1 00:00:02,720 --> 00:00:05,880 Speaker 1: Hi. This is Laura Vandercamp. I'm a mother of five, 2 00:00:06,160 --> 00:00:10,240 Speaker 1: an author, journalist, and speaker. And this is Sarah Hartunger. 3 00:00:10,480 --> 00:00:13,480 Speaker 1: I'm a mother of three, a practicing physician and blogger. 4 00:00:13,480 --> 00:00:15,800 Speaker 1: On the side, we are two working parents who love 5 00:00:15,840 --> 00:00:19,320 Speaker 1: our careers and our families. Welcome to best of both worlds. 6 00:00:19,600 --> 00:00:22,400 Speaker 1: Here we talk about how real women manage work, family, 7 00:00:22,560 --> 00:00:25,800 Speaker 1: and time for fun, from figuring out childcare to mapping 8 00:00:25,800 --> 00:00:28,320 Speaker 1: out long term career goals. We want you to get 9 00:00:28,360 --> 00:00:33,960 Speaker 1: the most out of life. Welcome to best of both worlds. 10 00:00:34,040 --> 00:00:36,959 Speaker 1: This is Laura. This is episode two hundred and forty three, 11 00:00:37,000 --> 00:00:39,520 Speaker 1: which is airing in late March of twenty twenty two. 12 00:00:40,159 --> 00:00:42,720 Speaker 1: This episode is going to be all things that are 13 00:00:42,880 --> 00:00:45,479 Speaker 1: saving our lives right now. Saving my life right now 14 00:00:45,600 --> 00:00:49,560 Speaker 1: is a phrase you might recognize from podcast and blogging world. 15 00:00:49,560 --> 00:00:51,960 Speaker 1: Apparently it's been used a lot. Sarah read up on 16 00:00:52,000 --> 00:00:53,960 Speaker 1: the history of it. You want to share that with us, Yeah, 17 00:00:53,960 --> 00:00:56,960 Speaker 1: so it's been mentioned in a lot of places, probably 18 00:00:57,000 --> 00:01:00,680 Speaker 1: a lot of places our listeners are familiar with. My googling, 19 00:01:00,880 --> 00:01:03,840 Speaker 1: I got to end vocal site Modern Missus Darcy, who 20 00:01:03,880 --> 00:01:07,240 Speaker 1: we love, and she notes that the idea comes from 21 00:01:07,280 --> 00:01:11,399 Speaker 1: author Barbara Brown Taylor, who in her memoir Leaving Church, 22 00:01:11,680 --> 00:01:13,720 Speaker 1: she tells about a time she was invited to speak 23 00:01:13,760 --> 00:01:16,840 Speaker 1: and her host assigned her this topic, tell us, what 24 00:01:16,920 --> 00:01:19,120 Speaker 1: is saving your life right now? Kind of sounds like 25 00:01:19,160 --> 00:01:22,760 Speaker 1: a breakout session which we are on our retreat, our 26 00:01:22,760 --> 00:01:24,760 Speaker 1: best of both world's retreat. We decided to record a 27 00:01:24,760 --> 00:01:27,960 Speaker 1: couple of episodes on this retreat, and we had a 28 00:01:28,000 --> 00:01:31,120 Speaker 1: little breakout session where Sarah and I went to separate 29 00:01:31,120 --> 00:01:36,760 Speaker 1: corners of this table and each came up with a 30 00:01:36,840 --> 00:01:40,000 Speaker 1: handful of things that are saving our life right now, 31 00:01:40,280 --> 00:01:42,720 Speaker 1: which we are going to reveal in real time to 32 00:01:42,760 --> 00:01:44,960 Speaker 1: each other. We have not seen each other's lists, although 33 00:01:44,959 --> 00:01:46,920 Speaker 1: I feel like we may know each other well enough 34 00:01:46,920 --> 00:01:50,080 Speaker 1: that we're going to recognize what comes up. But we 35 00:01:50,120 --> 00:01:53,360 Speaker 1: will alternate going back and forth with the things that 36 00:01:53,440 --> 00:01:57,560 Speaker 1: are saving our lives right now. It'll be a surprise 37 00:01:57,680 --> 00:01:59,320 Speaker 1: to both of us what we each came up with, 38 00:01:59,480 --> 00:02:02,120 Speaker 1: and to you as well. Imagine, So, Sarah, why don't 39 00:02:02,160 --> 00:02:05,920 Speaker 1: you start sure? Okay, the first one I feel a 40 00:02:05,920 --> 00:02:08,720 Speaker 1: little guilty, including because they are a sponsor of Best 41 00:02:08,760 --> 00:02:11,960 Speaker 1: Laid Plans, so sorry, but they actually are saved with 42 00:02:11,960 --> 00:02:13,400 Speaker 1: my life right now, like I think I would be 43 00:02:13,520 --> 00:02:16,040 Speaker 1: using this product whether or not I was working with them, 44 00:02:16,120 --> 00:02:20,040 Speaker 1: And it's Preptish because I have reached a critical level 45 00:02:20,160 --> 00:02:23,640 Speaker 1: of meal planning fatigue. I like just don't feel like it. 46 00:02:23,720 --> 00:02:25,280 Speaker 1: All I can think of to make for my kids 47 00:02:25,280 --> 00:02:27,400 Speaker 1: if I wasn't using something is like tacos, like that's 48 00:02:27,440 --> 00:02:30,040 Speaker 1: all I can come up with. And Preptish like they 49 00:02:30,080 --> 00:02:32,680 Speaker 1: just email you your stuff. The shopping list is already there, 50 00:02:32,720 --> 00:02:34,480 Speaker 1: so it's like a very mindless way. I've been doing 51 00:02:34,480 --> 00:02:36,480 Speaker 1: grocery delivery, which is not on my list here but 52 00:02:37,120 --> 00:02:39,400 Speaker 1: probably could be. But I just use that to create 53 00:02:39,400 --> 00:02:42,720 Speaker 1: my grocery list. Add our normal lunch stuff, and it's 54 00:02:42,840 --> 00:02:45,560 Speaker 1: just like one less thing to think about. I don't 55 00:02:45,560 --> 00:02:47,079 Speaker 1: do a lot of the cooking in our house. I 56 00:02:47,160 --> 00:02:49,399 Speaker 1: usually do cook on like Sunday nights, so I get 57 00:02:49,440 --> 00:02:51,240 Speaker 1: to like start the Preptish stuff and then our nanny 58 00:02:51,320 --> 00:02:54,280 Speaker 1: kind of takes over. But it's actually been really really helpful. 59 00:02:54,280 --> 00:02:57,360 Speaker 1: I'm sure there's also other services that are similar, but 60 00:02:57,680 --> 00:03:01,320 Speaker 1: this is really working for me excellent. Well, my first 61 00:03:01,360 --> 00:03:04,680 Speaker 1: one is going to be my son Alex's pogo stick, 62 00:03:05,440 --> 00:03:11,360 Speaker 1: so we have been trying to limit the screen exposure 63 00:03:11,400 --> 00:03:14,120 Speaker 1: for him in particular, I think he is better behaved 64 00:03:14,160 --> 00:03:16,480 Speaker 1: when he has more limited access to it. So it's 65 00:03:16,560 --> 00:03:18,800 Speaker 1: been sort of he'd have one hour of iPad time 66 00:03:18,880 --> 00:03:22,280 Speaker 1: after dinner in the evenings, but of course that leaves 67 00:03:22,320 --> 00:03:25,080 Speaker 1: lots of other hours to fill with various things, and 68 00:03:25,080 --> 00:03:27,640 Speaker 1: he's a very high energy kid, and so we have 69 00:03:27,720 --> 00:03:29,840 Speaker 1: had to figure out, well, what can he do with 70 00:03:29,919 --> 00:03:33,040 Speaker 1: that time? And one thing he really likes doing is 71 00:03:33,120 --> 00:03:36,520 Speaker 1: bouncing on his pogo stick. So he and Ruth both 72 00:03:36,560 --> 00:03:41,520 Speaker 1: got pogo sticks for Christmas, and you know, he's really 73 00:03:41,520 --> 00:03:44,680 Speaker 1: good at it. It is amazing sort of what you 74 00:03:44,680 --> 00:03:46,200 Speaker 1: can do when you practice. Like the first time he 75 00:03:46,240 --> 00:03:48,600 Speaker 1: got on it, he fell off after three bounces and 76 00:03:48,680 --> 00:03:50,520 Speaker 1: he saw one of his big brothers manage to do 77 00:03:50,560 --> 00:03:52,280 Speaker 1: like fifteen. He's like, well, wait, I should be able 78 00:03:52,320 --> 00:03:54,160 Speaker 1: to do that, and so he did that, and they 79 00:03:54,240 --> 00:03:58,120 Speaker 1: kept practicing. He got up to like three hundred in 80 00:03:58,160 --> 00:04:00,880 Speaker 1: a row, which we actually bother to look like, what 81 00:04:01,040 --> 00:04:04,880 Speaker 1: is the world record? And so for children it's like 82 00:04:04,960 --> 00:04:07,560 Speaker 1: in the the low thousands. So who knows, we may 83 00:04:07,600 --> 00:04:11,080 Speaker 1: be reporting back on our Guinness World Book. I'm kidding, 84 00:04:11,080 --> 00:04:13,040 Speaker 1: but I don't think we're going to get a Guinness book, 85 00:04:13,040 --> 00:04:16,880 Speaker 1: a world records attempt, but it's not totally outside the 86 00:04:16,920 --> 00:04:18,920 Speaker 1: realm possible. Yeah, it's a video it I bet. No, 87 00:04:19,040 --> 00:04:21,200 Speaker 1: you have to have a representative there, I think, yeah, 88 00:04:21,200 --> 00:04:23,719 Speaker 1: oh really, yeah no, because you're logging your attempt, Like 89 00:04:23,760 --> 00:04:26,240 Speaker 1: what is the attempt going to be, because you can't 90 00:04:26,279 --> 00:04:27,800 Speaker 1: just say oh, I did it right, like, but I 91 00:04:27,839 --> 00:04:30,000 Speaker 1: would think it would accept a video maybe how can 92 00:04:30,040 --> 00:04:32,360 Speaker 1: you fake that? I'm sure you could make that whatever. 93 00:04:33,839 --> 00:04:36,040 Speaker 1: I mean. We've been doing lots of activities with him, parkour, 94 00:04:36,400 --> 00:04:39,919 Speaker 1: you know, gymnastics, swimming, he has a bike that he 95 00:04:39,960 --> 00:04:41,560 Speaker 1: rides around the driveway to but I think the pogo 96 00:04:41,640 --> 00:04:43,880 Speaker 1: stick has and obviously we're ordering like a ton of 97 00:04:43,960 --> 00:04:46,719 Speaker 1: graphic novels as well because he reads those. But the 98 00:04:46,720 --> 00:04:48,839 Speaker 1: pogo stick has been nice though, because he could also 99 00:04:48,920 --> 00:04:50,200 Speaker 1: just like we'll be like, go outside and do your 100 00:04:50,200 --> 00:04:52,960 Speaker 1: pogo stick and then he disappears for like twenty minutes 101 00:04:52,960 --> 00:04:55,159 Speaker 1: before he needs to be entertained again. But the pogost 102 00:04:55,600 --> 00:04:58,280 Speaker 1: yes amazing. Well, as I said, if we did one 103 00:04:58,320 --> 00:05:00,160 Speaker 1: that like related to ours, then I would pivot go 104 00:05:00,279 --> 00:05:04,039 Speaker 1: in that order. So I will go after this with well, 105 00:05:04,200 --> 00:05:06,200 Speaker 1: this is a dual one. I mean, really, what a 106 00:05:06,279 --> 00:05:08,280 Speaker 1: save in my life is being off of Instagram. I've 107 00:05:08,279 --> 00:05:10,240 Speaker 1: been off since I don't know, November. I forget. I 108 00:05:10,279 --> 00:05:12,479 Speaker 1: don't even actually remember, Like, but I put a post 109 00:05:12,560 --> 00:05:13,960 Speaker 1: up and was kind of like, I'm not gonna respond 110 00:05:14,000 --> 00:05:16,440 Speaker 1: here anymore. I'm so sorry, Like, leave me alone. Please 111 00:05:16,480 --> 00:05:18,000 Speaker 1: comment on my blog, send me an email. I'll do 112 00:05:18,040 --> 00:05:19,320 Speaker 1: something else if you want to reach out. But like, 113 00:05:19,320 --> 00:05:21,040 Speaker 1: I'm just not going to be here. And I haven't 114 00:05:21,200 --> 00:05:23,920 Speaker 1: since then. I like I can count that I've There's 115 00:05:23,920 --> 00:05:25,200 Speaker 1: been a couple of times I need to like look 116 00:05:25,240 --> 00:05:27,839 Speaker 1: something up, like oh I need to see this person's account, 117 00:05:27,920 --> 00:05:29,840 Speaker 1: so I'll go in on my computer. But I have 118 00:05:30,000 --> 00:05:33,760 Speaker 1: not done a single Instagram scroll, and I am just 119 00:05:33,920 --> 00:05:37,320 Speaker 1: really a happier person there was. Although you have missed 120 00:05:37,320 --> 00:05:39,840 Speaker 1: the photos of my wallpaper. No, it's a shame you're 121 00:05:39,839 --> 00:05:41,680 Speaker 1: gonna have to just every time you post any Instagram 122 00:05:41,720 --> 00:05:43,080 Speaker 1: you think I would like just text it to me. 123 00:05:43,120 --> 00:05:47,320 Speaker 1: That's true. I could do that. So yeah, there was 124 00:05:47,320 --> 00:05:48,680 Speaker 1: a time when I was like doing a little bit 125 00:05:48,680 --> 00:05:50,919 Speaker 1: of Reddit and that was creeping in and then I'm like, no, 126 00:05:51,080 --> 00:05:53,960 Speaker 1: this is the same the same deal. So I'm off. 127 00:05:54,279 --> 00:05:57,000 Speaker 1: But a tangent to that is that we've actually been 128 00:05:57,040 --> 00:05:59,919 Speaker 1: doing a screen free month. Now as we record the 129 00:06:00,040 --> 00:06:02,720 Speaker 1: y we're only nine or ten days in, because you know, 130 00:06:02,880 --> 00:06:04,520 Speaker 1: we're recording this a little bit ahead of time, but 131 00:06:04,560 --> 00:06:06,520 Speaker 1: by the end I will assume that my kids will 132 00:06:06,520 --> 00:06:08,760 Speaker 1: have been off screens for all of March. I did 133 00:06:08,800 --> 00:06:11,760 Speaker 1: set a very hard bright line here. I just told 134 00:06:11,760 --> 00:06:13,640 Speaker 1: the kids we're doing a screen free month. Don't even 135 00:06:13,680 --> 00:06:16,279 Speaker 1: try and it's worked. Yeah. I thought it would be 136 00:06:16,320 --> 00:06:18,680 Speaker 1: like a punishment for me. And the reason I did 137 00:06:18,720 --> 00:06:20,279 Speaker 1: it is because I just felt like my kids were 138 00:06:21,160 --> 00:06:23,160 Speaker 1: just too obsessed, like when can we do it? What 139 00:06:23,200 --> 00:06:24,960 Speaker 1: can we do? Like it seemed like that was the 140 00:06:24,960 --> 00:06:26,599 Speaker 1: only thing they cared about in a way, and I 141 00:06:26,640 --> 00:06:28,440 Speaker 1: was just like, I think this is getting to an 142 00:06:28,480 --> 00:06:31,440 Speaker 1: unhealthy point. Plus, I just wanted to see if maybe 143 00:06:31,440 --> 00:06:34,440 Speaker 1: behaviors would be better or bedtime would be easier without screens. 