WEBVTT - That's What He Said Part 2 0:00:00.880 --> 0:00:08.800 This is and Gavin and Radio Podcasts. Welcome to How 0:00:08.880 --> 0:00:11.400 Men Think. My name is Brooks like and I am 0:00:11.440 --> 0:00:13.240 here with all my dudes. We've got all the dudes 0:00:13.280 --> 0:00:17.119 in studio. You you, and today is one of This 0:00:17.160 --> 0:00:19.680 is one of my favorite segments. This is we're diving 0:00:19.760 --> 0:00:22.600 right into this one. This is called that's what he said, 0:00:23.239 --> 0:00:25.760 And Dmitri, I know you love this one. I do 0:00:25.840 --> 0:00:28.760 love this because this is when the listeners sending their 0:00:28.880 --> 0:00:32.560 questions via email men at at I heeart radio dot com, 0:00:32.600 --> 0:00:35.640 and we just you we read them and we just 0:00:35.680 --> 0:00:38.200 answer them and I feel like we're talking directly with people. 0:00:38.240 --> 0:00:39.960 So that's that's my fame. We've always tried. That's what 0:00:40.040 --> 0:00:42.800 we say. This is a podcast to serve the community, 0:00:42.840 --> 0:00:47.000 and so we get bombarded with questions, um, guys and girls. 0:00:47.040 --> 0:00:48.839 They want to know what dudes think about this? Why 0:00:48.880 --> 0:00:51.200 do you guys do this? Why do guys think this way? 0:00:51.200 --> 0:00:53.480 Why do they act this way or not act this way? 0:00:53.680 --> 0:00:55.560 So we go through all these questions, we picked the 0:00:55.600 --> 0:00:57.600 ones that we think can serve the community the most, 0:00:57.800 --> 0:01:00.840 and then we dive into them. So this is that's 0:01:01.000 --> 0:01:05.760 what he said. Round two. The question one from Christina 0:01:05.880 --> 0:01:09.480 she wants to know about gray hairs. My boyfriend of 0:01:09.560 --> 0:01:12.480 five years has had some gray hair popping up for 0:01:12.520 --> 0:01:15.319 a while now. He seems insecure about it, even though 0:01:15.319 --> 0:01:18.199 he thinks, even though I think he's a silver fox. 0:01:18.240 --> 0:01:21.800 Do I offer him help to diet? A Halloween custom 0:01:21.840 --> 0:01:28.640 from now on? Him covered up Elvis Presley from the seventies, 0:01:30.720 --> 0:01:37.080 giant Giant Giant mane on that dome like Wayne Newton. 0:01:37.120 --> 0:01:40.000 Wayne Newton's got great. I love it. No, it depends 0:01:40.000 --> 0:01:44.080 how old he is. Well he wanted. No, she's after 0:01:44.160 --> 0:01:46.640 he's insecure. She offered to help him diet. He know 0:01:46.880 --> 0:01:48.720 she loves it. She should not offer to help. She 0:01:48.840 --> 0:01:51.040 thinks it's hot. She should convince him to keep it. 0:01:51.440 --> 0:01:53.840 He's insecure about it. Yeah, but she loves it. So 0:01:54.080 --> 0:01:56.240 Number one, if she loves it, she should not offer 0:01:56.280 --> 0:01:59.360 to help him get rid of it. That first second, 0:01:59.400 --> 0:02:01.919 I agree, should convince him to keep it and say, 0:02:01.920 --> 0:02:05.280 by the way, I think it's totally sexy. That's what 0:02:05.360 --> 0:02:10.440 she should tell him. And yes, yes, she should uh 0:02:10.600 --> 0:02:13.440 let him keep it up to him. Hold on a second, 0:02:13.680 --> 0:02:18.560 men's rights, man's rights. I think we should say he 0:02:18.680 --> 0:02:21.280 wants to look a certain way, you know, with his 0:02:21.800 --> 0:02:25.120 hair color whatever, it's important for him to feel like something. 