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Speaker 1: Hold up, Rashanda, you don't skipped.

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Speaker 2: I got married at nineteen, had twins in a baby

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Speaker 2: and said I like girls. We'll get to that later.

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Speaker 1: We learned this in real time. Yes, I done forgot

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Speaker 1: you was gay sick because I've only known you as

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Speaker 1: gay sick. What up?

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Speaker 2: Y'all?

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Speaker 1: Welcome to Not My Best Moment with me Kevi on Stage,

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Speaker 1: a podcast where I talked to artists, athletes, entertainers and

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Speaker 1: my friends about their failures based on my book New

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Speaker 1: York Times best selling book Successful Failure. Today, we are

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Speaker 1: graced with the presence of Rashonda Elias. You may know

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Speaker 1: her from many of things. You might have been in

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Speaker 1: the military with her. She's had a lot of lies.

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Speaker 1: She's an Army veteran diversity advocate, author of several books.

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Speaker 1: She's viral on TikTok and Instagram every day. She threw

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Speaker 1: me under the bus. I need to apologize. You have

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Speaker 1: the floor. I'm sorry on threads.

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Speaker 2: No less, I panicked, threw.

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Speaker 1: Me under the bus, but we remain friends. You may

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Speaker 1: know her from The Sunday Show with Jonathan k. Part

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Speaker 1: She's a founder and CEO of the boutique All Is

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Speaker 1: Fair in Love and Fashion. You may know her from

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Speaker 1: check the Boar, black Board white writing, very funny. She

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Speaker 1: was recently married in February. Ladies and Gentlemen, Rayshonda Lias

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Speaker 1: now Rayshawanda. We was talking. What we're not gonna talk

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Speaker 1: about is you had a baby at ten years old?

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Speaker 2: Why do you keep going down engage?

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Speaker 1: We was playing with toys, you were having a child.

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Speaker 1: This is third tell us quickly, we don't have to

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Speaker 1: go into detail about why you had a baby at

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Speaker 1: at at eight years old, Just telling people quickly the

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Speaker 1: mistakes you made because you failure, yes, real quick. Spent

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Speaker 1: much time.

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Speaker 2: I was a cheerleader. We were talking in the locker room.

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Speaker 2: They was talking about, you know in the movies when

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Speaker 2: you bite your ear your first time's amazing, And I

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Speaker 2: was like, oh, well, I want to try that out

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Speaker 2: to see no business at thirteen none Do you hear me?

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Speaker 2: Eighth grade? Please? Okay? Oh my god. It was awkward,

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Speaker 2: it hurt. I think I passed out. It did not fit,

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Speaker 2: and I was pregnant and I was in denial about it. Pregnant, Yes,

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Speaker 2: I was in denial. I tried you know the little well.

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Speaker 2: Back in the nineties, they had the little big decorative

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Speaker 2: in the driveway and putting one on my stomach. It

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Speaker 2: wasn't so crazy because I didn't want to tell my mama,

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Speaker 2: and my mama is number thirteen or fourteen, so then

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Speaker 2: there's a family meeting, you know, yes, and then my

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Speaker 2: I'm telling you. And I was like, so I and

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Speaker 2: she was like, I ain't. I haven't seen any sanitary

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Speaker 2: napkins in the trash. So I went and wrapped one

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Speaker 2: I gased it. I was like, now you're nasty for

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Speaker 2: digging around in the and she went outside. She cried.

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Speaker 2: She was devastated, and I had to call his mom.

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Speaker 2: She was screaming, yes, I called this, well, I had

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Speaker 1: I was it was weird. I just didn't.

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Speaker 2: She was devastated. Then turns out they had beef back

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Speaker 1: I was like, you don't walk up the old womb.

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Speaker 2: No, but he was he They said, okay, you know

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Speaker 2: it was too late. I'm three months now at this time,

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Speaker 2: it's Black History Month. I am playing a field person.

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Speaker 2: So my skirt that I had on this long Southern

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Speaker 2: call him. He was like, what you want to do.

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Speaker 2: And teachers didn't want me in their classroom. Teacher yeah,

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Speaker 2: it was a lot. It really was for a thirteen

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Speaker 2: He smelled like cheese. It was just a lot. And

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Speaker 1: Oh my god. Yeah, you was going through hell in

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Speaker 1: ninth grade. Now quiet as kept. I played with toys

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Speaker 1: in ninth grade. Yes, I didn't tell nobody because I

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Speaker 2: And my mom doing so. I had my son July eighteenth.

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Speaker 2: A week later, I turned fourteen, July twenty ninth. My

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Speaker 1: No, that's a lot. Okay, that's a lot going on.

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Speaker 2: And I was still cheerleader, math club, FBLA. All the

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Speaker 1: Wow, you were sister. She was nine fives the weekend.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, my mom held me down. My uncle's everybody, all

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Speaker 1: In the day, the black people would have told that

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Speaker 2: That's correct, because Monday you go back and my mama through.

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Speaker 1: Okay. So I love I love that you learned a

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Speaker 1: valuable information in becoming a social media star. Yes, because

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Speaker 1: people are fickle. Yes, we love you until you get

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Speaker 1: I want to get to this first. Hold that thought,

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Speaker 1: Oh rayshanda, You went from let me make sure I

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Speaker 1: gets correct. You went from homelessness to a six figure business. Yes,

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Speaker 1: now what what drove you to homelessness? What happened?

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Speaker 2: Oh lord? So I was working at ka Texas State

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Speaker 2: University only public HBCU in Kentucky, and I was there

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Speaker 2: start a nonprofit. So on my thirtieth birthday, I'm gonna

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Speaker 2: go save the world. All right, gotcha, I'm gonna go

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Speaker 2: For two, I'm going back to Mississippi. I'm doing all

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Speaker 2: within four months my money was stolen. It was gone. Actually,

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Speaker 2: because I sent my children first. While I was moving

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Speaker 1: These people didn't help with the baby.

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Speaker 2: They actually did.

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Speaker 1: They help with the baby, didn't stolen money from the

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Speaker 2: Yes, what did that? I'm telling you life is my own.

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Speaker 1: Yes, yes, lord.

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Speaker 2: And I was so angry and I got up. I

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Speaker 1: You doesn't skipt.

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Speaker 2: I got married at nineteen, had twins and a baby,

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Speaker 1: We learned this in real time. Yes, I done forgot

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Speaker 1: you was gay, see because you I've only known you

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Speaker 2: Well, I got. I was in the military station in Manheim, Germany,

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Speaker 2: have been like, what are you doing? But somebody was

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Speaker 2: was like, hey, I don't really want my vagina beat

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Speaker 2: up one. I want a girlfriend that and I left, yes, because.

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Speaker 1: Listen, because I don't enjoy that. I don't I don't

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Speaker 1: want it. Beat it up no more. You can eat it,

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Speaker 1: can't beat it, can't beat correct, correst me, don't stress me.

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Speaker 2: I was like, oh my god, okay, right, but that's

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Speaker 2: not that's my mom. My mom has always been. It's

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Speaker 2: not great, right, it's not my mom. You got other

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Speaker 1: Oh for you listen Mississippi. Yes, oh I got Let

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Speaker 1: me tell you where shying to talk about? She like

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Speaker 1: girls and a meeting.

