1 00:00:00,160 --> 00:00:03,160 Speaker 1: So if you have really strong passion, really strong feelings, 2 00:00:03,480 --> 00:00:05,880 Speaker 1: you've got a crazy heart that just loves and runs 3 00:00:05,920 --> 00:00:09,400 Speaker 1: and loves and attaches and wraps up, then you got 4 00:00:09,440 --> 00:00:12,440 Speaker 1: to have a little bit stronger mind. Your mind needs 5 00:00:12,440 --> 00:00:25,720 Speaker 1: to run out ahead of that. Hey, guys, welcome to 6 00:00:25,760 --> 00:00:29,080 Speaker 1: the podcast. Thanks for watching and listening wherever you came from. 7 00:00:29,160 --> 00:00:30,880 Speaker 1: I know we got a lot of TikTokers lately that 8 00:00:30,920 --> 00:00:32,960 Speaker 1: are coming from TikTok, from the clips I put on 9 00:00:33,000 --> 00:00:35,559 Speaker 1: there and then coming to the full length podcast. Got 10 00:00:35,560 --> 00:00:37,240 Speaker 1: a lot of people doing the same thing from after 11 00:00:37,320 --> 00:00:40,360 Speaker 1: Midnight my radio show, or maybe you just are a 12 00:00:40,400 --> 00:00:44,040 Speaker 1: longtime listener, So thank you. I love this platform. I 13 00:00:44,080 --> 00:00:47,279 Speaker 1: love doing it so much so that you know, I've 14 00:00:47,280 --> 00:00:49,680 Speaker 1: been traveling a lot lately, playing a lot of music, 15 00:00:50,000 --> 00:00:53,479 Speaker 1: and I'll squeeze even the littlest time to come to 16 00:00:53,560 --> 00:00:56,400 Speaker 1: this podcast because I still think it's so important and 17 00:00:56,440 --> 00:00:58,600 Speaker 1: it's so fulfilling for me. So what I do is 18 00:00:58,640 --> 00:01:02,000 Speaker 1: I read your questions. I'm not prompted by any of them. 19 00:01:02,040 --> 00:01:05,040 Speaker 1: I don't have research on them, I don't have notes 20 00:01:05,080 --> 00:01:06,440 Speaker 1: in front of me. We're just going to go through 21 00:01:06,480 --> 00:01:10,280 Speaker 1: your emails, which you email me. Grangersmith podcast at gmail 22 00:01:10,319 --> 00:01:13,120 Speaker 1: dot com. That's the email I put it in the queue. 23 00:01:13,200 --> 00:01:16,360 Speaker 1: My request is keep it readable, about the size of 24 00:01:16,400 --> 00:01:19,679 Speaker 1: a phone, and then don't send the same one twice. 25 00:01:19,720 --> 00:01:21,440 Speaker 1: Those are my only two request. It could be about 26 00:01:21,440 --> 00:01:26,360 Speaker 1: any subject. Let's jump in. First question. Subject line says 27 00:01:26,440 --> 00:01:29,399 Speaker 1: how to break up the right way? Hey Grange, I'm 28 00:01:29,400 --> 00:01:31,760 Speaker 1: currently deployed in the military overseas right now, and my 29 00:01:31,840 --> 00:01:35,480 Speaker 1: relationship with my girlfriend is struggling. We were not in 30 00:01:35,520 --> 00:01:37,720 Speaker 1: a good spot before I left for deployment, and we 31 00:01:37,840 --> 00:01:40,080 Speaker 1: argue all the time. She texted me and accused me 32 00:01:40,160 --> 00:01:42,120 Speaker 1: of talking to other girls just because I'd forgotten what 33 00:01:42,120 --> 00:01:45,760 Speaker 1: our conversation was about. She constantly gets irritated with me 34 00:01:45,840 --> 00:01:48,600 Speaker 1: and has a short temper and is always upset. I'm 35 00:01:48,600 --> 00:01:51,800 Speaker 1: worried about breaking up because I know it will hurt 36 00:01:51,800 --> 00:01:54,800 Speaker 1: her heart and I know it's but I know it's 37 00:01:54,800 --> 00:01:57,440 Speaker 1: what's best for me and her. I don't see a 38 00:01:57,480 --> 00:02:00,800 Speaker 1: future with her, and I know that she isn't the one, 39 00:02:00,960 --> 00:02:04,320 Speaker 1: but I still love her and I'm no longer in 40 00:02:04,360 --> 00:02:06,640 Speaker 1: love with her, if that makes sense. I know this 41 00:02:06,640 --> 00:02:08,520 Speaker 1: breakup will be the best for both of us, but 42 00:02:08,560 --> 00:02:09,840 Speaker 1: I'm not sure how to go to about it, Go 43 00:02:09,919 --> 00:02:14,360 Speaker 1: about it. I don't get home for another five months. 44 00:02:14,400 --> 00:02:17,840 Speaker 1: Just want to get this relationship in the right place 45 00:02:17,880 --> 00:02:22,519 Speaker 1: while I'm over here. If you could help me, please Anonymous. Okay, 46 00:02:23,960 --> 00:02:26,040 Speaker 1: first of all, Anonymous, thank you for your service. Thank 47 00:02:26,080 --> 00:02:29,200 Speaker 1: you for what you're doing for this country. And the 48 00:02:29,240 --> 00:02:33,320 Speaker 1: situation you're in is not it's not crazy, it's not abnormal. 49 00:02:33,840 --> 00:02:35,440 Speaker 1: How do you break up with the girl you know 50 00:02:35,520 --> 00:02:37,320 Speaker 1: she's not the right one. Of course you love her. 51 00:02:37,360 --> 00:02:40,359 Speaker 1: I agree with you. There's a form of love we 52 00:02:40,400 --> 00:02:43,040 Speaker 1: have for everybody, and especially if you spend time with someone, 53 00:02:43,080 --> 00:02:46,040 Speaker 1: you develop a relationship, just like you love a friend 54 00:02:46,080 --> 00:02:49,320 Speaker 1: and you love a girlfriend or an ex girlfriend. So 55 00:02:49,400 --> 00:02:52,360 Speaker 1: I understand that, and I understand that you know she's 56 00:02:52,360 --> 00:02:55,679 Speaker 1: not the one you're having trouble, and it's it's really 57 00:02:55,720 --> 00:02:59,080 Speaker 1: good because so many of these deployments, what happens is 58 00:02:59,560 --> 00:03:02,960 Speaker 1: you get those to your your girlfriend, and then you 59 00:03:03,000 --> 00:03:05,639 Speaker 1: go on deployment, and the bad things that you had 60 00:03:05,720 --> 00:03:09,200 Speaker 1: before you left don't seem as bad anymore because now 61 00:03:09,200 --> 00:03:12,040 Speaker 1: you're on deployment and you don't see any girls, and 62 00:03:12,400 --> 00:03:14,840 Speaker 1: so you just miss her and you miss home, and 63 00:03:14,880 --> 00:03:18,520 Speaker 1: you kind of confuse those the missing of home with 64 00:03:18,639 --> 00:03:20,239 Speaker 1: she's the right one. Let's go ahead and get married 65 00:03:20,240 --> 00:03:21,600 Speaker 1: as soon as I get home and make a baby. 66 00:03:22,280 --> 00:03:25,480 Speaker 1: And we see that all the time, especially on this podcast, 67 00:03:25,480 --> 00:03:27,040 Speaker 1: and then I get emails and then and then you 68 00:03:27,040 --> 00:03:30,600 Speaker 1: have you make babies at home, and then there's a 69 00:03:30,840 --> 00:03:34,280 Speaker 1: much bigger problem. So hey, Anonymous, it's this is pretty 70 00:03:34,280 --> 00:03:37,280 Speaker 1: good that you're you're realizing it right now. Now, what 71 00:03:37,360 --> 00:03:40,920 Speaker 1: I will tell you is when you're going to break 72 00:03:41,000 --> 00:03:42,760 Speaker 1: up with the girl that you don't that you know 73 00:03:43,000 --> 00:03:46,200 Speaker 1: is not the one for you, you're sure of that, 74 00:03:47,440 --> 00:03:50,720 Speaker 1: the best thing to do for her, if you love her, 75 00:03:50,720 --> 00:03:53,800 Speaker 1: and I know you do, is make this happen as 76 00:03:53,800 --> 00:03:57,839 Speaker 1: soon as possible and make it happen as truthful as 77 00:03:57,880 --> 00:04:02,040 Speaker 1: possible with open conversation. Now that hurts, and that's going 78 00:04:02,080 --> 00:04:05,440 Speaker 1: to hurt her, of course it is. But this is 79 00:04:05,480 --> 00:04:07,080 Speaker 1: the best way to do it for you, because it's 80 00:04:07,080 --> 00:04:09,160 Speaker 1: the best thing you could do for her is be 81 00:04:09,280 --> 00:04:12,320 Speaker 1: completely honest and break it off now while it's on 82 00:04:12,360 --> 00:04:14,800 Speaker 1: your mind. It's not going to get any better, and 83 00:04:14,840 --> 00:04:19,159 Speaker 1: then it gives her time to heal and move on, 84 00:04:19,440 --> 00:04:21,720 Speaker 1: and it gives you time to do the same. So 85 00:04:23,240 --> 00:04:25,400 Speaker 1: now on deployment, I'm not sure. If you I'm not 86 00:04:25,440 --> 00:04:27,000 Speaker 1: sure if you're in a place where you could have 87 00:04:27,000 --> 00:04:31,359 Speaker 1: phone calls. If you are, please phone call her FaceTime. 