WEBVTT - EP1237: Hubby doesn’t WORK HARD - r/BestofRedditorUpdates Reddit Story

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<v Speaker 1>I told my husband your job is easy because he's

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<v Speaker 1>a stay at home dead. Now he's mad and wants

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<v Speaker 1>to talk. Am I the a hole?

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<v Speaker 2>We have a good stay at home dad. You know

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<v Speaker 2>the classic switcheroo, classic swischeraroo.

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<v Speaker 1>That's right. Do you ever did you watch You and

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<v Speaker 1>a Half Man? I did not. Did one of them

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<v Speaker 1>stay at home? You know? Two dads?

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<v Speaker 2>Two dads Charlie Sheen and their step kid, Charlie Sheen

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<v Speaker 2>and the other dude were they watched the Charlie Sheen

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<v Speaker 2>interview uh lately of the Tiger blood shit And he's like, no,

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<v Speaker 2>is that like talking to the reporter?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh dude, it's so good. Age. He's he's really the

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<v Speaker 1>goat man. You got to put respect on his name.

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<v Speaker 2>He's the goat. Oh yeah, oh yeah, for sure. Maybe

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<v Speaker 2>he's a state of dad. Let's see. I am writing

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<v Speaker 2>this from the guest bedroom, not a good bedroom to

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<v Speaker 2>write anything from. True the guest bedroom means ship is

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<v Speaker 2>going down.

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<v Speaker 1>You guessed it. But because my husband and I have

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<v Speaker 1>had a fight. So the thing is, my husband is

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<v Speaker 1>a stay at home dad. Three years ago he wanted

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<v Speaker 1>to quit his job and take care of the house

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<v Speaker 1>and children. Six female and two male. I work a

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<v Speaker 1>decent job and earn most of the money. My husband

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<v Speaker 1>takes pride in being a stay at home dad. He

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<v Speaker 1>always brags about how it's the easiest job in the

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<v Speaker 1>world and women are just complaining for no reason. Waite,

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<v Speaker 1>wait wait, I thought we were gonna go the other direction. Wait,

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<v Speaker 1>hold on, that's pretty that's a funny take. Though. I

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<v Speaker 1>thought he was gonna be like, uh, you know, I

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<v Speaker 1>take pride. You know, men never really you know, think

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<v Speaker 1>about you know what stay at home moms have have

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<v Speaker 1>been doing for like all these times. No, there's just

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<v Speaker 1>easy bro banking. I just eat. I just drink my

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<v Speaker 1>triple Vanilla pump latte and kick the freak back. Let

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<v Speaker 1>it all unfold. But the truth is I help him

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<v Speaker 1>with the chores as much as I can. In the morning,

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<v Speaker 1>I wake up and fix the breakfast for them, and

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<v Speaker 1>my husband gets our daughter ready for school. I also

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<v Speaker 1>do meal preps for lunch. All he has to do

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<v Speaker 1>is assemble them and cook it way, so she's like

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<v Speaker 1>teeing up the meals. I guess that's yeah, that's why

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<v Speaker 1>it's so easy. He's doing it on easy mode. Dude.

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<v Speaker 1>All right, I pack my and my daughter's lunch. When

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<v Speaker 1>I'm at work, he does the cleaning and spends time

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<v Speaker 1>with our son or does his thing whatever that means,

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<v Speaker 1>I guess does his thing. Oh, I didn't know her

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<v Speaker 1>having a little alone me time.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I gotta get a stress to get it out.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh god, I gotta relieve that stress somehow. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of chores to do around the house. Got

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<v Speaker 1>a tea impressed somehow? Beating my meat is one of them.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh boy. Later, when I come home, I cook dinner

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<v Speaker 1>and give my son a bath, I help my daughter

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<v Speaker 1>with her schoolwork, or I play with them for some

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<v Speaker 1>time until bedtime. Besides that, whenever we do laundry the

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<v Speaker 1>clothes that he washes and put them away.

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<v Speaker 2>It sounds like the responsibility is actually split pretty equally

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<v Speaker 2>between household chores.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, there is definitely some intentional and actual split of

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<v Speaker 1>the housework here. Further to that point, during the deep

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<v Speaker 1>cleaning of our house, we split the tasks fifty to fifty.

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<v Speaker 1>I also handle all of the doctor's appointments. So what

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<v Speaker 1>he's just doing half a job right now, doing half

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<v Speaker 1>a job, which, like I guess their agreement was, like, hey, op,

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<v Speaker 1>the mom will be working a full time job and

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<v Speaker 1>then he'll be the stay at home dad, which I

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<v Speaker 1>guess it depends on what they is. That what they

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<v Speaker 1>expect a retation, like you know, who cares? Then it's okay, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>but maybe that's not. We'll see the system works really well.

