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Speaker 4: big news.
Speaker 1: Okay.
Speaker 4: First of all, today is Joe Biden's eighty first birthday
Speaker 4: or yeah, Oughtopoulo Sam Biden's too old and he's like that,
Speaker 4: I'm gonna get even older. There were so many candles
Speaker 4: on his cake, I thought it was another Canadian wildfire.
Speaker 4: But enough about one of the world's oldest leaders, because
Speaker 4: we've got breaking news about one of its newest.
Speaker 5: Argentina is waking up to a new president, one who
Speaker 5: has the stamp of approval from Donald Trump. A massive
Speaker 5: political shakeup in Argentina. How You're Malay, a far right
Speaker 5: economist and television personality, joined the political frages three years ago.
Speaker 5: Now he's in charge of the third largest economy in
Speaker 5: America as it teeters on the edge of disaster. Bala
Speaker 5: rode to power on a wave of popular discontent over
Speaker 5: a stagnating economy with a forty percent poverty rate and
Speaker 5: inflation during one hundred and fifty percent. He became known
Speaker 5: for his unorthodox showmanship during the campaign, wielding a chainsaw
Speaker 5: that symbolizes war on government spending, threatening vital public services.
Speaker 6: Mini avoid a a. I mean, he st aid, we.
Speaker 4: Aforida, hang on evil Austin Powers wants to get rid
Speaker 4: of the environment, women and culture. That's everything you need
Speaker 4: to have a country. But I mean, of course this
Speaker 4: guy got elected. He had a chainsaw. You can't say
Speaker 4: no to somebody holding a chain saw. That's how I
Speaker 4: get my seat on the subway.
Speaker 1: First Trump.
Speaker 4: Now this, how come every time a TV personality gets
Speaker 4: elected they're a psychod paths. Why can't y'all vote for
Speaker 4: someone good like Steve Harvey. Look, the man's got a
Speaker 4: thousand jobs. What's one more side gear? And the guy
Speaker 4: isn't just a normal right wing guy. He's a weird dude.
Speaker 4: He carries a chainsaw around, he cloned his dog. He's
Speaker 4: a tantric sex coach. Why a tantric set coach is
Speaker 4: always ugly. Imagine this human pile of mashed potatoes standing
Speaker 4: naked in front of you, saying, don't yet, like sir,
Speaker 4: I promise you I won't. In fact, I'd like to go.
Speaker 4: But as weird as he is, the inflation in that
Speaker 4: country is insane, So I get it. You'd vote for
Speaker 4: this middle age wherewolf too. If the price of milk
Speaker 4: was the same as a Beyonce ticket at It's worst
Speaker 4: inflation in America with nine percent. In Argentina it's one
Speaker 4: hundred and forty three percent. I mean that's a difference
Speaker 4: of I went to Georgia public school.
Speaker 6: But listen, I know that's not.
Speaker 4: Good, right as a theater marrier, don't ask me math questions, right,
Speaker 4: But I don't know if this is the guy to
Speaker 4: fix their economy, how can he control inflation when he
Speaker 4: can't control his own side burns. I mean, it looks
Speaker 4: like this Argentinian needs a Brazilian. So let's move on
Speaker 4: to some consumer news. This week, We're all going to
Speaker 4: the grocery store to stop up for Thanksgiving Turkey sweet
Speaker 4: potatoes and hopefully canberrys off and I can. Nobody wants
Speaker 4: to eat that fancy shit with real cranberries in it. Ooh,
Speaker 4: but this year when you go to check out, you
Speaker 4: might notice something different, like a real life person.
Speaker 3: And a possible shift in the shopping experience when it
Speaker 3: comes to the self checkout line. In October, the Atlantic
Speaker 3: declared self checkout a failed experiment. Retailers are taking note,
Speaker 3: and some are making big changes. In England, a grocery
Speaker 3: store chain called Booths is now getting rid of all
Speaker 3: self checkout.
Speaker 1: In all of its stores.
Speaker 3: In September, Walmart announced that it will remove the self
Speaker 3: checkout lanes from some stores. Retailers may be motivated here
Speaker 3: by their bottom line. The rate of theft is about
Speaker 3: double in self checkout lanes.
Speaker 1: Thank god, thank god?