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Speaker 2: What's called do you hear me? Meeting? Was called telling

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Speaker 2: you she got six sisters.

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Speaker 1: Everybody that my mam letting favorite North Carolina. If you

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Speaker 1: feeling this South love to talk, not to drink swee tea.

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Speaker 2: And at this point, most of my aunts are in Chicago,

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Speaker 2: so she didn't call Chicago. Also, I need to tell

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Speaker 2: I bet you know how to check your butt?

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Speaker 2: My mom was like, now you're married and pregnant.

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Speaker 2: Yes, I got married in Pensacola in May, Okay. They

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Speaker 2: Anyhow, so that's how. But anyhow, I woke him up

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Speaker 2: Right, it's not fair to him. It's not fair to me.

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Speaker 2: Twilight movies. In the movies, my phone is going off

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00:23:13,960 --> 00:23:16,359
Speaker 2: and I was like, something I posted went viral and

434
00:23:16,400 --> 00:23:19,879
Speaker 2: the page just started to grow. And one of my

435
00:23:20,000 --> 00:23:22,760
Speaker 2: followers I'll never forget her name is Shelley. I always

436
00:23:23,040 --> 00:23:27,600
Speaker 2: talk about Shelley. She on a boutique in Atlanta, and

437
00:23:27,680 --> 00:23:31,480
Speaker 2: she contacted me and she was like, I seen your

438
00:23:31,640 --> 00:23:34,400
Speaker 2: pieces put together. Have you ever thought about opening a boutique.

439
00:23:34,440 --> 00:23:37,680
Speaker 2: I was like, I don't want to do retail. That's

440
00:23:37,680 --> 00:23:38,920
Speaker 2: not something I want to do. She said, well, I

441
00:23:38,960 --> 00:23:42,960
Speaker 2: own a boutique in Atlanta. I would like for you

442
00:23:43,000 --> 00:23:46,200
Speaker 2: to come on as a buyer to pick out clothes

443
00:23:46,920 --> 00:23:49,800
Speaker 2: and I sell those clothes, you know. And we tried

444
00:23:49,800 --> 00:23:52,040
Speaker 2: it for like maybe a month and a half, two months,

445
00:23:52,080 --> 00:23:54,240
Speaker 2: and she kept saying, no, I think you would do

446
00:23:54,359 --> 00:23:57,879
Speaker 2: really well with this. A stranger. She just followed me

447
00:23:57,920 --> 00:24:04,479
Speaker 2: online and we started talking random and she came up

448
00:24:04,480 --> 00:24:10,720
Speaker 2: from Atlanta. She actually no. We flew to Vegas met

449
00:24:10,760 --> 00:24:13,440
Speaker 2: her in Vegas at one of the magic shows where

450
00:24:13,480 --> 00:24:16,920
Speaker 2: you have the vendors and picking out outfits, and she

451
00:24:17,520 --> 00:24:21,240
Speaker 2: taught me everything she poured into me an absolute stranger.

452
00:24:22,480 --> 00:24:25,199
Speaker 1: Now he doesn't help you out. Now you know you

453
00:24:25,240 --> 00:24:27,000
Speaker 1: got pregnant, you did lost up, but he doesn't sent

454
00:24:27,080 --> 00:24:28,800
Speaker 1: you that angel yes by way, Shelley.

455
00:24:29,200 --> 00:24:33,119
Speaker 2: And I was like, oh my god. I opened my

456
00:24:33,160 --> 00:24:38,800
Speaker 2: boutique March twenty thirteen online ten months by the time

457
00:24:38,880 --> 00:24:41,640
Speaker 2: December rolled around and at ten ninety nine, Kate came

458
00:24:41,680 --> 00:24:46,800
Speaker 2: in from PayPal said I'm going to jail. I said,

459
00:24:46,800 --> 00:24:48,359
Speaker 2: I'm going to jail A do Ain't no way. I

460
00:24:48,400 --> 00:24:54,400
Speaker 2: made this much money from social media and I went through,

461
00:24:54,560 --> 00:24:58,280
Speaker 2: you know, made sure I had everything situated with the

462
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Speaker 2: on the state website.

463
00:24:59,760 --> 00:25:00,560
Speaker 1: And other things.

464
00:25:00,600 --> 00:25:02,399
Speaker 2: But I was like, ain't no way in the world.

465
00:25:02,440 --> 00:25:06,480
Speaker 2: I have done this and every year after that. And

466
00:25:06,680 --> 00:25:09,040
Speaker 2: one of the things I always talk about keV is

467
00:25:09,160 --> 00:25:14,760
Speaker 2: COVID because when you have overcome so much, you forget

468
00:25:15,680 --> 00:25:19,280
Speaker 2: until you don't. And I'm like, soon as the girl,

469
00:25:19,359 --> 00:25:22,399
Speaker 2: as soon as Anderbysher said we have to shut down

470
00:25:22,480 --> 00:25:26,200
Speaker 2: businesses in twenty twenty, I so I'm gonna be back homeless.

471
00:25:26,359 --> 00:25:28,000
Speaker 2: I'm gonna be eating beans on the side of the road.

472
00:25:28,000 --> 00:25:29,280
Speaker 2: I don't know why I go to beans and CA

473
00:25:29,400 --> 00:25:35,359
Speaker 2: I gotta stop watching television, you know, yes, And I'm like,

474
00:25:35,560 --> 00:25:38,240
Speaker 2: oh no. I laid in the bed for seven days.

475
00:25:38,280 --> 00:25:40,160
Speaker 2: I got up, I showered, I got back into bed.

476
00:25:40,240 --> 00:25:41,840
Speaker 2: My stomach was hurt, and I was trying to figure

477
00:25:41,880 --> 00:25:44,840
Speaker 2: out what am I gonna do? Because I've had this

478
00:25:44,960 --> 00:25:47,080
Speaker 2: business by now, I've been on the Steve Harvey Show,

479
00:25:48,320 --> 00:25:49,919
Speaker 2: say yes to the dress, like, I have all the

480
00:25:49,960 --> 00:25:52,480
Speaker 2: things that I've been doing, and now we're in a

481
00:25:52,640 --> 00:25:58,919
Speaker 2: panoramic a pandemonium and nobody's gonna need close. Okay. At

482
00:25:58,960 --> 00:26:01,400
Speaker 2: the time, I had two locals in the mall and

483
00:26:01,480 --> 00:26:03,359
Speaker 2: all the things. I was like, what am I gonna do?

484
00:26:03,880 --> 00:26:06,159
Speaker 2: And on the seventh day, got in the shower, I

485
00:26:06,200 --> 00:26:07,800
Speaker 2: was like, are you gonna have to do something? You

486
00:26:08,000 --> 00:26:10,000
Speaker 2: have to do it clear as day. It's like, we're

487
00:26:10,040 --> 00:26:14,480
Speaker 2: gonna need masks. And I told my wife at the time.

488
00:26:14,760 --> 00:26:16,399
Speaker 2: She was like, no, it's gonna need masks. And this

489
00:26:16,440 --> 00:26:19,360
Speaker 2: is why you don't listen to people they don't have businesses.

