Speaker 1: All right, we are black. We are black?
Speaker 2: Well we are.
Speaker 1: This is why Tiffy does the segways.
Speaker 2: Because I am so bad to no. I agree.
Speaker 1: Do you want me to read this behemoth of a
Speaker 1: message or what? What? What are we trying to do?
Speaker 3: No?
Speaker 2: No, because you're gonna like and like.
Speaker 3: And the Many is such a journalist that, like me,
Speaker 3: I'm gonna rework for words Many like like her, her
Speaker 3: eye is like two steps ahead, and her mind is
Speaker 3: like like, I.
Speaker 2: Don't know how you do it, but I'm like, damn,
Speaker 2: she's good.
Speaker 3: I'm like the boy is good and fast he can't
Speaker 3: and then it's like the boy runs, okay, he runs like.
Speaker 4: If it's not how you wrote it, it's because I listen,
Speaker 4: we got to edit live.
Speaker 3: You do.
Speaker 2: Go ahead, man, you got it.
Speaker 1: Yes.
Speaker 4: The one thing I will say is Planar Patty at
Speaker 4: least is self aware because she gave her this anonymous
Speaker 4: nickname pseudonym for this purpose. Planar Patty says, I am
Speaker 4: writing to get both of your feedback. My husband and
Speaker 4: I currently both work full time. He makes roughly ninety K.
Speaker 4: I make eighty five K. We're both thirty one. You
Speaker 4: guys are going to hear all of her plans. Okay,
Speaker 4: let's just go through the plans right now. We're renting
Speaker 4: out our master bedroom on Airbnb. We live in the
Speaker 4: remainder of our house. This lets us bring in an
Speaker 4: extra ten k each year after taxes. We're currently trying
Speaker 4: to build house number two that we also want to
Speaker 4: rent out for extra income so we can bring more.
Speaker 1: Money in in.
Speaker 4: We have six months of our expenses save so far,
Speaker 4: but we don't have a lot in retirement, just over
Speaker 4: fifty k and our two four to one ks combined
Speaker 4: because we've spent most of the money on building our
Speaker 4: first house and now the second. Our family plan is
Speaker 4: that we want to have three children back to back
Speaker 4: once we turn thirty three and be completed by thirty eight.
Speaker 4: By age thirty eight, as well as start our own
Speaker 4: design business at Design Build Business. At the same time.
Speaker 4: I'm an architect, so we want to essentially develop my
Speaker 4: designs and sell houses plans, et cetera. I've been using
Speaker 4: our own house and the next one as proof and
Speaker 4: first trials. The reason we want to do this is
Speaker 4: because we both hate our jobs and the amount of
Speaker 4: restriction they come with, and we hope to be able
Speaker 4: to transition to doing life on our own terms. Is
Speaker 4: there any advice y'all have as we embark on executing
Speaker 4: this plan? Nandy, you have a husband with children starting
Speaker 4: your own business is really inspiring to me and Tiffany
Speaker 4: you are this kind open, insightful black woman business owner
Speaker 4: who has goals for me. Any advice y'all have? Whoo, planner, Patty,
Speaker 4: let's get into it. TIF.
Speaker 3: So first reaction, well, first reaction, I'm just like reading
Speaker 3: the words of it, like okay.
Speaker 2: My first reaction is that kudos.
Speaker 3: To you for being clear right about the desired outcome
Speaker 3: for your life.
Speaker 2: That's one thing if you listened to with that. But
Speaker 2: so earlier this week with Rachel Rogers, she said, say
Speaker 2: the thing and the fact that this planet, Patty, you have
Speaker 2: said the thing. I own my own business with my
Speaker 2: I want three kids. I want honestly, that's what you're
Speaker 2: supposed to do. So kudos to you.
Speaker 3: So one of the things I've learned, just as a
Speaker 3: business owner just life in general, is that it is
Speaker 3: important to have a framework but.
Speaker 2: With a lot of flexibility.
