WEBVTT - Whole Lotta Mess 0:00:00.200 --> 0:00:03.320 Welcome to Can't Fully Reckless, the production of iHeartRadio and 0:00:03.360 --> 0:00:16.360 The Black Effect, And just like. 0:00:16.400 --> 0:00:17.320 That, we're back on the air. 0:00:17.360 --> 0:00:20.360 Welcome back to get another carefully Reckless episode with your girl, Jess. 0:00:20.400 --> 0:00:22.920 Hilarious. What do I be doing? I'll be fixing mess 0:00:22.960 --> 0:00:24.360 and we're gonna jump straight into it. 0:00:24.480 --> 0:00:27.560 We don't have any voice notes because people's voices are 0:00:27.640 --> 0:00:30.680 very recognizable. But I did pick three interests in stories, 0:00:30.720 --> 0:00:33.480 actually all three of them. We're at the top of 0:00:33.520 --> 0:00:36.919 my DMS on the Carefully Reckless podcast page. 0:00:37.159 --> 0:00:39.200 Y'all been doing really, really good with sending these. 0:00:39.640 --> 0:00:42.360 I gotta cushy'all more often, because after I cush y'all out, 0:00:42.360 --> 0:00:43.320 then y'all get it together. 0:00:43.479 --> 0:00:46.239 I shouldn't have to cush y'all out. I'm sick of y'all. 0:00:46.320 --> 0:00:47.879 Y'all, but I love y'all at the same time, so 0:00:47.880 --> 0:00:49.120 we're gonna jump straight into it. 0:00:49.800 --> 0:00:52.919 Hi, Jess, I'm sending you this message, mad lad, but 0:00:52.960 --> 0:00:55.840 I hope you get to it. Congratulations on your pregnancy. 0:00:56.120 --> 0:00:58.640 I am also pregnant and do in July. I wanted 0:00:58.640 --> 0:01:00.680 to reach out to you because as I feel so 0:01:00.840 --> 0:01:03.279 lost and I just feel myself going into a very 0:01:03.280 --> 0:01:06.240 deep depression. I lost my husband of three years two 0:01:06.240 --> 0:01:08.600 months ago due to a shooting that happened across the 0:01:08.640 --> 0:01:09.639 street from my house. 0:01:10.000 --> 0:01:11.360 He was caught in the crossfire. 0:01:11.760 --> 0:01:14.120 It's crazy because we were in the process of moving 0:01:14.400 --> 0:01:16.880 and just brought our first house together to prepare for 0:01:16.920 --> 0:01:19.520 our family. I'm still trying to process if this is 0:01:19.560 --> 0:01:22.360 real or not. He would always do this thing every 0:01:22.440 --> 0:01:24.600 day when I come home from work. He would have 0:01:24.680 --> 0:01:27.400 my favorite show playing and dinner ready on the table. 0:01:27.680 --> 0:01:29.720 I look forward to that every day I get home, 0:01:30.080 --> 0:01:32.000 and I think it's just now starting to sink in 0:01:32.080 --> 0:01:34.280 that I will never come home to him again. I 0:01:34.480 --> 0:01:36.760 just figured out the gender of our baby yesterday and 0:01:36.840 --> 0:01:39.840 it's a boy, exactly what he wanted, and this is 0:01:39.840 --> 0:01:43.000 also our first child. I feel like no one understands 0:01:43.000 --> 0:01:45.520 the pain I am going through, and it's causing so 0:01:45.640 --> 0:01:47.680 much stress on me that I've even been in and 0:01:47.760 --> 0:01:50.800 out of the hospital because of my stress levels. I 0:01:50.880 --> 0:01:54.120 have a village that is absolutely one hundred percent supportive 0:01:54.360 --> 0:01:57.120 and is with me through whatever, but they are not him. Sadly, 0:01:57.560 --> 0:02:00.000 no one could take this pain away. He gave love 0:02:00.120 --> 0:02:02.400 a new meaning for me and brought so much light 0:02:02.440 --> 0:02:05.200 to my life. My soul has gone from You probably 0:02:05.240 --> 0:02:07.600 won't even get to this one because I know you 0:02:07.720 --> 0:02:10.280 probably have thousands of other dms to answer to. So 0:02:10.440 --> 0:02:12.600 I'll just let this be a diary to you, and 0:02:12.639 --> 0:02:14.960 I hope that you take this in with open arms. 0:02:15.360 --> 0:02:17.680 Once again, I am so proud of you and all 0:02:17.680 --> 0:02:20.600 your successes. I've been rocking with you since the beginning. 