1 00:00:00,200 --> 00:00:02,920 Speaker 1: I told my husband your job is easy because he's 2 00:00:02,960 --> 00:00:05,520 Speaker 1: a stay at home dead. Now he's mad and wants 3 00:00:05,559 --> 00:00:07,400 Speaker 1: to talk. Am I the a hole? 4 00:00:07,800 --> 00:00:10,040 Speaker 2: We have a good stay at home dad. You know 5 00:00:10,160 --> 00:00:14,200 Speaker 2: the classic switcheroo, classic swischeraroo. 6 00:00:14,680 --> 00:00:16,800 Speaker 1: That's right. Do you ever did you watch You and 7 00:00:16,800 --> 00:00:19,320 Speaker 1: a Half Man? I did not. Did one of them 8 00:00:19,320 --> 00:00:22,079 Speaker 1: stay at home? You know? Two dads? 9 00:00:22,960 --> 00:00:26,080 Speaker 2: Two dads Charlie Sheen and their step kid, Charlie Sheen 10 00:00:26,239 --> 00:00:29,280 Speaker 2: and the other dude were they watched the Charlie Sheen 11 00:00:29,400 --> 00:00:35,239 Speaker 2: interview uh lately of the Tiger blood shit And he's like, no, 12 00:00:35,560 --> 00:00:36,920 Speaker 2: is that like talking to the reporter? 13 00:00:37,000 --> 00:00:41,199 Speaker 1: Oh dude, it's so good. Age. He's he's really the 14 00:00:41,240 --> 00:00:43,279 Speaker 1: goat man. You got to put respect on his name. 15 00:00:43,360 --> 00:00:45,840 Speaker 2: He's the goat. Oh yeah, oh yeah, for sure. Maybe 16 00:00:45,920 --> 00:00:50,160 Speaker 2: he's a state of dad. Let's see. I am writing 17 00:00:50,200 --> 00:00:52,680 Speaker 2: this from the guest bedroom, not a good bedroom to 18 00:00:52,680 --> 00:00:57,720 Speaker 2: write anything from. True the guest bedroom means ship is 19 00:00:57,800 --> 00:00:58,640 Speaker 2: going down. 20 00:00:59,440 --> 00:01:02,240 Speaker 1: You guessed it. But because my husband and I have 21 00:01:02,360 --> 00:01:05,160 Speaker 1: had a fight. So the thing is, my husband is 22 00:01:05,200 --> 00:01:07,560 Speaker 1: a stay at home dad. Three years ago he wanted 23 00:01:07,600 --> 00:01:09,520 Speaker 1: to quit his job and take care of the house 24 00:01:09,600 --> 00:01:12,600 Speaker 1: and children. Six female and two male. I work a 25 00:01:12,600 --> 00:01:15,360 Speaker 1: decent job and earn most of the money. My husband 26 00:01:15,360 --> 00:01:17,480 Speaker 1: takes pride in being a stay at home dad. He 27 00:01:17,600 --> 00:01:20,240 Speaker 1: always brags about how it's the easiest job in the 28 00:01:20,240 --> 00:01:23,840 Speaker 1: world and women are just complaining for no reason. Waite, 29 00:01:23,840 --> 00:01:28,399 Speaker 1: wait wait, I thought we were gonna go the other direction. Wait, 30 00:01:30,720 --> 00:01:34,920 Speaker 1: hold on, that's pretty that's a funny take. Though. I 31 00:01:34,959 --> 00:01:37,440 Speaker 1: thought he was gonna be like, uh, you know, I 32 00:01:37,560 --> 00:01:41,199 Speaker 1: take pride. You know, men never really you know, think 33 00:01:41,240 --> 00:01:43,800 Speaker 1: about you know what stay at home moms have have 34 00:01:44,000 --> 00:01:46,240 Speaker 1: been doing for like all these times. No, there's just 35 00:01:46,400 --> 00:01:50,560 Speaker 1: easy bro banking. I just eat. I just drink my 36 00:01:50,720 --> 00:01:55,560 Speaker 1: triple Vanilla pump latte and kick the freak back. Let 37 00:01:55,600 --> 00:02:00,720 Speaker 1: it all unfold. But the truth is I help him 38 00:02:00,720 --> 00:02:03,320 Speaker 1: with the chores as much as I can. In the morning, 39 00:02:03,560 --> 00:02:05,800 Speaker 1: I wake up and fix the breakfast for them, and 40 00:02:05,840 --> 00:02:08,320 Speaker 1: my husband gets our daughter ready for school. I also 41 00:02:08,360 --> 00:02:10,959 Speaker 1: do meal preps for lunch. All he has to do 42 00:02:11,120 --> 00:02:13,600 Speaker 1: is assemble them and cook it way, so she's like 43 00:02:13,720 --> 00:02:17,079 Speaker 1: teeing up the meals. I guess that's yeah, that's why 44 00:02:17,080 --> 00:02:19,200 Speaker 1: it's so easy. He's doing it on easy mode. Dude. 45 00:02:19,240 --> 00:02:22,320 Speaker 1: All right, I pack my and my daughter's lunch. When 46 00:02:22,360 --> 00:02:24,799 Speaker 1: I'm at work, he does the cleaning and spends time 47 00:02:24,840 --> 00:02:27,360 Speaker 1: with our son or does his thing whatever that means, 48 00:02:27,360 --> 00:02:30,800 Speaker 1: I guess does his thing. Oh, I didn't know her 49 00:02:31,040 --> 00:02:32,640 Speaker 1: having a little alone me time. 50 00:02:33,280 --> 00:02:36,400 Speaker 2: Yeah, I gotta get a stress to get it out. 51 00:02:36,720 --> 00:02:39,920 Speaker 1: Oh god, I gotta relieve that stress somehow. You know, 52 00:02:40,760 --> 00:02:42,520 Speaker 1: a lot of chores to do around the house. Got 53 00:02:42,639 --> 00:02:46,880 Speaker 1: a tea impressed somehow? Beating my meat is one of them. 54 00:02:48,360 --> 00:02:51,840 Speaker 1: Oh boy. Later, when I come home, I cook dinner 55 00:02:51,919 --> 00:02:53,919 Speaker 1: and give my son a bath, I help my daughter 56 00:02:54,000 --> 00:02:56,240 Speaker 1: with her schoolwork, or I play with them for some 57 00:02:56,360 --> 00:03:00,280 Speaker 1: time until bedtime. Besides that, whenever we do laundry the 58 00:03:00,280 --> 00:03:02,680 Speaker 1: clothes that he washes and put them away. 59 00:03:02,840 --> 00:03:05,720 Speaker 2: It sounds like the responsibility is actually split pretty equally 60 00:03:05,760 --> 00:03:07,080 Speaker 2: between household chores. 61 00:03:07,200 --> 00:03:12,639 Speaker 1: Yeah, there is definitely some intentional and actual split of 62 00:03:13,080 --> 00:03:16,520 Speaker 1: the housework here. Further to that point, during the deep 63 00:03:16,520 --> 00:03:19,360 Speaker 1: cleaning of our house, we split the tasks fifty to fifty. 64 00:03:19,480 --> 00:03:22,560 Speaker 1: I also handle all of the doctor's appointments. So what 65 00:03:23,360 --> 00:03:25,720 Speaker 1: he's just doing half a job right now, doing half 66 00:03:25,760 --> 00:03:29,760 Speaker 1: a job, which, like I guess their agreement was, like, hey, op, 67 00:03:30,400 --> 00:03:33,920 Speaker 1: the mom will be working a full time job and 68 00:03:33,960 --> 00:03:36,720 Speaker 1: then he'll be the stay at home dad, which I 69 00:03:36,720 --> 00:03:38,800 Speaker 1: guess it depends on what they is. That what they 70 00:03:39,240 --> 00:03:42,720 Speaker 1: expect a retation, like you know, who cares? Then it's okay, yeah, 71 00:03:42,720 --> 00:03:46,240 Speaker 1: but maybe that's not. We'll see the system works really well. 72 00:03:46,320 --> 00:03:49,960 Speaker 1: But I hate that he thinks my contribution is not enough, 73 00:03:50,120 --> 00:03:52,400 Speaker 1: that he does all the chores and that I don't 74 00:03:52,400 --> 00:03:54,640 Speaker 1: even lift a finger. Wait, bro, you just said it 75 00:03:54,680 --> 00:03:57,280 Speaker 1: was the easiest job in the world. Though, Yeah, hold 76 00:03:57,520 --> 00:03:59,839 Speaker 1: hold on, hold on, how is it the easiest job? 77 00:04:00,120 --> 00:04:03,240 Speaker 1: And she's she's not doing anything when she's doing fifty percent? 