Speaker 6: I hate suff checkout?
Speaker 7: Last?
Speaker 4: Why am I doing the work?
Speaker 1: I don't work here?
Speaker 6: What's next?
Speaker 4: They're gonna ask us to slice our own deli meat,
Speaker 4: butcher our own cows, grow our own diet coke? What, sir,
Speaker 4: I'm a businesswoman, not a farmer. And what if you're
Speaker 4: too good at self checkout? They come and make you
Speaker 4: become a manager and you can never leave? And how
Speaker 4: are they gonna give us a hard time for stealing
Speaker 4: when they make it so damn easy? I mean, all
Speaker 4: you do is just press the wrong button, like, oh,
Speaker 4: I'm getting organic cucumbers for regular cucumber prices.
Speaker 6: O silly, silly.
Speaker 4: Mean back in my day, you had to earn it.
Speaker 4: You had to sneak a two liter of fan to
Speaker 4: out the store with your wife, Led James, that's what
Speaker 4: stealer was staling. And every time I have to look
Speaker 4: up produce so one of those things, I feel like
Speaker 4: I'm in a spelling beat, like oh, your word is
Speaker 4: redicio like ridkio r A, I'm stealing this shit.
Speaker 6: I don't want to.
Speaker 4: And finally, let's talk about artificial intelligence. We all know
Speaker 4: AI is coming for our jobs, but we didn't know
Speaker 4: it was coming for our hearts too.
Speaker 8: An AI girlfriend service has stopped working after Forever Voices
Speaker 8: founder John Meyer was arrested on suspicion of attempting to
Speaker 8: set his own apartment on fire. Unsurprisingly, users were angry
Speaker 8: and disappointed at the sudden disappearance of their AI girlfriends.
Speaker 8: While the service was not originally designed to function as
Speaker 8: an adult service, Internet users quickly began having sexual conversations
Speaker 8: with the chatbots, resulting in an AI became increasingly erotic.
Speaker 8: It's unclear whether users can expect the service to return
Speaker 8: to operation in the future.
Speaker 4: Hold up, Hold up, So a bunch of dudes lost
Speaker 4: their AI girlfriends when the owner of the company set
Speaker 4: his own apartment on fire. How can you trust him
Speaker 4: with humanity's newest invention when he can't handle humanity's first invention?
Speaker 4: But this guy gets arrested and suddenly the AI girlfriend
Speaker 4: stops responding. Hmm, that's suspicious, lex it don't stop from
Speaker 4: Jeff Bezos takes a nap.
Speaker 1: Makes me think he.
Speaker 4: Was the girlfriends the whole town, and I feel bad
Speaker 4: for those guys. Having an AI girlfriend has to be
Speaker 4: harder than having a real girlfriend. Being romantic must be
Speaker 4: a challenge. You try to take a sexy bubble bath
Speaker 4: with your laptop and now you're both dead. Or how
Speaker 4: do you even get her in the mood? Whenever she
Speaker 4: gets wet, you have to put her in rice.
Speaker 6: Y'all nasty?
Speaker 1: See you're nasty, dude?
Speaker 4: All right? For more analysis on this AI girlfriend tragedy,
Speaker 4: let's go last Runnie Jay. What all those lonely guys
Speaker 4: gonna do without that AI girlfriend?
Speaker 2: Easy?
Speaker 9: Don't say we can solve two problems at once. Here Okay,
Speaker 9: you just take those lonely guys and hire them to
Speaker 9: be the checkout cashiers. Right. That way, we all get
Speaker 9: better service, and these guys will have plenty of chances
Speaker 9: to meet women because, as we all know, women be shopping.
Speaker 4: That's an offensive stereotype running everyone be shopping. And even
Speaker 4: if these men meet a woman, they still don't know
Speaker 4: how to talk to one. That's why they need these
Speaker 4: computer bitches in the first place.
Speaker 9: Okay, look, if these guys love AI women so much,
Speaker 9: in that case, they can just date the self checked
Speaker 9: out machine. All right. Look, the machines already have female voices, right, like,
Speaker 9: who doesn't want to spend a cold winter's night cuddled
Speaker 9: up hearing someone whisper? Please return your items to the
Speaker 9: bagging area.
