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Speaker 3: My if you wrecked my gaming setup now I'm taking

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Speaker 3: gamer move. April eleventh, twenty twenty five. Hi read it.

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Speaker 3: I'm female, twenty five and I'm honestly at my breaking

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Speaker 3: entire family is acting like I'm first standing my ground.

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Speaker 3: So I twenty five female. I am a student software

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Speaker 3: developer and pretty serious PC gamer. In my free time,

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Speaker 3: I live alone in a one bedroom apartment that I've

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Speaker 3: spent years making cozy and functional. I saved up for

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Speaker 3: a long time to build my dream PC setup, triple monitors,

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Speaker 3: custom mechanical keyboard, ergonomic chair, the works altogether. My rig

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Speaker 3: is worth a bit over two thousand dollars and I

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Speaker 3: take care of it like it's a dang child. Last weekend,

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Speaker 3: my older sister, thirty female, I asked if she could

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Speaker 3: crash in my place for one night because her apartment

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Speaker 3: was being fumigated and her husband was out of town.

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Speaker 3: She has a three year old son, Max, who let's say,

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Speaker 3: is spirited. H I love him, but he's a little

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Speaker 3: chaos goblin. I hesitated, but she swore that she'd keep

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Speaker 3: an eye on him, and that I bet it would

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Speaker 3: just be for one night. They show up Saturday afternoon,

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Speaker 3: and immediately it's clear that she wasn't kidding about Max

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Speaker 3: being harmful. Within ten minutes of arriving, he had pulled

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Speaker 3: four books off my shelf, thrown my houseplants on the floor,

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Speaker 3: spilled my juice or spilled juice on my area rug.

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Speaker 2: Well, at least it wasn't your juice.

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Speaker 3: Then ten minutes, Yeah, at least it's not your juice.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, So that is that is a true chaos Deed's

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Speaker 2: that's a little above my pay grade if that's my place. Yeah, man,

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Speaker 2: I'm like, hey, man, I get it. Yeah, three three.

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Speaker 2: I can't be letting damage my abode.

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Speaker 3: I let him in Okay, I tried to stay chill.

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Speaker 3: He's three, I get it, but I asked my sister

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Speaker 3: politely to please keep him out of my office where

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Speaker 3: my PC setup is. She rolls her eyes and goes,

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Speaker 3: he's just exploring. He's curious, it's normal, but she closes

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Speaker 3: the office door. Anyway, Cut to Sunday morning. I wake

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Speaker 3: mom managed to open the office door, and decided that

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Speaker 3: my setup was his new jungle gym. He pulled down

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Speaker 3: one of my monitors, cracking the screen. He stuck crackers

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Speaker 3: into the PC towers ventilation slots I'm not kidding, yanked

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Speaker 3: out my keyboards keycaps and had colored on my chair

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Speaker 3: with permanent marker and the cherry on top. Heyboard apple

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Speaker 3: juice into the tower into it? That's bad.

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Speaker 2: Ooh yeah, this isn't like he's spirited. This is like

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Speaker 2: he has like literal behavioral issues. Yeah. Needs to have

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Speaker 2: it addressed by professionals, absolutely, because that or at the

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Speaker 2: very least, like mom, start parenting your child.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, what do we do it?

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Speaker 2: WHOA? How did we get to where the kid thinks

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Speaker 2: this is okay?

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: I know, they're three, sure.

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Speaker 3: But the mom thinks it's okay, that's what's happening. The

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Speaker 2: Are we correcting Anything's just all that.

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Speaker 3: When I tell you I went silent, I mean passed

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Speaker 3: away silent. My sister comes in, sees the damage and

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Speaker 3: just says, oh, no, no, in this incredibly flat tone,

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Speaker 3: actually read ja oh.

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Speaker 2: No no, oh no, oh no.

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Speaker 3: I start freaking out, and she has the audacity to say,

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Speaker 3: you probably should have babyproofed the room if it was

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Speaker 2: Girl, You've been here for less than twenty four hours.

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Speaker 2: I didn't know I needed to lock down this place

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Speaker 3: You're not gonna babyproof something if if you don't have

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Speaker 3: a baby, you close the door. Yeah, how is a

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Speaker 3: I lost it. I told her that. One she knew

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Speaker 3: he wasn't supposed to be in there. Two, this is

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Speaker 3: and said that he's just a kid and stuff is replaceable,

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Speaker 3: and that she needed to take full responsibility. Absolutely. She

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Speaker 3: blowing up my phone. My mom says I'm being materialistic

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Speaker 3: and should understand them. My nephew didn't mean it. My

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Speaker 3: it was that important. My brother actually said, why do

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Speaker 3: you even need three monitors anyway? And that's kind of overkill?

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Speaker 2: What is wrong? Saw family? Yeah, what is going on here?

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Speaker 3: It's absolutely insane, Absolutely insane. I've filed acclaim with my insurance,

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Speaker 3: but there's no guarantee to be covered since it was

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Speaker 3: technically a guest damage. I also told her that if

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Speaker 3: for what happened. Now I'm getting text from my sister

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Speaker 3: I told her that I would drop it if she

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Speaker 3: covered the cost of repairs and policements, or at least

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Speaker 3: met me halfway, and she blocked me. All right, we're

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Speaker 3: going to court. Packed the bags, We're going to court.

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Speaker 2: I'm a lawyer, up, girl, and you might want to

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Speaker 2: get some money for that, because it's gonna now be

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Speaker 3: Yeah, So am I overreacting if I take my sister

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Speaker 3: to court over this? We do have a small update. Wow,

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Speaker 3: just wow. Four hours later, I wake up from my

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Speaker 3: nap to this. Thank you guys. It'll take a bit

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Speaker 3: for me to read all of this, but my sister

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Speaker 3: has still not unlocked me, but her husband reached out

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Speaker 3: to find out what happened. I'm sorry I don't have

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Speaker 3: more to tell yet, but I'll update again when I do. Seriously,

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Speaker 3: thanks for the insights to everyone. My head is a

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Speaker 3: lot clearer now, and we do have another update. I

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Speaker 3: think we know our answer though, right, we don't think

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Speaker 3: it's unreasonable. No, no, go ahead too, but we do

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Speaker 2: Oh so hey, y'all.

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Speaker 3: My sister's husband reached out, as mentioned earlier, and we're

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Speaker 3: working out a solution. If possible. He's been really understanding

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Speaker 3: and as have all of you.

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Speaker 2: H W brother in law, dude, W brother in law.

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Speaker 2: Let's go.

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Speaker 3: Also to clarify the office situation, my one bedroom apartment

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Speaker 3: This was meters that's like a New York square meters.

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Speaker 2: I think that's probably like maybe a bit smaller than

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Speaker 3: Five square feet it might be maybe. Yeah. So the

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Speaker 3: landlord converted an old ex's clothes cabinet into a makeshift office.

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Speaker 3: It's weird, but the building is from the forties, and

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Speaker 3: with an old tenant or something. So it's living room,

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Speaker 3: sister and her kids slept there, plus the kitchen. I

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Speaker 3: supports and the award. I really don't have the words

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Speaker 3: for how nice people have been in both DMS and

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Speaker 3: the comments so some of Op's comments. Ope responds to

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Speaker 3: some of the comments. I really appreciate your comment. I

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Speaker 3: feel as if you nailed exactly how I've been feeling,

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Speaker 3: but couldn't articulate it in the moment. Wish we saw

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Speaker 3: what that was commenting on uh BO, It's okay. It's

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Speaker 3: comforting to know that I'm not totally off base here.

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Speaker 3: I will need to see what I'm willing to do

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Speaker 3: with the situation. I don't want to lose my family,

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Speaker 3: but I don't want to start begging to be heard either,

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Speaker 3: So thank you Opiongoing no contact? Yeah, I'm not ready

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Speaker 3: to go full no contact right now, but I really

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Speaker 3: appreciate your perspective. It's definitely something I'll keep in mind

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Speaker 3: if things keep escalating and no one starts showing even

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Speaker 3: a little bit of respect for my boundaries. I just

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Speaker 3: want accountability, not drama. But if they keep pushing, I

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Speaker 3: won't hesitate to step back. I don't think I want

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Speaker 3: to know my family if they can't appreciate the work

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Speaker 3: I put into my hobbies. Thank you for the insight.

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Speaker 3: We've got some commenter downvoted questions. Does your office door lock?

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Speaker 3: If so, why wasn't I locked? Uh How was this

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Speaker 3: crackers and apple juice in an apartment that he is

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Speaker 3: presumably not familiar with. Why were these items so easy

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Speaker 3: for him to get to.

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Speaker 2: I'm going to answer those questions ahead of time.

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Speaker 3: You got it all right?

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Speaker 2: Three year old wakes up, gets into the bag that

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Speaker 2: their mom probably brought with them, and gets the snackies.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, probably not as hard question. If you knew in

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Speaker 3: advance that he and your sister were coming, why didn't

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Speaker 3: he does respond, responds to the first question. The office

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Speaker 3: It's just a heavy, old door. To be honest, I've

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Speaker 3: been wondering if my sister might have opened it for him.

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Speaker 3: I just don't get why. And on the crackers a juice,

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Speaker 3: They weren't mine. Sister brought them. I had no idea

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Speaker 3: after the fact, but I would I would trust Dakota's

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Speaker 3: third question, I didn't get much notice. I saw her

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Speaker 3: message around ten am Saturday, and they arrived around two

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Speaker 3: spent most of the time cleaning before they came back

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Speaker 3: in hindsight, Yeah, I should have been more cautious with

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Speaker 3: my setup, but it didn't even cross my mind that

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Speaker 3: office area was inaccessible to him.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you know that is a good point because that,

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Speaker 2: I feel like informs why the sister was being like,

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Speaker 2: you're just mad. Yeah, because he was being curious. And

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Speaker 2: it's like, well, how could you possibly say that? But

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Speaker 2: then that would make sense if she was the one

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Speaker 2: room and then she opened the door. So that's why

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Speaker 2: she's being defensive because she knows all of this is

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Speaker 2: her fault. Right, she won't admit that. Now, she's gonna

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Speaker 2: make it like you're a monster who's trying to yell

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Speaker 3: Right. But Opie continues on that what he did pull

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Speaker 3: off the shelves was moved higher up and out of

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Speaker 3: an eye on. Interesting, So maybe she did take them

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Speaker 2: I again, it's like I think, given that it's a

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Speaker 2: big door three years old, it's like, I bet you

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Speaker 2: I think I'm just like doing everything through brother in law. Now, yes,

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Speaker 3: Exactly, and just not just blaming it on everyone else,

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Speaker 3: I can clarify for you here? My sister was talking

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Speaker 3: the other parts. Being a janitor does have its perks.

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Speaker 3: And the keyboard, I could not find all the key

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Speaker 3: Still got the other two left, and at least it

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Speaker 3: wasn't the most expensive one. But yeah, Another commenter says, Margie,

435
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Speaker 3: just having your brother in law pay for a new

436
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Speaker 3: keyboard and monitor or professional cleaning for the chair, that's

437
00:19:00,119 --> 00:19:02,480
Speaker 3: all part of the repairs. Ohp he says. We're waiting

438
00:19:02,480 --> 00:19:04,639
Speaker 3: to see if my sister confesses to anything. If so,

439
00:19:04,720 --> 00:19:06,600
Speaker 3: she will be paying out of her own pocket and

440
00:19:06,680 --> 00:19:09,040
Speaker 3: paying back, not my brother in law. If she confesses

441
00:19:09,080 --> 00:19:11,960
Speaker 3: and refuses, then well, the computer is essential, but the

442
00:19:12,040 --> 00:19:14,439
Speaker 3: keyboard works and I still have two monitors. That's why

443
00:19:14,480 --> 00:19:17,520
Speaker 3: I'm willing to wait for the other damage to be resolved. Now.

444
00:19:17,760 --> 00:19:21,119
Speaker 3: On the gambling problem, I'll admit during the ban, I

445
00:19:21,119 --> 00:19:23,640
Speaker 3: did spend thirty dollars on Gain You when she came out,

446
00:19:23,680 --> 00:19:25,720
Speaker 3: but that was the worst of it and it was

447
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Speaker 3: so worth Oh my god, Oh my god. I don't

448
00:19:28,600 --> 00:19:31,320
Speaker 3: play much more, mostly stuck on Marvel Rivals right now.

449
00:19:31,359 --> 00:19:34,320
Speaker 3: But the overall margin from Genschen released to this day,

450
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Speaker 3: I've spent under six hundred dollars. I get it. Even

451
00:19:36,920 --> 00:19:39,119
Speaker 3: that might look crazy to people who don't play video games.

452
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Speaker 3: But she's gambling problem, ruh.

453
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Speaker 2: I don't know, dude. I like, you can't tell anybody

454
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Speaker 2: what spend their money on, but yeah, like three hundred

455
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Speaker 2: dollars for one character in a theoretically free game that's

456
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Speaker 2: almost like an entire different game console. That's like, yeah,

457
00:19:55,359 --> 00:19:59,080
Speaker 2: that's like five Triple A games, right that you can

458
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Speaker 2: BET's like of hours of gameplay.

459
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Speaker 3: Yeah, I know. But and then I think about it too,

460
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Speaker 3: because my brother plays video games and he likes uh,

461
00:20:07,480 --> 00:20:09,840
Speaker 3: card games and stuff, and he'll spend he'll like mention

462
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Speaker 3: dropping like four hundred dollars on stuff, and I'm like, oh,

463
00:20:12,320 --> 00:20:13,960
Speaker 3: like what, it's not so much money. And then I

464
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Speaker 3: think about me at the fabric store and like, okay,

465
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Speaker 3: got it. I got to take step back.

466
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Speaker 2: It's all relative. Some people would be like, you're spending

467
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Speaker 2: four hundred dollars on fabric. Meanwhile, some people are like,

468
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Speaker 2: you're spending three hundred dollars on a video game character.

469
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Speaker 2: It's like, it's all relative.

470
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Speaker 3: Hobbies are just expensive if you're really into them. So

471
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Speaker 3: she should be more concerned of what I spend on

472
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Speaker 3: Pokemon packs in this economy if she's gonna be concerned

473
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Speaker 3: over something exactly exactly, And that's the end of that story.

474
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Speaker 2: People I used to work in the industry, don't buy packs.

475
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Speaker 2: Buy cards. Yeah, buy what you want, don't waste your

476
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Speaker 2: money on random packs.

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Speaker 3: You're ready here first, folks. That sounds like great advice, though, I.

