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Speaker 1: Wind Down with Janet Kramer and iHeartRadio podcast.

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Speaker 2: Ladies.

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Speaker 3: Listeners, this is exciting, and I'm going to tell you why.

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Speaker 3: I had a conversation with our producer Hannah and we

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Speaker 3: were kind of talking through just run of shows.

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Speaker 2: Right.

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Speaker 3: I love structure. I think we all love structure, love structure,

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Speaker 3: and I think sometimes some of our best shows have

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Speaker 3: been when we have just been real and we've chatted

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Speaker 3: about things and we've just kind of, yes, we love

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Speaker 3: having guests on the show, but we are going to

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Speaker 3: do a slightly different format. I'm not saying we're never

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Speaker 3: going to have guests again, but Hannah has come up

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Speaker 3: with a great run of show and today is day

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Speaker 3: one of that run of show. So listeners, I mean,

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Speaker 3: it's going to be a whole experience. Let me just

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Speaker 3: break it down. I'm gonna do this one time only,

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Speaker 3: and then from there we're gonna you know, but this

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Speaker 3: is exciting to me because boy do I love a

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Speaker 3: good structured lay of show. So we're gonna start and

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Speaker 3: here we go. I'm not gonna do this every time.

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Speaker 3: I'd be like first up host chat, but just to

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Speaker 3: just we're gonna always start the show with a little

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Speaker 3: life updates, whether it's what's going on our life shows,

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Speaker 3: were watching things we got going on. So let's get

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Speaker 3: into it right now, Kristin. You just got back from

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Speaker 3: the Bahamas.

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Speaker 2: I did. Was it the best time ever? It was

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Speaker 2: a fine time, and then it was a great time. Yeah, okay.

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Speaker 2: So we went to the Bahamas. We were supposed to

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Speaker 2: stay three nights, two full days. I was having a

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Speaker 2: panic attack. You and I talked to me basically onto

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Speaker 2: the plane and into another country. Yes, because leaving the

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Speaker 2: kids is hard for me. I did get a lot

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Speaker 2: of good feedback from listeners saying that they also felt

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Speaker 2: the same way. So I felt less alone. And then

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Speaker 2: we got to the Bahamas and our stay was less

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Speaker 2: than charming. At the resort that we stayed at, it

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Speaker 2: was it doesn't take much for me to feel like

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Speaker 2: I'm on vacation, So for me to feel like I

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Speaker 2: wasn't quite on vacation really felt sad to us. So

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Speaker 2: the last day we're there, we had one of the

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Speaker 2: we were with the other half of our duo and

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Speaker 2: we all to each other and we're like, man, we

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Speaker 2: could use like another day. We felt like we were

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Speaker 2: doing a lot of like you know, talking with management

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Speaker 2: and trying to like get just shifting things around. Anyways,

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Speaker 2: all that to say, we decided to stay an extra

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Speaker 2: day in the Bahamas. So Kramer calls me on Monday

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Speaker 2: and she says, hi, AM just checking in on you.

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Speaker 2: Are you home safe? And I said, well, You're going

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Speaker 2: to be really proud of me, and she squeals, I

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Speaker 2: feel like you could have been crying. I was like,

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Speaker 2: you were like, are you still in the Bahamas? And

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Speaker 2: I said, BF, I am. We moved resorts. We're getting

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Speaker 2: our redemption day. I'm going to leave tomorrow. But it

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Speaker 2: was that was the day I needed. So I feel

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Speaker 2: proud of myself for pushing myself out of the comfort zone.

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Speaker 2: I also feel proud of my four nights. Wow, and

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Speaker 2: that was too many, by the way. I mean, it

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Speaker 2: was great to be with Preston, but I'm like I

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Speaker 2: needed to just breathe air. I could tell I need

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Speaker 2: to be with the kids.

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: But I also just felt really proud of myself for

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Speaker 2: like taking the assessment of what I needed and then

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Speaker 2: attempting to get it good for you.

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Speaker 1: She was really proud of you. We were talking about

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Speaker 1: something and she goes or she called me or something

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Speaker 1: she goes.

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Speaker 4: Guess what she was like, Kristen stated, an extra day.

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Speaker 4: It's not like me.

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Speaker 2: No, I was so proud of me. The only time

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Speaker 2: I've ever done that is when my whole collection was

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Speaker 2: with me. So like if we stayed extra a long

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Speaker 2: one time doing something, but it was like all the

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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, Catherine, I want to throw something to you. Okay,

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Speaker 3: I don't know if you want to talk about it, okay,

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Speaker 3: But we had a so it was Jolie's birthday weekend

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Speaker 3: we went to she really wanted to stay the night

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Speaker 3: at opery Land and then she wanted to, you know,

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Speaker 3: do the water park or whatever. Love missed it. We're

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Speaker 3: very sad to miss her, but it was a great time.

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Speaker 3: It was so much fun. Catherine slept over with me

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Speaker 3: happened the next day?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, I'll talk about it.

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Speaker 3: Because it's like, I mean, I don't I actually never

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Speaker 3: really looked into actually what happened, but just that sheer

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Speaker 3: even I can't even imagine, So why don't you take

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Speaker 4: Okay, my heart's like racing. Christen's like what's happening.

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Speaker 1: So we were at Oppy Land at sound Waves, and

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Speaker 1: all the other kids are other places, nixt other places.

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Speaker 1: I'm like, crainsy, let's go have a girl's days.

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Speaker 4: Like okay.

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Speaker 1: I was like, let's go to the mall, Let's get

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Speaker 1: some clothes, let's go eat, let's do all the thing.

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Speaker 1: We'll get ice cream, all the stuff. So we head

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Speaker 1: over to Opry Mills mall and we.

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Speaker 4: Were like circling the mall. You know, we'd gone to

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Speaker 4: all name, We'd gone to all these stores.

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Speaker 1: So we had sat and the well, actually we ate first,

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Speaker 1: in Sephora and I'm like, shakey, it's weird. I haven't

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Speaker 1: really talked about this. Sorry, No, it's fine. No, I

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Speaker 1: definitely wanted to talk about it. It's just like I

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Speaker 3: But so which there's a lot of emotion behind that. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: like it which is weird. Yeah, well because it's scary.

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Speaker 3: Yeah for sure, got panic feeling, I can can imagine.

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Speaker 1: So we are checking out in Sephora, and we start

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Speaker 1: as I'm as I'm looking out, I see I'll never

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Speaker 1: forget the one man I saw. But everyone is running,

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Speaker 1: just I just knew, and it just hit me, and

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Speaker 1: I took Ramsey.

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Speaker 4: She tells me. Now, I grabbed her neck.

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Speaker 1: I thought I grabbed her hand, but I grabbed her

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Speaker 4: So we go to the back of the store. But

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Speaker 1: Store, it's this huge area. It's like where trucks can

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Speaker 1: But I mean it's behind every source, so it's like

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Speaker 1: But in my head, I'm like, obviously I'm assuming there's

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Speaker 4: I'm like, if we're down.

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Speaker 2: Here to have the lockdown, that just at.

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Speaker 4: This point, At this point, I don't I just.

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Speaker 1: When did you text me? Not for a while, Okay,

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Speaker 1: I'll tell you. At what point I tell you, I

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Speaker 1: I mean, there's hundreds of people at this point, all

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Speaker 1: I remember saying that to somebody.

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Speaker 2: And this part doesn't open up to like the outside,

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Speaker 1: You can see, no, it's to the inside, but all

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Speaker 1: So there was a group of us it was like

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Speaker 1: And she's like and I was like, wait, I need

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Speaker 1: And she goes, I don't know. I don't think so,

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Speaker 1: And I was like okay. So I was like, we'll

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Speaker 4: And so I was like okay.

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Speaker 1: And then this is when I slightly start to panic

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Speaker 1: she's going to let you in. You're fine. So they

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Speaker 1: There's already probably twenty people in the back at storage space,

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Speaker 4: So we go in.

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Speaker 1: There's another little girl who's panicking. So we get to

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Speaker 1: as I've seen things and I've looked at things, I'm like,

435
00:19:10,600 --> 00:19:14,600
Speaker 1: everybody's like, and obviously I'm sad and I will miss

436
00:19:14,680 --> 00:19:16,920
Speaker 1: him and you know all the things, I'm just I'm

437
00:19:17,000 --> 00:19:18,760
Speaker 1: kind of at an angry spot and it's just kind

438
00:19:18,760 --> 00:19:20,880
Speaker 1: of a hard I need help with that a little

439
00:19:20,880 --> 00:19:22,159
Speaker 1: bit because it's hard to get out of.

440
00:19:22,320 --> 00:19:26,679
Speaker 2: Well. Anger is just sadness typically, the root of it

441
00:19:26,800 --> 00:19:31,520
Speaker 2: usually is a sadness. So I think that feels very fair.

442
00:19:32,000 --> 00:19:36,040
Speaker 2: Angry is floating because you're protecting yourself a bit, Yeah,

443
00:19:36,320 --> 00:19:39,000
Speaker 2: because it's probably history, I HD but.

444
00:19:38,960 --> 00:19:40,919
Speaker 4: That's just yeah, I mean enough.

445
00:19:41,359 --> 00:19:46,040
Speaker 3: The connection between you know, for sure, is that that

446
00:19:46,600 --> 00:19:49,520
Speaker 3: you're you're still angry at your mom. Potentially there's a

447
00:19:49,520 --> 00:19:52,400
Speaker 3: percentage in there which then goes into the the angriness

448
00:19:53,080 --> 00:19:57,240
Speaker 3: to then somebody else who does right, Yeah, you know, yeah,

449
00:19:57,280 --> 00:20:00,919
Speaker 3: but I can what I When we talked about this,

450
00:20:01,280 --> 00:20:05,960
Speaker 3: it's it's hard to wrap your mind because it's like, yes,

451
00:20:06,000 --> 00:20:10,320
Speaker 3: we are obviously very what's the word, Uh, I don't

452
00:20:10,359 --> 00:20:13,240
Speaker 3: know the struggle of that mental health Like, yes, I've

453
00:20:13,280 --> 00:20:16,680
Speaker 3: got my own mental health issues, stuff with either anxiety

454
00:20:16,800 --> 00:20:20,720
Speaker 3: or whatever, depression at time, whatever it is. Like, you know,

455
00:20:20,880 --> 00:20:22,399
Speaker 3: when I was talking to Sarah about it, when we

456
00:20:22,440 --> 00:20:25,600
Speaker 3: talked about it, it's like we really don't know how

457
00:20:25,760 --> 00:20:28,520
Speaker 3: bad something must be for them to do that, you know,

458
00:20:28,560 --> 00:20:31,679
Speaker 3: and where we can go? Yeah, I'm like how I can't.