0:02:25.600 --> 0:02:29.320 Then yeah, he could diet, but he's insecure about it. 0:02:29.320 --> 0:02:31.520 How does she help him not be insecured. I'll tell 0:02:31.560 --> 0:02:33.280 you this. I've had like a couple of gray hairs 0:02:33.280 --> 0:02:35.720 popping in. I just yanked me too, when a gray 0:02:35.720 --> 0:02:37.760 hair pops in, I yanked them to send a message 0:02:37.760 --> 0:02:42.280 to be careful when you yank your hair out. Be 0:02:42.320 --> 0:02:44.160 careful when you yank your hair out. Guys, it doesn't 0:02:44.160 --> 0:02:48.120 always come back. Send this guy a picture of me. 0:02:48.200 --> 0:02:51.760 He'll be happy with whatever. Harry's guy. So I think 0:02:51.760 --> 0:02:53.840 it's a I think you let him. I don't. I 0:02:53.840 --> 0:02:56.440 wouldn't say diet. I don't think. I don't think I'm 0:02:56.480 --> 0:02:58.359 not into that. Just let it come out. You gotta 0:02:58.400 --> 0:03:00.200 do whatever he wants to do with his hair, you 0:03:00.200 --> 0:03:02.000 know what I mean. But it's okay for her to 0:03:02.000 --> 0:03:04.640 tell him how hot he looks with it. Every everybody 0:03:04.680 --> 0:03:08.320 needs a good ego boost. Okay, let's get what about you, Danielle. 0:03:08.360 --> 0:03:11.400 Do you like gray hair? Like, let's get a woman's perspective, 0:03:12.320 --> 0:03:14.760 from a female perspective, do you like a little bit 0:03:14.800 --> 0:03:19.560 of salt and pepper? I think it's so sexy. Really 0:03:20.360 --> 0:03:25.360 that What is it that's sexy about it? I don't know. 0:03:25.440 --> 0:03:28.160 Maybe it's a sign of wisdom, you know, like you're 0:03:28.160 --> 0:03:30.280 a little more mature and you're I don't know, I 0:03:30.320 --> 0:03:37.920 think so brilliant. What about So that's that's coming from 0:03:37.960 --> 0:03:45.520 a married woman, Hanna young? Single? What do you look 0:03:45.560 --> 0:03:47.320 at like? Well, she's not because she's gonna be like 0:03:47.360 --> 0:03:50.120 I like silver hair on my dad because that's our age. 0:03:50.880 --> 0:03:55.120 We don't know how we do well. I'm only twenty, 0:03:55.200 --> 0:03:57.120 but when I look at my parents and they have 0:03:57.160 --> 0:04:01.960 gray hair, I give them for it. So Hannah's Hannah's 0:04:01.960 --> 0:04:05.200 saying diet, Danielle saying, no, I guess it's just a 0:04:05.240 --> 0:04:08.480 stage of life. Though not that much older than Hannah 0:04:08.560 --> 0:04:13.360 didn't say you that old, I said, without without revealing 0:04:13.400 --> 0:04:16.320 your age, how many years older are you? Then? I 0:04:16.320 --> 0:04:18.359 think I'm ten years older than by the way, she 0:04:18.440 --> 0:04:24.160 just says she was twenty. So you've now revealed nine 0:04:24.200 --> 0:04:26.479 years old. There you go, perfect. Okay, when did you 0:04:26.520 --> 0:04:30.240 start liking gray hair? Man? I would say I've always 0:04:30.279 --> 0:04:33.559 liked gray hair. I think it's cool. I will say 0:04:33.960 --> 0:04:37.440 I don't like all like all grey. I like salt 0:04:37.480 --> 0:04:39.679 and pepper. Right, there's a little bit of a difference. Okay, 0:04:39.680 --> 0:04:43.520 we'll say that. Your moving on a new question from Amber. 0:04:43.960 --> 0:04:46.440 Amber wants to know about multitasking. This is a great 0:04:46.440 --> 0:04:48.760 one for us dudes. Here, can guys we should do 0:04:48.800 --> 0:04:51.240 something else while we answer this. Yeah, well, Gavin's eating 0:04:51.320 --> 0:04:56.120 kit cats, so perfect. We are talking can guys multitask? 0:04:56.480 --> 0:05:00.280 Where do the responsibilities fall in the household? Et? Well? 0:05:00.680 --> 0:05:03.760 More on the wife, more on the husband. So two questions. First, 0:05:03.760 --> 0:05:10.760 can guys can guys multitask? Of course? Yeah, definitely, Yeah. 0:05:10.960 --> 0:05:14.000 I think women can multitask better, but I think guys 0:05:14.040 --> 0:05:18.920 can do it for sure. I actually the guitar at 0:05:18.920 --> 0:05:22.479 the same time. That's all one thing, all right. I 0:05:22.520 --> 0:05:25.640 have a goal of cooking at home as i'm as 0:05:25.680 --> 0:05:29.280 I'm cooking cleaning at the same time, So you're multitasking, 0:05:30.720 --> 0:05:32.520 So definitely guys can do it. Okay, what about this? 0:05:32.600 --> 0:05:36.039 Where do the responsibilities fall in the household? Equal more 0:05:36.040 --> 0:05:38.279 on the man, more on the woman. That lies in 0:05:38.320 --> 0:05:41.080 your strengths. Listen, if one of you cooks better, if 0:05:41.080 --> 0:05:44.000 one of you likes to clean, that's each individual a couple. 