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Speaker 1: And Dmitri, I know you love this one. I do
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Speaker 1: and we just you we read them and we just
Speaker 1: answer them and I feel like we're talking directly with people.
Speaker 1: So that's that's my fame. We've always tried. That's what
Speaker 1: we say. This is a podcast to serve the community,
Speaker 1: and so we get bombarded with questions, um, guys and girls.
Speaker 1: They want to know what dudes think about this? Why
Speaker 1: do you guys do this? Why do guys think this way?
Speaker 1: Why do they act this way or not act this way?
Speaker 1: So we go through all these questions, we picked the
Speaker 1: ones that we think can serve the community the most,
Speaker 1: and then we dive into them. So this is that's
Speaker 1: what he said. Round two. The question one from Christina
Speaker 1: she wants to know about gray hairs. My boyfriend of
Speaker 1: five years has had some gray hair popping up for
Speaker 1: a while now. He seems insecure about it, even though
Speaker 1: he thinks, even though I think he's a silver fox.
Speaker 1: Do I offer him help to diet? A Halloween custom
Speaker 1: from now on? Him covered up Elvis Presley from the seventies,
Speaker 1: giant Giant Giant mane on that dome like Wayne Newton.
Speaker 1: Wayne Newton's got great. I love it. No, it depends
Speaker 1: how old he is. Well he wanted. No, she's after
Speaker 1: he's insecure. She offered to help him diet. He know
Speaker 1: she loves it. She should not offer to help. She
Speaker 1: thinks it's hot. She should convince him to keep it.
Speaker 1: He's insecure about it. Yeah, but she loves it. So
Speaker 1: Number one, if she loves it, she should not offer
Speaker 1: to help him get rid of it. That first second,
Speaker 1: I agree, should convince him to keep it and say,
Speaker 1: by the way, I think it's totally sexy. That's what
Speaker 1: she should tell him. And yes, yes, she should uh
Speaker 1: let him keep it up to him. Hold on a second,
Speaker 1: men's rights, man's rights. I think we should say he
Speaker 1: wants to look a certain way, you know, with his
Speaker 1: hair color whatever, it's important for him to feel like something.
Speaker 1: Then yeah, he could diet, but he's insecure about it.
Speaker 1: How does she help him not be insecured. I'll tell
Speaker 1: you this. I've had like a couple of gray hairs
Speaker 1: popping in. I just yanked me too, when a gray
Speaker 1: hair pops in, I yanked them to send a message
Speaker 1: to be careful when you yank your hair out. Be
Speaker 1: careful when you yank your hair out. Guys, it doesn't
Speaker 1: always come back. Send this guy a picture of me.
Speaker 1: He'll be happy with whatever. Harry's guy. So I think
Speaker 1: it's a I think you let him. I don't. I
Speaker 1: wouldn't say diet. I don't think. I don't think I'm
Speaker 1: not into that. Just let it come out. You gotta
Speaker 1: do whatever he wants to do with his hair, you
Speaker 1: know what I mean. But it's okay for her to
Speaker 1: tell him how hot he looks with it. Every everybody
Speaker 1: needs a good ego boost. Okay, let's get what about you, Danielle.
Speaker 1: Do you like gray hair? Like, let's get a woman's perspective,
Speaker 1: from a female perspective, do you like a little bit
Speaker 1: of salt and pepper? I think it's so sexy. Really
Speaker 1: that What is it that's sexy about it? I don't know.
Speaker 1: Maybe it's a sign of wisdom, you know, like you're
Speaker 1: a little more mature and you're I don't know, I
Speaker 1: think so brilliant. What about So that's that's coming from
Speaker 1: a married woman, Hanna young? Single? What do you look
Speaker 1: at like? Well, she's not because she's gonna be like
Speaker 1: I like silver hair on my dad because that's our age.
Speaker 1: We don't know how we do well. I'm only twenty,
Speaker 1: but when I look at my parents and they have
Speaker 1: gray hair, I give them for it. So Hannah's Hannah's
Speaker 1: saying diet, Danielle saying, no, I guess it's just a
Speaker 1: stage of life. Though not that much older than Hannah
Speaker 1: didn't say you that old, I said, without without revealing
Speaker 1: your age, how many years older are you? Then? I
Speaker 1: think I'm ten years older than by the way, she
Speaker 1: just says she was twenty. So you've now revealed nine
Speaker 1: years old. There you go, perfect. Okay, when did you
Speaker 1: start liking gray hair? Man? I would say I've always
Speaker 1: liked gray hair. I think it's cool. I will say
Speaker 1: I don't like all like all grey. I like salt
Speaker 1: and pepper. Right, there's a little bit of a difference. Okay,
Speaker 1: we'll say that. Your moving on a new question from Amber.
Speaker 1: Amber wants to know about multitasking. This is a great
Speaker 1: one for us dudes. Here, can guys we should do
Speaker 1: something else while we answer this. Yeah, well, Gavin's eating
Speaker 1: kit cats, so perfect. We are talking can guys multitask?
Speaker 1: Where do the responsibilities fall in the household? Et? Well?
Speaker 1: More on the wife, more on the husband. So two questions. First,
Speaker 1: can guys can guys multitask? Of course? Yeah, definitely, Yeah.
Speaker 1: I think women can multitask better, but I think guys
Speaker 1: can do it for sure. I actually the guitar at
Speaker 1: the same time. That's all one thing, all right. I
Speaker 1: have a goal of cooking at home as i'm as
Speaker 1: I'm cooking cleaning at the same time, So you're multitasking,
Speaker 1: So definitely guys can do it. Okay, what about this?
Speaker 1: Where do the responsibilities fall in the household? Equal more
Speaker 1: on the man, more on the woman. That lies in
Speaker 1: your strengths. Listen, if one of you cooks better, if
Speaker 1: one of you likes to clean, that's each individual a couple.
Speaker 1: I think you got to figure that out. And just
Speaker 1: do what what is suited to your strong suit. Like
Speaker 1: it doesn't have to be like women should do more,
Speaker 1: men should do more. Figure out what in your couple
Speaker 1: works best, and you do the things that are good
Speaker 1: for you that you can do, and and the other
Speaker 1: one does the said. I agree with that, but I
Speaker 1: also think you you pick up the slack wherever it's needed.
Speaker 1: You know, like if if there's a lot of laundry,
Speaker 1: I mean we're talking about the household, like I'll go
Speaker 1: do all the laundry. And if I'm not on the
Speaker 1: laundry that day or that week, then my wife will
Speaker 1: go do it the laundry. If you like doing laundry,
Speaker 1: you could do laundry all the time if you want. Rick,
Speaker 1: I'm pretty sure you have a delivery service for your
Speaker 1: laundry at your house. For instance, we were getting ready
Speaker 1: to come to Vegas and Rick was like, honey, where's
Speaker 1: my sweater? It was in the hampers it So He's like, honey,
Speaker 1: in Vegas, why did you need a sweater? I didn't
Speaker 1: watch your sweater. It's degrees in Vegas. I agree with you, Dmitri.
Speaker 1: I think you just I think naturally in a household
Speaker 1: you're gonna gravitate your strengths. Like I feed our dogs,
Speaker 1: I walk our dogs, Like that's something I like doing. Um,
Speaker 1: I'll do that most of the time. My wife will
Speaker 1: do other things. She's very much about the core and um,
Speaker 1: that kind of stuff. So I think you just kind
Speaker 1: of figure those out. I don't think it's man has
Speaker 1: to do everything or woman has to do everything. I
Speaker 1: just if you find your roles within the household. That's
Speaker 1: my take off. Let me ask you a question from
Speaker 1: a guy's point of view. So I like to barbecue.
Speaker 1: I like to cook and stuff. But I've been to
Speaker 1: houses where like the wife will barbecue and the husband won't.
Speaker 1: How do you, as a guy, because barbecue tends to
Speaker 1: be a guy's thing, how do you feel about that?
Speaker 1: Would you be all right if we all came out
Speaker 1: of Brooks, if we all came out of your house,
Speaker 1: would Julianne be working the barbecue? Jewels can barbecue, I love?
Speaker 1: Would you be okay with that? Yeah? I would. I
Speaker 1: love barbecue and Jules can barbecue certainly. Um. But also
Speaker 1: when we my wife and I love to host a lot,
Speaker 1: so we'll quite often have like Sunday Fundays at our
Speaker 1: house and we'll have pool party and barbecue and invited
Speaker 1: one of those I have not Wow, But I have
Speaker 1: two friends, Christie and Haley, that will always champion the barbecue.
Speaker 1: And I'm like, I can barbecue guys. They're like, no,
Speaker 1: we'd love to do it. So I have to friends
Speaker 1: that love to barbecue, and it's they're fantastic cooks, So
Speaker 1: I have no problem with it. Man or room barbecue
Speaker 1: fantastic and other than the barb with But you like
Speaker 1: a nice steak? You do like a nice steak? Man do?
Speaker 1: So do you barbecue inside your hotel rooms? It's so
Speaker 1: hot out here, I just throw the meat out on
Speaker 1: the other good thing is so you have wait, so
Speaker 1: you have at Okay. Another question from Lindsay. He said
Speaker 1: he needs alone time. That's the title of this question.
Speaker 1: So I've been dating a guy for about two months
Speaker 1: and we recently had a conversation about him needing alone time.
Speaker 1: I'm a twenty eight year old, he's thirty two years old.
Speaker 1: We see each other three to four times a week,
Speaker 1: so I'm guessing they don't live together. I obviously don't
Speaker 1: mind him or I don't mind giving him alone time
Speaker 1: because I need it too. But should I be seeing
Speaker 1: this as a red flag? He's been single for five
Speaker 1: years and I'm about a year out of my separation.
Speaker 1: Question is he saying he needs more alone time or
Speaker 1: that's the right amount of alone time is three to
Speaker 1: four days a week? I don't know, just see each
Speaker 1: other three sounds like it sounds like he if he's
Speaker 1: asking for a loone time, then that's yeah, that's yeah.
Speaker 1: I think that's somebody for three days, and you want
Speaker 1: more alone time than after two months, that's supposed that's
Speaker 1: that should still be in the sweet spot, like getting
Speaker 1: to know each other, and after two months you're like,
Speaker 1: I need a little more space. I'd say, I hate
Speaker 1: to say it because I feel badly, but that sounds
Speaker 1: like a red flag. Like when you say it, though,
Speaker 1: like you're so honest, thanks funny, especially with those glasses on,
Speaker 1: he's very he looks very studio. I would say, I
Speaker 1: agree with you, Dmitri. I think, I think, um, I
Speaker 1: think two months in if he's he should be like
Speaker 1: pulling towards you if I really liked you, and two
Speaker 1: months in if he's like backing off a little bit.
Speaker 1: He's either scared of this becoming some sort of committed thing.
