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Speaker 1: First Date follow Up powered by the Advocates Injury Attorneys

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Speaker 1: online at advocateslaw dot com.

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Speaker 2: Lisa is on the phone today for a first date

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Speaker 2: follow up and she's getting ghosted by a guy named Connor.

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Speaker 2: So in a few minutes, we'll call him and see

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Speaker 2: if you'll tell us why he's ghostinger and maybe get

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Speaker 2: her a second date. But first, Lisa, why do you

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Speaker 2: think you're getting ghosted?

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Speaker 3: I think I'm getting ghosted because I sort of hooked

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Speaker 3: up with the waiter, like.

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Speaker 4: The date Okay, yeah, you want to explain that a

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Speaker 4: little bit.

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Speaker 5: It's okay.

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Speaker 1: I was gonna be like, girl, that sounds like that's

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Speaker 1: it bullseye.

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Speaker 3: No, So, uh, you took me to dinner, and when

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Speaker 3: the waiter came up it was this guy. I was like,

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Speaker 3: I feel like I remember him, and then it clicked

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Speaker 3: I had gone on a date with him and hooked

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Speaker 3: up with him like a few years ago, and then,

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Speaker 3: you know whatever, I guess he kind of saw it

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Speaker 3: and he asked how I knew him, and you know,

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Speaker 3: I just said, yeah, I told him the truth, like, yeah,

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Speaker 3: we've been on a date, and you know, we did

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Speaker 3: end up hooking up. But he was not fine with it.

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Speaker 3: This is the thing that confused me. He was so

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Speaker 3: fine with it. You laughed it off, and you know,

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Speaker 3: the date was great and you know, we gets on

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Speaker 3: my way home and saw that, right, so that was great.

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Speaker 3: And then I texted him, but I got no response,

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Speaker 3: and I was like.

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Speaker 4: Bro, what's up?

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Speaker 6: Yeah?

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Speaker 4: How long has it been?

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Speaker 6: I think it's like a week? Yeah, a little over

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Speaker 6: a week.

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Speaker 4: Okay. I feel like you didn't need to tell him that.

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Speaker 1: That guy like he could have just been like I

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Speaker 1: went out with him once.

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Speaker 6: I don't.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't think you needed to. I mean, we're

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Speaker 1: here now, so just for future reference.

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Speaker 6: I'm too honest.

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Speaker 4: I respect that for sure. That could be the reason.

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Speaker 3: I probably didn't know what I thought and he thought

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Speaker 3: on my face. I was like, what the hell going on?

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Speaker 2: At the end of the day, you guys kissed and stuff.

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Speaker 2: Did he say anything about like he want to see

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Speaker 2: you again? Anything like that? Yeah?

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Speaker 3: Absolutely, he mentioned like wanting to see me, and I said,

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Speaker 3: I'll text to you, and I did and not to.

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Speaker 4: I don't know. Maybe he was mad because you didn't

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Speaker 4: hook up with him as quickly as you hooked. All right, Well,

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Speaker 4: we'll see what it was.

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Speaker 2: We're about to call Connor, a guy who's been ghosting

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Speaker 2: her for about a week and a half, and see

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Speaker 2: if he'll tell us why he's ghosting her and maybe

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Speaker 2: get her a second date. But before we do that, Lisa,

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Speaker 2: why don't you break down your situation for us again

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Speaker 2: real quick?

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Speaker 3: Yeah? So I went on a date, uh with this guy,

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Speaker 3: and it turned out that when the waiter came, he's

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Speaker 3: the guy that I dated before. I went on a

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Speaker 3: date with before, like a couple of years ago, and

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Speaker 3: we had hooked up and I ended up telling Connor

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Speaker 3: about that. Everything else great, but I don't know.

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Speaker 2: All right, well, we'll see if that is the reason.

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Speaker 2: Are you ready for us to call him?

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Speaker 6: Yeah, okay, here we go.

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Speaker 5: You to Connor.

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Speaker 2: Hi, Connor, how are you? This is a radio show.

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Speaker 2: It's called The Jeubile Show.

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Speaker 4: I'm sorry, Connor. You really caught me off guard. I'm Nina.

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Speaker 2: My name is Jubell. How are you?

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Speaker 3: Oh?

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Speaker 5: Wow, I'm great. A lot of people call Connor now right.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, I've seen you guys on TikTok Oh.

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Speaker 5: Cool.

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Speaker 2: Okay, have you ever actually listened to the show?

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Speaker 6: You know, I've seen the clips. Did you see me

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Speaker 6: on TikTok.

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Speaker 5: Is that why you're calling?

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Speaker 4: No, but we'll check you out.

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Speaker 2: Many we're calling today because on the show, we do

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Speaker 2: a segment that's called the first Date follow Up. That's

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Speaker 2: where if you go out on a date with somebody

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Speaker 2: and you end up ghosting them, that person can email

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Speaker 2: us to call you and to ask why you're ghosting them.

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Speaker 2: And we got to email about you from somebody.

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Speaker 6: Tight that's cool?

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Speaker 2: Any idea who would email us? Like, are you ghosting

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Speaker 2: anybody that you know about?

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Speaker 3: Oh?

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Speaker 5: I don't know who?

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Speaker 6: Who? Which one?

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Speaker 4: What connor surprises? Who do you think it could be?