Speaker 4: I just think we got to do something to fast
Speaker 4: track AI girlfriends to these lonely sexist men before they
Speaker 4: start on the capitol again.
Speaker 9: Yeah, that's fair, But what you have to understand is
Speaker 9: it's very complicated to program an AI girlfriend, okay, because
Speaker 9: men are too demanding and insecure. Like the AI girlfriend
Speaker 9: has to be smart, but not too smart. It has
Speaker 9: to know everything about Star Wars but still listen to
Speaker 9: the guy explained Star Wars. It has to be like
Speaker 9: a dirty slot but also a virgin like in programming.
Speaker 9: We call this the in cell paradox.
Speaker 1: All right.
Speaker 9: Now, scientists are working hard to solve it, but unfortunately
Speaker 9: they are also a bunch of loser in cells. And
Speaker 9: this is why we need more women in stem. Okay,
Speaker 9: because somebody, please, somebody please these guys.
Speaker 6: All right, I agree those guys.
Speaker 4: I never realized being an AI girlfriend was so complicated.
Speaker 9: Yes, but the good news is an AI boyfriend is
Speaker 9: very doable, all right. In fact, I already have my
Speaker 9: own AI boyfriend's startup. We have hundreds of clients. It's
Speaker 9: very successful. I'm a rich man.
Speaker 4: I didn't know you knew how to program AI software.
Speaker 9: Oh yeah, yeah, it was easy. No matter what the
Speaker 9: girlfriend says, the AI boyfriend just responds with three things.
Speaker 9: You're right, I'm sorry, and you're right to be mad, Ronnie.
Speaker 4: The idea that a woman only needs to hear three
Speaker 4: things is ridiculous.
Speaker 9: You're right, I'm sorry, and you're right to be mad.
Speaker 9: You day.
Speaker 3: Take the good job.
Speaker 4: Period, so don't go. Welcome back in the Daily Show.
Speaker 4: Since the beginning of time, women have had periods and
Speaker 4: men have not understood just how bad they are. But
Speaker 4: recently a company developed a machine that simulates period cramps
Speaker 4: and better believe. The first thing I did was hook
Speaker 4: it up to some men.
Speaker 1: Ready I haven't even thirty yet.
Speaker 5: All right, I feel like this, like standing like this
Speaker 5: helps stand down for a thing.
Speaker 1: Oh, y'all didn't know that.
Speaker 6: Do you think you would do work right now?
Speaker 10: No?
Speaker 9: I don't.
Speaker 4: It's just that sick.
Speaker 9: This is like just like part of the day.
Speaker 6: This is all day in swing.
Speaker 7: Now.
Speaker 4: Imagine you're nauseous, but you're hungry, and now your head hurts,
Speaker 4: but your hurts and you're full.
Speaker 3: I can't even hear what you're saying.
Speaker 1: I think you can go to work with that? Yeah
Speaker 1: maybe maybe you just cough. I can get through it.
Speaker 6: So you feel like you could do this all day
Speaker 6: like it's not that bad?
Speaker 2: All right?
Speaker 11: Well how about you do this all day, this period
Speaker 11: all day?
Speaker 6: Oh? Oh you good? Yeah? Yeah, it's good?
Speaker 7: Oh god?
Speaker 11: What twice as their?
Speaker 12: Josh, that's the job job?
Speaker 6: Where did you go? Josh? So, Josh, what's wrong?
Speaker 1: Listen?
Speaker 4: It's the end of the day, friend, and I just
Speaker 4: want to tell you congratulations.
Speaker 6: You made the whole day on your period.
Speaker 4: So I'm gonna give you the same prize.
Speaker 6: Women get well amot something? What is it? More work?
Speaker 12: But you you thought we got something else. No, welcome
Speaker 12: to the woman, hud bir. How long you get some
Speaker 12: raspberry leak tea? There's some hobby profen, I hear it.
Speaker 7: Wont there's one, two, there's four, there's six eights. Okay,
Speaker 7: this is ten.
Speaker 13: Stupid.
Speaker 6: Let me come back back.
Speaker 10: To Harrison will be joining me on the show, so
Speaker 10: bo all it. Welcome back to the Daily Show.
