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Speaker 1: Hey, hey, hey, we're back. We're black, We're brown ambition.

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Speaker 1: I wish I could really just see, like how the

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Speaker 1: moves did I bring to the table, because I feel

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Speaker 2: I'm envisioning them. I've seen them. You're a very good dancer.

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Speaker 2: I actually when I picture you is wrapped up in

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Speaker 2: a comforter in your bed telling Superman to stop walking

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Speaker 2: in during our podcast recording.

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Speaker 1: I'm like every time, and I just can't believe our

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Speaker 1: door creaks here too. I'm like, I thought we outgrew

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Speaker 1: the creaking door. No other door in the house creaks.

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Speaker 1: It's like they know that we do a podcast here.

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Speaker 1: It's like just a little creek.

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Speaker 2: How are you, mandra I can't complain. I can't complain,

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Speaker 2: long day at work, but I am so excited about

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Speaker 2: this weekend. I think we both have fun weekends coming

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Speaker 2: up here. You're turning feisty forty.

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Speaker 1: I'm not.

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Speaker 2: We're both missing epic milestones in one another's lives.

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Speaker 1: I know it makes me sad you're having the baby

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Speaker 2: The baby shower, but I'm also I feel like in

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Speaker 2: our alternate universes from each other. It's it's fun that

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Speaker 2: we're both having these really exciting major yeah, yeah, major weekends.

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Speaker 1: Major Yes. How many people are you expecting?

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Speaker 2: I don't know. My sister and my mom have actually

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Speaker 1: Party?

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Speaker 2: We're not doing because listen, I love all my friends.

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Speaker 2: They're beautiful, they have had beautiful children. I love all

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Speaker 2: their children. But I have been to so many boring

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Speaker 2: baby showers I and I can't. I don't even like

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Speaker 2: So I told my mom because you know, my husban's

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Speaker 2: and let's just have a party. So we are having

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Speaker 2: the party in Inwood in his family's backyard, not their

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Speaker 2: literal backyard, their neighborhood, in the neighborhood at a restaurant.

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Speaker 2: And it should be really fun, open bar. I think

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that sounds awesome and to see and that's why, well,

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Speaker 1: you know, we're having the party because it's my forties,

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Speaker 1: it should be a good time. We're expecting about forty

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Speaker 2: I mean, if you guys, you know, want the after party,

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it could be a right. I feel like no

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Speaker 2: No, those are my favorite, especially when it's your house

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Speaker 2: Yeah, if we could fit forty people in my house,

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Speaker 1: Tomorrow's my birthday, like my official birthday, so by the

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Speaker 2: That's not even including the people that I haven't sent

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Speaker 2: Isn't it funny that you talked about that epic trip

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's now like like the house is complete, I

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Speaker 1: I feel so happy in this house. It feels like

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Speaker 2: I'm happy for you. You rank Yeah, well, we would be remiss.

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Speaker 1: something that I'm doing, I try to put the ball

433
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Speaker 1: on their court to see like kind of like what

434
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Speaker 1: number they give, and then then I push up from

435
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Speaker 1: there because you'd be surprised. There's been times when I'm like, wait,

436
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Speaker 1: what how much? I was gonna say half.

437
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Speaker 2: That, but okay, you know so, no exactly.

438
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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's good advice.

439
00:21:50,600 --> 00:21:53,000
Speaker 2: And I've seen too many people take the first offer

440
00:21:53,080 --> 00:21:57,680
Speaker 2: too quickly, too quickly. I mean good again, good for us.

441
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Speaker 2: I'm like playing two roles here. I love as a

442
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Speaker 2: high are your manager. You want it to be an

443
00:22:01,960 --> 00:22:06,680
Speaker 2: easy negotiation because it makes things move faster. There's less paperwork,

444
00:22:06,720 --> 00:22:08,439
Speaker 2: there's less back and forth, you don't have to get

445
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Speaker 2: special approvals. But at the same time, I will never

446
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Speaker 2: not negotiate myself, knowing what I know now being on

447
00:22:16,680 --> 00:22:19,480
Speaker 2: this side of things, and I wish I could reach

448
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Speaker 2: across the table to people, although I want in my position,

449
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Speaker 2: I wouldn't do that if I were the one hiring

450
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Speaker 2: and just say, please ask for more, just ask.

451
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Speaker 1: For more, just do it.

452
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Speaker 2: Make me work for it, make me work for it,

453
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Speaker 2: you know.

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Speaker 1: So.

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Speaker 2: But excellent question, and good luck with the job search.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, so it's a good times the job search too.

457
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Speaker 1: Because I didn't you say it's a good market. I'm

458
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Speaker 1: not sure, like, because I know I'm hiring and we're

459
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Speaker 1: always hired for something I feel like, But I feel like,

460
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Speaker 1: is how is it out there in the general market,

461
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Speaker 1: in the real world.

462
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Speaker 2: What are you trying to say with the with the

463
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Speaker 2: commonas no, well, definitely, I mean, unemployment is still at

464
00:22:56,640 --> 00:22:58,760
Speaker 2: record lows. But what's happening is you know, you know

465
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Speaker 2: all that talk a couple of months ago was it

466
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Speaker 2: of like the next recession. It feels like every two

467
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Speaker 2: months as someone's like, this is it, guys, the recession's coming.

468
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Speaker 1: Well.

469
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Speaker 2: The reason that talk of one of the biggest reasons

470
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Speaker 2: we were starting to have that fear crop up this

471
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Speaker 2: past summer was because in a lot of public company reports,

472
00:23:16,960 --> 00:23:18,800
Speaker 2: you know, they have to come out every quarter and

473
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Speaker 2: say here's how we're doing, here's where we spent our money,

474
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Speaker 2: here's how much debt we have, et cetera. The message

475
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Speaker 2: that we were getting from a lot of big companies

476
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Speaker 2: was they were pulling back their investment in labor, which

477
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Speaker 2: means they're pulling back new hires. You know, they see

478
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Speaker 2: that they've been on like something of a hiring spree

479
00:23:36,600 --> 00:23:39,040
Speaker 2: for the past year whatever, the past few years, and

480
00:23:39,080 --> 00:23:41,280
Speaker 2: they're like, Okay, we're going to scale things back, and

481
00:23:41,320 --> 00:23:43,600
Speaker 2: now is a signal that the labor market could be softening,

482
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Speaker 2: that there aren't that many there won't be that there

483
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Speaker 2: won't be that much investment in people in the future,

484
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Speaker 2: and that kind of cost them of the worry. That

485
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Speaker 2: being said, though, there's still tons of jobs out there,

486
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Speaker 2: Like there's some industries that are begging for people to

487
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Speaker 2: apply because they can't find and I know, as it's

488
00:24:00,200 --> 00:24:03,000
Speaker 2: anytime someone quits on my team, I'm just like, oh god,

489
00:24:03,160 --> 00:24:04,480
Speaker 2: here it goes a two month process.

