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Speaker 1: Buckle up, hold on tight. We got it for you here.

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Speaker 1: It is the Strawberry Letter. Subject neither one of us

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Speaker 1: can be trusted. Dear Stephen Shirley. My husband and I

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Speaker 1: are in our late thirties and have been married for

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Speaker 1: fifteen years. We've had some hiccups in our marriage and

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Speaker 1: we went to counseling to fix the issues. I thought

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Speaker 1: we were doing really good since the counseling, but here

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Speaker 1: we are a year later, and my husband's insecurities got

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Speaker 1: the best of him. He created a fake social media

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Speaker 1: account and pretended to be one of my exes that

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Speaker 1: I dated before we got married. He started sending me

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Speaker 1: sweet messages posing as my ex, but I was very

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Speaker 1: stern about letting him know that I'm happily married and

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Speaker 1: not interested in him at all. In that way, I

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Speaker 1: thought it was weird that my ex would still want

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Speaker 1: me after over fifteen years of not seeing me. I

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Speaker 1: was intrigued, but still not interested. But here's where I

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Speaker 1: messed up and got caught up. I set a date

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Speaker 1: to meet my X who was really my husband, at

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Speaker 1: a sushi bar for dinner. The day I was supposed

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Speaker 1: to meet my ex, I lied and told my husband

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Speaker 1: I didn't tell him where. When I pulled up at

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Speaker 1: the sushi restaurant to meet my ex, my husband called

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Speaker 1: me and explained to me how he set me up,

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Speaker 1: and then he told me to bring my lion cheating

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Speaker 1: behind back home. Gad wow. I was embarrassed and really

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Speaker 1: really upset with him. I have admitted I was wrong,

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Speaker 1: but at the same time, I feel like he owes

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Speaker 1: me a big apology too. This is not normal behavior

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Speaker 1: to trick your wife like this. Now we're back in counseling,

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Speaker 1: but I don't think this marriage works for me anymore.

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Speaker 1: Is it okay for my husband to play games with

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Speaker 1: me like this? Who was more at fault? Me or him?

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Speaker 1: I want to get a divorce? Please help now? This

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Speaker 1: right here? This is something right? Yeah? Normally you know,

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Speaker 1: I would definitely suggest counseling and some therapy to help

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Speaker 1: get troubled marriage back on track. But it doesn't seem

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Speaker 1: like your husband got any good from it when he

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Speaker 1: was in it the first time. His deceitful behavior you're

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Speaker 1: only made things worse because you got caught up in it,

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Speaker 1: which turned into lying from you and possibly cheating from

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Speaker 1: you on him. No, I know you didn't cheat, but

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Speaker 1: this was a dangerous game he was playing. Yes, you

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Speaker 1: both were wrong to answer your question, him for setting

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Speaker 1: going this is not normal behavior. You're right about that. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: he owes you an apology too. This is a mess.

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Speaker 1: Like I say, I'm glad you're back in counseling. I

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Speaker 1: don't know. It didn't work the first time. Maybe you

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Speaker 1: guys should have chose I hope you chose a different

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Speaker 1: counselor this time, because it definitely didn't work because that

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Speaker 1: big that are Peo put on you. But um, yeah,

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Speaker 1: you gotta be you can't be doing this Okay. I

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Speaker 1: don't care how good it sounds. You know. Yeah, if

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Speaker 1: you didn't cheat, but you lied and you almost cheated. Okay,

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Speaker 1: So you guys are both at fault and two wrongs

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Speaker 1: definitely don't make a right. Uh you want to get

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Speaker 1: a divorce, that's on you, Steve who. First of all,

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Speaker 1: let me just say this, these two people is sick

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Speaker 1: for quite some time because they've just become so bored

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Speaker 1: with one another. So familiar with one another because they've

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Speaker 1: partake of many things in life. So they just been married.

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Speaker 1: They've had a tough marriage, they've been the counselor several times,

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Speaker 1: and they thought it had worked out well. Your husband

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Speaker 1: it and pretended to be one of her exes that

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Speaker 1: she dated before we got married. Now that's fifteen years ago.

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Speaker 1: Oh they're in the late thirties. Okay, I got it. Now,

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Speaker 1: You got intrigued and you got caught up because you

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Speaker 1: know what you did. You set a date to meet

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Speaker 1: your ex who was really your husband, at a sushi

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Speaker 1: bas for dinner. Lord. The day I was there to

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Speaker 1: I was going to dinner with my girls. I didn't

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Speaker 1: tell him where. Then I pulled up at the sushi

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Speaker 1: called you and explained to me how he set you up.

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Speaker 1: Then he told me to bring my line cheating behind

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Speaker 1: back home. I was embarrassed, and here's why I love you.

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Speaker 1: I was embarrassed and really really upset with him. Girl,

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Speaker 1: you better do it. You better do like men. Do

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Speaker 1: you that scrill you better take? Best defense is a

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Speaker 1: good office. You bet a hair up and be madder

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Speaker 1: because if that ain't a dude move, I ain't never

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Speaker 1: seen one. They called you cheating, but you mad the

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Speaker 1: hell you in my phone fall. All right, Steve, listen,

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Speaker 1: we're coming back. We'll have part two of your response

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Speaker 1: to today's stop. You're gonna find something that's right subject.

