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Speaker 1: going to read this one right here, right now. You

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Speaker 2: We got it for you. Hear it in Strawberry Letter.

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Speaker 1: Thank you, nephew.

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Speaker 2: Subject. I give her what she needs.

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Speaker 1: Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm married to a woman that doesn't

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Speaker 1: care what I do in my spare time. She's reserved

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Speaker 1: and keeps to herself. She is not on any social media,

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Speaker 1: and she only hangs out with her parents. All I

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Speaker 1: have to do is take care of her basic needs,

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Speaker 1: and she's fine. Her father suspected that I was up

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Speaker 1: to no good last summer, and he drove my wife

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Speaker 1: up to the lounge I hang out at. They look

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Speaker 1: so goofy getting out of the car and walking in

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Speaker 1: ashamed and quickly said that her father made her come

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Speaker 1: dad stopped speaking. I ended up breaking up with my

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Speaker 1: side chick after that day because of her meddling daddy.

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Speaker 1: Then again, in mid January, I got busted driving a

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Speaker 1: lady friend's car.

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Speaker 2: I was at the car wash.

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Speaker 1: My father in law pulled up on me and said

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Speaker 1: I was busted, and he drove away. I went by

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Speaker 1: his house before I took the car back, and I

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Speaker 1: told him that as a man, he should stay out

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Speaker 1: of my business because I keep his daughter happy. I

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Speaker 1: told him that I give her what she needs, and

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Speaker 1: I give her what he needs, and he gives her grief.

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Speaker 1: He asked, he acts like his daughter is too good

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Speaker 1: for me, but I married her after she had a

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Speaker 1: following me and stay out of my business. I want

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Speaker 1: to get my wife from under her parents' influence. Our

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Speaker 1: marriage would be so much better. I'm not cheating all

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Speaker 1: the time, but I do entertain ladies when I want to.

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Speaker 1: If I mess up, I'm never leaving my wife. What's

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Speaker 1: the big deal? Why would a man try to mess

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Speaker 1: up another man's union? What.

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Speaker 2: I'm sure.

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Speaker 1: I'm sure he would mind his business if your wife

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Speaker 1: didn't happen to be his daughter. Okay, this is not

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Speaker 1: just any man, sir. This is your wife's father. He's

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Speaker 1: not one of your boys. Your boys, yes, they would

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Speaker 1: mind their own business and not say anything. But you

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Speaker 1: are crazy to think that cheating is okay with your

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Speaker 1: It's not that he's in your business like that, but

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Speaker 1: as her dad, he's not gonna just sit by and

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Speaker 1: say it or do anything. Now, is he doing the most, Yes,

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Speaker 1: he is doing the most, but it's not gonna happen

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Speaker 1: that he's just gonna sit by. Just think if you

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Speaker 1: had a daughter, I'm sure you would do the same

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Speaker 1: thing that her father is doing, or worse.

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Speaker 2: I mean, what father wouldn't. You don't get the right.

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Speaker 1: To do whatever just because you take care of her

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Speaker 1: basic needs. That's the very least you can do. If

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Speaker 1: she has a job, she can probably do that herself,

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Speaker 1: mister basic. And so what you married her after she

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Speaker 1: had the pastor's baby, That was shade. That was shade

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Speaker 1: that you said that, but it still doesn't mean she

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Speaker 1: should be so grateful to you that you know she's

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Speaker 1: gonna give you a pass to cheat. She doesn't owe

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Speaker 1: you anything. She's gonna look away when you're cheating. No,

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Speaker 1: that's not how this goes. What you're doing is disrespectful,

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Speaker 1: and her silence doesn't mean she's cool with it.

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Speaker 2: Steve this dude in this letter, man, it's just delusional. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: completely one thousand percent delusional. And every argument that he

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Speaker 2: that's crazy, man. I mean, brih, you just all through

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Speaker 2: the letter you're married to a woman that doesn't care

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Speaker 2: what I do in my spare time. What, bro, that's

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Speaker 2: not true. You're not married to a person that don't

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Speaker 2: care what you do in your spare time. So that's

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Speaker 2: a lie. She's reserved, keep to herself, she ain't on

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Speaker 2: social media, she only hang out with her parents. All

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Speaker 2: I gotta do is take care of her basic needs

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Speaker 2: and she's fine as she ever told you that dog. Nope,

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Speaker 2: that's another story that you created, another narrative that you

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Speaker 2: put out to support what you're doing. Her father suspected

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Speaker 2: you was up to no good last summer, and he

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Speaker 2: out at. They look so goofy getting out the car

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Speaker 2: that's what you drew from that. When they got out

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Speaker 2: the car, they look goofy. Another another scenario to support

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Speaker 2: your narrative. They look goofy getting out the car as

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Speaker 2: and quickly said her father made her come and told

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Speaker 2: her I was hanging out with a woman at the lounge.

