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Speaker 1: Misspelling with Tory Spelling and iHeartRadio podcast. This is very

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Speaker 1: exciting for me. So here we are two iconic virgins

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Speaker 1: from TV. I played a virgin, Donna Martin on nine

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Speaker 1: O two and zero on scripted TV. You are an

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Speaker 1: actual virgin, and you're on TV on your new reality

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Speaker 1: show Virgins on TLC, premiering June ninth at nine pm.

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Speaker 1: I am super excited.

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Speaker 2: So am I?

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Speaker 1: Hi, Tori Heynali Wait, I know something you don't know.

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Speaker 2: I'm curious what I got?

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Speaker 1: A screener? I know you haven't seen it yet. I

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Speaker 1: saw it.

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Speaker 2: I saw it a screener, a trailer.

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Speaker 1: You mean I saw that episode?

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Speaker 2: Oh okay, lucky you. I'll have to wait one more week.

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Speaker 1: I mean you filmed. It's you know, I.

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Speaker 2: Haven't seen what actually made the final cut?

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Speaker 1: Oh right, right right?

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Speaker 2: Part of the journey.

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Speaker 1: Gosh, I don't know where I want to start. How

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Speaker 1: did they find you? How did TLC? Like?

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Speaker 2: I found them?

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Speaker 1: Actually I found them.

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Speaker 2: I found the casting breakdown on social media. Almost It's

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Speaker 2: been quite a journey. Life is a journey. But yeah,

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Speaker 2: I saw it on social media and I applied, and

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Speaker 2: now here we are.

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Speaker 1: What did it say? Virgins wanted.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, oh they had an age bracket. And then if

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Speaker 2: you're looking for love, which I have been doing all

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Speaker 2: my life, if you know, if you're a virgin, and

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Speaker 2: we want to hear your story. And I was open

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Speaker 2: and authentic and vulnerable throughout the whole process. And yeah,

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Speaker 2: they loved me, I guess, and I love them. It's

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Speaker 2: been a wonderful experience.

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Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, what if it had been like a

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Speaker 1: competition show and you didn't know, and like instead of

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Speaker 1: getting a rose at the end, like you get like

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Speaker 1: lube and they're like and here you go, you're gonna

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Speaker 1: lose your virginity.

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Speaker 2: You know, I would have been fine with a lot

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Speaker 2: of alcohol. Just wasn't that a point in life where

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Speaker 2: you know, I'm all about new experiences and as long

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Speaker 2: as ye as long as it didn't cause any physical pain,

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Speaker 2: which who knows, I would have just gone at the floor.

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Speaker 1: I'm very concerned about your physical pain. I the end

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Speaker 1: of the first episode had me want I.

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Speaker 2: Oh, you saw the first episode. I don't even know

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Speaker 2: what they filmed included in which episode yet. I'll find

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Speaker 2: out in a week. But listen, whatever physical pain issues

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Speaker 2: challenges I have or had or we'll see. You know,

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Speaker 2: I think childbirth and pregnancy I've heard is so much

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Speaker 2: more painful.

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Speaker 1: I know. If you're worried about a finger up there,

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Speaker 1: imagine a baby coming out of there. Not did it?

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Speaker 1: You can't even put a tampon up there.

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Speaker 2: No tampon success. I wasn't allowed to.

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Speaker 1: Write like I want to talk about that.

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Speaker 2: Okay, let's chat.

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Speaker 1: No disrespect to your family, but do you feel like

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Speaker 1: your strict upbringing has impacted you emotionally psychologically?

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Speaker 2: So let me backtrack and okay, yeah, concise as possible.

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Speaker 2: I was born and raised in America, yes, to immigrant

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Speaker 2: folks from India. At home, it was the Indian world.

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Speaker 2: At school, in the New Jersey public school system, it

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Speaker 2: was the American world. My parents themselves had an arranged marriage.

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Speaker 2: They were virtually strangers when they got married. My father

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Speaker 2: is older, he was the breadwinner. Both my folks are

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Speaker 2: retired now and my parents, my well intentioned parents, raised

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Speaker 2: me as if we were in some Indian village because

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Speaker 2: that's all they knew. So yeah, growing up, I was

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Speaker 2: forbidden from dating, socializing, no sleepovers, no prom no college dorming,

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Speaker 2: because what do college kids do on campus? Do hanky panky.

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Speaker 2: That's what my dad said.

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Speaker 1: On campus. It can happen anywhere.

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Speaker 2: No, well, and you know I'm not so. And then

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Speaker 2: coming back to the whole tampon thing, like, yeah, my mother,

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Speaker 2: I've always used pads to this day. And and even

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Speaker 2: always told me, my dad's the boss, the red winner.

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Speaker 2: He always said if I if I did anything ever

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Speaker 2: And I'm like, I don't want to go to India, Tori.

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Speaker 2: I had bracist for seven years. I never even chewed gum.

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Speaker 2: to this day, I hear in my head five thousand

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Speaker 2: send me that to India. So yeah, no tampon usage.

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Speaker 2: A past mere hurts at the wonderful obg I M's

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Speaker 2: office a couple of years ago, I thought I met

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Speaker 2: the one I tried to get an iud inserted, couldn't

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Speaker 2: get it done, and then the guy turned to be

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Speaker 2: a jerk. I've been through helen back, and so yeah,

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Speaker 2: I to your point. I can't imagine what colbirth and

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Speaker 2: pregnancy feel like, really, and I don't think I want

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Speaker 1: You can get a C section and then they just

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Speaker 1: slice open your stomach. But uh wait, so you said

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Speaker 1: you've been to third base.

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Speaker 2: Though, so you know about that. Okay, yeah, so I

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Speaker 2: actually refer to myself as a semi virgin, and you know,

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Speaker 2: it's an actual word. I came up with it, but

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Speaker 2: then I looked it up.

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Speaker 1: A semi virgin, semi virgin. Yeah, you're a virgin. No, no, no,

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Speaker 1: no no.

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Speaker 2: But you said third base, So.

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Speaker 1: I don't know what third I didn't know. You explained

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Speaker 1: it on the show. I had no idea, And.

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Speaker 2: Look, I said a lot of things on the show.

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Speaker 2: I don't know what made the final cut. You've seen

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Speaker 2: the first episode at least.

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Speaker 1: Well, I'm just saying you said that you were with

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Speaker 1: a man, and you still explained that you went to

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Speaker 1: first base kissing, touching up.

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Speaker 2: Okay, no, I remember, Okay, so that third base was down,

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Speaker 2: So remind me he oh of the earings he gave me.

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Speaker 2: He's I still think about him, silly me, stupid snelling.

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Speaker 1: Wait, no, where those errings? Girl? Who cares about him?

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Speaker 1: Like they're breathful?

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Speaker 2: Oh?

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Speaker 1: And then he ghosted you right right right?

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Speaker 2: Okay, can quote men?

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Speaker 1: I'm I'm a semi fan of men. Oh yeah, I'm

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Speaker 1: gonna semi virgin, but semi fanom men. So he touched

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Speaker 1: you down below? Was there any insertion of like a

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Speaker 1: finger affirmative? Okay? And that didn't hurt?

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Speaker 2: No, Listen. I wanted to go all the way with him,

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Speaker 2: and he wanted to to He didn't. We neither of

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Speaker 2: any birth control. He never wanted to talk about us

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Speaker 2: for the future. It was really on a daycase by case,

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Speaker 2: month by on month basis. He didn't have a vasectomy

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Speaker 2: before him. I told you I tried to get an

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Speaker 2: aud inserted. That didn't work out. Even before that, I

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Speaker 2: I gained weight, I broke out, and then of course

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Speaker 2: that guy ghosted me too. It's always us women who

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Speaker 2: pay the price, Like why can't men pay the price?

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Speaker 2: Why can't every.

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Speaker 1: Single man called the condom?

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Speaker 2: Well, he never wanted to use that either.

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Speaker 1: Wait, this boy, this boy man.

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Speaker 2: He was this man who's significantly older than me. That's

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Speaker 2: a whole other story, toy, Hey that rhyme?

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Speaker 1: Will you tell me about this man?

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Speaker 2: Oh man? Where do I begin?

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Speaker 1: Do you feel like? Were you in love with him?

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Speaker 2: Affirmative? I fall Tori, I fall in love with just

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Speaker 2: one kiss. That is all it takes from me, And

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Speaker 1: That is not good. I'm worried.

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Speaker 2: Why is that not good?

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Speaker 1: Because you crave this intimacy so much that I'm worried

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Speaker 1: you're gonna get There's gonna be red flag guys that

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Speaker 2: This guy was full of red flags? What did I

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Speaker 2: know about them?

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Speaker 1: Though he didn't want to use a condom, he could

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Speaker 1: pull out?

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Speaker 2: Wait say that I pull out? What does that mean?

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Speaker 1: Clearly? I don't really know. I have five kids, but

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Speaker 1: I suppose the method is when they are about to ejaculate,

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Speaker 2: He never went in.

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Speaker 1: And no, I know, I know because yeah.

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Speaker 2: He didn't want to get me pregnant. I didn't want

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Speaker 2: to get pregnant.

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Speaker 1: But whatever. I'm glad you didn't have sex with him.

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Speaker 1: I'm glad you lose. This guy sounds like a dick.

