Speaker 1: Wind Down with Jana Kramer and Michael Cosson and iHeart
Speaker 1: Radio Podcast.
Speaker 2: I still don't think that it just really it really
Speaker 2: still doesn't sound extra like rift in there.
Speaker 3: That just doesn't doesn't seem right.
Speaker 4: Did I play the wrong one?
Speaker 5: I don't know.
Speaker 2: It's just still just an't.
Speaker 5: I don't know.
Speaker 2: I feel like maybe, oh, you know what would be
Speaker 2: really cool is if we had a contest and someone
Speaker 2: could send in how cool would that be? Like a
Speaker 2: new jingle for us?
Speaker 3: Wow, I don't like that to.
Speaker 2: Have both of our names and saying iHeartRadio Podcast. It's
Speaker 2: like a cool some guitar solo part for Mike.
Speaker 3: And then Tory could just redo the voicing, right.
Speaker 2: What do you mean read the voicing?
Speaker 3: Because she she does the voice on this, doesn't she?
Speaker 3: Then Alison can she can?
Speaker 5: Wife?
Speaker 3: Doesn't you can still record her voice for that whatever
Speaker 3: the person sends in, I mean, yeah, unless it sounds great.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's like the audition tape for the middle, because
Speaker 2: you know how many people went out for that song, right,
Speaker 2: hundreds hundreds. I was a little offended. I didn't get asked,
Speaker 2: but it's fine, just totally kidding. So I am very
Speaker 2: intrigued by our guests. Today we have I don't want
Speaker 2: to pronounce her name wrong, but it's soon. He soon,
Speaker 2: He and Angelica. There's a new show on TLC called Smothered. Basically,
Speaker 2: Sonny is obsessed with her daughter Angelica and she doesn't
Speaker 2: think any man is good enough for her. Angelica and
Speaker 2: Sunny actually sleep in the same bed and share the
Speaker 2: same bathwater.
Speaker 3: Interesting.
Speaker 2: I'm not judging at all. I'm just very curious to
Speaker 2: understand kind of their thought process with with that lifestyle
Speaker 2: and how it's working for them. And you know, does Angelica.
Speaker 2: I think she has a boyfriend, So yes, it'd.
Speaker 3: Be interesting to see what you know soon he the mom,
Speaker 3: what her like backstory is on what kind of caused
Speaker 3: her to create this kind of environment? Right? You know
Speaker 3: what I mean? Like was she raised that way?
Speaker 2: How would how would you feel if like I was
Speaker 2: doing that with Jolie And I'm older in my fifties
Speaker 2: and Jolie was in her or my forties.
Speaker 3: I wouldn't let you, But.
Speaker 2: Why does it have to be to let you thing?
Speaker 2: I would I'm not saying I would do that, but.
Speaker 3: Yeah, because it's it.
Speaker 2: Kind of sounded like I will not allow you to
Speaker 2: do that.
Speaker 3: Well, just like if I did something that you didn't
Speaker 3: agree with, you'd be like, no, you're not doing that.
Speaker 2: No, I totally get what you're saying. I just it's
Speaker 2: something where I just don't wonder. I guess I don't
Speaker 2: understand it, but I don't want to judge it, because
Speaker 2: if that works for them. But at the same time,
Speaker 2: you know, for me, I want to raise a very
Speaker 2: independent girl and son. So I feel like I would
Speaker 2: be holding my daughter back if I was doing things.
Speaker 3: Like that, right for sure. And I'm not saying I
Speaker 3: wouldn't let you from a dominant male point of view,
Speaker 3: I'm saying when it comes to parenting, that's obviously one
Speaker 3: of the things that when you have a couple ship
Speaker 3: with somebody and just hade to have kids, that you
Speaker 3: guys have to talk about. And when you guys disagree
Speaker 3: on something as extreme as maybe something like that, how
Speaker 3: you raise your children, the other person, if they're against it,
Speaker 3: they're not gonna be like, well, I can kind of
Speaker 3: understand that, right, No, you're not doing that, Yeah, you
Speaker 3: mean whatever. It is.
Speaker 2: The mother daughter relationship though interesting because I know, like
Speaker 2: from my mom when she moved out to LA with me.
Speaker 2: It's one of those things where you have to be
Speaker 2: careful of the boundary of friendship and being a parent too,
Speaker 2: and reversing the roles, And I think that's, you know,
Speaker 2: can be very tricky because sometimes if you're reversing the
Speaker 2: role and the daughter feels more like the parent and
Speaker 2: the parents are more like the child, it's really kind
Speaker 2: of psychologically sets you not back. But it's just it's
Speaker 2: a harder dynamic to follow when you're switching roles with
Speaker 2: the parent, and I don't feel like those roles should
Speaker 2: go that way. Yeah, I mean, I think there is
Speaker 2: times when yes does a parent. At times a parent
Speaker 2: may need that support from their older child. I do
Speaker 2: get that if we're in a hard having a hard time,
Speaker 2: or if you're going through a divorce or something, I
Speaker 2: still think you should. So I'm not saying you have
Speaker 2: to button it up always, but to have that role reversal,
Speaker 2: I think could be really tough. Well, you have a
Speaker 2: lot of responsibility to You're putting in yourself, like I
Speaker 2: have to take care of my.
Speaker 3: Mom right, which I think is a natural thing later
Speaker 3: on in life where you know, like our parents, our
Speaker 3: grandparents are getting to the age where they need to
Speaker 3: be taken care of, and it's our parents that are
Speaker 3: starting to take care of them. So it's one of
Speaker 3: those things where it's like it comes full you know,
Speaker 3: it's a cycle, it comes full circle at the end
Speaker 3: where you know, the child becomes to the parent at
Speaker 3: the end and taking care of the grandparent.
Speaker 2: So sidebar, would you let your parents live with you
Speaker 2: when they get older?
Speaker 3: It depends. It would really depend.
Speaker 2: Or would you put them in a home?
Speaker 3: Oh? Man, it would really depend. It would depend on
Speaker 3: where we're at. It would depend on what you know,
Speaker 3: what age the kids are at. It would depend on
Speaker 3: the financial you know, financial finances around it, because those
Speaker 3: homes are expansive, you know, so not saying that we'd
Speaker 3: have to pay for it, but still it's expensive. I
Speaker 3: don't know.
Speaker 2: Well I remember you saying that you wouldn't you don't
Speaker 2: want another kids because you're like, hey, I want like
Speaker 2: the house to ourselves. Well, then our kids are gone,
Speaker 2: but then we're basically bringing in a younger you know.
