1 00:00:08,640 --> 00:00:16,840 Speaker 1: Misspelling with Tori Spelling and iHeartRadio Podcast. Hi, Tricia, how 2 00:00:16,920 --> 00:00:17,240 Speaker 1: are you? 3 00:00:17,960 --> 00:00:19,520 Speaker 2: I'm great? How are you doing? 4 00:00:20,120 --> 00:00:21,280 Speaker 3: That? Is nice to meet you. 5 00:00:22,160 --> 00:00:26,119 Speaker 2: Nice to meet you virtually. I know. I was trying 6 00:00:26,120 --> 00:00:28,080 Speaker 2: to think if we've ever met. 7 00:00:28,960 --> 00:00:30,960 Speaker 3: I don't think we have. I don't think we've ever 8 00:00:31,000 --> 00:00:31,600 Speaker 3: worked together. 9 00:00:32,000 --> 00:00:33,159 Speaker 2: Our past happened crossed? 10 00:00:33,800 --> 00:00:37,720 Speaker 3: I think I would remember. No, I don't think. So 11 00:00:37,760 --> 00:00:38,840 Speaker 3: it's nice to meet you again. 12 00:00:39,520 --> 00:00:39,880 Speaker 1: Nice to me. 13 00:00:40,040 --> 00:00:41,160 Speaker 2: I love your glasses. 14 00:00:41,600 --> 00:00:44,200 Speaker 3: Oh, thank you. I have a very important question before 15 00:00:44,200 --> 00:00:44,760 Speaker 3: we get started. 16 00:00:44,800 --> 00:00:46,599 Speaker 2: Oh my god, please anything and everything. 17 00:00:47,120 --> 00:00:52,479 Speaker 3: Then I swear please to really okay, not that I'm planning. 18 00:00:52,920 --> 00:00:55,720 Speaker 3: I love you that I'm planning on it, but it 19 00:00:55,800 --> 00:00:58,600 Speaker 3: tends to fly out of my mouth. So I just 20 00:00:58,640 --> 00:01:00,440 Speaker 3: want to make sure that that's okay, and hold on. 21 00:01:00,480 --> 00:01:03,000 Speaker 3: I want to make sure they seem that I can 22 00:01:03,120 --> 00:01:04,200 Speaker 3: see you better. 23 00:01:05,080 --> 00:01:05,880 Speaker 2: You don't want to do that. 24 00:01:06,440 --> 00:01:06,640 Speaker 1: I do. 25 00:01:07,080 --> 00:01:10,800 Speaker 3: There you are, Hi. Hi, So do you want to 26 00:01:10,840 --> 00:01:14,520 Speaker 3: start by telling me what you're struggling with or do 27 00:01:14,560 --> 00:01:17,680 Speaker 3: you I know you've met with some other organizers. 28 00:01:19,400 --> 00:01:23,720 Speaker 1: So yeah, my biggest thing at the moment is I 29 00:01:23,760 --> 00:01:24,600 Speaker 1: have five kids. 30 00:01:25,440 --> 00:01:27,319 Speaker 2: I mean, you know you're a busy mom. You're working. 31 00:01:29,200 --> 00:01:32,440 Speaker 1: I have five kids, I have pets, I have a 32 00:01:32,480 --> 00:01:35,920 Speaker 1: life that keeps on going whether you know stuff's here 33 00:01:36,000 --> 00:01:38,280 Speaker 1: or not. So I tend to put that on the 34 00:01:38,280 --> 00:01:41,480 Speaker 1: back burner, like, Okay, stuff comes in, we'll put it 35 00:01:41,520 --> 00:01:45,640 Speaker 1: over there. This kid needs this, this business needs this. 36 00:01:45,720 --> 00:01:47,840 Speaker 1: I gotta go work today, I gotta go film. And 37 00:01:47,880 --> 00:01:53,240 Speaker 1: then that stuff never gets put away. But in the 38 00:01:53,320 --> 00:01:59,520 Speaker 1: long run, we are a very close, big family in 39 00:02:00,560 --> 00:02:03,880 Speaker 1: a house that I would say at this point it's 40 00:02:04,040 --> 00:02:10,520 Speaker 1: less about organizing and more about deciding to remove it, 41 00:02:10,840 --> 00:02:12,280 Speaker 1: let go of things, let go. 42 00:02:12,480 --> 00:02:15,639 Speaker 2: Yeah, And it's definitely. 43 00:02:15,840 --> 00:02:19,280 Speaker 1: I know in the past my friends have said like, oh, 44 00:02:19,360 --> 00:02:20,800 Speaker 1: are you okay to let things go? 45 00:02:20,960 --> 00:02:22,320 Speaker 2: I'm like, yeah. 46 00:02:22,480 --> 00:02:25,359 Speaker 1: When I was younger, I put emotional attachment on things 47 00:02:25,480 --> 00:02:29,840 Speaker 1: that came in or that I had, I acquired, I 48 00:02:29,960 --> 00:02:31,480 Speaker 1: recently got divorced. 49 00:02:31,480 --> 00:02:32,520 Speaker 2: In the last two years. 50 00:02:32,600 --> 00:02:34,880 Speaker 1: It's been a lot of change for my family and 51 00:02:34,919 --> 00:02:39,040 Speaker 1: I and I definitely that is not something like I 52 00:02:39,080 --> 00:02:41,240 Speaker 1: call it doing a gut check. Now when I do 53 00:02:41,280 --> 00:02:43,160 Speaker 1: a gut check, I'm like, do I care about any 54 00:02:43,160 --> 00:02:45,320 Speaker 1: of those stuff? I'm like, no, I just want I 55 00:02:45,360 --> 00:02:50,560 Speaker 1: just need physical hands on your halfway. No one's ever 56 00:02:50,600 --> 00:02:52,240 Speaker 1: told me that great I'll take it. 57 00:02:52,280 --> 00:02:56,760 Speaker 3: Oh, that's half the struggle right there, the single mom thing, 58 00:02:57,160 --> 00:03:00,359 Speaker 3: single working mom thing, five children part of it. That's 59 00:03:00,400 --> 00:03:02,960 Speaker 3: the other part of it. But if you're already at 60 00:03:02,960 --> 00:03:05,280 Speaker 3: the point where you're like, I've been holding onto this 61 00:03:05,360 --> 00:03:07,440 Speaker 3: stuff and I don't know why, or I'm ready to 62 00:03:07,520 --> 00:03:09,720 Speaker 3: let it go, or I only want to keep things 63 00:03:09,720 --> 00:03:13,520 Speaker 3: in the house that I love, use need, you know, 64 00:03:13,600 --> 00:03:16,480 Speaker 3: those three things. Everything else, it's like it's just taking 65 00:03:16,560 --> 00:03:18,919 Speaker 3: up valuable real estate in your home, and it's taken 66 00:03:19,000 --> 00:03:22,079 Speaker 3: away from like I mean, you know, I mean, it's 67 00:03:22,120 --> 00:03:28,400 Speaker 3: like fishot butter adds to anxiety. It prevents our kids 68 00:03:28,440 --> 00:03:31,800 Speaker 3: from focusing the way that they could or should be focusing. 69 00:03:31,840 --> 00:03:34,520 Speaker 3: You know, it just it's a distraction. It's a visual distraction. 70 00:03:35,440 --> 00:03:38,520 Speaker 3: And then plus the overwhelm and the and the how 71 00:03:38,600 --> 00:03:41,920 Speaker 3: daunting it is to have to tackle that mess or 72 00:03:41,960 --> 00:03:45,880 Speaker 3: that that closet or that area, it's also adds to 73 00:03:46,000 --> 00:03:49,240 Speaker 3: stress and anxiety and all that stuff. So that stuff, 74 00:03:49,280 --> 00:03:51,680 Speaker 3: you know, if you're already at the point where you're like, 75 00:03:52,000 --> 00:03:53,800 Speaker 3: I only want to keep things in here that serve 76 00:03:53,920 --> 00:03:56,720 Speaker 3: me and serve my kids, that make me happy. I 77 00:03:56,720 --> 00:03:58,240 Speaker 3: don't want to say bring me joy because that's not 78 00:03:58,280 --> 00:03:59,360 Speaker 3: my thing, Like that's. 79 00:03:59,160 --> 00:04:00,000 Speaker 1: Something else is say. 80 00:04:00,920 --> 00:04:02,640 Speaker 3: But I've always said, like, if I had to get 81 00:04:02,720 --> 00:04:05,360 Speaker 3: rid of everything in my house that didn't spark joy, 82 00:04:05,920 --> 00:04:08,120 Speaker 3: I'd be left with my kids in a bottle of vodka. 83 00:04:08,200 --> 00:04:10,240 Speaker 3: That's it. That's all that I would have to do 84 00:04:10,320 --> 00:04:12,480 Speaker 3: in my house, do you know what I mean? So 85 00:04:12,720 --> 00:04:15,960 Speaker 3: it's not necessarily about sparking joy, but if you raise 86 00:04:16,080 --> 00:04:19,400 Speaker 3: it and you don't love it, yeah, and you don't 87 00:04:19,440 --> 00:04:22,200 Speaker 3: need it, like it's just taking up space. 88 00:04:22,200 --> 00:04:23,360 Speaker 1: You know for sure? 89 00:04:23,520 --> 00:04:25,520 Speaker 2: Yeah, I definitely was at the point. 90 00:04:25,600 --> 00:04:28,800 Speaker 1: Yeah, I said recently, like I'm fine, everything can go 91 00:04:28,960 --> 00:04:31,119 Speaker 1: except anything breathing in the house. 92 00:04:31,600 --> 00:04:36,400 Speaker 3: Yeah, yes, because exactly the thing. You know, clothes they 93 00:04:36,440 --> 00:04:38,440 Speaker 3: need to wear, and food that they need to eat, 94 00:04:38,520 --> 00:04:40,520 Speaker 3: and things that when you look at it, you get 95 00:04:40,520 --> 00:04:43,840 Speaker 3: all happy and you know, like there's obviously other stuff 96 00:04:43,839 --> 00:04:46,760 Speaker 3: besides just our kids, but most of it, I would say, 97 00:04:46,920 --> 00:04:48,920 Speaker 3: most are things that they're just taking up real. 98 00:04:48,880 --> 00:04:53,000 Speaker 1: Estate, you know, for sure? And for sure yeah. 99 00:04:53,800 --> 00:04:56,480 Speaker 3: Yeah, So you're at that point now where you want 100 00:04:56,520 --> 00:05:01,080 Speaker 3: to and what is stopping you from aside from the 101 00:05:01,120 --> 00:05:04,120 Speaker 3: time because you have five kids, I have two and 102 00:05:04,160 --> 00:05:07,400 Speaker 3: I'm a single mom and I have a hard time. 103 00:05:07,320 --> 00:05:09,120 Speaker 1: Finding time, whether it's five or one. 104 00:05:09,160 --> 00:05:09,560 Speaker 2: It's hard. 105 00:05:10,400 --> 00:05:12,839 Speaker 4: Mom wins is hard, but I would say exponentially harder 106 00:05:14,000 --> 00:05:18,919 Speaker 4: the more children. Okay, give yourself, you should, absolutely, because 107 00:05:18,920 --> 00:05:20,880 Speaker 4: that's a huge part of it. Like give yourself a 108 00:05:20,920 --> 00:05:25,240 Speaker 4: little pat on the back because you're already you're managing 109 00:05:25,320 --> 00:05:28,839 Speaker 4: so much. Already, you know, but you're already managing so much, 110 00:05:28,880 --> 00:05:31,600 Speaker 4: I guess, is what I'm saying, you know, And so 111 00:05:31,640 --> 00:05:34,599 Speaker 4: it's hard to find the time, just even five minutes 112 00:05:34,800 --> 00:05:37,760 Speaker 4: of your own much less time to sit down and 113 00:05:37,760 --> 00:05:41,520 Speaker 4: tackle a closet or an area or a room or whatever. 