Speaker 1: Um or he's just not into you and doesn't want
Speaker 1: to take there. Maybe he's not in that stage of life.
Speaker 1: And the other thing is she said she's out of
Speaker 1: her relationship, her separation, divorce one year. It's possible he
Speaker 1: thinks she's not ready like maybe he maybe he feels
Speaker 1: like she's just going full force because she's I don't
Speaker 1: think that's it, because otherwise he'd have that conversation with
Speaker 1: her about it versus saying he needs more alone time.
Speaker 1: Don't you see what the kid says? Okay, let's trying
Speaker 1: to find the answer inside of somewhere. Danielle is clearing
Speaker 1: him away. Okay. Here from Waite Newton. Later, here's a
Speaker 1: question from Sam and he wrote that he's a male
Speaker 1: because that name could go either way. Sam is a
Speaker 1: guy and he talks about reaching out to his ex. Um.
Speaker 1: He said, my dad had his prostate removed due to cancer.
Speaker 1: I asked my ex to pray for him because we're
Speaker 1: still very close, but my ex didn't even respond. What
Speaker 1: are your opinions on contacting my X during rough times?
Speaker 1: And how do you feel about online dating? So? What
Speaker 1: what do you feel about contacting your ex during rough times. Listen,
Speaker 1: rough times are rough times, right, So you do what
Speaker 1: you need to do. If if Sam felt that's what
Speaker 1: he needed was to reach out to the accident asked
Speaker 1: for them to pray for his dad, and that's what
Speaker 1: Sam needed, So I'm fine with that. The fact that
Speaker 1: the X didn't respond, I think that's not I don't
Speaker 1: think that's great. I think at least right back and
Speaker 1: say I will thinking of you. Whatever if you if
Speaker 1: you don't want to leave any kind of lead on there,
Speaker 1: I think you respond something that's a difficult situation. I
Speaker 1: don't have a problem with Sam reaching out in a
Speaker 1: moment where he needed somebody. Yeah, I don't think reaching
Speaker 1: out as a problem. I think depending on how the
Speaker 1: marriage ended or the relationship ended, I think it's also
Speaker 1: okay for the X to not respond, you know. I
Speaker 1: think it's you know, I mean, yeah, everyone cares for
Speaker 1: people and and it's your ex or whatever the case
Speaker 1: may be. But I think depending on how the it ended,
Speaker 1: I think it's talk about space. It's space for that
Speaker 1: individual not to have to reply. We're not sure if
Speaker 1: Sam's reaching out outside of that case either, Yeah, and
Speaker 1: we don't know how long I don't know how long. Um,
Speaker 1: they've been separated, could be a while, but I doubt
Speaker 1: it's that long. If he's reaching out to this person
Speaker 1: in this moment in a need, it's probably not an
Speaker 1: X from seven years ago, you know. Um. But yeah,
Speaker 1: I don't see an issue with it. I mean, you
Speaker 1: nailed the Dmitris in the time of need. Um. You know,
Speaker 1: it's a tough time for his father, a tough time
Speaker 1: for him, So you reach out to somebody. Maybe this
Speaker 1: is the person that he is or was closest to
Speaker 1: in his life. And I'm guessing, I don't know. I'm
Speaker 1: guessing maybe the father knew the ex, they had some
Speaker 1: sort relationship, so he there's a personal connection there. I mean,
Speaker 1: you know, we don't know these things, but that's what
Speaker 1: I'm That's what I would guess. Possibly. So another question
Speaker 1: from S. This person's name is just the letter S.
Speaker 1: Do you want to do the online dating? Okay? Sam,
Speaker 1: also want to want to know, UM, how do you
Speaker 1: feel about online dating? Terrible idea? Why? I believe in
Speaker 1: meeting people in the real world so that you can
Speaker 1: see the physical interaction as well. I think I think
Speaker 1: uh gestures things like that make people better or worse
Speaker 1: looking and allow you to have that chemistry more naturally
Speaker 1: read just showing up. Ye. Dmitri thoughts on dating app
Speaker 1: I think if you're at a point where you're looking
Speaker 1: to hook up with somebody, go for it. Otherwise I
Speaker 1: think it's not the best thing for like to find
Speaker 1: a relationship. Rick, I don't have a problem with it.
Speaker 1: I think it's good. Yeah, I mean kind of swipe left,
Speaker 1: swipe right, get rid of the good, keep the good,
Speaker 1: get rid of the bad, keep the good and uh
Speaker 1: and then go do with Gavin saying, and meet him
Speaker 1: in person and have a human interaction. You've been married
Speaker 1: fifteen years. Don't know how the dating apps works? So well?
Speaker 1: Is it swipe up and type down? Ran, what do
Speaker 1: you think? I don't agree with Rick. It used it
Speaker 1: as a filtration process to get to the point where
Speaker 1: you have the face to face interactions. I would say,
Speaker 1: my brother in law met his now wife on Tinder,
Speaker 1: so I've seen a success story and okay, then I
Speaker 1: take it all back. You know what that's called a Tinderella?
Speaker 1: Oh my god. We actually that is from my father
Speaker 1: refers to her as is Tinderella, and he said that
Speaker 1: at the wedding in his speech, that's that boy. The
Speaker 1: reason I know that, as guys, I had a buddy
Speaker 1: who actually Um paid for the upgraded subscription of Tinder,
Speaker 1: where you could, if you were to travel to Boston
Speaker 1: in a week from now, you could start looking at
Speaker 1: people in Boston already. So he's like, I'm just looking
Speaker 1: for Tinder Ella's birth. So dating apps, I'm fine with it.
Speaker 1: Do what you're like, there's it's a modern way of dating. Whatever.
Speaker 1: I just believe in whatever connects you with the right person.
Speaker 1: Like you said, you're was brother in law, whatever, he
Speaker 1: found the love of his life through a dating app
Speaker 1: right on. I mean I was, you know, I was
Speaker 1: settled down, I got married or engaged and stuff before
Speaker 1: dating apps came out, so I never used them. But
Speaker 1: I know from back down, I know dating is hard.
Speaker 1: I know meeting people as hard. So listen, if that
Speaker 1: gives you a leg up, I mean, what the hell
Speaker 1: take your advantage. I will say that Gavin Um does
Speaker 1: more of a live action Tinder where he just walks
Speaker 1: around and looks at people and he pushes them to
Speaker 1: the left or he pushes them to the right. It's
Speaker 1: a physical swipe. No, but I think I think, listen,
Speaker 1: it's a horrible like dating is tough, man. Whatever, whatever
Speaker 1: you can do to help make it easier for you,
Speaker 1: go for it. I agree with that. I think I
Speaker 1: think you said it. It's an opportunity just to meet
Speaker 1: more people, no doubt about it. It's certainly maybe you
Speaker 1: don't have a lot of time, maybe you're you know, career,
Speaker 1: maybe whatever it is, maybe you have kids, whatever it is. Uh,
Speaker 1: potentially meeting somebody could be difficult. And this is just
Speaker 1: the way. It's, like you said, Rick, it's a modern way.
Speaker 1: The world is changing. The world is definitely changing, plus
Speaker 1: a new platform to meet somebody. Plus I mean, look,
Speaker 1: how many people try to start relationships based on just
Speaker 1: meeting somebody at a bar? You know what I mean?
Speaker 1: It's kind of yeah, it's sort of counterintuitive in a
Speaker 1: lot of ways. You know, you know, hey, how are you?
Speaker 1: You know, it's really what's the difference and what's the
Speaker 1: difference between meeting someone in a loud bar or seeing
Speaker 1: someone's picture and they're reaching out to them? And I
Speaker 1: mean you're basically working on the same thing. Maybe one
Speaker 1: you're sober and the other one you're not. Oh you
Speaker 1: say so? You could be, so you think people not
Speaker 1: be sober and be looking. I guarantee people are using
Speaker 1: dating apps while they're drinking. Here's a question for you, guys.
Speaker 1: I think there's a real negative connotation that dating apps
Speaker 1: are a place of hook ups are Like why why
Speaker 1: is there that connotation? Why can a good person with
Speaker 1: the intention of meeting a love of their life not
Speaker 1: beyond a dating app? Why is what is it culturally
Speaker 1: looked at? Like dating apps are just a hook up place.
Speaker 1: I mean, in theory, it's almost the same as having
Speaker 1: going on a blind dave by being set up by
Speaker 1: your friends. I mean, you're you're registering by that app,
Speaker 1: and you're getting somebody's information that you don't know who
Speaker 1: they are, and then you're meeting them and talking to
Speaker 1: them and then off you go. Well, think about the
Speaker 1: way we just compared it to go into a bar
Speaker 1: to meet someone. When when you went to a bar,
Speaker 1: did did you Did people really say, Oh, they went
Speaker 1: to a bar because they wanted to meet the love
Speaker 1: of their life. No, they want to bar because they
Speaker 1: want to hook up. So really it's not much different
Speaker 1: than what people are saying about the dating apps from
Speaker 1: what they would say about meeting someone out like happy
Speaker 1: right in the bar. So I mean, I think and
Speaker 1: I think it breaks down to the different types of apps.
Speaker 1: I think different apps probably have a different connotation. I
Speaker 1: think Tinder has more of a hookup I think, and
Speaker 1: I'm sure e Harmony isn't known as like the place
Speaker 1: to get laid, So I think it depends on the
Speaker 1: app too. I think there's a connotation for different apps.
Speaker 1: So here's here's a question for you. Where does this
Speaker 1: app fall? D MS in Instagram? That's a real gray
Speaker 1: area of that one. It's a gray area because it's
Speaker 1: a it's an easy way to reach out to someone
Speaker 1: that you don't have their contact info right, Um, So
Speaker 1: it's not always that type of thing, but it's also
Speaker 1: got a shadiness factor to it. You know what I
Speaker 1: want to do right now? I want to go through
Speaker 1: Gavin's MS. Let's do that. You don't get I don't
Speaker 1: want to because I'm afraid we're gonna open up and
Speaker 1: there's gonna be one from Rick that says, what do
Speaker 1: you think of the sweater? Is this all right? For
Speaker 1: the five guys? I would love to see what's in
Speaker 1: your d M s, Buddy, I have an interesting story
Speaker 1: for you, So tell me a d M story. I
Speaker 1: have to so a good one though. I had a
Speaker 1: fan come out to a show one day and uh
Speaker 1: and say to me and talk to me as if
Speaker 1: we were like intimately involved, you know. UM. And I
Speaker 1: was like, okay, well, nice to meet you. She's like,
Speaker 1: meet me. We've been talking for months and months and months,
Speaker 1: and I was just gonna sayah, was her name, Ruth? Yeah,
Speaker 1: And apparently it's sad, really and apparently somebody is like
Speaker 1: people start these fake profiles, you know, Oh she catfish
Speaker 1: you know somebody. No, somebody was being me somewhere else,
Speaker 1: either on another profile or it could have been maybe
Speaker 1: an employee using an account or something. UM, and had
Speaker 1: this interaction with this person. They were talking for months
Speaker 1: and months and months and then they're literally standing right
Speaker 1: in front of me and um acting like we have
Speaker 1: this relationship going, you know. And I was like, wow,
Speaker 1: I'm really sorry. I honestly I don't I think we
Speaker 1: know each other, you know. And she was just mortified.