78 00:04:03,480 --> 00:04:06,880 Speaker 2: Yeah, it sounds it funds pretty even dude, I I 79 00:04:07,440 --> 00:04:08,960 Speaker 2: I'm not I'm not following here. 80 00:04:09,520 --> 00:04:13,080 Speaker 1: Yeah, oh this is great. Moreover, he has a blog 81 00:04:13,200 --> 00:04:15,600 Speaker 1: and a TikTok where he films his days. Yo, can 82 00:04:15,640 --> 00:04:17,400 Speaker 1: we get an act? Can we can we start some. 83 00:04:17,520 --> 00:04:19,960 Speaker 2: Everyone says that they are a TikTok, but they never 84 00:04:20,040 --> 00:04:22,200 Speaker 2: give the at. Dude, I want to know the at. 85 00:04:23,200 --> 00:04:25,760 Speaker 1: Give it to him. Guys, Sam is so much over here. 86 00:04:26,120 --> 00:04:29,520 Speaker 1: He has chronic loss of TikTok handles. He also make 87 00:04:29,640 --> 00:04:32,000 Speaker 1: posts about how easy it is to be a stay 88 00:04:32,000 --> 00:04:34,960 Speaker 1: at home dad, and women just complain and are full 89 00:04:35,000 --> 00:04:38,599 Speaker 1: of it. This is like this is so bad. 90 00:04:40,200 --> 00:04:41,960 Speaker 2: But I mean, while you're doing it on easy mode, 91 00:04:42,000 --> 00:04:44,040 Speaker 2: your wife is helping with fifty percent of the things. 92 00:04:44,200 --> 00:04:46,680 Speaker 2: But this is like it's like the worst take ever 93 00:04:46,880 --> 00:04:49,240 Speaker 2: like being and also I mean it depends how how 94 00:04:49,320 --> 00:04:51,440 Speaker 2: much many kids you have and like also what age 95 00:04:51,480 --> 00:04:54,640 Speaker 2: they are too, so I imagine like it just gets 96 00:04:54,480 --> 00:04:57,719 Speaker 2: it changes, like the work changes, but like what a 97 00:04:57,800 --> 00:04:59,719 Speaker 2: terrible take one hundred percent. 98 00:05:00,160 --> 00:05:02,560 Speaker 1: Also slight side note, I don't know. For me, like 99 00:05:02,640 --> 00:05:04,920 Speaker 1: I've been living on my own almost ten years. I'm 100 00:05:04,960 --> 00:05:08,200 Speaker 1: just so used to like cleaning for myself, cooking for myself. 101 00:05:08,240 --> 00:05:11,120 Speaker 1: It's like weird to have somebody else do it. Like 102 00:05:12,560 --> 00:05:14,640 Speaker 1: I don't know, maybe that's just me, but I've always 103 00:05:14,640 --> 00:05:15,200 Speaker 1: felt that way. 104 00:05:17,080 --> 00:05:19,159 Speaker 2: I would feel like, well, I guess he's jobbing the 105 00:05:19,160 --> 00:05:22,720 Speaker 2: absent minded. Yeah, but like I think if you're absent minded, 106 00:05:22,760 --> 00:05:25,719 Speaker 2: it's just like like like then the last story or 107 00:05:25,760 --> 00:05:28,640 Speaker 2: one of the last stories we did, or yeah, in 108 00:05:28,680 --> 00:05:31,039 Speaker 2: the last story, the guy was just like not even 109 00:05:31,240 --> 00:05:34,719 Speaker 2: thinking about folding the clothes or putting away the shoes, 110 00:05:34,839 --> 00:05:38,359 Speaker 2: and so like I had a roommate that would open 111 00:05:38,480 --> 00:05:41,640 Speaker 2: up every single cabinet door that he used and never 112 00:05:41,760 --> 00:05:44,120 Speaker 2: close it. And he just like didn't realize he needed 113 00:05:44,120 --> 00:05:46,159 Speaker 2: to close the doors. 114 00:05:46,600 --> 00:05:49,280 Speaker 1: Apparently that's that's a thing. I never knew that such. 115 00:05:49,320 --> 00:05:53,120 Speaker 2: Apparently my head on these doors and I'm like, Marcel, 116 00:05:53,440 --> 00:05:56,360 Speaker 2: what the fuck stuck closed the cabinet doors. 117 00:05:59,560 --> 00:06:04,320 Speaker 1: Now there's a Well, he's a great guy. He is. 118 00:06:04,400 --> 00:06:07,680 Speaker 1: He is. I'm glad he likes it, But I hate 119 00:06:07,760 --> 00:06:11,240 Speaker 1: he thinks that he is superior to everyone and invalidating 120 00:06:11,240 --> 00:06:15,200 Speaker 1: their experience. Yeah, that's not great. Yeah. I grew up 121 00:06:15,240 --> 00:06:17,400 Speaker 1: in a house where my dad didn't even lift a 122 00:06:17,440 --> 00:06:20,440 Speaker 1: finger and my mom did literally everything around the house. 123 00:06:20,640 --> 00:06:23,400 Speaker 1: He was the fun dad, doing the bare minimum. So 124 00:06:23,680 --> 00:06:26,160 Speaker 1: I do not want that to happen to my husband. Also, 125 00:06:26,480 --> 00:06:29,040 Speaker 1: it is my house too. I believe if both people 126 00:06:29,080 --> 00:06:32,360 Speaker 1: do chores, the stress becomes less. Also, I know many 127 00:06:32,440 --> 00:06:34,680 Speaker 1: of my friends who struggle with doing chores as a 128 00:06:34,680 --> 00:06:37,279 Speaker 1: stay at home mom. I also know women who work 129 00:06:37,360 --> 00:06:39,720 Speaker 1: and still do the majority of the chores, and his 130 00:06:39,880 --> 00:06:44,479 Speaker 1: comments make me irritated. Irritated makes a lot of sense. 131 00:06:45,200 --> 00:06:48,880 Speaker 1: So yesterday my friend Ashley came to visit. She is 132 00:06:48,920 --> 00:06:52,240 Speaker 1: a mother of two. Her son probably has adhd and 133 00:06:52,480 --> 00:06:55,159 Speaker 1: very much active. She is trouble handling her son and 134 00:06:55,200 --> 00:06:57,880 Speaker 1: gets no help from her husband. Her son breaks a 135 00:06:57,880 --> 00:07:00,799 Speaker 1: cup in our house, Ashley was saying sorry, my husband 136 00:07:00,800 --> 00:07:03,920 Speaker 1: cleaned it up, and she was complaining how exhausted she is. 137 00:07:04,080 --> 00:07:06,440 Speaker 1: My husband scoffed and told her, you must be doing 138 00:07:06,480 --> 00:07:09,200 Speaker 1: the parenting thing wrong because I am the stay at 139 00:07:09,200 --> 00:07:11,680 Speaker 1: home parent too, but I never had a problem. My 140 00:07:11,760 --> 00:07:14,560 Speaker 1: wife barely does anything around the house and it is 141 00:07:14,640 --> 00:07:19,480 Speaker 1: so easy. Bro, what is maybe I should give you 142 00:07:19,560 --> 00:07:22,880 Speaker 1: a lesson or too not. The thing to say was like, 143 00:07:22,920 --> 00:07:26,440 Speaker 1: oh my god, I'm so stressed as like, bro, you 144 00:07:26,720 --> 00:07:30,680 Speaker 1: suck shod you hey, uh, I just want to make 145 00:07:30,720 --> 00:07:32,160 Speaker 1: sure do you know you was terrible? 