1 00:00:08,760 --> 00:00:14,640 Speaker 1: Misspelling with Tori Spelling and iHeartRadio podcast. I love when 2 00:00:14,680 --> 00:00:20,040 Speaker 1: things become full circle, and I'm having an official full 3 00:00:20,079 --> 00:00:26,160 Speaker 1: circle moment right now. So when Misspelling started Misspelling Podcast, 4 00:00:27,080 --> 00:00:30,840 Speaker 1: it was two years ago and I had just filed 5 00:00:31,480 --> 00:00:37,760 Speaker 1: for divorce, and as all of you have probably seen 6 00:00:37,800 --> 00:00:41,640 Speaker 1: in the news, I am officially divorced. 7 00:00:43,159 --> 00:00:45,600 Speaker 2: Wow, dare I said it out loud. 8 00:00:45,840 --> 00:00:46,680 Speaker 3: It must be real. 9 00:00:48,080 --> 00:00:50,800 Speaker 1: But it is full circle. It's been quite a journey, 10 00:00:51,600 --> 00:00:56,440 Speaker 1: and I got to say, this is a newbie for 11 00:00:56,520 --> 00:00:59,640 Speaker 1: me in life. When I go and fill out forms 12 00:00:59,640 --> 00:01:03,200 Speaker 1: at the Top's office, I'm going to be circling d 13 00:01:04,720 --> 00:01:11,360 Speaker 1: no s for single all the aboves, a new venture 14 00:01:11,400 --> 00:01:19,639 Speaker 1: in life. I like new adventures. So I gotta say, you, guys, 15 00:01:21,640 --> 00:01:26,200 Speaker 1: this is something never said. This was one of the 16 00:01:26,240 --> 00:01:31,640 Speaker 1: easiest divorces in Hollywood. You can quote me there, Yes, 17 00:01:31,720 --> 00:01:37,480 Speaker 1: screw it, take Hollywood out. This is one of the 18 00:01:37,520 --> 00:01:42,119 Speaker 1: easiest divorces. It's so interesting because Diana and I were 19 00:01:42,120 --> 00:01:47,800 Speaker 1: together twenty years, married eighteen and while we had our 20 00:01:47,880 --> 00:01:52,760 Speaker 1: ups and downs and problems throughout our marriage, We've had 21 00:01:52,800 --> 00:01:59,560 Speaker 1: absolutely no problems throughout the divorce, which is I think 22 00:01:59,600 --> 00:02:05,120 Speaker 1: a test meant to the two of us and wanting 23 00:02:05,240 --> 00:02:09,560 Speaker 1: to really step up and be there for the five 24 00:02:09,680 --> 00:02:14,639 Speaker 1: humans we chose to create out of love and setting 25 00:02:14,720 --> 00:02:17,960 Speaker 1: a good example. Sorry's my voice cracking. I'm a little 26 00:02:17,960 --> 00:02:21,000 Speaker 1: nervous right now. It's like really saying it. 27 00:02:21,520 --> 00:02:25,720 Speaker 2: But yeah, we it's so amicable. 28 00:02:25,800 --> 00:02:29,480 Speaker 1: And I know, you know, the press wants to change 29 00:02:29,520 --> 00:02:33,120 Speaker 1: the narrative, they want drama. Please give us a break. 30 00:02:33,120 --> 00:02:36,680 Speaker 1: We had enough trauma throughout the marriage. Let us have 31 00:02:36,720 --> 00:02:39,320 Speaker 1: a moment. We have no trauma. This is a drama 32 00:02:39,480 --> 00:02:46,560 Speaker 1: free uncoupling and divorce. But yeah, we we didn't even 33 00:02:46,560 --> 00:02:47,360 Speaker 1: do it through the court. 34 00:02:49,040 --> 00:02:50,240 Speaker 3: We did it through. 