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Speaker 2: So you're saying that your wife quickly apologized because her

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Speaker 2: further supports your narrative that she don't care what you

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Speaker 2: do in your spare time. But bruh, she at the

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Speaker 2: my side chick after that day cause her meddling daddy. Oh,

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Speaker 2: that's the coldest lying in here. So you was cheating,

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Speaker 2: But you ended up breaking up with your side chick

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Speaker 2: cause a hudding lind daddy. What so Brah Again, everything

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Speaker 2: and the way you tell it is support your narrative

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Speaker 2: that your wife don't care and that you take care

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Speaker 2: of her basic needs. But it ain't stopped there. Then again,

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Speaker 2: in mid January, I got busted driving the lady friend's

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Speaker 2: pulled up on me and said, busted and drove off.

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Speaker 2: Hiy all up here at this car washed. When we

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Speaker 2: come back, man, we'll finish this ridiculous letter.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, all right, hang on, we'll have part two of

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Speaker 1: your response coming up. Steve at twenty three minutes after

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Speaker 1: the hour, Today's strawberry letter subject I give her what

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Speaker 1: Today's Strawberry Letter, the subject is I give her what

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Speaker 2: Yeah, this is the dude that first of all, he's ridiculous,

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Speaker 2: he's delusional. He's married to this woman who he thinks

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Speaker 2: stays to herself, and she doesn't care what he does

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Speaker 2: in his spare time. She's not on social media anything.

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Speaker 2: So one day her daddy, who suspected he was up

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Speaker 2: to no good, put her in the car and drove

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Speaker 2: she don't want to be there, they look so goofy

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Speaker 2: That looked goofy. A father and a daughter coming to

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Speaker 2: because first thing she said was I'm ashamed to be

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Speaker 2: in here. He made me come and I'm sitting up

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Speaker 2: in here. Man, that was so crazy they trying to

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Speaker 2: do that. My wife don't even care about that. And

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Speaker 2: then so then right after that, I had to I

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Speaker 2: That's first, I'm gonna quit talking to him. Bringing his

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Speaker 2: with my say man, And this is what I'm curious about.

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Speaker 2: When y'all type these letters into the show. When you

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Speaker 2: get through typing it, do you read it? Then again?

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Speaker 2: In Me and January, I got busted driving a lady

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Speaker 2: friend's car. I was at car washed. My father in

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Speaker 2: and then he drove away. Man, who do that? I'm

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Speaker 2: at the car wash? You gonna roll up on me?

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Speaker 2: And so before I went home, I went by his

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Speaker 2: as a man, he should stay out of my business

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Speaker 2: because I keep his daughter happy. Hey, man, you did you?

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Speaker 2: You don't? You don't know that this is her daddy

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Speaker 2: you're talking to How does a la escaping you? First

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Speaker 2: of all, they look so goofy getting out the car

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Speaker 2: coming up to the line. It's her daddy. He rolled

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Speaker 2: up on you at the car wash. That's her daddy.

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Speaker 2: Then you go by his house for you took your

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Speaker 2: lady Frid's car back and told him, as a man,

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Speaker 2: keep his daughter happy. That's her daddy. Noog you lucky.

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Speaker 2: You ain't getting rolled, man, I'm telling you lucky. Something

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Speaker 2: he I told him that I give her what she

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Speaker 2: daughter too good for me? Woeman, humlabr. Where in this

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Speaker 2: letter have you stated anything that dictates that you deserve

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Speaker 2: a good woman. See it's amazing how people when they

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Speaker 2: craft they story that is so leaning to fit their narrative.

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Speaker 2: He acts like his daughter too good for me? Bruh,

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Speaker 2: what have you done besides claim to take care of

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Speaker 2: All Right, here we go. He acts like his daughter. Hoo.

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Speaker 2: But I married her after she had a baby by

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Speaker 2: her pastor. Okay, and you won't What for that? You want? Girl?

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Speaker 2: Scott cookies? You want to flag, you want to parade day?

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Speaker 2: What you want? You want a toast to the food?

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Speaker 2: Just tell me what you want, bro. It don't matter

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Speaker 2: who she had that baby. But that's a lot of

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Speaker 2: women get married, got babies already. What where that come from?

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Speaker 2: But you just tried to throw that out to justify

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Speaker 2: how how good of a man you are because I

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Speaker 2: married this woman had this baby by her pastor. What

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Speaker 2: did it?

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Speaker 1: Do it?

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Speaker 2: Make? Who the baby by dom? I pleaded with him

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Speaker 2: to stop following me and stay out of my beds. Oh,

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Speaker 2: now you beg. I want to get my wife from

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Speaker 2: under her parents influence and into what yours, because dog,

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Speaker 2: you trifling, Our marriage would be so much better. I'm

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Speaker 2: not cheating. Up here we go. I'm not cheating all

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Speaker 2: the time, right, dogg? Did you read any of this letter?

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Speaker 2: But I do entertain ladies when I want to. If

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Speaker 2: I mess up, I'm never leaving my wife. What's the

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Speaker 2: big deal. I'm cheating on her and I ain't gonna

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Speaker 2: leave her. Why would a man try to mess up

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Speaker 2: another man's union. First of all, the father thinks that

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Speaker 2: her daughter can do better and deserves better. Secondly, most

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Speaker 2: fathers are protective of their daughter. Thirdly, you are lucky man.

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Speaker 2: You ain't missing somewhere. And the audacity of you to

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Speaker 2: that you should be left alone. You can't even cheat

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Speaker 2: in peace post your colleague word bye.

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