0:02:21.160 --> 0:02:23.519 Man, that was very very heavy. 0:02:23.639 --> 0:02:25.480 And the reason why I did it that way I 0:02:25.680 --> 0:02:30.600 let the computer read her voice, I mean read her story, 0:02:30.680 --> 0:02:34.080 is because y'all, I'm struggling with this noseous install and 0:02:35.040 --> 0:02:37.920 I was supposed to get some ginger candies, but they're 0:02:37.960 --> 0:02:39.760 not good to me at all. So I have gum 0:02:39.840 --> 0:02:42.480 in my mouth, and I understand that it sounds disgusting 0:02:42.960 --> 0:02:45.960 and listening to me talk chewing and swallowing gum flavor 0:02:46.000 --> 0:02:48.800 and shit like that. So I want to eliminate that 0:02:48.840 --> 0:02:51.040 as much as possible, but I cannot get rid of 0:02:51.080 --> 0:02:53.200 this gum, y'all. Y'all gonna hear a whole bunch of 0:02:53.240 --> 0:02:56.640 shit coming up out my stomach, all right. So that 0:02:56.720 --> 0:03:00.640 was a very very heavy story, damn. And I'm gonna 0:03:00.639 --> 0:03:02.880 be honest. This is the first time that I really 0:03:03.440 --> 0:03:08.959 can't even really give a lot of advice because I've 0:03:09.000 --> 0:03:11.359 never gone through this, nor is this something that I 0:03:12.120 --> 0:03:13.799 want to go through that I wish on the next 0:03:13.800 --> 0:03:15.960 person that I wish on my worst enemy. I understand 0:03:16.680 --> 0:03:19.440 her and her husband, who was married, like she said, 0:03:19.480 --> 0:03:21.800 for three years, they were about to move out of 0:03:21.800 --> 0:03:24.200 their house, and in the midst of them moving, he 0:03:24.280 --> 0:03:27.840 gets gunned down, caught in a crossfire that wasn't even 0:03:28.240 --> 0:03:30.079 going on with him, like it wasn't. 0:03:29.840 --> 0:03:30.440 Even for him. 0:03:30.520 --> 0:03:35.320 Obviously, in these instances, you don't know why things like 0:03:35.360 --> 0:03:37.640 this happen, especially if you are a believer in the 0:03:37.680 --> 0:03:41.240 most high you know or whoever or whatever you believe in. 0:03:41.720 --> 0:03:43.880 You kind of question your faith and you're just like, 0:03:43.920 --> 0:03:47.480 why why did this happen? Well, you know, but I 0:03:47.480 --> 0:03:49.600 would always say everything happens for a reason. 0:03:49.640 --> 0:03:51.360 But I don't know, honey. 0:03:51.400 --> 0:03:57.360 I would definitely say, get therapy because that has got 0:03:57.440 --> 0:04:01.520 to hurt every day, every night, every waking moment, you 0:04:01.560 --> 0:04:03.360 know what I mean. And then you just found out 0:04:03.400 --> 0:04:06.040 the gender of your baby. Congratulations on your beautiful bundle 0:04:06.040 --> 0:04:06.440 of joy. 0:04:06.560 --> 0:04:09.880 Yes, I am pregnant. I appreciate you for congratulating me. 0:04:09.880 --> 0:04:12.600 On that and my successes, but I still feel so 0:04:12.720 --> 0:04:16.160 empty for you every time somebody reports to me a 0:04:16.240 --> 0:04:20.279 story or you guys willing to expose even a little 0:04:20.279 --> 0:04:24.240 bit about your life, and you know, seeing how vulnerable 0:04:24.320 --> 0:04:26.320 a lot of men and women can be with me, 0:04:27.000 --> 0:04:28.560 I just take my head off to you. 0:04:28.839 --> 0:04:30.480 I love it. 0:04:30.839 --> 0:04:36.039 I'm in a position where I can actually amplify these 0:04:36.040 --> 0:04:39.680 stories by bringing awareness to it on my platform. And 0:04:39.720 --> 0:04:41.560 I know she's not the only one that's going through 0:04:41.560 --> 