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Speaker 1: in the Smiley Personal Trainer, just hit me up. Shout out.

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Speaker 1: This man will smile at you while making you want

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Speaker 1: to die. It's hilarious. He thinks it's so funny. Yes,

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Speaker 1: mister positive attitude while he kicks my ass. This is

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Speaker 1: what he says. He's doing a great job though. Shout

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Speaker 1: out to Giddy. I got friends thinking you're on ozempic.

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Speaker 2: But you know you're on.

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Speaker 1: You're on the Giddy. I mean, I'm not opposed to

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Speaker 3: I know you're not, but you're looking good. Giddy told

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Speaker 3: me he was taking me on a walk. He's like,

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Speaker 1: What did he tell you this.

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Speaker 1: And I'm like, I'm not going anywhere near you? Is

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Speaker 1: the rack? I got a hundred? I could bet. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Don't try negotiate with him either. I try and do

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Speaker 1: It's like when you ever watch a TV show and

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Speaker 1: to know the thing here. Yes, but yeah, I don't.

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Speaker 1: I don't. I'm scared of him. No, he said, we'll

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Speaker 1: talk about your blood pressure later, Like, no, we won't.

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Speaker 1: My blood pressures went up thinking about talking about my

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Speaker 1: blood pressure later. We No, he's the best, nicest guy,

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Speaker 4: Yes, but you know it's working. Yeah, you're looking good

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Speaker 4: for it's working. Although salad you're eating every day. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I trust me. I'm not going to eat a bunch

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Speaker 1: This is because I'm too damn lazy and undisciplined to

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Speaker 1: my dorman, every time he comes in thinks it's funny

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Speaker 1: to tell him that I just ordered a pizza or something.

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Speaker 1: He'll be like, yeah, my Joe, Joe. He'll be like, yoh, yeah,

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Speaker 1: forget he just ordered chicken tenders or whatever. He ate

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Speaker 1: food right. Hey, Carol, how you doing, Good morning, Welcome, Hey,

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Speaker 1: good morning, Welcome to the program. Fred Show Radio dot com.

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Speaker 1: Fresh Show Radio on Instagram is where you can find us.

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Speaker 1: So this is like a little group therapy session here

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Speaker 1: and stare, go, what's going on with your husband? Once

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Speaker 2: So yeah, I'm calling for a little relationship advice. My

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Speaker 1: And yeah, right, Carol, Carol, Carol, we are reaching a

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Speaker 1: I mean, does this happen all the time? Don't adults

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Speaker 1: and have cocktails and you know, I don't have a

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Speaker 1: I don't know, like only drink water and surrounded my

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Speaker 1: You're so your concern is that he's drinking with a

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean I called you because I was like,

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Speaker 5: Obviously you feel certainly?

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Speaker 1: No, I'm sorry. I don't mean to be like rude

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Speaker 4: Because if if this will, if this woman was happily

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Speaker 4: married and they were drinking, it'd be fine according to you, Right.

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Speaker 1: So is the issue the drinking or is it the

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Speaker 5: I think it's the combo.

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Speaker 2: I think, like the drinking is kind of I don't know,

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Speaker 2: it doesn't make me feel the best, but not unheard of.

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Speaker 1: Does he go out drinking with his friends without you ever,

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Speaker 5: Yeah he does.

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Speaker 4: Also, when you are watching your child with whoever, you're

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Speaker 2: Sometimes but not often. And yeah, it's weird.

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Speaker 3: Carol, Like, did you know that when he went to

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Speaker 2: I know it's going to be the other mom.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, would you think the alcohol would really

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that's the strike one for me, Like I'm not

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Speaker 1: You know, not every man, but not every committed man.

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Speaker 1: He's married to this woman. He's just because he's around

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Speaker 1: another single woman does not mean it automatically his man

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Speaker 3: Like that does happen a lot, you know, I know

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Speaker 3: I'm married. I don't want to cheat. That's how it

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I mean we could have rescheduled, definitely.

