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Speaker 1: sugarls or in the cold and you.

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Speaker 2: Are tuned in to another episode of Poor Minds.

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Speaker 1: Where a drunk mind speaks sober talking. We got a

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Speaker 1: with the guests we have because a lot of times

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Speaker 2: They be feeling like, oh, we don't want to hear

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Speaker 2: what they got the stuff, But it's legendary, Yo, you're

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Speaker 2: the original reality show queen.

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Speaker 1: So we got Miss Delicious all less show. Thank you.

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Speaker 2: Now, a lot of our people that watch the show,

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Speaker 2: you know, they way younger than me. They they're not

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Speaker 2: supposed to be watching. But for the people who don't know,

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Speaker 2: just let us know who you are.

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Speaker 1: Well, I am London Delicious Santana.

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Speaker 2: I know.

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Speaker 1: But the first time you guys probably knew who I was,

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Speaker 1: it was from the Flavor of Love with Flavor Flame

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Speaker 1: that was Seasons to Winner, And since then I was

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Speaker 1: able to take my brand and the sky's in the limits.

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Speaker 1: And so now from radio to movies, television, series, acting, comedy, singing,

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Speaker 2: Because people that do reality shows will do reality.

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Speaker 1: We never heard like, let me fall off. I mean,

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Speaker 1: you're going to reality show. Absolutely let me. I'm not

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Speaker 1: gonna lie. I used to want to be a play

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Speaker 1: for love so bad. I mean I used to love this.

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Speaker 3: Oh yeah, I wanted to go home.

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Speaker 1: That's so bad, you know, because it was just so

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Speaker 1: Turn off in the house. Now the house was turned that. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: it was like the first era of like reality, especially

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Speaker 2: Show with like a celebrity dating women that came from Flavor.

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Speaker 1: Definitely did Fliver Love provided well you before us, you

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Speaker 1: you totally urban. So then it became more relative to

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Speaker 4: So did you do you care that?

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Speaker 2: Like people still call you delicious?

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Speaker 1: No, you like good name. I am delicious, that's right?

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Speaker 2: Really, you know, yeah, spelled delicious like that like you spelled.

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Speaker 1: It wrong exactly, you know, let me say it actually

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Speaker 1: comes up in my phone spell d L s H.

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Speaker 1: That's how you what your nickname had been on the

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Speaker 1: I don't know. I'm country. I feel like it has

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Speaker 1: And I think that works too because if you think

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Speaker 2: Nibbles, y'all, y'all remember Nibbles she had that.

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Speaker 2: Let me tell you something. And I'm not even being funny.

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Speaker 1: I had the Flavor of Love seasons on DVD and

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Speaker 1: Did she get eliminated? Today? I think she, I mean,

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Speaker 1: of you New York and Bucky but Wild.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, y'all are the only people I remember in Boots

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Speaker 1: Well Andrea, Boots, Bucky and myself. We were the ones

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Speaker 1: You know, And I'm glad you said. I love New

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Speaker 1: you all right, enjoyed a holiday. Okay, So before we

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Speaker 1: get in police harpers, I got one more horsh Okay,

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Speaker 1: did you really like flay? I did? I did you

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Speaker 1: a real last bit? That's right? No, that's what everybody

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Speaker 1: we want to know. Yeah, No, I like to flaying.

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Speaker 1: But I'm from Detroit, So in Detroit you don't have

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Speaker 1: So that's what I was gonna say. He was funny,

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Speaker 1: But I think that's what it is about bunny.

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Speaker 4: Men can get so much more than.

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Speaker 2: Any other type of man.

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Speaker 1: Like men don't realize like the men that are funny,

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Speaker 1: they don't go be the main ones. Yeah. Yeah, you

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Speaker 1: gotta be funny for sure. I can't deal with no dude.

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Speaker 2: I mean, I'm not saying you gotta be any Murphy.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's a deal. If you can't make me laugh, Joe, you.

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Speaker 2: All right, So we're gonna get into these topics.

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Speaker 1: I'm glad I have because, like I said, I'm trying

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Speaker 2: Like I said, I was a fan. So today we're

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Speaker 2: gonna talk about a topic that has just been on

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Speaker 1: This is not a new topic, but people always talk

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Speaker 2: Okay, yes, got her ring, got her things.

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Speaker 1: It's still fine, still posting those steaxty pictures, right, So

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Speaker 1: today I want to talk about people saying men don't

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Speaker 1: because I've always said I feel like there are way

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Speaker 2: Right, So, you know, men always say things like, oh,

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Speaker 2: that got these small ways, big booties, nice tennis and

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Speaker 2: And it's just crazy to me because like, Okay, if

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Speaker 2: that's how you feel and y'all wife up the ones

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Speaker 2: that are like opposite of how those women are, Then

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Speaker 2: why do y'all still be in those women's d ms

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Speaker 2: when y'all be married?

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Speaker 1: Bell?

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Speaker 4: So if you have what you want, then why are

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Speaker 4: you being the dyms?

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Speaker 1: Absolutely? You know that. I mean, if it's not your preference,

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Speaker 1: and why is it your conversation? I mean, I think

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Speaker 2: That's crazy, said, knowing what he does. And but I'm

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00:22:51,720 --> 00:22:54,480
Speaker 2: not gonna lie. Everybody watched when they see it, you

433
00:22:54,560 --> 00:22:56,240
Speaker 2: know how like when they do the update after what

434
00:22:56,320 --> 00:22:56,680
Speaker 2: they're doing.

435
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Speaker 1: Now, Yes, b B of the group is a b

436
00:23:00,119 --> 00:23:07,879
Speaker 1: t B. So the bd B is the baby daddy, No,

437
00:23:08,359 --> 00:23:14,760
Speaker 1: the big big baller one a beautie, big girl. He

438
00:23:14,840 --> 00:23:18,080
Speaker 1: got the cash, the one, the one girl.

439
00:23:18,160 --> 00:23:24,200
Speaker 5: I said, oh, that's the one, now, I know the

440
00:23:24,280 --> 00:23:27,720
Speaker 5: B baller big boiler said.

441
00:23:27,880 --> 00:23:30,360
Speaker 1: When I see you, I said, they're like, oh delicious.

442
00:23:30,359 --> 00:23:31,480
Speaker 2: And rad I said, I know that's my.

443
00:23:31,600 --> 00:23:38,080
Speaker 3: Girl, big I love it. Daddy, you're bd B baby, Yes,

444
00:23:42,840 --> 00:23:43,680
Speaker 3: you know it is.

445
00:23:43,920 --> 00:23:46,720
Speaker 1: Oh my god, he's a bad B. Yeah, I guess

446
00:23:46,760 --> 00:23:51,080
Speaker 1: he is. That's his bio certified bd B. Yes. And

447
00:23:51,240 --> 00:23:53,520
Speaker 1: Lake Saity yeah. So listen, So then what are we

448
00:23:53,680 --> 00:23:56,480
Speaker 1: then if women are of the same, he said, bp

449
00:23:56,640 --> 00:23:57,800
Speaker 1: B big plissy baller.

450
00:23:57,920 --> 00:23:59,280
Speaker 4: But I feel like the way big.

451
00:23:59,200 --> 00:24:02,200
Speaker 1: Pissy No, I don't. I mean, even though I got one,

452
00:24:02,480 --> 00:24:05,240
Speaker 1: I don't like the way it sound. We don't think

453
00:24:05,280 --> 00:24:06,960
Speaker 1: of a good name for the women that are like

454
00:24:07,240 --> 00:24:10,000
Speaker 1: independent ballers. We got all the money, we look good

455
00:24:10,280 --> 00:24:13,360
Speaker 1: because that's what we talk about bosses an entrepreneurs. Yeah,

456
00:24:13,840 --> 00:24:22,560
Speaker 1: we like that. But I'm so glad that you said

457
00:24:22,600 --> 00:24:24,200
Speaker 1: that because I think that that's something with me and

458
00:24:24,320 --> 00:24:27,040
Speaker 1: Lick to that sometimes we kind of fear or like

459
00:24:27,119 --> 00:24:29,040
Speaker 1: struggle with when it comes to dating is like what

460
00:24:29,160 --> 00:24:31,040
Speaker 1: we do for a living. I feel like it's hard

461
00:24:31,119 --> 00:24:33,600
Speaker 1: to find a man that is going to accept what

462
00:24:33,720 --> 00:24:35,800
Speaker 1: you do and be okay with it and just love

463
00:24:35,880 --> 00:24:38,560
Speaker 1: you as you are. You know what, if a man

464
00:24:39,359 --> 00:24:41,960
Speaker 1: gets the chance to actually meet you outside of your occupation,

465
00:24:42,840 --> 00:24:46,080
Speaker 1: it's one thing. But I think you should have them

466
00:24:46,320 --> 00:24:50,000
Speaker 1: know your occupation from the jump so then you can yeah,

467
00:24:50,000 --> 00:24:52,040
Speaker 1: it ain't gonna be no problems later because I think

468
00:24:52,080 --> 00:24:53,960
Speaker 1: what really comes into play is that we have a

469
00:24:54,000 --> 00:24:56,760
Speaker 1: representative when we're dating. Yeah, we put on a representative,

470
00:24:57,280 --> 00:24:59,000
Speaker 1: and then once we get to know them, we get

471
00:24:59,040 --> 00:25:01,639
Speaker 1: comfortable and then we are being our true selves or

472
00:25:01,720 --> 00:25:03,240
Speaker 1: you know, getting deep into what it is that we

473
00:25:03,320 --> 00:25:05,520
Speaker 1: really want to do, and then that's when the problems

474
00:25:05,600 --> 00:25:08,720
Speaker 1: come in. But if you established that at the beginning,

475
00:25:09,080 --> 00:25:12,320
Speaker 1: then he would be the hypocrite to later try to say,

476
00:25:12,560 --> 00:25:14,520
Speaker 1: you know that what you do is too sexy or whatever,

477
00:25:14,760 --> 00:25:17,240
Speaker 1: but that's still usually what happens. I feel like dudes

478
00:25:17,240 --> 00:25:19,280
Speaker 1: to be knowing what we do at this point any

479
00:25:19,280 --> 00:25:20,560
Speaker 1: and they will still try to Like I had a

480
00:25:20,560 --> 00:25:23,480
Speaker 1: conversation with somebody I was talking to recently, and like

481
00:25:23,560 --> 00:25:25,240
Speaker 1: he was just like, yeah, you know, I like you

482
00:25:25,359 --> 00:25:28,159
Speaker 1: and everything, but like, you know, you a lit girl

483
00:25:28,920 --> 00:25:31,760
Speaker 1: like you two lid and I'm like, Bud, you slid

484
00:25:31,840 --> 00:25:34,040
Speaker 1: in my DM exactly. So when you slid in my DM,

485
00:25:34,119 --> 00:25:36,320
Speaker 1: you already seen I had X amount of followers. You

486
00:25:36,400 --> 00:25:38,040
Speaker 1: already see that I had the show and what we

487
00:25:38,160 --> 00:25:39,840
Speaker 1: talk about on the show and everything. So at the

488
00:25:39,920 --> 00:25:42,040
Speaker 1: time that was cool, but now it's a it's a

489
00:25:42,160 --> 00:25:45,159
Speaker 1: problem with you being lit. What does it have to

490
00:25:45,240 --> 00:25:48,320
Speaker 1: do with with him? I have no idea, but that's

491
00:25:48,359 --> 00:25:50,199
Speaker 1: what he's said. I wouldn't take away from y'all as

492
00:25:50,240 --> 00:25:52,560
Speaker 1: a couple exactly. But I'm not trying to be funny,

493
00:25:52,640 --> 00:25:58,440
Speaker 1: but somebody who like it's kind of somebody's not kind

494
00:25:58,480 --> 00:26:02,440
Speaker 1: of because he probably knows I always say it like this,

495
00:26:02,560 --> 00:26:03,960
Speaker 1: and I don't want to say that about him to

496
00:26:04,080 --> 00:26:09,840
Speaker 1: be mad at me. Okay, but I think that a

497
00:26:09,880 --> 00:26:12,240
Speaker 1: lot of times men are intimidated that you're going to

498
00:26:12,320 --> 00:26:15,520
Speaker 1: actually be seen by men that are of a greater caliber,

499
00:26:15,920 --> 00:26:19,000
Speaker 1: and they don't want them to have access to your

500
00:26:19,040 --> 00:26:22,520
Speaker 1: beauty and step right, and that's there. Yeah, missus Celia girl.

501
00:26:22,520 --> 00:26:24,520
Speaker 1: But I tell, I tell you guys, listen, if you

502
00:26:24,680 --> 00:26:27,760
Speaker 1: up on your ship, you got a word about another

503
00:26:28,040 --> 00:26:31,040
Speaker 1: you know BDB. I mean, is that what it is?

504
00:26:32,720 --> 00:26:35,159
Speaker 3: Yeah, you don't have to worry about.

505
00:26:37,040 --> 00:26:39,679
Speaker 1: If you are already the BDB that's in my life,

506
00:26:40,200 --> 00:26:42,800
Speaker 1: then nobody, no other BDB, that's just the bdbs, you

507
00:26:42,880 --> 00:26:47,840
Speaker 1: know what it's like. Okay, I love his name, but

508
00:26:47,960 --> 00:26:50,080
Speaker 1: I'm glad that you said that about because there's a

509
00:26:50,119 --> 00:26:53,160
Speaker 1: difference between delicious and London, right, And we always say

510
00:26:53,200 --> 00:26:55,240
Speaker 1: that and we always say that. But this goes into

511
00:26:55,280 --> 00:26:57,040
Speaker 1: the next topic that I wanted to talk about. I

512
00:26:57,119 --> 00:26:59,879
Speaker 1: want to talk about like your social media persona be

513
00:27:00,160 --> 00:27:03,440
Speaker 1: different from real life in a good way, but also

514
00:27:03,920 --> 00:27:06,600
Speaker 1: in a bad way. Yeah, it's so crazy. I meet

515
00:27:06,680 --> 00:27:09,440
Speaker 1: so many people all the time and like you'll see

516
00:27:09,480 --> 00:27:11,080
Speaker 1: them on social media, you'll see how they are on

517
00:27:11,119 --> 00:27:12,560
Speaker 1: social media, and you meet them in real life. And

518
00:27:12,600 --> 00:27:14,399
Speaker 1: ayate a complete opposite. And I think that shit is

519
00:27:14,480 --> 00:27:19,119
Speaker 1: so fucking strained because people literally live a whole different

520
00:27:19,160 --> 00:27:21,720
Speaker 1: life fantasy life or on social media, and then in

521
00:27:21,800 --> 00:27:23,760
Speaker 1: real life they're nothing like that and ain't not really

522
00:27:23,800 --> 00:27:25,720
Speaker 1: living like that. It's people who be looking like they

523
00:27:25,800 --> 00:27:29,080
Speaker 1: having a way in real life they ain't having a way. Oh, Like,

524
00:27:29,240 --> 00:27:31,840
Speaker 1: the shit is just crazy. That's tough. You know what

525
00:27:31,920 --> 00:27:34,240
Speaker 1: I talked to my kids about. I have a twenty

526
00:27:34,280 --> 00:27:38,399
Speaker 1: two year old, seventeen and eleven, and so more so

527
00:27:38,600 --> 00:27:40,200
Speaker 1: much seventeen and twenty tw year old tell them a

528
00:27:40,240 --> 00:27:43,120
Speaker 1: lot of time. It's that there is a pressure when

529
00:27:43,200 --> 00:27:46,080
Speaker 1: you go onto Instagram, and more so now for them,

530
00:27:46,320 --> 00:27:47,520
Speaker 1: yeah than it was for us.

531
00:27:48,040 --> 00:27:48,280
Speaker 2: Yeah.

532
00:27:48,640 --> 00:27:50,359
Speaker 1: I said that to them too, that we didn't have

533
00:27:50,440 --> 00:27:52,639
Speaker 1: to go through as much as y'all do now. So

534
00:27:52,760 --> 00:27:55,960
Speaker 1: it's like a pressure for people to appear a certain

535
00:27:56,040 --> 00:27:58,680
Speaker 1: way or you feel like you're unaccomplished from the moment

536
00:27:58,760 --> 00:28:01,960
Speaker 1: that you log in and someone posts their life. It's

537
00:28:02,040 --> 00:28:06,479
Speaker 1: like everybody has to have a different measurement on success

538
00:28:07,119 --> 00:28:10,440
Speaker 1: because if you're measuring it against social media, then I

539
00:28:10,480 --> 00:28:12,119
Speaker 1: mean you might as well go and jump off a building.

540
00:28:16,000 --> 00:28:19,200
Speaker 1: And most of them like you said, even if they're

541
00:28:19,240 --> 00:28:22,520
Speaker 1: living that life, they're not happy. And not to say

542
00:28:22,560 --> 00:28:25,440
Speaker 1: that because you you gain more that you can't be happy.