490
00:26:19,920 --> 00:26:22,440
Speaker 2: Is this is why you don't listen.

491
00:26:22,520 --> 00:26:25,560
Speaker 1: If you had a business, you would understand, but you don't.

492
00:26:26,600 --> 00:26:30,000
Speaker 2: You know, And she was like, mask. I went out,

493
00:26:30,160 --> 00:26:33,080
Speaker 2: I got rhymestones and all the things. But I also

494
00:26:33,680 --> 00:26:39,480
Speaker 2: already had manufacturers in China overseas. Got on WhatsApp immediately

495
00:26:39,520 --> 00:26:42,119
Speaker 2: I said, don't send me another skirt shirt top.

496
00:26:42,720 --> 00:26:45,600
Speaker 1: Got them skirts off into little square and throw some

497
00:26:45,960 --> 00:26:46,680
Speaker 1: bands on them.

498
00:26:47,040 --> 00:26:53,159
Speaker 2: We're gonna need masks. Yeah, And I announced April first

499
00:26:53,800 --> 00:26:56,320
Speaker 2: that I had PPE. By April thirtieth, that was my

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00:26:56,440 --> 00:26:59,919
Speaker 2: largest year in my business. It was over sixty K

501
00:27:00,240 --> 00:27:05,119
Speaker 2: in one month. Why had masks? I had the full suits,

502
00:27:05,280 --> 00:27:09,680
Speaker 2: I had the hand sanitizer, all the things.

503
00:27:10,600 --> 00:27:11,920
Speaker 1: I just pivoted all the way.

504
00:27:12,040 --> 00:27:15,240
Speaker 2: I pivoted all the way and that took me through

505
00:27:15,600 --> 00:27:19,080
Speaker 2: twenty twenty one until I reopened, you know, in stores.

506
00:27:19,160 --> 00:27:22,520
Speaker 2: But it was the moment of me trying to figure

507
00:27:22,560 --> 00:27:24,280
Speaker 2: out what am I going to do because I can't

508
00:27:24,320 --> 00:27:27,640
Speaker 2: lose this business that has helped me and my family.

509
00:27:27,840 --> 00:27:30,720
Speaker 2: For sure, I has changed my life. What am I

510
00:27:30,760 --> 00:27:33,920
Speaker 2: going to do? And at that moment, I still do that. Now.

511
00:27:33,920 --> 00:27:35,239
Speaker 2: I was like, go back to what I know.

512
00:27:35,400 --> 00:27:37,840
Speaker 1: I was wondering, do you still have a boutique.

513
00:27:38,000 --> 00:27:42,280
Speaker 2: Well, here's the thing. I closed the boutique. I didn't officially,

514
00:27:42,440 --> 00:27:45,320
Speaker 2: I just shut it down because my mom. So my

515
00:27:45,359 --> 00:27:49,760
Speaker 2: mom was diagnosed with dementia and she's in stage five now.

516
00:27:49,880 --> 00:27:52,040
Speaker 2: Oh no, yes, So me and my brother are taking

517
00:27:52,080 --> 00:27:53,800
Speaker 2: care of her. So once a month for a week,

518
00:27:53,880 --> 00:27:55,840
Speaker 2: I go home now that I'm married, but when I

519
00:27:55,920 --> 00:27:58,120
Speaker 2: was there, it's just me and my brother taking care

520
00:27:58,160 --> 00:28:01,280
Speaker 2: of my mom. And that has been hard on us

521
00:28:01,280 --> 00:28:04,400
Speaker 2: because she she was alike, She is so amazing, and

522
00:28:04,520 --> 00:28:07,600
Speaker 2: her not to recognize us now or know us is devastated.

523
00:28:08,240 --> 00:28:10,800
Speaker 2: And me and my brothers are ten years apart, and

524
00:28:10,880 --> 00:28:14,480
Speaker 2: he is just the glue, right. He's a big teddy

525
00:28:14,480 --> 00:28:17,640
Speaker 2: bear and he wants to make sure I'm okay, but

526
00:28:17,720 --> 00:28:21,080
Speaker 2: Mom's okay, and we're at a point. He's thirty five,

527
00:28:21,080 --> 00:28:23,040
Speaker 2: I'm about to be forty five, and we thought that

528
00:28:23,480 --> 00:28:25,119
Speaker 2: this is the time we would be sharing all our

529
00:28:25,160 --> 00:28:27,639
Speaker 2: great things with her, you know, all the things that

530
00:28:27,640 --> 00:28:31,880
Speaker 2: we're doing. So I closed the boutique twenty twenty two,

531
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Speaker 2: twenty twenty three so that I could care for her

532
00:28:35,760 --> 00:28:38,200
Speaker 2: full time. And then he moved in my house with

533
00:28:38,280 --> 00:28:40,400
Speaker 2: me twenty twenty four to help me.

534
00:28:40,920 --> 00:28:43,080
Speaker 1: This is Louisville. Yes, okay, yes, so.

535
00:28:43,000 --> 00:28:45,600
Speaker 2: We still have the house and I just go back

536
00:28:45,640 --> 00:28:46,040
Speaker 2: and forth.

537
00:28:46,160 --> 00:28:47,360
Speaker 1: Got it, Yeah, got it?

538
00:28:47,440 --> 00:28:48,040
Speaker 2: Yeah?

539
00:28:48,120 --> 00:28:50,600
Speaker 1: Hey, guys, taking a quick commercial break. We'll be right back.

540
00:29:09,600 --> 00:29:16,960
Speaker 1: Let's switch gears. The woman who didn't believe in the masks? Okay, okay, y'all,

541
00:29:17,040 --> 00:29:19,480
Speaker 1: y'all ain't together no more. No, Now, I got to

542
00:29:19,480 --> 00:29:22,280
Speaker 1: tell you the storage thunder. Oh lord, I had forgotten

543
00:29:23,200 --> 00:29:25,280
Speaker 1: because I saw you at an event and I forgot

544
00:29:25,320 --> 00:29:29,880
Speaker 1: you got divorced. I said, no, I don't you know

545
00:29:29,960 --> 00:29:33,200
Speaker 1: what I do. Remember that video. You talked about it

546
00:29:33,280 --> 00:29:36,080
Speaker 1: publicly before I could see it on a blog or

547
00:29:36,080 --> 00:29:41,280
Speaker 1: a thread or a tweet or gossip site. You was like, yes,

548
00:29:41,400 --> 00:29:43,560
Speaker 1: let me tell you what's going on. What was your

549
00:29:43,640 --> 00:29:46,320
Speaker 1: reasoning for beating everybody to the punch?