144 00:06:34,480 --> 00:06:37,200 Speaker 1: And it actually has made things a little better and 145 00:06:37,279 --> 00:06:39,640 Speaker 1: has been less hard than I anticipated it being. I'll 146 00:06:39,640 --> 00:06:42,039 Speaker 1: say there's like a little bit more mestic cleanup because 147 00:06:42,040 --> 00:06:44,839 Speaker 1: they're playing with physical items instead of a screen, for example, 148 00:06:44,960 --> 00:06:48,279 Speaker 1: maybe like before bedtime. But it hasn't been as bad 149 00:06:48,279 --> 00:06:51,200 Speaker 1: as I had feared. And also my kids are at 150 00:06:51,200 --> 00:06:53,440 Speaker 1: the age where they can like pick up their stuff. 151 00:06:53,520 --> 00:06:57,760 Speaker 1: So yeah, this being off of Instagram slash screen free 152 00:06:57,920 --> 00:07:02,680 Speaker 1: Month sounds good. Although by screen free month, I mean 153 00:07:02,360 --> 00:07:05,000 Speaker 1: you're still on your computer right now. Yes, I am 154 00:07:05,040 --> 00:07:07,360 Speaker 1: still on my computer obviously for work and for doing 155 00:07:07,400 --> 00:07:10,480 Speaker 1: all kinds of things. I have been kind of monitoring 156 00:07:10,560 --> 00:07:13,160 Speaker 1: my screen, like if the kids are not on screens, 157 00:07:13,200 --> 00:07:14,920 Speaker 1: I'm not going to be like in my computer in 158 00:07:14,960 --> 00:07:17,280 Speaker 1: front of them. So it has caused me to have 159 00:07:17,320 --> 00:07:20,000 Speaker 1: like less recreational screen used. But yeah, I still blog, 160 00:07:20,080 --> 00:07:22,200 Speaker 1: I still do wordle, Like, let's be real, it's not 161 00:07:22,720 --> 00:07:24,680 Speaker 1: I'm not entirely screen for you. It would be hard 162 00:07:24,680 --> 00:07:27,040 Speaker 1: to do that. But they are well they do homework. 163 00:07:27,080 --> 00:07:29,640 Speaker 1: They do homework. Yeah, so they're gone for that, but yeah, yeah, 164 00:07:29,800 --> 00:07:34,920 Speaker 1: all right. So my next one is recording in my closet. 165 00:07:35,280 --> 00:07:38,200 Speaker 1: So I have an office closet. Anyone who is on 166 00:07:38,280 --> 00:07:40,400 Speaker 1: Instagram may have seen the wallpaper in there. That is 167 00:07:40,640 --> 00:07:43,080 Speaker 1: it looks like an old library, the wallpaper that is 168 00:07:43,080 --> 00:07:47,040 Speaker 1: in the closet. But anyway, it is now my recording 169 00:07:47,080 --> 00:07:49,520 Speaker 1: studio and it is not perfect. I'm sure we'll have 170 00:07:49,560 --> 00:07:51,560 Speaker 1: people right in and be like, well, your sound quality 171 00:07:51,600 --> 00:07:54,280 Speaker 1: on here isn't you know great. I'm aware of that. 172 00:07:54,360 --> 00:07:56,080 Speaker 1: I'm trying to sound proof it, but we've had some 173 00:07:56,160 --> 00:07:59,720 Speaker 1: issues with that. However, it is a lot quieter in 174 00:07:59,760 --> 00:08:02,920 Speaker 1: terms of ambient noise. Then. My office was in the 175 00:08:02,960 --> 00:08:06,640 Speaker 1: old house because there's no windows in there. It's like interior, 176 00:08:07,600 --> 00:08:09,880 Speaker 1: so you don't hear people in the rest of the house. 177 00:08:10,200 --> 00:08:15,000 Speaker 1: You don't hear the neighbor's chainsaws or leaf blowers or 178 00:08:15,040 --> 00:08:21,120 Speaker 1: whatever else. They were roof repair jobs. And I realized that, 179 00:08:21,200 --> 00:08:23,400 Speaker 1: I mean, I could just choose so many more times 180 00:08:23,480 --> 00:08:25,440 Speaker 1: to do the recordings that I need to do, whether 181 00:08:25,440 --> 00:08:28,440 Speaker 1: that's ads before breakfast episodes, things like that. It's like 182 00:08:28,480 --> 00:08:31,600 Speaker 1: the stress that has been lifted that I'm not constantly 183 00:08:31,600 --> 00:08:35,040 Speaker 1: thinking I'm going to get interrupted by somebody's chainsaw. I 184 00:08:35,040 --> 00:08:37,360 Speaker 1: mean it just like I'm thinking about, like during the pandemic, 185 00:08:37,400 --> 00:08:40,320 Speaker 1: and you know, when I had five children home and 186 00:08:40,960 --> 00:08:44,600 Speaker 1: the neighbors noise and things like that. I was always 187 00:08:44,640 --> 00:08:47,840 Speaker 1: stressed about when I was going to record, And now 188 00:08:47,880 --> 00:08:51,320 Speaker 1: I just do it. Unless there's like workmen working like 189 00:08:51,600 --> 00:08:54,880 Speaker 1: right upstairs, it can almost always work. So that has 190 00:08:55,160 --> 00:08:57,040 Speaker 1: been a source of stress. I didn't really even realize 191 00:08:57,040 --> 00:08:59,080 Speaker 1: how much I was carrying around and just does not 192 00:09:00,000 --> 00:09:04,880 Speaker 1: exist anymore. So having a dedicated quiet recording space that 193 00:09:05,080 --> 00:09:08,120 Speaker 1: is awesome. Doesn't matter if it's a closet. If it's quiet, 194 00:09:08,440 --> 00:09:11,720 Speaker 1: it's excellent. By the way, you might hear the ocean 195 00:09:11,720 --> 00:09:14,240 Speaker 1: in the background, or or the air conditioner in our 196 00:09:14,280 --> 00:09:16,800 Speaker 1: hotel room. It makes some sort of funny noises when 197 00:09:16,840 --> 00:09:19,720 Speaker 1: it goes on and off. So we are not recording 198 00:09:19,800 --> 00:09:22,480 Speaker 1: in our closets currently, yes, so any critique of our 199 00:09:22,520 --> 00:09:24,760 Speaker 1: sound on this episode does not apply to that. Love, Okay, 200 00:09:25,120 --> 00:09:29,040 Speaker 1: perfect disclaimer, all right. My next one is consuming news 201 00:09:29,120 --> 00:09:33,840 Speaker 1: in an intentional, scheduled way, and that is of course, 202 00:09:33,920 --> 00:09:36,800 Speaker 1: because you know, there's just so much going on in 203 00:09:36,800 --> 00:09:39,120 Speaker 1: the political landscape. I mean, who knows when this airs, 204 00:09:39,120 --> 00:09:40,880 Speaker 1: there could be even more things. I don't know. There's 205 00:09:40,920 --> 00:09:43,800 Speaker 1: so much you could be sad about every day, and 206 00:09:43,920 --> 00:09:46,679 Speaker 1: you could if you wanted to literally spend your entire 207 00:09:46,800 --> 00:09:50,160 Speaker 1: day jumping from panic inducing headline to another and being 208 00:09:50,200 --> 00:09:52,800 Speaker 1: sad about it. But that probably as much as it 209 00:09:52,840 --> 00:09:55,640 Speaker 1: feels sort of like you're helping someone just by you know, 210 00:09:55,720 --> 00:10:00,400 Speaker 1: wallowing in it, it's actually not really so it doesn't 211 00:10:00,400 --> 00:10:02,520 Speaker 1: mean don't take action. It doesn't mean don't donate or 212 00:10:02,520 --> 00:10:04,640 Speaker 1: don't reach out in the ways you feel appropriate. But 213 00:10:05,040 --> 00:10:08,360 Speaker 1: in terms of