Speaker 3: Parents are going to have to move in when the kids.
Speaker 2: Are you know, who knows if they get sick or
Speaker 2: if they when they get old. If we're having to
Speaker 2: have them move in with us.
Speaker 3: My thing is just knowing me though, because anytime that
Speaker 3: you know my parents, we've both through my life, I've
Speaker 3: had both sets of grandparents live with us at some point.
Speaker 2: So I like my space too much.
Speaker 3: Not trying to be like, no, I do too, but
Speaker 3: I'm saying it's it's because that's what I've witnessed. I've
Speaker 3: witnessed my grandparents us living back at my grandparents house,
Speaker 3: through transitional times I've experienced where we've had my grandmother
Speaker 3: live with us, where my grandfather has lived with us,
Speaker 3: and now my grandfather lives permanently with my parents, And
Speaker 3: so it's one of those things I'm exposed to that
Speaker 3: that's the norm for me. So for me, my first
Speaker 3: initial instinct would be like, hey, yeah, you guys are
Speaker 3: sick or you guys need help, yet come live with us.
Speaker 2: I mean, of course I wouldn't say no, you know,
Speaker 2: go down the road to Sunset, you know, retirement home.
Speaker 2: But I mean it's like I lived with my mom
Speaker 2: right after when I moved to LA, Like she lived
Speaker 2: with me for a couple of years. I mean, shoot,
Speaker 2: we all lived together, us three live together. So I
Speaker 2: feel like.
Speaker 3: And apparently I kicked Nora out.
Speaker 2: Yeah, because she didn't like but all as well now,
Speaker 2: but you know, it's just one of those things where
Speaker 2: again if she was sick, and of course I would,
Speaker 2: but my first instinct is I would rather not, just
Speaker 2: because I do like to be able to have our
Speaker 2: own space, and I get so nitpicky with pushing the
Speaker 2: chairs in and if they're not pushing chairs in or
Speaker 2: putting this the dishes away, like even when our family
Speaker 2: comes to visit. It's those things that when someone's in
Speaker 2: your space it becomes frustrating.
Speaker 3: We have less tolerance if it's one of us that
Speaker 3: leaves something somewhere, like even us, like we'll have more
Speaker 3: tolerance with each other's like okay, they know I don't
Speaker 3: like when the dishes in sync, but okay, like we
Speaker 3: give each other pass if it's something right every now
Speaker 3: and then.
Speaker 2: I mean, mine's a total double standard because the second,
Speaker 2: you know, if you die before me, and then I'm
Speaker 2: left like I'm moving into Jason's house, I don't care
Speaker 2: what the wife says, like I am moving in Jolie.
Speaker 2: I don't want to live with her, but Jace, like,
Speaker 2: I'm moving in with your wife. So I'm going to
Speaker 2: play you this when Jace, you know, Mary is the
Speaker 2: love of his life, but I will be living with
Speaker 2: you and you have no choice.
Speaker 5: Thank you.
Speaker 1: I also like the dynamic there when Mike Mike said
Speaker 1: I wouldn't let you, and you were like excuse me.
Speaker 2: Now.
Speaker 1: That's a very common thing I think in marriages where
Speaker 1: the dad can be like, hey, I'm going to go
Speaker 1: do this with the kids and the wife says, oh, no,
Speaker 1: you're not right. But if he switched it around, the
Speaker 1: wife's like, how dare you tell me how to raise.
Speaker 3: I'm a grown woman. You cannot tell me. The man
Speaker 3: will not tell me what I can.
Speaker 2: Or cannot do quality baby.
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah exactly. Then you guys say, no, you're not
Speaker 3: doing that. Okay, Okay, you got.
Speaker 2: The problem is it's just there's two different things. So
Speaker 2: what I'm doing would be taking the kids to this
Speaker 2: above all trampoline park and Mike's like, hey, let's go
Speaker 2: RaSE four wheelers with the kids, and I'm like, they're three,
Speaker 2: so there's a household present.
Speaker 3: Is there a four wheeler out in the garage?
Speaker 5: I don't know about.
Speaker 3: I mean, I love this hypothetical.
Speaker 2: Reality, like that's like what the guy would like something
Speaker 2: crazy like that, where it's like something for example, my
Speaker 2: my no a.
Speaker 5: Four wheeler for a three year old.
Speaker 2: So for example, my.
Speaker 3: I'm sorry that you want to take the kids to
Speaker 3: color me mine?
Speaker 5: Do you want to go?
Speaker 2: Oh my gosh above all extreme sports is so great
Speaker 2: big Champlaine Park. No, I mean you're like, let's go,
Speaker 2: let's go bungee jumping, you know, off off of a cliff.
Speaker 3: I'd like experiences.
Speaker 2: So but my dad, for example, he took my brother
Speaker 2: when he was I think nine years old, because I
Speaker 2: remember him coming back and it was the most dangerous
Speaker 2: hill you could possibly even imagine, and they went bike
Speaker 2: riding down and my brother falls off his bike and
Speaker 2: completely destroys his face. I mean he comes back bleeding
Speaker 2: and just like blood. Everyone is like his skin basically
Speaker 2: is ripped off his face. And my mom was like,
Speaker 2: where did you take him? And Martin's like, well, like
Speaker 2: snow road And my mom was just like, you're an idiot,
Speaker 2: like why would you do that? But I'm like that's
Speaker 2: where I think it's the guy perspective versus like the
Speaker 2: girl or the wife was like what's safe and what's
Speaker 2: not safe? But my brother had so much fun, right, I.
Speaker 1: Think that's an over exaggeration, but yes, but that is
Speaker 1: the worst when she says, you know, maybe not, that's
Speaker 1: really dangerous, you know it anyway, and they get hurt.
Speaker 4: Oh that's the worst. The seeah, I told you, So
Speaker 4: when you get thrust into that situation, Uh, the worst.
Speaker 2: All right, guys, I really want to talk to our guests,
Speaker 2: So let's take a quick break and then we'll get
Speaker 2: them on there.
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Speaker 6: Son Hey, son Hey, we have Sony.
Speaker 2: And Angelica from Smothered.
Speaker 7: Welcome ladies, Hello, thank you, thank you for having us.
Speaker 2: So I just I kind of just want the backstory
Speaker 2: from you guys first, because I've read a few things,
Speaker 2: but I want to hear it from you guys, and
Speaker 2: I want our listeners to to kind of understand. Can
Speaker 2: we start with Sonny.
Speaker 6: About the relationship.
