1 00:00:11,760 --> 00:00:17,759 Speaker 1: I've seen some rumbling, some press about Jennifer Aniston cover gorgeous, 2 00:00:17,760 --> 00:00:23,079 Speaker 1: looking amazing. Uh, admittedly jas yoga fifty times a week, 3 00:00:23,239 --> 00:00:27,040 Speaker 1: the water, the working out, hadn't had a baby, you know, 4 00:00:27,240 --> 00:00:29,639 Speaker 1: loves the Fountain of Youth and the famous salad and 5 00:00:29,680 --> 00:00:31,600 Speaker 1: all that. Nicole Ki had been known for a lot 6 00:00:31,680 --> 00:00:35,120 Speaker 1: of plastic surgery, but took it down. Amazing actress, beautiful woman, 7 00:00:35,600 --> 00:00:40,519 Speaker 1: great on and everything she's doing, she's extraordinary, really wonderful. 8 00:00:41,000 --> 00:00:44,280 Speaker 1: UM and j L you know, icon legend, et cetera. 9 00:00:44,440 --> 00:00:47,360 Speaker 1: So it's funny because I had Paulina Poruskova on my 10 00:00:47,920 --> 00:00:51,479 Speaker 1: podcast and she said, there's no real representation of women 11 00:00:52,520 --> 00:00:55,440 Speaker 1: between the ages of j Lo and Betty Betty White, 12 00:00:55,480 --> 00:00:58,680 Speaker 1: meaning everybody looks like they stop aging at Jl's age. 13 00:00:59,240 --> 00:01:01,240 Speaker 1: I think she means in like popular culture. I don't 14 00:01:01,240 --> 00:01:03,560 Speaker 1: think she means in the middle of the country. I 15 00:01:03,600 --> 00:01:06,440 Speaker 1: think she means that. UM. And I guess someone said 16 00:01:06,440 --> 00:01:08,480 Speaker 1: to me that when the Golden Girls, the age that 17 00:01:08,520 --> 00:01:13,480 Speaker 1: they started was j Lo's age. So there are covers 18 00:01:13,520 --> 00:01:15,840 Speaker 1: of j Lo, Nicole Kimman, and Jennifer Anderson at the 19 00:01:15,880 --> 00:01:17,680 Speaker 1: same time. And this is fifty three, and this is 20 00:01:17,720 --> 00:01:19,440 Speaker 1: what fifty something looks like and this is being in 21 00:01:19,440 --> 00:01:22,720 Speaker 1: your fifties and we all know. So I want to 22 00:01:22,760 --> 00:01:26,560 Speaker 1: talk about it because people, it provokes people, it sort 23 00:01:26,560 --> 00:01:30,560 Speaker 1: of triggers them. So here's the thing. They've all had 24 00:01:30,640 --> 00:01:34,880 Speaker 1: plastic surgery, no problem, no problem. I will have plastic surgery. 25 00:01:35,280 --> 00:01:39,839 Speaker 1: I have had a lift. They've all been filtered extreme 26 00:01:40,040 --> 00:01:43,120 Speaker 1: I no problem. I was filtered on my I Heart 27 00:01:43,560 --> 00:01:46,600 Speaker 1: podcast poster. I saw it. I posted about it like 28 00:01:46,680 --> 00:01:48,560 Speaker 1: I didn't do it. I didn't filter it, and they 29 00:01:48,600 --> 00:01:51,560 Speaker 1: didn't either. But there's a level of how filters something 30 00:01:51,560 --> 00:01:53,400 Speaker 1: can be. I've seen something and said to my publicist 31 00:01:53,400 --> 00:01:54,840 Speaker 1: and said publicists and said, I look like I have 32 00:01:54,840 --> 00:01:58,080 Speaker 1: a Bethany mask on. So they've all been totally filtered. 33 00:01:58,800 --> 00:02:02,640 Speaker 1: The women have you know, extensions and had plastic surgery 34 00:02:03,160 --> 00:02:06,320 Speaker 1: and everything going on. So where's the line for women. 35 00:02:06,360 --> 00:02:11,639 Speaker 1: It's not Nicole Kidman's responsibility to make Jane in ce 36 00:02:11,639 --> 00:02:15,040 Speaker 1: Caucus feel better. It's not her responsibility. Is it her 37 00:02:15,080 --> 00:02:19,960 Speaker 1: responsibility to admit plastic surgery, filtering, face tuning all the 38 00:02:20,000 --> 00:02:22,440 Speaker 1: ship because I've seen a lot of this, and you know, 39 00:02:22,560 --> 00:02:27,359 Speaker 1: someone like when Stefani verily, very heavily face tuned and filtered. 