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Speaker 2: Oh no, he knew something, Tori. He has a daughter

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Speaker 2: who's about twelve thirteen years younger than me. Listen, I'm

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Speaker 2: of Indian descent. We believe in karma and even in

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Speaker 2: about to say. But every man out there should treat

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Speaker 2: blood relatives treated. Yes, daughter, meek, cousin, mom, aunt, whatever.

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Speaker 2: And if I ever see this man again, I'll be like,

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Speaker 2: karma's your daughter. Okay. Oh and by the way, Tori,

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Speaker 2: he's an Equinox member. That's how I met him. I

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Speaker 2: used to work at the front desk at Equinox and

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Speaker 2: Low Casting Production TLC. I apparently you know I'm an

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Speaker 2: at the front desk and Equinox and he was a

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Speaker 2: frequent member. We crossed paths many times, many times, and

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Speaker 2: he introduced himself to me and that's how we met.

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Speaker 2: Oh so then get this, I'm bringing Equinox up because

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Speaker 2: my director lisacial title is field producer. She's also an

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Speaker 2: Equinox member, so she's She told me she was going

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Speaker 2: to stalk him, but then she never did because they

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Speaker 2: knew he wasn't going to cooperate because he's a private

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Speaker 1: Yeah, a private what citizen?

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Speaker 2: Well, he's a private person like.

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Speaker 1: Mike. I love your lingo. I love when you say affirmative,

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Speaker 1: private citizen, self professed prude.

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Speaker 2: I'm not just beauty. I'm also brains, almost very humble.

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Speaker 1: No, you just you. I love your your wording for things.

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Speaker 1: Would you go out with a younger man?

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Speaker 2: Hey? Look, Nick Jonas is ten years younger than Prianca Chopra.

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Speaker 2: You know I want what Chopra has, I really do.

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Speaker 2: I've always been public about that, and he's ten years

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Speaker 2: younger than her. He's a different one.

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Speaker 1: Do you want cake on the beach, like do.

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Speaker 2: You take on the beach? That's not his song.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, this song is that, that's mother.

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Speaker 2: I don't think that's a Nick Jonah's song. M I

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Speaker 2: look at because look I'm thirty eight. I'm thirty seven

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Speaker 2: on the show. Prianca Chopra is five years older than me.

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Speaker 2: She's my donation. And I grew up watching her in

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Speaker 1: Sorry you don't like sex. He's like calling it making love.

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Speaker 2: And you know what else I wasn't allowed to do.

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Speaker 1: But on some level, I know you're saying that's all

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Speaker 2: My dad was like, we're going to get you married

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Speaker 1: To my career. I'm like, you have so many fears.

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Speaker 1: Okay. Wow. So your parents still to this day have

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Speaker 2: My mom all my life has been powerless. She's always

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Speaker 2: And actually, fast forward to today, Torri, my mom was

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Speaker 2: dad this was just a few days ago. I'm like,

439
00:21:51,040 --> 00:21:53,800
Speaker 2: we will filming rapped, they're editing, and I don't know

440
00:21:53,800 --> 00:21:55,560
Speaker 2: when it's gonna air. That's what I told my dad

441
00:21:55,680 --> 00:21:58,560
Speaker 2: over the weekend. I don't want him to see the show.

442
00:21:58,800 --> 00:22:01,959
Speaker 1: This is your dad read things online. I mean, your

443
00:22:02,040 --> 00:22:04,720
Speaker 1: name is going to be everywhere by the way, I'll.

444
00:22:04,600 --> 00:22:05,000
Speaker 2: Deal with it.

445
00:22:05,040 --> 00:22:07,840
Speaker 1: Then, Okay, sure, yeah.

446
00:22:07,560 --> 00:22:09,600
Speaker 2: We'll I'll cross that bridge when I get there.

447
00:22:10,119 --> 00:22:13,119
Speaker 1: Sounds good to me. Let me know how that goes.

448
00:22:13,160 --> 00:22:13,919
Speaker 1: I'll try it back in.

449
00:22:14,680 --> 00:22:17,520
Speaker 2: Wow, here's my philosophy in life, Tori. At this point,

450
00:22:17,880 --> 00:22:23,200
Speaker 2: it's better to seek forgiveness than to seek permission. If

451
00:22:23,280 --> 00:22:25,280
Speaker 2: I told my dad before filming began.

452
00:22:25,400 --> 00:22:27,400
Speaker 1: Now, I don't like that term. My ex husband said

453
00:22:27,400 --> 00:22:29,040
Speaker 1: it to me all the time about shit and not

454
00:22:30,119 --> 00:22:36,439
Speaker 1: very triggering. So but I don't know, I understand in

455
00:22:36,480 --> 00:22:41,160
Speaker 1: your case, yes, I agree with that. Oh yeah, wait,

456
00:22:41,320 --> 00:22:44,840
Speaker 1: I am worried though, Like I don't even know if

457
00:22:44,880 --> 00:22:49,440
Speaker 1: this is a thing. But like our bodies, I feel

458
00:22:49,480 --> 00:22:52,320
Speaker 1: like are made, you know, we were put on this earth.

459
00:22:52,359 --> 00:22:55,240
Speaker 1: We have a certain we have a hole and man

460
00:22:55,280 --> 00:22:57,399
Speaker 1: has a famal like it's supposed to work, supposed to

461
00:22:57,400 --> 00:23:02,000
Speaker 1: fit together in a way to pro create and create children.

462
00:23:02,400 --> 00:23:05,560
Speaker 1: I've heard like, could something have happened that you went

463
00:23:05,680 --> 00:23:08,720
Speaker 1: too long? This is this is where my like I

464
00:23:08,760 --> 00:23:11,960
Speaker 1: watched too many horror films and like something sealed over,

465
00:23:12,680 --> 00:23:15,880
Speaker 1: like it's closed, like it's the skin just sealed.

466
00:23:16,280 --> 00:23:19,080
Speaker 2: Well, nothing's ever been inserted. Right, Like most of you know,

467
00:23:19,400 --> 00:23:23,119
Speaker 2: most women worried they were tampon starting in their teenage years.

468
00:23:23,200 --> 00:23:24,000
Speaker 2: I never did that.

469
00:23:24,359 --> 00:23:26,639
Speaker 1: I wasn't allowed to. My mom got me the belt.

470
00:23:26,680 --> 00:23:30,040
Speaker 1: Do you even know what that is? No, it's it's archaic.

471
00:23:30,160 --> 00:23:33,439
Speaker 1: Her mom got it for her, Her mom had it.

472
00:23:32,800 --> 00:23:36,439
Speaker 1: It's a pad and they snap it to a belt

473
00:23:36,520 --> 00:23:39,600
Speaker 1: you wear. That went over big with my friends.

474
00:23:40,160 --> 00:23:41,520
Speaker 2: I don't even know what you're talking about.

475
00:23:42,480 --> 00:23:45,760
Speaker 1: Please don't. It's it's like worse than a pad. But yeah,

476
00:23:45,800 --> 00:23:47,320
Speaker 1: I wasn't allowed to wear tampons ever.

477
00:23:47,480 --> 00:23:49,880
Speaker 2: Here's here's what I'm thinking. Like, I learned the term

478
00:23:49,960 --> 00:23:52,919
Speaker 2: baginismus through this filming experience. I didn't know what that

479
00:23:53,080 --> 00:23:57,639
Speaker 2: was at the Badgie Miss, what's that like?

480
00:23:58,440 --> 00:23:59,480
Speaker 1: Vaginal Christmas?

481
00:24:00,200 --> 00:24:01,920
Speaker 2: That's what my friend Laura said, is a Christmas in

482
00:24:01,960 --> 00:24:02,520
Speaker 2: your virgina?

483
00:24:03,400 --> 00:24:04,639
Speaker 1: Who sounds like a party?

484
00:24:05,560 --> 00:24:06,960
Speaker 2: It's a metic It's a serious.

485
00:24:06,720 --> 00:24:09,879
Speaker 1: Messimust only comes one time of year. Want me to

486
00:24:09,920 --> 00:24:10,600
Speaker 1: keep going.

487
00:24:10,680 --> 00:24:13,280
Speaker 2: It's a real medical condition apparently, And it's when the

488
00:24:13,359 --> 00:24:17,840
Speaker 2: vaginal muscles tighten and they spasm when and pain happens

489
00:24:17,840 --> 00:24:20,639
Speaker 2: when something is inserted. And so I didn't even know

490
00:24:20,680 --> 00:24:23,879
Speaker 2: about the term until the filming filming journey began and

491
00:24:23,960 --> 00:24:26,679
Speaker 2: my showrunner Candace was like, do you have faginismus? I'm like,

492
00:24:26,680 --> 00:24:28,640
Speaker 2: what's that? So I was. I was googling it while

493
00:24:28,640 --> 00:24:30,639
Speaker 2: I was zooming with her, and I'm like, yeah, except

494
00:24:30,680 --> 00:24:34,680
Speaker 2: no doctor's ever told me I vaginousness. But like I

495
00:24:35,200 --> 00:24:39,760
Speaker 2: this was last summer. So do you have affirmative?

496
00:24:41,640 --> 00:24:45,320
Speaker 1: I'm gonna start saying affirmative. It's so sexy. I like it,

497
00:24:45,560 --> 00:24:46,520
Speaker 1: like smart sexy.

498
00:24:46,600 --> 00:24:49,440
Speaker 2: Affirmative is fans is a fancy word for yes, and

499
00:24:49,640 --> 00:24:52,040
Speaker 2: negative is a fancy way of saying no.

