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Speaker 1: Wind Down with Jana Kramer and Michael Cosson and iHeart

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Speaker 1: Radio Podcast.

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Speaker 2: I still don't think that it just really it really

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Speaker 2: still doesn't sound extra like rift in there.

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Speaker 3: That just doesn't doesn't seem right.

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Speaker 4: Did I play the wrong one?

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Speaker 5: I don't know.

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Speaker 2: It's just still just an't.

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Speaker 5: I don't know.

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Speaker 2: I feel like maybe, oh, you know what would be

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Speaker 2: really cool is if we had a contest and someone

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Speaker 2: could send in how cool would that be? Like a

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Speaker 2: new jingle for us?

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Speaker 3: Wow, I don't like that to.

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Speaker 2: Have both of our names and saying iHeartRadio Podcast. It's

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Speaker 2: like a cool some guitar solo part for Mike.

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Speaker 3: And then Tory could just redo the voicing, right.

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Speaker 2: What do you mean read the voicing?

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Speaker 3: Because she she does the voice on this, doesn't she?

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Speaker 3: Then Alison can she can?

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Speaker 5: Wife?

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Speaker 3: Doesn't you can still record her voice for that whatever

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Speaker 3: the person sends in, I mean, yeah, unless it sounds great.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's like the audition tape for the middle, because

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Speaker 2: you know how many people went out for that song, right,

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Speaker 2: hundreds hundreds. I was a little offended. I didn't get asked,

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Speaker 2: but it's fine, just totally kidding. So I am very

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Speaker 2: intrigued by our guests. Today we have I don't want

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Speaker 2: to pronounce her name wrong, but it's soon. He soon,

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Speaker 2: He and Angelica. There's a new show on TLC called Smothered. Basically,

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Speaker 2: Sonny is obsessed with her daughter Angelica and she doesn't

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Speaker 2: think any man is good enough for her. Angelica and

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Speaker 2: Sunny actually sleep in the same bed and share the

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Speaker 2: same bathwater.

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Speaker 3: Interesting.

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Speaker 2: I'm not judging at all. I'm just very curious to

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Speaker 2: understand kind of their thought process with with that lifestyle

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Speaker 2: and how it's working for them. And you know, does Angelica.

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Speaker 2: I think she has a boyfriend, So yes, it'd.

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Speaker 3: Be interesting to see what you know soon he the mom,

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Speaker 3: what her like backstory is on what kind of caused

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Speaker 3: her to create this kind of environment? Right? You know

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Speaker 3: what I mean? Like was she raised that way?

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Speaker 2: How would how would you feel if like I was

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Speaker 2: doing that with Jolie And I'm older in my fifties

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Speaker 2: and Jolie was in her or my forties.

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Speaker 3: I wouldn't let you, But.

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Speaker 2: Why does it have to be to let you thing?

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Speaker 2: I would I'm not saying I would do that, but.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, because it's it.

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Speaker 2: Kind of sounded like I will not allow you to

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Speaker 3: Well, just like if I did something that you didn't

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Speaker 3: agree with, you'd be like, no, you're not doing that.

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Speaker 2: No, I totally get what you're saying. I just it's

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Speaker 2: something where I just don't wonder. I guess I don't

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Speaker 2: understand it, but I don't want to judge it, because

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Speaker 2: if that works for them. But at the same time,

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Speaker 2: you know, for me, I want to raise a very

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Speaker 2: independent girl and son. So I feel like I would

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Speaker 2: be holding my daughter back if I was doing things.

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Speaker 3: Like that, right for sure. And I'm not saying I

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Speaker 3: wouldn't let you from a dominant male point of view,

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Speaker 3: I'm saying when it comes to parenting, that's obviously one

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Speaker 3: of the things that when you have a couple ship

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Speaker 3: with somebody and just hade to have kids, that you

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Speaker 3: guys have to talk about. And when you guys disagree

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Speaker 3: on something as extreme as maybe something like that, how

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Speaker 3: you raise your children, the other person, if they're against it,

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Speaker 3: they're not gonna be like, well, I can kind of

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Speaker 3: understand that, right, No, you're not doing that, Yeah, you

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Speaker 3: mean whatever. It is.

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Speaker 2: The mother daughter relationship though interesting because I know, like

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Speaker 2: from my mom when she moved out to LA with me.

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Speaker 2: It's one of those things where you have to be

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Speaker 2: careful of the boundary of friendship and being a parent too,

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Speaker 2: and reversing the roles, And I think that's, you know,

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Speaker 2: can be very tricky because sometimes if you're reversing the

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Speaker 2: role and the daughter feels more like the parent and

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Speaker 2: the parents are more like the child, it's really kind

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Speaker 2: of psychologically sets you not back. But it's just it's

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Speaker 2: a harder dynamic to follow when you're switching roles with

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Speaker 2: go that way. Yeah, I mean, I think there is

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Speaker 2: times when yes does a parent. At times a parent

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Speaker 2: may need that support from their older child. I do

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Speaker 2: get that if we're in a hard having a hard time,

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Speaker 2: or if you're going through a divorce or something, I

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Speaker 2: still think you should. So I'm not saying you have

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Speaker 2: to button it up always, but to have that role reversal,

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Speaker 2: I think could be really tough. Well, you have a

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Speaker 2: lot of responsibility to You're putting in yourself, like I

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Speaker 2: have to take care of my.

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Speaker 3: Mom right, which I think is a natural thing later

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Speaker 3: on in life where you know, like our parents, our

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Speaker 3: grandparents are getting to the age where they need to

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Speaker 3: be taken care of, and it's our parents that are

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Speaker 3: starting to take care of them. So it's one of

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Speaker 3: those things where it's like it comes full you know,

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Speaker 3: it's a cycle, it comes full circle at the end

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Speaker 3: where you know, the child becomes to the parent at

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Speaker 3: the end and taking care of the grandparent.

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Speaker 2: So sidebar, would you let your parents live with you

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Speaker 2: when they get older?

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Speaker 3: It depends. It would really depend.

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Speaker 2: Or would you put them in a home?

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Speaker 3: Oh? Man, it would really depend. It would depend on

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Speaker 3: where we're at. It would depend on what you know,

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Speaker 3: what age the kids are at. It would depend on

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Speaker 3: the financial you know, financial finances around it, because those

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Speaker 3: homes are expansive, you know, so not saying that we'd

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Speaker 3: have to pay for it, but still it's expensive. I

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Speaker 3: don't know.

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Speaker 2: Well I remember you saying that you wouldn't you don't

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Speaker 2: want another kids because you're like, hey, I want like

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Speaker 2: the house to ourselves. Well, then our kids are gone,

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Speaker 2: but then we're basically bringing in a younger you know.

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Speaker 3: Parents are going to have to move in when the kids.

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Speaker 2: Are you know, who knows if they get sick or

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Speaker 2: if they when they get old. If we're having to

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Speaker 2: have them move in with us.

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Speaker 3: My thing is just knowing me though, because anytime that

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Speaker 3: you know my parents, we've both through my life, I've

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Speaker 3: had both sets of grandparents live with us at some point.

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Speaker 2: So I like my space too much.

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Speaker 3: Not trying to be like, no, I do too, but

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Speaker 3: I'm saying it's it's because that's what I've witnessed. I've

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Speaker 3: through transitional times I've experienced where we've had my grandmother

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Speaker 3: live with us, where my grandfather has lived with us,

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Speaker 3: and now my grandfather lives permanently with my parents, And

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Speaker 3: so it's one of those things I'm exposed to that

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Speaker 3: that's the norm for me. So for me, my first

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Speaker 3: initial instinct would be like, hey, yeah, you guys are

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Speaker 3: sick or you guys need help, yet come live with us.

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Speaker 2: I mean, of course I wouldn't say no, you know,

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Speaker 2: go down the road to Sunset, you know, retirement home.

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Speaker 2: But I mean it's like I lived with my mom

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Speaker 2: right after when I moved to LA, Like she lived

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Speaker 2: with me for a couple of years. I mean, shoot,

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Speaker 2: we all lived together, us three live together. So I

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Speaker 3: And apparently I kicked Nora out.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, because she didn't like but all as well now,

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Speaker 2: but you know, it's just one of those things where

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Speaker 2: again if she was sick, and of course I would,

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Speaker 2: because I do like to be able to have our

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Speaker 2: own space, and I get so nitpicky with pushing the

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Speaker 2: putting this the dishes away, like even when our family

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Speaker 2: comes to visit. It's those things that when someone's in

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Speaker 2: your space it becomes frustrating.

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Speaker 3: We have less tolerance if it's one of us that

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Speaker 3: leaves something somewhere, like even us, like we'll have more

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Speaker 3: tolerance with each other's like okay, they know I don't

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Speaker 3: like when the dishes in sync, but okay, like we

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Speaker 2: I mean, mine's a total double standard because the second,

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Speaker 2: you know, if you die before me, and then I'm

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Speaker 2: left like I'm moving into Jason's house, I don't care

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Speaker 2: what the wife says, like I am moving in Jolie.

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Speaker 2: I don't want to live with her, but Jace, like,

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Speaker 2: I'm moving in with your wife. So I'm going to

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Speaker 2: play you this when Jace, you know, Mary is the

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Speaker 2: love of his life, but I will be living with

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Speaker 2: you and you have no choice.

