Speaker 1: Second Date Updated.
Speaker 2: Lately, we've been asking people on this segment to pull
Speaker 2: up their apps and have them read off the other
Speaker 2: person's dating profile just to get an idea of who
Speaker 2: they are in a different kind of way.
Speaker 3: Right, some of us just asking boring questions like who
Speaker 3: are they?
Speaker 1: Totally And I don't know if my co hosts really
Speaker 1: like that strategy or not.
Speaker 4: I do.
Speaker 1: I didn't ask whether you did.
Speaker 2: I'm just saying I didn't know, But I'm curious what
Speaker 2: our audience thinks. So text into seventy five nine too,
Speaker 2: tell us do you like us having them read stuff
Speaker 2: off of the dating bios? And today we have Samantha
Speaker 2: on the line. Samantha, are you cool if we did
Speaker 2: that with you? Because I know some people think of
Speaker 2: it as a little bit of an invasion of privacy.
Speaker 2: I personally call it getting the juicy.
Speaker 5: Beats, I think is the same thing.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you're down to spill some juice on the B
Speaker 2: and J. Yeah, all right, go ahead, pull up the
Speaker 2: guy's profile and tell us what's his name? Okay, you
Speaker 2: can't do two things at once, Samantha.
Speaker 5: I okay, And what app are we on? Can I
Speaker 5: ask that?
Speaker 4: Okay, We're on hinge, I got it.
Speaker 2: Okay, Now splash some fresh squeezed Ian juice on us.
Speaker 1: Tell us what's on his profile?
Speaker 5: No, no, that's a different app.
Speaker 1: I'm just trying to get that. That's not okay. I
Speaker 1: guess read what it says.
Speaker 6: Okay.
Speaker 4: So on his bio, his interests a comedy, hip hop,
Speaker 4: and pizza.
Speaker 2: Okay, ye, he likes to laugh and he likes pizza.
Speaker 2: He's a real rebel.
Speaker 7: But at least it's not the opposite. He's like, I
Speaker 7: like not laughing in vegetables. Then it'd be more boring.
Speaker 1: That's a good way to look at what else is
Speaker 1: on there?
Speaker 4: Okay. So later his profile, there's a prompt that says
Speaker 4: I get way too excited about and he put birds birds?
Speaker 3: Man?
Speaker 5: Is he old? Is that why he said that you.
Speaker 2: Don't need to be I am a bird watcher, and
Speaker 2: I can tell you it's a hoot.
Speaker 1: I think, yeah, Brooks laughing on the inside.
Speaker 5: Wow, what did you think of that? Did you? Did
Speaker 5: you like that he was into bird watching?
Speaker 4: I mean I like animals, So I was like, all right,
Speaker 4: I guess we can do the birds.
Speaker 1: I wonder if he's like me.
Speaker 2: He knows how to spot a woodpecker or a sap
Speaker 2: sucker bird jokes they're always good.
Speaker 5: Is that a joke?
Speaker 4: Yeah?
Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, whatever?
Speaker 6: What else?
Speaker 3: What else?
Speaker 1: At himself?
Speaker 4: Okay, so under the worst state idea I've ever had,
Speaker 4: he wrote, getting bangs not good.
Speaker 5: I thought it was a verb and that would have
Speaker 5: been bang. They went and got haircuts together straight.
Speaker 7: The guy he likes.
Speaker 2: Well, at least he admitted that was a bad idea.
Speaker 5: Does he still have bangs in his profile picture?
Speaker 4: No?
Speaker 1: Okay, that's good.
Speaker 8: Yeah.
Speaker 4: So we starred messaging and it was just I don't know,
Speaker 4: it was like really easy and natural with him.
Speaker 5: Oh that's cool. I'll gend good pictures if you swipe
Speaker 5: to that. What did you guys end up going to
Speaker 5: do for your date?
Speaker 4: We met at a bar for some drink.
Speaker 5: Okay, yeah, I.
Speaker 4: Don't think a lot of people like me there though,
Speaker 4: because they kept playing Mackelmore's shot like I'm gonna pop
Speaker 4: sometas like on the jukebox.
Speaker 7: Yeah yeah, okay, you know that could just be a troll.
Speaker 7: I have a friend they have Wi Fi jukeboxes now
Speaker 7: yeah yeah, down the street from a bar, and he
Speaker 7: will troll the bar and play.
Speaker 5: Like mom or like, ok it did it? She was
Speaker 5: singing it didn't sound like a troll.
Speaker 8: Yeah.
Speaker 4: I literally played it like ten times.
Speaker 1: Whoa, it's a good song though it was?
Speaker 8: It was.