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<v Speaker 1>But I hate that he thinks my contribution is not enough,

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<v Speaker 1>that he does all the chores and that I don't

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<v Speaker 1>even lift a finger. Wait, bro, you just said it

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<v Speaker 1>was the easiest job in the world. Though, Yeah, hold

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<v Speaker 1>hold on, hold on, how is it the easiest job?

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<v Speaker 1>And she's she's not doing anything when she's doing fifty percent?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it sounds it funds pretty even dude, I I

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not I'm not following here.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, oh this is great. Moreover, he has a blog

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<v Speaker 1>and a TikTok where he films his days. Yo, can

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<v Speaker 1>we get an act? Can we can we start some.

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<v Speaker 2>Everyone says that they are a TikTok, but they never

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<v Speaker 2>give the at. Dude, I want to know the at.

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<v Speaker 1>Give it to him. Guys, Sam is so much over here.

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<v Speaker 1>He has chronic loss of TikTok handles. He also make

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<v Speaker 1>posts about how easy it is to be a stay

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<v Speaker 1>at home dad, and women just complain and are full

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<v Speaker 1>of it. This is like this is so bad.

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<v Speaker 2>But I mean, while you're doing it on easy mode,

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<v Speaker 2>your wife is helping with fifty percent of the things.

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<v Speaker 2>But this is like it's like the worst take ever

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<v Speaker 2>like being and also I mean it depends how how

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<v Speaker 2>much many kids you have and like also what age

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<v Speaker 2>they are too, so I imagine like it just gets

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<v Speaker 2>it changes, like the work changes, but like what a

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<v Speaker 2>terrible take one hundred percent.

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<v Speaker 1>Also slight side note, I don't know. For me, like

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<v Speaker 1>I've been living on my own almost ten years. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>just so used to like cleaning for myself, cooking for myself.

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<v Speaker 1>It's like weird to have somebody else do it. Like

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know, maybe that's just me, but I've always

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<v Speaker 1>felt that way.

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<v Speaker 2>I would feel like, well, I guess he's jobbing the

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<v Speaker 2>absent minded. Yeah, but like I think if you're absent minded,

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<v Speaker 2>it's just like like like then the last story or

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<v Speaker 2>one of the last stories we did, or yeah, in

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<v Speaker 2>the last story, the guy was just like not even

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<v Speaker 2>thinking about folding the clothes or putting away the shoes,

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<v Speaker 2>and so like I had a roommate that would open

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<v Speaker 2>up every single cabinet door that he used and never

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<v Speaker 2>close it. And he just like didn't realize he needed

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<v Speaker 2>to close the doors.

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<v Speaker 1>Apparently that's that's a thing. I never knew that such.

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<v Speaker 2>Apparently my head on these doors and I'm like, Marcel,

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<v Speaker 2>what the fuck stuck closed the cabinet doors.

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<v Speaker 1>Now there's a Well, he's a great guy. He is.

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<v Speaker 1>He is. I'm glad he likes it, But I hate

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<v Speaker 1>he thinks that he is superior to everyone and invalidating

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<v Speaker 1>their experience. Yeah, that's not great. Yeah. I grew up

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<v Speaker 1>in a house where my dad didn't even lift a

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<v Speaker 1>finger and my mom did literally everything around the house.

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<v Speaker 1>He was the fun dad, doing the bare minimum. So

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<v Speaker 1>I do not want that to happen to my husband. Also,

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<v Speaker 1>it is my house too. I believe if both people

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<v Speaker 1>do chores, the stress becomes less. Also, I know many

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<v Speaker 1>of my friends who struggle with doing chores as a

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<v Speaker 1>stay at home mom. I also know women who work

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<v Speaker 1>and still do the majority of the chores, and his

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<v Speaker 1>comments make me irritated. Irritated makes a lot of sense.

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<v Speaker 1>So yesterday my friend Ashley came to visit. She is

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<v Speaker 1>a mother of two. Her son probably has adhd and

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<v Speaker 1>very much active. She is trouble handling her son and

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<v Speaker 1>gets no help from her husband. Her son breaks a

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<v Speaker 1>cup in our house, Ashley was saying sorry, my husband

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<v Speaker 1>cleaned it up, and she was complaining how exhausted she is.

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<v Speaker 1>My husband scoffed and told her, you must be doing

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<v Speaker 1>the parenting thing wrong because I am the stay at

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<v Speaker 1>home parent too, but I never had a problem. My

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<v Speaker 1>wife barely does anything around the house and it is

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<v Speaker 1>so easy. Bro, what is maybe I should give you

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<v Speaker 1>a lesson or too not. The thing to say was like,

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<v Speaker 1>oh my god, I'm so stressed as like, bro, you

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<v Speaker 1>suck shod you hey, uh, I just want to make

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<v Speaker 1>sure do you know you was terrible?

