Speaker 1: Misspelling with Tori Spelling and iHeartRadio podcast. I love when
Speaker 1: things become full circle, and I'm having an official full
Speaker 1: circle moment right now. So when Misspelling started Misspelling Podcast,
Speaker 1: it was two years ago and I had just filed
Speaker 1: for divorce, and as all of you have probably seen
Speaker 1: in the news, I am officially divorced.
Speaker 2: Wow, dare I said it out loud.
Speaker 3: It must be real.
Speaker 1: But it is full circle. It's been quite a journey,
Speaker 1: and I got to say, this is a newbie for
Speaker 1: me in life. When I go and fill out forms
Speaker 1: at the Top's office, I'm going to be circling d
Speaker 1: no s for single all the aboves, a new venture
Speaker 1: in life. I like new adventures. So I gotta say, you, guys,
Speaker 1: this is something never said. This was one of the
Speaker 1: easiest divorces in Hollywood. You can quote me there, Yes,
Speaker 1: screw it, take Hollywood out. This is one of the
Speaker 1: easiest divorces. It's so interesting because Diana and I were
Speaker 1: together twenty years, married eighteen and while we had our
Speaker 1: ups and downs and problems throughout our marriage, We've had
Speaker 1: absolutely no problems throughout the divorce, which is I think
Speaker 1: a test meant to the two of us and wanting
Speaker 1: to really step up and be there for the five
Speaker 1: humans we chose to create out of love and setting
Speaker 1: a good example. Sorry's my voice cracking. I'm a little
Speaker 1: nervous right now. It's like really saying it.
Speaker 2: But yeah, we it's so amicable.
Speaker 1: And I know, you know, the press wants to change
Speaker 1: the narrative, they want drama. Please give us a break.
Speaker 1: We had enough trauma throughout the marriage. Let us have
Speaker 1: a moment. We have no trauma. This is a drama
Speaker 1: free uncoupling and divorce. But yeah, we we didn't even
Speaker 1: do it through the court.
Speaker 3: We did it through.
Speaker 1: Mediation, which if anyone out there can ever do that,
Speaker 1: it's such a it's a retired judge. And you know,
Speaker 1: sometimes things are too you know, toxic between the couples
Speaker 1: that they can't work it out and they have to
Speaker 1: go to court, and that's really unfortunate and unfortunate for them,
Speaker 1: fortunate for the family and the kids. Dean and I
Speaker 1: had none of that, so we did retired judge. He
Speaker 1: was a lovely shout out to my lawyer, Judy. He
Speaker 1: was super caring and nurturing through the whole process. And
Speaker 1: I do want to point out that I have read
Speaker 1: the things online, and you know, people want drama, but
Speaker 1: there are some things that are taken out of context
Speaker 1: and some things that are just misinformation based on perhaps
Speaker 1: the initial filing. Dean and I came out of this
Speaker 1: divorce with a clean slate. Either of us asked each
Speaker 1: other for anything. We walked away as two complete parties
Speaker 1: that are just there to support love, rais and set
Speaker 1: a great example of how families can divorce, uncouple, and
Speaker 1: lead by example and still be there for their family,
Speaker 1: like our kids are the most important. And it makes
Speaker 1: me sad to think that so many marriages and not
Speaker 1: in a good place. And it's sad to think that
Speaker 1: the human that you started this beautiful, fairy tale esque dream,
Speaker 1: because that's every young person's dream, is a fairy tale,
Speaker 1: and to be the lead in your own rom com
Speaker 1: and to create such beauty full memories, to raise families together,
Speaker 1: and then one day it's just done and people walk
Speaker 1: away and they hate each other, they can't see each other,
Speaker 1: you know, it's it's just the kids go back and forth,
Speaker 1: and it makes me sad and I feel beyond blessed that.
Speaker 2: I have the opposite of that.
Speaker 1: I started watching All's Fair last night on Hulu The
Speaker 1: Law Show with Kim Kardashian, niecy Nash, Glenn Close, Namoi Watts,
Speaker 1: Am I leaving anyone out?
Speaker 3: It's Sarah Paulson.
Speaker 2: It's so good, but it really it does highlight.
Speaker 1: The bad marriages and the room avenge and the anger
Speaker 1: and the resentment that is left over when it's all
Speaker 1: said and done. And they do flashbacks of like beautiful
Speaker 1: times and then they cut forward how it ended so
Speaker 1: horribly and unfortunately they're showcasing probably what's a more accurate
Speaker 1: version percentage wise of what goes on with divorce.
Speaker 3: And I don't know.
Speaker 1: I would just say, Dean and I will My voice
Speaker 1: is craggy again. Uh, Dean and I will remain friends.
Speaker 3: We get on better now than we did in our marriage.
Speaker 1: And I think there was just so much marriage is
Speaker 1: such a traditional thing, at least, you know, in my
Speaker 1: mind was checking off the boxes.
Speaker 3: What boxes?