500
00:24:52,720 --> 00:24:59,960
Speaker 1: Wow, but not positive, just just affirmative. Yeah, uh okay,

501
00:25:00,240 --> 00:25:03,199
Speaker 1: So you do have that? That is confirmed not but

502
00:25:03,240 --> 00:25:06,960
Speaker 1: the gynecologists didn't find it. Your producer found it.

503
00:25:09,080 --> 00:25:11,959
Speaker 2: That's where I first learned the term yes from my shouldrunner.

504
00:25:13,520 --> 00:25:15,040
Speaker 2: About a couple of weeks later, I went to see

505
00:25:15,040 --> 00:25:16,880
Speaker 2: my gynecologist and I'm like, do I have this? She's

506
00:25:16,880 --> 00:25:18,840
Speaker 2: like yeah. I'm like, well, you never told me I

507
00:25:18,880 --> 00:25:20,679
Speaker 2: have it. Well, she's like, well you never brought up

508
00:25:20,720 --> 00:25:23,680
Speaker 2: that there's a man in your life, you know, because

509
00:25:23,880 --> 00:25:26,080
Speaker 2: they know, like I've never had intercourse.

510
00:25:25,960 --> 00:25:29,280
Speaker 1: Right, and so yeah, is there a cure for it

511
00:25:29,320 --> 00:25:29,800
Speaker 1: is there.

512
00:25:29,760 --> 00:25:34,119
Speaker 2: Treatment, that's what the filming journey was.

513
00:25:34,280 --> 00:25:36,320
Speaker 1: Okay, we can't say okay, that's going to be part

514
00:25:36,320 --> 00:25:41,080
Speaker 1: of the journey. Okay, Oh oh my god. Like what

515
00:25:41,160 --> 00:25:45,119
Speaker 1: if the treatment is sorry, you don't like sex making love?

516
00:25:45,680 --> 00:25:46,160
Speaker 2: What if that?

517
00:25:46,240 --> 00:25:46,800
Speaker 1: I mean a man.

518
00:25:46,880 --> 00:25:48,520
Speaker 2: I want a man who's going to be not ghost

519
00:25:48,560 --> 00:25:48,760
Speaker 2: to me.

520
00:25:48,840 --> 00:25:55,040
Speaker 1: That's what. You're beautiful, you're smart, you're funny. No, this

521
00:25:55,200 --> 00:25:57,840
Speaker 1: isn't about you. That was him like that. This has

522
00:25:58,040 --> 00:26:00,560
Speaker 1: nothing to do with you. It's in your head that

523
00:26:00,640 --> 00:26:02,760
Speaker 1: it's all you because you're like, oh, they're not gonna

524
00:26:02,800 --> 00:26:05,160
Speaker 1: like me because of this. This, this is not you.

525
00:26:06,040 --> 00:26:09,520
Speaker 2: There's two parts to this predicament. Well, one part of

526
00:26:10,119 --> 00:26:13,440
Speaker 2: the whole vaginisms my emotional barriers. Okay, fine, that's something

527
00:26:13,440 --> 00:26:16,680
Speaker 2: I have more control over, right, But it's a journey.

528
00:26:16,720 --> 00:26:19,520
Speaker 2: It takes time. Right. The second aspect of this predicament

529
00:26:19,680 --> 00:26:25,080
Speaker 2: is men. And having lived only in la and New York. Look,

530
00:26:25,080 --> 00:26:28,720
Speaker 2: I'm I'm in my late thirties. Now I've only encountered

531
00:26:28,760 --> 00:26:33,760
Speaker 2: men who are anti committal and anti monogamous. It's the

532
00:26:33,800 --> 00:26:36,280
Speaker 2: story of my life. Whether he's Indian or non Indian.

533
00:26:36,320 --> 00:26:39,720
Speaker 1: Even babe, you're drawing that in. That is what you're

534
00:26:39,840 --> 00:26:42,639
Speaker 1: drawing in. What can I GI's you coincidence? You're getting

535
00:26:42,680 --> 00:26:44,720
Speaker 1: these types over and over. I'm speaking to you, yet

536
00:26:44,760 --> 00:26:45,880
Speaker 1: I'm seeking to myself.

537
00:26:46,440 --> 00:26:48,560
Speaker 2: And I agree. I've heard of that there too, that

538
00:26:48,600 --> 00:26:49,280
Speaker 2: I'm the common den.

539
00:26:49,440 --> 00:26:52,320
Speaker 1: My friend said, my picker is off. Your pickers off.

540
00:26:53,320 --> 00:26:56,919
Speaker 1: It's what you're you're picking these people your picker. You

541
00:26:56,960 --> 00:26:57,320
Speaker 1: got it.

542
00:26:57,560 --> 00:26:58,480
Speaker 2: That's what I'm attacking.

543
00:26:58,560 --> 00:27:02,560
Speaker 1: Right, it's white you're attracting. It's the energy you're attracting.

544
00:27:03,000 --> 00:27:05,520
Speaker 1: I have a friend that says Tory could be in

545
00:27:05,560 --> 00:27:09,199
Speaker 1: a room with a thousand men and she will always

546
00:27:09,320 --> 00:27:12,560
Speaker 1: pick the one that's gonna be noncommittal. Not always, it's

547
00:27:12,600 --> 00:27:14,720
Speaker 1: like she just draws them right in.

548
00:27:15,080 --> 00:27:17,720
Speaker 2: Let me ask you this, toy, Why does society always

549
00:27:17,720 --> 00:27:18,160
Speaker 2: blame the.

550
00:27:18,080 --> 00:27:21,680
Speaker 1: Woman who's blaming the woman?

551
00:27:22,280 --> 00:27:24,440
Speaker 2: Oh you just said your friend said this about you,

552
00:27:25,520 --> 00:27:28,840
Speaker 2: And I'm like, well there if you just said it too, right,

553
00:27:28,840 --> 00:27:31,400
Speaker 2: it's always the one's fault. Why can't a man change?

554
00:27:31,400 --> 00:27:35,720
Speaker 2: Why can't men be monogamous and committal? He has a daughter, like.

555
00:27:35,680 --> 00:27:44,640
Speaker 1: You know, men the emotionally, I just think it's it's

556
00:27:44,720 --> 00:27:48,600
Speaker 1: it's very difficult. I think it's hard for me because

557
00:27:48,840 --> 00:27:52,040
Speaker 1: I grew up watching, you know, all the fairy tale

558
00:27:52,160 --> 00:27:56,760
Speaker 1: romances and the cartoons and the movies, and so I

559
00:27:56,840 --> 00:28:01,000
Speaker 1: really believed those are the boys, the men that we get.

560
00:28:01,640 --> 00:28:06,479
Speaker 1: And then when it didn't happen, I was just like, oh, like,

561
00:28:06,680 --> 00:28:08,400
Speaker 1: men cheat, men lie, men.

562
00:28:09,880 --> 00:28:12,480
Speaker 2: Some men. Some men will say that women lie because

563
00:28:12,480 --> 00:28:15,679
Speaker 2: we were makeup. Look, I'm the same as you. I

564
00:28:15,680 --> 00:28:18,400
Speaker 2: grew up watching those romantic Bollywood movies. I thought that's

565
00:28:18,440 --> 00:28:19,400
Speaker 2: how life is.

566
00:28:19,760 --> 00:28:25,840
Speaker 1: Right, and then you get here and you're like, well, reality.

567
00:28:25,400 --> 00:28:28,480
Speaker 2: Is far different from what you see on the real.

568
00:28:29,400 --> 00:28:34,360
Speaker 1: I know, and it's not fair because right our counterpart,

569
00:28:34,480 --> 00:28:38,880
Speaker 1: our partner, you know, we're great, and then we need

570
00:28:38,920 --> 00:28:41,040
Speaker 1: to find are are you on a dating app at all?

571
00:28:41,320 --> 00:28:42,960
Speaker 2: I used to be not anymore.

572
00:28:43,880 --> 00:28:46,760
Speaker 1: Did you ever go on dates from that dating app?

573
00:28:47,040 --> 00:28:49,240
Speaker 2: Handful? They were all negative experiences.

574
00:28:50,280 --> 00:28:55,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's what I've heard. Yeah, but how do you

575
00:28:55,200 --> 00:28:56,640
Speaker 1: meet people? That's the thing.

576
00:28:56,760 --> 00:28:59,200
Speaker 2: Well, I got hit on a lot at Equinox.

577
00:29:01,920 --> 00:29:03,800
Speaker 1: Yeah, No, I work.

578
00:29:04,840 --> 00:29:09,400
Speaker 2: Look, I don't date as per the exact definition of dating.

579
00:29:09,880 --> 00:29:12,480
Speaker 2: But if I were to serendipitously meet a man with

580
00:29:12,520 --> 00:29:15,600
Speaker 2: whom I have a natural chemistry and ctibility, with and

581
00:29:15,680 --> 00:29:18,600
Speaker 2: if he then invites me out for a coffee, drink, whatever,

582
00:29:19,320 --> 00:29:22,440
Speaker 2: then I explore that further. That's how I date. And

583
00:29:22,640 --> 00:29:25,880
Speaker 2: I believe in friends. I believe in friendship as the

584
00:29:25,920 --> 00:29:28,480
Speaker 2: foundation of a romantic relationship, but I do not believe

585
00:29:28,520 --> 00:29:29,640
Speaker 2: in friends with benefits.