Speaker 2: Yeah, about just kind of your upbringing, then your relationship
Speaker 2: with your daughter.
Speaker 8: My relationship with Angelica has been more than just a
Speaker 8: mother daughter relationship. It's been more of a companionship and
Speaker 8: she's been the sunshine in my life. So we have
Speaker 8: healthy boundaries and a very respectful, loving relationship.
Speaker 7: She didn't have a good relationship with her mother, and
Speaker 7: so she's just built our relationship throughout the years. And
Speaker 7: ever since I was young, I just could always remember
Speaker 7: my mom was always there.
Speaker 3: That's awesome. And so for the son here is that's
Speaker 3: something where just because you didn't have that relationship that
Speaker 3: maybe you always wanted, where you're just just overcompensating. It's
Speaker 3: just like I'm going to give Angelica everything I got.
Speaker 6: Yes, that is perfectly sad.
Speaker 2: So what what makes you feel that you're why why
Speaker 2: do people say that you smother them if you have
Speaker 2: healthy boundaries.
Speaker 8: Because they only are going by what they see. They
Speaker 8: don't know really the the.
Speaker 2: Whole detail of what do they see.
Speaker 6: They see that I smother her, they see, So.
Speaker 2: Which way is do you do people see that?
Speaker 6: I think in.
Speaker 8: Ways of controlling the relationships that she has. But it's
Speaker 8: really not that I'm controlling. It's more like I'm looking
Speaker 8: out for her. I'm being protective and what mother wit
Speaker 8: and in the situation that she's in.
Speaker 6: Right, So.
Speaker 7: I'm thirty one, Oh no, I just turned thirty two.
Speaker 3: That's right, congrau.
Speaker 6: And oh thank you. Hey.
Speaker 2: Is it true that you have a boyfriend but you
Speaker 2: won't let the boyfriend move in or you want to
Speaker 2: move out? What is it you want to move in
Speaker 2: or outer?
Speaker 7: So I do have a boyfriend and we've been together
Speaker 7: for about two years. He has asked me to move in,
Speaker 7: but I do want to bring my mother along as well. Interesting,
Speaker 7: that'd be perfect.
Speaker 2: For us, you know, because you want her living at
Speaker 2: the house. I do because you want her to, or
Speaker 2: because she wants.
Speaker 7: To, I want her to live there. I mean, our perfect,
Speaker 7: our perfect living situation. We would be my boyfriend and
Speaker 7: myself and her fiance and my mom just all in
Speaker 7: one household for sure.
Speaker 3: And how does the boyfriend feel about this right now?
Speaker 7: I mean, I think he's fine.
Speaker 6: He has to be.
Speaker 3: He doesn't have a choice, So.
Speaker 7: I mean, I'm not forcing him to do anything.
Speaker 8: So as if he did understand a relationship, wouldn't I
Speaker 8: wouldn't be with him exactly with him?
Speaker 3: So he So you're saying like, if you guys, you've
Speaker 3: already been together for two whole years, so he obviously
Speaker 3: understands y'all's relationship to an extent. At least for right now.
Speaker 7: Right, Yes, he does. I mean he was brought up
Speaker 7: by a single mother and his mother is also Asian.
Speaker 7: They have my mom and her actually have a lot
Speaker 7: of similarities, and so he gets our relationship. It's not
Speaker 7: he's not as close with his mom like I am, right,
Speaker 7: but he understands the dynamic because he was brought up
Speaker 7: the same way, which is interesting.
Speaker 2: I guess I'm having a hard time seeing what the
Speaker 2: problem is. Why why you know, I guess I'm just
Speaker 2: having hard time understanding what the issue.
Speaker 3: Is, like whired, smothered like this ship like it's.
Speaker 2: Like it's not like Angelicae has a problem with any
Speaker 2: of it, So I don't see.
Speaker 3: Why there's are like what things commercially have have been
Speaker 3: emphathiz sorry, empathized, emphasized, I'm sorry, emphasized on the show
Speaker 3: to make it taboo or we you know, or whatever
Speaker 3: people think of it or just different, like what things
Speaker 3: do you guys do that they kind of highlight.
Speaker 7: There was in our sneak peek there was a scene
Speaker 7: where Jason was giving me a ring and my mom
Speaker 7: doesn't approve, so she asked me to give it back.
Speaker 2: Did you approve of the ring.
Speaker 7: I thought it was very nice, very lovely ring. It is.
Speaker 7: It's very nice.
Speaker 6: She did approve the ring.
Speaker 3: And what's your, sonny, what's your Is it just you
Speaker 3: want your daughter like you love her so much, you
Speaker 3: want her to have the best that she deserves or
Speaker 3: is it like, is it something else kind of other
Speaker 3: than that which caused you to not approve of the ring.
Speaker 8: There's a whole realm of him not having his divorce
Speaker 8: finalized and his girlfriend's exactly exactly yes, you know his Uh,
Speaker 8: he still has his ex girlfriend's belongings in his home.
Speaker 8: And how is he able to honorably ask my daughter
Speaker 8: to move in with him when he still hasn't done
Speaker 8: these things as promised.
Speaker 2: That makes completely that's a valid and again, but that's
Speaker 2: not being smothering, Like that's a valid mom point. I
Speaker 2: would say the exact same thing.
Speaker 3: It's very rational thing, very rational.
Speaker 2: So that's where I don't I'm like, that's where I
Speaker 2: don't get the smothering part of it.
Speaker 3: You guys, what we read something about do you guys
Speaker 3: sleep in the same bed or are you used to
Speaker 3: you help each other get dressed?
Speaker 7: Like there we we do sleep in the same bed.
Speaker 7: We have our own separate bedrooms, but we do sleep
Speaker 7: in the same bed. Sometimes I watch my mom put
Speaker 7: on her makeup, I help her get dressed, I help
Speaker 7: her do her hair. I'm just her little helper.
Speaker 3: Does she help you do the same.
Speaker 7: If I ask her? But I don't really need the help.
Speaker 2: And you, again, you have no issues or no problems
Speaker 2: with that, Like that's just have this amazing relationship we do.
Speaker 7: And I respect my mother so much and I will
Speaker 7: do anything for her, so if she needs my help,
Speaker 7: I mean I don't.
Speaker 6: She taught me to ask for anything. She just automatically
Speaker 6: does it.
Speaker 7: Exactly.