459
00:20:31,920 --> 00:20:36,480
Speaker 3: I don't I don't know how someone could when when

460
00:20:36,520 --> 00:20:39,080
Speaker 3: you're thinking about the kids aspect, how you know, again,

461
00:20:39,480 --> 00:20:42,920
Speaker 3: she didn't have a choice, you know, cancer took her life.

462
00:20:43,040 --> 00:20:44,040
Speaker 2: He had a choice.

463
00:20:44,080 --> 00:20:45,880
Speaker 3: And so that's hard for us to wrap our minds

464
00:20:45,920 --> 00:20:50,080
Speaker 3: around it because we are in a healthy mental spot

465
00:20:50,480 --> 00:20:52,360
Speaker 3: to look at it so like it must have been

466
00:20:52,560 --> 00:20:56,120
Speaker 3: bad or that to have been the only option. And

467
00:20:56,119 --> 00:20:58,320
Speaker 3: that's what makes me sad about it, like that that

468
00:20:58,400 --> 00:21:03,720
Speaker 3: people think that's the only option. And yeah, that's the

469
00:21:03,800 --> 00:21:06,879
Speaker 3: mental piece of it that I'm like, we don't know

470
00:21:06,920 --> 00:21:07,719
Speaker 3: how bad that was.

471
00:21:08,000 --> 00:21:10,720
Speaker 1: Yeah, well that's sad, Yeah it is. And I think

472
00:21:10,720 --> 00:21:12,800
Speaker 1: I'm coming around to that in the sense that I'm

473
00:21:12,800 --> 00:21:18,040
Speaker 1: like as a father, I mean, I have to believe

474
00:21:18,400 --> 00:21:22,280
Speaker 1: that it was so bad that, like you said, that

475
00:21:22,359 --> 00:21:25,280
Speaker 1: he felt like that was his only choice, because to

476
00:21:26,080 --> 00:21:29,280
Speaker 1: choose to leave your children with no parents, I have

477
00:21:29,359 --> 00:21:31,320
Speaker 1: to believe that it was just so bad for him

478
00:21:31,359 --> 00:21:33,440
Speaker 1: that that that was his only option.

479
00:21:33,640 --> 00:21:34,120
Speaker 4: And I do.

480
00:21:34,240 --> 00:21:37,439
Speaker 1: And that's sad, and that's you know, and that's you know,

481
00:21:37,920 --> 00:21:40,280
Speaker 1: but it's just it's just a hard.

482
00:21:40,359 --> 00:21:44,240
Speaker 2: Yeah. I have been to that place, the suicidal place before,

483
00:21:44,240 --> 00:21:48,640
Speaker 2: but I didn't have kids. Yeah, So I think Preston

484
00:21:48,680 --> 00:21:50,600
Speaker 2: and I talked about this a bit because that came

485
00:21:50,600 --> 00:21:55,120
Speaker 2: through while we were out of town, and I think,

486
00:21:55,240 --> 00:21:57,080
Speaker 2: like I just kept saying to Preston, I was like,

487
00:21:57,200 --> 00:22:01,359
Speaker 2: I hate that something was so bad that he felt

488
00:22:01,400 --> 00:22:05,879
Speaker 2: like they were better off without him, right, yeah, you know,

489
00:22:06,000 --> 00:22:07,600
Speaker 2: because I think that's the only place you could be

490
00:22:08,080 --> 00:22:10,800
Speaker 2: to make that choice, is to think like they're better

491
00:22:10,840 --> 00:22:14,480
Speaker 2: off without me, And I hate that for him.

492
00:22:14,520 --> 00:22:18,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, Or maybe it's even And that's the thing where

493
00:22:18,000 --> 00:22:19,760
Speaker 1: I guess we don't understand. Maybe you get to a

494
00:22:19,800 --> 00:22:22,000
Speaker 1: point where you're not even thinking about that. It gets

495
00:22:22,040 --> 00:22:24,679
Speaker 1: really dark, guys, like you're not even thinking about I

496
00:22:24,720 --> 00:22:25,400
Speaker 1: also think.

497
00:22:25,200 --> 00:22:27,320
Speaker 2: In the position he held, I don't think that. I

498
00:22:27,359 --> 00:22:29,879
Speaker 2: don't know. I don't know how well he felt like

499
00:22:29,880 --> 00:22:31,840
Speaker 2: he could lean in like we like, we're such a

500
00:22:31,880 --> 00:22:35,560
Speaker 2: tight community in Nashville. But when you hold a position

501
00:22:35,680 --> 00:22:37,960
Speaker 2: like that, people have this perception of you. And so

502
00:22:38,119 --> 00:22:40,399
Speaker 2: I feel like, and as a man, I know that

503
00:22:40,560 --> 00:22:46,280
Speaker 2: is a thing too, like that prideful right right? Yeah?

504
00:22:46,320 --> 00:22:48,880
Speaker 1: And I think that's where Nick is really struggling, because

505
00:22:48,920 --> 00:22:52,600
Speaker 1: they actually had a pretty deep connection and they talked

506
00:22:52,600 --> 00:22:55,960
Speaker 1: about a lot of things, and I think it's like, Han,

507
00:22:56,359 --> 00:22:58,360
Speaker 1: if only I would have known, not that you could

508
00:22:58,359 --> 00:23:00,399
Speaker 1: have done anything, but like you would never know. Having

509
00:23:00,560 --> 00:23:02,760
Speaker 1: no idea is such a hard.

510
00:23:03,280 --> 00:23:05,000
Speaker 2: I think that's the biggest thing I've learned. When I

511
00:23:05,000 --> 00:23:08,160
Speaker 2: shared my story finally, it was like people like, guys,

512
00:23:08,560 --> 00:23:11,399
Speaker 2: you just wouldn't you wouldn't know? Yeah, but why though?

513
00:23:11,560 --> 00:23:12,520
Speaker 2: What are what are?

514
00:23:12,680 --> 00:23:15,480
Speaker 3: Why won't you say something? So if when you were

515
00:23:15,520 --> 00:23:19,280
Speaker 3: in your suicidal moment, why didn't you feel like you

516
00:23:19,320 --> 00:23:21,719
Speaker 3: could talk to someone? And obviously we didn't know you then,

517
00:23:21,800 --> 00:23:23,760
Speaker 3: so I'm just like, why did.

518
00:23:23,760 --> 00:23:25,640
Speaker 2: I feel on the other side of that? How special

519
00:23:25,720 --> 00:23:28,480
Speaker 2: is that? Yes, very there's a lot of big life

520
00:23:28,480 --> 00:23:30,480
Speaker 2: on the other side of that. I get emotional. I'm sorry,

521
00:23:30,520 --> 00:23:31,479
Speaker 2: do you know I want to talk about it?

522
00:23:31,840 --> 00:23:32,159
Speaker 4: Okay?

523
00:23:33,880 --> 00:23:38,120
Speaker 2: Sorry guys. I have, by the way, not had those

524
00:23:38,160 --> 00:23:42,399
Speaker 2: thoughts after having kids because I have gotten better and

525
00:23:42,520 --> 00:23:45,919
Speaker 2: educated myself more. And I also just wish people could know,

526
00:23:46,320 --> 00:23:51,400
Speaker 2: like how many people feel this way? Like it's so wild,

527
00:23:52,760 --> 00:23:56,120
Speaker 2: so many people feel this way. I mean I will

528
00:23:56,119 --> 00:23:58,439
Speaker 2: once in a while go on my Instagram and just say, like,

529
00:23:58,600 --> 00:24:02,200
Speaker 2: if you were having like a perception of our world

530
00:24:02,240 --> 00:24:05,240
Speaker 2: right now? People are inundated with perceptions all of the time.

531
00:24:06,000 --> 00:24:09,280
Speaker 2: Most nine percent of the perceptions you're seeing are not

532
00:24:09,359 --> 00:24:13,119
Speaker 2: real life. And I feel like when I've gone on

533
00:24:13,160 --> 00:24:15,040
Speaker 2: and said like, if anyone's having a really hard time,

534
00:24:15,080 --> 00:24:16,640
Speaker 2: I want you to reach out to me, like I'm

535
00:24:16,640 --> 00:24:18,760
Speaker 2: going to stand with you in one more minute, you know.

536
00:24:19,800 --> 00:24:23,399
Speaker 2: But I just wish people could know you Guys like

537
00:24:24,200 --> 00:24:27,800
Speaker 2: a second husband, three kids, the friends I'm talking with

538
00:24:27,920 --> 00:24:30,000
Speaker 2: right now are all on the other side of that,

539
00:24:30,160 --> 00:24:35,639
Speaker 2: a whole life on the other side of that whatever, shame, guilt, sadness,

540
00:24:35,680 --> 00:24:39,399
Speaker 2: like you are not alone and there's people dealing with

541
00:24:39,440 --> 00:24:41,840
Speaker 2: it too, And I hate that people don't know that

542
00:24:41,920 --> 00:24:45,119
Speaker 2: they have that. It really makes me sad, Like it

543
00:24:45,160 --> 00:24:46,720
Speaker 2: makes me sad for him, It makes me sad for

544
00:24:46,760 --> 00:24:51,520
Speaker 2: his kids. I felt the sadness because I just thought, like,

545
00:24:51,680 --> 00:24:53,600
Speaker 2: why does he Why would he think that no one

546
00:24:53,640 --> 00:24:56,639
Speaker 2: would care about him enough to hug him and just

547
00:24:56,800 --> 00:24:59,720
Speaker 2: tell him it's going to be okay. I hate that

548
00:25:00,080 --> 00:25:00,440
Speaker 2: mm hmm.

549
00:25:02,600 --> 00:25:04,920
Speaker 1: And for someone who had a lot of people around,

550
00:25:05,160 --> 00:25:08,840
Speaker 1: so many, a lot of people, and that's scary as

551
00:25:08,880 --> 00:25:11,560
Speaker 1: an outsider who has not dealt with that, to see

552
00:25:11,600 --> 00:25:14,800
Speaker 1: that and go, man, it's not the person you'd think.

553
00:25:15,760 --> 00:25:18,760
Speaker 1: It's not the people that go many they look depressed

554
00:25:18,800 --> 00:25:20,840
Speaker 1: or they look you know, like they I mean, it's

555
00:25:21,000 --> 00:25:22,480
Speaker 1: that was very eye.

556
00:25:22,280 --> 00:25:22,960
Speaker 4: Opening to me.

557
00:25:24,000 --> 00:25:25,400
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean Robin Williams.