490
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Speaker 1: You know.

491
00:24:04,720 --> 00:24:07,840
Speaker 2: It's it's hard because a lot of people have jobs

492
00:24:07,880 --> 00:24:10,480
Speaker 2: and it takes more time and longer to find them

493
00:24:10,480 --> 00:24:14,560
Speaker 2: and poach them. Yep, but it does happen shockingly when

494
00:24:14,560 --> 00:24:16,440
Speaker 2: they are unemployed and they're just you know, out there

495
00:24:16,720 --> 00:24:20,000
Speaker 2: waiting for you to pluck them up. So yeah, I

496
00:24:20,040 --> 00:24:21,879
Speaker 2: still think it's a good market if you're employed, but

497
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Speaker 2: just keep that in mind, Like companies are beginning to

498
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Speaker 2: be a little bit more conservative, so you may not

499
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Speaker 2: be getting you may not have quite as much leverage

500
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Speaker 2: as you did, you know, even six months ago, a

501
00:24:33,840 --> 00:24:37,080
Speaker 2: year ago when it comes to negotiating, if those companies

502
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Speaker 2: are tightening up their purse strengths when it comes to

503
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Speaker 2: the cost of labor.

504
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Speaker 1: But it's always good to like, I mean, you're out

505
00:24:41,240 --> 00:24:44,520
Speaker 1: there getting looking for a job, Mandy's giving you good advice.

506
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Speaker 1: Try to walk in confidence. Be really clear to me.

507
00:24:48,560 --> 00:24:51,840
Speaker 1: You should be clear about what your strengths are, because

508
00:24:52,080 --> 00:24:53,639
Speaker 1: that's what I look for, Like, you know, like what

509
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Speaker 1: do you feel your strengths are. I mean, we're all

510
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Speaker 1: NERVERU storing an interview, but I'm looking to see if

511
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Speaker 1: you know what your strengths are and like you're clear

512
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Speaker 1: about what you can bring to the table, because yes,

513
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Speaker 1: I know that there's something that I'm wanting, but I'm

514
00:25:05,520 --> 00:25:07,919
Speaker 1: always looking for someone who's like, yes, I can do

515
00:25:07,960 --> 00:25:10,119
Speaker 1: the one thing that you're hiring for, but do you

516
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Speaker 1: know I also dot dot di And I'm like, really,

517
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Speaker 1: I would honestly say most people that I've hired, they've

518
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Speaker 1: come with this extra set of skills and I'm like, oh,

519
00:25:18,320 --> 00:25:21,080
Speaker 1: that's awesome, And in my mind, I'm thinking, you know,

520
00:25:21,119 --> 00:25:22,840
Speaker 1: we could tap into that later, although I need you

521
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Speaker 1: for this one thing.

522
00:25:25,640 --> 00:25:28,040
Speaker 2: No, exactly one hundred percent agree.

523
00:25:29,160 --> 00:25:30,439
Speaker 1: Okay, more question.

524
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Speaker 2: All right, let's take another career question. Also, this person

525
00:25:34,359 --> 00:25:36,359
Speaker 2: hit hates on Atlanta, so we need to we need

526
00:25:36,400 --> 00:25:40,200
Speaker 2: to have beef, all right. So Instagram user says, call

527
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Speaker 2: me Nakia from Black Panther. Okay, got it, Nakia, I

528
00:25:43,760 --> 00:25:46,080
Speaker 2: am seeking some career Advice. I'm twenty five years old

529
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Speaker 2: and I live in Charlotte, North Carolina. Previously, I was

530
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Speaker 2: a mortgage loan officer making almost six figures. However, I

531
00:25:51,920 --> 00:25:54,800
Speaker 2: wanted to get out of mortgage sales, so I transition

532
00:25:54,920 --> 00:25:58,360
Speaker 2: into commercial lending and now have an analytical role where

533
00:25:58,400 --> 00:26:01,440
Speaker 2: I'm actually making less. The money isn't the issue though.

534
00:26:01,480 --> 00:26:03,840
Speaker 2: With the new job, I had to relocate to atl

535
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Speaker 2: which was originally supposed to be temporary, but now it's

536
00:26:07,240 --> 00:26:10,359
Speaker 2: looking like it may be permanent. I really enjoy my job,

537
00:26:10,480 --> 00:26:14,040
Speaker 2: but the thing is I hate Atlanta. Sorry, Mandy, It's okay.

538
00:26:15,200 --> 00:26:18,840
Speaker 2: I mean Charlotte ain't that great, but whatever. My company

539
00:26:18,880 --> 00:26:20,960
Speaker 2: is going through a merger and will now be offering

540
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Speaker 2: a pension. If you were me, would you stick it

541
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Speaker 2: out to get the pension in the city you hate,

542
00:26:26,040 --> 00:26:27,960
Speaker 2: or would you accept an offer to go back into

543
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Speaker 2: mortgage sales just to get back to Charlotte. For more context,

544
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Speaker 2: I own a home in Charlotte. Plus my longtime boyfriend

545
00:26:34,600 --> 00:26:40,359
Speaker 2: of three years is still in Charlotte. Uh, I feel

546
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Speaker 2: like go to Charlotte. I'm going to say that, like,

547
00:26:43,760 --> 00:26:46,040
Speaker 2: I mean, a pension's nice, but it has you need

548
00:26:46,080 --> 00:26:47,840
Speaker 2: to like work there for a long time to qualify

549
00:26:47,920 --> 00:26:51,480
Speaker 2: for it. Probably, you know, they could, I don't know.

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Speaker 2: It just seems like you have so much of a

551
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Speaker 2: life in Charlotte.

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00:26:54,400 --> 00:26:56,159
Speaker 1: Yeah, and also too, I mean this is I mean

553
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Speaker 1: it's not common, but I definitely have heard of like

554
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Speaker 1: cases where you know, a company has run out of money,

555
00:27:01,680 --> 00:27:03,840
Speaker 1: so their pension has bank was bankrupt so they weren't

556
00:27:03,840 --> 00:27:05,959
Speaker 1: able to pay out anymore. I would hate for you

557
00:27:06,040 --> 00:27:11,200
Speaker 1: to wrap your whole life in choices around this pension

558
00:27:11,880 --> 00:27:15,280
Speaker 1: when there's nothing that's guaranteed. And I just think you

559
00:27:15,320 --> 00:27:17,280
Speaker 1: should just go for the life that you want now,

560
00:27:17,840 --> 00:27:22,320
Speaker 1: not necessarily like hopefully somehow maybe especially since you can

561
00:27:22,400 --> 00:27:25,159
Speaker 1: just kind of create your own pension by having a

562
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Speaker 1: retirement account that you put money into. Yeah.