0:04:44.240 something like this. So, like you said, you were just 0:04:44.279 --> 0:04:48.320 writing this to me like a diary, and trust me, 0:04:48.360 --> 0:04:50.640 I hear you. My heart goes out to you and 0:04:50.720 --> 0:04:53.680 that beautiful baby that you're going to have, and I'm 0:04:53.720 --> 0:04:55.480 really really sorry, but I think you should start your 0:04:55.480 --> 0:04:57.880 therapy work right now, not when your baby gets here, 0:04:57.920 --> 0:05:00.000 and don't try to figure this out on your own. 0:05:00.120 --> 0:05:02.480 And I'm happy that you do have a village. You know. 0:05:02.640 --> 0:05:04.880 I don't know whether that be your mom, you didn't specify, 0:05:05.120 --> 0:05:07.320 you know, your parents, your family, your friends. 0:05:07.200 --> 0:05:07.960 Whoever it is. 0:05:08.080 --> 0:05:11.200 I love those people for being there in those moments 0:05:11.240 --> 0:05:13.440 for you as well, because you have to be strong 0:05:13.520 --> 0:05:16.280 for that baby and to know that he wanted a boy. 0:05:16.800 --> 0:05:20.200 It's even more amazing. But it's very sad that that 0:05:20.279 --> 0:05:22.880 baby will never know it's father. And if you have 0:05:22.960 --> 0:05:26.120 anything like a gofund me, make sure you submitted into 0:05:26.120 --> 0:05:28.920 the Breakfast Club because I actually want to take your 0:05:29.000 --> 0:05:32.159 story a little bit more broader than this, and we 0:05:32.200 --> 0:05:34.320 can cover this. This is something that we can briefly 0:05:34.360 --> 0:05:37.160 cover on the Breakfast Club. We will definitely help you. 0:05:37.440 --> 0:05:40.320 I will help you. I know DJMV and Charlottage. God 0:05:40.320 --> 0:05:43.480 will help you stories like this. Just God leave a 0:05:43.600 --> 0:05:46.120 damn hold in your heart, so we're gonna move on. 0:05:46.560 --> 0:05:49.400 Definitely update me anything you need for that baby. 0:05:49.400 --> 0:05:49.599 Girl. 0:05:49.640 --> 0:05:51.359 That's why I'm asking you for the go fund me, 0:05:51.360 --> 0:05:54.440 because it's gonna be hard doing this by yourself. Although 0:05:54.480 --> 0:05:56.520 you do have a village, you can never have too 0:05:56.640 --> 0:05:59.480 much love, too much support, too many things for a child, 0:05:59.520 --> 0:06:01.880 you know what I mean, So just send that over. 0:06:02.200 --> 0:06:02.520 Damn. 0:06:03.200 --> 0:06:05.560 If you love me, you'll listen to this commercial and 0:06:05.600 --> 0:06:06.520 then we'll be right back. 0:06:07.880 --> 0:06:12.040 All right, Hey, Jess, I know you love voice messages, 0:06:12.400 --> 0:06:15.960 but my voice is very recognizable. However, I most definitely 0:06:16.000 --> 0:06:18.360 need help with my mess right now. I'm not even 0:06:18.440 --> 0:06:20.880 sure where to start, but my ex broke up with 0:06:21.000 --> 0:06:25.000 Emmy two days before Valentine's Day twenty twenty four. We 0:06:25.000 --> 0:06:27.839 were together for two years prior to this incident, so 0:06:27.960 --> 0:06:30.160 I need to say that the year already started off 0:06:30.200 --> 0:06:33.000 bad with us, considering she canceled plans on my birthday, 0:06:33.320 --> 0:06:35.839 which was at the beginning of January, which I wasn't 0:06:35.880 --> 0:06:38.719 really tripping because she kept promising to come see me 0:06:38.800 --> 0:06:41.880 when she had the time. Well, fast forward to her birthday, 0:06:42.120 --> 0:06:44.440 which is at the end of January, where she went 0:06:44.480 --> 0:06:47.120 with her hoeing s sister on an out of state vacation. 