558
00:25:26,040 --> 00:25:27,040
Speaker 4: Yeah you know.

559
00:25:28,320 --> 00:25:29,960
Speaker 2: Yeah.

560
00:25:30,520 --> 00:25:32,440
Speaker 3: Well I really hate to go to my wine about

561
00:25:32,440 --> 00:25:32,879
Speaker 3: it one.

562
00:25:32,760 --> 00:25:37,080
Speaker 4: But I'm gone. Sorry, I really didn't know.

563
00:25:37,160 --> 00:25:40,919
Speaker 2: I did tell you I was emotional today.

564
00:25:40,640 --> 00:25:40,880
Speaker 4: Sorry.

565
00:25:41,920 --> 00:25:43,800
Speaker 2: Sorry, that's also honest I said to you today. I

566
00:25:43,840 --> 00:25:47,160
Speaker 2: was like, I'd rather you'd be heavy and honest. Yeah, okay,

567
00:25:47,920 --> 00:25:50,080
Speaker 2: I just because of our is it the.

568
00:25:50,040 --> 00:25:54,359
Speaker 4: Price that I don't want that?

569
00:25:54,960 --> 00:25:56,800
Speaker 3: But I'm winding so much about it that I'm looking

570
00:25:56,800 --> 00:25:59,399
Speaker 3: at chickens for a chicken coop, like to get to

571
00:25:59,440 --> 00:25:59,919
Speaker 3: have chickens.

572
00:26:00,040 --> 00:26:04,119
Speaker 2: Yeah, hereybody, And if you can't, I can't. No one

573
00:26:04,160 --> 00:26:05,600
Speaker 2: will know your reeler has.

574
00:26:05,440 --> 00:26:06,480
Speaker 4: Something to say about that.

575
00:26:08,119 --> 00:26:11,320
Speaker 2: I don't get a rooster, you know, the behind that

576
00:26:11,440 --> 00:26:12,520
Speaker 2: no one will be if.

577
00:26:12,440 --> 00:26:15,400
Speaker 4: You had a rooster, this whole neighborhood would hate you.

578
00:26:15,520 --> 00:26:16,800
Speaker 2: I want first the eggs.

579
00:26:16,880 --> 00:26:32,040
Speaker 3: Okay, my wine about it, and this is just actually

580
00:26:32,080 --> 00:26:34,440
Speaker 3: it's an interesting topic too, but I am kind of

581
00:26:34,480 --> 00:26:37,919
Speaker 3: annoyed about it. So we have a friend, we have

582
00:26:37,960 --> 00:26:39,920
Speaker 3: a group chat going on right now.

583
00:26:40,560 --> 00:26:42,240
Speaker 2: And Alan and I and Alan and.

584
00:26:42,200 --> 00:26:45,119
Speaker 3: I talked about it because it also bothered him, and

585
00:26:45,160 --> 00:26:46,720
Speaker 3: so I was like, oh, and so we got to

586
00:26:46,720 --> 00:26:48,720
Speaker 3: have like kind of the kind of the conversation together

587
00:26:49,280 --> 00:26:53,600
Speaker 3: because he said, quote unquote, who leaves a group chat

588
00:26:54,000 --> 00:26:56,399
Speaker 3: without even saying goodbye?

589
00:26:57,840 --> 00:27:00,720
Speaker 2: And to have him talk.

590
00:27:00,560 --> 00:27:02,679
Speaker 3: About it is even funnier. So let's pind that for

591
00:27:02,720 --> 00:27:04,960
Speaker 3: tonight's dinner when we go out to dinner. But there's

592
00:27:05,000 --> 00:27:07,840
Speaker 3: someone in our group chat that that we that that

593
00:27:07,960 --> 00:27:11,400
Speaker 3: joined our group chat and then left without saying goodbye.

594
00:27:11,440 --> 00:27:12,560
Speaker 2: And that's my issue.

595
00:27:12,640 --> 00:27:14,800
Speaker 3: That's what I'm whinding about, because I have left group

596
00:27:14,880 --> 00:27:17,160
Speaker 3: chats now and I'm gonna tell you a few of them.

597
00:27:17,800 --> 00:27:19,400
Speaker 2: Nancy, sorry is she?

598
00:27:19,760 --> 00:27:19,840
Speaker 4: She?

599
00:27:21,800 --> 00:27:22,520
Speaker 2: Let's tell you.

600
00:27:27,000 --> 00:27:29,440
Speaker 3: But there was a fantasy football group and the last year,

601
00:27:29,680 --> 00:27:31,359
Speaker 3: I'm like, I can't do it this year. I didn't

602
00:27:31,400 --> 00:27:33,560
Speaker 3: have time and I did terrible the year before because

603
00:27:33,600 --> 00:27:35,600
Speaker 3: I didn't put time into it. So I was like, hey,

604
00:27:35,640 --> 00:27:37,920
Speaker 3: girls had so much fun last year, but I can't

605
00:27:37,920 --> 00:27:39,480
Speaker 3: do it again this year. I saw, I'm leaving this

606
00:27:39,520 --> 00:27:41,840
Speaker 3: group peace out, you know what I mean. I've left

607
00:27:41,920 --> 00:27:44,640
Speaker 3: some softball ones because or a soccer one because Jolie

608
00:27:44,680 --> 00:27:47,600
Speaker 3: isn't playing soccer this spring. So I'm like, hey, guys, like,

609
00:27:47,680 --> 00:27:49,199
Speaker 3: hopefully we'll see you in the fall, but I'm going

610
00:27:49,240 --> 00:27:51,679
Speaker 3: to piece out of this group. I've never left a

611
00:27:51,720 --> 00:27:55,760
Speaker 3: group message without saying at least goodbye, right, So it

612
00:27:55,840 --> 00:27:58,840
Speaker 3: bothers me that this person and I guess Alan too,

613
00:27:58,840 --> 00:28:00,560
Speaker 3: which is so funny. And so we got to talk

614
00:28:00,600 --> 00:28:02,000
Speaker 3: about it, and I'm like, I really want to bring this

615
00:28:02,000 --> 00:28:04,960
Speaker 3: to the girls to see their opinion. Do you announce

616
00:28:05,040 --> 00:28:07,359
Speaker 3: when you're leaving a group message?

617
00:28:09,119 --> 00:28:09,439
Speaker 4: Okay?

618
00:28:09,520 --> 00:28:14,600
Speaker 3: And but we have a girlfriend, Sarah, who was thinking

619
00:28:14,640 --> 00:28:18,000
Speaker 3: about it, hates group messages, hates them with a passion,

620
00:28:18,080 --> 00:28:19,080
Speaker 3: but she doesn't leave them.

621
00:28:19,200 --> 00:28:22,200
Speaker 2: Well putting her back.

622
00:28:22,359 --> 00:28:23,800
Speaker 3: Yeah, we keep putting her back, but she doesn't leave

623
00:28:23,800 --> 00:28:24,959
Speaker 3: them a lot, you know what I mean. And then

624
00:28:25,000 --> 00:28:27,280
Speaker 3: she'll voice and she'll be like, hey, guys, like, sorry,

625
00:28:27,320 --> 00:28:32,359
Speaker 3: I'm overwhelmed with the sixteen messages, which respect sure, Okay,

626
00:28:32,520 --> 00:28:35,040
Speaker 3: Lisia says something she also doesn't like them, but go ahead.

627
00:28:35,080 --> 00:28:37,120
Speaker 3: I love your take because for some reason, I'm sorry

628
00:28:37,160 --> 00:28:38,080
Speaker 3: I'm whining about it.

629
00:28:38,400 --> 00:28:42,840
Speaker 2: I don't like it. Just say goodbye bye bye something.

630
00:28:43,560 --> 00:28:48,120
Speaker 1: I mean, here's my thing. A I don't love when

631
00:28:48,120 --> 00:28:51,840
Speaker 1: you announce or not announce. You can mute it. For

632
00:28:51,960 --> 00:28:54,600
Speaker 1: this for what this group child also said muted. Well,

633
00:28:54,600 --> 00:28:56,840
Speaker 1: that's what Nick said, and it goes, I hate group chats.

634
00:28:56,920 --> 00:28:59,280
Speaker 1: He goes, all my group chats are muted, and he's like,

635
00:28:59,280 --> 00:29:01,400
Speaker 1: and I don't always respond. He was like, but I'm

636
00:29:01,400 --> 00:29:04,080
Speaker 1: not going to leave. So we talked about it too.

637
00:29:04,880 --> 00:29:11,120
Speaker 1: For what this purpose was. It felt very unnecessary even

638
00:29:11,200 --> 00:29:14,640
Speaker 1: to just kind of leave. So because it's not like

639
00:29:14,680 --> 00:29:17,160
Speaker 1: one that's going to go crazy, she's going to be She.

640
00:29:17,280 --> 00:29:19,080
Speaker 2: Left a representative in the group, which is why I

641
00:29:19,120 --> 00:29:21,800
Speaker 2: think she thought she can leave because her husband's still

642
00:29:21,800 --> 00:29:23,920
Speaker 2: in it. Also in the husband the defender. I'm like

643
00:29:23,920 --> 00:29:26,160
Speaker 2: the whole day, I'm like, this was a wild I

644
00:29:26,200 --> 00:29:29,400
Speaker 2: appreciated my own joke about it. I was like, oh, okay,

645
00:29:30,880 --> 00:29:33,080
Speaker 2: I will say I actually reached out to that person

646
00:29:33,080 --> 00:29:35,000
Speaker 2: and was like, you know, you can mute them, you

647
00:29:35,080 --> 00:29:37,640
Speaker 2: don't leave. Yeah, And she was like, wait, I can

648
00:29:37,720 --> 00:29:39,320
Speaker 2: mute this, and I was like yeah, She's like, my

649
00:29:39,360 --> 00:29:41,800
Speaker 2: life has changed. I said, you can mute anyone and

650
00:29:41,840 --> 00:29:45,840
Speaker 2: she didn't know that. So maybe we talk about that tonight.

651
00:29:46,000 --> 00:29:47,440
Speaker 4: No, I do. I'll say this.

652
00:29:47,600 --> 00:29:51,560
Speaker 2: I I was not you guys, I'm in a group.

653
00:29:51,640 --> 00:29:53,160
Speaker 2: I'm in a group. Chat. I've been in for four

654
00:29:53,240 --> 00:29:55,360
Speaker 2: years and I haven't seen these women in five years,

655
00:29:56,640 --> 00:29:58,640
Speaker 2: and I want to leave in the dark of night,

656
00:29:58,840 --> 00:30:01,320
Speaker 2: just really quickly. At one I am just leave conversation.