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Speaker 5: Thank you.

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Speaker 1: I also like the dynamic there when Mike Mike said

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Speaker 1: I wouldn't let you, and you were like excuse me.

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Speaker 2: Now.

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Speaker 1: That's a very common thing I think in marriages where

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Speaker 1: the dad can be like, hey, I'm going to go

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Speaker 1: do this with the kids and the wife says, oh, no,

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Speaker 1: you're not right. But if he switched it around, the

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Speaker 1: wife's like, how dare you tell me how to raise.

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Speaker 3: I'm a grown woman. You cannot tell me. The man

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Speaker 3: will not tell me what I can.

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Speaker 2: Or cannot do quality baby.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah exactly. Then you guys say, no, you're not

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Speaker 2: The problem is it's just there's two different things. So

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Speaker 2: what I'm doing would be taking the kids to this

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Speaker 2: above all trampoline park and Mike's like, hey, let's go

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Speaker 2: RaSE four wheelers with the kids, and I'm like, they're three,

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Speaker 2: so there's a household present.

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Speaker 3: Is there a four wheeler out in the garage?

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Speaker 5: I don't know about.

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Speaker 3: I mean, I love this hypothetical.

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Speaker 2: Reality, like that's like what the guy would like something

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Speaker 2: crazy like that, where it's like something for example, my

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Speaker 5: Four wheeler for a three year old.

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Speaker 2: So for example, my.

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Speaker 3: I'm sorry that you want to take the kids to

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Speaker 3: color me mine?

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Speaker 5: Do you want to go?

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Speaker 2: Oh my gosh above all extreme sports is so great

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Speaker 2: big Champlaine Park. No, I mean you're like, let's go,

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Speaker 2: let's go bungee jumping, you know, off off of a cliff.

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Speaker 3: I'd like experiences.

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Speaker 2: So but my dad, for example, he took my brother

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Speaker 2: when he was I think nine years old, because I

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Speaker 2: remember him coming back and it was the most dangerous

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Speaker 2: riding down and my brother falls off his bike and

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Speaker 2: is ripped off his face. And my mom was like,

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Speaker 2: where did you take him? And Martin's like, well, like

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Speaker 2: snow road And my mom was just like, you're an idiot,

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Speaker 2: like why would you do that? But I'm like that's

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Speaker 2: not safe? But my brother had so much fun, right, I.

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Speaker 1: Think that's an over exaggeration, but yes, but that is

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Speaker 1: the worst when she says, you know, maybe not, that's

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Speaker 1: really dangerous, you know it anyway, and they get hurt.

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Speaker 2: enter Jana. So excited, we have soon saying you're right, Sonny.

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Speaker 6: Son Hey, son Hey, we have Sony.

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Speaker 2: And Angelica from Smothered.

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Speaker 7: Welcome ladies, Hello, thank you, thank you for having us.

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Speaker 2: So I just I kind of just want the backstory

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Speaker 2: I want our listeners to to kind of understand. Can

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Speaker 2: we start with Sonny.

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Speaker 6: About the relationship.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, about just kind of your upbringing, then your relationship

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Speaker 8: My relationship with Angelica has been more than just a

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Speaker 8: mother daughter relationship. It's been more of a companionship and

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Speaker 8: she's been the sunshine in my life. So we have

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Speaker 7: She didn't have a good relationship with her mother, and

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Speaker 7: so she's just built our relationship throughout the years. And

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Speaker 7: ever since I was young, I just could always remember

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Speaker 3: That's awesome. And so for the son here is that's

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Speaker 3: something where just because you didn't have that relationship that

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Speaker 3: maybe you always wanted, where you're just just overcompensating. It's

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Speaker 3: just like I'm going to give Angelica everything I got.

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Speaker 6: Yes, that is perfectly sad.

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Speaker 2: So what what makes you feel that you're why why

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Speaker 8: Because they only are going by what they see. They

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Speaker 2: Whole detail of what do they see.

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Speaker 6: They see that I smother her, they see, So.

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Speaker 2: Which way is do you do people see that?

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Speaker 8: Ways of controlling the relationships that she has. But it's

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Speaker 8: really not that I'm controlling. It's more like I'm looking

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Speaker 6: Right, So.

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Speaker 7: I'm thirty one, Oh no, I just turned thirty two.

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Speaker 3: That's right, congrau.

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Speaker 6: And oh thank you. Hey.

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Speaker 2: Is it true that you have a boyfriend but you

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Speaker 2: won't let the boyfriend move in or you want to

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Speaker 7: So I do have a boyfriend and we've been together

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Speaker 7: for about two years. He has asked me to move in,

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Speaker 7: that'd be perfect.

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Speaker 2: For us, you know, because you want her living at

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Speaker 7: To, I want her to live there. I mean, our perfect,

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Speaker 7: our perfect living situation. We would be my boyfriend and

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Speaker 7: one household for sure.

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Speaker 3: And how does the boyfriend feel about this right now?

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Speaker 7: I mean, I think he's fine.

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Speaker 6: He has to be.

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Speaker 3: He doesn't have a choice, So.

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Speaker 7: I mean, I'm not forcing him to do anything.

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Speaker 8: So as if he did understand a relationship, wouldn't I

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Speaker 3: So he So you're saying like, if you guys, you've

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Speaker 7: Right, Yes, he does. I mean he was brought up

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Speaker 7: They have my mom and her actually have a lot

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Speaker 7: he's not as close with his mom like I am, right,

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Speaker 7: but he understands the dynamic because he was brought up

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Speaker 2: I guess I'm having a hard time seeing what the

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Speaker 3: Is, like whired, smothered like this ship like it's.

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Speaker 2: Like it's not like Angelicae has a problem with any

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Speaker 3: Why there's are like what things commercially have have been

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Speaker 7: There was in our sneak peek there was a scene

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Speaker 2: Did you approve of the ring.

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Speaker 7: I thought it was very nice, very lovely ring. It is.

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Speaker 7: It's very nice.

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Speaker 6: She did approve the ring.

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Speaker 3: And what's your, sonny, what's your Is it just you

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Speaker 8: There's a whole realm of him not having his divorce

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Speaker 8: he still has his ex girlfriend's belongings in his home.

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Speaker 8: And how is he able to honorably ask my daughter

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Speaker 2: That makes completely that's a valid and again, but that's

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Speaker 2: not being smothering, Like that's a valid mom point. I

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Speaker 3: It's very rational thing, very rational.

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Speaker 2: So that's where I don't I'm like, that's where I

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Speaker 3: You guys, what we read something about do you guys

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Speaker 7: Like there we we do sleep in the same bed.

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Speaker 7: We have our own separate bedrooms, but we do sleep

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Speaker 3: Does she help you do the same.

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Speaker 7: If I ask her? But I don't really need the help.

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Speaker 2: And you, again, you have no issues or no problems

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Speaker 2: with that, Like that's just have this amazing relationship we do.

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Speaker 7: And I respect my mother so much and I will

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Speaker 7: I mean I don't.

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Speaker 6: She taught me to ask for anything. She just automatically

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Speaker 7: Exactly.

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Speaker 2: I mean, I think people can easily judge, which isn't

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Speaker 2: me sometimes I would if I would hear it, I'd

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Speaker 2: be like, all right, well, what about independence and wanting

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Speaker 2: the same time, I loved living with my mom. He

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Speaker 5: No, but I mean essentially you did.

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Speaker 2: And it's okay because I'm like, all right, I guess

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Speaker 2: you're right, But I mean I would have lived with

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Speaker 2: She's my best friend and I.

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Speaker 6: Loved her exactly amazing.

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Speaker 2: That's where, like I do, I understand that, and I think,

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Speaker 7: Yes, And it seems as though the ones who don't

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Speaker 7: issue with our relationship. I don't know what that is

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Speaker 7: to someone's relationship. I just don't understand, right.

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Speaker 3: It is interesting and for me, from my perspective, it

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Speaker 2: But you wouldn't take a bath of them.

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Speaker 3: But I wouldn't. I wouldn't. I mean, there's still certain

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Speaker 3: what is it? Do you guys have anything that you

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Speaker 6: We basically do everything together.

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Speaker 7: I don't know.

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Speaker 8: We get stumped every time we get asked that question

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Speaker 7: Whether it's no. I was just about to say that

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Speaker 7: that's the only time we're apart. We work at different places, Okay, but.

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Speaker 2: I mean essentially, now you're on this TV show, so

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Speaker 7: I think that's awesome, it's amazing.

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Speaker 2: Well, here's the thing. The reason I love like our

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Speaker 2: whatever works for you, and I think that's great that

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Speaker 8: But that's what my daughter, she always says, no matter

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Speaker 8: where I go, no matter how old I get, you

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Speaker 7: I will carry my mom.

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Speaker 2: So what happens when that day does come though, when

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Speaker 7: I don't know. Yeah, and I don't. I don't want

441
00:21:57,800 --> 00:22:03,760
Speaker 7: to think about that. I know it probably be the worst,

442
00:22:04,240 --> 00:22:05,240
Speaker 7: worst time of my life.

443
00:22:07,280 --> 00:22:10,760
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, would Yeah, I mean I can't even imagine.