0:06:47.600 --> 0:06:49.960 We were talking throughout her being out there, just not 0:06:50.080 --> 0:06:53.400 as much as usual, no biggie. Right before she leaves 0:06:53.400 --> 0:06:55.800 to come back home, she calls and tells me how 0:06:55.839 --> 0:06:58.120 she wasn't really with the girl the whole trip and 0:06:58.160 --> 0:07:01.280 all this other gossip. Not one did she mention anything 0:07:01.279 --> 0:07:02.599 out of the ordinary happened. 0:07:03.240 --> 0:07:07.400 M Sarah read it and it was too complicated. Then 0:07:07.480 --> 0:07:09.560 I read it and it was still complicated because I 0:07:09.560 --> 0:07:12.520 don't get it. So breakfast down, NYA, my little sister here, 0:07:12.600 --> 0:07:13.280 y'all stay high. 0:07:13.920 --> 0:07:18.000 Hey, all right, So, what the girl was trying to 0:07:18.040 --> 0:07:21.239 say is that the relationship was bad from the beginning 0:07:21.280 --> 0:07:25.480 of the year, so she already feel like something something 0:07:25.600 --> 0:07:28.560 was off. So their birthdays in the same month, her 0:07:28.560 --> 0:07:32.160 birthdays in the beginning of January and the girlfriend birthdays 0:07:32.160 --> 0:07:34.720 at the end of January. The girlfriend told her that 0:07:34.760 --> 0:07:37.480 she was going on a vacation with her sister. She says, 0:07:37.480 --> 0:07:40.960 she's a hoe. Nobody trusts you know, anybody said, yeah, 0:07:41.120 --> 0:07:43.080 nobody want to be with out you feel me? 0:07:43.480 --> 0:07:46.480 Okay? Boom She comes back and say she wasn't with 0:07:46.520 --> 0:07:47.560 her the whole time. 0:07:48.040 --> 0:07:50.640 Oh, so she wasn't with the sister the whole time. 0:07:50.920 --> 0:07:54.720 Oh okay, she was out getting her life with another hole, 0:07:54.840 --> 0:07:56.640 with another hole that's not her sister. 0:07:57.600 --> 0:08:00.400 And she said she usually they usually open about that. 0:08:00.640 --> 0:08:02.200 Yeah, but she didn't want to make a big deal 0:08:02.240 --> 0:08:04.000 about it because it's her birthday. So that's why she 0:08:04.080 --> 0:08:06.640 was like, no, baby, you know, but this ain't right. 0:08:06.880 --> 0:08:08.400 And that's why she trying to get to the bottom 0:08:08.440 --> 0:08:11.400 of it. Yeah, you wasn't with your whole sister. Which 0:08:11.440 --> 0:08:12.040 hole was you with? 0:08:12.560 --> 0:08:14.840 Yeah, you know what, probably one of her whole as 0:08:14.920 --> 0:08:18.760 sister friends. Oh, because you know, if her sister a hole, 0:08:18.840 --> 0:08:22.320 so was some of her friends, right? And and or 0:08:22.640 --> 0:08:25.040 she didn't even go on a vacation. Maybe she just 0:08:25.120 --> 0:08:28.160 went somewhere else with somebody else. Okay, So now I said, well, 0:08:28.160 --> 0:08:30.480 maybe she didn't even go on a vacation. Maybe she 0:08:30.560 --> 0:08:33.800 went somewhere else with somebody else to sneak. Yeah, that 0:08:33.920 --> 0:08:38.400 is sneaky, And maybe it was just easier for her 0:08:38.400 --> 0:08:40.080 to tell her I'm going somewhere with my sister. But 0:08:40.120 --> 0:08:42.160 if this girl already thinks the sister as a whole, 0:08:42.280 --> 0:08:47.760 so you fucked either way. Yeah, So so they broke up. 0:08:49.040 --> 0:08:51.920 They still together, but the relationship is rocky, rocky, and 0:08:51.960 --> 0:08:55.840 it started with the birthday at the beginning of the year, lawing. 0:08:56.200 --> 0:08:58.480 Yeah, sounds like she needed to cut the whole off. 0:08:58.600 --> 0:09:00.600 It sounds like you need to cut this girl off. 0:09:00.720 --> 0:09:01.720 That's what it sounds like. 0:09:01.840 --> 0:09:06.319 Yeah, I really believe that, though it does sound like 0:09:06.400 --> 0:09:10.000 it's taken a different it's going into a different direction. 