478
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Speaker 2: Mean, yeah, if you're a collector, collect the things you like. Yeah,

479
00:20:56,080 --> 00:20:58,600
Speaker 2: but if you know, if you enjoy the experience of

480
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Speaker 2: a random pack that but sure, don't just like be

481
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Speaker 2: all right, I'm gonna get thirty five packs so that

482
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Speaker 2: hopefully I can get this one card. It's like, right,

483
00:21:07,040 --> 00:21:10,760
Speaker 2: you can buy that one card for a fraction of

484
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Speaker 2: the cost of all of those packs, right. My sister

485
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Speaker 2: in law recently lost her husband. Should my wedding be postponed? Eh?

486
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Speaker 3: Sure, it's really all.

487
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Speaker 2: About the vibe there. March twenty seven, twenty twenty five.

488
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Speaker 2: I thirty four male, am supposed to get married next month.

489
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Speaker 2: Now I'm not sure it's going to happen. My partner's sister,

490
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Speaker 2: thirty five female, was widowed last month. I've gotten a

491
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Speaker 2: front row seat of how it has rocked my soon

492
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Speaker 2: to be in laws. Everyone has really tried going above

493
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Speaker 2: and beyond or his sister making sure she's as comfortable

494
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Speaker 2: as possible, And I truly can't imagine, you know, you'd

495
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Speaker 2: probably have to institutionalize me if something happened to my boy.

496
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Speaker 2: By the way, this comes from user Remarkable rust to

497
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Speaker 2: thirty and if you want to submit your own stories,

498
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Speaker 2: go to the r slash Okay Storytime submurday. So my

499
00:21:54,040 --> 00:21:56,520
Speaker 2: partner's mom came to him a few days ago and

500
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Speaker 2: asked if he would consider postponing the wedding. She said

501
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Speaker 2: they would cover all the lost money and would help

502
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Speaker 2: us replan, et cetera. Apparently, his sister has said there's

503
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Speaker 2: no way she can attend the wedding, and his mom

504
00:22:06,520 --> 00:22:09,160
Speaker 2: knew how important it was to him to have her there,

505
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Speaker 2: so she just wanted to offer an alternative plan. I'm

506
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Speaker 2: not very sentimental, but my partner is Our wedding was

507
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Speaker 2: planned for the ten year anniversary of when we met.

508
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Speaker 2: That's something that meant a lot to him, which makes

509
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Speaker 2: it mean a lot to me too. I'm trying to

510
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Speaker 2: be sympathetic, but I'm just effing raging. I can't help it.

511
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Speaker 2: My emotions aren't allowing me to be objective. Well that

512
00:22:27,359 --> 00:22:30,840
Speaker 2: sounds like a you problem. Ope, Now, I mean, look, emotions,

513
00:22:30,880 --> 00:22:33,200
Speaker 2: we all have them, but it's like we can't let

514
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Speaker 2: our emotions dictate all of our actions all of the time.

515
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Speaker 3: Yeah.

516
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Speaker 2: I think this is a moment that requires more understanding

517
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Speaker 2: than rage.

518
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Speaker 3: Agreed. Agreed.

519
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Speaker 2: I know his mom came to him in good faith,

520
00:22:45,600 --> 00:22:48,080
Speaker 2: but it makes me so angry to think about this

521
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Speaker 2: being put on his shoulders. A month before our wedding,

522
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Speaker 2: he was so excited, and now I'm worried that if

523
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Speaker 2: we don't reschedule, he's just going to be in his

524
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Speaker 2: head the whole time, feeling guilty and unable to fully

525
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Speaker 2: enjoy himself. I know his sister is hurting. I'm trying

526
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Speaker 2: my absolute hardest not to piss off the family that

527
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Speaker 2: is soon to be mine, one that's already mine in

528
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Speaker 2: a lot of ways. But still, I'm so mad. I'd

529
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Speaker 2: appreciate some objective point of views, and there is an

530
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Speaker 2: edit here. I think just being mad is okay, but

531
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Speaker 2: just like, be mad at the situation. Yeah, don't be

532
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Speaker 2: mad at sister or family or anyone. No one is

533
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Speaker 2: doing this. It's like it's just a really unfortunate situation. Yeah,

534
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Speaker 2: getting lots of she's and hers in and comments I'm

535
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Speaker 2: a man doesn't have much weight in the story. He

536
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Speaker 2: just wanted to clear that up. Amy the a Hole

537
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Speaker 2: has no consensus, but op received mixed reactions, and we

538
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Speaker 2: have some comments here coming. Number one. This sounds like

539
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Speaker 2: something you should discuss with your partner, not random people

540
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Speaker 2: on the internet until you do or don't actually know

541
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Speaker 2: how he feels. Whatever you decide together is the right

542
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Speaker 2: decision for you as a couple. Just understand that there

543
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Speaker 2: may be consequences with familial relationships depending on the choice

544
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Speaker 2: you make. Ohp he says. We have talked and he's torn.

545
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Speaker 2: I'm trying to follow his lead because this impacts him

546
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Speaker 2: more than me. But I'm just so frustrated. Never at him,

547
00:24:00,080 --> 00:24:02,600
Speaker 2: but at them for putting him in this position, by

548
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Speaker 2: putting this weight on his shoulders. Planning has been a

549
00:24:05,000 --> 00:24:07,080
Speaker 2: lot of work, but it's exciting because we know what's

550
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Speaker 2: coming now. We either have to do it for a

551
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Speaker 2: second time, rebooking everything without the same excitement, or we

552
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Speaker 2: have a wedding where, no matter how good my partner feels,

553
00:24:14,040 --> 00:24:16,840
Speaker 2: there will be guilt and sadness thrown into It's unfair.

554
00:24:16,920 --> 00:24:19,720
Speaker 2: I'm half inclined to agree to cancel it all and Elope,

555
00:24:19,720 --> 00:24:23,400
Speaker 2: no distractions, just us. Commenter number two says, cancel, get

556
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Speaker 2: the money back from the in laws, Elope to somewhere fantastic,

557
00:24:26,560 --> 00:24:30,440
Speaker 2: throw a massive first anniversary party. Uh oh, he says,

558
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Speaker 2: I'm open to this. I've always been indifferent to a

559
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Speaker 2: big wedding. That's why I'm so focused on my husband's feelings.

560
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Speaker 2: Throughout all of this. This is his baby. I just

561
00:24:37,880 --> 00:24:39,920
Speaker 2: want to see him so so happy. I'll talk to

562
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Speaker 2: him about it, and as long as he's satisfied, I am.

563
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Speaker 2: And I guess there isn't a whole part of me

564
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Speaker 2: that's still frustrated with how long we spent planning only

565
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Speaker 2: to have it thrown away. But that's something I'm trying

566
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Speaker 2: to work on. Being flexible isn't always my strong suit.

567
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Speaker 2: We've a downvoted commenter. Yeah you're the ale. Do you

568
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Speaker 2: have no empathy slash sympathy? While I understand you have

569
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Speaker 2: a wedding with a lot of expenses, this is a

570
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Speaker 2: situation where you make the best of it, as it

571
00:25:02,040 --> 00:25:05,600
Speaker 2: wasn't intentional. Harboring resentment over something like this is wild

572
00:25:05,680 --> 00:25:07,720
Speaker 2: op he says. Of course, I have sympathy for them.

573
00:25:07,880 --> 00:25:09,920
Speaker 2: I hate that any of this happened. Her husband was

574
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Speaker 2: a good man. It's not about the expenses. I'm frustrated

575
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Speaker 2: because my priority, my partner, is being put in a

576
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Speaker 2: real crappy position. I'm more mad at the world than

577
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Speaker 2: at his family. I just know how much this means

578
00:25:20,680 --> 00:25:23,000
Speaker 2: to him, Like, that's my guy, my other half. I

579
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Speaker 2: hate knowing he has to make this decision. I hate

580
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Speaker 2: that he's going to feel selfish and weird about going

581
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Speaker 2: through with something he's put his time, effort, and heart

582
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Speaker 2: into it. All effing thanks. Okay, you really didn't write

583
00:25:34,359 --> 00:25:36,119
Speaker 2: that like you had. It was not written like you

584
00:25:36,119 --> 00:25:38,200
Speaker 2: were mad at the world. It was written specifically, actually,

585
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Speaker 2: like you were mad at the parents for bringing this

586
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Speaker 2: up right.

587
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Speaker 3: And maybe maybe that is true. I don't you know,

588
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Speaker 3: I don't want to say that that's not how you feel.

589
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Speaker 2: It could have been the intent. The intent was just

590
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Speaker 2: sad at the world, But you wrote like you were

591
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Speaker 2: mad at the parents exactly.

592
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Speaker 3: But you know, when you're asking for people's opinion on

593
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Speaker 3: something like that, you want to give him all the

594
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Speaker 3: context and all the details that you can, all.

595
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Speaker 2: The deets how you feel or a juice little detail. Yeah, ope,

596
00:26:02,600 --> 00:26:05,200
Speaker 2: on if his in laws really like him. My soon

597
00:26:05,320 --> 00:26:07,800
Speaker 2: to be mother in law and I are really close.

598
00:26:07,880 --> 00:26:10,240
Speaker 2: There have been circumstances in my life that have made

599
00:26:10,280 --> 00:26:14,200
Speaker 2: me really wary of parental figures, but I trust her completely.

600
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Speaker 2: That's why I know she made the offer with good intentions.

601
00:26:16,920 --> 00:26:19,359
Speaker 2: OPI should consider on working things out with his fiance

602
00:26:19,480 --> 00:26:21,600
Speaker 2: to figure out what steps to take and have grace

603
00:26:21,600 --> 00:26:23,560
Speaker 2: for his sister in law and mother in law, especially

604
00:26:23,600 --> 00:26:26,800
Speaker 2: his partner on the family tragedy. OPI says, I appreciate

605
00:26:26,800 --> 00:26:28,840
Speaker 2: the perspective. Taking care of my fiance feels like the

606
00:26:28,880 --> 00:26:31,400
Speaker 2: easiest thing in the world. It always has. Taking care

607
00:26:31,400 --> 00:26:34,359
Speaker 2: of other people doesn't quite come so naturally for a

608
00:26:34,440 --> 00:26:36,760
Speaker 2: large portion of my teens in early twenties, I was

609
00:26:36,800 --> 00:26:39,680
Speaker 2: pretty isolated. Being by myself was something of a survival

610
00:26:39,680 --> 00:26:42,000
Speaker 2: mechanism back then, and then I met him. I was

611
00:26:42,040 --> 00:26:44,240
Speaker 2: like the human embodiment of a one human pet who

612
00:26:44,240 --> 00:26:47,000
Speaker 2: loves one person and reluctantly puts up with everyone else.

613
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Speaker 2: I've grown up a lot in the last decade i've

614
00:26:48,960 --> 00:26:50,960
Speaker 2: known him. His family has been really good to me.

615
00:26:51,200 --> 00:26:53,399
Speaker 2: I think in times like these, when I'm scared and

616
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Speaker 2: angry and sad, I go back to my one human

617
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Speaker 2: stray cat mode, hoping that made even the tiniest semblance

618
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Speaker 2: of sense. It did to me. Not sure why all

619
00:27:01,240 --> 00:27:03,800
Speaker 2: these animal analogies are coming out in my comments either.

620
00:27:04,160 --> 00:27:06,840
Speaker 2: The point is sometimes I'm not a great at big picture.

621
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Speaker 2: I can't imagine what it would be like in her shoes,

622
00:27:09,040 --> 00:27:11,640
Speaker 2: having to go on with the knowledge of so many memories.

623
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Speaker 2: I'm not trying to be unempathetic at all. I'm just

624
00:27:14,320 --> 00:27:16,679
Speaker 2: trying to juggle a lot right now. OPI on his

625
00:27:16,760 --> 00:27:19,959
Speaker 2: fiance making decisions regarding the wedding and how he's supporting him.

626
00:27:20,200 --> 00:27:22,600
Speaker 2: Opie says, my fiance is going to make a decision

627
00:27:22,680 --> 00:27:24,919
Speaker 2: over the next coming days, and I'm going to support

628
00:27:24,920 --> 00:27:27,840
Speaker 2: whatever he chooses. This would be super nice, though, I

629
00:27:27,840 --> 00:27:30,159
Speaker 2: would love two weeks far, far away from everyone in

630
00:27:30,160 --> 00:27:32,280
Speaker 2: the world besides him. Well, yeah, you might, but like

631
00:27:32,400 --> 00:27:34,400
Speaker 2: he might be wanting to stay close to his family

632
00:27:34,440 --> 00:27:36,879
Speaker 2: because they just went through like a massive loss, right

633
00:27:37,040 --> 00:27:39,879
Speaker 2: and are probably going to want to lean on each other. Right,

634
00:27:40,160 --> 00:27:43,440
Speaker 2: So I get though, they Opie explain stray Cat one

635
00:27:43,480 --> 00:27:46,840
Speaker 2: person mentality bad at big picture. Yeah, but like that's

636
00:27:46,840 --> 00:27:48,800
Speaker 2: another big picture thing where it's like you might not

637
00:27:49,400 --> 00:27:51,000
Speaker 2: you'd feel like that it's right to go out of

638
00:27:51,000 --> 00:27:52,320
Speaker 2: town for two weeks right now.

639
00:27:52,520 --> 00:27:52,760
Speaker 3: Yeah.

640
00:27:52,800 --> 00:27:54,120
Speaker 2: I mean it did happen a month ago, but that's

641
00:27:54,200 --> 00:27:55,600
Speaker 2: not a lot of time. Yeah, And I mean if

642
00:27:55,600 --> 00:27:57,040
Speaker 2: you feel like with something like that, if.

643
00:27:56,920 --> 00:28:00,119
Speaker 3: You're bad at big picture and you're like saying that,

644
00:28:00,119 --> 00:28:02,000
Speaker 3: that means you're aware of it. So it's like you

645
00:28:02,000 --> 00:28:03,959
Speaker 3: don't want to keep feeding into that. If you know

646
00:28:04,000 --> 00:28:06,240
Speaker 3: that this probably isn't the right time to be bad

647
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Speaker 3: at the big picture, you know what I mean, like

648
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Speaker 3: work against it. If you know what's a problem.

649
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Speaker 2: I think the best bed is just like whatever your

650
00:28:11,920 --> 00:28:14,520
Speaker 2: partner's thinking right now, just support that you.

651
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Speaker 3: Know exactly exactly.

652
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Speaker 2: Thank you for the kind comments. They mean a lot.