550
00:29:47,040 --> 00:29:49,960
Speaker 2: Oh? So here's the thing. I was getting online and

551
00:29:51,320 --> 00:29:55,600
Speaker 2: seeing videos of her stating that I just didn't love

552
00:29:55,640 --> 00:29:59,320
Speaker 2: her correctly. And you know, I had a weight loss

553
00:29:59,360 --> 00:30:02,920
Speaker 2: surgery now, and it was none of that. It was

554
00:30:02,960 --> 00:30:06,920
Speaker 2: none of that. I came into this world small. I

555
00:30:07,040 --> 00:30:10,520
Speaker 2: was small up until I wasn't small. Wait doesn't change

556
00:30:10,520 --> 00:30:13,080
Speaker 2: who I am, right, So that wasn't it. And I

557
00:30:13,120 --> 00:30:16,120
Speaker 2: was like, let me just go ahead and say, what's

558
00:30:16,160 --> 00:30:22,040
Speaker 2: really happening? Okay, and Kevin, let me tell you. August

559
00:30:22,880 --> 00:30:27,520
Speaker 2: twenty three, I pulling out of the driveway and my

560
00:30:27,640 --> 00:30:32,200
Speaker 2: daughter says to me, Mama, there's something on the door.

561
00:30:33,080 --> 00:30:35,000
Speaker 2: And I get out my truck and I'll walk up

562
00:30:35,040 --> 00:30:37,920
Speaker 2: to the door. And biggest day is an eviction notice

563
00:30:39,120 --> 00:30:42,240
Speaker 2: on the door. I'm never in my life. I've never

564
00:30:42,280 --> 00:30:47,040
Speaker 2: in my life. I've never in my life. I don't

565
00:30:47,200 --> 00:30:52,400
Speaker 2: understand what's happening. I immediately call her and it's like,

566
00:30:52,520 --> 00:30:57,840
Speaker 2: there's an eviction notice on the door, and I don't understand.

567
00:30:58,720 --> 00:31:01,040
Speaker 2: She said, I'll take care of it. Must be a mistake.

568
00:31:02,080 --> 00:31:05,000
Speaker 2: Let me call the people. It was not a mistake,

569
00:31:06,320 --> 00:31:13,040
Speaker 2: was correct. I was like, where where is the money

570
00:31:13,200 --> 00:31:14,200
Speaker 2: that I give you?

571
00:31:16,680 --> 00:31:20,040
Speaker 1: Some people spending money from you, it's stelling money for you,

572
00:31:20,080 --> 00:31:21,000
Speaker 1: are getting you pregnant.

573
00:31:21,160 --> 00:31:22,000
Speaker 2: That's all I'm saying.

574
00:31:22,480 --> 00:31:23,560
Speaker 1: Can somebody be a help?

575
00:31:23,800 --> 00:31:26,960
Speaker 2: And here's the thing. You already know my trauma money

576
00:31:27,240 --> 00:31:32,360
Speaker 2: and being homeless and going from homeless to where I am,

577
00:31:32,400 --> 00:31:35,680
Speaker 2: and you decide to take me back to a place

578
00:31:35,720 --> 00:31:38,800
Speaker 2: that and here's the crazy part. And now this time

579
00:31:38,960 --> 00:31:41,680
Speaker 2: you can't take me back to zero. I'm not going

580
00:31:41,680 --> 00:31:46,240
Speaker 2: back to ze. So when it comes out about my

581
00:31:46,440 --> 00:31:50,040
Speaker 2: money being taken and I'm being used and cheated, on

582
00:31:50,160 --> 00:31:53,560
Speaker 2: all the things right, because I didn't find out all

583
00:31:53,600 --> 00:31:58,440
Speaker 2: at once. Gradually I contact my friends and they're like, well, girl,

584
00:31:58,920 --> 00:32:01,800
Speaker 2: she owe me money to my friends. These are my friends.

585
00:32:02,680 --> 00:32:07,760
Speaker 2: I'm like, what, yeah, call somebody else. Yeah, she owes

586
00:32:07,800 --> 00:32:10,600
Speaker 2: me money too. I'm calling to tell them about what's

587
00:32:10,840 --> 00:32:11,720
Speaker 2: currently happening.

588
00:32:12,040 --> 00:32:14,000
Speaker 1: She was borrowing money from your friends behind your back

589
00:32:15,400 --> 00:32:16,920
Speaker 1: and not And.

590
00:32:16,840 --> 00:32:18,680
Speaker 2: I was like, why, I said, why you didn't say

591
00:32:18,760 --> 00:32:21,640
Speaker 2: that's my first thing? Why you didn't tell me they're

592
00:32:21,760 --> 00:32:23,880
Speaker 2: my friends. It's like, well, off the strength of you.

593
00:32:24,000 --> 00:32:26,840
Speaker 2: I didn't want to say nothing. No, you should say

594
00:32:26,880 --> 00:32:30,240
Speaker 2: something to me. And the last and final thing was

595
00:32:30,280 --> 00:32:32,480
Speaker 2: one of my friends who owns a nonprofit. I had

596
00:32:32,480 --> 00:32:35,520
Speaker 2: did some work because I'm a content creator at this point,

597
00:32:36,200 --> 00:32:38,520
Speaker 2: and I did some work and they was like, I

598
00:32:38,560 --> 00:32:42,120
Speaker 2: have reached out because you were traveling to your wife

599
00:32:42,520 --> 00:32:44,480
Speaker 2: to pay you for the work that you had done.

600
00:32:44,520 --> 00:32:48,920
Speaker 2: And they sent me a screenshot of the message that

601
00:32:49,000 --> 00:32:55,520
Speaker 2: says just send it to me, no send it like

602
00:32:55,960 --> 00:32:58,640
Speaker 2: I had proof upon proof, and I was like, there's

603
00:32:58,680 --> 00:33:01,840
Speaker 2: no way in the world. And here's the thing, keV.

604
00:33:03,440 --> 00:33:06,920
Speaker 2: I'm the military doesn't untrain you when they release you.

605
00:33:06,960 --> 00:33:10,520
Speaker 2: They just release you. And for years, I have, you know,

606
00:33:11,800 --> 00:33:14,880
Speaker 2: squashed my anger issues that I have because I don't

607
00:33:14,920 --> 00:33:17,360
Speaker 2: have a problem with snatching your soul from your body.

608
00:33:17,680 --> 00:33:19,880
Speaker 2: So I go, I go in the house, and I

609
00:33:19,920 --> 00:33:21,920
Speaker 2: was like, in two days has passed. I said a

610
00:33:21,960 --> 00:33:25,520
Speaker 2: word because I'm angry. She yells out, I'm not going

611
00:33:25,600 --> 00:33:28,880
Speaker 2: another day without you speaking to me. You mad at me,

612
00:33:29,400 --> 00:33:34,800
Speaker 2: Oh Lord, for not speaking to you. I said, I

613
00:33:34,800 --> 00:33:37,360
Speaker 2: I have to go to New York Fashion Week and

614
00:33:37,400 --> 00:33:42,080
Speaker 2: Beyonce's concert. You better be glad. I have things like

615
00:33:42,240 --> 00:33:45,479
Speaker 2: I have things to do. So I left, I went

616
00:33:45,520 --> 00:33:48,560
Speaker 2: to New York Fashion Week, came back. She called while

617
00:33:48,560 --> 00:33:50,640
Speaker 2: I was there, are you coming home or not? I'm

618
00:33:50,680 --> 00:33:54,360
Speaker 2: never coming back. Well, I'm so confused as to why

619
00:33:54,680 --> 00:33:59,080
Speaker 2: we got evictim anyway, ain't I'm not I'm not coming back.