40 00:02:28,360 --> 00:02:29,919 Speaker 1: I actually don't even know the answer. I want to 41 00:02:29,919 --> 00:02:32,160 Speaker 1: know where the line is. For me. I just roll 42 00:02:32,200 --> 00:02:33,720 Speaker 1: with it. I just said, this is what my face 43 00:02:33,760 --> 00:02:35,639 Speaker 1: looks like. I know it's not that cute, but I'm 44 00:02:35,680 --> 00:02:39,079 Speaker 1: not speaking to perfection. I'm speaking to Jane from so 45 00:02:39,240 --> 00:02:43,160 Speaker 1: Caucus and saying, girl, don't feel so freaking bad. Okay, 46 00:02:43,200 --> 00:02:45,280 Speaker 1: this is what I look like. I've done the plastic 47 00:02:45,280 --> 00:02:48,600 Speaker 1: surgery tour. I might do something. The least I can 48 00:02:48,600 --> 00:02:50,800 Speaker 1: do for you is tell you that goddamn truth. Maybe 49 00:02:50,840 --> 00:02:53,359 Speaker 1: it's not. Maybe they don't owe you anything. Go get 50 00:02:53,360 --> 00:02:56,720 Speaker 1: plastic surgery, lie about it, do whatever you want. It's 51 00:02:56,720 --> 00:02:59,040 Speaker 1: no one's responsibility, you know what. That's what I'm saying. 52 00:02:59,240 --> 00:03:02,320 Speaker 1: It's no one's just sponsibility. Jennifer Lopez did not sign 53 00:03:02,360 --> 00:03:04,400 Speaker 1: a contract with me saying I'm going to tell you 54 00:03:04,400 --> 00:03:06,720 Speaker 1: I had plastic surgery. I'm gonna tell you if I've 55 00:03:06,720 --> 00:03:10,480 Speaker 1: been filtered, I'm gonna say. But maybe saying this is fifty, 56 00:03:10,520 --> 00:03:12,560 Speaker 1: Maybe that's where the line is. Don't say this is fifty, 57 00:03:12,600 --> 00:03:15,400 Speaker 1: this is my fifty. Maybe don't participate in articles about that. 58 00:03:15,440 --> 00:03:17,560 Speaker 1: Maybe that's where the line is. There's got to be 59 00:03:17,600 --> 00:03:22,840 Speaker 1: some line about these celebrities, alluding to it being natural 60 00:03:22,880 --> 00:03:25,919 Speaker 1: in any way, to it being about eating salmon and 61 00:03:26,000 --> 00:03:28,760 Speaker 1: drinking water, to it being about don't drink like you 62 00:03:28,840 --> 00:03:30,200 Speaker 1: could not drink for the rest of your life. You're 63 00:03:30,200 --> 00:03:32,760 Speaker 1: not gonna look like the cover of whatever magazine the 64 00:03:32,840 --> 00:03:34,920 Speaker 1: j lo is are right now. I could promise you that, 65 00:03:36,400 --> 00:03:40,120 Speaker 1: so you can meditate as much as you want. You're 66 00:03:40,120 --> 00:03:41,720 Speaker 1: not gonna look like Jennifer Onison on the cover of 67 00:03:41,760 --> 00:03:44,320 Speaker 1: the magazine because you have not been. You know, you 68 00:03:44,360 --> 00:03:45,760 Speaker 1: know how hard it is to say. You don't know 69 00:03:45,760 --> 00:03:47,480 Speaker 1: how hard it is to do that filtering too, Like 70 00:03:47,600 --> 00:03:49,080 Speaker 1: I tried to do it one day for for a 71 00:03:49,120 --> 00:03:51,160 Speaker 1: post to be dramatic. It was not that easy because 72 00:03:51,160 --> 00:03:54,040 Speaker 1: I looked distorted, and you gotta go do it like 73 00:03:54,120 --> 00:03:59,360 Speaker 1: tiny little bits. So where's the line? So I know 74 00:03:59,400 --> 00:04:02,720 Speaker 1: where it is and I know the answer hashtag I 75 00:04:02,720 --> 00:04:08,120 Speaker 1: know at all. If a magazine is portraying perfection in 76 00:04:08,160 --> 00:04:13,360 Speaker 1: a fifty something you're old that you