Speaker 1: So apparently somebody, somebody was catfishing her using Gavin took
Speaker 1: her enough to my exactly, and she thought that there
Speaker 1: was like a relationship there or some kind so God
Speaker 1: knows like what you know she was sending. God knows
Speaker 1: to what extent that had. You know, what old How
Speaker 1: old was this UM fan? She was like thirty years old,
Speaker 1: you know, like this is like a woman. So she
Speaker 1: thought she thought this is something like I'm Gavin and
Speaker 1: Gavin to Gran I are flirting and DM like where
Speaker 1: we got this? Literally and there wasn't you at all.
Speaker 1: That's literally horrifying. Yeah, And she was standing right in
Speaker 1: front of me like with her friends. She's probably like,
Speaker 1: oh my God, with her friend or something, you know,
Speaker 1: and it was kind of like a horrible like a
Speaker 1: horrible moment for her. I mean, I was embarrassed. I
Speaker 1: bet I bet it's Ryan. I bet Ryan runs the guy.
Speaker 1: I bet your Ryan has a fake Brooks that he
Speaker 1: goes out like people. He's like, oh I just lost
Speaker 1: some more money. I'm almost broke. It's a go fund
Speaker 1: me love, Ryan. Can you tell us do you have
Speaker 1: any other like Instagram DM awesome story to tell us? UM?
Speaker 1: Probably not. I mean, you know, people reach out to you,
Speaker 1: and you know they do hit on you. You know,
Speaker 1: obviously you're you're in the business, you're you're in the business,
Speaker 1: and um, it's flattering. I mean, it's flattering, but it's
Speaker 1: obviously that's not the right place to be doing that.
Speaker 1: Here's here's a question, though I've met I've met a
Speaker 1: lot of exceptional friends people I've been a fan of
Speaker 1: their work or what they do or the content they created,
Speaker 1: like something or an athlete and that I've reached out
Speaker 1: to on solciers like love what you did there, love
Speaker 1: what you said there are something big fan, You're awesome,
Speaker 1: and then have connected that way and had too like
Speaker 1: blossom friendships from that. So why can't somebody do that
Speaker 1: in a romantic way if if you loved somebody music
Speaker 1: or something to them, I'm sure, I'm sure it could happen.
Speaker 1: I mean, I've certainly never made any celebrity friends like that.
Speaker 1: That's interesting that you can do that, because I'll I
Speaker 1: would send messages like, yo, man, should have caught that.
Speaker 1: That was a big play. You blew the game. I
Speaker 1: hadnt a beer, I had money on the game. You
Speaker 1: live in Vegas. You owe me a steak. That's what
Speaker 1: it is. I wonder they don't respond that, man. Okay,
Speaker 1: moving on. The next question is from s so we
Speaker 1: don't know what the full name is s. But the
Speaker 1: next chapter of my life is this question. I'm thirty
Speaker 1: and within the past few years I lost my mom
Speaker 1: to the dreaded sea word and my boyfriend of four
Speaker 1: years was arrested on multiple charges of child pornography. It
Speaker 1: took two years of self discovery, but now I am ready.
Speaker 1: I'm ready for my person and my life partner. I'm
Speaker 1: not the person who randomly dates or hangs out of
Speaker 1: bars looking for love. If any of you were deeply
Speaker 1: ready for that next chapter in your life, ready to
Speaker 1: commit to a conscious relationship, where do you begin and
Speaker 1: where do you meet like minded people? So this is
Speaker 1: just just a piggyback, like we're just talking about dating apps.
Speaker 1: Like I said, why can't you meet a like minded
Speaker 1: person on a dating app? But let's say it's not
Speaker 1: a dating app. Where could you meet somebody looking to
Speaker 1: have a serious relationship. Where in the world would you go?
Speaker 1: Grocery store? Church? Where would you go grocery stores? I
Speaker 1: have to say, like, you know, you go to the
Speaker 1: grocery Store's definitely you can tell a lot about something.
Speaker 1: You can really there is you really can't tell a
Speaker 1: lot about people at the grocery store. Do tell well,
Speaker 1: if you see, I mean, which one they're at, which
Speaker 1: i'll they're at. Are they buying stuff to what they're wearing?
Speaker 1: You know what I mean? You pick up a lot.
Speaker 1: You know what I mean, You can pick up a
Speaker 1: lot about a person, certainly from where they're shopping. Are
Speaker 1: they buying stuff to make a raw like freshmeal? Are
Speaker 1: they buying frozen dinners? Are they buying stuff for I mean, listen,
Speaker 1: you've been following me around. You go the stoffer his
Speaker 1: man which thing? If you go to a bar, right
Speaker 1: and you see a guy you don't know what his
Speaker 1: story is, maybe he took his ring off. You go
Speaker 1: to the grocery store and you see what he's buying.
Speaker 1: You see if he's buying stuff for kids lunches. So
Speaker 1: you're right in that respect. You can tell a lot
Speaker 1: more at something like that, as opposed to out and about.
Speaker 1: It's kind of a behind the scenes where do you
Speaker 1: meet somebody? Get let's get back on top of where
Speaker 1: I think. I think the best way to go for
Speaker 1: S is to go through like the friend network and
Speaker 1: see where that goes, you know, and start talking to
Speaker 1: them and asking if they can hook him up on
Speaker 1: like blind dates or they have any friends out of
Speaker 1: something in common and take that route. That's what I
Speaker 1: would just like, Like Mitch just said, that's how a
Speaker 1: couple episodes are going. Yeah, and he said he went
Speaker 1: through his role, you know, quote unquote Rollodex and just
Speaker 1: spread the word, Hey, I'm looking. If you happen to
Speaker 1: know anybody you think would be a good match, that's
Speaker 1: absolutely I think that's great. That's yeah what Mitch said.
Speaker 1: I think that's the way to do it. I think,
Speaker 1: for s wherever you found that ex boyfriend, stay the
Speaker 1: away from that. So I don't know, well, and I think, yeah,
Speaker 1: the child pornography. I think. The other thing is, you know,
Speaker 1: there's a lot of people, I think more than we know,
Speaker 1: that find people at their workplace, at their job, you know.
Speaker 1: And I think a lot of people get connected that
Speaker 1: way and then they get married or they fall in love,
Speaker 1: and then one of them goes and takes another job
Speaker 1: so they're not working at the same company, and that's
Speaker 1: how they get and they get together like the ultimate romance.
Speaker 1: Jim and Pam from the office. Yes, yes, they sat
Speaker 1: there looking at each other across the cubicles. Isn't that
Speaker 1: where most like a relationships start or things like that
Speaker 1: at work? Isn't the work thing the place? Don't know?
Speaker 1: I was in a locker room for fifteen years of
Speaker 1: twenty three dudes, I didn't have mind, didn't start handful
Speaker 1: of relationship here A very specific type of scenario sot
Speaker 1: every not every job has a locker room with just
Speaker 1: all one. You know where I would? You know where?
Speaker 1: I would? Honestly, I think I think any sort of
Speaker 1: like organization like a gym. Yeah, Like I would love
Speaker 1: to meet somebody at a gym because it means this
Speaker 1: person is active, they're healthy, they value health and fitness.
Speaker 1: I would go there. The beach is a great place
Speaker 1: to meet somebody. Like living in l A the beach,
Speaker 1: there's always action down. People are active and outdoors tough.
Speaker 1: So how do you how do you meet someone? How
Speaker 1: do you approach someone at the beach and you're underpaths?
Speaker 1: You lay your towel down right next to them. Yeah,
Speaker 1: what's wrong? We're going to say hi? It's because it
Speaker 1: crosses al it crosses a creepiness. Like I'm at the
Speaker 1: beach with my friends, like and someone comes up and
Speaker 1: it's like hi, where else? Give us one more each,
Speaker 1: you guys, give us one more place where that outside
Speaker 1: of a dating app or whatever, you could meet like
Speaker 1: you mentioned church, the gym, the grocery store, these types
Speaker 1: of places that they seem to be a natural sort
Speaker 1: of Yeah, because great, one you have a common interest.
Speaker 1: You don't have a dog? Yeah right, that's probably a
Speaker 1: little weird. You could just go sit there. You just
Speaker 1: go there and go I like dogs. Yeah, so I
Speaker 1: think any place, any place you can have a common interest, yeah,
Speaker 1: Jim dog Park. Yeah. I would not rule out Vegas though, guys.
Speaker 1: I mean you could go to Vegas and find somebody.
Speaker 1: Do we have a story there? Rick? No, I know
Speaker 1: you as a teaser like that, Ves, I'm gonna help
Speaker 1: find something meaningful, I said, the story behind those worlds.
Speaker 1: It's just you know, I got to Vegas and I
Speaker 1: got a d M from Gavin to Graw and then said, hey,
Speaker 1: I want to hang out, and I don't know if
Speaker 1: it's the real Gavin de Gras or a fake one.
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Speaker 1: listener questions. These are rapid fires, so try and keep
Speaker 1: your answers to a minimum of one to two sentences.
Speaker 1: Let's go boom. Have you been cheated on or have
Speaker 1: you cheated before? Crickets in here? Well, because last time
Speaker 1: you called out names were Intermitri. I was just looking
Speaker 1: around to see who was just kind of shuffling and
Speaker 1: not gonna answer that question, but Gavin smiling. Let's buddy,
Speaker 1: I think it's happening every plead the fifth. I think
Speaker 1: it's happening everybody. That's all, okay, okay, y, that sucks.
Speaker 1: Get more specific. I thought you were really intimate at
Speaker 1: one point, Brooks, and I'm wearing your T shirt right,
Speaker 1: and you were. Then I came home one day and
Speaker 1: you were in somebody else's T shirt. Because I'm not
Speaker 1: an excel, he found a speedo when the law made
Speaker 1: really insignificant, it wasn't. It wasn't like if you're in
Speaker 1: excels now, I can't compete. It wasn't a team that.
Speaker 1: It was definitely moving forward with your life. It was
Speaker 1: a speedo to honor Rick Dmitri. You have you been
Speaker 1: cheated on it? Or have you cheated before? Yeah? I think,
Speaker 1: like like Gavin said, I think everybody has. I think
Speaker 1: when you're younger, you don't necessarily know how to You're
Speaker 1: not mature enough to end a relationship. So I'm sure
Speaker 1: everybody has ended a relationship poorly when they were young
Speaker 1: and uh, yeah, yeah, I'm sure it's happened, you know
Speaker 1: when you're younger. Yeah, Ryan, yep, I was cheated on
Speaker 1: in a college relationship. I do not know. To my knowledge,
Speaker 1: I don't know that I've been cheated on. No ex
Speaker 1: girlfriend or anybody has said and I have never cheer
Speaker 1: I'm I value loyalty big time, not only in a
Speaker 1: relationship but but in friendship as well. Um, do you
Speaker 1: want to kiss a woman who has stuff on her lips?
