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Speaker 1: got it for you here. It is the Strawberry Letter.

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Speaker 1: I'm stealing, Angola, I'm stealing. I don't need to be.

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Speaker 1: We'll get out now here we go. Thank you, nephew

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Speaker 1: subject I picked him up and they're still lying. Dear

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Speaker 1: Stephen Schirlotte, I have been married for twenty two years

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Speaker 1: to a fool who thinks I'm crazy. He works two

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Speaker 1: jobs and takes great care of me, but I think

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Speaker 1: he resents me because I never had children for him.

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Speaker 1: At first, we agreed that we didn't want kids, but

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Speaker 1: now we're almost fifty and he said he wants a son.

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Speaker 1: Because of that, he has become very involved with the

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Speaker 1: neighborhood friend's son. I thought he was being a good neighbor,

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Speaker 1: but now I think he is using the boy to

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Speaker 1: get to his mama. We've known this woman for years,

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Speaker 1: and when she lost her husband three years ago, our

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Speaker 1: small community was there for her and her kids. She

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Speaker 1: has an eight year old son and a five year

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Speaker 1: old daughter. My husband and I kept the kids a

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Speaker 1: few times in the past, and recently my husband has

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Speaker 1: tutored the boy in math, and he even bought an

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Speaker 1: A week ago, my husband asked me if it was

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Speaker 1: okay for him to paint this lady's daughter's bedroom. I

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Speaker 1: did not mind, but I thought it was random because

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Speaker 1: my husband is not a painter. That day, he was

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Speaker 1: at her house for hours and I didn't call to

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Speaker 1: bother him. That evening, the lady called me and said

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Speaker 1: that my husband was really sick and needed to go

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Speaker 1: to the ear. I rushed to her house and my

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Speaker 1: husband was laid out on the floor in his boxer's

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Speaker 1: undershirt and footies. He was slur and slobbering, and I

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Speaker 1: knew right off that he wasn't sick. He was drunk.

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Speaker 1: She wanted him gone before her kids got home, and

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Speaker 1: she couldn't move him. She said he took his clothes

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Speaker 1: him get him into the car. My husband has been

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Speaker 1: sleeping on our couch since then, and they swear that

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Speaker 1: nothing sexual happened. Why are they lying? Should I send

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Speaker 1: him back over to her house? Well, you know, if

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Speaker 1: you listen to this show, you would know there are

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Speaker 1: lies that Steve respects and approves of, and then there

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Speaker 1: are just some, just some really really stupid lies. Okay,

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Speaker 1: saying he was in his boxers and his undershirt and

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Speaker 1: stupid lie. It was just dumb. The only reason for

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Speaker 1: is if he and the neighbor lady were doing it

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Speaker 1: or about to do something before you got there. I mean,

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Speaker 1: they're playing how over there? He wasn't painting the daughter's room.

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Speaker 1: You never even mentioned that. Again, I guess it was

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Speaker 1: about that. And yes, there is a difference between being

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Speaker 1: that she called you, but I do believe you're right.

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Speaker 1: She desperately needed him out of the house before the

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Speaker 1: help getting him out of there. Huh so a neighbor helped. Well,

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Speaker 1: I got to ask you, now that he's home, what

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Speaker 1: even checking on him all day for hours. You just

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Speaker 1: not contact him. You should have gone over there to

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Speaker 1: should send him back, Well, not unless you want the

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Speaker 1: same thing to happen all over again, until you figure

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Speaker 1: out whether you're staying in this marriage. What you're gonna do.

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Speaker 1: He needs to stay on that couch and stay his

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Speaker 1: It is kind of crazy. Really, This couple been married

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Speaker 1: twenty two years now, She say to a fool who

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Speaker 1: I think it's both. I think he's also using the

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Speaker 1: three years ago, our small community was there for her

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Speaker 1: and her kid. Now, when you say lost her husband

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Speaker 1: three years ago, does that mean death? Is that? How y'all?

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Speaker 1: He died? Okay? Oh, she could have lost him to

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Speaker 1: and the community and everybody was there for She got

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Speaker 1: eight year old son and five year old daughter. My

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Speaker 1: and your husband tooted the boy in math and he's

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Speaker 1: even bought in east suit for him this year. I

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Speaker 1: A week ago, my husband ask if he was okay

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Speaker 1: for him to paint this lady's daughter's bed room. Now,

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Speaker 1: even know that the daughter's bedroom need painting, a pretty

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Speaker 1: extensive conversation has been had. Because you can tutor the

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Speaker 1: boy in math, and you can buy easter suit. What

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Speaker 1: that got to do with the girl bedroom needing? Pa?