146 00:07:32,360 --> 00:07:35,680 Speaker 2: Like do you know her parent thing? Like it's easy 147 00:07:35,720 --> 00:07:37,360 Speaker 2: as shit, dude. 148 00:07:37,520 --> 00:07:40,680 Speaker 1: I want to start writing out some ABC's if you want, Like, 149 00:07:40,800 --> 00:07:43,280 Speaker 1: is that even if this was true, even if he 150 00:07:43,480 --> 00:07:49,080 Speaker 1: was doing all the work, it is emotionally uh vapid 151 00:07:49,560 --> 00:07:53,200 Speaker 1: and just dumb as fuck to like say that to 152 00:07:53,240 --> 00:07:57,360 Speaker 1: someone who was struggling, Like I'm struggling in school. It's like, oh, man, 153 00:07:57,440 --> 00:07:59,600 Speaker 1: Like I'm like, you're doing not doing well on test? 154 00:07:59,600 --> 00:08:00,000 Speaker 1: I wouldn't. 155 00:08:00,120 --> 00:08:02,040 Speaker 2: It was like, well, you must be an idiot, because 156 00:08:02,080 --> 00:08:06,080 Speaker 2: I'm getting a's like. You wouldn't say that because everyone 157 00:08:06,400 --> 00:08:09,280 Speaker 2: struggles differently and does things differently. Like you want to 158 00:08:09,280 --> 00:08:12,680 Speaker 2: be an emotional support system, not someone who tears them down. 159 00:08:13,240 --> 00:08:17,160 Speaker 1: But what about letting idiots know they're idiots? SA the 160 00:08:17,240 --> 00:08:21,840 Speaker 1: Elon muskwe service, and he does that all the time. 161 00:08:21,960 --> 00:08:26,560 Speaker 1: He loves Yeah, his favorite thing is you are stupid. 162 00:08:27,160 --> 00:08:32,240 Speaker 1: It's simple, simple, elegant, like a tesla. You're an idiot. 163 00:08:32,240 --> 00:08:34,079 Speaker 1: You're an idiot. That is, you're an idiot. There we go, 164 00:08:34,160 --> 00:08:37,360 Speaker 1: an idiots. Let's get our quotes right over here. Now. 165 00:08:37,480 --> 00:08:41,439 Speaker 1: I can see Ashley was upset. I understand why. Later 166 00:08:41,520 --> 00:08:43,840 Speaker 1: that day I told him what he said to Ashley 167 00:08:43,960 --> 00:08:46,400 Speaker 1: was very rude. My husband acted as if he had 168 00:08:46,440 --> 00:08:50,719 Speaker 1: said nothing wrong and was just honest. It's so rude, bro, 169 00:08:53,120 --> 00:08:54,319 Speaker 1: wholeness with honesty. 170 00:08:54,600 --> 00:08:58,480 Speaker 2: You're just because you're being honest doesn't mean you're not 171 00:08:58,559 --> 00:09:04,199 Speaker 2: an asshole. Come on now, PSA PSA for the a holes, 172 00:09:05,400 --> 00:09:09,160 Speaker 2: PSA hole. Yeah, there we go, not a bad show 173 00:09:09,280 --> 00:09:10,480 Speaker 2: name or something. 174 00:09:10,440 --> 00:09:13,559 Speaker 1: SA whole. I like it. I like it. Mental note. 175 00:09:13,800 --> 00:09:16,040 Speaker 1: I pointed out that he doesn't do all the chores. 176 00:09:16,120 --> 00:09:18,720 Speaker 1: I help him with at least forty percent. That's why 177 00:09:18,760 --> 00:09:21,600 Speaker 1: he thinks it's easy. He again argued that those chores 178 00:09:21,640 --> 00:09:24,360 Speaker 1: are not significant compared to what he does. I told 179 00:09:24,480 --> 00:09:27,160 Speaker 1: him he was being mean to everyone. We got lucky 180 00:09:27,200 --> 00:09:28,960 Speaker 1: that our kids are easy and not active. 181 00:09:29,440 --> 00:09:31,840 Speaker 2: Yeah, our kids just fucking sit around all day like 182 00:09:31,880 --> 00:09:32,880 Speaker 2: a freaking potato. 183 00:09:33,360 --> 00:09:39,360 Speaker 1: Just a bunch of zombies, just freaking zombed out. Ye, 184 00:09:39,440 --> 00:09:43,640 Speaker 1: a bunch of little little sands over here. Most of 185 00:09:43,679 --> 00:09:47,160 Speaker 1: the kids are hard to handle. He again scoffed and said, 186 00:09:47,320 --> 00:09:51,839 Speaker 1: how hard can it be? Famous last words, buddy, bro, 187 00:09:52,600 --> 00:09:54,200 Speaker 1: here we go. Are we cooking up for what I 188 00:09:54,200 --> 00:09:57,240 Speaker 1: think we're cooking up for? Dude? Please just say then, 189 00:09:57,320 --> 00:10:00,400 Speaker 1: do all the fucking chores, please do them all? Let 190 00:10:00,440 --> 00:10:03,640 Speaker 1: it go, let's see. We argued about this, and he 191 00:10:03,760 --> 00:10:06,959 Speaker 1: told me I am being ungrateful because no man would 192 00:10:07,000 --> 00:10:13,280 Speaker 1: ever sacrifice like he did. It easy? Is it? 193 00:10:13,320 --> 00:10:15,320 Speaker 2: Is it the easiest job in the world or have 194 00:10:15,400 --> 00:10:16,440 Speaker 2: you sacrificed a lot? 195 00:10:16,520 --> 00:10:18,520 Speaker 1: Like? Pick aside? 196 00:10:18,920 --> 00:10:22,840 Speaker 3: It's so easy, and I sacrifice everything. I'm such a hero. 197 00:10:22,960 --> 00:10:25,880 Speaker 3: It's hard. It's hard for us heroes out here. 198 00:10:26,720 --> 00:10:30,560 Speaker 2: Dude, you gotta pick a side. God, dang, I am 199 00:10:30,640 --> 00:10:33,440 Speaker 2: upset and gave him some space. Was I wrong to 200 00:10:33,559 --> 00:10:36,439 Speaker 2: point it out? There is an edit and an update. 201 00:10:36,920 --> 00:10:40,320 Speaker 2: But where we are right now, he's being a dick. 202 00:10:40,360 --> 00:10:43,440 Speaker 2: He's being a massive yes yes, like like you know, 203 00:10:44,240 --> 00:10:46,120 Speaker 2: it might be easy. He might be right, you know, 204 00:10:46,160 --> 00:10:48,200 Speaker 2: he might. He might think it's easy at least for 205 00:10:48,280 --> 00:10:50,680 Speaker 2: his kids. But he's like how he's acting is not 206 00:10:50,840 --> 00:10:52,520 Speaker 2: emotionally intelligent at all. 207 00:10:52,600 --> 00:10:55,000 Speaker 1: Not at all. What what I'm curious to everyone watching 208 00:10:55,120 --> 00:10:59,080 Speaker 1: and Sam, what do you think the solution is? Like? 209 00:10:59,120 --> 00:11:01,439 Speaker 1: What should Opie do to try to stop doing any 210 00:11:01,520 --> 00:11:04,319 Speaker 1: of the chores and see how he likes it? I 211 00:11:04,360 --> 00:11:07,160 Speaker 1: love that idea. Yeah, it'd be like, hey, if your 212 00:11:07,240 --> 00:11:10,319 Speaker 1: job is so easy and my chores are so insignificant, 213 00:11:10,559 --> 00:11:12,280 Speaker 1: I'm just gonna take a little pause on it. You know, 214 00:11:12,400 --> 00:11:13,839 Speaker 1: like you said, it's so easy, so. 215 00:11:13,960 --> 00:11:16,600 Speaker 2: Seem it seems like like I'm a little stressed out. 216 00:11:16,640 --> 00:11:18,880 Speaker 2: It seems like you could use more work. Let's let's 217 00:11:18,920 --> 00:11:21,040 Speaker 2: take a little Let's put this a stay at home 218 00:11:21,120 --> 00:11:23,520 Speaker 2: dad thing on easy mode. If it's so insignificant the 219 00:11:23,559 --> 00:11:25,120 Speaker 2: things that I'm doing, then you just do it. 220 00:11:25,840 --> 00:11:27,720 Speaker 1: Let's give you some significance, buddy. 