Speaker 4: My guest tonight is an award winning bestselling author and
Speaker 4: illustrator whose picture book is called Big Please welcome Dashy Harrison.
Speaker 6: Trying to sit there.
Speaker 4: Okay, hi, Hi, thank you for coming. Thanks for having
Speaker 4: me when it's steal your jacket. First of all, I
Speaker 4: love this book.
Speaker 7: I love, love love this book.
Speaker 4: Oh okay, cry. The illustration for this book are beautiful
Speaker 4: and I was looking through it it made They're very
Speaker 4: emotive and it actually made me think of looking at
Speaker 4: a memory. I think it's the best way to look
Speaker 4: at it because like in the book, there's no I
Speaker 4: like an illustration that there's on like lines like usually
Speaker 4: when you see like a cartoon or an illustration, it's like, oh,
Speaker 4: this is a drawing, right, And I think the idea
Speaker 4: that it gave me was like always looking back. And
Speaker 4: so when you're doing a book like this, like what
Speaker 4: comes first? The drawings are the text.
Speaker 13: For me, it happens at the same time. But drawing
Speaker 13: is always where I get my ideas. But what you're
Speaker 13: picking up on is something that I absolutely put into
Speaker 13: the book. I wanted it to feel soft, wanted it
Speaker 13: to feel really internal. So I hope that that comes
Speaker 13: through for everybody.
Speaker 1: That's exactly what I thought.
Speaker 4: Because we're like, well, it's beautiful, and I was like, no,
Speaker 4: this looks like because it's like the like, this is
Speaker 4: the first book that you've written and illustrated, And was
Speaker 4: it scary to do both of those?
Speaker 1: Yeah?
Speaker 13: Absolutely. So I've written nonfiction before, and so I can
Speaker 13: feel really excited and proud to share the stories of
Speaker 13: other people, especially incredible people from history.
Speaker 2: But to share.
Speaker 13: Something about my life that came from, you know, something
Speaker 13: really internal and to put that all on the page
Speaker 13: is terrifying. It's scary to write things and share them
Speaker 13: with people, but that's the process of making art.
Speaker 4: Don't want a stand up comment, so it's like, oh,
Speaker 4: I hope these words I say people like them, cause
Speaker 4: it's like as a comic, the first time you go
Speaker 4: on stage with the joke, it's like for information, like
Speaker 4: I need to know if this is funny or not.
Speaker 1: And then every time you do the.
Speaker 4: Joke it's for confirmation, so like, I know the joke
Speaker 4: is funny, I just need you to catch up to
Speaker 4: where I am.
Speaker 1: Like, I know I'm doing But.
Speaker 4: The first of the couple of times you're like, hey man,
Speaker 4: I don't know if I said these words right. I
Speaker 4: don't know if they're gonna like the words in this order,
Speaker 4: and then you got to figure out and sometimes it's
Speaker 4: like it.
Speaker 7: Just don't work.
Speaker 11: Yeah.
Speaker 13: Doing events for kids is the sort of like the
Speaker 13: same thing. I feel like I'm doing stand up waiting
Speaker 13: for their jokes, waiting for them to connect with the story,
Speaker 13: and if they don't like it, then I haven't done
Speaker 13: my job correctly.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, I used to do kids' birthday parties. I've
Speaker 1: had a lot of jobs.
Speaker 4: Every time I'm in the office, they're like, you used
Speaker 4: the work where I'm like, hey, man, don't worry about that.
Speaker 1: You asked them too many questions.
Speaker 4: But making stuff for kids is hard because you have
Speaker 4: to keep their attention and you have to keep their focus.
Speaker 4: So obviously the title big connotes like a physical size,
Speaker 4: but in the book, big means that and like a
Speaker 4: lot more. So can you talk about what the bigness
Speaker 4: means here?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 13: I was thinking a lot about how we as adults
Speaker 13: use words with children. When kids are young, we use
Speaker 13: big as a word of affirmation. We say you're such
Speaker 13: a big girl, you're a big girl now, and that's
Speaker 13: a good thing. But typically with girls and all children,
Speaker 13: changes meaning and I wanted to trace how that word
Speaker 13: can go from a word of affirmation into something different
Speaker 13: for a child's life.