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<v Speaker 2>Like do you know her parent thing? Like it's easy

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<v Speaker 2>as shit, dude.

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<v Speaker 1>I want to start writing out some ABC's if you want, Like,

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<v Speaker 1>is that even if this was true, even if he

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<v Speaker 1>was doing all the work, it is emotionally uh vapid

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<v Speaker 1>and just dumb as fuck to like say that to

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<v Speaker 1>someone who was struggling, Like I'm struggling in school. It's like, oh, man,

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<v Speaker 1>Like I'm like, you're doing not doing well on test?

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<v Speaker 1>I wouldn't.

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<v Speaker 2>It was like, well, you must be an idiot, because

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<v Speaker 2>I'm getting a's like. You wouldn't say that because everyone

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<v Speaker 2>struggles differently and does things differently. Like you want to

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<v Speaker 2>be an emotional support system, not someone who tears them down.

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<v Speaker 1>But what about letting idiots know they're idiots? SA the

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<v Speaker 1>Elon muskwe service, and he does that all the time.

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<v Speaker 1>He loves Yeah, his favorite thing is you are stupid.

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<v Speaker 1>It's simple, simple, elegant, like a tesla. You're an idiot.

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<v Speaker 1>You're an idiot. That is, you're an idiot. There we go,

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<v Speaker 1>an idiots. Let's get our quotes right over here. Now.

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<v Speaker 1>I can see Ashley was upset. I understand why. Later

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<v Speaker 1>that day I told him what he said to Ashley

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<v Speaker 1>was very rude. My husband acted as if he had

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<v Speaker 1>said nothing wrong and was just honest. It's so rude, bro,

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<v Speaker 1>wholeness with honesty.

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<v Speaker 2>You're just because you're being honest doesn't mean you're not

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<v Speaker 2>an asshole. Come on now, PSA PSA for the a holes,

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<v Speaker 2>PSA hole. Yeah, there we go, not a bad show

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<v Speaker 2>name or something.

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<v Speaker 1>SA whole. I like it. I like it. Mental note.

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<v Speaker 1>I pointed out that he doesn't do all the chores.

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<v Speaker 1>I help him with at least forty percent. That's why

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<v Speaker 1>he thinks it's easy. He again argued that those chores

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<v Speaker 1>are not significant compared to what he does. I told

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<v Speaker 1>him he was being mean to everyone. We got lucky

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<v Speaker 1>that our kids are easy and not active.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, our kids just fucking sit around all day like

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<v Speaker 2>a freaking potato.

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<v Speaker 1>Just a bunch of zombies, just freaking zombed out. Ye,

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<v Speaker 1>a bunch of little little sands over here. Most of

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<v Speaker 1>the kids are hard to handle. He again scoffed and said,

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<v Speaker 1>how hard can it be? Famous last words, buddy, bro,

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<v Speaker 1>here we go. Are we cooking up for what I

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<v Speaker 1>think we're cooking up for? Dude? Please just say then,

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<v Speaker 1>do all the fucking chores, please do them all? Let

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<v Speaker 1>it go, let's see. We argued about this, and he

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<v Speaker 1>told me I am being ungrateful because no man would

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<v Speaker 1>ever sacrifice like he did. It easy? Is it?

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<v Speaker 2>Is it the easiest job in the world or have

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<v Speaker 2>you sacrificed a lot?

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<v Speaker 1>Like? Pick aside?

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<v Speaker 3>It's so easy, and I sacrifice everything. I'm such a hero.

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<v Speaker 3>It's hard. It's hard for us heroes out here.

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<v Speaker 2>Dude, you gotta pick a side. God, dang, I am

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<v Speaker 2>upset and gave him some space. Was I wrong to

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<v Speaker 2>point it out? There is an edit and an update.

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<v Speaker 2>But where we are right now, he's being a dick.

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<v Speaker 2>He's being a massive yes yes, like like you know,

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<v Speaker 2>it might be easy. He might be right, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>he might. He might think it's easy at least for

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<v Speaker 2>his kids. But he's like how he's acting is not

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<v Speaker 2>emotionally intelligent at all.

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<v Speaker 1>Not at all. What what I'm curious to everyone watching

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<v Speaker 1>and Sam, what do you think the solution is? Like?

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<v Speaker 1>What should Opie do to try to stop doing any

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<v Speaker 1>of the chores and see how he likes it? I

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<v Speaker 1>love that idea. Yeah, it'd be like, hey, if your

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<v Speaker 1>job is so easy and my chores are so insignificant,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm just gonna take a little pause on it. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>like you said, it's so easy, so.