114 00:05:41,600 --> 00:05:42,599 Speaker 3: You know. So I get it. 115 00:05:44,160 --> 00:05:48,960 Speaker 1: Some slack there, need I need human hands. Yeah, but 116 00:05:49,160 --> 00:05:53,120 Speaker 1: also like our brains, Like we're both creative brains, but 117 00:05:53,160 --> 00:05:56,839 Speaker 1: probably our brains work slightly different because I am not 118 00:05:57,000 --> 00:06:00,839 Speaker 1: an organized person by nature. 119 00:06:01,920 --> 00:06:03,440 Speaker 3: Do you get your kids to school a lot of time? 120 00:06:03,880 --> 00:06:04,240 Speaker 1: Yeah? 121 00:06:04,440 --> 00:06:07,440 Speaker 3: Do you remember their events? Do you remember when they 122 00:06:07,480 --> 00:06:12,240 Speaker 3: had an assignment to everything? So you're an organized person in. 123 00:06:12,200 --> 00:06:17,080 Speaker 1: My brain, but not physically. Okay, does that make sense? 124 00:06:18,360 --> 00:06:22,120 Speaker 3: Yes, I guess it does make sense. Like spatially organized, 125 00:06:22,160 --> 00:06:25,040 Speaker 3: I guess there is a difference between that. But you're 126 00:06:25,120 --> 00:06:29,120 Speaker 3: able to stay organized when it comes to other people, 127 00:06:29,279 --> 00:06:32,719 Speaker 3: your schedule, your work schedule, You're able to be organized 128 00:06:32,760 --> 00:06:36,040 Speaker 3: with your planner and all that correct. So it's really 129 00:06:36,080 --> 00:06:40,479 Speaker 3: just a matter of instinctively knowing where to put something 130 00:06:40,480 --> 00:06:44,040 Speaker 3: away or where something goes, or how to clean this up. 131 00:06:44,520 --> 00:06:45,480 Speaker 3: Is that the distinction? 132 00:06:46,279 --> 00:06:48,440 Speaker 1: I guess, So, like I wouldn't typically look at a 133 00:06:48,480 --> 00:06:51,159 Speaker 1: space and be like, oh, the dishes should go in 134 00:06:51,240 --> 00:06:55,120 Speaker 1: this cabinet, Like that's but I'm a super creative like 135 00:06:55,200 --> 00:07:01,479 Speaker 1: design person. Yeah, but I lack that like instinct, and 136 00:07:01,520 --> 00:07:04,360 Speaker 1: I don't know if that plays a role in going 137 00:07:04,400 --> 00:07:07,880 Speaker 1: further where things just sometimes don't get put away. 138 00:07:07,600 --> 00:07:12,640 Speaker 3: Probably because my main thaying when I'm working with clients 139 00:07:12,800 --> 00:07:20,480 Speaker 3: is to put things away or to organize in such 140 00:07:20,480 --> 00:07:24,520 Speaker 3: a way that it makes sense for the space. So 141 00:07:25,320 --> 00:07:29,360 Speaker 3: everything in this office, stuff that I need or use 142 00:07:29,600 --> 00:07:32,960 Speaker 3: in my office other than like a place to sit 143 00:07:33,160 --> 00:07:37,640 Speaker 3: and something pretty to look at, Everything in here belongs 144 00:07:37,640 --> 00:07:39,520 Speaker 3: in here because this is where I use it. 145 00:07:40,240 --> 00:07:40,360 Speaker 2: Right. 146 00:07:41,080 --> 00:07:44,200 Speaker 3: If you're in the kitchen and you have it, do 147 00:07:44,240 --> 00:07:47,120 Speaker 3: you have a dishwasher at your house? Okay, and you're 148 00:07:47,200 --> 00:07:50,920 Speaker 3: the dishwasher, your plate, your everyday plates, your everyday glasses, 149 00:07:51,160 --> 00:07:55,280 Speaker 3: your everyday utensils should be as close to the dishwasher 150 00:07:55,280 --> 00:07:58,280 Speaker 3: as possible. That makes sense. Do you know what I mean? 151 00:07:58,840 --> 00:08:01,440 Speaker 3: Your laundry thre thing should be close to the laundry 152 00:08:01,520 --> 00:08:03,560 Speaker 3: room your Do you know what I mean? 153 00:08:04,240 --> 00:08:07,920 Speaker 1: Tricia? Yes, I just realized I have good instincts. Then, see, 154 00:08:08,120 --> 00:08:09,800 Speaker 1: so I don't know what the problem is here. 155 00:08:09,880 --> 00:08:13,360 Speaker 3: Well, it may be just a matter of the you're 156 00:08:13,360 --> 00:08:16,520 Speaker 3: putting things away, or you unpacked things when you moved 157 00:08:16,520 --> 00:08:19,560 Speaker 3: in in a way that made sense for the space. 158 00:08:20,000 --> 00:08:23,080 Speaker 3: But perhaps you have too many things, some things that 159 00:08:23,280 --> 00:08:27,080 Speaker 3: you don't necessarily need. Yes, and those spaces, even though 160 00:08:27,080 --> 00:08:30,400 Speaker 3: it makes sense these belong here, it's too much for 161 00:08:30,480 --> 00:08:33,559 Speaker 3: what the space that you have been given. Do you 162 00:08:33,600 --> 00:08:37,440 Speaker 3: know what I mean? Yes, Like take a closet, sorry, 163 00:08:37,440 --> 00:08:38,440 Speaker 3: go ahead, go ahead. 164 00:08:38,320 --> 00:08:45,079 Speaker 1: No, no, no no. For instance, it's just like kitchen every 165 00:08:45,160 --> 00:08:51,720 Speaker 1: day plates, you know, cutlery, dishes, all of that, yeah, glasses, everything. 166 00:08:54,000 --> 00:08:58,559 Speaker 1: This particular kitchen wasn't designed to house all of. 167 00:08:58,559 --> 00:09:00,000 Speaker 2: That pretty much. 168 00:09:00,559 --> 00:09:02,679 Speaker 3: Not good storage, face, not good cabinets. 169 00:09:02,679 --> 00:09:07,920 Speaker 1: And so now we're leasing. But it's beautiful. So when I, 170 00:09:07,960 --> 00:09:12,240 Speaker 1: when the kids and I walked in, we're like. 171 00:09:12,120 --> 00:09:14,040 Speaker 2: Oh, this beautiful open kitchen. 172 00:09:14,320 --> 00:09:18,679 Speaker 1: Look at the outdoors, beautiful view, open space. They can 173 00:09:18,720 --> 00:09:20,480 Speaker 1: be on the couch and I was like, I'm gonna 174 00:09:20,480 --> 00:09:23,680 Speaker 1: put a sectional here TV. You guys can be, you know, 175 00:09:23,760 --> 00:09:29,560 Speaker 1: together while I'm cooking off the kitchen. Love fell in 176 00:09:29,600 --> 00:09:32,720 Speaker 1: love with it, right, And I know better at this point, 177 00:09:32,760 --> 00:09:35,400 Speaker 1: Like I think I've lived in seventeen houses over the 178 00:09:35,480 --> 00:09:40,400 Speaker 1: last yeah, throughout those years, so I knew that. I 179 00:09:41,200 --> 00:09:44,880 Speaker 1: wasn't thinking it was like a new life for us. 180 00:09:44,920 --> 00:09:48,400 Speaker 1: And it wasn't until we moved in putting stuff away, 181 00:09:48,400 --> 00:09:50,760 Speaker 1: I'm like, oh, shoot, there's only two cabinets and they're 182 00:09:50,800 --> 00:09:54,000 Speaker 1: over here. Wait where do we put the bread? There's 183 00:09:54,080 --> 00:09:57,559 Speaker 1: no It was like yeah, yes, okay. So if you 184 00:09:57,679 --> 00:10:00,040 Speaker 1: don't have enough storage, what do you do when you 185 00:10:00,120 --> 00:10:01,359 Speaker 1: have a big family. 186 00:10:01,720 --> 00:10:05,959 Speaker 3: Well, you have to rethink the storage that you've been given, 187 00:10:06,120 --> 00:10:09,920 Speaker 3: you know what I mean. I'm always adding shelves to 188 00:10:10,480 --> 00:10:13,720 Speaker 3: existing pantries. Sometimes the pantries are built out. If you 189 00:10:13,760 --> 00:10:14,400 Speaker 3: have a pantry, do. 190 00:10:14,360 --> 00:10:16,240 Speaker 1: You have a pantry, It doesn't have a pantry. 191 00:10:16,280 --> 00:10:18,440 Speaker 3: You don't have a fucking pantry. That's my first bomb. 192 00:10:18,440 --> 00:10:20,960 Speaker 3: That's my first staff bomb, because. 193 00:10:21,120 --> 00:10:24,040 Speaker 1: Do I drop it? Because I say, oh, fuck, every 194 00:10:24,120 --> 00:10:27,920 Speaker 1: day there's no pantry, and then I feel guilty, like, 195 00:10:28,040 --> 00:10:31,080 Speaker 1: oh my gosh, well I should expect a pantry, but 196 00:10:31,120 --> 00:10:34,840 Speaker 1: I do have five kids. Some sort of pantry would 197 00:10:34,840 --> 00:10:36,400 Speaker 1: have been great in this house. 198 00:10:37,880 --> 00:10:40,360 Speaker 3: Is there a cabinet that's supposed to be used as 199 00:10:40,360 --> 00:10:44,120 Speaker 3: a pantry or a weird closet of the kitchen that 200 00:10:44,320 --> 00:10:45,480 Speaker 3: you don't know? 201 00:10:46,080 --> 00:10:49,080 Speaker 1: Nothing, there's not, there's really not. I would say the 202 00:10:49,200 --> 00:10:52,920 Speaker 1: closest thing to that would be a corner cabinet that 203 00:10:53,040 --> 00:10:57,480 Speaker 1: when you open it it has like the spin around inside. 204 00:10:57,760 --> 00:11:00,640 Speaker 3: I hate those, the little lazy Susan corner. 205 00:11:01,360 --> 00:11:05,079 Speaker 1: Yes, that, from what I can see, is the only 206 00:11:05,320 --> 00:11:10,440 Speaker 1: pantry ish And then under the counter, but the kitchen 207 00:11:10,480 --> 00:11:14,679 Speaker 1: stools are there. There's a few short with. 208 00:11:15,040 --> 00:11:20,280 Speaker 3: Shelves, okay, so not easy to access under the not 209 00:11:20,280 --> 00:11:23,120 Speaker 3: practical okay, so those. 