actual news consumption, I personally am just 214 00:10:08,360 --> 00:10:13,600 Speaker 1: committing to basically limiting it to Upfirst and Pantsuit Politics, 215 00:10:13,600 --> 00:10:15,480 Speaker 1: which comes out. I don't do any of their like extras, 216 00:10:15,520 --> 00:10:17,560 Speaker 1: so I just get one episode a week that gives 217 00:10:17,559 --> 00:10:20,320 Speaker 1: me a little bit more analysis. I recognize there are 218 00:10:20,400 --> 00:10:22,840 Speaker 1: so many other sources that are excellent that are out there, 219 00:10:23,559 --> 00:10:26,880 Speaker 1: but Up First seems to be it just gives me 220 00:10:26,960 --> 00:10:29,400 Speaker 1: what I need and not much else, so I can 221 00:10:29,400 --> 00:10:33,319 Speaker 1: stay as informed as I need to without going beyond that. Yeah, 222 00:10:33,360 --> 00:10:35,880 Speaker 1: and definitely trying to channel some of that energy of 223 00:10:35,960 --> 00:10:37,880 Speaker 1: like wanting to find out what's going on in sort 224 00:10:37,880 --> 00:10:41,960 Speaker 1: of obsessive news consumption to doing something practical, whether that is, 225 00:10:42,040 --> 00:10:45,760 Speaker 1: you know, donate to an organization or you know, to 226 00:10:46,960 --> 00:10:50,200 Speaker 1: writing legislators if it's about an issue that is you know, 227 00:10:50,480 --> 00:10:56,840 Speaker 1: within that purview. But those are more practical, you know, helpful, 228 00:10:57,240 --> 00:11:00,680 Speaker 1: more intact, more impactful things to do than simply clicking 229 00:11:00,720 --> 00:11:03,160 Speaker 1: on a headline that in many cases is designed to 230 00:11:03,200 --> 00:11:08,679 Speaker 1: get you as riled up as possible. So yes, good idea. Well, 231 00:11:08,679 --> 00:11:12,920 Speaker 1: mine's a lot lighter. My next one is a doggy daycare. 232 00:11:13,400 --> 00:11:16,960 Speaker 1: So this is a thing, and we have found a 233 00:11:16,960 --> 00:11:21,160 Speaker 1: place that we take Max two some days that it's 234 00:11:21,520 --> 00:11:25,920 Speaker 1: once he passed the sort of socialization you know, screening 235 00:11:25,960 --> 00:11:27,240 Speaker 1: they do to make sure he's not going to be 236 00:11:27,240 --> 00:11:30,400 Speaker 1: attacking the other dogs or causing problems at the center. 237 00:11:30,880 --> 00:11:34,200 Speaker 1: It's drop in during their open hours and you don't 238 00:11:34,240 --> 00:11:36,760 Speaker 1: need to you know, don't need to reserve it, you know, 239 00:11:37,559 --> 00:11:40,880 Speaker 1: reasonably affordable, and it's certainly less than child daycare. Obviously 240 00:11:40,920 --> 00:11:43,680 Speaker 1: there's reasons for that, but it's sort of been interesting 241 00:11:43,720 --> 00:11:46,000 Speaker 1: to me that there are not I mean, I'm sure 242 00:11:46,040 --> 00:11:48,080 Speaker 1: there are some childcares that work on this, like your 243 00:11:48,120 --> 00:11:50,360 Speaker 1: gym childcare would work on the you know, you do 244 00:11:50,400 --> 00:11:52,680 Speaker 1: the initial registration and then you drop in when you 245 00:11:52,760 --> 00:11:55,040 Speaker 1: need it. But it is so convenient because we don't 246 00:11:55,080 --> 00:11:57,959 Speaker 1: have to think through like, oh, we have workmen working 247 00:11:57,960 --> 00:12:00,160 Speaker 1: in the kitchen on Tuesday, it's gonna, you know, make 248 00:12:00,240 --> 00:12:02,160 Speaker 1: him so stressed to be in the next room and 249 00:12:02,200 --> 00:12:03,920 Speaker 1: have these people he doesn't know. So we're going to 250 00:12:03,960 --> 00:12:06,560 Speaker 1: bring him to doggy daycare on Tuesday. And you don't 251 00:12:06,559 --> 00:12:09,079 Speaker 1: have to do this ahead of time and reserve it 252 00:12:09,120 --> 00:12:10,719 Speaker 1: and think it through. You're just like, oh, yeah, that's 253 00:12:10,760 --> 00:12:12,720 Speaker 1: on the schedule, so we'll bring him in on this day. 254 00:12:12,800 --> 00:12:15,920 Speaker 1: So you know, it's great that there are those things 255 00:12:16,360 --> 00:12:18,240 Speaker 1: that you can do. Yeah, I wish there were more 256 00:12:18,280 --> 00:12:21,800 Speaker 1: options for that child. I was thinking that, you know why, 257 00:12:22,120 --> 00:12:23,880 Speaker 1: I guess because there's plenty of people who have sort 258 00:12:23,920 --> 00:12:26,600 Speaker 1: of more irregular work that you know, if you had 259 00:12:26,600 --> 00:12:29,520 Speaker 1: a center that had the ability to accommodate that, I'm 260 00:12:29,520 --> 00:12:32,240 Speaker 1: sure that would be a real service for many people. 261 00:12:32,320 --> 00:12:34,280 Speaker 1: But you know, I know it's very hard to operate 262 00:12:34,760 --> 00:12:38,079 Speaker 1: financially and because you need different staffing levels and things 263 00:12:38,080 --> 00:12:40,000 Speaker 1: you need to do. There's obviously a lot more regulation 264 00:12:40,080 --> 00:12:43,640 Speaker 1: of childcare for obvious reasons, but for good reason, for 265 00:12:43,679 --> 00:12:46,240 Speaker 1: good reasons. But it is interesting that there is that 266 00:12:46,320 --> 00:12:49,840 Speaker 1: model for pets, and because it's very helpful. Yes, well, 267 00:12:49,880 --> 00:12:51,720 Speaker 1: let's take a quick break and we will get back 268 00:12:51,720 --> 00:13:06,800 Speaker 1: to some more things saving our lives right now. All right, 269 00:13:06,840 --> 00:13:10,000 Speaker 1: we are back, and I am up. And this one's 270 00:13:10,000 --> 00:13:13,120 Speaker 1: a little obvious, but we didn't say there were things 271 00:13:13,120 --> 00:13:15,280 Speaker 1: saving our lives that you wouldn't have thought of. So 272 00:13:17,240 --> 00:13:20,000 Speaker 1: I feel like I'm allowed to do this planning on paper, 273 00:13:20,400 --> 00:13:25,360 Speaker 1: so specifically daily planning, because I don't know, I just 274 00:13:25,480 --> 00:13:28,559 Speaker 1: find having a new page to start fresh on every 275 00:13:28,600 --> 00:13:30,880 Speaker 1: single day to write out what I want to do 276 00:13:30,920 --> 00:13:33,880 Speaker 1: with that day, to check off the things, you know, 277 00:13:33,960 --> 00:13:35,640 Speaker 1: the metrics that I kind of like want to hit, 278 00:13:35,760 --> 00:13:38,800 Speaker 1: like I it really helps me. I crave that. So 279 00:13:39,240 --> 00:13:41,600 Speaker 1: even though I love weekly planning, I can see how 280 00:13:42,120 --> 00:13:44,720 Speaker 1: one might go digital with that, but for daily I 281 00:13:44,760 --> 00:13:47,720 Speaker 1: am like always always going to have a piece of 282 00:13:47,720 --> 00:13:51,760 Speaker 1: paper that I turn to every day. Nice. I like 283 00:13:51,800 --> 00:13:54,560 Speaker 1: my paper products too. Now I'm learning about all kinds 284 00:13:54,600 --> 00:13:56,880 Speaker 1: of new ones because I'm listening to best laid Plans. 