Speaker 1: What does that mean? Amy? I think it might mean
Speaker 1: bright red lipstick, hot red, like super red lipstick, or
Speaker 1: just very just a lot of lip Okay, a lot
Speaker 1: of lip. Hell yeah, yeah, boy, doing works on King
Speaker 1: of course Dmitri I would say, just after Gavin's answer,
Speaker 1: move on, Okay, Okay, that's nailed it. Okay, have any
Speaker 1: of you ever seen someone you liked in a crowd
Speaker 1: and would you ever do anything about it? Hell? Yeah?
Speaker 1: Why not? Wait that you liked in a crowd? Yeah,
Speaker 1: like if you were seeing say you were saying to
Speaker 1: have any of you ever seen someone you liked in
Speaker 1: a crowd? This is probably for you up in the
Speaker 1: state and who she's looking at me? I like, all
Speaker 1: of you, any takers? Anybody? Next? Anybody is this? And
Speaker 1: then no hands? Next question? No hand this side of
Speaker 1: the room. Guys sleeping on a tour bus with my father.
Speaker 1: No hand. This is what happens that no hands go
Speaker 1: up and he looks at this tech guys like, is
Speaker 1: this my gone? Mike? Check? Is this my gone? Okay?
Speaker 1: Does anybody have stuff on the lips? Anybody? Next question?
Speaker 1: Worst thing you can do during a date and during sex.
Speaker 1: The worst thing you can do during a date and
Speaker 1: during sex probably fart that's up there. Probably the pacy
Speaker 1: during sex. Nothing like I think just being rude on
Speaker 1: a date, like ordering early you know, being a dick,
Speaker 1: being a douchebag. Yeah, getting up, leaving, bailing on her.
Speaker 1: Talking there, Yeah, talking on your phone sex would be
Speaker 1: looking at somebody else on your phone while farting. There
Speaker 1: you go there on your on your on your paid
Speaker 1: tender app while you're on the game. I have one
Speaker 1: talking about an X talking for once. Brooks and Ryan
Speaker 1: just agreed. Know. The ordering on the menu thing is
Speaker 1: a real thing too. A buddy of mine when he
Speaker 1: first started dating his now wife, we went out for Margharita's.
Speaker 1: We both ordered a house Margharita. She ordered the Cadillac
Speaker 1: with the patron and I'm like, come on, like we
Speaker 1: just were slumming it on the regular stuff and You're like,
Speaker 1: and we had He had no money at the time,
Speaker 1: and that really bothered me. So that's no. No, she's
Speaker 1: a high class gets bad or order a high class drink?
Speaker 1: Can I ask you another ques, buddy? Let level up
Speaker 1: like like this. This is this is the long long,
Speaker 1: the TACKI money line thing. Okay, this is off topic
Speaker 1: a little bit. What about people have these wedding parties
Speaker 1: and they want somebody to buy certain dress to where
Speaker 1: certain be at certain locations. I mean they the bridesmaids
Speaker 1: have to buy their own dresses a lot of times, right?
Speaker 1: Is that this is the way it works almost all
Speaker 1: the time, the bridemaid. You think that's a little I
Speaker 1: know it sounds I maybe speaking at at a turn
Speaker 1: a little bit, but it seems a little That seems
Speaker 1: a little douche to me to expect people to come
Speaker 1: up with, however much money to pay for that. But yeah,
Speaker 1: weddings are a clown show. They cost like thousands of dollars.
Speaker 1: You're making people spend money that they might not have,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. But he's down with that.
Speaker 1: He's like, I remember, I think I think you kind
Speaker 1: of Gavin, I kind of think you know your audience
Speaker 1: and who your bridesmaids are, who your best you know,
Speaker 1: best man, your groomsman. Know you kind of know what's
Speaker 1: going on, and you who you choose. You sort of
Speaker 1: start thinking about that and whether or not you go
Speaker 1: get the Cadillac margarita or the house margarita, and you
Speaker 1: know your audience. I think, Okay, good, I'm relieved by that.
Speaker 1: Moving on turn on or offs for women? Turn on?
Speaker 1: Oh wait? What was what's a turn on? Um for
Speaker 1: a woman? Like something that woman can do that is
Speaker 1: a turn on for you. You guys know about smexy?
Speaker 1: Is it smexy? Smexy? It's smart and sexy. It's the
Speaker 1: new hot thing. Uh. The name alone as a turn off,
Speaker 1: sort of like a librarian. See, that's how guys think.
Speaker 1: No guys can be like, hey, I just met this girl.
Speaker 1: She was so smexy. Guys, check this out. I think
Speaker 1: of a whole another day. Let's go turn on. What's
Speaker 1: something that a woman can do to turn you on?
Speaker 1: Sense of humor that can make me laugh? That's probably
Speaker 1: a tall order. He's describing himself. They have good hair.
Speaker 1: I do like converse about personality type. I like sarcastic.
Speaker 1: Really they give given Yeah, sarcastic, nice figure, you know,
Speaker 1: not overly in shape, but not like just comfortable with
Speaker 1: themselves Like yes, like me, I'm not overly in shape.
Speaker 1: Sometimes I'm comfortable with myself, but right now I'm very
Speaker 1: Thanks Ryan. I think a nice a nice set of heels,
Speaker 1: and a nice out on a date. That's sexy. It's
Speaker 1: a turn on I want to turn off. Then you
Speaker 1: get home, the heels come off, the toes go in
Speaker 1: the mouth and open a little toe cleavage. You know
Speaker 1: what I mean? Ryan, one day, I hope you're bold
Speaker 1: enough to try it. There's a challenge. He's bold enough
Speaker 1: to let you suck his toes. No, come on, Dmitri, Hey,
Speaker 1: just making sure we're all clear. When you're done, do
Speaker 1: you apply a little bit of lotraman just to be like, yeah, okay,
Speaker 1: let's go with this one. Turn Offs? Turn offs? What's
Speaker 1: something a woman can do that does a turnoff for
Speaker 1: a man? I don't like the like the injection, but
Speaker 1: like duck lip, Look, that's not my favorite. Boat talks
Speaker 1: too much botox some chick that's on our phone the
Speaker 1: whole time. That's annoying. But you know, it's a big
Speaker 1: turn off to me. The gum snapping, Oh what are
Speaker 1: you talking about? Napping? Like you know, when you're like,
Speaker 1: you go go out to eat somewhere and somebody's like
Speaker 1: snap and then in the cloth napkin looks terrible. It's
Speaker 1: close to me. What else, Ryan, what's a turn off? Yeah?
Speaker 1: The collagen injections agree, like, and it becomes slippery slope
Speaker 1: where they just continue to get bigger and more absurd
Speaker 1: looking to me, and it looks I don't like people
Speaker 1: who are unaware of their surroundings, Like, don't talk loud
Speaker 1: if there's other people there, don't you know, don't just
Speaker 1: be aware of other people around you, be more sensitive
Speaker 1: to other people who Okay, here's one. Is being a
Speaker 1: bad kisser a deal breaker? Yes? What if? What if
Speaker 1: she's maybe good at other things? She's just a bad kisser,
Speaker 1: bad kissing. I don't see how you move on from there. Well,
Speaker 1: maybe you move on because this kissing is bad, the kissing.
Speaker 1: How do you skip for a space? I mean, it's
Speaker 1: you know, I feel like kissing is part of the chemistry,
Speaker 1: you know, you know, it's like if you hit us,
Speaker 1: you hit one to the gap. But the fielder is
Speaker 1: kind of almost there, and you're like, this could be
Speaker 1: a double but maybe he's a single. I better around.
Speaker 1: I gotta turn this into it double tough. That kissing
Speaker 1: is a deal Is it a deal breaker? Is a question.
Speaker 1: I don't think it's a deal breaker. No, you gotta
Speaker 1: kind of I think you're right, Brooks. You need to
Speaker 1: kind of continue on and see what happens. So this
Speaker 1: this full transparency, this question. This lady says just because
Speaker 1: she can't kiss doesn't mean she can't suck. That is
Speaker 1: in my notes right here. Answer that's I just wanted
Speaker 1: to propo. I just wanted to like full transparency with
Speaker 1: that question. So, now, what do you think love comes
Speaker 1: off for Ryan? Yeah? I think you give it time
Speaker 1: and you hope it progress gets better. I agree with that.
Speaker 1: I don't think it's a deal breaker. Stick your tongue
Speaker 1: down further and see what happens. Oh my god, Um,
Speaker 1: that's a deal breaker. Rick jam and his tongue gun.
Speaker 1: Here's here's I like this question. There's no such thing
Speaker 1: as bad sex, just like there's no such thing as
Speaker 1: bad pizza. Agree or disagree? Disagree. There's pizza that leaves
Speaker 1: you unfulfilled, and there's therefore the sex that leaves you
Speaker 1: unfulfilled and the food that's bad, Like you want to
Speaker 1: enjoy it. You want a good pizza. You don't want
Speaker 1: a bad pizza. You don't want a mediocre pizza. Yeah,
Speaker 1: there's there's such a thing as bad sex. Okay, I
Speaker 1: think there is such a thing as bad pizza too.
Speaker 1: By the way, Yes, okay, how about this one another
Speaker 1: rapid fire. I'm single, thirty seven and dating for about
Speaker 1: half my life. Have been told that having children could
Speaker 1: be very difficult to give my age, those odds are
Speaker 1: even lower. Now, when do I or should I ever
Speaker 1: bring this up when dating? She doesn't want to have
Speaker 1: a kid? No, she does want to have it. She doesn't.
Speaker 1: She's told that it might be difficult for her now
Speaker 1: given her age at thirty seven, the odds are even lower.
Speaker 1: When should she bring this up when dating a guy?
Speaker 1: First date? Second date? Six months in? I think, what
Speaker 1: do you think? Amy? Six months in? Why? I would
Speaker 1: say that's like the appropriate time. But this show is
Speaker 1: called How Men Think? So I should be quiet. I
Speaker 1: think she should put it in her in her bio
Speaker 1: on Tinder. No, I'm kidding, No, I think I think
Speaker 1: when it comes up like don't don't want that because
Speaker 1: you never know? And what are you gonna do? There's
Speaker 1: such a thing as as going too fast. You show
Speaker 1: up on the first day, you said, by the way,
Speaker 1: I don't know if I can have kids. It's like, well,
Speaker 1: I wasn't even thinking that, So slow down. Yeah, I
Speaker 1: think you need to follow the path of the date.