221 00:11:28,160 --> 00:11:30,360 Speaker 2: But also I think like part of it is like 222 00:11:30,480 --> 00:11:34,000 Speaker 2: just like hanging with kids like like like like Op, 223 00:11:34,040 --> 00:11:36,440 Speaker 2: he probably wants to read to the kids, like that's 224 00:11:36,440 --> 00:11:39,160 Speaker 2: something that she probably gets joy out of too. 225 00:11:40,880 --> 00:11:43,240 Speaker 1: Yeah, like OP wants to spend more time with the kids. 226 00:11:43,640 --> 00:11:47,440 Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, yeah, because there are certain like chores that 227 00:11:47,480 --> 00:11:52,160 Speaker 1: are just like also just hanging with the kids that them. 228 00:11:52,200 --> 00:11:54,240 Speaker 2: So she might not want to be like, oh, I'm 229 00:11:54,280 --> 00:11:56,400 Speaker 2: not going to do this because she likes doing it too. 230 00:11:57,679 --> 00:11:59,959 Speaker 1: But just want to offload all the things you don't 231 00:12:00,120 --> 00:12:06,040 Speaker 1: like doing to him. Ba boom, delegated baby. It's so insignificant, 232 00:12:06,400 --> 00:12:10,440 Speaker 1: all right, Onto the editing update. Just wanted to point 233 00:12:10,440 --> 00:12:12,280 Speaker 1: out that I have no issues with him being a 234 00:12:12,280 --> 00:12:14,400 Speaker 1: stay at home dad. I just don't like his attitude 235 00:12:14,440 --> 00:12:16,440 Speaker 1: towards it and the way he thinks it's the easiest 236 00:12:16,480 --> 00:12:18,800 Speaker 1: job in the world because to me and most of 237 00:12:18,840 --> 00:12:22,000 Speaker 1: the people, it is a job that has no vacation days. 238 00:12:22,240 --> 00:12:25,640 Speaker 1: I also do not like that attitude. I also very 239 00:12:25,720 --> 00:12:30,160 Speaker 1: much do not like that attitude. Producer Riley, do you 240 00:12:30,280 --> 00:12:35,680 Speaker 1: like that attitude? He thinks it's non tolerable. Yeah, the 241 00:12:35,720 --> 00:12:39,520 Speaker 1: fam has spoken. Onto the update. Okay, I took everyone's 242 00:12:39,559 --> 00:12:46,240 Speaker 1: advice and drumroll, please go. I stopped for here on 243 00:12:46,280 --> 00:12:53,720 Speaker 1: all the chores. I did tell him beforehand, since he 244 00:12:53,800 --> 00:12:56,880 Speaker 1: thinks my contribution to the housework is nothing, then I 245 00:12:56,960 --> 00:12:59,160 Speaker 1: will stop doing everything all together. 246 00:12:59,679 --> 00:13:05,280 Speaker 2: Remember that, honestly, I think is a great solution. As 247 00:13:05,280 --> 00:13:07,520 Speaker 2: if it's like, if you just think it's insignificant, then oh, 248 00:13:07,760 --> 00:13:09,480 Speaker 2: just just do its load off me. 249 00:13:09,920 --> 00:13:12,440 Speaker 1: Easy, I told him. Since he thinks being a stay 250 00:13:12,440 --> 00:13:14,680 Speaker 1: at home dad is easy, then he should have the 251 00:13:14,880 --> 00:13:19,040 Speaker 1: full experience of it. I love that my friend's husband 252 00:13:19,040 --> 00:13:21,720 Speaker 1: doesn't even lift a finger around the house, so I 253 00:13:21,760 --> 00:13:25,000 Speaker 1: wouldn't too. He was obviously upset. He wanted to argue 254 00:13:25,120 --> 00:13:27,360 Speaker 1: I cannot do this to him. He even tried to 255 00:13:27,440 --> 00:13:30,559 Speaker 1: pull the incompetence card. What like I can't do it? 256 00:13:31,000 --> 00:13:36,520 Speaker 1: Like I can't fold laundry and baby, my weakends are 257 00:13:36,559 --> 00:13:39,200 Speaker 1: not strong enough to have a clean phone on the 258 00:13:39,280 --> 00:13:43,920 Speaker 1: children's clothes. What am I to do? Baby bro? 259 00:13:44,240 --> 00:13:47,960 Speaker 2: I can't do all the voices you do for bedtime stories. 260 00:13:48,880 --> 00:13:50,199 Speaker 1: I wouldn't know how to. 261 00:13:50,240 --> 00:13:54,080 Speaker 3: Do eat or I keep pouring soap on the plates 262 00:13:54,559 --> 00:13:57,680 Speaker 3: and think you falling because they're too slippery from the soap. 263 00:13:57,760 --> 00:14:00,920 Speaker 1: My grip is a strong, baby, God, love it. Oh, 264 00:14:01,080 --> 00:14:05,280 Speaker 1: let's see if he actually nuts up and does it. Ooh. 265 00:14:05,440 --> 00:14:08,600 Speaker 1: I told him I am not to do my portion 266 00:14:08,679 --> 00:14:11,920 Speaker 1: of the job at home. I also gave the typical excuse, 267 00:14:12,120 --> 00:14:14,320 Speaker 1: I work all day at my office so that we 268 00:14:14,360 --> 00:14:17,520 Speaker 1: can survive on one income. It is selfish for him 269 00:14:17,559 --> 00:14:19,640 Speaker 1: to expect me to do the housework. So I think 270 00:14:19,720 --> 00:14:22,040 Speaker 1: kind of like she's taking that classic line and trying 271 00:14:22,040 --> 00:14:24,520 Speaker 1: to like flip it back on him. Yep, yep, that's 272 00:14:24,520 --> 00:14:27,360 Speaker 1: what I did. I didn't do any housework. I didn't 273 00:14:27,360 --> 00:14:29,880 Speaker 1: wake up in the morning and make breakfast. My husband 274 00:14:29,880 --> 00:14:31,600 Speaker 1: had to do it. It wasn't hard for him, but 275 00:14:31,680 --> 00:14:35,600 Speaker 1: I can see he was moody. I don't want to 276 00:14:35,600 --> 00:14:37,240 Speaker 1: make these stupid pancakes. Correct. 277 00:14:37,840 --> 00:14:40,360 Speaker 2: He's just going to realize that him doing everything is 278 00:14:40,400 --> 00:14:41,320 Speaker 2: also super easy. 279 00:14:41,560 --> 00:14:46,560 Speaker 1: Like right, he goes stronger. It's like I realized it's 280 00:14:46,600 --> 00:14:49,200 Speaker 1: even easier of a job than I thought. Let the 281 00:14:49,240 --> 00:14:54,400 Speaker 1: misogyny course through my veins. I'm a fricking prodigy, the 282 00:14:54,560 --> 00:14:58,880 Speaker 1: stay at home master. That's what AHF stands for now. 283 00:14:59,640 --> 00:15:02,200 Speaker 1: I asked him to prepare my lunch, because that is 284 00:15:02,320 --> 00:15:04,960 Speaker 1: also part of the job. He refused at first, but 285 00:15:05,120 --> 00:15:07,760 Speaker 1: then I told him he will do all the household 286 00:15:07,880 --> 00:15:11,040 Speaker 1: chores too. That includes my lunch as well. He only 287 00:15:11,120 --> 00:15:15,120 Speaker 1: packed me a peanut butter and jelly sandwich. Damn. How 288 00:15:15,160 --> 00:15:19,440 Speaker 1: passive aggressive dudem better than just like a single banana. 