0:09:10.160 --> 0:09:11.400 I mean, especially since you. 0:09:11.520 --> 0:09:13.960 Ended it with we are usually open books about this 0:09:14.000 --> 0:09:16.440 type of information, So that means you and your girlfriend 0:09:16.440 --> 0:09:21.680 are usually honest about things. But y'all haven't been seeing 0:09:21.720 --> 0:09:24.200 each other lately like that, you said, you haven't been 0:09:24.240 --> 0:09:26.679 talking as much as you talk to her, you know, 0:09:26.840 --> 0:09:28.800 the whole time she was on the trip, but not 0:09:28.880 --> 0:09:31.280 as much as usual, or not as much as you 0:09:31.320 --> 0:09:33.640 would have liked to seeing that she was with her 0:09:33.640 --> 0:09:34.520 whole as sister. 0:09:34.640 --> 0:09:36.240 That would have made me feel some type of way too. 0:09:36.400 --> 0:09:38.200 Yeah, yeah, and I could see how to didn't make 0:09:38.240 --> 0:09:42.160 you feel some type of way. I definitely think it's 0:09:42.280 --> 0:09:47.679 worth a conversation. I mean you should because what if 0:09:47.679 --> 0:09:51.160 there is someone else, you know what I mean? And honestly, 0:09:51.160 --> 0:09:54.840 if you two are always honest about things, maybe this 0:09:54.960 --> 0:09:56.840 is like a little fling that she got. Maybe this 0:09:56.920 --> 0:09:58.599 is something that she just having fun with you know 0:09:58.640 --> 0:10:00.280 what I mean. She don't plan to leave you for 0:10:00.360 --> 0:10:02.719 this person. She don't plan it, cause I think with you, 0:10:03.360 --> 0:10:05.640 if she's as honest as you said, and you always 0:10:05.640 --> 0:10:07.680 open books about shit, that would be something that she 0:10:07.679 --> 0:10:08.720 would come to you about. 0:10:09.280 --> 0:10:12.280 You don't got a location? Yeah, my sister said she 0:10:12.280 --> 0:10:14.599 ain't got her location or nothing like that. Like what 0:10:14.800 --> 0:10:19.080 that is that we do those? Yeah, definitely these definitely 0:10:19.160 --> 0:10:21.440 share locations and stuff like that. And are you cool 0:10:21.480 --> 0:10:24.040 with the sister? Was there any pictures? 0:10:24.880 --> 0:10:30.240 I mean everybody, because are there any vacation videos, pictures whatever? 0:10:30.440 --> 0:10:32.760 Like anything? You get what I'm saying? 0:10:32.880 --> 0:10:35.960 Like you you got a further investigation, especially if this 0:10:36.040 --> 0:10:37.319 is something that you want to get to the bottom 0:10:37.360 --> 0:10:38.160 of or hold it on. 0:10:38.240 --> 0:10:39.480 Tocaus. 0:10:39.800 --> 0:10:43.160 She didn't even she didn't even say she asked her. 0:10:43.559 --> 0:10:45.880 She just said that she came here and said she 0:10:46.000 --> 0:10:47.439 wasn't there, she wasn't with her. 0:10:47.880 --> 0:10:49.000 So what happened next? 0:10:49.400 --> 0:10:53.600 Oh, yeah, she didn't she didn't see My pregnant mind. 0:10:53.480 --> 0:10:56.160 Is like, oh, okay. 0:10:55.720 --> 0:10:57.840 So we're trying to build out the rest of the story. 0:10:57.920 --> 0:11:00.920 Now you really didn't know, I'm in true. Yeah, you 0:11:00.960 --> 0:11:04.720 didn't elaborate on it both. In fact, you ended it 0:11:04.760 --> 0:11:08.440 and said not once did she mention anything out of 0:11:08.440 --> 0:11:09.520 the ordinary happened. 0:11:09.559 --> 0:11:13.920 We're usually open books about this. And then you said 0:11:13.960 --> 0:11:16.560 that and that was it. I mean, right. 0:11:16.440 --> 0:11:19.400 Before she leaves to come back home, she goes and 0:11:19.440 --> 0:11:21.240 tell me how she wasn't really with the girl the 0:11:21.280 --> 0:11:22.720 whole trip and all this other. 0:11:22.600 --> 0:11:23.920 Guysip, what was the gossip? 0:11:24.200 --> 0:11:27.000 Yeah, okay, what she said, So what was the gossip? 