Speaker 2: I mean, I think people can easily judge, which isn't
Speaker 2: fair because at the end of the day, if it
Speaker 2: works for you guys, great, right, you know. I to
Speaker 2: me sometimes I would if I would hear it, I'd
Speaker 2: be like, all right, well, what about independence and wanting
Speaker 2: you know, your child to live on your own. At
Speaker 2: the same time, I loved living with my mom. He
Speaker 2: was the one that did want my mom living with us.
Speaker 5: No, but I mean essentially you did.
Speaker 2: And it's okay because I'm like, all right, I guess
Speaker 2: you're right, But I mean I would have lived with
Speaker 2: my mom the entire time because I enjoyed have her own.
Speaker 2: She's my best friend and I.
Speaker 6: Loved her exactly amazing.
Speaker 2: That's where, like I do, I understand that, and I think,
Speaker 2: but I think people you know, have a hard time
Speaker 2: with it because they have I think, place their own
Speaker 2: judgments on it. But that's it just might not be
Speaker 2: right for other people, and that's okay.
Speaker 7: Yes, And it seems as though the ones who don't
Speaker 7: have a close relationship with their parents they have an
Speaker 7: issue with our relationship. I don't know what that is
Speaker 7: or they put some sort of negative connotation. And how
Speaker 7: can you when we clearly both love each other and
Speaker 7: respect each other, how do you do something like that
Speaker 7: to someone's relationship. I just don't understand, right.
Speaker 3: It is interesting and for me, from my perspective, it
Speaker 3: would just be people's discomfort because the relationship that y'all
Speaker 3: have is something that they never experienced. So like even
Speaker 3: for me is I'm very close with both my parents
Speaker 3: and we have a fantastic relationship.
Speaker 2: But you wouldn't take a bath of them.
Speaker 3: But I wouldn't. I wouldn't. I mean, there's still certain
Speaker 3: things that would be a boundary for me. But that's
Speaker 3: just me because certain things would make me uncomfortable. You know,
Speaker 3: what is it? Do you guys have anything that you
Speaker 3: do individually or for yourselves that doesn't include the other?
Speaker 6: We basically do everything together.
Speaker 7: I don't know.
Speaker 8: We get stumped every time we get asked that question
Speaker 8: because practically, in our everyday life, from morning till we
Speaker 8: go to sleep, we are very much involved in each
Speaker 8: other's life.
Speaker 7: Whether it's no. I was just about to say that
Speaker 7: that's the only time we're apart. We work at different places, Okay, but.
Speaker 2: I mean essentially, now you're on this TV show, so
Speaker 2: you're kind of becoming this how do I say, like
Speaker 2: your reality going to be reality stars in this new world,
Speaker 2: So you're technically working together now too.
Speaker 7: I think that's awesome, it's amazing.
Speaker 2: Well, here's the thing. The reason I love like our
Speaker 2: situation because I work with my husband. A lot of
Speaker 2: people maybe didn't, well don't want to work with their
Speaker 2: husband or their spouse or partner. And that's again, it's
Speaker 2: whatever works for you, and I think that's great that
Speaker 2: it works for you. And you know, now I'm going
Speaker 2: to try to get my mom to live in with
Speaker 2: us now, even though I just said when she's old,
Speaker 2: i'd put her in a house.
Speaker 8: But that's what my daughter, she always says, no matter
Speaker 8: where I go, no matter how old I get, you
Speaker 8: will always be with me.
Speaker 7: I will carry my mom.
Speaker 2: So what happens when that day does come though, when
Speaker 2: she's not around, Like, will you be able to because
Speaker 2: you know we can't taxidermy or you know, like but like,
Speaker 2: how will you be able to because you've depended on
Speaker 2: her so much with that relationship.
Speaker 7: I don't know. Yeah, and I don't. I don't want
Speaker 7: to think about that. I know it probably be the worst,
Speaker 7: worst time of my life.
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, would Yeah, I mean I can't even imagine.
Speaker 2: I mean, obviously losing a parent, I can't even imagine,
Speaker 2: but to have like the closeness that you guys have
Speaker 2: that every single day. Because I don't see my mom
Speaker 2: every day. I wish I could, but I I you know,
Speaker 2: she lives in a different state, and so I can't
Speaker 2: imagine how you would feel if that, you.
Speaker 3: Know, on Smothered on TLC in the show, give our
Speaker 3: listeners a little bit of kind of hindsight on what
Speaker 3: you guys do. Is it them just kind of following
Speaker 3: your alls? Everyday life or are you do you guys
Speaker 3: kind of have a mission behind it of showing people, hey,
Speaker 3: this isn't a different it's not a rehearsal, and it's
Speaker 3: we're comfortable with it, Like are you guys trying to
Speaker 3: just expect they just be like, hey, we're okay, and
Speaker 3: this isn't some weird thing that well.
Speaker 8: I think the misunderstanding of people is that they feel
Speaker 8: that I don't give Angelica her space or the respect
Speaker 8: of that she has her own life outside of our relationship.
Speaker 8: But she does and she is given that. But in
Speaker 8: everyday life, what you see on camera is what and
Speaker 8: who we are right right, And I think which is love.
Speaker 7: And I think people, you know, just because my mom
Speaker 7: and I are close, they expect that, oh, she's just
Speaker 7: the cool mom. She never was a disciplinarian or she
Speaker 7: never you know, taught me how to be responsible.
Speaker 5: In my life.
Speaker 7: It's she was very much everything to me. My mother,
Speaker 7: my father, my my disciplinarian, my best friend. She was everything.
Speaker 7: And I think people think that just because we're close,
Speaker 7: she wasn't a strong mother or a good mother. And
Speaker 7: I want people to know that that she is.
Speaker 2: See. I love that if I just again, I just
Speaker 2: think it comes down to this is what works for
Speaker 2: you guys, And I again, because of how close I
Speaker 2: am with my mom, I love it and I get it.
Speaker 2: I just don't. I hate that people are going to
Speaker 2: cast their judgment on you because it might just not
Speaker 2: be how they live their life, or they may have
Speaker 2: insecurities because they want that with their parent or something
Speaker 2: close to it.
Speaker 8: I always wanted a very close relationship with Angelica because
Speaker 8: as a child, I was not brought up with love
Speaker 8: and attention and affection. So when I found out that
Speaker 8: I was going to have a child and I knew
Speaker 8: it was a girl, that was just an amazing day. Ever,
Speaker 8: because I knew at that very point that she was
Speaker 8: going to be my everything, and I wanted to give
Speaker 8: her a different life than what I was brought up with.
Speaker 6: So I.
Speaker 8: Did that, and that's my healthy boundaries. Giving love and
Speaker 8: giving some guidance. Those are the things that I did
Speaker 8: not have.