289 00:15:19,480 --> 00:15:24,320 Speaker 2: I guess is pretty good though. I kind of la yeah, yeah, yeah. 290 00:15:24,320 --> 00:15:27,400 Speaker 1: I didn't do meal prep for lunch. It was his 291 00:15:27,600 --> 00:15:30,040 Speaker 1: to figure out. At night when I came home, I 292 00:15:30,080 --> 00:15:32,280 Speaker 1: didn't make dinner. I asked him to do it. He 293 00:15:32,400 --> 00:15:34,880 Speaker 1: was shocked, but did it anyways. I didn't give my 294 00:15:34,960 --> 00:15:37,440 Speaker 1: son a bath. Our son was fussy, which pissed my 295 00:15:37,520 --> 00:15:40,560 Speaker 1: husband off. I only helped my daughter with her homework. 296 00:15:40,600 --> 00:15:42,920 Speaker 1: I didn't help him with the laundry. The first few 297 00:15:43,000 --> 00:15:45,720 Speaker 1: days he didn't say a word, but after a week 298 00:15:46,000 --> 00:15:50,400 Speaker 1: it was showing that he is getting exhausted. Ah, there 299 00:15:50,560 --> 00:15:55,200 Speaker 1: we go, baby fuck did? He was getting more and 300 00:15:55,240 --> 00:15:58,440 Speaker 1: more angry at small stuff and usually cleaning would cool 301 00:15:58,520 --> 00:16:00,760 Speaker 1: him off, but whenever he sees the man, he throws 302 00:16:00,760 --> 00:16:03,280 Speaker 1: a tantrum. In the weekends, I went to my mother's 303 00:16:03,280 --> 00:16:05,800 Speaker 1: house to relax. That weekend, we were supposed to clean 304 00:16:05,840 --> 00:16:08,640 Speaker 1: our bathrooms. He did that all by himself. As the 305 00:16:08,720 --> 00:16:12,000 Speaker 1: days progressed, I could see him being really angry at me, 306 00:16:12,200 --> 00:16:15,920 Speaker 1: even I admit it affected our intimacy a lot. At last, 307 00:16:16,000 --> 00:16:20,040 Speaker 1: after two weeks, he told me, basically yelled, that I 308 00:16:20,200 --> 00:16:21,320 Speaker 1: had proved my point. 309 00:16:21,680 --> 00:16:25,320 Speaker 2: Day he came, well, I'm glad that he finally got 310 00:16:25,360 --> 00:16:30,720 Speaker 2: it through his thick fucking skull two weeks. B that's like, 311 00:16:30,880 --> 00:16:36,040 Speaker 2: that's also very it feels extremely stubborn. 312 00:16:36,200 --> 00:16:38,240 Speaker 1: Like that's so stubbing. It took him two weeks for 313 00:16:38,320 --> 00:16:42,600 Speaker 1: it to finally click. Although hey, you know what he 314 00:16:42,880 --> 00:16:50,120 Speaker 1: at least he committed. Yeah, oh my god. Now things 315 00:16:50,120 --> 00:16:52,160 Speaker 1: are back to normal, but I can see he is 316 00:16:52,280 --> 00:16:54,760 Speaker 1: very distant with me. Last night I asked him to 317 00:16:54,800 --> 00:16:56,960 Speaker 1: talk with me. He said he knew what game I 318 00:16:57,040 --> 00:16:59,680 Speaker 1: was playing, but he did not appreciate ME treating him 319 00:16:59,680 --> 00:17:02,400 Speaker 1: like gar garbage and not considering his feelings. I told 320 00:17:02,480 --> 00:17:04,800 Speaker 1: him it was his words that being a stay at 321 00:17:04,800 --> 00:17:07,160 Speaker 1: home dad is easy. I just gave him the full 322 00:17:07,240 --> 00:17:09,840 Speaker 1: experience of it. He kept denying that, and I should 323 00:17:09,840 --> 00:17:12,679 Speaker 1: have been more supportive. All these weeks he felt like 324 00:17:12,880 --> 00:17:17,119 Speaker 1: nobody and so underappreciated. He felt invisible. He started to 325 00:17:17,160 --> 00:17:20,080 Speaker 1: hate me for not giving an f and dumping everything 326 00:17:20,119 --> 00:17:22,679 Speaker 1: on him. He's still not talking to me. We have 327 00:17:22,760 --> 00:17:26,160 Speaker 1: booked a couple's therapy session next week. Oh shit, let's 328 00:17:26,160 --> 00:17:31,360 Speaker 1: see if our relationship sustains it or not. Oh wow, 329 00:17:31,760 --> 00:17:37,840 Speaker 1: Oh man, it's looking diceier. That's been nicy, dude, we thought. 330 00:17:38,280 --> 00:17:40,679 Speaker 1: Oh man, we have some quick comments and then a 331 00:17:40,720 --> 00:17:44,320 Speaker 1: final piece of the story. Yeah, is alimony a thing 332 00:17:44,320 --> 00:17:46,800 Speaker 1: where you come from? Op, We live in a no 333 00:17:46,960 --> 00:17:49,399 Speaker 1: fault state that has nothing to do with whether or 334 00:17:49,480 --> 00:17:52,080 Speaker 1: not alimony gets awarded. You'd best check that out. Oh, 335 00:17:52,119 --> 00:17:54,720 Speaker 1: he says, we don't have a prenup. He has been 336 00:17:54,760 --> 00:17:57,159 Speaker 1: out of work for three years. Maybe I do have 337 00:17:57,240 --> 00:17:59,639 Speaker 1: to pay his alimony, but I'm not sure. Is there 338 00:17:59,680 --> 00:18:02,280 Speaker 1: any option where if he gets alimony, he has to 339 00:18:02,320 --> 00:18:04,920 Speaker 1: find a job within a certain amount of time. Otherwise 340 00:18:04,920 --> 00:18:07,440 Speaker 1: his spousal support will be revoked. As he is a 341 00:18:07,480 --> 00:18:10,360 Speaker 1: stay at home parent, he will likely get primary custody 342 00:18:10,400 --> 00:18:13,399 Speaker 1: as it is seen as better for the kids consistency wise. 343 00:18:13,600 --> 00:18:16,159 Speaker 1: Op says, I'm not planning on divorce. I believe in 344 00:18:16,200 --> 00:18:18,280 Speaker 1: our marriage. I'm hopeful we will go through with it. 345 00:18:18,440 --> 00:18:22,200 Speaker 1: If divorce comes, I will be pushing for fifty fifty. 346 00:18:22,359 --> 00:18:27,560 Speaker 1: And we have one final update to see update let's 347 00:18:27,560 --> 00:18:29,760 Speaker 1: get to it. This will probably be my last and 348 00:18:29,800 --> 00:18:32,119 Speaker 1: final update. I wanted to let you guys know we 349 00:18:32,200 --> 00:18:34,359 Speaker 1: are not getting a divorce like some of you hoped 350 00:18:34,400 --> 00:18:37,120 Speaker 1: for and cursed me out in my personal messages. Come 351 00:18:37,160 --> 00:18:40,960 Speaker 1: I am redd it, Come on payt that like, seriously, 352 00:18:41,040 --> 00:18:44,120 Speaker 1: who wishes the stranger that their husbands should cheat on them? 353 00:18:44,240 --> 00:18:47,399 Speaker 1: That's insane. We did go to counseling, and yes, I 354 00:18:47,480 --> 00:18:51,080 Speaker 1: sincerely apologized for my childish behavior because of a Reddit 355 00:18:51,119 --> 00:18:53,240 Speaker 1: post that I made. We discovered a lot of things 356 00:18:53,280 --> 00:18:56,360 Speaker 1: about us in our relationship at the counseling sessions. Firstly, 357 00:18:56,440 --> 00:18:59,200 Speaker 1: I apologize to him and explained why I did it. 358 00:18:59,359 --> 00:19:01,639 Speaker 1: I wanted him to feel like it was not easy 359 00:19:01,720 --> 00:19:03,960 Speaker 1: if you do not have help. I also mentioned my 360 00:19:04,000 --> 00:19:06,560 Speaker 1: mother's experience in being the caretaker of the family and 361 00:19:06,600 --> 00:19:09,120 Speaker 1: doing it all alone is exhausting, which I think now 362 00:19:09,280 --> 00:19:11,800 Speaker 1: is stupid way to get my point across. But I 363 00:19:11,960 --> 00:19:14,520 Speaker 1: was hurt and very annoyed that he thinks women just 364 00:19:14,560 --> 00:19:17,040 Speaker 1: complain about housework when most of them, I am sure, 365 00:19:17,280 --> 00:19:19,080 Speaker 1: don't have help from their spouses. 