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Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Beka Tilly and Tanya rad and iHeartRadio

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Speaker 1: and two times People's Choice Award winning podcast, Hello everybody.

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Speaker 2: We are scrubbing It didn't There used to be a jingle, didn't.

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Speaker 3: We used to say something.

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Speaker 4: You would have heard the jingle if no.

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Speaker 3: No, didn't used to say like a thing, scrub a

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Speaker 3: dub dub in the tup or something.

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Speaker 4: Thank you. Yes, I used to say scrub a dub

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Speaker 4: dub and the.

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Speaker 5: Listeners didn't like it, and I got sick of defending myself,

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Speaker 5: so I succumbed to and conformed to You.

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Speaker 3: Got voted out on that.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, there was a heated debate in the Facebook group

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Speaker 6: and a lot of people didn't care for it.

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Speaker 3: How about that scrubbing in life with my scrubbing in wife?

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Speaker 6: Wow?

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Speaker 3: Really nice? Wow?

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Speaker 6: Yeah there was another one she did for a little bit.

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Speaker 5: Oh yeah, it's tills and yat and the scrubbing and pad.

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Speaker 3: Yeah that's good too. They didn't like that. I like that.

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Speaker 3: Really got work on posture.

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Speaker 5: In case you don't know, Becca Tilly is not here

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Speaker 5: this week. She is in Japan, but here joining us

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Speaker 5: as a co host is my husband, Robbie Ellid. It

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Speaker 5: feels so nice and weird to say husband. I'm still

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Speaker 5: not used to it, and it's been like almost a year.

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Speaker 2: I know it is weird to say wife, right, I

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Speaker 2: think I'm used to it now you are?

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Speaker 7: Yeah, yeah, yeah, you love it.

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Speaker 3: I do love it.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, Okay.

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Speaker 5: So I was thinking about just like having you as

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Speaker 5: a co host, and it's so weird because we spend

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Speaker 5: all of our time together, like we So I was like, normally,

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Speaker 5: you know, we have different things that we do over

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Speaker 5: the weekend, different things that we're watching, but like you

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Speaker 5: and I basically do the same thing.

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Speaker 4: We watch the same thing.

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Speaker 6: So Tiny's nervous about this. Yeah, she's nervous about this.

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Speaker 6: Did earlier she was like, we're gonna talk about it.

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Speaker 3: She should be nervous every day.

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Speaker 2: Why, Because I have a bone to pick with all

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Speaker 2: of you. I'm gonna do it right now at the

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Speaker 2: top of the show, and conveniently Easton is not here,

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Speaker 2: and conveniently Becca is not here. But we I've been

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Speaker 2: waiting patiently for I don't know how long it's been

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Speaker 2: to confront each of you about the unsolicited attack on

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Speaker 2: my sleep wear routine. Multi front unsolicited attack from everybody.

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Speaker 2: I was most hurt by Easton. We'll talk to Easton,

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Speaker 2: but that shocking Mark. We'll talk to you in a second.

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Speaker 2: You cut me deep.

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Speaker 3: That was there's certain things that are not meant for

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Speaker 3: the air. But it's fine.

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Speaker 2: I'm happy it's out there. I feel like a weight

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Speaker 2: has been lifted off my shoulders. But let's make something

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Speaker 2: very very clear. Thing with pants and underwear on is insane.

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Speaker 3: It's normal. That is insane.

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Speaker 6: Of people sleep with some sort some form of bottomwear.

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Speaker 2: Okay, we put some form of bottomwear, but double is

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Speaker 2: you're fully clothed, You're fully Nobody wears underwear and pajama pants.

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Speaker 3: Pajama pants are the bottom the bottom or underwear.

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Speaker 6: It's interesting because I was going to say, even if

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Speaker 6: I used to maybe sleep in just underwear when I

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Speaker 6: was a younger man, when I have kids, now I'm

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Speaker 6: wearing pants because you're up in the middle of the night,

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Speaker 6: you're going back and forth. It's it's like I don't

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Speaker 6: want them to deal with my that that.

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Speaker 2: Reminds me of a ridiculous story of when I was

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Speaker 2: a kid and I used to sleep naked, and there

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Speaker 2: was an earthquake at my house.

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Speaker 3: I'll get to that in a second.

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Speaker 2: But but and not to be this might get a

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Speaker 2: little too personal, but like don't don't you need to

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Speaker 2: be free down there? Like like I don't like free

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Speaker 2: Like okay, again, this is not about you specifically want

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Speaker 2: to talk about it, but like morning wood is a

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Speaker 2: scientific fact.

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Speaker 3: No, it's a scientific fact. Yes it is. Okay, when

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Speaker 2: Underwear and pants on, that's got to be very uncomfortable.

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Speaker 6: It's not you hyothetically, it's all uncomfortable that happens from

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Speaker 6: time to time when you have pants on, it doesn't.

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Speaker 3: It's not.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, during the day when I'm not asleep, I don't.

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Speaker 2: I don't want I mean when I'm sleeping, I want

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Speaker 2: to be comfortable. See, Okay, No, this is not we

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Speaker 2: reap what we saw.

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Speaker 6: I can't have I can't have part touching other parts.

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Speaker 6: I can't have skin on skin. I can't have any

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Speaker 3: I'm not sure there's a skin on skin issue.

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Speaker 2: But that's also like I don't I don't mind the

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Speaker 2: skin on skin at all, Like like you don't like

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Speaker 2: if you're like if you're like what if your net

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Speaker 2: legs touch?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, like he puts a pill on between his life.

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Speaker 6: Yes, I can't have.

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Speaker 2: My pants underwear and.

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Speaker 6: My knees touch each other, and I'm in bad. I can't. Also, well,

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Speaker 6: that's never mind.

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Speaker 3: Like if you're wearing pants, they don't touch.

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Speaker 6: No, they do touch. There's it's it's too thin of

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Speaker 6: a layer because they were very thin, so thin sweatpants

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Speaker 6: and my knees are touching each other. It's it's too much.

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Speaker 6: I can't do it. My sister has the same affliction

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Speaker 6: we can't have. She wears the thing between her boobs.

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Speaker 3: Have you looked into this? Is this like something that

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Speaker 3: like I don't know about the way you were raised.

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Speaker 3: I don't know, but it must be I wonder why.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, well, wow, that was unexpected.

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Speaker 5: I just would like to say that I did not

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Speaker 5: share that piece of information.

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Speaker 4: Becca is the one who shared it.

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Speaker 6: And I probably jumped on it like I know you did.

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Speaker 6: That's why I'm coming for you. But it's so funny.

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Speaker 3: But Becca brought it up.

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Speaker 4: Yes it was.

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Speaker 3: It was innocent.

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Speaker 4: I was innocent.

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Speaker 3: Oh wow, this changes everything.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I was the innocent one.

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Speaker 5: Becca brought it up because I think she had just

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Speaker 5: discovered it.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I know when she discovered it. Because you brought

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Speaker 2: it up at a dinner.

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Speaker 7: Yes, yes, that multiple people. Yes that I will follow.

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Speaker 5: The sword, but I did not bring it up on

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Speaker 5: the podcast. That was definitely Becca.

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Speaker 2: This whole time, I thought it was you and you,

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Speaker 2: and then Easton jumped on, and I thought Becca was innocent.

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Speaker 4: No, Becca was not innocent.

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Speaker 3: You told me it was cold in here. It is

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Speaker 4: Yeah, it's anyway very cold in here.

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Speaker 6: My favorite part is that your shoulders get cold, and

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Speaker 6: that's why you wear the shirt. That's my favorite.

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Speaker 2: But so I used to sleep when I was younger,

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Speaker 6: Natural.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, oh natural. I think that's the way God intended it. Okay,

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Speaker 2: But then two things happened. One I was young, I

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Speaker 2: must have been like twelve and eleven, twelve something like that.

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Speaker 2: And there was an earthquake in the middle of the night, and.

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Speaker 6: The ninety four north Ridge earthquake.

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Speaker 2: It wasn't ninety Yeah, must been ninety four. Yeah, must

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Speaker 2: be ninety four, which was fifteen, which is even worse.

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Speaker 2: Wait was it ninety four? Yeah, it must have been ninety four,

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Speaker 2: and yeah, that makes it worse.

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Speaker 3: And so I woke up.

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Speaker 2: We had a we had a we had like a

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Speaker 2: we had like a plan and the event of an earthquake,

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Speaker 2: the plan is that we all like go get under doorways.