Speaker 3: And son, Hiana, Janna and I both want to affirm
Speaker 3: you because the fact that you were able to break
Speaker 3: the cycle in your family, because so many times you
Speaker 3: see people who just fall into that same cycle of
Speaker 3: whatever it is, the bad behaviors or bad trends that
Speaker 3: happen in their family of origins. But you made the
Speaker 3: decision to change that and you did that with Angelica,
Speaker 3: so I we definitely affirm you for that and being
Speaker 3: strong enough to raise you know, a strong and it
Speaker 3: seems to be independent woman still.
Speaker 1: You know, it's interesting because some people would look at
Speaker 1: this show and think to themselves, oh, look at these
Speaker 1: crazy freaks, and then and then like Janna is looking
Speaker 1: at the show, well, I think that's kind of the
Speaker 1: idea of reality television crazy. But then the other side
Speaker 1: of it is like Jana is looking at it like
Speaker 1: this looks ideal to me. I wish, I like, it
Speaker 1: sounds almost like you hope that Joelie someday and you
Speaker 1: have this level of closeness.
Speaker 3: Yeah, she wants to with Jason, not Joey.
Speaker 2: No, I mean okay, and he's still with Jolly too,
Speaker 2: because I love again the relationship with my mom, So yes,
Speaker 2: I mean both of them, but I mean again, and
Speaker 2: it's something that like Angelica's on board with too, and
Speaker 2: that's the same thing. It's not a forced relationship. You
Speaker 2: guys aren't forcing anything. It's it is love. It is beautiful.
Speaker 2: You guys are together, it's what you both want, and
Speaker 2: again that's okay. Just like I know, I had a
Speaker 2: hard time with some guests. We had that on the polygamy,
Speaker 2: and at first I was kind of judging it. But
Speaker 2: when I left that episode, I'm like, it's so wrong
Speaker 2: of me to cast any judgment when that's the way
Speaker 2: they want to live their life and that's what they
Speaker 2: want to do, Okay, you know, so I hope people
Speaker 2: can see the side too with that.
Speaker 3: Yeah, And I think I mean, even when Jane and
Speaker 3: I were kind of reading the breakdown on y'all coming
Speaker 3: into today, you know, we didn't judge, but we made
Speaker 3: the assumption that Son he that you're probably just an overbearing,
Speaker 3: controlling that you know, angelic, I just had to do
Speaker 3: whatever you said kind of deal. But clearly that's not
Speaker 3: the case. And so, you know, for us to even
Speaker 3: assume that, you know, is I think a positive thing
Speaker 3: that when people tune into the show, they're able to
Speaker 3: see what you guys have, what we're able to witness
Speaker 3: right now, and then it's just mutual affectionate love and respect,
Speaker 3: which is truly amazing.
Speaker 6: Thank you.
Speaker 2: I'm going to watch I'm like so excited how to
Speaker 2: watch on Sundays it's ten nine Central, because I'm gonna
Speaker 2: call my mom and I'll say, Mom, can this please
Speaker 2: see us again?
Speaker 5: I'm going to see you living with me?
Speaker 2: And then the next day she's gonna knock on the door.
Speaker 3: Yeah yeah, she would say, okay, I'm coming.
Speaker 2: Oh is there anything that you want our listeners to
Speaker 2: take away from our conversation? Anything you want to say
Speaker 2: that you want them to know about.
Speaker 7: I think we just my mom and I just hope
Speaker 7: that people can watch our show and you know, maybe
Speaker 7: encourage encourage them to have a close bond with any relationship.
Speaker 7: It doesn't just have to be mother and daughter, but
Speaker 7: that having a close knit relationship with someone you love.
Speaker 3: Is okay, yeah right it.
Speaker 8: Is, and they don't have to dissect it into something
Speaker 8: negative because it's so beautiful, right right.
Speaker 2: Well, cannot thank you guys enough for coming on the show.
Speaker 2: I wish we were there to give hugs, but we
Speaker 2: superated and we just hope everyone watches Smothered on TLC
Speaker 2: ten nine Central on Sundays. You guys are the best.
Speaker 2: Thank you ladies, Thank you much. You know it's so funny.
Speaker 2: What you said to them too, about being like reading
Speaker 2: what we read about them but then realizing yeah, I
Speaker 2: mean it's definitely not the way that we would go
Speaker 2: about things, but it's still I still loved it and
Speaker 2: understood it.
Speaker 3: Yeah, even just just hearing it straight from them, maybe
Speaker 3: like wait, it's not really that weird. They're just really
Speaker 3: really close.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and you really love your mom and you really
Speaker 2: but I think what really when she started to get upset, Angelica, Yeah,
Speaker 2: that is what that is where my fear comes in
Speaker 2: from her, Like what's gonna happen? Like I feel like
Speaker 2: she needs to, like to your point, maybe go do
Speaker 2: something outside of their relationship so that she can start
Speaker 2: strengthening a different bond besides her mom. Yeah, because if not,
Speaker 2: she's gonna crumble when that day.
Speaker 5: Moms.
Speaker 3: My thing is when, yes, when that day comes, is
Speaker 3: her relationship with her whatever husband, whatever person she's with,
Speaker 3: you know, is that relationship going to be strong enough
Speaker 3: where it can withstand that tragic of a loss where
Speaker 3: it's like, Okay, now she just has her husband. Is
Speaker 3: that going to be enough for her? Do they have
Speaker 3: a strong enough relationship? Yeah, because she's because her mom's
Speaker 3: going to live with her wherever she goes, like she said,
Speaker 3: so it's like, what is that? Is her marriage then
Speaker 3: going to crumble because she doesn't have her mom and
Speaker 3: maybe not because of her, but maybe the husband's like,
Speaker 3: I I can't take this because you're not even present
Speaker 3: with me.
Speaker 2: It's interesting, it is.
Speaker 3: It is interesting, I think. But I will say, at
Speaker 3: least just talking to them today, it killed a little
Speaker 3: bit of my judgment on the helicopter lawnmower parent, just
Speaker 3: because it seems like she has still established boundaries enough
Speaker 3: to be a disciplinarian and to be that way sound like.
Speaker 2: She's being just whatever you want kind of Oh, here's
Speaker 2: shielding things.
Speaker 3: Yeah. Yeah. So if that's she has a job, yeah,
Speaker 3: If that's true and that's you know, really how things
Speaker 3: are going, which it seemed like it was, then you
Speaker 3: know I could see that being the best of the
Speaker 3: helicopter lawnmower parents.