0:05:44.040 --> 0:05:45.920 I think you got to figure that out. And just 0:05:46.520 --> 0:05:49.800 do what what is suited to your strong suit. Like 0:05:50.480 --> 0:05:52.200 it doesn't have to be like women should do more, 0:05:52.360 --> 0:05:54.799 men should do more. Figure out what in your couple 0:05:54.880 --> 0:05:56.640 works best, and you do the things that are good 0:05:56.640 --> 0:05:58.680 for you that you can do, and and the other 0:05:58.720 --> 0:06:01.080 one does the said. I agree with that, but I 0:06:01.160 --> 0:06:04.120 also think you you pick up the slack wherever it's needed. 0:06:04.240 --> 0:06:06.719 You know, like if if there's a lot of laundry, 0:06:06.720 --> 0:06:08.320 I mean we're talking about the household, like I'll go 0:06:08.360 --> 0:06:09.680 do all the laundry. And if I'm not on the 0:06:09.760 --> 0:06:11.680 laundry that day or that week, then my wife will 0:06:11.680 --> 0:06:13.520 go do it the laundry. If you like doing laundry, 0:06:13.600 --> 0:06:15.840 you could do laundry all the time if you want. Rick, 0:06:19.839 --> 0:06:21.479 I'm pretty sure you have a delivery service for your 0:06:21.560 --> 0:06:24.440 laundry at your house. For instance, we were getting ready 0:06:24.440 --> 0:06:26.440 to come to Vegas and Rick was like, honey, where's 0:06:26.480 --> 0:06:31.559 my sweater? It was in the hampers it So He's like, honey, 0:06:32.640 --> 0:06:34.320 in Vegas, why did you need a sweater? I didn't 0:06:34.320 --> 0:06:38.720 watch your sweater. It's degrees in Vegas. I agree with you, Dmitri. 0:06:38.760 --> 0:06:40.920 I think you just I think naturally in a household 0:06:40.960 --> 0:06:43.760 you're gonna gravitate your strengths. Like I feed our dogs, 0:06:43.760 --> 0:06:46.679 I walk our dogs, Like that's something I like doing. Um, 0:06:46.720 --> 0:06:48.440 I'll do that most of the time. My wife will 0:06:48.440 --> 0:06:51.719 do other things. She's very much about the core and um, 0:06:51.760 --> 0:06:53.280 that kind of stuff. So I think you just kind 0:06:53.279 --> 0:06:55.640 of figure those out. I don't think it's man has 0:06:55.680 --> 0:06:57.440 to do everything or woman has to do everything. I 0:06:57.560 --> 0:07:00.640 just if you find your roles within the household. That's 0:07:00.640 --> 0:07:02.680 my take off. Let me ask you a question from 0:07:02.680 --> 0:07:04.600 a guy's point of view. So I like to barbecue. 0:07:04.600 --> 0:07:06.520 I like to cook and stuff. But I've been to 0:07:06.760 --> 0:07:10.960 houses where like the wife will barbecue and the husband won't. 0:07:11.000 --> 0:07:13.560 How do you, as a guy, because barbecue tends to 0:07:13.560 --> 0:07:15.360 be a guy's thing, how do you feel about that? 0:07:15.400 --> 0:07:16.680 Would you be all right if we all came out 0:07:16.720 --> 0:07:18.040 of Brooks, if we all came out of your house, 0:07:18.160 --> 0:07:21.800 would Julianne be working the barbecue? Jewels can barbecue, I love? 0:07:21.800 --> 0:07:23.760 Would you be okay with that? Yeah? I would. I 0:07:23.800 --> 0:07:26.880 love barbecue and Jules can barbecue certainly. Um. But also 0:07:26.960 --> 0:07:28.920 when we my wife and I love to host a lot, 0:07:29.000 --> 0:07:31.440 so we'll quite often have like Sunday Fundays at our 0:07:31.440 --> 0:07:34.800 house and we'll have pool party and barbecue and invited 0:07:34.840 --> 0:07:43.320 one of those I have not Wow, But I have 0:07:43.360 --> 0:07:47.400 two friends, Christie and Haley, that will always champion the barbecue. 