653
00:28:18,119 --> 00:28:19,760
Speaker 2: I love him in a way I wish I could

654
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Speaker 2: tell fifteen year old me about to give old me

655
00:28:22,119 --> 00:28:24,240
Speaker 2: some hope. I would do any number of ridiculous things

656
00:28:24,280 --> 00:28:26,960
Speaker 2: to make him happy. He's the kindest, sweetest person, dental

657
00:28:26,960 --> 00:28:29,359
Speaker 2: and warm. I learn so much from him. There's an

658
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Speaker 2: update from two and a half weeks later. I'm a

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Speaker 2: married man. WHOA, So they did? They went through with

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Speaker 2: the wedding, all right, Okay, the elopes.

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Speaker 3: I don't know.

662
00:28:37,560 --> 00:28:38,080
Speaker 2: Let's find out.

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00:28:38,200 --> 00:28:38,760
Speaker 3: Let's find out.

664
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Speaker 2: I let my husband take the lead on making the

665
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Speaker 2: decisions here and let him know I would support whatever

666
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Speaker 2: he chooses. After some discussion, we decided to cancel the

667
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Speaker 2: wedding and Elope instead.

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Speaker 4: Right what is sere is?

669
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Speaker 2: My husband said he wouldn't feel right gathering all his

670
00:28:57,800 --> 00:29:00,239
Speaker 2: family and our friends without his sister present, But it

671
00:29:00,280 --> 00:29:02,440
Speaker 2: was still very important to him that we got married

672
00:29:02,560 --> 00:29:04,440
Speaker 2: on the date we first met. It was perfect, It

673
00:29:04,520 --> 00:29:08,080
Speaker 2: was exactly the right choice. Was quiet and intimate and us.

674
00:29:08,160 --> 00:29:10,160
Speaker 2: There's nothing in the world I love more than seeing

675
00:29:10,200 --> 00:29:13,840
Speaker 2: him smile, and he was stuck in perpetual smile a mode.

676
00:29:14,440 --> 00:29:16,400
Speaker 2: I was so worried if we had the wedding, I

677
00:29:16,440 --> 00:29:19,000
Speaker 2: would look over and see him looking anything less than thrilled,

678
00:29:19,000 --> 00:29:21,440
Speaker 2: because it wasn't how he envisioned it. Without his sister there,

679
00:29:21,480 --> 00:29:24,520
Speaker 2: I think the complete change and expectation made it easier

680
00:29:24,560 --> 00:29:27,479
Speaker 2: for him to let go. Again, exactly the right choice.

681
00:29:27,560 --> 00:29:30,600
Speaker 2: We're on cloud nine. In the lead up, there was

682
00:29:30,640 --> 00:29:34,120
Speaker 2: a lot of calling vendors, friends and family to let

683
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Speaker 2: them know we were canceling. It was very short notice

684
00:29:36,280 --> 00:29:38,720
Speaker 2: and we weren't rescheduling anything, so we lost all of

685
00:29:38,760 --> 00:29:42,200
Speaker 2: our deposits. Our loved ones were really understanding of our decision,

686
00:29:42,240 --> 00:29:44,320
Speaker 2: at least they were over the phone. We had very

687
00:29:44,320 --> 00:29:47,120
Speaker 2: few people flying it, only three friends and his mom

688
00:29:47,200 --> 00:29:50,040
Speaker 2: agreed to cover their flights as well. Finally, to address

689
00:29:50,080 --> 00:29:52,880
Speaker 2: my anger, most of it was directed towards the universe,

690
00:29:52,880 --> 00:29:55,160
Speaker 2: but I'll admit that I was mad at my mother

691
00:29:55,200 --> 00:29:57,640
Speaker 2: in law. Discussions about our wedding and his sister's grief

692
00:29:57,680 --> 00:30:00,680
Speaker 2: were ones we were already having still a th third party.

693
00:30:00,760 --> 00:30:03,600
Speaker 2: Coming to him and making this request felt cruel in

694
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Speaker 2: the moment that it felt like a guilt trip, like

695
00:30:05,560 --> 00:30:08,240
Speaker 2: unnecessary pressure on my husband when he was already having

696
00:30:08,240 --> 00:30:10,920
Speaker 2: to make these decisions. Anyway, we eventually made the choice

697
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Speaker 2: we wanted to make, but he did tell me at

698
00:30:12,960 --> 00:30:14,760
Speaker 2: one point he didn't want his mom to think he

699
00:30:14,880 --> 00:30:17,200
Speaker 2: was heartless if we had the wedding without his sister.

700
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Speaker 2: And by the way, we would never consider you heartless.

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Speaker 2: then you have fifty four almost days worth of story

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Speaker 2: to listen to. We have a little bit more story

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Speaker 2: here on Do you have anything to add ian Gi?

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Speaker 3: I mean, I think that seems like a good way

708
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Speaker 3: to deal with things. Listened to the fiance now husband

709
00:30:48,000 --> 00:30:51,840
Speaker 3: right and saw how he felt, saw you know, what

710
00:30:52,040 --> 00:30:54,160
Speaker 3: he wanted to do, because that's really the most important thing,

711
00:30:54,240 --> 00:30:56,880
Speaker 3: like we were saying before, and then they got a

712
00:30:56,960 --> 00:31:00,680
Speaker 3: looked and everyone's all happy. Now you can have like

713
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Speaker 3: another party for like an anniversary or something.

714
00:31:03,680 --> 00:31:06,720
Speaker 2: Yeah, big old one year anniversary, right, Yeah, yeah, you

715
00:31:06,760 --> 00:31:10,280
Speaker 2: know exactly. I think it was salvaged, exactly, salvaged the

716
00:31:10,320 --> 00:31:13,040
Speaker 2: situation we weren't. Then. I do want to not to

717
00:31:13,040 --> 00:31:15,440
Speaker 2: put op on blast, but I'm kind of doing that

718
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Speaker 2: go ahead. I feel like, ohp, he needs to own

719
00:31:17,760 --> 00:31:20,160
Speaker 2: their anger a little bit more. I think maybe you

720
00:31:20,240 --> 00:31:23,200
Speaker 2: know's some therapy or some counselor whatever to work through

721
00:31:23,240 --> 00:31:25,680
Speaker 2: and figure out what's going on there. Yeah, because that

722
00:31:25,720 --> 00:31:28,320
Speaker 2: post was really written, and I understand in hindsight you

723
00:31:28,320 --> 00:31:30,320
Speaker 2: can be like I was probably more mad at the universe,

724
00:31:30,360 --> 00:31:32,600
Speaker 2: but in that moment, you were directing all of that

725
00:31:32,720 --> 00:31:35,040
Speaker 2: anger onto your in laws, specifically your mother in law.

726
00:31:35,120 --> 00:31:36,800
Speaker 3: Yeah, And it's like and then we're kind of like, no,

727
00:31:36,840 --> 00:31:37,840
Speaker 3: I'm just mad at the universe.

728
00:31:38,000 --> 00:31:40,720
Speaker 2: Her daughter's husband had just you know, she was trying

729
00:31:40,760 --> 00:31:43,080
Speaker 2: to figure out. Yeah, she wasn't trying to be like,

730
00:31:43,160 --> 00:31:44,680
Speaker 2: hey you need to do this and this is now

731
00:31:44,720 --> 00:31:46,280
Speaker 2: on you. It's more like, hey, we are now in

732
00:31:46,320 --> 00:31:49,720
Speaker 2: a completely different situation than we were. We planned this wedding, yep,

733
00:31:49,800 --> 00:31:51,920
Speaker 2: so we got to figure out what's going to happen

734
00:31:52,000 --> 00:31:53,959
Speaker 2: with your sister? And if she's she can't come yea,

735
00:31:54,160 --> 00:31:57,200
Speaker 2: so can we move it or not? Like what's going on? Yeah,

736
00:31:57,720 --> 00:31:59,520
Speaker 2: that is just a mom being a mom, right, So

737
00:31:59,560 --> 00:32:01,800
Speaker 2: I would would address your anger. Yeah, that's it's a

738
00:32:01,840 --> 00:32:02,440
Speaker 2: bit of an issue.

739
00:32:02,760 --> 00:32:05,680
Speaker 3: I wouldn't have thought about that. But that's good, good insight.

740
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Speaker 2: Let's finish the story. Oh yeah, emotions were running high

741
00:32:08,840 --> 00:32:10,880
Speaker 2: for everyone. I don't think his mom would ever think

742
00:32:10,920 --> 00:32:13,520
Speaker 2: he's heartless. I know no one was out to get us.

743
00:32:13,560 --> 00:32:15,240
Speaker 2: His mom was doing her best to make the day

744
00:32:15,240 --> 00:32:19,600
Speaker 2: comfortable for everyone, and navigating that is basically impossible. Still,

745
00:32:19,640 --> 00:32:21,920
Speaker 2: I'm not sorry for my anger. Might want to work

746
00:32:21,920 --> 00:32:24,120
Speaker 2: on that, and maybe that still makes me the a hole,

747
00:32:24,160 --> 00:32:26,080
Speaker 2: but I'll be the a hole who loves his husband

748
00:32:26,080 --> 00:32:29,040
Speaker 2: and puts him first in every situation. Might want to

749
00:32:29,080 --> 00:32:30,520
Speaker 2: just do a little diggin'.

750
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Speaker 3: Listen to the core of that anger.

751
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Speaker 2: Baby. Yeah, we have some more relevant comments here.

752
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Speaker 4: Congratulations to both and to a lifetime of happiness.

753
00:32:40,200 --> 00:32:43,120
Speaker 2: Don't know why I did that. Voice op says thank you,

754
00:32:43,280 --> 00:32:46,120
Speaker 2: and also to all the other commenters sending congratulations. I

755
00:32:46,120 --> 00:32:49,120
Speaker 2: feel so lucky. Peace was something that didn't exist for

756
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Speaker 2: me for most of my life, particularly in my late

757
00:32:51,480 --> 00:32:53,800
Speaker 2: teens and early twenties, and then he came along and

758
00:32:53,880 --> 00:32:57,800
Speaker 2: chained everything. A comment or two says, does the family

759
00:32:57,840 --> 00:33:00,720
Speaker 2: know yet? Op says nope. We've been in hotel suite

760
00:33:00,800 --> 00:33:03,200
Speaker 2: having a little staycation all weekend, so neither of us

761
00:33:03,240 --> 00:33:05,040
Speaker 2: have been on our phones much at all. My mind

762
00:33:05,040 --> 00:33:08,000
Speaker 2: has just been on him. Comment to three says, not

763
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Speaker 2: the ahle. You put your husband first, made a kind choice,

764
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Speaker 2: and handled it with love. Congrats on your marriage. I agree.

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Speaker 3: Oh yeah, I agree.

766
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Speaker 2: I think that is the end of that story.

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Speaker 3: I don't.

768
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Speaker 2: I don't think they're an a hole for the anger.

769
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Speaker 2: I just think it's something they should probably like get

770
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Speaker 2: to the bottom of. That's all.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, Yeah, it's very easy to get a little loss

772
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Speaker 3: with anger and yeah, anger management and all that.

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Speaker 2: Hey, John og host here, we're gonna get back to

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Speaker 2: this episode. But a quick three minute break of ads

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Speaker 3: My uncle took my mother's life insurance money, so I

777
00:33:37,280 --> 00:33:40,560
Speaker 3: cut them all off. You should take the money. My

778
00:33:40,640 --> 00:33:43,239
Speaker 3: mother passed away in twenty twenty three from cancer. No,

779
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Speaker 3: I'm so sorry, I'm sorry. I found out that she

780
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Speaker 3: had it. Three weeks before she passed, her health started

781
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Speaker 3: to decline rapidly and she was about to enter her

782
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Speaker 3: hospice care. By the way, this comes from Entertainer City

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Speaker 3: My older brother had known about her cancer for two

786
00:33:59,680 --> 00:34:02,360
Speaker 3: years but never told me. We weren't close at all,

787
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Speaker 3: and he explained that she was supposed to tell me,

788
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Speaker 3: but she never did. Since we didn't speak to one another,

789
00:34:06,680 --> 00:34:08,600
Speaker 3: it sort of made sense that he assumed that I

790
00:34:08,640 --> 00:34:11,319
Speaker 3: already knew. Here's where things get a little rough. My

791
00:34:11,400 --> 00:34:14,240
Speaker 3: mother's youngest brother, who was probably in his early forties,

792
00:34:14,520 --> 00:34:17,480
Speaker 3: was passive, aggressive, and self absorbed. The only times we

793
00:34:17,520 --> 00:34:20,240
Speaker 3: saw him and other family members were mostly on holiday.

794
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Speaker 3: After she passed away, my brother and I immediately started

795
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Speaker 3: looking for my mother's belongings to arrange the funeral. Since

796
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Speaker 3: she was in hospice, she was no longer responsive and

797
00:34:27,680 --> 00:34:30,880
Speaker 3: had started experiencing sundown. There was no time for me

798
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Speaker 3: to ask her anything. In preparation. We came up short,

799
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Speaker 3: and when the time arrived to make the arrangements, things

800
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Speaker 3: became even more complicated. One day, that uncle came to

801
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Speaker 3: find her belongings and insisted that we'd cremate her. My brother,

802
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Speaker 3: being a minister, didn't believe in cremation, and my little

803
00:34:44,239 --> 00:34:46,680
Speaker 3: sister was also against. My mother was loved by many,

804
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Speaker 3: and I wanted her to have a proper burial deliberated

805
00:34:48,960 --> 00:34:51,520
Speaker 3: by loved ones. When I heard my uncle suggested cremation,

806
00:34:51,719 --> 00:34:54,040
Speaker 3: I felt disappointed. It seemed like he was trying to

807
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Speaker 3: rush the process. Keep in mind, this was only a

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Speaker 3: couple of days after her passing. On the day that

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Speaker 3: we were finalizing funeral arrangements, my siblings and I, along

810
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Speaker 3: with my mother's middle brother, were sorting things out. Once

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00:35:04,680 --> 00:35:07,640
Speaker 3: we saw the insanely expensive funeral, we tried to find

812
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Speaker 3: a solution. We decided to call her job to see

813
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Speaker 3: if we could access her life insurance policy or at

814
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Speaker 3: least find out who the beneficiary was. Keep in mind

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Speaker 3: that I had never dealt with anything like this in

816
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Speaker 3: my twenty seven years of life. My brother was on

817
00:35:20,200 --> 00:35:21,920
Speaker 3: the phone with her job when we found out that

818
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Speaker 3: the beneficiary was our youngest uncle. My brother flipped out, saying,

819
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Speaker 3: I'm done with this. Y'all can take care of everything.