0:11:27.040 --> 0:11:29.880 What are you leaving out? And then yeah, like Naya said, 0:11:29.920 --> 0:11:31.840 did you talk to her at all? Did you you 0:11:31.840 --> 0:11:33.160 know you're trying to get to the bottom of it. 0:11:33.200 --> 0:11:35.959 Are you scared to do you? Do you not want 0:11:36.000 --> 0:11:38.280 her to flip out on you and leave you or like, 0:11:38.320 --> 0:11:40.360 what the hell are you and all of this, because 0:11:40.360 --> 0:11:43.600 if you're worried, if you're that worried about the vacation 0:11:43.760 --> 0:11:47.120 and everything, this definitely needs immediate attention. I mean, the 0:11:47.160 --> 0:11:50.000 fuck you're just gonna let the ship slide. And then 0:11:50.640 --> 0:11:54.160 she said, yeah she did. She said, my ex broke 0:11:54.240 --> 0:11:56.840 up with me two days before Valentine's Day twenty twenty four. 0:11:57.000 --> 0:11:59.840 Oh, that's what I'm saying. I'm like, nah, this that 0:12:00.280 --> 0:12:02.760 this y'all. Yeah, y'all did break up? So she broke 0:12:02.840 --> 0:12:04.600 up with you? Oh? Yeah, it was definitely somebody else. 0:12:05.679 --> 0:12:08.199 Definitely it was somebody else, whether it's one of the 0:12:08.240 --> 0:12:11.439 whole as sister's friends, whether it's somebody that that. 0:12:11.480 --> 0:12:14.360 She been dealing with. Yeah, don't nobody just come out 0:12:14.400 --> 0:12:16.840 of nowhere and fall out the fucking sky. Did she 0:12:16.880 --> 0:12:19.760 give you a reason why? Yeah? And have y'all talked 0:12:19.760 --> 0:12:21.600 about why y'all broke up? 0:12:21.679 --> 0:12:25.040 Like, did she say that y'all been you know, look, 0:12:25.080 --> 0:12:26.760 I've been a litt unhappy with you. I mean, you 0:12:26.800 --> 0:12:28.600 don't do the things you used to, you know, those 0:12:28.640 --> 0:12:30.760 type of things that leads up. 0:12:30.640 --> 0:12:33.240 To a breakup. Usually have y'all sat and. 0:12:33.240 --> 0:12:37.320 Talked about this shit, because this was all right, but 0:12:37.360 --> 0:12:39.800 it wasn't that goddamn juicy girl you leaving meet off 0:12:39.840 --> 0:12:43.199 the bones? Goddamn. So you gotta gotta hit me back 0:12:43.280 --> 0:12:44.960 up and update me and let me know about this, 0:12:45.120 --> 0:12:45.520 all right? 0:12:45.760 --> 0:12:52.080 All right? Cool? Yeah? And is it worth fighting for you? 0:12:52.120 --> 0:12:54.640 Gotta let me know that too. You want to read 0:12:54.679 --> 0:13:01.400 this one? Sure? Real? Because I don't understand? Go ahead, okay, Hey, 0:13:01.480 --> 0:13:02.640 jus love your podcast. 0:13:03.040 --> 0:13:05.360 I love you because you'd be fixing people mess even 0:13:05.400 --> 0:13:07.720 help me in some leaks. So today I need some 0:13:07.800 --> 0:13:10.559 help and try to make the story short. 0:13:10.760 --> 0:13:13.760 Here goes. Me and this girl met in Okay. 0:13:13.520 --> 0:13:16.400 Everybody gay out here, Oh my god, just keep on 0:13:16.480 --> 0:13:17.440 going with the story. 0:13:17.559 --> 0:13:20.560 Say, okay, we were together for almost a year, but 0:13:20.640 --> 0:13:21.400 she broke it off and. 0:13:21.400 --> 0:13:22.520 Started dating some guy. 0:13:22.679 --> 0:13:26.200 Oh yeah, See, everybody don't want to be gay all day? 0:13:26.320 --> 0:13:27.600 Go ahead, all right. 0:13:28.280 --> 0:13:30.680 While doing so, she still was around me and everything, 0:13:31.240 --> 0:13:34.040 going out, having fun, et cetera. The nigga that she 0:13:34.120 --> 0:13:36.680 was dealing with knew about me as well. I knew 0:13:37.160 --> 0:13:39.959 what who his bitch as was. He would be all 0:13:40.000 --> 0:13:42.560 in my face and everything, like we was cool, but 0:13:42.720 --> 0:13:44.439 I couldn't trust him and I didn't go with my 0:13:44.520 --> 0:13:46.960 gut feeling. She broke it off with him after he 0:13:47.040 --> 0:13:49.320 stabbed himself in front all right. 