Speaker 1: You know, it's our own unique experience, And yeah, we
Speaker 1: get along better now, uncoupled, unpartnered, just as two humans
Speaker 1: that are friends, that genuinely love and care about each
Speaker 1: other and care about our kids. And I just remember thinking,
Speaker 1: like in the past, what happens with divorces. Like you know,
Speaker 1: people always joke you get two Christmases, you know, you
Speaker 1: get two holidays of everything.
Speaker 3: And I don't remember Dean and I because.
Speaker 2: We both were divorced.
Speaker 1: We both were in first marriages, left those marriages and
Speaker 1: got married to each other, And we always talked about, gosh,
Speaker 1: wouldn't there be a beautiful world if exes could get along.
Speaker 1: I mean, keep in mind, this is the human that
Speaker 1: you chose in life, This is the human you chose
Speaker 1: to create a family with some huge connection there and
Speaker 1: they'll always be. So we always talked about, like, gosh,
Speaker 1: we never talked about if we get divorced, but you know,
Speaker 1: we were like, it would be such a great world.
Speaker 1: Families that could have holiday dinners together, that family trips together,
Speaker 1: when they go on to have new partners eventually all
Speaker 1: come together. What a beautiful extended way of looking at life,
Speaker 1: if it can be done again. Talking about the press,
Speaker 1: like it is ironic that everyone's been telling our story
Speaker 1: since the day Dean and I met, creating their own narrative.
Speaker 3: And I remember.
Speaker 1: People used to say, like, why'd you do a reality show?
Speaker 1: And I said, because I want to take back my power.
Speaker 1: I want to show what the real story is. You know,
Speaker 1: there's good stuff, there's bad stuff, but it's my story
Speaker 1: and we did shows together. It's our story, it's our family.
Speaker 1: And leaving it out for the press to create. I
Speaker 1: mean they had us divorcing. I remember there's there's magazines
Speaker 1: we can pull the headlines, like the tabloids when they
Speaker 1: were in print back then, like we give them six months.
Speaker 1: It was always Tory and Dean divorcing literally and it
Speaker 1: was like, no, I'm not gonna let them manifest my
Speaker 1: story here. And you know, we were just us, so
Speaker 1: I'm sure for the press they were like, ooh, this
Speaker 1: divorce has taken two years.
Speaker 3: Ooh, this is gonna be juicy.
Speaker 1: Sorry, oh sorry, sorry, it's anti climatic for the press,
Speaker 1: not for us, not for our friends, not for our family. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it really isn't There is nothing messy about it, and
Speaker 1: they wanted it to be, which.
Speaker 2: Is really sad. It's sad that we.
Speaker 1: It's an energy boost, I think, a life boost to
Speaker 1: watch other people's drama so you can take the focus
Speaker 1: off yourself. But yeah, we can do that through scripted shows.
Speaker 1: We don't need to do that by creating that for
Speaker 1: real people out there, because you know, our children do
Speaker 1: see things. And I say this for all celebrity couples
Speaker 1: going through divorce, Like the kids see it, the older ones.
Speaker 1: If they don't see it, their friends see it. Their
Speaker 1: friends don't see it, their friends' parents see it and
Speaker 1: tell their friends and then tell them, so be mindful.
Speaker 2: That's all.
Speaker 1: There's there's babies involved, and they'll always be our babies. Hey,
Speaker 1: it's nobody's choice to get a divorce. I mean, it's
Speaker 1: a choice, but it's not. It's not a choice like
Speaker 1: in your heart, Like, hey, I'm gonna go into this
Speaker 1: thinking I can get a divorce.
Speaker 3: You go into this thinking this is life.
Speaker 1: But Dean in some sort will always be one of
Speaker 1: my life partners. He is my human of sorts and
Speaker 1: I love him very much and he loves me very much.
Speaker 1: And our children seeing that it kind of takes the stigmatism,
Speaker 1: the nasty connotation of divorce off the table. It kind
Speaker 1: of gives them a new light on you can love
Speaker 1: and it's part of your journey, and you can lose
Speaker 1: part of that and keep going with that love story
Speaker 1: in a different way, redifine it.
Speaker 3: So that's what we're doing.
Speaker 1: We're redifining divorce and I'm officially divorced.
Speaker 3: Wow.
Speaker 1: It was a beautiful journey. We had so many amazing
Speaker 1: memories together. And I think because we have both worked
Speaker 1: so much on healing individually, that.
Speaker 2: A lot of divorce couples.
Speaker 3: Remembered the bad stuff.
Speaker 1: When I look back now, and he and I were
Speaker 1: talking about this yesterday, when we both look back, we
Speaker 1: remembered the beautiful, great times, why we were together to
Speaker 1: begin with, why we loved each other so hard, and
Speaker 1: why we take the pleasure.
Speaker 3: Of raising these children together. Lead with kindness.
Speaker 1: Sorry, Sorry for once, Tori didn't bring the drama.
Speaker 3: Damn wait, am I losing my hedge? Don't worry.
Speaker 1: I'll bring you more drama, but not from divorce, not
Speaker 1: from that.
Speaker 3: That's it. Happy divorce Day.
Speaker 1: Thank