657
00:30:01,440 --> 00:30:05,120
Speaker 2: But now I'm like, well, I can't. I see it.

658
00:30:05,120 --> 00:30:07,280
Speaker 2: It did not bother me because I just know this

659
00:30:07,280 --> 00:30:09,840
Speaker 2: person's personality. I think is that, like, I know there's

660
00:30:09,840 --> 00:30:11,960
Speaker 2: an allergy to group chat. So I just it felt

661
00:30:11,960 --> 00:30:14,080
Speaker 2: like a Sarah Brice moment to me. But Sarah is

662
00:30:14,120 --> 00:30:17,480
Speaker 2: so explanatory. This one really just dipped didn't even know,

663
00:30:17,640 --> 00:30:18,960
Speaker 2: laughing emoji.

664
00:30:19,120 --> 00:30:21,400
Speaker 3: Like you want to be a part of something and

665
00:30:21,440 --> 00:30:24,440
Speaker 3: we're letting like, you know, we're including you in, you know,

666
00:30:24,600 --> 00:30:27,280
Speaker 3: and then you're just then take it. So that then

667
00:30:27,320 --> 00:30:30,480
Speaker 3: I was like, I would say that I think she

668
00:30:31,320 --> 00:30:33,200
Speaker 3: I don't know, and I'll be interested to see what

669
00:30:33,240 --> 00:30:36,160
Speaker 3: she has to say. I think because she left behind

670
00:30:36,200 --> 00:30:39,320
Speaker 3: such a fine representative of her household, she thinks that's

671
00:30:39,360 --> 00:30:41,520
Speaker 3: fine because she really will tell you he does all

672
00:30:41,520 --> 00:30:45,480
Speaker 3: the planning, right, Well, yeah, okay, that's so we'll have

673
00:30:45,520 --> 00:30:48,240
Speaker 3: to follow back to it when we have a conversation.

674
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Speaker 1: Talk about this when we have here though, or when

675
00:30:50,240 --> 00:30:52,600
Speaker 1: we had Macy on about like leaving it, leaving a

676
00:30:52,640 --> 00:30:54,560
Speaker 1: group chat, and if you do that for like attention

677
00:30:54,720 --> 00:30:55,120
Speaker 1: or whatever.

678
00:30:55,360 --> 00:30:57,600
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, oh we did talk about that.

679
00:30:57,680 --> 00:31:00,800
Speaker 1: It just seems like I don't see that her either. Yeah,

680
00:31:00,960 --> 00:31:03,040
Speaker 1: it seems more like a Sarah like I'm overwhelmed. I

681
00:31:03,040 --> 00:31:03,840
Speaker 1: can't handle it.

682
00:31:03,800 --> 00:31:06,800
Speaker 3: Yeah, which is very much her personality. It's fair if

683
00:31:06,840 --> 00:31:09,080
Speaker 3: you're wanting to be a part of I.

684
00:31:09,080 --> 00:31:11,320
Speaker 4: Just don't know if I would have rather been announced

685
00:31:11,480 --> 00:31:11,680
Speaker 4: or not.

686
00:31:12,440 --> 00:31:16,160
Speaker 2: I would like announcements chats.

687
00:31:16,360 --> 00:31:17,400
Speaker 4: Don't leave group chats.

688
00:31:17,600 --> 00:31:20,120
Speaker 1: I really don't like if I'm in like a group

689
00:31:20,200 --> 00:31:22,360
Speaker 1: for like a softball or something like that, or those

690
00:31:22,440 --> 00:31:24,560
Speaker 1: all make sense to me, but otherwise I'm like, I

691
00:31:24,600 --> 00:31:25,560
Speaker 1: just don't have to respond.

692
00:31:26,040 --> 00:31:28,880
Speaker 2: Yeah, same moving fun. We're going to also do.

693
00:31:31,280 --> 00:31:34,160
Speaker 3: We're going to do headlines of the week, right, so

694
00:31:34,360 --> 00:31:36,120
Speaker 3: after we wind about it a little bit, a little

695
00:31:36,200 --> 00:31:38,400
Speaker 3: vent sash, we're going to talk about the headlines of

696
00:31:38,440 --> 00:31:40,400
Speaker 3: the week. Here are the headlines of the week. Do

697
00:31:40,440 --> 00:31:45,080
Speaker 3: we want to talk about Bianca nude? Grammy's look? I

698
00:31:45,120 --> 00:31:46,760
Speaker 3: would like to say if I looked like her, I

699
00:31:46,800 --> 00:31:49,120
Speaker 3: would be wearing no clothes all the time. Body is amazing,

700
00:31:49,320 --> 00:31:51,000
Speaker 3: exceptional a specimen.

701
00:31:51,000 --> 00:31:53,760
Speaker 2: Would you? I don't know, I don't know, and I

702
00:31:53,800 --> 00:31:58,120
Speaker 2: won't know you.

703
00:31:58,320 --> 00:31:59,400
Speaker 4: Actually, I don't know.

704
00:32:00,080 --> 00:32:03,120
Speaker 2: I would in Jesus' name love the opportunity to find

705
00:32:03,120 --> 00:32:05,720
Speaker 2: out if I would do that or not. I don't know.

706
00:32:06,600 --> 00:32:07,480
Speaker 2: Maybe I would.

707
00:32:10,160 --> 00:32:14,720
Speaker 3: The first thing I thought was wow, love the confidence, Like, yeah,

708
00:32:14,760 --> 00:32:18,320
Speaker 3: that was confident. The second thing I thought is everyone

709
00:32:18,400 --> 00:32:23,920
Speaker 3: has a different way of uh what's that word? Self

710
00:32:23,960 --> 00:32:27,240
Speaker 3: expression and fashion? But I had a hard time finding

711
00:32:27,240 --> 00:32:30,000
Speaker 3: the fashion and no clothes. I also would say, and

712
00:32:30,080 --> 00:32:32,240
Speaker 3: I'm just gonna get grilled. I don't care. I felt

713
00:32:32,280 --> 00:32:34,720
Speaker 3: a little. I felt like it was a little disrespectful. Well,

714
00:32:34,960 --> 00:32:37,960
Speaker 3: I'm My thing was I'm glad my daughter wasn't watching

715
00:32:38,040 --> 00:32:42,719
Speaker 3: the show. Yeah, yeah, I don't want her seeing that.

716
00:32:43,480 --> 00:32:46,520
Speaker 4: Person want to see that personally, I don't want to

717
00:32:46,560 --> 00:32:46,920
Speaker 4: see that.

718
00:32:47,200 --> 00:32:47,960
Speaker 3: I leave.

719
00:32:48,320 --> 00:32:48,880
Speaker 4: That's just me.

720
00:32:48,920 --> 00:32:50,960
Speaker 1: I know I'm more conservative because there's so much that

721
00:32:51,040 --> 00:32:53,520
Speaker 1: can wait to see. But I have other issues with

722
00:32:53,600 --> 00:32:57,400
Speaker 1: this whole situation. Oh Cat's got double fingers. Have issues

723
00:32:57,440 --> 00:33:00,920
Speaker 1: with this situation. If you really watch the way it

724
00:33:00,960 --> 00:33:04,880
Speaker 1: all happened, she a looks like she's barely there. She

725
00:33:04,920 --> 00:33:07,720
Speaker 1: looks so distant in her eyes, and if you really

726
00:33:07,760 --> 00:33:10,800
Speaker 1: pay attention to the video, it looks like he is

727
00:33:10,840 --> 00:33:12,800
Speaker 1: telling her to do it and she is hesitant and

728
00:33:12,840 --> 00:33:14,040
Speaker 1: not wanting to take the jacket off.

729
00:33:14,160 --> 00:33:16,080
Speaker 2: Not like that. Oh, I need to read it to

730
00:33:16,120 --> 00:33:21,760
Speaker 2: her jacket. By the way, she's beautiful. She loved her jacket.

731
00:33:21,880 --> 00:33:23,000
Speaker 2: I also has a type.

732
00:33:24,360 --> 00:33:26,640
Speaker 4: Right first, I was like, are they back together?

733
00:33:28,160 --> 00:33:28,480
Speaker 2: To me?

734
00:33:29,040 --> 00:33:33,240
Speaker 1: And this is just my opinion, it felt controlled by him.

735
00:33:33,640 --> 00:33:37,280
Speaker 1: We know, we know as a society that he controls

736
00:33:37,320 --> 00:33:40,400
Speaker 1: what his women wear. He is the one behind saying

737
00:33:40,400 --> 00:33:43,160
Speaker 1: what they wear, and that felt very controlled. And to me,

738
00:33:43,320 --> 00:33:45,960
Speaker 1: she looked uncomfortable at first with wanting to and maybe

739
00:33:46,000 --> 00:33:47,440
Speaker 1: I'm wrong, but I didn't.

740
00:33:47,640 --> 00:33:49,080
Speaker 4: That part of it really bothered me.

741
00:33:49,360 --> 00:33:52,120
Speaker 2: And a minimum she was cold at a minimum for sure,

742
00:33:52,120 --> 00:33:54,000
Speaker 2: so she was uncomfortable. Yeah, there's no way she was

743
00:33:54,000 --> 00:33:54,800
Speaker 2: saying room temp.

744
00:33:55,200 --> 00:33:56,200
Speaker 4: Yeah. Yeah.

745
00:33:56,400 --> 00:33:59,160
Speaker 1: So I think it's his art, not her art, which

746
00:33:59,160 --> 00:34:02,200
Speaker 1: is another issue of it. Just it's it's to me,

747
00:34:02,280 --> 00:34:05,160
Speaker 1: it feels him controlling her, and I don't like that he.

748
00:34:05,080 --> 00:34:06,200
Speaker 2: Should have to go naked too.

749
00:34:07,640 --> 00:34:08,760
Speaker 4: I don't want to see that either.

750
00:34:08,960 --> 00:34:10,520
Speaker 2: I don't either, but I don't think it would happen,

751
00:34:10,719 --> 00:34:11,240
Speaker 2: is my point.

752
00:34:12,480 --> 00:34:15,680
Speaker 3: Speaking of the Grammys, there was some.

753
00:34:17,120 --> 00:34:17,480
Speaker 2: Shooting.

754
00:34:17,520 --> 00:34:22,600
Speaker 3: I had had this already and I totally forgot to. Okay, so, uh,

755
00:34:22,719 --> 00:34:27,520
Speaker 3: there is a obviously Beyonce one best Country album. Can

756
00:34:27,560 --> 00:34:29,759
Speaker 3: we thought when we start with your thoughts about that?

757
00:34:30,960 --> 00:34:33,839
Speaker 1: So the whole thing where just about we're just talking

758
00:34:33,880 --> 00:34:35,200
Speaker 1: about where she won it.