444
00:22:10,960 --> 00:22:13,679
Speaker 2: I mean, obviously losing a parent, I can't even imagine,

445
00:22:13,760 --> 00:22:16,080
Speaker 2: but to have like the closeness that you guys have

446
00:22:16,200 --> 00:22:17,880
Speaker 2: that every single day. Because I don't see my mom

447
00:22:17,880 --> 00:22:20,439
Speaker 2: every day. I wish I could, but I I you know,

448
00:22:20,480 --> 00:22:22,600
Speaker 2: she lives in a different state, and so I can't

449
00:22:22,600 --> 00:22:27,040
Speaker 2: imagine how you would feel if that, you.

450
00:22:27,000 --> 00:22:31,399
Speaker 3: Know, on Smothered on TLC in the show, give our

451
00:22:31,400 --> 00:22:34,320
Speaker 3: listeners a little bit of kind of hindsight on what

452
00:22:34,359 --> 00:22:36,160
Speaker 3: you guys do. Is it them just kind of following

453
00:22:36,160 --> 00:22:38,360
Speaker 3: your alls? Everyday life or are you do you guys

454
00:22:38,440 --> 00:22:40,880
Speaker 3: kind of have a mission behind it of showing people, hey,

455
00:22:40,920 --> 00:22:47,840
Speaker 3: this isn't a different it's not a rehearsal, and it's

456
00:22:47,880 --> 00:22:50,159
Speaker 3: we're comfortable with it, Like are you guys trying to

457
00:22:50,200 --> 00:22:52,440
Speaker 3: just expect they just be like, hey, we're okay, and

458
00:22:52,480 --> 00:22:55,400
Speaker 3: this isn't some weird thing that well.

459
00:22:55,440 --> 00:22:59,600
Speaker 8: I think the misunderstanding of people is that they feel

460
00:22:59,640 --> 00:23:03,480
Speaker 8: that I don't give Angelica her space or the respect

461
00:23:03,600 --> 00:23:07,480
Speaker 8: of that she has her own life outside of our relationship.

462
00:23:07,600 --> 00:23:12,679
Speaker 8: But she does and she is given that. But in

463
00:23:12,800 --> 00:23:18,920
Speaker 8: everyday life, what you see on camera is what and

464
00:23:18,960 --> 00:23:22,200
Speaker 8: who we are right right, And I think which is love.

465
00:23:22,720 --> 00:23:25,960
Speaker 7: And I think people, you know, just because my mom

466
00:23:26,000 --> 00:23:27,840
Speaker 7: and I are close, they expect that, oh, she's just

467
00:23:27,880 --> 00:23:31,760
Speaker 7: the cool mom. She never was a disciplinarian or she

468
00:23:31,840 --> 00:23:36,639
Speaker 7: never you know, taught me how to be responsible.

469
00:23:36,119 --> 00:23:36,760
Speaker 5: In my life.

470
00:23:36,840 --> 00:23:40,720
Speaker 7: It's she was very much everything to me. My mother,

471
00:23:40,840 --> 00:23:44,960
Speaker 7: my father, my my disciplinarian, my best friend. She was everything.

472
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Speaker 7: And I think people think that just because we're close,

473
00:23:48,760 --> 00:23:52,199
Speaker 7: she wasn't a strong mother or a good mother. And

474
00:23:52,240 --> 00:23:54,439
Speaker 7: I want people to know that that she is.

475
00:23:55,320 --> 00:23:58,240
Speaker 2: See. I love that if I just again, I just

476
00:23:58,240 --> 00:24:00,320
Speaker 2: think it comes down to this is what works for

477
00:24:00,359 --> 00:24:02,960
Speaker 2: you guys, And I again, because of how close I

478
00:24:03,000 --> 00:24:04,679
Speaker 2: am with my mom, I love it and I get it.

479
00:24:05,600 --> 00:24:08,560
Speaker 2: I just don't. I hate that people are going to

480
00:24:09,080 --> 00:24:12,280
Speaker 2: cast their judgment on you because it might just not

481
00:24:12,359 --> 00:24:14,800
Speaker 2: be how they live their life, or they may have

482
00:24:15,000 --> 00:24:17,399
Speaker 2: insecurities because they want that with their parent or something

483
00:24:17,400 --> 00:24:18,040
Speaker 2: close to it.

484
00:24:19,400 --> 00:24:24,200
Speaker 8: I always wanted a very close relationship with Angelica because

485
00:24:24,880 --> 00:24:28,200
Speaker 8: as a child, I was not brought up with love

486
00:24:28,600 --> 00:24:32,840
Speaker 8: and attention and affection. So when I found out that

487
00:24:33,000 --> 00:24:35,160
Speaker 8: I was going to have a child and I knew

488
00:24:35,200 --> 00:24:39,120
Speaker 8: it was a girl, that was just an amazing day. Ever,

489
00:24:39,359 --> 00:24:42,960
Speaker 8: because I knew at that very point that she was

490
00:24:43,000 --> 00:24:45,680
Speaker 8: going to be my everything, and I wanted to give

491
00:24:45,720 --> 00:24:49,920
Speaker 8: her a different life than what I was brought up with.

492
00:24:50,640 --> 00:24:52,639
Speaker 6: So I.

493
00:24:54,200 --> 00:24:59,720
Speaker 8: Did that, and that's my healthy boundaries. Giving love and

494
00:25:00,080 --> 00:25:02,880
Speaker 8: giving some guidance. Those are the things that I did

495
00:25:02,920 --> 00:25:03,440
Speaker 8: not have.

496
00:25:04,760 --> 00:25:08,240
Speaker 3: And son, Hiana, Janna and I both want to affirm

497
00:25:08,320 --> 00:25:10,760
Speaker 3: you because the fact that you were able to break

498
00:25:10,760 --> 00:25:13,439
Speaker 3: the cycle in your family, because so many times you

499
00:25:13,440 --> 00:25:15,600
Speaker 3: see people who just fall into that same cycle of

500
00:25:15,640 --> 00:25:18,679
Speaker 3: whatever it is, the bad behaviors or bad trends that

501
00:25:18,720 --> 00:25:21,119
Speaker 3: happen in their family of origins. But you made the

502
00:25:21,160 --> 00:25:24,520
Speaker 3: decision to change that and you did that with Angelica,

503
00:25:24,640 --> 00:25:27,240
Speaker 3: so I we definitely affirm you for that and being

504
00:25:27,280 --> 00:25:30,720
Speaker 3: strong enough to raise you know, a strong and it

505
00:25:30,800 --> 00:25:33,160
Speaker 3: seems to be independent woman still.

506
00:25:33,680 --> 00:25:36,040
Speaker 1: You know, it's interesting because some people would look at

507
00:25:36,040 --> 00:25:38,480
Speaker 1: this show and think to themselves, oh, look at these

508
00:25:38,680 --> 00:25:41,880
Speaker 1: crazy freaks, and then and then like Janna is looking

509
00:25:41,880 --> 00:25:44,960
Speaker 1: at the show, well, I think that's kind of the

510
00:25:44,960 --> 00:25:48,960
Speaker 1: idea of reality television crazy. But then the other side

511
00:25:49,000 --> 00:25:50,560
Speaker 1: of it is like Jana is looking at it like

512
00:25:50,960 --> 00:25:53,720
Speaker 1: this looks ideal to me. I wish, I like, it

513
00:25:53,920 --> 00:25:56,640
Speaker 1: sounds almost like you hope that Joelie someday and you

514
00:25:57,040 --> 00:25:58,320
Speaker 1: have this level of closeness.

515
00:25:58,400 --> 00:26:00,240
Speaker 3: Yeah, she wants to with Jason, not Joey.

516
00:26:00,840 --> 00:26:03,480
Speaker 2: No, I mean okay, and he's still with Jolly too,

517
00:26:03,480 --> 00:26:06,240
Speaker 2: because I love again the relationship with my mom, So yes,

518
00:26:06,320 --> 00:26:09,960
Speaker 2: I mean both of them, but I mean again, and

519
00:26:09,960 --> 00:26:12,240
Speaker 2: it's something that like Angelica's on board with too, and

520
00:26:12,320 --> 00:26:14,639
Speaker 2: that's the same thing. It's not a forced relationship. You

521
00:26:14,680 --> 00:26:18,000
Speaker 2: guys aren't forcing anything. It's it is love. It is beautiful.

522
00:26:18,040 --> 00:26:20,200
Speaker 2: You guys are together, it's what you both want, and

523
00:26:20,560 --> 00:26:23,480
Speaker 2: again that's okay. Just like I know, I had a

524
00:26:23,480 --> 00:26:26,560
Speaker 2: hard time with some guests. We had that on the polygamy,

525
00:26:26,840 --> 00:26:29,240
Speaker 2: and at first I was kind of judging it. But

526
00:26:29,480 --> 00:26:31,600
Speaker 2: when I left that episode, I'm like, it's so wrong

527
00:26:31,640 --> 00:26:34,440
Speaker 2: of me to cast any judgment when that's the way

528
00:26:34,480 --> 00:26:36,119
Speaker 2: they want to live their life and that's what they

529
00:26:36,160 --> 00:26:39,320
Speaker 2: want to do, Okay, you know, so I hope people

530
00:26:39,359 --> 00:26:41,040
Speaker 2: can see the side too with that.