563
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Speaker 2: Absolutely, And you know, a pension it almost for it's

564
00:27:33,560 --> 00:27:35,719
Speaker 2: so old school. I'm surprised or even adding a pension now,

565
00:27:35,760 --> 00:27:38,080
Speaker 2: it's very surprising to me. But it also I think

566
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Speaker 2: it creates a sense of, oh, I'm loyal to the company,

567
00:27:40,920 --> 00:27:43,159
Speaker 2: I'm gonna stay here because I have this pension, and

568
00:27:43,200 --> 00:27:45,119
Speaker 2: you're kind of and TIFFs right, you can create your

569
00:27:45,119 --> 00:27:48,359
Speaker 2: own pension easily by investing your own and you're on

570
00:27:48,760 --> 00:27:50,720
Speaker 2: You're only twenty five, so.

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00:27:50,840 --> 00:27:52,719
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, girl, you do not want that pension by

572
00:27:52,760 --> 00:27:54,840
Speaker 1: the time, it's usually like twenty five years, So you're

573
00:27:54,840 --> 00:27:58,359
Speaker 1: gonna stay in Atlanta for twenty five years. So you

574
00:27:58,359 --> 00:28:03,720
Speaker 1: could be like, I've got a pench No boom right,

575
00:28:04,000 --> 00:28:06,520
Speaker 1: you got should boo your house, your life. You don't

576
00:28:06,560 --> 00:28:10,040
Speaker 1: like Atlanta. So you're super young. I don't want you

577
00:28:10,080 --> 00:28:14,600
Speaker 1: to like make choices, especially when you're really young. You know,

578
00:28:14,800 --> 00:28:16,840
Speaker 1: now is the time to make choices that are really

579
00:28:16,880 --> 00:28:18,919
Speaker 1: in alignment with how you want to live your life.

580
00:28:19,040 --> 00:28:20,560
Speaker 1: As you get a little bit older and you have

581
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Speaker 1: other responsibilities you have to take into account kids and

582
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Speaker 1: maybe you know your your significant other as far as

583
00:28:27,040 --> 00:28:29,679
Speaker 1: like marriage concerned and some other things. But when you're

584
00:28:29,720 --> 00:28:32,440
Speaker 1: super young, you really have more flexibility to just be like,

585
00:28:32,480 --> 00:28:33,600
Speaker 1: I just want to do it because that's what I

586
00:28:33,600 --> 00:28:36,160
Speaker 1: feel like, like, take advantage of that, lean into that.

587
00:28:36,640 --> 00:28:38,920
Speaker 2: And I would just congratulate you on doing what you

588
00:28:38,920 --> 00:28:40,920
Speaker 2: should do in your twenties, which is making a career

589
00:28:40,960 --> 00:28:43,440
Speaker 2: pivot because you have such like you don't have strings

590
00:28:43,440 --> 00:28:45,040
Speaker 2: attached right now, you don't have a family that you're

591
00:28:45,120 --> 00:28:47,840
Speaker 2: dragging around with you you have the opportunity to shift

592
00:28:47,840 --> 00:28:50,600
Speaker 2: and pivot, try something different because you realize, oh, this

593
00:28:50,640 --> 00:28:52,760
Speaker 2: first job that I have I'm not happy with. So

594
00:28:52,840 --> 00:28:55,600
Speaker 2: you're really brave to take this new opportunity and try

595
00:28:55,600 --> 00:28:57,880
Speaker 2: something different. And what if you learned you love your

596
00:28:57,920 --> 00:28:59,680
Speaker 2: new job, you just don't love where you are. So

597
00:28:59,760 --> 00:29:02,240
Speaker 2: let's pivot to a different location and see if you

598
00:29:02,240 --> 00:29:04,880
Speaker 2: can get a job in Charlotte. I know you probably can.

599
00:29:05,040 --> 00:29:07,800
Speaker 2: Like Charlotte's popping right now, there's the banking industry is

600
00:29:07,880 --> 00:29:10,680
Speaker 2: huge in Charlotte. Actually, my company is based in Charlotte.

601
00:29:10,840 --> 00:29:14,480
Speaker 2: There's so many financial institutions, Bank of America, allies in Charlotte.

602
00:29:14,520 --> 00:29:16,360
Speaker 2: I mean, and they all got you know, I got

603
00:29:16,360 --> 00:29:18,920
Speaker 2: my mortgage through Ally. I know they offer mortgages. So

604
00:29:19,000 --> 00:29:22,000
Speaker 2: maybe there is a job waiting for you in Charlotte

605
00:29:22,040 --> 00:29:24,560
Speaker 2: that now that you know what you love doing, you

606
00:29:24,600 --> 00:29:26,800
Speaker 2: can get everything you know, or at least a few

607
00:29:26,800 --> 00:29:29,960
Speaker 2: things that you want. Get your booth, an, get your house,

608
00:29:30,200 --> 00:29:31,920
Speaker 2: and get the job that you're really happy with in

609
00:29:31,960 --> 00:29:33,160
Speaker 2: the place where your happiest.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, go back to Charlotte.

611
00:29:35,840 --> 00:29:37,160
Speaker 2: Go back to Charlotte.

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00:29:37,600 --> 00:29:40,880
Speaker 1: So those are great questions. Honestly, I love when you

613
00:29:40,920 --> 00:29:47,240
Speaker 1: guys ask us questions about career, about your home, about finances. Honestly,

614
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Speaker 1: me and Mandy love answering all of them, so keep

615
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Speaker 1: them coming. And now it's time boys and girls, well

616
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Speaker 1: mostly girls, for that part of our segment where it's

617
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Speaker 1: time to boost to break. Maybe are you going to

618
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Speaker 1: boost or are you going to break?

619
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Speaker 2: There were so many personalities you just shifted through it.

620
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Speaker 2: I did.

621
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Speaker 1: I was trying to decide if I was gonna break

622
00:30:22,000 --> 00:30:22,680
Speaker 1: out the song.

623
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Speaker 2: And then I was like, you know what, No, I'm

624
00:30:24,520 --> 00:30:28,040
Speaker 2: not gonna You went with like game show hosts, Okay,

625
00:30:28,680 --> 00:30:30,520
Speaker 2: I want to do a boost. I want to do

626
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Speaker 2: a boost real quick. Well a boost and a break again.

627
00:30:32,520 --> 00:30:35,000
Speaker 2: I just am so conflicted. So the boost is I

628
00:30:35,080 --> 00:30:38,000
Speaker 2: discovered through my insurance plan because I was poking around

629
00:30:38,080 --> 00:30:41,560
Speaker 2: the website for my insurance and looking really hard for

630
00:30:41,640 --> 00:30:46,920
Speaker 2: like benefits for prenatal care or new parent care or

631
00:30:46,960 --> 00:30:49,520
Speaker 2: anything like that, and I found out I could get

632
00:30:49,520 --> 00:30:53,400
Speaker 2: a free two hundred dollars breast pump with a huge

633
00:30:53,440 --> 00:30:56,280
Speaker 2: supply of bags, which I have heard from moms are

634
00:30:56,400 --> 00:30:58,160
Speaker 2: very important. It's very important to have the bags. I

635
00:30:58,160 --> 00:31:00,080
Speaker 2: don't know what they're for. I'm assuming to catch the

636
00:31:00,160 --> 00:31:03,360
Speaker 2: receptacle for the milk. But whatever, I'm learning, I just

637
00:31:03,360 --> 00:31:06,800
Speaker 2: save two hundred dollars by getting this from through my insurance.