believe is not accurate, 77 00:04:13,440 --> 00:04:15,440 Speaker 1: and that makes you feel bad about yourself, and that 78 00:04:15,480 --> 00:04:17,120 Speaker 1: puts pressure on you, and it makes you look in 79 00:04:17,160 --> 00:04:18,480 Speaker 1: the mirror and think I look like shop and I 80 00:04:18,480 --> 00:04:22,120 Speaker 1: don't look like that, even though you intellectually know that 81 00:04:22,120 --> 00:04:24,680 Speaker 1: that's not what you should be looking like. But emotionally 82 00:04:24,880 --> 00:04:27,760 Speaker 1: it doesn't matter. You intellectually know you shouldn't have a 83 00:04:27,760 --> 00:04:30,680 Speaker 1: piece of chocolate. When your hand grabs for the chocolate cake, 84 00:04:31,279 --> 00:04:33,640 Speaker 1: it's your body. It's your emotions that want it. It's 85 00:04:33,680 --> 00:04:36,960 Speaker 1: your cravings. It doesn't matter that you intellectually would rather 86 00:04:37,040 --> 00:04:39,360 Speaker 1: not eat that, or rather not eat the funnel cakes 87 00:04:39,440 --> 00:04:41,200 Speaker 1: or the fried chicken, even if you're trying to, you know, 88 00:04:41,240 --> 00:04:44,320 Speaker 1: dipped in ranch. Your body wants that. Your emotions, your 89 00:04:44,360 --> 00:04:49,680 Speaker 1: hormones want it. You intellectually know that that picture is 90 00:04:49,720 --> 00:04:52,440 Speaker 1: not representing the truth. It is not in a cool 91 00:04:52,520 --> 00:04:56,200 Speaker 1: kidment or Jennifer Anison or j Low's responsibility to make 92 00:04:56,279 --> 00:04:59,159 Speaker 1: you feel better. It is not for them to tell 93 00:04:59,200 --> 00:05:00,719 Speaker 1: you the truth about what they're doing. They can do 94 00:05:00,680 --> 00:05:04,359 Speaker 1: whatever the funk they want. It is your responsibility to 95 00:05:04,520 --> 00:05:08,440 Speaker 1: not buy the product, not the brand that they're selling, 96 00:05:08,440 --> 00:05:10,919 Speaker 1: if you don't like it, not the magazine that's publishing it. 97 00:05:11,000 --> 00:05:15,840 Speaker 1: The magazine is the outlet. The outlet is distributing the merchandise. 98 00:05:15,880 --> 00:05:18,880 Speaker 1: The merchandise is the magazine is. The person is The 99 00:05:18,920 --> 00:05:24,200 Speaker 1: idea is the dream is the aspiration. It is the 100 00:05:24,279 --> 00:05:27,880 Speaker 1: media outlet that is, and it is the media outlets 101 00:05:27,880 --> 00:05:31,440 Speaker 1: write to distribute whatever they want. You have the power. 102 00:05:32,080 --> 00:05:35,159 Speaker 1: You are the consumer. It is your choice to not 103 00:05:35,279 --> 00:05:39,600 Speaker 1: consume something, your choice to not buy something, your choice 104 00:05:39,600 --> 00:05:43,400 Speaker 1: to not unfollow something, your choice to not follow somebody 105 00:05:43,440 --> 00:05:47,000 Speaker 1: who's filtering themselves within an inch of their lives, and 106 00:05:47,120 --> 00:05:50,320 Speaker 1: your choice to follow them. But you can't complain about 107 00:05:50,320 --> 00:05:53,359 Speaker 1: it if you don't like it because you don't believe it, 108 00:05:53,680 --> 00:05:58,080 Speaker 1: don't fucking buy it, don't consume it, and I have 109 00:05:58,360 --> 00:06:00,680 Speaker 1: I keep saying it, but it goes gotta keep going 110 00:06:00,680 --> 00:06:02,720 Speaker 1: deeper and deeper, whether funk. Are you mad at Jennifer 111 00:06:02,720 --> 00:06:07,120 Speaker 1: Lopez for filtering ourselves? I could filter myself too. I 112 00:06:07,160 --> 00:06:11,040 Speaker 1: could go get head to tell full body plastic surgery. 