88 00:04:32,520 --> 00:04:36,039 Speaker 1: Skype is way better than an email or a text, 89 00:04:36,720 --> 00:04:40,080 Speaker 1: so I would I would suggest the first option on 90 00:04:40,160 --> 00:04:44,719 Speaker 1: deployment is a Skype video message. My second option would 91 00:04:44,720 --> 00:04:46,599 Speaker 1: be a phone call where she could hear your voice. 92 00:04:47,160 --> 00:04:50,279 Speaker 1: If you can't do one of those two options, I 93 00:04:50,320 --> 00:04:52,279 Speaker 1: don't think I would email this. I don't think I 94 00:04:52,279 --> 00:04:55,480 Speaker 1: would text this. This is too big for that. She 95 00:04:55,520 --> 00:04:59,440 Speaker 1: needs to hear the sincerity in your voice. And then 96 00:04:59,880 --> 00:05:02,360 Speaker 1: you just lay it out as honest as possible. And 97 00:05:02,400 --> 00:05:06,280 Speaker 1: when I say honest as possible, this means you need 98 00:05:06,320 --> 00:05:09,920 Speaker 1: to you need to shut the door. You don't need 99 00:05:09,960 --> 00:05:14,080 Speaker 1: to say things like who knows, maybe maybe when I 100 00:05:14,120 --> 00:05:17,920 Speaker 1: get back we can get together and have coffee and 101 00:05:17,960 --> 00:05:20,560 Speaker 1: maybe it'll work out. And you're saying that because you 102 00:05:20,560 --> 00:05:23,719 Speaker 1: don't believe it. You're saying it because you just want 103 00:05:23,720 --> 00:05:26,000 Speaker 1: to pull the band aid off a little lighter and 104 00:05:26,080 --> 00:05:28,640 Speaker 1: not have it hurt her so bad. But the truth 105 00:05:28,760 --> 00:05:31,760 Speaker 1: is you're ready to move on and you know she's 106 00:05:31,800 --> 00:05:34,560 Speaker 1: not what's best for you. That's what those are your words, 107 00:05:34,920 --> 00:05:40,560 Speaker 1: and so it's like, hey, and you should probably get 108 00:05:40,560 --> 00:05:42,120 Speaker 1: to it right at the beginning of the conversation so 109 00:05:42,200 --> 00:05:43,920 Speaker 1: that you don't have a bunch of small talk before. 110 00:05:43,960 --> 00:05:48,640 Speaker 1: But it's like, it's like, hey, this is not working 111 00:05:48,680 --> 00:05:52,600 Speaker 1: out with us. I think you're a great girl, and 112 00:05:52,720 --> 00:05:56,800 Speaker 1: I do love you to some extent, but I don't 113 00:05:56,839 --> 00:06:00,719 Speaker 1: see you as my future wife and I don't see 114 00:06:00,800 --> 00:06:05,480 Speaker 1: us together long term. I know this hurts, and trust me, 115 00:06:05,600 --> 00:06:10,000 Speaker 1: this conversation is terrifying to me. And it's very difficult 116 00:06:10,520 --> 00:06:12,320 Speaker 1: because I think you're a great girl and I think 117 00:06:12,320 --> 00:06:14,279 Speaker 1: you're gonna make a great wife to someone today. But 118 00:06:14,360 --> 00:06:16,599 Speaker 1: it's just hurt someone soon. But it's just not me, 119 00:06:18,480 --> 00:06:22,159 Speaker 1: And it's gonna be tough. Man. Your heart's gonna be 120 00:06:22,160 --> 00:06:24,040 Speaker 1: beaten when you make that call, when you make that 121 00:06:24,560 --> 00:06:27,880 Speaker 1: skype message, your heart's gonna be racing. You're gonna be nervous. 122 00:06:27,880 --> 00:06:29,680 Speaker 1: You're gonna want to put it off. You're gonna want 123 00:06:29,680 --> 00:06:32,400 Speaker 1: to say i'll do it tomorrow, or she's busy, she's 124 00:06:32,440 --> 00:06:35,279 Speaker 1: at work, I'll do it later. But it's like, send 125 00:06:35,279 --> 00:06:36,839 Speaker 1: her a message and say, hey, I would love to 126 00:06:36,839 --> 00:06:39,680 Speaker 1: have a video call with you, and as soon as 127 00:06:39,720 --> 00:06:41,080 Speaker 1: she could do it, you got to do it right. 128 00:06:41,080 --> 00:06:43,839 Speaker 1: Then don't put it off, because every second that you 129 00:06:43,880 --> 00:06:47,279 Speaker 1: put it off is weight on you, and it's time 130 00:06:47,440 --> 00:06:50,839 Speaker 1: taking away from her healing. And what we want in 131 00:06:50,880 --> 00:06:53,480 Speaker 1: this situation is for her to heal as soon as possible. 132 00:06:55,080 --> 00:06:57,520 Speaker 1: So you have the hard conversation, but then it's not 133 00:06:57,640 --> 00:07:01,480 Speaker 1: over with you yet because then the self control has 134 00:07:01,480 --> 00:07:03,800 Speaker 1: got to kick in, because here you aren't You're only 135 00:07:03,800 --> 00:07:06,440 Speaker 1: five months into a deployment. I'm sure you've got many 136 00:07:06,440 --> 00:07:09,840 Speaker 1: months left, and you've got to fight that temptation with 137 00:07:10,000 --> 00:07:13,720 Speaker 1: self control and self discipline. That's gonna want to make 138 00:07:13,800 --> 00:07:17,360 Speaker 1: you call her back and say I was wrong, or 139 00:07:18,040 --> 00:07:20,760 Speaker 1: she's gonna reach out to you and say, please, is 140 00:07:20,800 --> 00:07:23,120 Speaker 1: there anything I could do. I'll change, I'm a new person, 141 00:07:23,160 --> 00:07:26,200 Speaker 1: I'll be better. And you got to fight with self 142 00:07:26,280 --> 00:07:30,560 Speaker 1: control to either not reply or to just reply lovingly 143 00:07:30,720 --> 00:07:34,560 Speaker 1: saying I'm so sorry, but this has to be over. 144 00:07:36,560 --> 00:07:39,480 Speaker 1: And that's difficult because you're gonna get lonely and you're 145 00:07:39,480 --> 00:07:42,320 Speaker 1: gonna doubt it. As soon as you hang up with her. 146 00:07:42,520 --> 00:07:44,520 Speaker 1: You're gonna doubt that this is the You're gonna think 147 00:07:44,560 --> 00:07:47,240 Speaker 1: this is the wrong decision. I made the wrong decision. 