 --> 00:35:11,680
Speaker 4: I think with men sometimes like y'all want us to

697
00:35:11,719 --> 00:35:14,759
Speaker 4: talk less. So sometimes like as a woman, you'll say

698
00:35:14,760 --> 00:35:17,120
Speaker 4: all these things thoughtful and the band will just be

699
00:35:17,200 --> 00:35:17,960
Speaker 4: like cool.

700
00:35:18,040 --> 00:35:22,480
Speaker 2: Thumbs up, great, like you be whatever. A woman say

701
00:35:22,520 --> 00:35:23,000
Speaker 2: more of that.

702
00:35:23,040 --> 00:35:26,640
Speaker 4: We need men to say more thoughtful things, like if

703
00:35:26,680 --> 00:35:29,080
Speaker 4: a man was to come and just be like babe,

704
00:35:29,239 --> 00:35:32,359
Speaker 4: I love you. This that like to a woman means

705
00:35:32,400 --> 00:35:33,880
Speaker 4: so much because men don't.

706
00:35:33,680 --> 00:35:34,400
Speaker 2: Do that often.

707
00:35:34,640 --> 00:35:37,279
Speaker 4: So it's like little things like showing your appreciation through

708
00:35:37,320 --> 00:35:39,279
Speaker 4: words and communication for a woman is.

709
00:35:39,239 --> 00:35:43,400
Speaker 2: Like wow, he said that. That hits. So that doesn't

710
00:35:43,400 --> 00:35:43,960
Speaker 2: cost a time.

711
00:35:44,200 --> 00:35:47,360
Speaker 3: Okay, So anyways, free game for y'all.

712
00:35:47,440 --> 00:35:48,000
Speaker 2: Free game.

713
00:35:48,400 --> 00:35:51,920
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717
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Speaker 2: So another thing.

718
00:36:01,560 --> 00:36:05,840
Speaker 4: Is what do you think the difference is between having

719
00:36:05,840 --> 00:36:06,720
Speaker 4: a trauma bond?

720
00:36:06,719 --> 00:36:08,000
Speaker 2: Do you know what like a trauma bond is?

721
00:36:08,040 --> 00:36:09,120
Speaker 3: Tell me what a trauma bond?

722
00:36:09,280 --> 00:36:12,239
Speaker 4: So, trauma bonding is basically when you meet someone and

723
00:36:12,280 --> 00:36:13,960
Speaker 4: you guys are both in it. Like let's say you're

724
00:36:13,960 --> 00:36:16,799
Speaker 4: in a really bad space and you meet someone else

725
00:36:17,080 --> 00:36:19,080
Speaker 4: and they might have a lot of bad stuff going

726
00:36:19,120 --> 00:36:21,600
Speaker 4: on or they're a negative person, and you guys bond

727
00:36:21,640 --> 00:36:22,520
Speaker 4: over that trauma.

728
00:36:23,040 --> 00:36:25,000
Speaker 2: So you have this attachment based on.

729
00:36:24,920 --> 00:36:29,120
Speaker 4: All of your trauma and it's this negative relationship, but

730
00:36:29,480 --> 00:36:33,439
Speaker 4: it's not really real love, right, So what.

731
00:36:33,560 --> 00:36:35,960
Speaker 2: Do you have you been in a trauma bonded relationship?

732
00:36:36,040 --> 00:36:40,440
Speaker 3: No? I think trauma bonding as you explain. It is

733
00:36:40,480 --> 00:36:41,720
Speaker 3: like more of like.

734
00:36:44,600 --> 00:36:46,959
Speaker 1: Girls do that with each other all the time. First

735
00:36:47,040 --> 00:36:49,040
Speaker 1: of all, they bond over each other, trying y'all go

736
00:36:49,080 --> 00:36:50,840
Speaker 1: out and sit like six of y'all going through the

737
00:36:50,840 --> 00:36:53,440
Speaker 1: goddamn same things and just be like telling men like

738
00:36:53,640 --> 00:36:55,600
Speaker 1: how bad they are. And they Now she meet a

739
00:36:55,600 --> 00:36:57,359
Speaker 1: man that's going through the same thing he went through

740
00:36:57,360 --> 00:36:58,120
Speaker 1: with their relationship.

741
00:36:58,160 --> 00:37:00,160
Speaker 3: That's like that's unhealthy.

742
00:37:00,520 --> 00:37:03,120
Speaker 4: Yeah, but relationships are like that too, where two people

743
00:37:03,520 --> 00:37:06,840
Speaker 4: either bond or their trauma, or one person manipulates the

744
00:37:06,880 --> 00:37:08,320
Speaker 4: other person based on their trauma.