35 00:02:50,120 --> 00:02:55,120 Speaker 1: Mediation, which if anyone out there can ever do that, 36 00:02:55,240 --> 00:02:59,880 Speaker 1: it's such a it's a retired judge. And you know, 37 00:03:00,080 --> 00:03:05,600 Speaker 1: sometimes things are too you know, toxic between the couples 38 00:03:05,639 --> 00:03:07,680 Speaker 1: that they can't work it out and they have to 39 00:03:07,680 --> 00:03:10,720 Speaker 1: go to court, and that's really unfortunate and unfortunate for them, 40 00:03:10,960 --> 00:03:14,480 Speaker 1: fortunate for the family and the kids. Dean and I 41 00:03:14,520 --> 00:03:20,840 Speaker 1: had none of that, so we did retired judge. He 42 00:03:21,000 --> 00:03:25,280 Speaker 1: was a lovely shout out to my lawyer, Judy. He 43 00:03:25,400 --> 00:03:31,359 Speaker 1: was super caring and nurturing through the whole process. And 44 00:03:31,880 --> 00:03:34,800 Speaker 1: I do want to point out that I have read 45 00:03:34,920 --> 00:03:41,320 Speaker 1: the things online, and you know, people want drama, but 46 00:03:41,560 --> 00:03:43,960 Speaker 1: there are some things that are taken out of context 47 00:03:44,840 --> 00:03:49,880 Speaker 1: and some things that are just misinformation based on perhaps 48 00:03:50,280 --> 00:03:57,040 Speaker 1: the initial filing. Dean and I came out of this 49 00:03:57,080 --> 00:04:01,920 Speaker 1: divorce with a clean slate. Either of us asked each 50 00:04:01,920 --> 00:04:07,440 Speaker 1: other for anything. We walked away as two complete parties 51 00:04:08,360 --> 00:04:12,520 Speaker 1: that are just there to support love, rais and set 52 00:04:12,560 --> 00:04:18,159 Speaker 1: a great example of how families can divorce, uncouple, and 53 00:04:18,279 --> 00:04:23,839 Speaker 1: lead by example and still be there for their family, 54 00:04:23,960 --> 00:04:28,960 Speaker 1: like our kids are the most important. And it makes 55 00:04:28,960 --> 00:04:37,080 Speaker 1: me sad to think that so many marriages and not 56 00:04:37,200 --> 00:04:41,440 Speaker 1: in a good place. And it's sad to think that 57 00:04:41,560 --> 00:04:47,920 Speaker 1: the human that you started this beautiful, fairy tale esque dream, 58 00:04:48,720 --> 00:04:53,480 Speaker 1: because that's every young person's dream, is a fairy tale, 59 00:04:53,680 --> 00:04:56,640 Speaker 1: and to be the lead in your own rom com 60 00:04:57,680 --> 00:05:02,159 Speaker 1: and to create such beauty full memories, to raise families together, 61 00:05:02,839 --> 00:05:06,880 Speaker 1: and then one day it's just done and people walk 62 00:05:06,920 --> 00:05:10,719 Speaker 1: away and they hate each other, they can't see each other, 63 00:05:11,000 --> 00:05:13,680 Speaker 1: you know, it's it's just the kids go back and forth, 64 00:05:14,920 --> 00:05:20,960 Speaker 1: and it makes me sad and I feel beyond blessed that. 65 00:05:21,279 --> 00:05:22,960 Speaker 2: I have the opposite of that. 66 00:05:32,040 --> 00:05:35,560 Speaker 1: I started watching All's Fair last night on Hulu The 67 00:05:35,680 --> 00:05:42,520 Speaker 1: Law Show with Kim Kardashian, niecy Nash, Glenn Close, Namoi Watts, 68 00:05:45,200 --> 00:05:46,280 Speaker 1: Am I leaving anyone out? 69 00:05:46,760 --> 00:05:48,159 Speaker 3: It's Sarah Paulson. 