Speaker 2: Hey, Mark, do we have time to do some emails?
Speaker 4: Yes?
Speaker 1: Indeed, we've got some real interesting emails here. Lindsay says,
Speaker 1: I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for two
Speaker 1: and a half years. He told me back in November.
Speaker 1: The date a one night's stand with some check when
Speaker 1: visiting the college he used to go to. He told
Speaker 1: me the week after it happened and seemed very remorseful.
Speaker 1: This was the only time it's happened, and he's apologized
Speaker 1: numerous times. I've been trying to earn my trust, but
Speaker 1: for some reason, I just can't shake this. Do you
Speaker 1: have any advice on how to forgive. I know he's
Speaker 1: a great guy and he made a terrible mistake, but
Speaker 1: I've been having the hardest time dealing with this.
Speaker 4: I also find it.
Speaker 1: Odd that when I was in school, he was always
Speaker 1: worried about me cheating and basically said he wouldn't put
Speaker 1: up with it if I did, so it's interesting he's
Speaker 1: the one who ended up cheating.
Speaker 4: Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Speaker 2: I have so much with this. So first off, I
Speaker 2: love the fact that he told her. That's huge. So
Speaker 2: that should help your trust block because the fact that
Speaker 2: she didn't have to find out he confronted and confessed
Speaker 2: to her that is like so amazing, because a guy
Speaker 2: that's going to continue to cheat isn't gonna be honest
Speaker 2: in my opinion. From correct yeah, from the things that
Speaker 2: I've learned through life and other relationships. That is. That
Speaker 2: is what I've seen to be the case. So if
Speaker 2: someone comes to you and apologizes and tells you what
Speaker 2: he did, that person most likely is not going to
Speaker 2: do that again. So I think you need to give
Speaker 2: him a little bit of gratitude and a little grace
Speaker 2: and say thank you for coming, thank you for telling me.
Speaker 2: I know, and I know it's still hard and you
Speaker 2: can still be really upset and angry about it, but
Speaker 2: you also have to be so appreciative because ninety nine
Speaker 2: point nine percent of dudes would not tell you the truth,
Speaker 2: would not tell you, and would not own up to it.
Speaker 2: So I think that's like, I think that's huge. And
Speaker 2: I know it's hard to trust, especially because he cheated,
Speaker 2: and especially he said those things about cheating, but he
Speaker 2: probably was doing that when he was saying that, which
Speaker 2: any cheater will say. Anybody that's worried about you cheating
Speaker 2: is most likely doing something because it's their own self
Speaker 2: reflection coming out.
Speaker 3: Or not necessarily that like I don't want to say
Speaker 3: that they're definitely cheating, or its just their their their
Speaker 3: self esteem, you know, their insecurity, insecurities and stuff like that,
Speaker 3: where he's fearful of it.
Speaker 4: Yeah, would you agree?
Speaker 1: So are you saying that the more someone in a
Speaker 1: relationship was obsessed with the other and cheating, the more
Speaker 1: likely they are themselves to cheat?
Speaker 2: Think that? Yeah? Yes, do you disagree? No?
Speaker 4: I think that's absolutely right.
Speaker 2: Yeah, because I mean, shoot, even when I was being
Speaker 2: crappy in relationships and being you know, unfaithful, I was
Speaker 2: super amped up and I was like, oh god, it's
Speaker 2: it was like, it really is true what they say
Speaker 2: because I started to think I started to be really
Speaker 2: worried about the other person cheating when I actually was.
Speaker 2: So I think that's interesting.
Speaker 1: You think it's possible that this guy just had maybe
Speaker 1: he just had to get out of a system, he
Speaker 1: just made a mistake, and that she can Yeah.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't know if out of the system, but
Speaker 3: I think he made a mistake.
Speaker 2: And he's sorry, he's apologized, and he told you. That's
Speaker 2: so huge in my book.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 1: Should she set some parameters at this point, like, should
Speaker 1: make it real clear that this happens again, I'm out
Speaker 1: the door.
Speaker 3: Don't don't make a draw like a line in the
Speaker 3: sand if you're not willing to follow through with it.
Speaker 3: So it's more so just expressing how much that hurt her,
Speaker 3: how much it still hurts her, but being able to
Speaker 3: acknowledge and affirm the fact that you know, yes, but
Speaker 3: you told the truth. I appreciate that, but you did
Speaker 3: really hurt me. So she can do both without having
Speaker 3: to draw a line in the sand, like if you
Speaker 3: ever do this again, I will leave right away and
Speaker 3: not talk to you ever. And you're a piece or whatever.
Speaker 3: So just I mean, yeah, agreed.
Speaker 1: It's wind down at iHeartRadio dot com. This is from Shanna.
Speaker 1: My boyfriend and I have been together four and a
Speaker 1: half years, two of which we lived together. During this time,
Speaker 1: my boyfriend decided on a complete career change quit his job.
Speaker 1: His grandfather had been paying him five thousand dollars a
Speaker 1: month out of his inheritance, but he wasn't saving it.
Speaker 1: He was recklessly spending it. We couldn't apply for another
Speaker 1: apartment with just my income, so we decided to move
Speaker 1: back into our parents for two months until he got
Speaker 1: a job. During those two months, we went on a
Speaker 1: vacation together, and then after that he stopped responding to
Speaker 1: any of my calls or my texts. They've been together
Speaker 1: four and a half years. They lived together for two
Speaker 1: three weeks later, I still had not heard from him,
Speaker 1: and then I woke up this morning to an Instagram
Speaker 1: direct message of him breaking up with me. I do
Speaker 1: not even have the words for how I feel. I
Speaker 1: was ghosted by my boyfriend of four years and then
Speaker 1: he breaks it off on Instagram. I don't know what
Speaker 1: to do and I don't know how to feel worthy again.
Speaker 3: Were they living together at her parents' house.
Speaker 4: No, they went to their separate parents' house.
Speaker 3: Oh, to save money, so they were living together in
Speaker 3: an apartment. Couldn't afford a new one, so they both
Speaker 3: went to their own parents' house.
Speaker 4: Right because he had blown all of his money foolishly.
Speaker 5: You know this.
Speaker 2: These stories always shock me. And it happened to one
Speaker 2: of my mom's friends, Amanda, and they were actually engaged too,
Speaker 2: and they were together for I think six years, and
Speaker 2: he just literally disappeared and were like how I mean
Speaker 2: he was just over a week ago and they were
Speaker 2: in love and they're getting married and like, he literally disappeared, vanished,
Speaker 2: no call, no breakup, no nothing, just gone. And it
Speaker 2: was just like, did he get into a drug problem?