Speaker 4: I mean, I love that song. Like Ian thought it
Speaker 4: was funny. He liked the song too.
Speaker 3: He thought it was funny ten times. That's literally thirty
Speaker 3: minutes of that song.
Speaker 4: Yeah. Everyone else thought it was really annoying and was staring.
Speaker 5: But I myself was this a highlight for you or
Speaker 5: a low light?
Speaker 4: It was a highlight because then he was really sweet
Speaker 4: and he was like, well, can you like blame them
Speaker 4: for staring at you when you look this good?
Speaker 7: And sometimes it's nice to have that, like us against
Speaker 7: the room.
Speaker 1: He's a little bit cheesy, like pizza.
Speaker 5: I like that, like you right now?
Speaker 1: Did anything else happen? Was there some bird watching on
Speaker 1: the state?
Speaker 4: No bird watching?
Speaker 1: See, that's why he is not coming back.
Speaker 7: Not even pigeons.
Speaker 1: He's going to be there's always an opportunity. But what
Speaker 1: else happened?
Speaker 6: So?
Speaker 4: I know he paid him a compliment back, and I
Speaker 4: was like, you're the only guy I'm interested in online.
Speaker 5: Oh that's a statement. How did he respond?
Speaker 6: Well?
Speaker 4: He actually ended up kissing me while we were sitting
Speaker 4: at the bars.
Speaker 2: Like open mouth kiss or a peck.
Speaker 3: It was a passion the kiss, I'm sure was it
Speaker 3: a passionate kiss?
Speaker 4: Yeah, it was a good kiss.
Speaker 1: Okay 'e so cute. This is all sounding really good.
Speaker 1: How did you guys end the evening?
Speaker 4: So it started getting late and he offered to walk
Speaker 4: me home okay, and he gave me a piggyback ride
Speaker 4: home and then again at my door, and then you.
Speaker 5: Guys made out again at your door.
Speaker 4: He said, Yeah, it was cute, but you've been texting
Speaker 4: and trying to get a second date on the books,
Speaker 4: and nothing's really been working with my schedule. And I
Speaker 4: was like, please, don't think I'm blowing you off, because
Speaker 4: I'm definitely not.
Speaker 6: Yeah.
Speaker 3: Oh wait, so you're worried that he thinks you're blowing
Speaker 3: him off. It's not the other way around.
Speaker 4: I mean it was like that originally, but then it
Speaker 4: went so long and it took him like such a
Speaker 4: long time to respond, and he finally said a day later, like, yeah, sorry,
Speaker 4: I don't think it's going to work.
Speaker 2: Oh after you said please, like I'm not trying to
Speaker 2: blow you off, he still was like never mind.
Speaker 4: Yeah, So I'm like really confused. Why would he say
Speaker 4: that he's not answering me anymore. So that's why I
Speaker 4: reached out.
Speaker 7: To you guys for that is like the telltale sign
Speaker 7: of like I got back with my ex or I
Speaker 7: met somebody else. Really nothing wrong, there's no red flags
Speaker 7: at all. See.
Speaker 3: I think that he thinks you're trying to blow him
Speaker 3: off even though you said it, and he.
Speaker 2: Wants to get ahead of it. He wants to be like,
Speaker 2: I'm rejecting you, You're not rejecting Yeah.
Speaker 3: I think he thought that was just a pity text.
Speaker 4: Maybe.
Speaker 2: Well, let's see if he rejects us when we try
Speaker 2: and call him. No guarantee he'll answer, can't.
Speaker 7: Reject a burnex reject from bird.
Speaker 1: We're gonna do it with your second date update next
Speaker 1: hold on second date update.
Speaker 2: Except for the fifteen straight Macklemore songs, we heard maybe
Speaker 2: the best first date that we've heard on the show
Speaker 2: in a long time, and we normally don't get this
Speaker 2: where the guy piggybacks her home, kisses her on the doorstep,
Speaker 2: and then for the next few days they both try
Speaker 2: to figure out how to hang out again, and for
Speaker 2: whatever reason, they just can't and it dissolves well, and.
Speaker 5: He even says, like it's over.
Speaker 3: I'm not even gonna to pursue this anymore.
Speaker 1: After trying it for so long.
Speaker 2: And you know what, I call that the dating magic window,
Speaker 2: because there's usually about forty eight hours after your first
Speaker 2: date where you need to capitalize on that high feeling
Speaker 2: and see each other again, or the spark goes away
Speaker 2: and things just kind of fizzle out.
Speaker 7: She did say she kind of took a while at first,
Speaker 7: but then she clarified and said, Hey, I'm really sorry.
Speaker 1: I've been super busy.