745
00:37:08,440 --> 00:37:10,399
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, man do that all the time, then take

746
00:37:10,440 --> 00:37:11,120
Speaker 3: advantage of the.

747
00:37:11,120 --> 00:37:14,719
Speaker 1: Girl all the trauma traumatized. He gonna take her and

748
00:37:15,080 --> 00:37:18,080
Speaker 1: oh yeah, we're gonna do hey, hey.

749
00:37:17,960 --> 00:37:18,960
Speaker 2: Yeah exactly.

750
00:37:19,080 --> 00:37:21,880
Speaker 4: I for sure had been in a trauma bonded relationship before,

751
00:37:22,040 --> 00:37:23,520
Speaker 4: and I feel like, you.

752
00:37:23,480 --> 00:37:27,520
Speaker 3: Know, yeah, but I was like kind of like like.

753
00:37:27,719 --> 00:37:29,399
Speaker 2: I was in a messed up state of mind.

754
00:37:29,480 --> 00:37:32,560
Speaker 4: Yeah, and then I was definitely in a relationship where

755
00:37:32,560 --> 00:37:34,640
Speaker 4: I felt like, you know, it was a trauma.

756
00:37:34,280 --> 00:37:35,880
Speaker 3: Bond it was a relationship.

757
00:37:36,160 --> 00:37:38,799
Speaker 4: It was a full relationship. I don't I don't have

758
00:37:38,960 --> 00:37:39,880
Speaker 4: like a lot of hookups.

759
00:37:40,000 --> 00:37:41,120
Speaker 2: It was a full relationship.

760
00:37:41,160 --> 00:37:44,560
Speaker 4: For years and it was definitely trauma bonded and as

761
00:37:44,600 --> 00:37:47,120
Speaker 4: a relationship, I wasn't getting better. Sometimes you have to

762
00:37:47,120 --> 00:37:49,719
Speaker 4: take inventory of a relationship, like am I getting.

763
00:37:49,360 --> 00:37:51,000
Speaker 2: Better or worse in this situation?

764
00:37:51,160 --> 00:37:53,279
Speaker 4: And I gained all that weight, not to say that

765
00:37:53,280 --> 00:37:53,960
Speaker 4: that's his fault.

766
00:37:54,000 --> 00:37:56,759
Speaker 3: So the trauma bonding had you doing that.

767
00:37:56,960 --> 00:37:59,479
Speaker 4: I'm not going to blame him. I always am gonna

768
00:37:59,480 --> 00:38:01,920
Speaker 4: blame myself. Yeah, yeah, it's never going to be. But

769
00:38:02,000 --> 00:38:05,000
Speaker 4: it was definitely a trauma bonding situation. He saw that

770
00:38:05,040 --> 00:38:09,080
Speaker 4: I'm traumatized. He was like, oh, and he took advantage

771
00:38:09,120 --> 00:38:10,960
Speaker 4: of that and really manipulated me.

772
00:38:11,000 --> 00:38:13,120
Speaker 2: And it was bad intent.

773
00:38:13,640 --> 00:38:15,799
Speaker 4: It may not have been his intention to do that,

774
00:38:16,080 --> 00:38:18,880
Speaker 4: but I feel like it was based off of everything

775
00:38:18,880 --> 00:38:19,600
Speaker 4: that went down.

776
00:38:19,719 --> 00:38:22,520
Speaker 2: I can definitely know for sure he could.

777
00:38:22,400 --> 00:38:26,279
Speaker 3: Have liked you, because you could for sure.

778
00:38:27,480 --> 00:38:30,920
Speaker 1: So like, like, let's stop coming out here and it's

779
00:38:31,000 --> 00:38:33,919
Speaker 1: using this internet and social media to say, oh, that's

780
00:38:33,960 --> 00:38:35,560
Speaker 1: trauma binding, that's love bombing.

781
00:38:35,960 --> 00:38:41,560
Speaker 4: Like, no, I know what you're saying about people misusing narcissistics,

782
00:38:41,600 --> 00:38:45,480
Speaker 4: but I will say that I genuinely know that that

783
00:38:45,680 --> 00:38:48,560
Speaker 4: was that situation. It was it was genuinely and I'm

784
00:38:48,600 --> 00:38:50,560
Speaker 4: not going to sit on here and explain why.

785
00:38:50,680 --> 00:38:53,000
Speaker 2: But I did therapy and did a lot of work.

786
00:38:53,600 --> 00:38:56,799
Speaker 4: That situation was definitely that, and women and men deal

787
00:38:56,920 --> 00:38:57,880
Speaker 4: with that situation.

788
00:38:58,040 --> 00:38:59,720
Speaker 2: You can't just dismiss.