210 00:11:22,760 --> 00:11:25,960 Speaker 1: Really counter the bread the cereal okay? 211 00:11:26,080 --> 00:11:31,560 Speaker 3: And is there are there like small appliances or tupperware 212 00:11:32,000 --> 00:11:36,840 Speaker 3: or things like that that are taking up prime cabinets 213 00:11:36,880 --> 00:11:42,480 Speaker 3: in your kitchen? No? No, how many cabinets do we 214 00:11:42,520 --> 00:11:45,280 Speaker 3: can wish? I wish you were in there right now, 215 00:11:48,080 --> 00:11:51,520 Speaker 3: because those cabinets that are hard to access, like under 216 00:11:51,559 --> 00:11:54,360 Speaker 3: stools under like on the kitchen island, you know, behind 217 00:11:54,400 --> 00:11:57,360 Speaker 3: the stools, that's for stuff like the waffle makers and 218 00:11:57,400 --> 00:12:00,600 Speaker 3: the lenders. Are the things that you don't use that often, 219 00:12:00,720 --> 00:12:04,199 Speaker 3: Like that's out of the way, not easy to access, 220 00:12:04,280 --> 00:12:06,360 Speaker 3: don't need it every day, maybe don't even need it 221 00:12:06,400 --> 00:12:09,640 Speaker 3: every week. You know, those corner cabinets the same type 222 00:12:09,679 --> 00:12:13,440 Speaker 3: of thing, like, yeah, smaller appliances, things like that. 223 00:12:13,600 --> 00:12:17,160 Speaker 2: And then do you feel like it's best to start? 224 00:12:17,440 --> 00:12:20,400 Speaker 1: This is I mean, this is overwhelming for anyone that, 225 00:12:20,800 --> 00:12:24,200 Speaker 1: like I always said, when we move, we'll do it 226 00:12:24,240 --> 00:12:27,679 Speaker 1: before we put stuff away. Yeah, But then the kids 227 00:12:27,720 --> 00:12:30,800 Speaker 1: and I were moving, you know, getting a divorce. I 228 00:12:30,840 --> 00:12:33,240 Speaker 1: was alone and it was like my friend Ruth Anne, 229 00:12:33,240 --> 00:12:35,560 Speaker 1: who's on here, she was the only one helping me. 230 00:12:35,800 --> 00:12:38,800 Speaker 1: I'm like, oh my god, So again I moved to 231 00:12:38,840 --> 00:12:41,200 Speaker 1: a house that I didn't sort things out. 232 00:12:41,120 --> 00:12:42,480 Speaker 2: Before we put it away. 233 00:12:42,760 --> 00:12:45,800 Speaker 1: So here we are again. Do you believe now in 234 00:12:45,920 --> 00:12:48,720 Speaker 1: order to start sorting through what to give away you 235 00:12:48,720 --> 00:12:51,280 Speaker 1: should take everything out and see what you have? 236 00:12:51,520 --> 00:12:52,439 Speaker 2: Or how does that work? 237 00:12:52,679 --> 00:12:52,760 Speaker 1: No? 238 00:12:53,040 --> 00:12:54,959 Speaker 3: Not all at once? No, not all one? 239 00:12:55,040 --> 00:12:57,280 Speaker 1: Right I start. 240 00:12:57,640 --> 00:13:01,120 Speaker 3: I literally like to start corner by corner because otherwise 241 00:13:01,120 --> 00:13:04,360 Speaker 3: it's way too daunting to think about like I have 242 00:13:04,440 --> 00:13:07,160 Speaker 3: to do a page one rewrite on my entire house, 243 00:13:07,280 --> 00:13:10,680 Speaker 3: you know what I mean. I love to I love 244 00:13:10,720 --> 00:13:12,839 Speaker 3: when I get hired by somebody for an unpack and 245 00:13:13,040 --> 00:13:17,000 Speaker 3: org because like it is so important before you even 246 00:13:17,400 --> 00:13:20,360 Speaker 3: like settle in that first night, just knowing that everything 247 00:13:20,440 --> 00:13:22,360 Speaker 3: is in a place that makes sense for that thing. 248 00:13:22,600 --> 00:13:22,800 Speaker 1: You know. 249 00:13:23,000 --> 00:13:26,000 Speaker 3: Yeah, but if you didn't do that, like most people don't, 250 00:13:26,120 --> 00:13:28,480 Speaker 3: that's okay, but don't think of it in terms of like, 251 00:13:28,480 --> 00:13:30,600 Speaker 3: oh my god, I have to rearrange everything in one day, 252 00:13:30,720 --> 00:13:33,520 Speaker 3: starting like your most problematic area of the area that 253 00:13:33,640 --> 00:13:36,160 Speaker 3: every time you walk into this corner let's just call 254 00:13:36,200 --> 00:13:40,239 Speaker 3: it a corner, it's like immediately you tends up, Immediately, 255 00:13:40,240 --> 00:13:42,439 Speaker 3: you feel overwhelmed, Immediately you want it. 256 00:13:42,440 --> 00:13:47,120 Speaker 1: It's just wonder it's where I am right now. Okay, 257 00:13:47,440 --> 00:13:51,920 Speaker 1: it's I hate seeing this phrasing. It's the formal living room, 258 00:13:52,160 --> 00:13:56,520 Speaker 1: which like the parlor, yeah, which takes up kind of 259 00:13:56,559 --> 00:13:59,320 Speaker 1: a good chunk of the house, which moving into it, 260 00:13:59,360 --> 00:14:01,800 Speaker 1: I was like two houses ago. I'm like, I'm never 261 00:14:01,880 --> 00:14:04,520 Speaker 1: doing a formal living room because the kids don't use it, 262 00:14:04,840 --> 00:14:07,360 Speaker 1: because the fireplace is there, the TV's not there, They're 263 00:14:07,360 --> 00:14:10,520 Speaker 1: not going in there. Let's be realistic. They're all like 264 00:14:10,640 --> 00:14:13,120 Speaker 1: crouched in the den that's connected to the kitchen because 265 00:14:13,120 --> 00:14:17,520 Speaker 1: there's a big, big as TV. So it's this room. 266 00:14:17,720 --> 00:14:20,600 Speaker 1: I'm in the corner for my podcast. I'm looking at 267 00:14:20,680 --> 00:14:21,040 Speaker 1: the room. 268 00:14:21,160 --> 00:14:22,120 Speaker 2: It's an open space. 269 00:14:22,200 --> 00:14:25,400 Speaker 1: I can see straight on one side through to the 270 00:14:25,440 --> 00:14:28,280 Speaker 1: foyer to the front door. I can see the staircase 271 00:14:28,360 --> 00:14:30,960 Speaker 1: leading upstairs, and then to the right, I could see 272 00:14:31,000 --> 00:14:33,360 Speaker 1: straight through to the kitchen and then a window here 273 00:14:33,400 --> 00:14:34,160 Speaker 1: to the backyard. 274 00:14:34,600 --> 00:14:37,119 Speaker 3: Okay, it sounds gorgeous. 275 00:14:37,200 --> 00:14:40,960 Speaker 1: By the way, it's beautiful. My family doesn't use it, 276 00:14:41,000 --> 00:14:45,640 Speaker 1: and now they can't use it because what happened right 277 00:14:45,680 --> 00:14:48,840 Speaker 1: I got I was sick around the holidays, had like 278 00:14:49,160 --> 00:14:53,280 Speaker 1: nothing major, just sinus infect number. It was ridiculous, got 279 00:14:53,440 --> 00:14:55,960 Speaker 1: vertigo from it and I'm still getting over it. It was like, 280 00:14:56,760 --> 00:14:59,040 Speaker 1: and you know, it's true, when mom goes down, it's like, 281 00:14:59,320 --> 00:15:01,800 Speaker 1: no shit, yeah, no great, not great, but. 282 00:15:03,760 --> 00:15:04,120 Speaker 2: Things. 283 00:15:04,200 --> 00:15:06,720 Speaker 1: A lot of things come in for us during the holidays, 284 00:15:06,760 --> 00:15:10,080 Speaker 1: which I'm grateful for, but it was kind of like, oh, Mom, 285 00:15:11,280 --> 00:15:13,000 Speaker 1: can you open this box? I'm like, I can't just 286 00:15:13,040 --> 00:15:15,200 Speaker 1: put in the living room. Well, now the living room 287 00:15:15,240 --> 00:15:16,920 Speaker 1: has a bunch of stuff that it's like, okay, I 288 00:15:16,960 --> 00:15:19,680 Speaker 1: think we got to start with this room, right, Yeah, 289 00:15:19,760 --> 00:15:22,840 Speaker 1: so there's donations here, there's things to put away. 290 00:15:23,120 --> 00:15:25,920 Speaker 3: What happened with that room is it was never assigned 291 00:15:26,000 --> 00:15:29,800 Speaker 3: a purpose because you knew that the kids weren't going 292 00:15:29,840 --> 00:15:31,480 Speaker 3: to be there or whatever, and so that it became 293 00:15:31,600 --> 00:15:33,120 Speaker 3: like a little dumping ground thing. 294 00:15:33,200 --> 00:15:35,240 Speaker 1: I love that you you could show you pictures of 295 00:15:35,280 --> 00:15:38,400 Speaker 1: this room. Yeah, it was really the only one that 296 00:15:38,480 --> 00:15:39,920 Speaker 1: I really decorated. 297 00:15:40,320 --> 00:15:43,680 Speaker 3: Oh yeah, oh yeah, so you decorated it. 298 00:15:43,880 --> 00:15:46,320 Speaker 1: Oh, I decorated it. I didn't. 299 00:15:47,200 --> 00:15:48,360 Speaker 2: I didn't do the shelves. 300 00:15:48,440 --> 00:15:51,080 Speaker 1: The shelves I'm looking at them right now and there's 301 00:15:51,080 --> 00:15:55,880 Speaker 1: only two sets have all of my like antiques and pieces, 302 00:15:55,920 --> 00:16:02,240 Speaker 1: but it's not staged. Okay there, okay, but I did. 303 00:16:03,920 --> 00:16:08,840 Speaker 1: I did put painting and I put side tables, chairs, 304 00:16:09,040 --> 00:16:13,800 Speaker 1: coffee table, lamps. Yeah, it was really pretty. 305 00:16:14,240 --> 00:16:17,640 Speaker 3: And the couple months to entertain in there or to 306 00:16:17,680 --> 00:16:20,880 Speaker 3: do your podcast, like what what instead of they gave 307 00:16:20,880 --> 00:16:23,440 Speaker 3: it as a formal living m h, you're using it 308 00:16:23,480 --> 00:16:29,240 Speaker 3: for your podcast? What would you call it? Let's take away? Well, 309 00:16:29,280 --> 00:16:31,560 Speaker 3: I was going to say take away the formal living room. 310 00:16:31,560 --> 00:16:33,360 Speaker 3: Idear wait, what did you say? Did I message out? 311 00:16:33,520 --> 00:16:37,760 Speaker 2: I said it was a joke, shittle, I did need 312 00:16:37,840 --> 00:16:38,120 Speaker 2: a joke. 313 00:16:40,360 --> 00:16:42,400 Speaker 3: It's I guess, a huge space. 314 00:16:42,440 --> 00:16:45,560 Speaker 1: I'm assuming when we were moving and it happened fast, 315 00:16:45,640 --> 00:16:48,080 Speaker 1: and I had it was it was a lot of 316 00:16:49,840 --> 00:16:54,920 Speaker 1: pressure and chaos, and I had one night where I 317 00:16:54,960 --> 00:16:58,120 Speaker 1: was laying in bed. I was like, okay, before we moved. 