531
00:26:41,680 --> 00:26:43,200
Speaker 3: Yeah, And I think I mean, even when Jane and

532
00:26:43,280 --> 00:26:45,639
Speaker 3: I were kind of reading the breakdown on y'all coming

533
00:26:45,680 --> 00:26:49,040
Speaker 3: into today, you know, we didn't judge, but we made

534
00:26:49,040 --> 00:26:52,840
Speaker 3: the assumption that Son he that you're probably just an overbearing,

535
00:26:52,960 --> 00:26:55,399
Speaker 3: controlling that you know, angelic, I just had to do

536
00:26:55,480 --> 00:26:57,679
Speaker 3: whatever you said kind of deal. But clearly that's not

537
00:26:57,760 --> 00:26:59,840
Speaker 3: the case. And so, you know, for us to even

538
00:26:59,880 --> 00:27:02,960
Speaker 3: assume that, you know, is I think a positive thing

539
00:27:03,000 --> 00:27:05,560
Speaker 3: that when people tune into the show, they're able to

540
00:27:05,600 --> 00:27:07,639
Speaker 3: see what you guys have, what we're able to witness

541
00:27:07,720 --> 00:27:12,000
Speaker 3: right now, and then it's just mutual affectionate love and respect,

542
00:27:12,000 --> 00:27:13,040
Speaker 3: which is truly amazing.

543
00:27:14,240 --> 00:27:14,840
Speaker 6: Thank you.

544
00:27:15,119 --> 00:27:17,200
Speaker 2: I'm going to watch I'm like so excited how to

545
00:27:17,280 --> 00:27:20,320
Speaker 2: watch on Sundays it's ten nine Central, because I'm gonna

546
00:27:20,359 --> 00:27:23,119
Speaker 2: call my mom and I'll say, Mom, can this please

547
00:27:23,119 --> 00:27:23,879
Speaker 2: see us again?

548
00:27:24,000 --> 00:27:25,159
Speaker 5: I'm going to see you living with me?

549
00:27:25,320 --> 00:27:27,480
Speaker 2: And then the next day she's gonna knock on the door.

550
00:27:27,640 --> 00:27:30,800
Speaker 3: Yeah yeah, she would say, okay, I'm coming.

551
00:27:31,760 --> 00:27:35,040
Speaker 2: Oh is there anything that you want our listeners to

552
00:27:35,080 --> 00:27:37,480
Speaker 2: take away from our conversation? Anything you want to say

553
00:27:37,520 --> 00:27:38,639
Speaker 2: that you want them to know about.

554
00:27:39,320 --> 00:27:41,240
Speaker 7: I think we just my mom and I just hope

555
00:27:41,280 --> 00:27:46,240
Speaker 7: that people can watch our show and you know, maybe

556
00:27:46,920 --> 00:27:51,880
Speaker 7: encourage encourage them to have a close bond with any relationship.

557
00:27:51,880 --> 00:27:53,840
Speaker 7: It doesn't just have to be mother and daughter, but

558
00:27:54,680 --> 00:27:57,360
Speaker 7: that having a close knit relationship with someone you love.

559
00:27:57,280 --> 00:28:00,439
Speaker 3: Is okay, yeah right it.

560
00:28:00,320 --> 00:28:02,600
Speaker 8: Is, and they don't have to dissect it into something

561
00:28:02,640 --> 00:28:05,280
Speaker 8: negative because it's so beautiful, right right.

562
00:28:05,800 --> 00:28:08,080
Speaker 2: Well, cannot thank you guys enough for coming on the show.

563
00:28:08,119 --> 00:28:12,159
Speaker 2: I wish we were there to give hugs, but we

564
00:28:12,320 --> 00:28:15,840
Speaker 2: superated and we just hope everyone watches Smothered on TLC

565
00:28:16,000 --> 00:28:18,520
Speaker 2: ten nine Central on Sundays. You guys are the best.

566
00:28:18,560 --> 00:28:28,159
Speaker 2: Thank you ladies, Thank you much. You know it's so funny.

567
00:28:28,160 --> 00:28:32,160
Speaker 2: What you said to them too, about being like reading

568
00:28:32,200 --> 00:28:36,280
Speaker 2: what we read about them but then realizing yeah, I

569
00:28:36,320 --> 00:28:39,360
Speaker 2: mean it's definitely not the way that we would go

570
00:28:39,400 --> 00:28:42,400
Speaker 2: about things, but it's still I still loved it and

571
00:28:42,480 --> 00:28:43,080
Speaker 2: understood it.

572
00:28:43,440 --> 00:28:47,080
Speaker 3: Yeah, even just just hearing it straight from them, maybe

573
00:28:47,240 --> 00:28:50,720
Speaker 3: like wait, it's not really that weird. They're just really

574
00:28:50,720 --> 00:28:51,240
Speaker 3: really close.

575
00:28:51,360 --> 00:28:53,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, and you really love your mom and you really

576
00:28:53,160 --> 00:28:57,200
Speaker 2: but I think what really when she started to get upset, Angelica, Yeah,

577
00:28:57,360 --> 00:28:59,840
Speaker 2: that is what that is where my fear comes in

578
00:28:59,840 --> 00:29:01,800
Speaker 2: from her, Like what's gonna happen? Like I feel like

579
00:29:01,840 --> 00:29:03,640
Speaker 2: she needs to, like to your point, maybe go do

580
00:29:03,720 --> 00:29:07,080
Speaker 2: something outside of their relationship so that she can start

581
00:29:07,720 --> 00:29:14,000
Speaker 2: strengthening a different bond besides her mom. Yeah, because if not,

582
00:29:14,040 --> 00:29:16,960
Speaker 2: she's gonna crumble when that day.

583
00:29:17,160 --> 00:29:17,440
Speaker 5: Moms.

584
00:29:17,640 --> 00:29:23,880
Speaker 3: My thing is when, yes, when that day comes, is

585
00:29:24,480 --> 00:29:30,320
Speaker 3: her relationship with her whatever husband, whatever person she's with,

586
00:29:32,080 --> 00:29:34,160
Speaker 3: you know, is that relationship going to be strong enough

587
00:29:34,160 --> 00:29:40,040
Speaker 3: where it can withstand that tragic of a loss where

588
00:29:40,080 --> 00:29:42,320
Speaker 3: it's like, Okay, now she just has her husband. Is

589
00:29:42,360 --> 00:29:44,520
Speaker 3: that going to be enough for her? Do they have

590
00:29:44,560 --> 00:29:47,960
Speaker 3: a strong enough relationship? Yeah, because she's because her mom's

591
00:29:47,960 --> 00:29:49,600
Speaker 3: going to live with her wherever she goes, like she said,

592
00:29:50,360 --> 00:29:52,520
Speaker 3: so it's like, what is that? Is her marriage then

593
00:29:52,600 --> 00:29:56,080
Speaker 3: going to crumble because she doesn't have her mom and

594
00:29:56,440 --> 00:29:58,320
Speaker 3: maybe not because of her, but maybe the husband's like,

595
00:29:58,400 --> 00:30:03,320
Speaker 3: I I can't take this because you're not even present

596
00:30:03,320 --> 00:30:03,560
Speaker 3: with me.

597
00:30:03,880 --> 00:30:05,040
Speaker 2: It's interesting, it is.

598
00:30:05,120 --> 00:30:08,240
Speaker 3: It is interesting, I think. But I will say, at

599
00:30:08,360 --> 00:30:10,640
Speaker 3: least just talking to them today, it killed a little

600
00:30:10,680 --> 00:30:14,800
Speaker 3: bit of my judgment on the helicopter lawnmower parent, just

601
00:30:14,840 --> 00:30:19,440
Speaker 3: because it seems like she has still established boundaries enough

602
00:30:19,480 --> 00:30:22,400
Speaker 3: to be a disciplinarian and to be that way sound like.

603
00:30:22,400 --> 00:30:24,400
Speaker 2: She's being just whatever you want kind of Oh, here's

604
00:30:24,440 --> 00:30:25,200
Speaker 2: shielding things.

605
00:30:25,280 --> 00:30:28,080
Speaker 3: Yeah. Yeah. So if that's she has a job, yeah,

606
00:30:28,120 --> 00:30:31,400
Speaker 3: If that's true and that's you know, really how things

607
00:30:31,400 --> 00:30:34,320
Speaker 3: are going, which it seemed like it was, then you

608
00:30:34,360 --> 00:30:36,200
Speaker 3: know I could see that being the best of the

609
00:30:36,240 --> 00:30:38,040
Speaker 3: helicopter lawnmower parents.

610
00:30:38,320 --> 00:30:40,040
Speaker 2: Hey, Mark, do we have time to do some emails?

611
00:30:40,280 --> 00:30:40,480
Speaker 4: Yes?

612
00:30:40,560 --> 00:30:44,120
Speaker 1: Indeed, we've got some real interesting emails here. Lindsay says,

613
00:30:44,160 --> 00:30:45,920
Speaker 1: I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for two

614
00:30:45,920 --> 00:30:48,360
Speaker 1: and a half years. He told me back in November.

615
00:30:48,400 --> 00:30:50,480
Speaker 1: The date a one night's stand with some check when

616
00:30:50,560 --> 00:30:53,040
Speaker 1: visiting the college he used to go to. He told

617
00:30:53,040 --> 00:30:55,400
Speaker 1: me the week after it happened and seemed very remorseful.