70 00:05:48,320 --> 00:05:53,719 Speaker 2: It's so good, but it really it does highlight. 71 00:05:54,400 --> 00:06:02,000 Speaker 1: The bad marriages and the room avenge and the anger 72 00:06:02,279 --> 00:06:07,400 Speaker 1: and the resentment that is left over when it's all 73 00:06:07,400 --> 00:06:11,040 Speaker 1: said and done. And they do flashbacks of like beautiful 74 00:06:11,360 --> 00:06:13,960 Speaker 1: times and then they cut forward how it ended so 75 00:06:14,120 --> 00:06:20,880 Speaker 1: horribly and unfortunately they're showcasing probably what's a more accurate 76 00:06:21,000 --> 00:06:24,279 Speaker 1: version percentage wise of what goes on with divorce. 77 00:06:25,000 --> 00:06:25,960 Speaker 3: And I don't know. 78 00:06:27,640 --> 00:06:31,240 Speaker 1: I would just say, Dean and I will My voice 79 00:06:31,320 --> 00:06:35,599 Speaker 1: is craggy again. Uh, Dean and I will remain friends. 80 00:06:36,960 --> 00:06:39,400 Speaker 3: We get on better now than we did in our marriage. 81 00:06:39,839 --> 00:06:42,680 Speaker 1: And I think there was just so much marriage is 82 00:06:43,520 --> 00:06:49,719 Speaker 1: such a traditional thing, at least, you know, in my 83 00:06:49,920 --> 00:06:52,920 Speaker 1: mind was checking off the boxes. 84 00:06:53,040 --> 00:06:53,760 Speaker 3: What boxes? 85 00:06:53,839 --> 00:06:58,760 Speaker 1: You know, it's our own unique experience, And yeah, we 86 00:06:59,160 --> 00:07:05,800 Speaker 1: get along better now, uncoupled, unpartnered, just as two humans 87 00:07:05,800 --> 00:07:09,720 Speaker 1: that are friends, that genuinely love and care about each 88 00:07:09,720 --> 00:07:14,640 Speaker 1: other and care about our kids. And I just remember thinking, 89 00:07:14,720 --> 00:07:21,160 Speaker 1: like in the past, what happens with divorces. Like you know, 90 00:07:21,240 --> 00:07:24,200 Speaker 1: people always joke you get two Christmases, you know, you 91 00:07:24,280 --> 00:07:26,880 Speaker 1: get two holidays of everything. 92 00:07:27,640 --> 00:07:29,920 Speaker 3: And I don't remember Dean and I because. 93 00:07:29,680 --> 00:07:31,240 Speaker 2: We both were divorced. 94 00:07:32,480 --> 00:07:36,680 Speaker 1: We both were in first marriages, left those marriages and 95 00:07:36,720 --> 00:07:41,800 Speaker 1: got married to each other, And we always talked about, gosh, 96 00:07:42,000 --> 00:07:48,960 Speaker 1: wouldn't there be a beautiful world if exes could get along. 97 00:07:50,360 --> 00:07:53,120 Speaker 1: I mean, keep in mind, this is the human that 98 00:07:53,240 --> 00:07:56,840 Speaker 1: you chose in life, This is the human you chose 99 00:07:56,920 --> 00:08:01,640 Speaker 1: to create a family with some huge connection there and 100 00:08:01,640 --> 00:08:05,400 Speaker 1: they'll always be. So we always talked about, like, gosh, 101 00:08:06,080 --> 00:08:09,480 Speaker 1: we never talked about if we get divorced, but you know, 102 00:08:09,520 --> 00:08:11,360 Speaker 1: we were like, it would be such a great world. 