Speaker 1: I told my husband your job is easy because he's
Speaker 1: a stay at home dead. Now he's mad and wants
Speaker 1: to talk. Am I the a hole?
Speaker 2: We have a good stay at home dad. You know
Speaker 2: the classic switcheroo, classic swischeraroo.
Speaker 1: That's right. Do you ever did you watch You and
Speaker 1: a Half Man? I did not. Did one of them
Speaker 1: stay at home? You know? Two dads?
Speaker 2: Two dads Charlie Sheen and their step kid, Charlie Sheen
Speaker 2: and the other dude were they watched the Charlie Sheen
Speaker 2: interview uh lately of the Tiger blood shit And he's like, no,
Speaker 2: is that like talking to the reporter?
Speaker 1: Oh dude, it's so good. Age. He's he's really the
Speaker 1: goat man. You got to put respect on his name.
Speaker 2: He's the goat. Oh yeah, oh yeah, for sure. Maybe
Speaker 2: he's a state of dad. Let's see. I am writing
Speaker 2: this from the guest bedroom, not a good bedroom to
Speaker 2: write anything from. True the guest bedroom means ship is
Speaker 2: going down.
Speaker 1: You guessed it. But because my husband and I have
Speaker 1: had a fight. So the thing is, my husband is
Speaker 1: a stay at home dad. Three years ago he wanted
Speaker 1: to quit his job and take care of the house
Speaker 1: and children. Six female and two male. I work a
Speaker 1: decent job and earn most of the money. My husband
Speaker 1: takes pride in being a stay at home dad. He
Speaker 1: always brags about how it's the easiest job in the
Speaker 1: world and women are just complaining for no reason. Waite,
Speaker 1: wait wait, I thought we were gonna go the other direction. Wait,
Speaker 1: hold on, that's pretty that's a funny take. Though. I
Speaker 1: thought he was gonna be like, uh, you know, I
Speaker 1: take pride. You know, men never really you know, think
Speaker 1: about you know what stay at home moms have have
Speaker 1: been doing for like all these times. No, there's just
Speaker 1: easy bro banking. I just eat. I just drink my
Speaker 1: triple Vanilla pump latte and kick the freak back. Let
Speaker 1: it all unfold. But the truth is I help him
Speaker 1: with the chores as much as I can. In the morning,
Speaker 1: I wake up and fix the breakfast for them, and
Speaker 1: my husband gets our daughter ready for school. I also
Speaker 1: do meal preps for lunch. All he has to do
Speaker 1: is assemble them and cook it way, so she's like
Speaker 1: teeing up the meals. I guess that's yeah, that's why
Speaker 1: it's so easy. He's doing it on easy mode. Dude.
Speaker 1: All right, I pack my and my daughter's lunch. When
Speaker 1: I'm at work, he does the cleaning and spends time
Speaker 1: with our son or does his thing whatever that means,
Speaker 1: I guess does his thing. Oh, I didn't know her
Speaker 1: having a little alone me time.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I gotta get a stress to get it out.
Speaker 1: Oh god, I gotta relieve that stress somehow. You know,
Speaker 1: a lot of chores to do around the house. Got
Speaker 1: a tea impressed somehow? Beating my meat is one of them.
Speaker 1: Oh boy. Later, when I come home, I cook dinner
Speaker 1: and give my son a bath, I help my daughter
Speaker 1: with her schoolwork, or I play with them for some
Speaker 1: time until bedtime. Besides that, whenever we do laundry the
Speaker 1: clothes that he washes and put them away.
Speaker 2: It sounds like the responsibility is actually split pretty equally
Speaker 2: between household chores.
Speaker 1: Yeah, there is definitely some intentional and actual split of
Speaker 1: the housework here. Further to that point, during the deep
Speaker 1: cleaning of our house, we split the tasks fifty to fifty.
Speaker 1: I also handle all of the doctor's appointments. So what
Speaker 1: he's just doing half a job right now, doing half
Speaker 1: a job, which, like I guess their agreement was, like, hey, op,
Speaker 1: the mom will be working a full time job and
Speaker 1: then he'll be the stay at home dad, which I
Speaker 1: guess it depends on what they is. That what they
Speaker 1: expect a retation, like you know, who cares? Then it's okay, yeah,
Speaker 1: but maybe that's not. We'll see the system works really well.