618
00:30:55,480 --> 00:30:58,040
Speaker 1: This was the only time it's happened, and he's apologized

619
00:30:58,080 --> 00:31:00,320
Speaker 1: numerous times. I've been trying to earn my trust, but

620
00:31:00,360 --> 00:31:03,520
Speaker 1: for some reason, I just can't shake this. Do you

621
00:31:03,560 --> 00:31:05,880
Speaker 1: have any advice on how to forgive. I know he's

622
00:31:05,920 --> 00:31:07,640
Speaker 1: a great guy and he made a terrible mistake, but

623
00:31:07,680 --> 00:31:09,680
Speaker 1: I've been having the hardest time dealing with this.

624
00:31:10,280 --> 00:31:11,160
Speaker 4: I also find it.

625
00:31:11,120 --> 00:31:13,720
Speaker 1: Odd that when I was in school, he was always

626
00:31:13,760 --> 00:31:16,520
Speaker 1: worried about me cheating and basically said he wouldn't put

627
00:31:16,600 --> 00:31:19,320
Speaker 1: up with it if I did, so it's interesting he's

628
00:31:19,360 --> 00:31:20,640
Speaker 1: the one who ended up cheating.

629
00:31:20,800 --> 00:31:22,560
Speaker 4: Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

630
00:31:23,440 --> 00:31:26,960
Speaker 2: I have so much with this. So first off, I

631
00:31:27,080 --> 00:31:30,719
Speaker 2: love the fact that he told her. That's huge. So

632
00:31:30,760 --> 00:31:33,520
Speaker 2: that should help your trust block because the fact that

633
00:31:33,560 --> 00:31:36,920
Speaker 2: she didn't have to find out he confronted and confessed

634
00:31:36,920 --> 00:31:40,000
Speaker 2: to her that is like so amazing, because a guy

635
00:31:40,040 --> 00:31:42,880
Speaker 2: that's going to continue to cheat isn't gonna be honest

636
00:31:42,880 --> 00:31:48,000
Speaker 2: in my opinion. From correct yeah, from the things that

637
00:31:48,000 --> 00:31:51,520
Speaker 2: I've learned through life and other relationships. That is. That

638
00:31:51,640 --> 00:31:54,200
Speaker 2: is what I've seen to be the case. So if

639
00:31:54,200 --> 00:31:57,800
Speaker 2: someone comes to you and apologizes and tells you what

640
00:31:58,200 --> 00:32:00,880
Speaker 2: he did, that person most likely is not going to

641
00:32:00,920 --> 00:32:02,720
Speaker 2: do that again. So I think you need to give

642
00:32:02,760 --> 00:32:04,800
Speaker 2: him a little bit of gratitude and a little grace

643
00:32:05,080 --> 00:32:07,520
Speaker 2: and say thank you for coming, thank you for telling me.

644
00:32:07,640 --> 00:32:09,400
Speaker 2: I know, and I know it's still hard and you

645
00:32:09,400 --> 00:32:11,800
Speaker 2: can still be really upset and angry about it, but

646
00:32:11,840 --> 00:32:14,480
Speaker 2: you also have to be so appreciative because ninety nine

647
00:32:14,480 --> 00:32:17,360
Speaker 2: point nine percent of dudes would not tell you the truth,

648
00:32:17,880 --> 00:32:20,240
Speaker 2: would not tell you, and would not own up to it.

649
00:32:20,800 --> 00:32:24,560
Speaker 2: So I think that's like, I think that's huge. And

650
00:32:24,600 --> 00:32:26,840
Speaker 2: I know it's hard to trust, especially because he cheated,

651
00:32:26,840 --> 00:32:29,720
Speaker 2: and especially he said those things about cheating, but he

652
00:32:29,760 --> 00:32:32,600
Speaker 2: probably was doing that when he was saying that, which

653
00:32:32,760 --> 00:32:36,840
Speaker 2: any cheater will say. Anybody that's worried about you cheating

654
00:32:36,920 --> 00:32:39,560
Speaker 2: is most likely doing something because it's their own self

655
00:32:39,600 --> 00:32:41,320
Speaker 2: reflection coming out.

656
00:32:41,160 --> 00:32:43,560
Speaker 3: Or not necessarily that like I don't want to say

657
00:32:43,600 --> 00:32:47,560
Speaker 3: that they're definitely cheating, or its just their their their

658
00:32:47,600 --> 00:32:51,600
Speaker 3: self esteem, you know, their insecurity, insecurities and stuff like that,

659
00:32:51,640 --> 00:32:53,719
Speaker 3: where he's fearful of it.

660
00:32:53,960 --> 00:32:55,440
Speaker 4: Yeah, would you agree?

661
00:32:55,480 --> 00:32:58,440
Speaker 1: So are you saying that the more someone in a

662
00:32:58,480 --> 00:33:00,880
Speaker 1: relationship was obsessed with the other and cheating, the more

663
00:33:00,960 --> 00:33:02,280
Speaker 1: likely they are themselves to cheat?

664
00:33:03,640 --> 00:33:07,080
Speaker 2: Think that? Yeah? Yes, do you disagree? No?

665
00:33:07,280 --> 00:33:08,400
Speaker 4: I think that's absolutely right.

666
00:33:08,800 --> 00:33:12,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, because I mean, shoot, even when I was being

667
00:33:12,400 --> 00:33:16,400
Speaker 2: crappy in relationships and being you know, unfaithful, I was

668
00:33:16,640 --> 00:33:19,360
Speaker 2: super amped up and I was like, oh god, it's

669
00:33:19,360 --> 00:33:22,360
Speaker 2: it was like, it really is true what they say

670
00:33:22,720 --> 00:33:24,920
Speaker 2: because I started to think I started to be really

671
00:33:24,960 --> 00:33:27,520
Speaker 2: worried about the other person cheating when I actually was.

672
00:33:27,680 --> 00:33:29,800
Speaker 2: So I think that's interesting.

673
00:33:31,200 --> 00:33:33,840
Speaker 1: You think it's possible that this guy just had maybe

674
00:33:33,840 --> 00:33:35,200
Speaker 1: he just had to get out of a system, he

675
00:33:35,280 --> 00:33:37,880
Speaker 1: just made a mistake, and that she can Yeah.

676
00:33:38,280 --> 00:33:39,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't know if out of the system, but

677
00:33:39,960 --> 00:33:41,520
Speaker 3: I think he made a mistake.

678
00:33:41,680 --> 00:33:45,200
Speaker 2: And he's sorry, he's apologized, and he told you. That's

679
00:33:45,320 --> 00:33:46,680
Speaker 2: so huge in my book.

680
00:33:46,840 --> 00:33:47,320
Speaker 3: Yeah.

681
00:33:47,440 --> 00:33:50,080
Speaker 1: Should she set some parameters at this point, like, should

682
00:33:50,080 --> 00:33:51,840
Speaker 1: make it real clear that this happens again, I'm out

683
00:33:51,840 --> 00:33:52,120
Speaker 1: the door.

684
00:33:54,640 --> 00:33:57,480
Speaker 3: Don't don't make a draw like a line in the

685
00:33:57,480 --> 00:33:59,920
Speaker 3: sand if you're not willing to follow through with it.

686
00:34:00,720 --> 00:34:05,080
Speaker 3: So it's more so just expressing how much that hurt her,

687
00:34:05,720 --> 00:34:09,520
Speaker 3: how much it still hurts her, but being able to

688
00:34:09,600 --> 00:34:13,759
Speaker 3: acknowledge and affirm the fact that you know, yes, but

689
00:34:13,840 --> 00:34:17,160
Speaker 3: you told the truth. I appreciate that, but you did

690
00:34:17,200 --> 00:34:20,759
Speaker 3: really hurt me. So she can do both without having

691
00:34:20,760 --> 00:34:22,279
Speaker 3: to draw a line in the sand, like if you

692
00:34:22,400 --> 00:34:25,480
Speaker 3: ever do this again, I will leave right away and

693
00:34:25,480 --> 00:34:27,480
Speaker 3: not talk to you ever. And you're a piece or whatever.

694
00:34:28,200 --> 00:34:31,320
Speaker 3: So just I mean, yeah, agreed.

695
00:34:31,760 --> 00:34:35,279
Speaker 1: It's wind down at iHeartRadio dot com. This is from Shanna.

696
00:34:35,440 --> 00:34:37,080
Speaker 1: My boyfriend and I have been together four and a

697
00:34:37,120 --> 00:34:39,439
Speaker 1: half years, two of which we lived together. During this time,

698
00:34:39,480 --> 00:34:42,160
Speaker 1: my boyfriend decided on a complete career change quit his job.

699
00:34:42,680 --> 00:34:45,239
Speaker 1: His grandfather had been paying him five thousand dollars a

700
00:34:45,280 --> 00:34:47,520
Speaker 1: month out of his inheritance, but he wasn't saving it.