148 00:07:49,440 --> 00:07:52,040 Speaker 1: But your email right now is telling me it's not 149 00:07:52,560 --> 00:07:54,640 Speaker 1: a wrong decision. It's the right thing to do. It's 150 00:07:54,680 --> 00:07:57,760 Speaker 1: the loving thing to do to her. This is the 151 00:07:57,800 --> 00:08:01,120 Speaker 1: fair and right thing to do to her and you. 152 00:08:03,240 --> 00:08:07,920 Speaker 1: But you got to do it. Next question says subject 153 00:08:07,960 --> 00:08:11,240 Speaker 1: line tragic slash uncommon situation. Hey Granger, I'm twenty two 154 00:08:11,320 --> 00:08:14,000 Speaker 1: years old. I'd like to remain anonymous. The past two 155 00:08:14,120 --> 00:08:16,680 Speaker 1: years have been some of the most challenging years of 156 00:08:16,720 --> 00:08:19,360 Speaker 1: my life. I was in a tragic vehicle accident that 157 00:08:19,560 --> 00:08:23,120 Speaker 1: was my fault. As a result, for a time, I've 158 00:08:23,120 --> 00:08:27,320 Speaker 1: had my license suspended, not a dui. Through all of this, 159 00:08:27,400 --> 00:08:30,720 Speaker 1: God has drawn me closer to Him and use this 160 00:08:30,840 --> 00:08:34,000 Speaker 1: extreme tragedy for his glory, even though the road continues 161 00:08:34,040 --> 00:08:36,800 Speaker 1: to be uncertain to me do to this. I'm still 162 00:08:36,800 --> 00:08:39,080 Speaker 1: living with my parents, but I feel as if I 163 00:08:39,160 --> 00:08:42,400 Speaker 1: cannot progress forward in finding a future spouse. Lord willing 164 00:08:42,800 --> 00:08:46,280 Speaker 1: along with other various adult responsibilities. I have great friends 165 00:08:46,320 --> 00:08:48,520 Speaker 1: and I know the Lord will continue to sanctify me 166 00:08:48,559 --> 00:08:51,480 Speaker 1: through it all. I'm just looking for some practical advice 167 00:08:51,520 --> 00:08:53,920 Speaker 1: and wisdom, which you always seem to have. Thank you 168 00:08:53,960 --> 00:08:56,640 Speaker 1: for reading this. I love your music podcast and most 169 00:08:56,640 --> 00:09:00,400 Speaker 1: of all your heart for Jesus to God alone be 170 00:09:00,440 --> 00:09:04,560 Speaker 1: all the glory. Anonymous. Okay, Anonymous, thank you for the email. Brother. 171 00:09:04,640 --> 00:09:08,520 Speaker 1: I'm sorry of the predicament that you're in with the 172 00:09:08,960 --> 00:09:13,760 Speaker 1: car accident. It happens, it does, So what I would do, 173 00:09:13,760 --> 00:09:17,480 Speaker 1: I would go this direction with you. You are telling 174 00:09:17,520 --> 00:09:20,840 Speaker 1: me your words are beautiful. Your email's great, right, It's 175 00:09:20,880 --> 00:09:23,600 Speaker 1: like all the right words. But but what I would 176 00:09:23,600 --> 00:09:26,080 Speaker 1: say is, let's look back at your words, and let's 177 00:09:26,120 --> 00:09:28,400 Speaker 1: look at some of the things that you said. You 178 00:09:28,480 --> 00:09:31,520 Speaker 1: said through all of this God has drawn me closer 179 00:09:31,520 --> 00:09:34,480 Speaker 1: to him and used this extreme tragedy for his glory. 180 00:09:35,440 --> 00:09:38,520 Speaker 1: Later on, you said, I know the Lord will continue 181 00:09:38,520 --> 00:09:41,600 Speaker 1: to sanctify me through it all. So let's take those 182 00:09:41,600 --> 00:09:44,880 Speaker 1: two sentences and put it next to some other things 183 00:09:44,880 --> 00:09:49,160 Speaker 1: that you wrote. The road continues to be very uncertain. 184 00:09:51,840 --> 00:09:56,400 Speaker 1: I am. I cannot progress forward and finding a future 185 00:09:56,440 --> 00:10:04,080 Speaker 1: spouse or other adult responsibilit I'm looking for practical advice 186 00:10:04,120 --> 00:10:09,679 Speaker 1: and wisdom. So all those things don't align with the 187 00:10:09,720 --> 00:10:14,760 Speaker 1: same cohesive thought. There's inconsistencies there, and I'm here not 188 00:10:14,840 --> 00:10:17,199 Speaker 1: to tell you what to do, but just to point 189 00:10:17,240 --> 00:10:21,920 Speaker 1: out some inconsistencies with your thoughts. So if you believe 190 00:10:22,559 --> 00:10:26,199 Speaker 1: that God has drawn you closer to him and using 191 00:10:26,360 --> 00:10:30,720 Speaker 1: this tragedy for his glory, and that the Lord will 192 00:10:30,720 --> 00:10:34,720 Speaker 1: continue to sanctify you through it all, if you're putting 193 00:10:34,800 --> 00:10:38,040 Speaker 1: those thoughts together, then that should eliminate the other ones. 194 00:10:38,720 --> 00:10:42,880 Speaker 1: It should eliminate the uncertainty of the road. Well, of 195 00:10:42,920 --> 00:10:45,280 Speaker 1: course it's uncertain. Your future is none of your business. 196 00:10:45,640 --> 00:10:48,439 Speaker 1: My future is none of my business. It should also 197 00:10:48,559 --> 00:10:53,560 Speaker 1: eliminate the I cannot progress forward and finding a future spouse. 198 00:10:53,600 --> 00:10:57,880 Speaker 1: Of course you can't with that sentence. But you can 199 00:10:59,000 --> 00:11:02,600 Speaker 1: progress forward and finding a future spouse and other adult 200 00:11:02,679 --> 00:11:08,720 Speaker 1: responsibilities if you truly trust. So what that comes down to, really, 201 00:11:08,760 --> 00:11:12,520 Speaker 1: in your question is a trust issue. You're saying the 202 00:11:12,640 --> 00:11:17,160 Speaker 1: right things, which is great, but you're not trusting the 203 00:11:17,200 --> 00:11:21,080 Speaker 1: things that you're saying. I know God is using this tragedy, 204 00:11:22,160 --> 00:11:24,880 Speaker 1: but but I don't know what to do. I don't 205 00:11:24,880 --> 00:11:27,439 Speaker 1: know where to go from here. I can't progress. Well, 206 00:11:27,480 --> 00:11:32,800 Speaker 1: that's not trusting in his plan. Trusting in his plan 207 00:11:32,920 --> 00:11:35,480 Speaker 1: is admitting that what I just said. It's like God, 208 00:11:35,640 --> 00:11:38,480 Speaker 1: I mean, you're I'm talking anonymous. You're on your knees 209 00:11:38,520 --> 00:11:43,320 Speaker 1: at night and you're like God. I know I know 210 00:11:43,480 --> 00:11:46,760 Speaker 1: from your word that I've read throughout the Bible. I 211 00:11:46,800 --> 00:11:50,040 Speaker 1: know your word says you will use this tragedy for 212 00:11:50,160 --> 00:11:53,960 Speaker 1: your will, for your purpose, for your good. But I'm 213 00:11:54,240 --> 00:12:00,280 Speaker 1: struggling trusting in it. Rebuild that trust in me me 214 00:12:00,320 --> 00:12:05,200 Speaker 1: through your grace, gift me trust in this plan. Strip 215 00:12:05,240 --> 00:12:07,800 Speaker 1: this anxiety for me, Strip this stress away from me. 216 00:12:07,880 --> 00:12:10,079 Speaker 1: Because I don't want to trust my own self. But 217 00:12:10,120 --> 00:12:12,880 Speaker 1: I don't want to trust what Granger says on the podcast, 218 00:12:13,120 --> 00:12:15,760 Speaker 1: because he's just a faulty man like me. I don't 219 00:12:15,760 --> 00:12:17,959 Speaker 1: want to trust things of this world that can get 220 00:12:18,000 --> 00:12:19,839 Speaker 1: me to the next step so that I can get 221 00:12:19,840 --> 00:12:22,079 Speaker 1: to the next step, so that hopefully I could find 222 00:12:22,080 --> 00:12:25,120 Speaker 1: a spouse one day. Let me not trust that. God, 223 00:12:25,120 --> 00:12:27,640 Speaker 1: I don't want to trust you. I believe in you. 224 00:12:27,679 --> 00:12:30,160 Speaker 1: I believe that everything in my life has laid out. 225 00:12:30,520 --> 00:12:33,120 Speaker 1: When I love you and I read your word, I 226 00:12:33,200 --> 00:12:35,200 Speaker 1: believe that you have laid out a plan for me. 227 00:12:35,440 --> 00:12:38,240 Speaker 1: So I'm gonna trust in that. I'm gonna trust that 228 00:12:38,360 --> 00:12:40,400 Speaker 1: right now I don't have my future spouse in mind. 229 00:12:40,600 --> 00:12:43,560 Speaker 1: I'm gonna trust that I'm not supposed to right now. 230 00:12:45,600 --> 00:12:47,360 Speaker 1: I'm also gonna trust that You're gonna give me the 231 00:12:47,400 --> 00:12:51,679 Speaker 1: desires of my heart, meaning not the desires I want, 232 00:12:51,800 --> 00:12:55,280 Speaker 1: but your desires, what you want from me. You're gonna 233 00:12:55,320 --> 00:12:58,079 Speaker 1: give those to my heart. You're gonna fill me with 234 00:12:58,120 --> 00:13:01,800 Speaker 1: that desire so that I can then move on and go. 235 