Speaker 7: I wasn't trying to ghost you or anything.
Speaker 2: So maybe that's what it comes down to. Maybe things
Speaker 2: just took too long and it fizzled. Is that what
Speaker 2: you're thinking, Samantha, I have no idea.
Speaker 4: I hope it's not that because I really liked him.
Speaker 3: See I think you should hope it is that because
Speaker 3: that is easy for us to fix.
Speaker 5: You can refizzle unfizzled situation.
Speaker 1: Let's just call in now.
Speaker 4: Okay, I'm ready, Okay, here we go.
Speaker 1: Hello, Hey is this Ian?
Speaker 6: It is?
Speaker 2: I just want to say, one fellow bird watcher to another,
Speaker 2: how's it going?
Speaker 6: Man?
Speaker 3: Oh?
Speaker 1: I thought there was going to be like a bird
Speaker 1: the Morning to you.
Speaker 5: Okay, that was it was a Dove bird watchers association.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 1: Also, you're on the radio with Brooke and Jeffrey right now.
Speaker 6: What.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm not sure if you listen to us.
Speaker 7: But number one bird show in the country.
Speaker 2: That is a verifiable fact. And we're also a show
Speaker 2: that does something called a second date update.
Speaker 1: You ever heard of that?
Speaker 6: I'm not familiar.
Speaker 2: Well, uh, you're about to be, because you're on one now.
Speaker 2: We're trying to help out a one of our listeners
Speaker 2: named Samantha, who you went out on a date with recently.
Speaker 1: Uh is that ringing.
Speaker 6: About several weeks ago?
Speaker 2: Right? And the thing is, your date is a little
Speaker 2: bit strange compared to most of the ones that we do,
Speaker 2: because it actually sounded like a good time and then
Speaker 2: afterwards you two were trying to set up another hangout.
Speaker 2: But it sounds like maybe it took too long or
Speaker 2: Samantha was too busy and the spark may have died off.
Speaker 3: She said you guys were texting after your date and
Speaker 3: that you were trying to plan something and then suddenly
Speaker 3: you were just like, nah, I'm done.
Speaker 9: Yeah, I mean, that's true, but like she started sending
Speaker 9: like mixed messages, and like online dating's pretty tough as
Speaker 9: it is, so I'm not into planning games and so.
Speaker 1: Over what do you mean that she was sending mixed messages?
Speaker 9: When you meet somebody going on a date, it's cool,
Speaker 9: and like I understand like not checking your profile and
Speaker 9: like actively like just sort of focusing on one person.
Speaker 6: That's the way I am.
Speaker 3: Yeah, she said she told you that she didn't want
Speaker 3: to date anybody else, that she was going to focus
Speaker 3: on you.
Speaker 1: Oh right, and then and then right after that you
Speaker 1: kissed her.
Speaker 9: That's all true, and at the time, I like totally
Speaker 9: believed it.
Speaker 7: What happened to change?
Speaker 9: Fun Right after the date, things were good, but like
Speaker 9: we spent like a few days texting back and forth
Speaker 9: trying to figure out when to hang out again. Yeah,
Speaker 9: and like during that time, I told my friends I'd
Speaker 9: sent a couple of photos saying, like, you know, I'm
Speaker 9: going out with this two girl Samantha, like wish me luck, Okay.
Speaker 5: Yeah, so you're that excited?
Speaker 9: Yeah, And they were like they couldn't have been more
Speaker 9: excited for me. However, a couple of days later, one
Speaker 9: of my good friends texted me, Hey, what was that
Speaker 9: girl you went out with?
Speaker 1: Is this her?
Speaker 6: Oh?
Speaker 3: No, no, wait, what did they send you?
Speaker 9: What was the picture of Well, it was on a
Speaker 9: different dating app that she had matched with him and
Speaker 9: had reached out to him, not.
Speaker 6: Knowing that he's my buddy.
Speaker 9: And her profile photo on bumble is the photo of
Speaker 9: the outfit she was wearing the night we went out,
Speaker 9: in front of the bar we were at.
Speaker 5: Did you take a picture.
Speaker 3: Of her that night?
Speaker 9: It must have been before our date because she was
Speaker 9: by herself, but it was clearly the bar we were at.
Speaker 1: Oh man, I'm sorry.
Speaker 2: She must have looked really good that night. She had
Speaker 2: to take that picture and posted on her Maybe she.
Speaker 5: Came back after you guys like benefit of the doubt.
Speaker 3: What if she just messaged you messaged your buddy after
Speaker 3: you had told.
Speaker 5: Her, no, I'm good, I'm gonna move on, remember, because
Speaker 5: she said it wasn't working and you guys couldn't link
Speaker 5: up on a date like she didn't say.