586
00:29:29,960 --> 00:29:30,040
Speaker 1: No.

587
00:29:30,760 --> 00:29:33,800
Speaker 2: Oh. And then also what I learned through life is

588
00:29:33,800 --> 00:29:38,920
Speaker 2: that I am a demisexual, which falls on the spectrum

589
00:29:38,960 --> 00:29:44,080
Speaker 2: of asexuality. I don't crave sex. I crave companionship and love.

590
00:29:44,600 --> 00:29:47,800
Speaker 2: And the definition of a demisexual is that someone like

591
00:29:47,840 --> 00:29:51,160
Speaker 2: me needs a very strong intellectual and emotional connection first

592
00:29:51,240 --> 00:29:54,440
Speaker 2: with a man before I can let anything physical happen.

593
00:29:55,160 --> 00:29:57,880
Speaker 2: And the problem, a challenge I face in society is

594
00:29:57,880 --> 00:29:59,800
Speaker 2: that ninety nine percent of men want to go straight

595
00:29:59,800 --> 00:30:01,880
Speaker 2: to the physical. They don't want to take the time

596
00:30:01,960 --> 00:30:02,640
Speaker 2: to get to know me.

597
00:30:02,800 --> 00:30:06,280
Speaker 1: And there's got to be ones that think on a

598
00:30:06,360 --> 00:30:13,600
Speaker 1: higher plane, that think they they gotta exist. I think

599
00:30:13,640 --> 00:30:20,000
Speaker 1: I'm a demni sexual. I think so, yeah, I really like,

600
00:30:20,120 --> 00:30:23,880
Speaker 1: I'm all about the brain and the creative, like, like,

601
00:30:23,920 --> 00:30:27,000
Speaker 1: if I connect with someone, yeah, I much rather that

602
00:30:27,080 --> 00:30:29,320
Speaker 1: than like that, like, don't send me a dick pic.

603
00:30:29,360 --> 00:30:33,280
Speaker 2: I'm like, yeah, you like And then I've also heard

604
00:30:33,720 --> 00:30:36,800
Speaker 2: from other people through life that what the sex wears off.

605
00:30:38,760 --> 00:30:42,320
Speaker 2: I'd even heard from men sexist and everything. But then

606
00:30:42,680 --> 00:30:46,680
Speaker 2: these men also goes to me when they when I because.

607
00:30:46,560 --> 00:30:49,880
Speaker 1: That's interesting to me that men don't want to go

608
00:30:49,960 --> 00:30:53,280
Speaker 1: further once you tell them you're a virgin, because you

609
00:30:53,280 --> 00:30:57,040
Speaker 1: would think that a man would be like, oh my god,

610
00:30:57,960 --> 00:31:00,800
Speaker 1: I could be her first. This is gonna be great.

611
00:31:01,400 --> 00:31:03,959
Speaker 2: That's what it was. But then he also didn't want

612
00:31:04,000 --> 00:31:05,280
Speaker 2: to commit and we never went all the way.

613
00:31:06,200 --> 00:31:10,200
Speaker 1: I hate that guy. I'm surprised that they're like turned

614
00:31:10,440 --> 00:31:12,480
Speaker 1: almost turned off when you say you're a virgin.

615
00:31:12,600 --> 00:31:16,760
Speaker 2: Why no, I look, I went on three dates for

616
00:31:16,800 --> 00:31:19,560
Speaker 2: the show, right, I don't know what those guys said

617
00:31:19,800 --> 00:31:21,520
Speaker 2: said about me and what they thought of me. I'll

618
00:31:21,520 --> 00:31:22,920
Speaker 2: find out when I watched the show.

619
00:31:24,040 --> 00:31:26,280
Speaker 1: I could tell you. No, I'm just kidding. I didn't

620
00:31:26,360 --> 00:31:28,680
Speaker 1: like that guy on episode one that you want to.

621
00:31:28,800 --> 00:31:30,880
Speaker 2: Date with first date, the pink blazer guy.

622
00:31:31,160 --> 00:31:31,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, I didn't like him.

623
00:31:32,000 --> 00:31:32,719
Speaker 2: I was a joker.

624
00:31:34,520 --> 00:31:36,200
Speaker 1: I don't know. I didn't find I'm attractive.

625
00:31:36,280 --> 00:31:38,760
Speaker 2: Sorry agreed.

626
00:31:40,080 --> 00:31:44,680
Speaker 1: Affirmative. Yeah, I don't know. I just feel like that's

627
00:31:44,800 --> 00:31:48,280
Speaker 1: every man's fantasy to be a guy girls first.

628
00:31:48,520 --> 00:31:53,160
Speaker 2: No, yeah, but here's my I want my one and only. Yeah,

629
00:31:53,480 --> 00:31:57,440
Speaker 2: that's that's the that's the that's the contradiction.

630
00:31:57,160 --> 00:32:03,000
Speaker 1: Of your one and only, like you want one and done. No, no,

631
00:32:03,000 --> 00:32:04,280
Speaker 1: no no.

632
00:32:04,640 --> 00:32:07,240
Speaker 2: That's the Indian side of me talking Tori. You won't.

633
00:32:07,960 --> 00:32:10,200
Speaker 1: We can't get that inside out of your brain.

634
00:32:11,800 --> 00:32:15,880
Speaker 2: I Tori, seriously, I have never been the kind.

635
00:32:15,760 --> 00:32:26,920
Speaker 1: To You're very controlling. Thank you for yourself, not for

636
00:32:27,040 --> 00:32:29,440
Speaker 1: others like you are very like I've.

637
00:32:29,280 --> 00:32:32,000
Speaker 2: Said this on the show, like the blessing. The combination

638
00:32:32,120 --> 00:32:34,960
Speaker 2: of being Indian American is both a blessing and a

639
00:32:35,040 --> 00:32:39,320
Speaker 2: curse because I know both cultures and me being the

640
00:32:39,320 --> 00:32:41,280
Speaker 2: way I am when it comes to my personal life,

641
00:32:41,480 --> 00:32:45,120
Speaker 2: that's my Indian values screaming at me. It really is.

642
00:32:46,280 --> 00:32:49,160
Speaker 2: Those strong South Asian values are ingrained in my soul

643
00:32:49,320 --> 00:32:52,440
Speaker 2: and I can't help it. This is how I am.

644
00:32:52,480 --> 00:32:56,400
Speaker 2: Like look career wise, I'm all American, right, I'm very ambitious,

645
00:32:56,480 --> 00:33:00,480
Speaker 2: business school of all Street. This is who I take

646
00:33:00,480 --> 00:33:02,120
Speaker 2: it or leave it. I can't help it.

647
00:33:03,080 --> 00:33:06,280
Speaker 1: I just don't like I'm worried that if you have

648
00:33:06,400 --> 00:33:09,280
Speaker 1: sex with one person, like I don't want you to

649
00:33:09,320 --> 00:33:12,200
Speaker 1: ever wonder like what would it be like with somebody else,

650
00:33:12,320 --> 00:33:15,120
Speaker 1: or or what if it's not great sex? And you're like,

651
00:33:15,160 --> 00:33:16,520
Speaker 1: but I had sex with this one, so I have

652
00:33:16,600 --> 00:33:18,440
Speaker 1: to marry him, and this is it for me, like

653
00:33:18,480 --> 00:33:18,960
Speaker 1: both of me.

654
00:33:19,120 --> 00:33:20,520
Speaker 2: So we already at him.

655
00:33:20,800 --> 00:33:23,640
Speaker 1: We're not talking about him. But let me wait. I

656
00:33:23,680 --> 00:33:27,200
Speaker 1: have a question, are you still, like, technically, would you

657
00:33:27,240 --> 00:33:29,479
Speaker 1: still be a virgin if you had anal sex?

658
00:33:30,800 --> 00:33:33,600
Speaker 2: I don't have the qualifications to answer that question.

659
00:33:33,920 --> 00:33:37,360
Speaker 1: You just got two business for me. You don't have

660
00:33:37,400 --> 00:33:53,720
Speaker 1: the qualifications? What what do I know? I heard a

661
00:33:53,840 --> 00:33:58,320
Speaker 1: rumor that, like certain religions believe they won't have sex

662
00:33:58,360 --> 00:34:02,760
Speaker 1: before marriage, but they think like having anal is like, well,

663
00:34:02,880 --> 00:34:06,720
Speaker 1: I lose my virginity, so it's different. Have you heard this.

664
00:34:07,720 --> 00:34:12,000
Speaker 2: I heard a little bit kind of yeah, yes.

665
00:34:12,360 --> 00:34:15,319
Speaker 1: You don't have the qualifications. Yeah you do, you have

666
00:34:15,360 --> 00:34:15,800
Speaker 1: a butt.

667
00:34:16,600 --> 00:34:18,960
Speaker 2: Yeah, But like, I'm also a prude, So like, who

668
00:34:18,960 --> 00:34:21,680
Speaker 2: am I to answer what you asked? Oh?

669
00:34:22,000 --> 00:34:25,200
Speaker 1: You should you're self professed prude. I don't think you're

670
00:34:25,200 --> 00:34:25,800
Speaker 1: a prude.

671
00:34:26,239 --> 00:34:28,480
Speaker 2: What makes you think I am not a prude?

672
00:34:28,800 --> 00:34:33,279
Speaker 1: I think you use that to control the narrative of

673
00:34:33,400 --> 00:34:36,759
Speaker 1: what why you do certain things? So you say I

674
00:34:37,160 --> 00:34:39,560
Speaker 1: don't know. I'm just a prude because then it gets

675
00:34:39,560 --> 00:34:40,120
Speaker 1: you off the hook.