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Speaker 3: And left immediately.

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Speaker 4: WHOA like he just I can't take the responsibility or

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Speaker 4: is he just like maybe I get it, emotions are

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Speaker 4: really high.

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Speaker 3: Yes, I don't know. Or maybe he just really hates

825
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Speaker 3: that youngest uncle. I don't know. I don't know.

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Speaker 4: But before we get back to the story, usually there's

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Speaker 4: something in the will or like because my father told

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Speaker 4: me he.

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Speaker 3: Wants to be premated right, like what they want.

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Speaker 4: What they want, like what kind of buriller service they want,

831
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Speaker 4: or how they want to you know. Usually that's especially

832
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Speaker 4: with you know you're going to go away soon, especially

833
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Speaker 4: with like answers like that. Usually it's said by the

834
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Speaker 4: person or it's in the wills.

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Speaker 3: Yes, sometimes I was numb, no clear thoughts, just distraught.

836
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Speaker 3: While trying to comfort my little sister, my mother's middle

837
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Speaker 3: brother called our uncle to request his assistance so we

838
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Speaker 3: could get things in order cool. On the day of

839
00:36:14,120 --> 00:36:16,799
Speaker 3: our family meeting, the youngest uncle gave us details on

840
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Speaker 3: how everything would be handled, asking for our input. One

841
00:36:19,320 --> 00:36:21,200
Speaker 3: of my aunts said, well, once you get the money,

842
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Speaker 3: make sure you give them some help with their expenses

843
00:36:23,760 --> 00:36:26,120
Speaker 3: while they figured things out. Over the next few months,

844
00:36:26,120 --> 00:36:28,040
Speaker 3: it's my little sister and I were taking over the

845
00:36:28,040 --> 00:36:30,720
Speaker 3: house and managing new bills on top of our responsibilities.

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00:36:30,800 --> 00:36:33,439
Speaker 3: His wife chimed in, he's not like that. He'll make

847
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Speaker 3: sure that they're good.

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Speaker 4: Don't worry.

849
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Speaker 3: Funeral was paid for and we were moving forward. The

850
00:36:37,880 --> 00:36:39,960
Speaker 3: youngest uncle received the money and asked for a list

851
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Speaker 3: of debts that needed to be cleared in my mother's name.

852
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Speaker 3: No problem, But before my mother's health started to decline

853
00:36:45,160 --> 00:36:47,800
Speaker 3: a month before hospice, she had told me, if anything

854
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Speaker 3: happens to me, don't let your uncle take my money.

855
00:36:50,520 --> 00:36:53,919
Speaker 3: He's snooping around. I was confused and didn't understand why

856
00:36:53,960 --> 00:36:55,919
Speaker 3: she was saying that. He never came to our home.

857
00:36:56,120 --> 00:36:59,000
Speaker 3: We always went to his. They had the money, they

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Speaker 3: were wealthy. After my my mother's debts were settled, my

859
00:37:01,480 --> 00:37:03,960
Speaker 3: sister and I asked out of curiosity, when we would

860
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Speaker 3: receive our share of the remaining funds. That's when things shifted.

861
00:37:07,239 --> 00:37:10,040
Speaker 3: He became defensive. We waited a few days and then

862
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Speaker 3: asked again. The house we were living in was twenty

863
00:37:12,640 --> 00:37:14,759
Speaker 3: nine years old and things needed to be fixed. We

864
00:37:14,800 --> 00:37:17,480
Speaker 3: wanted to take care of repairs before further damage occurred.

865
00:37:17,520 --> 00:37:20,800
Speaker 3: But instead of answering us directly, he got defensive, saying,

866
00:37:21,040 --> 00:37:24,360
Speaker 3: y'all are being ungrateful instead of checking in on me.

867
00:37:24,680 --> 00:37:28,040
Speaker 3: But he had never checked on us, As I mentioned before,

868
00:37:28,120 --> 00:37:30,279
Speaker 3: we only saw him on holidays. He had always been

869
00:37:30,400 --> 00:37:33,600
Speaker 3: judgmental towards us. Now I'll acknowledge my own mistake. I

870
00:37:33,640 --> 00:37:36,600
Speaker 3: was upset, mad and angry, so I made a TikTok video,

871
00:37:36,960 --> 00:37:39,400
Speaker 3: never expecting it to go viral. I wasn't getting much

872
00:37:39,400 --> 00:37:42,040
Speaker 3: attention on there anyway. I just needed someone to hear

873
00:37:42,040 --> 00:37:44,160
Speaker 3: me out because I felt like I was suffocating from

874
00:37:44,200 --> 00:37:47,200
Speaker 3: everything happening. I didn't say anything crazy, just mentioned how

875
00:37:47,239 --> 00:37:50,080
Speaker 3: true colors show and a loved one passes. I also

876
00:37:50,160 --> 00:37:52,719
Speaker 3: directed a message of my uncle, saying you will reap

877
00:37:52,800 --> 00:37:55,359
Speaker 3: what you sew and you should be ashamed of what

878
00:37:55,440 --> 00:37:57,600
Speaker 3: you're doing. Hey, get to put that on the internet.

879
00:37:57,920 --> 00:37:58,960
Speaker 3: Put it on the internet.

880
00:37:59,080 --> 00:38:03,480
Speaker 4: Oh yeah, you wanted to vent your your family stuff

881
00:38:03,600 --> 00:38:05,719
Speaker 4: and all this hard hardship.

882
00:38:05,840 --> 00:38:07,320
Speaker 3: Yep, on TikTok TikTok.

883
00:38:07,480 --> 00:38:09,480
Speaker 4: You didn't have a diary or something, right.

884
00:38:09,880 --> 00:38:12,680
Speaker 3: Just get a piece of paper, write it downe all right?

885
00:38:12,920 --> 00:38:13,480
Speaker 2: Yeah?

886
00:38:13,640 --> 00:38:16,000
Speaker 4: Not one for airing out stuff like that on the internet,

887
00:38:16,040 --> 00:38:17,279
Speaker 4: because once it's out there, it's out there.

888
00:38:17,360 --> 00:38:19,759
Speaker 3: It's out there, at least in this story, it's anonymous.

889
00:38:20,480 --> 00:38:24,280
Speaker 3: True relatively, The video went viral and it was shared widely.

890
00:38:24,480 --> 00:38:27,160
Speaker 3: There you go, he found out, and a division began

891
00:38:27,239 --> 00:38:29,799
Speaker 3: with the family, though to be fair, the family had

892
00:38:29,840 --> 00:38:33,520
Speaker 3: already been fractured since my grandparents passed away a decade ago.

893
00:38:33,600 --> 00:38:36,200
Speaker 3: Keep in mind, I never said his name. I just

894
00:38:36,200 --> 00:38:39,200
Speaker 3: said my uncle, and I had three uncles. My brother

895
00:38:39,320 --> 00:38:41,759
Speaker 3: stepped in trying to mediate. He told me, they want

896
00:38:41,800 --> 00:38:44,440
Speaker 3: you to take the video down and apologize. I declined

897
00:38:44,560 --> 00:38:46,399
Speaker 3: I was speaking my truth and I never said who

898
00:38:46,640 --> 00:38:49,280
Speaker 3: was then one of my closest cousins at the time.

899
00:38:49,400 --> 00:38:52,480
Speaker 3: We are no longer close or in contact. He chimed in, saying,

900
00:38:52,680 --> 00:38:55,320
Speaker 3: you know you're wrong. This should stay within the family.

901
00:38:55,400 --> 00:38:57,560
Speaker 3: He's just trying to help the situation. You need to

902
00:38:57,600 --> 00:38:59,879
Speaker 3: stop and let him handle things. I wish I could

903
00:39:00,080 --> 00:39:02,960
Speaker 3: visually show you all who this uncle is. But he

904
00:39:03,040 --> 00:39:05,239
Speaker 3: is not a good person, and I hate to say that.

905
00:39:05,320 --> 00:39:08,160
Speaker 3: Over the years he has done wrong to other family members.

906
00:39:08,200 --> 00:39:10,879
Speaker 3: He gave his parents heck when they were alive. When

907
00:39:10,880 --> 00:39:13,960
Speaker 3: my grandfather was passing away of diabetes, this uncle took

908
00:39:14,000 --> 00:39:16,680
Speaker 3: over his bank account and started doing malicious things It

909
00:39:16,800 --> 00:39:19,360
Speaker 3: was a toxic cycle that had played out in the

910
00:39:19,400 --> 00:39:23,400
Speaker 3: previous generation, and my sister and I refused to continue it.

911
00:39:23,480 --> 00:39:25,880
Speaker 3: We were the only ones willing to stand up and

912
00:39:25,920 --> 00:39:28,920
Speaker 3: say no. I never responded to that cousin because my

913
00:39:28,960 --> 00:39:31,520
Speaker 3: anger wasn't directed at him, it was my uncle. Finally

914
00:39:31,600 --> 00:39:34,720
Speaker 3: I tried to have a respectable conversation with my uncle.

915
00:39:34,840 --> 00:39:38,239
Speaker 3: He completely tore me down. He told me you have

916
00:39:38,400 --> 00:39:41,640
Speaker 3: nothing going for yourself, you're not responsible, and a bunch

917
00:39:41,680 --> 00:39:45,239
Speaker 3: of other negative things. In reality, I was always at

918
00:39:45,239 --> 00:39:48,160
Speaker 3: work on a production set or resting before my next shift.

919
00:39:48,280 --> 00:39:51,320
Speaker 3: I never gave my mother trouble. I handled the responsibilities.

920
00:39:51,400 --> 00:39:54,120
Speaker 3: I was in my own world trying to figure out life.

921
00:39:54,120 --> 00:39:56,840
Speaker 3: After that conversation, I realized I needed to find peace

922
00:39:56,880 --> 00:39:59,279
Speaker 3: in order to move forward. The stress was so overwhelming

923
00:39:59,320 --> 00:40:01,640
Speaker 3: that I ended up in the hospital. My tropinin levels

924
00:40:01,680 --> 00:40:04,000
Speaker 3: were high and they thought that I was about to

925
00:40:04,040 --> 00:40:06,479
Speaker 3: have a heart attack. I was in therapy every week

926
00:40:06,520 --> 00:40:08,680
Speaker 3: trying to cope with my grief and the family drama.

927
00:40:08,840 --> 00:40:11,720
Speaker 3: It was too much, so I decided I was done.

928
00:40:11,800 --> 00:40:15,200
Speaker 3: Besides my sister, my mother's middle brother, whom we were

929
00:40:15,239 --> 00:40:17,439
Speaker 3: already close with, and a couple of cousins. I had

930
00:40:17,480 --> 00:40:19,600
Speaker 3: to let the rest of them go. I still love them,

931
00:40:19,640 --> 00:40:22,120
Speaker 3: but from a distance. The stress had sent me into

932
00:40:22,160 --> 00:40:25,320
Speaker 3: a deep depression for months. By the way, I'm gonna

933
00:40:25,320 --> 00:40:28,719
Speaker 3: send you over to whatever your favorite podcast app is,

934
00:40:29,000 --> 00:40:33,240
Speaker 3: whether that's iHeart Radio, Spotify, Apple Podcasts, you choose. Just search, okay,

935
00:40:33,239 --> 00:40:36,120
Speaker 3: storytime and you'll find episodes of stories just like this one.

936
00:40:36,239 --> 00:40:37,239
Speaker 3: Just get on over there.

937
00:40:37,400 --> 00:40:40,800
Speaker 4: Yeah, do that right after this, Right after this, we

938
00:40:40,920 --> 00:40:41,640
Speaker 4: got a lot for you.

939
00:40:42,000 --> 00:40:44,080
Speaker 3: Yeah, we've got a little bit more into this story.

940
00:40:44,200 --> 00:40:46,440
Speaker 3: But what you got lots of like I don't know.

941
00:40:46,520 --> 00:40:48,320
Speaker 4: Yeah, there's a lot of unpack here. Yeah, I'm a

942
00:40:48,360 --> 00:40:52,160
Speaker 4: little confused as well. They're like the family dynamic is

943
00:40:52,239 --> 00:40:54,320
Speaker 4: just it seems very interesting. It seems like one uncle

944
00:40:54,880 --> 00:40:55,960
Speaker 4: is just out.

945
00:40:55,800 --> 00:40:56,239
Speaker 3: For it all.

946
00:40:56,440 --> 00:40:59,799
Speaker 4: Yeah, but again, where is Shouldn't there be a will?

947
00:41:00,120 --> 00:41:01,920
Speaker 3: Right, I'm very confused.

948
00:41:01,960 --> 00:41:02,759
Speaker 2: Where is the will?

949
00:41:02,920 --> 00:41:06,359
Speaker 3: Yeah, we've got a beneficiary. Yeah, so it's like there's

950
00:41:06,400 --> 00:41:09,960
Speaker 3: something in there about money and shares and stuff like that.

951
00:41:10,080 --> 00:41:13,480
Speaker 3: But it's just like, maybe it's not because the youngest

952
00:41:13,560 --> 00:41:16,120
Speaker 3: uncle was the beneficiary, so maybe he's the problem.

953
00:41:16,239 --> 00:41:19,279
Speaker 4: I do not Yeah, I would like to see the

954
00:41:19,320 --> 00:41:22,000
Speaker 4: will because or like at least get some information, because

955
00:41:22,080 --> 00:41:23,759
Speaker 4: I've told this to actually a couple of people. I'm like,

956
00:41:23,840 --> 00:41:26,480
Speaker 4: you know, wills are really important, Like yeah, no, Matt,

957
00:41:26,640 --> 00:41:29,080
Speaker 4: like at this age, even for our age, like you

958
00:41:29,120 --> 00:41:31,520
Speaker 4: never know sucks, but you never know, never know, and

959
00:41:31,560 --> 00:41:33,879
Speaker 4: you have something in writing or writing and then if

960
00:41:33,920 --> 00:41:35,920
Speaker 4: not it goes it just goes to state and that

961
00:41:35,960 --> 00:41:37,520
Speaker 4: gets more stickier.

962
00:41:37,640 --> 00:41:41,000
Speaker 3: Huge mess. Yeah, yeah, I know. So there's gotta be

963
00:41:41,080 --> 00:41:41,680
Speaker 3: answers something.

964
00:41:41,719 --> 00:41:43,360
Speaker 4: There's gonna be answer somewhere because it just seems like

965
00:41:43,400 --> 00:41:45,520
Speaker 4: everyone's pointing the finger at You're the problem.

