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Speaker 1: Ever been left waiting by the phone. It's the Fred

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Speaker 1: showing how's going? We are great, welcome to the show.

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Speaker 1: Let's hear about your date with Melissa. How did you meet?

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Speaker 1: Tell us about the date, and then what's going on now?

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Speaker 2: Okay? So I met her on Hinge, you know, and

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Speaker 2: we kind of did the normal thing where we just

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Speaker 2: sort of go back and forth. Decided, you know, hey,

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Speaker 2: we got a connection, let's move into text and maybe

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Speaker 2: just like plan a date, you know, and then it

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Speaker 2: actually it went pretty smooth. Actually, I think about what's

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Speaker 2: better than smooth. We went to really really great Mexican

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Speaker 2: place in Tilsen, Okay, and so so we were like

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Speaker 2: having some drinks. Everything was chill. We were just really connecting.

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Speaker 2: So she really she's very very funny, and it's like

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Speaker 2: you now, it took it a little hole in the

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Speaker 2: wall place, so it was nothing fancy, but it's picked

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Speaker 2: up best Mexican swood you could ever get on the

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Speaker 2: planet kind of thing.

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Speaker 1: Nice. I thought about this, like, you know, this is

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Speaker 1: a like drinks on the patio deal, like what everyone

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Speaker 1: seems to do, you know when you're lazy, like you

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Speaker 1: took her to your favorite spot, you know, you're nailing it.

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Speaker 2: That's exactly what it was, Okay, Yeah, Because I was like, well,

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Speaker 2: I could take her to this, but then I was like, yeah,

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Speaker 2: I want to. I want to take her somebody special.

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Speaker 2: And so we we you know, it's really like authentic,

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Speaker 2: and so we had a great time. You know, you know,

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Speaker 2: I got a new her. Afterwards, we went back to

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Speaker 2: her home. You know, I thought everything was great, but

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Speaker 2: then I don't know, just the conversation was good, and

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Speaker 2: then we talked for a bit and then he just

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Speaker 2: hasn't responded to me. Okay, not even at all.

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Speaker 1: I mean that all sounds good, right, you know, you

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Speaker 1: take her to your favorite place, you have a good time,

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Speaker 1: have a good meal, good conversation, she invites you back

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Speaker 1: to her house. That's usually really good. So I don't know,

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Speaker 1: you know, she's ghosting you now. You want to know why.

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Speaker 1: So let's call her now and see if we can

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Speaker 1: figure this out. Good luck?

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Speaker 2: Thanks?

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Speaker 1: Hello, Hi is this Melissa? Uh?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, this is she Melissa.

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Speaker 1: Good morning, Fred from the Fred's show The Whole Cruse here,

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Speaker 1: and I have to tell you that we are on

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Speaker 1: the radio right now and I would need your permission

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Speaker 1: to continue with the calls. I don'tay if we talk

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Speaker 1: for a couple of minutes.

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Speaker 3: Okay, sure, thank you very much.

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Speaker 1: We're calling on behalf of a guy named Adam who

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Speaker 1: you met on Hinge and went out with. Do you

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Speaker 1: remember going out with him?

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Speaker 3: Yeah? Adam?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, Okay, Well he told us about a date that

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Speaker 1: you went on. The date that you went on, said

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Speaker 1: that everything went really well and he had a great time,

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Speaker 1: and he was hoping to hear from you again and

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Speaker 1: he hasn't. So can you sort of fill us in

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Speaker 1: as to why you might not be responding to him

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Speaker 1: at all.

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Speaker 2: I don't know.

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Speaker 3: I just feel like it's just it wasn't. It wasn't

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Speaker 3: a match for me. It just wasn't.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, just wasn't it for So he told us a

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Speaker 1: little bit about the date that you guys, you know,

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Speaker 1: went to dinner and then went back to your place afterwards.

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Speaker 1: So I guess you know what happened that At what

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Speaker 1: point did you just side that he wasn't a match?

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Speaker 1: Because normally that's all good, right, I mean, you go

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Speaker 1: have dinner and then if you're like come back to

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Speaker 1: I'd be like hello, you know, so now, to be

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Speaker 1: honest with you, now things are visas. Yes, So I'm

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Speaker 1: trying to figure out it was. So what what actually

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Speaker 1: like where was the disconnect?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, okay, well I guess I'll just go ahead and

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Speaker 3: and tell you. So, I actually don't usually like guys

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Speaker 3: a big thing for me. But he insisted that he will.