Speaker 2: It created a new profile picture from the night that
Speaker 2: they went out.
Speaker 3: Well, she didn't say I'm your girlfriend.
Speaker 5: She's still interested, but she said.
Speaker 2: I'm the only You're the only guy I'm interested in.
Speaker 5: Never say that to someone. Well maybe that was true in.
Speaker 9: That moment, that's totally fine, but don't say that like
Speaker 9: you're not interested, or that you're only interested in one person,
Speaker 9: like do what you want? Okay.
Speaker 2: So now you feel like you were being deceived by her,
Speaker 2: and I understand that because kind of we've been deceiving
Speaker 2: you at the same time by not telling you.
Speaker 1: Samantha's on the.
Speaker 2: Other line what she's been listening, listening because.
Speaker 6: I'm gonna you know, like I said, I don't what
Speaker 6: I told you.
Speaker 9: I'll tell her go ahead. Why would you tell somebody
Speaker 9: that all you wanted to do was date this one
Speaker 9: person and that they were the only one for you,
Speaker 9: and then that day start a new dating profile from
Speaker 9: the photo the night we were out.
Speaker 2: That's a lot, Samantha say, Hi, there you go.
Speaker 1: Okay, all right, now answer his twenty questions.
Speaker 4: Well, this is really awkward.
Speaker 5: Why did you say that?
Speaker 7: Damn?
Speaker 4: I mean I really did like him and we were talking,
Speaker 4: and I don't know, I feel like when you're on
Speaker 4: those apps, you just keep your options open. But like
Speaker 4: he was the only one I was actively talking to
Speaker 4: like that and going on dates with an interest that's.
Speaker 8: Rich, and you said something it was buddy back and
Speaker 8: forth that she then matches with my buddy and then
Speaker 8: tells him it's bumbles.
Speaker 9: She had to reach out to him say that, hey,
Speaker 9: let's go out. I mean I could, like, I'll send
Speaker 9: you the screenshot of their conversation.
Speaker 1: Maybe it was.
Speaker 2: Like a button match or a butt texted that.
Speaker 1: What happens, Samantha, give you a benefit of the doubt.
Speaker 4: I mean, to be fair, I wasn't having like any
Speaker 4: serious conversation with him. It was very introductory and I
Speaker 4: was trying to keep my options open, very light. I
Speaker 4: was not going deep with anyone. I wanted to go
Speaker 4: on a second date with him.
Speaker 2: And her profile picture on hinges, the profile picture you
Speaker 2: took on the dates with those other guys.
Speaker 3: Come on, Samantha, and like I can see like she's
Speaker 3: caught up in the moment.
Speaker 5: She's really about you.
Speaker 3: She says something that maybe is at one hundred percent true, right, Samantha,
Speaker 3: But it's not like she's like outright cheating on you.
Speaker 5: Man, it wasn't a red flag for me to play.
Speaker 5: You're dating round?
Speaker 3: Ye, yes, I.
Speaker 7: Would like to match for fun.
Speaker 1: That's a good point.
Speaker 2: Especially when you're feeling a little bit down, You're feeling
Speaker 2: like you're rejected, and the second date isn't happening. You
Speaker 2: want that confidence boost with one of his close friends.
Speaker 4: Oh and I didn't know with his friend.
Speaker 3: Okay, let's not say that so bad.
Speaker 5: I didn't know. I get caught.
Speaker 3: It's what you mean by that, Samantha.
Speaker 2: Well, in the spirit of saying things that might not
Speaker 2: be one hundred percent true, would you like to go
Speaker 2: out on another date?
Speaker 9: I am not at all interested in going out.
Speaker 6: Are you serious, Samantha? Like you're great and.
Speaker 9: All, but I could never trust you. I mean literally
Speaker 9: the night we went out, you created a new profiler.
Speaker 6: In the next couple of.
Speaker 9: Days, and like, I'll never be able to trust you again.
Speaker 9: Like it's just a waste of both of our times.
Speaker 5: It wasn't a new profile, you just update did her photo?
Speaker 1: Okay?
Speaker 2: I mean, come on, hail Mary, what if we send
Speaker 2: you to the bird sanctuary together?
Speaker 5: That's right.
Speaker 1: You can't say no to birds?
Speaker 6: What's the bird thing about? Why does that matter?
Speaker 1: I thought you I thought you were into birds. Bro
Speaker 1: on your profile.
Speaker 5: Do you feel deceived, Jeffrey, you're lying to me.
Speaker 1: I never want to talk to you A Jeffy.
Speaker 6: This show ever
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