103 00:08:11,880 --> 00:08:18,600 Speaker 1: Families that could have holiday dinners together, that family trips together, 104 00:08:19,320 --> 00:08:23,200 Speaker 1: when they go on to have new partners eventually all 105 00:08:23,240 --> 00:08:27,720 Speaker 1: come together. What a beautiful extended way of looking at life, 106 00:08:28,280 --> 00:08:30,679 Speaker 1: if it can be done again. Talking about the press, 107 00:08:30,720 --> 00:08:36,200 Speaker 1: like it is ironic that everyone's been telling our story 108 00:08:36,280 --> 00:08:40,080 Speaker 1: since the day Dean and I met, creating their own narrative. 109 00:08:40,960 --> 00:08:42,520 Speaker 3: And I remember. 110 00:08:42,200 --> 00:08:45,559 Speaker 1: People used to say, like, why'd you do a reality show? 111 00:08:45,679 --> 00:08:48,600 Speaker 1: And I said, because I want to take back my power. 112 00:08:48,640 --> 00:08:52,520 Speaker 1: I want to show what the real story is. You know, 113 00:08:53,120 --> 00:08:56,440 Speaker 1: there's good stuff, there's bad stuff, but it's my story 114 00:08:56,920 --> 00:08:59,640 Speaker 1: and we did shows together. It's our story, it's our family. 115 00:09:01,200 --> 00:09:04,240 Speaker 1: And leaving it out for the press to create. I 116 00:09:04,280 --> 00:09:09,079 Speaker 1: mean they had us divorcing. I remember there's there's magazines 117 00:09:09,080 --> 00:09:12,200 Speaker 1: we can pull the headlines, like the tabloids when they 118 00:09:12,200 --> 00:09:17,000 Speaker 1: were in print back then, like we give them six months. 119 00:09:18,000 --> 00:09:23,120 Speaker 1: It was always Tory and Dean divorcing literally and it 120 00:09:23,160 --> 00:09:27,440 Speaker 1: was like, no, I'm not gonna let them manifest my 121 00:09:27,520 --> 00:09:33,360 Speaker 1: story here. And you know, we were just us, so 122 00:09:34,280 --> 00:09:37,040 Speaker 1: I'm sure for the press they were like, ooh, this 123 00:09:37,160 --> 00:09:39,040 Speaker 1: divorce has taken two years. 124 00:09:39,240 --> 00:09:41,120 Speaker 3: Ooh, this is gonna be juicy. 125 00:09:43,080 --> 00:09:49,240 Speaker 1: Sorry, oh sorry, sorry, it's anti climatic for the press, 126 00:09:49,520 --> 00:09:54,200 Speaker 1: not for us, not for our friends, not for our family. Yeah, 127 00:09:54,600 --> 00:09:59,640 Speaker 1: it really isn't There is nothing messy about it, and 128 00:09:59,679 --> 00:10:01,880 Speaker 1: they wanted it to be, which. 129 00:10:01,679 --> 00:10:05,160 Speaker 2: Is really sad. It's sad that we. 130 00:10:07,480 --> 00:10:11,240 Speaker 1: It's an energy boost, I think, a life boost to 131 00:10:11,320 --> 00:10:13,520 Speaker 1: watch other people's drama so you can take the focus 132 00:10:13,559 --> 00:10:18,360 Speaker 1: off yourself. But yeah, we can do that through scripted shows. 133 00:10:18,360 --> 00:10:21,880 Speaker 1: We don't need to do that by creating that for 134 00:10:22,040 --> 00:10:24,760 Speaker 1: real people out there, because you know, our children do 135 00:10:24,840 --> 00:10:28,640 Speaker 1: see things. And I say this for all celebrity couples 136 00:10:29,400 --> 00:10:33,720 Speaker 1: going through divorce, Like the kids see it, the older ones. 137 00:10:34,040 --> 00:10:36,880 Speaker 1: If they don't see it, their friends see it. Their 138 00:10:36,920 --> 00:10:38,760 Speaker 1: friends don't see it, their friends' parents see it and 139 00:10:38,760 --> 00:10:42,080 Speaker 1: tell their friends and then tell them, so be mindful. 