966
00:41:45,520 --> 00:41:47,080
Speaker 3: No, you're the problem. One.

967
00:41:47,200 --> 00:41:50,920
Speaker 4: We're grieving over a family member here, and why is

968
00:41:50,960 --> 00:41:52,520
Speaker 4: it so harsh for us to come together?

969
00:41:52,680 --> 00:41:55,360
Speaker 3: Honestly? Now is the time? Yeah, Anny, there is a

970
00:41:55,400 --> 00:41:57,800
Speaker 3: little bit more into this story. PS. I don't speak

971
00:41:57,800 --> 00:41:59,840
Speaker 3: with my brother because one we were never closed to,

972
00:42:00,000 --> 00:42:02,440
Speaker 3: so he bailed on us during the funeral arrangements when

973
00:42:02,440 --> 00:42:04,680
Speaker 3: I had hoped we could build a relationship. And three

974
00:42:04,840 --> 00:42:07,719
Speaker 3: at the funeral, he decided to preach the sermon and

975
00:42:07,800 --> 00:42:10,520
Speaker 3: told the entire church that my sister and I were spoiled,

976
00:42:10,640 --> 00:42:13,200
Speaker 3: which made no sense. My mother was a single parent,

977
00:42:13,320 --> 00:42:16,760
Speaker 3: working and sacrificing to provide for us all those years.

978
00:42:16,800 --> 00:42:19,400
Speaker 3: He had been punted out of the house at fifteen

979
00:42:19,520 --> 00:42:21,719
Speaker 3: and went to live with my older uncle because he

980
00:42:21,880 --> 00:42:24,120
Speaker 3: was a troubled kid who had caused my mother a

981
00:42:24,120 --> 00:42:26,319
Speaker 3: lot of stress. He needs to heal before we can

982
00:42:26,400 --> 00:42:28,640
Speaker 3: even have a relationship. So am I the a hole

983
00:42:28,680 --> 00:42:30,840
Speaker 3: for cutting off my family? And there are some comments?

984
00:42:30,920 --> 00:42:33,480
Speaker 3: Comment to number one says, just a quick response to this,

985
00:42:33,640 --> 00:42:36,239
Speaker 3: I won't go into all the similarities between our situations

986
00:42:36,360 --> 00:42:38,240
Speaker 3: or my comment would be as long as your post.

987
00:42:38,320 --> 00:42:40,360
Speaker 3: But my mother and I were BFFs. I mean, I

988
00:42:40,400 --> 00:42:43,759
Speaker 3: do have other BFFs, but she's definitely right near the

989
00:42:43,760 --> 00:42:46,240
Speaker 3: top of the list. As for my siblings, nieces and nephews,

990
00:42:46,280 --> 00:42:48,799
Speaker 3: all absolutely trash that I only tolerated when my mother

991
00:42:48,880 --> 00:42:51,000
Speaker 3: wanted us all to get together for a special occasion.

992
00:42:51,120 --> 00:42:53,759
Speaker 3: She passed away eight years ago, and although I miss

993
00:42:53,800 --> 00:42:56,439
Speaker 3: her terribly, I wasn't completely devastated when she passed away

994
00:42:56,440 --> 00:42:58,920
Speaker 3: because I knew we'd made the most of every minute

995
00:42:58,920 --> 00:43:01,120
Speaker 3: that we had. But my mother passing did have one

996
00:43:01,200 --> 00:43:03,800
Speaker 3: huge silver lining. I never have to see a single

997
00:43:03,800 --> 00:43:06,920
Speaker 3: one of my family members ever again. As the British say,

998
00:43:07,120 --> 00:43:10,279
Speaker 3: they are a complete pack of see you next Tuesdays

999
00:43:10,400 --> 00:43:12,640
Speaker 3: and the fact that they are out of my life forever.

1000
00:43:12,840 --> 00:43:14,440
Speaker 3: I wish I could send you a selfie up the

1001
00:43:14,480 --> 00:43:16,960
Speaker 3: grin on my face right now just thinking about it.

1002
00:43:17,040 --> 00:43:19,000
Speaker 3: So don't be ashamed at all for using this as

1003
00:43:19,000 --> 00:43:21,880
Speaker 3: an opportunity to make some positive changes in your life. Yeah,

1004
00:43:21,960 --> 00:43:25,160
Speaker 3: I mean as very much as the silver lining for sure. Yeah,

1005
00:43:25,280 --> 00:43:26,200
Speaker 3: I agree.

1006
00:43:26,239 --> 00:43:28,600
Speaker 4: I mean, sure, you may be bound by blood, but

1007
00:43:28,640 --> 00:43:30,640
Speaker 4: you're not forced to talk to them, you know, if

1008
00:43:31,160 --> 00:43:33,440
Speaker 4: they really are toxic in your life, or they just

1009
00:43:33,480 --> 00:43:35,239
Speaker 4: cause trouble and they don't want to hear you out,

1010
00:43:35,280 --> 00:43:37,399
Speaker 4: or you don't have a civil conversation, there's my point.

1011
00:43:37,480 --> 00:43:39,280
Speaker 3: Yeah, you're good. But that's the end of that story.

1012
00:43:39,280 --> 00:43:41,520
Speaker 3: We have another one for We got another one coming up.

1013
00:43:42,560 --> 00:43:46,360
Speaker 4: My family pressured me to give my sister my wedding venue,

1014
00:43:46,520 --> 00:43:47,719
Speaker 4: so we excluded them.

1015
00:43:47,880 --> 00:43:48,960
Speaker 3: It's yours, not bears.

1016
00:43:49,200 --> 00:43:51,560
Speaker 4: My fiance and I have been together for eight years

1017
00:43:51,600 --> 00:43:54,360
Speaker 4: and engaged for three. I was doing my PhD program

1018
00:43:54,440 --> 00:43:57,040
Speaker 4: and was juggling planning the wedding. My fiance took much

1019
00:43:57,040 --> 00:43:59,000
Speaker 4: of that work, but it was perfect because our dream

1020
00:43:59,040 --> 00:44:01,839
Speaker 4: venue was booked until after my graduation. By the way,

1021
00:44:01,880 --> 00:44:04,040
Speaker 4: this comes from user paper Weight Ferry on the r

1022
00:44:04,080 --> 00:44:05,719
Speaker 4: slash Okay story times up, reread it and you could

1023
00:44:05,719 --> 00:44:08,440
Speaker 4: submit your stories right there too, and maybe we can

1024
00:44:08,480 --> 00:44:10,200
Speaker 4: read it from there. So what we did is book

1025
00:44:10,239 --> 00:44:12,759
Speaker 4: our dream venue three years in advance. It is a

1026
00:44:12,800 --> 00:44:15,640
Speaker 4: really beautiful venue. The only slot we got was September

1027
00:44:15,680 --> 00:44:17,839
Speaker 4: of this year. My sister got engaged a few months

1028
00:44:17,880 --> 00:44:20,120
Speaker 4: ago to her fiance. They were planning on having a

1029
00:44:20,120 --> 00:44:22,680
Speaker 4: spring wedding next year. They had no venue lined up,

1030
00:44:22,719 --> 00:44:25,120
Speaker 4: but had a few vendors lined up as well as

1031
00:44:25,160 --> 00:44:28,160
Speaker 4: a set date. Yesterday, our parents invited us and our

1032
00:44:28,200 --> 00:44:31,000
Speaker 4: significant others to a family barbecue where my sister announced

1033
00:44:31,000 --> 00:44:33,800
Speaker 4: to our extended family that she is expecting. Everyone was

1034
00:44:33,840 --> 00:44:35,520
Speaker 4: so happy for her and my brother in law, who

1035
00:44:35,560 --> 00:44:37,719
Speaker 4: is a great guy. My Nan asked my sister if

1036
00:44:37,760 --> 00:44:39,839
Speaker 4: the wedding was still on the set date or if

1037
00:44:39,840 --> 00:44:41,560
Speaker 4: they were going to wait because of the baby. She

1038
00:44:41,640 --> 00:44:44,600
Speaker 4: said no, that she had hoped to move it to September.

1039
00:44:44,680 --> 00:44:45,319
Speaker 3: No big deal.

1040
00:44:45,360 --> 00:44:47,840
Speaker 4: We don't have many out of town guests, so they

1041
00:44:47,840 --> 00:44:50,440
Speaker 4: could attend both weddings no problem. Nan was happy and

1042
00:44:50,480 --> 00:44:52,920
Speaker 4: asked sister if she needed help planning such a short

1043
00:44:52,960 --> 00:44:55,520
Speaker 4: notice wedding. My sister then turned around and said, that's

1044
00:44:55,520 --> 00:44:57,600
Speaker 4: what I wanted to talk to you about. I was

1045
00:44:57,640 --> 00:45:00,640
Speaker 4: really hoping we could kind of like take e your venue.

1046
00:45:00,640 --> 00:45:03,040
Speaker 4: I really can't stress myself too much with planning a

1047
00:45:03,080 --> 00:45:05,840
Speaker 4: wedding while going to maternity class, and I think it

1048
00:45:05,920 --> 00:45:08,600
Speaker 4: is so beautiful. It would really mean a lot to me.

1049
00:45:09,040 --> 00:45:11,640
Speaker 4: It went silence, but everyone was looking at me, expecting

1050
00:45:11,680 --> 00:45:15,680
Speaker 4: me to say yes, of course, everything for my little sister.

1051
00:45:15,960 --> 00:45:18,560
Speaker 4: My brother in law looked very uncomfortable and told her

1052
00:45:18,560 --> 00:45:20,480
Speaker 4: that they had talked about this and that it was

1053
00:45:20,520 --> 00:45:22,920
Speaker 4: not okay to put me on the spot. But my

1054
00:45:23,040 --> 00:45:25,359
Speaker 4: sister just said, don't be like that. My sister wants

1055
00:45:25,400 --> 00:45:28,000
Speaker 4: to do what's best for me, so it's no big deal.

1056
00:45:28,239 --> 00:45:30,960
Speaker 4: I just said, well, it kind of is.

1057
00:45:31,200 --> 00:45:31,680
Speaker 3: I don't know.

1058
00:45:31,840 --> 00:45:34,520
Speaker 4: I have my heart really set on the venue, and

1059
00:45:34,800 --> 00:45:38,360
Speaker 4: you the crying. She stormed off. Nan told me that

1060
00:45:38,400 --> 00:45:40,719
Speaker 4: I was being selfish because she needed the venue more

1061
00:45:40,760 --> 00:45:41,200
Speaker 4: than I did.

1062
00:45:41,320 --> 00:45:43,760
Speaker 3: I tried to defend myself, and my mother said.

1063
00:45:43,760 --> 00:45:47,200
Speaker 4: You waited three years, would have a wait a few

1064
00:45:47,200 --> 00:45:49,880
Speaker 4: more months. When has your sister ever asked you for something?

1065
00:45:50,000 --> 00:45:53,080
Speaker 4: A few comments later, my fiance got really mad and

1066
00:45:53,120 --> 00:45:55,600
Speaker 4: we left My sister called me crying and said that

1067
00:45:55,640 --> 00:45:58,400
Speaker 4: it was unfair that I always get what I want

1068
00:45:58,480 --> 00:46:00,760
Speaker 4: and that I could have done this one thing for her.

1069
00:46:00,840 --> 00:46:03,040
Speaker 4: Dad said, it's just a venue, and what matters is

1070
00:46:03,040 --> 00:46:05,600
Speaker 4: the person who you are marrying. He is kind of right,

1071
00:46:05,719 --> 00:46:09,080
Speaker 4: but we have been planning for so long. My fiance

1072
00:46:09,320 --> 00:46:11,920
Speaker 4: is furious with my family and doesn't even want my

1073
00:46:11,960 --> 00:46:14,759
Speaker 4: sister to come. Now now my family's threatening to not

1074
00:46:14,840 --> 00:46:17,440
Speaker 4: come because I'm being selfish and my sister needs it

1075
00:46:17,480 --> 00:46:20,279
Speaker 4: more than me because having a baby is too stressful.

1076
00:46:20,360 --> 00:46:22,239
Speaker 4: You have an update. My brother in law called me

1077
00:46:22,320 --> 00:46:24,839
Speaker 4: and apologized for the inconvenience. He told me he had

1078
00:46:24,840 --> 00:46:27,080
Speaker 4: discussed it with my sister and she had told him

1079
00:46:27,120 --> 00:46:29,399
Speaker 4: she would not ask. He is probably mad at her

1080
00:46:29,480 --> 00:46:31,560
Speaker 4: now and warn me that my sister is blaming me

1081
00:46:32,000 --> 00:46:35,439
Speaker 4: for potentially ruining her marriage. My father sent me about

1082
00:46:35,520 --> 00:46:38,160
Speaker 4: five texts along the lines of I hope you're happy.

1083
00:46:38,280 --> 00:46:41,359
Speaker 4: Your sister hasn't stopped crying since yesterday, and so on

1084
00:46:41,440 --> 00:46:43,640
Speaker 4: and so on. My fiance and I have decided to

1085
00:46:43,680 --> 00:46:45,920
Speaker 4: boot my sister from the bridal party and replace her

1086
00:46:45,960 --> 00:46:48,279
Speaker 4: with my aunt, who is the only family member that

1087
00:46:48,320 --> 00:46:50,719
Speaker 4: took my side. We have not decided whether or not

1088
00:46:50,880 --> 00:46:53,400
Speaker 4: we will invite my family as a whole. Furthermore, my

1089
00:46:53,440 --> 00:46:55,640
Speaker 4: mom took it upon herself to tell us. She called

1090
00:46:55,680 --> 00:46:57,840
Speaker 4: fiance's parents and told them that it would be best

1091
00:46:57,920 --> 00:47:01,600
Speaker 4: if my sister gets it because she is preclampsia runs

1092
00:47:01,600 --> 00:47:04,279
Speaker 4: in the family, whatever that means. My future father in

1093
00:47:04,360 --> 00:47:07,160
Speaker 4: law told them to f off and basically my mom

1094
00:47:07,200 --> 00:47:09,960
Speaker 4: a new one for expecting something so ridiculous and that

1095
00:47:09,960 --> 00:47:12,520
Speaker 4: they were going to lose me if they kept playing favorites.