0:07:47.760 --> 0:07:49.400 And I'm like, I can barbecue guys. They're like, no, 0:07:49.480 --> 0:07:52.600 we'd love to do it. So I have to friends 0:07:52.640 --> 0:07:55.600 that love to barbecue, and it's they're fantastic cooks, So 0:07:55.760 --> 0:07:57.680 I have no problem with it. Man or room barbecue 0:07:58.520 --> 0:08:01.960 fantastic and other than the barb with But you like 0:08:02.040 --> 0:08:06.320 a nice steak? You do like a nice steak? Man do? 0:08:06.520 --> 0:08:14.920 So do you barbecue inside your hotel rooms? It's so 0:08:14.960 --> 0:08:16.680 hot out here, I just throw the meat out on 0:08:16.720 --> 0:08:19.920 the other good thing is so you have wait, so 0:08:20.040 --> 0:08:27.440 you have at Okay. Another question from Lindsay. He said 0:08:27.560 --> 0:08:31.119 he needs alone time. That's the title of this question. 0:08:31.120 --> 0:08:32.840 So I've been dating a guy for about two months 0:08:32.840 --> 0:08:35.839 and we recently had a conversation about him needing alone time. 0:08:36.160 --> 0:08:38.280 I'm a twenty eight year old, he's thirty two years old. 0:08:38.320 --> 0:08:39.960 We see each other three to four times a week, 0:08:39.960 --> 0:08:42.320 so I'm guessing they don't live together. I obviously don't 0:08:42.320 --> 0:08:44.800 mind him or I don't mind giving him alone time 0:08:44.840 --> 0:08:47.320 because I need it too. But should I be seeing 0:08:47.320 --> 0:08:49.760 this as a red flag? He's been single for five 0:08:50.040 --> 0:08:52.439 years and I'm about a year out of my separation. 0:08:52.760 --> 0:08:55.360 Question is he saying he needs more alone time or 0:08:55.440 --> 0:08:57.559 that's the right amount of alone time is three to 0:08:57.679 --> 0:09:00.920 four days a week? I don't know, just see each 0:09:00.920 --> 0:09:03.920 other three sounds like it sounds like he if he's 0:09:03.920 --> 0:09:06.880 asking for a loone time, then that's yeah, that's yeah. 0:09:06.920 --> 0:09:09.280 I think that's somebody for three days, and you want 0:09:09.280 --> 0:09:12.520 more alone time than after two months, that's supposed that's 0:09:12.600 --> 0:09:15.040 that should still be in the sweet spot, like getting 0:09:15.040 --> 0:09:17.480 to know each other, and after two months you're like, 0:09:17.520 --> 0:09:19.800 I need a little more space. I'd say, I hate 0:09:19.800 --> 0:09:22.080 to say it because I feel badly, but that sounds 0:09:22.080 --> 0:09:24.040 like a red flag. Like when you say it, though, 0:09:24.080 --> 0:09:27.240 like you're so honest, thanks funny, especially with those glasses on, 0:09:27.679 --> 0:09:32.560 he's very he looks very studio. I would say, I 0:09:32.600 --> 0:09:37.400 agree with you, Dmitri. I think, I think, um, I 0:09:37.440 --> 0:09:39.480 think two months in if he's he should be like 0:09:39.559 --> 0:09:42.000 pulling towards you if I really liked you, and two 0:09:42.000 --> 0:09:44.040 months in if he's like backing off a little bit. 0:09:44.120 --> 0:09:47.000 He's either scared of this becoming some sort of committed thing. 0:09:47.600 --> 0:09:49.520 Um or he's just not into you and doesn't want 0:09:49.520 --> 0:09:51.480 to take there. Maybe he's not in that stage of life. 0:09:51.679 --> 0:09:53.560 And the other thing is she said she's out of 0:09:53.600 --> 0:09:57.839 her relationship, her separation, divorce one year. It's possible he 0:09:57.880 --> 0:10:01.360 thinks she's not ready like maybe he maybe he feels 0:10:01.400 --> 0:10:04.600 like she's just going full force because she's I don't 0:10:04.600 --> 0:10:06.760 think that's it, because otherwise he'd have that conversation with 0:10:06.800 --> 0:10:08.960 her about it versus saying he needs more alone time. 0:10:09.120 --> 0:10:13.200 Don't you see what the kid says? Okay, let's trying 0:10:13.200 --> 0:10:17.880 to find the answer inside of somewhere. Danielle is clearing 0:10:17.920 --> 0:10:26.520 him away. Okay. Here from Waite Newton. Later, here's a 0:10:26.600 --> 0:10:29.040 question from Sam and he wrote that he's a male 0:10:29.080 --> 0:10:31.200 because that name could go either way. Sam is a 0:10:31.200 --> 0:10:35.319 guy and he talks about reaching out to his ex. Um. 0:10:35.360 --> 0:10:38.560 He said, my dad had his prostate removed due to cancer. 