676
00:34:40,920 --> 00:34:41,960
Speaker 2: I'm a proud prude.

677
00:34:43,200 --> 00:34:47,279
Speaker 1: I'm a proud prude. Oh, I can't wait till you're

678
00:34:47,320 --> 00:34:48,440
Speaker 1: reformed prude.

679
00:34:50,080 --> 00:34:51,160
Speaker 2: What does that means?

680
00:34:51,520 --> 00:34:53,399
Speaker 1: I don't know. I'm not sure. I spend one night

681
00:34:53,440 --> 00:34:55,440
Speaker 1: out in the town with me. I'll get you to

682
00:34:55,520 --> 00:34:56,120
Speaker 1: doing things.

683
00:34:56,120 --> 00:35:02,839
Speaker 2: Sister, my favorite drink is sex WEEPI why didn't you

684
00:35:02,960 --> 00:35:03,600
Speaker 2: choose that?

685
00:35:03,719 --> 00:35:05,160
Speaker 1: You did it on purpose?

686
00:35:06,200 --> 00:35:08,600
Speaker 2: You know. My first drink ever, I was twenty one

687
00:35:08,600 --> 00:35:12,280
Speaker 2: and a half. It was actually a screwdriver that's Orange

688
00:35:12,320 --> 00:35:16,640
Speaker 2: Co vodka. And then what is happening right? No? And

689
00:35:16,680 --> 00:35:19,880
Speaker 2: then I in my twenties, I was addicted to cocktails.

690
00:35:20,560 --> 00:35:21,920
Speaker 2: That was all I would have and I'm like, I

691
00:35:21,960 --> 00:35:24,279
Speaker 2: love And then my friends, my femal friends, you know,

692
00:35:24,320 --> 00:35:26,560
Speaker 2: we used to go out and my parents, even in

693
00:35:26,560 --> 00:35:28,520
Speaker 2: my twenties, my parents knew who I was going out with.

694
00:35:28,560 --> 00:35:30,520
Speaker 2: My mom would bug me like when you come home,

695
00:35:31,080 --> 00:35:32,600
Speaker 2: you know, like and.

696
00:35:32,560 --> 00:35:35,239
Speaker 1: Even when you get intoxicated, you don't feel like a

697
00:35:35,239 --> 00:35:37,560
Speaker 1: little bit like ooh, letting lose? Like do you have

698
00:35:37,600 --> 00:35:43,520
Speaker 1: an alter ego? Sonali? I do. Her name's Terry. She

699
00:35:43,640 --> 00:35:47,480
Speaker 1: comes out after about three drinks. She's so fun and

700
00:35:47,520 --> 00:35:50,439
Speaker 1: she does thinks I would never do for my bid

701
00:35:50,440 --> 00:35:54,600
Speaker 1: would crude? Terry goes, Wow, she just likes the party.

702
00:35:55,160 --> 00:35:58,840
Speaker 2: I like parties too. I'm a social extrovert.

703
00:35:59,400 --> 00:36:01,920
Speaker 1: No, not like not like I don't like parties, but

704
00:36:01,960 --> 00:36:04,000
Speaker 1: like she's like, whoo, like it's the same life for

705
00:36:04,080 --> 00:36:04,399
Speaker 1: the party.

706
00:36:04,440 --> 00:36:08,439
Speaker 2: Like she's like, ah, I do become a different person

707
00:36:08,520 --> 00:36:09,560
Speaker 2: after a few cocktails?

708
00:36:09,640 --> 00:36:14,120
Speaker 1: Yes, oh yes, like how like like I never I've never.

709
00:36:14,040 --> 00:36:17,719
Speaker 2: Hooked up with a guy.

710
00:36:15,320 --> 00:36:22,040
Speaker 1: I done that. Like do you become like more like loud,

711
00:36:22,280 --> 00:36:26,560
Speaker 1: fun like like more extroverted? You do?

712
00:36:26,680 --> 00:36:27,239
Speaker 2: Affirmative?

713
00:36:27,320 --> 00:36:32,400
Speaker 1: Yes, more like not prudish. I don't even think prude

714
00:36:32,440 --> 00:36:39,000
Speaker 1: is has to be sexual. Do you curse when I'm

715
00:36:39,040 --> 00:36:39,640
Speaker 1: really mad?

716
00:36:40,040 --> 00:36:46,520
Speaker 2: Yes? Usually an everyday conversation. Now, because that's another thing

717
00:36:46,560 --> 00:36:49,239
Speaker 2: my dad planted in my head. He would always use

718
00:36:49,280 --> 00:36:53,000
Speaker 2: the F word left and right, so you couldn't you know,

719
00:36:53,080 --> 00:36:54,640
Speaker 2: So then my sister and I, you know, kids, we

720
00:36:54,680 --> 00:36:56,960
Speaker 2: pick up what our parents do and say right in

721
00:36:57,000 --> 00:36:59,160
Speaker 2: any culture. So then my sister and I would start

722
00:36:59,200 --> 00:37:01,200
Speaker 2: using the F word, and he reprimanded us. You said,

723
00:37:01,200 --> 00:37:04,040
Speaker 2: Indian girls don't use bad words. And then in my head.

724
00:37:04,080 --> 00:37:07,239
Speaker 2: I was thinking girls, girls can't do that, but then

725
00:37:07,239 --> 00:37:07,760
Speaker 2: you can.

726
00:37:09,200 --> 00:37:14,799
Speaker 1: So sexualized. It's it's so double standard, it's so messed up.

727
00:37:15,800 --> 00:37:17,279
Speaker 1: What's your favorite curse word?

728
00:37:20,760 --> 00:37:28,880
Speaker 2: Mh, I've never thought about that before. I have to

729
00:37:28,880 --> 00:37:35,759
Speaker 2: think about it. I'm not mad right now. I no

730
00:37:35,920 --> 00:37:37,480
Speaker 2: curse words come to mind or anything.

731
00:37:38,719 --> 00:37:38,879
Speaker 1: You.

732
00:37:42,280 --> 00:37:45,080
Speaker 2: I had a job once where I had a bitch boss.

733
00:37:45,120 --> 00:37:48,120
Speaker 2: I did, and I started using the word the term

734
00:37:48,200 --> 00:37:49,279
Speaker 2: bitch boss left and right.

735
00:37:49,320 --> 00:37:55,680
Speaker 1: I just I like that bitch boss. Okay, I won't

736
00:37:55,680 --> 00:37:56,760
Speaker 1: do this to you anymore.

737
00:37:57,320 --> 00:38:00,000
Speaker 2: I'm also not supposed to use profanity. But anyway, you

738
00:38:00,000 --> 00:38:00,840
Speaker 2: asked me a question, so.

739
00:38:04,239 --> 00:38:08,080
Speaker 1: Oh my, the list of things you're not supposed to do.

740
00:38:12,960 --> 00:38:13,640
Speaker 2: No comments.

741
00:38:14,080 --> 00:38:17,319
Speaker 1: But you're a workaholic, you're allowed. You're not supposed to

742
00:38:17,360 --> 00:38:17,960
Speaker 1: work either.

743
00:38:18,400 --> 00:38:20,520
Speaker 2: I was supposed to plopped a million kids by now, right.

744
00:38:20,640 --> 00:38:25,160
Speaker 1: I just want to talk to your dad. I just

745
00:38:25,640 --> 00:38:27,439
Speaker 1: want to talk to your.

746
00:38:28,840 --> 00:38:29,319
Speaker 2: Good luck.

747
00:38:29,840 --> 00:38:33,080
Speaker 1: Just really, I'm very charming.

748
00:38:34,440 --> 00:38:40,760
Speaker 2: Ago. What's that his birthday was two days ago? Give

749
00:38:40,160 --> 00:38:42,479
Speaker 2: them a hug. That's me asked about the show because

750
00:38:42,480 --> 00:38:44,640
Speaker 2: we were talking and I kind of dis dodged the bullet.

751
00:38:44,719 --> 00:38:52,839
Speaker 1: If somebody is going to tell him I saw your God,

752
00:38:52,840 --> 00:38:54,759
Speaker 1: I just got so fucking passionate, and I.

753
00:38:54,760 --> 00:38:56,400
Speaker 2: Just sort it already happened.

754
00:38:56,600 --> 00:38:59,000
Speaker 1: Someone is going to I'm just telling you right now,

755
00:39:00,080 --> 00:39:02,319
Speaker 1: your name is going to be everywhere because this show,

756
00:39:02,400 --> 00:39:04,920
Speaker 1: by the way, is so good, it's going to make you.

757
00:39:05,040 --> 00:39:07,319
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm so thrilled to hear that toy happened. What

758
00:39:07,360 --> 00:39:08,439
Speaker 2: you're saying, So.

759
00:39:08,440 --> 00:39:10,640
Speaker 1: It's so good. I can't believe no one's done this

760
00:39:10,800 --> 00:39:13,840
Speaker 1: sooner and next. I want them to do a competition

761
00:39:14,000 --> 00:39:15,839
Speaker 1: version of it, and I want to host it because

762
00:39:15,880 --> 00:39:18,120
Speaker 1: I'm the world's most famous virgin on TV.