366 00:19:19,200 --> 00:19:21,879 Speaker 2: Yeah, he expressed that it was the only way that 367 00:19:21,920 --> 00:19:24,280 Speaker 2: she could like get it across to him, though that's. 368 00:19:24,240 --> 00:19:27,199 Speaker 1: Yeah, that's a And you know, maybe there was some 369 00:19:27,320 --> 00:19:30,560 Speaker 1: kind of like gloating or some like extra attitude on 370 00:19:30,640 --> 00:19:33,480 Speaker 1: top of it that you know, maybe was more disrespectful 371 00:19:33,480 --> 00:19:35,719 Speaker 1: than it needed to be. But I think generally her 372 00:19:35,760 --> 00:19:37,919 Speaker 1: intention was like you say, these are all easy, I 373 00:19:37,960 --> 00:19:40,000 Speaker 1: will just let you do the chores, like, well, le 374 00:19:40,160 --> 00:19:43,480 Speaker 1: see how easy it is? Pretty cut and dry. I 375 00:19:43,480 --> 00:19:43,919 Speaker 1: don't know. 376 00:19:44,160 --> 00:19:45,919 Speaker 2: I don't know if I see it as childish, like 377 00:19:45,920 --> 00:19:47,760 Speaker 2: I see it as like more of like an experiment 378 00:19:47,840 --> 00:19:48,440 Speaker 2: in empathy. 379 00:19:48,760 --> 00:19:52,560 Speaker 1: Only if she, you know, maybe made some extra comments 380 00:19:52,560 --> 00:19:54,360 Speaker 1: and things that she wasn't being that. 381 00:19:54,400 --> 00:19:57,240 Speaker 2: Fourth maybe it's like, hey, like maybe setting it as 382 00:19:57,240 --> 00:19:59,680 Speaker 2: an experiment, like hey, you think this is easy, would 383 00:19:59,720 --> 00:20:02,760 Speaker 2: you be to do a two week experiment just seeing 384 00:20:02,760 --> 00:20:03,600 Speaker 2: what it's actually like? 385 00:20:04,400 --> 00:20:07,000 Speaker 1: Fair? But I'm and while she didn't do that, she 386 00:20:07,040 --> 00:20:09,280 Speaker 1: at least did give the heads up and basically the 387 00:20:09,320 --> 00:20:11,919 Speaker 1: reasoning of it. But yeah, it could have been a 388 00:20:11,920 --> 00:20:15,359 Speaker 1: little better, But you know, yeah, I don't really falter 389 00:20:15,520 --> 00:20:18,240 Speaker 1: for that, Honestly, I don't know. I don't think so either. 390 00:20:19,000 --> 00:20:21,640 Speaker 1: He expressed that he gets it, and those few weeks 391 00:20:21,680 --> 00:20:23,640 Speaker 1: when I didn't help him really took a toll on him. 392 00:20:23,760 --> 00:20:26,080 Speaker 1: He doesn't get tired easily, but since he was doing 393 00:20:26,119 --> 00:20:28,600 Speaker 1: all of it, it was tiring for him. I acknowledged 394 00:20:28,600 --> 00:20:31,000 Speaker 1: that after a lot of talking and communicating, we came 395 00:20:31,080 --> 00:20:33,679 Speaker 1: to the root cause. He said that sometimes he feels 396 00:20:33,720 --> 00:20:37,720 Speaker 1: insecure about himself. Okay, now we're getting to something. I 397 00:20:37,720 --> 00:20:41,399 Speaker 1: feel like meat and potatoes, like he is not doing 398 00:20:41,560 --> 00:20:44,159 Speaker 1: enough for us. All of his guy friends have jobs. 399 00:20:44,280 --> 00:20:47,399 Speaker 1: They provide for their family. His friends bragged about taking 400 00:20:47,440 --> 00:20:50,000 Speaker 1: his wife to a vacation in Greece. He felt small 401 00:20:50,040 --> 00:20:52,840 Speaker 1: compared to that because he only made dinner and gave 402 00:20:52,880 --> 00:20:55,560 Speaker 1: me a massage. On the other hand, I gifted him 403 00:20:55,640 --> 00:20:58,680 Speaker 1: a very expensive watch. He felt like he was supposed 404 00:20:58,720 --> 00:21:00,920 Speaker 1: to be the provider of the family, but feels really 405 00:21:00,920 --> 00:21:03,080 Speaker 1: small because I am out here doing good in my 406 00:21:03,160 --> 00:21:05,560 Speaker 1: career and he feels stuck. It was one of those 407 00:21:05,600 --> 00:21:08,000 Speaker 1: moments that made me cry. I liked it when he 408 00:21:08,040 --> 00:21:10,359 Speaker 1: made dinner for me and gave me a massage. He 409 00:21:10,480 --> 00:21:12,920 Speaker 1: is a good cook. I asked him if he wants 410 00:21:12,960 --> 00:21:15,320 Speaker 1: to go back in the workplace. If that's the case, 411 00:21:15,480 --> 00:21:19,800 Speaker 1: he will have my full support. Wow. Man, Yeah, it's 412 00:21:19,880 --> 00:21:22,159 Speaker 1: always good when the breakthrough comes and it's like he 413 00:21:22,320 --> 00:21:24,560 Speaker 1: was just masking all of this stuff, with all this 414 00:21:24,720 --> 00:21:26,119 Speaker 1: like anger and everything that. 415 00:21:26,200 --> 00:21:28,639 Speaker 2: Yeah, like the bravado, the bravado of like, oh this 416 00:21:28,720 --> 00:21:29,680 Speaker 2: shit's so easy. 417 00:21:30,000 --> 00:21:33,280 Speaker 1: Is like because he's insecure about where he is one 418 00:21:33,359 --> 00:21:36,359 Speaker 1: hundred percent. I know things will change a lot. We 419 00:21:36,440 --> 00:21:38,760 Speaker 1: both have to make compromises, but it will be worth 420 00:21:38,800 --> 00:21:40,600 Speaker 1: it because I love him and he is the best 421 00:21:40,680 --> 00:21:43,280 Speaker 1: husband anyone can ask for. He says he doesn't want 422 00:21:43,280 --> 00:21:45,679 Speaker 1: to handle the pressure of the workplace. Last time he 423 00:21:45,720 --> 00:21:48,120 Speaker 1: crashed and decided to quit. He likes being a stay 424 00:21:48,119 --> 00:21:50,960 Speaker 1: at home dad, but also wants to earn, so he's 425 00:21:51,000 --> 00:21:53,200 Speaker 1: going to look for a part time job while doing 426 00:21:53,240 --> 00:21:55,240 Speaker 1: what we used to do. I encouraged him to look 427 00:21:55,240 --> 00:21:58,320 Speaker 1: into freelancing and remote work. He did find one, but 428 00:21:58,520 --> 00:22:00,680 Speaker 1: it's low paying, so the search for a decent job 429 00:22:00,720 --> 00:22:02,760 Speaker 1: is still on the hunt. And he did apologize to 430 00:22:02,800 --> 00:22:06,320 Speaker 1: my friend Ashley. He realized not everyone has it easy. 431 00:22:06,480 --> 00:22:09,000 Speaker 1: I mean, we hit the jackpot with the kids because 432 00:22:09,040 --> 00:22:12,040 Speaker 1: they are pretty quiet. People have different struggles, And I 433 00:22:12,119 --> 00:22:14,920 Speaker 1: know he is sincere because he deleted his blog post 434 00:22:15,000 --> 00:22:18,240 Speaker 1: about being a stay at home dad being easy. Okay, Wow, 435 00:22:18,320 --> 00:22:22,480 Speaker 1: he's really turning Underliaf here. I think around. Also unrelated, 436 00:22:22,640 --> 00:22:25,720 Speaker 1: Ashley is getting a divorce all right, divorce chainers the league. 