00:13:02,720 --> 00:13:05,440 Speaker 1: Now I'm kind of thinking about this hobby or this 236 00:13:05,600 --> 00:13:09,280 Speaker 1: career path or this way to serve. I'm thinking about 237 00:13:09,320 --> 00:13:12,760 Speaker 1: this like I'm starting to develop a heart for people 238 00:13:12,760 --> 00:13:16,280 Speaker 1: that got into car accidents that are having trouble moving on. 239 00:13:16,840 --> 00:13:19,360 Speaker 1: I'm having a heart to go to the hospital and 240 00:13:19,360 --> 00:13:21,320 Speaker 1: talk to those people and say, look at me. I 241 00:13:21,360 --> 00:13:23,880 Speaker 1: was in your situation. I was in your hospital bed. 242 00:13:24,160 --> 00:13:26,240 Speaker 1: I know what you're going through. And this is what 243 00:13:26,320 --> 00:13:29,520 Speaker 1: I did. I trusted in the Lord. And here's how 244 00:13:29,559 --> 00:13:31,400 Speaker 1: you trust in the Lord. You get on your knees 245 00:13:31,440 --> 00:13:33,800 Speaker 1: and you say, God, give me trust, and then you 246 00:13:33,840 --> 00:13:35,840 Speaker 1: go back to his word and you just devour it 247 00:13:36,520 --> 00:13:38,800 Speaker 1: like you need it, like like you're thirsty for it, 248 00:13:39,240 --> 00:13:42,040 Speaker 1: the living water, like you're hungry for it. That's the 249 00:13:42,040 --> 00:13:46,000 Speaker 1: substance you need. Man cannot live on bread alone, but 250 00:13:46,080 --> 00:13:48,559 Speaker 1: by every word from the mouth of God, that's what 251 00:13:48,600 --> 00:13:53,240 Speaker 1: you need. So you're preaching that in hospitals. Let me 252 00:13:53,280 --> 00:13:56,120 Speaker 1: build this scenario out. You start to develop a passion 253 00:13:56,640 --> 00:13:59,600 Speaker 1: for people that have been like you, that are searching, 254 00:14:00,160 --> 00:14:03,120 Speaker 1: needing something. How do you think this podcast started for me? 255 00:14:03,240 --> 00:14:06,360 Speaker 1: By the way, You got this desire for people that 256 00:14:06,360 --> 00:14:09,200 Speaker 1: have been in situations like you, and you want to 257 00:14:09,200 --> 00:14:11,320 Speaker 1: bring them to God. You want to bring them to 258 00:14:11,400 --> 00:14:13,960 Speaker 1: the trust that you have. And while you're doing it, 259 00:14:13,960 --> 00:14:16,280 Speaker 1: I'm just going to make up a scenario. You're doing that, 260 00:14:17,280 --> 00:14:20,320 Speaker 1: and through that you meet somebody on that path, a nurse, 261 00:14:21,080 --> 00:14:23,640 Speaker 1: somebody at the hospital, maybe somebody that was in an 262 00:14:23,680 --> 00:14:26,640 Speaker 1: accident like you, maybe someone that's doing the same thing 263 00:14:26,640 --> 00:14:29,760 Speaker 1: as you. And you meet him and you really like her, 264 00:14:29,800 --> 00:14:31,800 Speaker 1: and you get to talk to her and you start 265 00:14:31,840 --> 00:14:34,640 Speaker 1: a relationship with her, and you think to yourself, this 266 00:14:34,800 --> 00:14:38,000 Speaker 1: never would have happened if I never trusted. If I 267 00:14:38,000 --> 00:14:40,920 Speaker 1: didn't completely surrender and get my trust from God and 268 00:14:41,000 --> 00:14:44,600 Speaker 1: have him fill me with that, this never would have happened. 269 00:14:44,600 --> 00:14:47,400 Speaker 1: I never would have met her, And now I have her. 270 00:14:49,240 --> 00:14:53,160 Speaker 1: You see how that works? See how that trust works. 271 00:14:53,680 --> 00:14:57,080 Speaker 1: Instead of saying the opposite is I trust that God 272 00:14:57,200 --> 00:15:00,920 Speaker 1: is going to use this tragedy for his glory. So 273 00:15:01,000 --> 00:15:03,400 Speaker 1: what do I do next. I'm so scared. I don't 274 00:15:03,440 --> 00:15:08,760 Speaker 1: know what to do. You see the discrepancy, that's an inconsistency. 275 00:15:09,200 --> 00:15:12,360 Speaker 1: And this is nothing against you because I understand it. 276 00:15:12,440 --> 00:15:14,360 Speaker 1: Why do you think I can explain it so well? 277 00:15:14,640 --> 00:15:19,600 Speaker 1: Because I understand it. Brother, I know this feeling personally, 278 00:15:20,400 --> 00:15:23,600 Speaker 1: and it's a trust issue. It's like, God, you got this, 279 00:15:24,960 --> 00:15:28,840 Speaker 1: you got this. I'm going to continue to move forward. 280 00:15:29,160 --> 00:15:32,400 Speaker 1: I'm going to continue to serve you and praise you 281 00:15:32,760 --> 00:15:36,040 Speaker 1: because you got this and along that path, Lord willing 282 00:15:36,080 --> 00:15:40,400 Speaker 1: you bring somebody into my life. Amazing And if you don't, 283 00:15:40,600 --> 00:15:44,280 Speaker 1: that's part of your plan too. 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Again, 363 00:19:44,280 --> 00:19:53,000 Speaker 1: that's mvmt dot com slash granger. Okay, back to these questions. 364 00:19:53,080 --> 00:19:56,400 Speaker 1: Next one subject line says girlfriends still friends with an 365 00:19:56,560 --> 00:19:59,320 Speaker 1: x granger. I love the podcast. I'm twenty years old 366 00:19:59,320 --> 00:20:03,879 Speaker 1: at recently so my girlfriend of about one year snapchatting 367 00:20:03,920 --> 00:20:06,560 Speaker 1: an ex boyfriend of hers. She told me that she 368 00:20:06,640 --> 00:20:10,200 Speaker 1: was still friends with her ex and she was friends 369 00:20:10,200 --> 00:20:12,600 Speaker 1: before we started dating. I didn't think much of it. 370 00:20:13,320 --> 00:20:15,840 Speaker 1: She said that they don't talk that often and only 371 00:20:15,920 --> 00:20:18,320 Speaker 1: check up every few months. I confronted her about this 372 00:20:18,720 --> 00:20:20,440 Speaker 1: and she told me that they check in on one 373 00:20:20,440 --> 00:20:23,520 Speaker 1: another because they encourage each other to grow in their faith. 374 00:20:23,960 --> 00:20:26,920 Speaker 1: Apparently he was having troubles and she was there for him, 375 00:20:26,960 --> 00:20:28,840 Speaker 1: and they dated for a few months and then she 376 00:20:29,040 --> 00:20:33,000 Speaker 1: ended it poorly because he didn't treat her well. Art 377 00:20:33,080 --> 00:20:35,240 Speaker 1: she said it ended poorly because he didn't treat her well. 378 00:20:35,840 --> 00:20:39,520 Speaker 1: She admitted that they had deep emotional relationship at the time, 379 00:20:40,040 --> 00:20:42,960 Speaker 1: and that she's already explained that she's going to she 380 00:20:43,240 --> 00:20:46,320 Speaker 1: wasn't going to stop talking to him, and she wants 381 00:20:46,359 --> 00:20:49,120 Speaker 1: to know if overlooking the whole I want to know. Sorry, 382 00:20:49,119 --> 00:20:51,680 Speaker 1: I'm having trouble reading today. I want to know if 383 00:20:51,800 --> 00:20:54,080 Speaker 1: overlooking the whole thing is a red flag or if 384 00:20:54,119 --> 00:20:57,119 Speaker 1: it's just being immature. I trust her and her intentions, 385 00:20:57,520 --> 00:21:01,679 Speaker 1: and we semi compromised, as she promised to tell me 386 00:21:01,720 --> 00:21:04,920 Speaker 1: that whenever they talked, she offered to introduce me to him, 387 00:21:04,920 --> 00:21:07,920 Speaker 1: but I declined. Am I wrong in being a bit jealous? 