0:13:49.480 --> 0:13:56.559 My good, he stabbed himself your friend? Oh shit? Oh wait? 0:13:56.600 --> 0:13:57.920 Did he die? Hold on? 0:13:58.640 --> 0:14:00.160 She broke it off with him after he said this 0:14:00.200 --> 0:14:01.840 south in front of her over a fight the head? 0:14:04.280 --> 0:14:07.360 Where are you doing this? This nigga stabbed herself to 0:14:08.000 --> 0:14:12.520 get her to be with him. Oh my god, right down? Yeah? 0:14:12.679 --> 0:14:16.119 Like what like? No, we don't do that. Okay. 0:14:16.880 --> 0:14:18.840 I get to work and no more than ten minutes 0:14:19.080 --> 0:14:21.840 into work, she caused, my phone, tells me what had happened. 0:14:22.120 --> 0:14:24.200 I left work and went right to her. She was 0:14:24.200 --> 0:14:27.000 scared and anxiety through the roof. I save with her 0:14:27.080 --> 0:14:29.240 that name to make sure she was okay and everything. 0:14:30.240 --> 0:14:34.960 Oh okay, that's it. Yeah, Oh my god. 0:14:35.160 --> 0:14:39.880 I gave y'all props two goddamn early, y'all ain't what 0:14:39.920 --> 0:14:41.080 So what the fuck you want to know? 0:14:41.880 --> 0:14:43.960 Shit? What did she want to know? 0:14:43.960 --> 0:14:46.120 I shan't ask me for no fucking advice. She told 0:14:46.120 --> 0:14:49.240 me the nigga stabbed herself. Stabbed herself because he saw 0:14:49.960 --> 0:14:53.120 her and the girl together, so he was like, oh shit, 0:14:53.280 --> 0:14:54.520 all right, this will get her back. 0:14:55.200 --> 0:14:58.760 Shank shank, shank, Like, what the fuck boy, what are 0:14:58.760 --> 0:14:59.200 you doing? 0:14:59.640 --> 0:15:01.960 So and then this is her ex girlfriend and she 0:15:02.000 --> 0:15:03.880 went to go support her after this time, and. 0:15:03.920 --> 0:15:06.600 Me, oh, so she went to go support her. 0:15:06.840 --> 0:15:11.400 Yeah, because you know that is a lot. So yeah, 0:15:11.440 --> 0:15:13.440 it would have been confused as well as scared. 0:15:13.720 --> 0:15:15.200 Yeah, confused. Yeah. 0:15:15.240 --> 0:15:19.120 Like if you're willing to cause harm to yourself on 0:15:19.280 --> 0:15:22.520 some shit like that just to like profess your love 0:15:22.680 --> 0:15:24.920 or like to get a bit to see you, nigga, 0:15:25.280 --> 0:15:28.560 you obviously are in the wrong relationship. You need to 0:15:28.720 --> 0:15:31.040 do work on your damn self. I would never self 0:15:31.040 --> 0:15:34.160 inflict pain like that, like, you know, just to get 0:15:34.160 --> 0:15:37.160 somebody to see me. Nah, it's somebody out here, but 0:15:37.280 --> 0:15:41.680 I mean worth much more of your time and love 0:15:41.760 --> 0:15:45.240 and real efforts like then, just for somebody. And I'm 0:15:45.280 --> 0:15:47.520 not even saying that you required him to stab himself, 0:15:47.520 --> 0:15:50.080 because I don't want you to think like Jess. 0:15:49.880 --> 0:15:50.880 I didn't tell him to do it. 0:15:50.920 --> 0:15:53.000 No, you're damn right, you damn sure didn't, baby, But 0:15:53.080 --> 0:15:56.120 like you shouldn't want to really be with somebody like 0:15:56.160 --> 0:15:59.280 that either, You get what I'm saying, because those are type. 0:15:59.040 --> 0:16:03.000 Of people go and try, Oh, I'm a I'm suicide 0:16:03.200 --> 0:16:05.080 with the ex girlfriend. 