Speaker 3: So I don't know, the part that struck me the
Speaker 3: most with the little Giggle is the three kids between
Speaker 3: ages thirty three and thirty eight, because I don't want
Speaker 3: to say a giggle, like a nervous giggle because as
Speaker 3: someone who tried to have like kids for like four
Speaker 3: years straight, ibf all the things and was not able
Speaker 3: to give birth to my own children because fertility was
Speaker 3: something I did not know that I was going to
Speaker 3: have an issue with. So the nervous giggle is the
Speaker 3: the framework says I'd like to start a family, but
Speaker 3: the flexibility says, you don't know what could happen in
Speaker 3: that pursuit of starting. You might have you might have
Speaker 3: one kid and then have triplets the next so now
Speaker 3: you have four.
Speaker 2: You know what I mean, Like you might, you might,
Speaker 2: you know, you might. I'm just saying you know, or
Speaker 2: you might have trouble, or you might not.
Speaker 3: There's just especially with fertility, it is just a there's
Speaker 3: no way to know for sure. So that part is
Speaker 3: like and then also, I mean, Mandy's gonna speak to this.
Speaker 3: I'm like three kids back to back and starting a
Speaker 3: business during the same time. I'm go an pass the
Speaker 3: baton of Mandy because she's like, girl, hey, b a fan,
Speaker 3: We're gonna take a quick break and we'll be right back.
Speaker 4: I'm glad you started out the way that you did,
Speaker 4: because it's true. We do encourage y'all to have plans, Yes,
Speaker 4: because I think you do want to design your life
Speaker 4: and it's great. I mean, honestly, I want a third kid.
Speaker 4: Have I said that out loud? The hormones with remy
Speaker 4: rue have just been really strong. My body is like
Speaker 4: make more, and it's I'm like, I'm trying to parse
Speaker 4: out what is just you know, evolution ensuring the continuation
Speaker 4: of the human race and my own personal desire.
Speaker 1: Yes, because I'm not.
Speaker 4: Clear on it and I refuse to act on it
Speaker 4: until I am clear on it. But so far evolutions winning.
Speaker 4: But yeah, so, but I never would have imagined myself
Speaker 4: wanting the three and and you know I would just
Speaker 4: to what Tiffany said, I think when it comes to
Speaker 4: the children's part, having the kid's part, I would answer
Speaker 4: your question differently if you already had one or two.
Speaker 1: But like you don't know yet.
Speaker 4: How having a child, just one, let alone three will
Speaker 4: impact your personal life, your relationship, your the way that
Speaker 4: you approach your business. Now, what I love about your
Speaker 4: question is how you're setting yourself up to welcome children
Speaker 4: and not have to also be hustling and starting. You know,
Speaker 4: I wasn't necessarily, you know, starting a business from super
Speaker 4: scratch after I had a kid. You know, a lot
Speaker 4: of this. I was building the foundation of my business
Speaker 4: before I even knew it, with brown ambition and you know,
Speaker 4: my journalism career and all of that. But you do
Speaker 4: have like you're setting yourself up to be in a
Speaker 4: position where it's not such a huge leap. You have
Speaker 4: the skills, you're working as an architect now right, it's
Speaker 4: not such a huge leap to say, you know, you'll
Speaker 4: have your business later on. But and you go on
Speaker 4: to your question. I didn't read all of it, but
Speaker 4: talking about how the nine to five grind is just
Speaker 4: not what you guys want, and I think having kids
Speaker 4: will only make that even more apparent, because it is
Speaker 4: really hard to even haven't there's no such thing. I
Speaker 4: don't think as a nine to five when you have kids,
Speaker 4: because they will just wreck with your They just play
Speaker 4: with your schedule like it's a bouncy ball and be like, hmm,
Speaker 4: you thought this is how your day is going to
Speaker 4: shake out. Nope, you got to leave work early, or nope,
Speaker 4: you're gonna get there late because I'm going to have
Speaker 4: a tantrum on the way to the car and throw