763
00:39:19,360 --> 00:39:21,520
Speaker 2: You know, Torri had already actually did happen. Listen to this,

764
00:39:21,800 --> 00:39:25,200
Speaker 2: so what listen? Hear me out. Funny story, but it's true.

765
00:39:25,760 --> 00:39:28,440
Speaker 2: When I was twenty nine, my dad told all my

766
00:39:28,480 --> 00:39:31,040
Speaker 2: extended family, because I come from a big, fat Indian

767
00:39:31,040 --> 00:39:32,560
Speaker 2: family that most of them are in New Jersey or

768
00:39:32,600 --> 00:39:35,319
Speaker 2: in India. My dad told all my extended family that

769
00:39:35,360 --> 00:39:37,680
Speaker 2: I was already married. I had a small out of

770
00:39:37,719 --> 00:39:41,200
Speaker 2: private ceremony and we're I'm settled down. This was I

771
00:39:41,239 --> 00:39:44,360
Speaker 2: was twenty nine. I'm like, okay, fine, Tory. I was

772
00:39:44,400 --> 00:39:46,800
Speaker 2: thirty three when I went on The Doctor Phil Show.

773
00:39:47,080 --> 00:39:50,200
Speaker 2: That was the first time I publicly revealed my vico

774
00:39:50,600 --> 00:39:50,879
Speaker 2: on the.

775
00:39:50,840 --> 00:39:52,160
Speaker 1: Doctor phil Show.

776
00:39:53,719 --> 00:40:00,200
Speaker 2: Because he was I saw something else, Doctor Phil, I say,

777
00:40:00,239 --> 00:40:03,279
Speaker 2: December twenty twenty, Okay, we're all stuck at home. I

778
00:40:03,320 --> 00:40:05,120
Speaker 2: had nothing else to do, right. I was scrolling social

779
00:40:05,160 --> 00:40:09,320
Speaker 2: media and I saw posting on Instagram. The Doctor Philip

780
00:40:09,320 --> 00:40:12,120
Speaker 2: Show was looking to help millennials with their love life.

781
00:40:12,280 --> 00:40:14,160
Speaker 2: So I sent in my spiel and they loved me.

782
00:40:14,239 --> 00:40:14,719
Speaker 1: They had me.

783
00:40:14,880 --> 00:40:16,759
Speaker 2: So then that was December twenty twenty, and I didn't

784
00:40:16,760 --> 00:40:18,319
Speaker 2: tell my folks. They were stuck in India during the

785
00:40:18,360 --> 00:40:22,560
Speaker 2: lockdown during the pandemic. March twenty twenty two, my final

786
00:40:22,600 --> 00:40:26,000
Speaker 2: grandparent passed away. There's a I didn't go to the funeral.

787
00:40:26,000 --> 00:40:28,880
Speaker 2: I cried here America was very close to her. My

788
00:40:29,040 --> 00:40:32,160
Speaker 2: aunt in New Jersey, my dad's older sister. She went

789
00:40:32,200 --> 00:40:34,120
Speaker 2: to India for the funeral because it was their mom

790
00:40:34,160 --> 00:40:37,640
Speaker 2: who passed away. My aunt saw my doctor Phil Clip.

791
00:40:37,480 --> 00:40:41,920
Speaker 1: Go and told you and told your family, yes, because.

792
00:40:41,640 --> 00:40:43,279
Speaker 2: She was My dad told me this a few days

793
00:40:43,280 --> 00:40:45,799
Speaker 2: after the funeral. We were video chatting and he was like,

794
00:40:45,880 --> 00:40:48,239
Speaker 2: you know, your aunt she told me that she found

795
00:40:48,280 --> 00:40:50,600
Speaker 2: your doctor Phil Clip you're talking about virginity at age

796
00:40:50,600 --> 00:40:53,239
Speaker 2: thirty three? Why did you go on on online and

797
00:40:53,280 --> 00:40:55,399
Speaker 2: talk about that? Because I told everybody at twenty nine

798
00:40:55,400 --> 00:40:57,920
Speaker 2: you were married, and you started yelling at me. I

799
00:40:58,000 --> 00:41:03,879
Speaker 2: hung up, that's what do you I can't. I still

800
00:41:03,920 --> 00:41:05,319
Speaker 2: do to this day. I still don't know what he

801
00:41:05,360 --> 00:41:07,800
Speaker 2: told her because obviously he lied, right, he was ashamed

802
00:41:07,800 --> 00:41:10,600
Speaker 2: of the truth. So if he was ashamed at twenty nine,

803
00:41:11,480 --> 00:41:13,160
Speaker 2: then I wasn't married at you know, how do you

804
00:41:13,160 --> 00:41:14,040
Speaker 2: think he feels now?

805
00:41:16,120 --> 00:41:19,040
Speaker 1: So yeah, but I'm just I'm just pre warning you

806
00:41:19,440 --> 00:41:23,799
Speaker 1: that somebody, because they're going to see you everywhere, is

807
00:41:23,840 --> 00:41:24,440
Speaker 1: going to be like.

808
00:41:25,400 --> 00:41:28,960
Speaker 2: Ps, she's thirty seven and still not married.

809
00:41:29,160 --> 00:41:33,040
Speaker 1: Always on a reality show about virgins.

810
00:41:33,440 --> 00:41:37,880
Speaker 2: Oh well, across that bridge when I get.

811
00:41:37,719 --> 00:41:42,120
Speaker 1: There, Oh my gosh, Like this is wild.

812
00:41:42,800 --> 00:41:46,600
Speaker 2: Look the East and the West. It's different values and

813
00:41:46,800 --> 00:41:50,320
Speaker 2: standards and ways of thinking. But neither is right nor wrong.

814
00:41:50,480 --> 00:41:51,680
Speaker 2: They're just different.

815
00:41:51,719 --> 00:41:52,400
Speaker 1: I understand.

816
00:41:52,760 --> 00:41:53,520
Speaker 2: It is what it is.

817
00:41:55,520 --> 00:41:58,799
Speaker 1: It can change though. We can always evolve. We don't

818
00:41:58,840 --> 00:42:00,319
Speaker 1: have to be stuck in the past.

819
00:42:00,480 --> 00:42:00,920
Speaker 2: I agree.

820
00:42:01,440 --> 00:42:05,560
Speaker 1: You know, that's like US American women saying, you know, well,

821
00:42:05,560 --> 00:42:08,799
Speaker 1: in the nineteen fifties, like you know, women were home

822
00:42:08,880 --> 00:42:11,520
Speaker 1: cooking and men went to work and that's all we

823
00:42:11,560 --> 00:42:16,400
Speaker 1: did was raise children and you know, cook and service

824
00:42:16,480 --> 00:42:17,560
Speaker 1: drink when he got home.

825
00:42:17,880 --> 00:42:21,680
Speaker 2: Show you something. This is the only thing I cook smooth.

826
00:42:25,560 --> 00:42:27,640
Speaker 2: When I was thirteen, my dad tried teaching me how

827
00:42:27,640 --> 00:42:29,759
Speaker 2: to cook Indian food. I was like, why I have

828
00:42:29,840 --> 00:42:32,120
Speaker 2: you guys than my mom and my dad, And he's like,

829
00:42:32,280 --> 00:42:33,520
Speaker 2: you have to learn how to cook so you can

830
00:42:33,560 --> 00:42:36,279
Speaker 2: cook your Indian husband. I'm like, screw that, But I

831
00:42:36,320 --> 00:42:37,000
Speaker 2: didn't say screw that.

832
00:42:37,000 --> 00:42:41,560
Speaker 1: I'm like, by the way, American men like like food too,

833
00:42:41,680 --> 00:42:45,640
Speaker 1: so I don't want to cook. But again, like what

834
00:42:45,680 --> 00:42:48,560
Speaker 1: if I had been Like what if that existed? Like

835
00:42:48,640 --> 00:42:52,480
Speaker 1: that's the way it is, Like that doesn't exist. We've evolved,

836
00:42:52,640 --> 00:42:56,440
Speaker 1: We've changed. Like you know, I still have friends that

837
00:42:56,800 --> 00:42:59,399
Speaker 1: have married and they're stay at home moms and that's

838
00:42:59,440 --> 00:43:03,200
Speaker 1: the life they I'm driven, I'm a workaholic. I would

839
00:43:03,239 --> 00:43:07,000
Speaker 1: never do that. But like he needs their own right,

840
00:43:07,280 --> 00:43:11,080
Speaker 1: So why in India does it does it all still

841
00:43:11,120 --> 00:43:14,279
Speaker 1: have to apply? Why haven't they evolved?

842
00:43:15,280 --> 00:43:18,359
Speaker 2: They have evolved. It's the world's most populoust country. How

843
00:43:18,360 --> 00:43:19,520
Speaker 2: did it get to be that way?

844
00:43:21,280 --> 00:43:24,240
Speaker 1: Because the men are still working and have their women

845
00:43:24,280 --> 00:43:26,640
Speaker 1: in home popping out kids. But it's not.

846
00:43:28,920 --> 00:43:29,799
Speaker 2: It's complicated.

847
00:43:30,440 --> 00:43:33,840
Speaker 1: It is complicated. It's just I don't know.

848
00:43:35,040 --> 00:43:37,120
Speaker 2: All I know for sure is that I don't have

849
00:43:37,160 --> 00:43:40,240
Speaker 2: a biological clock. I have a beautiful Bulova watch stuff.

850
00:43:41,560 --> 00:43:46,040
Speaker 2: I do like that watch, and I bought myself financially independent.