638
00:31:06,880 --> 00:31:09,880
Speaker 2: And that's true, right, And I literally just call the number.

639
00:31:10,080 --> 00:31:12,560
Speaker 2: It was through CBS care Mark. I was like, hello,

640
00:31:12,880 --> 00:31:14,600
Speaker 2: I heard I could get a free breast pump. They

641
00:31:14,600 --> 00:31:17,720
Speaker 2: were like, yes, you can, ma'am right, and they shipped

642
00:31:17,760 --> 00:31:20,680
Speaker 2: it to me in less than a week. And I

643
00:31:20,680 --> 00:31:23,520
Speaker 2: I'm like, do more people like if you are a

644
00:31:23,560 --> 00:31:26,440
Speaker 2: new parent or I don't know, if you just look

645
00:31:26,440 --> 00:31:28,520
Speaker 2: at your insurance and see what freebies you have. I

646
00:31:28,520 --> 00:31:30,800
Speaker 2: found out I can, I could. I could have gotten

647
00:31:30,840 --> 00:31:34,000
Speaker 2: reimbursed for some of the prenatal yoga classes that I've done.

648
00:31:34,560 --> 00:31:37,520
Speaker 2: So I'm trying to get that, uh, get that, get

649
00:31:37,520 --> 00:31:40,400
Speaker 2: those wheels into motion. And then I found out that

650
00:31:40,400 --> 00:31:41,800
Speaker 2: I can. I was about to sign up for a

651
00:31:41,840 --> 00:31:45,240
Speaker 2: breastfeeding and lactation class. I can get I can get

652
00:31:45,240 --> 00:31:47,360
Speaker 2: that reimbursed if I if I use the right kind

653
00:31:47,360 --> 00:31:50,120
Speaker 2: of consultant or whatever. Just like they don't send you

654
00:31:50,160 --> 00:31:52,120
Speaker 2: a packet in the mail when you become pregnant with

655
00:31:52,120 --> 00:31:54,640
Speaker 2: all this information. You have to really go digging for it.

656
00:31:54,680 --> 00:31:57,720
Speaker 2: So the boost is for the freebies. The break is

657
00:31:57,760 --> 00:32:00,360
Speaker 2: for they don't make it easy for you to find them.

658
00:32:00,760 --> 00:32:03,480
Speaker 2: But as someone who has been paying for insurance for

659
00:32:04,000 --> 00:32:06,000
Speaker 2: I don't know, over a decade now on my own

660
00:32:06,600 --> 00:32:08,800
Speaker 2: and never like I never really use insurance, I don't

661
00:32:08,800 --> 00:32:11,120
Speaker 2: really just stick that off and knock on wood. You know,

662
00:32:11,160 --> 00:32:12,840
Speaker 2: I don't go to the doctor that much. I just

663
00:32:12,880 --> 00:32:15,440
Speaker 2: pay because it's smart to have it. And I'm like, Okay,

664
00:32:15,480 --> 00:32:18,360
Speaker 2: finally I have reason to take advantage of full advantage

665
00:32:18,400 --> 00:32:21,640
Speaker 2: of my benefits. And I'm just finding out that they

666
00:32:21,680 --> 00:32:23,680
Speaker 2: don't always make it super easy for you to find that.

667
00:32:23,840 --> 00:32:26,120
Speaker 2: But I encourage all of you guys to read that

668
00:32:26,200 --> 00:32:27,360
Speaker 2: fine print and see what kind of.

669
00:32:27,360 --> 00:32:30,160
Speaker 1: Freebies you could have super smart. I knew about the

670
00:32:30,160 --> 00:32:32,160
Speaker 1: breast pumpt is because my sister, I think, got one

671
00:32:33,440 --> 00:32:35,040
Speaker 1: because she found out. Yeah, she found out through a

672
00:32:35,040 --> 00:32:37,080
Speaker 1: friend of hers, and I was like, oh, that's really good.

673
00:32:37,400 --> 00:32:40,440
Speaker 1: But you're right. There are a ton of resources that

674
00:32:40,520 --> 00:32:44,880
Speaker 1: you can get if you would only know and lean in. Honestly,

675
00:32:44,920 --> 00:32:48,080
Speaker 1: it's one of the things. I'm my best friend Linda.

676
00:32:48,640 --> 00:32:52,840
Speaker 1: She is a social worker, and when I tell you,

677
00:32:52,920 --> 00:32:56,479
Speaker 1: so many people reach out to her because you know,

678
00:32:56,640 --> 00:32:59,320
Speaker 1: maybe they've been told one thing or another, like she's

679
00:32:59,360 --> 00:33:03,680
Speaker 1: had so many people get the resources that they're entitled

680
00:33:03,720 --> 00:33:06,840
Speaker 1: through their insurance, I mean everything from I knew a

681
00:33:06,920 --> 00:33:10,680
Speaker 1: woman who had steps, but she had she's had really

682
00:33:10,720 --> 00:33:13,760
Speaker 1: bad diabetes, so she was in a wheelchair and literally

683
00:33:13,800 --> 00:33:15,520
Speaker 1: her neighbors every time she wanted to leave the house,

684
00:33:15,600 --> 00:33:18,040
Speaker 1: her neighbors, who were young guys, would have to carry

685
00:33:18,080 --> 00:33:20,720
Speaker 1: her down the steps for her to get to where

686
00:33:20,760 --> 00:33:24,120
Speaker 1: she's going. She Linda was like, no, you get a ramp,

687
00:33:24,240 --> 00:33:28,720
Speaker 1: got her a ramp, got her home, aid to take

688
00:33:28,760 --> 00:33:32,840
Speaker 1: her food shopping, and got like some other resources that

689
00:33:32,840 --> 00:33:35,080
Speaker 1: she was like, no, it comes along with your insurance,

690
00:33:35,640 --> 00:33:37,440
Speaker 1: and so you just would be surprised. I wish And

691
00:33:37,480 --> 00:33:38,680
Speaker 1: I told Helyn that one of the things I want

692
00:33:38,680 --> 00:33:41,760
Speaker 1: to do is to like do some lives with her

693
00:33:41,840 --> 00:33:44,960
Speaker 1: so she can share some of the things that you

694
00:33:45,080 --> 00:33:48,320
Speaker 1: might qualify for that you don't even know because people

695
00:33:48,360 --> 00:33:51,280
Speaker 1: don't know to ask. And because she's, like I said,

696
00:33:51,280 --> 00:33:53,120
Speaker 1: a social worker and she's worked in that environment for

697
00:33:53,120 --> 00:33:55,640
Speaker 1: so long, she knows how to advocate on folks behind.