318 00:16:58,120 --> 00:17:00,880 Speaker 1: We were in an airbnb before and I was like, 319 00:17:00,920 --> 00:17:02,880 Speaker 1: when we move into this house, and I had pictures 320 00:17:02,920 --> 00:17:05,560 Speaker 1: of all the empty rooms, I was like, you know, 321 00:17:06,400 --> 00:17:08,960 Speaker 1: I was like, I know, a formal living room, it's 322 00:17:09,040 --> 00:17:11,920 Speaker 1: not going to matter. So I did think shed turned 323 00:17:11,960 --> 00:17:16,480 Speaker 1: it into like a playroom for the kids, like a 324 00:17:16,520 --> 00:17:21,199 Speaker 1: gaming room. Okay, I wasn't sure, but it's such a 325 00:17:21,280 --> 00:17:24,760 Speaker 1: huge room. But it's an open room, so you hear everything. 326 00:17:25,280 --> 00:17:35,080 Speaker 3: Okay, can I ask a cup two questions? How, of course? 327 00:17:35,240 --> 00:17:37,320 Speaker 3: Is how old are they? 328 00:17:37,600 --> 00:17:42,000 Speaker 1: Eighteen seventeen, fourteen, thirteen and eight? 329 00:17:42,760 --> 00:17:45,520 Speaker 3: Okay, so playround probably, I mean maybe the eight year old, 330 00:17:45,520 --> 00:17:48,399 Speaker 3: but I mean I'm assuming that she he. 331 00:17:48,440 --> 00:17:50,919 Speaker 1: But when I say playroom, I don't mean like a 332 00:17:51,040 --> 00:17:55,320 Speaker 1: kid's playroom, something that's functional. They could play board games, 333 00:17:55,440 --> 00:17:57,879 Speaker 1: they could we were going to put a table, a 334 00:17:57,920 --> 00:18:00,800 Speaker 1: gaming table so they could play like you know, backham 335 00:18:00,800 --> 00:18:04,080 Speaker 1: and chests and not be like over there. And then 336 00:18:04,359 --> 00:18:07,120 Speaker 1: I was gonna put maybe a TV and they could 337 00:18:07,119 --> 00:18:12,040 Speaker 1: do their gaming here. Do you didn't I changed into 338 00:18:12,080 --> 00:18:14,480 Speaker 1: a formal living room that no one will ever see. 339 00:18:14,520 --> 00:18:15,200 Speaker 1: And I don't know why. 340 00:18:16,400 --> 00:18:22,640 Speaker 3: The badass boss lady like, why if you do your 341 00:18:22,640 --> 00:18:25,280 Speaker 3: podcast in there? My guess is that your kids have 342 00:18:25,400 --> 00:18:29,399 Speaker 3: a ton of space that is their own. And no, 343 00:18:30,040 --> 00:18:34,760 Speaker 3: they have their bedroom off of the kitchen, the. 344 00:18:34,800 --> 00:18:38,480 Speaker 2: Little Yeah, it's like a corner connected to the kitchen. 345 00:18:38,480 --> 00:18:39,200 Speaker 1: It's one room. 346 00:18:39,640 --> 00:18:41,280 Speaker 3: Do you have a space that's just your own? 347 00:18:41,680 --> 00:18:43,000 Speaker 2: No? 348 00:18:43,000 --> 00:18:46,520 Speaker 1: No, And it's not ideal, Like right now doing this podcast, 349 00:18:46,640 --> 00:18:50,840 Speaker 1: I'm in the corner of this open space, first floor 350 00:18:51,720 --> 00:18:53,080 Speaker 1: formal living room. 351 00:18:54,000 --> 00:18:56,520 Speaker 2: Like I said, I could see every into the house. 352 00:18:56,560 --> 00:19:00,960 Speaker 1: So it's non ideal, like a home office would be 353 00:19:01,040 --> 00:19:05,040 Speaker 1: great because anyone comes to the door, you know, yes, 354 00:19:05,119 --> 00:19:08,200 Speaker 1: deliver's a package. The dog barks, the door unlock, someone 355 00:19:08,240 --> 00:19:11,960 Speaker 1: opens it. My kids are going in and out upstairs, downstairs, 356 00:19:12,200 --> 00:19:13,720 Speaker 1: they want to go get some to eat. I'm like, 357 00:19:13,920 --> 00:19:16,280 Speaker 1: I'm doing a podcast, but it's like that's not fair. 358 00:19:17,600 --> 00:19:21,440 Speaker 3: No, But but you like doing your podcast in there, 359 00:19:21,480 --> 00:19:23,800 Speaker 3: even if you do not like doing. 360 00:19:23,720 --> 00:19:26,000 Speaker 1: I do not like doing it here, and they're now 361 00:19:26,040 --> 00:19:26,680 Speaker 1: working to the bar. 362 00:19:28,000 --> 00:19:29,480 Speaker 3: I hate doing this podcast. 363 00:19:30,080 --> 00:19:33,479 Speaker 1: I love doing this podcast. I do not like this corner. 364 00:19:34,640 --> 00:19:36,679 Speaker 3: Would you use the room if you weren't stuck in 365 00:19:36,680 --> 00:19:39,200 Speaker 3: the corner, Would you use it as a podcast as 366 00:19:39,200 --> 00:19:41,080 Speaker 3: a podcast room if you weren't stuck in the corner. 367 00:19:42,080 --> 00:19:45,440 Speaker 1: No, because it's an open stated like it's wide open, 368 00:19:45,480 --> 00:19:47,359 Speaker 1: and I don't think it's fair to a family as 369 00:19:47,400 --> 00:19:53,280 Speaker 1: big as ours that. And also there's times when I 370 00:19:53,480 --> 00:19:55,840 Speaker 1: want to be talking about stuff freely, and I still 371 00:19:55,880 --> 00:19:58,639 Speaker 1: do because I'm me, But I don't want every all 372 00:19:58,680 --> 00:19:59,760 Speaker 1: my kids to hear. 373 00:19:59,720 --> 00:20:02,439 Speaker 3: You know it's like yeah, I got it. 374 00:20:02,560 --> 00:20:06,439 Speaker 1: Yeah, But with a family of five, it's really to me, 375 00:20:06,760 --> 00:20:11,000 Speaker 1: I feel like kind of unrealistic to we were I 376 00:20:11,000 --> 00:20:13,960 Speaker 1: felt we were lucky to five find a five bedroom 377 00:20:15,119 --> 00:20:18,200 Speaker 1: to lease in La in our in our school district, 378 00:20:18,800 --> 00:20:24,000 Speaker 1: right for the price we pay, that's amazing, it's affordable. 379 00:20:24,040 --> 00:20:27,280 Speaker 1: And but to find a six bedroom house like that's 380 00:20:27,320 --> 00:20:28,040 Speaker 1: never going to happen. 381 00:20:28,560 --> 00:20:30,920 Speaker 2: Yeah, So it's challenging. 382 00:20:31,400 --> 00:20:35,040 Speaker 3: Specially so that might be some an issue or a 383 00:20:35,080 --> 00:20:37,159 Speaker 3: problem that you want to address a year from now 384 00:20:37,240 --> 00:20:41,119 Speaker 3: or what. Let's just focus on the now part, which 385 00:20:41,200 --> 00:20:44,439 Speaker 3: is this corner in this room that you're sitting in 386 00:20:44,560 --> 00:20:47,280 Speaker 3: right now, which has become kind of like the dumping ground. 387 00:20:47,760 --> 00:20:48,639 Speaker 3: To do with it whatever? 388 00:20:48,760 --> 00:20:49,240 Speaker 1: Right? Yeah. 389 00:20:50,080 --> 00:20:53,320 Speaker 3: So one of the things I like to tell my clients, 390 00:20:53,359 --> 00:20:57,200 Speaker 3: which is, like, things come into our house all the time, 391 00:20:57,440 --> 00:21:00,240 Speaker 3: all day, every day, whether it's an Amazon package, whether 392 00:21:00,280 --> 00:21:08,879 Speaker 3: it's gifts, whether it's purchases, whatever, anythink that's not food related, right, Gifts, purchases, packages. 393 00:21:10,560 --> 00:21:12,760 Speaker 3: Kind of a rule of thumb here is that if 394 00:21:12,880 --> 00:21:15,719 Speaker 3: if it's something, if it's not something that you're so 395 00:21:15,880 --> 00:21:20,240 Speaker 3: excited about, so excited to use, so excited to wear 396 00:21:21,480 --> 00:21:25,359 Speaker 3: that you immediately unpack it and put it on, or 397 00:21:25,440 --> 00:21:28,879 Speaker 3: immediately unpack it and display it, or immediately unpack it 398 00:21:28,920 --> 00:21:29,840 Speaker 3: and put away because you. 399 00:21:29,800 --> 00:21:32,400 Speaker 5: Know you're gonna need it tomorrow or something you probably 400 00:21:32,440 --> 00:21:38,320 Speaker 5: will never use it. So so I like to tell 401 00:21:38,359 --> 00:21:41,000 Speaker 5: people the second you bring something in, and that could 402 00:21:41,040 --> 00:21:43,280 Speaker 5: be junk mail, it could be every day mail, it 403 00:21:43,280 --> 00:21:47,239 Speaker 5: could be a package, whatever, immediately open, throw away, or 404 00:21:47,280 --> 00:21:50,400 Speaker 5: recycle the end of lopes, throw recycle. 405 00:21:50,040 --> 00:21:52,440 Speaker 3: The boxes, and then what do I do with this thing? 406 00:21:52,680 --> 00:21:55,200 Speaker 3: Do I love it? Am I keeping it? 407 00:21:55,320 --> 00:21:55,560 Speaker 2: Yeah? 408 00:21:55,600 --> 00:21:57,199 Speaker 3: No, I love it. I'm totally keeping right. Where does 409 00:21:57,200 --> 00:21:59,600 Speaker 3: it go? It's a specially, it's going in the kitchen. Okay, 410 00:21:59,680 --> 00:22:01,399 Speaker 3: it's a pair of jeans is going in my closet. 411 00:22:02,160 --> 00:22:05,200 Speaker 1: So okay, this is all my theory BECs. I'm trying 412 00:22:05,240 --> 00:22:08,280 Speaker 1: to wrap my head around this. So if you bring 413 00:22:08,320 --> 00:22:11,359 Speaker 1: in something new, But what if you bring in something new. 414 00:22:11,200 --> 00:22:13,439 Speaker 2: I know what you're gonna say, but you don't have 415 00:22:14,000 --> 00:22:14,720 Speaker 2: space for it. 416 00:22:14,720 --> 00:22:16,840 Speaker 1: But you love that piece and you want to keep it, 417 00:22:16,880 --> 00:22:19,040 Speaker 1: then you're going to say you need to make take 418 00:22:19,119 --> 00:22:19,560 Speaker 1: things out. 419 00:22:19,840 --> 00:22:20,840 Speaker 2: What if you don't have time. 420 00:22:22,200 --> 00:22:24,760 Speaker 3: Well, I think you don't have time. If you think 421 00:22:24,760 --> 00:22:27,359 Speaker 3: of it like we said said before, if you're thinking 422 00:22:27,400 --> 00:22:29,600 Speaker 3: about the terms of like every room needs to be 423 00:22:29,680 --> 00:22:31,880 Speaker 3: cleared of stuff that I don't use or don't want 424 00:22:31,960 --> 00:22:34,400 Speaker 3: or don't need. Right, if you're thinking about like as 425 00:22:34,400 --> 00:22:38,679 Speaker 3: a whole house project, it's way too overwhelming, especially for 426 00:22:38,840 --> 00:22:42,439 Speaker 3: a working single mother of fun that you can't you 427 00:22:42,480 --> 00:22:44,240 Speaker 3: have to be like, okay today and I'm going to 428 00:22:44,520 --> 00:22:50,320 Speaker 3: make space in this corner of the parlor and I'm 429 00:22:50,320 --> 00:22:53,000 Speaker 3: going to spend two hours doing it. Tops like literally 430 00:22:53,040 --> 00:22:55,880 Speaker 3: just make quick decisions and have somebody helping you. That's 431 00:22:55,920 --> 00:22:59,600 Speaker 3: what I do, or a friend or whoever, quick decisions 432 00:22:59,600 --> 00:23:01,280 Speaker 3: about it everything. Do you love it, do you use it? 433 00:23:01,280 --> 00:23:03,280 Speaker 3: Do you need it? The answer is no. Where's it 434 00:23:03,280 --> 00:23:06,439 Speaker 3: going to go? Is it going? Is it leaving the 435 00:23:06,480 --> 00:23:09,040 Speaker 3: house with your friend or your organizer to be domained? 