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Speaker 3: He really needed to go to the bathroom. So I thought, okay,

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Speaker 3: sure I'll let him in for that and then make

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Speaker 1: Okay, so you didn't invite him back like you guys

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Speaker 1: gotten the same over. But it wasn't like come back

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Speaker 1: to my house the way that he sort of led

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Speaker 1: us to believe. It was, no, all, I need to

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Speaker 3: I was very hesitant to let him in until he

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Speaker 3: was like, no, I really have to go to the

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Speaker 1: I had a boy, all right, So then what so

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Speaker 3: So he came and went straight to the bathroom and

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Speaker 3: then he was in there for what felt like maybe

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Speaker 3: twenty five thirty minutes.

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Speaker 1: Thirty minutes, okay.

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Speaker 3: He was in there for thirty minutes, and then I

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Speaker 3: thought I heard the shower turn on. I walked over

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Speaker 3: to the bathroom and I was like, that is definitely

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Speaker 3: for the third minutes. And he came out and I think

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Speaker 3: now at this point it's been like forty five minutes

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Speaker 3: to an hour. I'm not exaggerating, and he like had

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Speaker 3: wet hair, like hear week had showered. Like I saw

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Speaker 3: a damp towel in there after, like he had showered,

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Speaker 3: so he did.

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Speaker 1: He was sweating, he was so it was so It's

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Speaker 1: bad enough when you got to do something like that

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Speaker 1: at somebody else's house, especially so you just met. But

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Speaker 1: it was so bad that he had his shower, he

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Speaker 3: Made a mess. And then he also he didn't even

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Speaker 3: say anything about it. There wasn't any It was so awkward.

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Speaker 3: And then he was like, yeah, do you want to

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Speaker 1: And I was like no, I don't know. He was

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Speaker 1: all clean, Okay, let me. I forgot to mention that here, Adam,

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Speaker 1: you mention. Look, it's one thing to have a bit

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Speaker 1: of an emergency, it's another thing to have to shower afterwards.

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Speaker 1: You couldn't even get home.

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Speaker 2: Well, first of all, okay, you know, people poop. That's

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Speaker 2: the reality, and that has to happen the time. Okay,

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Speaker 2: when when mother nature calls, she calls.

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Speaker 3: Okay, so yeah, but like to the extent that a

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Speaker 2: When you're at how well you.

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Speaker 1: Are you hoping? Then that like the thirty minutes in

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Speaker 1: that because I can see maybe you thought something was

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Speaker 1: still going to happen, so you took the shower, you know,

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Speaker 1: to prepare yourself for the next step. But it's like

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Speaker 1: I'm probably not turned hot anymore.

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Speaker 2: Well, the thing is, here's the thing. It's a little

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Speaker 2: word I like to call classy. I didn't have to

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Speaker 2: take a shower. I could have just left that like

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Speaker 2: that if you wanted. I mean, you know what I mean.

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Speaker 2: I mean, yeah, it's called class That's what I did.

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Speaker 1: You not mend to the toilet in time?

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Speaker 2: Like what's going on here?

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Speaker 1: Well?

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Speaker 2: You know, I mean listen, let me just say there

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Speaker 2: was it was. It was brutal. But the point is,

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Speaker 2: that's point the point.

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Speaker 1: But like I have to but not in somebody else's house,

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Speaker 1: and if that did happen, I would I would triage

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Speaker 1: as best as I possibly could, and then.

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Speaker 3: Get the hell out of there, because yeah.

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Speaker 1: Go home and then handle. You'll take the shower after,

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Speaker 1: I mean get the shower part, but not later.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean I just wanted to clear the air

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Speaker 2: in there. I mean, yeah, you made it.

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Speaker 1: All steamy on all right? Look U and everything that's

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Speaker 1: that's gross, dud. I mean, if you're in a long

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Speaker 1: term relationship, you could probably get away with something like that.

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Speaker 1: In fact, it would be I'm sure appreciated. But this

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Speaker 1: is a stranger. This is a a virtual stranger taking

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Speaker 1: a shower in my home. I don't know, I don't know.

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Speaker 1: Show Look, Melissa, is there any way we can move

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Speaker 1: past this and you know, things happen, and is there

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Speaker 1: any way you can sort of say I liked everything

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Speaker 1: up till that point, so we'll we'll give it another shot.

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Speaker 3: I don't think so. I just felt like the choices

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Speaker 3: he made in that moment were just odd to me.

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Speaker 3: So it made me question, well, how he would react thanks.

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Speaker 2: To a chalat bar.

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Speaker 1: Boy. Did you have any reaction to the food, Melissa,

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Speaker 1: or were you all.

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Speaker 3: Set, I was fine, and then the rest of my

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Speaker 3: night like scrubbing my Bathroomah.

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Speaker 2: God, did you get pink eye?

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Speaker 1: Throwing the loofah, throwing the towel in your apartment? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: just move all right. Well, look, I'm sorry and I'm

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Speaker 1: just not going to work out. Melissa, thank you for

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Speaker 1: your time. Best of luck to both of you.

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Speaker 2: Thanks