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<v Speaker 2>Seem it seems like like I'm a little stressed out.

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<v Speaker 2>It seems like you could use more work. Let's let's

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<v Speaker 2>take a little Let's put this a stay at home

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<v Speaker 2>dad thing on easy mode. If it's so insignificant the

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<v Speaker 2>things that I'm doing, then you just do it.

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<v Speaker 1>Let's give you some significance, buddy.

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<v Speaker 2>But also I think like part of it is like

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<v Speaker 2>just like hanging with kids like like like like Op,

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<v Speaker 2>he probably wants to read to the kids, like that's

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<v Speaker 2>something that she probably gets joy out of too.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, like OP wants to spend more time with the kids.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah yeah, yeah, because there are certain like chores that

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<v Speaker 1>are just like also just hanging with the kids that them.

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<v Speaker 2>So she might not want to be like, oh, I'm

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<v Speaker 2>not going to do this because she likes doing it too.

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<v Speaker 1>But just want to offload all the things you don't

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<v Speaker 1>like doing to him. Ba boom, delegated baby. It's so insignificant,

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<v Speaker 1>all right, Onto the editing update. Just wanted to point

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<v Speaker 1>out that I have no issues with him being a

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<v Speaker 1>stay at home dad. I just don't like his attitude

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<v Speaker 1>towards it and the way he thinks it's the easiest

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<v Speaker 1>job in the world because to me and most of

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<v Speaker 1>the people, it is a job that has no vacation days.

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<v Speaker 1>I also do not like that attitude. I also very

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<v Speaker 1>much do not like that attitude. Producer Riley, do you

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<v Speaker 1>like that attitude? He thinks it's non tolerable. Yeah, the

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<v Speaker 1>fam has spoken. Onto the update. Okay, I took everyone's

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<v Speaker 1>advice and drumroll, please go. I stopped for here on

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<v Speaker 1>all the chores. I did tell him beforehand, since he

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<v Speaker 1>thinks my contribution to the housework is nothing, then I

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<v Speaker 1>will stop doing everything all together.

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<v Speaker 2>Remember that, honestly, I think is a great solution. As

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<v Speaker 2>if it's like, if you just think it's insignificant, then oh,

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<v Speaker 2>just just do its load off me.

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<v Speaker 1>Easy, I told him. Since he thinks being a stay

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<v Speaker 1>at home dad is easy, then he should have the

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<v Speaker 1>full experience of it. I love that my friend's husband

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<v Speaker 1>doesn't even lift a finger around the house, so I

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<v Speaker 1>wouldn't too. He was obviously upset. He wanted to argue

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<v Speaker 1>I cannot do this to him. He even tried to

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<v Speaker 1>pull the incompetence card. What like I can't do it?

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<v Speaker 1>Like I can't fold laundry and baby, my weakends are

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<v Speaker 1>not strong enough to have a clean phone on the

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<v Speaker 1>children's clothes. What am I to do? Baby bro?

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<v Speaker 2>I can't do all the voices you do for bedtime stories.

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<v Speaker 1>I wouldn't know how to.

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<v Speaker 3>Do eat or I keep pouring soap on the plates

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<v Speaker 3>and think you falling because they're too slippery from the soap.

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<v Speaker 1>My grip is a strong, baby, God, love it. Oh,

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<v Speaker 1>let's see if he actually nuts up and does it. Ooh.

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<v Speaker 1>I told him I am not to do my portion

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<v Speaker 1>of the job at home. I also gave the typical excuse,

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<v Speaker 1>I work all day at my office so that we

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<v Speaker 1>can survive on one income. It is selfish for him

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<v Speaker 1>to expect me to do the housework. So I think

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<v Speaker 1>kind of like she's taking that classic line and trying

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<v Speaker 1>to like flip it back on him. Yep, yep, that's

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<v Speaker 1>what I did. I didn't do any housework. I didn't

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<v Speaker 1>wake up in the morning and make breakfast. My husband

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<v Speaker 1>had to do it. It wasn't hard for him, but

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<v Speaker 1>I can see he was moody. I don't want to

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<v Speaker 1>make these stupid pancakes. Correct.

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<v Speaker 2>He's just going to realize that him doing everything is

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<v Speaker 2>also super easy.

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<v Speaker 1>Like right, he goes stronger. It's like I realized it's

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<v Speaker 1>even easier of a job than I thought. Let the

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<v Speaker 1>misogyny course through my veins. I'm a fricking prodigy, the

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<v Speaker 1>stay at home master. That's what AHF stands for now.