Speaker 1: But I hate that he thinks my contribution is not enough,
Speaker 1: that he does all the chores and that I don't
Speaker 1: even lift a finger. Wait, bro, you just said it
Speaker 1: was the easiest job in the world. Though, Yeah, hold
Speaker 1: hold on, hold on, how is it the easiest job?
Speaker 1: And she's she's not doing anything when she's doing fifty percent?
Speaker 2: Yeah, it sounds it funds pretty even dude, I I
Speaker 2: I'm not I'm not following here.
Speaker 1: Yeah, oh this is great. Moreover, he has a blog
Speaker 1: and a TikTok where he films his days. Yo, can
Speaker 1: we get an act? Can we can we start some.
Speaker 2: Everyone says that they are a TikTok, but they never
Speaker 2: give the at. Dude, I want to know the at.
Speaker 1: Give it to him. Guys, Sam is so much over here.
Speaker 1: He has chronic loss of TikTok handles. He also make
Speaker 1: posts about how easy it is to be a stay
Speaker 1: at home dad, and women just complain and are full
Speaker 1: of it. This is like this is so bad.
Speaker 2: But I mean, while you're doing it on easy mode,
Speaker 2: your wife is helping with fifty percent of the things.
Speaker 2: But this is like it's like the worst take ever
Speaker 2: like being and also I mean it depends how how
Speaker 2: much many kids you have and like also what age
Speaker 2: they are too, so I imagine like it just gets
Speaker 2: it changes, like the work changes, but like what a
Speaker 2: terrible take one hundred percent.
Speaker 1: Also slight side note, I don't know. For me, like
Speaker 1: I've been living on my own almost ten years. I'm
Speaker 1: just so used to like cleaning for myself, cooking for myself.
Speaker 1: It's like weird to have somebody else do it. Like
Speaker 1: I don't know, maybe that's just me, but I've always
Speaker 1: felt that way.
Speaker 2: I would feel like, well, I guess he's jobbing the
Speaker 2: absent minded. Yeah, but like I think if you're absent minded,
Speaker 2: it's just like like like then the last story or
Speaker 2: one of the last stories we did, or yeah, in
Speaker 2: the last story, the guy was just like not even
Speaker 2: thinking about folding the clothes or putting away the shoes,
Speaker 2: and so like I had a roommate that would open
Speaker 2: up every single cabinet door that he used and never
Speaker 2: close it. And he just like didn't realize he needed
Speaker 2: to close the doors.
Speaker 1: Apparently that's that's a thing. I never knew that such.
Speaker 2: Apparently my head on these doors and I'm like, Marcel,
Speaker 2: what the fuck stuck closed the cabinet doors.
Speaker 1: Now there's a Well, he's a great guy. He is.
Speaker 1: He is. I'm glad he likes it, But I hate
Speaker 1: he thinks that he is superior to everyone and invalidating
Speaker 1: their experience. Yeah, that's not great. Yeah. I grew up
Speaker 1: in a house where my dad didn't even lift a
Speaker 1: finger and my mom did literally everything around the house.
Speaker 1: He was the fun dad, doing the bare minimum. So
Speaker 1: I do not want that to happen to my husband. Also,
Speaker 1: it is my house too. I believe if both people
Speaker 1: do chores, the stress becomes less. Also, I know many
Speaker 1: of my friends who struggle with doing chores as a
Speaker 1: stay at home mom. I also know women who work
Speaker 1: and still do the majority of the chores, and his
Speaker 1: comments make me irritated. Irritated makes a lot of sense.
Speaker 1: So yesterday my friend Ashley came to visit. She is
Speaker 1: a mother of two. Her son probably has adhd and
Speaker 1: very much active. She is trouble handling her son and
Speaker 1: gets no help from her husband. Her son breaks a
Speaker 1: cup in our house, Ashley was saying sorry, my husband
Speaker 1: cleaned it up, and she was complaining how exhausted she is.
Speaker 1: My husband scoffed and told her, you must be doing
Speaker 1: the parenting thing wrong because I am the stay at
Speaker 1: home parent too, but I never had a problem. My
Speaker 1: wife barely does anything around the house and it is
Speaker 1: so easy. Bro, what is maybe I should give you
Speaker 1: a lesson or too not. The thing to say was like,
Speaker 1: oh my god, I'm so stressed as like, bro, you
Speaker 1: suck shod you hey, uh, I just want to make
Speaker 1: sure do you know you was terrible?