Speaker 4: my shoes and the ditch and they're going to whatever,
Speaker 4: like they'll be something. But I would say, if you
Speaker 4: are a planner, start therapy now because the one thing
Speaker 4: that you're going to have to And I'm not saying
Speaker 4: I don't mean to be like I don't want to
Speaker 4: be Patrick or I'm not saying this like I'm literally
Speaker 4: saying I'm genuine about this. You'll need someone to help you,
Speaker 4: like help you find peace with the picture as it
Speaker 4: ends up versus the picture that you have in your
Speaker 4: mind right now. And it's not saying that you can't
Speaker 4: have this incredible life that you want with three kids
Speaker 4: and the home and all that that's incredible. You can
Speaker 4: for sure do that, but along the way your journey,
Speaker 4: like mentally, like that's what I want you to take
Speaker 4: care of, and just make sure that that you're thriving
Speaker 4: and you're not just like focusing on this goal that
Speaker 4: you have in the distance and making that the thing
Speaker 4: that you kind of like measure yourself against always and
Speaker 4: be open to how that vision may change. After one kid,
Speaker 4: after two, after three, whatever, and just be yeah, kind
Speaker 4: to yourself. But as you have this vision of your
Speaker 4: life that you want to right now, it sounds like
Speaker 4: you're taking the steps to make it happen. And that
Speaker 4: is wonderful and that is great, and I feel like, dang,
Speaker 4: maybe I should start figuring out how to get to
Speaker 4: a place where I can have another one if I
Speaker 4: really want that. But at least for right now, just
Speaker 4: know that there is space for you to make a
Speaker 4: change later on if you want to. But as long
Speaker 4: as it's feeling good and you guys are happy and
Speaker 4: your husband's on board, you didn't mention if you want.
Speaker 1: Hey be a fan. We're going to take a quick
Speaker 1: break and we'll be right back.
Speaker 2: Well, can I let me ask you a question, Mandy.
Speaker 3: So, one of the things the planning Patty said is
Speaker 3: that she wanted to have the kids and start the
Speaker 3: design firm at the at the same time. Like, I
Speaker 3: know you, you know, so, I know you said that
Speaker 3: you kind of like pre started because we had brown ambition.
Speaker 3: And so is your suggestion that maybe before starting to
Speaker 3: have the kids, consider like some some more seeding into
Speaker 3: the business or have the kids first, like what like
Speaker 3: like where would you suggest like based upon your experience,
Speaker 3: I was everybody's different.
Speaker 4: No thanks, because when I'm reading the questions sometimes it's
Speaker 4: hard to like hear it at the same time. But
Speaker 4: you're right at the same time. I well the fact
Speaker 4: that you're using She says, she's using the house she
Speaker 4: has now in the second house as like a trial
Speaker 4: house to show proof, so she could have as much
Speaker 4: as you. I just don't want you to think, and
Speaker 4: definitely don't think this that after you have the kid
Speaker 4: and you have maternity leave, which you know your job
Speaker 4: will sponsor you for I'm assuming that you'll have all
Speaker 4: this time to make your business and post the content
Speaker 4: to get the start your funnel and your email.
Speaker 3: And.
Speaker 4: You will so not you will have something like time,
Speaker 4: but it's not going to be like whole brain time.
Speaker 4: I would encourage at least, and I'll just say it
Speaker 4: for myself, if I could do anything differently, I would
Speaker 4: have done so much more work before I had and
Speaker 4: I was working. But I would have done a lot more,
Speaker 4: put a lot more into the businesses that I had
Speaker 4: and could have had before kids, just because that one
Speaker 4: hundred percent of my brain that just doesn't exist anymore.
Speaker 4: I'll ever really get time with I maybe get little
Speaker 4: moments and glimmers of focused work, but you don't get
Speaker 4: that when you after you have kids, and sometimes you
Speaker 4: don't want to because it's so fun if you enjoy it.