1096
00:47:12,719 --> 00:47:15,080
Speaker 4: So my mom is now crying too and saying that

1097
00:47:15,120 --> 00:47:17,600
Speaker 4: my father in law is a But this is just

1098
00:47:17,680 --> 00:47:20,040
Speaker 4: getting so pathetic. It seems straight out of a bad

1099
00:47:20,080 --> 00:47:22,120
Speaker 4: soap opera. My in laws are driving to us currently

1100
00:47:22,200 --> 00:47:24,480
Speaker 4: with some supper and wine and basically told me not

1101
00:47:24,560 --> 00:47:26,680
Speaker 4: to worry and that no matter what happens, they will

1102
00:47:26,680 --> 00:47:29,680
Speaker 4: be my safety net. I cried, here's happiness and we

1103
00:47:29,719 --> 00:47:33,800
Speaker 4: have a second update. Wow, another one, another one.

1104
00:47:34,160 --> 00:47:37,680
Speaker 3: Gosh, just like freaking cry babies, Just because someone is

1105
00:47:37,719 --> 00:47:40,239
Speaker 3: crying doesn't mean that they get what they want like this.

1106
00:47:40,400 --> 00:47:43,200
Speaker 4: Come on, I hate that excuse of she got pregnant,

1107
00:47:43,400 --> 00:47:46,040
Speaker 4: give her everything she wants. She's first in line, so

1108
00:47:46,080 --> 00:47:48,239
Speaker 4: it hasn't been that long, but this post blew the

1109
00:47:48,280 --> 00:47:51,080
Speaker 4: heck up. I was expecting only a few answers, but

1110
00:47:51,200 --> 00:47:54,279
Speaker 4: the support was overwhelming. What buckled my mind is that

1111
00:47:54,320 --> 00:47:57,120
Speaker 4: the story flooded over to mainstream media. But let's get

1112
00:47:57,160 --> 00:47:59,920
Speaker 4: to the story. So since this went viral, a lot happened.

1113
00:48:00,000 --> 00:48:00,759
Speaker 3: This is about my sister.

1114
00:48:00,880 --> 00:48:03,800
Speaker 4: My sister saw this story while browsing on her Reddit account.

1115
00:48:03,880 --> 00:48:05,960
Speaker 4: She lost her mind. She accused me of painting her

1116
00:48:06,000 --> 00:48:09,160
Speaker 4: like a looney and misinterpreting facts some info. My sister

1117
00:48:09,200 --> 00:48:11,200
Speaker 4: got a wind of the situation due to various media

1118
00:48:11,239 --> 00:48:13,680
Speaker 4: outlets and went on Reddit. She said that I was

1119
00:48:13,719 --> 00:48:16,120
Speaker 4: being unfair, that she is family, and that she asked

1120
00:48:16,239 --> 00:48:19,000
Speaker 4: nicely because she loves me. She also underlined the fact

1121
00:48:19,040 --> 00:48:22,320
Speaker 4: that the opinion of internet strangers doesn't count because family's

1122
00:48:22,360 --> 00:48:25,040
Speaker 4: more important and I should focus on making my family happy.

1123
00:48:25,120 --> 00:48:27,520
Speaker 4: The only text I sent back was this, I am

1124
00:48:27,560 --> 00:48:29,600
Speaker 4: sorry that you perceived it in that way. I did not,

1125
00:48:29,840 --> 00:48:32,520
Speaker 4: in any sort distort what happened. As you might notice,

1126
00:48:32,640 --> 00:48:35,680
Speaker 4: I didn't describe your tone, nor exaggerated anything. Perhaps you

1127
00:48:35,719 --> 00:48:38,080
Speaker 4: have that night differently in your mind than I do,

1128
00:48:38,200 --> 00:48:40,800
Speaker 4: but I digress. I am sick and tired of benting

1129
00:48:40,840 --> 00:48:43,080
Speaker 4: to your will. My whole life, I have been your

1130
00:48:43,120 --> 00:48:45,640
Speaker 4: servant and your doormat. Remember all the birthdays I had

1131
00:48:45,640 --> 00:48:47,560
Speaker 4: to share with you because you would throw a tantrum

1132
00:48:47,560 --> 00:48:50,000
Speaker 4: because you didn't get any presents, or when you cried

1133
00:48:50,080 --> 00:48:52,399
Speaker 4: so that I would fill out job applications for you.

1134
00:48:52,480 --> 00:48:54,360
Speaker 4: The thing that hurt me the most till now is

1135
00:48:54,400 --> 00:48:55,920
Speaker 4: when you ruined my graduation.

1136
00:48:56,160 --> 00:48:56,800
Speaker 3: I am done.

1137
00:48:56,880 --> 00:48:59,480
Speaker 4: I admit that I also spoiled you, but I will

1138
00:48:59,480 --> 00:49:01,840
Speaker 4: not any longer. If you want to marry so badly

1139
00:49:01,920 --> 00:49:04,320
Speaker 4: before your baby's born, then you could look at Hotel

1140
00:49:04,520 --> 00:49:07,080
Speaker 4: X that over's last minute weddings. I've spent too much

1141
00:49:07,120 --> 00:49:09,799
Speaker 4: time planning my wedding to gift it to you, and

1142
00:49:09,840 --> 00:49:12,040
Speaker 4: if you want to ruin our relationship over this, then

1143
00:49:12,080 --> 00:49:14,400
Speaker 4: go ahead. I always sleep sound and safe knowing that

1144
00:49:14,480 --> 00:49:17,799
Speaker 4: this wasn't my fault. She only sent me a Wow,

1145
00:49:18,719 --> 00:49:21,880
Speaker 4: you must love me so very much and then block me.

1146
00:49:22,040 --> 00:49:23,759
Speaker 4: She un blocked me this morning to send me this

1147
00:49:24,040 --> 00:49:26,680
Speaker 4: wedding planner. Hello, dear, I got the message from your

1148
00:49:26,680 --> 00:49:28,800
Speaker 4: mother and will proceed with the rebooking of the venue

1149
00:49:28,880 --> 00:49:31,839
Speaker 4: on the spot. However, this will have extra costs as

1150
00:49:31,880 --> 00:49:34,800
Speaker 4: we have to change the names on the contract. Please

1151
00:49:34,840 --> 00:49:37,080
Speaker 4: come by my office tomorrow so we can sign the

1152
00:49:37,120 --> 00:49:40,400
Speaker 4: new contract. Sister, that's great, I'll be there at nine.

1153
00:49:40,520 --> 00:49:43,840
Speaker 4: You to Opie's parents. My parents haven't actually written to

1154
00:49:43,880 --> 00:49:45,560
Speaker 4: me since the thing with my father in law.

1155
00:49:45,600 --> 00:49:46,319
Speaker 3: My older brother.

1156
00:49:46,560 --> 00:49:48,360
Speaker 4: Yes, I have an older brother, but he lives in

1157
00:49:48,440 --> 00:49:51,040
Speaker 4: another city and wasn't at the barbecue. That's why I

1158
00:49:51,040 --> 00:49:53,120
Speaker 4: didn't mention him. Plus, he initially could not come to

1159
00:49:53,120 --> 00:49:55,359
Speaker 4: the wedding because of work and change his plans. After

1160
00:49:55,400 --> 00:49:57,759
Speaker 4: hearing about the whole story, my brother contacted me and

1161
00:49:57,840 --> 00:50:00,520
Speaker 4: wanted to know what happened because he got a weird story.

1162
00:50:00,280 --> 00:50:01,200
Speaker 3: From Mom and dad.

1163
00:50:01,480 --> 00:50:04,200
Speaker 4: Mom had told him that I had offered prior to

1164
00:50:04,239 --> 00:50:06,440
Speaker 4: the barbecue to give up the venue to my sister

1165
00:50:06,760 --> 00:50:10,320
Speaker 4: and that I humiliated her. I told him what really happened,

1166
00:50:10,360 --> 00:50:13,040
Speaker 4: and he had no problem believing me. We talked a

1167
00:50:13,040 --> 00:50:15,640
Speaker 4: lot about our parents' behavior, and he confessed that him

1168
00:50:15,680 --> 00:50:18,320
Speaker 4: moving was partially due to our parents being and I quote,

1169
00:50:18,400 --> 00:50:20,880
Speaker 4: crapheads to us. He told me that Mom had gotten

1170
00:50:20,880 --> 00:50:22,640
Speaker 4: wind of the post and was mad at me for

1171
00:50:22,719 --> 00:50:25,040
Speaker 4: betraying my family. I haven't written to my parents. What

1172
00:50:25,160 --> 00:50:27,120
Speaker 4: so many of you advise to do because I have

1173
00:50:27,320 --> 00:50:29,279
Speaker 4: come to the terms with the fact that they love

1174
00:50:29,360 --> 00:50:31,719
Speaker 4: my sister more than me, if they love me at all.

1175
00:50:31,760 --> 00:50:33,840
Speaker 4: And now let's get to the wedding. We sat together

1176
00:50:33,840 --> 00:50:36,120
Speaker 4: and set passwords with the majority of our vendors and

1177
00:50:36,239 --> 00:50:38,480
Speaker 4: also with the venue directly. We didn't talk to our

1178
00:50:38,520 --> 00:50:40,480
Speaker 4: planner yet, which is why the text for my sister

1179
00:50:40,600 --> 00:50:43,719
Speaker 4: worries me so much. Also, we canceled the catering that

1180
00:50:43,719 --> 00:50:45,880
Speaker 4: my parents paid for, so short term we won't be

1181
00:50:45,960 --> 00:50:48,040
Speaker 4: able to get a full catering like we wanted to,

1182
00:50:48,160 --> 00:50:50,520
Speaker 4: but all our friends and my fiance's family will help

1183
00:50:50,600 --> 00:50:53,279
Speaker 4: us prepare a buffet and everyone is going to chip in.

1184
00:50:53,400 --> 00:50:55,319
Speaker 4: That will be our bachelor party as we will have

1185
00:50:55,320 --> 00:50:57,239
Speaker 4: to spend more on our food now we canceled our

1186
00:50:57,239 --> 00:50:59,400
Speaker 4: bachelor parties and we will have a family and friends

1187
00:50:59,400 --> 00:51:01,759
Speaker 4: cooking session. Thank you again for helping me see how

1188
00:51:01,800 --> 00:51:03,879
Speaker 4: toxic my family is. I will try to sort it out.

1189
00:51:04,080 --> 00:51:06,400
Speaker 4: If they apologize from the bottom of their hearts, they

1190
00:51:06,440 --> 00:51:09,000
Speaker 4: will be allowed into my wedding. But if not, well,

1191
00:51:09,120 --> 00:51:10,920
Speaker 4: I still have my brother who would be walking me

1192
00:51:10,960 --> 00:51:13,239
Speaker 4: down the aisle, and my aunt. And by the way,

1193
00:51:13,360 --> 00:51:15,680
Speaker 4: you can walk and listen to us with stories just

1194
00:51:15,840 --> 00:51:18,719
Speaker 4: like this. Just go to Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or your

1195
00:51:18,719 --> 00:51:21,880
Speaker 4: favorite podcast app and look up okay story, there's a

1196
00:51:21,880 --> 00:51:24,319
Speaker 4: little bit more to this story. But Angie, there have.

1197
00:51:24,320 --> 00:51:26,600
Speaker 3: Been so many lines throughout this whole story that are

1198
00:51:26,719 --> 00:51:28,520
Speaker 3: just like, oh, well, if you really loved me, you

1199
00:51:28,520 --> 00:51:29,880
Speaker 3: would do this. I hate this.

1200
00:51:30,239 --> 00:51:33,600
Speaker 4: Yeah, They're they're using love as like a weapon.

1201
00:51:33,600 --> 00:51:36,080
Speaker 3: Right, But then also it's like, well, what about you

1202
00:51:36,200 --> 00:51:38,680
Speaker 3: loving me? What about that? Because if you really loved me,

1203
00:51:38,800 --> 00:51:41,080
Speaker 3: you would let me have the venue exactly. So are

1204
00:51:41,120 --> 00:51:43,000
Speaker 3: we just agreeing that no one loves me right now?

1205
00:51:43,160 --> 00:51:43,359
Speaker 4: Yeah?

1206
00:51:43,880 --> 00:51:44,920
Speaker 3: Now that's what that is.

1207
00:51:44,960 --> 00:51:45,280
Speaker 2: Literally.

1208
00:51:45,360 --> 00:51:47,640
Speaker 4: I was going to say, yeah, no one, yeah, no

1209
00:51:47,640 --> 00:51:49,719
Speaker 4: one seems to be on your side other than one

1210
00:51:49,800 --> 00:51:51,680
Speaker 4: family member, your aunt, well and your brother.

1211
00:51:51,640 --> 00:51:53,840
Speaker 3: Yeah, and the crazy you're in laws and stuff.

1212
00:51:54,160 --> 00:51:57,600
Speaker 4: Yeah, but anyone in your side is just so anti you.

1213
00:51:57,640 --> 00:51:59,880
Speaker 4: They're like, she's pregnant, she gets whatever she wants.

1214
00:52:00,120 --> 00:52:02,799
Speaker 3: He's the princess. I want op to go down to

1215
00:52:03,040 --> 00:52:06,280
Speaker 3: that that wedding venue thing at nine am or whatever,

1216
00:52:06,440 --> 00:52:08,560
Speaker 3: like when the parents have to meet over there and

1217
00:52:08,600 --> 00:52:11,640
Speaker 3: be like, no, don't give them the venue, you know, yeah,

1218
00:52:11,760 --> 00:52:13,400
Speaker 3: because like it's.

1219
00:52:13,120 --> 00:52:16,200
Speaker 4: Weird because even the brother in law, like the brother

1220
00:52:16,440 --> 00:52:20,080
Speaker 4: or the husband of Opie's sister, is just like, yeah,

1221
00:52:19,600 --> 00:52:23,000
Speaker 4: I like, this was not supposed to happen. I'm sorry,

1222
00:52:23,160 --> 00:52:26,440
Speaker 4: but guess whatever. She says, yeah, kind of goes.

1223
00:52:26,320 --> 00:52:28,840
Speaker 3: He's see sister and then the parents.

1224
00:52:28,920 --> 00:52:32,879
Speaker 4: He's like, I can't do anything. He's a princess, my child.

1225
00:52:33,000 --> 00:52:34,960
Speaker 4: Let's go ahead and finish the story. On to update

1226
00:52:35,040 --> 00:52:37,400
Speaker 4: number three. We call my planner and she was actually

1227
00:52:37,440 --> 00:52:40,200
Speaker 4: really horrified. She told me she had never talked to

1228
00:52:40,200 --> 00:52:42,600
Speaker 4: my mother since the day we went to book the venue.