436 00:23:09,800 --> 00:23:12,119 Speaker 3: Is it going into your car in a bag for 437 00:23:12,160 --> 00:23:14,119 Speaker 3: a friend because you know they're gonna love it, But 438 00:23:14,119 --> 00:23:16,480 Speaker 3: you've got to get it out of that room and 439 00:23:16,600 --> 00:23:19,359 Speaker 3: just think of it in terms of little projects. Start 440 00:23:19,400 --> 00:23:21,240 Speaker 3: where you are, you know what I mean, it's just 441 00:23:21,320 --> 00:23:25,959 Speaker 3: two hours do that, and then I'm telling you that's momentum, 442 00:23:26,320 --> 00:23:29,760 Speaker 3: like just clearing that one space that I'm pointing over 443 00:23:29,800 --> 00:23:32,199 Speaker 3: here because you said it's this eyeline, it's this corner, right, 444 00:23:32,600 --> 00:23:37,360 Speaker 3: m hm right, Because so just clearing that is going 445 00:23:37,359 --> 00:23:39,840 Speaker 3: to You're going to feel lighter, and it's going to 446 00:23:40,000 --> 00:23:43,400 Speaker 3: motivate you to tackle the next corner, or the next cabinet, 447 00:23:43,480 --> 00:23:46,680 Speaker 3: or the next closet, little baby sets. So don't think 448 00:23:46,680 --> 00:23:49,240 Speaker 3: i've in terms of the whole house page one rewrite. 449 00:23:49,359 --> 00:23:51,080 Speaker 3: That's you'll never do it. 450 00:23:51,080 --> 00:23:54,560 Speaker 1: It's too much, right and predominantly right now, it is 451 00:23:54,680 --> 00:23:58,680 Speaker 1: this one room. Yeah, it's become a catch all for everything. 452 00:23:58,920 --> 00:24:03,520 Speaker 3: Right, So, so, yeah, do you have people offering help 453 00:24:03,680 --> 00:24:06,080 Speaker 3: right now? Do you want me to come over? Yeah, 454 00:24:06,600 --> 00:24:09,879 Speaker 3: with a bottle of wine. 455 00:24:12,080 --> 00:24:14,679 Speaker 1: I feel bad asking my friends because I feel like 456 00:24:14,800 --> 00:24:18,280 Speaker 1: they have their own lives, they have kids, they have animals, 457 00:24:18,080 --> 00:24:22,960 Speaker 1: and it's like or they they'll say like, great, I'll 458 00:24:23,000 --> 00:24:25,440 Speaker 1: come over, but then life happens. It's like, oh my god, no, 459 00:24:25,600 --> 00:24:27,520 Speaker 1: I have to take this kid to the doctor, Oh 460 00:24:27,520 --> 00:24:29,760 Speaker 1: my god, this work thing came up. Let's do it 461 00:24:29,760 --> 00:24:31,480 Speaker 1: next week. And they're like, okay, let me know, and 462 00:24:31,520 --> 00:24:32,400 Speaker 1: then just you. 463 00:24:32,359 --> 00:24:35,720 Speaker 3: Know, right, And that, quite honestly, is that's why. That's 464 00:24:35,720 --> 00:24:37,359 Speaker 3: why professional organizers exist. 465 00:24:37,480 --> 00:24:38,920 Speaker 1: It's better, like that's why. 466 00:24:39,040 --> 00:24:41,320 Speaker 3: Yeah. And it's also easier set a date and just 467 00:24:41,359 --> 00:24:43,760 Speaker 3: do it for us to keep you on tasks. It's 468 00:24:43,920 --> 00:24:47,199 Speaker 3: easier to get distracted when you're when you're doing it 469 00:24:47,200 --> 00:24:49,560 Speaker 3: with a friend. And I agree, you don't want to 470 00:24:49,600 --> 00:24:51,080 Speaker 3: take away from their lives. 471 00:24:51,359 --> 00:24:57,480 Speaker 1: But what if we become friends, then what happens? I 472 00:24:57,760 --> 00:24:59,600 Speaker 1: promise to keep me on tasks? 473 00:25:00,359 --> 00:25:04,040 Speaker 3: Yes, and as your new best friend, I know how 474 00:25:04,040 --> 00:25:08,000 Speaker 3: good it's going to be for you to clear this space. Definitely, 475 00:25:08,000 --> 00:25:10,120 Speaker 3: well good, It's going to be for you mentally, physically, 476 00:25:10,320 --> 00:25:13,520 Speaker 3: all of that. It just it just is. It's you know, 477 00:25:15,680 --> 00:25:19,639 Speaker 3: how old are your kids. They're seventeen and fifteen and 478 00:25:19,760 --> 00:25:23,760 Speaker 3: most certainly drunk, most certainly what trying to kill me? 479 00:25:24,480 --> 00:25:25,280 Speaker 2: Oh, trying to kill you? 480 00:25:25,280 --> 00:25:29,320 Speaker 1: You're right now, but yeah, yeah, they tend to do that. 481 00:25:29,400 --> 00:25:33,439 Speaker 3: Like it changes, not just dayly, like on a moment 482 00:25:33,440 --> 00:25:37,120 Speaker 3: by moment basis when you're within them. So yes, it's hard, 483 00:25:37,400 --> 00:25:38,240 Speaker 3: and you have five of that. 484 00:25:38,520 --> 00:25:42,720 Speaker 1: It's interesting because people say they understand, but I don't 485 00:25:42,760 --> 00:25:47,159 Speaker 1: know if they really do understand unless you're in it, 486 00:25:47,280 --> 00:25:51,199 Speaker 1: and I don't. I don't know, And so I'm very 487 00:25:51,400 --> 00:25:53,199 Speaker 1: like when people are like, oh, come on, you can 488 00:25:53,240 --> 00:25:55,800 Speaker 1: do this for one hour, you can make this plan. 489 00:25:55,920 --> 00:25:59,000 Speaker 1: You can, I want to say, like, you know, they 490 00:25:59,080 --> 00:26:03,159 Speaker 1: just don't. They're not in my life. Yeah, yeah, you know, 491 00:26:03,280 --> 00:26:06,600 Speaker 1: second by second, so they don't quite understand. So I 492 00:26:06,680 --> 00:26:10,480 Speaker 1: try to give that grace. But it really is a 493 00:26:10,680 --> 00:26:14,840 Speaker 1: moving piece my life. It's never a still standstill like it's. 494 00:26:14,840 --> 00:26:19,359 Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, and I think only single mind. There are 495 00:26:19,440 --> 00:26:21,200 Speaker 3: single dads too, and I want to give them a 496 00:26:21,240 --> 00:26:23,320 Speaker 3: shad out because it's just hard when you're a single 497 00:26:23,359 --> 00:26:27,280 Speaker 3: parent period, yes, but I think it's just different for moms, 498 00:26:27,400 --> 00:26:29,520 Speaker 3: Like there's just something like we can't like they have 499 00:26:29,640 --> 00:26:33,000 Speaker 3: a bad morning, we hold on to that all day. 500 00:26:33,359 --> 00:26:35,960 Speaker 3: It affects everything for the rest of the day, even 501 00:26:36,000 --> 00:26:38,560 Speaker 3: if they forget it, like the second they get to school. 502 00:26:38,840 --> 00:26:42,320 Speaker 3: Do you know what I mean? Like, there's just an emotional. 503 00:26:44,920 --> 00:26:50,080 Speaker 1: I know exactly what you mean. And I suffer from that. Yeah, yeah, yeah. 504 00:26:50,160 --> 00:26:53,520 Speaker 1: We take on their energy and then they'll be over it. 505 00:26:54,600 --> 00:26:57,200 Speaker 1: My daughter will confide in me in something, and then 506 00:26:57,400 --> 00:26:59,640 Speaker 1: it'll be in the morning and that night I'll talk 507 00:26:59,680 --> 00:27:01,080 Speaker 1: to and he's like, are you okay? 508 00:27:01,200 --> 00:27:01,720 Speaker 2: What's wrong? 509 00:27:02,520 --> 00:27:04,560 Speaker 1: And I'm like, oh, shoot, I can't sleep at night. 510 00:27:04,600 --> 00:27:07,399 Speaker 1: I'll be sitting there just like not only thinking about 511 00:27:07,560 --> 00:27:08,920 Speaker 1: what do the kids have coming up? What am I 512 00:27:09,000 --> 00:27:12,760 Speaker 1: you know, did I forget anything, but also their emotions 513 00:27:12,840 --> 00:27:15,919 Speaker 1: that whole day, what they're navigating, their relationships, their friends, 514 00:27:16,080 --> 00:27:19,280 Speaker 1: their you know, boyfriend or girlfriend. It's like, oh, I'm 515 00:27:19,320 --> 00:27:23,600 Speaker 1: now taking on more two of my oldest kids, my 516 00:27:23,720 --> 00:27:26,120 Speaker 1: son has a girlfriend and my daughter has a boyfriend. 517 00:27:26,520 --> 00:27:31,040 Speaker 1: And so I feel like, now, you know, those are 518 00:27:31,200 --> 00:27:35,280 Speaker 1: like my extended family. Yes, I love them, love them 519 00:27:35,520 --> 00:27:37,800 Speaker 1: so grateful, but it's like, Okay, so now I have 520 00:27:38,400 --> 00:27:39,840 Speaker 1: seven kids, you know, it's like. 521 00:27:40,320 --> 00:27:41,520 Speaker 3: At your house all the time. 522 00:27:41,640 --> 00:27:41,840 Speaker 1: Yeah. 523 00:27:43,720 --> 00:27:45,760 Speaker 3: Also if you are, I. 524 00:27:45,840 --> 00:27:48,440 Speaker 1: Take on everyone's emotions and then I can't shake it off. 525 00:27:49,480 --> 00:27:50,280 Speaker 1: And I don't know why. 526 00:27:51,000 --> 00:27:53,040 Speaker 3: I don't know why we do this to ourselves. Like 527 00:27:53,160 --> 00:27:55,280 Speaker 3: I'm still on the fence about having kids, and I 528 00:27:55,440 --> 00:28:00,639 Speaker 3: have them and I don't. It's the hardest thing in. 529 00:28:00,720 --> 00:28:04,600 Speaker 1: The world, and their most rewarding things and the most 530 00:28:04,640 --> 00:28:07,360 Speaker 1: rewarding It's hard. It's a hard thing to juggle. There's 531 00:28:07,400 --> 00:28:09,439 Speaker 1: no manuals. I feel like it gets harder as they 532 00:28:09,480 --> 00:28:10,600 Speaker 1: get older, not easier. 