Speaker 4: Oh yeah, because I remember being a big girl and
Speaker 4: being a big girl. Yeah, and when that day happens,
Speaker 4: I think you're like, I don't know, eleven, and then
Speaker 4: it's like, oh.
Speaker 13: You're such a big girl, Like oh, she's a big,
Speaker 13: big girl, right, and you remember that?
Speaker 6: Yeah?
Speaker 4: Because like that Why it was so interesting to me,
Speaker 4: because like this is in my autobiographical right, So the
Speaker 4: main character gets stuck in like a baby swing and
Speaker 4: y'all have seen the baby swing at a swing set,
Speaker 4: and you know, thought like I shouldn't get in this thing,
Speaker 4: but you did try, like we all tried. So is
Speaker 4: this something that actually happened to you, like getting stuck
Speaker 4: in that swing?
Speaker 13: Yes, So the girl in the book is not me.
Speaker 13: She doesn't have a name, but the experience of getting
Speaker 13: stuck in the swing was real, and it happened to me,
Speaker 13: and I I remember it. I remember the fear and
Speaker 13: the anxiety and the shame that I felt as a
Speaker 13: young child, and I wanted to kind of make a
Speaker 13: book that acknowledged that those feelings are big and sometimes
Speaker 13: can trap us in and box us in, and express
Speaker 13: how those feelings can be really overwhelming for a young person.
Speaker 4: So why doesn't she have a name? Because I was
Speaker 4: reading the book because this is a page turner, even
Speaker 4: at my big age.
Speaker 1: Why doesn't she have a name?
Speaker 13: Well, I didn't want her story to be mine. I
Speaker 13: wanted many people to be able to look at the
Speaker 13: girl in this book and maybe connect with her, feel
Speaker 13: empathy for her, and thusly feel compassion for her experience.
Speaker 13: But when I started writing it, I really wanted it
Speaker 13: to be a wordless book. Right now, there's only a
Speaker 13: handful of book words in the book, but you know
Speaker 13: it would have been great to just tell everything through
Speaker 13: the pictures.
Speaker 4: Yeah, because I was like looking at it and I
Speaker 4: think because it looks like a memory, and it's a
Speaker 4: little girl that looks like me, and because she didn't
Speaker 4: have a name, I was like, oh, I remember being
Speaker 4: on the swing set and being so afraid to try
Speaker 4: to get in it and try to get in that
Speaker 4: baby swing. No mind you we've all seen the baby swing,
Speaker 4: and if you're not a baby, you really have no
Speaker 4: business trying to get in this baby But I would
Speaker 4: see other girls get into it, and I'm just like, oh,
Speaker 4: where is the rest of her legs?
Speaker 6: Why are her legs?
Speaker 4: She's nine, Why are her legs only as big as
Speaker 4: a toddler? Like, we shouldn't be upset that I'm so big.
Speaker 4: Why she's so small? Somebody called somebody because I feel
Speaker 4: like she needs help at home. But that was my
Speaker 4: way of like processing the fact that this nine year
Speaker 4: old girl could fit in no baby swing and I couldn't.
Speaker 4: Because I love the use of the color pink in
Speaker 4: the book. Is that where you add in like the
Speaker 4: softness or was it because it was a classic like
Speaker 4: girl color? And she's a dancer like, what was the
Speaker 4: choice to use the color?
Speaker 13: There were a couple of different reasons. The main character
Speaker 13: is a dancer. She loves ballet. Typically when I work
Speaker 13: on a book, I usually assign a color to a
Speaker 13: character and try to use that to build a palette.
Speaker 13: And specifically in this book, we're in her world, so
Speaker 13: everything is that color of pink. I wanted it to
Speaker 13: be a symbol for sweetness and innocence, but also in
Speaker 13: color psychology, pink is associated with gentle love and care,
Speaker 13: and that's everything that I want for this girl.