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Speaker 2: And so I woke up, made sure I got my

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Speaker 2: I was just buttoning the only one that was but

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Speaker 2: like huddled up with my whole family. Yeah, So that

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Speaker 2: so from that moment on we changed things. But no,

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Speaker 2: there were you don't want to be cold in the

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Speaker 2: middle of the ninety I'm very delicate, my favorite.

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Speaker 3: But you came around on that, you said.

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Speaker 5: Yes, yes, I wore a shirt to sleep one night,

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Speaker 3: My shirts down for you. He goes, I know what

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Speaker 5: Mean now, yeah, because like normally I'm grabbing the sheets

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Speaker 5: and like putting them as far over me as humanly possible,

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Speaker 5: you know what I mean. Like, I'm like, that's just

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Speaker 5: barely little heads. Yeah, but when you wear your T shirt,

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Speaker 5: you don't have to.

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Speaker 3: Yeah. Sometimes you get it. You want an arm out.

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Speaker 7: Like yeah, so it's nice.

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Speaker 2: I get it. Believe me, I get it. The visual,

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Speaker 2: the whole thing is a little bit. It's very effeminated.

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Speaker 2: It took me a while to come to terms with

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Speaker 2: the fact that it was, like, it's so funny.

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Speaker 5: And I will say, it's like one of the most

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Speaker 5: what's the word, most common question I get asked about you.

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Speaker 2: But since all this went down, I've tried to wear

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Speaker 2: like loose you know, loose boxers, and I can't do

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Speaker 2: it because of you know, freedom issies.

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Speaker 4: Yeah. Free.

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Speaker 3: I want to be free.

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Speaker 6: My boys need a house. As Kramer once said.

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Speaker 3: We want to live that. Yeah, I'm a big.

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Speaker 5: Yeah wow unexpected.

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Speaker 3: Well but EA said, I still I got it.

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Speaker 4: We will. You can have your moment with Easton as well.

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Speaker 3: But now that I know that Becca was the ring

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Speaker 3: leader here, she.

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Speaker 4: Was She wasn't the ring leader. It was an innocent mistake.

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Speaker 5: She just like said it and then they all jumped

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Speaker 5: on it, and then it was like too far gone

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Speaker 3: I don't believe it.

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Speaker 5: But you're saying it's nice. Now you're free. Yeah, nothing's

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Speaker 5: off limits anymore, is that right?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, that's right.

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Speaker 6: Well that's a good question. Actually, do you guys have

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Speaker 6: that conversation you sometimes you talking to Tanya and then

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Speaker 6: you have to say, by the way, this is not

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Speaker 6: for the podcast.

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Speaker 2: I swear well yeah, no, uh, I swear on everything.

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Speaker 2: This was like the only thing I've ever told her

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Speaker 2: between us, because I get it is ridiculous. Since then,

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Speaker 2: nothing I don't say yeah yeah, yeah, yeah. Sometimes I

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Speaker 4: Is just what have you ever said that?

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Speaker 2: Very rare, no, very rarely, but but I do know, yeah,

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Speaker 2: I say, don't post that. Yeah yeah, yeah, not because

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Speaker 2: like I look ugly or anything like that. I'm like,

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Speaker 2: that's just for us, or I do from time to time.

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Speaker 2: I've done it. There was a time recently I did it.

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Speaker 4: And you're obsessed with mister Fantasy.

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Speaker 2: I I love mister Fantasy. So I had no idea

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Speaker 4: Yeah, you tried to call him out, Yes, so he people.

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Speaker 3: Yes, and now we're chalking out on TikTok because he's unreal.

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Speaker 5: I was like, hey, mister Fantasy, I just want can

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Speaker 2: And then like because it's just it's it was really cool. Yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 6: And how is it a jingle ball watching Tanya in

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Speaker 2: I think it's like, uh, I think it's really important

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Speaker 2: Energy, you know, and just yeah, I just admire your

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Speaker 3: I love that.

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Speaker 6: And you've never got to see him in his element, right,

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Speaker 2: She sees elements a lot because what I do is

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Speaker 5: Him as he's a big like pacer when he's on

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Speaker 5: Definitely actually like feel bad sometimes, Like when I hear

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Speaker 4: It just sounds so painful.

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Speaker 2: Like her days are so exciting. She's interviewing this person,

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Speaker 2: For me, is I'm sitting in office negotiating a dealer,

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Speaker 4: Who did you talk to? What deals did you close?

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Speaker 2: Like I can't tell you most of what I do.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I just say comparatively, it's so boring.

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Speaker 5: That's my favorite part of the day, is like when

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Speaker 4: It's my favorite.

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Speaker 3: Even though I don't give you much to I get

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Speaker 4: I keep going until I get what I want.

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Speaker 2: I do usually remember things days later. That crazy thing

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Speaker 3: I don't know why I don't remember.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, let's take a break, and then I have a

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Speaker 4: And we're back.

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Speaker 7: Scrub a dub duba.

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Speaker 6: That was my fault. That was my fault.

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Speaker 3: Scrub a dub dub. All right, Robbie.

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Speaker 6: Tanya sent us over and we talked about this with Ryan.

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Speaker 6: The December marriage challenge. Oh, yes, you didn't really want

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Speaker 6: this to you. What goes through your head. She's like,

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Speaker 6: every day for all thirty one days of December. It's

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Speaker 3: I don't remember what it is? Yeah, I'm sware.

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Speaker 2: This came up a few days ago someone hosted on

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Speaker 3: Maybe it was a iHeart Facebook group like.

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Speaker 2: We need Robbie and Tanya to do the marriage challenge.

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Speaker 2: And I'd screenshot her and send it to her and said,

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Speaker 3: And she apparently sent this to me the day before.

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Speaker 3: I don't remember it. I don't know what it is.

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Speaker 3: What is it? Should we do it right now?

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Speaker 5: So it was like a thing I saw on Instagram.

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Speaker 5: I said to you and I said we should do this,

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Speaker 4: And then the problem is I never followed through.

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Speaker 6: Well I have what is it? Every single day? Like December? First,

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Speaker 4: Last it didn't last, but you were into it.

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Speaker 2: I mean, listen, would I choose to do those things myself? No,

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Speaker 6: Yeah, but it's not meaningful to him.

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Speaker 2: Correct, No, but it's but it do you have that

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Speaker 2: I would never choose to do that. It's not something wet,

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Speaker 2: it's not meaning so like, there's so many things that

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Speaker 3: Don't want to do it. I think, such as walking

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Speaker 5: No, like family meetings, like I actually think like you

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Speaker 2: No, I would do family meetings. I think family meetings

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Speaker 3: Part of it. Far we're gonna do it. I like

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Speaker 3: the planning coordinating. No, we need it. You got to

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Speaker 3: talk to the microphones planning and the coordinating. We need it.

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00:20:43,960 --> 00:20:45,119
Speaker 4: Yeah, thank you.

443
00:20:45,440 --> 00:20:49,840
Speaker 3: Yeah, no, he likes it. Oh I I called them

444
00:20:49,840 --> 00:20:50,960
Speaker 3: sometimes he does.

445
00:20:51,080 --> 00:20:52,800
Speaker 7: Well, it's rare, I do.

446
00:20:53,640 --> 00:20:56,320
Speaker 4: Okay. So there's a couple of things like we never

447
00:20:56,359 --> 00:20:58,560
Speaker 4: had you want after the wedding. But I don't know,

448
00:20:58,600 --> 00:21:00,320
Speaker 4: it just feels like the wedding was so far away

449
00:21:00,320 --> 00:21:00,680
Speaker 4: from now.

450
00:21:01,800 --> 00:21:02,960
Speaker 6: Can you believe that has been.

451
00:21:04,480 --> 00:21:04,680
Speaker 1: Long?

452
00:21:05,760 --> 00:21:07,920
Speaker 4: Nine months? It's so crazy.

453
00:21:10,040 --> 00:21:12,320
Speaker 5: I feel like there were some questions that I asked

454
00:21:12,640 --> 00:21:15,600
Speaker 5: on my Instagram for people, like ask people if they

455
00:21:15,640 --> 00:21:18,840
Speaker 5: wanted to ask you questions? Yeah, and do you mind

456
00:21:18,840 --> 00:21:19,840
Speaker 5: if I ask you a couple of those?

457
00:21:19,920 --> 00:21:20,200
Speaker 4: Right now?

458
00:21:20,240 --> 00:21:22,240
Speaker 3: You can ask me whatever you want, Okay.

459
00:21:22,840 --> 00:21:25,200
Speaker 5: Was it hard having a Christmas tree? I'm Jewish marrying

460
00:21:25,240 --> 00:21:26,600
Speaker 5: a non Jew, and it feels wrong.

461
00:21:27,200 --> 00:21:28,840
Speaker 3: No, Christmas trees are amazing.