759
00:34:36,680 --> 00:34:39,359
Speaker 3: I want what is your what is your thoughts on

760
00:34:39,400 --> 00:34:41,720
Speaker 3: her winning Best Country album?

761
00:34:42,280 --> 00:34:44,520
Speaker 4: I'm not the best person to ask that question.

762
00:34:45,680 --> 00:34:46,200
Speaker 2: I mean.

763
00:34:47,600 --> 00:34:54,239
Speaker 1: We it's not fans that are voting. First of all, thanks,

764
00:34:54,280 --> 00:34:56,839
Speaker 1: so let me start there. And so this is all

765
00:34:57,000 --> 00:35:00,480
Speaker 1: very controlled by a certain group people.

766
00:35:01,200 --> 00:35:03,040
Speaker 3: So let me just piggyback off of that, because this

767
00:35:03,160 --> 00:35:04,759
Speaker 3: was where I was going to go with with this,

768
00:35:07,080 --> 00:35:11,080
Speaker 3: like them, hate them whatever. John Rich tweeted out something

769
00:35:11,840 --> 00:35:14,200
Speaker 3: I personally, John Rich has always been lovely to me.

770
00:35:14,360 --> 00:35:17,560
Speaker 3: I've always I've always liked John Rich. I follow him

771
00:35:17,560 --> 00:35:20,600
Speaker 3: on Twitter. Uh do I agree with everything he says?

772
00:35:20,640 --> 00:35:23,480
Speaker 2: No? Do I agree with you know? You know? But

773
00:35:23,600 --> 00:35:24,879
Speaker 2: I do like I do like him.

774
00:35:25,920 --> 00:35:29,640
Speaker 3: So he had tweeted out something that said, folks are

775
00:35:29,680 --> 00:35:33,080
Speaker 3: asking me how do music award shows work? Labels, publishers

776
00:35:33,120 --> 00:35:35,680
Speaker 3: all have blocks of votes. They make deals with each other.

777
00:35:35,760 --> 00:35:37,839
Speaker 3: You vote for mine, will vote for yours type thing.

778
00:35:37,880 --> 00:35:41,120
Speaker 3: It has zero to do with who made the best music.

779
00:35:41,200 --> 00:35:47,480
Speaker 3: Thus Beyonce with Country Album of the Year, so and

780
00:35:47,719 --> 00:35:50,520
Speaker 3: he goes, And that's how it works for CMAS, ACMs, Billboard,

781
00:35:50,560 --> 00:35:52,920
Speaker 3: et cetera. All work exactly the same. Last night, the

782
00:35:52,960 --> 00:35:55,520
Speaker 3: Grammys outed themselves in a big way. So I think

783
00:35:55,560 --> 00:35:58,440
Speaker 3: there's the vast majority of people do not understand how

784
00:35:58,480 --> 00:36:00,520
Speaker 3: ward shows work. I did not know how award show,

785
00:36:00,840 --> 00:36:04,480
Speaker 3: how award shows worked until I was nominated when we

786
00:36:04,520 --> 00:36:07,440
Speaker 3: did the ACMs. Now this which is why I only

787
00:36:07,480 --> 00:36:10,160
Speaker 3: really technically like the fan voted ones, and even some

788
00:36:10,239 --> 00:36:12,680
Speaker 3: of those are slightly rigged, But like, I had no

789
00:36:12,800 --> 00:36:16,759
Speaker 3: idea that it was that's how that worked, and that

790
00:36:16,840 --> 00:36:20,240
Speaker 3: labels just traded and managers trade. Everyone just traded votes

791
00:36:20,440 --> 00:36:22,680
Speaker 3: and it wasn't actually about who was the best or

792
00:36:22,680 --> 00:36:26,120
Speaker 3: what was the best. And that's so sad to begin with.

793
00:36:26,560 --> 00:36:30,320
Speaker 3: I feel like it all should be voted by peers

794
00:36:30,360 --> 00:36:34,799
Speaker 3: and not just industry people trading votes. Personally my thing

795
00:36:35,239 --> 00:36:38,680
Speaker 3: now when it comes to you know, Casey musk Graves,

796
00:36:38,680 --> 00:36:41,000
Speaker 3: which is the headline, Casey musk Grave speaks out on

797
00:36:41,040 --> 00:36:44,240
Speaker 3: the alleged Beyonce diss after the viral reaction. First and foremost,

798
00:36:44,480 --> 00:36:46,600
Speaker 3: there have been many videos. Remember back in the day

799
00:36:46,600 --> 00:36:49,799
Speaker 3: when Faye Hill to carry Underwood and she was like

800
00:36:50,080 --> 00:36:54,000
Speaker 3: what and she does that face, you know, and that

801
00:36:54,160 --> 00:36:56,719
Speaker 3: was a whole big thing, right, and you know they're

802
00:36:56,719 --> 00:37:01,839
Speaker 3: both there's amazing, right artists whatever, every person that has

803
00:37:02,239 --> 00:37:04,919
Speaker 3: you all see like they've got a camera on their face. Now,

804
00:37:06,280 --> 00:37:09,160
Speaker 3: you know, to Casey's and she's you know, she basically said,

805
00:37:09,239 --> 00:37:13,160
Speaker 3: you know, she's like, I don't really care. It doesn't

806
00:37:13,160 --> 00:37:16,360
Speaker 3: affect what I'm doing. It's just, you know, I was

807
00:37:16,680 --> 00:37:18,880
Speaker 3: I've always just been doing my own thing. And that's Casey.

808
00:37:18,960 --> 00:37:23,360
Speaker 3: She's very much like she's she's like the coolest of cool,

809
00:37:23,520 --> 00:37:26,960
Speaker 3: like always super cool. And but my thing too is

810
00:37:27,040 --> 00:37:29,280
Speaker 3: I'm like, well, of course she's going to be upset

811
00:37:29,360 --> 00:37:31,520
Speaker 3: she didn't win too, like she should have won, like

812
00:37:31,600 --> 00:37:34,799
Speaker 3: you know, or or lady or you know, like those

813
00:37:34,800 --> 00:37:39,399
Speaker 3: are pure country albums, you know, and so I who

814
00:37:39,440 --> 00:37:41,560
Speaker 3: doesn't want to win? So like, I'm sorry if her

815
00:37:41,600 --> 00:37:44,560
Speaker 3: reaction wasn't all like oh yay, like she didn't win,

816
00:37:44,840 --> 00:37:46,959
Speaker 3: like of course she would want to win. So I'm

817
00:37:47,200 --> 00:37:49,439
Speaker 3: I wonder to the people like that were like mad

818
00:37:49,480 --> 00:37:52,120
Speaker 3: at her reaction where it's like we're saying anything about it,

819
00:37:52,239 --> 00:37:53,839
Speaker 3: Like what would your face look like when you just

820
00:37:53,920 --> 00:37:56,480
Speaker 3: found out that you didn't win, Like okay, takes a

821
00:37:56,520 --> 00:37:58,239
Speaker 3: second to register, and then you're gonna clap, you know,

822
00:37:58,280 --> 00:37:59,960
Speaker 3: for the other person, like you're going to be disappointed.

823
00:38:00,280 --> 00:38:02,719
Speaker 3: So like, well, that was silly to me that that

824
00:38:02,760 --> 00:38:05,959
Speaker 3: even became a thing like of course, like.

825
00:38:06,000 --> 00:38:07,320
Speaker 2: Well then are we going to be met at Beyonce

826
00:38:07,400 --> 00:38:09,040
Speaker 2: for not being over the moon because she looked like

827
00:38:09,080 --> 00:38:11,680
Speaker 2: she had just gotten I mean she was shocked, shocked. Yeah,

828
00:38:11,719 --> 00:38:13,600
Speaker 2: so like then we could equally be like, well, you're

829
00:38:13,640 --> 00:38:16,280
Speaker 2: not a gracious one, you know, like that's crazy. Everyone's

830
00:38:16,280 --> 00:38:18,160
Speaker 2: allowed to be a human for a second, right.

831
00:38:18,080 --> 00:38:21,200
Speaker 3: And I like, you know, the people saying, you know,

832
00:38:21,320 --> 00:38:25,279
Speaker 3: even Beyonce had quoted too that she goes, this isn't

833
00:38:25,280 --> 00:38:27,759
Speaker 3: a country album. This is a Beyonce album. So like

834
00:38:27,800 --> 00:38:30,560
Speaker 3: she even herself said like this wasn't a country album.

835
00:38:30,680 --> 00:38:33,640
Speaker 3: So you know how she got into that category.

836
00:38:33,840 --> 00:38:34,359
Speaker 2: I don't know.

837
00:38:34,560 --> 00:38:37,560
Speaker 3: I like Beyonce music, you know, and I'm not even

838
00:38:37,560 --> 00:38:40,040
Speaker 3: going to touch on like any of that stuff. It's

839
00:38:40,120 --> 00:38:43,680
Speaker 3: just more you know, to Casey's thing, it's like, well,

840
00:38:43,800 --> 00:38:46,279
Speaker 3: of course, like she would have wanted to win, but

841
00:38:46,320 --> 00:38:49,920
Speaker 3: she wasn't actively trying to do anything against Beyonce. So

842
00:38:49,960 --> 00:38:52,600
Speaker 3: I just think that's a wild and ridiculous headline.

843
00:38:52,960 --> 00:38:56,160
Speaker 1: I think that. But at the same time, and this

844
00:38:56,320 --> 00:38:59,480
Speaker 1: is not Casey or Beyonce. At the same time, I

845
00:38:59,480 --> 00:39:04,840
Speaker 1: think people are naive to not realize how much.

846
00:39:07,160 --> 00:39:08,080
Speaker 4: There really is.

847
00:39:07,960 --> 00:39:12,319
Speaker 1: Between all these female artists, like not like actively like

848
00:39:12,360 --> 00:39:14,440
Speaker 1: fighting with each other, but there's a lot of competition

849
00:39:14,480 --> 00:39:17,960
Speaker 1: between all these female artists, especially in country but also

850
00:39:18,080 --> 00:39:21,560
Speaker 1: in the other genres. So to actually believe that they

851
00:39:21,600 --> 00:39:26,919
Speaker 1: all are really just yay, I hope so and So wins, Like, Eh,

852
00:39:27,080 --> 00:39:29,440
Speaker 1: let's just be real. Everybody wants to win. Like you

853
00:39:29,480 --> 00:39:32,479
Speaker 1: said to Piggyback on that, no one's truly I hate

854
00:39:32,480 --> 00:39:35,279
Speaker 1: to say that, there's maybe few instances, but very few

855
00:39:35,280 --> 00:39:37,120
Speaker 1: of them are actually rooting for the other people to

856
00:39:37,160 --> 00:39:38,000
Speaker 1: beat them.