701
00:34:47,560 --> 00:34:50,399
Speaker 1: He was recklessly spending it. We couldn't apply for another

702
00:34:50,440 --> 00:34:52,440
Speaker 1: apartment with just my income, so we decided to move

703
00:34:52,480 --> 00:34:54,880
Speaker 1: back into our parents for two months until he got

704
00:34:54,920 --> 00:34:56,960
Speaker 1: a job. During those two months, we went on a

705
00:34:57,040 --> 00:35:00,640
Speaker 1: vacation together, and then after that he stopped responding to

706
00:35:00,719 --> 00:35:03,520
Speaker 1: any of my calls or my texts. They've been together

707
00:35:03,600 --> 00:35:06,600
Speaker 1: four and a half years. They lived together for two

708
00:35:07,200 --> 00:35:09,960
Speaker 1: three weeks later, I still had not heard from him,

709
00:35:10,360 --> 00:35:12,560
Speaker 1: and then I woke up this morning to an Instagram

710
00:35:12,560 --> 00:35:16,440
Speaker 1: direct message of him breaking up with me. I do

711
00:35:16,560 --> 00:35:18,360
Speaker 1: not even have the words for how I feel. I

712
00:35:18,440 --> 00:35:20,640
Speaker 1: was ghosted by my boyfriend of four years and then

713
00:35:20,640 --> 00:35:22,920
Speaker 1: he breaks it off on Instagram. I don't know what

714
00:35:22,960 --> 00:35:24,840
Speaker 1: to do and I don't know how to feel worthy again.

715
00:35:25,640 --> 00:35:27,719
Speaker 3: Were they living together at her parents' house.

716
00:35:28,040 --> 00:35:29,719
Speaker 4: No, they went to their separate parents' house.

717
00:35:29,880 --> 00:35:32,680
Speaker 3: Oh, to save money, so they were living together in

718
00:35:32,680 --> 00:35:35,600
Speaker 3: an apartment. Couldn't afford a new one, so they both

719
00:35:35,640 --> 00:35:36,960
Speaker 3: went to their own parents' house.

720
00:35:36,960 --> 00:35:39,120
Speaker 4: Right because he had blown all of his money foolishly.

721
00:35:39,160 --> 00:35:40,040
Speaker 5: You know this.

722
00:35:40,920 --> 00:35:45,399
Speaker 2: These stories always shock me. And it happened to one

723
00:35:45,400 --> 00:35:52,000
Speaker 2: of my mom's friends, Amanda, and they were actually engaged too,

724
00:35:52,640 --> 00:35:54,880
Speaker 2: and they were together for I think six years, and

725
00:35:54,960 --> 00:35:59,719
Speaker 2: he just literally disappeared and were like how I mean

726
00:35:59,719 --> 00:36:02,000
Speaker 2: he was just over a week ago and they were

727
00:36:02,000 --> 00:36:06,640
Speaker 2: in love and they're getting married and like, he literally disappeared, vanished,

728
00:36:07,680 --> 00:36:12,040
Speaker 2: no call, no breakup, no nothing, just gone. And it

729
00:36:12,160 --> 00:36:15,120
Speaker 2: was just like, did he get into a drug problem?

730
00:36:15,160 --> 00:36:16,440
Speaker 2: Did he like, where did he go?

731
00:36:16,800 --> 00:36:17,000
Speaker 6: Well?

732
00:36:17,160 --> 00:36:20,920
Speaker 2: Ended up he had met someone else and just started

733
00:36:20,960 --> 00:36:23,600
Speaker 2: a completely new life. So I don't know if that's

734
00:36:23,600 --> 00:36:27,319
Speaker 2: what he did in this situation, but I mean to say,

735
00:36:28,360 --> 00:36:32,600
Speaker 2: I mean, that's just that is so disrespectful. So I'd

736
00:36:32,640 --> 00:36:35,959
Speaker 2: almost I hate that she said to feel worthy again,

737
00:36:35,960 --> 00:36:37,839
Speaker 2: because I don't want you to put your worth into

738
00:36:37,880 --> 00:36:40,400
Speaker 2: this guy. And I think that's what hurt hurt me

739
00:36:40,440 --> 00:36:43,120
Speaker 2: the most out of that entire email, was that, you know,

740
00:36:43,200 --> 00:36:46,399
Speaker 2: she's linking her worth into this relationship into this guy

741
00:36:46,800 --> 00:36:49,759
Speaker 2: that does not deserve another second or minute of his

742
00:36:49,840 --> 00:36:53,280
Speaker 2: time to be that disrespectful to someone that she loved

743
00:36:53,320 --> 00:36:57,759
Speaker 2: and was with, and so to try to, you know,

744
00:36:58,160 --> 00:37:00,960
Speaker 2: cry about it for sure, one hundred, but then also

745
00:37:02,000 --> 00:37:04,360
Speaker 2: freaking stand back up and know your worth and know

746
00:37:04,440 --> 00:37:07,719
Speaker 2: that you dodged a freaking bullet by not being in

747
00:37:07,719 --> 00:37:10,120
Speaker 2: a relationship with someone that could have this such disrespect

748
00:37:10,160 --> 00:37:10,400
Speaker 2: for you.

749
00:37:11,400 --> 00:37:15,640
Speaker 3: Michael, mm hmm, I mean, how do I follow that?

750
00:37:16,200 --> 00:37:18,839
Speaker 2: I was like, I'm pointing like a president right now.

751
00:37:20,440 --> 00:37:23,960
Speaker 3: I mean, yeah, I mean, he's he's a goner. I mean,

752
00:37:24,520 --> 00:37:26,279
Speaker 3: and but where do what is it?

753
00:37:26,400 --> 00:37:28,200
Speaker 2: What's the guy? I mean, get in the guy's head

754
00:37:28,840 --> 00:37:29,160
Speaker 2: right here.

755
00:37:29,280 --> 00:37:34,239
Speaker 3: Oh it's not just a guy's head though, So you know,

756
00:37:34,320 --> 00:37:38,880
Speaker 3: like my uncle. Yeah, like his whole deal. You know

757
00:37:38,880 --> 00:37:42,000
Speaker 3: where my uncle is wife of ten years who is

758
00:37:42,000 --> 00:37:45,759
Speaker 3: from another country. Oh yeah, went to go visit that

759
00:37:46,160 --> 00:37:53,400
Speaker 3: said country to see family. Never came back, never came back.

760
00:37:53,480 --> 00:37:56,040
Speaker 3: And for months and months and months he tried to

761
00:37:56,040 --> 00:37:58,160
Speaker 3: get answers from her, like what is going on?

762
00:37:58,360 --> 00:37:59,040
Speaker 2: You were married?

763
00:37:59,160 --> 00:38:03,840
Speaker 3: They were married for ten years. Same and her daughter,

764
00:38:04,719 --> 00:38:08,640
Speaker 3: whom my uncle essentially like adopted, was still who's in

765
00:38:09,280 --> 00:38:14,440
Speaker 3: high school, was like seventeen at the time, was just

766
00:38:14,480 --> 00:38:17,719
Speaker 3: living at home with my uncle. And he's just like,

767
00:38:17,920 --> 00:38:20,759
Speaker 3: I'm sorry, I don't know where your mom is, Like

768
00:38:20,800 --> 00:38:24,440
Speaker 3: she wouldn't even take her daughter's calls. And then finally

769
00:38:24,480 --> 00:38:25,799
Speaker 3: at the end of it, the family's like, it has

770
00:38:25,800 --> 00:38:27,680
Speaker 3: to be somebody else. There has to be somebody else.

771
00:38:28,360 --> 00:38:30,040
Speaker 3: And when he would get it hold of her, he

772
00:38:30,080 --> 00:38:32,880
Speaker 3: would say that she said it wasn't somebody else's family.

773
00:38:32,920 --> 00:38:36,440
Speaker 3: She always had a store or some bs. Ultimately, at

774
00:38:36,440 --> 00:38:38,800
Speaker 3: the end of it, there was somebody else.

775
00:38:39,080 --> 00:38:39,600
Speaker 5: Yeah.

776
00:38:39,719 --> 00:38:42,520
Speaker 3: So I mean for this situation, I don't know what.

777
00:38:42,920 --> 00:38:46,200
Speaker 3: I can't even come up with another reason how it

778
00:38:46,200 --> 00:38:47,399
Speaker 3: wouldn't be somebody else.

779
00:38:47,520 --> 00:38:49,959
Speaker 2: Well, as soon as I said, it's always somebody else.

780
00:38:50,400 --> 00:38:52,839
Speaker 2: Maybe there's that one percent that it's not somebody else

781
00:38:52,840 --> 00:38:54,759
Speaker 2: and they just want to get out of a relationship

782
00:38:54,840 --> 00:38:57,239
Speaker 2: and they don't know how, and the easiest way is

783
00:38:57,280 --> 00:39:00,520
Speaker 2: to ghost. Yeah, I mean, trust me the balls, I

784
00:39:00,560 --> 00:39:03,279
Speaker 2: would do it in a couple of my relationships. Yeah,

785
00:39:03,320 --> 00:39:04,759
Speaker 2: but I can't really disappear.

786
00:39:05,360 --> 00:39:07,280
Speaker 3: No, but you can't.

787
00:39:07,480 --> 00:39:10,040
Speaker 2: But I mean, but at the same time, though, it's

788
00:39:10,120 --> 00:39:14,359
Speaker 2: just like, where's the balls in that? Yeah, having such

789
00:39:14,440 --> 00:39:15,320
Speaker 2: disrespect for someone.