388 00:21:08,119 --> 00:21:10,840 Speaker 1: Does this make me immature? Or is it a red flag? 389 00:21:11,280 --> 00:21:14,520 Speaker 1: Thanks so much, and please keep me anonymous. Okay, thanks 390 00:21:14,520 --> 00:21:19,200 Speaker 1: for the email, Anonymous. I appreciate you. Brother. Yeah, let's 391 00:21:19,240 --> 00:21:26,480 Speaker 1: dive into this. So, I personally think I'm gonna agree 392 00:21:26,560 --> 00:21:30,680 Speaker 1: with you. I think it is a red flag. I 393 00:21:30,720 --> 00:21:34,200 Speaker 1: don't want to dwell on jealousy. But at the same time, 394 00:21:35,359 --> 00:21:38,200 Speaker 1: all of us have our jealous tendencies when the other 395 00:21:38,240 --> 00:21:42,000 Speaker 1: person allows us to or gives us enough reason to 396 00:21:42,040 --> 00:21:46,720 Speaker 1: be jealous. So what I mean is there's no such 397 00:21:46,760 --> 00:21:51,320 Speaker 1: thing as as a person that has zero jealousy at all. 398 00:21:51,920 --> 00:21:55,040 Speaker 1: There's no such thing. There's just people that are less 399 00:21:55,080 --> 00:21:58,600 Speaker 1: jealous in certain relationships and more jealous in other relationships 400 00:21:58,960 --> 00:22:02,760 Speaker 1: because of either how they're acting in that relationship and 401 00:22:02,800 --> 00:22:06,560 Speaker 1: what they're doing, or because how the other person is 402 00:22:06,640 --> 00:22:11,119 Speaker 1: acting around them. So, yes, I think it's a red flag. 403 00:22:12,000 --> 00:22:15,919 Speaker 1: There are there are problems when a guy and a 404 00:22:15,960 --> 00:22:20,520 Speaker 1: girl are are in a relationship, but then outside of 405 00:22:20,520 --> 00:22:23,760 Speaker 1: the relationship, they have a really good friend with strong 406 00:22:24,000 --> 00:22:28,040 Speaker 1: emotional ties that used to date and they get each 407 00:22:28,040 --> 00:22:31,560 Speaker 1: other through strong bad problems and they give each other 408 00:22:31,600 --> 00:22:36,520 Speaker 1: advice and they help each other up. There's there's a 409 00:22:36,720 --> 00:22:41,920 Speaker 1: there's something very wrong with that, because if we're talking 410 00:22:41,920 --> 00:22:44,960 Speaker 1: about spouse especially, she should be getting that from you, 411 00:22:46,520 --> 00:22:50,720 Speaker 1: not someone else. So you should be the provider of 412 00:22:51,160 --> 00:22:54,000 Speaker 1: this emotional support. You should be the one with a 413 00:22:54,040 --> 00:22:59,480 Speaker 1: strong emotional tie. Now we would expect her to just 414 00:22:59,600 --> 00:23:02,840 Speaker 1: know this and see it, and we would expect her 415 00:23:02,880 --> 00:23:10,240 Speaker 1: to say, man, I'm gonna stop doing this because here's 416 00:23:10,240 --> 00:23:13,320 Speaker 1: the reason. Not because this other guy's a bad guy, 417 00:23:13,960 --> 00:23:19,480 Speaker 1: or not because because he's already in a relationship and 418 00:23:19,560 --> 00:23:22,840 Speaker 1: I'm never gonna like him, or because I'm not attracted 419 00:23:22,920 --> 00:23:26,159 Speaker 1: at all to him, not because of those reasons. But 420 00:23:26,200 --> 00:23:29,879 Speaker 1: we would expect her to stop this for the reason 421 00:23:29,920 --> 00:23:33,760 Speaker 1: of you. We would expect her to stop because she says, 422 00:23:34,720 --> 00:23:39,000 Speaker 1: I recognize this is hurting you, This is putting extra 423 00:23:39,080 --> 00:23:42,600 Speaker 1: stress on you, and I don't want to do that 424 00:23:42,680 --> 00:23:45,720 Speaker 1: to you, regardless of who this other guy is, regardless 425 00:23:45,760 --> 00:23:50,159 Speaker 1: of our old friendship. What I'm saying right now is 426 00:23:50,400 --> 00:23:53,040 Speaker 1: one of these things that gets put on TikTok and 427 00:23:53,080 --> 00:23:56,879 Speaker 1: people just revolt because they're like, I've been married for 428 00:23:56,920 --> 00:24:00,320 Speaker 1: twenty five years and I have a really close relationship 429 00:24:00,320 --> 00:24:03,800 Speaker 1: with the guy and we were close emotional ties. And 430 00:24:03,840 --> 00:24:06,520 Speaker 1: I would say to that person, great, this is not 431 00:24:06,560 --> 00:24:08,720 Speaker 1: about you. This is a different This is this is 432 00:24:08,760 --> 00:24:11,280 Speaker 1: the email that came to me, and this guy is 433 00:24:11,480 --> 00:24:15,879 Speaker 1: genuinely stressed out about it. Right, So, buddy, mister anonymous, 434 00:24:17,600 --> 00:24:19,640 Speaker 1: I think you're right in these feelings, and I think 435 00:24:19,720 --> 00:24:25,240 Speaker 1: she's wrong by saying here's your sentence. She already explained 436 00:24:25,240 --> 00:24:27,800 Speaker 1: that she was not going to stop talking to him, 437 00:24:28,119 --> 00:24:32,040 Speaker 1: talking to him, and I just think that's wrong. I 438 00:24:32,040 --> 00:24:34,440 Speaker 1: think if you confront her and you say, babe, this 439 00:24:34,520 --> 00:24:37,920 Speaker 1: is this is kind of messing me up. This guy. 440 00:24:38,200 --> 00:24:41,000 Speaker 1: I know, I know that you love me. I know 441 00:24:41,119 --> 00:24:43,240 Speaker 1: you're attracted to me and not to him. I know 442 00:24:43,320 --> 00:24:46,080 Speaker 1: you don't love him in that way. But it just 443 00:24:46,119 --> 00:24:50,119 Speaker 1: bothers me that you're seeking advice from another guy, or 444 00:24:50,440 --> 00:24:54,199 Speaker 1: you're pouring into another guy emotionally. It just bothers me. 445 00:24:55,280 --> 00:25:01,960 Speaker 1: And if she can't say, WHOA, I get it, I'm 446 00:25:01,960 --> 00:25:05,719 Speaker 1: gonna stop. If she can't say that, that's the red flag. 447 00:25:06,280 --> 00:25:08,560 Speaker 1: It's not as much the fact that she's doing it. 448 00:25:08,560 --> 00:25:11,520 Speaker 1: It's the fact that she's not willing to stop doing 449 00:25:11,560 --> 00:25:16,040 Speaker 1: it for you. What else is she not willing to 450 00:25:16,080 --> 00:25:20,320 Speaker 1: stop doing for you? And if you get married one day, 451 00:25:21,200 --> 00:25:23,960 Speaker 1: what would she not be willing to stop for the 452 00:25:24,000 --> 00:25:28,040 Speaker 1: sake of you. These are just questions I have. I 453 00:25:28,080 --> 00:25:31,680 Speaker 1: think you have the same questions. It's a red flag. 454 00:25:31,680 --> 00:25:32,800 Speaker 1: I would go back to her, and I would I 455 00:25:32,800 --> 00:25:36,119 Speaker 1: would repeat this again and just say I need you 456 00:25:36,200 --> 00:25:40,840 Speaker 1: to stop because it makes me really uncomfortable. And I'm 457 00:25:40,840 --> 00:25:42,560 Speaker 1: not a jealous guy, and I don't want to be 458 00:25:42,680 --> 00:25:46,600 Speaker 1: that jealous guy. But this makes me uncomfortable. I'd like 459 00:25:46,640 --> 00:25:49,119 Speaker 1: you to stop. And if she says, well, I'm not 460 00:25:49,160 --> 00:25:54,440 Speaker 1: gonna stop, then brother, the next thing you got to 461 00:25:54,480 --> 00:25:57,560 Speaker 1: say is I think we need to slow down with 462 00:25:57,600 --> 00:26:01,480 Speaker 1: this relationship. Then that's how much this means to me. 463 00:26:02,080 --> 00:26:04,399 Speaker 1: Because you don't have to say this part. But what 464 00:26:04,440 --> 00:26:07,960 Speaker 1: you're thinking is because I would I would want to 465 00:26:08,000 --> 00:26:13,560 Speaker 1: pursue someone out there, someone else that would drop everything 466 00:26:15,240 --> 00:26:17,480 Speaker 1: for the sake of our relationship, for the sake of 467 00:26:17,560 --> 00:26:22,919 Speaker 1: me being hurt, me being uncomfortable, for the sake of that. 468 00:26:23,560 --> 00:26:26,439 Speaker 1: I would rather pursue someone that goes Hey, if you 469 00:26:26,480 --> 00:26:29,280 Speaker 1: feel that way, I will stop today because I don't 470 00:26:29,280 --> 00:26:32,919 Speaker 1: want to jeopardize me and you. And there are people 471 00:26:32,920 --> 00:26:35,719 Speaker 1: out there that will do that for you. There's somebody 472 00:26:35,720 --> 00:26:41,760 Speaker 1: for you that's going to do that, all right. Next question, 473 00:26:42,200 --> 00:26:46,000 Speaker 1: subject line says, how do you set standards at my age? Hey? Grandeur? 