851
00:43:47,080 --> 00:43:49,920
Speaker 1: Oh here's what I need you to do. What I

852
00:43:50,000 --> 00:43:57,439
Speaker 1: need you to look into freezing your eggs? Oh boy, yeah,

853
00:43:57,680 --> 00:43:59,560
Speaker 1: those are my parting words to you. I need I

854
00:43:59,600 --> 00:44:02,919
Speaker 1: need you to do that because no one told us this,

855
00:44:03,400 --> 00:44:06,040
Speaker 1: like that there's a time clock, and it's like, well,

856
00:44:06,080 --> 00:44:08,400
Speaker 1: what if you later in life meet the person and

857
00:44:08,400 --> 00:44:10,880
Speaker 1: you're like, gosh, I wish I had had kids. And

858
00:44:11,280 --> 00:44:14,120
Speaker 1: I feel like every woman should do it because you

859
00:44:14,239 --> 00:44:16,840
Speaker 1: never know what's going to happen, even young women like.

860
00:44:16,920 --> 00:44:19,880
Speaker 2: No, Tori, that'll be another show. I'll be filmed around

861
00:44:20,000 --> 00:44:21,440
Speaker 2: town trying to make that happen.

862
00:44:23,160 --> 00:44:30,799
Speaker 1: Can I produce sure? Okay? Okay? Oh oh oh, toy.

863
00:44:30,840 --> 00:44:32,600
Speaker 2: I want to I want to ask you something like

864
00:44:33,360 --> 00:44:34,000
Speaker 2: your character.

865
00:44:34,719 --> 00:44:35,720
Speaker 1: Yes, Donna.

866
00:44:37,239 --> 00:44:40,160
Speaker 2: Look, I wasn't allowed to watch the show. Full House

867
00:44:40,239 --> 00:44:42,839
Speaker 2: was an extreme exception, right, but anyway, I read about it.

868
00:44:43,120 --> 00:44:44,879
Speaker 2: When I knew it, we were going to meet like this,

869
00:44:46,800 --> 00:44:50,799
Speaker 2: your character is Catholic. Yes, the fourth guy I ever

870
00:44:50,880 --> 00:44:54,160
Speaker 2: let kiss me, he was Catholic, okay, and all we

871
00:44:54,200 --> 00:44:56,600
Speaker 2: did was kiss. This was after that he knew about

872
00:44:56,600 --> 00:44:58,840
Speaker 2: the V card, and so I had.

873
00:45:00,800 --> 00:45:01,959
Speaker 1: Did you call it a V card?

874
00:45:02,600 --> 00:45:04,000
Speaker 2: Well, I was on Tammer and Hall show and she

875
00:45:04,560 --> 00:45:05,680
Speaker 2: also called it the V card.

876
00:45:05,719 --> 00:45:06,720
Speaker 1: Yeah, okay.

877
00:45:07,120 --> 00:45:09,640
Speaker 2: So then he knew that my body count was zero.

878
00:45:09,760 --> 00:45:12,839
Speaker 2: This was before mister T. I asked him what his

879
00:45:12,880 --> 00:45:16,319
Speaker 2: body count was he said ten or twelve. In my head,

880
00:45:16,360 --> 00:45:19,120
Speaker 2: I was thinking, you don't even remember, like, and he

881
00:45:19,200 --> 00:45:22,480
Speaker 2: was Catholic and so and you know, and I brought

882
00:45:22,520 --> 00:45:25,880
Speaker 2: about the seven sins. I'm like, he's a hypocrite, like

883
00:45:26,000 --> 00:45:28,680
Speaker 2: ten or twelve he didn't practice. What kind of Catholic

884
00:45:28,719 --> 00:45:28,920
Speaker 2: is he?

885
00:45:28,960 --> 00:45:29,240
Speaker 1: Really?

886
00:45:30,120 --> 00:45:32,400
Speaker 2: Also then he was like, oh, I want two or

887
00:45:32,400 --> 00:45:34,160
Speaker 2: three kids, And I'm like, what do I look like

888
00:45:34,160 --> 00:45:35,480
Speaker 2: a machine?

889
00:45:37,040 --> 00:45:41,399
Speaker 1: Like yeah, that's just a conversation, like we all want

890
00:45:41,440 --> 00:45:43,160
Speaker 1: what we want. Like I grew up in a family

891
00:45:43,520 --> 00:45:45,439
Speaker 1: there were two kids, so I always thought like, oh,

892
00:45:45,520 --> 00:45:51,320
Speaker 1: I want two kids, doesn't mean I'm like no, no, no, Yes,

893
00:45:51,719 --> 00:45:56,640
Speaker 1: my character was Catholic. And that was a big reason

894
00:45:56,880 --> 00:46:01,279
Speaker 1: I think she held onto her virginity. But also I

895
00:46:01,320 --> 00:46:06,840
Speaker 1: got to say, like I loved that character for that reason,

896
00:46:06,960 --> 00:46:11,680
Speaker 1: because I can't tell you over the decades how many

897
00:46:11,719 --> 00:46:15,799
Speaker 1: people people still say it that women and men were

898
00:46:15,840 --> 00:46:19,120
Speaker 1: like you know, girls and boys were like you showed

899
00:46:19,120 --> 00:46:21,520
Speaker 1: that it was okay, you could still be normal, Like

900
00:46:21,560 --> 00:46:24,200
Speaker 1: you could be popular, you could be cool, you could

901
00:46:24,760 --> 00:46:27,840
Speaker 1: you know, because people think like, oh, the virgin, like

902
00:46:27,880 --> 00:46:28,560
Speaker 1: no one wanted to.

903
00:46:29,640 --> 00:46:31,920
Speaker 2: Here's how I look at it. Everybody is a virgin

904
00:46:32,040 --> 00:46:35,920
Speaker 2: until some point in their lives. Yes, a culture or

905
00:46:36,120 --> 00:46:38,520
Speaker 2: ethnicity or religion, so like I'm not a.

906
00:46:38,480 --> 00:46:42,319
Speaker 1: Freek oh my gosh. Numbers were really huge for me.

907
00:46:42,560 --> 00:46:48,800
Speaker 1: I in American terms, I think I lost my virginity

908
00:46:49,040 --> 00:46:51,719
Speaker 1: kind of late. Like all my friends already had like

909
00:46:52,160 --> 00:46:54,439
Speaker 1: are you talking on the show or like no, no, no

910
00:46:54,600 --> 00:46:55,160
Speaker 1: in real life.

911
00:46:55,200 --> 00:46:55,279
Speaker 2: No.

912
00:46:55,600 --> 00:46:57,560
Speaker 1: In the show, it was season eight, so I was

913
00:46:57,600 --> 00:47:00,680
Speaker 1: in my twenties. Yeah, but I ended up marrying him,

914
00:47:00,719 --> 00:47:03,560
Speaker 1: so that was fine in the show. Oh okay, and

915
00:47:03,800 --> 00:47:07,120
Speaker 1: David and Donna. It's the twenty fifth wedding anniversary this year.

916
00:47:07,280 --> 00:47:13,680
Speaker 1: Oh yay, still going strong on TV. Everything lives and

917
00:47:13,920 --> 00:47:17,040
Speaker 1: keeps going and is great on TV. But yeah, I

918
00:47:17,200 --> 00:47:20,319
Speaker 1: remember a number thing was really important to me, Like

919
00:47:20,400 --> 00:47:23,600
Speaker 1: I cried when I lost my virginity in real life,

920
00:47:24,120 --> 00:47:26,960
Speaker 1: and my friends were like, and it was my first boyfriend,

921
00:47:27,080 --> 00:47:29,640
Speaker 1: like we were in love. He was the nicest guy,

922
00:47:29,840 --> 00:47:32,680
Speaker 1: probably the last nice guy I ever dated. And it's

923
00:47:32,719 --> 00:47:36,359
Speaker 1: not sure I married one but my first husband. But yeah,

924
00:47:36,440 --> 00:47:40,040
Speaker 1: I came home and cried. I was devastated because it

925
00:47:40,080 --> 00:47:42,600
Speaker 1: was such like a big change. It was such like,

926
00:47:42,719 --> 00:47:45,239
Speaker 1: oh my god, what did I do? Something's gone. I

927
00:47:45,280 --> 00:47:48,400
Speaker 1: felt like I was you know, I wasn't happy, and

928
00:47:48,480 --> 00:47:50,759
Speaker 1: I just remember being home in bed and crying for

929
00:47:50,800 --> 00:47:55,879
Speaker 1: like hours. And then like numbers were always a big

930
00:47:55,920 --> 00:47:58,360
Speaker 1: thing to me. I don't even know why what you like,

931
00:47:58,440 --> 00:48:02,040
Speaker 1: I have not slept with that many men. I haven't,

932
00:48:02,560 --> 00:48:07,320
Speaker 1: but I got to say when I went off one hand,

933
00:48:08,920 --> 00:48:11,080
Speaker 1: that's probably a lot for you. But yeah, when I

934
00:48:11,120 --> 00:48:14,280
Speaker 1: went to number six, I cried again.

935
00:48:15,160 --> 00:48:19,319
Speaker 2: Well, I don't know why we put ourselves through that.

936
00:48:19,560 --> 00:48:20,920
Speaker 1: Really, I don't know why.

937
00:48:21,120 --> 00:48:23,160
Speaker 2: Why are we crying? And when it comes to love

938
00:48:23,200 --> 00:48:26,080
Speaker 2: and dading, like anything.