533 00:28:11,440 --> 00:28:14,720 Speaker 3: Yeah, it does. It's it's in a totally different way 534 00:28:15,960 --> 00:28:17,920 Speaker 3: because at least when they were little, we could like 535 00:28:19,080 --> 00:28:21,960 Speaker 3: we had some control over you know, their hygiene and 536 00:28:23,400 --> 00:28:25,640 Speaker 3: what they ate, how they fed themselves, how they took 537 00:28:25,680 --> 00:28:28,360 Speaker 3: care of themselves, did they get enough sleep, their screen time, 538 00:28:28,480 --> 00:28:31,639 Speaker 3: all of that stuff. And then they're older. God, if 539 00:28:31,720 --> 00:28:34,000 Speaker 3: only I could you know, take control of that, which 540 00:28:34,040 --> 00:28:35,320 Speaker 3: can't anyway, you know. 541 00:28:35,440 --> 00:28:40,040 Speaker 1: Right, we had like physical control, and we don't have 542 00:28:40,160 --> 00:28:42,320 Speaker 1: that as they get older. So we're trying to like 543 00:28:42,920 --> 00:28:45,520 Speaker 1: do the emotional control and make sure everything's okay and 544 00:28:45,640 --> 00:28:47,560 Speaker 1: it's just, yeah, it's challenging. 545 00:28:47,720 --> 00:28:50,480 Speaker 2: Yeah, going back to my living room. 546 00:28:52,600 --> 00:29:01,880 Speaker 3: I'm really liking this tangent. But I do want to 547 00:29:01,880 --> 00:29:03,600 Speaker 3: say one more thing about that, though, because I do 548 00:29:03,760 --> 00:29:07,000 Speaker 3: think that being a single mom of five is a 549 00:29:07,160 --> 00:29:10,680 Speaker 3: huge piece of this, and as a single mom, I 550 00:29:10,800 --> 00:29:15,520 Speaker 3: can speak from experience that, like, if you're not figuring 551 00:29:15,600 --> 00:29:21,120 Speaker 3: out and your extremely busy schedule life, figuring out a 552 00:29:21,360 --> 00:29:25,280 Speaker 3: small teeny tiny space that is just your own and 553 00:29:25,400 --> 00:29:28,920 Speaker 3: a small teeny tiny chunk of time that is just 554 00:29:29,040 --> 00:29:33,800 Speaker 3: for you. So but it's so important, honest to God, 555 00:29:33,880 --> 00:29:36,640 Speaker 3: for our mental health, it's so important. And that also, 556 00:29:36,840 --> 00:29:39,520 Speaker 3: like freeing that up and giving yourself just those two 557 00:29:40,360 --> 00:29:43,720 Speaker 3: tiny little gifts helps with the space and helps with 558 00:29:43,840 --> 00:29:45,880 Speaker 3: the stuff and all of that because you're taking care 559 00:29:45,880 --> 00:29:48,840 Speaker 3: of yourself first in a small way, and then it 560 00:29:50,200 --> 00:29:51,680 Speaker 3: trickles over, you know what I mean? 561 00:29:52,080 --> 00:29:52,400 Speaker 1: And I do. 562 00:29:53,160 --> 00:29:57,880 Speaker 3: When my kids were younger, I decided to start waking 563 00:29:57,920 --> 00:30:01,000 Speaker 3: up thirty minutes before the I woke up or before 564 00:30:01,000 --> 00:30:04,160 Speaker 3: I had less you, Yeah, and just to have my 565 00:30:04,240 --> 00:30:07,280 Speaker 3: coffee in peace and like read the news or I 566 00:30:07,280 --> 00:30:09,160 Speaker 3: don't do a couple sit ups. I don't know something 567 00:30:09,240 --> 00:30:11,680 Speaker 3: anything that was just for me before they woke up. 568 00:30:12,600 --> 00:30:15,840 Speaker 3: But my point is I've never regretted doing that, taking 569 00:30:15,920 --> 00:30:18,880 Speaker 3: that half hour in the morning and then a space 570 00:30:18,960 --> 00:30:21,520 Speaker 3: that's just my own. And like, even if it's just 571 00:30:21,640 --> 00:30:23,840 Speaker 3: those little things, I want you to try and do that, 572 00:30:24,080 --> 00:30:26,360 Speaker 3: it's so you're taking care of so many other people 573 00:30:26,440 --> 00:30:28,040 Speaker 3: and so many other things that it's just. 574 00:30:29,840 --> 00:30:33,920 Speaker 2: I'm currently my space. My space is my car right now. 575 00:30:34,120 --> 00:30:35,760 Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, just sit on your. 576 00:30:37,240 --> 00:30:39,560 Speaker 2: But it's more it's like my office too. 577 00:30:39,840 --> 00:30:44,520 Speaker 1: Like I will pick up a child, bring the child home, 578 00:30:44,920 --> 00:30:48,040 Speaker 1: get them inside, sit in my driveway and I can 579 00:30:48,080 --> 00:30:50,320 Speaker 1: see in here, so I know, you know, he go 580 00:30:50,480 --> 00:30:53,920 Speaker 1: upstairs to other siblings or home, and then my oldest 581 00:30:54,000 --> 00:30:56,480 Speaker 1: daughter will come out. She's like, they're always worried. 582 00:30:56,800 --> 00:30:59,680 Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, she's okay, Mammy. 583 00:31:00,960 --> 00:31:03,920 Speaker 1: She's like, mom everything because she knows anything could happen 584 00:31:04,000 --> 00:31:08,440 Speaker 1: in my life. You know, everything blows. Yeah, Mom, everything okay. 585 00:31:08,480 --> 00:31:11,040 Speaker 1: And I said, oh yeah, it's just it's quiet in here. 586 00:31:11,360 --> 00:31:15,920 Speaker 1: There's no kids, you know, talking, screaming, walking dogs, barking, cats, 587 00:31:16,000 --> 00:31:19,000 Speaker 1: me owing. I'm getting emails and I'm like, I'm being 588 00:31:19,040 --> 00:31:22,320 Speaker 1: really productive, but I'm literally in my car, in my 589 00:31:22,480 --> 00:31:23,280 Speaker 1: own driveway. 590 00:31:23,560 --> 00:31:26,400 Speaker 3: That's okay, whatever works. Whatever works. 591 00:31:26,840 --> 00:31:28,440 Speaker 1: I always say I should set up a ring light 592 00:31:28,520 --> 00:31:30,400 Speaker 1: in there, I should set up a station. Like I'm 593 00:31:30,440 --> 00:31:32,760 Speaker 1: not doing this while I'm driving people. I'm literally parked 594 00:31:32,800 --> 00:31:34,840 Speaker 1: in my driveway, but I'll be in there for like 595 00:31:35,000 --> 00:31:37,040 Speaker 1: thirty minutes taking care of work. 596 00:31:37,200 --> 00:31:40,800 Speaker 3: It's like that is That's exactly what I'm talking about though. 597 00:31:40,840 --> 00:31:42,920 Speaker 3: If that's the only space that you can find that, 598 00:31:43,040 --> 00:31:46,200 Speaker 3: it is just great. 599 00:31:46,520 --> 00:31:49,040 Speaker 1: But it's not me time, like I'm well, not exactly, 600 00:31:49,200 --> 00:31:51,720 Speaker 1: like I'm not listening to music, I'm not meditating. 601 00:31:51,840 --> 00:31:54,000 Speaker 2: I'm like getting shit done. I'm doing work. 602 00:31:54,560 --> 00:31:57,400 Speaker 3: That's okay because that's quiet load of it. Still, that's 603 00:31:57,440 --> 00:32:00,640 Speaker 3: still lightning a load which has a business and mental 604 00:32:01,480 --> 00:32:05,560 Speaker 3: positive physical and mental effect. Right, getting stuff done is 605 00:32:05,680 --> 00:32:06,160 Speaker 3: self care. 606 00:32:07,880 --> 00:32:09,440 Speaker 2: Okay, I like that, do you know what I mean? 607 00:32:09,800 --> 00:32:14,600 Speaker 3: Yeah, back to the living room. Yes, no, So anyway, 608 00:32:15,320 --> 00:32:16,800 Speaker 3: that's what I think you set aside too. 609 00:32:17,600 --> 00:32:19,520 Speaker 1: We always know a good callback back to living. 610 00:32:23,520 --> 00:32:27,360 Speaker 3: But it's all doable. I just you know, you understand 611 00:32:27,560 --> 00:32:32,880 Speaker 3: why you're in this position. It's normal. You're a mom 612 00:32:33,720 --> 00:32:39,239 Speaker 3: and you know like it happens. So you just got 613 00:32:39,320 --> 00:32:41,600 Speaker 3: to make a commitment to start set aside two hours 614 00:32:42,240 --> 00:32:43,840 Speaker 3: and have somebody come and help you. And if you 615 00:32:43,960 --> 00:32:46,479 Speaker 3: want it to be me, I will do it happily. 616 00:32:47,200 --> 00:32:48,920 Speaker 2: Thank you, thank you. 617 00:32:50,000 --> 00:32:51,640 Speaker 1: Oh can I go back really quick? When you said, 618 00:32:51,720 --> 00:32:54,960 Speaker 1: like put a bag and put in your car, Yeah, 619 00:32:55,280 --> 00:33:01,280 Speaker 1: have stuff. So there's two giant bags that about six 620 00:33:01,400 --> 00:33:04,920 Speaker 1: months ago, I would say. I went through my closet, 621 00:33:05,160 --> 00:33:11,600 Speaker 1: which is just like one of those movable doors fighting thing. 622 00:33:11,720 --> 00:33:12,320 Speaker 1: It's not a bit. 623 00:33:12,440 --> 00:33:14,040 Speaker 2: Yeah. Another thing. 624 00:33:14,120 --> 00:33:16,040 Speaker 1: When I came and looked at the house, I was like, 625 00:33:16,080 --> 00:33:18,920 Speaker 1: it's perfect, it's beautiful. My bedroom's cool. Didn't look good 626 00:33:19,440 --> 00:33:23,160 Speaker 1: at the closets, the closet space all around, like my kids, 627 00:33:23,160 --> 00:33:24,880 Speaker 1: I think have a bigger closet than I know, which 628 00:33:24,920 --> 00:33:30,160 Speaker 1: is crazy literally, but I was like, okay, here's clothes 629 00:33:30,200 --> 00:33:32,600 Speaker 1: I'm never gonna wear. But there were you know, I've 630 00:33:32,640 --> 00:33:35,800 Speaker 1: worn them before sometimes, as you know as an actress, 631 00:33:35,920 --> 00:33:38,240 Speaker 1: like you wear someone to an event, there's a photograph, 632 00:33:38,280 --> 00:33:41,040 Speaker 1: you can't not you can't wear it again, but not 633 00:33:41,200 --> 00:33:43,160 Speaker 1: for a while. And so I'm like, oh, let me 634 00:33:43,200 --> 00:33:43,960 Speaker 1: share with my friends. 