620
00:33:59,320 --> 00:34:01,239
Speaker 2: My best friend picks me up from the airport when

621
00:34:01,280 --> 00:34:03,680
Speaker 2: I get back from New York Passion Week. I stay there.

622
00:34:04,160 --> 00:34:06,840
Speaker 2: She say, you got ten days. You got ten days

623
00:34:06,880 --> 00:34:10,799
Speaker 2: to soap and scream and cry. She took care of me,

624
00:34:11,280 --> 00:34:13,719
Speaker 2: put me up in the room. She was like, and

625
00:34:13,840 --> 00:34:18,600
Speaker 2: after that we got it work. It didn't take me

626
00:34:18,640 --> 00:34:22,239
Speaker 2: ten days. It took me five days before I went

627
00:34:22,320 --> 00:34:25,000
Speaker 2: over to that courthouse and when I pulled up, it

628
00:34:25,040 --> 00:34:29,840
Speaker 2: made a skirt sound. Went through them doors. I said,

629
00:34:29,880 --> 00:34:32,160
Speaker 2: point me to where I can file for a divorce

630
00:34:32,400 --> 00:34:36,600
Speaker 2: m and the guy was looking like a frantic cause

631
00:34:36,640 --> 00:34:39,000
Speaker 2: I was like, I need don't I just want the

632
00:34:39,040 --> 00:34:41,520
Speaker 2: paperwork and he was like, well, it's usually five dollars, sir,

633
00:34:41,600 --> 00:34:44,440
Speaker 2: I don't care about nothing. Give me. And then the

634
00:34:45,360 --> 00:34:47,560
Speaker 2: lady next to him was like, just just give her

635
00:34:47,560 --> 00:34:53,319
Speaker 2: the papers. I went downstairs to one of them law

636
00:34:53,360 --> 00:34:55,799
Speaker 2: and order the desk with the lamp and filled out

637
00:34:55,840 --> 00:34:59,080
Speaker 2: that paperwork. Okay, I end the court. I here it is.

638
00:34:59,520 --> 00:35:01,560
Speaker 2: Oh h I I'm not I'm not going through it.

639
00:35:02,239 --> 00:35:04,120
Speaker 2: One of the things my mom and my dad has

640
00:35:04,160 --> 00:35:07,560
Speaker 2: always told me, you can always leave a situation. And

641
00:35:08,040 --> 00:35:11,879
Speaker 2: keV I don't give chances with people. Because the one

642
00:35:11,960 --> 00:35:14,399
Speaker 2: chance that I did give is when the dining room

643
00:35:14,440 --> 00:35:20,879
Speaker 2: table got repolled. That's the one.

644
00:35:22,000 --> 00:35:22,200
Speaker 1: Yes.

645
00:35:23,160 --> 00:35:27,640
Speaker 2: But here's the thing. At the time, she told me

646
00:35:27,719 --> 00:35:30,480
Speaker 2: that her mama had gifted us a dining room table.

647
00:35:33,600 --> 00:35:40,040
Speaker 2: December of twenty twenty two, Lord, there was a knock

648
00:35:40,080 --> 00:35:42,480
Speaker 2: at the door, and this take a table to take

649
00:35:42,480 --> 00:35:45,680
Speaker 2: a table that was forty dollars a week, forty.

650
00:35:45,440 --> 00:35:49,719
Speaker 1: Dollars a week from because he's got a table from

651
00:35:49,719 --> 00:35:51,400
Speaker 1: Goodwill for forty dollars once.

652
00:35:51,239 --> 00:35:53,840
Speaker 2: I could have bought it. I could have bought. You

653
00:35:54,120 --> 00:35:56,880
Speaker 2: lied to me about the table where it came from.

654
00:35:57,080 --> 00:35:58,640
Speaker 2: And then you had these people come.

655
00:35:58,560 --> 00:36:04,160
Speaker 1: To my door a table renting furniture TV. I understand

656
00:36:04,840 --> 00:36:05,880
Speaker 1: renting a table.

657
00:36:06,080 --> 00:36:08,239
Speaker 2: I don't even sit in a dining room. I'm a

658
00:36:08,360 --> 00:36:09,600
Speaker 2: room person. I'm in a bed.

659
00:36:09,680 --> 00:36:11,320
Speaker 1: How long were y'all renting the table?

660
00:36:11,600 --> 00:36:12,200
Speaker 2: I don't know.

661
00:36:14,760 --> 00:36:18,360
Speaker 1: The table don't cost six grandmother, why.

662
00:36:18,239 --> 00:36:20,719
Speaker 2: Would you lie about a table? So when I when

663
00:36:20,719 --> 00:36:23,520
Speaker 2: I confronted her about that in December of twenty twenty two,

664
00:36:23,560 --> 00:36:25,520
Speaker 2: I said, if I find out that you're lying to

665
00:36:25,560 --> 00:36:27,879
Speaker 2: me about because I don't do lie, I don't.

666
00:36:27,920 --> 00:36:30,080
Speaker 1: It's unders So the table was the lie. That was

667
00:36:30,120 --> 00:36:30,600
Speaker 1: the chance.

668
00:36:30,880 --> 00:36:31,360
Speaker 2: Yeah.

669
00:36:31,440 --> 00:36:34,319
Speaker 1: And then the eviction was we go out of here. Yeah.

670
00:36:34,360 --> 00:36:35,480
Speaker 2: I was like, I'm done.

671
00:36:35,719 --> 00:36:37,919
Speaker 1: I feel you. Yeah, because you had left that table.

672
00:36:37,920 --> 00:36:38,760
Speaker 1: I would understood.

673
00:36:39,760 --> 00:36:41,879
Speaker 2: That's and I left for a few days. I went

674
00:36:41,920 --> 00:36:44,440
Speaker 2: and stayed at the Omni. I was hot, do you

675
00:36:44,440 --> 00:36:47,080
Speaker 2: hear me? I was like a table and I was like,

676
00:36:47,120 --> 00:36:50,200
Speaker 2: it's the principal for sure, But then you got people

677
00:36:50,840 --> 00:36:55,880
Speaker 2: from her church contact to me, don't don't get divorced.

678
00:36:55,960 --> 00:36:57,520
Speaker 2: It's just a kitchen table.

679
00:36:58,800 --> 00:36:59,920
Speaker 1: You know, that's how.

680
00:37:00,160 --> 00:37:03,520
Speaker 2: But it's the principle if you lab scratch, a live

681
00:37:03,600 --> 00:37:04,160
Speaker 2: fine a thief.

682
00:37:06,040 --> 00:37:07,560
Speaker 1: If you would have told you on the table, Okay,

683
00:37:07,719 --> 00:37:10,200
Speaker 1: we rented the table. We rented the table, but I

684
00:37:10,200 --> 00:37:11,760
Speaker 1: didn't believe you, and you said it was a gift.

