Speaker 1: The second date of day, alexis if you could describe
Speaker 1: not the perfect guy for you, but the feeling that
Speaker 1: you get when you're around that guy. Close your eyes
Speaker 1: and tell us the three words that he makes you feel.
Speaker 2: A little bit roasted, like I want him to be
Speaker 2: mean to me a little bit, you know, like I.
Speaker 3: Feel a little.
Speaker 2: That's like a hard thing that comes to your mind.
Speaker 1: Answer wherever you want to feel belittled as one full
Speaker 1: of food.
Speaker 2: I hope I get to go a little tipsy.
Speaker 4: Oh my god, I don't know if I've ever met
Speaker 4: anyone as scared of emotions as you are.
Speaker 2: Terrified you should imagine this is.
Speaker 1: What everybody's perfect guy a little bit different.
Speaker 5: That's like Michael B. Jordan making fun of it.
Speaker 2: Sometimes you see two guys because you just have double vision.
Speaker 1: I bring it up because one of our listeners says
Speaker 1: she figured out how she wants to feel when she
Speaker 1: meets her perfect guy, and maybe it even happened to
Speaker 1: her this last date. I mean, he's not calling her back,
Speaker 1: but that doesn't matter. She felt that a certain way.
Speaker 2: That could feel good though, like just a little bit
Speaker 2: not ignored.
Speaker 1: Well, let's talk to Alice and hear about it, Alice,
Speaker 1: how you doing?
Speaker 3: I'm good in you guys? How are you?
Speaker 2: I don't know.
Speaker 4: I'm worried about Alexis, but I think the rest of
Speaker 4: us are fine.
Speaker 5: Would you like because we will?
Speaker 1: I bring it up because in your email you said
Speaker 1: you felt the way that you wanted to feel when
Speaker 1: you met up with this guy. What does that mean?
Speaker 6: Well, the deal is is that I've just been meeting
Speaker 6: the wrong guys.
Speaker 3: My discernment hasn't been the best because.
Speaker 6: I usually go for guys that wind.
Speaker 3: Up being wrong for me.
Speaker 4: Okay, so you're taking a different approach, looking for a
Speaker 4: different feel.
Speaker 3: Yes. Yeah, So I heard this podcast by.
Speaker 6: This lady and she said, instead of looking for your firecracker,
Speaker 6: you should be looking for your fireplace. O. Good, like that.
Speaker 2: I've heard this. You're supposed to go for the slow
Speaker 2: burd type of thing.
Speaker 5: Okay, what does that mean?
Speaker 6: Okay, So like firecrackers like for me, like I get butterflies,
Speaker 6: and not to my stomach, like I get like an
Speaker 6: adrenaline rush.
Speaker 2: It's so fun.
Speaker 6: It's scary, but it's like a ride I want to
Speaker 6: go on, but then the ride crashes.
Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, it's a dangerous r.
Speaker 4: Ries.
Speaker 6: You know, now, a fireplace is actually more it's welcoming,
Speaker 6: it's warm.
Speaker 3: You look forward to that comfort.
Speaker 2: You're not scared, right, you're not scared.
Speaker 3: It's not all the bells and whistles.
Speaker 1: So basically you're not supposed to be looking for the
Speaker 1: exciting person anymore. You're supposed to look for the safe person.
Speaker 6: I need to be swiping right on the fireplaces.
Speaker 2: Right, So is this guy that you went out with
Speaker 2: the fireplace?
Speaker 6: He fits the profile where he doesn't necessarily knock my
Speaker 6: socks off, but.
Speaker 3: But he does tick off the boxes that I like.
Speaker 3: And that's what I found.
Speaker 1: In doesn't knock your socks off, and maybe he would
Speaker 1: mend your socks if the Yeah, he'll.
Speaker 2: Warm them because he's a fire is.
Speaker 1: So what's his name?
Speaker 3: His name is Paul.
Speaker 5: He's got a fireplace name.
Speaker 1: What did you and Paul decide to do? What did
Speaker 1: you in this fireplace?
Speaker 4: Go?
Speaker 3: Okay?
Speaker 6: So what we decided to do was to go out
Speaker 6: to dinner and my thirty.
Speaker 2: At five thirty? Was that his idea? Or were you
Speaker 2: just really pushing this old persons?
Speaker 5: Well?
Speaker 6: No, actually he said he had to be home to
Speaker 6: be in bed by nine thirty so that he could
Speaker 6: go to work.
Speaker 4: Oh wow, Okay, even when I was dating, I wouldn't
Speaker 4: go to bed at nine thirty.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you know, one night to stay up.
Speaker 1: Yeah, come on, Yeah, that's attracted to those firecrackers, that's why.
Speaker 4: Yes, right, okay, so you were excited about this because
Speaker 4: this is still like fulfilling what you're how a.