0:10:38.600 --> 0:10:40.439 I asked my ex to pray for him because we're 0:10:40.440 --> 0:10:43.640 still very close, but my ex didn't even respond. What 0:10:43.720 --> 0:10:47.040 are your opinions on contacting my X during rough times? 0:10:47.360 --> 0:10:49.719 And how do you feel about online dating? So? What 0:10:49.920 --> 0:10:54.720 what do you feel about contacting your ex during rough times. Listen, 0:10:54.800 --> 0:10:57.120 rough times are rough times, right, So you do what 0:10:57.200 --> 0:11:00.360 you need to do. If if Sam felt that's what 0:11:00.440 --> 0:11:02.320 he needed was to reach out to the accident asked 0:11:02.360 --> 0:11:04.560 for them to pray for his dad, and that's what 0:11:04.600 --> 0:11:06.959 Sam needed, So I'm fine with that. The fact that 0:11:07.000 --> 0:11:09.600 the X didn't respond, I think that's not I don't 0:11:09.600 --> 0:11:11.280 think that's great. I think at least right back and 0:11:11.320 --> 0:11:14.440 say I will thinking of you. Whatever if you if 0:11:14.440 --> 0:11:16.160 you don't want to leave any kind of lead on there, 0:11:16.280 --> 0:11:18.679 I think you respond something that's a difficult situation. I 0:11:18.679 --> 0:11:20.680 don't have a problem with Sam reaching out in a 0:11:20.720 --> 0:11:23.040 moment where he needed somebody. Yeah, I don't think reaching 0:11:23.080 --> 0:11:25.199 out as a problem. I think depending on how the 0:11:25.240 --> 0:11:28.280 marriage ended or the relationship ended, I think it's also 0:11:28.400 --> 0:11:31.240 okay for the X to not respond, you know. I 0:11:31.480 --> 0:11:33.320 think it's you know, I mean, yeah, everyone cares for 0:11:33.360 --> 0:11:36.200 people and and it's your ex or whatever the case 0:11:36.240 --> 0:11:39.520 may be. But I think depending on how the it ended, 0:11:39.920 --> 0:11:42.880 I think it's talk about space. It's space for that 0:11:42.960 --> 0:11:45.120 individual not to have to reply. We're not sure if 0:11:45.120 --> 0:11:50.200 Sam's reaching out outside of that case either, Yeah, and 0:11:50.200 --> 0:11:52.880 we don't know how long I don't know how long. Um, 0:11:52.920 --> 0:11:56.079 they've been separated, could be a while, but I doubt 0:11:56.080 --> 0:11:59.280 it's that long. If he's reaching out to this person 0:11:59.360 --> 0:12:00.959 in this moment in a need, it's probably not an 0:12:01.040 --> 0:12:05.160 X from seven years ago, you know. Um. But yeah, 0:12:05.160 --> 0:12:07.800 I don't see an issue with it. I mean, you 0:12:07.920 --> 0:12:11.400 nailed the Dmitris in the time of need. Um. You know, 0:12:11.440 --> 0:12:13.440 it's a tough time for his father, a tough time 0:12:13.480 --> 0:12:15.760 for him, So you reach out to somebody. Maybe this 0:12:15.840 --> 0:12:18.439 is the person that he is or was closest to 0:12:18.640 --> 0:12:20.920 in his life. And I'm guessing, I don't know. I'm 0:12:20.960 --> 0:12:23.880 guessing maybe the father knew the ex, they had some 0:12:23.880 --> 0:12:26.960 sort relationship, so he there's a personal connection there. I mean, 0:12:27.120 --> 0:12:28.520 you know, we don't know these things, but that's what 0:12:28.559 --> 0:12:32.200 I'm That's what I would guess. Possibly. So another question 0:12:32.360 --> 0:12:35.640 from S. This person's name is just the letter S. 0:12:35.760 --> 0:12:39.760 Do you want to do the online dating? Okay? Sam, 0:12:39.800 --> 0:12:42.000 also want to want to know, UM, how do you 0:12:42.000 --> 0:12:46.280 feel about online dating? Terrible idea? Why? I believe in 0:12:46.320 --> 0:12:49.720 meeting people in the real world so that you can 0:12:50.360 --> 0:12:53.200 see the physical interaction as well. I think I think 0:12:53.600 --> 0:12:57.440 uh gestures things like that make people better or worse 0:12:57.520 --> 0:12:59.960 looking and allow you to have that chemistry more naturally 0:13:00.120 --> 0:13:03.560 read just showing up. Ye. Dmitri thoughts on