685
00:37:11,840 --> 00:37:15,200
Speaker 1: And then people said, give us our table, since you

686
00:37:15,200 --> 00:37:17,440
Speaker 1: ain't got the forty this week, give it here. I

687
00:37:17,480 --> 00:37:19,239
Speaker 1: don't care what you eat on, give us our table

688
00:37:19,239 --> 00:37:23,759
Speaker 1: with that? Was it because you're famous on social media

689
00:37:23,760 --> 00:37:27,399
Speaker 1: at this time? Was that an added strain for you

690
00:37:27,480 --> 00:37:29,160
Speaker 1: to have to go through that publicly?

691
00:37:29,320 --> 00:37:31,880
Speaker 2: Yes, it really was. And I wanted to because people

692
00:37:31,960 --> 00:37:34,400
Speaker 2: kept asking because at the time they were sitting like inflatables,

693
00:37:34,440 --> 00:37:38,520
Speaker 2: you know what we're doing the decorating for Halloween and Christmas

694
00:37:38,960 --> 00:37:41,520
Speaker 2: and all the things. So when it was coming around

695
00:37:41,520 --> 00:37:43,000
Speaker 2: to that time and people were like, are we doing

696
00:37:43,000 --> 00:37:45,400
Speaker 2: inflatables this year? All the things kept addressing and I

697
00:37:45,440 --> 00:37:47,400
Speaker 2: was like, I have to tell them now that we

698
00:37:47,440 --> 00:37:51,200
Speaker 2: are getting a divorce, I gotta say something because and

699
00:37:51,239 --> 00:37:53,880
Speaker 2: then it just blew up from there, which was fine.

700
00:37:54,080 --> 00:37:56,359
Speaker 2: That goes back to me already learning that people are

701
00:37:56,400 --> 00:37:59,120
Speaker 2: feelful already. People blame me that I should have known

702
00:37:59,239 --> 00:38:04,200
Speaker 2: that my bills were and pay Rashonda has accounts. That's

703
00:38:04,239 --> 00:38:07,759
Speaker 2: why I was upset about the table if you if

704
00:38:07,800 --> 00:38:13,160
Speaker 2: we needed something, you know, and even their mom was like, well,

705
00:38:13,200 --> 00:38:16,120
Speaker 2: you know, she was just trying to keep up with you. No, no, no, no,

706
00:38:16,120 --> 00:38:20,719
Speaker 2: no no no. I own a boutique. I can buy

707
00:38:20,800 --> 00:38:23,840
Speaker 2: things wholesal the gowns that you all see me with.

708
00:38:24,000 --> 00:38:28,839
Speaker 2: I'm not paying thousands of dollars. No, You're not trying

709
00:38:28,840 --> 00:38:31,040
Speaker 2: to keep up with me. I'm not trying to put

710
00:38:31,080 --> 00:38:34,239
Speaker 2: on for anybody. This is just who I am, so

711
00:38:34,480 --> 00:38:37,080
Speaker 2: I don't I'm not taking the blame for that. You

712
00:38:37,120 --> 00:38:40,680
Speaker 2: were not honest with me, and because of that, I'm

713
00:38:40,719 --> 00:38:43,920
Speaker 2: now publicly sho I'm going through a public eviction, my

714
00:38:43,960 --> 00:38:48,200
Speaker 2: first eviction in my life, and it's public, okay. I'm like, no,

715
00:38:49,600 --> 00:38:51,880
Speaker 2: and people were, you know, they had their opinions about

716
00:38:51,920 --> 00:38:53,600
Speaker 2: what I should have known, what I shouldn't have known.

717
00:38:53,960 --> 00:38:56,239
Speaker 2: People are who they are until they show you or not.

718
00:38:56,400 --> 00:38:59,600
Speaker 2: Like for me, there was no other thing other than

719
00:38:59,600 --> 00:39:03,600
Speaker 2: that tape that I was like, there was nothing.

720
00:39:03,360 --> 00:39:06,120
Speaker 1: Else yeah for me. Yeah.

721
00:39:06,160 --> 00:39:08,120
Speaker 2: So when I was like, oh okay, and then when

722
00:39:08,120 --> 00:39:10,440
Speaker 2: my friends started coming forward, I was, of course heated

723
00:39:10,440 --> 00:39:12,680
Speaker 2: with them. Y'all could have been told me, you know,

724
00:39:14,520 --> 00:39:17,480
Speaker 2: so I had to leave. I was like, I'm and

725
00:39:17,520 --> 00:39:18,240
Speaker 2: it was easy.

726
00:39:18,719 --> 00:39:25,560
Speaker 1: So you're married now, But take us back to post table,

727
00:39:26,320 --> 00:39:30,480
Speaker 1: post eviction. Are you like, I'm just gonna take a break.

728
00:39:30,880 --> 00:39:35,760
Speaker 1: You absolutely so, what because I met your wife, sweet person,

729
00:39:36,360 --> 00:39:39,319
Speaker 1: and you seem very happy. So fill us in that

730
00:39:39,480 --> 00:39:42,359
Speaker 1: time period between when they took that table, they say, hey,

731
00:39:42,400 --> 00:39:43,960
Speaker 1: give us that. I don't care where you put your cereal,

732
00:39:44,719 --> 00:39:47,160
Speaker 1: and now you're happily buried.

733
00:39:47,560 --> 00:39:51,640
Speaker 2: Well, I focus. And here's the thing. When I filed

734
00:39:51,640 --> 00:39:55,520
Speaker 2: for divorce in twenty twenty thirty, from that day it

735
00:39:55,640 --> 00:39:58,760
Speaker 2: just got bigger and bigger. I was booked and busy,

736
00:39:58,960 --> 00:40:01,399
Speaker 2: so I wasn't even like soaking. I didn't have time

737
00:40:01,440 --> 00:40:03,480
Speaker 2: to do any of that. I was out here working,

738
00:40:04,080 --> 00:40:06,439
Speaker 2: and I absolutely loved that. But that's what I wanted

739
00:40:06,440 --> 00:40:09,719
Speaker 2: to do. My children are grown. I don't have, you know,

740
00:40:09,840 --> 00:40:12,480
Speaker 2: to be at home. And for me, it was getting

741
00:40:12,480 --> 00:40:16,360
Speaker 2: to know who I was outside because for the longest,

742
00:40:16,440 --> 00:40:18,719
Speaker 2: even in high school, twenties, all the things. There were

743
00:40:18,719 --> 00:40:20,680
Speaker 2: always people that wanted to marry me, and I felt

744
00:40:20,680 --> 00:40:25,080
Speaker 2: like I don't want to be I could not, for

745
00:40:25,160 --> 00:40:28,080
Speaker 2: the life of me understand why. Right. I was like,

746
00:40:28,120 --> 00:40:31,520
Speaker 2: I don't want to be just I feel restrained. Okay,

747
00:40:32,040 --> 00:40:34,680
Speaker 2: And so at that moment, I'm flying free. I'm in

748
00:40:34,760 --> 00:40:37,640
Speaker 2: the streets, I'm dating, I'm doing all the things. I'm

749
00:40:37,680 --> 00:40:41,440
Speaker 2: having fun, but I'm going home to the peace. Okay.