543
00:28:25,560 --> 00:28:27,960
Speaker 1: But in a lot of cases it's really not what

544
00:28:28,160 --> 00:28:30,640
Speaker 1: you see. But I'm guilty of that too. If I'm

545
00:28:30,680 --> 00:28:35,919
Speaker 1: having a bad day, and most day any of us do, honestly,

546
00:28:36,080 --> 00:28:39,600
Speaker 1: I will say this, I have started being more open

547
00:28:40,320 --> 00:28:43,360
Speaker 1: and being honest. Like like yesterday I was just having

548
00:28:43,360 --> 00:28:44,720
Speaker 1: a day. I was like, bro, I'm tired of just

549
00:28:44,760 --> 00:28:47,600
Speaker 1: getting sad off the blue just because I have literally

550
00:28:48,080 --> 00:28:52,400
Speaker 1: between Instagram and Twitter, I have like over two hundred

551
00:28:52,400 --> 00:28:54,400
Speaker 1: and fifty thousand people follow you all. That's a lot.

552
00:28:54,640 --> 00:28:59,480
Speaker 1: I mean, you know, I mean you got more when

553
00:28:59,480 --> 00:29:01,440
Speaker 1: you think of the I have that conversation. That's a

554
00:29:01,520 --> 00:29:05,160
Speaker 1: lot of people. But it's between now because honestly, I

555
00:29:05,320 --> 00:29:07,280
Speaker 1: noticed when I tweet things or when I post things,

556
00:29:07,280 --> 00:29:10,000
Speaker 1: they are hanging on to my everything. So it's like

557
00:29:10,080 --> 00:29:11,440
Speaker 1: yesterday I was having bad and I was like, bro,

558
00:29:11,560 --> 00:29:13,320
Speaker 1: I'm just tired of getting like sad out the blue

559
00:29:13,360 --> 00:29:16,280
Speaker 1: out of nowhere because I've learned that we've got to

560
00:29:16,360 --> 00:29:18,959
Speaker 1: this level. Not everybody likes it, but just being who

561
00:29:19,040 --> 00:29:21,640
Speaker 1: I am and being honest and I noticed I connect

562
00:29:21,720 --> 00:29:23,959
Speaker 1: with people like that, like even meeting you right now,

563
00:29:24,080 --> 00:29:26,480
Speaker 1: like on your Instagram you'll be doing your little TikTok.

564
00:29:26,560 --> 00:29:28,719
Speaker 1: That'd be funny as fun. But then sometimes people come

565
00:29:28,760 --> 00:29:32,760
Speaker 1: in personally be like, oh yeah, but you really like

566
00:29:32,880 --> 00:29:33,720
Speaker 1: the same. Yeah.

567
00:29:35,400 --> 00:29:39,320
Speaker 2: Yeah, she wants to get it.

568
00:29:40,360 --> 00:29:41,360
Speaker 1: Everything gets all.

569
00:29:43,720 --> 00:29:44,440
Speaker 3: I enjoy it.

570
00:29:44,800 --> 00:29:46,600
Speaker 1: That's why I tell a lot of women like, I'm

571
00:29:46,640 --> 00:29:50,560
Speaker 1: a woman's woman. As much as I've never done anything lesbian,

572
00:29:50,640 --> 00:29:53,080
Speaker 1: this I'm not. I'm not against never in my life.

573
00:29:53,840 --> 00:29:56,120
Speaker 1: I've never been with a woman ever. But I think

574
00:29:56,120 --> 00:29:58,200
Speaker 1: women are beautiful. I can look at women and be like, oh,

575
00:29:58,280 --> 00:30:01,200
Speaker 1: she is bad as hell, see him, girl. Yes, I'm

576
00:30:01,200 --> 00:30:06,120
Speaker 1: a woman's woman, and I'm really into women being about women.

577
00:30:06,240 --> 00:30:07,840
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, being cool to But woman,

578
00:30:08,640 --> 00:30:10,720
Speaker 1: A woman is fly, she's fly. But woman is sexy.

579
00:30:10,800 --> 00:30:13,400
Speaker 1: She's sexy if she's funny, If she likes her breast,

580
00:30:13,600 --> 00:30:15,840
Speaker 1: if they look good, why wouldn't she. If she likes

581
00:30:15,880 --> 00:30:17,800
Speaker 1: her ass, if it's fit and it looks nice, why

582
00:30:17,840 --> 00:30:19,680
Speaker 1: wouldn't she. You know a lot of times that well

583
00:30:19,720 --> 00:30:22,720
Speaker 1: that's all I see. No, Actually I'm facing the front,

584
00:30:22,840 --> 00:30:24,720
Speaker 1: but you can see it from the front. I kid.

585
00:30:24,840 --> 00:30:33,000
Speaker 1: You know what, that's okay too, because if you saw it,

586
00:30:33,480 --> 00:30:34,200
Speaker 1: it was okay.

587
00:30:35,280 --> 00:30:35,920
Speaker 2: I need to do it.

588
00:30:36,000 --> 00:30:39,280
Speaker 1: But I'm like yo, people try to make you feel

589
00:30:39,440 --> 00:30:43,360
Speaker 1: bad for being sexy and being comfortable and being you. No,

590
00:30:43,640 --> 00:30:45,720
Speaker 1: don't stop doing that. And as hard as finding a

591
00:30:45,800 --> 00:30:48,840
Speaker 1: man who will accept that, you really don't want to

592
00:30:48,920 --> 00:30:50,600
Speaker 1: front and end up with a nigga who don't want

593
00:30:50,640 --> 00:30:54,840
Speaker 1: that anyway. The one who want that to be the

594
00:30:54,920 --> 00:30:57,360
Speaker 1: ones that actually see you. So be your true self,

595
00:30:57,400 --> 00:30:59,560
Speaker 1: especially if it's not detrimental to how you feel or

596
00:30:59,600 --> 00:31:02,680
Speaker 1: your health. Be that and the real one. Finally, you

597
00:31:02,720 --> 00:31:05,200
Speaker 1: will open up the doors so the ones that don't

598
00:31:05,280 --> 00:31:06,480
Speaker 1: match can get the fuck on.

599
00:31:06,680 --> 00:31:06,880
Speaker 2: Yeah.

600
00:31:06,960 --> 00:31:09,719
Speaker 1: Amen, I always say that too. Like a man who

601
00:31:09,840 --> 00:31:12,120
Speaker 1: is going to be judge mental, who isn't open minded

602
00:31:12,200 --> 00:31:13,920
Speaker 1: and okay with what I do and what I talk

603
00:31:14,000 --> 00:31:16,000
Speaker 1: about and who I am, I wouldn't want to be

604
00:31:16,120 --> 00:31:19,880
Speaker 1: with you anyway. Let me hold on to.

605
00:31:21,800 --> 00:31:23,560
Speaker 2: A good story that involves you.

606
00:31:23,760 --> 00:31:26,480
Speaker 1: What is it I just thought about this?

607
00:31:28,840 --> 00:31:29,680
Speaker 3: I mean you probably don't.

608
00:31:29,840 --> 00:31:31,080
Speaker 4: You don't even notice what was happening.

609
00:31:31,160 --> 00:31:35,680
Speaker 1: Girl, Let me tell you. Let me let me tell you. Okay.

610
00:31:35,840 --> 00:31:38,040
Speaker 2: So I talked about the first relationship I got to

611
00:31:38,080 --> 00:31:39,000
Speaker 2: when I moved to Atlanta.

612
00:31:39,120 --> 00:31:39,239
Speaker 6: OK.

613
00:31:39,480 --> 00:31:41,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, it was a very bad relationship.

614
00:31:41,120 --> 00:31:43,200
Speaker 1: He was trying to He basically was telling me the

615
00:31:43,280 --> 00:31:45,400
Speaker 1: only way I'm going to be successful is people see

616
00:31:45,440 --> 00:31:47,840
Speaker 1: me and not hearing. And he said she was too loud.

617
00:31:47,920 --> 00:31:49,000
Speaker 1: He said I was too loud.

618
00:31:49,280 --> 00:31:52,400
Speaker 2: The pictures that I post were too sexy. Nobody was

619
00:31:52,400 --> 00:31:54,360
Speaker 2: gonna take me seriously. Like he was one of those

620
00:31:54,480 --> 00:31:55,880
Speaker 2: Oh wow, and you know what I did. I went

621
00:31:55,920 --> 00:31:58,640
Speaker 2: on my Instagram. I deleted all my pictures of me

622
00:31:58,760 --> 00:32:01,959
Speaker 2: and swimsuit. You did everything off my Instagram?

623
00:32:02,040 --> 00:32:04,080
Speaker 1: Did you know that? Yeah? He knew that.

624
00:32:04,200 --> 00:32:05,920
Speaker 2: He was like yeah, like he was like trying to.

625
00:32:06,000 --> 00:32:08,040
Speaker 1: I guess like read bread like. I was like, let

626
00:32:08,080 --> 00:32:10,480
Speaker 1: me rebrand myself so I can be this man's wife.

627
00:32:10,560 --> 00:32:12,840
Speaker 1: One I remember I told you, I said, it's you crazy.

628
00:32:15,320 --> 00:32:16,400
Speaker 1: I didn't believe in my all.

629
00:32:17,040 --> 00:32:20,760
Speaker 2: Okay, but let me get to the park. Let me

630
00:32:20,800 --> 00:32:22,840
Speaker 2: get to the part. That's so when me and him

631
00:32:22,840 --> 00:32:25,280
Speaker 2: started butting heads so bad, so like we were about

632
00:32:25,320 --> 00:32:27,360
Speaker 2: to break up. I've been following you.

633
00:32:27,800 --> 00:32:28,960
Speaker 1: I go to your page.

634
00:32:29,320 --> 00:32:32,400
Speaker 4: He like it every time, like all her pictures. I said,

635
00:32:33,880 --> 00:32:38,800
Speaker 4: oh my god, but I mean, y'all definitely wasn't just

636
00:32:39,080 --> 00:32:40,800
Speaker 4: just to say was like what.

637
00:32:42,680 --> 00:32:43,680
Speaker 1: You told me to say.

638
00:32:45,760 --> 00:32:47,719
Speaker 2: You can appreciate another woman for it, right, you can

639
00:32:47,760 --> 00:32:49,640
Speaker 2: appreciate another woman for her, but not me.

640
00:32:49,880 --> 00:32:52,800
Speaker 1: Did you have that conversation with left his acd oh,

641
00:32:52,880 --> 00:32:55,800
Speaker 1: good for you? Right with you? And I was like, girl,

642
00:32:56,360 --> 00:33:00,880
Speaker 1: just don't want you really insecure? You were? Oh, I

643
00:33:00,960 --> 00:33:03,840
Speaker 1: mean we knew the way you look. Yeah, but you

644
00:33:03,960 --> 00:33:07,720
Speaker 1: were Were you cheating him? But he didn't know. He

645
00:33:07,800 --> 00:33:08,120
Speaker 1: didn't know.

646
00:33:09,480 --> 00:33:10,720
Speaker 3: We talk about another.

647
00:33:12,280 --> 00:33:18,320
Speaker 1: That's delicious like this about to get rid of.

648
00:33:24,400 --> 00:33:27,600
Speaker 4: She was like, yes, but that's no.

649
00:33:28,560 --> 00:33:28,960
Speaker 3: But yeah.

650
00:33:29,040 --> 00:33:32,200
Speaker 1: He was definitely a very strange character because it was

651
00:33:32,320 --> 00:33:35,280
Speaker 1: just like, why would you not want to support your

652
00:33:35,360 --> 00:33:39,840
Speaker 1: woman and everything that she's trying to do with her

653
00:33:39,880 --> 00:33:44,080
Speaker 1: other nigga wanted to hit it was but he didn't

654
00:33:44,200 --> 00:33:46,160
Speaker 1: know delicious. He ain't have no idea.

655
00:33:46,280 --> 00:33:47,040
Speaker 2: He didn't know she was.

656
00:33:49,440 --> 00:33:51,880
Speaker 1: What's up, y'all? Is your girl and it's your girl.

657
00:33:52,000 --> 00:33:54,160
Speaker 1: Dre in the call and we're gonna tell y'all about

658
00:33:54,280 --> 00:33:56,960
Speaker 1: the pill club. We love the peel clubs. Let me

659
00:33:57,000 --> 00:33:59,400
Speaker 1: tell you what I'm not having this holiday season a

660
00:33:59,520 --> 00:34:02,200
Speaker 1: baby and we love to control the birth. Now now

661
00:34:02,240 --> 00:34:03,200
Speaker 1: I'm not even being funny.

662
00:34:03,200 --> 00:34:05,080
Speaker 2: You know, I've seen on the news they trying to

663
00:34:05,120 --> 00:34:06,600
Speaker 2: overturn roll versus way.

664
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Speaker 1: Now they are yes girls, So y'all, no, it's not

665
00:34:10,920 --> 00:34:13,280
Speaker 1: that's not a good We do we need more babies,

666
00:34:13,360 --> 00:34:14,960
Speaker 1: just not from us, all right, all right, So the

667
00:34:15,000 --> 00:34:17,640
Speaker 1: people that want to control the birth, we gonna tell

668
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Speaker 1: y'all about pill Club. So pill Club is something that's

669
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670
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671
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672
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673
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674
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675
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676
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677
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Speaker 1: Everything is gonna be at the tip of your fingers. Yes.

678
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Speaker 1: And one good one other good thing about it is

679
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Speaker 1: when you go to the pill club dot com slash

680
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Speaker 1: poor minds, you can also make a ten dollars donation

681
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682
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Speaker 1: women with low income get birth control as well. So

683
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Speaker 1: you're gonna go to the pill club dot com slash

684
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685
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686
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Speaker 1: birth control. Remember the pill club dot com slash poor months.

687
00:35:17,320 --> 00:35:20,719
Speaker 1: Don't say we didn't help y'all out Now I knew,

688
00:35:21,320 --> 00:35:24,680
Speaker 1: do you guys smokes like that? Ship up? I don't

689
00:35:26,680 --> 00:35:29,480
Speaker 1: have I used to. How did you stop?

690
00:35:31,960 --> 00:35:35,120
Speaker 3: Help me? Can we be a little help me?

691
00:35:35,960 --> 00:35:38,440
Speaker 1: Can we be a little honest and transparent? Because I

692
00:35:38,560 --> 00:35:41,799
Speaker 1: feel like I'm a little a little shallow a little

693
00:35:41,840 --> 00:35:43,759
Speaker 1: bit when it comes to like how I look. So

694
00:35:43,880 --> 00:35:46,920
Speaker 1: I guess when I smoke, I am one of those

695
00:35:46,920 --> 00:35:49,880
Speaker 1: people who literally get the munchies right after I be smoking.

696
00:35:49,960 --> 00:35:52,520
Speaker 1: So like literally when I smoke weed, I gained so

697
00:35:52,680 --> 00:35:54,800
Speaker 1: much weight because I mean eating so late and stuff.

698
00:35:54,840 --> 00:35:57,200
Speaker 1: I'm a little person, so I get you know, it's

699
00:35:57,440 --> 00:35:59,719
Speaker 1: it's a thin line between thick and should be. Yeah

700
00:35:59,800 --> 00:36:03,240
Speaker 1: that's me, Oh my god. But no, I did the opposite.

701
00:36:03,840 --> 00:36:06,600
Speaker 1: So if you caught me this time last year where

702
00:36:06,600 --> 00:36:11,959
Speaker 1: I started around late October November and anybody that knows

703
00:36:12,120 --> 00:36:15,120
Speaker 1: me just started, yeah, I was against it. I thought

704
00:36:15,160 --> 00:36:19,800
Speaker 1: that you were ghetto. I wouldn't say that, but I was.

705
00:36:20,520 --> 00:36:22,920
Speaker 1: Look look at the face they made it that year, right, No,

706
00:36:23,160 --> 00:36:26,840
Speaker 1: I said it to them. I told really, yes, I

707
00:36:26,960 --> 00:36:29,040
Speaker 1: told them, you know what. I was big on education.

708
00:36:29,640 --> 00:36:33,520
Speaker 1: I'm like, listen here, we are our business owners and entrepreneurs.

709
00:36:33,560 --> 00:36:36,200
Speaker 1: We handle our business. We are not smelling like godda.

710
00:36:36,640 --> 00:36:39,960
Speaker 1: We are not looking like we are blowed in space out.

711
00:36:40,320 --> 00:36:42,399
Speaker 1: We are not talking out the side of our next.