789
00:38:59,280 --> 00:39:02,319
Speaker 4: It just because people up with new terms everything that's

790
00:39:02,360 --> 00:39:06,960
Speaker 4: not about trauma, Bond.

791
00:39:07,000 --> 00:39:09,879
Speaker 1: I never heard of that growing up, Yeah, because I've

792
00:39:09,880 --> 00:39:11,440
Speaker 1: never heard of that in the last you know, I

793
00:39:11,480 --> 00:39:11,959
Speaker 1: did hear.

794
00:39:11,880 --> 00:39:13,960
Speaker 2: About that growing up white people.

795
00:39:14,160 --> 00:39:17,319
Speaker 4: That's because in the black and brown communities, it was

796
00:39:17,360 --> 00:39:20,600
Speaker 4: stigmatized to know anything about mental health, to talk about

797
00:39:20,680 --> 00:39:21,920
Speaker 4: mental health, to talk about.

798
00:39:24,680 --> 00:39:30,480
Speaker 2: Stigmatized it. Stigmatiz is not a big word anyway.

799
00:39:32,400 --> 00:39:35,960
Speaker 4: Okay, So another thing is that someone wanted to know

800
00:39:37,520 --> 00:39:41,920
Speaker 4: is why are having so young Miami? Actually recently, I

801
00:39:41,960 --> 00:39:44,240
Speaker 4: don't know if it's a recent post, but it resurfaced.

802
00:39:44,520 --> 00:39:47,080
Speaker 4: She was talking about how she'll have a baby with

803
00:39:47,160 --> 00:39:49,799
Speaker 4: a man if she got pregnant at any moment, but

804
00:39:49,880 --> 00:39:51,879
Speaker 4: she won't marry up. And she's like, I don't get

805
00:39:51,880 --> 00:39:54,440
Speaker 4: why people want to get married and not have a baby.

806
00:39:54,520 --> 00:39:57,920
Speaker 4: So there's this whole idea that having a baby is

807
00:39:57,920 --> 00:40:01,040
Speaker 4: a less commitment than marriage, and I could disagree with that.

808
00:40:01,200 --> 00:40:03,840
Speaker 4: I feel like having a baby is a huge commitment.

809
00:40:04,239 --> 00:40:05,960
Speaker 4: I could divorce you and not have a kid and

810
00:40:06,000 --> 00:40:08,040
Speaker 4: never have to talk to you again. Yeah, it might

811
00:40:08,080 --> 00:40:10,000
Speaker 4: be some stuff with like money. I get that a

812
00:40:10,000 --> 00:40:12,360
Speaker 4: man has to deal with or whatever, but when it

813
00:40:12,400 --> 00:40:15,160
Speaker 4: comes to a baby, that's the rest of your life

814
00:40:15,239 --> 00:40:17,160
Speaker 4: that you're dealing with that kid in that person. No

815
00:40:17,200 --> 00:40:19,880
Speaker 4: matter what, you're always going to be connected to that person.

816
00:40:20,080 --> 00:40:22,799
Speaker 4: That's my fear because I don't have a kid, and

817
00:40:22,800 --> 00:40:24,640
Speaker 4: that's been one of my fears of like, if I

818
00:40:24,640 --> 00:40:26,680
Speaker 4: have a kid with this person, I have to look

819
00:40:26,680 --> 00:40:28,200
Speaker 4: at this person for the rest.

820
00:40:28,040 --> 00:40:29,600
Speaker 2: Of my life. I don't know that I want to

821
00:40:29,640 --> 00:40:29,960
Speaker 2: do that.

822
00:40:30,320 --> 00:40:33,279
Speaker 4: But would I get married possibly. That's still a fear

823
00:40:33,320 --> 00:40:36,400
Speaker 4: of mine. But yeah, because you could divorce someone you.

824
00:40:36,360 --> 00:40:38,759
Speaker 3: Don't know if you want to look at your kid, not.

825
00:40:38,800 --> 00:40:41,839
Speaker 2: The kid, the man that don't have to you do

826
00:40:41,960 --> 00:40:44,360
Speaker 2: have to have to put you have.

827
00:40:44,280 --> 00:40:48,000
Speaker 4: To look at that man and deal with that man.

828
00:40:48,600 --> 00:40:51,960
Speaker 2: Why wouldn't you Because I never deal with my father.

829
00:40:53,040 --> 00:40:53,920
Speaker 2: That's horrible.

830
00:40:57,400 --> 00:41:00,560
Speaker 3: But it's not a have two things, because that's do you.

831
00:41:00,719 --> 00:41:03,560
Speaker 2: Have to deal with the mother of your children like.