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Speaker 2: If I'm like feeling this way, it's.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but I'm shocked to people are texting like crazy,

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Speaker 1: She's not overreacting. You can't leave your man with a

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Speaker 2: Nothing has happened that I you know that I've certainly

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Speaker 1: Man. So yeah, Carol, I don't know. Again, I don't

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Speaker 1: Like if I'll be honest, if you said I want

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Speaker 1: And then you're complaining to me that I drank. You're

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Speaker 1: I mean I did have to work.

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Speaker 2: It wasn't that I was trying to do other things

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Speaker 4: I do the time, like just sets up playdates for

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Speaker 1: What that You're doing it for your kids? Like you

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Speaker 1: what do you mean you mean? Yeah, probably if they've

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Speaker 1: Let me take some phone calls on this. Look again,

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Speaker 1: I'm sorry. I don't mean to make it's like we're

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Speaker 1: because again, if you start hammered and driving you get home,

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Speaker 1: then that that's something to talk talk about. That's an issue,

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Speaker 1: that he had a glass of wine with a single mom. Again,

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Speaker 3: Right, So don't leave him, girl, Just don't have them

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Speaker 3: the matches next time.

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Speaker 1: Carol, thank you have a good damn glad you called.

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Speaker 4: I mean, guys, keep keep up till you catch him.

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Speaker 1: So would you let Big Tim go to a single

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Speaker 1: mom's house and what to him? Because because your kid

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Speaker 3: I would call Paulina, can you take your niece Susan's house?

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Speaker 3: Because my man don't need to go.

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Speaker 1: Honestly, now that you bring up Susan, I wouldn't either

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Speaker 1: keep Susan out of this.

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Speaker 3: That's a bad example, not putting the matches in my

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Speaker 1: And like the fire, Oh my god, where's the trust?

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Speaker 1: I know why? Look, I know I know that people

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Speaker 1: are scorned. I've been lied to, everyone's been lied to.

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Speaker 1: you know, because that's a pretty sad reality it is. Hey, Yolanda, Lauren,

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Speaker 1: what do you want to say? Good morning? Welcome?

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Speaker 5: No?

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Speaker 6: So, what I wanted to say was that I think

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Speaker 6: it all bulls down to there's a level of insecurity

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Speaker 6: that's in their marriage. Because if she knew going in

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Speaker 6: that the mom was singled that she was sending her

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Speaker 6: alcohol that all of a sudden sends her spiraling out

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Speaker 6: it being a fishy situation. So she should address whatever

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Speaker 6: that insecurity is in the relationship or in herself before

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Speaker 6: she goes and says something to her husband or their kids. Mom.

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Speaker 1: Because we did ask the question, I asked, Hey, has

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Speaker 1: he done stuff in the past that shady that would

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Speaker 1: give you reason to believe that that he can't be trusted?

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Speaker 1: And the answer was no, So, but there's something else

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Speaker 6: Because you knew that he was going over there, why

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Speaker 6: all of a sudden was it the alcohol? Now? I

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Speaker 6: don't think so, Because you said yourself that you've had

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Speaker 6: drinks box. It's nothing internal that she's trying to project it, RIGHTEO.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, you're allowed to thank you have a good day,

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Speaker 1: you too, Thanks for colling, Thanks for listening. Sabrina, Hi, Sabrina,

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Speaker 1: good morning, Welcome, Hi, good morning, Sabrina. So, if people

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Speaker 1: are just tuning in, this woman just called and set

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Speaker 1: over there, because that's that's a is your heart monitor

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Speaker 1: going off? Are you right? Is everything wrong? Are you

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Speaker 1: testing your blood press around there? So she sends her

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Speaker 1: and they had a couple of drinks and he comes

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Speaker 1: and she's like, you've been drinking with this single mom?

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Speaker 1: Like now she's worried about it. What do you think

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Speaker 1: I think she should stay?

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Speaker 2: But I grew up the single mom, and my mom

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Speaker 2: always was like I do not.

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Speaker 6: Want your fat, old bald husband, damn.

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Speaker 7: So for I Kino, I'm.