140 00:10:42,280 --> 00:10:42,760 Speaker 2: That's all. 141 00:10:43,840 --> 00:10:48,560 Speaker 1: There's there's babies involved, and they'll always be our babies. Hey, 142 00:10:48,760 --> 00:10:52,839 Speaker 1: it's nobody's choice to get a divorce. I mean, it's 143 00:10:52,840 --> 00:10:55,640 Speaker 1: a choice, but it's not. It's not a choice like 144 00:10:56,120 --> 00:10:58,320 Speaker 1: in your heart, Like, hey, I'm gonna go into this 145 00:10:58,480 --> 00:10:59,480 Speaker 1: thinking I can get a divorce. 146 00:10:59,480 --> 00:11:01,040 Speaker 3: You go into this thinking this is life. 147 00:11:01,800 --> 00:11:06,720 Speaker 1: But Dean in some sort will always be one of 148 00:11:06,720 --> 00:11:11,560 Speaker 1: my life partners. He is my human of sorts and 149 00:11:11,600 --> 00:11:14,720 Speaker 1: I love him very much and he loves me very much. 150 00:11:14,760 --> 00:11:20,599 Speaker 1: And our children seeing that it kind of takes the stigmatism, 151 00:11:21,200 --> 00:11:25,560 Speaker 1: the nasty connotation of divorce off the table. It kind 152 00:11:25,559 --> 00:11:29,120 Speaker 1: of gives them a new light on you can love 153 00:11:29,280 --> 00:11:31,720 Speaker 1: and it's part of your journey, and you can lose 154 00:11:31,760 --> 00:11:34,480 Speaker 1: part of that and keep going with that love story 155 00:11:34,840 --> 00:11:37,720 Speaker 1: in a different way, redifine it. 156 00:11:39,160 --> 00:11:40,320 Speaker 3: So that's what we're doing. 157 00:11:40,360 --> 00:11:45,240 Speaker 1: We're redifining divorce and I'm officially divorced. 158 00:11:46,440 --> 00:11:47,000 Speaker 3: Wow. 159 00:11:47,640 --> 00:11:51,719 Speaker 1: It was a beautiful journey. We had so many amazing 160 00:11:51,800 --> 00:11:57,360 Speaker 1: memories together. And I think because we have both worked 161 00:11:57,400 --> 00:12:01,559 Speaker 1: so much on healing individually, that. 162 00:12:03,880 --> 00:12:05,440 Speaker 2: A lot of divorce couples. 163 00:12:05,120 --> 00:12:07,000 Speaker 3: Remembered the bad stuff. 164 00:12:08,000 --> 00:12:09,959 Speaker 1: When I look back now, and he and I were 165 00:12:10,080 --> 00:12:14,160 Speaker 1: talking about this yesterday, when we both look back, we 166 00:12:14,240 --> 00:12:18,240 Speaker 1: remembered the beautiful, great times, why we were together to 167 00:12:18,280 --> 00:12:22,800 Speaker 1: begin with, why we loved each other so hard, and 168 00:12:22,880 --> 00:12:26,000 Speaker 1: why we take the pleasure. 169 00:12:27,000 --> 00:12:30,760 Speaker 3: Of raising these children together. Lead with kindness. 170 00:12:32,679 --> 00:12:36,480 Speaker 1: Sorry, Sorry for once, Tori didn't bring the drama. 171 00:12:36,640 --> 00:12:41,280 Speaker 3: Damn wait, am I losing my hedge? Don't worry. 172 00:12:41,440 --> 00:12:45,400 Speaker 1: I'll bring you more drama, but not from divorce, not 173 00:12:45,480 --> 00:12:46,479 Speaker 1: from that. 174 00:12:46,480 --> 00:12:48,760 Speaker 3: That's it. Happy divorce Day. 175 00:12:49,040 --> 00:12:49,280 Speaker 1: Thank