857
00:39:37,840 --> 00:39:40,759
Speaker 3: I'm gonna I'm gonna say something to Taylor Swift though

858
00:39:40,840 --> 00:39:44,279
Speaker 3: on this. I think I loved everything I saw about

859
00:39:44,320 --> 00:39:46,600
Speaker 3: because she didn't obviously take she didn't take anything home,

860
00:39:46,680 --> 00:39:49,120
Speaker 3: but her reactions she could have like to me, I'm like,

861
00:39:49,320 --> 00:39:51,440
Speaker 3: didn't even look like like she cared, which is awesome.

862
00:39:51,480 --> 00:39:53,480
Speaker 3: She was like having the best time ever. She was

863
00:39:53,480 --> 00:39:55,720
Speaker 3: having so much fun and like just cheering for everybody.

864
00:39:55,760 --> 00:39:57,959
Speaker 3: Like I think she does it the best way because

865
00:39:57,960 --> 00:40:00,719
Speaker 3: it looks just like authentic and just cheering for everybody

866
00:40:00,760 --> 00:40:03,399
Speaker 3: and like truly like happy for each person that wins,

867
00:40:03,400 --> 00:40:05,359
Speaker 3: because she has won so much and she has well.

868
00:40:05,360 --> 00:40:08,360
Speaker 1: And I think a lot of people take especially Grammys

869
00:40:08,960 --> 00:40:12,560
Speaker 1: very different. Grammys are different kind of awards. Your typical

870
00:40:12,600 --> 00:40:14,640
Speaker 1: people who are especially in country, that are winning at

871
00:40:14,680 --> 00:40:17,560
Speaker 1: ACMs and cmas are not the people that are winning Grammys.

872
00:40:18,080 --> 00:40:21,000
Speaker 1: The people that truly are going for Grammys are I

873
00:40:21,040 --> 00:40:22,840
Speaker 1: hate to say this, but a little bit usually a

874
00:40:22,880 --> 00:40:26,000
Speaker 1: little bit more artistic, a little bit more really about

875
00:40:26,000 --> 00:40:29,319
Speaker 1: the music and that stuff really matters to them. Not

876
00:40:29,360 --> 00:40:32,680
Speaker 1: saying but maybe to Taylor, Grammys aren't that big of

877
00:40:32,719 --> 00:40:35,759
Speaker 1: a deal, like she's won, like look at her, you know.

878
00:40:35,920 --> 00:40:39,280
Speaker 1: Like so I do think that she genuinely is excited

879
00:40:39,280 --> 00:40:41,200
Speaker 1: for other people. But I also think that there's a

880
00:40:41,680 --> 00:40:43,480
Speaker 1: nice competition between all the females as well.

881
00:40:43,520 --> 00:40:43,680
Speaker 2: Well.

882
00:40:43,719 --> 00:40:47,399
Speaker 3: I mean, and to Casey Musgraves, like Architect is probably

883
00:40:47,440 --> 00:40:49,359
Speaker 3: one of my favorite songs, you know, Like, I don't

884
00:40:49,360 --> 00:40:50,719
Speaker 3: know if you guys listen to the album, but it's

885
00:40:50,719 --> 00:40:52,080
Speaker 3: a fantastic album.

886
00:40:51,840 --> 00:40:54,240
Speaker 4: And she's one has she won several Grammys.

887
00:40:54,280 --> 00:40:56,400
Speaker 2: I don't know how many of that she has one, yeah.

888
00:40:56,200 --> 00:40:58,080
Speaker 1: Because she's one of those artistic ones who's not going

889
00:40:58,160 --> 00:40:59,720
Speaker 1: to usually win at ACMs or CMAS.

890
00:40:59,719 --> 00:41:00,880
Speaker 4: But when Grammy's I feel like.

891
00:41:00,880 --> 00:41:03,920
Speaker 2: Your thoughts, kb oh word shows are hard for me

892
00:41:04,320 --> 00:41:08,239
Speaker 2: because I have I'm married to a few time nominee

893
00:41:08,560 --> 00:41:10,839
Speaker 2: and we go in knowing that we won't win well

894
00:41:10,920 --> 00:41:14,600
Speaker 2: because it's all political. Yeah, So it's just really yeah hard, Yeah,

895
00:41:14,640 --> 00:41:17,240
Speaker 2: and I think they I think that that is probably

896
00:41:17,280 --> 00:41:20,399
Speaker 2: the most honest thing said so far by John Rich

897
00:41:21,200 --> 00:41:23,279
Speaker 2: or the most honest thing said about this is by

898
00:41:23,360 --> 00:41:26,440
Speaker 2: John Rich with him saying like they really pulled back

899
00:41:26,440 --> 00:41:27,840
Speaker 2: the curtain here. It's quite obvious.

900
00:41:28,000 --> 00:41:29,759
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, I mean it's one hundred percent truth what

901
00:41:29,800 --> 00:41:31,080
Speaker 1: he said, but it is I.

902
00:41:31,040 --> 00:41:32,800
Speaker 2: Would like to say too. On the artist side, I

903
00:41:32,840 --> 00:41:36,279
Speaker 2: think it's just wildly defeating when you're getting dressed up

904
00:41:36,320 --> 00:41:39,360
Speaker 2: and you're when when everyone's walking the carpet knowing that

905
00:41:39,400 --> 00:41:41,200
Speaker 2: they're not going to win. I mean, it's just.

906
00:41:41,360 --> 00:41:42,720
Speaker 4: Well and I think really unfair.

907
00:41:42,800 --> 00:41:45,800
Speaker 1: It's interesting to bring that up because I've had several

908
00:41:45,880 --> 00:41:47,719
Speaker 1: artists I've worked with who are like, I don't want

909
00:41:47,719 --> 00:41:50,040
Speaker 1: to go, correct and then you kind of push them

910
00:41:50,080 --> 00:41:52,279
Speaker 1: to go or or you know what or whatever don't go,

911
00:41:52,320 --> 00:41:54,680
Speaker 1: and then people start complaining. Fans are like, why are

912
00:41:54,680 --> 00:41:58,080
Speaker 1: they not going? They're disrespecting country music? Well, you know,

913
00:41:58,239 --> 00:41:59,719
Speaker 1: walking in, you're not winning, And.

914
00:41:59,680 --> 00:42:01,480
Speaker 2: It's a lot of money to it is.

915
00:42:01,520 --> 00:42:03,200
Speaker 1: You got to pay to go, you got to get ready,

916
00:42:03,239 --> 00:42:05,239
Speaker 1: you got to be red car. It's a lot, and

917
00:42:05,320 --> 00:42:08,440
Speaker 1: so you know, that's that's a hard part of it

918
00:42:08,440 --> 00:42:10,279
Speaker 1: where people start getting mad, why are people not going

919
00:42:10,280 --> 00:42:12,000
Speaker 1: to a ward shows? Oh they're not you know, they're

920
00:42:12,040 --> 00:42:13,200
Speaker 1: not winning, so they don't want to go, you know.

921
00:42:13,239 --> 00:42:15,080
Speaker 1: But I mean it's a lot.

922
00:42:15,040 --> 00:42:17,600
Speaker 2: I do think, Like for us specifically, we accept that

923
00:42:17,680 --> 00:42:19,200
Speaker 2: it is an honor and so we're always like we're

924
00:42:19,239 --> 00:42:21,560
Speaker 2: honored and you will always go. But I can see

925
00:42:21,640 --> 00:42:24,160
Speaker 2: how especially if you've been doing it a lot of times. Yeah,

926
00:42:24,320 --> 00:42:27,120
Speaker 2: it's never you right, just like okay, it gets defeating,

927
00:42:27,320 --> 00:42:28,200
Speaker 2: Yeah for sure.

928
00:42:40,800 --> 00:42:42,880
Speaker 3: Kylie Kelsey wasn't going to tell Jason if she went

929
00:42:42,920 --> 00:42:46,480
Speaker 3: into labor on game day. She goes, I'm the type

930
00:42:46,520 --> 00:42:48,640
Speaker 3: of person who's just going to do it. She explained,

931
00:42:48,680 --> 00:42:51,000
Speaker 3: So my answer to that, in a conversation with my

932
00:42:51,080 --> 00:42:52,880
Speaker 3: husband and I had was if I go into labor,

933
00:42:52,920 --> 00:42:54,600
Speaker 3: because they stay in the hotel and it before I

934
00:42:54,719 --> 00:42:57,640
Speaker 3: go into labor, and you are going to be playing

935
00:42:57,640 --> 00:42:59,400
Speaker 3: a game while I'm pushing this baby out. I'm not

936
00:42:59,440 --> 00:43:02,200
Speaker 3: telling you. What are your thoughts? So you, I mean

937
00:43:02,239 --> 00:43:04,200
Speaker 3: you haven't had your husband. Well, you've had your husband,

938
00:43:04,239 --> 00:43:05,439
Speaker 3: but he's had to like fly out.

939
00:43:06,320 --> 00:43:10,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, I didn't have him, uh to two times he's

940
00:43:10,200 --> 00:43:12,440
Speaker 2: flown in and met me at the hospital, right, but

941
00:43:12,560 --> 00:43:14,279
Speaker 2: like he was there when you have the baby, Yes,

942
00:43:14,440 --> 00:43:16,120
Speaker 2: all three times. Would you ever not.

943
00:43:18,640 --> 00:43:20,880
Speaker 3: If okay, let's just put yourself in if he had

944
00:43:20,920 --> 00:43:22,840
Speaker 3: a game or whatever, would you not tell him that

945
00:43:22,840 --> 00:43:23,800
Speaker 3: you were going into labor?

946
00:43:24,280 --> 00:43:26,960
Speaker 2: No? So what are your thoughts on that? Then? Yeah?

947
00:43:27,000 --> 00:43:29,240
Speaker 2: I don't know. I mean, I maybe it feels different

948
00:43:29,280 --> 00:43:32,640
Speaker 2: because it's because it's sports, Like I mean, ours is

949
00:43:32,719 --> 00:43:35,360
Speaker 2: just one show. It doesn't go towards a total of anything.

950
00:43:35,360 --> 00:43:37,960
Speaker 2: We're not gearing towards a championship of anything. So that's

951
00:43:38,000 --> 00:43:40,880
Speaker 2: where it would be different. These are like life things.