113 00:06:11,279 --> 00:06:14,080 Speaker 1: It's the lying about it you don't like. But even still, 114 00:06:14,279 --> 00:06:17,839 Speaker 1: it's not your business. I can filter myself. It's my business. 115 00:06:19,000 --> 00:06:20,960 Speaker 1: You don't have to buy it. You don't have to 116 00:06:21,000 --> 00:06:23,000 Speaker 1: like me, you don't have to follow me if I 117 00:06:23,040 --> 00:06:26,599 Speaker 1: do that. If I choose to do plastic surgery and 118 00:06:26,640 --> 00:06:28,919 Speaker 1: I'm honest with you about it, you get to choose 119 00:06:28,920 --> 00:06:30,839 Speaker 1: whether you think I've sold out, whether you hate me 120 00:06:30,880 --> 00:06:33,040 Speaker 1: as a result of it, whether it makes you feel 121 00:06:33,080 --> 00:06:35,520 Speaker 1: bad about yourself what I'm doing, or if you like 122 00:06:35,600 --> 00:06:38,039 Speaker 1: that I'm just telling you about. Somebody else can have 123 00:06:38,080 --> 00:06:41,880 Speaker 1: a big, mega yacht and you know, drink champagne out 124 00:06:41,880 --> 00:06:44,400 Speaker 1: of their faucet, and I can choose to watch it 125 00:06:44,480 --> 00:06:46,560 Speaker 1: or talk to them about it if I'm mad at 126 00:06:46,600 --> 00:06:50,240 Speaker 1: them doing that, they don't have to associate with them. 127 00:06:50,279 --> 00:06:55,560 Speaker 1: I could choose to watch looks goods on mass and shows. 128 00:06:55,600 --> 00:06:57,480 Speaker 1: I could choose to buy as many rams bags as 129 00:06:57,520 --> 00:06:59,919 Speaker 1: I want. If I start to flaunt it makes you 130 00:07:00,000 --> 00:07:02,240 Speaker 1: feel bad about yourself. You don't have to follow me, 131 00:07:03,279 --> 00:07:05,840 Speaker 1: which I wouldn't do because I want a good relationship 132 00:07:05,880 --> 00:07:08,080 Speaker 1: with you. I don't want to do and not even that, 133 00:07:08,279 --> 00:07:10,960 Speaker 1: I don't want to do that to you. I relate 134 00:07:11,000 --> 00:07:12,440 Speaker 1: to you. I don't want to make you feel bad 135 00:07:12,480 --> 00:07:14,720 Speaker 1: about yourself by me. I don't want to be up 136 00:07:14,720 --> 00:07:16,800 Speaker 1: here and you down there. And that's what a lot 137 00:07:16,800 --> 00:07:19,840 Speaker 1: of these celebrities and these publications are doing. They're up here, 138 00:07:20,280 --> 00:07:23,600 Speaker 1: we're down there. But don't don't don't engage in it, 139 00:07:23,640 --> 00:07:26,120 Speaker 1: don't invest in it, don't buy it. What we don't 140 00:07:26,120 --> 00:07:28,280 Speaker 1: realize is the power that we have. I was not 141 00:07:28,360 --> 00:07:31,600 Speaker 1: able to distribute almost three million dollars in worldwide aid 142 00:07:31,640 --> 00:07:34,000 Speaker 1: to save people's lives because I did it because I 143 00:07:34,040 --> 00:07:37,440 Speaker 1: am you know, have a following. I was able to 144 00:07:37,440 --> 00:07:39,160 Speaker 1: do it because each of you have a voice and 145 00:07:39,320 --> 00:07:42,960 Speaker 1: power and the dollar and come came together and freaking 146 00:07:43,000 --> 00:07:45,080 Speaker 1: funneled that money through to give it to those people. 147 00:07:45,120 --> 00:07:47,280 Speaker 1: It was you. You have more power than you think. 