1229
00:52:42,680 --> 00:52:45,120
Speaker 4: She assured me that even if they were to call

1230
00:52:45,320 --> 00:52:47,200
Speaker 4: and say that I wanted it, I had to be

1231
00:52:47,239 --> 00:52:49,680
Speaker 4: present and make any changes. I was gonna say, that's

1232
00:52:49,760 --> 00:52:51,880
Speaker 4: kind in the contract too, like you can't change it

1233
00:52:51,920 --> 00:52:53,439
Speaker 4: from some like under someone's note.

1234
00:52:53,760 --> 00:52:56,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, especially if it's like a stranger out they're doing that,

1235
00:52:56,520 --> 00:52:57,279
Speaker 3: Like the secter comes in.

1236
00:52:57,400 --> 00:52:59,680
Speaker 4: She said, I could have the wedding, right, okay if

1237
00:52:59,719 --> 00:53:02,000
Speaker 4: she's and she says it sure. So we informed everyone

1238
00:53:02,000 --> 00:53:03,960
Speaker 4: that will work for us on our wedding, and they

1239
00:53:04,000 --> 00:53:06,840
Speaker 4: offered to higher security for that day at a reduced price.

1240
00:53:06,960 --> 00:53:08,520
Speaker 4: And that is the end of the story. It just

1241
00:53:08,560 --> 00:53:11,960
Speaker 4: looks like they talked to the wedding planner. Planner's like, no,

1242
00:53:12,040 --> 00:53:14,200
Speaker 4: this is good, this is okay. They'll talk at the venue,

1243
00:53:14,239 --> 00:53:17,480
Speaker 4: but they will hire security. Cooh and they get I

1244
00:53:17,480 --> 00:53:20,080
Speaker 4: guess they got it for a reduced price for that day.

1245
00:53:20,160 --> 00:53:23,400
Speaker 3: It's for sympathy. For sympathy, They're like, yo, this is crazy. Yeah,

1246
00:53:23,440 --> 00:53:27,000
Speaker 3: oh good, Well that's very nice of them, is that wedding? Yeah,

1247
00:53:27,320 --> 00:53:31,080
Speaker 3: that's that's wild. Yeah, Oh my gosh.

1248
00:53:30,480 --> 00:53:33,200
Speaker 4: Why do you need to change your exact wedding to

1249
00:53:33,640 --> 00:53:35,960
Speaker 4: whatever somebody else had. I hate when people do that, like, oh,

1250
00:53:36,000 --> 00:53:38,400
Speaker 4: their wedding is cool. I want exactly that.

1251
00:53:38,760 --> 00:53:41,560
Speaker 3: Yeah, just all of those excuses I've heard so many times,

1252
00:53:41,600 --> 00:53:44,400
Speaker 3: and it's the stupidest arguments, like right, oh, if you

1253
00:53:44,480 --> 00:53:46,360
Speaker 3: love me, you would have done this. Another one that

1254
00:53:46,440 --> 00:53:49,440
Speaker 3: was was like, oh, I've never asked you for anything,

1255
00:53:49,640 --> 00:53:51,400
Speaker 3: and it's like that doesn't mean I can just do it.

1256
00:53:51,960 --> 00:53:55,359
Speaker 4: I mean, yeah, exactly. It's that argument of oh, could

1257
00:53:55,360 --> 00:53:57,840
Speaker 4: I have your window seat? Yeah, you know, I'm pregnant,

1258
00:53:57,960 --> 00:53:59,719
Speaker 4: have your window seat. It doesn't work like that. It

1259
00:53:59,760 --> 00:54:01,840
Speaker 4: doesn't work like, oh, because you're pregnant, you get everything

1260
00:54:01,880 --> 00:54:02,520
Speaker 4: you want.

1261
00:54:02,680 --> 00:54:03,479
Speaker 2: Yeah that sucks.

1262
00:54:03,560 --> 00:54:06,760
Speaker 1: Sorry, Hey, it's Sam, We're gonna get back to these stories,

1263
00:54:06,760 --> 00:54:08,759
Speaker 1: but here's three bits of ads from our sponsors that

1264
00:54:08,840 --> 00:54:09,560
Speaker 1: keep the show alive.

1265
00:54:10,200 --> 00:54:13,479
Speaker 3: My family created chaos at my wedding. It turned into

1266
00:54:13,520 --> 00:54:17,560
Speaker 3: a nightmare. I'll never forget. Nightmare, nightmare, nightmare. For context,

1267
00:54:17,760 --> 00:54:20,239
Speaker 3: I now thirty five female, am on the spectrum with

1268
00:54:20,320 --> 00:54:24,160
Speaker 3: both autism and ADHD, but went undiagnosed until three years ago.

1269
00:54:24,239 --> 00:54:26,560
Speaker 3: So at the time of my wedding, I was undiagnosed

1270
00:54:26,600 --> 00:54:28,799
Speaker 3: and living with the family who to this day does

1271
00:54:28,840 --> 00:54:31,880
Speaker 3: not understand by the way that comes from wisdom pancakes

1272
00:54:31,920 --> 00:54:33,400
Speaker 3: and if you want to submit your own stories, go

1273
00:54:33,520 --> 00:54:35,640
Speaker 3: to the our slash. Okay, story time is separredit so

1274
00:54:35,719 --> 00:54:38,839
Speaker 3: for more context. I have an older sister not on

1275
00:54:38,880 --> 00:54:41,120
Speaker 3: the spectrum, and while we were growing up, our parents

1276
00:54:41,120 --> 00:54:43,600
Speaker 3: promised us a wedding fund of ten k each that

1277
00:54:43,640 --> 00:54:45,920
Speaker 3: we could spend in any way on our weddings. However,

1278
00:54:46,040 --> 00:54:48,480
Speaker 3: if we wanted to elope or just not have a wedding,

1279
00:54:48,520 --> 00:54:50,680
Speaker 3: we would receive that ten k in a check. By

1280
00:54:50,760 --> 00:54:52,880
Speaker 3: the time both of my sister and I got married,

1281
00:54:53,040 --> 00:54:55,440
Speaker 3: she the year before me, my parents were divorced and

1282
00:54:55,480 --> 00:54:59,719
Speaker 3: financially quite different from each other, So okay, now onto

1283
00:54:59,719 --> 00:55:02,480
Speaker 3: the app actual wedding drama. It all kind of starts

1284
00:55:02,480 --> 00:55:04,960
Speaker 3: with my sister's wedding the year before mine. My sister

1285
00:55:05,000 --> 00:55:07,280
Speaker 3: and I have never been that close. She has always

1286
00:55:07,320 --> 00:55:11,000
Speaker 3: found me strange, weird, quirky, pick your favorite word. So

1287
00:55:11,160 --> 00:55:13,960
Speaker 3: when she was putting together her list of bridesmaids, I

1288
00:55:14,000 --> 00:55:16,000
Speaker 3: had always assumed that i'd be on the list, but

1289
00:55:16,120 --> 00:55:19,040
Speaker 3: never imagined that she'd make me her maid of honor.

1290
00:55:19,040 --> 00:55:21,960
Speaker 3: Apparently this was for appearance's sake, since she did not

1291
00:55:22,200 --> 00:55:24,400
Speaker 3: let me plan her bachelorette party, did not let me

1292
00:55:24,480 --> 00:55:27,000
Speaker 3: give a speech at the reception. I hate speaking publicly,

1293
00:55:27,120 --> 00:55:29,160
Speaker 3: so I didn't mind that and kept me out of

1294
00:55:29,239 --> 00:55:32,040
Speaker 3: most of the wedding photos. My sister was a huge

1295
00:55:32,040 --> 00:55:34,400
Speaker 3: party person at the time and drank a lot, whereas

1296
00:55:34,520 --> 00:55:37,080
Speaker 3: I still don't drink booze today. I did everything that

1297
00:55:37,120 --> 00:55:39,480
Speaker 3: she asked me to do, which was very little, and

1298
00:55:39,560 --> 00:55:42,319
Speaker 3: kept my mouth shut about every opinion I had. She

1299
00:55:42,440 --> 00:55:45,920
Speaker 3: had her gigantic grand wedding in her big church with

1300
00:55:46,040 --> 00:55:49,600
Speaker 3: her alcohol fueled reception to follow. She was incredibly happy,

1301
00:55:49,680 --> 00:55:51,719
Speaker 3: and I was happy for her. The next year, my

1302
00:55:51,719 --> 00:55:54,000
Speaker 3: boyfriend and I decided to get married since he was

1303
00:55:54,040 --> 00:55:56,719
Speaker 3: going into the military. We got engaged. He left for

1304
00:55:56,800 --> 00:55:59,759
Speaker 3: basic training and specialty training right after, and the wedding

1305
00:55:59,800 --> 00:56:02,200
Speaker 3: to place two weeks after he got home. A month

1306
00:56:02,239 --> 00:56:04,920
Speaker 3: after that, we left to live in Japan on an

1307
00:56:04,920 --> 00:56:07,720
Speaker 3: air Force base. Given that my fiance was in another

1308
00:56:07,760 --> 00:56:10,479
Speaker 3: state and very busy, and right after he came back,

1309
00:56:10,600 --> 00:56:13,360
Speaker 3: we were to leave another country. Neither of us wanted

1310
00:56:13,400 --> 00:56:15,439
Speaker 3: a wedding. It didn't make a ton of sense since

1311
00:56:15,480 --> 00:56:18,360
Speaker 3: we were already married on paper for the military paperwork.

1312
00:56:18,400 --> 00:56:20,520
Speaker 3: I wanted my ten k to throw a small party

1313
00:56:20,560 --> 00:56:22,960
Speaker 3: and leave. My dad offered up his half and my

1314
00:56:23,040 --> 00:56:26,520
Speaker 3: mother did not. This is where every problem began. On

1315
00:56:26,600 --> 00:56:29,720
Speaker 3: top of not upholding the original agreement, he couldn't afford

1316
00:56:29,760 --> 00:56:32,560
Speaker 3: to anymore, everything that she did pay for had to

1317
00:56:32,600 --> 00:56:34,920
Speaker 3: be approved by her. She did not approve of my

1318
00:56:34,960 --> 00:56:37,080
Speaker 3: plan to throw a small party in a lope, she

1319
00:56:37,120 --> 00:56:39,719
Speaker 3: would only pay for anything relating to a wedding. This

1320
00:56:39,800 --> 00:56:42,239
Speaker 3: made me pretty upset, so I said to myself, I

1321
00:56:42,320 --> 00:56:45,000
Speaker 3: can do wedding with five K, and since I was

1322
00:56:45,280 --> 00:56:48,160
Speaker 3: now having a wedding out of spite, I was spending

1323
00:56:48,200 --> 00:56:51,200
Speaker 3: all of her money. First, I realize I sort of

1324
00:56:51,280 --> 00:56:53,680
Speaker 3: created a beast of an issue by doing this, But

1325
00:56:53,800 --> 00:56:55,960
Speaker 3: here goes the tea. She wouldn't let me buy the

1326
00:56:55,960 --> 00:56:58,360
Speaker 3: three hundred dollars wedding dress I found online and loved,

1327
00:56:58,400 --> 00:57:00,719
Speaker 3: made me go dress shopping with her my sister, and

1328
00:57:00,760 --> 00:57:02,759
Speaker 3: buy a dress that I was just fine with but

1329
00:57:02,880 --> 00:57:05,560
Speaker 3: didn't love like the first one. I had originally wanted

1330
00:57:05,600 --> 00:57:08,040
Speaker 3: something with color. Pale colors and white don't really look

1331
00:57:08,080 --> 00:57:10,080
Speaker 3: good on me since they blend in a bit with

1332
00:57:10,120 --> 00:57:13,200
Speaker 3: my beacons of gonder skin tone. I tried to make

1333
00:57:13,239 --> 00:57:15,400
Speaker 3: my best friend my maid of honor since it made sense.

1334
00:57:15,480 --> 00:57:17,880
Speaker 3: My sister had since moved to another state with her

1335
00:57:17,920 --> 00:57:20,320
Speaker 3: husband and would only be in town for the actual

1336
00:57:20,360 --> 00:57:23,840
Speaker 3: wedding itself. She lost her mind at this, raving on

1337
00:57:23,960 --> 00:57:25,800
Speaker 3: and on about how I was her maid of honor

1338
00:57:25,880 --> 00:57:28,480
Speaker 3: and how she's my sister so it's only right and fair.

1339
00:57:28,520 --> 00:57:30,840
Speaker 3: So almost in mirror to how it went with her

1340
00:57:30,880 --> 00:57:34,360
Speaker 3: bachelorette party, my friend planned everything and my sister was

1341
00:57:34,400 --> 00:57:37,600
Speaker 3: barely involved. She showed up in town the day before

1342
00:57:37,640 --> 00:57:39,760
Speaker 3: the wedding her gift to me and made it to

1343
00:57:39,800 --> 00:57:42,120
Speaker 3: the party, so her gift is just making it there

1344
00:57:42,200 --> 00:57:44,600
Speaker 3: the day before the wedding. Thanks she brought a bunch

1345
00:57:44,600 --> 00:57:47,440
Speaker 3: of booze, knowing I don't drink, and brought one of

1346
00:57:47,440 --> 00:57:50,160
Speaker 3: her own friends without telling or asking me first. The

1347
00:57:50,200 --> 00:57:53,560
Speaker 3: two left early, thankfully, and my friends and I got

1348
00:57:53,600 --> 00:57:56,120
Speaker 3: to sit around and be happy and sad about the

1349
00:57:56,120 --> 00:57:58,760
Speaker 3: wedding and the fact that I was moving across the

1350
00:57:58,760 --> 00:58:01,200
Speaker 3: world in a month. So now for the wedding day.

1351
00:58:01,240 --> 00:58:03,400
Speaker 3: Things that happened on the groom's side. The best man

1352
00:58:03,440 --> 00:58:05,920
Speaker 3: forgot the wedding rings in his apartment forty five minutes

1353
00:58:05,920 --> 00:58:06,720
Speaker 3: away from the church.

1354
00:58:06,960 --> 00:58:09,640
Speaker 4: You had one job, You had one job. How do

1355
00:58:09,680 --> 00:58:11,320
Speaker 4: you forget the most important thing?

1356
00:58:11,520 --> 00:58:15,160
Speaker 3: Dude? Dude, that's crazy. And he didn't notice until an

1357
00:58:15,240 --> 00:58:18,160
Speaker 3: hour before the ceremony was supposed to start. The groom's

1358
00:58:18,280 --> 00:58:20,640
Speaker 3: entire family did not attend the wedding. His father is

1359
00:58:20,720 --> 00:58:23,880
Speaker 3: discriminatory towards me. I'm white, and so is the groom's father.