Speaker 1: Why not just where t shirts said say I need
Speaker 1: a baby now right now? And on the back maybe
Speaker 1: I can't what all right? Ryan? What do you think
Speaker 1: when should she bring it up? I think so much
Speaker 1: of this depends on your age. So she's thirty seven,
Speaker 1: if she's dating guys of a similar age, I think
Speaker 1: that will dictate how early on you bring it up.
Speaker 1: So if if you're thirty seven, I think you could
Speaker 1: bring it up fairly early because your physiologically it needs
Speaker 1: to happen soon. So if you're not freezing your eggs
Speaker 1: and you were up against the clock, presumably a guy
Speaker 1: at that age may want to have the same conversation,
Speaker 1: may want to have a family sooner rather than later,
Speaker 1: And he similarly doesn't want to bring it up because
Speaker 1: he thinks there's a six month rule. And so if
Speaker 1: you feel strongly about it, like unless you're doing it
Speaker 1: in a very I don't know, in a in a
Speaker 1: weird way, I think you've got to bring it up.
Speaker 1: And if if the guy doesn't want to be with you,
Speaker 1: then you don't want to be with him anyway. So
Speaker 1: I think there's an organic way you can bring it
Speaker 1: up that's genuine to say, yeah, I'm interested in having
Speaker 1: a family, Like there's no harm in that. That's an
Speaker 1: honest question. You talk about your niece's nephews, cousins, whatever
Speaker 1: I think as a kid, where'd you grow up? You know?
Speaker 1: Here we go marriage. A couple of marriage questions. We
Speaker 1: have four married men in the room. I won't say
Speaker 1: the one that's not married, um, but I can tell
Speaker 1: you about the four that are unhappily married up. But
Speaker 1: this actually applies to you too, buddy, This actually really
Speaker 1: applies to you. Do you believe in having a pre nup? Oh?
Speaker 1: It depends. It depends if you've got, if you've got,
Speaker 1: if you're you have a different career or a career
Speaker 1: that's further long than the person's gonna deal with. It
Speaker 1: depends financially where you're at versus where the person you're
Speaker 1: going to be married. Two is that I think that
Speaker 1: it's important. So it's important for someone like me. If
Speaker 1: I'm marrying someone who isn't in a position like like
Speaker 1: I am, right and someone else who maybe has a
Speaker 1: lot more than I have, I would probably think the
Speaker 1: same thing. You know what I mean? If I was
Speaker 1: to marry someone who is a billionaire, I'd want him
Speaker 1: to have I actually would want him to have a
Speaker 1: pre nup so they would feel like there was authenticity there.
Speaker 1: So do you think that you'll if you should. You
Speaker 1: don't want anybody's stuff, you know what I mean, You
Speaker 1: don't need anybody. Should you get married? Do you think
Speaker 1: you would have a prenup? I would you? Yeah, Dmitri,
Speaker 1: what do you think? Hold on? Hold on before we
Speaker 1: move on? How do you? How? And when would you
Speaker 1: bring that up? Probably before you uh, right before the
Speaker 1: I have to make babies right now on the first date. Well,
Speaker 1: now I'll be in line at Earth Cafe. Now you
Speaker 1: can just have a listen to this episode of the
Speaker 1: podcast and she'll know. Yeah, now you just play the
Speaker 1: podcast exactly. I would basically pass him the menu with
Speaker 1: a prenup attached. I'd say, go to page three. Oh sorry,
Speaker 1: I thought that. I thought that was it's a go menu.
Speaker 1: That's my prep. And I she said if she said,
Speaker 1: I love you and and and this predump signifies you
Speaker 1: questioning my undying love for you and my motives, and
Speaker 1: I'm I'm offended by it. I cannot sign this. And
Speaker 1: I want to continue on and marry you because I
Speaker 1: love you. But I cannot sign this because I feel
Speaker 1: like you're questioning. And I would say, and I let
Speaker 1: me counter that with you can demnonistrate how authentic that
Speaker 1: is by agreeing that you know this truly is just
Speaker 1: about the way you feel about me. I have to
Speaker 1: say I agree with Gavin Ye so I look at
Speaker 1: a prenup as essentially just a declaration of assets. This
Speaker 1: is exactly this is like I had a full life
Speaker 1: before I met my wife. I earned some money playing
Speaker 1: a sport. I worked my tail off for that. Sure
Speaker 1: of course earned a lot of money. Ryan, So you
Speaker 1: have a prenup with Julianne, I am not going to
Speaker 1: disclose that. I believe in that. Listen. I don't know
Speaker 1: if he does, but but he might, I believe. I
Speaker 1: think if you come into a position, I think if
Speaker 1: you're in a relationship with someone who has the same amount,
Speaker 1: it's not as important if you have the same basically
Speaker 1: amount of assets or or financial worth or whatever. It's
Speaker 1: one thing. I think if you're twenty two years old,
Speaker 1: you both are coming from not having any money, not
Speaker 1: having a career, you're coming up together, A prenup may
Speaker 1: not be necessary. Maybe two people with starting relationship at
Speaker 1: literally the very beginning of their adulthood, moving into their
Speaker 1: adulthood and and developing a true life together starting from
Speaker 1: essentially their childhood, you know, which is different than being
Speaker 1: forty years old, um, having a career, owning homes or
Speaker 1: businesses already, and then getting into a serious relationship with somebody.
Speaker 1: I think that was just I just think it's in essence,
Speaker 1: just do you think the same way if the woman
Speaker 1: had more yes, I would, yes, what about of course? Yeah.
Speaker 1: I think it's again to what you're saying, Rex, it's
Speaker 1: more of like a transaction. It's a business asset transaction
Speaker 1: and the other side. I mean, I think what's happened
Speaker 1: is we've crossed the two the asset transaction with the
Speaker 1: feelings of love, and mixed those two and saying, oh, well,
Speaker 1: you don't love me because you want to sign this transaction,
Speaker 1: you know, or you want to do this this thing.
Speaker 1: It's like it's like buying a house. No, it's listen,
Speaker 1: we're here, we both want this to work. We're gonna
Speaker 1: do our best. If for some reason this doesn't work out,
Speaker 1: let's just leave with what we came with. Yeah, it's
Speaker 1: it's yeah, I agree, Like it's it's just a state
Speaker 1: of the union, a declaration of no. This is what
Speaker 1: I've done in my life up to this point. This
Speaker 1: is what I've earned or purchased. This is what I've
Speaker 1: accumulated in my life. This is just stating that's where
Speaker 1: it's at. You you haven't been a part of most
Speaker 1: of this, maybe some of it. Maybe you've been engaged
Speaker 1: for a while or dating, so some of that. But
Speaker 1: this is what I have done. This is also what
Speaker 1: you have done, and I don't deserve any of that.
Speaker 1: You did all of that before you ever knew my name.
Speaker 1: It's really simple stuff, you know. It's like you said, logical, yea,
Speaker 1: it is logical, and I don't I don't really see
Speaker 1: it to be part of marriage. I think it's it's
Speaker 1: just because divorces have been demonstrated to be so uh
Speaker 1: so much of a punishment to someone in a lot
Speaker 1: of those scenarios, So you know, you shouldn't be getting
Speaker 1: punished because relationship didn't work out. Um And so I
Speaker 1: think that's why people really got into this whole prenup thing,
Speaker 1: is you know, someone might have come in as a
Speaker 1: higher earner and someone else wasn't a higher owner, the
Speaker 1: relationship failed, and then essentially that person was financially punished
Speaker 1: for being the higher earner in the in the relationship,
Speaker 1: and I don't think that's right, and I don't think
Speaker 1: it's a I don't think it's a demonstration of not
Speaker 1: being in love or believing in the relationship. It's just
Speaker 1: there should be no incentive for failure, and I think
Speaker 1: if one person is going to actually be incentivized for
Speaker 1: it to fail, you're more likely to fail. I think
Speaker 1: it's something that happened between my wife and I think
Speaker 1: she wouldn't want any of the money that I don't
Speaker 1: make from this podcast any other but she also wouldn't
Speaker 1: want the money that we owe to do this that
Speaker 1: I don't want to leave her with a billy bill
Speaker 1: to do this podcast. We need more sponsor. Okay, it's
Speaker 1: funny you mentioned that because I have been build for
Speaker 1: one of these shows. Here's another one. How did slash?
Speaker 1: Would you choose an engagement ring? How did you? I'll
Speaker 1: answer this one. So when my girlfriend and I my
Speaker 1: now wife, we're talking about getting engaged or like that
Speaker 1: we were committed, um, I asked her. I was like,
Speaker 1: I have no idea what to buy you for a
Speaker 1: wedding ring or like an engagement ring. I flat out
Speaker 1: asked her, I have no idea, and I was like,
Speaker 1: think of it this way. If I asked you, or
Speaker 1: if you were to buy me a fishing boat, where
Speaker 1: would you start? And she goes, I have no idea.
Speaker 1: I don't know anything about fishing boats. I'm like, exactly,
Speaker 1: that's how I feel about a ring, So please give me.
Speaker 1: I want you to have the ring that you want
Speaker 1: that you gonna look at the rest of your life
Speaker 1: and love. Give me some guidance on that, and she
Speaker 1: gave me, I can I prefer this shape? I prefer
Speaker 1: an oval. I prefer like a rose gold band. And
Speaker 1: then within that I had flexibility to choose, but I
Speaker 1: had the framework of what she preferred for an engagement ring.
Speaker 1: So she got her ring. Where's your fishing boat, dude?
Speaker 1: I have I have an awesome Yeah, I have a dream.
Speaker 1: But I bought it myself. I bought it myself. That
Speaker 1: was in the prenup. How would you go about buying
Speaker 1: an engagement ring? I would just I would probably ask
Speaker 1: the person behind the counter what would make them say yes,
Speaker 1: and then just go and they would say a gun store, ga,
Speaker 1: how would you do it? How would you do it?
Speaker 1: Let's say, let's say, would you ask your signor partner
Speaker 1: I would say, give me your best Cubic Zirconian right now. No,
Speaker 1: I'll chime in, because Gavin's always clearly Clearlyvin is struggling
Speaker 1: with how did know? I think a lot of it
Speaker 1: goes to, you know, walking around with your wife and
Speaker 1: you you know, they they sort of start leading you
Speaker 1: into that path, right, you know, so they're they're taking
Speaker 1: you out to certain stores, they're showing their friends, you know,
Speaker 1: you're a certain age, thirty two or whenever you're getting married,
Speaker 1: and they're like, oh, what's your name? Gotta three carrot
Speaker 1: diamond with baguettes on the side, and oh, I would
Speaker 1: really like that. And they start doing the homework, and
Speaker 1: then they start giving you feedback and you it's your
Speaker 1: job and your responsibility to start picking up on that. Well,
Speaker 1: you've done this, So is that what happen? Is that
Speaker 1: how you did it? Yeah, that's that's what I did.