712
00:36:42,480 --> 00:36:47,000
Speaker 1: We are not slumped right. I was totally against yes,

713
00:36:47,520 --> 00:36:51,040
Speaker 1: when I tell you, I know what it is. I

714
00:36:51,120 --> 00:36:55,279
Speaker 1: got married and my husband when I found out that

715
00:36:55,360 --> 00:36:59,520
Speaker 1: he smoked, you didn't, No, I did, And it actually

716
00:36:59,560 --> 00:37:03,719
Speaker 1: made Merry horny because it turned me on on that

717
00:37:04,640 --> 00:37:11,200
Speaker 1: he could let loose because his image gives not up

718
00:37:11,320 --> 00:37:14,839
Speaker 1: tight but very buttoned up. Right. But like I said,

719
00:37:17,280 --> 00:37:19,400
Speaker 1: he was a little Yeah, I'm not saying that the

720
00:37:19,480 --> 00:37:21,600
Speaker 1: other guys don't, but he is definitely the one with

721
00:37:23,680 --> 00:37:27,280
Speaker 1: what's crazy. All of them. All of them got swag.

722
00:37:27,760 --> 00:37:32,440
Speaker 1: I love them, my brother, he's so crazy. Don't give

723
00:37:32,480 --> 00:37:35,600
Speaker 1: me after five. But yeah, no, they all have swag.

724
00:37:35,680 --> 00:37:39,520
Speaker 1: They from Harlem, so they all niggas. They got it, honestly.

725
00:37:39,960 --> 00:37:44,720
Speaker 1: But his image, his lifestyle the way he carries himself

726
00:37:45,600 --> 00:37:49,160
Speaker 1: and he's Puerto Rican, so it was so sexy. He

727
00:37:49,360 --> 00:37:52,640
Speaker 1: was like in his like his back area of his

728
00:37:52,760 --> 00:37:56,320
Speaker 1: closet and his master suite and yeah, I know he

729
00:37:56,440 --> 00:38:03,160
Speaker 1: got money the main the main bendroom, the monos. Yeah,

730
00:38:03,200 --> 00:38:05,480
Speaker 1: well yeah, at its place, and he was up there

731
00:38:05,840 --> 00:38:08,040
Speaker 1: and that's where he would keep it at because he

732
00:38:08,160 --> 00:38:11,520
Speaker 1: didn't want people to not to know what. So I'm

733
00:38:11,560 --> 00:38:19,120
Speaker 1: over there and one them cap business where exactly very familiar. Listen,

734
00:38:19,239 --> 00:38:24,000
Speaker 1: I said, Santana, you smoke. He was like, well, you

735
00:38:24,160 --> 00:38:32,960
Speaker 1: know everything looking at So I was like, okay, So

736
00:38:33,520 --> 00:38:36,920
Speaker 1: although I could be buttoned up, yeah, I love it

737
00:38:37,200 --> 00:38:39,480
Speaker 1: when my nigga got some hooking, like I wouldn't be

738
00:38:40,640 --> 00:38:43,239
Speaker 1: you felt like you said, I'm at home a corporate thoughts.

739
00:38:43,280 --> 00:38:45,080
Speaker 1: So I was like, that's like all the time, I

740
00:38:45,160 --> 00:38:49,719
Speaker 1: love me. You ain't never had sex. The next time

741
00:38:49,760 --> 00:38:54,040
Speaker 1: we hadn't. So the next time we get to get

742
00:38:55,480 --> 00:38:57,600
Speaker 1: to bring myself in like you don't nobody say smoke weed,

743
00:38:57,840 --> 00:39:00,560
Speaker 1: I don't be that, but you can't don't give him

744
00:39:00,560 --> 00:39:03,799
Speaker 1: no ask because he smoked, well why not? But yeah,

745
00:39:04,000 --> 00:39:05,839
Speaker 1: so because the next time then he flew me out

746
00:39:05,920 --> 00:39:11,000
Speaker 1: the country went, I said, like that blood you want?

747
00:39:11,520 --> 00:39:12,640
Speaker 1: At that time, we.

748
00:39:14,640 --> 00:39:15,200
Speaker 3: Law here.

749
00:39:17,719 --> 00:39:19,960
Speaker 1: No but yeah, but no, that just like turned me.

750
00:39:21,320 --> 00:39:23,879
Speaker 1: So I guess he conceal it and he could still

751
00:39:23,920 --> 00:39:25,880
Speaker 1: be a gentleman and my children didn't have to know

752
00:39:25,960 --> 00:39:28,239
Speaker 1: about it all over, so it was cool. So during

753
00:39:28,280 --> 00:39:30,479
Speaker 1: the pandemic, while we were home, you know, to stay

754
00:39:30,520 --> 00:39:33,360
Speaker 1: home or whatever thing our jobs required for us to

755
00:39:33,440 --> 00:39:35,600
Speaker 1: be out, and because it was a pandemic, we ended

756
00:39:35,640 --> 00:39:38,160
Speaker 1: up having to do everything from home, all of our stuff,

757
00:39:38,200 --> 00:39:42,080
Speaker 1: my ambassadorships, everything. So after a while staying at home,

758
00:39:42,120 --> 00:39:45,680
Speaker 1: I was bored, like really bored, and he was getting

759
00:39:45,719 --> 00:39:48,360
Speaker 1: fucking leg Yeah, so you're like, I'm gonna try to

760
00:39:48,960 --> 00:39:51,000
Speaker 1: So I noticed that my family would come into town

761
00:39:51,040 --> 00:39:56,080
Speaker 1: that my daughter seased college she smoked, so yes, because

762
00:39:56,080 --> 00:39:58,839
Speaker 1: they would even no, no, I found out in her

763
00:39:58,840 --> 00:40:01,200
Speaker 1: second year of college. I knew that she was smoking

764
00:40:01,239 --> 00:40:03,360
Speaker 1: or whatever, and it didn't bother me as much because

765
00:40:03,440 --> 00:40:05,759
Speaker 1: I didn't know until I asked her directly. So as

766
00:40:05,800 --> 00:40:08,080
Speaker 1: long as I couldn't see it on her, I've seen her.

767
00:40:10,160 --> 00:40:17,719
Speaker 1: I yes, No, she's a different woman now that she's

768
00:40:17,760 --> 00:40:21,000
Speaker 1: twenty two. I tried not to, you know, control her,

769
00:40:21,200 --> 00:40:23,880
Speaker 1: but back then she was a sophomore in college. So

770
00:40:24,040 --> 00:40:33,640
Speaker 1: I was just like you at the Spellman it is, Yes, yes,

771
00:40:33,719 --> 00:40:37,200
Speaker 1: I said, how dare you you are and Spellman? She

772
00:40:37,400 --> 00:40:38,840
Speaker 1: was like, mom, I got it from one of my

773
00:40:38,880 --> 00:40:44,359
Speaker 1: other Spellman students or whatever. I said, Yes, she was like, Mom,

774
00:40:44,760 --> 00:40:46,719
Speaker 1: why do you think I'm acing these tests? It helps

775
00:40:46,800 --> 00:40:48,839
Speaker 1: me concentrate. I know that's right. So I told her

776
00:40:48,880 --> 00:40:51,880
Speaker 1: that was bullshit. So now moving forward to the pandemic

777
00:40:52,440 --> 00:40:55,520
Speaker 1: and my husband. He's getting these connections with everybody that

778
00:40:55,640 --> 00:40:59,800
Speaker 1: he sit down and chill with deep conversation. So I

779
00:41:00,080 --> 00:41:01,800
Speaker 1: just asking one day, I'm trying to be all sexy

780
00:41:01,840 --> 00:41:04,800
Speaker 1: and flirty with him. I'm like, I want to smoke.

781
00:41:05,480 --> 00:41:07,359
Speaker 1: He was like, it ain't for you. It's okay, though,

782
00:41:07,719 --> 00:41:08,799
Speaker 1: He's like, we can have a drink.

783
00:41:09,040 --> 00:41:09,920
Speaker 3: I want to smoke.

784
00:41:10,200 --> 00:41:12,680
Speaker 1: I want go with you, Yeah, I said, and I

785
00:41:12,800 --> 00:41:14,800
Speaker 1: want you to have a deep conversation with me about

786
00:41:14,920 --> 00:41:16,960
Speaker 1: everything from the beginning to the end.

787
00:41:17,120 --> 00:41:17,319
Speaker 2: Yeah.

788
00:41:18,320 --> 00:41:20,400
Speaker 1: That was one of the deepest and the best conversations

789
00:41:20,440 --> 00:41:21,840
Speaker 1: I ever had. That's what we do.

790
00:41:22,320 --> 00:41:25,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, so like really kind of like because honestly, people

791
00:41:25,560 --> 00:41:26,520
Speaker 2: can a lot.

792
00:41:26,680 --> 00:41:28,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, well we got together so fast, you know, I

793
00:41:29,080 --> 00:41:31,640
Speaker 1: met him, like I said at Todd's birthday in August.

794
00:41:31,719 --> 00:41:35,200
Speaker 1: He like totally ghost me for two months. We started

795
00:41:35,280 --> 00:41:38,200
Speaker 1: dating at the end of October. He proposed in December.

796
00:41:38,800 --> 00:41:41,520
Speaker 1: We moved in together in February. The pandemic hit. We

797
00:41:41,600 --> 00:41:46,560
Speaker 1: got married in June. So yeah, under a year, so

798
00:41:46,719 --> 00:41:53,319
Speaker 1: it was a lot more. That's a good pleasure under

799
00:41:53,400 --> 00:41:57,560
Speaker 1: a year, but that that could be a good or

800
00:41:57,640 --> 00:41:58,120
Speaker 1: bad thing.

801
00:41:59,080 --> 00:42:04,440
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, he was.

802
00:42:04,800 --> 00:42:07,279
Speaker 1: He turned me how to smoke it, I said, And

803
00:42:07,320 --> 00:42:09,759
Speaker 1: I tried this in college several times. All he's gonna

804
00:42:09,760 --> 00:42:11,320
Speaker 1: do is burn my throat and I'm not gonna be

805
00:42:12,400 --> 00:42:14,920
Speaker 1: He was like, girl, let me show you what he

806
00:42:15,200 --> 00:42:17,799
Speaker 1: I know, that's right. So he was like pull it through.

807
00:42:20,080 --> 00:42:30,160
Speaker 1: M Oh, you're a pro now, Oh yeah, yeah you

808
00:42:30,320 --> 00:42:34,920
Speaker 1: did that. Ship not around. So he made me a

809
00:42:35,040 --> 00:42:38,080
Speaker 1: pro and I would use it to have deep conversations

810
00:42:38,200 --> 00:42:41,120
Speaker 1: and it would make us so connected. So now you're

811
00:42:41,160 --> 00:42:45,040
Speaker 1: my nigga everything. And we talked about everything, and I

812
00:42:45,160 --> 00:42:47,640
Speaker 1: mean like when we mad at each other, you were thinking,

813
00:42:47,719 --> 00:42:49,320
Speaker 1: my brother, I'll be like, what have you been? Like,

814
00:42:49,400 --> 00:42:53,040
Speaker 1: what the fuckever? I'm like, okay, cool, but roll that up. Yeah,

815
00:42:53,640 --> 00:42:55,719
Speaker 1: and then we'll sit there. Maybe I need to start

816
00:42:55,800 --> 00:42:56,400
Speaker 1: making smoking.

817
00:42:56,600 --> 00:43:02,560
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's why I'm getting from these conversations.

818
00:43:02,920 --> 00:43:06,959
Speaker 1: No, let me tell you. I swear marriage is not easy.

819
00:43:07,000 --> 00:43:09,520
Speaker 1: It's a beautiful blessing, right, It's not easy, but it's

820
00:43:09,560 --> 00:43:14,000
Speaker 1: what you make it. And I won't say we saved

821
00:43:14,120 --> 00:43:18,279
Speaker 1: our marriage help, but it definitely did help. It relaxed me.

822
00:43:18,400 --> 00:43:21,360
Speaker 1: I was very tense. I have OCD, so I like

823
00:43:21,440 --> 00:43:24,239
Speaker 1: my house to be clean one percent of the time.

824
00:43:24,840 --> 00:43:27,960
Speaker 1: So if you're at home on a state home pandemic

825
00:43:28,040 --> 00:43:30,279
Speaker 1: watch and you're just sitting in the house for months

826
00:43:30,320 --> 00:43:33,000
Speaker 1: at a time, I'm constantly clean. I mean me, say,

827
00:43:33,440 --> 00:43:35,759
Speaker 1: when your videos and she posted me all like that

828
00:43:35,960 --> 00:43:47,880
Speaker 1: girl bed is always made everything they may Yeah, I

829
00:43:48,000 --> 00:43:49,919
Speaker 1: like the clean up ladies on the way clean this house.

830
00:43:49,920 --> 00:43:52,520
Speaker 1: They're like, that's what you paid them.

831
00:43:52,880 --> 00:43:54,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, you got to clean up before they come.

832
00:43:54,760 --> 00:44:00,839
Speaker 1: Thought, y'all are very like organization. Yeah, I like I'm

833
00:44:00,960 --> 00:44:04,759
Speaker 1: late as fuck, but everything else about organizing I love y'all, though,

834
00:44:06,440 --> 00:44:09,080
Speaker 1: Like I be late all the time. No, look, I said,

835
00:44:09,200 --> 00:44:10,719
Speaker 1: while I'm sitting in the car, I said, the one

836
00:44:10,800 --> 00:44:14,000
Speaker 1: time I'm actually sitting from traffic, I look like a

837
00:44:14,080 --> 00:44:21,080
Speaker 1: late bitch, I said, But they're women too late one

838
00:44:21,680 --> 00:44:24,960
Speaker 1: heard Ryan Ain't about to love for you? You know, late,

839
00:44:25,080 --> 00:44:26,400
Speaker 1: so late as me.

840
00:44:26,760 --> 00:44:28,840
Speaker 2: You wrote that song about me.

841
00:44:30,000 --> 00:44:33,680
Speaker 1: I'm not always that when you come, but I'm always

842
00:44:33,920 --> 00:44:38,399
Speaker 1: on time. Yeah, I'm always on time. Sey just over there,

843
00:44:38,560 --> 00:44:42,400
Speaker 1: Molly Hate. What's up? Y'all? Is your girl like Pete

844
00:44:42,440 --> 00:44:44,000
Speaker 1: and it's the girl jury in the call and we

845
00:44:44,120 --> 00:44:47,239
Speaker 1: are about to tell y'all about beam or damage. Yeah.

846
00:44:47,320 --> 00:44:48,960
Speaker 1: I love beams so much because you know how to

847
00:44:49,040 --> 00:44:52,480
Speaker 1: stuff from inside me sometimes and ever since I found beans,

848
00:44:53,000 --> 00:44:54,759
Speaker 1: I be sleeping like a baby. You know. All you

849
00:44:54,840 --> 00:44:58,320
Speaker 1: gotta do is mix it with water, almond milk, whatever

850
00:44:58,480 --> 00:45:01,040
Speaker 1: liquid have choice. He would like see you and literally

851
00:45:01,120 --> 00:45:01,880
Speaker 1: you'll be sleeping.

852
00:45:02,000 --> 00:45:03,120
Speaker 4: Yes it has it.

853
00:45:03,120 --> 00:45:05,680
Speaker 1: Has a melatonam in now the CBD and now you're

854
00:45:05,680 --> 00:45:08,880
Speaker 1: gonna sleep real good. And then because it's a holiday season,

855
00:45:08,920 --> 00:45:11,880
Speaker 1: they have a white chocolate Peppermint Dream powder that that

856
00:45:12,920 --> 00:45:15,000
Speaker 1: I really like. Yes, that's the one that be busting.

857
00:45:15,120 --> 00:45:18,040
Speaker 1: So they're having their biggest sale of the year. So

858
00:45:18,160 --> 00:45:20,800
Speaker 1: you'll get forty percent off the first three months of

859
00:45:20,920 --> 00:45:24,800
Speaker 1: a Peppermint Dream subscription, plus a free mug and a frowther.

860
00:45:25,239 --> 00:45:28,720
Speaker 1: Or you can choose twenty percent off of one purchase.

861
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867
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868
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871
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Speaker 2: Period the way, we gotta move on. So now we're

872
00:46:01,920 --> 00:46:03,839
Speaker 2: gonna get into the bed.

873
00:46:09,680 --> 00:46:13,160
Speaker 1: So we talked a little bit about our way and

874
00:46:13,280 --> 00:46:14,840
Speaker 1: how like you didn't like to smoke because you like

875
00:46:14,920 --> 00:46:17,000
Speaker 1: you feel like you would eat a lot a gag weight.

876
00:46:19,160 --> 00:46:21,640
Speaker 1: We don't have kids yet, but we want to talk

877
00:46:21,640 --> 00:46:24,120
Speaker 1: about like because eventually, you know, maybe maybe I might

878
00:46:24,160 --> 00:46:26,759
Speaker 1: pop one out. She might, but I definitely want to baby.

879
00:46:26,800 --> 00:46:27,960
Speaker 2: Dan definitely wants a kid.

