WEBVTT - Second Cup: Teach kids (or anyone) about time

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of I Heart Radio.

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<v Speaker 1>Good Morning. This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>Today's tip is about how to help children, or really anyone,

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<v Speaker 1>learn about time management. Well. I tend to write about

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<v Speaker 1>time management for grown ups. People often ask me how

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<v Speaker 1>parents can help their kids learn about managing time. Small

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<v Speaker 1>children live very much in the here and now, so

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<v Speaker 1>for them, time management is about routines. First we brush

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<v Speaker 1>our teeth and get dressed, Then we get in the car.

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<v Speaker 1>Older children can start to think more about schedules. The

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<v Speaker 1>issue is that while some children respond well to parental instruction,

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<v Speaker 1>others do not. This is particularly true as children approached

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<v Speaker 1>the teen years, when time management might start to be

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<v Speaker 1>a really useful skill, but arrants become easy to tune out. Fortunately,

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<v Speaker 1>there's a good way around this issue, and that is

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<v Speaker 1>to ask for the child's help solving your schedule challenges.

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<v Speaker 1>If you've got a planner or a calendar, show it

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<v Speaker 1>to the child. Identify your particular dilemma. It could be

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<v Speaker 1>a professional one. For example, you could tell a teenager, hey,

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<v Speaker 1>my business just landed a bunch of Latin American clients.

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<v Speaker 1>We usually do business in English, but I know it

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<v Speaker 1>would be helpful to brush up on my high school Spanish.

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<v Speaker 1>That would show that I'm interested in this relationship. Hey,

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<v Speaker 1>you're taking a foreign language class right now. How would

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<v Speaker 1>you recommend I go about practicing? What are practical things

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<v Speaker 1>I can do? How long do you think this would take?

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<v Speaker 1>When should I build those sessions into my schedule? How

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<v Speaker 1>can I hold myself accountable? There's some chance your child

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<v Speaker 1>will come up with ideas you haven't thought of, in

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<v Speaker 1>which case great, But whether that's true or not, these

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<v Speaker 1>conversations introduced the idea of breaking big tasks down into

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<v Speaker 1>doable steps and then fitting them into a busy schedule.

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<v Speaker 1>The upside of focusing on your schedule rather than the

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<v Speaker 1>child's is that it changes the conversation. It's not about

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<v Speaker 1>you seeming accusing or interrogating them, It's about them helping you.

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<v Speaker 1>You are the example, You are the one under the microscope,

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<v Speaker 1>and since you are the one with more inherent power

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<v Speaker 1>in the situation, this approach is far more constructive. You

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<v Speaker 1>can try this with your kids for challenges with your

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<v Speaker 1>personal time too. Depending on the relationship, you might want

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<v Speaker 1>to start with a dilemma you're facing that doesn't directly

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<v Speaker 1>involve your child. For instance, you might say, hey, Davi

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<v Speaker 1>at church asked if I could lead the food bank

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<v Speaker 1>program this year? What do you think? Do I have time?

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<v Speaker 1>How should I think about this? This can lead to

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<v Speaker 1>a discussion of what is a priority during each size

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<v Speaker 1>and of life, what is not, and how we manage

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<v Speaker 1>other people's expectations and our own passions. Once the lines

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<v Speaker 1>of communication are more open, then you can advance to

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<v Speaker 1>challenges that have more to do with the child. I

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<v Speaker 1>want to go to Tuesday night spin class. You need

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<v Speaker 1>a ride home from track practice? How do we figure

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<v Speaker 1>this out? As a side note, well, employees aren't children

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<v Speaker 1>at all. There are a few parallels here. I often

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<v Speaker 1>hear from managers who would like to help younger employees

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<v Speaker 1>in particular figure out how to manage their time. Again,

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<v Speaker 1>to make this a learning situation and to deal with

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<v Speaker 1>the power dynamic, you might be better off asking for

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<v Speaker 1>the employees feedback on your schedule. Track your time for

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<v Speaker 1>a week, share your log with the employee, ask what

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<v Speaker 1>they think you're doing well and what you can improve on.

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<v Speaker 1>You're teaching the same skills they'll need to analyze their

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<v Speaker 1>own time, but you're doing it in a way that

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<v Speaker 1>might be more likely to stick. So why consider sharing

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<v Speaker 1>your own challenges with someone else who needs to learn

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<v Speaker 1>about time management. You might get some good ideas, but

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<v Speaker 1>at the very least you'll have an interesting conversation in

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<v Speaker 1>the meantime. This is Laura. Thanks for listening, and here's

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<v Speaker 1>to making the most of our time. Hey, everybody, I'd

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