437 00:22:25,760 --> 00:22:31,240 Speaker 1: You got no good for her. I guess we are fine. 438 00:22:31,440 --> 00:22:34,119 Speaker 1: Our children are fine. We still have one more session 439 00:22:34,160 --> 00:22:36,560 Speaker 1: for therapy left. Our intimate lives are better, and we 440 00:22:36,600 --> 00:22:39,280 Speaker 1: found a better way to communicate with each other rather 441 00:22:39,320 --> 00:22:41,920 Speaker 1: than being petty. I was scared that our marriage will collapse, 442 00:22:42,000 --> 00:22:48,119 Speaker 1: but I am glad we stood strong. Wow. I love that. 443 00:22:48,119 --> 00:22:50,719 Speaker 2: That's awesome that we got to like a really strong 444 00:22:50,760 --> 00:22:54,560 Speaker 2: place at the end, Like now we're like it seems 445 00:22:54,560 --> 00:22:56,679 Speaker 2: like the relationship is even stronger than it began. Like, 446 00:22:56,920 --> 00:23:00,680 Speaker 2: I think it's always interesting when you have a fight 447 00:23:00,720 --> 00:23:03,840 Speaker 2: in a relationship and there's like this critical moment of 448 00:23:04,119 --> 00:23:07,840 Speaker 2: it could either go so wrong or so right, and 449 00:23:08,160 --> 00:23:10,040 Speaker 2: if you just pushed through it in the right way, 450 00:23:10,119 --> 00:23:12,720 Speaker 2: it can make the relationship stronger at the end one 451 00:23:12,800 --> 00:23:13,359 Speaker 2: hundred percent. 452 00:23:13,400 --> 00:23:16,199 Speaker 1: And it makes that that that ending that much sweeter, 453 00:23:16,440 --> 00:23:17,920 Speaker 1: you know what I mean, and that much more, that 454 00:23:18,000 --> 00:23:20,640 Speaker 1: much more powerful that they've built a relationship back from 455 00:23:20,680 --> 00:23:22,480 Speaker 1: where it was so far away. 456 00:23:23,040 --> 00:23:26,439 Speaker 2: Yeah, And also like you know, she said that, like 457 00:23:26,440 --> 00:23:30,480 Speaker 2: like I actually feel like that experiment needed to happen 458 00:23:30,520 --> 00:23:32,840 Speaker 2: for him to under truly understand, Like I don't think 459 00:23:32,920 --> 00:23:35,359 Speaker 2: you're talking about it would have done the job? 460 00:23:35,600 --> 00:23:39,199 Speaker 1: You know? Yeah, I don't know like what exactly the 461 00:23:39,280 --> 00:23:43,200 Speaker 1: like childish behavior it was other other than my guess 462 00:23:43,200 --> 00:23:46,239 Speaker 1: of like her having him do the chores. But I 463 00:23:46,240 --> 00:23:48,560 Speaker 1: think I really think it was necessary for whole, like 464 00:23:48,600 --> 00:23:50,840 Speaker 1: he finally truly understood. 465 00:23:51,400 --> 00:23:57,680 Speaker 2: Yeah, but let us know what you think of this situation, Like, uh, 466 00:23:57,760 --> 00:24:00,639 Speaker 2: it do you think being a stay at home parent 467 00:24:00,840 --> 00:24:06,160 Speaker 2: is easy? First off? Why or why not? And what 468 00:24:06,200 --> 00:24:09,480 Speaker 2: do you know about? Like I guess like the stay 469 00:24:09,520 --> 00:24:11,439 Speaker 2: at home dads, any stay at home dads that you 470 00:24:11,440 --> 00:24:14,840 Speaker 2: know were a stay at home dad is watching? 471 00:24:14,960 --> 00:24:16,480 Speaker 1: Like what does that feel like for you? 472 00:24:18,320 --> 00:24:22,439 Speaker 2: Because it's I think there's I feel like there's often 473 00:24:22,480 --> 00:24:30,480 Speaker 2: a social almost like a not a social demand, but 474 00:24:30,720 --> 00:24:34,280 Speaker 2: like the social default is like women are the stay 475 00:24:34,320 --> 00:24:37,600 Speaker 2: at home parent. Yeah, obviously that's changing a lot, and 476 00:24:37,640 --> 00:24:41,919 Speaker 2: so I'm wondering what the what like it feels like 477 00:24:42,080 --> 00:24:44,080 Speaker 2: to be a stay at home dad or what you 478 00:24:44,119 --> 00:24:47,160 Speaker 2: guys have heard of what that feels like? Please put 479 00:24:47,160 --> 00:24:48,520 Speaker 2: your answer to the comments. We'd love to hear it. 480 00:24:48,600 --> 00:24:50,879 Speaker 1: In addition, we would love to hear your stories if 481 00:24:50,920 --> 00:24:52,520 Speaker 1: you want to send them in. You can call four 482 00:24:52,560 --> 00:24:55,120 Speaker 1: for zero five zer away six five sixty seven. We're 483 00:24:55,119 --> 00:24:57,360 Speaker 1: playing your voicemails on the show and calling a few 484 00:24:57,359 --> 00:24:59,840 Speaker 1: of you. We'd look forward to hearing your stories. See 485 00:25:00,040 --> 00:25:02,439 Speaker 1: on the next one, See you soon. This is an 486 00:25:02,480 --> 00:25:09,280 Speaker 1: episode from Deep Within the Archives. Time for okop relash. Today, 487 00:25:09,280 --> 00:25:11,880 Speaker 1: I afked up by recovering my dad's sex tape from 488 00:25:11,920 --> 00:25:16,040 Speaker 1: fifteen years ago on an old handicam. You know, sometimes 489 00:25:16,080 --> 00:25:18,720 Speaker 1: you just gotta throw back Thursday, you know what I mean? 490 00:25:18,960 --> 00:25:22,240 Speaker 2: Hey, Hey, you learn from the best you know, learn 491 00:25:22,280 --> 00:25:25,040 Speaker 2: about your origins from when the origins started. 492 00:25:25,119 --> 00:25:27,160 Speaker 1: Hey, do you know what I mean? To know your roots? 493 00:25:27,200 --> 00:25:27,840 Speaker 1: That's all you say. 494 00:25:28,560 --> 00:25:31,240 Speaker 2: Learning from the giants they came before. You learn from 495 00:25:31,240 --> 00:25:33,960 Speaker 2: your dad's route, you know what I mean. Oh yeah, 496 00:25:34,040 --> 00:25:36,280 Speaker 2: big old ruins going around. 497 00:25:37,080 --> 00:25:40,520 Speaker 1: I was feeling nostalgic and thought of checking out old photos, 498 00:25:40,520 --> 00:25:42,879 Speaker 1: so I took out some old cameras. My dad, in 499 00:25:42,920 --> 00:25:45,680 Speaker 1: his prime twenty years ago, was fond of cameras. Yeah, 500 00:25:45,760 --> 00:25:49,320 Speaker 1: he was in his prime. He had three handicams. We 501 00:25:49,320 --> 00:25:51,240 Speaker 1: were too poor to afford even one at the time, 502 00:25:51,280 --> 00:25:53,280 Speaker 1: but he still managed to buy them. And I'm not 503 00:25:53,320 --> 00:25:55,679 Speaker 1: sure if they actually call them handicams. I just remember 504 00:25:55,680 --> 00:25:57,359 Speaker 1: that my dad used to call them that. So I 505 00:25:57,359 --> 00:25:58,440 Speaker 1: found all three of those. 