880
00:46:28,360 --> 00:46:30,440
Speaker 1: So we want to talk about like getting your sexy

881
00:46:30,560 --> 00:46:33,080
Speaker 1: back after kids because I know, like like I said,

882
00:46:33,120 --> 00:46:34,560
Speaker 1: I followed you for a long time. I know like

883
00:46:34,840 --> 00:46:38,279
Speaker 1: you talk about your body very hope and talk about

884
00:46:38,320 --> 00:46:41,400
Speaker 1: like your weight going like up and down, and like

885
00:46:41,760 --> 00:46:44,320
Speaker 1: I really want to talk about like being thick versus

886
00:46:44,440 --> 00:46:46,919
Speaker 1: being fat and how that made you feel. Not saying

887
00:46:46,960 --> 00:46:49,440
Speaker 1: it was a fan but baby, I had a moment.

888
00:46:49,600 --> 00:46:50,040
Speaker 2: But no.

889
00:46:50,200 --> 00:46:53,560
Speaker 1: But it's crazy because whenever, it's just crazy, because like

890
00:46:53,640 --> 00:46:55,360
Speaker 1: beauty is really in the eye of the beholder.

891
00:46:55,920 --> 00:46:57,360
Speaker 4: Because when you would.

892
00:46:57,239 --> 00:46:59,920
Speaker 2: Post your videos of like how you're before body was

893
00:47:00,080 --> 00:47:01,960
Speaker 2: and how it was on my damn, she was fine, yeah,

894
00:47:02,120 --> 00:47:03,960
Speaker 2: and then like you post your app for my damn, she's.

895
00:47:04,120 --> 00:47:06,560
Speaker 1: Fine her you have it, But yeah, I'm saying it's

896
00:47:06,600 --> 00:47:08,600
Speaker 1: like in her eyes, she felt like, you know, I

897
00:47:08,760 --> 00:47:10,359
Speaker 1: was big or I was fat, and this is how

898
00:47:10,440 --> 00:47:12,359
Speaker 1: I look now. So I just want to talk about

899
00:47:12,400 --> 00:47:15,000
Speaker 1: like what did you do to like get your sexy back?

900
00:47:15,040 --> 00:47:16,799
Speaker 1: And then you know, we've been open, like we've had

901
00:47:16,880 --> 00:47:19,880
Speaker 1: plastic surgery. Yeah yeah, but you've been open about yours before.

902
00:47:20,000 --> 00:47:23,480
Speaker 1: So you know what I me. I'm so much older

903
00:47:23,719 --> 00:47:26,719
Speaker 1: than the young ladies that are still you know, a

904
00:47:26,800 --> 00:47:30,040
Speaker 1: part of the same demographic as far as entertainment. So

905
00:47:30,160 --> 00:47:33,919
Speaker 1: I've always had the pressure of staying on point even

906
00:47:34,000 --> 00:47:37,279
Speaker 1: before the surgery, because I started I would say a

907
00:47:37,400 --> 00:47:39,839
Speaker 1: late bloomer. I got on the show The Flavor of Love,

908
00:47:39,880 --> 00:47:42,240
Speaker 1: which was fifteen years ago, and I was already twenty

909
00:47:42,320 --> 00:47:46,080
Speaker 1: seven going on twenty eight. So but you was fine, man, yeah,

910
00:47:46,080 --> 00:47:48,680
Speaker 1: and you had a fat ass, and I remember that

911
00:47:48,800 --> 00:47:51,360
Speaker 1: was before I got my BBL. I said, you're fine,

912
00:47:51,760 --> 00:47:55,960
Speaker 1: this is what I want. I want that delicious and

913
00:47:56,520 --> 00:47:59,160
Speaker 1: it wasn't even the thing and that's what I agree,

914
00:47:59,640 --> 00:48:03,719
Speaker 1: just do and their was very sad. So she was

915
00:48:03,800 --> 00:48:05,680
Speaker 1: so beautiful and she was slimming. That was the look

916
00:48:05,760 --> 00:48:08,319
Speaker 1: to have, like the underwear with the jeans that hang off,

917
00:48:08,600 --> 00:48:11,880
Speaker 1: with the box of showing I didn't even have. But

918
00:48:11,960 --> 00:48:15,200
Speaker 1: I still want class. I still want class sexy, but

919
00:48:15,320 --> 00:48:18,080
Speaker 1: no on the body. I one class body. And although

920
00:48:18,080 --> 00:48:21,759
Speaker 1: I won that, that wasn't what was So then when

921
00:48:21,800 --> 00:48:24,200
Speaker 1: I did The Flavor of Love, it was crazy how

922
00:48:24,400 --> 00:48:28,520
Speaker 1: people were like, I, who will I have never seen

923
00:48:28,680 --> 00:48:31,720
Speaker 1: and asked like to that date, I'm not even being funny,

924
00:48:32,360 --> 00:48:35,479
Speaker 1: for your ass is like legendary. I got an ass

925
00:48:35,480 --> 00:48:40,080
Speaker 1: whole being like the sun for she was talking about yo.

926
00:48:40,320 --> 00:48:42,600
Speaker 1: It was. It was so dope at first. It was

927
00:48:42,719 --> 00:48:45,439
Speaker 1: dope even when people would say, oh, that assth must

928
00:48:45,480 --> 00:48:47,719
Speaker 1: be fake. At first I thought it was a compliment,

929
00:48:48,360 --> 00:48:51,359
Speaker 1: but then people started actually getting fake asses, and then

930
00:48:51,440 --> 00:48:56,680
Speaker 1: I was like, well, hold on, yeah and run the yeah,

931
00:48:56,840 --> 00:49:01,320
Speaker 1: because I've been that ass. That was the people to do.

932
00:49:01,400 --> 00:49:03,080
Speaker 1: They try to see it as a fake. Yes, it's

933
00:49:03,200 --> 00:49:05,359
Speaker 1: all the time, but I been had a fat ass.

934
00:49:05,520 --> 00:49:08,040
Speaker 1: It's high school. Yeah, but you know what, it's good school.

935
00:49:08,360 --> 00:49:11,600
Speaker 1: We're in the era of not be but she had

936
00:49:11,760 --> 00:49:15,000
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, I love you, said take this. Yeah. And

937
00:49:15,120 --> 00:49:16,880
Speaker 1: not only that, you're in the era now where people

938
00:49:17,000 --> 00:49:20,640
Speaker 1: actually who had asked still goes and gets surgery. So

939
00:49:20,840 --> 00:49:22,880
Speaker 1: immediately everything must have been done up.

940
00:49:23,080 --> 00:49:23,279
Speaker 2: Yeah.

941
00:49:23,400 --> 00:49:25,439
Speaker 1: So like I got my tummy and my breast done.

942
00:49:25,480 --> 00:49:27,359
Speaker 1: That meant I had a b BL. I never had

943
00:49:27,360 --> 00:49:31,280
Speaker 1: a BBL. I've never asked been that. I didn't need it. Naturally,

944
00:49:31,840 --> 00:49:35,520
Speaker 1: I wanted something because I have stretch marks on my button,

945
00:49:36,239 --> 00:49:39,080
Speaker 1: I have cell you like, and dimples. I have a

946
00:49:40,120 --> 00:49:43,759
Speaker 1: natural person's right. So when you go and get them done,

947
00:49:43,880 --> 00:49:45,880
Speaker 1: they get to shape them, you know, they get to

948
00:49:45,920 --> 00:49:48,920
Speaker 1: sculpt them and make them look, walk them to look.

949
00:49:49,400 --> 00:49:51,239
Speaker 1: So but no, I never had to get an ask

950
00:49:51,320 --> 00:49:53,920
Speaker 1: because I didn't. I didn't need one. But but I

951
00:49:53,920 --> 00:49:57,000
Speaker 1: ain't against it. I like that you speak about because

952
00:49:57,040 --> 00:49:59,040
Speaker 1: you said, like, oh, I got my stomach done, but

953
00:49:59,080 --> 00:50:02,279
Speaker 1: you gotta done a long a long time ago. When

954
00:50:02,280 --> 00:50:04,160
Speaker 1: you get surgery done a long time ago, a lot

955
00:50:04,280 --> 00:50:07,440
Speaker 1: happens in between them. So did tummy tuck or did

956
00:50:07,480 --> 00:50:08,120
Speaker 1: you get light bo?

957
00:50:08,600 --> 00:50:08,640
Speaker 7: No?

958
00:50:08,840 --> 00:50:11,000
Speaker 1: I think let me tell you, I got a tummy tuck.

959
00:50:11,080 --> 00:50:14,359
Speaker 1: But I don't believe that they do anybody's tummy tuck

960
00:50:14,680 --> 00:50:17,279
Speaker 1: without doing some type of light bob. I believe that

961
00:50:17,320 --> 00:50:19,560
Speaker 1: it comes with a circuit. I didn't know that.

962
00:50:19,680 --> 00:50:21,640
Speaker 3: I know you can edit one.

963
00:50:22,080 --> 00:50:24,560
Speaker 1: I know you can get one without the other's fart,

964
00:50:24,680 --> 00:50:26,320
Speaker 1: Like you can go get light bo without getting a

965
00:50:26,320 --> 00:50:29,440
Speaker 1: tummy tuck. But I think for a doctor's work, they

966
00:50:29,600 --> 00:50:30,040
Speaker 1: want to.

967
00:50:30,320 --> 00:50:31,360
Speaker 2: Make sure the sculpted.

968
00:50:31,680 --> 00:50:32,160
Speaker 3: It's got to be.

969
00:50:32,760 --> 00:50:34,320
Speaker 1: So whenever you get you hear a woman say she

970
00:50:34,360 --> 00:50:37,080
Speaker 1: got a tummy tuck. Basically she got her tummy tuck

971
00:50:37,160 --> 00:50:39,560
Speaker 1: and some light bowl around that area to make it

972
00:50:39,640 --> 00:50:43,160
Speaker 1: work out. But I when I got mine done, I

973
00:50:43,239 --> 00:50:47,000
Speaker 1: had had my second and final chit. So my body

974
00:50:47,239 --> 00:50:50,440
Speaker 1: prior to that was on the flavor of love and

975
00:50:50,600 --> 00:50:53,600
Speaker 1: I was still in that. Yeah, my waist was small,

976
00:50:53,719 --> 00:50:56,080
Speaker 1: my ass was fat. So you know, once you have

977
00:50:56,200 --> 00:50:59,520
Speaker 1: a baby, your body changes, and I'm still working in

978
00:50:59,600 --> 00:51:02,960
Speaker 1: this field, so I want my original body. And I

979
00:51:03,160 --> 00:51:05,280
Speaker 1: was done having children. I had both of my girls.

980
00:51:05,400 --> 00:51:08,200
Speaker 1: Jazmine was eleven and I had a new born, and

981
00:51:08,320 --> 00:51:11,480
Speaker 1: so I'm like, I want to look like myself because

982
00:51:11,600 --> 00:51:15,600
Speaker 1: for several years. Lexington was born in twenty ten. I

983
00:51:15,680 --> 00:51:19,320
Speaker 1: didn't actually have my surgery to twenty and fifteen. So

984
00:51:19,719 --> 00:51:24,040
Speaker 1: for several years I wore my stretch marks. But I

985
00:51:24,719 --> 00:51:28,080
Speaker 1: didn't get a few different callbacks for acting kids because

986
00:51:28,239 --> 00:51:30,120
Speaker 1: you felt like that was why. Oh I knew one

987
00:51:30,160 --> 00:51:32,759
Speaker 1: of them was because it was it was on a

988
00:51:32,920 --> 00:51:36,840
Speaker 1: Cinemax show whenever, and the girls they always take the

989
00:51:36,920 --> 00:51:40,759
Speaker 1: women's tops off, they take them hot, and so my

990
00:51:40,960 --> 00:51:44,000
Speaker 1: stomach would have been exposed. And I definitely had stretch marks,

991
00:51:44,560 --> 00:51:46,560
Speaker 1: even though my stomach was flat, my waist was tiny.

992
00:51:47,000 --> 00:51:49,360
Speaker 1: It was just it looked like I had babies. So

993
00:51:50,280 --> 00:51:53,239
Speaker 1: I went to get my breast revised because I had

994
00:51:53,520 --> 00:51:57,120
Speaker 1: breast surgery and it left terrible scars. And the doctor said, listen,

995
00:51:57,160 --> 00:51:59,120
Speaker 1: I can fix those scars. He was in Houston, doctor

996
00:51:59,160 --> 00:52:02,799
Speaker 1: Cortaz's bar. I got my first brest. I got my well,

997
00:52:02,880 --> 00:52:05,799
Speaker 1: my only boob job in Houston. You went to doctor.

998
00:52:06,600 --> 00:52:09,160
Speaker 1: I want to say, that's all I want to know

999
00:52:09,360 --> 00:52:13,680
Speaker 1: that doctor has been Yeah. So absolutely, So I was

1000
00:52:13,760 --> 00:52:17,760
Speaker 1: to look at him doctor. I got him on the people.

1001
00:52:17,960 --> 00:52:20,839
Speaker 1: I got him a lot of clients. I was looking

1002
00:52:20,840 --> 00:52:26,280
Speaker 1: at because I think I remember these because I instagram

1003
00:52:26,360 --> 00:52:28,160
Speaker 1: if I looking for a long time. So when I

1004
00:52:28,200 --> 00:52:30,759
Speaker 1: think I do Rember, I remember her like them doing

1005
00:52:30,800 --> 00:52:33,719
Speaker 1: the videos. Yes, I remember them. And so I got

1006
00:52:33,800 --> 00:52:37,520
Speaker 1: mine done. I got my breast done in two thousand

1007
00:52:37,560 --> 00:52:41,880
Speaker 1: and fourteen in the end of the year, and they

1008
00:52:41,920 --> 00:52:44,279
Speaker 1: were really bad. They were scarred, really bad. So in

1009
00:52:44,360 --> 00:52:47,320
Speaker 1: two thousand and a few months later in twenty fifteen,

1010
00:52:47,600 --> 00:52:50,120
Speaker 1: I was getting that revive and that's the year that

1011
00:52:50,160 --> 00:52:52,680
Speaker 1: I got my tummy tuck because when he saw my breast,

1012
00:52:53,200 --> 00:52:55,239
Speaker 1: he said, gosh, you have such a small waist, but

1013
00:52:55,360 --> 00:52:58,560
Speaker 1: you got stretch marks. I'm like, yeah, it's not stopping

1014
00:52:58,600 --> 00:53:01,200
Speaker 1: the work. And he was like, listen, I can pull

1015
00:53:01,280 --> 00:53:03,719
Speaker 1: that down with a tummy tuck and you won't see

1016
00:53:03,719 --> 00:53:05,759
Speaker 1: those stretch marks. Your stomach will be flat like it is,

1017
00:53:05,880 --> 00:53:08,319
Speaker 1: your wasts will look even better, and your breast I'm

1018
00:53:08,360 --> 00:53:10,560
Speaker 1: going to fix them. And so he was like, listen,

1019
00:53:10,680 --> 00:53:13,439
Speaker 1: you're already payants to get your breast. Don't worry about

1020
00:53:13,440 --> 00:53:14,120
Speaker 1: your tummy.

1021
00:53:13,920 --> 00:53:14,440
Speaker 3: Just let me do that.

1022
00:53:15,760 --> 00:53:18,239
Speaker 1: So well, yeah, sometimes they'll do that depending on what

1023
00:53:18,680 --> 00:53:21,920
Speaker 1: your following basis. As long as you let people know

1024
00:53:22,400 --> 00:53:27,000
Speaker 1: what really wasn't getting you right, his motive is your

1025
00:53:27,080 --> 00:53:29,440
Speaker 1: following exactly. And I learned that later, which is why

1026
00:53:29,480 --> 00:53:33,000
Speaker 1: I started telling girls when they accuse me now of surgery,

1027
00:53:33,360 --> 00:53:36,080
Speaker 1: I'm not even against it. I'm just not for it

1028
00:53:36,280 --> 00:53:38,880
Speaker 1: right now because it's not being done the way that

1029
00:53:39,000 --> 00:53:40,759
Speaker 1: it should be done or the way that it was

1030
00:53:40,840 --> 00:53:43,960
Speaker 1: originally done. With other cultures, they've been getting plastic surgery.

1031
00:53:46,120 --> 00:53:48,160
Speaker 1: But when we got introduced to the party, we didn't

1032
00:53:48,160 --> 00:53:51,120
Speaker 1: get introduced properly because we do it just based on

1033
00:53:51,200 --> 00:53:54,800
Speaker 1: the cheaper price, you know, the quicker data available, yeah versus.

