WEBVTT - Miss Officially Divorced 

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<v Speaker 1>Misspelling with Tori Spelling and iHeartRadio podcast. I love when

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<v Speaker 1>things become full circle, and I'm having an official full

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<v Speaker 1>circle moment right now. So when Misspelling started Misspelling Podcast,

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<v Speaker 1>it was two years ago and I had just filed

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<v Speaker 1>for divorce, and as all of you have probably seen

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<v Speaker 1>in the news, I am officially divorced.

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<v Speaker 2>Wow, dare I said it out loud.

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<v Speaker 3>It must be real.

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<v Speaker 1>But it is full circle. It's been quite a journey,

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<v Speaker 1>and I got to say, this is a newbie for

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<v Speaker 1>me in life. When I go and fill out forms

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<v Speaker 1>at the Top's office, I'm going to be circling d

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<v Speaker 1>no s for single all the aboves, a new venture

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<v Speaker 1>in life. I like new adventures. So I gotta say, you, guys,

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<v Speaker 1>this is something never said. This was one of the

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<v Speaker 1>easiest divorces in Hollywood. You can quote me there, Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>screw it, take Hollywood out. This is one of the

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<v Speaker 1>easiest divorces. It's so interesting because Diana and I were

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<v Speaker 1>together twenty years, married eighteen and while we had our

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<v Speaker 1>ups and downs and problems throughout our marriage, We've had

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<v Speaker 1>absolutely no problems throughout the divorce, which is I think

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<v Speaker 1>a test meant to the two of us and wanting

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<v Speaker 1>to really step up and be there for the five

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<v Speaker 1>humans we chose to create out of love and setting

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<v Speaker 1>a good example. Sorry's my voice cracking. I'm a little

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<v Speaker 1>nervous right now. It's like really saying it.

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<v Speaker 2>But yeah, we it's so amicable.

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<v Speaker 1>And I know, you know, the press wants to change

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<v Speaker 1>the narrative, they want drama. Please give us a break.

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<v Speaker 1>We had enough trauma throughout the marriage. Let us have

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<v Speaker 1>a moment. We have no trauma. This is a drama

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<v Speaker 1>free uncoupling and divorce. But yeah, we we didn't even

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<v Speaker 1>do it through the court.

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<v Speaker 3>We did it through.

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<v Speaker 1>Mediation, which if anyone out there can ever do that,

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<v Speaker 1>it's such a it's a retired judge. And you know,

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<v Speaker 1>sometimes things are too you know, toxic between the couples

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<v Speaker 1>that they can't work it out and they have to

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<v Speaker 1>go to court, and that's really unfortunate and unfortunate for them,

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<v Speaker 1>fortunate for the family and the kids. Dean and I

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<v Speaker 1>had none of that, so we did retired judge. He

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<v Speaker 1>was a lovely shout out to my lawyer, Judy. He

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<v Speaker 1>was super caring and nurturing through the whole process. And

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<v Speaker 1>I do want to point out that I have read

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<v Speaker 1>the things online, and you know, people want drama, but

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<v Speaker 1>there are some things that are taken out of context

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<v Speaker 1>and some things that are just misinformation based on perhaps

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<v Speaker 1>the initial filing. Dean and I came out of this

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<v Speaker 1>divorce with a clean slate. Either of us asked each

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<v Speaker 1>other for anything. We walked away as two complete parties

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<v Speaker 1>that are just there to support love, rais and set

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<v Speaker 1>a great example of how families can divorce, uncouple, and

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<v Speaker 1>lead by example and still be there for their family,

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<v Speaker 1>like our kids are the most important. And it makes

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<v Speaker 1>me sad to think that so many marriages and not

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<v Speaker 1>in a good place. And it's sad to think that

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<v Speaker 1>the human that you started this beautiful, fairy tale esque dream,

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<v Speaker 1>because that's every young person's dream, is a fairy tale,

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<v Speaker 1>and to be the lead in your own rom com

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<v Speaker 1>and to create such beauty full memories, to raise families together,

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<v Speaker 1>and then one day it's just done and people walk

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<v Speaker 1>away and they hate each other, they can't see each other,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, it's it's just the kids go back and forth,

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<v Speaker 1>and it makes me sad and I feel beyond blessed that.

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<v Speaker 2>I have the opposite of that.

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<v Speaker 1>I started watching All's Fair last night on Hulu The

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<v Speaker 1>Law Show with Kim Kardashian, niecy Nash, Glenn Close, Namoi Watts,

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<v Speaker 1>Am I leaving anyone out?

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<v Speaker 3>It's Sarah Paulson.

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<v Speaker 2>It's so good, but it really it does highlight.

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<v Speaker 1>The bad marriages and the room avenge and the anger

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<v Speaker 1>and the resentment that is left over when it's all

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<v Speaker 1>said and done. And they do flashbacks of like beautiful

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<v Speaker 1>times and then they cut forward how it ended so

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<v Speaker 1>horribly and unfortunately they're showcasing probably what's a more accurate

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<v Speaker 1>version percentage wise of what goes on with divorce.

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<v Speaker 3>And I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>I would just say, Dean and I will My voice

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<v Speaker 1>is craggy again. Uh, Dean and I will remain friends.

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<v Speaker 3>We get on better now than we did in our marriage.

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<v Speaker 1>And I think there was just so much marriage is

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<v Speaker 1>such a traditional thing, at least, you know, in my

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<v Speaker 1>mind was checking off the boxes.

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<v Speaker 3>What boxes?