Speaker 2: Did he like, where did he go?
Speaker 6: Well?
Speaker 2: Ended up he had met someone else and just started
Speaker 2: a completely new life. So I don't know if that's
Speaker 2: what he did in this situation, but I mean to say,
Speaker 2: I mean, that's just that is so disrespectful. So I'd
Speaker 2: almost I hate that she said to feel worthy again,
Speaker 2: because I don't want you to put your worth into
Speaker 2: this guy. And I think that's what hurt hurt me
Speaker 2: the most out of that entire email, was that, you know,
Speaker 2: she's linking her worth into this relationship into this guy
Speaker 2: that does not deserve another second or minute of his
Speaker 2: time to be that disrespectful to someone that she loved
Speaker 2: and was with, and so to try to, you know,
Speaker 2: cry about it for sure, one hundred, but then also
Speaker 2: freaking stand back up and know your worth and know
Speaker 2: that you dodged a freaking bullet by not being in
Speaker 2: a relationship with someone that could have this such disrespect
Speaker 2: for you.
Speaker 3: Michael, mm hmm, I mean, how do I follow that?
Speaker 2: I was like, I'm pointing like a president right now.
Speaker 3: I mean, yeah, I mean, he's he's a goner. I mean,
Speaker 3: and but where do what is it?
Speaker 2: What's the guy? I mean, get in the guy's head
Speaker 2: right here.
Speaker 3: Oh it's not just a guy's head though, So you know,
Speaker 3: like my uncle. Yeah, like his whole deal. You know
Speaker 3: where my uncle is wife of ten years who is
Speaker 3: from another country. Oh yeah, went to go visit that
Speaker 3: said country to see family. Never came back, never came back.
Speaker 3: And for months and months and months he tried to
Speaker 3: get answers from her, like what is going on?
Speaker 2: You were married?
Speaker 3: They were married for ten years. Same and her daughter,
Speaker 3: whom my uncle essentially like adopted, was still who's in
Speaker 3: high school, was like seventeen at the time, was just
Speaker 3: living at home with my uncle. And he's just like,
Speaker 3: I'm sorry, I don't know where your mom is, Like
Speaker 3: she wouldn't even take her daughter's calls. And then finally
Speaker 3: at the end of it, the family's like, it has
Speaker 3: to be somebody else. There has to be somebody else.
Speaker 3: And when he would get it hold of her, he
Speaker 3: would say that she said it wasn't somebody else's family.
Speaker 3: She always had a store or some bs. Ultimately, at
Speaker 3: the end of it, there was somebody else.
Speaker 5: Yeah.
Speaker 3: So I mean for this situation, I don't know what.
Speaker 3: I can't even come up with another reason how it
Speaker 3: wouldn't be somebody else.
Speaker 2: Well, as soon as I said, it's always somebody else.
Speaker 2: Maybe there's that one percent that it's not somebody else
Speaker 2: and they just want to get out of a relationship
Speaker 2: and they don't know how, and the easiest way is
Speaker 2: to ghost. Yeah, I mean, trust me the balls, I
Speaker 2: would do it in a couple of my relationships. Yeah,
Speaker 2: but I can't really disappear.
Speaker 3: No, but you can't.
Speaker 2: But I mean, but at the same time, though, it's
Speaker 2: just like, where's the balls in that? Yeah, having such
Speaker 2: disrespect for someone.
Speaker 3: But like Jana said, you dodged a bullet, and obviously
Speaker 3: it's hard right now, we can't.
Speaker 1: She got that DM this morning, so it's definitely raw,
Speaker 1: very very raw. What's her name again, Shanna?
Speaker 3: Shanna? Yeah, that's I'm sorry, sweetheart, it is. That's super raw.
Speaker 3: But the best to your ability. Just again, like Jana said,
Speaker 3: you dodged a bullet and almost try to turn it
Speaker 3: into a positive of being grateful that he gave you this, Yeah,
Speaker 3: that he gave you this out because clearly he wasn't
Speaker 3: the person for you.
Speaker 2: No, and I know it. I know it doesn't seem
Speaker 2: like it now, but you will find out the reason
Speaker 2: later as to why y'all didn't work out. Because you're
Speaker 2: going to be in a better relationship in a ca
Speaker 2: years or a year, or however long it takes, it
Speaker 2: will be the right person.
Speaker 3: Then, do have the age does not know?
Speaker 2: Twenties?
Speaker 3: Yeah, it sounds like twenties.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but then again, I mean, look at your uncle's situation.
Speaker 3: Look at you know, they went and lived at their parents' house. Yeah,
Speaker 3: most likely their twenties.
Speaker 1: Jessica, this is a tough one. I'm twenty four. My
Speaker 1: boyfriend of two years is twenty seven. We just had
Speaker 1: a very real pregnancy scare. He doesn't want kids, and
Speaker 1: it's made that clear from the beginning, which was perfect.
Speaker 4: I don't either.
Speaker 1: Lately, even before the scare, though, I'm not sure where
Speaker 1: I stand if if it happens, it happens, but I'm
Speaker 1: not going out of my way to have kids. I
Speaker 1: wasn't going to tell him anything at first, and I
Speaker 1: thought he would react horribly. Turns out he was surprisingly
Speaker 1: supportive and said if he got pregnant, it was one
Speaker 1: hundred percent my choice on how we handled it. So
Speaker 1: the topic was dropped until the next morning when he
Speaker 1: asked if it would be a deal breaker if he
Speaker 1: got a vasectomy. I responded very passive, aggressively saying it's
Speaker 1: your body. I have no It's not a deal breaker
Speaker 1: for me currently, but I don't know how I'll feel
Speaker 1: later in life. I honestly have no idea if I
Speaker 1: want kids yet or at all. I know communication is
Speaker 1: key and it's a conversation that's needed, but I also
Speaker 1: have the very real fear I could lose him over
Speaker 1: something I don't even know if I want yet. Two
Speaker 1: years isn't that long, but we do love each other
Speaker 1: and want to spend our lives together. I'd love any
Speaker 1: advice you and or Mike can offer.