1034
00:53:54,880 --> 00:53:58,640
Speaker 1: And then we do it based on Instagram pictures. People

1035
00:53:58,800 --> 00:54:01,800
Speaker 1: that post their pictures, most people edit them. You know

1036
00:54:01,840 --> 00:54:05,239
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. That was that one thing that I

1037
00:54:05,520 --> 00:54:07,279
Speaker 1: was happy of, And now I'm still happy about my

1038
00:54:07,360 --> 00:54:10,960
Speaker 1: body because I got my BB on twenty sixteen. Honestly,

1039
00:54:11,120 --> 00:54:13,279
Speaker 1: now I've gained a little way, I've lost a little way,

1040
00:54:13,320 --> 00:54:15,120
Speaker 1: but you can't tell I got to B bo even

1041
00:54:15,160 --> 00:54:17,399
Speaker 1: when I first got I didn't know. That's what I'm saying,

1042
00:54:17,440 --> 00:54:20,120
Speaker 1: because I took my own picture to the doctor and

1043
00:54:20,160 --> 00:54:21,840
Speaker 1: I was like, I just want my waist like this.

1044
00:54:22,440 --> 00:54:24,080
Speaker 1: I just want this like this, Like I didn't take

1045
00:54:24,120 --> 00:54:27,399
Speaker 1: anybody else's picture because I still I want to get

1046
00:54:27,400 --> 00:54:28,920
Speaker 1: into acting and I want to do things like that.

1047
00:54:29,000 --> 00:54:31,080
Speaker 1: And like you said, you felt like you were held back. Oh,

1048
00:54:31,200 --> 00:54:34,759
Speaker 1: absolutely doing absolutely yeah, but no. I when I went

1049
00:54:34,800 --> 00:54:37,640
Speaker 1: to him, I was nervous. He was like, people have

1050
00:54:37,719 --> 00:54:39,640
Speaker 1: to be down for six to seven weeks. My calendar

1051
00:54:39,719 --> 00:54:41,960
Speaker 1: was booked. I needed to be out, so he was like,

1052
00:54:42,239 --> 00:54:43,120
Speaker 1: up and go to the club.

1053
00:54:43,280 --> 00:54:43,480
Speaker 2: Yeah.

1054
00:54:43,520 --> 00:54:45,279
Speaker 1: I had to work, Yeah, it was booked. So he

1055
00:54:45,440 --> 00:54:48,360
Speaker 1: told me, because you're already in shape, your recovery is

1056
00:54:48,400 --> 00:54:51,719
Speaker 1: going to be fast. So I did the surgery and

1057
00:54:52,120 --> 00:54:54,000
Speaker 1: it looked amazing. At first, it's very sore, and it

1058
00:54:54,239 --> 00:54:59,160
Speaker 1: looked good. My waist was actually larger. Yes, So I

1059
00:54:59,280 --> 00:55:01,360
Speaker 1: was sad at first because of my tiny waist. I

1060
00:55:01,400 --> 00:55:02,960
Speaker 1: still got the picture of the day that I actually

1061
00:55:03,000 --> 00:55:04,799
Speaker 1: went in surgery. I had stretch marks, but my waist

1062
00:55:04,920 --> 00:55:08,920
Speaker 1: was so tight, so I didn't I I was upset

1063
00:55:08,960 --> 00:55:12,400
Speaker 1: about that, but once the swelling went down. I noticed

1064
00:55:12,440 --> 00:55:15,560
Speaker 1: that one side and I see this with all the

1065
00:55:15,640 --> 00:55:18,480
Speaker 1: women that have surgery. One side has a different curve

1066
00:55:18,520 --> 00:55:21,920
Speaker 1: than the other in the way area. Oh yeah, No,

1067
00:55:21,960 --> 00:55:23,560
Speaker 1: he didn't have to mess with my hips, but my

1068
00:55:23,800 --> 00:55:27,959
Speaker 1: wais like it's like one side has a deep curve

1069
00:55:28,040 --> 00:55:30,239
Speaker 1: in it and the other side has like it.

1070
00:55:30,400 --> 00:55:31,239
Speaker 2: Was given the letter K.

1071
00:55:31,560 --> 00:55:34,160
Speaker 1: It was given like a K. So that's what I'm

1072
00:55:34,160 --> 00:55:36,720
Speaker 1: saying when I say you have to do some things yourself,

1073
00:55:36,800 --> 00:55:40,719
Speaker 1: like because yeah, I mean like when when you look

1074
00:55:40,719 --> 00:55:43,320
Speaker 1: at these people online, I was cutting that other K

1075
00:55:43,520 --> 00:55:46,200
Speaker 1: out on all my pictures. Yeah, I'm telling you people

1076
00:55:46,400 --> 00:55:49,760
Speaker 1: edit their pictures because I know myself from having surgery.

1077
00:55:49,880 --> 00:55:52,760
Speaker 1: I had to go in and fix the freaking bump

1078
00:55:52,960 --> 00:55:55,120
Speaker 1: or a lump that was not right on the side

1079
00:55:55,120 --> 00:55:57,440
Speaker 1: of my waistline or whatever. But so I'm against it

1080
00:55:57,560 --> 00:56:01,320
Speaker 1: now because I went through terrible key lo scarring. My

1081
00:56:01,440 --> 00:56:04,520
Speaker 1: belly button totally started to look like announceshole. It was,

1082
00:56:05,840 --> 00:56:08,520
Speaker 1: well you know about that before y'all publicly you said

1083
00:56:08,600 --> 00:56:11,839
Speaker 1: that you Yeah, So I had it really, really bad.

1084
00:56:11,960 --> 00:56:14,839
Speaker 1: So eventually I had to get my implants taken out.

1085
00:56:15,040 --> 00:56:16,920
Speaker 1: I had to have them out for like six months,

1086
00:56:16,960 --> 00:56:21,040
Speaker 1: and that was horrible because working in this field and

1087
00:56:21,120 --> 00:56:24,440
Speaker 1: you have yeah, and I just felt so self conscious,

1088
00:56:24,480 --> 00:56:25,920
Speaker 1: and then they had to put them back in and

1089
00:56:26,000 --> 00:56:28,080
Speaker 1: I was like, you know what, I'm over it. So

1090
00:56:28,480 --> 00:56:31,279
Speaker 1: like your question you said, there are a lot of

1091
00:56:31,440 --> 00:56:36,160
Speaker 1: different changes that take place after surgery. Absolutely getting that

1092
00:56:36,280 --> 00:56:39,719
Speaker 1: tummy talk in twenty fifteen, I had to then try

1093
00:56:39,760 --> 00:56:41,680
Speaker 1: to work my ways back to what I liked it.

1094
00:56:41,920 --> 00:56:43,960
Speaker 1: So I had to get it smaller. Then over time

1095
00:56:44,040 --> 00:56:47,000
Speaker 1: I gain weight, so now you didn't see it. Then

1096
00:56:47,280 --> 00:56:50,000
Speaker 1: having those problems where he ended up getting barred. So

1097
00:56:50,080 --> 00:56:52,439
Speaker 1: I had to go out to Beverly Hills and spend

1098
00:56:52,520 --> 00:56:56,480
Speaker 1: some money. If you go to Beverly Hills again surgery,

1099
00:56:57,440 --> 00:56:59,200
Speaker 1: I did, so I went out there.

1100
00:56:59,320 --> 00:57:00,080
Speaker 2: Your doctors are.

1101
00:57:00,239 --> 00:57:02,359
Speaker 1: Yeah, girl. Morgan Harmon hooked me up and I went

1102
00:57:02,400 --> 00:57:06,360
Speaker 1: out to Beverly Hills and they had to actually reverse

1103
00:57:06,640 --> 00:57:09,279
Speaker 1: my tummy tuck. How do you we Wayne? How do

1104
00:57:09,360 --> 00:57:13,160
Speaker 1: you reverse? Different from so No, it's just no different.

1105
00:57:13,160 --> 00:57:16,240
Speaker 1: I filmed it, I even shared it. Well. What happened

1106
00:57:16,320 --> 00:57:17,920
Speaker 1: was they were actually going in there to fix it

1107
00:57:18,000 --> 00:57:22,040
Speaker 1: because I kept getting infections where where they put your

1108
00:57:22,080 --> 00:57:26,720
Speaker 1: scar at they kept pussing or bleeding or busting yeah,

1109
00:57:26,800 --> 00:57:29,400
Speaker 1: it was like it was doing weird stuff. So they

1110
00:57:29,440 --> 00:57:33,040
Speaker 1: would go in there and they would find thread. Yeah,

1111
00:57:33,240 --> 00:57:35,959
Speaker 1: not the kind that's supposed to like this and giving

1112
00:57:36,040 --> 00:57:39,600
Speaker 1: you feel That's called giving you an infection actually, so

1113
00:57:39,680 --> 00:57:41,920
Speaker 1: when you see the pussy and stuff. Yeah, So when

1114
00:57:41,960 --> 00:57:44,680
Speaker 1: they had to go and try to take care of

1115
00:57:44,800 --> 00:57:48,400
Speaker 1: that is when they discovered I had carpentry staples and

1116
00:57:48,560 --> 00:57:49,320
Speaker 1: my tummy tuck.

1117
00:57:49,560 --> 00:57:50,840
Speaker 2: No Jesus was a carpenter.

1118
00:57:50,920 --> 00:57:52,840
Speaker 1: He ain't do that. He didn't do that, and that

1119
00:57:52,880 --> 00:57:56,080
Speaker 1: one's supposed to be done. So I was just saying, yeah,

1120
00:57:56,200 --> 00:58:00,600
Speaker 1: so they had to actually take those staples out. He

1121
00:58:01,440 --> 00:58:05,960
Speaker 1: puts staples. Well, that's left me. So that's why I

1122
00:58:06,040 --> 00:58:08,840
Speaker 1: kept building up in section. And that's probably why you

1123
00:58:08,920 --> 00:58:10,920
Speaker 1: were like swallowing him, like why is my waist not

1124
00:58:11,040 --> 00:58:12,680
Speaker 1: how it was? Because you were probably it was stuff

1125
00:58:12,720 --> 00:58:16,280
Speaker 1: that was not and your body will actually try. Yeah,

1126
00:58:16,400 --> 00:58:19,080
Speaker 1: So when they did that, nobody knew it. But now

1127
00:58:19,080 --> 00:58:22,840
Speaker 1: I'm walking around without my tummy tup. So that means

1128
00:58:22,880 --> 00:58:24,840
Speaker 1: that I got to go and actually double up on

1129
00:58:25,000 --> 00:58:28,200
Speaker 1: the work myself so I can still have that same appearance.

1130
00:58:28,280 --> 00:58:32,520
Speaker 1: Because if something suff would make you tight, oh, especially

1131
00:58:32,600 --> 00:58:34,840
Speaker 1: have you seen like when women get pregnant after they

1132
00:58:34,840 --> 00:58:37,600
Speaker 1: get a tummy to they stomach can me so small

1133
00:58:37,960 --> 00:58:40,600
Speaker 1: because it's not going to expand that right, it makes

1134
00:58:40,600 --> 00:58:44,960
Speaker 1: you tight, So I want that same tightness that I

1135
00:58:45,000 --> 00:58:47,680
Speaker 1: had one sad from that. So that's how do you

1136
00:58:47,720 --> 00:58:49,640
Speaker 1: feel like you got your sexy back? Like what made

1137
00:58:49,680 --> 00:58:52,040
Speaker 1: you like after all the surgeries and like what made.

1138
00:58:51,920 --> 00:58:52,320
Speaker 2: You feel like?

1139
00:58:52,400 --> 00:58:52,720
Speaker 1: You know what?

1140
00:58:53,440 --> 00:58:55,360
Speaker 2: I look in the mirror and I look good again,

1141
00:58:55,880 --> 00:58:57,760
Speaker 2: Like I feel confident about myself.

1142
00:59:00,160 --> 00:59:03,720
Speaker 1: I think my husband, That's what I want to ask you.

1143
00:59:05,520 --> 00:59:07,720
Speaker 1: I said this on the episode last week because we

1144
00:59:07,840 --> 00:59:10,480
Speaker 1: had a question when a listener was like, she feels well.

1145
00:59:10,520 --> 00:59:12,720
Speaker 1: He said that his girlfriend didn't send him news because

1146
00:59:12,720 --> 00:59:15,440
Speaker 1: she feels insecure about like when you're dating somebody, the

1147
00:59:15,520 --> 00:59:20,680
Speaker 1: things that they're insecure about. Yeah, so you feel like

1148
00:59:20,760 --> 00:59:23,080
Speaker 1: he pours into your body and makes you feel like,

1149
00:59:23,760 --> 00:59:27,400
Speaker 1: well he always got that thing out. So I'll be like,

1150
00:59:27,720 --> 00:59:30,160
Speaker 1: what you know that? Yes?

1151
00:59:30,280 --> 00:59:31,720
Speaker 4: Oh the b D.

1152
00:59:31,880 --> 00:59:37,280
Speaker 1: Part of the b D got you. So I'm like, god,

1153
00:59:37,680 --> 00:59:38,640
Speaker 1: why is it again?

1154
00:59:38,920 --> 00:59:47,320
Speaker 8: Just so I'd be like, yeah, you right, and I'm

1155
00:59:47,360 --> 00:59:49,640
Speaker 8: like yo, he'd be like yo, you look good to me,

1156
00:59:49,880 --> 00:59:50,480
Speaker 8: you look good.

1157
00:59:50,600 --> 00:59:51,160
Speaker 3: I'm ready.

1158
00:59:51,360 --> 00:59:52,920
Speaker 1: Oh my god, you thirst.

1159
00:59:54,160 --> 00:59:59,200
Speaker 2: Like yeah, because it doesn't matter. I always said this,

1160
00:59:59,320 --> 01:00:01,040
Speaker 2: you can get a thout. I was saying a million.

1161
01:00:00,920 --> 01:00:04,920
Speaker 1: Compliments from all the women, but the man about compliment you.

1162
01:00:05,000 --> 01:00:07,080
Speaker 1: That can make any bitch feel like the baddest bitch. Yeah,

1163
01:00:07,160 --> 01:00:11,120
Speaker 1: absolutely they do. Like if I'm gonna go to Kroger

1164
01:00:11,240 --> 01:00:14,040
Speaker 1: or some simple sometimes I may do my air and

1165
01:00:14,160 --> 01:00:16,800
Speaker 1: he'd be like, where you're going again? All right, put

1166
01:00:16,800 --> 01:00:21,439
Speaker 1: your GPS stuff on. Period, I'll be like looking yeah.

1167
01:00:22,440 --> 01:00:24,840
Speaker 1: And not only I feel like compliments from women. I

1168
01:00:24,960 --> 01:00:27,800
Speaker 1: always say yeah, I love so I don't have a

1169
01:00:27,840 --> 01:00:30,120
Speaker 1: man to like necessarily pour into me all the time,

1170
01:00:30,600 --> 01:00:32,800
Speaker 1: but like when I get compliments from women, because women

1171
01:00:32,840 --> 01:00:38,200
Speaker 1: don't they lie. Sometimes that's not as well from women.

1172
01:00:38,400 --> 01:00:41,280
Speaker 1: I love like when a woman tell especially like a

1173
01:00:41,320 --> 01:00:43,120
Speaker 1: bad bitch, you'd be like, bitch, you did that? I

1174
01:00:43,480 --> 01:00:46,520
Speaker 1: like that, Well, it will lie. But usually if a

1175
01:00:46,560 --> 01:00:48,760
Speaker 1: bitch don't feel like you bad or they don't feel

1176
01:00:48,800 --> 01:00:52,240
Speaker 1: like you're cute, they just not going. That's one thing

1177
01:00:52,280 --> 01:00:54,280
Speaker 1: about women like they just not gonna say nothing. So

1178
01:00:54,400 --> 01:00:56,600
Speaker 1: that's why I like when the bitch tell you, like, yeah,

1179
01:00:56,680 --> 01:01:00,840
Speaker 1: you look good, you know you can you stepping in

1180
01:01:03,920 --> 01:01:11,760
Speaker 1: all right? So now we get into the like that

1181
01:01:12,360 --> 01:01:16,360
Speaker 1: you like everybody, we need to get in the studio

1182
01:01:16,440 --> 01:01:21,040
Speaker 1: and record a trade. At the show, I had a

1183
01:01:21,120 --> 01:01:25,080
Speaker 1: song freestyle I remember so the back of the week, y'all.

1184
01:01:25,240 --> 01:01:30,160
Speaker 1: This song has me in a call. Y'all know I'm Nigerian. Okay, right,

1185
01:01:30,680 --> 01:01:33,840
Speaker 1: all right, it's all right. I feel like I'm not

1186
01:01:33,840 --> 01:01:37,360
Speaker 1: gonna say that. I'm like, if you've been with enough

1187
01:01:37,480 --> 01:01:41,040
Speaker 1: Nigerian man, I should have a citizen. I'm an honorary

1188
01:01:41,120 --> 01:01:46,600
Speaker 1: citizen the FU. But okay, so, y'all know I love afrobeats.