474 00:26:46,240 --> 00:26:48,720 Speaker 1: My boys introduced me to your music several years ago, 475 00:26:49,240 --> 00:26:51,880 Speaker 1: and recently I found Well God led me to you 476 00:26:51,960 --> 00:26:55,840 Speaker 1: online on your sermons, which led me to YouTube, which 477 00:26:55,880 --> 00:26:57,640 Speaker 1: led me to your podcast. Let me just say thank 478 00:26:57,680 --> 00:26:59,840 Speaker 1: you for sharing all your gifts with the world and 479 00:27:00,080 --> 00:27:02,320 Speaker 1: your family are amazing. My question is I'm a single 480 00:27:02,359 --> 00:27:05,880 Speaker 1: mom who's made so many mistakes with men. I honestly 481 00:27:05,920 --> 00:27:09,000 Speaker 1: wish I could just start over, But then I'd have 482 00:27:09,080 --> 00:27:13,000 Speaker 1: to know how do you set standards, what's acceptable? I 483 00:27:13,000 --> 00:27:16,200 Speaker 1: feel like I'm bordering on judgment if I'm not careful. 484 00:27:17,400 --> 00:27:20,560 Speaker 1: Any help would be very much appreciated. Blessings, boy Mom, 485 00:27:21,920 --> 00:27:25,280 Speaker 1: So boy Mom, thank you for your kind words to me. 486 00:27:25,880 --> 00:27:29,560 Speaker 1: I can't take any credit for what you said, because 487 00:27:30,600 --> 00:27:34,199 Speaker 1: because I am a sinful, broken man, I'm a wretch. 488 00:27:34,960 --> 00:27:40,760 Speaker 1: But I have been transformed by God's word and I'm 489 00:27:40,760 --> 00:27:43,119 Speaker 1: not going to take any credit for that. But i 490 00:27:43,160 --> 00:27:46,800 Speaker 1: will say thank you for what you're seeing through me. 491 00:27:47,320 --> 00:27:52,000 Speaker 1: If that makes sense. You've made many mistakes with men 492 00:27:52,920 --> 00:27:56,440 Speaker 1: and you want to just start over, Hey, stand in line. 493 00:27:56,680 --> 00:27:59,640 Speaker 1: Get in line, because you're no different than anyone else. 494 00:27:59,720 --> 00:28:03,719 Speaker 1: No judgment here. I would say every single person listening 495 00:28:03,720 --> 00:28:08,040 Speaker 1: to this podcast has a similar story, and if they don't, 496 00:28:08,320 --> 00:28:12,080 Speaker 1: they're just not admitting it. But we all struggle with 497 00:28:12,200 --> 00:28:17,000 Speaker 1: relationships until we find the right one, and when we 498 00:28:17,040 --> 00:28:19,200 Speaker 1: do find the right one, sometimes we struggle with that too. 499 00:28:19,640 --> 00:28:24,320 Speaker 1: So you're you're not different in this You're human and 500 00:28:24,600 --> 00:28:28,679 Speaker 1: I totally understand it, no judgment on my end. But 501 00:28:28,720 --> 00:28:30,879 Speaker 1: you're asking, how do I set standards? Well, you're a 502 00:28:30,880 --> 00:28:34,679 Speaker 1: boy mom and this the standards for you are not 503 00:28:34,840 --> 00:28:38,440 Speaker 1: that different than someone without kids, but I could lay 504 00:28:38,440 --> 00:28:41,080 Speaker 1: them out clear, more clear, because that's the question you 505 00:28:41,120 --> 00:28:45,880 Speaker 1: asked me. But as you're dating you, you don't. You 506 00:28:45,880 --> 00:28:48,320 Speaker 1: don't bring them to your house to live with you. 507 00:28:48,320 --> 00:28:50,320 Speaker 1: You don't move your kids in with him and live 508 00:28:50,360 --> 00:28:52,680 Speaker 1: with him until you got to ring on your finger 509 00:28:52,720 --> 00:28:56,480 Speaker 1: and you're married, you don't. You don't let your heart 510 00:28:56,520 --> 00:29:00,080 Speaker 1: get too attached. You put brakes on your heart. Your 511 00:29:00,120 --> 00:29:04,040 Speaker 1: mind is very involved in this situation. So your mind 512 00:29:04,040 --> 00:29:06,520 Speaker 1: has to control your heart in this situation. And when 513 00:29:06,520 --> 00:29:10,920 Speaker 1: I say your heart, that's a term used to to 514 00:29:10,960 --> 00:29:14,080 Speaker 1: talk about your feelings. So you've got to control your 515 00:29:14,080 --> 00:29:17,880 Speaker 1: feelings and drive them with your mind and don't let 516 00:29:17,880 --> 00:29:21,880 Speaker 1: your feelings drive what you do. Okay, you need feelings, 517 00:29:21,920 --> 00:29:25,880 Speaker 1: you need emotion, you need heart, you need it, but 518 00:29:26,040 --> 00:29:28,560 Speaker 1: you gotta be You gotta make sure that you have 519 00:29:28,600 --> 00:29:32,360 Speaker 1: breaks on there where your mind is making the ultimate decision. 520 00:29:33,080 --> 00:29:36,080 Speaker 1: So if you have really strong passion, really strong feelings, 521 00:29:36,440 --> 00:29:38,840 Speaker 1: you've got a crazy heart that just loves and runs 522 00:29:38,880 --> 00:29:42,360 Speaker 1: and loves and attaches and wraps up. Then you've got 523 00:29:42,360 --> 00:29:45,360 Speaker 1: to have a little bit stronger mind. Your mind needs 524 00:29:45,400 --> 00:29:48,160 Speaker 1: to run out ahead of that, so that if you're 525 00:29:48,200 --> 00:29:51,800 Speaker 1: a passionate person, great, but you have you have to 526 00:29:51,840 --> 00:29:56,320 Speaker 1: have a really strong self control, self discipline will that 527 00:29:56,440 --> 00:29:59,600 Speaker 1: can control those crazy feelings. So you go, I love 528 00:29:59,680 --> 00:30:03,280 Speaker 1: my love being passionate and having crazy feelings and going 529 00:30:03,320 --> 00:30:06,680 Speaker 1: all in. I love going all in, but I do 530 00:30:06,760 --> 00:30:10,640 Speaker 1: have a mind that goes that's too far, that's too far. 531 00:30:11,360 --> 00:30:16,840 Speaker 1: And with your boy at home, actually more than one, 532 00:30:16,880 --> 00:30:20,200 Speaker 1: you have multiple boys at home, then you have to 533 00:30:20,320 --> 00:30:23,200 Speaker 1: ride those brakes a little harder. So your standards are 534 00:30:23,280 --> 00:30:25,840 Speaker 1: when you meet a man, look at his life. Look 535 00:30:25,840 --> 00:30:29,560 Speaker 1: at the fruits of his life. Not how handsome he is, 536 00:30:29,600 --> 00:30:32,080 Speaker 1: not how much money he makes, not how well he 537 00:30:32,160 --> 00:30:35,760 Speaker 1: talks to you, not how sweet he is, not how 538 00:30:35,840 --> 00:30:38,440 Speaker 1: he pays for dinner and opens doors. You need to 539 00:30:38,480 --> 00:30:40,680 Speaker 1: look at the fruits of his life. Because right now 540 00:30:40,840 --> 00:30:43,480 Speaker 1: he's a used car salesman because he sees you and 541 00:30:43,520 --> 00:30:45,800 Speaker 1: he's selling himself, and so he's going to put all 542 00:30:45,840 --> 00:30:49,080 Speaker 1: his good attributes out front. But you need to look 543 00:30:49,120 --> 00:30:51,000 Speaker 1: at the fruits of his whole life? Like, how many 544 00:30:51,040 --> 00:30:55,160 Speaker 1: times has he divorced? Does he have kids? Where are they? 545 00:30:55,880 --> 00:31:00,200 Speaker 1: Are they in Florida and he's in California and he 546 00:31:00,280 --> 00:31:03,720 Speaker 1: never sees them. He never calls them on their birthday? 