952
00:43:40,960 --> 00:43:43,280
Speaker 2: I know that it is football in his life for everyone,

953
00:43:43,320 --> 00:43:45,840
Speaker 2: So that's also very tricky and that's their livelihood. I

954
00:43:45,880 --> 00:43:47,920
Speaker 2: get it. So I don't know what it's like to

955
00:43:47,920 --> 00:43:49,640
Speaker 2: be married to a football player, but I can tell

956
00:43:49,640 --> 00:43:54,040
Speaker 2: you that ours was canceled the show and get home cap.

957
00:43:54,560 --> 00:43:56,680
Speaker 2: We don't cancel shows after the baby's here, though, just

958
00:43:56,719 --> 00:44:00,240
Speaker 2: so we're clear. So back out on the road we go. Yeah, yeah,

959
00:44:00,280 --> 00:44:03,360
Speaker 2: I mean, there's no like maternity unity.

960
00:44:03,719 --> 00:44:07,200
Speaker 1: I do think it's different. I think that the the

961
00:44:08,120 --> 00:44:10,640
Speaker 1: behind this is that if she tells him, then he's

962
00:44:10,680 --> 00:44:12,080
Speaker 1: going to be in his head and he's not gonna

963
00:44:12,160 --> 00:44:14,880
Speaker 1: perform his best at his game, and it's gonna be detrimental,

964
00:44:14,880 --> 00:44:17,040
Speaker 1: and that is a huge part of their let's keep

965
00:44:17,080 --> 00:44:23,040
Speaker 1: in mind livelihood, Like that's huge. First kid, who I'd

966
00:44:23,080 --> 00:44:24,919
Speaker 1: have a hard time with it. Third kid, I would

967
00:44:24,960 --> 00:44:27,160
Speaker 1: have been like, it's fine, you know what I mean.

968
00:44:27,239 --> 00:44:28,880
Speaker 1: Like by the third kid, I was kind of like,

969
00:44:28,920 --> 00:44:30,600
Speaker 1: why you don't need to stay here tonight? Go home

970
00:44:30,640 --> 00:44:32,839
Speaker 1: with the kids, you know. But first kid, it just

971
00:44:32,920 --> 00:44:36,800
Speaker 1: feels so I don't know, you know, but I would

972
00:44:36,800 --> 00:44:38,319
Speaker 1: have done the same thing. It would be hard, and

973
00:44:38,320 --> 00:44:40,360
Speaker 1: I wouldn't be happy about it. I'd be really bummed,

974
00:44:40,360 --> 00:44:41,879
Speaker 1: but I would probably do the same thing.

975
00:44:42,040 --> 00:44:44,600
Speaker 2: And I do think people are made differently, Like what's

976
00:44:44,600 --> 00:44:44,759
Speaker 2: the thing.

977
00:44:44,800 --> 00:44:46,120
Speaker 3: That's what I was gonna say about her, Like when

978
00:44:46,120 --> 00:44:48,000
Speaker 3: I look at her, I'm like she's she looks like

979
00:44:48,040 --> 00:44:51,120
Speaker 3: just a badass, Like she's like I got this, Like

980
00:44:51,600 --> 00:44:53,520
Speaker 3: I don't need you, I want you, and like I

981
00:44:53,560 --> 00:44:53,920
Speaker 3: love her.

982
00:44:54,000 --> 00:44:55,560
Speaker 2: I like I've always loved her vibe.

983
00:44:55,560 --> 00:44:58,919
Speaker 3: I think she's really cool, Like she's someone that like yeah,

984
00:44:58,920 --> 00:45:00,480
Speaker 3: it just to be like a really on hang and

985
00:45:00,520 --> 00:45:02,480
Speaker 3: I could see her just being like, yeah, I like

986
00:45:02,520 --> 00:45:04,279
Speaker 3: I got this. And there's a piece of me that

987
00:45:04,400 --> 00:45:07,040
Speaker 3: like almost like envies that, like because I'm so like, no,

988
00:45:07,080 --> 00:45:08,719
Speaker 3: I need to hear like you know, I need you

989
00:45:08,760 --> 00:45:10,239
Speaker 3: to hold my hand through this because I'm gonna pass

990
00:45:10,239 --> 00:45:12,319
Speaker 3: out and freak out. Like there's like kind of that

991
00:45:12,360 --> 00:45:14,560
Speaker 3: piece where it's like I wish I could have a

992
00:45:14,600 --> 00:45:17,680
Speaker 3: piece of that badassness where it's like I'm like I

993
00:45:17,680 --> 00:45:18,960
Speaker 3: can do this, I got this.

994
00:45:19,080 --> 00:45:24,880
Speaker 2: I'll call you afterwards. Hey it's a boy. So like

995
00:45:25,120 --> 00:45:28,760
Speaker 2: I'm like, true, I would so love that, Like that's cool,

996
00:45:29,000 --> 00:45:32,320
Speaker 2: you know, yeah, but that is cool even for our family,

997
00:45:32,360 --> 00:45:34,200
Speaker 2: Like Preston goes back out on the road, it's like

998
00:45:34,360 --> 00:45:36,600
Speaker 2: but that's our livelihood and that's what we're that's what

999
00:45:36,640 --> 00:45:39,399
Speaker 2: we have to do, and I know that will work

1000
00:45:39,400 --> 00:45:41,239
Speaker 2: into the career. And so it's like I think, because

1001
00:45:41,239 --> 00:45:42,799
Speaker 2: I've been in the career, that's why I think maybe

1002
00:45:42,840 --> 00:45:46,480
Speaker 2: it works for them, because she is built different in

1003
00:45:46,520 --> 00:45:48,759
Speaker 2: the way that she can even be an NFL wife.

1004
00:45:48,880 --> 00:45:50,200
Speaker 1: What I'm saying, you have to be a little bit

1005
00:45:50,200 --> 00:45:53,160
Speaker 1: I could to be an NFL wife anyway. Right, it's

1006
00:45:53,160 --> 00:45:56,920
Speaker 1: such a mentality. I mean, think of all the things

1007
00:45:56,960 --> 00:45:59,320
Speaker 1: he's missed. I mean, I know a baby's the biggest,

1008
00:45:59,600 --> 00:46:01,640
Speaker 1: but all so at the same time, they're kind of

1009
00:46:01,680 --> 00:46:04,360
Speaker 1: used to that lifestyle and missing a lot and yeah

1010
00:46:04,400 --> 00:46:05,720
Speaker 1: she's yeah, she's a badass.

1011
00:46:07,040 --> 00:46:09,520
Speaker 2: Have they had the baby? No?

1012
00:46:09,880 --> 00:46:15,000
Speaker 3: No, Okay, onto ending the segment. Guys, again, I want

1013
00:46:15,000 --> 00:46:15,680
Speaker 3: to do this like that.

1014
00:46:15,800 --> 00:46:17,680
Speaker 2: I just have to like structure.

1015
00:46:18,040 --> 00:46:20,440
Speaker 3: Thanks for verbally walking us through. Yes, this is how

1016
00:46:20,440 --> 00:46:22,160
Speaker 3: it's going to walk through. But we're going to always

1017
00:46:22,239 --> 00:46:24,440
Speaker 3: end the show with a little life advice. I think again,

1018
00:46:24,520 --> 00:46:27,640
Speaker 3: something that we love and that we've uh, you know

1019
00:46:27,640 --> 00:46:29,560
Speaker 3: when we went on tour was the Q and A

1020
00:46:29,600 --> 00:46:32,960
Speaker 3: session when someone would kind of either as ask a

1021
00:46:32,960 --> 00:46:35,880
Speaker 3: ask oh my gosh, ask us a question, or you know,

1022
00:46:36,640 --> 00:46:38,680
Speaker 3: tell them tell us about their life and you know

1023
00:46:38,719 --> 00:46:42,239
Speaker 3: how we can maybe help them. Again, we don't have PhDs.

1024
00:46:42,520 --> 00:46:44,440
Speaker 3: You're not therapist, but boy if we spent a lot

1025
00:46:44,480 --> 00:46:50,600
Speaker 3: of time in the couch, so so please DM us

1026
00:46:51,080 --> 00:46:54,640
Speaker 3: any questions to the wind Down account wind Down podcast

1027
00:46:54,719 --> 00:46:58,400
Speaker 3: on Instagram, any questions that you guys have and if not,

1028
00:46:58,480 --> 00:47:00,239
Speaker 3: we'll just leave you with a piece of life.

1029
00:47:00,239 --> 00:47:02,319
Speaker 2: So we have, but we did have a DM because

1030
00:47:02,320 --> 00:47:03,240
Speaker 2: we asked yesterday.

1031
00:47:03,560 --> 00:47:07,000
Speaker 3: So here here it is high ladies looking for outsider perspectives.

1032
00:47:07,280 --> 00:47:10,440
Speaker 3: I'm a step mom to an adolescent girl and I

1033
00:47:10,440 --> 00:47:12,960
Speaker 3: have two of my own children. There is a lot

1034
00:47:12,960 --> 00:47:15,399
Speaker 3: of tension with the biological mom of my bonus daughter,

1035
00:47:15,520 --> 00:47:18,600
Speaker 3: especially that she and my mother in law have more

1036
00:47:18,800 --> 00:47:21,680
Speaker 3: contact than I do with my mother in law, my

1037
00:47:21,800 --> 00:47:26,239
Speaker 3: husband an ex wife's marriage ended seven years ago. It

1038
00:47:26,320 --> 00:47:28,959
Speaker 3: kind of hurts but also pisses me off. My mother

1039
00:47:29,040 --> 00:47:31,200
Speaker 3: in law thinks it's okay to send picks of my

1040
00:47:31,320 --> 00:47:35,680
Speaker 3: family to my stepdaughter's biological mom, so picks of my

1041
00:47:35,800 --> 00:47:38,640
Speaker 3: husband and our babies to his ex wife. I've literally

1042
00:47:38,680 --> 00:47:41,400
Speaker 3: only met her once in our six year relationship. My

1043
00:47:41,480 --> 00:47:43,640
Speaker 3: mother in law sees nothing wrong with any of this.

1044
00:47:43,840 --> 00:47:45,839
Speaker 3: She thinks it's just no big deal to share our

1045
00:47:45,880 --> 00:47:49,120
Speaker 3: life with my ex husband's ex, well, sorry, with my

1046
00:47:49,200 --> 00:47:52,520
Speaker 3: husband's ex. She also keeps secrets from us regarding what

1047
00:47:52,560 --> 00:47:55,640
Speaker 3: goes on when bonus daughter is at biological mom's house.

1048
00:47:55,719 --> 00:47:57,759
Speaker 3: Long story short, Is it normal that I've met the

1049
00:47:57,760 --> 00:48:01,000
Speaker 3: biological mom once? In sixs? And?