dating app 0:13:03.600 --> 0:13:04.880 I think if you're at a point where you're looking 0:13:04.920 --> 0:13:07.160 to hook up with somebody, go for it. Otherwise I 0:13:07.200 --> 0:13:08.960 think it's not the best thing for like to find 0:13:08.960 --> 0:13:11.160 a relationship. Rick, I don't have a problem with it. 0:13:11.160 --> 0:13:13.280 I think it's good. Yeah, I mean kind of swipe left, 0:13:13.320 --> 0:13:15.200 swipe right, get rid of the good, keep the good, 0:13:15.320 --> 0:13:17.200 get rid of the bad, keep the good and uh 0:13:17.280 --> 0:13:19.400 and then go do with Gavin saying, and meet him 0:13:19.400 --> 0:13:21.880 in person and have a human interaction. You've been married 0:13:21.880 --> 0:13:23.880 fifteen years. Don't know how the dating apps works? So well? 0:13:24.040 --> 0:13:27.160 Is it swipe up and type down? Ran, what do 0:13:27.200 --> 0:13:30.600 you think? I don't agree with Rick. It used it 0:13:30.640 --> 0:13:33.280 as a filtration process to get to the point where 0:13:33.280 --> 0:13:35.640 you have the face to face interactions. I would say, 0:13:35.720 --> 0:13:39.280 my brother in law met his now wife on Tinder, 0:13:39.400 --> 0:13:42.720 so I've seen a success story and okay, then I 0:13:42.800 --> 0:13:46.080 take it all back. You know what that's called a Tinderella? 0:13:47.320 --> 0:13:50.360 Oh my god. We actually that is from my father 0:13:51.160 --> 0:13:54.400 refers to her as is Tinderella, and he said that 0:13:54.480 --> 0:13:59.800 at the wedding in his speech, that's that boy. The 0:14:00.080 --> 0:14:01.520 reason I know that, as guys, I had a buddy 0:14:01.559 --> 0:14:05.520 who actually Um paid for the upgraded subscription of Tinder, 0:14:05.559 --> 0:14:07.480 where you could, if you were to travel to Boston 0:14:07.520 --> 0:14:09.120 in a week from now, you could start looking at 0:14:09.120 --> 0:14:11.720 people in Boston already. So he's like, I'm just looking 0:14:11.720 --> 0:14:15.240 for Tinder Ella's birth. So dating apps, I'm fine with it. 0:14:15.280 --> 0:14:17.880 Do what you're like, there's it's a modern way of dating. Whatever. 0:14:18.000 --> 0:14:20.200 I just believe in whatever connects you with the right person. 0:14:20.240 --> 0:14:23.880 Like you said, you're was brother in law, whatever, he 0:14:23.960 --> 0:14:25.480 found the love of his life through a dating app 0:14:25.600 --> 0:14:28.760 right on. I mean I was, you know, I was 0:14:29.400 --> 0:14:32.000 settled down, I got married or engaged and stuff before 0:14:32.080 --> 0:14:34.440 dating apps came out, so I never used them. But 0:14:35.480 --> 0:14:37.600 I know from back down, I know dating is hard. 0:14:37.680 --> 0:14:39.800 I know meeting people as hard. So listen, if that 0:14:39.840 --> 0:14:42.040 gives you a leg up, I mean, what the hell 0:14:42.160 --> 0:14:44.880 take your advantage. I will say that Gavin Um does 0:14:45.000 --> 0:14:48.480 more of a live action Tinder where he just walks 0:14:48.520 --> 0:14:50.040 around and looks at people and he pushes them to 0:14:50.080 --> 0:14:52.040 the left or he pushes them to the right. It's 0:14:52.080 --> 0:14:58.800 a physical swipe. No, but I think I think, listen, 0:14:59.320 --> 0:15:02.360 it's a horrible like dating is tough, man. Whatever, whatever 0:15:02.480 --> 0:15:04.240 you can do to help make it easier for you, 0:15:04.320 --> 0:15:06.480 go for it. I agree with that. I think I 0:15:06.480 --> 0:15:09.640 think you said it. It's an opportunity just to meet 0:15:09.720 --> 0:15:12.040 more people, no doubt about it. It's certainly maybe you 0:15:12.040 --> 0:15:14.560 don't have a lot of time, maybe you're you know, career, 0:15:14.680 --> 0:15:18.560 maybe whatever it is, maybe you have kids, whatever it is. Uh, 0:15:18.640 --> 0:15:21.640 potentially meeting somebody could be difficult. And this is just 0:15:21.680 --> 0:15:24.560 the way. It's, like you said, Rick, it's a modern way. 0:15:24.680 --> 