790
00:39:15,400 --> 00:39:18,840
Speaker 3: But like Jana said, you dodged a bullet, and obviously

791
00:39:18,880 --> 00:39:20,440
Speaker 3: it's hard right now, we can't.

792
00:39:20,840 --> 00:39:24,479
Speaker 1: She got that DM this morning, so it's definitely raw,

793
00:39:25,040 --> 00:39:28,280
Speaker 1: very very raw. What's her name again, Shanna?

794
00:39:29,000 --> 00:39:33,719
Speaker 3: Shanna? Yeah, that's I'm sorry, sweetheart, it is. That's super raw.

795
00:39:34,120 --> 00:39:39,040
Speaker 3: But the best to your ability. Just again, like Jana said,

796
00:39:39,040 --> 00:39:41,520
Speaker 3: you dodged a bullet and almost try to turn it

797
00:39:41,520 --> 00:39:45,600
Speaker 3: into a positive of being grateful that he gave you this, Yeah,

798
00:39:45,680 --> 00:39:49,080
Speaker 3: that he gave you this out because clearly he wasn't

799
00:39:49,080 --> 00:39:50,080
Speaker 3: the person for you.

800
00:39:50,120 --> 00:39:52,760
Speaker 2: No, and I know it. I know it doesn't seem

801
00:39:52,800 --> 00:39:55,040
Speaker 2: like it now, but you will find out the reason

802
00:39:55,120 --> 00:39:57,759
Speaker 2: later as to why y'all didn't work out. Because you're

803
00:39:57,760 --> 00:39:59,880
Speaker 2: going to be in a better relationship in a ca

804
00:40:00,239 --> 00:40:02,920
Speaker 2: years or a year, or however long it takes, it

805
00:40:02,960 --> 00:40:04,520
Speaker 2: will be the right person.

806
00:40:04,600 --> 00:40:07,799
Speaker 3: Then, do have the age does not know?

807
00:40:07,840 --> 00:40:08,240
Speaker 2: Twenties?

808
00:40:10,160 --> 00:40:11,120
Speaker 3: Yeah, it sounds like twenties.

809
00:40:11,200 --> 00:40:13,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, but then again, I mean, look at your uncle's situation.

810
00:40:13,160 --> 00:40:17,080
Speaker 3: Look at you know, they went and lived at their parents' house. Yeah,

811
00:40:17,760 --> 00:40:18,920
Speaker 3: most likely their twenties.

812
00:40:19,960 --> 00:40:22,880
Speaker 1: Jessica, this is a tough one. I'm twenty four. My

813
00:40:22,920 --> 00:40:25,279
Speaker 1: boyfriend of two years is twenty seven. We just had

814
00:40:25,320 --> 00:40:28,120
Speaker 1: a very real pregnancy scare. He doesn't want kids, and

815
00:40:28,160 --> 00:40:30,040
Speaker 1: it's made that clear from the beginning, which was perfect.

816
00:40:30,120 --> 00:40:30,880
Speaker 4: I don't either.

817
00:40:31,600 --> 00:40:34,359
Speaker 1: Lately, even before the scare, though, I'm not sure where

818
00:40:34,440 --> 00:40:37,120
Speaker 1: I stand if if it happens, it happens, but I'm

819
00:40:37,160 --> 00:40:39,040
Speaker 1: not going out of my way to have kids. I

820
00:40:39,120 --> 00:40:40,840
Speaker 1: wasn't going to tell him anything at first, and I

821
00:40:40,840 --> 00:40:44,600
Speaker 1: thought he would react horribly. Turns out he was surprisingly

822
00:40:44,640 --> 00:40:46,719
Speaker 1: supportive and said if he got pregnant, it was one

823
00:40:46,800 --> 00:40:49,680
Speaker 1: hundred percent my choice on how we handled it. So

824
00:40:49,760 --> 00:40:52,000
Speaker 1: the topic was dropped until the next morning when he

825
00:40:52,080 --> 00:40:54,400
Speaker 1: asked if it would be a deal breaker if he

826
00:40:54,480 --> 00:40:58,839
Speaker 1: got a vasectomy. I responded very passive, aggressively saying it's

827
00:40:58,880 --> 00:41:02,000
Speaker 1: your body. I have no It's not a deal breaker

828
00:41:02,040 --> 00:41:03,959
Speaker 1: for me currently, but I don't know how I'll feel

829
00:41:04,040 --> 00:41:06,239
Speaker 1: later in life. I honestly have no idea if I

830
00:41:06,280 --> 00:41:09,360
Speaker 1: want kids yet or at all. I know communication is

831
00:41:09,440 --> 00:41:11,439
Speaker 1: key and it's a conversation that's needed, but I also

832
00:41:11,480 --> 00:41:13,839
Speaker 1: have the very real fear I could lose him over

833
00:41:13,920 --> 00:41:16,520
Speaker 1: something I don't even know if I want yet. Two

834
00:41:16,640 --> 00:41:19,160
Speaker 1: years isn't that long, but we do love each other

835
00:41:19,200 --> 00:41:20,960
Speaker 1: and want to spend our lives together. I'd love any

836
00:41:20,960 --> 00:41:22,800
Speaker 1: advice you and or Mike can offer.

837
00:41:24,280 --> 00:41:29,680
Speaker 2: So first of all, okay, you're twenty four, so I

838
00:41:29,719 --> 00:41:33,200
Speaker 2: mean putting it in my perspective. I always knew I

839
00:41:33,200 --> 00:41:34,880
Speaker 2: wanted to be a mom, but there's a lot of

840
00:41:34,880 --> 00:41:37,840
Speaker 2: women that don't know if they want to be parents

841
00:41:37,920 --> 00:41:40,839
Speaker 2: at all, which is that's okay. But in your late

842
00:41:40,920 --> 00:41:43,320
Speaker 2: twenties thirties is honestly when it starts to kind of

843
00:41:43,400 --> 00:41:45,160
Speaker 2: hit for a woman and you're like, you know what,

844
00:41:45,239 --> 00:41:47,120
Speaker 2: I know that I said I didn't, but I actually

845
00:41:47,520 --> 00:41:53,759
Speaker 2: I actually do. And because you're start kicking in and

846
00:41:53,800 --> 00:41:56,680
Speaker 2: you're life young, twenty four is so young. And I

847
00:41:56,680 --> 00:42:02,279
Speaker 2: will also say too, the so I was not to

848
00:42:02,320 --> 00:42:04,960
Speaker 2: bring in like a past relationship. But there was someone

849
00:42:05,280 --> 00:42:07,440
Speaker 2: that was like, I don't want kids, and I was like, oh,

850
00:42:07,480 --> 00:42:09,600
Speaker 2: that's fine, I don't want kids either. And I was like, wait,

851
00:42:09,719 --> 00:42:12,839
Speaker 2: that's why would I say that. Of course I want kids,

852
00:42:12,840 --> 00:42:14,520
Speaker 2: But I was just trying to cling on to this

853
00:42:14,560 --> 00:42:18,879
Speaker 2: person that was obviously not right for me. But I

854
00:42:18,920 --> 00:42:21,960
Speaker 2: was trying so hard to like, please and so for

855
00:42:22,080 --> 00:42:23,920
Speaker 2: if she was like, fine, yes, please get to astact

856
00:42:23,960 --> 00:42:25,040
Speaker 2: me because I love you and I want to be

857
00:42:25,120 --> 00:42:29,279
Speaker 2: with you, But is that truly what you want? And

858
00:42:30,320 --> 00:42:32,839
Speaker 2: because again you're twenty four, like, you have so much

859
00:42:32,880 --> 00:42:34,279
Speaker 2: more life to live, You have so much more to

860
00:42:34,400 --> 00:42:37,680
Speaker 2: change and grow as a woman. And if you don't know,

861
00:42:38,719 --> 00:42:40,880
Speaker 2: that's the thing. If you were like one hundred percent

862
00:42:40,920 --> 00:42:43,280
Speaker 2: one way or the other, then that's an easier situation.

863
00:42:43,360 --> 00:42:46,040
Speaker 2: But if you don't know, that to me says that

864
00:42:46,080 --> 00:42:49,000
Speaker 2: you should pay be open, have a conversation that I

865
00:42:49,120 --> 00:42:52,240
Speaker 2: just don't want to make that closed decision right now.

866
00:42:52,640 --> 00:42:53,840
Speaker 2: That's just my personal opinion.

867
00:42:54,560 --> 00:42:58,319
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean, it's he's young to be thinking about

868
00:42:58,320 --> 00:43:01,520
Speaker 3: if he clearly does not want to have kids, or

869
00:43:01,960 --> 00:43:04,680
Speaker 3: so he thinks because he wants to have a vasectomy.

870
00:43:06,080 --> 00:43:07,520
Speaker 2: It's gonna be hard to change his mind. If he's

871
00:43:07,520 --> 00:43:09,360
Speaker 2: twenty seven months of the sectomy.