462
00:21:28,920 --> 00:21:32,159
Speaker 2: First of all, I'm very reformed Jew, so I'm not

463
00:21:32,320 --> 00:21:35,400
Speaker 2: like super ultra religious. I'm a high holiday Jew basically,

464
00:21:36,119 --> 00:21:40,320
Speaker 2: and you know, you, Christmas is like in a in

465
00:21:40,440 --> 00:21:44,119
Speaker 2: large part like almost like non nomin I don't know

466
00:21:44,160 --> 00:21:46,800
Speaker 2: what the word is, but like yeah, it's yeah, exactly,

467
00:21:47,320 --> 00:21:51,040
Speaker 2: it's you know, it's there's something just like that is

468
00:21:51,320 --> 00:21:53,159
Speaker 2: generally applicable to the holidays.

469
00:21:53,160 --> 00:21:54,359
Speaker 3: You grow up every.

470
00:21:54,160 --> 00:21:58,679
Speaker 2: Year going skiing, you know, in the winter, and you

471
00:21:58,720 --> 00:22:02,119
Speaker 2: know that's full of like Christmas trees and that Christmas

472
00:22:02,280 --> 00:22:04,879
Speaker 2: energy and that Christmas vibe. All the movies you watch

473
00:22:05,000 --> 00:22:07,080
Speaker 2: like as a kid growing up or like around Christmas.

474
00:22:07,160 --> 00:22:09,840
Speaker 2: So like the feel good part of Christmas is great,

475
00:22:10,080 --> 00:22:13,159
Speaker 2: and I just think it's an awesome holiday. So was

476
00:22:13,160 --> 00:22:14,240
Speaker 2: it weird for a Christmas tree?

477
00:22:14,320 --> 00:22:15,200
Speaker 3: No, I liked it.

478
00:22:15,280 --> 00:22:18,240
Speaker 2: And the first time we did a Christmas tree was

479
00:22:18,240 --> 00:22:21,240
Speaker 2: was like actually just like again a really like special, meaningful,

480
00:22:21,359 --> 00:22:22,479
Speaker 2: like bonding moment for us.

481
00:22:22,640 --> 00:22:22,880
Speaker 3: Yeah.

482
00:22:22,920 --> 00:22:26,520
Speaker 5: The first Christmas tree ever decorated was it was right

483
00:22:26,560 --> 00:22:29,080
Speaker 5: before COVID, so it's December between.

484
00:22:28,840 --> 00:22:30,200
Speaker 3: Somber, Yeah, December.

485
00:22:30,600 --> 00:22:32,480
Speaker 5: It was the first Christmas tree he'd ever decorated in

486
00:22:32,480 --> 00:22:35,359
Speaker 5: his life, which I thought was so like special, and

487
00:22:35,400 --> 00:22:35,960
Speaker 5: he did it.

488
00:22:35,840 --> 00:22:37,720
Speaker 3: With me, and I went and I bought.

489
00:22:37,880 --> 00:22:40,320
Speaker 2: I went to like Creighton Beryl I'll never forget, and

490
00:22:40,359 --> 00:22:43,679
Speaker 2: I bought all these ornaments to bring right but like

491
00:22:43,760 --> 00:22:45,320
Speaker 2: some of them were like whatever, some of them were

492
00:22:45,320 --> 00:22:47,840
Speaker 2: like meaningful, and then we bought like.

493
00:22:47,840 --> 00:22:49,320
Speaker 5: Matching ones because he was like, they told me you

494
00:22:49,320 --> 00:22:51,160
Speaker 5: have to get two or three of the same ones.

495
00:22:51,320 --> 00:22:54,919
Speaker 3: I was like, yeah, they got me, they got me.

496
00:22:55,280 --> 00:22:56,240
Speaker 4: It was really cute though.

497
00:22:56,280 --> 00:22:56,680
Speaker 3: That was great.

498
00:22:56,680 --> 00:23:00,760
Speaker 2: No, I love it and and you know, we blend it.

499
00:23:00,800 --> 00:23:03,959
Speaker 2: We like do like a Christmas tree, but it's like,

500
00:23:04,119 --> 00:23:06,800
Speaker 2: you know, maybe not red and green, it's like white

501
00:23:06,920 --> 00:23:08,520
Speaker 2: and blue and then we have like you.

502
00:23:08,440 --> 00:23:11,800
Speaker 3: Known, that's all. Yeah, it's great.

503
00:23:12,800 --> 00:23:15,919
Speaker 6: In my neighborhood that decorates their whole house white, blue,

504
00:23:16,119 --> 00:23:20,159
Speaker 6: Manora's Star of David. Fantastic. Yeah, I want everyone to

505
00:23:20,200 --> 00:23:23,280
Speaker 6: decorate their house this month for whatever whatever theme you

506
00:23:23,320 --> 00:23:23,639
Speaker 6: want to do.

507
00:23:23,880 --> 00:23:24,640
Speaker 7: Yeah, it's great.

508
00:23:25,359 --> 00:23:27,800
Speaker 5: What's the best thing, Tanya that's me has done for

509
00:23:27,920 --> 00:23:28,439
Speaker 5: your boys?

510
00:23:28,560 --> 00:23:29,760
Speaker 4: I'm a bonus mama too.

511
00:23:30,200 --> 00:23:34,040
Speaker 2: Oh my god, you you know you've done. I'm gonna this.

512
00:23:34,480 --> 00:23:38,040
Speaker 2: I'm gonna try to get emotional, but that's going to

513
00:23:38,080 --> 00:23:40,960
Speaker 2: be impossible. But you've done so much for them. I mean,

514
00:23:41,560 --> 00:23:47,920
Speaker 2: you know, there's the kind of express things that you do.

515
00:23:48,040 --> 00:23:51,360
Speaker 2: So like the fact that you write a note every

516
00:23:51,400 --> 00:23:54,679
Speaker 2: morning for Sebby that is like topical and has to

517
00:23:54,680 --> 00:23:57,040
Speaker 2: do with whatever's going up. That's topical and has to

518
00:23:57,040 --> 00:24:02,119
Speaker 2: do with whatever's going on in our lives. Is unbelievable

519
00:24:02,119 --> 00:24:03,879
Speaker 2: and you would do it for Oliver if you wanted it,

520
00:24:03,880 --> 00:24:08,639
Speaker 2: but Oliver is too cool for that now. But and

521
00:24:08,720 --> 00:24:12,440
Speaker 2: this is the the emotional part, more than like the

522
00:24:12,480 --> 00:24:15,960
Speaker 2: things you do on a day to day basis, it's

523
00:24:16,040 --> 00:24:25,120
Speaker 2: the energy that you've created and the security and and

524
00:24:25,280 --> 00:24:32,320
Speaker 2: feeling of home and family that you've brought to our house,

525
00:24:34,400 --> 00:24:43,359
Speaker 2: including you know, spearheading the sunny getting sunny. So I

526
00:24:43,359 --> 00:24:49,680
Speaker 2: think I think you do a lot of very constantly thoughtful,

527
00:24:49,720 --> 00:24:52,679
Speaker 2: intentional things that are you know that you that is

528
00:24:52,720 --> 00:24:55,040
Speaker 2: just kind of like who you are. But what that

529
00:24:55,080 --> 00:24:59,720
Speaker 2: has meant from an from again, from an energy perspective

530
00:24:59,720 --> 00:25:03,440
Speaker 2: in our our house and and our family, I think

531
00:25:03,560 --> 00:25:05,200
Speaker 2: is the most important.

532
00:25:06,520 --> 00:25:07,560
Speaker 3: Is there like tissue?

533
00:25:08,520 --> 00:25:08,800
Speaker 7: Yeah?

534
00:25:09,000 --> 00:25:11,520
Speaker 6: Otherwise I was like, sure.

535
00:25:12,960 --> 00:25:14,040
Speaker 4: Not gonna feel so nice.

536
00:25:14,080 --> 00:25:15,359
Speaker 3: But it's not bad.

537
00:25:15,720 --> 00:25:19,760
Speaker 5: Oh my gosh, that made me emotional. Okay, I'm just

538
00:25:19,800 --> 00:25:23,520
Speaker 5: a little more lighthearted. Where do you shop? Always looking

539
00:25:23,560 --> 00:25:24,400
Speaker 5: so put together?

540
00:25:26,160 --> 00:25:27,520
Speaker 3: I don't shop. I don't know what I did.

541
00:25:27,520 --> 00:25:29,119
Speaker 2: First of all, I'm in a style crisis right now.