Speaker 2: Like do you know her parent thing? Like it's easy
Speaker 2: as shit, dude.
Speaker 1: I want to start writing out some ABC's if you want, Like,
Speaker 1: is that even if this was true, even if he
Speaker 1: was doing all the work, it is emotionally uh vapid
Speaker 1: and just dumb as fuck to like say that to
Speaker 1: someone who was struggling, Like I'm struggling in school. It's like, oh, man,
Speaker 1: Like I'm like, you're doing not doing well on test?
Speaker 1: I wouldn't.
Speaker 2: It was like, well, you must be an idiot, because
Speaker 2: I'm getting a's like. You wouldn't say that because everyone
Speaker 2: struggles differently and does things differently. Like you want to
Speaker 2: be an emotional support system, not someone who tears them down.
Speaker 1: But what about letting idiots know they're idiots? SA the
Speaker 1: Elon muskwe service, and he does that all the time.
Speaker 1: He loves Yeah, his favorite thing is you are stupid.
Speaker 1: It's simple, simple, elegant, like a tesla. You're an idiot.
Speaker 1: You're an idiot. That is, you're an idiot. There we go,
Speaker 1: an idiots. Let's get our quotes right over here. Now.
Speaker 1: I can see Ashley was upset. I understand why. Later
Speaker 1: that day I told him what he said to Ashley
Speaker 1: was very rude. My husband acted as if he had
Speaker 1: said nothing wrong and was just honest. It's so rude, bro,
Speaker 1: wholeness with honesty.
Speaker 2: You're just because you're being honest doesn't mean you're not
Speaker 2: an asshole. Come on now, PSA PSA for the a holes,
Speaker 2: PSA hole. Yeah, there we go, not a bad show
Speaker 2: name or something.
Speaker 1: SA whole. I like it. I like it. Mental note.
Speaker 1: I pointed out that he doesn't do all the chores.
Speaker 1: I help him with at least forty percent. That's why
Speaker 1: he thinks it's easy. He again argued that those chores
Speaker 1: are not significant compared to what he does. I told
Speaker 1: him he was being mean to everyone. We got lucky
Speaker 1: that our kids are easy and not active.
Speaker 2: Yeah, our kids just fucking sit around all day like
Speaker 2: a freaking potato.
Speaker 1: Just a bunch of zombies, just freaking zombed out. Ye,
Speaker 1: a bunch of little little sands over here. Most of
Speaker 1: the kids are hard to handle. He again scoffed and said,
Speaker 1: how hard can it be? Famous last words, buddy, bro,
Speaker 1: here we go. Are we cooking up for what I
Speaker 1: think we're cooking up for? Dude? Please just say then,
Speaker 1: do all the fucking chores, please do them all? Let
Speaker 1: it go, let's see. We argued about this, and he
Speaker 1: told me I am being ungrateful because no man would
Speaker 1: ever sacrifice like he did. It easy? Is it?
Speaker 2: Is it the easiest job in the world or have
Speaker 2: you sacrificed a lot?
Speaker 1: Like? Pick aside?
Speaker 3: It's so easy, and I sacrifice everything. I'm such a hero.
Speaker 3: It's hard. It's hard for us heroes out here.
Speaker 2: Dude, you gotta pick a side. God, dang, I am
Speaker 2: upset and gave him some space. Was I wrong to
Speaker 2: point it out? There is an edit and an update.
Speaker 2: But where we are right now, he's being a dick.
Speaker 2: He's being a massive yes yes, like like you know,
Speaker 2: it might be easy. He might be right, you know,
Speaker 2: he might. He might think it's easy at least for
Speaker 2: his kids. But he's like how he's acting is not
Speaker 2: emotionally intelligent at all.
Speaker 1: Not at all. What what I'm curious to everyone watching
Speaker 1: and Sam, what do you think the solution is? Like?