285 00:13:57,080 --> 00:13:59,400 Speaker 1: So if other people are not listening to that yet, 286 00:13:59,400 --> 00:14:00,880 Speaker 1: I encourage you to check it out. And one of 287 00:14:00,880 --> 00:14:03,319 Speaker 1: the fun things of being here together in Vero Beach, 288 00:14:03,360 --> 00:14:06,080 Speaker 1: Florida is I'm looking at some of Sarah's products that 289 00:14:06,120 --> 00:14:08,880 Speaker 1: she has brought along. I had seen the picture of 290 00:14:08,920 --> 00:14:14,400 Speaker 1: your Hobanici small thing that is my A six Hobanici tesho. Yeah, 291 00:14:14,800 --> 00:14:16,520 Speaker 1: I'd seen a picture of that on your blog, But 292 00:14:16,559 --> 00:14:19,080 Speaker 1: now I can see it in person and see what 293 00:14:19,160 --> 00:14:22,680 Speaker 1: that cover looks like. Very exciting, all right. So my 294 00:14:22,760 --> 00:14:25,560 Speaker 1: next thing that is saving my life right now is 295 00:14:26,200 --> 00:14:31,880 Speaker 1: my piano. So when we bought our house, we took 296 00:14:31,920 --> 00:14:35,800 Speaker 1: some of the furniture and such from the previous owner 297 00:14:35,840 --> 00:14:39,360 Speaker 1: who was downsizing quite a bit, and so he left 298 00:14:39,400 --> 00:14:42,080 Speaker 1: his grand piano. And I've never owned a grand piano, 299 00:14:42,120 --> 00:14:45,640 Speaker 1: but it's always been something I have been interested in having, 300 00:14:46,360 --> 00:14:50,200 Speaker 1: and it's great. I go and play for ten to 301 00:14:50,200 --> 00:14:52,920 Speaker 1: fifteen minutes, like here and there during the day. If 302 00:14:52,920 --> 00:14:56,880 Speaker 1: I have a break, you know, I'm waiting, like I 303 00:14:56,920 --> 00:14:59,240 Speaker 1: know I have a call starting in twenty minutes, but 304 00:14:59,400 --> 00:15:01,760 Speaker 1: you know, I I can't really start anything big before then. 305 00:15:01,800 --> 00:15:05,000 Speaker 1: I'll just go and play a little bit. And mostly 306 00:15:05,000 --> 00:15:07,600 Speaker 1: what I've been playing is a Debut and Bach because 307 00:15:07,640 --> 00:15:09,760 Speaker 1: those are the books I found. I haven't found all 308 00:15:09,800 --> 00:15:13,160 Speaker 1: my piano books yet in the unpacking process. I suppose 309 00:15:13,200 --> 00:15:16,760 Speaker 1: I could just buy something else. But it's been good 310 00:15:16,760 --> 00:15:19,600 Speaker 1: to go through and practice some of those pieces. And 311 00:15:20,280 --> 00:15:25,120 Speaker 1: curiously enough, Alex has actually started He's asked about learning it, 312 00:15:25,200 --> 00:15:27,440 Speaker 1: so I've been teaching him how to do little fingerings 313 00:15:27,440 --> 00:15:30,760 Speaker 1: with the playing Twinkle Twinkle, Little Star. He needs to 314 00:15:30,760 --> 00:15:32,720 Speaker 1: start piano lessons at some point, but I'm kind of 315 00:15:33,280 --> 00:15:37,360 Speaker 1: a little wary of that. But it's a you know, 316 00:15:38,200 --> 00:15:39,800 Speaker 1: have to be old enough to sit through it. But anyway, 317 00:15:40,600 --> 00:15:45,080 Speaker 1: I have really been enjoying having that musical outlet just there, 318 00:15:45,200 --> 00:15:48,200 Speaker 1: and it's such a beautiful instrument that I've really enjoyed 319 00:15:48,200 --> 00:15:51,320 Speaker 1: playing it. Interestingly, we also bought the piano that was 320 00:15:51,360 --> 00:15:54,200 Speaker 1: in our new house, so we will have that available 321 00:15:54,240 --> 00:15:56,520 Speaker 1: as well. I don't know how beautiful that instrument is, 322 00:15:56,560 --> 00:15:58,960 Speaker 1: but it works, and I'm kind of excited to have 323 00:15:59,000 --> 00:16:01,680 Speaker 1: it there. So yeah, very cool. All right. That wasn't 324 00:16:01,720 --> 00:16:03,720 Speaker 1: on my list though, so I still get to do 325 00:16:03,760 --> 00:16:07,600 Speaker 1: another one, all right. My next one is reading physical 326 00:16:07,640 --> 00:16:11,440 Speaker 1: books and also putting less pressure on myself to read 327 00:16:11,480 --> 00:16:14,880 Speaker 1: a specific number of books. I in the past few years, 328 00:16:15,200 --> 00:16:17,880 Speaker 1: at least in twenty twenty and twenty twenty one, created 329 00:16:17,920 --> 00:16:19,840 Speaker 1: almost what was like a book syllabus for myself for 330 00:16:19,880 --> 00:16:22,240 Speaker 1: the entire year, and I really enjoyed doing it, like 331 00:16:22,280 --> 00:16:24,960 Speaker 1: it was fun. I had no stress about it. It 332 00:16:25,000 --> 00:16:29,320 Speaker 1: was pretty much purely enjoyable. For some reason, this year 333 00:16:29,800 --> 00:16:31,840 Speaker 1: it felt like too much pressure. I don't know why. 334 00:16:32,200 --> 00:16:34,160 Speaker 1: Maybe I had too many things on that list that 335 00:16:34,200 --> 00:16:36,600 Speaker 1: were like I wasn't as excited about, but I was 336 00:16:36,680 --> 00:16:39,080 Speaker 1: just like, you know what, going to lighten up the mood. 337 00:16:39,560 --> 00:16:42,520 Speaker 1: Let's turn this list into a like maybe read in 338 00:16:42,560 --> 00:16:44,280 Speaker 1: the future list and then just read what I feel 339 00:16:44,320 --> 00:16:47,360 Speaker 1: like reading. And it has helped so much. I also 340 00:16:47,560 --> 00:16:50,760 Speaker 1: have ditched the Kindle because I know it's very convenient, 341 00:16:50,840 --> 00:16:56,040 Speaker 1: but I just don't like it, Like for some reason, 342 00:16:56,040 --> 00:16:59,760 Speaker 1: there's something about the tactile turning the page, feeling the thing. 343 00:16:59,880 --> 00:17:02,560 Speaker 1: I don't know, it's probably just my upgringing when I'm 344 00:17:02,640 --> 00:17:04,399 Speaker 1: used to and like how my brain is programmed to 345 00:17:04,440 --> 00:17:07,800 Speaker 1: read books, but I greatly prefer my books on paper. 346 00:17:08,760 --> 00:17:11,840 Speaker 1: I'm reading ones that I either have bought or like 347 00:17:11,920 --> 00:17:14,159 Speaker 1: some back stuff that I own, Like I feel like 348 00:17:14,200 --> 00:17:16,159 Speaker 1: I have a number of things on my shelf that 349 00:17:16,400 --> 00:17:18,399 Speaker 1: I would like to read that I already own on paper. 