148 00:07:47,600 --> 00:07:50,119 Speaker 1: You have the power to not buy, to not follow, 149 00:07:50,240 --> 00:07:53,239 Speaker 1: to not like, to block, to do it. It bothers 150 00:07:53,280 --> 00:07:57,000 Speaker 1: you think if it's rational, and you know, think about it. 151 00:07:57,040 --> 00:07:59,080 Speaker 1: So when we say, oh, they shouldn't be putting this 152 00:07:59,080 --> 00:08:01,000 Speaker 1: stuff out, and I've been wrong too, what am I 153 00:08:01,080 --> 00:08:03,760 Speaker 1: talking about? If the caves are peddling the ship about 154 00:08:04,320 --> 00:08:08,760 Speaker 1: lips and extensions and the product that we're pushing, it's 155 00:08:08,760 --> 00:08:12,400 Speaker 1: not their fault and it's not the media's fault. They're selling, 156 00:08:12,400 --> 00:08:15,600 Speaker 1: they're making money. The drug dealers not gonna stop making money. 157 00:08:15,720 --> 00:08:18,920 Speaker 1: The magazines are gonna stop making money if you're not buying. 158 00:08:19,040 --> 00:08:22,480 Speaker 1: They got no drugs to sell. So stop the faucet, 159 00:08:22,640 --> 00:08:38,280 Speaker 1: stop feeding the beast. Rants on kids being bored, Okay, 160 00:08:38,320 --> 00:08:40,600 Speaker 1: so kids are gonna be bored. You don't have a nanny, 161 00:08:40,679 --> 00:08:43,320 Speaker 1: you don't have child's care. It sounds, but oh, we'll 162 00:08:43,320 --> 00:08:45,680 Speaker 1: do this. Sometimes you don't do an activity, Okay, we 163 00:08:45,720 --> 00:08:47,240 Speaker 1: did it. We I skated for an hour and a half, 164 00:08:47,360 --> 00:08:48,720 Speaker 1: or we went sledding for an hour and a half. 165 00:08:48,720 --> 00:08:51,840 Speaker 1: Now you're home. They don't amnesia. They don't remember you 166 00:08:51,880 --> 00:08:54,320 Speaker 1: took them yesterday. You took them to an aquarium, you 167 00:08:54,360 --> 00:08:56,880 Speaker 1: took them to sled They don't remember. There's so many 168 00:08:56,960 --> 00:08:59,679 Speaker 1: fucking hours in a day, God forbid. They get up early. 169 00:09:00,200 --> 00:09:02,480 Speaker 1: And because we activate these kids so much, and we 170 00:09:02,520 --> 00:09:04,120 Speaker 1: do things with them because we wanted to be such 171 00:09:04,160 --> 00:09:07,880 Speaker 1: great parents. And there are actual statistics that working moms 172 00:09:08,160 --> 00:09:10,720 Speaker 1: spend less time with their kids than moms in the 173 00:09:10,760 --> 00:09:13,559 Speaker 1: fifties that were home all day because they smoked a cigarette, 174 00:09:13,559 --> 00:09:16,600 Speaker 1: put on their picked up the telephone with the coyly cord, 175 00:09:16,720 --> 00:09:18,760 Speaker 1: had a glass of wine, and let them run out 176 00:09:19,160 --> 00:09:22,160 Speaker 1: into the yard and with the mittens into the nights, 177 00:09:22,559 --> 00:09:25,440 Speaker 1: onto the bicycle, out into the streets, onto the pogo stick, 178 00:09:25,679 --> 00:09:27,960 Speaker 1: Go with God, do whatever you have to do, rob 179 00:09:27,960 --> 00:09:30,520 Speaker 1: a bank, beat somebody up. I don't give a funk. 180 00:09:30,520 --> 00:09:32,840 Speaker 1: I'll see you at five o'clock for dinner. Like that's 181 00:09:32,840 --> 00:09:35,400 Speaker 1: what parenting was like then. Now parenting is used her in, 182 00:09:35,840 --> 00:09:39,760 Speaker 1: use your inside voice and show and feelings and and 183 00:09:39,800 --> 00:09:41,600 Speaker 1: we're gonna be there. I'm gonna be with you all day, 184 00:09:41,640 --> 00:09:43,440 Speaker 1: every day, because I feel guilty as a parent if 185 00:09:43,440 --> 00:09:46,320 Speaker 1: I'm not with you twenty fours a motherfucking day. So 186 00:09:46,400 --> 00:09:48,600 Speaker 1: these kids, they don't remember you did anything with them. 187 00:09:48,679 --> 00:09:51,080 Speaker 1: They don't remember you baked cookies together. They don't remember 188 00:09:51,080 --> 00:09:53,880 Speaker 1: you bought them holiday pajamas. They don't remember you snuggle. 