635 00:33:44,000 --> 00:33:44,600 Speaker 2: They would love it. 636 00:33:45,080 --> 00:33:47,720 Speaker 1: So I put like two huge bags together and I'm like, okay, 637 00:33:47,800 --> 00:33:50,360 Speaker 1: I'm gonna go to my friend's house. When I see 638 00:33:50,400 --> 00:33:53,000 Speaker 1: her and I put it in my car. I was 639 00:33:53,040 --> 00:33:55,480 Speaker 1: six months ago. Those two bags are still in my car. 640 00:33:56,040 --> 00:33:56,960 Speaker 3: Have you seen your friends? 641 00:33:57,280 --> 00:34:00,240 Speaker 1: No, I've not seen her, but I'm like, I still 642 00:34:00,280 --> 00:34:02,000 Speaker 1: have this bag for her, and I'm like, what am 643 00:34:02,040 --> 00:34:02,480 Speaker 1: I doing? 644 00:34:03,200 --> 00:34:08,759 Speaker 3: You just do it? I mean, if if I were you, 645 00:34:09,080 --> 00:34:11,400 Speaker 3: I would say, hey, I've had these two bags in 646 00:34:11,440 --> 00:34:11,640 Speaker 3: my car. 647 00:34:11,760 --> 00:34:19,800 Speaker 1: She didn't ask me for it, though, I'm just something 648 00:34:19,960 --> 00:34:24,960 Speaker 1: I am doing, Yeah, I would. I drive my Goodwill 649 00:34:25,360 --> 00:34:27,759 Speaker 1: multiple times a week, and in the back of my head, 650 00:34:27,760 --> 00:34:30,960 Speaker 1: I'm like rushing somewhere. I'm like, I should just take 651 00:34:31,000 --> 00:34:33,439 Speaker 1: those two bags there, Like was it a nice thought 652 00:34:33,560 --> 00:34:34,560 Speaker 1: to give it to my friend? 653 00:34:34,760 --> 00:34:37,279 Speaker 2: Yes, but it's not happening in six months. 654 00:34:37,480 --> 00:34:38,480 Speaker 3: Just give it to good Will? 655 00:34:38,760 --> 00:34:41,920 Speaker 1: Yeah, yes, So I just it's things like that that 656 00:34:42,000 --> 00:34:43,320 Speaker 1: I just need to just do. 657 00:34:44,320 --> 00:34:48,120 Speaker 3: So piggyback it onto another errand do you know what 658 00:34:48,160 --> 00:34:52,280 Speaker 3: I mean? Like if there's a there's another spot nearby 659 00:34:52,360 --> 00:34:54,200 Speaker 3: that you know you have to go to next week, 660 00:34:54,280 --> 00:34:57,640 Speaker 3: put in your calendar, drop stuff like right before that appointment, 661 00:34:57,880 --> 00:34:59,680 Speaker 3: you know, I drop a Goodwill you know what I mean? 662 00:34:59,760 --> 00:35:05,000 Speaker 3: Like sort of tack it on to another. I'm constantly 663 00:35:05,080 --> 00:35:07,600 Speaker 3: making donations for clients, So I'm always having to do 664 00:35:07,719 --> 00:35:10,319 Speaker 3: that and I literally think in terms of, oh shit, 665 00:35:10,360 --> 00:35:11,680 Speaker 3: well I have to go to the ups, so I'm 666 00:35:11,719 --> 00:35:14,520 Speaker 3: also going to go to you know, and that kind 667 00:35:14,520 --> 00:35:17,080 Speaker 3: of helps. But yes, I agree with you, like if 668 00:35:17,120 --> 00:35:19,239 Speaker 3: you've been holding onto it because it's it's stuff that 669 00:35:19,360 --> 00:35:21,680 Speaker 3: she may or may not like, but it's been six months, 670 00:35:21,800 --> 00:35:24,480 Speaker 3: I've just been get rid of it. Yeah, and you're 671 00:35:24,480 --> 00:35:26,840 Speaker 3: going to make somebody super happy once you find it. 672 00:35:26,960 --> 00:35:28,279 Speaker 3: I could, will you know what I mean? 673 00:35:29,400 --> 00:35:29,600 Speaker 2: Yes? 674 00:35:30,239 --> 00:35:31,920 Speaker 3: What other things are you going on to? 675 00:35:33,840 --> 00:35:34,879 Speaker 2: That's it? Everything else? 676 00:35:34,960 --> 00:35:36,960 Speaker 1: I just and that one I'm only holding on too 677 00:35:37,040 --> 00:35:39,200 Speaker 1: because I put in the car and just haven't gone 678 00:35:39,239 --> 00:35:39,799 Speaker 1: to her house. 679 00:35:39,880 --> 00:35:42,320 Speaker 3: But when you had the right idea, you really have 680 00:35:42,440 --> 00:35:43,560 Speaker 3: needed to. Yeah. 681 00:35:44,239 --> 00:35:47,840 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah. So now I just need someone that's gonna 682 00:35:48,239 --> 00:35:51,480 Speaker 1: have the time and just be like help me focus 683 00:35:51,560 --> 00:35:54,200 Speaker 1: and be like, okay, right now I'm going to do this, 684 00:35:55,520 --> 00:35:59,960 Speaker 1: keep donate gift like yep, yep, and then move it out. 685 00:36:00,800 --> 00:36:04,440 Speaker 3: Yeah. And I'm telling you, I think I know that 686 00:36:04,560 --> 00:36:07,480 Speaker 3: you're leasing it so in your mind that that space 687 00:36:07,600 --> 00:36:10,880 Speaker 3: might be temporary, that's a good. 688 00:36:12,640 --> 00:36:12,799 Speaker 1: Right. 689 00:36:12,920 --> 00:36:14,640 Speaker 3: And at that part of it where you kind of 690 00:36:14,719 --> 00:36:16,160 Speaker 3: don't want to get rid of consciously. 691 00:36:16,320 --> 00:36:19,920 Speaker 1: Yeah, not that I don't want to get rid of it, No, 692 00:36:20,120 --> 00:36:22,880 Speaker 1: you know what, You're right. Like, for instance, there's a 693 00:36:23,080 --> 00:36:25,960 Speaker 1: chair that doesn't really fit in this living room. But 694 00:36:26,040 --> 00:36:28,319 Speaker 1: I'm like, well, we don't own this house. I don't 695 00:36:28,360 --> 00:36:30,239 Speaker 1: know how long we're staying in this house. Is it 696 00:36:30,280 --> 00:36:31,239 Speaker 1: a year, is it two years? 697 00:36:31,320 --> 00:36:34,320 Speaker 2: Is it five years? I'm not sure. But that's a 698 00:36:34,440 --> 00:36:38,080 Speaker 2: really great chair. What if the next house I need 699 00:36:38,160 --> 00:36:38,360 Speaker 2: it in? 700 00:36:39,080 --> 00:36:41,040 Speaker 1: Yeah, you're right. There are a few pieces like that. 701 00:36:41,200 --> 00:36:43,680 Speaker 1: Like I'm looking at one chair right now, but it 702 00:36:43,800 --> 00:36:45,839 Speaker 1: shouldn't be in here. But I'm like, oh, I really 703 00:36:45,960 --> 00:36:46,279 Speaker 1: love that. 704 00:36:47,120 --> 00:36:51,560 Speaker 3: Yeah, but you just said the magic words. I mean, 705 00:36:51,600 --> 00:36:53,799 Speaker 3: if it's one or two pieces that you really love, 706 00:36:55,000 --> 00:36:57,640 Speaker 3: keep it, then keep it kind of place for it, 707 00:36:58,000 --> 00:37:01,800 Speaker 3: find a room for it, whatever, there's no is it 708 00:37:01,880 --> 00:37:04,319 Speaker 3: taking up space or does it just not look right 709 00:37:04,360 --> 00:37:06,800 Speaker 3: in that room both? Is it just sort of like 710 00:37:06,880 --> 00:37:10,000 Speaker 3: haphazardly kind of sitting around before? Hi? 711 00:37:10,200 --> 00:37:12,879 Speaker 1: I'm looking at her right now, all right, But there's 712 00:37:12,960 --> 00:37:16,440 Speaker 1: just a lovely antique leather chair though that I love. 713 00:37:16,960 --> 00:37:18,800 Speaker 1: But she just doesn't go in this room. 714 00:37:19,040 --> 00:37:23,200 Speaker 3: And there's no space for her in this anywhere else? Yeah, Yeah, 715 00:37:23,360 --> 00:37:25,160 Speaker 3: I don't know. I mean, I'm not going to tell 716 00:37:25,160 --> 00:37:27,640 Speaker 3: you to get rid of a fabulous chair that you've 717 00:37:27,719 --> 00:37:30,160 Speaker 3: had for years that you are madly in love with. 718 00:37:30,320 --> 00:37:33,240 Speaker 3: I just won't. I'd rather have you turned that corner 719 00:37:33,320 --> 00:37:37,440 Speaker 3: into a cute little reading nook that serves the chair. Honestly, Like, 720 00:37:38,160 --> 00:37:41,160 Speaker 3: but I think right now, are you putting stuff on it? 721 00:37:41,320 --> 00:37:42,799 Speaker 1: Is that part of the yeah? 722 00:37:43,040 --> 00:37:46,440 Speaker 3: Yeah, all right. So you clear the space of everything 723 00:37:46,480 --> 00:37:48,160 Speaker 3: that is never not going to be used in that 724 00:37:48,320 --> 00:37:50,520 Speaker 3: room or enjoyed in that room by looking at it 725 00:37:50,640 --> 00:37:56,719 Speaker 3: or right, and that chair becomes its own little nook 726 00:37:57,239 --> 00:37:59,360 Speaker 3: reading nook. That's where you have to love your coffee 727 00:37:59,400 --> 00:38:02,040 Speaker 3: in the morning, you know, like put it a nice 728 00:38:02,120 --> 00:38:04,440 Speaker 3: throw over it and a reading lamp or something and 729 00:38:04,600 --> 00:38:06,000 Speaker 3: just have your coffee there. I don't know, give it 730 00:38:06,040 --> 00:38:09,040 Speaker 3: a honor it, you love it so much, Honor it. 731 00:38:09,120 --> 00:38:11,200 Speaker 3: Make it work in that space, you know, But first 732 00:38:11,239 --> 00:38:13,080 Speaker 3: you get it, get rid of the stuff that's covering it. 733 00:38:13,480 --> 00:38:17,480 Speaker 2: Yeah, you know, I agree, that makes sense. 734 00:38:17,840 --> 00:38:21,080 Speaker 3: It does, and then just kind of go room by 735 00:38:21,200 --> 00:38:24,360 Speaker 3: room in that way, like Okay, this weekend it's the space, 736 00:38:24,480 --> 00:38:26,960 Speaker 3: and then next weekend it's the space, or you know, 737 00:38:27,600 --> 00:38:29,360 Speaker 3: and I also really like to do kind of like 738 00:38:29,440 --> 00:38:32,440 Speaker 3: an end of day sweep, so that wherever your special 739 00:38:32,480 --> 00:38:34,280 Speaker 3: space is, wherever you have your coffee in the morning, 740 00:38:34,360 --> 00:38:36,600 Speaker 3: if you decide to do that before the kids wake up, 741 00:38:37,440 --> 00:38:39,239 Speaker 3: you want to make sure that whole space is clear, 742 00:38:39,640 --> 00:38:42,080 Speaker 3: kitchen counters are clear, there's no dishes in the sink, 743 00:38:42,160 --> 00:38:44,840 Speaker 3: even if it takes ten minutes, just like end of 744 00:38:44,920 --> 00:38:47,080 Speaker 3: day sweeps, and when you're walking, you're starting your day 745 00:38:48,920 --> 00:38:49,600 Speaker 3: in the space. 