Speaker 1: What should Opie do to try to stop doing any
Speaker 1: of the chores and see how he likes it? I
Speaker 1: love that idea. Yeah, it'd be like, hey, if your
Speaker 1: job is so easy and my chores are so insignificant,
Speaker 1: I'm just gonna take a little pause on it. You know,
Speaker 1: like you said, it's so easy, so.
Speaker 2: Seem it seems like like I'm a little stressed out.
Speaker 2: It seems like you could use more work. Let's let's
Speaker 2: take a little Let's put this a stay at home
Speaker 2: dad thing on easy mode. If it's so insignificant the
Speaker 2: things that I'm doing, then you just do it.
Speaker 1: Let's give you some significance, buddy.
Speaker 2: But also I think like part of it is like
Speaker 2: just like hanging with kids like like like like Op,
Speaker 2: he probably wants to read to the kids, like that's
Speaker 2: something that she probably gets joy out of too.
Speaker 1: Yeah, like OP wants to spend more time with the kids.
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, yeah, because there are certain like chores that
Speaker 1: are just like also just hanging with the kids that them.
Speaker 2: So she might not want to be like, oh, I'm
Speaker 2: not going to do this because she likes doing it too.
Speaker 1: But just want to offload all the things you don't
Speaker 1: like doing to him. Ba boom, delegated baby. It's so insignificant,
Speaker 1: all right, Onto the editing update. Just wanted to point
Speaker 1: out that I have no issues with him being a
Speaker 1: stay at home dad. I just don't like his attitude
Speaker 1: towards it and the way he thinks it's the easiest
Speaker 1: job in the world because to me and most of
Speaker 1: the people, it is a job that has no vacation days.
Speaker 1: I also do not like that attitude. I also very
Speaker 1: much do not like that attitude. Producer Riley, do you
Speaker 1: like that attitude? He thinks it's non tolerable. Yeah, the
Speaker 1: fam has spoken. Onto the update. Okay, I took everyone's
Speaker 1: advice and drumroll, please go. I stopped for here on
Speaker 1: all the chores. I did tell him beforehand, since he
Speaker 1: thinks my contribution to the housework is nothing, then I
Speaker 1: will stop doing everything all together.
Speaker 2: Remember that, honestly, I think is a great solution. As
Speaker 2: if it's like, if you just think it's insignificant, then oh,
Speaker 2: just just do its load off me.
Speaker 1: Easy, I told him. Since he thinks being a stay
Speaker 1: at home dad is easy, then he should have the
Speaker 1: full experience of it. I love that my friend's husband
Speaker 1: doesn't even lift a finger around the house, so I
Speaker 1: wouldn't too. He was obviously upset. He wanted to argue
Speaker 1: I cannot do this to him. He even tried to
Speaker 1: pull the incompetence card. What like I can't do it?
Speaker 1: Like I can't fold laundry and baby, my weakends are
Speaker 1: not strong enough to have a clean phone on the
Speaker 1: children's clothes. What am I to do? Baby bro?
Speaker 2: I can't do all the voices you do for bedtime stories.
Speaker 1: I wouldn't know how to.
Speaker 3: Do eat or I keep pouring soap on the plates
Speaker 3: and think you falling because they're too slippery from the soap.
Speaker 1: My grip is a strong, baby, God, love it. Oh,
Speaker 1: let's see if he actually nuts up and does it. Ooh.
Speaker 1: I told him I am not to do my portion
Speaker 1: of the job at home. I also gave the typical excuse,
Speaker 1: I work all day at my office so that we
Speaker 1: can survive on one income. It is selfish for him
Speaker 1: to expect me to do the housework. So I think
Speaker 1: kind of like she's taking that classic line and trying
Speaker 1: to like flip it back on him. Yep, yep, that's
Speaker 1: what I did. I didn't do any housework. I didn't
Speaker 1: wake up in the morning and make breakfast. My husband
Speaker 1: had to do it. It wasn't hard for him, but
Speaker 1: I can see he was moody. I don't want to
Speaker 1: make these stupid pancakes. Correct.
Speaker 2: He's just going to realize that him doing everything is
Speaker 2: also super easy.
Speaker 1: Like right, he goes stronger. It's like I realized it's
Speaker 1: even easier of a job than I thought. Let the
Speaker 1: misogyny course through my veins. I'm a fricking prodigy, the
Speaker 1: stay at home master. That's what AHF stands for now.