1189
01:01:47,320 --> 01:01:51,240
Speaker 1: Whizkid released his album and he has a song called Mood.

1190
01:01:51,960 --> 01:01:53,760
Speaker 1: I listened to this song the whole time before you.

1191
01:01:55,160 --> 01:02:01,280
Speaker 1: I love Wikig. If you don't like, that's my TikTok jam.

1192
01:02:01,560 --> 01:02:03,960
Speaker 3: Yes, when you when you.

1193
01:02:06,640 --> 01:02:12,480
Speaker 1: Moved, you know, be in that mood, y'all. He liked that.

1194
01:02:12,800 --> 01:02:13,560
Speaker 1: He gonna like that.

1195
01:02:14,440 --> 01:02:16,760
Speaker 4: You need to put that in your flo You need

1196
01:02:16,840 --> 01:02:18,760
Speaker 4: to add whiz Kids.

1197
01:02:18,960 --> 01:02:21,400
Speaker 2: Mood is about wiz Ky makes amazing music and I

1198
01:02:21,480 --> 01:02:23,040
Speaker 2: love the fact that he's breaking barriers.

1199
01:02:23,640 --> 01:02:26,440
Speaker 1: He was not. He was nominated for two Grammy Awards

1200
01:02:26,560 --> 01:02:29,920
Speaker 1: this year. The Grammy nominations came out, so he's the

1201
01:02:30,000 --> 01:02:33,720
Speaker 1: most nominated Nigerian artist with four nominations in his career.

1202
01:02:33,880 --> 01:02:35,560
Speaker 2: That's the most of any Nigerian artist.

1203
01:02:38,240 --> 01:02:41,720
Speaker 1: Also, TEMs is the first female Nigerian artist has been

1204
01:02:41,760 --> 01:02:46,680
Speaker 1: nominated for Grammy ever. For shout out to Tim talented. Yes,

1205
01:02:48,120 --> 01:02:53,520
Speaker 1: absolutely beautiful, Oh perfect, So shout out to Thams and

1206
01:02:53,600 --> 01:02:56,320
Speaker 1: wiz Kid. Bob of the Week is wiz Kid mood?

1207
01:02:56,440 --> 01:03:00,480
Speaker 1: Love it. I didn't know he was Nigerian. Yes, if

1208
01:03:00,480 --> 01:03:03,000
Speaker 1: you go too, he gonna have them sandals on. You

1209
01:03:03,080 --> 01:03:09,280
Speaker 1: know you can always pointed out sandals. Okay, you see

1210
01:03:09,320 --> 01:03:11,920
Speaker 1: a nigga with his toes out. I want to go

1211
01:03:12,040 --> 01:03:14,000
Speaker 1: to his concerting. That Lantla so bad. It was like

1212
01:03:14,080 --> 01:03:16,080
Speaker 1: actually like last month and I was so mad that

1213
01:03:16,160 --> 01:03:18,360
Speaker 1: I ended up messing it. But yeah, shout out to kids.

1214
01:03:19,840 --> 01:03:22,920
Speaker 1: All right, So my bfice week. You know, Adele album

1215
01:03:23,040 --> 01:03:27,000
Speaker 1: came out and she's so beautiful if she is. It's

1216
01:03:27,040 --> 01:03:29,640
Speaker 1: a few songs that I love like I love women

1217
01:03:29,880 --> 01:03:32,720
Speaker 1: like me. I like that song I like to I

1218
01:03:32,760 --> 01:03:34,720
Speaker 1: think that's a great song. It's a great anthem for

1219
01:03:35,080 --> 01:03:37,960
Speaker 1: anybody that did you see her performing Motivation? I didn't

1220
01:03:37,960 --> 01:03:40,360
Speaker 1: see the performance. Oh my god, it was amazing.

1221
01:03:40,760 --> 01:03:41,480
Speaker 3: It was where was it.

1222
01:03:41,840 --> 01:03:45,840
Speaker 1: She was out in this opening and then Oprah was there, Yes, and.

1223
01:03:45,960 --> 01:03:48,880
Speaker 2: They had everybody was there too, Like a lot of

1224
01:03:48,920 --> 01:03:49,560
Speaker 2: people were there.

1225
01:03:49,880 --> 01:03:51,400
Speaker 1: It was here in the state. No, I don't think

1226
01:03:51,400 --> 01:03:53,280
Speaker 1: it was. She had like the orchestra, it was. It

1227
01:03:53,400 --> 01:03:57,200
Speaker 1: was awesome and she looked it up amazing. Was amazing.

1228
01:03:57,440 --> 01:03:59,720
Speaker 1: But I like woman like me because she was basically saying,

1229
01:04:00,040 --> 01:04:02,080
Speaker 1: Adele has all this money and all this thing, and

1230
01:04:02,160 --> 01:04:04,960
Speaker 1: she's basically asking for what we talked about, like regular

1231
01:04:05,000 --> 01:04:07,200
Speaker 1: women with regular jobs, Like if you want a woman

1232
01:04:07,320 --> 01:04:10,120
Speaker 1: like me, be consistent, be thoughtful, and that's what she

1233
01:04:10,280 --> 01:04:10,640
Speaker 1: was saying.

1234
01:04:10,920 --> 01:04:12,560
Speaker 4: So men, get it together.

1235
01:04:12,640 --> 01:04:16,000
Speaker 2: It doesn't matter if you have Stacey that works at

1236
01:04:16,280 --> 01:04:20,480
Speaker 2: foot locker or Adele that's selling album after album after albums.

1237
01:04:20,280 --> 01:04:23,600
Speaker 1: Be consistent exactly. So basically just reiterating everything that we

1238
01:04:23,720 --> 01:04:26,240
Speaker 1: said as far as like just because you're on a

1239
01:04:26,320 --> 01:04:28,640
Speaker 1: certain level of success, it don't mean you still ain't

1240
01:04:28,640 --> 01:04:31,480
Speaker 1: got to deal with these trash ass niggas. That's so

1241
01:04:33,040 --> 01:04:35,400
Speaker 1: I like that song. I al feel like easy on Me,

1242
01:04:35,520 --> 01:04:39,760
Speaker 1: which is the single that's and then I also like

1243
01:04:41,800 --> 01:04:46,520
Speaker 1: you like the whole you know, but I really love it, Dell.

1244
01:04:46,800 --> 01:04:49,080
Speaker 1: I love Adela and she's never came out with a

1245
01:04:49,280 --> 01:04:57,080
Speaker 1: bad album, but it was. But I do feel like

1246
01:04:57,280 --> 01:05:00,360
Speaker 1: the others have been better than this. This is my

1247
01:05:00,520 --> 01:05:03,800
Speaker 1: least face. It's a little jazzy, Yeah, a little. I

1248
01:05:03,880 --> 01:05:05,919
Speaker 1: guess that's why I liked it when she performed it live,

1249
01:05:06,680 --> 01:05:10,240
Speaker 1: because it was a setting exactly so it seemed like it. Yeah,

1250
01:05:10,520 --> 01:05:13,560
Speaker 1: like what you've been listening to. I love and this

1251
01:05:13,720 --> 01:05:16,800
Speaker 1: is not even new, but it's something that I keep playing.

1252
01:05:16,880 --> 01:05:21,720
Speaker 1: And guys heard Trayson Circles, I haven't had Oh my god,

1253
01:05:21,960 --> 01:05:24,840
Speaker 1: it doesn't even sound he's so it's his voice has

1254
01:05:24,960 --> 01:05:29,920
Speaker 1: matured beautifully because he put this out in twenty twenty,

1255
01:05:30,800 --> 01:05:33,000
Speaker 1: so it was during the pandemic.

1256
01:05:33,240 --> 01:05:35,880
Speaker 2: Okay, but I'm gonna give it. I don't like tray

1257
01:05:35,960 --> 01:05:39,520
Speaker 2: song I have heard I love because he'd be like,

1258
01:05:42,920 --> 01:05:44,400
Speaker 2: you never cast brother?

1259
01:05:45,760 --> 01:05:48,240
Speaker 3: No, JA was okay?

1260
01:05:48,320 --> 01:05:48,680
Speaker 1: But was I?

1261
01:05:48,800 --> 01:05:49,480
Speaker 7: It was n.

1262
01:05:51,400 --> 01:05:52,280
Speaker 4: That's you don't know.

1263
01:05:52,640 --> 01:06:00,880
Speaker 1: You're right, you don't know you Hold of the House.

1264
01:06:03,760 --> 01:06:04,120
Speaker 4: By Trey.

1265
01:06:04,400 --> 01:06:14,320
Speaker 1: Yeah, I like I like it. I promise Circles, But.

1266
01:06:14,440 --> 01:06:18,000
Speaker 2: You said his voice matured because yes, can I play.

1267
01:06:19,560 --> 01:06:25,200
Speaker 1: Can? No, We're gonna get you. I don't know.

1268
01:06:25,640 --> 01:06:26,520
Speaker 4: We're gonna have to edit it.

1269
01:06:26,600 --> 01:06:28,440
Speaker 1: Out. Yea, we might, but she could pay No. I

1270
01:06:28,560 --> 01:06:33,040
Speaker 1: promise you listen on God Life this song. I don't

1271
01:06:33,080 --> 01:06:36,320
Speaker 1: God that mean that ship because I was like this

1272
01:06:36,680 --> 01:06:38,000
Speaker 1: was just didn't sound like him?

1273
01:06:38,360 --> 01:06:40,000
Speaker 2: Is okay, Okay, we can play a little bit.

1274
01:06:40,120 --> 01:06:42,240
Speaker 1: Okay, ten seconds, they're gonna be like, lo, take this

1275
01:06:42,400 --> 01:06:47,800
Speaker 1: off and look at that picture. You'll talk this after

1276
01:06:47,880 --> 01:06:49,200
Speaker 1: the baby so he mature.

1277
01:06:49,720 --> 01:06:51,200
Speaker 4: He does look a little mature.

1278
01:06:55,040 --> 01:07:01,240
Speaker 1: I'm not convinced. Okay, good though. I was just talking

1279
01:07:01,280 --> 01:07:02,960
Speaker 1: about Tray songs on Twitter the other day.

1280
01:07:07,840 --> 01:07:13,880
Speaker 4: I like you, okay, Yes, I love that song.

1281
01:07:14,800 --> 01:07:19,800
Speaker 1: I don't know what this fuck me want? Shame on

1282
01:07:19,920 --> 01:07:24,440
Speaker 1: you fuck me twice that one said this will be

1283
01:07:24,520 --> 01:07:31,640
Speaker 1: you that sound like me? You don't, but we can

1284
01:07:31,720 --> 01:07:34,080
Speaker 1: go with it. I just was talking about Tray songs

1285
01:07:34,080 --> 01:07:39,200
Speaker 1: on Twitter. I was saying, wonder Woman, not like that. Yes,

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Speaker 1: I don't know what that woman is such a fucking

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Speaker 1: bo that's such a great song, you know like that

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Speaker 1: in the video.

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Speaker 3: Yes, like that song.

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Speaker 1: That's what he ain't singing it like that? We both

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Speaker 1: like waste what is that? No? You don't you no

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Speaker 1: wonder Woman? I mean because oh you no, No, you

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Speaker 1: know what I'm gonna send it to your phone and

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Speaker 1: you're gonna hit me later, like, yeah, that's a good song.

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Speaker 1: I'm just I like to know if I'm where i'm at.

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Speaker 1: I don't like to be confused when I go to

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Speaker 1: a concert a consort. But it's oh my good. But

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Speaker 1: I'm listening to that, and I'm also listening to I

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Speaker 1: like Drake's new his new album. I'm listening to Y

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Speaker 1: because I listened to his latest interview. Uh huh, so

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Speaker 1: it made me want to go, I'm not gonna he

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Speaker 1: said this other that we haven't. We don't really talk

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Speaker 1: about Kanye on this show. And Kanye used to be

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Speaker 1: one of my favorite arts because he was just going

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Speaker 1: through a time. Yeah, but I'm not gonna lie. I

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Speaker 1: still love Kanye. I'm going it's hard. Yeah, Like on

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Speaker 1: day I said, Kanye, even if they cannot always be

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Speaker 1: he Kanye went to work already.

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Speaker 2: N got nominated for Grammy.

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Speaker 1: Honestly, I'm kind of upset with the Grammy nongs went

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Speaker 1: a little bit different the way they went.

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Speaker 2: I don't want to find anybody, so I'm not gonna

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Speaker 2: say why.

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Speaker 1: But Donna got nominated.

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Speaker 2: I'm very proud of that. I will Honestly, I didn't

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Speaker 2: want to listen to Donna, but I went to the

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Speaker 2: show and that we.

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Speaker 1: Never off the Grammys and and means all of it

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Speaker 1: really give us our things show. Jasmine Sullivan love and

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Speaker 1: Yeah I love. This podcast is sponsored by Better Help

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Speaker 1: can email us your questions if you have anything that

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Speaker 1: skip the one. So, of course, you know we want

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Speaker 1: you to help us answer the question. So question one

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Speaker 1: member is gonna be the other one? Okay, first, right,

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Speaker 1: not refresh, refresh, refreshing. He got you, girl?

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Speaker 4: One thing about him?

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Speaker 6: Is he on it?

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Speaker 1: You do period?

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Speaker 2: You see it?

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Speaker 1: Okay, I got it. Hey, y'all, it's the niece again, girl,

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Speaker 1: not again. I wrote y'all previously asking for advice on

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Speaker 1: the situation I had with a homegirl. My bad for

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Speaker 1: the granmor mistakes. I didn't mean to have you tripping

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Speaker 1: up like that while you were reading looks. First of

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Speaker 1: all talk, I'm back to say thank you for your advice.

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Speaker 1: Y'all gave me on a positive insight on how to

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Speaker 1: view and handle the situation. I've been in therapy for

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Speaker 1: a while and spoke to my therapist about it as well.

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Speaker 1: She explained how the work I put in to shape

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Speaker 1: romantic relationships is the same effort I need to put

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Speaker 1: the same effort I need to do with friendships. Friendships

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Speaker 1: don't grow unless both parties explain what they want in

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Speaker 1: a relationship going forward, as far as the type of

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Speaker 1: friendship that's the desired. With the feedback from y'all and

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Speaker 1: my therapist, I confronted my homegirl. The talk went really good. Actually,

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Speaker 1: no one got defensive or prideful, and we're still good

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Speaker 1: friends today. With that being said, I'd like to testify

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Speaker 1: on four minds behalf and say that y'all don't ruin

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Speaker 1: people's lives. And I love y'all.

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Speaker 4: Am I not helping y'all upgrad We always don't.

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Speaker 1: Never know, I'll be like, well, I'm just killing you

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Speaker 1: what hopefully your life, don't you. But I'm glad that

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Speaker 1: she said that because a lot of people, especially women,

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Speaker 1: we put so much a thought into our relationships, but

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Speaker 1: not into our friendships. Friends are just as important, if

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Speaker 1: not more important, than the relationship with men. You know,

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Speaker 1: if you're not married. You know, so I feel like

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Speaker 1: even when you're married, Yeah, yeah, everything, I swear they

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Speaker 1: keep me together all right. So questioned too, it says, hey, y'all,

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Speaker 1: I love watching y'all show every week because you guys

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Speaker 1: are so relatable. I have this close family member that

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Speaker 1: has a one year old Her baby daddy does not

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Speaker 1: help her with anything and had a baby by someone

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Speaker 1: else at the same time as her. He has two

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Speaker 1: one year old children and he only takes care of one.

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Speaker 1: He has also been violent towards her and the baby

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Speaker 1: in the past. She's still brave, right right right right

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Speaker 1: on them. She still brings him up to me, and

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Speaker 1: it's still having sex with him, even if he does

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Speaker 1: not help her with anything or take care of his child.

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Speaker 1: I hate to be that person that does not want

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Speaker 1: to talk about him, but she always brings him up.

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Speaker 1: I feel bad because I don't want her to be

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Speaker 1: with him because he is not a good person. I

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Speaker 1: am a very solution based person, so I feel like,

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Speaker 1: once I give you advice and you don't take it,

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Speaker 1: I don't want to talk about it anymore. What do

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01:14:26,120 --> 01:14:28,400
Speaker 1: I tell her? Should I stop hanging out with her?

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01:14:28,720 --> 01:14:31,120
Speaker 1: I've been supportive and I have stopped giving my opinion

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Speaker 1: about the situation because I can tell that it makes

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Speaker 1: her feel bad. What should I do? Let go and

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Speaker 1: let God on that, because that has some really deep

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Speaker 1: elements when it comes down to violence towards her and

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Speaker 1: the child, and she's still going there, and you know

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01:14:50,200 --> 01:14:55,840
Speaker 1: she's ignoring your advice to move on and leave him.