Speaker 3: Dinner go dinner went really well?
Speaker 6: I mean, he told me he likes to cook, he
Speaker 6: likes to bake.
Speaker 3: And when he said that to me, it's like that.
Speaker 6: Gave me some really nice, like low key fireplace vibes,
Speaker 6: which I really like.
Speaker 4: Yes, So did you tell him this because you've brought
Speaker 4: it up so many times?
Speaker 1: Did you use the term firecracker and fireplace with him?
Speaker 2: That's what I mean.
Speaker 6: Honestly, I didn't want to bring up those terms because
Speaker 6: I just wanted him to be himself and not say
Speaker 6: that he had to be somebody else.
Speaker 2: Okay, that's good.
Speaker 1: It's probably not going to go too well if you
Speaker 1: keep referring to him as the safe fireplace.
Speaker 4: Yes, I mean, every guy wants to think of themselves
Speaker 4: as a bad boy in some ways.
Speaker 7: Right.
Speaker 1: Yeah, So, okay, he seems to be checking the boxes
Speaker 1: that you want, right.
Speaker 3: You know, he said he was looking for long term.
Speaker 6: You know, he's into health and nature, and that to
Speaker 6: me was perfect. I mean, I wasn't getting butterflies in
Speaker 6: my stomach, you know.
Speaker 2: I feel like that should still be happening.
Speaker 1: Yeah, no, you don't want to have that. That's a firecracker.
Speaker 5: Okay.
Speaker 4: So I'm guessing, like you guys, didn't end the night
Speaker 4: with a kiss or anything.
Speaker 6: Well, near the ending of the night, he tells me
Speaker 6: a joke and he says to me, did I want
Speaker 6: him to teach me a car trick?
Speaker 3: So I said, okay, and then it's cute, says, oh.
Speaker 6: Well, I don't know any gotcha?
Speaker 1: Oh well, hopefully didn't laugh too hard because then you're
Speaker 1: gonna get too excited and that would be a time.
Speaker 1: Was that?
Speaker 4: The only funny moment is that.
Speaker 2: It's just so specific.
Speaker 1: What was there? Like any like hugg or.
Speaker 6: I'll say we did a nice little hug. I mean
Speaker 6: I thought it was I thought it was a good date.
Speaker 6: It wasn't over the top.
Speaker 2: That's what you want though.
Speaker 5: It wasn't like a bad experience or one big negative thing.
Speaker 1: Okay, So what's happened? Since the date.
Speaker 3: Oh this is the thing.
Speaker 6: Now, I haven't heard back or gotten a call back
Speaker 6: from this boring fireplace.
Speaker 2: Guy sounds so, are you just more mad that he's
Speaker 2: not calling you back? Or do you really want to
Speaker 2: see him again?
Speaker 3: I really would like to see him again. But I'm like,
Speaker 3: how could you not call me back?
Speaker 4: Right?
Speaker 3: Like?
Speaker 6: What do you possibly have going on outside of what
Speaker 6: you told me?
Speaker 3: Wow?
Speaker 1: Okay, I have a cat. Maybe we should dial down
Speaker 1: some of this language when we actually get him on
Speaker 1: the phone, but we're gonna call him. We'll try and
Speaker 1: stoke that fire back up and not too brightly when
Speaker 1: we do your second date update.
Speaker 5: Right after this, Okay, hold.
Speaker 1: On second date update, I got the strangest text message
Speaker 1: from the Academy of Radio Broadcasters saying, we just hit
Speaker 1: a new radio record for saying the word fireplace over
Speaker 1: fifteen thousand times.
Speaker 2: You know what we're looking for, Jeff, Yeah, And.
Speaker 1: I'm only gonna say it once more because our listener, Alice,
Speaker 1: you use that term as a simple analogy for what
Speaker 1: she's looking for in her romantic partner. She learned she
Speaker 1: needs to stop chasing fire crackers and start looking for
Speaker 1: her fireplace and what if you.
Speaker 2: Do, don't chase waterfalls either. We'll just put it in there.
Speaker 1: We don't need any more analogies thrown. Basically, it's stopped
Speaker 1: looking for the exciting guy who gives you butterflies, start
Speaker 1: looking for the safe option.
Speaker 2: Yeah, set kind of, not really.
Speaker 4: I mean it's just like, yeah, just don't look for
Speaker 4: the stuff that's going to fizzle out really quick.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you're looking for that feeling that's going to make
Speaker 1: you feel like you're at home.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: And now that she went down that road, the fireplace
Speaker 1: is leaving her on red. Yeah, I said fireplace again.
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna say it anymore.
Speaker 2: We can't break our own record.
Speaker 5: Yes, it's like our wood soggy. It just won't, you know.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 1: So, Al, that's how you feel him before we call
Speaker 1: him here, I'm.