547 00:31:04,040 --> 00:31:10,360 Speaker 1: Why that's bad? Fruit? What happened in the divorce? Was 548 00:31:10,800 --> 00:31:13,800 Speaker 1: it something that he did when they got divorced? Is 549 00:31:13,840 --> 00:31:17,200 Speaker 1: he just genuinely an angry person but he's super sweet 550 00:31:17,200 --> 00:31:21,480 Speaker 1: to you because he hasn't shown that side yet. What 551 00:31:21,520 --> 00:31:24,320 Speaker 1: do his friends say? Who are his friends? Are they partiers? 552 00:31:25,200 --> 00:31:26,520 Speaker 1: Did they just go out and try to pick up 553 00:31:26,520 --> 00:31:30,040 Speaker 1: girls at bars all the time? Are they good family men? 554 00:31:32,440 --> 00:31:35,240 Speaker 1: Do they have a decent character? Does he have integrity 555 00:31:35,480 --> 00:31:38,440 Speaker 1: as reflected by his friends and his parents and his upbringing? 556 00:31:39,160 --> 00:31:44,280 Speaker 1: What kind of guy is he? Can he overcome suffering 557 00:31:44,320 --> 00:31:48,160 Speaker 1: that he had? Can he overcome bad parents that he had? 558 00:31:48,800 --> 00:31:52,320 Speaker 1: Or is he just like his dad? He's an abuser, 559 00:31:52,400 --> 00:31:54,880 Speaker 1: just like his dad, But he doesn't show that to 560 00:31:54,960 --> 00:31:58,920 Speaker 1: you because he's being cool right now because he's selling himself. 561 00:32:00,080 --> 00:32:03,360 Speaker 1: So we could see somebody by the fruits of their life. 562 00:32:03,480 --> 00:32:05,680 Speaker 1: What kind of job does he have? I'm not talking 563 00:32:05,680 --> 00:32:09,280 Speaker 1: about money, our status or power. I'm not talking about that. 564 00:32:09,640 --> 00:32:12,720 Speaker 1: I'm saying, what does he do that has something that 565 00:32:12,800 --> 00:32:15,920 Speaker 1: involves integrity? Like is he is he a guy that 566 00:32:16,040 --> 00:32:20,760 Speaker 1: just that goes out and just scams people for a living? Basically, 567 00:32:21,520 --> 00:32:23,840 Speaker 1: is he trying to take take take from the world? 568 00:32:24,160 --> 00:32:25,880 Speaker 1: Or is he guy? Is he a guy that serves 569 00:32:25,920 --> 00:32:28,800 Speaker 1: the world and serves people and has a servant heart. 570 00:32:29,000 --> 00:32:31,480 Speaker 1: Here's here's a key for you. How does he treat 571 00:32:31,520 --> 00:32:34,840 Speaker 1: waiters and waitresses when you go out to eat? That's 572 00:32:34,880 --> 00:32:38,080 Speaker 1: a big one. Is he Is he the kind of 573 00:32:38,080 --> 00:32:40,360 Speaker 1: guy that goes, hey, I told you like five minutes ago, 574 00:32:40,360 --> 00:32:43,400 Speaker 1: I went an iced tea. Where's the iced tea? Or 575 00:32:43,440 --> 00:32:45,400 Speaker 1: is he the kind of guy that goes, hey, no worries, 576 00:32:45,480 --> 00:32:47,479 Speaker 1: I know you're busy. You're busy with you got so 577 00:32:47,520 --> 00:32:50,120 Speaker 1: many tables. Just get my tea whenever you can. No 578 00:32:50,160 --> 00:32:53,200 Speaker 1: big deal? Is he that guy? Is he somewhere in 579 00:32:53,240 --> 00:32:55,640 Speaker 1: the middle. But this is something to be watching because 580 00:32:55,680 --> 00:32:58,560 Speaker 1: he could be really cool to you and sell himself 581 00:32:58,560 --> 00:33:00,640 Speaker 1: to you and show you all the good things. But 582 00:33:00,680 --> 00:33:05,800 Speaker 1: how's he treating the waitress? This is a funny one. 583 00:33:05,840 --> 00:33:09,680 Speaker 1: But how does he treat animals? That's interesting? Like, how 584 00:33:09,680 --> 00:33:13,440 Speaker 1: does he treat dogs? Is he a punk to dogs? 585 00:33:13,440 --> 00:33:14,800 Speaker 1: He like kick him off when they come up to 586 00:33:14,880 --> 00:33:16,720 Speaker 1: him and start smelling him as he kick at him. 587 00:33:17,440 --> 00:33:20,160 Speaker 1: Or is he like, hey, no worries, I like dogs, 588 00:33:20,680 --> 00:33:25,360 Speaker 1: I like animals. That sounds crazy to bring up that analogy, 589 00:33:25,360 --> 00:33:29,280 Speaker 1: but it shows a bit of patience in him. How 590 00:33:29,360 --> 00:33:32,479 Speaker 1: is he around the boys? What did they think of him? 591 00:33:34,840 --> 00:33:37,560 Speaker 1: So before you bring him home, you better be sure 592 00:33:37,680 --> 00:33:39,640 Speaker 1: of all those other things. And then when you finally 593 00:33:39,680 --> 00:33:41,640 Speaker 1: bring him home to meet the boys, what do they 594 00:33:41,640 --> 00:33:45,480 Speaker 1: think of him? Are they just ponds in his game? 595 00:33:46,120 --> 00:33:49,320 Speaker 1: Or is he genuinely interested in them and comes to 596 00:33:49,400 --> 00:33:54,960 Speaker 1: their level, plays their games, listens to their day. What 597 00:33:55,080 --> 00:33:58,040 Speaker 1: kind of guys he look at his fruits? Don't get 598 00:33:58,080 --> 00:34:03,800 Speaker 1: physical with him. Don't get physical with him. Why Because 599 00:34:03,840 --> 00:34:09,919 Speaker 1: your heart attaches. This is just science your body. When 600 00:34:09,920 --> 00:34:12,520 Speaker 1: your body attaches to someone, your heart goes with it. 601 00:34:13,640 --> 00:34:15,799 Speaker 1: And when your heart goes with it, it's harder to 602 00:34:15,800 --> 00:34:17,920 Speaker 1: pull it back. Even if you find out he's a 603 00:34:17,960 --> 00:34:20,520 Speaker 1: bad guy, it's harder to pull your heart back if 604 00:34:20,520 --> 00:34:26,160 Speaker 1: you've physically attached yourself to him. That's just the makeup 605 00:34:26,200 --> 00:34:32,479 Speaker 1: of human beings. Be very careful follow the fruits, guard 606 00:34:32,560 --> 00:34:36,000 Speaker 1: your heart don't get physical, don't move in with him. 607 00:34:36,239 --> 00:34:42,399 Speaker 1: Those are your standards, all right. Next question, subject line 608 00:34:42,400 --> 00:34:49,120 Speaker 1: says sticky family issue help, sticky family issue help. It says, Hey, 609 00:34:49,120 --> 00:34:51,760 Speaker 1: Grangeeris and my mom passed away in January of twenty twenty. 610 00:34:51,840 --> 00:34:55,000 Speaker 1: My parents were married for forty nine years, and at 611 00:34:55,000 --> 00:34:56,840 Speaker 1: first it was really hard on my dad. Over the 612 00:34:56,920 --> 00:34:59,800 Speaker 1: past two years, he and my aunt have become very close, 613 00:35:00,320 --> 00:35:02,600 Speaker 1: too close for comfort for my brothers and I. Keep 614 00:35:02,600 --> 00:35:06,160 Speaker 1: in mind, this is my mom's sister. Since she passed, 615 00:35:06,200 --> 00:35:09,399 Speaker 1: my aunt has also divorced her husband. I think it's 616 00:35:09,400 --> 00:35:11,319 Speaker 1: great that they have each other to talk to, but 617 00:35:11,400 --> 00:35:13,920 Speaker 1: I feel like things may be crossing the line. We 618 00:35:14,080 --> 00:35:17,120 Speaker 1: aren't comfortable at this point. They actually just went to 619 00:35:17,160 --> 00:35:19,880 Speaker 1: Florida on a vacation, just the two of them for 620 00:35:19,920 --> 00:35:22,319 Speaker 1: a few days. Should I just let this go and 621 00:35:22,320 --> 00:35:24,600 Speaker 1: pray that God gives me peace to look over this, 622 00:35:24,920 --> 00:35:28,480 Speaker 1: or should I mention to him and her our concerns 623 00:35:29,000 --> 00:35:32,120 Speaker 1: and how much grief it's causing us. Thank you and 624 00:35:32,200 --> 00:35:34,760 Speaker 1: ye comes from Heather. Heather, thank you for the email. 