832
00:41:04,719 --> 00:41:08,560
Speaker 1: I choose to because that's the man I am, right,

833
00:41:08,800 --> 00:41:13,000
Speaker 1: But there's so many cases to where these men and

834
00:41:13,080 --> 00:41:15,560
Speaker 1: women don't even allow it. Women don't even like I

835
00:41:15,560 --> 00:41:18,920
Speaker 1: don't even want you to see your father. I'm moving,

836
00:41:19,040 --> 00:41:20,160
Speaker 1: I'm moving away, but I.

837
00:41:20,080 --> 00:41:21,520
Speaker 2: Would never do that.

838
00:41:21,520 --> 00:41:24,680
Speaker 1: That's you, that's you. You can't speak for just you.

839
00:41:25,120 --> 00:41:28,120
Speaker 1: I need to speak to what really happens like a lot.

840
00:41:28,719 --> 00:41:29,839
Speaker 1: You know, it happens a lot.

841
00:41:30,000 --> 00:41:33,400
Speaker 4: But what I'm saying is, if you're a decent person,

842
00:41:33,560 --> 00:41:35,040
Speaker 4: you would not keep your child away.

843
00:41:35,239 --> 00:41:37,359
Speaker 3: It doesn't make you not a decent person.

844
00:41:37,440 --> 00:41:41,080
Speaker 4: Keeping your child away from the parents, the kid, it

845
00:41:41,239 --> 00:41:42,040
Speaker 4: does make you.

846
00:41:42,200 --> 00:41:45,880
Speaker 2: Just it's just like it's selfish. It's a very selfish decision.

847
00:41:46,040 --> 00:41:47,960
Speaker 2: Say that, Okay, so a.

848
00:41:47,800 --> 00:41:50,440
Speaker 3: Bad person or decent it's just maybe it is selfish.

849
00:41:50,480 --> 00:41:54,600
Speaker 2: It's a very selfish like the kid, like.

850
00:41:54,600 --> 00:41:59,040
Speaker 1: You see how like, all right, I'm not with the guy,

851
00:41:59,080 --> 00:42:02,280
Speaker 1: but this is the joy of my world, and based

852
00:42:02,320 --> 00:42:04,040
Speaker 1: on how he treated me and how he was I

853
00:42:04,080 --> 00:42:06,120
Speaker 1: don't even want him to mess up this joy.

854
00:42:06,200 --> 00:42:07,680
Speaker 3: And this girl's got to move away.

855
00:42:07,920 --> 00:42:08,839
Speaker 2: But that's not right.

856
00:42:09,640 --> 00:42:10,719
Speaker 3: We don't know what's right.

857
00:42:11,040 --> 00:42:11,759
Speaker 2: I know that.

858
00:42:11,760 --> 00:42:14,520
Speaker 4: Your dad, if they want to be in your child's

859
00:42:14,560 --> 00:42:16,640
Speaker 4: life and they're not going to harm the child, or they're.

860
00:42:16,480 --> 00:42:18,520
Speaker 2: Not like domestically abusive or crazy.

861
00:42:18,920 --> 00:42:21,200
Speaker 4: You should give them the opportunity to have a relationship

862
00:42:21,200 --> 00:42:23,520
Speaker 4: with their father or their mother. I think that that's

863
00:42:23,560 --> 00:42:27,799
Speaker 4: a very he's toxic.

864
00:42:28,200 --> 00:42:28,960
Speaker 3: A criminal.

865
00:42:30,000 --> 00:42:34,160
Speaker 1: You guys understand the circumstances that come into it to women.

866
00:42:34,400 --> 00:42:36,840
Speaker 2: I just say, what did you say? I said, unless

867
00:42:36,880 --> 00:42:39,239
Speaker 2: there're circumstances that will harm.

868
00:42:39,040 --> 00:42:41,520
Speaker 1: The child, Well, it doesn't mean that's that's because you

869
00:42:41,600 --> 00:42:43,520
Speaker 1: there's things, doesn't mean you're going to harm the child

870
00:42:43,760 --> 00:42:48,880
Speaker 1: like you act like criminals harm childs hard kids like

871
00:42:49,040 --> 00:42:51,480
Speaker 1: he might be doing other things. Just he just a criminal,

872
00:42:51,920 --> 00:42:52,480
Speaker 1: but he might.

873
00:42:53,200 --> 00:42:55,640
Speaker 3: You know what I'm saying. You gotta understand. I've seen this.

874
00:42:55,840 --> 00:42:56,920
Speaker 3: I've been around it.

875
00:42:57,040 --> 00:43:00,919
Speaker 1: Like it's like and women take these kids away from

876
00:43:01,000 --> 00:43:04,239
Speaker 1: men and just be like I loved you, I just

877
00:43:04,280 --> 00:43:06,239
Speaker 1: wanted a child and move away.