Speaker 1: I basically for a while, I just kind of paid
Speaker 1: attention and took notes, like mental notes, and the same
Speaker 1: thing when when they like if I saw if she
Speaker 1: commented on her friend, if any time one of her
Speaker 1: friends got engaged, I listened to their conversation about the
Speaker 1: ring because they sort they just talked about it. So
Speaker 1: then I just kind of took mental notes and paid
Speaker 1: attention to it and then made my best, made my
Speaker 1: best effort, my best guess, and I literally took six
Speaker 1: months of becoming basically a certified gemologist. I'm not exaggerating,
Speaker 1: Like I was calling diamond wholesalers, jewelers, and I was like,
Speaker 1: give me this. So I knew she wanted a pair.
Speaker 1: You're more diamond you could have picked out. That was
Speaker 1: all I knew was she wanted a pair, and I
Speaker 1: was gonna do everything from there. I knew no Halo,
Speaker 1: and I was calling people. He showed up and she
Speaker 1: was disappointed because it wasn't a pair of diamonds. Did
Speaker 1: you guys, Halo? Do you know what that I was
Speaker 1: getting into Melee Micropave, I'm talking about culate and girdle
Speaker 1: and symmetry on a pair. Symmetry is big fluorescence like
Speaker 1: you name it. And these people were gonna kill themselves
Speaker 1: dealing one of them Robins Brothers. This is really good
Speaker 1: for the show. Actually keep going. No, I mean I
Speaker 1: literally spent six months like finding the exact diamond that
Speaker 1: I wanted, and I finally found it to me it
Speaker 1: was a reflection of me. That diamond was going to
Speaker 1: be like, it's a reflection of you, all right, And
Speaker 1: then the jewelry don't come back. Were sorry, they said,
Speaker 1: we have died. I don't. I disagree with you, guys.
Speaker 1: I'm on Ryan's side here. I love the work that
Speaker 1: you put into it. Keep going please. So I ended
Speaker 1: up finding a jeweler in Georgia, the state of Georgia, uh,
Speaker 1: and wired the money, had it fed X to me,
Speaker 1: which was a nerve racking experience. But I designed the
Speaker 1: whole thing myself and was really his profiles, the stones
Speaker 1: cut with his hair like cookies. It's like cookies. Sorry, buddy.
Speaker 1: The thing is, it's like, I don't know about you,
Speaker 1: but it to that at that point in my life,
Speaker 1: was the most money I'd ever spent on one single thing.
Speaker 1: Like it was a big deal that I had worked
Speaker 1: my ass off to save for. So I wanted to
Speaker 1: be proud of it, wanted to make sure it was perfect.
Speaker 1: The funny thing is like two years later, the setting
Speaker 1: was platinum and she decided she actually wanted rose gold,
Speaker 1: and I was so annoyed that she wanted to change
Speaker 1: the band that I had worked so hard to create,
Speaker 1: but we've done so it's all good. That's cool, That's
Speaker 1: really cool. Okay, I want to that's awesome. I love
Speaker 1: that the divorce. Do you get that ring back? Only
Speaker 1: the only, the only, the platinum part? Okay, hold on,
Speaker 1: I want to get a woman's perspective on this. So
Speaker 1: we have producer Torri here. So, Tori, were you to
Speaker 1: get engaged, would you tell the guy what you want?
Speaker 1: Would you just hope that he picks something out? How
Speaker 1: would you go about it? Um? I'm huge on surprises,
Speaker 1: so I wouldn't want to know anything. But I have
Speaker 1: a huge opinion, So I just wanted to read my
Speaker 1: brain car part. I kind of have like stubby fingers.
Speaker 1: I feel like, so I kind of need a big
Speaker 1: time How do you break that to a guy when
Speaker 1: you're I know we're young and still working there, but
Speaker 1: yet you kind of want a nice ring? Sore? Is
Speaker 1: a nice ring? That is an important idea? Just read
Speaker 1: my mind? You know, I feel bad for your future fiance.
Speaker 1: I wouldn't even know who he is. Know how you
Speaker 1: set that up? Because you say, hey, you know, like
Speaker 1: I want a too carrot diamond or a one car
Speaker 1: or something something reasonable if that's reasonable in most people's budget.
Speaker 1: But then you piggyback that our side by side with
Speaker 1: two kids, so you can say, hey, we want to
Speaker 1: I want to have kids, however your marriage is going
Speaker 1: I want to have kids, and then you're like, okay,
Speaker 1: I can build one next to that, or if we
Speaker 1: have two or three kids. That's when you start getting
Speaker 1: and I think it actually means more to your wedding
Speaker 1: ring is like the center pieces yourself, your bride, your wife,
Speaker 1: and then the two other diamond rings diamonds or whatever
Speaker 1: stones you put on the side or representing the rest
Speaker 1: of your family. Sounds like you want a jewelry jewelry store.
Speaker 1: Ryan just texted me that whole answer. So you want
Speaker 1: the guy to know what you're thinking. You want him
Speaker 1: to pick the right the right shape, but you also
Speaker 1: want the big ring. Where will you find such a guy?
Speaker 1: I don't know, bless his soul, but I have I'm
Speaker 1: also really bad decision making because I'm so low key
Speaker 1: that I'm like, whatever you want, babe, But then I
Speaker 1: if I get it, I feel like I'm terrified. So basically,
Speaker 1: if you if you proposed to me with the diamond
Speaker 1: or what do you call that? Ryan? Ryans not parents? Yeah, okay, baby,
Speaker 1: it's a pear shape like I wouldn't want a pair,
Speaker 1: So I think you should let It's like I know myself,
Speaker 1: I'm just going to say whatever you want. I want to,
Speaker 1: but then I know as soon as I get it,
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna want Probably, I think it will become
Speaker 1: second nature, like your friends are gonna start getting engaged,
Speaker 1: and then you'll be like hmm oh well, and then
Speaker 1: you'll just start talking about it. Turn in Dmitri and
Speaker 1: Demitri listen to it. Why don't you go to a
Speaker 1: hand stylist and see which shape looks best on your hand?
Speaker 1: Is there a hand stylist? Think you need to give
Speaker 1: some direction in terms of cut? The shape of the
Speaker 1: samond is like a pretty big deal that you should
Speaker 1: be able to figure it at least that out, and
Speaker 1: let the guy do the rest. Amy, how about you?
Speaker 1: Because I feel I want I'm really looking forward to
Speaker 1: this answer when there's the gentleman that calms the whole
Speaker 1: storm and proposes. I don't know that I want to
Speaker 1: get married. Okay, well should you? But I just want
Speaker 1: a diamond band. That's all I want, just the band,
Speaker 1: the diamond band. I have a friend that has with
Speaker 1: one diamond for each of your rex is because I've
Speaker 1: got to call them all the time. So there's the
Speaker 1: there's the engagement ring, which is like that's the to
Speaker 1: do and then when you get when you get married,
Speaker 1: then you have the band that's the promised ring. But
Speaker 1: you you know the or something like that in high school.
Speaker 1: For a while. I like the idea of even like,
Speaker 1: look there is this is what's so weird. I do
Speaker 1: love the idea of like someone i'm with wearing a
Speaker 1: wedding band. There's something real sexy about that to me,
Speaker 1: But I don't know. I mean, yeah, I would. I
Speaker 1: just want a diamond band, and then I want him
Speaker 1: to wear I actually like what you wear, Brooks, because
Speaker 1: it's like that big dark band. I actually, well, I
Speaker 1: have a wedding This is a Yeah, I have a
Speaker 1: wedding ring like a rose gold or whatever. I like that.
Speaker 1: But this this is like a ten dollar silicone ring.
Speaker 1: This company just sends them to me in it I
Speaker 1: wear I work work, yeah, and I would trash my
Speaker 1: wedding ring if I wore it. But I like having
Speaker 1: a wedding ring on even when I work out. Um,
Speaker 1: so this is just a great one. Sometimes a break
Speaker 1: like if I don't get married and I find like
Speaker 1: I love my life comes back to be so happy. Yeah,
Speaker 1: but he says, um, okay, now one quick thing, Rick,
Speaker 1: do you actually know what the you were mentioning the
Speaker 1: rings of marriage? Do you know the three rings of marriage? No,
Speaker 1: it's the engagement ring, the wedding ring, and the suffering.
Speaker 1: Oh jeez, Louise, Okay, here's a great question. I really
Speaker 1: like this question. Is asking a dad for his daughter's
Speaker 1: hand in marriage? That's scary? And is it that important? Yes?
Speaker 1: I was scared less, but I had the best time
Speaker 1: doing it. It was just it was so cool and
Speaker 1: so much fun. I was nervous as hell driving. We
Speaker 1: were meeting at a restaurant, like at a bar and
Speaker 1: just kind of having a casual drink. I'm pretty sure
Speaker 1: he knew what was going on, but it was just
Speaker 1: when we had the conversation, you know, we were sat down,
Speaker 1: had you know, you know, the bs back and forth,
Speaker 1: and then it was like, hey, you know, I want
Speaker 1: to I want to marry I want to marry your daughter.
Speaker 1: You know, is that okay with you? And he was
Speaker 1: like awesome, this is great, you know, blah blah blah,
Speaker 1: And it was over pretty quickly. But it was a
Speaker 1: very great it was a very killer experience, like awesome, awesome, Yeah, totally, Dmitri. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I don't think it was that scary. I think it's
Speaker 1: a nice thing to do, and I think I'm glad
Speaker 1: I did it. It's actually it was actually my wife's
Speaker 1: um stepfather. Uh so I actually asked her mom who
Speaker 1: raised her, and then her stepfather both at the same time.
Speaker 1: And I thought it was nice. It was a nice
Speaker 1: thing to I wasn't too nervous, as a little nervous,
Speaker 1: and he actually made a joke and said no. He
Speaker 1: said hell no, but he was obviously joking. So what
Speaker 1: about what about you? You have daughters? I have three daughters. Yeah,
Speaker 1: would you like their future partners to ask you? Would
Speaker 1: you prefer that? Yeah? I would. I mean, yeah, I
Speaker 1: think it's a nice thing to do. I think it's
Speaker 1: a nice, like you said, a nice bonding thing and
Speaker 1: respectful thing. I don't think it's important, like I don't
Speaker 1: mind if they if if they he proposes to her
Speaker 1: first and then whatever, I think, you know, I don't
Speaker 1: think it's about to me, I don't think it's about me,
Speaker 1: so I think, you know, if he wants to do it,
Speaker 1: then I'm totally open to it. But would you prefer it?