1050
00:48:01,160 --> 00:48:01,239
Speaker 2: Is?

1051
00:48:01,440 --> 00:48:03,919
Speaker 3: And is it okay that mother in law has such

1052
00:48:04,000 --> 00:48:07,640
Speaker 3: frequent contact with her ex daughter in law love that's

1053
00:48:07,640 --> 00:48:10,520
Speaker 3: her ex daughter in law love from a Michigan mom.

1054
00:48:11,080 --> 00:48:12,600
Speaker 2: Woo woo, Michiganders.

1055
00:48:12,680 --> 00:48:18,440
Speaker 4: That's I mean, I don't know.

1056
00:48:18,840 --> 00:48:22,480
Speaker 1: I'm not divorced, but I feel like the first question,

1057
00:48:22,600 --> 00:48:25,920
Speaker 1: is it normal to have only met once? Possibly? I

1058
00:48:25,920 --> 00:48:28,120
Speaker 1: mean I feel like that could be normal to not

1059
00:48:28,280 --> 00:48:30,799
Speaker 1: really be involved with. But do I think it's weird

1060
00:48:30,840 --> 00:48:32,839
Speaker 1: that the mother in law sending all of that and

1061
00:48:32,880 --> 00:48:36,239
Speaker 1: that that's not that seems to cross the line to me.

1062
00:48:36,920 --> 00:48:41,360
Speaker 2: So without is she's she assuming she's the glue? Is

1063
00:48:41,360 --> 00:48:44,080
Speaker 2: that what I'm understanding? Because because those are all her grandbabies,

1064
00:48:44,239 --> 00:48:46,840
Speaker 2: she thinks she can merge the world's Probably.

1065
00:48:46,520 --> 00:48:49,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, probably. I just feel like that should maybe be

1066
00:48:49,080 --> 00:48:51,719
Speaker 1: a discussion, like, hey, are you comfortable with this? I

1067
00:48:51,760 --> 00:48:53,560
Speaker 1: won't do this if you're not, but here's why I

1068
00:48:53,600 --> 00:48:54,920
Speaker 1: want to do it or something.

1069
00:48:55,000 --> 00:48:57,880
Speaker 3: I would go to the husband, yeah, and say this

1070
00:48:58,040 --> 00:49:01,239
Speaker 3: makes me feel uncomfortable that you're mom is doing this

1071
00:49:02,160 --> 00:49:05,840
Speaker 3: and getting on the same page with him, so that way,

1072
00:49:05,920 --> 00:49:08,399
Speaker 3: it's not her just going to the mother in law

1073
00:49:08,400 --> 00:49:10,600
Speaker 3: and saying sure this, Like, I feel like that's where

1074
00:49:10,600 --> 00:49:12,959
Speaker 3: the husband needs to step up and say, my wife

1075
00:49:13,040 --> 00:49:17,040
Speaker 3: does not feel comfortable with this, you know, can you

1076
00:49:17,080 --> 00:49:17,520
Speaker 3: not do this?

1077
00:49:18,040 --> 00:49:20,360
Speaker 2: I agree? And I also think I don't have anybody

1078
00:49:20,400 --> 00:49:24,080
Speaker 2: sending anybody pictures and my kids related or not related,

1079
00:49:24,239 --> 00:49:28,200
Speaker 2: like that's not up to them. Well, that feels very

1080
00:49:28,239 --> 00:49:28,880
Speaker 2: strange to me.

1081
00:49:29,200 --> 00:49:33,839
Speaker 1: Maybe depending on if the husband is in contact with

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00:49:33,880 --> 00:49:37,680
Speaker 1: the ex wife, Like I think it's appropriate if the

1083
00:49:37,920 --> 00:49:41,359
Speaker 1: current wife is comfortable with her going straight to him

1084
00:49:41,360 --> 00:49:45,120
Speaker 1: and saying, can I have some pictures of the family

1085
00:49:45,200 --> 00:49:47,520
Speaker 1: if she wants them, Like, I don't necessarily think she

1086
00:49:47,560 --> 00:49:48,680
Speaker 1: needs to go to the mother in law.

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00:49:48,680 --> 00:49:49,919
Speaker 4: She should just go to the dad.

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00:49:50,520 --> 00:49:53,400
Speaker 2: Yeah. I'll say this, though, there is a generational gap

1089
00:49:53,680 --> 00:49:56,480
Speaker 2: that I think we need to acknowledge because that I'm

1090
00:49:56,560 --> 00:50:01,320
Speaker 2: assuming that writer or that listener is around our age,

1091
00:50:01,640 --> 00:50:04,480
Speaker 2: and so we're dealing with a group of a different age,

1092
00:50:04,719 --> 00:50:09,040
Speaker 2: and they really love pictures a lot. Yeah, Like my

1093
00:50:09,120 --> 00:50:11,919
Speaker 2: mom requests pictures so that she can just I'm like, Mom,

1094
00:50:12,040 --> 00:50:14,920
Speaker 2: you don't need to show you know, doctor so and so,

1095
00:50:15,000 --> 00:50:18,480
Speaker 2: because they if they cared, they could follow along, you know. Yeah,

1096
00:50:18,560 --> 00:50:21,000
Speaker 2: So it's like a weird. But also like we share

1097
00:50:21,040 --> 00:50:23,440
Speaker 2: on social media, so I know that seems counterproductive too.

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00:50:23,520 --> 00:50:25,839
Speaker 2: I just it's it is just a different generation where

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00:50:25,880 --> 00:50:29,000
Speaker 2: like I think it's being probably she's coming from a

1100
00:50:29,000 --> 00:50:31,719
Speaker 2: place a gracious assumption. She's probably been super proud, but

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00:50:31,800 --> 00:50:33,960
Speaker 2: it does feel a little I think you're trusive.

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Speaker 4: I think she should.

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00:50:34,840 --> 00:50:36,400
Speaker 1: She just needs to go to her husband and say

1104
00:50:36,440 --> 00:50:38,440
Speaker 1: she's uncomfortable and have him talk to her.

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00:50:38,560 --> 00:50:41,279
Speaker 3: Yeah, because I actually don't even know who or if

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00:50:41,280 --> 00:50:44,240
Speaker 3: the if the ex wife really enjoys getting these photos either.

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00:50:45,120 --> 00:50:50,279
Speaker 2: Think about it where I'm like I wife. Like, for example, if.

1108
00:50:52,560 --> 00:50:56,640
Speaker 3: Mike is having a baby with his girlfriend, Let's say

1109
00:50:56,640 --> 00:51:00,680
Speaker 3: they have a baby. If Pam sends me photo of

1110
00:51:00,960 --> 00:51:03,040
Speaker 3: I'm sorry, no, who would that be? It would be

1111
00:51:03,080 --> 00:51:05,320
Speaker 3: how does that work? Yeah, it would be sending me photos.

1112
00:51:05,440 --> 00:51:07,200
Speaker 3: It would be like his mom, it would be it

1113
00:51:07,200 --> 00:51:10,319
Speaker 3: would be it would be But that's but is that

1114
00:51:10,320 --> 00:51:13,080
Speaker 3: the you know, because it would be my husband's be

1115
00:51:13,120 --> 00:51:17,400
Speaker 3: on the other side. But either way, like I, well, no,

1116
00:51:17,440 --> 00:51:20,560
Speaker 3: that's not right because it's not an ex because if

1117
00:51:20,600 --> 00:51:23,799
Speaker 3: Mike was remarried, right, but would be this is my

1118
00:51:23,880 --> 00:51:25,000
Speaker 3: husband's mom.

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00:51:25,120 --> 00:51:27,440
Speaker 4: Oh we're ok ye ya ya yah, yeah, yeah, yeah

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00:51:27,440 --> 00:51:27,880
Speaker 4: it would.

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00:51:28,560 --> 00:51:31,360
Speaker 3: So I'm like, i'd like, okay, I'll say hi to

1122
00:51:31,400 --> 00:51:33,600
Speaker 3: the cute baby that I see that they make maybe

1123
00:51:33,640 --> 00:51:36,279
Speaker 3: one day, but like, I don't need you to send

1124
00:51:36,280 --> 00:51:38,680
Speaker 3: me a photo. And even if we were like cool,

1125
00:51:38,719 --> 00:51:40,960
Speaker 3: like and we're fine, like I accidentally this happens all

1126
00:51:41,000 --> 00:51:44,240
Speaker 3: the time, but I every time I say hey, Siri,

1127
00:51:44,360 --> 00:51:47,600
Speaker 3: call Pam, it calls Pam her like, and then it's

1128
00:51:47,640 --> 00:51:52,879
Speaker 3: like I'm like and then it's like it's already rang

1129
00:51:52,920 --> 00:51:54,680
Speaker 3: the ones and she's like me and I was like,

1130
00:51:54,880 --> 00:51:58,040
Speaker 3: I didn't mean to. I was like, Hi, how you doing,

1131
00:51:58,480 --> 00:52:00,640
Speaker 3: And we have a conversation and she's so we're all fine,

1132
00:52:00,680 --> 00:52:02,920
Speaker 3: everything great. But like even if we had a good conversation,

1133
00:52:03,000 --> 00:52:05,200
Speaker 3: I'm sorry, I don't want pictures of my ex husband's

1134
00:52:05,280 --> 00:52:06,240
Speaker 3: kid with his new wife.

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00:52:06,360 --> 00:52:09,640
Speaker 1: I don't we need to find that part out, Like

1136
00:52:09,719 --> 00:52:13,000
Speaker 1: I want I'm curious wife.

1137
00:52:13,400 --> 00:52:15,799
Speaker 3: Because maybe they can both come together and say hey, mom,

1138
00:52:16,040 --> 00:52:17,120
Speaker 3: stop fucking sending the.

1139
00:52:17,120 --> 00:52:19,840
Speaker 4: Pro could get together, but nobody wants these fights.

1140
00:52:20,600 --> 00:52:22,760
Speaker 2: Maybe they're together for the second time in six years

1141
00:52:22,840 --> 00:52:24,239
Speaker 2: and that's the topic of conversation.

1142
00:52:24,440 --> 00:52:26,560
Speaker 4: Our advice get together with the ex wife and find.

1143
00:52:26,360 --> 00:52:28,320
Speaker 2: Out life advice. There, I have it.

1144
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Speaker 3: We'll hope you guys enjoy this episode and I rundown

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Speaker 3: I loved it.

1146
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Speaker 2: Is this the conclusion of the show, Stay tuned for

1147
00:52:36,520 --> 00:52:41,799
Speaker 2: next week. We're going to say bye now by bye bye.