746 00:38:49,680 --> 00:38:53,279 Speaker 1: But again, this sounds good in theory, I know, well, 747 00:38:53,600 --> 00:38:56,400 Speaker 1: it's just it's hard. It's almost like, you know, at times, 748 00:38:56,520 --> 00:39:00,200 Speaker 1: I feel like I'm running a restaurant, you know, like yeah, yeah, yeah, 749 00:39:01,080 --> 00:39:03,800 Speaker 1: I'm the cook, I'm cleaning up it's. 750 00:39:07,000 --> 00:39:08,839 Speaker 3: And then you're exhausted at the end of the night, 751 00:39:08,960 --> 00:39:11,480 Speaker 3: and so that's the last thing that you want to do, right, 752 00:39:12,960 --> 00:39:14,880 Speaker 3: But yeah, there's some things that only we can do. 753 00:39:15,040 --> 00:39:16,720 Speaker 3: We're the mom. And I think part of your problem, 754 00:39:17,040 --> 00:39:18,759 Speaker 3: like what you were talking about with your kitchen is 755 00:39:18,840 --> 00:39:21,160 Speaker 3: part of the problem is your that space is not 756 00:39:21,239 --> 00:39:23,959 Speaker 3: working for you because you don't have the cabinet space 757 00:39:24,080 --> 00:39:27,720 Speaker 3: or whatever. So I think after that corner, the kitchen 758 00:39:27,880 --> 00:39:30,080 Speaker 3: is super important. That's the hub of the home, right 759 00:39:30,120 --> 00:39:34,000 Speaker 3: the heart of that home. So I think creating that 760 00:39:34,200 --> 00:39:39,080 Speaker 3: space in the kitchen, figuring out how to maximize the story. 761 00:39:38,840 --> 00:39:42,840 Speaker 2: To one whole side of the kitchen. 762 00:39:44,440 --> 00:39:47,719 Speaker 1: They did open windows instead of cats so that you 763 00:39:47,800 --> 00:39:49,200 Speaker 1: could see the beautiful view. 764 00:39:50,480 --> 00:39:53,799 Speaker 3: Which probably adds to how pretty the kitchen is, but that. 765 00:39:53,840 --> 00:39:56,960 Speaker 1: It does, but it literally took off one whole side 766 00:39:57,000 --> 00:39:57,480 Speaker 1: of the kitchen. 767 00:39:58,000 --> 00:40:02,120 Speaker 3: Yeah, okay, this is a really dumb question. But you 768 00:40:02,200 --> 00:40:04,840 Speaker 3: have five kits. You probably have a ton of like 769 00:40:05,080 --> 00:40:07,040 Speaker 3: plates and a ton of mugs and a ton of 770 00:40:07,080 --> 00:40:09,399 Speaker 3: glasses because you need them. I'm a family of free 771 00:40:09,560 --> 00:40:12,200 Speaker 3: so I don't need more than like six, you know, 772 00:40:14,080 --> 00:40:17,880 Speaker 3: But is there a way to purge in your kitchen 773 00:40:17,960 --> 00:40:18,279 Speaker 3: as well? 774 00:40:19,400 --> 00:40:24,600 Speaker 1: Definitely I have done. Okay that I have done, but 775 00:40:28,000 --> 00:40:36,440 Speaker 1: still just housing. Yeah, plates, glasses, bowls, cutlery, everything, you know, spices, 776 00:40:36,600 --> 00:40:38,840 Speaker 1: everything for so I can cook as we cook a 777 00:40:38,920 --> 00:40:46,160 Speaker 1: lot for five children and their friends. It's more than 778 00:40:46,239 --> 00:40:49,040 Speaker 1: the space we have to put stuff. Yeah, and that's 779 00:40:49,280 --> 00:40:51,759 Speaker 1: never going to change like again momentarily. 780 00:40:52,560 --> 00:40:52,759 Speaker 4: Yeah. 781 00:40:52,840 --> 00:40:55,960 Speaker 3: Yeah, Well I was just gonna say, if you want to, 782 00:40:56,080 --> 00:40:59,400 Speaker 3: like send me a video or a picture and I 783 00:40:59,520 --> 00:41:01,560 Speaker 3: can you know of just the space that you do 784 00:41:01,760 --> 00:41:04,880 Speaker 3: have you know, I'd love to give you some thoughts 785 00:41:05,000 --> 00:41:08,480 Speaker 3: or some suggestions of ways to maximize it. I mean, 786 00:41:08,600 --> 00:41:12,200 Speaker 3: like it's it's not an uncommon problem, you know, but 787 00:41:12,760 --> 00:41:16,560 Speaker 3: i'd have to just see it to to give you 788 00:41:16,640 --> 00:41:19,240 Speaker 3: some advice. But that is a that is a problem, 789 00:41:19,840 --> 00:41:23,080 Speaker 3: that's just not an uncommon one. And they're interested, you know. 790 00:41:23,760 --> 00:41:26,040 Speaker 2: Okay, Well, I know my marching orders now. 791 00:41:26,520 --> 00:41:29,239 Speaker 3: Yes, which are repeat that place. 792 00:41:30,560 --> 00:41:33,080 Speaker 1: I'm going to start with a corner. I'm going to 793 00:41:33,120 --> 00:41:36,600 Speaker 1: set two hours aside. I'm going to do I can't 794 00:41:36,719 --> 00:41:39,320 Speaker 1: rewrite the whole story, especially since I don't even know 795 00:41:39,400 --> 00:41:44,040 Speaker 1: the ending yet. And it can that was good any 796 00:41:44,120 --> 00:41:46,840 Speaker 1: it can go on anywhere which way I wanted to. 797 00:41:47,560 --> 00:41:51,359 Speaker 1: But at this point in the storyline, I can start 798 00:41:51,440 --> 00:41:52,760 Speaker 1: to make slow changes. 799 00:41:52,840 --> 00:41:54,759 Speaker 2: I do need people to help me. 800 00:41:56,520 --> 00:42:01,960 Speaker 1: To organize and then to remove. Yeah, and I'm going 801 00:42:02,000 --> 00:42:04,080 Speaker 1: to start with this living room. 802 00:42:04,960 --> 00:42:09,279 Speaker 3: Okay, and I do you did great? And also I 803 00:42:09,440 --> 00:42:11,399 Speaker 3: just want you to repeat this. It's okay to ask 804 00:42:11,440 --> 00:42:11,799 Speaker 3: for help. 805 00:42:13,480 --> 00:42:14,319 Speaker 2: You lost me there. 806 00:42:14,560 --> 00:42:17,160 Speaker 1: No, I'm just kidding. I'm learning. I'm trying. I'm trying 807 00:42:17,239 --> 00:42:19,840 Speaker 1: so hard. It's just going to be the year of 808 00:42:20,040 --> 00:42:24,920 Speaker 1: me asking for help because you know, just doing it 809 00:42:24,960 --> 00:42:27,000 Speaker 1: all on my own. You know when they say it 810 00:42:27,040 --> 00:42:29,040 Speaker 1: takes the village, it takes a village, and once in 811 00:42:29,080 --> 00:42:31,000 Speaker 1: a while, we can't do it all on our own. 812 00:42:31,239 --> 00:42:33,960 Speaker 3: And I at this point there's also part of it, 813 00:42:34,160 --> 00:42:35,840 Speaker 3: and I know you probably have to go, but like 814 00:42:36,000 --> 00:42:38,600 Speaker 3: there's part of it. Where as single moms, I'm going 815 00:42:38,680 --> 00:42:41,960 Speaker 3: to pull that card again. As single moms, it's there's 816 00:42:42,040 --> 00:42:44,719 Speaker 3: almost like we have to prove to our children. We 817 00:42:44,880 --> 00:42:47,520 Speaker 3: want them to see us doing it all by ourselves. 818 00:42:47,560 --> 00:42:49,720 Speaker 3: Like I don't need no stigma. I'm like, I, whatever 819 00:42:49,840 --> 00:42:52,239 Speaker 3: it is, whatever, I want them to see me killing 820 00:42:52,280 --> 00:42:54,759 Speaker 3: the spiders, me taking the or you know, saving that 821 00:42:54,840 --> 00:42:57,759 Speaker 3: from spiders, me taking the bins out, me fixing you know, 822 00:42:58,160 --> 00:43:01,719 Speaker 3: using my drill and fixing something like yeah. So we 823 00:43:01,840 --> 00:43:03,680 Speaker 3: get so into this pattern of like I want to 824 00:43:03,719 --> 00:43:06,400 Speaker 3: prove to them we can do anything right, you know 825 00:43:07,000 --> 00:43:10,600 Speaker 3: that we and that filters into our like I'm not 826 00:43:10,600 --> 00:43:12,440 Speaker 3: going to ask adults for help. I'm not going to 827 00:43:12,440 --> 00:43:14,560 Speaker 3: ask anybody for help. I want to prove to everybody, 828 00:43:14,600 --> 00:43:16,880 Speaker 3: including myself, that I can do everything by myself. But 829 00:43:17,000 --> 00:43:19,680 Speaker 3: like at some point it's at the expense of like 830 00:43:19,760 --> 00:43:22,359 Speaker 3: our own sanity, and mental health and so we can. 831 00:43:22,560 --> 00:43:24,440 Speaker 3: And the people in your life want to help you, 832 00:43:25,000 --> 00:43:28,680 Speaker 3: and that's something I'm trying to get better at. You know, 833 00:43:28,960 --> 00:43:32,080 Speaker 3: the people who love us want to help us, but 834 00:43:32,239 --> 00:43:33,759 Speaker 3: they can't unless we. 835 00:43:33,960 --> 00:43:42,000 Speaker 2: Ask ye angry, Yeah, Tricia, thank you. 836 00:43:42,880 --> 00:43:45,640 Speaker 3: Thank you Annie. If you have any questions, please call 837 00:43:45,760 --> 00:43:47,440 Speaker 3: me or text me or whatever. 838 00:43:47,760 --> 00:43:49,160 Speaker 2: I would love to Yeah, I would love to stay 839 00:43:49,160 --> 00:43:49,680 Speaker 2: in contact. 840 00:43:49,880 --> 00:43:52,880 Speaker 3: I would love to too. This was a pleasure, and 841 00:43:52,960 --> 00:43:54,720 Speaker 3: you're going to be okay, I'll. 842 00:43:54,600 --> 00:43:57,080 Speaker 1: Go for sure, of course, I always am. 843 00:43:58,200 --> 00:44:02,080 Speaker 3: Yes, got to get this stuff at the house, all right, 844 00:44:02,280 --> 00:44:05,080 Speaker 3: make the date, okay, mon as soon as we hang up, 845 00:44:05,160 --> 00:44:16,680 Speaker 3: make the date. Okay, Thank you, Janks Tooring, bye bye. Mmmmmmm.