189 00:09:53,960 --> 00:09:56,800 Speaker 1: They don't remember your Netflix. They don't remember you bought 190 00:09:56,880 --> 00:09:58,800 Speaker 1: them a puppy. They don't remember you sled. They don't 191 00:09:58,800 --> 00:10:01,160 Speaker 1: remember the movies. They don't rememb remember. They don't remember 192 00:10:01,160 --> 00:10:04,600 Speaker 1: the aquarium or the bouncy gym, or the trampoline, or 193 00:10:04,640 --> 00:10:09,040 Speaker 1: the zip line, or the mall or the go karts, 194 00:10:09,480 --> 00:10:13,400 Speaker 1: or the holiday shopping or seeing Santa or the arcade, 195 00:10:13,960 --> 00:10:17,240 Speaker 1: or doing play dates or organizing the play dates. They 196 00:10:17,400 --> 00:10:21,520 Speaker 1: don't remember. They don't remember their iPad, They don't remember 197 00:10:21,520 --> 00:10:23,839 Speaker 1: the trampoline. They don't remember the zip line you put 198 00:10:23,840 --> 00:10:26,040 Speaker 1: in your own fucking house, or the pool last summer. 199 00:10:26,280 --> 00:10:28,920 Speaker 1: They don't remember. And they don't care. You have a basement, 200 00:10:29,080 --> 00:10:31,960 Speaker 1: Do you have any games down there? They don't remember. 201 00:10:32,120 --> 00:10:36,520 Speaker 1: It doesn't matter candy, they don't remember, bowling, they don't 202 00:10:36,600 --> 00:10:42,280 Speaker 1: remember Hibachi, Mexican night, Taco Tuesdays. They don't fucking remember. 203 00:10:42,400 --> 00:10:44,320 Speaker 1: So it's a new goddamn day. And you know what 204 00:10:44,400 --> 00:10:46,320 Speaker 1: I say to my daughter when it's a new day. Oh, 205 00:10:46,360 --> 00:10:48,160 Speaker 1: then you took him out to breakfast? We want to 206 00:10:48,240 --> 00:10:50,320 Speaker 1: Can we go for hot chocolate? Can we go five scream? 207 00:10:50,520 --> 00:10:53,480 Speaker 1: Be a special memory? Can we go see yeah? Can 208 00:10:53,520 --> 00:10:57,360 Speaker 1: we go sledding? They don't remember. They don't remember the 209 00:10:57,600 --> 00:11:02,959 Speaker 1: short term memory loss. So you know, I say sometimes, oh, 210 00:11:03,000 --> 00:11:04,920 Speaker 1: you gotta work pretending what if you have to work, 211 00:11:05,240 --> 00:11:08,200 Speaker 1: you're evil. That's what the pandemic did for us. You 212 00:11:08,240 --> 00:11:10,000 Speaker 1: have to fucking work. It's not a free for all 213 00:11:10,040 --> 00:11:12,880 Speaker 1: all day. What we're doing an hour of work and 214 00:11:12,920 --> 00:11:15,440 Speaker 1: then we're doing the three legged race for the afternoon. 215 00:11:15,520 --> 00:11:18,520 Speaker 1: Like that's what working was. That's what schooling was. Brim 216 00:11:18,559 --> 00:11:20,400 Speaker 1: would tell her teacher, I have to go give my 217 00:11:20,480 --> 00:11:22,599 Speaker 1: dogs medicine so she could get out a class. I 218 00:11:22,600 --> 00:11:24,800 Speaker 1: don't see you bringing your dogs to school this year, 219 00:11:25,080 --> 00:11:27,920 Speaker 1: Like everything is a scam. It was all a scam. 220 00:11:27,960 --> 00:11:30,840 Speaker 1: So now we have to work and it doesn't count. 221 00:11:30,840 --> 00:11:33,080 Speaker 1: I have to do my podcast. I'll pay penance for 222 00:11:33,080 --> 00:11:35,599 Speaker 1: the rest of my life. So what you have to 223 00:11:35,640 --> 00:11:39,440 Speaker 1: tell your kids in a very passive, aggressive voices, you 224 00:11:39,480 --> 00:11:42,920 Speaker 1: have a life that nobody else has. Okay, look around. 