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<v Speaker 1>I asked him to prepare my lunch, because that is

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<v Speaker 1>also part of the job. He refused at first, but

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<v Speaker 1>then I told him he will do all the household

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<v Speaker 1>chores too. That includes my lunch as well. He only

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<v Speaker 1>packed me a peanut butter and jelly sandwich. Damn. How

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<v Speaker 1>passive aggressive dudem better than just like a single banana.

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<v Speaker 2>I guess is pretty good though. I kind of la yeah, yeah, yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't do meal prep for lunch. It was his

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<v Speaker 1>to figure out. At night when I came home, I

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<v Speaker 1>didn't make dinner. I asked him to do it. He

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<v Speaker 1>was shocked, but did it anyways. I didn't give my

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<v Speaker 1>son a bath. Our son was fussy, which pissed my

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<v Speaker 1>husband off. I only helped my daughter with her homework.

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't help him with the laundry. The first few

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<v Speaker 1>days he didn't say a word, but after a week

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<v Speaker 1>it was showing that he is getting exhausted. Ah, there

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<v Speaker 1>we go, baby fuck did? He was getting more and

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<v Speaker 1>more angry at small stuff and usually cleaning would cool

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<v Speaker 1>him off, but whenever he sees the man, he throws

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<v Speaker 1>a tantrum. In the weekends, I went to my mother's

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<v Speaker 1>house to relax. That weekend, we were supposed to clean

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<v Speaker 1>our bathrooms. He did that all by himself. As the

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<v Speaker 1>days progressed, I could see him being really angry at me,

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<v Speaker 1>even I admit it affected our intimacy a lot. At last,

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<v Speaker 1>after two weeks, he told me, basically yelled, that I

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<v Speaker 1>had proved my point.

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<v Speaker 2>Day he came, well, I'm glad that he finally got

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<v Speaker 2>it through his thick fucking skull two weeks. B that's like,

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<v Speaker 2>that's also very it feels extremely stubborn.

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<v Speaker 1>Like that's so stubbing. It took him two weeks for

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<v Speaker 1>it to finally click. Although hey, you know what he

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<v Speaker 1>at least he committed. Yeah, oh my god. Now things

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<v Speaker 1>are back to normal, but I can see he is

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<v Speaker 1>very distant with me. Last night I asked him to

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<v Speaker 1>talk with me. He said he knew what game I

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<v Speaker 1>was playing, but he did not appreciate ME treating him

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<v Speaker 1>like gar garbage and not considering his feelings. I told

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<v Speaker 1>him it was his words that being a stay at

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<v Speaker 1>home dad is easy. I just gave him the full

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<v Speaker 1>experience of it. He kept denying that, and I should

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<v Speaker 1>have been more supportive. All these weeks he felt like

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<v Speaker 1>nobody and so underappreciated. He felt invisible. He started to

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<v Speaker 1>hate me for not giving an f and dumping everything

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<v Speaker 1>on him. He's still not talking to me. We have

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<v Speaker 1>booked a couple's therapy session next week. Oh shit, let's

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<v Speaker 1>see if our relationship sustains it or not. Oh wow,

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<v Speaker 1>Oh man, it's looking diceier. That's been nicy, dude, we thought.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh man, we have some quick comments and then a

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<v Speaker 1>final piece of the story. Yeah, is alimony a thing

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<v Speaker 1>where you come from? Op, We live in a no

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<v Speaker 1>fault state that has nothing to do with whether or

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<v Speaker 1>not alimony gets awarded. You'd best check that out. Oh,

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<v Speaker 1>he says, we don't have a prenup. He has been

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<v Speaker 1>out of work for three years. Maybe I do have

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<v Speaker 1>to pay his alimony, but I'm not sure. Is there

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<v Speaker 1>any option where if he gets alimony, he has to

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<v Speaker 1>find a job within a certain amount of time. Otherwise

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<v Speaker 1>his spousal support will be revoked. As he is a

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<v Speaker 1>stay at home parent, he will likely get primary custody

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<v Speaker 1>as it is seen as better for the kids consistency wise.

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<v Speaker 1>Op says, I'm not planning on divorce. I believe in

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<v Speaker 1>our marriage. I'm hopeful we will go through with it.

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<v Speaker 1>If divorce comes, I will be pushing for fifty fifty.

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<v Speaker 1>And we have one final update to see update let's

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<v Speaker 1>get to it. This will probably be my last and

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<v Speaker 1>final update. I wanted to let you guys know we

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<v Speaker 1>are not getting a divorce like some of you hoped

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<v Speaker 1>for and cursed me out in my personal messages. Come

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<v Speaker 1>I am redd it, Come on payt that like, seriously,

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<v Speaker 1>who wishes the stranger that their husbands should cheat on them?