350 00:17:18,440 --> 00:17:20,640 Speaker 1: And then of course I love my library holds lists, 351 00:17:20,720 --> 00:17:23,960 Speaker 1: so I will use that as well. But yeah, that's 352 00:17:24,080 --> 00:17:25,800 Speaker 1: kind of like where I am with books right now, 353 00:17:26,040 --> 00:17:29,920 Speaker 1: And for anyone curious, I'm currently reading Tara Brock's Radical 354 00:17:29,960 --> 00:17:35,040 Speaker 1: Acceptance as my morning read, and then Lauren Groff's Matrix 355 00:17:35,119 --> 00:17:37,880 Speaker 1: in the Evenings, which is set in the eleven hundreds 356 00:17:37,880 --> 00:17:41,280 Speaker 1: in a nunnery, so they're two very different titles. But 357 00:17:42,119 --> 00:17:44,040 Speaker 1: is that what you normally do? Nonfiction in the morning 358 00:17:44,080 --> 00:17:46,120 Speaker 1: and then fiction at night. I always have some sort 359 00:17:46,160 --> 00:17:49,160 Speaker 1: of nonfiction or like memoir in the morning and then 360 00:17:49,320 --> 00:17:52,639 Speaker 1: like a novel at night. Very cool. I'm reading on 361 00:17:52,680 --> 00:17:54,960 Speaker 1: the Kendle app a lot, just because I mean it. 362 00:17:55,480 --> 00:17:58,800 Speaker 1: If I'm putting the toddler to bed, you know you're 363 00:17:58,840 --> 00:18:01,199 Speaker 1: in the dark, something you can look at, or if 364 00:18:01,200 --> 00:18:03,520 Speaker 1: you're waiting for him to go to sleep, that's you know, 365 00:18:04,119 --> 00:18:06,040 Speaker 1: it allows me to use that time in a way 366 00:18:06,040 --> 00:18:09,480 Speaker 1: that probably just go nuts if I wasn't so all right, 367 00:18:09,520 --> 00:18:11,720 Speaker 1: But that's not my next saving my life right now. 368 00:18:12,720 --> 00:18:15,400 Speaker 1: This one you're gonna laugh, is that you can now 369 00:18:15,440 --> 00:18:19,040 Speaker 1: buy beer at the grocery store in Pennsylvania. And this 370 00:18:19,359 --> 00:18:23,119 Speaker 1: this changed possibly in the pandemic. They opened it up 371 00:18:23,160 --> 00:18:25,680 Speaker 1: a lot more that they know. It was a fewer 372 00:18:25,680 --> 00:18:27,720 Speaker 1: stores you need to have open or something. I don't know, 373 00:18:28,560 --> 00:18:31,639 Speaker 1: but the rules in Pennsylvania had been incredibly strict for 374 00:18:32,160 --> 00:18:36,880 Speaker 1: the state store, story store, and then now it's at 375 00:18:36,880 --> 00:18:39,560 Speaker 1: the grocery store and it has to be separate registers. 376 00:18:39,600 --> 00:18:42,440 Speaker 1: There's only registertain registers you can do. And I think 377 00:18:42,480 --> 00:18:44,159 Speaker 1: for a while this may have changed too, but they 378 00:18:44,160 --> 00:18:47,000 Speaker 1: were having to have it as a separate entity, right 379 00:18:47,160 --> 00:18:49,600 Speaker 1: so they it used to be it could be a 380 00:18:49,640 --> 00:18:51,919 Speaker 1: separate store in the store. Now it's like, you know, 381 00:18:52,000 --> 00:18:53,959 Speaker 1: you can go to a cash register where you can 382 00:18:54,000 --> 00:18:56,840 Speaker 1: buy other things, but they would call it something else, 383 00:18:56,960 --> 00:18:59,199 Speaker 1: like in one of my places I go to, they 384 00:18:59,200 --> 00:19:02,439 Speaker 1: call it the frosty And then those two registers did 385 00:19:02,480 --> 00:19:04,480 Speaker 1: they have wine too or just beer? Yeah, so I 386 00:19:04,480 --> 00:19:07,200 Speaker 1: think you can buy wine too. I mean I don't 387 00:19:07,359 --> 00:19:13,119 Speaker 1: because I just drink beer now. But the it's not 388 00:19:13,160 --> 00:19:14,960 Speaker 1: that we're buying a ton of it, but not having 389 00:19:15,040 --> 00:19:18,280 Speaker 1: to go to another store to buy a bottle of 390 00:19:18,280 --> 00:19:21,320 Speaker 1: wine or buy a six pack of Kraft beer is 391 00:19:21,920 --> 00:19:26,200 Speaker 1: quite convenient if you, you know, have a having people 392 00:19:26,240 --> 00:19:30,000 Speaker 1: over or whatever. It's Yeah, having it in one place 393 00:19:30,119 --> 00:19:34,160 Speaker 1: is just infinitely. I wonder how many other states are 394 00:19:34,240 --> 00:19:37,280 Speaker 1: still like holdouts hold on outs on that. I don't know. 395 00:19:38,359 --> 00:19:42,000 Speaker 1: It was Pennsylvania held out for a long long time. 396 00:19:42,800 --> 00:19:45,200 Speaker 1: And there were certain odd things too, like you couldn't 397 00:19:45,200 --> 00:19:46,960 Speaker 1: sell like a twelve pack at a certain place. You 398 00:19:46,960 --> 00:19:49,080 Speaker 1: could sell six pack or twenty four there's no like, 399 00:19:49,400 --> 00:19:50,840 Speaker 1: I don't know. There were a lot a lot of 400 00:19:50,880 --> 00:19:54,320 Speaker 1: sort of arcane rules associated with it, but now we 401 00:19:54,359 --> 00:19:57,040 Speaker 1: can buy it at the grocery store like normal people 402 00:19:57,960 --> 00:20:03,280 Speaker 1: like Floridians and North Carolinians. Yes, oh my gosh, that's cool. Okay. Well, also, 403 00:20:03,359 --> 00:20:07,120 Speaker 1: on a festive note, date nights, and also I feel 404 00:20:07,160 --> 00:20:10,040 Speaker 1: very grateful to have a babysitter that doesn't mind like 405 00:20:10,119 --> 00:20:13,280 Speaker 1: doing random Saturday nights. She actually drives fairly far because 406 00:20:13,280 --> 00:20:16,000 Speaker 1: she's like, she lives in a town that was like 407 00:20:16,040 --> 00:20:18,160 Speaker 1: thirty minutes from our Mammy Beach house and also thirty 408 00:20:18,200 --> 00:20:20,520 Speaker 1: minutes from our Cooper City house. So we've kept her 409 00:20:20,560 --> 00:20:22,960 Speaker 1: throughout and we love her. And during the pandemic, I 410 00:20:23,000 --> 00:20:24,600 Speaker 1: was like, you know, I don't really need date nights, 411 00:20:24,600 --> 00:20:27,560 Speaker 1: And it's true, I don't like need them, but I've 412 00:20:27,600 --> 00:20:30,320 Speaker 1: really started missing them at some point. I like having 413 00:20:30,400 --> 00:20:33,520 Speaker 1: that adult time to look forward to. I like doing 414 00:20:33,520 --> 00:20:35,679 Speaker 1: them with friends. Sometimes I like doing them with just Josh. 415 00:20:35,680 --> 00:20:37,639 Speaker 1: Sometimes I guess that's you know, we just did our 416 00:20:37,640 --> 00:20:40,000 Speaker 1: retreat episode. This is a micro micro retreat for me, 417 00:20:40,520 --> 00:20:43,520 Speaker 1: and I like having one of those, maybe two of 418 00:20:43,520 --> 00:20:45,600 Speaker 1: those in a month to look forward to. So super 419 00:20:45,600 --> 00:20:47,760 Speaker 1: excited I have a date night as this episode airs, 420 00:20:47,800 --> 00:20:49,520 Speaker 1: I will have just had a nice date night hopefully. 