878
00:43:07,320 --> 00:43:08,720
Speaker 3: Never like it happens.

879
00:43:09,080 --> 00:43:10,720
Speaker 2: I'm not saying that it doesn't happen.

880
00:43:10,800 --> 00:43:14,560
Speaker 4: I'm saying that for me and my opinion on what

881
00:43:14,640 --> 00:43:16,640
Speaker 4: I feel like is more of a commitment. I think

882
00:43:16,680 --> 00:43:18,960
Speaker 4: having a child is more of a commitment to marriage.

883
00:43:19,120 --> 00:43:20,120
Speaker 2: That is me now.

884
00:43:19,960 --> 00:43:22,960
Speaker 4: Having a whole child that I raised that I happen.

885
00:43:23,480 --> 00:43:25,560
Speaker 4: People are saying that, oh I have a baby by

886
00:43:25,560 --> 00:43:28,000
Speaker 4: a man, but I won't marry a man. It's much

887
00:43:28,160 --> 00:43:30,440
Speaker 4: it's way more of a bigger commitment to get married.

888
00:43:30,680 --> 00:43:34,520
Speaker 1: I don't know, marriage versus a kid is more stressful.

889
00:43:35,080 --> 00:43:36,800
Speaker 2: We're not talking about stressful. We're talking about it.

890
00:43:36,880 --> 00:43:39,880
Speaker 1: Oh, that's that's what the commitment makes it's stressful.

891
00:43:39,920 --> 00:43:41,680
Speaker 3: The commitment makes it stressful.

892
00:43:41,880 --> 00:43:44,200
Speaker 4: So you believe that having a kid is more is

893
00:43:44,280 --> 00:43:45,160
Speaker 4: less of a commitment.

894
00:43:45,920 --> 00:43:46,799
Speaker 3: I just say that.

895
00:43:46,840 --> 00:43:49,600
Speaker 4: I'm asking you. That's the question that I'm asking.

896
00:43:49,640 --> 00:43:53,760
Speaker 1: So babies versus there's commitment. No, So the baby commitment

897
00:43:53,840 --> 00:43:56,200
Speaker 1: is for the rest of your life. But that's more

898
00:43:56,239 --> 00:43:59,840
Speaker 1: of a beautiful thing. Then when you get married, you

899
00:44:00,040 --> 00:44:03,880
Speaker 1: gonna have feelings up and down. You're gonna have resentment

900
00:44:04,000 --> 00:44:06,440
Speaker 1: that comes into play if y'all break up. There's like

901
00:44:06,440 --> 00:44:09,040
Speaker 1: like most of the time, mothers and their kid are

902
00:44:09,080 --> 00:44:13,920
Speaker 1: not like that. So the baby makes more sense than

903
00:44:13,920 --> 00:44:14,400
Speaker 1: the marriage.

904
00:44:15,600 --> 00:44:16,800
Speaker 2: Okay, that's your opinion.

905
00:44:17,560 --> 00:44:18,480
Speaker 3: It's just my opinion.

906
00:44:18,520 --> 00:44:22,080
Speaker 4: And I think you have your everything you name about

907
00:44:22,120 --> 00:44:23,400
Speaker 4: marriage is very.

908
00:44:23,280 --> 00:44:27,960
Speaker 2: Like negative a marriage. Yeah, you have a very negative.

909
00:44:28,480 --> 00:44:31,680
Speaker 1: The commitment to marriage is more stressful because you have

910
00:44:31,840 --> 00:44:38,439
Speaker 1: ups and downs more so than But like as a mother,

911
00:44:38,560 --> 00:44:41,400
Speaker 1: as a father, Like you don't understand how much joy

912
00:44:41,480 --> 00:44:44,960
Speaker 1: that a kid brings. Believe on bad days, like when

913
00:44:45,000 --> 00:44:49,640
Speaker 1: you're having a bad day, it reflects on the marriage,

914
00:44:50,280 --> 00:44:52,120
Speaker 1: It doesn't. It don't reflect It reflects more in the

915
00:44:52,120 --> 00:44:54,120
Speaker 1: marriage than the kid, because the kid gonna make you

916
00:44:54,160 --> 00:44:57,640
Speaker 1: smile more so than your partner. Your partner is just

917
00:44:57,640 --> 00:45:00,000
Speaker 1: gonna be like over there, like going through it with you.

918
00:45:00,680 --> 00:45:04,680
Speaker 3: M that's said, Okay, it's not sad, it's life.

919
00:45:05,160 --> 00:45:05,399
Speaker 2: No.