698
00:33:55,680 --> 00:33:59,000
Speaker 1: But sometimes it's just it's just asking like hey, is

699
00:33:59,040 --> 00:34:04,040
Speaker 1: there like is there a resource available? Oh? Sure, Like like,

700
00:34:04,080 --> 00:34:07,400
Speaker 1: there's a resource my nephew. My sister uses a program

701
00:34:07,400 --> 00:34:12,160
Speaker 1: for parents and it greatly reduced how much her how

702
00:34:12,239 --> 00:34:15,640
Speaker 1: much she paid for your childcare, like significantly, almost in half,

703
00:34:16,760 --> 00:34:19,640
Speaker 1: And I didn't know. I was like, oh, wow, that's awesome.

704
00:34:19,719 --> 00:34:22,680
Speaker 1: So there's just honestly, there's just so many awesome resources

705
00:34:22,680 --> 00:34:24,360
Speaker 1: out there that you have available to you that you

706
00:34:24,440 --> 00:34:26,680
Speaker 1: might not know. So typically, I just hit up Linda.

707
00:34:26,960 --> 00:34:28,320
Speaker 1: I told her she needs to start a company and

708
00:34:28,360 --> 00:34:31,200
Speaker 1: I already named it the on call Advocate. But Linda

709
00:34:31,239 --> 00:34:33,360
Speaker 1: is so like, no, No'm I just helping. I'm like, Linda,

710
00:34:34,120 --> 00:34:36,560
Speaker 1: start a company. People can call you and you can

711
00:34:36,560 --> 00:34:38,560
Speaker 1: help walk them through the resources that they have available

712
00:34:38,560 --> 00:34:39,719
Speaker 1: to them. People would pay for that.

713
00:34:40,320 --> 00:34:42,960
Speaker 2: Find your Linda, people, find your Linda in your task

714
00:34:43,560 --> 00:34:45,440
Speaker 2: in your town or city or state where you have

715
00:34:45,480 --> 00:34:47,879
Speaker 2: state specific benefits. I found out stuff about New York

716
00:34:47,920 --> 00:34:51,120
Speaker 2: City New York state disability benefits like might be more

717
00:34:51,160 --> 00:34:54,480
Speaker 2: generous than I thought as far as covering my parental leave.

718
00:34:54,520 --> 00:34:56,359
Speaker 2: And I was like, I'm figuring all that out. They

719
00:34:56,360 --> 00:34:59,040
Speaker 2: don't make it easy. I'm in Like I had to

720
00:34:59,040 --> 00:35:00,719
Speaker 2: tell the person I talked from the phone about my

721
00:35:01,360 --> 00:35:02,759
Speaker 2: I was trying to sign up for my short term

722
00:35:02,800 --> 00:35:05,200
Speaker 2: disability benefits, you know, for when I'm on leave, and

723
00:35:05,239 --> 00:35:07,600
Speaker 2: I got super confused, but she was like, we're gonna figure.

724
00:35:07,640 --> 00:35:09,719
Speaker 2: I'm gonna I have another call with her. I have

725
00:35:09,719 --> 00:35:11,680
Speaker 2: a call with my HR department to fix because I'm

726
00:35:11,680 --> 00:35:15,439
Speaker 2: gonna get every penny I possibly possibly can. And I'll

727
00:35:15,440 --> 00:35:17,160
Speaker 2: tell you, guys, how I make that happen.

728
00:35:17,719 --> 00:35:18,959
Speaker 1: Good.

729
00:35:19,360 --> 00:35:21,759
Speaker 2: We all need a Linda, Yeah, we do.

730
00:35:21,960 --> 00:35:24,080
Speaker 1: We do in so many ways. This is a good

731
00:35:24,080 --> 00:35:24,840
Speaker 1: person in general.

732
00:35:24,920 --> 00:35:25,680
Speaker 2: I just have Google.

733
00:35:26,600 --> 00:35:31,640
Speaker 1: Yah, So I am actually gotta do a little bit

734
00:35:31,640 --> 00:35:34,480
Speaker 1: about Booz. I'm trying to see if I can find the post.

735
00:35:34,480 --> 00:35:37,879
Speaker 1: So I don't know if you saw this post circulating love.

736
00:35:37,920 --> 00:35:40,160
Speaker 1: He actually had it in her in her stories, but

737
00:35:40,200 --> 00:35:43,399
Speaker 1: it's like circulating everywhere. Okay, here it is. Snoop Dogg

738
00:35:43,600 --> 00:35:48,520
Speaker 1: posted a picture of Gucci Man, who is a famous

739
00:35:48,800 --> 00:35:52,120
Speaker 1: rapper if you're not aware, in his wife, who he

740
00:35:52,160 --> 00:35:54,439
Speaker 1: married a year or so ago, a couple of years ago.

741
00:35:54,880 --> 00:35:58,120
Speaker 1: So anyway, he posted a picture of them, I guess

742
00:35:58,120 --> 00:36:01,200
Speaker 1: at their wedding, and he wrote, he wrote, everyone wants this,

743
00:36:01,560 --> 00:36:04,760
Speaker 1: but what y'all forget is she was with Wild Gucci

744
00:36:05,239 --> 00:36:09,239
Speaker 1: on drugs, Gucci cheating, Gucci in jail, Gucci publicly with

745
00:36:09,320 --> 00:36:14,160
Speaker 1: other women, Gucci. This is Gucci after therapy, rehabilitation, this

746
00:36:14,280 --> 00:36:18,560
Speaker 1: is This is a street man, groomed in his thirties

747
00:36:18,600 --> 00:36:22,440
Speaker 1: after he's been at his lowest point. The point is,

748
00:36:22,960 --> 00:36:25,239
Speaker 1: she's a writer who knew what she signed up for.

749
00:36:25,560 --> 00:36:29,359
Speaker 1: Some of you women is with the next dude after

750
00:36:29,360 --> 00:36:32,680
Speaker 1: a couple of fights, and I'm like, who wants drug

751
00:36:32,719 --> 00:36:36,000
Speaker 1: Gucci cheating Gucci, jail, Gucci publicly with Gucci.

752
00:36:39,000 --> 00:36:43,520
Speaker 2: If I were this woman, I'd be like, uh, thank.

753
00:36:43,440 --> 00:36:47,800
Speaker 1: You, because you know what, it's so crazy how women

754
00:36:47,960 --> 00:36:50,120
Speaker 1: it's like that that theory that women should ride or die?