Speaker 2: So first of all, okay, you're twenty four, so I
Speaker 2: mean putting it in my perspective. I always knew I
Speaker 2: wanted to be a mom, but there's a lot of
Speaker 2: women that don't know if they want to be parents
Speaker 2: at all, which is that's okay. But in your late
Speaker 2: twenties thirties is honestly when it starts to kind of
Speaker 2: hit for a woman and you're like, you know what,
Speaker 2: I know that I said I didn't, but I actually
Speaker 2: I actually do. And because you're start kicking in and
Speaker 2: you're life young, twenty four is so young. And I
Speaker 2: will also say too, the so I was not to
Speaker 2: bring in like a past relationship. But there was someone
Speaker 2: that was like, I don't want kids, and I was like, oh,
Speaker 2: that's fine, I don't want kids either. And I was like, wait,
Speaker 2: that's why would I say that. Of course I want kids,
Speaker 2: But I was just trying to cling on to this
Speaker 2: person that was obviously not right for me. But I
Speaker 2: was trying so hard to like, please and so for
Speaker 2: if she was like, fine, yes, please get to astact
Speaker 2: me because I love you and I want to be
Speaker 2: with you, But is that truly what you want? And
Speaker 2: because again you're twenty four, like, you have so much
Speaker 2: more life to live, You have so much more to
Speaker 2: change and grow as a woman. And if you don't know,
Speaker 2: that's the thing. If you were like one hundred percent
Speaker 2: one way or the other, then that's an easier situation.
Speaker 2: But if you don't know, that to me says that
Speaker 2: you should pay be open, have a conversation that I
Speaker 2: just don't want to make that closed decision right now.
Speaker 2: That's just my personal opinion.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean, it's he's young to be thinking about
Speaker 3: if he clearly does not want to have kids, or
Speaker 3: so he thinks because he wants to have a vasectomy.
Speaker 2: It's gonna be hard to change his mind. If he's
Speaker 2: twenty seven months of the sectomy.
Speaker 3: Right, that would be That's just seems so early. I
Speaker 3: don't know why he'd be that adamant against it, but
Speaker 3: if you know, you know, I guess you know. But
Speaker 3: the thing is, he was even you know, kind of
Speaker 3: support you or not kind of he was supportive like
Speaker 3: she said about you know, possibly being pregnant or hey,
Speaker 3: you can do it's your but you know, I'll support
Speaker 3: you either way what you want to do with it.
Speaker 2: But then flips it the next morning, then flips the
Speaker 2: next morning.
Speaker 3: So I'm not really sure either, but I'll just say that.
Speaker 3: Say he wants to get one, okay, if you really
Speaker 3: love him and he wants to get one. First tried saying, hey,
Speaker 3: I don't know if I want kids or not, but
Speaker 3: I really want to be with you. Do you have
Speaker 3: to do this right now? And if he still says yes,
Speaker 3: I want to, I have to. I need to if
Speaker 3: we want to be together, I have to do this
Speaker 3: all right. So he does it, and if he changes
Speaker 3: his mind, you can still have kids. There's a way
Speaker 3: to ways to do it. Now. You don't get a
Speaker 3: vasectomy to get it reversed, or to have seemen extracted.
Speaker 2: In your case, we did and I'm getting right.
Speaker 3: So, but it is possible. It's not like she's saying, Oh,
Speaker 3: I'm gonna tie my tubes, you know what I mean.
Speaker 2: But it's just so final though it is, but it isn't.
Speaker 3: But it's I mean, it's a little extreme for being
Speaker 3: twenty four and twenty seven years old having this discussion.
Speaker 1: And Janney, you're the one that still wants still is
Speaker 1: one hundred percent sure that you don't want more kids?
Speaker 3: Yeah, even though.
Speaker 2: After I go, here's the thing, I know that we're done.
Speaker 2: It's just so hard because our little boy is going
Speaker 2: to be seven months.
Speaker 3: He's so cool.
Speaker 2: I'm on, but I just she's got I think she
Speaker 2: needs to hold off a beat.
Speaker 4: What do you think, Mark, I think that she wants kids.
Speaker 1: I think that she's telling herself she doesn't because she's
Speaker 1: twenty four and she doesn't right now. But everything I
Speaker 1: see in this email is that she's gonna want kids,
Speaker 1: and it sounds like he's pretty dead set against it.
Speaker 1: I like Mike's idea of putting it off and they
Speaker 1: can decide later. But if he goes through with a vasectomy.
Speaker 1: Think this is over. Honestly, I think that's I know
Speaker 1: that's extreme and everything, but I feel like I see
Speaker 1: clarity here. I feel that you are going to want children,
Speaker 1: and you're gonna want a guy that wants children. If
Speaker 1: he's really that dead set against that, I don't think
Speaker 1: this is your guy.
Speaker 3: And guess what if he gets a prosectomy, she doesn't
Speaker 3: lose anything because it's like, all right, well, if you
Speaker 3: don't want kids, then yeah, I'll find someone who does
Speaker 3: and I'll be happier. So it's like there's no skin
Speaker 3: off her back, really, and.
Speaker 2: She will She'll find someone, right.
Speaker 3: So, thank you so much for our guests. That was
Speaker 3: such an interesting story in really good conversations with them,
Speaker 3: And for the emails. Those are some Those are some
Speaker 3: of the best emails we've had recently. Are awesome.
Speaker 2: We've got any more wind down at iHeartRadio dot com.
Speaker 2: All right, that's it, that's a rap. They've Oh wait,
Speaker 2: we forgot.
Speaker 3: Premature.
Speaker 2: What's our dare for the week? Couples dare couples stare? Yeah,
Speaker 2: my dare for them would to be compliment them one
Speaker 2: like at least once a day. For a week, one
Speaker 2: thing like paper really that shirt on you for Hey,
Speaker 2: you look really cute today. One compliment for a week
Speaker 2: until the next one down? Yeah you like it?
Speaker 4: Okay, bye, we start now do you want to compliment
Speaker 4: each other?
Speaker 5: Now?
Speaker 2: I just said, baby, look really cute.
Speaker 3: Thanks, honey, I like your ses.
Speaker 2: Oh you suck at this game.
Speaker 3: You look beautiful even though you just worked out.
Speaker 2: I don't believe that for a second, but thank you, Oh.
Speaker 1: God, accept that you have to accept the compliment that
Speaker 1: I'm stinky. Not accepting a compliment is like asking for
Speaker 1: a compliment twice.
Speaker 2: But he said I'm stinky.
Speaker 4: Well that wasn't very nice.
Speaker 1: But he said you were beautiful even though you just
Speaker 1: looked out, You're still beautiful, and you said.
Speaker 2: Accept that, but he followed it with your stinky. So
Speaker 2: he's gonna have to work on this game, all right,
Speaker 2: Love you guys. Wind Down next week by
Speaker 1: Mm hmm.