542
00:25:29,200 --> 00:25:32,840
Speaker 2: Can we talk about that more than where I shop? Yeah,

543
00:25:33,240 --> 00:25:38,160
Speaker 2: I'm forty six years old and like, up until two

544
00:25:38,200 --> 00:25:40,479
Speaker 2: years ago or a year ago, I was wearing like

545
00:25:40,560 --> 00:25:44,560
Speaker 2: super super tight pants and had a certain thing, and

546
00:25:44,600 --> 00:25:46,160
Speaker 2: now like that's not cool anymore.

547
00:25:46,280 --> 00:25:46,679
Speaker 3: I don't know.

548
00:25:46,680 --> 00:25:48,000
Speaker 2: Maybe that was not cool for a couple of years

549
00:25:48,000 --> 00:25:49,600
Speaker 2: when I was still doing it, but so now we

550
00:25:49,600 --> 00:25:52,520
Speaker 2: got to wear like baggy pants or like looser pants, and.

551
00:25:53,000 --> 00:25:54,920
Speaker 3: I don't know, like how to make all that work.

552
00:25:54,960 --> 00:25:55,320
Speaker 3: So I don't know.

553
00:25:55,359 --> 00:25:56,600
Speaker 2: I feel like I'm in a soul christ. I feel

554
00:25:56,600 --> 00:25:58,240
Speaker 2: like an eight year old when I wear baggy pants.

555
00:25:58,880 --> 00:26:00,960
Speaker 2: But uh no, I don't know my shop. I fall

556
00:26:01,000 --> 00:26:04,560
Speaker 2: for all the like instagram like stores and just like

557
00:26:05,080 --> 00:26:07,080
Speaker 2: whenever I have time, I like, but I hate like

558
00:26:07,280 --> 00:26:08,040
Speaker 2: actually shopping.

559
00:26:08,040 --> 00:26:09,680
Speaker 3: But that's very nice that you think I have.

560
00:26:09,880 --> 00:26:12,480
Speaker 6: Good Are you're transitioning to a different phase in your life?

561
00:26:12,600 --> 00:26:12,800
Speaker 3: Oh?

562
00:26:12,920 --> 00:26:13,720
Speaker 4: Yes, for sure?

563
00:26:13,840 --> 00:26:15,720
Speaker 6: Yeah yeah have you noticed it? Do you feel like

564
00:26:15,720 --> 00:26:16,680
Speaker 6: he dresses too young?

565
00:26:17,240 --> 00:26:18,200
Speaker 4: No, I don't think you're.

566
00:26:18,080 --> 00:26:20,040
Speaker 5: Just too young, But like, I mean, his pants used

567
00:26:20,040 --> 00:26:21,760
Speaker 5: to be tighter than mine and now he wears like

568
00:26:21,800 --> 00:26:22,560
Speaker 5: baggy pants.

569
00:26:22,680 --> 00:26:25,240
Speaker 3: It was crazy in hindsight, how tight my pants are.

570
00:26:25,880 --> 00:26:27,120
Speaker 7: It's crazy.

571
00:26:27,920 --> 00:26:30,560
Speaker 4: So I like the evolution good good, Yeah.

572
00:26:30,400 --> 00:26:31,800
Speaker 2: But I gotta be able to pull it off in

573
00:26:31,840 --> 00:26:34,760
Speaker 2: an elevated fashion. So if anyone has any tips out there,

574
00:26:34,800 --> 00:26:35,399
Speaker 2: so how to do that?

575
00:26:35,520 --> 00:26:38,119
Speaker 5: Yeah, well you refuse to put headphones on, and you

576
00:26:38,240 --> 00:26:40,520
Speaker 5: keep not speaking in a microphone.

577
00:26:41,240 --> 00:26:43,760
Speaker 3: When they miss it's just like it's like talking.

578
00:26:43,600 --> 00:26:45,800
Speaker 4: Like this, and it's like this and this and.

579
00:26:45,680 --> 00:26:46,320
Speaker 7: This and this.

580
00:26:46,480 --> 00:26:47,919
Speaker 3: I need a clip on, a clip on.

581
00:26:50,920 --> 00:26:52,719
Speaker 6: He didn't want to wear headphones because they didn't want

582
00:26:52,720 --> 00:26:54,760
Speaker 6: to look silly on the camera. The deal. Yeah, the

583
00:26:54,840 --> 00:26:57,679
Speaker 6: hair looks nice, but you're in a radio studio that

584
00:26:57,720 --> 00:26:58,920
Speaker 6: people wear headphones here.

585
00:26:59,520 --> 00:27:01,200
Speaker 2: I know, but I think we got to I think

586
00:27:01,240 --> 00:27:03,240
Speaker 2: that that we need to not look like we're in

587
00:27:03,240 --> 00:27:04,040
Speaker 2: a radio studio.

588
00:27:04,119 --> 00:27:04,720
Speaker 3: That's what I think.

589
00:27:04,800 --> 00:27:07,800
Speaker 5: Yeah, Robbie has some pointers for the Scrubbing In podcast,

590
00:27:07,840 --> 00:27:09,160
Speaker 5: which we can't also get into.

591
00:27:10,920 --> 00:27:12,639
Speaker 4: How was Robbie's first time meeting Ryan?

592
00:27:14,240 --> 00:27:15,919
Speaker 2: Do you remember your first This is the funniest thing

593
00:27:15,960 --> 00:27:19,119
Speaker 2: is I don't remember the which is so weird that

594
00:27:19,119 --> 00:27:20,880
Speaker 2: I don't remember the first time meeting Ryan. I feel

595
00:27:20,880 --> 00:27:25,760
Speaker 2: like I would remember that, but I've I've had the

596
00:27:25,760 --> 00:27:27,960
Speaker 2: opportunity to like spend an okay amount of time and

597
00:27:27,960 --> 00:27:31,000
Speaker 2: they're gonna hang out with him a few times. Uh,

598
00:27:31,720 --> 00:27:34,280
Speaker 2: and I you know, it's just he's he's the man.

599
00:27:34,359 --> 00:27:36,840
Speaker 2: I mean, Ryan's the best. We get along really well.

600
00:27:36,960 --> 00:27:40,040
Speaker 2: We're around the same age, we know a lot of

601
00:27:40,080 --> 00:27:40,880
Speaker 2: the same people.

602
00:27:43,080 --> 00:27:44,399
Speaker 4: I feel like he likes you better than me.

603
00:27:45,320 --> 00:27:45,760
Speaker 3: I think that.

604
00:27:46,560 --> 00:27:51,119
Speaker 2: I think that you're you're an employee, You're an employee,

605
00:27:50,840 --> 00:27:52,600
Speaker 2: co worker.

606
00:27:52,440 --> 00:27:53,240
Speaker 3: You're a co worker.

607
00:27:53,280 --> 00:27:54,840
Speaker 2: But I'm saying, like, it's a it's a it's a

608
00:27:54,880 --> 00:27:58,080
Speaker 2: working relationship. You guys are friends too, no doubt about it.

609
00:27:58,119 --> 00:28:02,080
Speaker 2: But like that, I mean, that's it's different. Yeah, but yeah, no,

610
00:28:02,119 --> 00:28:05,760
Speaker 2: we get along. I think, you know, Ryan's a really

611
00:28:05,760 --> 00:28:07,919
Speaker 2: good dude. He's always been, I mean, another guy that

612
00:28:08,000 --> 00:28:11,359
Speaker 2: I like, admire so much and love like any chance

613
00:28:11,400 --> 00:28:13,440
Speaker 2: I get to like talk to him or learn from him,

614
00:28:13,480 --> 00:28:15,280
Speaker 2: which I've had a few opportunities, thankfully.

615
00:28:17,840 --> 00:28:19,639
Speaker 3: I love that. Yeah, No, we got a lot. Ryan's

616
00:28:19,640 --> 00:28:19,920
Speaker 3: the best.

617
00:28:19,920 --> 00:28:21,000
Speaker 6: Do you remember the night we met?

618
00:28:22,200 --> 00:28:23,320
Speaker 3: Yeah, I do remember the night we.

619
00:28:23,240 --> 00:28:26,560
Speaker 2: Met outside outside of Ryan's house, That's right.

620
00:28:26,800 --> 00:28:28,960
Speaker 3: I do remember that I was picking up Tanya.

621
00:28:29,520 --> 00:28:32,639
Speaker 7: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

622
00:28:31,760 --> 00:28:33,320
Speaker 3: That's that's crazy. I remember that.

623
00:28:33,440 --> 00:28:35,480
Speaker 6: I remember that very well, and I remember ever about

624
00:28:35,520 --> 00:28:37,800
Speaker 6: thirty seconds being like, oh this guy's this is a

625
00:28:37,840 --> 00:28:38,240
Speaker 6: good guy.