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<v Speaker 1>You know, it's our own unique experience, And yeah, we

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<v Speaker 1>get along better now, uncoupled, unpartnered, just as two humans

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<v Speaker 1>that are friends, that genuinely love and care about each

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<v Speaker 1>other and care about our kids. And I just remember thinking,

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<v Speaker 1>like in the past, what happens with divorces. Like you know,

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<v Speaker 1>people always joke you get two Christmases, you know, you

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<v Speaker 1>get two holidays of everything.

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<v Speaker 3>And I don't remember Dean and I because.

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<v Speaker 2>We both were divorced.

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<v Speaker 1>We both were in first marriages, left those marriages and

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<v Speaker 1>got married to each other, And we always talked about, gosh,

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<v Speaker 1>wouldn't there be a beautiful world if exes could get along.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, keep in mind, this is the human that

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<v Speaker 1>you chose in life, This is the human you chose

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<v Speaker 1>to create a family with some huge connection there and

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<v Speaker 1>they'll always be. So we always talked about, like, gosh,

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<v Speaker 1>we never talked about if we get divorced, but you know,

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<v Speaker 1>we were like, it would be such a great world.

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<v Speaker 1>Families that could have holiday dinners together, that family trips together,

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<v Speaker 1>when they go on to have new partners eventually all

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<v Speaker 1>come together. What a beautiful extended way of looking at life,

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<v Speaker 1>if it can be done again. Talking about the press,

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<v Speaker 1>like it is ironic that everyone's been telling our story

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<v Speaker 1>since the day Dean and I met, creating their own narrative.

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<v Speaker 3>And I remember.

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<v Speaker 1>People used to say, like, why'd you do a reality show?

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<v Speaker 1>And I said, because I want to take back my power.

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<v Speaker 1>I want to show what the real story is. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>there's good stuff, there's bad stuff, but it's my story

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<v Speaker 1>and we did shows together. It's our story, it's our family.

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<v Speaker 1>And leaving it out for the press to create. I

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<v Speaker 1>mean they had us divorcing. I remember there's there's magazines

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<v Speaker 1>we can pull the headlines, like the tabloids when they

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<v Speaker 1>were in print back then, like we give them six months.

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<v Speaker 1>It was always Tory and Dean divorcing literally and it

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<v Speaker 1>was like, no, I'm not gonna let them manifest my

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<v Speaker 1>story here. And you know, we were just us, so

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<v Speaker 1>I'm sure for the press they were like, ooh, this

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<v Speaker 1>divorce has taken two years.

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<v Speaker 3>Ooh, this is gonna be juicy.

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<v Speaker 1>Sorry, oh sorry, sorry, it's anti climatic for the press,

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<v Speaker 1>not for us, not for our friends, not for our family. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>it really isn't There is nothing messy about it, and

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<v Speaker 1>they wanted it to be, which.

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<v Speaker 2>Is really sad. It's sad that we.

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<v Speaker 1>It's an energy boost, I think, a life boost to

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<v Speaker 1>watch other people's drama so you can take the focus

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<v Speaker 1>off yourself. But yeah, we can do that through scripted shows.

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<v Speaker 1>We don't need to do that by creating that for

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<v Speaker 1>real people out there, because you know, our children do

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<v Speaker 1>see things. And I say this for all celebrity couples

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<v Speaker 1>going through divorce, Like the kids see it, the older ones.

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<v Speaker 1>If they don't see it, their friends see it. Their

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<v Speaker 1>friends don't see it, their friends' parents see it and

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<v Speaker 1>tell their friends and then tell them, so be mindful.

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<v Speaker 2>That's all.

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<v Speaker 1>There's there's babies involved, and they'll always be our babies. Hey,

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<v Speaker 1>it's nobody's choice to get a divorce. I mean, it's

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<v Speaker 1>a choice, but it's not. It's not a choice like

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<v Speaker 1>in your heart, Like, hey, I'm gonna go into this

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<v Speaker 1>thinking I can get a divorce.

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<v Speaker 3>You go into this thinking this is life.

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<v Speaker 1>But Dean in some sort will always be one of

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<v Speaker 1>my life partners. He is my human of sorts and

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<v Speaker 1>I love him very much and he loves me very much.

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<v Speaker 1>And our children seeing that it kind of takes the stigmatism,

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<v Speaker 1>the nasty connotation of divorce off the table. It kind

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<v Speaker 1>of gives them a new light on you can love

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<v Speaker 1>and it's part of your journey, and you can lose

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<v Speaker 1>part of that and keep going with that love story

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<v Speaker 1>in a different way, redifine it.

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<v Speaker 3>So that's what we're doing.

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<v Speaker 1>We're redifining divorce and I'm officially divorced.

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<v Speaker 3>Wow.

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<v Speaker 1>It was a beautiful journey. We had so many amazing

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<v Speaker 1>memories together. And I think because we have both worked

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<v Speaker 1>so much on healing individually, that.

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<v Speaker 2>A lot of divorce couples.

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<v Speaker 3>Remembered the bad stuff.

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<v Speaker 1>When I look back now, and he and I were

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<v Speaker 1>talking about this yesterday, when we both look back, we

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<v Speaker 1>remembered the beautiful, great times, why we were together to

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<v Speaker 1>begin with, why we loved each other so hard, and

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<v Speaker 1>why we take the pleasure.

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<v Speaker 3>Of raising these children together. Lead with kindness.

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<v Speaker 1>Sorry, Sorry for once, Tori didn't bring the drama.

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<v Speaker 3>Damn wait, am I losing my hedge? Don't worry.

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<v Speaker 1>I'll bring you more drama, but not from divorce, not

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<v Speaker 1>from that.

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<v Speaker 3>That's it. Happy divorce Day.

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<v Speaker 1>Thank