920
00:45:05,520 --> 00:45:08,520
Speaker 4: I mean, I think that your view on things can

921
00:45:08,560 --> 00:45:11,719
Speaker 4: be from maybe your experiences or whatever it is. But

922
00:45:11,760 --> 00:45:14,560
Speaker 4: I will say that for me, I'm just thinking, like,

923
00:45:14,719 --> 00:45:16,640
Speaker 4: and this is what the person was saying in the comments,

924
00:45:16,680 --> 00:45:19,919
Speaker 4: like babies are such a big deal, Like I take

925
00:45:20,080 --> 00:45:23,920
Speaker 4: raising a child so seriously, like and even just my

926
00:45:24,000 --> 00:45:26,360
Speaker 4: nieces and my nephews that I helped raise and stuff

927
00:45:26,400 --> 00:45:27,319
Speaker 4: like that, Like.

928
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Speaker 3: I it's not the same thing.

929
00:45:28,680 --> 00:45:30,520
Speaker 2: Trust No, I know it's not the same as having

930
00:45:30,560 --> 00:45:30,960
Speaker 2: a child.

931
00:45:30,960 --> 00:45:32,680
Speaker 1: But I'm just saying, well, you can't speak on my

932
00:45:32,840 --> 00:45:35,759
Speaker 1: view on it because I'm speaking from a woman's point

933
00:45:35,800 --> 00:45:38,080
Speaker 1: of view because I've seen that.

934
00:45:38,680 --> 00:45:41,520
Speaker 4: How you can't speak from a because I've seen it,

935
00:45:42,080 --> 00:45:44,480
Speaker 4: but you're not it, so you have to speak from

936
00:45:44,480 --> 00:45:45,319
Speaker 4: a man's.

937
00:45:44,960 --> 00:45:45,560
Speaker 2: Point of view.

938
00:45:45,719 --> 00:45:47,839
Speaker 1: No, I can speak on a woman's point of view

939
00:45:47,840 --> 00:45:50,200
Speaker 1: when i've seen her. I've seen it all the time

940
00:45:50,239 --> 00:45:50,879
Speaker 1: around the kid.

941
00:45:51,280 --> 00:45:57,520
Speaker 4: Okay, that's fine. So that goes into dating people with kids.

942
00:45:57,680 --> 00:46:01,360
Speaker 4: Do you feel like child supports if one of the

943
00:46:01,800 --> 00:46:05,399
Speaker 4: parents remarries. So let's say, like you're paying someone child

944
00:46:05,480 --> 00:46:09,319
Speaker 4: support and she remarries another man. Should that Should your

945
00:46:09,400 --> 00:46:10,720
Speaker 4: child support change?

946
00:46:13,440 --> 00:46:16,120
Speaker 3: Man? I don't even know that's a good question.

947
00:46:16,239 --> 00:46:24,160
Speaker 1: If she remarries, should y'all child support change? I don't

948
00:46:24,200 --> 00:46:27,880
Speaker 1: think men should be paying child support anyway, Okay. I

949
00:46:27,920 --> 00:46:33,839
Speaker 1: think it should be like it should be like half

950
00:46:33,840 --> 00:46:38,560
Speaker 1: the duties is more important than the child support, I think.

951
00:46:38,800 --> 00:46:41,680
Speaker 2: Okay, I agree with that.

952
00:46:41,760 --> 00:46:45,319
Speaker 1: If you keep the child for a month, I get

953
00:46:45,360 --> 00:46:46,040
Speaker 1: them for a month.

954
00:46:46,160 --> 00:46:46,640
Speaker 2: I agree.

955
00:46:46,719 --> 00:46:48,759
Speaker 1: When they're with you, you pay for what they need.

956
00:46:48,800 --> 00:46:50,760
Speaker 1: When they with me, I pay for what they need.

957
00:46:50,960 --> 00:46:52,600
Speaker 2: I agree with that, you know, I.

958
00:46:52,600 --> 00:46:56,439
Speaker 1: Just think half the duty h And I don't think

959
00:46:56,520 --> 00:46:57,640
Speaker 1: child support should.

960
00:46:57,440 --> 00:46:57,839
Speaker 3: Be a thing.

961
00:46:58,040 --> 00:46:59,880
Speaker 4: I think child support is for men who are not

962
00:47:00,480 --> 00:47:03,760
Speaker 4: child's life at all, so like, and it's not by choice,

963
00:47:03,760 --> 00:47:05,879
Speaker 4: like the woman taking the baby away, it's their choice.