626
00:28:38,440 --> 00:28:40,760
Speaker 3: I remember you were like very protective of Tanya.

627
00:28:40,920 --> 00:28:44,400
Speaker 6: Very Yeah, it's a long time. It's a long time. Yeah,

628
00:28:44,560 --> 00:28:47,480
Speaker 6: and a lot of duds, yeah, well a lot and so,

629
00:28:47,560 --> 00:28:49,600
Speaker 6: but when I met you, it was I got non

630
00:28:49,720 --> 00:28:52,120
Speaker 6: dud energy almost instantly.

631
00:28:53,480 --> 00:28:56,040
Speaker 4: Thank you, almost instantly.

632
00:28:56,240 --> 00:28:58,680
Speaker 6: Oh sure, what do you mean?

633
00:28:58,720 --> 00:28:59,720
Speaker 3: There was a period of time where he thought I

634
00:28:59,760 --> 00:28:59,880
Speaker 3: was a.

635
00:29:02,360 --> 00:29:03,560
Speaker 7: What early days?

636
00:29:04,600 --> 00:29:06,080
Speaker 6: No, I didn't. No.

637
00:29:06,880 --> 00:29:08,440
Speaker 5: This is this one that kind of kept coming up

638
00:29:08,480 --> 00:29:10,440
Speaker 5: a lot too. What's the best advice for a woman

639
00:29:10,520 --> 00:29:15,920
Speaker 5: getting into a marriage with a man with kids? That's

640
00:29:15,920 --> 00:29:20,040
Speaker 5: a tough And then on the heels of that, when

641
00:29:20,040 --> 00:29:22,360
Speaker 5: did he show that he had kids while navigating dating?

642
00:29:22,880 --> 00:29:23,720
Speaker 4: I'm a single mom.

643
00:29:23,920 --> 00:29:25,720
Speaker 6: Why don't we take a break and you can think

644
00:29:25,720 --> 00:29:27,840
Speaker 6: about this. Yeah, we'll come back with the answer. That's

645
00:29:27,880 --> 00:29:29,760
Speaker 6: you know, people will want to hear that, So they're

646
00:29:29,760 --> 00:29:32,040
Speaker 6: gonna hear all these wonderful goods and services, and then

647
00:29:32,000 --> 00:29:34,280
Speaker 6: they kind of back and here Robbie's answer. Here we go,

648
00:29:51,400 --> 00:29:52,040
Speaker 6: and we're back.

649
00:29:52,480 --> 00:29:56,040
Speaker 5: Okay, So we left you hanging on a big cliffhanger.

650
00:29:56,200 --> 00:29:59,080
Speaker 5: There were a couple questions about what's the best advice

651
00:29:59,160 --> 00:30:01,720
Speaker 5: for a woman getting in to a marriage with a

652
00:30:01,760 --> 00:30:05,680
Speaker 5: man with kids, and then kind of dovetailing into when

653
00:30:05,720 --> 00:30:07,760
Speaker 5: did he share that he had kids while navigating dating.

654
00:30:07,800 --> 00:30:09,320
Speaker 4: I'm a single mom.

655
00:30:09,480 --> 00:30:15,000
Speaker 2: So yeah, let's start with the second one. I deny.

656
00:30:15,080 --> 00:30:17,040
Speaker 2: I mean I it was on my hinch profile.

657
00:30:17,200 --> 00:30:20,880
Speaker 5: Yeah, you you had photos with the kids on your

658
00:30:20,960 --> 00:30:21,680
Speaker 5: dating app.

659
00:30:21,840 --> 00:30:23,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think, and I put, I think I'm a dad.

660
00:30:23,720 --> 00:30:26,000
Speaker 2: Whatever I was not for me, it was important for

661
00:30:26,040 --> 00:30:28,280
Speaker 2: people to know right away. I mean, it wasn't. There

662
00:30:28,280 --> 00:30:35,240
Speaker 2: was no like delay in telling someone I had kids.

663
00:30:36,240 --> 00:30:37,640
Speaker 2: So yeah, so that's the answer to the second one.

664
00:30:37,640 --> 00:30:41,120
Speaker 2: I think on the first one, like, what's the best advice?

665
00:30:43,040 --> 00:30:47,280
Speaker 2: Oh man, you know, that's something that I think that

666
00:30:48,240 --> 00:30:55,040
Speaker 2: is probably deserves like a much more thoughtful, long, long answer,

667
00:30:55,120 --> 00:30:57,600
Speaker 2: and probably books can be written about it. But I

668
00:30:57,600 --> 00:31:01,800
Speaker 2: think the I think the best advice for a mom,

669
00:31:02,880 --> 00:31:06,160
Speaker 2: for a woman coming into a relationship with a guy

670
00:31:06,240 --> 00:31:11,880
Speaker 2: with kids, is to be to be patient, to be patient,

671
00:31:13,200 --> 00:31:28,800
Speaker 2: and to trust the guidance advice of the guy. You know,

672
00:31:28,920 --> 00:31:33,440
Speaker 2: everybody's kids are different, boys and girls are different depending

673
00:31:33,480 --> 00:31:36,880
Speaker 2: what age they are, you know, matters. Each individual child

674
00:31:37,200 --> 00:31:42,240
Speaker 2: is so different and hopefully you know the parent, I mean,

675
00:31:42,440 --> 00:31:49,680
Speaker 2: definitely the parent is best suited to know kind of

676
00:31:49,880 --> 00:31:52,320
Speaker 2: you know, what they're how their kid is dealing with

677
00:31:52,320 --> 00:31:54,760
Speaker 2: with everything, you know, how close you are to the

678
00:31:54,880 --> 00:31:58,960
Speaker 2: to the divorce, or maybe it's not a divorce, but

679
00:31:59,040 --> 00:32:04,400
Speaker 2: all that kind of factors in. And but I think

680
00:32:06,480 --> 00:32:10,280
Speaker 2: despite all of that, I think that it is a

681
00:32:10,360 --> 00:32:17,080
Speaker 2: transition and something that the kids need space and time

682
00:32:18,640 --> 00:32:28,200
Speaker 2: to kind of naturally accept in a positive way for themselves.

683
00:32:30,280 --> 00:32:33,480
Speaker 2: And so yeah, so patience I think is probably the

684
00:32:33,800 --> 00:32:39,200
Speaker 2: best advice as maybe non helpful is that is?

685
00:32:40,320 --> 00:32:41,640
Speaker 3: I mean, what do you think the best advice is?

686
00:32:41,640 --> 00:32:42,680
Speaker 3: Han't been on the other side.

687
00:32:42,520 --> 00:32:47,280
Speaker 5: Of it, Yeah, I would say, like I feel like

688
00:32:47,320 --> 00:32:50,040
Speaker 5: I trusted you a lot in that process, Like I

689
00:32:50,080 --> 00:32:55,600
Speaker 5: trusted your your approach, your way of of like meeting them,

690
00:32:55,640 --> 00:32:58,160
Speaker 5: when to meet them, how to meet them. You know,

691
00:32:58,240 --> 00:33:00,160
Speaker 5: I wanted to bring them gifts when I first met them,

692
00:33:00,200 --> 00:33:01,480
Speaker 5: and you were like, no, I don't want it to

693
00:33:01,480 --> 00:33:03,280
Speaker 5: feel like you're like trying to buy them.

694
00:33:03,840 --> 00:33:05,520
Speaker 4: So we thought of like thoughtful.

695
00:33:05,120 --> 00:33:07,600
Speaker 5: Things that I could bring them that weren't necessarily gifts,

696
00:33:07,800 --> 00:33:12,400
Speaker 5: but like thoughtful trinkets, if you will, which I thought

697
00:33:12,560 --> 00:33:16,200
Speaker 5: was better and like a good approach. So I kind

698
00:33:16,200 --> 00:33:19,240
Speaker 5: of I would just kind of lean on you. I mean,

699
00:33:19,280 --> 00:33:24,320
Speaker 5: I think it's interesting because our situation was different because

700
00:33:24,320 --> 00:33:24,480
Speaker 5: it was.

701
00:33:24,440 --> 00:33:25,840
Speaker 4: In the middle of a pandemic. I don't think.

702
00:33:25,960 --> 00:33:27,640
Speaker 5: I mean, we made it like nine months until I

703
00:33:27,680 --> 00:33:28,960
Speaker 5: met the kids, and I feel like it wouldn't have

704
00:33:29,000 --> 00:33:31,440
Speaker 5: been nine months if there wasn't like a pandemic in

705
00:33:31,440 --> 00:33:31,800
Speaker 5: the middle.