Speaker 4: So you were trying to give her the moment because
Speaker 4: I think a lot of times, as like girls, especially
Speaker 4: black girls, were given womanhood much older than we should be, right,
Speaker 4: And because I think for me, I got womanhood much
Speaker 4: older than I should because I was well, let's just
Speaker 4: say when I was nine years old, I had like seas, right,
Speaker 4: So the first time I hit a man hit on me,
Speaker 4: I was nine, but but id big boobs, and I
Speaker 4: was wearing a suit, so because I couldn't wear little
Speaker 4: girl clothes because they didn't make little girl clothes in
Speaker 4: women's sizes, So I was looking at size nine shoes
Speaker 4: in a suit, and this man comes in and it's like,
Speaker 4: what's your name? And I had to turn around and go,
Speaker 4: I'm nine, and he was like.
Speaker 1: No, what are your name? And my mother went what
Speaker 1: the hell?
Speaker 4: And he ran out of a Miami playlist and so
Speaker 4: without going at first why does she look like this?
Speaker 4: And then he ran outside. But it was like when
Speaker 4: you're built like a because I was also like four,
Speaker 4: I was five feet tall. So when you look like
Speaker 4: a tiny woman or you're the size of a whole woman,
Speaker 4: but you're nine, everyone's like, well, you should have all
Speaker 4: these responsibilities.
Speaker 7: And it's like, but I.
Speaker 4: Got dolls for Christmas, so I'm not a double digit
Speaker 4: age but everyone's like, you get all this responsibility. And
Speaker 4: I think it's like, that's why I like looking at this,
Speaker 4: because I was like, Oh, this is.
Speaker 1: The girls should it have because we should get to
Speaker 1: be little. So I think I'm gonna ask you the
Speaker 1: next question.
Speaker 13: I do want to touch on that. Hi, I want
Speaker 13: to talk about it. I want to talk about that
Speaker 13: because one of the main reasons I wanted to write
Speaker 13: this story was to touch on this subject of adultification bias,
Speaker 13: the adultification of black girls.
Speaker 1: Early in my.
Speaker 13: Career, I had read the study that came from the
Speaker 13: Georgetown Law Center on Poverty and Inequality called Girl Had
Speaker 13: Interrupted that talked about the specific bias that many adults
Speaker 13: have on black girls. It found that adults viewed black
Speaker 13: girls as young as the age of five as less
Speaker 13: innocent and more adult than their white counterparts, and this
Speaker 13: results in young girls receiving less care and less nurturing.
Speaker 13: Different things factor into it, including a child's height, age,
Speaker 13: skin color, body size, and weight. And I just wanted
Speaker 13: to reclaim space for children to grow, for their bodies
Speaker 13: to look different, to offer them the innocence and gentleness
Speaker 13: and care that they deserve for as long as they
Speaker 13: need it.
Speaker 4: Yeah, because then you find out like black girls get
Speaker 4: out of all like girls in school, they get suspended
Speaker 4: as a higher rate, exactly as if like they're doing
Speaker 4: more wrong, but like black children and brown children get
Speaker 4: suspended at a higher rate because it's like I don't
Speaker 4: I mean, I don't know if we're throwing hands better
Speaker 4: than white girls. But it's very interesting because it's like
Speaker 4: you use the words like creative and compassionate and kind
Speaker 4: to describe these you know, to describe her character, and
Speaker 4: it's like I think a lot of times like a
Speaker 4: young girl. If you're allowed to even be little, you know,
Speaker 4: you get like a lot of cute or pretty.
Speaker 1: Like.
Speaker 4: Do you think it affected girls to hear different words
Speaker 4: like compassionate and kind, like giving words that are more
Speaker 4: described like descriptors of person just adjectives of personality as
Speaker 4: opposed to like appearance.
Speaker 9: Yeah.
Speaker 13: I think I just want for all kids to be
Speaker 13: able to define who they are. Adults will make mistakes,
Speaker 13: they will say things words that you know, we don't
Speaker 13: know what's going to stick with kids. But I wanted
Speaker 13: to clarify for this girl and for any kid that
Speaker 13: reads this book that you get to choose what's important
Speaker 13: and real for you, and you don't have to hold
Speaker 13: on to anything that doesn't define you. You get to
Speaker 13: decide that for yourself.
Speaker 4: There's one page in here, and I want to know,
Speaker 4: can I show the page in the book that she.
Speaker 1: Goes through.