Speaker 3: Feeling pretty good.
Speaker 6: I'm just hoping to figure out why haven't heard back
Speaker 6: from Paul.
Speaker 2: I like that you will have hope, but not too much.
Speaker 4: I mean, it's like you're like shifting everything to try
Speaker 4: to find the thing that you're supposed to have, and
Speaker 4: even that is a struggle right now.
Speaker 2: But I don't think it will be at the end
Speaker 2: of this.
Speaker 3: I hope so yeah, we all do.
Speaker 1: It's interesting we're going to be calling a boring guy
Speaker 1: for a radio segment here. Not the best reading strategy
Speaker 1: on our part, but you know what, let's dial him
Speaker 1: up anyway, Stay tuned.
Speaker 5: We've got a crackling fireplaces.
Speaker 1: Hopefully we can squeeze.
Speaker 5: A little bit of it.
Speaker 1: But here we go. Hello, Hi, we're looking to speak
Speaker 1: with Paul.
Speaker 7: This is Paul.
Speaker 4: Not that we wanted you to come hot out of
Speaker 4: the gate or anything.
Speaker 5: Morning.
Speaker 1: First of all, thank you so much for answering this
Speaker 1: number that I'm sure you didn't recognize it. Well, strangers,
Speaker 1: we know we're a radio station called Brook and Jeffery
Speaker 1: in the Morning. Okay, Okay, nice, Okay, let's keep this
Speaker 1: going because what we're doing here is called a second
Speaker 1: date update, and we're trying to help out one of
Speaker 1: our listeners that you actually went out to dinner with
Speaker 1: a few nights ago and she had a really nice
Speaker 1: time with you. Her name is Alice.
Speaker 2: Yeah, good old Alice.
Speaker 1: Huh yeah, Well, we'd like to open it up to
Speaker 1: you for a second and tell us what you thought
Speaker 1: about the date. Which you thought about Alice?
Speaker 7: Uh, what what is this for?
Speaker 1: Well, it's a second ate update. Basically, Alice has reached
Speaker 1: out to us because she told us a little bit
Speaker 1: about your night together. She had a great time. How
Speaker 1: was it for you?
Speaker 7: I'm just not really sure how the date when I guess,
Speaker 7: I don't uh, I don't know. I don't get I
Speaker 7: don't a lot of matches, so I was pretty nervous.
Speaker 7: That's been a long time doing my hair, and.
Speaker 1: It makes feel better. She said that she was nervous
Speaker 1: to meet up with you too.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 7: I told her a joke at one point and it
Speaker 7: kind of failed but kind of worked at the same time.
Speaker 7: I'm not really did you tell her?
Speaker 1: Are you talking about the magic trick joke? Yeah?
Speaker 2: Yeah, she told us that.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you're funny.
Speaker 5: It was good.
Speaker 1: Okay, that's a compliment. I feel good about that.
Speaker 4: Why would you not be calling her back? And why
Speaker 4: wouldn't you be excited right now? Like we're telling you
Speaker 4: it was a good date.
Speaker 3: I didn't know.
Speaker 7: I just didn't know how to feel about it. And
Speaker 7: then we did talk about going out again, but she
Speaker 7: was talking about acts throwing and I don't know about
Speaker 7: dad going out into the woods and throwing axes. That
Speaker 7: seemed dangerous.
Speaker 1: Okay, yeah, I understand you. You haven't dated in a while. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I was like you, you might not know this, but
Speaker 1: they actually have places set up where you're supposed to
Speaker 1: go indoors in and throw axes at the wall at
Speaker 1: like targets.
Speaker 2: You don't even have to date to know that.
Speaker 7: I never heard of that. I thought it was sounded
Speaker 7: kind of like a liability.
Speaker 4: Uh, you're going to be fine, man, You're going to
Speaker 4: be fine.
Speaker 2: It's going to be a relief to her. So you
Speaker 2: just weren't calling her back because you didn't think she
Speaker 2: liked you. You're just confused and you were scared of
Speaker 2: throwing Yeah.
Speaker 7: I guess that's kind of the gift.
Speaker 1: Okay, you know it was probably really really relieved to
Speaker 1: hear you say all those things. Is Alice, who is
Speaker 1: on the other line right now, wanting to talk to you?
Speaker 3: Hi, Poul, how are you?
Speaker 7: I I'm good.
Speaker 1: You could hear the smile.
Speaker 3: That it's good to hear your voice, Paul. I was
Speaker 3: wondering why I hadn't heard back from you.
Speaker 7: I'm sorry. I guess I was just kind of unsure.
Speaker 7: I don't really know if you wanted to go out
Speaker 7: again or if it went well.