0:15:28.120 The world is changing. The world is definitely changing, plus 0:15:28.520 --> 0:15:30.480 a new platform to meet somebody. Plus I mean, look, 0:15:30.560 --> 0:15:33.040 how many people try to start relationships based on just 0:15:33.080 --> 0:15:35.280 meeting somebody at a bar? You know what I mean? 0:15:35.400 --> 0:15:40.400 It's kind of yeah, it's sort of counterintuitive in a 0:15:40.400 --> 0:15:43.840 lot of ways. You know, you know, hey, how are you? 0:15:43.840 --> 0:15:46.440 You know, it's really what's the difference and what's the 0:15:46.440 --> 0:15:49.080 difference between meeting someone in a loud bar or seeing 0:15:49.080 --> 0:15:51.120 someone's picture and they're reaching out to them? And I 0:15:51.160 --> 0:15:53.920 mean you're basically working on the same thing. Maybe one 0:15:53.960 --> 0:15:56.480 you're sober and the other one you're not. Oh you 0:15:56.560 --> 0:15:58.960 say so? You could be, so you think people not 0:15:59.080 --> 0:16:01.200 be sober and be looking. I guarantee people are using 0:16:01.280 --> 0:16:05.120 dating apps while they're drinking. Here's a question for you, guys. 0:16:05.840 --> 0:16:10.280 I think there's a real negative connotation that dating apps 0:16:10.280 --> 0:16:15.760 are a place of hook ups are Like why why 0:16:15.840 --> 0:16:18.200 is there that connotation? Why can a good person with 0:16:18.240 --> 0:16:20.080 the intention of meeting a love of their life not 0:16:20.160 --> 0:16:23.000 beyond a dating app? Why is what is it culturally 0:16:23.040 --> 0:16:25.640 looked at? Like dating apps are just a hook up place. 0:16:27.640 --> 0:16:29.680 I mean, in theory, it's almost the same as having 0:16:29.920 --> 0:16:33.680 going on a blind dave by being set up by 0:16:33.720 --> 0:16:36.360 your friends. I mean, you're you're registering by that app, 0:16:37.280 --> 0:16:39.440 and you're getting somebody's information that you don't know who 0:16:39.480 --> 0:16:41.240 they are, and then you're meeting them and talking to 0:16:41.280 --> 0:16:43.560 them and then off you go. Well, think about the 0:16:43.600 --> 0:16:46.040 way we just compared it to go into a bar 0:16:46.080 --> 0:16:48.160 to meet someone. When when you went to a bar, 0:16:48.240 --> 0:16:50.680 did did you Did people really say, Oh, they went 0:16:50.720 --> 0:16:52.080 to a bar because they wanted to meet the love 0:16:52.080 --> 0:16:54.040 of their life. No, they want to bar because they 0:16:54.040 --> 0:16:56.120 want to hook up. So really it's not much different 0:16:56.120 --> 0:16:58.000 than what people are saying about the dating apps from 0:16:58.040 --> 0:17:00.240 what they would say about meeting someone out like happy 0:17:00.400 --> 0:17:03.600 right in the bar. So I mean, I think and 0:17:03.760 --> 0:17:05.679 I think it breaks down to the different types of apps. 0:17:05.680 --> 0:17:09.080 I think different apps probably have a different connotation. I 0:17:09.119 --> 0:17:12.040 think Tinder has more of a hookup I think, and 0:17:12.160 --> 0:17:14.200 I'm sure e Harmony isn't known as like the place 0:17:14.240 --> 0:17:16.760 to get laid, So I think it depends on the 0:17:16.800 --> 0:17:19.000 app too. I think there's a connotation for different apps. 0:17:19.359 --> 0:17:23.679 So here's here's a question for you. Where does this 0:17:23.720 --> 0:17:29.680 app fall? D MS in Instagram? That's a real gray 0:17:29.720 --> 0:17:32.440 area of that one. It's a gray area because it's 0:17:32.440 --> 0:17:34.400 a it's an easy way to reach out to someone 0:17:34.440 --> 0:17:37.239 that you don't have their contact info right, Um, So 0:17:37.280 --> 0:17:39.760 it's not always that type of thing, but it's also 0:17:39.800 --> 0:17:41.800 got a shadiness factor to it. You know what I 0:17:41.800 --> 0:17:44.400 want to do right now? I want to go through 0:17:44.440 --> 0:17:55.080 Gavin's MS. Let's do that. You don't get I don't 0:17:55.080 --> 0:17:56.760 