Speaker 1: I asked him to prepare my lunch, because that is
Speaker 1: also part of the job. He refused at first, but
Speaker 1: then I told him he will do all the household
Speaker 1: chores too. That includes my lunch as well. He only
Speaker 1: packed me a peanut butter and jelly sandwich. Damn. How
Speaker 1: passive aggressive dudem better than just like a single banana.
Speaker 2: I guess is pretty good though. I kind of la yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1: I didn't do meal prep for lunch. It was his
Speaker 1: to figure out. At night when I came home, I
Speaker 1: didn't make dinner. I asked him to do it. He
Speaker 1: was shocked, but did it anyways. I didn't give my
Speaker 1: son a bath. Our son was fussy, which pissed my
Speaker 1: husband off. I only helped my daughter with her homework.
Speaker 1: I didn't help him with the laundry. The first few
Speaker 1: days he didn't say a word, but after a week
Speaker 1: it was showing that he is getting exhausted. Ah, there
Speaker 1: we go, baby fuck did? He was getting more and
Speaker 1: more angry at small stuff and usually cleaning would cool
Speaker 1: him off, but whenever he sees the man, he throws
Speaker 1: a tantrum. In the weekends, I went to my mother's
Speaker 1: house to relax. That weekend, we were supposed to clean
Speaker 1: our bathrooms. He did that all by himself. As the
Speaker 1: days progressed, I could see him being really angry at me,
Speaker 1: even I admit it affected our intimacy a lot. At last,
Speaker 1: after two weeks, he told me, basically yelled, that I
Speaker 1: had proved my point.
Speaker 2: Day he came, well, I'm glad that he finally got
Speaker 2: it through his thick fucking skull two weeks. B that's like,
Speaker 2: that's also very it feels extremely stubborn.
Speaker 1: Like that's so stubbing. It took him two weeks for
Speaker 1: it to finally click. Although hey, you know what he
Speaker 1: at least he committed. Yeah, oh my god. Now things
Speaker 1: are back to normal, but I can see he is
Speaker 1: very distant with me. Last night I asked him to
Speaker 1: talk with me. He said he knew what game I
Speaker 1: was playing, but he did not appreciate ME treating him
Speaker 1: like gar garbage and not considering his feelings. I told
Speaker 1: him it was his words that being a stay at
Speaker 1: home dad is easy. I just gave him the full
Speaker 1: experience of it. He kept denying that, and I should
Speaker 1: have been more supportive. All these weeks he felt like
Speaker 1: nobody and so underappreciated. He felt invisible. He started to
Speaker 1: hate me for not giving an f and dumping everything
Speaker 1: on him. He's still not talking to me. We have
Speaker 1: booked a couple's therapy session next week. Oh shit, let's
Speaker 1: see if our relationship sustains it or not. Oh wow,
Speaker 1: Oh man, it's looking diceier. That's been nicy, dude, we thought.
Speaker 1: Oh man, we have some quick comments and then a
Speaker 1: final piece of the story. Yeah, is alimony a thing
Speaker 1: where you come from? Op, We live in a no
Speaker 1: fault state that has nothing to do with whether or
Speaker 1: not alimony gets awarded. You'd best check that out. Oh,
Speaker 1: he says, we don't have a prenup. He has been
Speaker 1: out of work for three years. Maybe I do have
Speaker 1: to pay his alimony, but I'm not sure. Is there
Speaker 1: any option where if he gets alimony, he has to
Speaker 1: find a job within a certain amount of time. Otherwise
Speaker 1: his spousal support will be revoked. As he is a
Speaker 1: stay at home parent, he will likely get primary custody
Speaker 1: as it is seen as better for the kids consistency wise.
Speaker 1: Op says, I'm not planning on divorce. I believe in
Speaker 1: our marriage. I'm hopeful we will go through with it.
Speaker 1: If divorce comes, I will be pushing for fifty fifty.
Speaker 1: And we have one final update to see update let's
Speaker 1: get to it. This will probably be my last and
Speaker 1: final update. I wanted to let you guys know we
Speaker 1: are not getting a divorce like some of you hoped
Speaker 1: for and cursed me out in my personal messages. Come
Speaker 1: I am redd it, Come on payt that like, seriously,
Speaker 1: who wishes the stranger that their husbands should cheat on them?