506 00:25:58,600 --> 00:26:00,880 Speaker 2: They weren't working batteries dead pro so I took their 507 00:26:00,920 --> 00:26:03,159 Speaker 2: SD cards out and plugged them into my laptop with 508 00:26:03,200 --> 00:26:06,480 Speaker 2: a card reader. I also found one more SD card 509 00:26:06,480 --> 00:26:08,960 Speaker 2: in their case. All four of them were barely eight 510 00:26:09,000 --> 00:26:12,320 Speaker 2: gigabytes in size. I thought I would see at least 511 00:26:12,359 --> 00:26:16,399 Speaker 2: a thousand files comprising of videos and photos from our Europe, Portugal, Spain, 512 00:26:16,480 --> 00:26:18,399 Speaker 2: and France trips that we did together in two thousand 513 00:26:18,400 --> 00:26:21,480 Speaker 2: and eight, but to my surprise, there were barely over 514 00:26:21,520 --> 00:26:25,600 Speaker 2: one hundred and fifty m I definitely remember more than that. 515 00:26:25,920 --> 00:26:29,600 Speaker 2: So I used Recover, a filed recovery tool to scan 516 00:26:29,720 --> 00:26:33,000 Speaker 2: through those To scan through those SD cards, and I 517 00:26:33,040 --> 00:26:34,080 Speaker 2: found three hundred more. 518 00:26:34,600 --> 00:26:37,000 Speaker 1: Oh wow, that's a lot. I immediately recovered them. Most 519 00:26:37,040 --> 00:26:39,280 Speaker 1: of them were videos, so I know, so I knew 520 00:26:39,320 --> 00:26:41,600 Speaker 1: my entire Sunday I was just going to be watching them, 521 00:26:41,720 --> 00:26:43,560 Speaker 1: but I wasn't complaining though. It was gonna be great. 522 00:26:43,600 --> 00:26:45,760 Speaker 1: We're gonna go down memory out like old memory and stuff. 523 00:26:46,560 --> 00:26:49,439 Speaker 2: I started playing them. They were in MPG format and 524 00:26:49,440 --> 00:26:51,760 Speaker 2: my default player couldn't play them without lag, so I 525 00:26:51,800 --> 00:26:54,560 Speaker 2: installed VLC. Then it was all fun and games, or 526 00:26:54,560 --> 00:26:57,439 Speaker 2: so I supposed. So there I was twenty four year 527 00:26:57,480 --> 00:26:59,840 Speaker 2: old me refreshing my memories of Europe and the fun 528 00:26:59,840 --> 00:27:05,639 Speaker 2: I had with my dad and is supposedly female colleague. 529 00:27:05,840 --> 00:27:08,359 Speaker 2: She too accompanied us, and I always thought she used 530 00:27:08,400 --> 00:27:09,639 Speaker 2: to do so to discuss work. 531 00:27:09,920 --> 00:27:13,240 Speaker 1: I was nine. My dad was disvorced. My dad was divorced, 532 00:27:13,240 --> 00:27:15,960 Speaker 1: and my custody was entirely on him. My mom left 533 00:27:15,960 --> 00:27:19,480 Speaker 1: to another country. As I was playing these videos in order, 534 00:27:19,800 --> 00:27:22,640 Speaker 1: I found one video and it started off with nothing 535 00:27:22,680 --> 00:27:25,080 Speaker 1: but a bed. Oh no, no, no, no. 536 00:27:24,960 --> 00:27:27,480 Speaker 2: It looked horrible, probably a cheap hotel they were staying in. 537 00:27:27,840 --> 00:27:30,320 Speaker 2: I did remember we used to book. I did remember 538 00:27:30,359 --> 00:27:32,920 Speaker 2: we used to book two rooms, one for me and 539 00:27:33,000 --> 00:27:35,800 Speaker 2: one for me and dad and the other for the colleague. 540 00:27:36,600 --> 00:27:39,240 Speaker 2: And there comes my dad. I would be happy to 541 00:27:39,240 --> 00:27:41,720 Speaker 2: see him if he weren't butt naked. 542 00:27:42,600 --> 00:27:46,160 Speaker 1: No, then his hall. Then came his colleague and they 543 00:27:46,200 --> 00:27:51,560 Speaker 1: did the thing. I immediately watched the whole thing. I 544 00:27:51,560 --> 00:27:54,359 Speaker 1: immediately stopped playing it. It was embarrassed as hell. Even 545 00:27:54,400 --> 00:27:56,320 Speaker 1: though I was alone at my house. I skipped over. 546 00:27:56,640 --> 00:27:58,520 Speaker 1: I skipped over to the other videos. But after a 547 00:27:58,560 --> 00:28:02,000 Speaker 1: while I just have to see it. No, it's like 548 00:28:02,040 --> 00:28:03,920 Speaker 1: a train wreck a card. 549 00:28:03,920 --> 00:28:05,960 Speaker 2: I really don't know why I'm embarrassed by this. This 550 00:28:06,040 --> 00:28:08,240 Speaker 2: is basic human behavior. My dad has a life, and 551 00:28:08,240 --> 00:28:10,800 Speaker 2: he was obviously doing things nature had programmed us to do. 552 00:28:11,119 --> 00:28:13,680 Speaker 2: But still finding this clip after fifteen years is very 553 00:28:13,680 --> 00:28:16,560 Speaker 2: shocking now. At the time fifteen years ago, I was 554 00:28:16,560 --> 00:28:18,800 Speaker 2: a little upset that mom wasn't there for me, and 555 00:28:18,840 --> 00:28:20,879 Speaker 2: I used to blame my dad. But he did everything 556 00:28:20,880 --> 00:28:22,600 Speaker 2: he could to raise me, provide for me, and he 557 00:28:22,640 --> 00:28:26,880 Speaker 2: never left me out. Maybe you should have left you out. Well, 558 00:28:26,960 --> 00:28:30,720 Speaker 2: I guess at least he left you out of the Yeah. 559 00:28:29,800 --> 00:28:31,880 Speaker 1: Yeah, Then he shows it. 560 00:28:31,880 --> 00:28:36,280 Speaker 2: He's like, oh, yeah, no, turn around, put the blindfold on. 561 00:28:37,920 --> 00:28:40,000 Speaker 2: In fact, he never used to leave me alone unless 562 00:28:40,000 --> 00:28:41,440 Speaker 2: he went to work, and at the time I was 563 00:28:41,480 --> 00:28:43,800 Speaker 2: usually at school. He always treated me like a friend. 564 00:28:44,320 --> 00:28:46,640 Speaker 2: The video I found made me think, and I thought 565 00:28:46,640 --> 00:28:49,160 Speaker 2: maybe I should ask him whether he was responsible for 566 00:28:49,200 --> 00:28:51,920 Speaker 2: the divorce. But then I realized sex isn't something criminal. 567 00:28:52,120 --> 00:28:55,360 Speaker 2: Humans have needs and that's okay. After a few hours 568 00:28:55,400 --> 00:28:58,880 Speaker 2: of realizing. After a few hours of thinking, I realized something. 569 00:28:59,400 --> 00:29:03,920 Speaker 2: I am a sexual So this will definitely hit me harder. 570 00:29:04,240 --> 00:29:06,840 Speaker 2: I don't understand sexual attraction, but I know for a 571 00:29:06,880 --> 00:29:08,960 Speaker 2: fact my dad has always done so much for me. 572 00:29:09,400 --> 00:29:11,840 Speaker 2: This thing I found is completely okay for him to 573 00:29:11,880 --> 00:29:14,640 Speaker 2: do so. I deleted the video, erased everything from the 574 00:29:14,720 --> 00:29:17,960 Speaker 2: SD cards, which ensures that the files will no longer 575 00:29:18,000 --> 00:29:18,680 Speaker 2: be recoverable. 576 00:29:19,000 --> 00:29:20,640 Speaker 1: Oh peace out.