755
00:36:50,280 --> 00:36:53,799
Speaker 1: Why I got to die? Like why is that even

756
00:36:53,840 --> 00:36:58,000
Speaker 1: on the table? That I just want that people stop

757
00:36:58,080 --> 00:37:00,719
Speaker 1: telling women that they should and not just women, but

758
00:37:00,760 --> 00:37:03,400
Speaker 1: I guess meant too that somehow you should put up

759
00:37:03,440 --> 00:37:08,160
Speaker 1: with all of this toxic energy and the hopes that

760
00:37:08,200 --> 00:37:10,799
Speaker 1: this person turns around, because that makes you a writer.

761
00:37:11,200 --> 00:37:13,640
Speaker 1: So what if Gucci never got into jail? What if

762
00:37:13,680 --> 00:37:16,080
Speaker 1: Gucci died from drugs? What if? So, then what would

763
00:37:16,120 --> 00:37:20,640
Speaker 1: have life have been? Yes, he turned it around, but honestly,

764
00:37:21,000 --> 00:37:23,319
Speaker 1: the likely it wasn't in his favor. Let's be real,

765
00:37:23,840 --> 00:37:26,879
Speaker 1: like to me, she put up with too much. That's

766
00:37:26,920 --> 00:37:30,279
Speaker 1: too much. Like I just don't understand, and I don't

767
00:37:30,320 --> 00:37:33,759
Speaker 1: understand how a man with daughters, because Snoop Dogg I

768
00:37:33,800 --> 00:37:36,200
Speaker 1: believe has at least one daughter could share that. Is

769
00:37:36,200 --> 00:37:37,879
Speaker 1: that what you want for your daughter to be with

770
00:37:38,560 --> 00:37:43,440
Speaker 1: someone who is cheating, drug addicted goes to jail because

771
00:37:43,480 --> 00:37:45,480
Speaker 1: of poor choice? Is that what you're wanting for your daughter?

772
00:37:45,520 --> 00:37:47,879
Speaker 1: Are you going to tell her? Hey, stick it out?

773
00:37:48,239 --> 00:37:52,000
Speaker 1: The Snoop Dogg right like writes underneath it that something

774
00:37:52,040 --> 00:37:54,359
Speaker 1: to the effect that, like, you know, I basically put

775
00:37:54,360 --> 00:37:57,520
Speaker 1: my wife through something similar. She's my secret weapon because

776
00:37:57,560 --> 00:38:04,920
Speaker 1: I remember, like I remember seeing how that that swoop

777
00:38:05,000 --> 00:38:06,840
Speaker 1: dog like you know, he is like a whole separate

778
00:38:06,880 --> 00:38:09,520
Speaker 1: house where he can keep his concubines, and that he

779
00:38:09,560 --> 00:38:11,719
Speaker 1: cheats on his wife left and right. But what is

780
00:38:13,280 --> 00:38:16,520
Speaker 1: what is that? I just don't understand. Yeah, so that

781
00:38:16,640 --> 00:38:19,040
Speaker 1: is my brown break. Sometime women to settle for the

782
00:38:19,080 --> 00:38:21,120
Speaker 1: worst of the worst of the worst in hopes that

783
00:38:21,200 --> 00:38:23,480
Speaker 1: maybe one day this man turns it around. Because guess what,

784
00:38:23,520 --> 00:38:25,399
Speaker 1: there are men out there who don't cheat, who don't

785
00:38:25,400 --> 00:38:29,120
Speaker 1: mistreat their wives, who don't who are not on drugs,

786
00:38:29,160 --> 00:38:31,600
Speaker 1: who are who are not making choices that would place

787
00:38:31,640 --> 00:38:34,319
Speaker 1: them in jail, who are not making choices that would

788
00:38:34,440 --> 00:38:37,640
Speaker 1: place their wife or their significant other in harm's way.

789
00:38:38,120 --> 00:38:40,360
Speaker 1: You don't have to that's you don't have to settle

790
00:38:40,400 --> 00:38:43,440
Speaker 1: for that, Like why because Gucci man has money? What

791
00:38:43,480 --> 00:38:46,160
Speaker 1: does that even mean? So? Yeah, it's just I'm so

792
00:38:46,239 --> 00:38:49,080
Speaker 1: tired of that, of that that somehow, because especially geared

793
00:38:49,080 --> 00:38:52,640
Speaker 1: toward women of color, especially black women, that narrative and

794
00:38:52,680 --> 00:38:55,640
Speaker 1: as if somehow we don't support our men enough, if

795
00:38:55,719 --> 00:38:58,799
Speaker 1: we don't put up with and it's one thing like

796
00:38:58,840 --> 00:39:02,359
Speaker 1: you know, I believe it, you know, working it out

797
00:39:02,400 --> 00:39:04,800
Speaker 1: with your significant other through like oh you maybe therapy,

798
00:39:04,920 --> 00:39:08,280
Speaker 1: this is that, but not when it's like dangerous toxic behavior.

799
00:39:08,440 --> 00:39:11,239
Speaker 2: Since right, I will say, I mean, and how many

800
00:39:11,280 --> 00:39:12,879
Speaker 2: of us are the friends of people that you've seen?

801
00:39:12,960 --> 00:39:16,200
Speaker 2: Do you know, stay with people who treat them badly

802
00:39:16,400 --> 00:39:20,640
Speaker 2: or you know, stay with people who are not ultimately

803
00:39:20,920 --> 00:39:23,319
Speaker 2: good for them or contributing to their life. And it's

804
00:39:23,320 --> 00:39:25,200
Speaker 2: really hard to be that friend, right, It's really hard

805
00:39:25,200 --> 00:39:28,840
Speaker 2: to be that sister or that cousin because you're always

806
00:39:28,880 --> 00:39:29,840
Speaker 2: in that awkward position.

807
00:39:30,440 --> 00:39:32,200
Speaker 1: Yes, And sometimes you just want to be like because

808
00:39:32,200 --> 00:39:33,719
Speaker 1: you want to say like it's not good for you

809
00:39:33,840 --> 00:39:37,359
Speaker 1: or this is not healthy, and it's hard when someone's like,

810
00:39:37,400 --> 00:39:39,120
Speaker 1: you know, vacillating or they're just like, no, this is

811
00:39:39,120 --> 00:39:41,399
Speaker 1: where I want to be. I just I just want

812
00:39:41,400 --> 00:39:43,520
Speaker 1: that that's not what we teach our young women, our

813
00:39:43,600 --> 00:39:47,120
Speaker 1: older women, our girls. I just want that, you know

814
00:39:47,239 --> 00:39:50,600
Speaker 1: that you don't there really is. To me, there's a

815
00:39:50,719 --> 00:39:53,960
Speaker 1: narrative out there that men are bad and then you

816
00:39:54,040 --> 00:39:57,279
Speaker 1: just have to choose the lesser of the evils when

817
00:39:57,320 --> 00:39:59,520
Speaker 1: it comes to men. And I'm like, that's just not true.