Speaker 4: And I'm not going to spoil it for people, because
Speaker 4: you have to see her grow and grow and the
Speaker 4: changes that she goes to. But there's one page almost
Speaker 4: there that I and I think you know exactly the
Speaker 4: page I'm talking about, where me and our makeup artist
Speaker 4: Enid was literally crying the makeup room. I don't know
Speaker 4: if you know how crying in the makeup room works,
Speaker 4: but it's basically you just tilt your head back and.
Speaker 6: You catch your tears.
Speaker 1: Because Enid is an amazing makeup artist.
Speaker 4: But it's just like, there's souls on my face now.
Speaker 4: So but the thing that we were just like that
Speaker 4: made her stop and made me stop. Where the little
Speaker 4: girl goes to the adults, these are.
Speaker 13: Yours, these are yours. They hurt me.
Speaker 4: And so she's holding words and she said, these are yours,
Speaker 4: they're hurting.
Speaker 1: And so.
Speaker 4: I think, like that's when I was looking at this,
Speaker 4: I was like, this is a book for children, because
Speaker 4: there are a lot of people that make a lot
Speaker 4: of money, my therapist included, who make a lot of
Speaker 4: money trying to show adults how to love and care
Speaker 4: for themselves. And I'm just is there like a grown
Speaker 4: up version of this book?
Speaker 1: Can we call it? Like still big?
Speaker 13: Like can we.
Speaker 6: How do we.
Speaker 4: Just a little bit at the time? And then there's
Speaker 4: just a bad bitch at the bottom, Like that's all
Speaker 4: I'm saying, Just still big, bad bitch at the bottoms.
Speaker 4: You might be modeled on me, making us diy and
Speaker 4: I know who you want to choose, but you know,
Speaker 4: just still big.
Speaker 1: I think that that could be some grown ups may
Speaker 1: also need help with this.
Speaker 13: So thank you for that for everybody.
Speaker 4: So I have to stop.
Speaker 13: Anybody here, you drop that for me find something for themselves.
Speaker 4: And I think this gonna be good if you have
Speaker 4: anybody who's working on their self esteem. This, I think
Speaker 4: this is something that everybody can resonate with, because there's
Speaker 4: a lot of times where just words of just because
Speaker 4: they always take you just like sticks and stones to break
Speaker 4: your bones with words, and I'm like, I can get
Speaker 4: over a bruise, but like I learned with my ex
Speaker 4: emotional scars and over here, don't learn from me, don't.
Speaker 1: Listen to me.
Speaker 4: I'm not helpful a lot of the time. But I
Speaker 4: think that is the main thing. We have to stop
Speaker 4: telling that lie because I think we say that to
Speaker 4: children for them to be able to make this defense mechanism,
Speaker 4: because like you don't remember, like if you remember every
Speaker 4: time you saw off a bike, you wouldn't get back
Speaker 4: on a bike, but you remember, like you don't remember
Speaker 4: what someone said, but you remember how they made you
Speaker 4: feel for sure, And so because of the words can
Speaker 4: make you feel a certain way. Even you forget what
Speaker 4: they said, your body still remembers.
Speaker 13: Yeah, and that's why I think I wanted to show
Speaker 13: the scene in the book where the words are stuck
Speaker 13: to the girl. It doesn't happen immediately, it happens, you know,
Speaker 13: over time, and again, like you just don't know what
Speaker 13: is going to stick with kids, You can't guarantee that
Speaker 13: things won't stick to you, but you know, over time
Speaker 13: you can separate out what's good for you.
Speaker 1: And what isn't.
Speaker 13: I think the page after the age you pointed out
Speaker 13: is the one that always gets me, which is she
Speaker 13: hands back the words and says, these are yours. They
Speaker 13: hurt me. And on the next page some of the
Speaker 13: people say, well, not everyone understood or even listened, And
Speaker 13: some of the people say it's not that.
Speaker 7: Serious, it's just a joke.
Speaker 13: You're too sensitive. That's the thing that still still gets me,
Speaker 13: because I am still that girl who was told that
Speaker 13: I'm too sensitive for listening to the words that people
Speaker 13: said to me, for letting them them resonate, and for
Speaker 13: feeling them. Oh yeah, but that's so real, and kids
Speaker 13: need often the space and the time to to manage
Speaker 13: those things.
Speaker 7: Well, You're absolutely right.
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