want to because I'm afraid we're gonna open up and 0:17:56.760 --> 0:17:58.159 there's gonna be one from Rick that says, what do 0:17:58.160 --> 0:17:59.600 you think of the sweater? Is this all right? For 0:17:59.640 --> 0:18:04.199 the five guys? I would love to see what's in 0:18:04.200 --> 0:18:06.359 your d M s, Buddy, I have an interesting story 0:18:06.359 --> 0:18:09.639 for you, So tell me a d M story. I 0:18:09.680 --> 0:18:12.720 have to so a good one though. I had a 0:18:12.760 --> 0:18:16.760 fan come out to a show one day and uh 0:18:16.960 --> 0:18:18.920 and say to me and talk to me as if 0:18:19.160 --> 0:18:23.520 we were like intimately involved, you know. UM. And I 0:18:23.600 --> 0:18:26.919 was like, okay, well, nice to meet you. She's like, 0:18:27.080 --> 0:18:31.000 meet me. We've been talking for months and months and months, 0:18:31.000 --> 0:18:35.160 and I was just gonna sayah, was her name, Ruth? Yeah, 0:18:35.200 --> 0:18:40.720 And apparently it's sad, really and apparently somebody is like 0:18:41.640 --> 0:18:45.879 people start these fake profiles, you know, Oh she catfish 0:18:45.960 --> 0:18:51.320 you know somebody. No, somebody was being me somewhere else, 0:18:51.760 --> 0:18:54.359 either on another profile or it could have been maybe 0:18:54.359 --> 0:18:58.320 an employee using an account or something. UM, and had 0:18:58.400 --> 0:19:02.879 this interaction with this person. They were talking for months 0:19:02.880 --> 0:19:05.040 and months and months and then they're literally standing right 0:19:05.040 --> 0:19:08.560 in front of me and um acting like we have 0:19:08.880 --> 0:19:11.640 this relationship going, you know. And I was like, wow, 0:19:11.680 --> 0:19:16.480 I'm really sorry. I honestly I don't I think we 0:19:16.640 --> 0:19:19.000 know each other, you know. And she was just mortified. 0:19:19.000 --> 0:19:25.360 So apparently somebody, somebody was catfishing her using Gavin took 0:19:25.400 --> 0:19:28.479 her enough to my exactly, and she thought that there 0:19:28.560 --> 0:19:30.960 was like a relationship there or some kind so God 0:19:31.040 --> 0:19:35.359 knows like what you know she was sending. God knows 0:19:35.560 --> 0:19:38.280 to what extent that had. You know, what old How 0:19:38.320 --> 0:19:42.880 old was this UM fan? She was like thirty years old, 0:19:42.960 --> 0:19:46.119 you know, like this is like a woman. So she 0:19:46.240 --> 0:19:49.359 thought she thought this is something like I'm Gavin and 0:19:49.720 --> 0:19:52.600 Gavin to Gran I are flirting and DM like where 0:19:52.680 --> 0:19:54.640 we got this? Literally and there wasn't you at all. 0:19:54.760 --> 0:19:57.840 That's literally horrifying. Yeah, And she was standing right in 0:19:57.840 --> 0:19:59.800 front of me like with her friends. She's probably like, 0:20:00.080 --> 0:20:02.199 oh my God, with her friend or something, you know, 0:20:02.920 --> 0:20:05.399 and it was kind of like a horrible like a 0:20:05.480 --> 0:20:08.280 horrible moment for her. I mean, I was embarrassed. I 0:20:08.320 --> 0:20:12.400 bet I bet it's Ryan. I bet Ryan runs the guy. 0:20:12.440 --> 0:20:15.080 I bet your Ryan has a fake Brooks that he 0:20:15.760 --> 0:20:18.840 goes out like people. He's like, oh I just lost 0:20:18.840 --> 0:20:22.600 some more money. I'm almost broke. It's a go fund 0:20:22.600 --> 0:20:31.199 me love, Ryan. Can you tell us do you have 0:20:31.200 --> 0:20:36.720 any other like Instagram DM awesome story to tell us? UM? 0:20:36.960 --> 0:20:39.240 Probably not. I mean, you know, people reach out to you, 0:20:39.280 --> 0:20:42.080 and you know they do hit on you. You know, 0:20:42.359 --> 0:20:45.080 obviously you're you're in the business, you're you're in the business, 0:20:45.440 --> 0:20:48.840 and um, it's flattering. I mean, it's flattering, but it's 0:20:49.640 --> 0:20:52.960 obviously that's not the right place to be doing that. 0:20:53.359 --> 0:20:55.919