706
00:33:31,840 --> 00:33:35,560
Speaker 2: I think also the nine months was was like probably

707
00:33:36,800 --> 00:33:38,640
Speaker 2: you know that that was something.

708
00:33:38,760 --> 00:33:44,120
Speaker 3: So you know, at the time of my separation, my

709
00:33:44,200 --> 00:33:46,160
Speaker 3: divorce kind of.

710
00:33:48,280 --> 00:33:53,080
Speaker 2: There was a rule that we both that me and

711
00:33:53,120 --> 00:33:55,680
Speaker 2: Max talked about that we wanted to follow, which was basically,

712
00:33:57,720 --> 00:34:01,160
Speaker 2: we don't want to introduce our kids to like a

713
00:34:01,200 --> 00:34:04,480
Speaker 2: revolving door of like others, right of like of like

714
00:34:04,840 --> 00:34:10,160
Speaker 2: girls or guys or whatever. And so we you know,

715
00:34:10,200 --> 00:34:13,680
Speaker 2: the idea was like un less and until you're like

716
00:34:13,880 --> 00:34:17,200
Speaker 2: really ready to like really be committed to someone, like

717
00:34:17,360 --> 00:34:23,160
Speaker 2: practically engagement, we shouldn't introduce the kids to anybody.

718
00:34:23,400 --> 00:34:25,120
Speaker 3: That was probably yeah.

719
00:34:24,840 --> 00:34:27,359
Speaker 5: But to be fair, I was your girlfriend and I'd

720
00:34:27,360 --> 00:34:30,200
Speaker 5: been your girlfriend for like eight months at the time.

721
00:34:30,360 --> 00:34:30,480
Speaker 3: No.

722
00:34:30,480 --> 00:34:32,160
Speaker 2: No, I think my point is to say that that

723
00:34:32,280 --> 00:34:34,120
Speaker 2: was probably wrong because I don't think you could even

724
00:34:34,160 --> 00:34:37,279
Speaker 2: get to the point of like commitment or like engagement level,

725
00:34:37,360 --> 00:34:38,680
Speaker 2: like I know I want to This is like the

726
00:34:39,080 --> 00:34:41,280
Speaker 2: you know, the woman I'm going to be with without

727
00:34:41,360 --> 00:34:43,960
Speaker 2: having integrated your kids already and seeing how that whole

728
00:34:44,160 --> 00:34:47,279
Speaker 2: scenario works. So it was it was the reason it

729
00:34:47,280 --> 00:34:53,520
Speaker 2: took so long was yes, pandemic related, but also just

730
00:34:54,160 --> 00:34:56,000
Speaker 2: that was kind of like a mistake and you know,

731
00:34:56,040 --> 00:34:57,520
Speaker 2: we didn't know what we were doing. I didn't know

732
00:34:57,520 --> 00:34:58,960
Speaker 2: what I was doing. We're kind of learning it as

733
00:34:58,960 --> 00:35:03,319
Speaker 2: we go, all intentions, and I think that, you know,

734
00:35:03,560 --> 00:35:06,960
Speaker 2: despite maybe that being wrong or maybe not the best approach,

735
00:35:07,040 --> 00:35:10,000
Speaker 2: I think that it's still like worked to our benefit.

736
00:35:10,160 --> 00:35:10,680
Speaker 3: I think that.

737
00:35:13,440 --> 00:35:17,839
Speaker 2: The slow introduction and then even from there like very

738
00:35:17,920 --> 00:35:21,320
Speaker 2: kind of like intentional integration and like.

739
00:35:21,520 --> 00:35:23,440
Speaker 4: Yeah, all I'm saying is I think nine months was

740
00:35:23,440 --> 00:35:23,879
Speaker 4: too long.

741
00:35:24,080 --> 00:35:25,120
Speaker 7: No, no, I hear you, because.

742
00:35:24,880 --> 00:35:27,000
Speaker 5: I think there was damage on my end where I

743
00:35:27,040 --> 00:35:29,120
Speaker 5: felt like you had two lives and I was like

744
00:35:29,120 --> 00:35:29,799
Speaker 5: I'm done with that.

745
00:35:29,880 --> 00:35:32,279
Speaker 2: Well, that was like the biggest tension in our relationship

746
00:35:32,320 --> 00:35:34,239
Speaker 2: and like the reason we broke up and like all

747
00:35:34,280 --> 00:35:37,880
Speaker 2: this so like it was like, yeah, listen, that was

748
00:35:38,120 --> 00:35:40,440
Speaker 2: very hard. It's very hard to navigate these things. I

749
00:35:40,480 --> 00:35:42,279
Speaker 2: mean I could talk I think that this is something

750
00:35:42,280 --> 00:35:44,719
Speaker 2: that you could really like talk about for I mean

751
00:35:44,719 --> 00:35:48,239
Speaker 2: you could you know, or write about for you know,

752
00:35:48,320 --> 00:35:49,359
Speaker 2: at length.

753
00:35:50,239 --> 00:35:52,720
Speaker 5: Because I do understand when you say be patient, because

754
00:35:52,719 --> 00:35:55,440
Speaker 5: I wanted to meet them, like, you know, two months

755
00:35:55,440 --> 00:35:58,480
Speaker 5: in Okay, Yeah, sure, maybe that's too soon, but then

756
00:35:58,520 --> 00:36:01,400
Speaker 5: I feel like to wait nine months was also problematic.

757
00:36:01,520 --> 00:36:04,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, but patient, being patient good. I wasn't even I

758
00:36:04,000 --> 00:36:05,759
Speaker 2: didn't even mean it about that. I do think that

759
00:36:05,760 --> 00:36:08,160
Speaker 2: that's part of being patient. I met, like, even once

760
00:36:08,200 --> 00:36:11,400
Speaker 2: you meet them, be patient with them, go right, like,

761
00:36:11,560 --> 00:36:14,720
Speaker 2: be patient with them, give them the time and space

762
00:36:14,880 --> 00:36:18,920
Speaker 2: to like it's it's hard.

763
00:36:19,480 --> 00:36:19,719
Speaker 3: Again.

764
00:36:19,800 --> 00:36:21,600
Speaker 2: I can only talk about a divorce situation, but there's

765
00:36:21,600 --> 00:36:24,239
Speaker 2: probably numerous situations like this, either widowed or just someone

766
00:36:24,280 --> 00:36:27,440
Speaker 2: who has kids, you know, outside of marriage and like

767
00:36:27,480 --> 00:36:32,360
Speaker 2: as a single parent, father, whatever. There's probably other scenarios.

768
00:36:32,360 --> 00:36:38,719
Speaker 2: I don't know, but in our scenario, there is a

769
00:36:39,000 --> 00:36:42,720
Speaker 2: natural defense that they're gonna have against somebody coming another

770
00:36:42,800 --> 00:36:45,600
Speaker 2: woman coming into their lives in like a parental kind

771
00:36:45,640 --> 00:36:48,440
Speaker 2: of capacity, and so you have to be patient with

772
00:36:48,480 --> 00:36:52,080
Speaker 2: that and you have to, you know, let them work

773
00:36:52,120 --> 00:36:52,400
Speaker 2: through that.

774
00:36:52,440 --> 00:36:55,200
Speaker 3: And I think that we've done it as.

775
00:36:54,480 --> 00:36:56,520
Speaker 2: A very commendable job, as best a job we can.

776
00:36:56,640 --> 00:37:00,880
Speaker 2: You have been incredible throughout that process. Your relationship with

777
00:37:00,920 --> 00:37:06,520
Speaker 2: my boys is unreal, Like I think the powers it

778
00:37:06,520 --> 00:37:07,560
Speaker 2: be every day for that.

779
00:37:10,400 --> 00:37:15,120
Speaker 3: What you please show you know what I mean, that's

780
00:37:15,160 --> 00:37:17,040
Speaker 3: that's the most important thing to me in this world.

781
00:37:17,120 --> 00:37:20,879
Speaker 3: So let me know what.

782
00:37:20,840 --> 00:37:25,759
Speaker 5: The Okay, this is a nice, easy, breezy one. What's

783
00:37:25,840 --> 00:37:28,880
Speaker 5: the best part about being married to Tanya? And what

784
00:37:28,960 --> 00:37:30,600
Speaker 5: is the most surprising part.

785
00:37:30,760 --> 00:37:31,560
Speaker 3: I'm being married to?

786
00:37:31,719 --> 00:37:34,839
Speaker 2: So being married to Tanya, my life is like, uh,

787
00:37:35,680 --> 00:37:38,480
Speaker 2: every every day is like an episode of I Love Lucy.