818
00:39:59,560 --> 00:40:03,000
Speaker 1: I know so many good men, you know. Yeah, Like

819
00:40:03,320 --> 00:40:05,279
Speaker 1: I know so many good men, and I wish that

820
00:40:05,280 --> 00:40:08,279
Speaker 1: that wasn't that wasn't the story that people put out

821
00:40:08,280 --> 00:40:11,680
Speaker 1: there that Oh I was watching something like like you see,

822
00:40:11,680 --> 00:40:15,200
Speaker 1: I'm so totally into like random pop culture. Recently, I

823
00:40:15,239 --> 00:40:17,719
Speaker 1: was watching some interview with Kate Michelle and basically that's

824
00:40:17,719 --> 00:40:19,799
Speaker 1: what she said, like, you know, men are bad. Men

825
00:40:19,840 --> 00:40:21,799
Speaker 1: are bad people. They cheat. You just gotta find one

826
00:40:21,800 --> 00:40:23,720
Speaker 1: that doesn't cheat as much or that's not as obvious.

827
00:40:23,760 --> 00:40:28,840
Speaker 1: And I'm like, that's not true. That's just not true. Yeah, yeah,

828
00:40:28,880 --> 00:40:30,719
Speaker 1: it is, said I do. I honestly, I'm sad for

829
00:40:30,719 --> 00:40:33,680
Speaker 1: people who feel that way, because you know, somebody might

830
00:40:33,680 --> 00:40:36,280
Speaker 1: be like, well, girl, you wouldn't know Superman might cheat,

831
00:40:36,800 --> 00:40:38,520
Speaker 1: and I'm like, and he'll be by himself. He knows

832
00:40:38,640 --> 00:40:40,600
Speaker 1: very quickly. Girl, I could do bad, but my bad.

833
00:40:40,760 --> 00:40:44,200
Speaker 1: That my damn self. But honestly, I don't. I don't, Like,

834
00:40:44,239 --> 00:40:46,080
Speaker 1: you know, I'm not someone who checks through phones or

835
00:40:46,120 --> 00:40:48,480
Speaker 1: anything like that. But like you know, I think women

836
00:40:48,520 --> 00:40:51,160
Speaker 1: have intuition. I don't. That is not that is not

837
00:40:51,200 --> 00:40:54,600
Speaker 1: the experience I've experienced. I've seen Superman has a twin brother.

838
00:40:54,760 --> 00:40:56,840
Speaker 1: When I tell you he's been with the same woman

839
00:40:57,120 --> 00:41:02,280
Speaker 1: since he was fifteen and been so overhead and heels

840
00:41:02,280 --> 00:41:04,560
Speaker 1: in love, I mean that's all I mean. Like even

841
00:41:04,600 --> 00:41:07,080
Speaker 1: here at the house, I'm like, are you hungry? His

842
00:41:07,200 --> 00:41:10,400
Speaker 1: nickname is Nobby, Superman's twin, identical twin, You're hungry? No,

843
00:41:11,640 --> 00:41:13,560
Speaker 1: my girl made food like you won't even eat no

844
00:41:13,640 --> 00:41:17,160
Speaker 1: place else, Like just such a good dude and like

845
00:41:17,400 --> 00:41:20,600
Speaker 1: so in love with her still to this day. They're

846
00:41:20,640 --> 00:41:23,200
Speaker 1: nearly forty. So I just it just goes to show that,

847
00:41:23,320 --> 00:41:25,080
Speaker 1: like that's just not true. That don't let that be

848
00:41:25,160 --> 00:41:27,040
Speaker 1: your narrative. You don't have to settle for less. There

849
00:41:27,600 --> 00:41:29,759
Speaker 1: are men who are good out there. There's a lot

850
00:41:29,800 --> 00:41:31,560
Speaker 1: of men working out there, just like there's a lot

851
00:41:31,600 --> 00:41:33,399
Speaker 1: of women who are good out there, and that they

852
00:41:33,480 --> 00:41:35,560
Speaker 1: don't have to settle for that. And you can draw

853
00:41:35,560 --> 00:41:37,800
Speaker 1: a line in the sand and say no, I'm worthy

854
00:41:38,000 --> 00:41:41,680
Speaker 1: of more. So. Yeah, So don't you know, I'm glad

855
00:41:41,680 --> 00:41:43,160
Speaker 1: the Gucci man is in a good place. I might

856
00:41:43,200 --> 00:41:47,000
Speaker 1: here to hate on Gucci, but child cheese, I am

857
00:41:47,040 --> 00:41:49,839
Speaker 1: not riding and dying. Ride or die. I mean, we'll

858
00:41:49,920 --> 00:41:51,960
Speaker 1: ride as long as there's no danger involved.

859
00:41:53,360 --> 00:41:55,399
Speaker 2: But you can let me out of this stop if

860
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Speaker 2: we're approaching Cheatingville for drugs City.

861
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Speaker 1: Yeah.

862
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Speaker 2: But for all the women who are in those relationships,

863
00:42:03,640 --> 00:42:05,600
Speaker 2: you know, I've known you, I've known people like you.

864
00:42:05,680 --> 00:42:06,960
Speaker 2: I know how hard it is to get out. So

865
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Speaker 2: I don't know, I respect for It's just so difficult

866
00:42:11,600 --> 00:42:13,960
Speaker 2: because you can't judge people who are in those relationships.

867
00:42:13,960 --> 00:42:16,279
Speaker 2: I'm all shut up after this, but it's hard to

868
00:42:16,320 --> 00:42:18,600
Speaker 2: judge them because they're so in it, and it's hard

869
00:42:18,640 --> 00:42:20,480
Speaker 2: to convince them that's not right for them, and you

870
00:42:20,560 --> 00:42:21,960
Speaker 2: just hope that they come out on the other side

871
00:42:21,960 --> 00:42:24,160
Speaker 2: and they see the light and find something that is

872
00:42:24,200 --> 00:42:28,920
Speaker 2: worthy of your time. So that was it a good break.

873
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Speaker 2: I mean, maybe you don't go to Snoop Dogg to

874
00:42:30,640 --> 00:42:33,120
Speaker 2: raise your to to you know, share lessons for your

875
00:42:33,160 --> 00:42:35,640
Speaker 2: daughter future daughters out there, but it.

876
00:42:35,560 --> 00:42:37,080
Speaker 1: Was all over the social and I just I just

877
00:42:37,239 --> 00:42:39,799
Speaker 1: got that. I love the stories, and I thought, how

878
00:42:39,800 --> 00:42:42,040
Speaker 1: many young men and young women are going to look

879
00:42:42,080 --> 00:42:44,680
Speaker 1: at this and say, yes, yes, agreed? You know?