421 00:20:49,720 --> 00:20:55,040 Speaker 1: So yes, saving my life so also not. I mean, 422 00:20:55,160 --> 00:20:56,960 Speaker 1: what do I say saving my life right now? I mean, 423 00:20:57,359 --> 00:21:00,760 Speaker 1: like just things that are cool that are helpful is 424 00:21:01,200 --> 00:21:06,040 Speaker 1: gas fireplaces, and so you know, one might not needs 425 00:21:06,080 --> 00:21:09,080 Speaker 1: such things here in Faro Beach, Florida, but in the 426 00:21:09,200 --> 00:21:12,400 Speaker 1: cold and chili North, a room can have a bit 427 00:21:12,440 --> 00:21:15,880 Speaker 1: of a cold feeling to it. But if it has 428 00:21:15,880 --> 00:21:19,200 Speaker 1: a gas fireplace, you can hit the remote control, turn 429 00:21:19,280 --> 00:21:22,080 Speaker 1: on your fire and it toasts right up. So I've 430 00:21:22,119 --> 00:21:25,840 Speaker 1: been doing that in We have one in the master bedroom, 431 00:21:25,880 --> 00:21:28,280 Speaker 1: we have one in my office, and we have one 432 00:21:28,320 --> 00:21:30,879 Speaker 1: in the family room. And so it's been really nice 433 00:21:30,920 --> 00:21:33,240 Speaker 1: to turn on the one in my office on a 434 00:21:33,320 --> 00:21:36,040 Speaker 1: chili morning if I am doing my rituals, reading my 435 00:21:36,080 --> 00:21:38,720 Speaker 1: Shakespeare whatever else, sit in the chair with the fire going. 436 00:21:38,760 --> 00:21:41,439 Speaker 1: I feel very old school in a office with a 437 00:21:41,480 --> 00:21:45,679 Speaker 1: fireplace and reading Shakespeare. But you know, it makes for 438 00:21:46,760 --> 00:21:52,760 Speaker 1: a nice working experience. It feels very cozy, and I 439 00:21:52,800 --> 00:21:56,760 Speaker 1: always get cold, so not being cold is a big win. 440 00:21:57,000 --> 00:22:00,480 Speaker 1: That's the part that's saving my life right now. It's huge. 441 00:22:00,640 --> 00:22:02,919 Speaker 1: This is also not on my official list, but I 442 00:22:02,960 --> 00:22:06,080 Speaker 1: do have a space heater at work that is really 443 00:22:06,119 --> 00:22:08,560 Speaker 1: sad because it's just a combat over air conditioning, but 444 00:22:08,960 --> 00:22:12,359 Speaker 1: it often does save my life. So all right, on 445 00:22:12,440 --> 00:22:16,600 Speaker 1: a deeper note, I will include mental health professionals, both 446 00:22:16,880 --> 00:22:20,560 Speaker 1: those that see children and those that see adults. I 447 00:22:20,600 --> 00:22:24,520 Speaker 1: feel like I've been really lucky to find great providers 448 00:22:24,560 --> 00:22:28,280 Speaker 1: specifically for some kid issues in the past, and I'm 449 00:22:28,320 --> 00:22:31,520 Speaker 1: in the process of hopefully finding someone great to bounce 450 00:22:31,560 --> 00:22:33,560 Speaker 1: things off of myself. Even though I don't have a 451 00:22:33,680 --> 00:22:36,440 Speaker 1: like specific issue or diagnosis. I just think I would 452 00:22:36,480 --> 00:22:38,560 Speaker 1: benefit from having someone that is paide to listen to 453 00:22:38,600 --> 00:22:41,160 Speaker 1: me say whatever I feel like saying for a little bit. 454 00:22:41,680 --> 00:22:44,639 Speaker 1: So I'm really looking forward to that. And you know, 455 00:22:44,840 --> 00:22:48,280 Speaker 1: I like we've gotten to this point where I actually 456 00:22:49,119 --> 00:22:51,920 Speaker 1: choose a provider much more by word of mouth rather 457 00:22:51,960 --> 00:22:56,399 Speaker 1: than whether they're in my health network, because our network 458 00:22:56,400 --> 00:22:58,199 Speaker 1: seems a bit limited, and I know there's such a 459 00:22:58,280 --> 00:23:00,720 Speaker 1: mental health provider shortage. I think that's case with a 460 00:23:00,720 --> 00:23:02,600 Speaker 1: lot of people who are trying to go through insurance. 461 00:23:03,040 --> 00:23:05,160 Speaker 1: So I've gotten to an accepting place about just paying 462 00:23:05,200 --> 00:23:08,280 Speaker 1: cash for someone that is good, and it does feel 463 00:23:08,280 --> 00:23:11,080 Speaker 1: like it's worth it, or it has been worth it. 464 00:23:11,160 --> 00:23:13,720 Speaker 1: The providers that we've worked with before. So just grateful 465 00:23:13,720 --> 00:23:17,399 Speaker 1: that there are people out there who do put a 466 00:23:17,440 --> 00:23:22,480 Speaker 1: lot of time and energy into being really good providers 467 00:23:22,520 --> 00:23:25,080 Speaker 1: and listeners in that realm, because it's it's very important. 468 00:23:25,720 --> 00:23:28,200 Speaker 1: That's very good. Well, I'm going to feel bad about 469 00:23:28,200 --> 00:23:32,399 Speaker 1: having my next one, which is also light and fluffy, 470 00:23:32,440 --> 00:23:35,159 Speaker 1: but you know, having a sort of a uniform that 471 00:23:35,240 --> 00:23:40,840 Speaker 1: you wear daily is just it cuts down on a 472 00:23:40,840 --> 00:23:44,399 Speaker 1: lot of mental processing. And I think it's good to 473 00:23:44,400 --> 00:23:47,600 Speaker 1: have a couple outfits that you really like and that 474 00:23:47,640 --> 00:23:50,840 Speaker 1: fit you. And I bought a couple pairs of jeans 475 00:23:51,000 --> 00:23:53,960 Speaker 1: this fall that I mean, bootcut may not be hip 476 00:23:54,080 --> 00:23:56,760 Speaker 1: or whatever, but it's cool again. Is it cool again? Okay? 477 00:23:56,840 --> 00:23:58,679 Speaker 1: I don't know. I liked it in the nineties and 478 00:23:58,680 --> 00:24:00,880 Speaker 1: I like it now, so whatever, I'm going to keep 479 00:24:00,880 --> 00:24:05,320 Speaker 1: wearing them and went up a size. I will put 480 00:24:05,320 --> 00:24:07,840 Speaker 1: that out there as an idea for people. If you're 481 00:24:07,840 --> 00:24:11,119 Speaker 1: feeling unhappy about the way your clothes look like you 482 00:24:11,119 --> 00:24:15,680 Speaker 1: should ignore whatever size you think you are and buy 483 00:24:15,960 --> 00:24:19,880 Speaker 1: for the size you are and it will look better 484 00:24:19,920 --> 00:24:22,160 Speaker 1: on you and like nobody cares if it's a size 485 00:24:22,320 --> 00:24:25,399 Speaker 1: you know, twelve versus an eight, or rip out the 486 00:24:25,440 --> 00:24:28,399 Speaker 1: tags and it makes four versus a ten or whatever 487 00:24:28,440 --> 00:24:30,800 Speaker 1: else like, it just does not matter. Make up your 488 00:24:30,840 --> 00:24:33,199 Speaker 1: own size for it. You want something that fits and 489 00:24:33,240 --> 00:24:35,760 Speaker 1: looks good on you. So I have my uniform of 490 00:24:35,760 --> 00:24:41,959 Speaker 1: my darkwash boot cut jeans, mykel neck sweaters, my checked 491 00:24:42,119 --> 00:24:46,480 Speaker 1: sort of patterned scarf from Pendleton, which you know I 492 00:24:46,560 --> 00:24:49,200 Speaker 1: was in one part of life I was thinking, maybe 493 00:24:49,200 --> 00:24:51,439 Speaker 1: I need a Burbery So nobody needs a Burbery scarf, 494 00:24:51,440 --> 00:24:54,040 Speaker 1: but I've never bought one because it's too expenses. I 495 00:24:54,119 --> 00:24:55,640 Speaker 1: never want to ask for one for a gift because 496 00:24:55,640 --> 00:24:59,360 Speaker 1: it's just like ridiculously expensive for a scarf. But Pendleton 497 00:24:59,480 --> 00:25:01,879 Speaker 1: was very nice and it was a much cheaper So 498 00:25:01,920 --> 00:25:05,960 Speaker 1: I wear that, and I wear these sued wedge shoes 499 00:25:06,040 --> 00:25:08,560 Speaker 1: that are very very comfortable. And then, for the life 500 00:25:08,560 --> 00:25:10,159 Speaker 1: of me, I cannot remember what brand they are, so 501 00:25:10,200 --> 00:25:11,960 Speaker 1: we'll have to look that up when I get home 502 00:25:12,000 --> 00:25:13,399 Speaker 1: to them, because they did not come with me to 503 00:25:13,640 --> 00:25:16,600 Speaker 1: Vero Beach, Florida. But it's my look and I'm going 504 00:25:16,600 --> 00:25:18,440 Speaker 1: with it and I wear it every single day. What's 505 00:25:18,440 --> 00:25:20,680 Speaker 1: your summer version? That's see, that is a good question. 