750
00:40:41,719 --> 00:40:46,280
Speaker 2: I got my three piece pajama, said on I'm watching

751
00:40:46,360 --> 00:40:51,640
Speaker 2: TV and I'm having fun. But I was booked for

752
00:40:52,200 --> 00:40:56,200
Speaker 2: Denver Black Pride. I was contacted via email for Denver

753
00:40:56,320 --> 00:41:00,680
Speaker 2: Black Pride, and I came up to visit it before

754
00:41:01,239 --> 00:41:04,239
Speaker 2: the gala, and soon I was just on the on

755
00:41:04,320 --> 00:41:06,600
Speaker 2: the phone in an argument anyway with somebody else, and

756
00:41:06,600 --> 00:41:11,480
Speaker 2: I was like, I sick of women. I'm tired get you're.

757
00:41:11,320 --> 00:41:14,399
Speaker 1: Pregnant every time you might you might stay over there.

758
00:41:14,719 --> 00:41:16,640
Speaker 2: As soon as I walked out, I hung the phone.

759
00:41:16,640 --> 00:41:18,160
Speaker 2: I was like, I'm not arguing with you. I'm going

760
00:41:18,239 --> 00:41:22,880
Speaker 2: I'm not doing it. I'm single. I walk out and

761
00:41:23,200 --> 00:41:26,319
Speaker 2: this vehicle pulls up and baby gets out, and I'm like,

762
00:41:27,640 --> 00:41:30,600
Speaker 2: I just what did I say? What? Did, I just said,

763
00:41:32,320 --> 00:41:36,040
Speaker 2: because we had we had only emailed and had a

764
00:41:36,080 --> 00:41:39,600
Speaker 2: phone conference. I didn't know what baby looked like, but

765
00:41:39,800 --> 00:41:43,279
Speaker 2: all I did. As a matter of fact.

766
00:41:46,520 --> 00:41:47,840
Speaker 1: I just lied to myself.

767
00:41:47,880 --> 00:41:52,239
Speaker 2: I just lied. I just lied. And I get in

768
00:41:52,280 --> 00:41:55,279
Speaker 2: a car and we are talking as if we have

769
00:41:55,440 --> 00:41:59,719
Speaker 2: known each other forever, like you just picked me up

770
00:41:59,760 --> 00:42:01,719
Speaker 2: from the airport. I've been gone for a minute and

771
00:42:01,760 --> 00:42:05,160
Speaker 2: I'm back. And that's how we just fell into each other.

772
00:42:05,719 --> 00:42:07,480
Speaker 2: And it was amazing. I was like, you got your

773
00:42:07,520 --> 00:42:12,520
Speaker 2: own thing, you got nonprofits, you running all the things.

774
00:42:12,600 --> 00:42:15,480
Speaker 2: You don't need anything from me. You have your own Does.

775
00:42:15,360 --> 00:42:16,840
Speaker 1: She have a table?

776
00:42:17,239 --> 00:42:22,080
Speaker 2: Yes? Oh her own birth date. Said that to me,

777
00:42:22,400 --> 00:42:24,879
Speaker 2: and I said, see this is how I know y'all

778
00:42:24,840 --> 00:42:29,680
Speaker 2: watched social media. Babe said you see that table over there,

779
00:42:31,040 --> 00:42:33,800
Speaker 2: I own it my table.

780
00:42:34,280 --> 00:42:37,319
Speaker 1: Ain't nobody coming And I heard taking that table, so

781
00:42:37,440 --> 00:42:38,640
Speaker 1: you was up.

782
00:42:40,200 --> 00:42:40,959
Speaker 2: It was a good table.

783
00:42:40,960 --> 00:42:41,680
Speaker 1: It's big table.

784
00:42:41,840 --> 00:42:44,000
Speaker 2: I was like, yeah, nice one, this.

785
00:42:43,880 --> 00:42:49,880
Speaker 1: Is all this is thirty table. Yes, I said, oh, okay, wow.

786
00:42:49,680 --> 00:42:57,200
Speaker 2: Yes, PhD amazing real Yeah, yes, because you know yes

787
00:42:58,080 --> 00:43:02,759
Speaker 2: about the sexual transmitting degrees. No, yes, see now I

788
00:43:02,880 --> 00:43:05,840
Speaker 2: have a PhD. Because my wife has a PhD. And

789
00:43:05,920 --> 00:43:07,400
Speaker 2: I need you to understand that.

790
00:43:08,200 --> 00:43:09,200
Speaker 1: Doctor Rajohn.

791
00:43:09,320 --> 00:43:09,719
Speaker 2: Thank you.

792
00:43:11,560 --> 00:43:15,000
Speaker 1: So now it seems like things are going well.

793
00:43:15,120 --> 00:43:17,520
Speaker 2: Yes, things are going My life is a mate. I

794
00:43:17,560 --> 00:43:20,640
Speaker 2: wake up every day happy, doing all the things that

795
00:43:20,719 --> 00:43:23,600
Speaker 2: I love that I said I was I would do. So.

796
00:43:23,640 --> 00:43:26,040
Speaker 2: The saddest part is my mom. Like, in the back

797
00:43:26,040 --> 00:43:28,239
Speaker 2: of my mind, it's always student loans in my mom.

798
00:43:28,480 --> 00:43:31,640
Speaker 1: Right, some student loans gonna be there. They ain't gonna

799
00:43:31,800 --> 00:43:33,200
Speaker 1: they ain't gonna never let you loose.

800
00:43:33,280 --> 00:43:35,080
Speaker 2: I could be enjoying my I was at the Beyonce

801
00:43:35,280 --> 00:43:39,040
Speaker 2: concert Renaissance, I mean, screaming my head off and someone

802
00:43:39,120 --> 00:43:42,360
Speaker 2: was like, did you pay your Why would I why?

803
00:43:43,040 --> 00:43:43,479
Speaker 2: Right now?

804
00:43:43,719 --> 00:43:44,800
Speaker 1: Ruining the vibes.

805
00:43:45,920 --> 00:43:48,439
Speaker 2: But yeah, it's my mom. I think about that a lot.

806
00:43:49,239 --> 00:43:51,480
Speaker 2: But other than that, I mean, my children are healthy,

807
00:43:51,480 --> 00:43:52,239
Speaker 2: They're doing well.

808
00:43:52,360 --> 00:43:53,560
Speaker 1: One of the ages of your kids now.

809
00:43:53,840 --> 00:43:56,000
Speaker 2: My oldest will be thirty one in July.

810
00:43:56,280 --> 00:43:58,160
Speaker 1: Wow, I know that's crazy.

811
00:43:58,200 --> 00:44:00,720
Speaker 2: Twins will be twenty five on my birthday in July.

812
00:44:00,840 --> 00:44:04,879
Speaker 1: Every year, every year they gonna take your birthday over

813
00:44:05,320 --> 00:44:06,960
Speaker 1: this selfish Yes.

814
00:44:06,719 --> 00:44:09,400
Speaker 2: In this month. The nacy of my youngest will be

815
00:44:09,400 --> 00:44:11,480
Speaker 2: twenty three on the twenty seventh of May.

816
00:44:11,600 --> 00:44:13,719
Speaker 1: Wow, So you got adults?