Speaker 1: That's insane. We did go to counseling, and yes, I
Speaker 1: sincerely apologized for my childish behavior because of a Reddit
Speaker 1: post that I made. We discovered a lot of things
Speaker 1: about us in our relationship at the counseling sessions. Firstly,
Speaker 1: I apologize to him and explained why I did it.
Speaker 1: I wanted him to feel like it was not easy
Speaker 1: if you do not have help. I also mentioned my
Speaker 1: mother's experience in being the caretaker of the family and
Speaker 1: doing it all alone is exhausting, which I think now
Speaker 1: is stupid way to get my point across. But I
Speaker 1: was hurt and very annoyed that he thinks women just
Speaker 1: complain about housework when most of them, I am sure,
Speaker 1: don't have help from their spouses.
Speaker 2: Yeah, he expressed that it was the only way that
Speaker 2: she could like get it across to him, though that's.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's a And you know, maybe there was some
Speaker 1: kind of like gloating or some like extra attitude on
Speaker 1: top of it that you know, maybe was more disrespectful
Speaker 1: than it needed to be. But I think generally her
Speaker 1: intention was like you say, these are all easy, I
Speaker 1: will just let you do the chores, like, well, le
Speaker 1: see how easy it is? Pretty cut and dry. I
Speaker 1: don't know.
Speaker 2: I don't know if I see it as childish, like
Speaker 2: I see it as like more of like an experiment
Speaker 2: in empathy.
Speaker 1: Only if she, you know, maybe made some extra comments
Speaker 1: and things that she wasn't being that.
Speaker 2: Fourth maybe it's like, hey, like maybe setting it as
Speaker 2: an experiment, like hey, you think this is easy, would
Speaker 2: you be to do a two week experiment just seeing
Speaker 2: what it's actually like?
Speaker 1: Fair? But I'm and while she didn't do that, she
Speaker 1: at least did give the heads up and basically the
Speaker 1: reasoning of it. But yeah, it could have been a
Speaker 1: little better, But you know, yeah, I don't really falter
Speaker 1: for that, Honestly, I don't know. I don't think so either.
Speaker 1: He expressed that he gets it, and those few weeks
Speaker 1: when I didn't help him really took a toll on him.
Speaker 1: He doesn't get tired easily, but since he was doing
Speaker 1: all of it, it was tiring for him. I acknowledged
Speaker 1: that after a lot of talking and communicating, we came
Speaker 1: to the root cause. He said that sometimes he feels
Speaker 1: insecure about himself. Okay, now we're getting to something. I
Speaker 1: feel like meat and potatoes, like he is not doing
Speaker 1: enough for us. All of his guy friends have jobs.
Speaker 1: They provide for their family. His friends bragged about taking
Speaker 1: his wife to a vacation in Greece. He felt small
Speaker 1: compared to that because he only made dinner and gave
Speaker 1: me a massage. On the other hand, I gifted him
Speaker 1: a very expensive watch. He felt like he was supposed
Speaker 1: to be the provider of the family, but feels really
Speaker 1: small because I am out here doing good in my
Speaker 1: career and he feels stuck. It was one of those
Speaker 1: moments that made me cry. I liked it when he
Speaker 1: made dinner for me and gave me a massage. He
Speaker 1: is a good cook. I asked him if he wants
Speaker 1: to go back in the workplace. If that's the case,
Speaker 1: he will have my full support. Wow. Man, Yeah, it's
Speaker 1: always good when the breakthrough comes and it's like he
Speaker 1: was just masking all of this stuff, with all this
Speaker 1: like anger and everything that.
Speaker 2: Yeah, like the bravado, the bravado of like, oh this
Speaker 2: shit's so easy.
Speaker 1: Is like because he's insecure about where he is one
Speaker 1: hundred percent. I know things will change a lot. We
Speaker 1: both have to make compromises, but it will be worth
Speaker 1: it because I love him and he is the best
Speaker 1: husband anyone can ask for. He says he doesn't want
Speaker 1: to handle the pressure of the workplace. Last time he
Speaker 1: crashed and decided to quit. He likes being a stay
Speaker 1: at home dad, but also wants to earn, so he's
Speaker 1: going to look for a part time job while doing
Speaker 1: what we used to do. I encouraged him to look
Speaker 1: into freelancing and remote work. He did find one, but
Speaker 1: it's low paying, so the search for a decent job
Speaker 1: is still on the hunt. And he did apologize to
Speaker 1: my friend Ashley. He realized not everyone has it easy.