872
00:43:09,040 --> 00:43:11,400
Speaker 3: Right, that would be That's just seems so early. I

873
00:43:11,440 --> 00:43:14,000
Speaker 3: don't know why he'd be that adamant against it, but

874
00:43:14,040 --> 00:43:16,880
Speaker 3: if you know, you know, I guess you know. But

875
00:43:16,920 --> 00:43:20,040
Speaker 3: the thing is, he was even you know, kind of

876
00:43:20,120 --> 00:43:22,120
Speaker 3: support you or not kind of he was supportive like

877
00:43:22,160 --> 00:43:26,040
Speaker 3: she said about you know, possibly being pregnant or hey,

878
00:43:26,080 --> 00:43:28,080
Speaker 3: you can do it's your but you know, I'll support

879
00:43:28,120 --> 00:43:29,560
Speaker 3: you either way what you want to do with it.

880
00:43:29,719 --> 00:43:31,719
Speaker 2: But then flips it the next morning, then flips the

881
00:43:31,719 --> 00:43:32,080
Speaker 2: next morning.

882
00:43:32,080 --> 00:43:35,640
Speaker 3: So I'm not really sure either, but I'll just say that.

883
00:43:36,560 --> 00:43:40,200
Speaker 3: Say he wants to get one, okay, if you really

884
00:43:40,239 --> 00:43:44,160
Speaker 3: love him and he wants to get one. First tried saying, hey,

885
00:43:44,200 --> 00:43:45,799
Speaker 3: I don't know if I want kids or not, but

886
00:43:45,840 --> 00:43:47,520
Speaker 3: I really want to be with you. Do you have

887
00:43:47,560 --> 00:43:50,880
Speaker 3: to do this right now? And if he still says yes,

888
00:43:51,480 --> 00:43:53,560
Speaker 3: I want to, I have to. I need to if

889
00:43:53,560 --> 00:43:54,960
Speaker 3: we want to be together, I have to do this

890
00:43:55,680 --> 00:43:58,040
Speaker 3: all right. So he does it, and if he changes

891
00:43:58,040 --> 00:43:59,880
Speaker 3: his mind, you can still have kids. There's a way

892
00:43:59,920 --> 00:44:02,160
Speaker 3: to ways to do it. Now. You don't get a

893
00:44:02,239 --> 00:44:06,239
Speaker 3: vasectomy to get it reversed, or to have seemen extracted.

894
00:44:06,680 --> 00:44:08,520
Speaker 2: In your case, we did and I'm getting right.

895
00:44:09,400 --> 00:44:12,920
Speaker 3: So, but it is possible. It's not like she's saying, Oh,

896
00:44:12,920 --> 00:44:15,640
Speaker 3: I'm gonna tie my tubes, you know what I mean.

897
00:44:15,920 --> 00:44:20,320
Speaker 2: But it's just so final though it is, but it isn't.

898
00:44:20,360 --> 00:44:22,319
Speaker 3: But it's I mean, it's a little extreme for being

899
00:44:22,360 --> 00:44:25,279
Speaker 3: twenty four and twenty seven years old having this discussion.

900
00:44:25,520 --> 00:44:27,440
Speaker 1: And Janney, you're the one that still wants still is

901
00:44:27,480 --> 00:44:29,800
Speaker 1: one hundred percent sure that you don't want more kids?

902
00:44:30,040 --> 00:44:31,040
Speaker 3: Yeah, even though.

903
00:44:30,920 --> 00:44:33,480
Speaker 2: After I go, here's the thing, I know that we're done.

904
00:44:33,520 --> 00:44:35,440
Speaker 2: It's just so hard because our little boy is going

905
00:44:35,520 --> 00:44:36,360
Speaker 2: to be seven months.

906
00:44:36,440 --> 00:44:37,439
Speaker 3: He's so cool.

907
00:44:37,480 --> 00:44:41,960
Speaker 2: I'm on, but I just she's got I think she

908
00:44:42,000 --> 00:44:43,160
Speaker 2: needs to hold off a beat.

909
00:44:43,200 --> 00:44:45,960
Speaker 4: What do you think, Mark, I think that she wants kids.

910
00:44:46,200 --> 00:44:48,279
Speaker 1: I think that she's telling herself she doesn't because she's

911
00:44:48,280 --> 00:44:51,080
Speaker 1: twenty four and she doesn't right now. But everything I

912
00:44:51,120 --> 00:44:53,280
Speaker 1: see in this email is that she's gonna want kids,

913
00:44:53,800 --> 00:44:55,960
Speaker 1: and it sounds like he's pretty dead set against it.

914
00:44:56,000 --> 00:44:57,640
Speaker 1: I like Mike's idea of putting it off and they

915
00:44:57,640 --> 00:44:59,760
Speaker 1: can decide later. But if he goes through with a vasectomy.

916
00:45:00,000 --> 00:45:03,520
Speaker 1: Think this is over. Honestly, I think that's I know

917
00:45:03,560 --> 00:45:05,759
Speaker 1: that's extreme and everything, but I feel like I see

918
00:45:05,760 --> 00:45:08,560
Speaker 1: clarity here. I feel that you are going to want children,

919
00:45:08,600 --> 00:45:10,759
Speaker 1: and you're gonna want a guy that wants children. If

920
00:45:10,760 --> 00:45:12,879
Speaker 1: he's really that dead set against that, I don't think

921
00:45:12,880 --> 00:45:13,520
Speaker 1: this is your guy.

922
00:45:14,160 --> 00:45:17,880
Speaker 3: And guess what if he gets a prosectomy, she doesn't

923
00:45:17,920 --> 00:45:20,560
Speaker 3: lose anything because it's like, all right, well, if you

924
00:45:20,600 --> 00:45:22,640
Speaker 3: don't want kids, then yeah, I'll find someone who does

925
00:45:23,360 --> 00:45:25,560
Speaker 3: and I'll be happier. So it's like there's no skin

926
00:45:25,640 --> 00:45:27,440
Speaker 3: off her back, really, and.

927
00:45:27,480 --> 00:45:28,960
Speaker 2: She will She'll find someone, right.

928
00:45:30,040 --> 00:45:31,960
Speaker 3: So, thank you so much for our guests. That was

929
00:45:32,080 --> 00:45:35,440
Speaker 3: such an interesting story in really good conversations with them,

930
00:45:35,480 --> 00:45:37,400
Speaker 3: And for the emails. Those are some Those are some

931
00:45:37,440 --> 00:45:39,399
Speaker 3: of the best emails we've had recently. Are awesome.

932
00:45:39,560 --> 00:45:43,160
Speaker 2: We've got any more wind down at iHeartRadio dot com.

933
00:45:43,480 --> 00:45:47,040
Speaker 2: All right, that's it, that's a rap. They've Oh wait,

934
00:45:47,080 --> 00:45:47,959
Speaker 2: we forgot.

935
00:45:51,120 --> 00:45:51,640
Speaker 3: Premature.

936
00:45:51,800 --> 00:45:58,720
Speaker 2: What's our dare for the week? Couples dare couples stare? Yeah,

937
00:45:58,760 --> 00:46:03,200
Speaker 2: my dare for them would to be compliment them one

938
00:46:03,960 --> 00:46:07,040
Speaker 2: like at least once a day. For a week, one

939
00:46:07,080 --> 00:46:10,560
Speaker 2: thing like paper really that shirt on you for Hey,

940
00:46:10,600 --> 00:46:13,640
Speaker 2: you look really cute today. One compliment for a week

941
00:46:14,600 --> 00:46:17,720
Speaker 2: until the next one down? Yeah you like it?

942
00:46:18,360 --> 00:46:21,040
Speaker 4: Okay, bye, we start now do you want to compliment

943
00:46:21,080 --> 00:46:21,399
Speaker 4: each other?

944
00:46:21,400 --> 00:46:21,560
Speaker 5: Now?

945
00:46:21,680 --> 00:46:23,760
Speaker 2: I just said, baby, look really cute.

946
00:46:24,360 --> 00:46:27,200
Speaker 3: Thanks, honey, I like your ses.

947
00:46:28,320 --> 00:46:29,680
Speaker 2: Oh you suck at this game.

948
00:46:30,320 --> 00:46:31,960
Speaker 3: You look beautiful even though you just worked out.

949
00:46:33,600 --> 00:46:38,120
Speaker 2: I don't believe that for a second, but thank you, Oh.

950
00:46:38,280 --> 00:46:41,640
Speaker 1: God, accept that you have to accept the compliment that

951
00:46:41,719 --> 00:46:46,279
Speaker 1: I'm stinky. Not accepting a compliment is like asking for

952
00:46:46,280 --> 00:46:47,200
Speaker 1: a compliment twice.

953
00:46:47,560 --> 00:46:48,840
Speaker 2: But he said I'm stinky.

954
00:46:49,600 --> 00:46:50,800
Speaker 4: Well that wasn't very nice.

955
00:46:51,080 --> 00:46:52,920
Speaker 1: But he said you were beautiful even though you just

956
00:46:52,920 --> 00:46:54,960
Speaker 1: looked out, You're still beautiful, and you said.

957
00:46:55,000 --> 00:46:57,879
Speaker 2: Accept that, but he followed it with your stinky. So

958
00:46:57,920 --> 00:46:59,880
Speaker 2: he's gonna have to work on this game, all right,

959
00:47:00,040 --> 00:47:01,880
Speaker 2: Love you guys. Wind Down next week by

960
00:47:07,360 --> 00:47:07,759
Speaker 1: Mm hmm.