0:16:05.080 --> 0:16:11.920 Oh who is writing me? The girl girlfriend was oh shy. 0:16:11.440 --> 0:16:13.600 Not the governor, because she went with the guy, and 0:16:13.640 --> 0:16:16.720 the guy and the girlfriend broke up with the guy 0:16:17.880 --> 0:16:20.920 and she got with some other nigga, and the nigga 0:16:20.920 --> 0:16:23.840 saw them together and said this, So. 0:16:23.840 --> 0:16:27.080 Oh my god, girl, you don't fucking run. You ain't 0:16:27.080 --> 0:16:28.360 get stabbed ship. 0:16:28.640 --> 0:16:31.320 Let her go and support her because she ain't crying 0:16:31.320 --> 0:16:35.000 about you while you supporting her for him getting stabbed, 0:16:35.120 --> 0:16:37.240 crying about him because he didn't die from stabbing. 0:16:37.240 --> 0:16:39.960 This dumb and self girl, go ahead run, you dodged 0:16:39.960 --> 0:16:40.880 the bullet. The fuck. 0:16:40.960 --> 0:16:43.360 Come on, gay girl, You's so many girls out here 0:16:43.600 --> 0:16:45.720 that you can go ahead and get that ain't gonna 0:16:45.760 --> 0:16:48.160 cheat on you with no nigga that ain't no seriously, 0:16:48.280 --> 0:16:51.000 and she broke up with you, and she broke up 0:16:51.040 --> 0:16:55.720 with you. Oh my god, Oh my god. Look this 0:16:55.800 --> 0:16:59.160 is old my fucking TV show. Now, this is bullshit. 0:16:59.760 --> 0:17:02.800 You ain't supposed to be sitting in We're going to 0:17:02.840 --> 0:17:03.320 the next story. 0:17:03.360 --> 0:17:05.600 I don't know what the fuck they's sitting in here 0:17:05.720 --> 0:17:10.399 talking about. It's just crazy now, insane. Come on, I 0:17:10.440 --> 0:17:13.960 don't know se alright he love? Is he? Alright? I 0:17:13.960 --> 0:17:14.800 don't give a fuck? 0:17:14.960 --> 0:17:15.119 Is he? 0:17:15.200 --> 0:17:16.719 Alright? To max to you? What should need? 0:17:20.520 --> 0:17:23.760 Oh my god, I man, shit, she went over there 0:17:23.760 --> 0:17:25.320 to support her in that time, to need while she 0:17:25.680 --> 0:17:28.240 trying to get over the stabbing, the self stabbing of 0:17:28.240 --> 0:17:29.760 a nigga who saw her with a bitch. 0:17:29.960 --> 0:17:31.400 Ain't nobody got time for that? Ship? 0:17:31.480 --> 0:17:34.040 Girl back, get up, go to that bitch a box 0:17:34.040 --> 0:17:36.520 of tissues and sigh and all her bitches, so many, 0:17:36.680 --> 0:17:38.000 so much of a pussy out here. 0:17:39.320 --> 0:17:42.160 But that was very generous. Though, it was very generous. 0:17:42.200 --> 0:17:45.520 But it's very dumb too. You don't do that. Don't 0:17:45.560 --> 0:17:47.960 fucking do that. Alright, read the next one and then 0:17:48.000 --> 0:17:49.000 be out of here. All right. 0:17:49.920 --> 0:17:51.760 Now, we got a commercial, and if you click off 0:17:51.800 --> 0:17:53.800 of this podcast, I swear I'm gonna beat your ass. 0:17:54.119 --> 0:17:54.479 Listen. 0:17:56.760 --> 0:18:00.440 Okay, Hi Jess, congratulations to your beautiful but new joy 0:18:01.480 --> 0:18:03.960 as you pull up your stomach rain. Now let's get 0:18:03.960 --> 0:18:05.920 into it. So I have an issue that I don't 0:18:05.920 --> 0:18:08.359 even know if it's considered a mess. I have a 0:18:08.359 --> 0:18:10.680 friend that I call my sister that everyone keeps saying 0:18:10.800 --> 0:18:14.400 is a hater personally, do I feel that way, No, 0:18:14.800 --> 0:18:20.679 but my mom dad says the boyfriend, what the fuck? 0:18:25.480 --> 0:18:27.160 Okay, do I feel that way? 0:18:27.280 --> 0:18:29.760 No, but my mom dad since the boyfriend and others 0:18:29.800 --> 0:18:32.520 have said she is so Within the last year, I've 0:18:32.560 --> 0:18:34.160 had a baby and bought a new house. 0:18:34.480 --> 0:18:36.760 That's when I noticed the behavior did a one eighty. 0:18:37.200 --> 0:18:37.600 We tug. 0:18:37.680 --> 0:18:41.639 The attacks still most days. That can sometimes stop for weeks. 0:18:41.960 --> 0:18:44.399 But it's like, since those two things happen in my life, 0:18:44.400 --> 0:18:47.240