1360
00:58:24,080 --> 00:58:27,160
Speaker 3: But his father married a Filipino woman when he was

1361
00:58:27,280 --> 00:58:29,720
Speaker 3: stationed in the Philippines and was determined for his son

1362
00:58:29,760 --> 00:58:32,000
Speaker 3: to marry a woman of a similar ethnicity. With a

1363
00:58:32,080 --> 00:58:34,800
Speaker 3: tight fisted control over the entire rest of the family,

1364
00:58:34,960 --> 00:58:37,880
Speaker 3: none of them attended. In his sister's defense, she was

1365
00:58:37,920 --> 00:58:40,360
Speaker 3: eight months pregnant and lived three hours away. You skyped

1366
00:58:40,400 --> 00:58:43,360
Speaker 3: in for the ceremony. Things that happened on the bride side.

1367
00:58:43,400 --> 00:58:45,480
Speaker 3: In my changing room, my best friend was doing my

1368
00:58:45,560 --> 00:58:48,160
Speaker 3: hair and getting it to stay fat. My mom kept

1369
00:58:48,200 --> 00:58:50,480
Speaker 3: going on about how I wasn't wearing any makeup. This

1370
00:58:50,640 --> 00:58:53,240
Speaker 3: is because I never wear makeup. He kept insisting that

1371
00:58:53,280 --> 00:58:55,560
Speaker 3: this being my wedding day, it was different and I

1372
00:58:55,600 --> 00:59:00,520
Speaker 3: needed to look pretty for once. Wow. Wow, Literally, my

1373
00:59:00,600 --> 00:59:02,880
Speaker 3: friend put a couple of fluffs of power around my cheeks,

1374
00:59:02,880 --> 00:59:05,720
Speaker 3: while frowning, turned to my mom and said, there, does

1375
00:59:05,760 --> 00:59:07,880
Speaker 3: she look pretty now? Now? My friend was a good

1376
00:59:07,920 --> 00:59:10,080
Speaker 3: friend on this day. She went back to doing my hairs.

1377
00:59:10,080 --> 00:59:12,160
Speaker 3: My sister stood at the back of the room, crowing

1378
00:59:12,200 --> 00:59:14,520
Speaker 3: on and on about her own wedding the year before.

1379
00:59:14,560 --> 00:59:17,080
Speaker 3: My other brides made slammed a hairbrush on the table

1380
00:59:17,160 --> 00:59:20,240
Speaker 3: and says, well, thankfully, this is her wedding today, and

1381
00:59:20,320 --> 00:59:22,720
Speaker 3: the room got quiet again. I had to sneak out

1382
00:59:22,760 --> 00:59:24,840
Speaker 3: after I got my dress on so I could go

1383
00:59:24,880 --> 00:59:26,600
Speaker 3: sit on the stairs alone for a few minutes to

1384
00:59:26,680 --> 00:59:30,360
Speaker 3: cry no makeup to ruin though. Thankfully my dad caught

1385
00:59:30,400 --> 00:59:32,200
Speaker 3: me and asked me if I wanted to shut it

1386
00:59:32,240 --> 00:59:35,840
Speaker 3: all down, no questions asked. Everyone's here. It's too late now,

1387
00:59:36,000 --> 00:59:39,280
Speaker 3: I said, But I was dumb. The ceremony went okay,

1388
00:59:39,320 --> 00:59:41,520
Speaker 3: from what I can remember of it. It wasn't very long,

1389
00:59:41,600 --> 00:59:43,960
Speaker 3: and I didn't have very many people in attendance, probably

1390
00:59:44,040 --> 00:59:46,720
Speaker 3: less than a hundred. The reception is where it got worse.

1391
00:59:46,880 --> 00:59:48,880
Speaker 3: Remember how I wasn't allowed to give a speech at

1392
00:59:48,920 --> 00:59:51,160
Speaker 3: my sister's wedding, even though I was the maid of honor.

1393
00:59:51,240 --> 00:59:54,080
Speaker 3: My sister decided that that didn't apply both ways. She

1394
00:59:54,160 --> 00:59:56,840
Speaker 3: wrote a speech and didn't tell me. The best man

1395
00:59:56,920 --> 00:59:58,920
Speaker 3: gave his speech that I did know about. It was

1396
00:59:59,000 --> 01:00:01,880
Speaker 3: lovely and he was very nervous, a bunch of shine nerds,

1397
01:00:02,000 --> 01:00:05,520
Speaker 3: we all were, but he did great. My sister took

1398
01:00:05,520 --> 01:00:08,520
Speaker 3: the microphone out of his hands and proceeded to basically

1399
01:00:08,680 --> 01:00:11,120
Speaker 3: roast me in front of our whole family and all

1400
01:00:11,160 --> 01:00:14,360
Speaker 3: of my friends. This is not a speech, that's a roast.

1401
01:00:14,960 --> 01:00:17,800
Speaker 4: What's going on you? I feel like your mom, your sister?

1402
01:00:17,960 --> 01:00:19,080
Speaker 4: Why is everyone else for you?

1403
01:00:19,360 --> 01:00:21,920
Speaker 3: Yeah? I leave this woman alone. She just wants to

1404
01:00:21,920 --> 01:00:24,920
Speaker 3: get married. Man. She made several references to how I

1405
01:00:25,040 --> 01:00:27,600
Speaker 3: wasn't normal, how all of this was so different from

1406
01:00:27,600 --> 01:00:29,600
Speaker 3: how she would have done things, and how my now

1407
01:00:29,720 --> 01:00:32,120
Speaker 3: husband was the only guy I've ever dated that she

1408
01:00:32,160 --> 01:00:34,840
Speaker 3: approved of or even liked. I stayed friends with a

1409
01:00:34,880 --> 01:00:37,840
Speaker 3: few of my exes and they were all in the audience,

1410
01:00:38,400 --> 01:00:41,920
Speaker 3: so to roasting them too, She's like, I see one

1411
01:00:41,920 --> 01:00:44,160
Speaker 3: of the exes are here, and the reason I didn't

1412
01:00:44,160 --> 01:00:47,320
Speaker 3: like that one baha. And there's another one and oh

1413
01:00:47,400 --> 01:00:50,800
Speaker 3: I hate you this person's here. Yeah, oh my gosh,

1414
01:00:51,040 --> 01:00:54,080
Speaker 3: crazy dude. But she actually just had no idea that

1415
01:00:54,120 --> 01:00:57,880
Speaker 3: they were in the audience. Oh whoa even worse.

1416
01:00:57,720 --> 01:00:59,800
Speaker 4: So they're oblivious. I love that even worse.

1417
01:01:00,080 --> 01:01:01,960
Speaker 3: She's just gonna like roast all these people. And then

1418
01:01:02,040 --> 01:01:05,960
Speaker 3: later they walk up to her and she's like, uh what,

1419
01:01:06,400 --> 01:01:07,120
Speaker 3: I who said that?

1420
01:01:07,320 --> 01:01:10,400
Speaker 4: My sister, Like, you know, when Op and I broke up,

1421
01:01:10,440 --> 01:01:12,320
Speaker 4: we were cool, right right.

1422
01:01:12,440 --> 01:01:14,520
Speaker 3: She's probably just gonna roast them to their face. Again,

1423
01:01:14,600 --> 01:01:15,520
Speaker 3: I wouldn't put it faster.

1424
01:01:15,920 --> 01:01:17,840
Speaker 4: She just wants she's trying to put the spotlight in

1425
01:01:17,960 --> 01:01:19,960
Speaker 4: her Yeah, all she wants is the spotlight.

1426
01:01:20,160 --> 01:01:22,640
Speaker 3: She just wants the attention. We know who else wants

1427
01:01:22,680 --> 01:01:27,560
Speaker 3: the attention us? We want the attention from you. Yes,

1428
01:01:27,680 --> 01:01:31,440
Speaker 3: you just gotta go to I heeart Radio, Spotify, Apple Podcasts,

1429
01:01:31,440 --> 01:01:33,640
Speaker 3: whatever your favorite podcast app is. Because you know what,

1430
01:01:34,320 --> 01:01:37,400
Speaker 3: we have full episodes with more stories just like this one.

1431
01:01:37,680 --> 01:01:40,080
Speaker 3: Just go search. Okay, story time, That's all I gotta do,

1432
01:01:40,360 --> 01:01:43,240
Speaker 3: pretty easy. Please give us the attention, please.

1433
01:01:43,000 --> 01:01:45,560
Speaker 4: Please speak see please.

1434
01:01:45,160 --> 01:01:46,800
Speaker 3: But there is a little bit more to the story.

1435
01:01:46,800 --> 01:01:49,200
Speaker 3: Should we just jump right in or final thoughts? No,

1436
01:01:49,360 --> 01:01:50,960
Speaker 3: I want to see how this turns out. Me too.

1437
01:01:51,040 --> 01:01:53,200
Speaker 3: I mean, we're already at wedding time, right. You can't

1438
01:01:53,240 --> 01:01:57,160
Speaker 3: get any right disaster right right then. To top it off,

1439
01:01:57,400 --> 01:02:00,640
Speaker 3: we had not paid the absurd fee for having booze

1440
01:02:00,640 --> 01:02:03,480
Speaker 3: at our reception since my husband and I didn't drink.

1441
01:02:03,640 --> 01:02:06,120
Speaker 3: There would be an even bigger fee if we brought

1442
01:02:06,160 --> 01:02:08,920
Speaker 3: in any booze without signing that part of the contract.

1443
01:02:09,120 --> 01:02:11,760
Speaker 3: My sister knew this because she used the exact same

1444
01:02:11,840 --> 01:02:14,440
Speaker 3: venue for her reception the year before. She snuck in

1445
01:02:14,560 --> 01:02:17,800
Speaker 3: booze anyway and got wasted less than an hour into

1446
01:02:17,840 --> 01:02:20,800
Speaker 3: the reception. I shut the whole thing down inside of

1447
01:02:20,840 --> 01:02:23,400
Speaker 3: two hours. Hobby and I went back to our hotel room,

1448
01:02:23,400 --> 01:02:27,920
Speaker 3: and I cried the whole I no. I guess the

1449
01:02:27,960 --> 01:02:30,640
Speaker 3: moral of the story, the very long story, is to

1450
01:02:30,800 --> 01:02:32,720
Speaker 3: just not have the wedding if you don't want to

1451
01:02:32,760 --> 01:02:34,800
Speaker 3: have the wedding, and that is the end of it.

1452
01:02:35,960 --> 01:02:39,600
Speaker 4: No, don't say that, No you want to have the wedding.

1453
01:02:39,840 --> 01:02:44,000
Speaker 4: But if Dakota were here, he would say secret wedding, wedding, wedding,

1454
01:02:44,360 --> 01:02:47,040
Speaker 4: secret wedding. At the end of the day, your wedding

1455
01:02:47,160 --> 01:02:49,800
Speaker 4: just needs to be you and your partner. Yeah, I'm

1456
01:02:49,960 --> 01:02:53,439
Speaker 4: sure you need a couple of witnesses, but for legal fees,

1457
01:02:53,520 --> 01:02:56,480
Speaker 4: for legal reasons, legal things. But at the end of

1458
01:02:56,560 --> 01:02:58,440
Speaker 4: the day, it's just between you and your partner.

1459
01:02:58,560 --> 01:02:58,640
Speaker 1: Ye.

1460
01:02:59,840 --> 01:03:01,560
Speaker 4: If you really knew it was going to be this

1461
01:03:01,880 --> 01:03:06,240
Speaker 4: huge fiasco, on this unfortunate fiasco, I wouldn't go, you know,

1462
01:03:06,240 --> 01:03:07,560
Speaker 4: put up with it or are you? I wouldn't have

1463
01:03:07,560 --> 01:03:10,480
Speaker 4: invited them. That's not fair. They're just very selfish And

1464
01:03:10,600 --> 01:03:12,800
Speaker 4: I'm sorry that you had a crappy wedding. Yeah, there

1465
01:03:12,880 --> 01:03:15,320
Speaker 4: is a possibility that you can, you guys, even though

1466
01:03:15,320 --> 01:03:16,880
Speaker 4: the wedding already happened and you guys are married, do

1467
01:03:16,880 --> 01:03:19,600
Speaker 4: you guys can still celebrate in another fashion and like

1468
01:03:19,880 --> 01:03:23,040
Speaker 4: do like a small little thing that is just so

1469
01:03:23,560 --> 01:03:24,760
Speaker 4: the wedding you do deserve.

1470
01:03:25,000 --> 01:03:28,480
Speaker 3: Man, I'm so sorry. O peet out.

1471
01:03:28,520 --> 01:03:31,800
Speaker 4: Well, I would have a conversation with them and then

1472
01:03:31,840 --> 01:03:34,080
Speaker 4: go low contact or not even conversations to tell them. Okay,

1473
01:03:34,880 --> 01:03:37,200
Speaker 4: you guys did especially to your sister. What you did

1474
01:03:37,400 --> 01:03:39,959
Speaker 4: was so selfish and I don't care what you think,

1475
01:03:40,200 --> 01:03:41,360
Speaker 4: but you ruined my wedding.

1476
01:03:41,440 --> 01:03:43,480
Speaker 3: Yeah, you ruined my day. Definitely make sure that the

1477
01:03:43,560 --> 01:03:45,680
Speaker 3: sister pays for that alcohol fee.

1478
01:03:45,760 --> 01:03:49,840
Speaker 4: Yeah, and let them know, like, hey, I am not

1479
01:03:49,920 --> 01:03:51,800
Speaker 4: happy with you. I think it's best we don't talk.

1480
01:03:52,040 --> 01:03:54,160
Speaker 4: I did this all for your wedding and you didn't

1481
01:03:54,160 --> 01:03:55,680
Speaker 4: do anything in respect for mine.

1482
01:03:55,840 --> 01:03:58,920
Speaker 3: Not fair, not fair at all. But that is the

1483
01:03:59,000 --> 01:04:01,480
Speaker 3: end of that story at the end of this episode.

1484
01:04:01,520 --> 01:04:04,080
Speaker 3: Would you look at that. That's not fair to you, guys,

1485
01:04:04,080 --> 01:04:07,360
Speaker 3: but the truth. So if you love us, make sure

1486
01:04:07,360 --> 01:04:10,560
Speaker 3: to subscribe. We love you and see you tomorrow.