880
00:42:45,280 --> 00:42:47,480
Speaker 2: And who's ky Michelle?

881
00:42:48,239 --> 00:42:50,399
Speaker 1: She just wanted like the Housewives. She's a signer too,

882
00:42:50,400 --> 00:42:52,480
Speaker 1: but she's one of like is it the Housewives? No?

883
00:42:52,480 --> 00:42:53,560
Speaker 1: No Love and hip hop?

884
00:42:53,920 --> 00:42:56,560
Speaker 2: Oh see now I don't have cable and I don't

885
00:42:56,600 --> 00:42:59,560
Speaker 2: know whatever. Yeah, ky Michelle got it, got it. Got

886
00:42:59,600 --> 00:43:01,440
Speaker 2: ITT's the way I can't listen to the read because

887
00:43:01,560 --> 00:43:03,839
Speaker 2: the first thirty minutes of their show, I just am like, what.

888
00:43:05,400 --> 00:43:08,040
Speaker 1: That's I'm not gonna I love to read. That's one

889
00:43:08,040 --> 00:43:10,040
Speaker 1: of my favorite shout out to read forgetting your own show.

890
00:43:10,080 --> 00:43:14,279
Speaker 1: And yes, that's amazing. I see. I used to watch

891
00:43:14,360 --> 00:43:17,520
Speaker 1: Kid Theory on on YouTube when he was in front

892
00:43:17,520 --> 00:43:20,480
Speaker 1: of that salmon colored wall and he was hilarious then.

893
00:43:20,920 --> 00:43:24,520
Speaker 1: So to see how far they've come honestly like, yeah,

894
00:43:24,680 --> 00:43:27,000
Speaker 1: they are inspo for real, for real.

895
00:43:27,239 --> 00:43:29,759
Speaker 2: I love it except for what I have no idea

896
00:43:29,800 --> 00:43:32,040
Speaker 2: what they're talking about. But you're right, I ain't to

897
00:43:32,080 --> 00:43:32,600
Speaker 2: get with it.

898
00:43:34,120 --> 00:43:36,239
Speaker 1: That's why I get my stuff. I'm like, oh, what's

899
00:43:36,239 --> 00:43:40,840
Speaker 1: happening in the world of ratchetness? Okay, thank you. Between

900
00:43:41,360 --> 00:43:43,120
Speaker 1: and a little bit of Instagram here and there with

901
00:43:43,200 --> 00:43:45,200
Speaker 1: something pops up with my tima, I'm like, oh, okay,

902
00:43:45,440 --> 00:43:46,160
Speaker 1: dually noted.

903
00:43:46,480 --> 00:43:48,560
Speaker 2: I think our shows are the perfect, like you know,

904
00:43:48,719 --> 00:43:51,120
Speaker 2: side by side, dual pack. You get your you know,

905
00:43:51,160 --> 00:43:53,200
Speaker 2: you don't get your ratchetness from us, I mean not

906
00:43:53,320 --> 00:43:57,640
Speaker 2: for me like for serve like please, but you know

907
00:43:57,680 --> 00:43:59,560
Speaker 2: you get your financial advice and you've listened to the

908
00:43:59,600 --> 00:44:01,640
Speaker 2: read like that's a good combo platter.

909
00:44:02,480 --> 00:44:17,919
Speaker 1: It is, it is. It's been an awesome show, as

910
00:44:17,960 --> 00:44:22,520
Speaker 1: pretty used in sidebar shout out to Michelle from Home

911
00:44:22,560 --> 00:44:24,960
Speaker 1: Depot and I don't even know what was that like,

912
00:44:25,360 --> 00:44:28,000
Speaker 1: because she ran up to me and was like, I

913
00:44:28,040 --> 00:44:30,120
Speaker 1: love your podcast. Tell Mandy. I said, Hi, I'm not

914
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Speaker 1: gonna hug you, but I was like, go ahead, girls,

915
00:44:31,640 --> 00:44:34,680
Speaker 1: just go ahead on. So she did, and so I'm

916
00:44:34,719 --> 00:44:36,719
Speaker 1: just like, it's so I just love that I'm out

917
00:44:36,719 --> 00:44:38,520
Speaker 1: in about and how you guys are shouting out the podcast.

918
00:44:38,600 --> 00:44:40,439
Speaker 1: So I meant to just shout out Michelle from home

919
00:44:40,440 --> 00:44:44,520
Speaker 1: depot and in like Westfield or Summit. I don't know

920
00:44:44,520 --> 00:44:47,440
Speaker 1: where that was, but yeah, just I was like, oh,

921
00:44:47,600 --> 00:44:49,880
Speaker 1: that was nice, and she was just super excited. But

922
00:44:49,920 --> 00:44:51,200
Speaker 1: I thought it was cute because as soon as she

923
00:44:51,239 --> 00:44:53,120
Speaker 1: said I'm not gonna hug you, I mean, I'm like,

924
00:44:53,120 --> 00:44:56,759
Speaker 1: you're listened to the podcast. She's like, I do it.

925
00:44:57,520 --> 00:44:59,800
Speaker 1: But I took the hug anyway, and she was really nice.

926
00:45:00,040 --> 00:45:05,959
Speaker 2: Her husu Well, Happy fortieth birthday, everybody tweet Graham, text

927
00:45:05,960 --> 00:45:08,520
Speaker 2: if you got her number Facebook, if you don't say

928
00:45:08,520 --> 00:45:12,480
Speaker 2: happy birthday to Tip tomorrow, Happy fortieth, feisty forty. It's

929
00:45:12,480 --> 00:45:13,080
Speaker 2: gonna be the year.

930
00:45:13,880 --> 00:45:15,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, this is gonna be the year.

931
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Speaker 2: I don't know how the hell you're gonna top the

932
00:45:16,360 --> 00:45:20,040
Speaker 2: last decade, but good luck. And you set the bar

933
00:45:20,360 --> 00:45:21,440
Speaker 2: very high.

934
00:45:21,480 --> 00:45:23,880
Speaker 1: So I'm okay with's slowing down. If I don't do

935
00:45:23,920 --> 00:45:25,600
Speaker 1: nothing else, I feel like I'm good for life.

936
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Speaker 2: That's a beautiful place to be at forty. Let me

937
00:45:28,320 --> 00:45:30,759
Speaker 2: just say that's my goal for forty. I'm gonna be

938
00:45:30,800 --> 00:45:34,480
Speaker 2: okay with where I'm at? Yes, yes, all right, Well,

939
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Speaker 2: enjoy and I will text you some baby shower pictures

940
00:45:38,080 --> 00:45:40,319
Speaker 2: if you text me some party pictures, and I will

941
00:45:40,360 --> 00:45:42,920
Speaker 2: be celebrating. I'll be celebrating you and my heart and

942
00:45:43,000 --> 00:45:45,120
Speaker 2: my mind this weekend talk as well.