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Speaker 1: Hang on, Steve, hang on. We'll come back with part

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Speaker 1: two of your response at twenty three minutes after the

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Speaker 1: hour of today's Strawberry Letters. Subject I picked him up

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Speaker 1: and they're still lying. We'll get back into it right

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Speaker 1: recap today's Strawberry letter. The subject is I picked him

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Speaker 1: up and they're still lying. Well, this lady and man

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Speaker 1: been married for over twenty two years. She thinks the

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Speaker 1: They always he always wanted a son. She thinks there's

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Speaker 1: for him, or he's fallen and taken to this neighbor's son,

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Speaker 1: He's kind of taken to the boy, tutor him in

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Speaker 1: math and all this. He embodied me east to Sue.

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Speaker 1: And she says in the letter that I think he's

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Speaker 1: think it's him using the mama to get to the boy.

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Speaker 1: And it may be a package deal here that they're

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Speaker 1: working on. You've kept the kids a few times, and

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Speaker 1: you know all this here week ago, your husband said,

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Speaker 1: Now that's a conversation, y'all. I've had a conversation with

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Speaker 1: a lot of woman in my life and painting the

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Speaker 1: baby's bedroom and ever come up? Okay, Ever, I'm telling

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Speaker 1: you that was some extensive conversations coming up, some type

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Speaker 1: of trade off, some type of deal, something of value.

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Speaker 1: I need my daughter's bedroom painting. That's the only way

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Speaker 1: that can come up. And then the lady said, he

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Speaker 1: asked if it was okay. I didn't mind, but I

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Speaker 1: thought it was random because my husband is not a painter. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: but you ain't huddles, you know, we a whole lot

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Speaker 1: of things when we got to be Now have to

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Speaker 1: That's what it is. I'm going down here the loads.

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna work through some stone. I'm coming back with

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Speaker 1: the little plastic, come back with the can of paint.

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Speaker 1: Rush to roll a pin into pan. I'm gonna come

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Speaker 1: with some tape that blue tapes for I could mash

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Speaker 1: on YouTube and I'm gonna paint this damn one. Yes. Well,

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Speaker 1: the day came. He was at our house for hours

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Speaker 1: really sick and needed to go to the ear. Now

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Speaker 1: I rushed to her house. My husband was laid out

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Speaker 1: He was slurring and slobbery, and I knew right off

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Speaker 1: he wasn't sick because she'd been with him twenty two years.

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Speaker 1: He was drunk. She wanted him to get she wanted me,

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Speaker 1: She wanted him gone before her kids got home, and

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Speaker 1: got to do with breathing? Yeah, he was breathing when

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Speaker 1: He was breathing when he was painting that damn house.

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Speaker 1: Now all of a sudden, why he got to be

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Speaker 1: has been sleeping on that couch since then. They swear

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Speaker 1: I really don't. I don't have an answer to this,

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Speaker 1: that drinking and painting don't mix this much. I do

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Speaker 1: know that is no breathe Now to try to drink

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Speaker 1: and stay in them lines, no wee to try to drink,

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Speaker 1: and thank you, ain't gonna get that paint on that

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Speaker 1: damn trink. There is no way you can line that

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Speaker 1: desire to paint after you've been drinking. Painting is physical labor.

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Speaker 1: Drinking to the point where he drunk when his speech

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Speaker 1: is slurd. He didn't had to. I thought it was painting. Well,

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Speaker 1: he was over there. There was no paint on it, exactly.

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Speaker 1: The daughter's bed room still ain't need no paint, the

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Speaker 1: whole painting the daughter bed room. So now she got

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Speaker 1: to get him out of him because they've been drinking.

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Speaker 1: He drank too much and now he didn't fell out.

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Speaker 1: She got to get him out of here for that,

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Speaker 1: and to taking his clothes off. You know how hard

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Speaker 1: He was ready, but he didn't understand the rules of drinking.

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Speaker 1: that is the time to stop drinking and start consuming water.

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Speaker 1: If you continue to drink after you first feel something,

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Speaker 1: the rest of that liquor ain't hit the blood sister.

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Speaker 1: The man drink and here's him. And that's why I

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Speaker 1: don't drink, because my brother my entire life, and I'm

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