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<v Speaker 1>That's insane. We did go to counseling, and yes, I

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<v Speaker 1>sincerely apologized for my childish behavior because of a Reddit

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<v Speaker 1>post that I made. We discovered a lot of things

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<v Speaker 1>about us in our relationship at the counseling sessions. Firstly,

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<v Speaker 1>I apologize to him and explained why I did it.

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<v Speaker 1>I wanted him to feel like it was not easy

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<v Speaker 1>if you do not have help. I also mentioned my

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<v Speaker 1>mother's experience in being the caretaker of the family and

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<v Speaker 1>doing it all alone is exhausting, which I think now

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<v Speaker 1>is stupid way to get my point across. But I

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<v Speaker 1>was hurt and very annoyed that he thinks women just

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<v Speaker 1>complain about housework when most of them, I am sure,

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<v Speaker 1>don't have help from their spouses.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, he expressed that it was the only way that

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<v Speaker 2>she could like get it across to him, though that's.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, that's a And you know, maybe there was some

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<v Speaker 1>kind of like gloating or some like extra attitude on

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<v Speaker 1>top of it that you know, maybe was more disrespectful

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<v Speaker 1>than it needed to be. But I think generally her

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<v Speaker 1>intention was like you say, these are all easy, I

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<v Speaker 1>will just let you do the chores, like, well, le

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<v Speaker 1>see how easy it is? Pretty cut and dry. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know if I see it as childish, like

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<v Speaker 2>I see it as like more of like an experiment

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<v Speaker 2>in empathy.

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<v Speaker 1>Only if she, you know, maybe made some extra comments

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<v Speaker 1>and things that she wasn't being that.

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<v Speaker 2>Fourth maybe it's like, hey, like maybe setting it as

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<v Speaker 2>an experiment, like hey, you think this is easy, would

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<v Speaker 2>you be to do a two week experiment just seeing

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<v Speaker 2>what it's actually like?

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<v Speaker 1>Fair? But I'm and while she didn't do that, she

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<v Speaker 1>at least did give the heads up and basically the

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<v Speaker 1>reasoning of it. But yeah, it could have been a

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<v Speaker 1>little better, But you know, yeah, I don't really falter

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<v Speaker 1>for that, Honestly, I don't know. I don't think so either.

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<v Speaker 1>He expressed that he gets it, and those few weeks

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<v Speaker 1>when I didn't help him really took a toll on him.

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<v Speaker 1>He doesn't get tired easily, but since he was doing

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<v Speaker 1>all of it, it was tiring for him. I acknowledged

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<v Speaker 1>that after a lot of talking and communicating, we came

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<v Speaker 1>to the root cause. He said that sometimes he feels

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<v Speaker 1>insecure about himself. Okay, now we're getting to something. I

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<v Speaker 1>feel like meat and potatoes, like he is not doing

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<v Speaker 1>enough for us. All of his guy friends have jobs.

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<v Speaker 1>They provide for their family. His friends bragged about taking

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<v Speaker 1>his wife to a vacation in Greece. He felt small

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<v Speaker 1>compared to that because he only made dinner and gave

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<v Speaker 1>me a massage. On the other hand, I gifted him

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<v Speaker 1>a very expensive watch. He felt like he was supposed

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<v Speaker 1>to be the provider of the family, but feels really

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<v Speaker 1>small because I am out here doing good in my

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<v Speaker 1>career and he feels stuck. It was one of those

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<v Speaker 1>moments that made me cry. I liked it when he

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<v Speaker 1>made dinner for me and gave me a massage. He

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<v Speaker 1>is a good cook. I asked him if he wants

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<v Speaker 1>to go back in the workplace. If that's the case,

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<v Speaker 1>he will have my full support. Wow. Man, Yeah, it's

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<v Speaker 1>always good when the breakthrough comes and it's like he

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<v Speaker 1>was just masking all of this stuff, with all this

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<v Speaker 1>like anger and everything that.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, like the bravado, the bravado of like, oh this

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<v Speaker 2>shit's so easy.

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<v Speaker 1>Is like because he's insecure about where he is one

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<v Speaker 1>hundred percent. I know things will change a lot. We

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<v Speaker 1>both have to make compromises, but it will be worth

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<v Speaker 1>it because I love him and he is the best

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<v Speaker 1>husband anyone can ask for. He says he doesn't want

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<v Speaker 1>to handle the pressure of the workplace. Last time he

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<v Speaker 1>crashed and decided to quit. He likes being a stay

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<v Speaker 1>at home dad, but also wants to earn, so he's

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<v Speaker 1>going to look for a part time job while doing

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<v Speaker 1>what we used to do. I encouraged him to look

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<v Speaker 1>into freelancing and remote work. He did find one, but

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<v Speaker 1>it's low paying, so the search for a decent job

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<v Speaker 1>is still on the hunt. And he did apologize to

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<v Speaker 1>my friend Ashley. He realized not everyone has it easy.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, we hit the jackpot with the kids because

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<v Speaker 1>they are pretty quiet. People have different struggles, And I

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<v Speaker 1>know he is sincere because he deleted his blog post

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<v Speaker 1>about being a stay at home dad being easy. Okay, Wow,

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<v Speaker 1>he's really turning Underliaf here. I think around. Also unrelated,

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<v Speaker 1>Ashley is getting a divorce all right, divorce chainers the league.