Speaker 1: I mean, we hit the jackpot with the kids because
Speaker 1: they are pretty quiet. People have different struggles, And I
Speaker 1: know he is sincere because he deleted his blog post
Speaker 1: about being a stay at home dad being easy. Okay, Wow,
Speaker 1: he's really turning Underliaf here. I think around. Also unrelated,
Speaker 1: Ashley is getting a divorce all right, divorce chainers the league.
Speaker 1: You got no good for her. I guess we are fine.
Speaker 1: Our children are fine. We still have one more session
Speaker 1: for therapy left. Our intimate lives are better, and we
Speaker 1: found a better way to communicate with each other rather
Speaker 1: than being petty. I was scared that our marriage will collapse,
Speaker 1: but I am glad we stood strong. Wow. I love that.
Speaker 2: That's awesome that we got to like a really strong
Speaker 2: place at the end, Like now we're like it seems
Speaker 2: like the relationship is even stronger than it began. Like,
Speaker 2: I think it's always interesting when you have a fight
Speaker 2: in a relationship and there's like this critical moment of
Speaker 2: it could either go so wrong or so right, and
Speaker 2: if you just pushed through it in the right way,
Speaker 2: it can make the relationship stronger at the end one
Speaker 2: hundred percent.
Speaker 1: And it makes that that that ending that much sweeter,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean, and that much more, that
Speaker 1: much more powerful that they've built a relationship back from
Speaker 1: where it was so far away.
Speaker 2: Yeah, And also like you know, she said that, like
Speaker 2: like I actually feel like that experiment needed to happen
Speaker 2: for him to under truly understand, Like I don't think
Speaker 2: you're talking about it would have done the job?
Speaker 1: You know? Yeah, I don't know like what exactly the
Speaker 1: like childish behavior it was other other than my guess
Speaker 1: of like her having him do the chores. But I
Speaker 1: think I really think it was necessary for whole, like
Speaker 1: he finally truly understood.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but let us know what you think of this situation, Like, uh,
Speaker 2: it do you think being a stay at home parent
Speaker 2: is easy? First off? Why or why not? And what
Speaker 2: do you know about? Like I guess like the stay
Speaker 2: at home dads, any stay at home dads that you
Speaker 2: know were a stay at home dad is watching?
Speaker 1: Like what does that feel like for you?
Speaker 2: Because it's I think there's I feel like there's often
Speaker 2: a social almost like a not a social demand, but
Speaker 2: like the social default is like women are the stay
Speaker 2: at home parent. Yeah, obviously that's changing a lot, and
Speaker 2: so I'm wondering what the what like it feels like
Speaker 2: to be a stay at home dad or what you
Speaker 2: guys have heard of what that feels like? Please put
Speaker 2: your answer to the comments. We'd love to hear it.
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Speaker 1: episode from Deep Within the Archives. Time for okop relash. Today,
Speaker 1: I afked up by recovering my dad's sex tape from
Speaker 1: fifteen years ago on an old handicam. You know, sometimes
Speaker 1: you just gotta throw back Thursday, you know what I mean?
Speaker 2: Hey, Hey, you learn from the best you know, learn
Speaker 2: about your origins from when the origins started.
Speaker 1: Hey, do you know what I mean? To know your roots?
Speaker 1: That's all you say.
Speaker 2: Learning from the giants they came before. You learn from
Speaker 2: your dad's route, you know what I mean. Oh yeah,
Speaker 2: big old ruins going around.
Speaker 1: I was feeling nostalgic and thought of checking out old photos,
Speaker 1: so I took out some old cameras. My dad, in
Speaker 1: his prime twenty years ago, was fond of cameras. Yeah,
Speaker 1: he was in his prime. He had three handicams. We
Speaker 1: were too poor to afford even one at the time,
Speaker 1: but he still managed to buy them. And I'm not
Speaker 1: sure if they actually call them handicams. I just remember
Speaker 1: that my dad used to call them that. So I
Speaker 1: found all three of those.