788
00:37:38,480 --> 00:37:39,279
Speaker 3: I think Tanya is.

789
00:37:40,840 --> 00:37:44,719
Speaker 2: Really I mean, it's absolutely Tanya is the modern day

790
00:37:44,840 --> 00:37:45,560
Speaker 2: Lucy O ball.

791
00:37:46,280 --> 00:37:48,200
Speaker 3: Okay it is.

792
00:37:51,160 --> 00:37:58,280
Speaker 2: It's just exciting and funny and you know, meaningful. And

793
00:37:58,440 --> 00:37:59,960
Speaker 2: I know that I have a partner who has my

794
00:38:00,120 --> 00:38:03,600
Speaker 2: back always. But yeah, I know it's a every day

795
00:38:03,600 --> 00:38:04,360
Speaker 2: as an episode of I.

796
00:38:04,719 --> 00:38:08,359
Speaker 6: Love I've always said that because this week Tanya goes

797
00:38:08,440 --> 00:38:12,719
Speaker 6: to prenatal yoga. Yeah, Tanya tries to make home and

798
00:38:12,760 --> 00:38:16,920
Speaker 6: milk at home, like every and it's hilarious.

799
00:38:17,160 --> 00:38:20,400
Speaker 2: This week Tanya gets blacklisted from hot at yoga.

800
00:38:20,719 --> 00:38:25,959
Speaker 6: Oh yeah, every week a new plot.

801
00:38:26,200 --> 00:38:28,279
Speaker 3: Yeah, and that you know, And that's what life is about.

802
00:38:28,280 --> 00:38:32,000
Speaker 2: It's about keeping it exciting and interesting and I hit

803
00:38:32,080 --> 00:38:32,879
Speaker 2: the jackpot there.

804
00:38:33,040 --> 00:38:36,520
Speaker 5: The thing that's so crazy is like I'm literally obsessed

805
00:38:36,560 --> 00:38:39,920
Speaker 5: with you, Like I spend every minute with you and

806
00:38:40,000 --> 00:38:42,840
Speaker 5: I still can't get enough. Like I was so excited

807
00:38:42,840 --> 00:38:45,200
Speaker 5: that you were co hosting the podcast this week because like,

808
00:38:45,280 --> 00:38:47,040
Speaker 5: obviously I'm not with you when I'm at work, and

809
00:38:47,080 --> 00:38:48,520
Speaker 5: I was like, oh, yeah, that means he's like gonna

810
00:38:48,520 --> 00:38:51,080
Speaker 5: come with me to work. Like I love doing everything

811
00:38:51,120 --> 00:38:53,440
Speaker 5: with you, I love doing nothing with you. I love

812
00:38:53,480 --> 00:38:58,319
Speaker 5: watching TV with you like I've never I've never had

813
00:38:58,360 --> 00:39:02,239
Speaker 5: a partner that I'm just like so obsessed with, but

814
00:39:02,400 --> 00:39:04,239
Speaker 5: somebody that I admire so much, also somebody that I'm

815
00:39:04,280 --> 00:39:08,160
Speaker 5: so like sexually obsessed with, Like I just everything about you,

816
00:39:08,200 --> 00:39:09,239
Speaker 5: I'm just like obsessed with.

817
00:39:09,480 --> 00:39:12,400
Speaker 2: Well okay, but fine the same. But what are your

818
00:39:12,600 --> 00:39:15,080
Speaker 2: like pet peeves or what are like the things that

819
00:39:15,120 --> 00:39:16,920
Speaker 2: annoy you? I already know one, but let's see if

820
00:39:16,920 --> 00:39:17,600
Speaker 2: you say it.

821
00:39:17,600 --> 00:39:20,120
Speaker 5: It is the most obnoxious thing, and it's like the

822
00:39:20,160 --> 00:39:25,640
Speaker 5: biggest turn off. It is the biggest turnoff. I never

823
00:39:25,680 --> 00:39:28,560
Speaker 5: thought you could possibly turn me off until you started

824
00:39:28,600 --> 00:39:33,200
Speaker 5: eating sunflower seeds and it is so disgusting and he

825
00:39:33,280 --> 00:39:36,759
Speaker 5: can't put them down like, you can't have once you start,

826
00:39:36,760 --> 00:39:39,120
Speaker 5: you can't FaceTime over like trying to book a flight.

827
00:39:39,239 --> 00:39:41,760
Speaker 3: No, I have fifty in my mouth, like spitting them.

828
00:39:41,600 --> 00:39:43,239
Speaker 4: Into a cup, And I'm like, can you not just

829
00:39:43,320 --> 00:39:44,960
Speaker 4: do that? I'm on a phone call with you for

830
00:39:45,239 --> 00:39:45,840
Speaker 4: two minutes.

831
00:39:45,880 --> 00:39:48,399
Speaker 3: Can you already in there so spit them out before

832
00:39:48,440 --> 00:39:50,399
Speaker 3: you call me? Don't?

833
00:39:50,400 --> 00:39:52,120
Speaker 2: I don't know why that gives you the the other two.

834
00:39:52,160 --> 00:39:55,520
Speaker 2: I get the other two. I get the flip flopping

835
00:39:55,840 --> 00:39:56,560
Speaker 2: flip flops.

836
00:39:56,680 --> 00:39:59,680
Speaker 5: Yeah, oh my gosh. And he walks in flip flops.

837
00:39:59,719 --> 00:40:01,680
Speaker 5: It's like, you know those people that are not self

838
00:40:01,680 --> 00:40:03,399
Speaker 5: aware that they're making that plan.

839
00:40:04,400 --> 00:40:05,719
Speaker 4: It's so embarrassing.

840
00:40:05,800 --> 00:40:07,320
Speaker 3: It all comes back to being free.

841
00:40:07,680 --> 00:40:10,799
Speaker 4: Yeah, no, that don't be so free when you're wearing I.

842
00:40:10,800 --> 00:40:12,359
Speaker 3: Don't want to live in a world where I can't

843
00:40:12,520 --> 00:40:13,600
Speaker 3: just flop away.

844
00:40:14,400 --> 00:40:18,440
Speaker 6: No, you're out and that's walking down the street.

845
00:40:18,520 --> 00:40:22,960
Speaker 5: Just thankfully in our relationship, you don't really wear flip flops.

846
00:40:23,000 --> 00:40:24,880
Speaker 3: No, No, I don't shoes.

847
00:40:25,000 --> 00:40:26,000
Speaker 4: Yeah, so this is it.

848
00:40:26,080 --> 00:40:26,600
Speaker 6: That's great.

849
00:40:26,760 --> 00:40:29,600
Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, this is a rare, rare occurrence. But when

850
00:40:29,600 --> 00:40:31,240
Speaker 5: his flip flops are flippity flop.

851
00:40:31,080 --> 00:40:32,640
Speaker 3: Will always be only on vacation.

852
00:40:32,960 --> 00:40:33,959
Speaker 6: Yeah, it makes sense.

853
00:40:34,120 --> 00:40:35,440
Speaker 4: Yeah. What's the third one?

854
00:40:35,920 --> 00:40:39,840
Speaker 2: Uh? The first of all, they're called flip flops for

855
00:40:39,880 --> 00:40:44,360
Speaker 2: a reason that name like literally, that's what you're supposed

856
00:40:44,400 --> 00:40:44,560
Speaker 2: to do.

857
00:40:45,040 --> 00:40:48,440
Speaker 5: You're conscientious and lift them up off the floor, not

858
00:40:48,520 --> 00:40:49,320
Speaker 5: flippity flop.

859
00:40:49,400 --> 00:40:50,640
Speaker 3: Do you do you flop?

860
00:40:51,400 --> 00:40:53,960
Speaker 6: I'm not really, I'm with you on open toad shoes.

861
00:40:54,239 --> 00:40:57,240
Speaker 6: Oh yeah, and I think I typically were slides instead

862
00:40:57,239 --> 00:40:58,520
Speaker 6: of flip flops, so they don't do a lot of

863
00:40:58,560 --> 00:41:01,360
Speaker 6: flippity flopping. But yeah, you've worn to wear flop flops,

864
00:41:01,360 --> 00:41:02,239
Speaker 6: they're gonna flip and flop.

865
00:41:02,360 --> 00:41:02,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, yeah.

866
00:41:03,000 --> 00:41:06,760
Speaker 2: The amount of effort it takes to cold your toes

867
00:41:07,080 --> 00:41:08,600
Speaker 2: down to lift.

868
00:41:08,360 --> 00:41:09,640
Speaker 6: The flop it's unnatural.