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Speaker 1: I mean, I hate to say walk away because there's

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Speaker 1: a child in bod right. I know me personally, I

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Speaker 1: probably would not stop being friends with her because you

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01:15:04,680 --> 01:15:07,960
Speaker 1: know the child is there, right. But but also it's

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Speaker 1: scary once you enter like domestic violence in the situation

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01:15:10,960 --> 01:15:13,080
Speaker 1: because you don't necessarily want to let go because you

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Speaker 1: need to make sure that she's safe. So I feel

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Speaker 1: like in this situation, you need to be really vocal

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Speaker 1: about your main concern, Like I'm worried about your safety.

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Speaker 1: I don't want to wake up and you're dead.

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Speaker 2: Let's be honest, because a lot of these men that

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Speaker 2: are beating women are killing them, you know what I'm saying.

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Speaker 1: And they're killing the baby, you know what I'm saying.

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Speaker 1: So I feel like you need to be honest. She

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Speaker 1: probably has a lot going on her, Like, I don't know,

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Speaker 1: that sounds so good. I swear to god, she thought

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Speaker 1: that was right now over here, I'm like, that feels

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Speaker 1: so good. I hope she never figures it out.

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Speaker 2: So I'm like, I'm trying to extend well, if the

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Speaker 2: dad and of the sons, the cousin.

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Speaker 1: Did we get that?

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Speaker 4: I try you, did.

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Speaker 1: You No?

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Speaker 2: But honestly, I will say, I feel like you just

1449
01:16:15,680 --> 01:16:19,040
Speaker 2: need to be vocal about your concerns and you can

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01:16:19,120 --> 01:16:20,200
Speaker 2: give somebody advice.

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Speaker 1: But like I said, people aren't ready to leave until

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Speaker 1: they are ready. But honestly, her child is only one,

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01:16:24,760 --> 01:16:28,000
Speaker 1: she's probably still dealing with postpartum depression. That's probably going

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Speaker 1: through a lot. So I know how that feels to

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01:16:30,640 --> 01:16:32,960
Speaker 1: give a friend advice and they don't listen. But at

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Speaker 1: the same time, that's not your position to be judging.

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01:16:36,080 --> 01:16:38,760
Speaker 1: Your position as a friend is to be there. That's

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01:16:38,800 --> 01:16:41,360
Speaker 1: when was supposed to kick in more. It's supposed to

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Speaker 1: kick in more.

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Speaker 2: You're not suposed to say, well, I told you what

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Speaker 2: to do and you're not listening. Done. That's not a friend.

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Speaker 2: A friend is being like, you know what I told

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Speaker 2: you what to do, you're not listening.

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Speaker 1: But guess what, I'm still doing this. Yeah, because you

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01:16:51,840 --> 01:16:54,920
Speaker 1: know that the situation may switch and you may need

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01:16:55,000 --> 01:16:56,800
Speaker 1: her to be a friend, eat and some stuff that

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Speaker 1: you never thought was gonna like you should stop being

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Speaker 1: young because of their decisions with men.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you know what I mean.

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Speaker 1: Like, if that's what she want to do. Then yeah,

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Speaker 1: you might not agree with it and it's fucked up,

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Speaker 1: and you might know that it might end up end

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01:17:09,560 --> 01:17:11,200
Speaker 1: up fucked up. But at the end of the day,

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Speaker 1: if that's your friend, you shouldn't just be like, oh, well,

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01:17:13,640 --> 01:17:15,040
Speaker 1: fuck this beach because she don't want to listen to

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01:17:15,120 --> 01:17:16,920
Speaker 1: me and she's doing some shit I don't like. Like

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Speaker 1: na here all right? Question three? You ready? Go ahead? Girl?

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01:17:23,240 --> 01:17:26,680
Speaker 1: What's goodie? Girlies loved the show and energy. I met

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01:17:26,760 --> 01:17:29,680
Speaker 1: my college begs friend in twenty thirteen. We had a

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Speaker 1: little hookup. Girl. I gave him a hand job and

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01:17:32,520 --> 01:17:35,840
Speaker 1: remind and remain close friends after that. He later got

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01:17:35,880 --> 01:17:37,920
Speaker 1: a girlfriend. It would call me to give it, call

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01:17:38,040 --> 01:17:40,559
Speaker 1: me to give him advice. I never saw us together

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01:17:40,640 --> 01:17:43,519
Speaker 1: back then. He literally was just a friend. Fast forward

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Speaker 1: a few years later, he almost passed away from some problems.

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01:17:47,160 --> 01:17:49,679
Speaker 1: He was in a coma for weeks. We lost touch

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01:17:49,880 --> 01:17:51,960
Speaker 1: a few years before that, but the thought of losing

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01:17:52,080 --> 01:17:54,439
Speaker 1: him changed my perspective and made me think what if.

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Speaker 1: Fast forward to this year. We hung out for the

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Speaker 1: first time in a while. Y'all. He is a BDB

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Speaker 1: big body investment banker. High rise in California, Priority straight.

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Speaker 1: We had a really good time in fronted a little bit,

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01:18:07,520 --> 01:18:09,840
Speaker 1: but that was that what are some things that I

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01:18:09,920 --> 01:18:12,840
Speaker 1: can do to go from best friend to boodang? I

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01:18:12,960 --> 01:18:16,040
Speaker 1: want this man bag y'all. I fantasize about him even

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Speaker 1: when I'm doing my thing. I just want. I just

1497
01:18:18,840 --> 01:18:21,400
Speaker 1: don't want to be rejected or fuck up our friendship.

1498
01:18:21,920 --> 01:18:24,280
Speaker 1: A few weeks ago, he came into town and asked

1499
01:18:24,320 --> 01:18:26,559
Speaker 1: me to meet him at a really nice hotel downtown

1500
01:18:26,640 --> 01:18:28,840
Speaker 1: and spend the night. We never spent the night together,

1501
01:18:28,960 --> 01:18:31,040
Speaker 1: nor has he ever tried to spend the spend that

1502
01:18:31,160 --> 01:18:34,080
Speaker 1: type of time together. I was super excited, but at

1503
01:18:34,120 --> 01:18:36,880
Speaker 1: the last minute he changed the plans and haven't talked since.

1504
01:18:37,080 --> 01:18:41,679
Speaker 1: Maybe he's interested. To wait, that was a few weeks

1505
01:18:41,720 --> 01:18:45,400
Speaker 1: to go on. That was a few weeks ago, and

1506
01:18:45,520 --> 01:18:48,639
Speaker 1: he hasn't talked to her. He changed the plan. She said,

1507
01:18:49,320 --> 01:18:52,000
Speaker 1: that doesn't sound like he's interested. It sounded like something

1508
01:18:52,080 --> 01:18:52,920
Speaker 1: more serious.

1509
01:18:53,640 --> 01:18:56,479
Speaker 2: I feel like, up, Yeah, mat Me tell you what

1510
01:18:56,600 --> 01:18:57,720
Speaker 2: niggas do when they go out of town.

1511
01:18:57,800 --> 01:18:59,760
Speaker 1: Though, Okay, because I.

1512
01:18:59,800 --> 01:19:02,360
Speaker 2: Got a friend that's like he a BDB, I would

1513
01:19:02,400 --> 01:19:05,160
Speaker 2: never but what I say, like men like to go

1514
01:19:05,439 --> 01:19:07,600
Speaker 2: out of town, especially if it's like for words, or

1515
01:19:07,800 --> 01:19:10,479
Speaker 2: if it's like on their own time, they got their

1516
01:19:10,560 --> 01:19:13,160
Speaker 2: main girl they want to see and then they got

1517
01:19:13,200 --> 01:19:14,000
Speaker 2: their backup plan.

1518
01:19:14,120 --> 01:19:18,560
Speaker 1: It sounds like maybe she was more serious yeah, and

1519
01:19:18,680 --> 01:19:21,320
Speaker 1: the main girl came through. So I felt like, y'all

1520
01:19:21,360 --> 01:19:23,600
Speaker 1: have been friends for a while. You said this was

1521
01:19:23,640 --> 01:19:26,280
Speaker 1: your best friend in college, so you should know him

1522
01:19:26,320 --> 01:19:29,559
Speaker 1: by now. So if you can't have a conversation about

1523
01:19:29,680 --> 01:19:31,519
Speaker 1: this with him, then I would just kind of like

1524
01:19:31,680 --> 01:19:34,160
Speaker 1: keep it as friends and not trying to be funny,

1525
01:19:35,200 --> 01:19:38,519
Speaker 1: just trying to be real. I wouldn't want a man

1526
01:19:38,600 --> 01:19:40,240
Speaker 1: who knew that he was about to get some asks

1527
01:19:40,240 --> 01:19:42,599
Speaker 1: for me and decided not to and never called me again.

1528
01:19:42,920 --> 01:19:45,000
Speaker 1: I wouldn't even be curious. I didn't give a fuck

1529
01:19:45,160 --> 01:19:49,560
Speaker 1: what you were on because and not only that, I

1530
01:19:49,640 --> 01:19:51,960
Speaker 1: feel like I have trying to give you a lot

1531
01:19:52,000 --> 01:19:53,920
Speaker 1: of they were going to stay the name with each other,

1532
01:19:54,680 --> 01:19:57,639
Speaker 1: want to get it to you. I have a lot

1533
01:19:57,720 --> 01:19:59,680
Speaker 1: of close guy friends, and I'm not gonna lie to you,

1534
01:19:59,840 --> 01:20:02,400
Speaker 1: like like I have some guy friends that never try

1535
01:20:02,439 --> 01:20:03,920
Speaker 1: to holler at me. Then I have guy friends that

1536
01:20:04,320 --> 01:20:06,320
Speaker 1: they try to holler at me, and now we're just friends.

1537
01:20:06,360 --> 01:20:09,080
Speaker 1: But y'all have been friends since twenty thirteen. It ain't

1538
01:20:09,479 --> 01:20:13,960
Speaker 1: nothing happened, right, I don't think that is the feelings. Yeah,

1539
01:20:13,960 --> 01:20:17,519
Speaker 1: it's not giving me mutual vibes most especially nowadays, they

1540
01:20:17,600 --> 01:20:20,880
Speaker 1: are a little bit more forward about it. Yeah, I

1541
01:20:21,080 --> 01:20:23,439
Speaker 1: definitely feel a little bit a lot of yeah, like,

1542
01:20:23,600 --> 01:20:25,320
Speaker 1: especially when it comes down to, oh, you know, he's

1543
01:20:25,320 --> 01:20:29,720
Speaker 1: been spend the night. He already got his hand jibs. Yeah,

1544
01:20:30,120 --> 01:20:33,280
Speaker 1: you know I have to seal the deal. He knows

1545
01:20:33,880 --> 01:20:37,280
Speaker 1: that and things. But what are we thirteen? Yes, two weeks.

1546
01:20:37,320 --> 01:20:40,040
Speaker 1: You haven't heard from her hand jobs? She was in

1547
01:20:40,120 --> 01:20:42,040
Speaker 1: twenty thirteen, and she might be young.

1548
01:20:42,160 --> 01:20:45,000
Speaker 2: She was probably one won't my hands out.

1549
01:20:44,840 --> 01:20:48,080
Speaker 1: Of at twenty one? Hey, would you give hand jobs

1550
01:20:48,160 --> 01:20:53,479
Speaker 1: in twenty one? Baby? Maybe? I don't put I was

1551
01:20:53,600 --> 01:20:58,280
Speaker 1: delivering at twenty minutes. It was, I know, not deliverer.

1552
01:21:00,880 --> 01:21:05,360
Speaker 1: I was delicious. I was in my third year college,

1553
01:21:05,439 --> 01:21:08,839
Speaker 1: pushing puss hand jobs.

1554
01:21:09,400 --> 01:21:13,760
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's why he didn't you that way?

1555
01:21:14,400 --> 01:21:22,080
Speaker 1: You using that will do And she used no lotion

1556
01:21:22,320 --> 01:21:29,559
Speaker 1: or nothing. She was already so that's why he did

1557
01:21:29,640 --> 01:21:32,000
Speaker 1: not hit her. I don't think. I don't think he's

1558
01:21:32,080 --> 01:21:36,120
Speaker 1: interested him an egg play, But no, I also feel

1559
01:21:36,160 --> 01:21:39,880
Speaker 1: like this like, like I said, when Mark in the mouth,

1560
01:21:40,400 --> 01:21:44,720
Speaker 1: when you damn he reacted and he was very active. Well,

1561
01:21:44,840 --> 01:21:48,680
Speaker 1: Raymond looked at me very sexually. He was like so

1562
01:21:50,560 --> 01:21:52,559
Speaker 1: or not even the picture of the you know, persona

1563
01:21:52,680 --> 01:21:55,639
Speaker 1: of delicious. So he fights out he was not getting

1564
01:21:55,640 --> 01:21:58,080
Speaker 1: a hand giant from the d M. No, you know

1565
01:21:58,120 --> 01:22:01,680
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. It ain't that. It wasn't that her

1566
01:22:01,800 --> 01:22:06,680
Speaker 1: case keeps a fucking hand John, Yeah, I agree, but

1567
01:22:06,800 --> 01:22:12,280
Speaker 1: we don't know. Oh she is, hello, listeners, beyond young.

1568
01:22:12,439 --> 01:22:14,519
Speaker 1: You need to put her fucking hands up anyway, put

1569
01:22:14,560 --> 01:22:17,200
Speaker 1: your damn hands up with your young ass. No, but

1570
01:22:17,280 --> 01:22:18,280
Speaker 1: that she has grown ass for me.

1571
01:22:18,360 --> 01:22:21,280
Speaker 2: You don't be giving out no damn hands off is

1572
01:22:21,360 --> 01:22:22,080
Speaker 2: something like.

1573
01:22:22,160 --> 01:22:26,160
Speaker 1: You're sitting here and I'm just like crazy, Hey, you

1574
01:22:26,360 --> 01:22:28,519
Speaker 1: just like to get fingered niggas like a little hand

1575
01:22:28,600 --> 01:22:32,160
Speaker 1: job we got if I was a dude and you're

1576
01:22:32,160 --> 01:22:38,120
Speaker 1: trying to hand me. What the right my mother?

1577
01:22:39,560 --> 01:22:46,920
Speaker 4: Listen, you know what stop twenty one come up.

1578
01:22:49,520 --> 01:22:53,439
Speaker 1: Like now thirteen that was gonna see the dark night

1579
01:22:54,000 --> 01:22:56,479
Speaker 1: that was in the back of the piat Come on now, bro,

1580
01:22:58,000 --> 01:22:59,800
Speaker 1: I was going in the back of the pater.

1581
01:23:01,120 --> 01:23:05,320
Speaker 4: And we don't want to know I'm next not a handy.

1582
01:23:06,760 --> 01:23:16,080
Speaker 1: Had that man don't like you to get that.

1583
01:23:16,439 --> 01:23:19,240
Speaker 4: Bitches, you can call me puss it love.

1584
01:23:19,800 --> 01:23:22,280
Speaker 1: Whoa I ain't no hashtag.

1585
01:23:22,400 --> 01:23:25,720
Speaker 2: You can call me hashtag puss it love. Say you

1586
01:23:25,880 --> 01:23:26,920
Speaker 2: used to sell cat.

1587
01:23:28,320 --> 01:23:33,120
Speaker 1: Used to let's just say it and now you're married.

1588
01:23:33,520 --> 01:23:35,920
Speaker 2: If you ever fell on hard times and money got

1589
01:23:36,080 --> 01:23:38,720
Speaker 2: tight on both of your behalfs, if you ever hit

1590
01:23:38,840 --> 01:23:41,280
Speaker 2: up a few old regulars for the wind, is it cheating?

1591
01:23:42,160 --> 01:23:45,280
Speaker 1: Yes? Yes, you put money.

1592
01:23:47,320 --> 01:23:48,840
Speaker 3: You know when your bills get bathed.

1593
01:23:49,280 --> 01:23:53,760
Speaker 1: Yes, yes, What I wanted to say this so.

1594
01:23:54,120 --> 01:23:56,559
Speaker 2: If your partner knows what you're doing, it's not.