964
00:47:05,880 --> 00:47:07,239
Speaker 4: They don't want to be in the child's life for

965
00:47:07,320 --> 00:47:10,040
Speaker 4: whatever reason. I think then they should pay child support

966
00:47:10,040 --> 00:47:12,960
Speaker 4: because they're not supporting the kid financially. But I think

967
00:47:12,960 --> 00:47:17,080
Speaker 4: if a dad or mother is like present and we're

968
00:47:17,120 --> 00:47:19,719
Speaker 4: both getting the child fifty fifty, I don't get it.

969
00:47:19,840 --> 00:47:23,160
Speaker 3: I don't understand. Like if we have fifty fifty.

970
00:47:22,840 --> 00:47:24,239
Speaker 2: Customers, Yeah, I don't get that either.

971
00:47:24,320 --> 00:47:26,360
Speaker 3: And I got to pay child support.

972
00:47:26,440 --> 00:47:28,600
Speaker 1: I don't get that either, Like, so I only have

973
00:47:28,640 --> 00:47:30,960
Speaker 1: to pay for my time with the child. I have

974
00:47:31,000 --> 00:47:33,160
Speaker 1: to pay for your time with the child, Like, it

975
00:47:33,239 --> 00:47:34,319
Speaker 1: don't make sense to me.

976
00:47:34,520 --> 00:47:36,640
Speaker 4: It doesn't make sense to me either. If I'm being honest,

977
00:47:36,719 --> 00:47:40,360
Speaker 4: I've always wondered that. I'm like, if you're available.

978
00:47:39,640 --> 00:47:43,080
Speaker 1: Stupid, I'm taking if I have half the time with them,

979
00:47:43,440 --> 00:47:45,760
Speaker 1: I'll pay for my half of the time when I'm.

980
00:47:45,600 --> 00:47:48,600
Speaker 3: With that child, food, clothing, all of that. Now it's

981
00:47:48,640 --> 00:47:49,120
Speaker 3: your turn.

982
00:47:50,040 --> 00:47:53,359
Speaker 1: Yeah, if that's what half custody is, Yeah, I don't

983
00:47:53,360 --> 00:47:53,680
Speaker 1: get it.

984
00:47:54,440 --> 00:47:54,800
Speaker 3: Yeah.

985
00:47:54,840 --> 00:47:59,480
Speaker 4: Well, and then Erica actually our friend Erica, she asked

986
00:47:59,800 --> 00:48:00,880
Speaker 4: what about dating.

987
00:48:00,640 --> 00:48:02,960
Speaker 2: People with kids who have bitter baby moms or.

988
00:48:02,920 --> 00:48:06,360
Speaker 4: Baby daddies, Like, how do you feel about that or

989
00:48:06,400 --> 00:48:07,719
Speaker 4: how do you navigate that?

990
00:48:08,400 --> 00:48:10,000
Speaker 3: Ask the question when we're talking.

991
00:48:10,000 --> 00:48:13,279
Speaker 4: Dealing with dating people and dealing with dating someone who

992
00:48:13,320 --> 00:48:15,000
Speaker 4: has like kids.

993
00:48:14,520 --> 00:48:17,719
Speaker 2: And a bitter baby mom or bitter baby dad.

994
00:48:18,760 --> 00:48:20,280
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm looking for the question.

995
00:48:20,320 --> 00:48:22,000
Speaker 4: I'm saying, like, how do you deal with How would

996
00:48:22,000 --> 00:48:24,319
Speaker 4: you I don't know, I know what I'm saying, but

997
00:48:24,360 --> 00:48:26,399
Speaker 4: what would you give someone advice on? Like how would

998
00:48:26,440 --> 00:48:29,839
Speaker 4: you navigate that situation if you're dealing with someone who

999
00:48:29,920 --> 00:48:35,640
Speaker 4: has like who is I guess maybe upset that you

1000
00:48:35,719 --> 00:48:41,799
Speaker 4: have another girl or like that person knowing that might

1001
00:48:41,840 --> 00:48:42,640
Speaker 4: be upset, you.

1002
00:48:42,560 --> 00:48:44,239
Speaker 1: Know, Like I think at the end of the day,

1003
00:48:45,480 --> 00:48:50,640
Speaker 1: like you have to do and have conversation and say, hey,

1004
00:48:51,200 --> 00:48:54,359
Speaker 1: we're in this together. Yeah, we have to do this

1005
00:48:54,400 --> 00:48:58,240
Speaker 1: for our kids. We're raising them together. Like I understand

1006
00:48:58,239 --> 00:49:02,719
Speaker 1: we're not together no more, but we have a kid together.