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Speaker 1: Looking at from a single mom perspective of like I'm

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Speaker 1: just having a fun time while my kid is playing, right,

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Speaker 1: And so just because this woman is single, that means

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Speaker 1: that she's a predator too. I mean, like, I think

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Speaker 1: this is kind offensive potentially on both angles. I agree

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Speaker 1: like you, not only do you think she's a bad person,

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Speaker 1: but you think your husband would cheat on you? And

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Speaker 1: I don't know, I think it's something she's probably gonna

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Speaker 1: if it's like, hey, honey, can you go do this today?

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Speaker 1: Because I can't and then I went and did it.

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Speaker 1: You think I really want to go hang out with

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Speaker 1: Blues Clues or whatever. No, I don't. You're having fun

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Speaker 1: and your wife's hit work. It's the problem. I mean,

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Speaker 1: I'm working while you're having playdates and a drink.

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Speaker 7: An all day that you sup?

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Speaker 6: Man?

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Speaker 1: That's another thing. If you're worried about it, then don't

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Speaker 1: put your husband up to that, right. Thank you said,

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Speaker 1: you have.

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Speaker 2: A good day.

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Speaker 1: Go, Tiffany says go Really, Hi, Tiffany, Hi, why are

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Speaker 6: Not because of the.

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Speaker 8: Other parents, but because dad thinks it's okay to drink

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Speaker 1: Yeah, Dad would be my only concern about it. But

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Speaker 1: I mean, then again, if it's just a glass of wine.

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Speaker 1: I think that's not unreasonable.

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Speaker 8: The whole reason they do this is to protect their

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Speaker 8: child from potential abuse.

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Speaker 1: Okay, but the.

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Speaker 8: Reason that the pool is in place is because the

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Speaker 8: kid's not old enough to say, hey, this happened and

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Speaker 8: it was weird.

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Speaker 1: But if I'm sitting there and I have a beer,

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Speaker 1: I'm still capable of doing that. I'm still present. I'm

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Speaker 1: not you know, I'm not hammered. I'm not drunk. I mean,

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Speaker 1: if they were, like, you know, several bottles of wine

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Speaker 1: in whatever, then that's you're right, You're absolutely right. That

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Speaker 1: would defeat the purpose. But I mean, if it was

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Speaker 8: If it wasn't wine, if they were smoke, would that

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Speaker 1: What we're do we we're over reaching here big time,

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Speaker 1: Tiffany Dooby. Where are we are?

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Speaker 4: We?

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Speaker 1: Are we listening to disco music? To What are we doing? Tiffany?

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Speaker 1: That's also legal too. I mean, I hear what you're saying.

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Speaker 1: I hear what you're saying. That would be my only

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Speaker 1: concern here was how out of it were you and

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Speaker 5: There?

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Speaker 1: Were you actually paying attention? And did you drive the

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Speaker 1: kid home drunk, that would be my worry. But a

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Speaker 1: glass of one is a reasonable thing for two adults

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Speaker 8: And how normalized is it in this household that people

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Speaker 4: One blass?

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Speaker 8: Sure the problem If this is something that happens every

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Speaker 1: I mean, okay, fair enough, Thank you, Tiffany, have a

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Speaker 1: good day. Shelby is do you would you send military

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 9: I mean I don't have a problem with I if

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Speaker 9: the parents and we know who they are, and then

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Speaker 9: he came home like tipsy, that would bother me?

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Speaker 1: Would bother me?

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Speaker 9: Like if it were the reverse, if it were like

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Speaker 1: At it differently? I would like to believe that. I

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Speaker 1: do that. And then I wouldn't necessarily immediately jump to

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Speaker 9: I don't think it's a jump to cheating. I just

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Speaker 7: I would like to think that I would allow, you know,

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Speaker 7: hobby to go fire fight or Hobby can go and

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Speaker 7: do his thing. But I also feel like I agree

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Speaker 1: I don't think he'd be too happy with it. If

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Speaker 1: I was at you know, single hot dad's house drinking.

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Speaker 1: What if it were ugly hid What if our ugly

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Speaker 1: hid dad? What if what if it was me? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: not gonna word no in that case. That's nice that

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Speaker 1: everybody's fine. Yeah, Now, how do you even say word?

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Speaker 1: You can take your shirt on. He still wouldn't say that.

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Speaker 1: It's like he might prefer it in the beginning. The

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Speaker 1: entertainer of Portsneags