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<v Speaker 1>You got no good for her. I guess we are fine.

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<v Speaker 1>Our children are fine. We still have one more session

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<v Speaker 1>for therapy left. Our intimate lives are better, and we

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<v Speaker 1>found a better way to communicate with each other rather

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<v Speaker 1>than being petty. I was scared that our marriage will collapse,

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<v Speaker 1>but I am glad we stood strong. Wow. I love that.

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<v Speaker 2>That's awesome that we got to like a really strong

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<v Speaker 2>place at the end, Like now we're like it seems

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<v Speaker 2>like the relationship is even stronger than it began. Like,

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<v Speaker 2>I think it's always interesting when you have a fight

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<v Speaker 2>in a relationship and there's like this critical moment of

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<v Speaker 2>it could either go so wrong or so right, and

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<v Speaker 2>if you just pushed through it in the right way,

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<v Speaker 2>it can make the relationship stronger at the end one

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<v Speaker 2>hundred percent.

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<v Speaker 1>And it makes that that that ending that much sweeter,

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<v Speaker 1>you know what I mean, and that much more, that

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<v Speaker 1>much more powerful that they've built a relationship back from

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<v Speaker 1>where it was so far away.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, And also like you know, she said that, like

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<v Speaker 2>like I actually feel like that experiment needed to happen

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<v Speaker 2>for him to under truly understand, Like I don't think

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<v Speaker 2>you're talking about it would have done the job?

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<v Speaker 1>You know? Yeah, I don't know like what exactly the

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<v Speaker 1>like childish behavior it was other other than my guess

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<v Speaker 1>of like her having him do the chores. But I

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<v Speaker 1>think I really think it was necessary for whole, like

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<v Speaker 1>he finally truly understood.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, but let us know what you think of this situation, Like, uh,

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<v Speaker 2>it do you think being a stay at home parent

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<v Speaker 2>is easy? First off? Why or why not? And what

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<v Speaker 2>do you know about? Like I guess like the stay

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<v Speaker 2>at home dads, any stay at home dads that you

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<v Speaker 2>know were a stay at home dad is watching?

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<v Speaker 1>Like what does that feel like for you?

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<v Speaker 2>Because it's I think there's I feel like there's often

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<v Speaker 2>a social almost like a not a social demand, but

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<v Speaker 2>like the social default is like women are the stay

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<v Speaker 2>at home parent. Yeah, obviously that's changing a lot, and

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<v Speaker 2>so I'm wondering what the what like it feels like

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<v Speaker 2>to be a stay at home dad or what you

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<v Speaker 2>guys have heard of what that feels like? Please put

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<v Speaker 2>your answer to the comments. We'd love to hear it.

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<v Speaker 1>In addition, we would love to hear your stories if

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<v Speaker 1>you want to send them in. You can call four

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<v Speaker 1>for zero five zer away six five sixty seven. We're

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<v Speaker 1>playing your voicemails on the show and calling a few

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<v Speaker 1>of you. We'd look forward to hearing your stories. See

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<v Speaker 1>on the next one, See you soon. This is an

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<v Speaker 1>episode from Deep Within the Archives. Time for okop relash. Today,

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<v Speaker 1>I afked up by recovering my dad's sex tape from

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<v Speaker 1>fifteen years ago on an old handicam. You know, sometimes

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<v Speaker 1>you just gotta throw back Thursday, you know what I mean?

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<v Speaker 2>Hey, Hey, you learn from the best you know, learn

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<v Speaker 2>about your origins from when the origins started.

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<v Speaker 1>Hey, do you know what I mean? To know your roots?

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<v Speaker 1>That's all you say.

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<v Speaker 2>Learning from the giants they came before. You learn from

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<v Speaker 2>your dad's route, you know what I mean. Oh yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>big old ruins going around.

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<v Speaker 1>I was feeling nostalgic and thought of checking out old photos,

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<v Speaker 1>so I took out some old cameras. My dad, in

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<v Speaker 1>his prime twenty years ago, was fond of cameras. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>he was in his prime. He had three handicams. We

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<v Speaker 1>were too poor to afford even one at the time,

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<v Speaker 1>but he still managed to buy them. And I'm not

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<v Speaker 1>sure if they actually call them handicams. I just remember

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<v Speaker 1>that my dad used to call them that. So I

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<v Speaker 1>found all three of those.