Speaker 1: Would would that? Would you see that as a sign
Speaker 1: of I think it would be a pretty cool because
Speaker 1: it sets up a nice relationship as a father and
Speaker 1: son in law. As I considered my wife's father almost
Speaker 1: a friend. We had an unbelievable relationship in many ways
Speaker 1: because I didn't have a father, and he kind of
Speaker 1: became a surrogate father too in that way. But I
Speaker 1: think what what my strategy was. I took uh, he
Speaker 1: my father in law and his or my mother in law,
Speaker 1: so my wife's parents both together. Jesus Christ, thanks for
Speaker 1: making this simple. It's early. Sorry, I'm still thinking about
Speaker 1: the diamond and the gemology stuff and my hair looks good. No,
Speaker 1: but I took them both on a walk and asked
Speaker 1: them both together, which I know my mother in law
Speaker 1: really valued that. It wasn't in today's day and age
Speaker 1: like it seemed progressive. So could to me something about
Speaker 1: it makes me uncomfortable? I'm not sure I would. I
Speaker 1: don't know what you mean on whose part? If you're
Speaker 1: like I'm thinking about myself and then if somebody's gonna
Speaker 1: go ask my dad, yucky. No, that's the past for me.
Speaker 1: No really, Yeah, but you also said you want to
Speaker 1: get married. I'm not. I don't want that. I definitely.
Speaker 1: I don't think my dad would care, because he knows
Speaker 1: me so well that he I am uncomfortable by it.
Speaker 1: I don't know why something is triggering me right now,
Speaker 1: as you. I've never thought about it before, and I
Speaker 1: attention I do not want the person to ask my
Speaker 1: dad now. Well. I also think you're you know, it's
Speaker 1: not like when you're really young. I think that the
Speaker 1: parents worry more about who they're gonna marry. I think
Speaker 1: you're well establishing your career, and I don't think that
Speaker 1: your parents are like, oh, I hope she has someone
Speaker 1: that will take care of her, because you take care
Speaker 1: of yourself. So I don't think it's like they'd be
Speaker 1: that worried about if you out like it was a
Speaker 1: good decision. I think they'd probably be all right with it.
Speaker 1: So the question was is it that scary? I did
Speaker 1: it to my father in law and I wasn't scared
Speaker 1: at all of it, even if he said no, I
Speaker 1: wasn't scared of that because I love I loved his daughter,
Speaker 1: I loved my now wife, and I was gonna do
Speaker 1: it anyway. But so it's not that scary. Yeah, I
Speaker 1: don't like bees dead lips, I don't like bees man um,
Speaker 1: but I will say, like you said, Rick, it's a
Speaker 1: really cool moment. It's a really cool moment. I did it.
Speaker 1: I actually asked my father in law out on the
Speaker 1: balcony of our lakehouse, which is where I proposed to
Speaker 1: m Yeah. Yeah, I didn't never never, I never applied.
Speaker 1: Tried to ask him in the boat, but he wouldn't
Speaker 1: get the boat with me. So that's probably a good
Speaker 1: idea on his part, because I mean, but I think
Speaker 1: it's I think it's super cool. I think as from
Speaker 1: my standpoint, it was really enjoyable to just honor him
Speaker 1: and his role in his her life and his continued
Speaker 1: role in her life. Um. And then someday, if I'm
Speaker 1: a father, I would love to have that moment if
Speaker 1: I had a daughter and she and she was to
Speaker 1: get married, if he was to ask, I think it'd
Speaker 1: be really Yeah. I think I think it's super cool.
Speaker 1: I have a daughter and I would just I would
Speaker 1: want that. I love that you go swimming with sharks,
Speaker 1: and yet you're like, oh bees, man, you know what
Speaker 1: it's because, dude, when I was younger, I was out
Speaker 1: golf and I ripped the ball into the bush. I
Speaker 1: went in to get it and I got stung by
Speaker 1: two bees and one was right on the ear low
Speaker 1: and it just scarred me. Yeah, that's like, I hear you. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I just didn't like I had a similar experience in
Speaker 1: the other. And then this is another category called other.
Speaker 1: This is where we throw the mixed bag of stuff.
Speaker 1: Do you wash your hands after using the bathroom? Particularly
Speaker 1: you're a nation, Can I take this one gold baby?
Speaker 1: Go a friend of mine and he's told me, no,
Speaker 1: why would I wash my hands after I take a piss?
Speaker 1: I wash my hands before I take a piss. It's
Speaker 1: my hands that are dirty, it's not what I'm holding
Speaker 1: when I'm taking a piss. And actually there's some sound
Speaker 1: logic to that. I will tell you if I'm at
Speaker 1: the urinal and there's no one else in the bathroom,
Speaker 1: it's an like fifty percent of the time, No, I'm
Speaker 1: not going to wash my hands. The other like, then
Speaker 1: there are sometimes when I'm like do I want to
Speaker 1: bother myself, But there's a guy in the stall. I'll
Speaker 1: put the water on, put my finger underneath two or
Speaker 1: three times, so it sounds like I'm washing them, and
Speaker 1: I'm like, I'm not getting my hands with this guy
Speaker 1: thinks I am what an idiot? You really got him castanzas.
Speaker 1: But I have a thing about that, so I definitely
Speaker 1: wash my hands after I go pee. But do you
Speaker 1: flush the toilet? If it's yellow, let it mellow, If
Speaker 1: it's brown, flush it down? Is that what you're saying?
Speaker 1: Probably flush the toilet every third time, wait for which
Speaker 1: it depends. Did you eat asparagus that day? You know?
Speaker 1: Because I don't want to waste the water? Conservative? What
Speaker 1: about this? Let me ask you this question, gentlemen, Let
Speaker 1: me ask you this question. Because it's possible to go
Speaker 1: to take a leak without touching it, you know, unzip
Speaker 1: the pants, you can pull boxers down, hook it around, boom.
Speaker 1: It's possible. Do you wash the hands in that situation?
Speaker 1: Tor is looking at me like, what the hell? No,
Speaker 1: Because I'm playing on my phone at the same time.
Speaker 1: Mine comes out of the ankle, So the urine comes
Speaker 1: out at the ankle. Because he teys himself. He's so nervous. Okay.
Speaker 1: Moving on from that, I don't know if that's gonna
Speaker 1: make the shore that's gonna get cut. Okay, moving on
Speaker 1: to another other question, breastfeeding in public acceptable, attractive, not accepting?
Speaker 1: What do you look at? Can answer that one. I'm
Speaker 1: fine with it. I have no problem whatsoever. Are you
Speaker 1: seeing the boob here? Sure, it doesn't matter to me, honestly,
Speaker 1: like it's you're feeding a baby? What do I care? Okay?
Speaker 1: Can we be I mean, I mean to have zero
Speaker 1: problems with it whatsoever. That's the normal side of me.
Speaker 1: The other side of me is like, you can't not
Speaker 1: creep out and like try to look at the boob.
Speaker 1: We didn't discuss whether we were trying to look. Are
Speaker 1: we okay with it? Yeah, we're totally okay with it,
Speaker 1: But you're also kind of peaking. Who doesn't want to
Speaker 1: see that even though there's like a six month old
Speaker 1: on it. I'm fine with people doing it. I don't.
Speaker 1: I don't have a problem with it. I mean, I
Speaker 1: know some people think it's gross. I do not. And
Speaker 1: obviously I have four kids, so you know I'm well
Speaker 1: versed in breastfeeding. But I mean if you're at the airport,
Speaker 1: like some people are like, oh my god, look at
Speaker 1: that over there, and it's like, but look at the
Speaker 1: other way, there's some fat ass and chilies. How went
Speaker 1: on a on avocado egg rolls, right Southwestern egg rolls,
Speaker 1: like jamming him in his face, Like that's grosser than
Speaker 1: what's happening over on the other side. A buddy of
Speaker 1: mine told me he knew it was time to start
Speaker 1: working out and that he needed to lose weight when
Speaker 1: his kid crawled into bed and crawled up to him
Speaker 1: and put his mouth on his own boob, and he
Speaker 1: was like, no, it's it's dad. It's not mom, it's dad.
Speaker 1: And he's like, that's when I knew I had man boobs.
Speaker 1: It was time to and this and this buddy of yours, brick,
Speaker 1: the only thing I have about about breastfeeding is like
Speaker 1: you have the kid that's too old, you know. I
Speaker 1: think that's when it gets weird, Like like nine he saw.
Speaker 1: I was at the beach other day and like there
Speaker 1: was literally like a five year old that rolled up
Speaker 1: to his mom and started like going at it, and
Speaker 1: I was like, dude, what's up with that? Interesting kid?
Speaker 1: Wrote a skateboard to go breastfeed and rex like that
Speaker 1: kid's too big, I can't see the boob. My thought
Speaker 1: on it, my thought on it is I have I mean,
Speaker 1: I'm not a woman. I don't have kids, But if so,
Speaker 1: I don't even know. I don't have no idea what
Speaker 1: they would go through. So if you need to do it,
Speaker 1: go ahead and do it. Like, imagine the stress on
Speaker 1: a mother. Strain on a mother to look after a kids,
Speaker 1: feed a kid? What like? Who am I to say
Speaker 1: that you can't do it with I don't know what's
Speaker 1: going on in your how busy? Yeah, is it better
Speaker 1: for the kid to be hungry because you can't you
Speaker 1: don't want to look and see that? Like, get over yourself.
Speaker 1: I agree. So, okay, this is a great question, A
Speaker 1: nice segue from that. Rick, I'm gonna lead with you
Speaker 1: when we boob guy or leg guy or leg guy
Speaker 1: everything in between. Oh jeez, why do you say it
Speaker 1: like you're ordering. I didn't say the biggie biggie menu.
Speaker 1: Dmitri just left the studio. Boom guy or leg guy.
Speaker 1: I think this is a question. I think it's such
Speaker 1: a tough one. Man. I have to decide right now.
Speaker 1: Or can I think about it on the plane or
Speaker 1: I mean I have to choose, Like I mean, I
Speaker 1: like it all. I like legs, I like the breasts,
Speaker 1: I like the butt, I like the face, shoulders, arms, elbows, forearms. Okay,
Speaker 1: I mean that doesn't help at all. Ryan, I would
Speaker 1: say leg guy, le guy for you, boom guy, leg
Speaker 1: guy or toes guy. I think I'm a leg guy.
Speaker 1: I think I think the gateway to the toe. It's
Speaker 1: a long thoroughfare on the highway to the toes. And
Speaker 1: gave me to the leg bro. Not if your ultimate
Speaker 1: goal is the toe. I wouldn't say that's my ultimate goal.
Speaker 1: Oh Gavin needs a new T shirt. Yeah, I I
Speaker 1: there's there's something very sexy about a beautiful pair of legs.
Speaker 1: I find it very crazy. Yeah, I agree. Um Dmitri,
Speaker 1: you say, like, yeah, Aby, Aby, what do you think
Speaker 1: I'm wearing shorts? What? Two more, you're wearing short shorts.