Speaker 1: Well, I think the axe throwing idea really scared him
Speaker 1: off there, Alice like that. You're not married to that
Speaker 1: as the next.
Speaker 6: Day, you know, like we could there was always other
Speaker 6: activities that we could do, would be would be good.
Speaker 7: I tend to be a bleeder.
Speaker 1: Okay, but you must feel good, like you understand, like Alice,
Speaker 1: Alice likes you, right, Alice, you can even tell him
Speaker 1: yourself now, we don't have to be your voice.
Speaker 6: Well, I really had a great time with you when
Speaker 6: we had dinner.
Speaker 3: I think the conversation was pretty good.
Speaker 6: I don't know if maybe you might have been a
Speaker 6: little anxious, but I mean if you were, I couldn't tell.
Speaker 4: Your confidence has to be through the roof right now, right, Paul?
Speaker 1: Yeah, good, all right, okay, up for.
Speaker 2: That and he knocked it down all right.
Speaker 1: I mean I think that you guys should give it
Speaker 1: one more show. You choose like a safe activity for
Speaker 1: you too, to do no sharp objects anywhere around bowllying.
Speaker 7: Yeah, yeah, we could do that. You could come see my.
Speaker 1: Collection collection what collection?
Speaker 5: The collection?
Speaker 7: Oh? I collect antique gynecological chairs.
Speaker 2: I don't know what did you say gynocologically with the
Speaker 2: star I heard dynacological like a dinosaurs, like an obg
Speaker 2: y n chair.
Speaker 7: Yeah, but like they're from the eighteen hundreds.
Speaker 1: You collect those.
Speaker 7: Yeah, they're really kind of fascinating. Actually, you know why?
Speaker 2: Why are they fascinating? Paul?
Speaker 7: Yeah, I mean it's that period is kind of, you know,
Speaker 7: really interesting.
Speaker 2: I say, not a great period in women's.
Speaker 1: It was the experimental thing is they're trying to figure
Speaker 1: out what's going on now.
Speaker 6: They did not know.
Speaker 4: That's a little How are you feeling about that?
Speaker 3: That's a that's a little bit odd.
Speaker 1: Well, I think maybe the question we need to ask
Speaker 1: is do you feel like you have butterflies right now? Alice?
Speaker 5: Oh hope not.
Speaker 1: No, Well, that's a good sign for you. That's the
Speaker 1: opposite of what you're looking for. So we would love
Speaker 1: to send you two out on a other date. Paul
Speaker 1: will pay for this date if you're willing to meet
Speaker 1: up with Alice.
Speaker 7: Yeah, that sounds great, Okay.
Speaker 1: Yes from Paul, Alice, you're still up for it. You
Speaker 1: don't have to go to his house, you don't have
Speaker 1: to see the collection.
Speaker 4: I'll see maybe you can see pictures of his collection
Speaker 4: first and then judge from there.
Speaker 2: If there's a third day.
Speaker 6: Yes, I think that's what I would need to have
Speaker 6: a visual of the collection of the dynacological chair.
Speaker 2: Let's not say that.
Speaker 1: Take some photos of your collection and text them over
Speaker 1: and then we'll send you guys out again on a date.
Speaker 7: Okay, I'll send a link to my website.
Speaker 1: Website.
Speaker 7: I'm kind of excited, Jeffrey in the morning.
Speaker 1: I mean, the old firecracker fireplace thing needs to come
Speaker 1: with an asterisk now, right, because the quote safe, quiet,
Speaker 1: introvert also might have some secret firecracker tendency.
Speaker 2: Are you saying might burn your house down?
Speaker 1: Yeah?
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think that that's what it is. I think
Speaker 2: get that chimney is what you need to do.
Speaker 5: I think it's more of a bonfire situation.
Speaker 1: Maybe not good. Well, you did get them a second
Speaker 1: date though.
Speaker 5: Maybe we found out some stuff.
Speaker 4: Okay, if she says it's bad, though, if she goes,
Speaker 4: we need to do a safety check afterwards, just to
Speaker 4: make sure.
Speaker 1: He's a history buff. He's not actually doing any examinations
Speaker 1: with that stuff. He's a collector of old goods.
Speaker 4: Yeah, the one that walks down at dark Alley at
Speaker 4: two am and says nothing bad is gonna happen.
Speaker 5: Ladies, Why are you running? I'm a collector of old goods.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I want to go to his house and see
Speaker 1: all the guy in coological chairs. I bet they're cool. Oh,
Speaker 1: let's wrap myself into what you do that, Jeffa.
Speaker 5: Maybe check it out for her first.
Speaker 1: I will what the lengths I'm willing to go through
Speaker 1: for our listeners, so you.
Speaker 2: Will put your foot up in stirrups.
Speaker 1: I will keep that in mind when you email us
Speaker 1: asking for help with your love life. We'll call that
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