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<v Speaker 2>They weren't working batteries dead pro so I took their

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<v Speaker 2>SD cards out and plugged them into my laptop with

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<v Speaker 2>a card reader. I also found one more SD card

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<v Speaker 2>in their case. All four of them were barely eight

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<v Speaker 2>gigabytes in size. I thought I would see at least

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<v Speaker 2>a thousand files comprising of videos and photos from our Europe, Portugal, Spain,

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<v Speaker 2>and France trips that we did together in two thousand

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<v Speaker 2>and eight, but to my surprise, there were barely over

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<v Speaker 2>one hundred and fifty m I definitely remember more than that.

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<v Speaker 2>So I used Recover, a filed recovery tool to scan

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<v Speaker 2>through those To scan through those SD cards, and I

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<v Speaker 2>found three hundred more.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh wow, that's a lot. I immediately recovered them. Most

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<v Speaker 1>of them were videos, so I know, so I knew

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<v Speaker 1>my entire Sunday I was just going to be watching them,

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<v Speaker 1>but I wasn't complaining though. It was gonna be great.

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<v Speaker 1>We're gonna go down memory out like old memory and stuff.

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<v Speaker 2>I started playing them. They were in MPG format and

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<v Speaker 2>my default player couldn't play them without lag, so I

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<v Speaker 2>installed VLC. Then it was all fun and games, or

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<v Speaker 2>so I supposed. So there I was twenty four year

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<v Speaker 2>old me refreshing my memories of Europe and the fun

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<v Speaker 2>I had with my dad and is supposedly female colleague.

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<v Speaker 2>She too accompanied us, and I always thought she used

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<v Speaker 2>to do so to discuss work.

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<v Speaker 1>I was nine. My dad was disvorced. My dad was divorced,

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<v Speaker 1>and my custody was entirely on him. My mom left

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<v Speaker 1>to another country. As I was playing these videos in order,

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<v Speaker 1>I found one video and it started off with nothing

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<v Speaker 1>but a bed. Oh no, no, no, no.

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<v Speaker 2>It looked horrible, probably a cheap hotel they were staying in.

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<v Speaker 2>I did remember we used to book. I did remember

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<v Speaker 2>we used to book two rooms, one for me and

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<v Speaker 2>one for me and dad and the other for the colleague.

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<v Speaker 2>And there comes my dad. I would be happy to

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<v Speaker 2>see him if he weren't butt naked.

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<v Speaker 1>No, then his hall. Then came his colleague and they

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<v Speaker 1>did the thing. I immediately watched the whole thing. I

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<v Speaker 1>immediately stopped playing it. It was embarrassed as hell. Even

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<v Speaker 1>though I was alone at my house. I skipped over.

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<v Speaker 1>I skipped over to the other videos. But after a

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<v Speaker 1>while I just have to see it. No, it's like

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<v Speaker 1>a train wreck a card.

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<v Speaker 2>I really don't know why I'm embarrassed by this. This

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<v Speaker 2>is basic human behavior. My dad has a life, and

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<v Speaker 2>he was obviously doing things nature had programmed us to do.

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<v Speaker 2>But still finding this clip after fifteen years is very

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<v Speaker 2>shocking now. At the time fifteen years ago, I was

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<v Speaker 2>a little upset that mom wasn't there for me, and

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<v Speaker 2>I used to blame my dad. But he did everything

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<v Speaker 2>he could to raise me, provide for me, and he

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<v Speaker 2>never left me out. Maybe you should have left you out. Well,

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<v Speaker 2>I guess at least he left you out of the Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, Then he shows it.

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<v Speaker 2>He's like, oh, yeah, no, turn around, put the blindfold on.

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<v Speaker 2>In fact, he never used to leave me alone unless

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<v Speaker 2>he went to work, and at the time I was

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<v Speaker 2>usually at school. He always treated me like a friend.

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<v Speaker 2>The video I found made me think, and I thought

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<v Speaker 2>maybe I should ask him whether he was responsible for

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<v Speaker 2>the divorce. But then I realized sex isn't something criminal.

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<v Speaker 2>Humans have needs and that's okay. After a few hours

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<v Speaker 2>of realizing. After a few hours of thinking, I realized something.

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<v Speaker 2>I am a sexual So this will definitely hit me harder.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't understand sexual attraction, but I know for a

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<v Speaker 2>fact my dad has always done so much for me.

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<v Speaker 2>This thing I found is completely okay for him to

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<v Speaker 2>do so. I deleted the video, erased everything from the

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<v Speaker 2>SD cards, which ensures that the files will no longer

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<v Speaker 2>be recoverable.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh peace out.