Speaker 1: You're showing off them legs. Sure, sure we should get
Speaker 1: narrow as a sponsor. Um thoughts on stretch marks, whether
Speaker 1: she has had children or not. I don't even understand
Speaker 1: you mean, like, are we saying marks that we think
Speaker 1: it's kind of gross or to be honest with you,
Speaker 1: like at that point in time, it's just that's kind
Speaker 1: of the fact of life, and that's a reality. And
Speaker 1: if you're really into that person and you're doing whatever
Speaker 1: you're doing with that individual, then it doesn't doesn't really
Speaker 1: bother me. So what if you weren't super into them,
Speaker 1: Like you saw a girl who's super pretty, but she
Speaker 1: had like you could see a little cellulite. I don't
Speaker 1: have a problem with I think you need to look
Speaker 1: in the mirror because I'm sure there's something wrong with
Speaker 1: you if you're being that particular about someone else. Look
Speaker 1: in the mirror and you'll find something about yourself. Ryan
Speaker 1: what Ryan Bryan has tried. He won't yan he perfect?
Speaker 1: Look at him. This was in the news. Recently, Courtney
Speaker 1: Kardashian posted a photo. Look I'm I'm I'm hip to
Speaker 1: this guys, come on, can you stop making the stretch marks?
Speaker 1: And she embraced it, and she was praised by people
Speaker 1: for not doctoring the photo and just owning the fact that, yeah,
Speaker 1: I have stretch marks, but I'm fit and like this
Speaker 1: is what it is. It's kind of like the same
Speaker 1: as a as a dad bod, Right, you know what
Speaker 1: I mean, It's like we're all in quasi shape and
Speaker 1: but I still have a gut and I don't I
Speaker 1: don't think. I don't find any correlation to stretch marks
Speaker 1: to a dad bot, I stretch marks is a physical
Speaker 1: thing that like you gave birth, like you're like that
Speaker 1: was something that's a that's a I don't know. I
Speaker 1: don't see how you correlate those, Rick, How did those
Speaker 1: correlate somebody giving birth to getting lazy? Coming from brooks
Speaker 1: Like I'm just wondering. Yeah, I don't know. Just give
Speaker 1: the old glass is a good pay? How about this one?
Speaker 1: Is food the way to a man's soul? What should
Speaker 1: she attempt to make? So? If food is the way
Speaker 1: to your soul, is it? And if it is, what
Speaker 1: should she make for you? Is she a good cook?
Speaker 1: Or is she just attempting to make something? But she's
Speaker 1: not a good cook And I'd rather have take out,
Speaker 1: But I would love me. Can you help this guy?
Speaker 1: I would love a chicken farmer sian a little carbonara pasta.
Speaker 1: I'm a chicken farm guy. I don't think it's the
Speaker 1: gateway or what is it? The uh? What is the
Speaker 1: food away? To a man's soul. I don't think it's
Speaker 1: the way to a man soul. For me, it's like,
Speaker 1: don't be so obsessed with oh my god, I ate
Speaker 1: a carb or just food is great. It's not the
Speaker 1: way to the soul. But it's like, don't be don't
Speaker 1: be uptight about it. Like you want chicken parm, have
Speaker 1: chicken parm? You want to like make sure you eat
Speaker 1: nice you know, good foods that you enjoy. And don't
Speaker 1: you think it's sexy A gal that can cook? Yeah, hell, yes, yes,
Speaker 1: it's hot as hell. Yes. My my wife is an
Speaker 1: exceptional cook. She can go in the fridge and like
Speaker 1: every meal is different, every meal. She's never made the
Speaker 1: same meal twice. She'll go in the fridge and find
Speaker 1: some things, whip it together, and I'm like, oh my god,
Speaker 1: that's delicious and it's very healthy. And that cannot cook.
Speaker 1: We're a special cook. We're special to amy. Would you
Speaker 1: if if you knew a guy it was important to
Speaker 1: a guy, If you knew it was important to a guy,
Speaker 1: the guy you really liked, would you try something? Um? No,
Speaker 1: I have a nice lady who cooks, and she drops
Speaker 1: it off at my house, and it seems like I
Speaker 1: cooked it, so we're good. Okay, your mouth was moving,
Speaker 1: but it sounded like something R would say. It's like,
Speaker 1: if you're not a good cook, fine then but if
Speaker 1: you are a good cook, it's a plus. Like my
Speaker 1: man will always have a delicious, home cooked meal ready
Speaker 1: for him at all times. I just didn't prepare. That's
Speaker 1: a bad statement. I didn't prepare it. Why No, that
Speaker 1: just like threw me into like the fifties, and I
Speaker 1: was for having the refrigerator full of healthy, great delicious food,
Speaker 1: but I don't cook it, so I will handle figuring
Speaker 1: it out. What he's saying is that the guy should
Speaker 1: also be sure, like that can be my job. I
Speaker 1: have no problem with that being my thing, making sure
Speaker 1: the food is, the refrigerator is stocked, and the meals
Speaker 1: are planned. I just can't cook it. Yeah, I don't know.
Speaker 1: I mean I I we my wife and I we
Speaker 1: basically like kind of trade off like their their nights
Speaker 1: where I'm like, oh, I want to make a you know,
Speaker 1: slowly smoked ribs or you know, something like that, and
Speaker 1: she's like, I want to do resulted tonight. I think
Speaker 1: you just kind of traded off on back and forth.
Speaker 1: I don't think it's This is my job and I
Speaker 1: need to make sure that the fridge is stocked, and
Speaker 1: I'm going to cook every single night because I'm gonna
Speaker 1: satisfy you. Like, that's not how we work. I might
Speaker 1: not want to do the garbage. I don't know where
Speaker 1: the dishes. I'm just saying, like, if that's gonna be
Speaker 1: gonna be my responsibility, totally fine. I just can't cook.
Speaker 1: I suck at cooking, but I'm totally fine to take
Speaker 1: the responsibility on being the organizer of that. Let me
Speaker 1: say this, So I were talking about a couple different
Speaker 1: I agree with you. My wife and I alternate cooking
Speaker 1: like barbecue. I'll and I'll say this, her cooking is
Speaker 1: way way better, like way better. I I did like
Speaker 1: barbecue and it's kind of and then just steam some
Speaker 1: vegetables and it's kind of plain. But um, she's excess
Speaker 1: same here. But I'll say this to any gentleman out
Speaker 1: there listening. The cooks don't clean. So if your wife
Speaker 1: or or if you're um girlfriend cooks for you, step
Speaker 1: up and clean. That's what I'm saying that in our house,
Speaker 1: that's how I say I cook doesn't clean. My wife
Speaker 1: cooks dinner, she can go read a book, going to bathtub,
Speaker 1: whatever she wants. I will clean the crap out of
Speaker 1: that kitchen if she puts in that effort and cooks dinner,
Speaker 1: and I hope that it's it's reciprocated. If I put
Speaker 1: that effort in and provide a plate for her, I
Speaker 1: agree with that. I don't mind doing that. But you
Speaker 1: know what my dad used to say. He'd say, you
Speaker 1: put so much work, and you made this beautiful meal.
Speaker 1: Finish off the job. Make that the whole special night. Ready,
Speaker 1: finish off? No no, no, meaning he cooked. My dad said,
Speaker 1: I cooked a nice meal. I'm gonna finish off this
Speaker 1: nice thing, and I'm gonna do the dishes myself. I'm
Speaker 1: gonna I'm gonna do the whole thing. Yes, that part,
Speaker 1: and let's let's go with the first person that we believe.
Speaker 1: Cut that part. I see that, I see like fully
Speaker 1: treating somebody. But I also think that, like, if somebody
Speaker 1: provides you with the meal, it's such a nice thing
Speaker 1: to say, I'll clean this up you I have I
Speaker 1: have like a anal rick thing where I basically will
Speaker 1: cook and clean seem to it's just like I've trying
Speaker 1: to be the most efficient and effective. I do as well.
Speaker 1: I like cooking and being the one providing and feeling
Speaker 1: like this is an unbelievable mele that I just provided
Speaker 1: for you. That's fulfilling. Yeah, wait till your son pushes
Speaker 1: it away and you're like this sucks. I don't like
Speaker 1: hot talks, Dad. I'm all for it all. I think
Speaker 1: it's a give and take. Like it doesn't have to be.
Speaker 1: The cooking doesn't have to be, the dishes don't have
Speaker 1: to be, the garbage don't have to be. This as
Speaker 1: long as like everybody's in it, I don't even care.
Speaker 1: I'll do it all. I don't care. I'll do it. Okay,
Speaker 1: you reek of desperation right now. Maybe I'll do it.
Speaker 1: I'll alter excess for all the recipes. Maybe it's it's
Speaker 1: eighty five at night as we record this come back,
Speaker 1: so when we go to the Light Household, when we
Speaker 1: have the how men think dinner at the at the
Speaker 1: Light Household, who's cooking? I'd probably if we were to
Speaker 1: do that, I'd probably like to barbecue. I'd love to
Speaker 1: put a bunch of like filets on the barbecue for
Speaker 1: the gents. How do you like your filet Dmitri Rick Ryan,
Speaker 1: don't give it. Damn, you're gonna get what you get.
Speaker 1: Gets the hockey Peck snuck out because he had to
Speaker 1: go buy a pair of shoes. I just think everybody
Speaker 1: should know he's he disappeared a few minutes ago because
Speaker 1: he had to go buy some booths. I like a
Speaker 1: dry aged and I like it medium rare. You get
Speaker 1: that pit barrel? Have you ever seen those pit barrels?
Speaker 1: Like a thirty gallon drum that you basically hang the
Speaker 1: meat through these rods but charcoal or wouldn't bottom, and
Speaker 1: you just leave it in there for no, I have
Speaker 1: not four or five hours and it just you don't
Speaker 1: ever have to touch it. It's literally the best thing
Speaker 1: cooks in the barrel. It cooks in the barrel. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's so. Do you guys have a smoker? Basically that's
Speaker 1: what it is. Yeah, we've lost, we've lost. I need
Speaker 1: to go to the air we lost Amy. Rick's got
Speaker 1: to go to the airport. Doesn't have a flight to smoker.
Speaker 1: I just met her. Okay, that was awesome. Thank you
Speaker 1: guys for your questions. We always appreciate listener questions. We
Speaker 1: will throw ourselves on the flames here and answer these
Speaker 1: for you guys anytime. So thank you. Keep writing us
Speaker 1: these questions. We'll try our best to answer them. And Ryan,
Speaker 1: you love myself, take care of myself and everybody else.
Speaker 1: I like that from Ryan, Love thyself, take care of thyself,
Speaker 1: comb thyself's hair, screw everybody else, and see you back
Speaker 1: here next week. Play with thyself. Okay, this one's done.
Speaker 1: Put this one is done.