625 00:35:37,840 --> 00:35:41,960 Speaker 1: Let me do this. I'm sorry for the loss of 626 00:35:42,000 --> 00:35:45,719 Speaker 1: your dad. I'll start. I'll start there. I know what 627 00:35:45,760 --> 00:35:50,000 Speaker 1: it's like to lose a father. It's difficult. I'm sorry 628 00:35:50,040 --> 00:35:52,399 Speaker 1: a mother. Let me, let me rewind. I was thinking 629 00:35:52,400 --> 00:35:54,319 Speaker 1: about my dad. I lost my dad. I know what 630 00:35:54,360 --> 00:35:56,759 Speaker 1: it's like to lose a parent. You lost a mother. 631 00:35:58,440 --> 00:36:00,239 Speaker 1: I lost a dad, And so I could I could 632 00:36:00,239 --> 00:36:03,279 Speaker 1: look at this from the perspective of my mother, And 633 00:36:03,320 --> 00:36:08,880 Speaker 1: you have this perspective with your dad. Want don't we 634 00:36:09,000 --> 00:36:13,560 Speaker 1: love them? Like don't we love our parents? Don't we 635 00:36:13,600 --> 00:36:16,640 Speaker 1: love them enough to truly want them to be happy? 636 00:36:18,239 --> 00:36:20,919 Speaker 1: And this seems like you're hindering that a little bit 637 00:36:21,320 --> 00:36:24,680 Speaker 1: for the sake of you, because it makes you uncomfortable. 638 00:36:26,200 --> 00:36:30,520 Speaker 1: It's causing you grief. It's digging up some things about 639 00:36:31,680 --> 00:36:41,520 Speaker 1: your loss that is making you uncomfortable. So the interesting 640 00:36:41,560 --> 00:36:46,040 Speaker 1: thing about this is your dad is now kind of 641 00:36:46,040 --> 00:36:49,239 Speaker 1: seeing your aunt, but he was married to your mom 642 00:36:49,280 --> 00:36:52,759 Speaker 1: for forty nine years. Is there anybody else in the 643 00:36:52,840 --> 00:36:56,239 Speaker 1: world that you would rather see your dad happy with 644 00:36:56,920 --> 00:37:02,160 Speaker 1: than your mom's own sister. That probably he can look 645 00:37:02,200 --> 00:37:06,719 Speaker 1: into her eyes and see your mom and hear her 646 00:37:06,840 --> 00:37:11,239 Speaker 1: voice through her voice, because sisters talk the same. He 647 00:37:11,719 --> 00:37:15,719 Speaker 1: could talk about the same things about your mom that 648 00:37:15,960 --> 00:37:18,560 Speaker 1: things that no one else in the world would understand 649 00:37:18,880 --> 00:37:23,080 Speaker 1: except for your aunt, and so he sees a part 650 00:37:23,160 --> 00:37:27,239 Speaker 1: of her in Your aunt is not an amazing thing, 651 00:37:27,600 --> 00:37:29,920 Speaker 1: and I want you to see it from that perspective. Like, Dad, 652 00:37:29,960 --> 00:37:34,640 Speaker 1: this is crazy and amazing. You lost Mom. I can't 653 00:37:34,640 --> 00:37:37,560 Speaker 1: imagine how hard that would be because we don't as kids, 654 00:37:37,760 --> 00:37:39,720 Speaker 1: we don't know how hard it is to lose someone 655 00:37:39,760 --> 00:37:44,640 Speaker 1: after forty nine years of marriage. So it's like, Dad, 656 00:37:45,040 --> 00:37:48,520 Speaker 1: I can't imagine what it would be like to lose Mom. 657 00:37:48,600 --> 00:37:52,040 Speaker 1: It's hard enough for me, is the kid. I can't 658 00:37:52,080 --> 00:37:56,200 Speaker 1: imagine you losing your wife. And I just want you 659 00:37:56,239 --> 00:37:58,720 Speaker 1: to be happy, Dad. And after these couple of years, 660 00:37:59,480 --> 00:38:02,800 Speaker 1: if you're starting to rebuild a little bit and heal 661 00:38:03,640 --> 00:38:06,319 Speaker 1: while talking to my aunt, and if she reminds you 662 00:38:06,320 --> 00:38:09,279 Speaker 1: a little bit of Mom. Dad, I'm so, I'm just 663 00:38:09,760 --> 00:38:13,080 Speaker 1: I'm ecstatic for you. I don't want the best for you, Dad. 664 00:38:13,719 --> 00:38:15,480 Speaker 1: I don't want to judge you. I don't want to 665 00:38:15,480 --> 00:38:18,560 Speaker 1: think it's creepy and deep down you do, but you 666 00:38:18,600 --> 00:38:21,960 Speaker 1: don't have to admit that. But it's like, Dad, I'm 667 00:38:22,000 --> 00:38:24,520 Speaker 1: just I just want you to enjoy life and be happy. 668 00:38:24,560 --> 00:38:27,080 Speaker 1: You deserve it. Dad. You're a great Dad. You were 669 00:38:27,160 --> 00:38:29,560 Speaker 1: faithful to mom for forty nine years. You deserve to 670 00:38:29,560 --> 00:38:34,000 Speaker 1: continue happiness. And guess what, here's the crazy thing, what 671 00:38:34,000 --> 00:38:39,120 Speaker 1: would your mom want? Two options? Would your mom want 672 00:38:39,120 --> 00:38:40,799 Speaker 1: your dad to just be single the rest of his 673 00:38:40,880 --> 00:38:45,360 Speaker 1: life and be in misery and alone. Or would she 674 00:38:45,440 --> 00:38:48,040 Speaker 1: want your dad to go find somebody, some random woman 675 00:38:48,719 --> 00:38:51,040 Speaker 1: that has nothing in common with anybody in the family, 676 00:38:51,280 --> 00:38:52,920 Speaker 1: and bring her in and everyone has to meet her 677 00:38:52,960 --> 00:38:55,280 Speaker 1: and learn her and meet her parents and learn about 678 00:38:55,280 --> 00:38:58,560 Speaker 1: her family and her kids. Those are the two options 679 00:38:58,560 --> 00:39:02,839 Speaker 1: that you're saying he should go for what would your 680 00:39:02,880 --> 00:39:05,920 Speaker 1: mom want? Because the option he picked is different than 681 00:39:05,960 --> 00:39:08,880 Speaker 1: both of those. It's like keeping it in in the family. 682 00:39:08,920 --> 00:39:12,839 Speaker 1: Talking to the sister, she reminds me of her. Her 683 00:39:12,880 --> 00:39:16,840 Speaker 1: eyes look like her, her hair falls like her. The 684 00:39:16,880 --> 00:39:19,479 Speaker 1: way she talks, and the different jokes that she makes 685 00:39:19,600 --> 00:39:22,200 Speaker 1: is just like Mom. She even laughs like Mom. This 686 00:39:22,280 --> 00:39:25,000 Speaker 1: is the closest thing he can get to her, and 687 00:39:25,040 --> 00:39:28,640 Speaker 1: it's making him happy. I want you to see it 688 00:39:28,840 --> 00:39:32,960 Speaker 1: that way. And I'm not saying it's easy, and I'm 689 00:39:32,960 --> 00:39:35,040 Speaker 1: not saying that you should just roll over and say 690 00:39:35,680 --> 00:39:38,680 Speaker 1: I love it. I'm just saying, look at it from 691 00:39:38,680 --> 00:39:45,359 Speaker 1: his perspective. That might change everything, Love you guys, See 692 00:39:45,360 --> 00:39:47,680 Speaker 1: you next Monday. Gee. Thanks for joining me on the 693 00:39:47,680 --> 00:39:51,080 Speaker 1: Grangersmith Podcast. I appreciate all of you guys. You could 694 00:39:51,120 --> 00:39:54,200 Speaker 1: help me out by rating this podcast on iTunes. If 695 00:39:54,200 --> 00:39:57,359 Speaker 1: you're on YouTube, subscribe to this channel. Hit that little 696 00:39:57,640 --> 00:40:00,919 Speaker 1: like button and the notification spell that you never miss 697 00:40:01,040 --> 00:40:04,400 Speaker 1: anytime I upload a video. If you have a question 698 00:40:04,480 --> 00:40:06,880 Speaker 1: for me that you would like me to answer, email 699 00:40:07,040 --> 00:40:11,360 Speaker 1: Grangersmith Podcast at gmail dot com. Ye Ye