869
00:41:10,280 --> 00:41:12,560
Speaker 3: The third thing the chewing gum, which also.

870
00:41:12,400 --> 00:41:17,120
Speaker 5: Oh my gosh, it is like a giraffe chewing grass.

871
00:41:17,760 --> 00:41:20,840
Speaker 3: You can't cage me. You gotta let me be free.

872
00:41:20,960 --> 00:41:22,600
Speaker 5: Like I literally have to remind him if he's chewing

873
00:41:22,600 --> 00:41:24,520
Speaker 5: gum and we're like about to go hang out with friends,

874
00:41:24,520 --> 00:41:26,279
Speaker 5: I'm like, you have to spit your gum out like.

875
00:41:27,200 --> 00:41:29,560
Speaker 3: Chewing gum because of you gave me a complex?

876
00:41:30,600 --> 00:41:34,440
Speaker 5: Will stop eat dumping your gum around like that with

877
00:41:34,560 --> 00:41:35,839
Speaker 5: clients around.

878
00:41:35,560 --> 00:41:38,400
Speaker 2: They I told her to like, watch like some videos

879
00:41:38,400 --> 00:41:40,600
Speaker 2: of baseball players eating baseball selflowers.

880
00:41:40,960 --> 00:41:42,000
Speaker 3: It's like, I think it's cool.

881
00:41:42,120 --> 00:41:45,800
Speaker 6: It's all gross. It's it's all gross.

882
00:41:45,960 --> 00:41:46,760
Speaker 3: What's gross?

883
00:41:46,760 --> 00:41:48,719
Speaker 6: Gross? And ball players do it and it's gross, and

884
00:41:48,760 --> 00:41:50,399
Speaker 6: I've never seen you do it, but I assume it's

885
00:41:50,400 --> 00:41:51,280
Speaker 6: similarly gross.

886
00:41:51,360 --> 00:41:54,319
Speaker 3: You know, it's very It's like, no, it's cool.

887
00:41:54,400 --> 00:41:56,719
Speaker 4: Any never having a family meeting. This was Sunday. We're

888
00:41:56,760 --> 00:42:00,000
Speaker 4: having a family meeting. He's spinning out these sunflower seats

889
00:42:00,000 --> 00:42:01,960
Speaker 4: and I'm like, we have one hour and we're gonna

890
00:42:01,960 --> 00:42:03,239
Speaker 4: sit here and get this on the.

891
00:42:05,040 --> 00:42:07,279
Speaker 6: I involved spitting things out of your so you don't

892
00:42:07,280 --> 00:42:07,759
Speaker 6: have to spit them.

893
00:42:07,760 --> 00:42:12,000
Speaker 3: You can take them one better.

894
00:42:12,000 --> 00:42:13,240
Speaker 4: If I take them with my hand.

895
00:42:14,200 --> 00:42:18,280
Speaker 6: You're distracting saliva covered things from your mouth. It's all bad.

896
00:42:19,239 --> 00:42:23,000
Speaker 2: Look so eating cherries is gross? Yes, yes, what is wrong?

897
00:42:23,160 --> 00:42:23,720
Speaker 3: I agree?

898
00:42:23,960 --> 00:42:26,120
Speaker 2: No. The best is that we had a canasta lesson,

899
00:42:26,160 --> 00:42:28,560
Speaker 2: which we definitely have to talk about and I'm just

900
00:42:28,600 --> 00:42:29,239
Speaker 2: eating this up.

901
00:42:29,960 --> 00:42:33,560
Speaker 3: Discussion was amazing. She's like, I have boys. I totally

902
00:42:33,560 --> 00:42:33,920
Speaker 3: get it.

903
00:42:33,960 --> 00:42:35,400
Speaker 4: Teenage boys were disgusting.

904
00:42:35,480 --> 00:42:39,760
Speaker 3: So this is disgusting teenage boys. I totally get.

905
00:42:39,600 --> 00:42:42,439
Speaker 4: It that I had chills down my back.

906
00:42:42,480 --> 00:42:45,400
Speaker 5: I was so second hand embarrassed because of you, with

907
00:42:45,440 --> 00:42:48,840
Speaker 5: his spinning out with our tutor, our Canasta tutor sitting

908
00:42:48,840 --> 00:42:50,960
Speaker 5: at the table, and he's no.

909
00:42:51,280 --> 00:42:51,600
Speaker 3: I'm.

910
00:42:53,640 --> 00:42:54,560
Speaker 4: On this, thank you.

911
00:42:55,680 --> 00:42:57,759
Speaker 6: If I eat cherries, I'm alone. I'm not eating cherries

912
00:42:57,760 --> 00:42:58,479
Speaker 6: in front of other people.

913
00:42:58,480 --> 00:43:00,520
Speaker 3: I don't want eating anything in front of other people.

914
00:43:00,560 --> 00:43:02,960
Speaker 2: Is discussing eating anything in front of people, discussing, you're

915
00:43:03,000 --> 00:43:04,760
Speaker 2: necessarily oh my god.

916
00:43:04,600 --> 00:43:07,200
Speaker 3: Eating You're just like shovel Everything is disgusting.

917
00:43:08,280 --> 00:43:10,080
Speaker 6: If you really think about your mouth is not as

918
00:43:10,120 --> 00:43:11,680
Speaker 6: girls as taking things out of your mouth.

919
00:43:11,760 --> 00:43:12,480
Speaker 7: That's what I agree.

920
00:43:12,520 --> 00:43:14,480
Speaker 3: I agree, it's all disgusting.

921
00:43:15,360 --> 00:43:17,200
Speaker 6: It goes in your mouth, you should never see it again.

922
00:43:17,719 --> 00:43:22,760
Speaker 2: Yes, okay, cherries, sunflower seeds?

923
00:43:22,920 --> 00:43:23,359
Speaker 6: What else?

924
00:43:24,680 --> 00:43:28,919
Speaker 3: Seeds? We can have seedless but water seeds. What else

925
00:43:29,000 --> 00:43:29,279
Speaker 3: is there?

926
00:43:29,600 --> 00:43:31,600
Speaker 5: No, but the problem with the sunflower seeds is that

927
00:43:31,640 --> 00:43:34,640
Speaker 5: it's ours like he'll just sit in bed watching TV and.

928
00:43:34,640 --> 00:43:40,719
Speaker 3: Just spendflower seeds. No, no, no, no, no, yes, yes

929
00:43:41,239 --> 00:43:43,960
Speaker 3: no I did do that. I did do that.

930
00:43:44,360 --> 00:43:47,200
Speaker 2: But that's because she wanted me to watch the football

931
00:43:47,239 --> 00:43:50,000
Speaker 2: game upstairs instead of watching it downstairs.

932
00:43:50,280 --> 00:43:54,000
Speaker 3: So we have to compromise. You can't. You can't watch sacrifice.

933
00:43:54,520 --> 00:43:59,440
Speaker 3: We sacrifice for life. I had to eat some flower

934
00:43:59,560 --> 00:44:00,560
Speaker 3: seeds in bed.

935
00:44:02,440 --> 00:44:09,879
Speaker 5: What do you want sacrifice? Believe does not know we're

936
00:44:09,880 --> 00:44:13,640
Speaker 5: gonna wrap this episode up, but I feel very vindicated.

937
00:44:13,760 --> 00:44:16,200
Speaker 3: I can't wait for myself to arrive on Wednesday.

938
00:44:16,680 --> 00:44:19,279
Speaker 4: Have more coming, and that's the problem. They keep coming

939
00:44:19,280 --> 00:44:22,719
Speaker 4: in there, these big, big big I wanted to throw

940
00:44:22,760 --> 00:44:24,640
Speaker 4: them away, but then I'm like, I can't.

941
00:44:26,600 --> 00:44:30,560
Speaker 5: Anyways, Robbie will be back for Dear Bonya on Thursday,

942
00:44:31,040 --> 00:44:34,319
Speaker 5: and thank you all for joining us, Babe, thank you

943
00:44:34,400 --> 00:44:35,719
Speaker 5: for co hosting today.

944
00:44:36,160 --> 00:44:38,920
Speaker 3: Yeah, but I still owe Easton, so we'll try to

945
00:44:38,920 --> 00:44:39,239
Speaker 3: get him.

946
00:44:39,239 --> 00:44:39,799
Speaker 6: He's in the building.

947
00:44:39,880 --> 00:44:40,480
Speaker 4: Yeah, we'll get it.

948
00:44:40,520 --> 00:44:42,680
Speaker 7: We'll talk Thursday, all right, Love

949
00:44:42,719 --> 00:44:45,960
Speaker 4: You all, Bye, b