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Speaker 1: Neither one of us can be trusted. Boards lady after

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Speaker 1: my heartness matter here and a husband has some trouble,

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Speaker 1: been mad for a while, counseling her husband pretty insecure

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Speaker 1: because obviously she's messed around. If your man is insecure,

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Speaker 1: it's because you've messed around on him, and he's probably

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Speaker 1: messed around on you. That's why both y'all went to counseling,

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Speaker 1: because y'all both in trip. But it's insecurity got the

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Speaker 1: ex boyfriends that you day to be before y'all got married.

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Speaker 1: He started communicating with him, you started communicating back. He

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Speaker 1: was trying to be stern with it. Tellor man. You

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Speaker 1: why after fifteen years this man still wanted you. He

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Speaker 1: ain't even seen you. He don't even know what you

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Speaker 1: can blow it up to be. See, I stopped that.

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Speaker 1: I'm talking about her career. I know, okay, seeing you

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Speaker 1: took it so well, help I took it like you

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Speaker 1: would say it. We're seeing fifteen years. People can blow up.

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Speaker 1: You can become something you've always wanted to be. All

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Speaker 1: you can just can't believe who you've become. Either way,

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Speaker 1: you couldn't believe he contacted you at fifteen years, but

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Speaker 1: you still wasn't interested. You say you had no interest

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Speaker 1: in him like that, But say, then this is way

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Speaker 1: you messed up. You set a date with him. Well,

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Speaker 1: if you weren't interested in what you set to date for,

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Speaker 1: you just wanted to see curiosity killed the cat that

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Speaker 1: you took your kid a cat down to the sushi bar,

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Speaker 1: set a date with your ex who really your husband?

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Speaker 1: You lied to your husband, told him you was gonna

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Speaker 1: have dinner with your girls. You pull up in the

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Speaker 1: park at let your husband call you here and then

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Speaker 1: you know what he said? What hey, let me tell

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Speaker 1: you something, will you who you think I am? You

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Speaker 1: old boy, Well, let me tell you some old boy

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Speaker 1: in me. I set you up. I created an account

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Speaker 1: and act like I was him. Now you bring your

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Speaker 1: you know what you said there I'm talking about huh. Okay,

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Speaker 1: you you bring your trifling Okay, you bring your trifling cheating. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: he ain't seen you in fifteen years. He don't know

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Speaker 1: like I know. Got back in that car. Come on

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Speaker 1: back to this you're sad kind. I'm gonna hurt you.

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna hurt you. Huh, you hurt me? Go on.

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Speaker 1: So then this word got good. She climbed back in

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Speaker 1: Now she embarrassed because she just probably buttons off front

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Speaker 1: ridd I got really upset with him. Now I have

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Speaker 1: admitted that I was wrong, but at the same time,

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Speaker 1: I feel like he owes me a big apology to

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Speaker 1: Are you for real? Hey lady, you gonna apologize to you.

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Speaker 1: You're gonna be waiting a long after time. But he

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Speaker 1: should he tricked her. Ain't nobody in her? You can't

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Speaker 1: get tricked if you ain't tricky. Ye didn't you understand?

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Speaker 1: You can't get tricked if you ain't being tricky? Are

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Speaker 1: you being tricky? That's why you got tricked? If you're

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Speaker 1: stuck to your original slogan, I'm happily mad, I'm not

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Speaker 1: interested in you. You wouldn't have been down at the

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Speaker 1: restaurant sitting up in this car. You're good, Well, you

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Speaker 1: surprised he wanted to see you, But let me show

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Speaker 1: me all of me? Then spikes, okay, yeah that all

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Speaker 1: that just catching hell? He watching her get dressed up? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Where are you going? Baby? I hit the hand? Did

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Speaker 1: Oh my girl? Why are you? Ain't all this spake?

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Speaker 1: Don't ask me about these sitting up in here? And

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Speaker 1: I feel like he on me a big apology too.

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Speaker 1: This is not normal behavior to trick your wife like this.

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Speaker 1: Now we're back in counseling. What is y'all back in

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Speaker 1: counseling for? But I don't think that this marriage works

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Speaker 1: for me anymore. Hell no, because she was going down

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Speaker 1: there to fix it. But old big old Cleaveland's come

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Speaker 1: to a little, a little hook in the game. Little

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Speaker 1: don't nobody want you but me bring your games home?

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Speaker 1: Say that you don't do the hair wale. Nobody won't.

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Speaker 1: I don't know why you done. Ain't trying to ask

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Speaker 1: like you like sushi. You know your ass. I shouldn't

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Speaker 1: have been going down to a sushi restaurant. You don't

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Speaker 1: even like sushi. All we eat over here, fry fish.

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Speaker 1: Now you're dying there with a little man like you

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Speaker 1: eat sushi. You don't need no damn sushi. You eat

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Speaker 1: the rice, eat no damn sushi. I don't think this

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Speaker 1: man's worked for me no more. Hell no husband playing

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Speaker 1: you for canning your ass down? Now me or him?

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Speaker 1: I want to get a divorce, get one. You know

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Speaker 1: y'all need a divorce and both of y'all need and

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Speaker 1: a fail. What y'all needed a divorce and an a fail?

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Speaker 1: You need to get on back down there, but quit

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Speaker 1: going down sushi. Go down there, get you a big

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Speaker 1: ass man. We gotta go, We gotta go. Email, Instagram,

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