Speaker 2: They weren't working batteries dead pro so I took their
Speaker 2: SD cards out and plugged them into my laptop with
Speaker 2: a card reader. I also found one more SD card
Speaker 2: in their case. All four of them were barely eight
Speaker 2: gigabytes in size. I thought I would see at least
Speaker 2: a thousand files comprising of videos and photos from our Europe, Portugal, Spain,
Speaker 2: and France trips that we did together in two thousand
Speaker 2: and eight, but to my surprise, there were barely over
Speaker 2: one hundred and fifty m I definitely remember more than that.
Speaker 2: So I used Recover, a filed recovery tool to scan
Speaker 2: through those To scan through those SD cards, and I
Speaker 2: found three hundred more.
Speaker 1: Oh wow, that's a lot. I immediately recovered them. Most
Speaker 1: of them were videos, so I know, so I knew
Speaker 1: my entire Sunday I was just going to be watching them,
Speaker 1: but I wasn't complaining though. It was gonna be great.
Speaker 1: We're gonna go down memory out like old memory and stuff.
Speaker 2: I started playing them. They were in MPG format and
Speaker 2: my default player couldn't play them without lag, so I
Speaker 2: installed VLC. Then it was all fun and games, or
Speaker 2: so I supposed. So there I was twenty four year
Speaker 2: old me refreshing my memories of Europe and the fun
Speaker 2: I had with my dad and is supposedly female colleague.
Speaker 2: She too accompanied us, and I always thought she used
Speaker 2: to do so to discuss work.
Speaker 1: I was nine. My dad was disvorced. My dad was divorced,
Speaker 1: and my custody was entirely on him. My mom left
Speaker 1: to another country. As I was playing these videos in order,
Speaker 1: I found one video and it started off with nothing
Speaker 1: but a bed. Oh no, no, no, no.
Speaker 2: It looked horrible, probably a cheap hotel they were staying in.
Speaker 2: I did remember we used to book. I did remember
Speaker 2: we used to book two rooms, one for me and
Speaker 2: one for me and dad and the other for the colleague.
Speaker 2: And there comes my dad. I would be happy to
Speaker 2: see him if he weren't butt naked.
Speaker 1: No, then his hall. Then came his colleague and they
Speaker 1: did the thing. I immediately watched the whole thing. I
Speaker 1: immediately stopped playing it. It was embarrassed as hell. Even
Speaker 1: though I was alone at my house. I skipped over.
Speaker 1: I skipped over to the other videos. But after a
Speaker 1: while I just have to see it. No, it's like
Speaker 1: a train wreck a card.
Speaker 2: I really don't know why I'm embarrassed by this. This
Speaker 2: is basic human behavior. My dad has a life, and
Speaker 2: he was obviously doing things nature had programmed us to do.
Speaker 2: But still finding this clip after fifteen years is very
Speaker 2: shocking now. At the time fifteen years ago, I was
Speaker 2: a little upset that mom wasn't there for me, and
Speaker 2: I used to blame my dad. But he did everything
Speaker 2: he could to raise me, provide for me, and he
Speaker 2: never left me out. Maybe you should have left you out. Well,
Speaker 2: I guess at least he left you out of the Yeah.
Speaker 1: Yeah, Then he shows it.
Speaker 2: He's like, oh, yeah, no, turn around, put the blindfold on.
Speaker 2: In fact, he never used to leave me alone unless
Speaker 2: he went to work, and at the time I was
Speaker 2: usually at school. He always treated me like a friend.
Speaker 2: The video I found made me think, and I thought
Speaker 2: maybe I should ask him whether he was responsible for
Speaker 2: the divorce. But then I realized sex isn't something criminal.
Speaker 2: Humans have needs and that's okay. After a few hours
Speaker 2: of realizing. After a few hours of thinking, I realized something.
Speaker 2: I am a sexual So this will definitely hit me harder.
Speaker 2: I don't understand sexual attraction, but I know for a
Speaker 2: fact my dad has always done so much for me.
Speaker 2: This thing I found is completely okay for him to
Speaker 2: do so. I deleted the video, erased everything from the
Speaker 2: SD cards, which ensures that the files will no longer
Speaker 2: be recoverable.
Speaker 1: Oh peace out.