817
00:44:14,000 --> 00:44:16,880
Speaker 2: Yes, I mean, and they call you with adults. I

818
00:44:16,920 --> 00:44:18,480
Speaker 2: can't wait for your boys to call you a thing.

819
00:44:18,560 --> 00:44:21,080
Speaker 1: You're like, WHOA, don't wish that on me.

820
00:44:21,360 --> 00:44:23,480
Speaker 2: They call you with the adult things, and I'm.

821
00:44:23,360 --> 00:44:27,520
Speaker 1: Like, my kids are going through that now, my oldest

822
00:44:28,440 --> 00:44:32,840
Speaker 1: and youngest in different ways. They ain't the same problems.

823
00:44:32,840 --> 00:44:36,360
Speaker 1: This girl don't like me. Somebody called me. These people

824
00:44:36,440 --> 00:44:39,960
Speaker 1: got some issue. Their friend group is going through some stuff,

825
00:44:40,680 --> 00:44:42,439
Speaker 1: and you got to be trying to be cool. Yes,

826
00:44:42,760 --> 00:44:44,439
Speaker 1: but it'd be like the worst thing you ever heard.

827
00:44:44,440 --> 00:44:46,719
Speaker 1: You'd be like, no, yeah, okay, yeah, So what you

828
00:44:46,760 --> 00:44:48,840
Speaker 1: want to do is I thought y'all was like I

829
00:44:48,840 --> 00:44:50,000
Speaker 1: thought you want to go to chuck. It feel like

830
00:44:50,000 --> 00:44:51,040
Speaker 1: I was just taking the chunky cheese.

831
00:44:51,040 --> 00:44:53,719
Speaker 2: That's what I'm saying. And because I grew up watching you,

832
00:44:53,880 --> 00:44:57,200
Speaker 2: watching them grow up, I understand what you and your

833
00:44:57,200 --> 00:44:59,920
Speaker 2: wife are going through. Right, So when my children call,

834
00:45:00,560 --> 00:45:03,160
Speaker 2: I'm like, no, I don't something. Can you just keep

835
00:45:03,160 --> 00:45:06,719
Speaker 2: it like? I know I'm the mom and I'm you know,

836
00:45:06,960 --> 00:45:07,680
Speaker 2: it's like, no, I can.

837
00:45:07,600 --> 00:45:08,640
Speaker 1: Talk to my mom about anything.

838
00:45:08,760 --> 00:45:10,680
Speaker 2: Some things I don't. I don't want you to.

839
00:45:11,120 --> 00:45:13,040
Speaker 1: So before we let you go, I want to talk

840
00:45:13,040 --> 00:45:16,120
Speaker 1: about your your It's a really very simple podcast because

841
00:45:16,120 --> 00:45:18,120
Speaker 1: when I saw that first clip, I said, oh, this

842
00:45:18,200 --> 00:45:21,680
Speaker 1: is gonna be I can't wait. What made you decide

843
00:45:21,719 --> 00:45:24,680
Speaker 1: to do that? What's the impetus behind it? Because it

844
00:45:24,800 --> 00:45:25,839
Speaker 1: seems like a good time.

845
00:45:26,040 --> 00:45:28,759
Speaker 2: Okay, So it's really very simple podcast. It's just going

846
00:45:28,840 --> 00:45:31,200
Speaker 2: to be an extension of me at the board. We're

847
00:45:31,200 --> 00:45:34,319
Speaker 2: going to elaborate on various life lessons, things that we

848
00:45:34,920 --> 00:45:35,960
Speaker 2: that life has taught me.

849
00:45:36,640 --> 00:45:37,759
Speaker 1: Lord, you learned a lot.

850
00:45:38,160 --> 00:45:41,520
Speaker 2: I learned a lot and things that other people have.

851
00:45:41,760 --> 00:45:43,759
Speaker 2: So I will have guests on but mostly it's just

852
00:45:43,840 --> 00:45:46,200
Speaker 2: me because here's the thing. I have lived a lot.

853
00:45:46,200 --> 00:45:46,440
Speaker 2: A lot.

854
00:45:46,600 --> 00:45:48,520
Speaker 1: You got plenty to talk about.

855
00:45:49,360 --> 00:45:51,000
Speaker 2: I have lived a lot of lives and I want

856
00:45:51,040 --> 00:45:54,520
Speaker 2: people to understand that if you pay attention, you'll learn

857
00:45:54,560 --> 00:45:57,920
Speaker 2: something from it. I got this one one segment called

858
00:45:58,160 --> 00:46:03,960
Speaker 2: worry about your brows and that, and that is really

859
00:46:04,080 --> 00:46:07,279
Speaker 2: just to say stop being the people's being like, worry

860
00:46:07,320 --> 00:46:09,640
Speaker 2: about yourself. You don't you have things to.

861
00:46:09,560 --> 00:46:12,120
Speaker 1: Do, Okay, so specific you're.

862
00:46:12,000 --> 00:46:15,279
Speaker 2: Worried about what people do with their hair, what people

863
00:46:15,520 --> 00:46:21,280
Speaker 2: do with their bodies, worry about your brow? Yes, yeah,

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Speaker 2: I don't don't they are. I think that proper skincare

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Speaker 2: going on. I don't understand it.

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Speaker 1: No, I think so. I have so many catchphrases, minding

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Speaker 1: your business and proper skincare during your water, Yes, and

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Speaker 1: leave me alone. God, I love that. You've been amazing.

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Speaker 1: Before you go tell the people the things you say

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Speaker 1: at the end of the podcast so they can if

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Speaker 1: they don't know you by now, I don't know how,

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Speaker 1: but they want to follow? Where can they follow?

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Speaker 2: You? Follow me on all social media at Rashonda Lias.

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Speaker 2: I think on TikTok TikTok, I'm still shop Aif, but

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Speaker 2: you can type in.

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Speaker 1: Never knew why your name was that? Really the boutique

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Speaker 1: I just got because you would say I'm Reyshonda in

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Speaker 1: the video and you know TikTok the name at the beginning.

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Speaker 1: It didn't. It didn't coincide.

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Speaker 2: Shop Aif was shop always Farique.

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Speaker 1: Okay, got it, Ladies and gentlemen, Rashonda Lias very funny,

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Speaker 1: very talented. Follow her listen to her podcast. She is

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Speaker 1: a good time as you can see one of our

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Speaker 1: funnier episodes, which I knew it would be. God bless you.

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Speaker 1: Got keep you. We'll see you next week. This has

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Speaker 1: been a Unanimous Media original. Not My Best Mama was

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Speaker 1: produced by iHeart Podcast and Unanimous Media. It was hosted

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Speaker 1: by Me Kevin Fredericks. Exactly You're produced by Stephen Curry,

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Speaker 1: Eric Payton, and Charlotte Sumter Rigette Co executive producer Klena

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Speaker 1: Maria Cutney. The executive producers of the iHeart Podcast are

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Speaker 1: Sean Titone and Jason English. This series was produced by

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Speaker 1: Peter Calter and Jabbari Davis. Co producer Kurt Redman. Special

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Speaker 1: thanks to Stephen Curry and Will Pearson. Not My Best

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Speaker 1: Moment as a production of Unanimous Media and iHeart Podcasts.

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