225 00:11:43,480 --> 00:11:45,160 Speaker 1: You will tell your kids about what you see in 226 00:11:45,280 --> 00:11:47,360 Speaker 1: relief work and who has less. And you'll do that, 227 00:11:47,360 --> 00:11:49,080 Speaker 1: and you'll be a broken marcord. They're not even listening 228 00:11:49,080 --> 00:11:50,760 Speaker 1: because you've said it so many damn times. And what 229 00:11:50,840 --> 00:11:54,120 Speaker 1: you will say is it's okay to be bored. Well 230 00:11:54,160 --> 00:11:57,560 Speaker 1: I was bored, great, soothe yourself. There are some kids 231 00:11:57,600 --> 00:11:59,400 Speaker 1: who just sit it home all day. Well, I don't 232 00:11:59,400 --> 00:12:01,000 Speaker 1: want to sit at want to sit my daughter tries 233 00:12:01,040 --> 00:12:03,640 Speaker 1: to bribe me or or do you know, well, I 234 00:12:03,679 --> 00:12:05,240 Speaker 1: don't like sitting in front of the t V. Old 235 00:12:05,280 --> 00:12:07,199 Speaker 1: because she's not a TV kid. She's not a device kid. 236 00:12:07,200 --> 00:12:10,400 Speaker 1: Of I literally have an amazing kid. She doesn't, she reads, 237 00:12:10,520 --> 00:12:12,240 Speaker 1: she doesn't. She just wants to go outside and do 238 00:12:12,280 --> 00:12:15,440 Speaker 1: crafts and do activities. She has an art room, lucky her. 239 00:12:15,920 --> 00:12:19,959 Speaker 1: But something like, well, I'm not a person who's going 240 00:12:20,000 --> 00:12:24,080 Speaker 1: to just sit in front of the TV. All day, well, good, good, 241 00:12:24,760 --> 00:12:29,800 Speaker 1: soothe yourself, entertain yourself, tell a story to yourself, make 242 00:12:29,840 --> 00:12:33,720 Speaker 1: yourself something, do a craft, jump outside on the trampoline, 243 00:12:34,240 --> 00:12:38,640 Speaker 1: go search for reindeer, do bird watching. Be bored. The 244 00:12:38,720 --> 00:12:41,000 Speaker 1: whole reason for me, this rant, for this rant, The 245 00:12:41,080 --> 00:12:44,280 Speaker 1: only reason for this rant is be bored. We were kids, 246 00:12:44,280 --> 00:12:48,560 Speaker 1: We were bored. We were bored a lot. That's why 247 00:12:48,600 --> 00:12:51,240 Speaker 1: we can be alone. That's why we can soothe ourselves. 248 00:12:51,280 --> 00:12:53,800 Speaker 1: That's why we don't need to fill every fucking tile 249 00:12:55,040 --> 00:12:59,800 Speaker 1: with cock of entertainment, like there can't be any missing cracks. 250 00:13:00,679 --> 00:13:02,600 Speaker 1: That's how we what's how we are. Everything is to 251 00:13:02,600 --> 00:13:05,120 Speaker 1: be a goddamn entertainment. And then you feel guilty. Remember 252 00:13:05,160 --> 00:13:07,400 Speaker 1: the end of the summer. Oh, we never do. We 253 00:13:07,440 --> 00:13:09,080 Speaker 1: never went week board and we never did this year. 254 00:13:09,200 --> 00:13:11,760 Speaker 1: You have some sort of bucket list. I'm the guiltiest 255 00:13:11,800 --> 00:13:13,800 Speaker 1: of all because I love the activities more than the kids. 256 00:13:13,880 --> 00:13:17,400 Speaker 1: We haven't gone to Gingerbread University, which I've graduated from. 257 00:13:17,400 --> 00:13:20,040 Speaker 1: Many times I've gone back to school like Rodney Dangerfield 258 00:13:20,160 --> 00:13:24,120 Speaker 1: to Gingerbread University. Oh, it's it's for me. A lot 259 00:13:24,160 --> 00:13:25,840 Speaker 1: of it's for me too, because we get to feel 260 00:13:25,840 --> 00:13:30,040 Speaker 1: better about ourselves. Don't feel bad about working, don't feel 261 00:13:30,080 --> 00:13:32,160 Speaker 1: bad about telling your kids to go out in the 262 00:13:32,200 --> 00:13:35,960 Speaker 1: backyard and make a snowman. Just SINIGHTI yellow snow and 263 00:13:36,080 --> 00:13:39,080 Speaker 1: be bored. It's okay to be bored. That's how we 264 00:13:39,160 --> 00:13:39,960 Speaker 1: learned to be alone.