1007
00:49:03,800 --> 00:49:09,560
Speaker 1: Like it's toxic for them to see us arguing or

1008
00:49:09,920 --> 00:49:13,279
Speaker 1: me not seeing the kid. That's toxic, Like, let's do

1009
00:49:13,320 --> 00:49:18,080
Speaker 1: what's best for the kid, Like we always it's selfish

1010
00:49:18,440 --> 00:49:20,560
Speaker 1: when one of the other ones is bitter. They don't

1011
00:49:20,600 --> 00:49:24,080
Speaker 1: want to do stuff because the other one's bitter, and

1012
00:49:24,120 --> 00:49:29,799
Speaker 1: it's like, dude, lady, like, remember the most important fact

1013
00:49:29,880 --> 00:49:33,319
Speaker 1: in all of this is the kids, and you ain't

1014
00:49:33,360 --> 00:49:35,359
Speaker 1: got to deal with each other, you know what.

1015
00:49:35,520 --> 00:49:37,319
Speaker 3: You ain't even got to get out the car here,

1016
00:49:37,600 --> 00:49:41,000
Speaker 3: drop them off right here. Boom.

1017
00:49:41,360 --> 00:49:43,200
Speaker 1: I got it, like if you don't want to see

1018
00:49:43,200 --> 00:49:46,160
Speaker 1: my face. You know a lot of you know what,

1019
00:49:46,360 --> 00:49:48,560
Speaker 1: you know what families do that got money. They have

1020
00:49:48,640 --> 00:49:52,799
Speaker 1: like a house to where that's where the kid and

1021
00:49:52,840 --> 00:49:56,760
Speaker 1: you and that kid stay and they have their own house.

1022
00:49:57,120 --> 00:49:59,279
Speaker 1: So the father have a house, the mama got a

1023
00:49:59,320 --> 00:50:03,040
Speaker 1: house where they see the kid, father or something.

1024
00:50:03,200 --> 00:50:08,160
Speaker 3: They stay over here. That's some rich families that they.

1025
00:50:08,160 --> 00:50:10,319
Speaker 4: Have one house where the father goes over there when

1026
00:50:10,320 --> 00:50:12,040
Speaker 4: they're with the kids, and the mother goes over there

1027
00:50:12,080 --> 00:50:13,120
Speaker 4: when they're with the kids.

1028
00:50:13,400 --> 00:50:14,160
Speaker 2: Is that what it is?

1029
00:50:14,480 --> 00:50:15,480
Speaker 3: Yeah, something like that.

1030
00:50:15,640 --> 00:50:17,160
Speaker 2: I see what you do so the kids don't have

1031
00:50:17,200 --> 00:50:18,680
Speaker 2: to move around? Is that what it is?

1032
00:50:18,760 --> 00:50:18,880
Speaker 3: No?

1033
00:50:18,760 --> 00:50:21,160
Speaker 1: No, no, no, no no, they have a house just

1034
00:50:21,239 --> 00:50:21,920
Speaker 1: for that.

1035
00:50:23,239 --> 00:50:24,680
Speaker 3: It's rich, some rich stuff.

1036
00:50:24,760 --> 00:50:26,200
Speaker 2: No, I'm curious now for.

1037
00:50:26,239 --> 00:50:29,200
Speaker 1: What that's when I that's when I spend my time

1038
00:50:29,239 --> 00:50:31,759
Speaker 1: with the kid at this house because I have a

1039
00:50:31,800 --> 00:50:35,319
Speaker 1: girl and I'm not with the kid full time, but

1040
00:50:35,360 --> 00:50:37,360
Speaker 1: I'll spend my time over here with the kid to

1041
00:50:37,400 --> 00:50:37,920
Speaker 1: where I'm not.

1042
00:50:38,800 --> 00:50:41,239
Speaker 3: They do stuff like that. I've seen it.

1043
00:50:42,080 --> 00:50:42,680
Speaker 2: That's crazy.

1044
00:50:42,719 --> 00:50:44,840
Speaker 4: Then, So but when does the girl? When do you

1045
00:50:44,920 --> 00:50:46,839
Speaker 4: just always keep the girl over there? Do you never

1046
00:50:47,000 --> 00:50:49,360
Speaker 4: implement the girl with the kids eventually?

1047
00:50:50,080 --> 00:50:51,480
Speaker 2: Okay, that's interesting.

1048
00:50:51,760 --> 00:50:55,680
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1049
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Speaker 4: episode of the Truth after Dark. We appreciate you, guys,

1050
00:50:58,520 --> 00:51:01,720
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1051
00:51:01,160 --> 00:51:03,000
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1052
00:51:03,560 --> 00:51:05,719
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1053
00:51:05,800 --> 00:51:08,120
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1055
00:51:09,719 --> 00:51:12,040
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1056
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Speaker 1: This is the taking over the game, all right, everybody,

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00:52:06,000 --> 00:52:08,400
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Speaker 4: Do you think that men or women are more toxic