506 00:25:20,760 --> 00:25:23,879 Speaker 1: I need a summer version of the look. I am 507 00:25:23,920 --> 00:25:27,399 Speaker 1: wearing a pair of jean sort of cut off gene 508 00:25:28,400 --> 00:25:32,440 Speaker 1: longer shorts, longer shorts forer muta length shorts, which I love, 509 00:25:32,880 --> 00:25:35,320 Speaker 1: but I'm not sure I can wear them too. I 510 00:25:35,320 --> 00:25:36,800 Speaker 1: mean I wear them around the house, but they're not 511 00:25:36,800 --> 00:25:38,840 Speaker 1: as dressy. But they're not as dressy like I couldn't 512 00:25:38,920 --> 00:25:40,359 Speaker 1: I wear a lot of long pants in the summer 513 00:25:40,600 --> 00:25:43,520 Speaker 1: because I mean, I don't know just to like keep 514 00:25:43,560 --> 00:25:46,159 Speaker 1: the mosquitoes from biting at me, Like I often like 515 00:25:46,160 --> 00:25:47,880 Speaker 1: I'm dressed right now, I'm wearing a tank top and gene. 516 00:25:47,880 --> 00:25:50,080 Speaker 1: It's like that is more common for me. I don't 517 00:25:50,080 --> 00:25:53,520 Speaker 1: always feel like my legs need to circulate air. So 518 00:25:53,560 --> 00:25:56,440 Speaker 1: maybe your jeans could party party, Yeah they could. Might 519 00:25:56,680 --> 00:25:58,400 Speaker 1: they might need a different cut for summer, since I'm 520 00:25:58,400 --> 00:26:02,040 Speaker 1: not wearing wedge, know, boot type things in the in 521 00:26:02,080 --> 00:26:04,359 Speaker 1: the in the summer. But yeah, maybe I have some 522 00:26:05,080 --> 00:26:08,880 Speaker 1: longer shorts, like you know, khaki and dark green sort 523 00:26:08,880 --> 00:26:12,080 Speaker 1: of type shorts and wear with sort of dressier tank 524 00:26:12,119 --> 00:26:14,680 Speaker 1: top type things and with a nice pair of sandals. 525 00:26:14,720 --> 00:26:16,679 Speaker 1: That would probably be a good summer uniform. But I'll 526 00:26:16,720 --> 00:26:19,200 Speaker 1: have to work that out. I will report back. Well, 527 00:26:19,240 --> 00:26:21,320 Speaker 1: but this has been an episode of all sort of 528 00:26:21,440 --> 00:26:23,560 Speaker 1: loves of the week, things that have been saving our 529 00:26:23,600 --> 00:26:26,879 Speaker 1: lives right now. But you know, we encourage you to 530 00:26:27,240 --> 00:26:30,040 Speaker 1: make such a list. I mean, the reason this idea 531 00:26:30,200 --> 00:26:33,240 Speaker 1: keeps coming up with different podcasts and different blogs, and 532 00:26:33,280 --> 00:26:36,600 Speaker 1: you know that it took off so well is because 533 00:26:36,640 --> 00:26:39,119 Speaker 1: it is so easy to focus on things that are 534 00:26:39,520 --> 00:26:42,520 Speaker 1: you know, wrong in your life, and many of those 535 00:26:42,600 --> 00:26:45,840 Speaker 1: maybe should get some attention and get fixed, if that's 536 00:26:45,880 --> 00:26:47,760 Speaker 1: possible to do. But if there are things that are 537 00:26:47,800 --> 00:26:53,080 Speaker 1: helping your life right now, acknowledging those and being happy 538 00:26:53,119 --> 00:26:56,240 Speaker 1: about them can go a long way. Just like yay, 539 00:26:56,400 --> 00:26:59,560 Speaker 1: I don't have to stress about the found of the neighbors, 540 00:27:00,359 --> 00:27:03,600 Speaker 1: you know, don't have to make a fire. If I 541 00:27:03,600 --> 00:27:05,879 Speaker 1: want a fireplace fire in the fireplace, I can just 542 00:27:05,920 --> 00:27:08,120 Speaker 1: turn on the remote. It's, you know, these little things 543 00:27:08,160 --> 00:27:14,719 Speaker 1: that bring happiness are really it's my gratitude gratitude exercise, 544 00:27:14,800 --> 00:27:17,560 Speaker 1: and it's in its own way, and so it's you know, 545 00:27:17,600 --> 00:27:20,600 Speaker 1: especially if life can be tough sometimes and obviously it's 546 00:27:20,640 --> 00:27:23,040 Speaker 1: the world is tough and we probably have it a 547 00:27:23,040 --> 00:27:26,119 Speaker 1: lot easier than most, but you know it, we should 548 00:27:26,200 --> 00:27:28,880 Speaker 1: celebrate those things that are that are going right too. 549 00:27:29,160 --> 00:27:32,080 Speaker 1: Plus it's always fun in my opinion to hear other 550 00:27:32,119 --> 00:27:35,080 Speaker 1: people's lists because it might remind you of something either 551 00:27:35,119 --> 00:27:37,160 Speaker 1: that you wanted to try or something in your own 552 00:27:37,200 --> 00:27:40,320 Speaker 1: life that you're similarly grateful for. So I never really 553 00:27:40,320 --> 00:27:42,359 Speaker 1: get tied, like that's an episode. I'm always going to 554 00:27:42,359 --> 00:27:45,119 Speaker 1: click on on another podcast. If they're talking about the 555 00:27:45,160 --> 00:27:47,280 Speaker 1: things that like a list of things they love. That's 556 00:27:47,280 --> 00:27:49,000 Speaker 1: so hopefully you've clicked on this one, I guess if 557 00:27:49,000 --> 00:27:50,720 Speaker 1: you've made it all the way through to a twenty 558 00:27:50,760 --> 00:27:53,840 Speaker 1: eight minutes. Hopefully you have. But anyway, we'll be This has, 559 00:27:54,080 --> 00:27:55,920 Speaker 1: you know, been best of both worlds. We'll be back 560 00:27:55,960 --> 00:27:58,119 Speaker 1: next week with more on making work and life fit together. 561 00:28:00,119 --> 00:28:02,879 Speaker 1: Thanks for listening. You can find me Sarah at the 562 00:28:02,880 --> 00:28:07,320 Speaker 1: shoebox dot com or at the Underscore Shoebox on Instagram, 563 00:28:07,720 --> 00:28:12,000 Speaker 1: and you can find me Laura at Laura vandercam dot com. 564 00:28:12,119 --> 00:28:15,320 Speaker 1: This has been the best of both worlds podcasts. Please 565 00:28:15,400 --> 00:28:17,960 Speaker 1: join us next time for more on making work and 566 00:28:18,080 --> 00:28:19,200 Speaker 1: life work together.