1595
01:23:58,000 --> 01:24:02,080
Speaker 1: You said you have the conversation. Man Like if you say, like, hey, babe,

1596
01:24:02,200 --> 01:24:03,880
Speaker 1: I have this nigga that I used to with when

1597
01:24:03,880 --> 01:24:05,840
Speaker 1: I used to dance back in the day, and he

1598
01:24:05,920 --> 01:24:07,240
Speaker 1: wanted to take me on a little trip for the

1599
01:24:07,240 --> 01:24:09,160
Speaker 1: weekend and he's gonna give me ten bands like this,

1600
01:24:09,400 --> 01:24:12,120
Speaker 1: that not cheating, but it is tricky. You feel like

1601
01:24:12,760 --> 01:24:15,479
Speaker 1: it ain't tricking it you got nothing like you right,

1602
01:24:15,560 --> 01:24:18,000
Speaker 1: it ain't tricking if you got it, I mean, it's

1603
01:24:18,479 --> 01:24:21,759
Speaker 1: it is cheating. You do y'all feel like your nigga

1604
01:24:21,760 --> 01:24:26,479
Speaker 1: should be okay, wit because he came from No. But

1605
01:24:27,000 --> 01:24:28,720
Speaker 1: it would he be okay if the guy want him

1606
01:24:28,720 --> 01:24:38,280
Speaker 1: to join. Oh that's interesting. Not two boys, he said, no,

1607
01:24:38,479 --> 01:24:43,240
Speaker 1: not just you. You got me over here paying these bills.

1608
01:24:44,439 --> 01:24:49,800
Speaker 1: Don't walk y'all live in the house. Five bands of

1609
01:24:49,880 --> 01:24:58,920
Speaker 1: pe took that thing up. Okay, okay, wait, honestly, I'll

1610
01:24:58,960 --> 01:25:01,320
Speaker 1: say this as long as y'all man knows what you're

1611
01:25:01,360 --> 01:25:02,599
Speaker 1: doing is not cheating.

1612
01:25:03,000 --> 01:25:05,120
Speaker 2: But if you're like hiding behind his back and trying

1613
01:25:05,160 --> 01:25:07,439
Speaker 2: to sneak off, that cheating. But I feel like if

1614
01:25:07,479 --> 01:25:09,320
Speaker 2: you tell him, and honestly, nigga, if you ain't got

1615
01:25:09,360 --> 01:25:10,880
Speaker 2: no money to pay the bills, let.

1616
01:25:10,840 --> 01:25:15,719
Speaker 1: Me do this. I got it, bitch, help me hold it, hold.

1617
01:25:15,560 --> 01:25:16,840
Speaker 4: My head bad, help me.

1618
01:25:17,240 --> 01:25:25,760
Speaker 1: Nigga, ain't bitch, you ain't going well. I just would,

1619
01:25:25,800 --> 01:25:27,800
Speaker 1: do you know what I'm saying? Getting out because I

1620
01:25:27,880 --> 01:25:30,439
Speaker 1: pay all the bills. He leaving after I get somebody.

1621
01:25:30,760 --> 01:25:32,479
Speaker 1: It was my next one. I didn't want to be

1622
01:25:32,560 --> 01:25:35,439
Speaker 1: the one to say, but if you can't pay the bills,

1623
01:25:35,439 --> 01:25:37,320
Speaker 1: I'm not going to no other nigga and bringing the

1624
01:25:37,360 --> 01:25:39,760
Speaker 1: money back home. Yeah, nigga, and I'm sending you the

1625
01:25:39,800 --> 01:25:44,000
Speaker 1: worse papers exiction enough for the fiction papers and little

1626
01:25:44,000 --> 01:25:47,120
Speaker 1: see health. Unless held my head, y'all got to go

1627
01:25:47,200 --> 01:25:48,680
Speaker 1: on the trip, So y'all would have to go on

1628
01:25:48,760 --> 01:25:54,120
Speaker 1: the trip together. Yes, this this is gonna be off.

1629
01:25:55,479 --> 01:25:57,880
Speaker 4: Like you, man, I got dumb, but then I'm.

1630
01:25:57,760 --> 01:26:00,240
Speaker 1: Not gonna even lie to you getting it on, Honey.

1631
01:26:00,960 --> 01:26:03,240
Speaker 1: Even if my nigga came, I don't think I would

1632
01:26:03,280 --> 01:26:10,680
Speaker 1: ever respect him. And he came allowed me to let

1633
01:26:10,760 --> 01:26:11,000
Speaker 1: me go.

1634
01:26:11,200 --> 01:26:12,720
Speaker 4: I'm not nutty.

1635
01:26:14,040 --> 01:26:26,120
Speaker 1: Nuddy like no like sall broke as that letting me go.

1636
01:26:27,800 --> 01:26:29,080
Speaker 2: You are not supposed to be having.

1637
01:26:29,800 --> 01:26:33,760
Speaker 1: This is not for you, mother. If he let me go,

1638
01:26:33,960 --> 01:26:36,840
Speaker 1: there he's coming because I'm leaving his black ass. Fuck

1639
01:26:36,960 --> 01:26:41,760
Speaker 1: h that I can have sex with another man over

1640
01:26:41,960 --> 01:26:44,479
Speaker 1: At that point, I'm not taking the teen mans myself.

1641
01:26:44,600 --> 01:26:46,040
Speaker 4: Good looks starting a new life.

1642
01:26:46,200 --> 01:26:50,040
Speaker 2: Come on, man, your life and you're hashtag new life,

1643
01:26:53,400 --> 01:26:55,519
Speaker 2: new life, that's the.

1644
01:26:55,600 --> 01:27:03,240
Speaker 1: Name, new life, hashtag pussy loves hashtag new life. So

1645
01:27:03,400 --> 01:27:08,360
Speaker 1: that's what is giving me. He's all broken. Okay, so

1646
01:27:08,479 --> 01:27:10,519
Speaker 1: now we about to close it out. So before we

1647
01:27:10,640 --> 01:27:12,960
Speaker 1: close it out, let us know what you're working on,

1648
01:27:13,080 --> 01:27:14,880
Speaker 1: what you got coming up where they can find you.

1649
01:27:15,240 --> 01:27:19,120
Speaker 1: Everything that is so so you guys can find me

1650
01:27:19,400 --> 01:27:23,200
Speaker 1: on Instagram. I am so delicious. I A M S

1651
01:27:23,320 --> 01:27:25,760
Speaker 1: O D E E L S H I S as

1652
01:27:25,840 --> 01:27:28,960
Speaker 1: well as I am so delicious on Twitter and TikTok,

1653
01:27:29,320 --> 01:27:31,200
Speaker 1: and I believe on Facebook. I'm not on there a

1654
01:27:31,240 --> 01:27:32,720
Speaker 1: whole lot. I'm not on nothing. Girl.

1655
01:27:32,800 --> 01:27:35,080
Speaker 4: Yes, yes, damn.

1656
01:27:35,400 --> 01:27:36,880
Speaker 2: You try to show us how to work TikTok.

1657
01:27:37,120 --> 01:27:39,720
Speaker 1: We we we feel like we don't know how to work.

1658
01:27:39,760 --> 01:27:44,880
Speaker 1: I'm keeping one honey ship on Twitter. Our ship always

1659
01:27:44,960 --> 01:27:47,200
Speaker 1: go in bol people using our clips. If you having

1660
01:27:47,280 --> 01:27:50,880
Speaker 1: like fifty thousand, one hundred thousand views and me Alex

1661
01:27:50,960 --> 01:27:52,880
Speaker 1: ain't got no TikTok we have.

1662
01:27:54,840 --> 01:27:55,120
Speaker 4: Right now.

1663
01:27:55,439 --> 01:27:57,599
Speaker 2: Yeah, so we don't know how to work TikTok.

1664
01:27:57,680 --> 01:27:59,800
Speaker 1: Wait, you guys don't have no I.

1665
01:28:02,600 --> 01:28:03,439
Speaker 4: Just be going on there to.

1666
01:28:03,400 --> 01:28:05,040
Speaker 2: See what the bd b's and I was looking at

1667
01:28:05,080 --> 01:28:06,680
Speaker 2: like sugar daddies in Chicago.

1668
01:28:06,920 --> 01:28:07,800
Speaker 1: Did you find them? No?

1669
01:28:08,120 --> 01:28:09,280
Speaker 3: I was trying to come home with a.

1670
01:28:09,400 --> 01:28:14,120
Speaker 4: Bell or bull. I came home, bitch, I went to

1671
01:28:14,240 --> 01:28:15,799
Speaker 4: the had my look.

1672
01:28:16,240 --> 01:28:17,960
Speaker 3: I have Chicago.

1673
01:28:18,040 --> 01:28:20,519
Speaker 1: Ain't had ship fun. I'm sorry for I didn't come

1674
01:28:20,600 --> 01:28:21,240
Speaker 1: back with ship.

1675
01:28:22,960 --> 01:28:26,639
Speaker 2: That's all all I got was steak, macaroni, pizza and office.

1676
01:28:28,560 --> 01:28:34,120
Speaker 1: Well you gotta get in TikTok. Okay, I love I'm

1677
01:28:34,160 --> 01:28:38,360
Speaker 1: on there just for Derek. Who. No, it's a character

1678
01:28:38,400 --> 01:28:48,800
Speaker 1: I play. No, No, that was just me and my

1679
01:28:48,920 --> 01:28:52,479
Speaker 1: mom was one. So we can really talk you me,

1680
01:28:52,920 --> 01:28:53,800
Speaker 1: that's what they can find you.

1681
01:28:53,880 --> 01:28:55,519
Speaker 4: What you're working on, what you got coming up.

1682
01:28:56,000 --> 01:28:58,759
Speaker 1: We're working on a few things, several things, so keep watching.

1683
01:28:59,760 --> 01:29:04,240
Speaker 1: I never do it than the same with me. I'm

1684
01:29:04,280 --> 01:29:06,960
Speaker 1: moving silent. I think it's an earth sign thing. We

1685
01:29:07,160 --> 01:29:10,120
Speaker 1: just be like, I'm a pop outs like bitches, y'all

1686
01:29:10,439 --> 01:29:14,760
Speaker 1: see me on it, alright. I like to let y'all

1687
01:29:14,800 --> 01:29:18,519
Speaker 1: know I was shipping on you few things in the world.

1688
01:29:19,040 --> 01:29:22,200
Speaker 1: But yeah, I just like when they happened. Okay, all

1689
01:29:22,439 --> 01:29:27,880
Speaker 1: righty sing the song? Oh what is that?

1690
01:29:28,200 --> 01:29:31,720
Speaker 2: Okay, so we're gonna sing this song? Hold on, I'm

1691
01:29:31,960 --> 01:29:34,800
Speaker 2: so blow you do you want to sing the first verse?

1692
01:29:35,000 --> 01:29:37,200
Speaker 1: Sure? What is it? Wait? I can't even see this,

1693
01:29:38,840 --> 01:29:39,960
Speaker 1: but this sounds so crazy.

1694
01:29:40,200 --> 01:29:42,639
Speaker 4: You can sing this song. You can beult it out.

1695
01:29:42,720 --> 01:29:45,200
Speaker 1: Yeah if I wasn't smoking, Well that's what I said.

1696
01:29:45,240 --> 01:29:47,360
Speaker 1: You want you want to sing the first because but

1697
01:29:47,439 --> 01:29:49,320
Speaker 1: I want you to sing because people.

1698
01:29:49,120 --> 01:29:50,000
Speaker 4: Got you fucked up?

1699
01:29:50,160 --> 01:29:50,360
Speaker 1: They do.

1700
01:29:50,960 --> 01:29:58,880
Speaker 4: Yes, she said, they do because when you said, what

1701
01:29:59,080 --> 01:29:59,760
Speaker 4: was that girl name?

1702
01:30:02,040 --> 01:30:02,880
Speaker 2: Started crying?

1703
01:30:02,880 --> 01:30:09,360
Speaker 1: It was like, your girl is really like shut up

1704
01:30:10,600 --> 01:30:13,280
Speaker 1: seriously when you say you sat behind that chair and

1705
01:30:13,400 --> 01:30:19,880
Speaker 1: you was like, yeah, you really watched The Love You

1706
01:30:20,800 --> 01:30:25,679
Speaker 1: You think it's a joke every day and you love

1707
01:30:26,080 --> 01:30:30,400
Speaker 1: that seriously. But I love it too. But it's like.

1708
01:30:32,640 --> 01:30:34,560
Speaker 2: People like, honestly, we've had a lot of people on

1709
01:30:34,640 --> 01:30:38,639
Speaker 2: the show, but there's very few people that like I really, yes,

1710
01:30:38,880 --> 01:30:41,400
Speaker 2: like I really, I know everything about you. I know

1711
01:30:41,520 --> 01:30:44,479
Speaker 2: what's not sure you well, I know anything about your

1712
01:30:46,120 --> 01:30:47,439
Speaker 2: all right, so you all ready for the song?

1713
01:30:47,560 --> 01:30:49,880
Speaker 1: Yes, we want to say the first verse. You got it.

1714
01:30:50,400 --> 01:30:51,920
Speaker 1: I don't know if I got it, but you got it.

1715
01:30:52,040 --> 01:30:53,600
Speaker 2: Okay, okay, let's go.

1716
01:30:57,000 --> 01:31:04,920
Speaker 1: Time. Hey, since you been Wait boy, yeah, I got

1717
01:31:05,080 --> 01:31:11,920
Speaker 1: no planes, no, no, no, no loop doom, doom, doom,

1718
01:31:13,000 --> 01:31:18,760
Speaker 1: and the sound of the rains sing against my window pane.

1719
01:31:19,240 --> 01:31:30,040
Speaker 7: Oh, slowly, slowly driving me say, hey boy, I'm going die.

1720
01:31:33,040 --> 01:31:34,479
Speaker 4: I'm going die.

1721
01:31:36,840 --> 01:31:45,160
Speaker 5: God shooing a ride, baby, Yes, my whole world up,

1722
01:31:48,320 --> 01:31:49,120
Speaker 5: We're gonna do this.

1723
01:31:49,439 --> 01:31:53,920
Speaker 1: We're going on tour. I was you. I had to stop.

1724
01:31:57,479 --> 01:32:00,200
Speaker 1: I'm nervous dress, I know.

1725
01:32:00,760 --> 01:32:02,920
Speaker 4: Let me say come on verse t.

1726
01:32:03,439 --> 01:32:06,080
Speaker 1: Sleep, don't come easy, yes.

1727
01:32:07,680 --> 01:32:09,680
Speaker 3: Boy, please believe me.

1728
01:32:10,280 --> 01:32:18,080
Speaker 1: Ees slease, you've been gone everything, everything's been going wrong.

1729
01:32:21,200 --> 01:32:24,680
Speaker 3: Say good bye save look what.

1730
01:32:25,960 --> 01:32:29,880
Speaker 1: Me Okay, Okay, no I think I don't know. I

1731
01:32:30,000 --> 01:32:33,800
Speaker 1: got it. Okay, chance some loving from.

1732
01:32:37,560 --> 01:32:38,520
Speaker 3: I'm going.

1733
01:32:40,840 --> 01:32:41,200
Speaker 4: Range.

1734
01:32:42,520 --> 01:32:44,360
Speaker 1: It's all right, say taking delicious.

1735
01:32:44,680 --> 01:32:46,320
Speaker 7: I'm going die.

1736
01:32:48,960 --> 01:33:03,439
Speaker 1: You and I'm so oh yeah, I mean.

1737
01:33:06,080 --> 01:33:09,439
Speaker 3: I'm not doing. I'm going.

1738
01:33:12,439 --> 01:33:12,919
Speaker 1: Going.

1739
01:33:13,240 --> 01:33:17,000
Speaker 2: Don't, don't, don't do.

1740
01:33:18,720 --> 01:33:26,519
Speaker 1: Don't know what you mean? I ever know it.

1741
01:33:29,800 --> 01:33:55,839
Speaker 6: That, I'm sorry, I'm going I'm going doing.

1742
01:33:58,760 --> 01:34:10,160
Speaker 1: Baby, let me know my whole up sid so much pain?

1743
01:34:11,880 --> 01:34:13,240
Speaker 4: Yes, married.

1744
01:34:15,080 --> 01:34:19,120
Speaker 1: Married, honestly, we don't.

1745
01:34:19,200 --> 01:34:20,879
Speaker 4: I don't have a lot of favorite guests.

1746
01:34:25,160 --> 01:34:25,360
Speaker 2: Here.

1747
01:34:26,080 --> 01:34:27,320
Speaker 1: We love out here.

1748
01:34:28,240 --> 01:34:34,880
Speaker 2: He deious and we'll see y'all next week.

1749
01:34:35,000 --> 01:34:40,639
Speaker 1: By y'all. Bye, Raymond b B what is your friend?

1750
01:34:41,080 --> 01:34:44,599
Speaker 1: Put it in your bidio certified b b B Hello,

1751
01:34:46,640 --> 01:34:52,360
Speaker 1: Oh my god, y'all, but that is by he has to.

1752
01:34:52,600 --> 01:34:55,760
Speaker 1: He's gonna be like certified bd b X for mine

1753
01:34:55,920 --> 01:34:58,400
Speaker 1: here here because.

1754
01:35:00,520 --> 01:35:03,479
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, guys, dang it, I feel like I already

1755
01:35:03,479 --> 01:35:06,000
Speaker 2: got like ten thousand and clickingness.

1756
01:35:06,080 --> 01:35:08,479
Speaker 1: I would have been bragging out anything a little