939
00:48:25,920 --> 00:48:27,640
Speaker 1: You you want to be one and done? What do

940
00:48:27,680 --> 00:48:28,040
Speaker 1: you mean?

941
00:48:28,440 --> 00:48:32,560
Speaker 2: And even with his men anymore? He pursued me and

942
00:48:32,560 --> 00:48:34,200
Speaker 2: then he dumped it when I told him I love you.

943
00:48:34,239 --> 00:48:35,560
Speaker 2: Like what am I supposed to have done? Tell him

944
00:48:35,560 --> 00:48:37,520
Speaker 2: I hate you and tell him to rotten hell? Like,

945
00:48:37,840 --> 00:48:40,560
Speaker 2: what is wrong with love? I think?

946
00:48:40,600 --> 00:48:44,200
Speaker 1: Wait, you told him you loved him first? Yeah, oh no, no, no,

947
00:48:44,360 --> 00:48:45,480
Speaker 1: you have to play games with men.

948
00:48:45,800 --> 00:48:49,680
Speaker 2: I hate I hate games. Well, well I know that

949
00:48:49,680 --> 00:48:52,560
Speaker 2: that's what everybody does. But like, I'm very straightforward.

950
00:48:52,680 --> 00:48:55,920
Speaker 1: You have a lot of rules. We got issues, strict standards.

951
00:48:55,920 --> 00:48:57,840
Speaker 2: Sonali does have strict standards. No.

952
00:48:58,560 --> 00:49:00,600
Speaker 1: I like that you stand up for your self. I

953
00:49:00,719 --> 00:49:05,880
Speaker 1: like your confidence. It's beautiful. Actually, it's refreshing. I really

954
00:49:05,920 --> 00:49:09,840
Speaker 1: love this conversation. I didn't even know what to expect

955
00:49:09,880 --> 00:49:16,239
Speaker 1: coming in here today, and I genuinely like episode one

956
00:49:16,560 --> 00:49:17,200
Speaker 1: is great.

957
00:49:18,160 --> 00:49:20,760
Speaker 2: But wait we t minus seven days.

958
00:49:20,960 --> 00:49:23,839
Speaker 1: It is great, but it's fairy like seeing you and

959
00:49:24,200 --> 00:49:28,359
Speaker 1: talking you day. There's so much, so many facets about you.

960
00:49:28,480 --> 00:49:33,200
Speaker 1: I am literally obsessed with you. Thank you, and I'd

961
00:49:33,239 --> 00:49:34,399
Speaker 1: love to meet you one day.

962
00:49:35,000 --> 00:49:36,640
Speaker 2: I'm on board. Let's make it hand and.

963
00:49:36,640 --> 00:49:39,440
Speaker 1: I'm going to produce a show where you freeze your eggs.

964
00:49:39,600 --> 00:49:40,239
Speaker 2: Let's do it.

965
00:49:40,719 --> 00:49:45,959
Speaker 1: I'm really good with puns and jargons, slogans. I'm gonna

966
00:49:45,960 --> 00:49:47,560
Speaker 1: come up with something. Okay, we got this.

967
00:49:47,640 --> 00:49:49,480
Speaker 2: I can shift in there too, Okay, good.

968
00:49:49,719 --> 00:49:52,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, because you're a brainiacc yeah, we're brainiacs.

969
00:49:52,960 --> 00:49:54,400
Speaker 2: Beauty and brains.

970
00:49:54,000 --> 00:49:59,040
Speaker 1: Woo and bods. You're like, no to proud.

971
00:50:01,239 --> 00:50:10,000
Speaker 2: I'm a smoothy addict that this is. Yeah, listen, how

972
00:50:10,080 --> 00:50:13,560
Speaker 2: you dance indicates how you make love. And I'm gonna

973
00:50:13,760 --> 00:50:16,359
Speaker 2: wants a dancer. I always a dancer, and we need

974
00:50:16,360 --> 00:50:17,960
Speaker 2: a certain body type to dance.

975
00:50:18,040 --> 00:50:20,600
Speaker 1: You know what. That maybe with women with men, though

976
00:50:21,080 --> 00:50:23,520
Speaker 1: men are always like, I can't dance, I can't dance.

977
00:50:24,520 --> 00:50:26,640
Speaker 1: But I've had ones that were good in bed.

978
00:50:27,560 --> 00:50:29,960
Speaker 2: You know who can dance? But who's that? Who's an

979
00:50:30,000 --> 00:50:32,759
Speaker 2: actor from the Sex and the City movie, the first one, Jill,

980
00:50:33,200 --> 00:50:37,279
Speaker 2: the French guy. His character name was Dante. He wasn't

981
00:50:37,400 --> 00:50:42,080
Speaker 2: dancing with the stars. He's my celebrity anyway. He can dance.

982
00:50:42,760 --> 00:50:47,000
Speaker 1: He's your celebrity crush, one of my celebrity crushes. Yeah,

983
00:50:47,040 --> 00:50:48,040
Speaker 1: y is he single?

984
00:50:49,040 --> 00:50:52,920
Speaker 2: I don't know. I know he has kids. Let's look

985
00:50:52,920 --> 00:50:54,960
Speaker 2: it up. Things change, right, Let's look it up.

986
00:50:59,200 --> 00:51:00,400
Speaker 1: I'm gonna I'm gonna married.

987
00:51:01,239 --> 00:51:03,080
Speaker 2: I was the one who called the shots to wrap

988
00:51:03,120 --> 00:51:03,520
Speaker 2: this up.

989
00:51:03,680 --> 00:51:07,240
Speaker 1: I'm an ordin. Yeah, we're wrapping. I'm an ordined minister.

990
00:51:07,320 --> 00:51:09,719
Speaker 1: By the way, I've actually I used to have a

991
00:51:09,719 --> 00:51:11,680
Speaker 1: wedding show. I did an Indian wedding once.

992
00:51:12,040 --> 00:51:12,400
Speaker 2: Really.

993
00:51:12,800 --> 00:51:15,640
Speaker 1: Yeah, I've learned so much. I had such a great time.

994
00:51:15,920 --> 00:51:16,680
Speaker 2: I'm just still married.

995
00:51:17,800 --> 00:51:21,279
Speaker 1: Yes, all of my couples we did ten episodes. I'm

996
00:51:21,320 --> 00:51:24,040
Speaker 1: proud to announce all of them are still married.

997
00:51:24,239 --> 00:51:29,200
Speaker 2: Hey, the Indian marriage you officiated? How many people who

998
00:51:29,239 --> 00:51:29,640
Speaker 2: were there?

999
00:51:31,400 --> 00:51:34,959
Speaker 1: It was a lot Tori.

1000
00:51:35,160 --> 00:51:36,560
Speaker 2: I did stand up comedy for a year.

1001
00:51:36,600 --> 00:51:39,080
Speaker 1: I talked about I didn't officiate that one.

1002
00:51:39,480 --> 00:51:41,160
Speaker 2: Oh.

1003
00:51:39,960 --> 00:51:44,720
Speaker 1: I'm also a wedding planner, so I'm an ordained minister.

1004
00:51:45,280 --> 00:51:47,640
Speaker 1: If someone wants me to, I can marry them. But

1005
00:51:48,400 --> 00:51:51,280
Speaker 1: I also planned wedding, so I planned a wedding. Sorry,

1006
00:51:51,520 --> 00:51:53,200
Speaker 1: an Indian wedding officiated.

1007
00:51:53,480 --> 00:51:55,640
Speaker 2: I did stand up comedy for a year. My promise

1008
00:51:55,800 --> 00:52:00,719
Speaker 2: was dating dilimma, dating dilemmas as a millennial virgin, as

1009
00:52:00,719 --> 00:52:03,680
Speaker 2: an Indian American millennial virgin. One of my graden One

1010
00:52:03,680 --> 00:52:07,319
Speaker 2: of my jokes was, if I ever get married, I

1011
00:52:07,320 --> 00:52:09,600
Speaker 2: don't need a big fat Indian wedding with all that hoopla.

1012
00:52:09,640 --> 00:52:11,759
Speaker 2: Eight hundred brides mes eight hundred people eat you brides,

1013
00:52:11,800 --> 00:52:13,160
Speaker 2: mes and all that. Let's just go to Vegas and

1014
00:52:13,160 --> 00:52:16,080
Speaker 2: call it a day. All that money can go to

1015
00:52:16,120 --> 00:52:17,320
Speaker 2: my facelift in ten years.

1016
00:52:20,360 --> 00:52:24,880
Speaker 1: It's not just the pretty face, smart girl. So true,

1017
00:52:25,320 --> 00:52:29,520
Speaker 1: so true. Well, thank you, you wish. We have so much.

1018
00:52:29,520 --> 00:52:30,520
Speaker 1: We're gonna do together.

1019
00:52:31,280 --> 00:52:31,640
Speaker 2: Let's do.

1020
00:52:31,800 --> 00:52:35,480
Speaker 1: Yeah. I'm gonna freeze your eggs. I'm gonna find you somebody.

1021
00:52:35,520 --> 00:52:39,560
Speaker 1: I'm gonna talk to your dad maybe, and I'm going

1022
00:52:39,600 --> 00:52:43,200
Speaker 1: to plan your wedding. So cool. Drop the mic, drop

1023
00:52:43,280 --> 00:52:43,520
Speaker 1: the v