Speaker 1: It's fun having kids. I want to go to the zoo.
Speaker 2: And I remember Mom told me that.
Speaker 3: She was like, that was one of because you know,
Speaker 3: my mom has five and one of the pieces of
Speaker 3: advice she gave to all her girls was try to
Speaker 3: finish your education if possible before children, meaning like whatever
Speaker 3: these kind of essentially she's saying, like whatever those kind
Speaker 3: of like dream goal thing, not that you stop it,
Speaker 3: but to get the hardest parts out of the way,
Speaker 3: she said, because you know, children take up a lot
Speaker 3: of time and space, but not in a bad way.
Speaker 3: It's like, you know, to your point, she's like, you know,
Speaker 3: you know, you guys were great, but I realized that,
Speaker 3: like literally, she was taking her nursing final when her
Speaker 3: water broke.
Speaker 2: With me, I don't know how that lady did it.
Speaker 3: And so she's just like it it's really hard, like
Speaker 3: you know, to be doing all the practical and all
Speaker 3: this other stuff and you've got a newborn at home
Speaker 3: and a two year old, and so she's just like,
Speaker 3: you know, knowing what I know now, I would have
Speaker 3: tried to get the harder parts of the whatever growth development.
Speaker 3: I mean, obviously you go your whole life out of
Speaker 3: the way first when you really can't spend one hundred percent.
Speaker 3: So I mean, I can't speak from experience in that place,
Speaker 3: but I can just say just from hearing from the
Speaker 3: moms around me. And now you've heard from Mandy that
Speaker 3: you know, maybe leaning it a little more into the
Speaker 3: business part now, getting something a little bit more established,
Speaker 3: to be like, oh okay, okay, So that way when
Speaker 3: the baby comes, you know, God willing that you know
Speaker 3: you have you have a little more established, so you're
Speaker 3: not trying to establish both at the same time, a.
Speaker 2: Family and a business.
Speaker 3: Not that it's impossible, but certainly it'll likely be more challenging.
Speaker 4: Yeah, there's something your body will change or you're assuming
Speaker 4: you'll have am like not a normal but a conventional
Speaker 4: healthy pregnancy. It'll all go to plan And yeah, you
Speaker 4: can plan a business, but you can't plan I don't
Speaker 4: think anything at pregnancy and beyond. But I think if
Speaker 4: you're a planner, Patty, I would just get your fix
Speaker 4: for all the dots being connected from your business and
Speaker 4: from that, because it is so satisfying when you're like,
Speaker 4: if I do this, then I make that, and it
Speaker 4: all kind of links together. Kids ain't like that. So
Speaker 4: do all that now while you can, and really relish
Speaker 4: it and set yourself up so that when you have kids,
Speaker 4: your business is kind of like moving and grooving and
Speaker 4: you're not having to you know, build the canoe while
Speaker 4: you're paddling.
Speaker 2: Or with a baby arms.
Speaker 1: You won't drown.
Speaker 2: You and that baby's don't float like heard about you.
Speaker 3: Like not.
Speaker 1: Like baby Moses in a basket?
Speaker 4: Is that how Moses got to be? I don't have
Speaker 4: the biblical story anyway. Thank you for your question, playing
Speaker 4: your patty, and I hope that well, first you've inspired.
Speaker 4: I hope a lot of people would just like get
Speaker 4: the shit done. Yes, but all I'll say is send me,
Speaker 4: send us a follow up when you're thirty three and
Speaker 4: a half or whatever, thirty four, Yes, let us know
Speaker 4: how that goes.
Speaker 2: Framework with lots of flexibility. So yeah, we wish you
Speaker 2: well do all right, Well, that is the show.
Speaker 1: Sorry manager, next day, next pet what no, no?
Speaker 2: I said? Sorry I cut you off.
Speaker 4: Oh, no, I cut you off.
Speaker 1: Thanks, y'all buy you
Speaker 3: Just like that.