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Speaker 6: Uh? Jamie?

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Speaker 2: It is not Jamie. Her name is Lisa, Lisa or

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Speaker 2: Lisa C. I don't know. Oh you're playing okay, okay, Yes,

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Speaker 2: Lisa emailed us said she went on a date with you.

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Speaker 2: It's been about a week and a half and you

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Speaker 2: haven't gone back to her, and she's really confused and

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Speaker 2: wonder if you tell us do you mind?

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Speaker 3: Oh?

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Speaker 5: Right, well, I mean sure, I have the don't.

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Speaker 6: Know she was really realizing how lucky she was.

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Speaker 2: Honestly, excuse me, what do you mean by that? Like,

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Speaker 2: you don't really if she didn't realize how lucky she was.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I mean listen, I took her out. We had

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Speaker 5: a nice time. She texted me like once after. You know,

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Speaker 5: it's and this girl just seems like she doesn't really

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Speaker 5: get it.

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Speaker 4: What was she supposed to do? You didn't respond to her,

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Speaker 4: So why was she going to text you again?

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Speaker 6: Like one little text?

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Speaker 5: That's not really a lot of effort, you know what

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Speaker 5: I mean, it's truly it's not.

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Speaker 6: Trust me.

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Speaker 5: She is not the only girl I went out with

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Speaker 5: last week.

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Speaker 2: Oh okay, so you're you're a ghostinger because she just

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Speaker 2: texted you once?

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Speaker 6: Yeah, I mean listen, one time.

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Speaker 5: Kind of a turn off. Nothing too much in it either,

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Speaker 5: not really saying that she's that appreciative, and she should

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Speaker 5: have been that. I don't.

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Speaker 6: I don't wanna.

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Speaker 5: I don't want to oversell it. But I'm a catch

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Speaker 5: all right. Sometimes you just got to know the quality that.

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Speaker 6: You're working with. And if the female is.

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Speaker 5: Not going to recognize that, it's not my job to

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Speaker 5: educate her on it. She could enjoy and appreciate, or

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Speaker 5: if not, there's others who will.

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Speaker 4: Okay, does this work for you?

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Speaker 5: Wait?

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Speaker 6: Watch I didn't realize.

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Speaker 2: Hey, Connor, that's Lisa she's actually been on the phone

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Speaker 2: and listening and she wants to.

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Speaker 6: Talk to you.

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Speaker 3: All right, what hi?

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Speaker 6: Follow up? Look, you're going through the effort of calling

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Speaker 6: the radio. You got me on. Let's talk now.

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Speaker 4: So Connor, you're into this now?

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Speaker 6: I mean, this is fun, this is different.

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Speaker 3: Wait why why wouldn't texting you enough? I just need

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Speaker 3: figure this out.

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Speaker 5: Listen, we can't. We can make this pretty simple and straightforward.

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Speaker 5: It's mathematical. At the end of the day, I am

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Speaker 5: like at least a nine and a half. At least

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Speaker 5: you're not bad, but you're like a seven and a half.

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Speaker 5: Maybe what's the difference there too?

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Speaker 6: So maybe like twice the effort the answer?

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Speaker 4: Wow, are you serious, dude?

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Speaker 6: The math ain't mathing?

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Speaker 4: Okay, Wow, I don't know where you went to learn

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Speaker 4: your mathematics.

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Speaker 3: You say you're nine and a half.

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Speaker 6: Okay, well you're addrisive.

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Speaker 3: I'll give you that. But your personality right is making

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Speaker 3: you a five?

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Speaker 6: Oh that's an ugly maybe even lower than that.

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Speaker 5: Look.

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Speaker 6: Look, look, you went on the date with the champ.

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Speaker 5: You didn't treat him like a champ?

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Speaker 3: What is it?

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Speaker 6: Yeah?

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Speaker 4: Are you I'm surprised you're not losing your mind right now.

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Speaker 6: I'm Connor. Baby's sure, I am? You know?

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Speaker 4: Oh my god?

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Speaker 2: Okay, so, uh, you just you're ghosting her because she's

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Speaker 2: not idolizing you like you want.

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Speaker 6: She should what she should?

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Speaker 4: Oh wow?

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Speaker 1: Okay, So if she did put you on a pedestal,

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Speaker 1: would you feel more into this?

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Speaker 6: Not more into Yeah? I try?

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Speaker 4: You try? How nice of you.

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Speaker 5: Connor gives. I'm a giver. I'm a winner. I'm a winner.

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Speaker 5: I'm a giver.

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Speaker 6: Connor gives.

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Speaker 1: Baby.

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Speaker 2: Okay, Connor, would you like another date with Lisa? We'll

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Speaker 2: pay for it.

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Speaker 5: Now we're talking, you know, I'll give this girl a chance.

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Speaker 5: Your pan?

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Speaker 2: Hey, Lisa, do you there if you want to if

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Speaker 2: you want to go out with Connor again?

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Speaker 5: Sure?

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Speaker 4: But what you're serious? Why?

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Speaker 6: This is what women?

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Speaker 4: This is what the women do. You're really gonna go

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Speaker 4: out with them again? Lisa? Are you sure? Girl?

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Speaker 6: It's been a while and whatever.

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Speaker 3: The dumb ones are always great in bed anyway.

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Speaker 2: Jule's first date follow up