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Speaker 1: I know that I know what I got to do

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Speaker 1: with you fix in her hand subject. I want to

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Speaker 1: know if she is my daughter. Good morning, Stephen Shirley.

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Speaker 1: I recently came back in contact with a female that

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Speaker 1: I was dealing with and found out that she had

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Speaker 1: a daughter that's twenty one. So I started asking her

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Speaker 1: questions and she got real defensive. So I just came

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Speaker 1: out and asked, why was she my I just came

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Speaker 1: out and asked, were she my daughter? And she said no?

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Speaker 1: So I asked could I see a picture of her,

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Speaker 1: and again she said no, but she did tell me

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Speaker 1: her name. So I went on Facebook and there she was,

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Speaker 1: and I know she is mine. I wrote her and

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Speaker 1: I explained the situation to her and said that I

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Speaker 1: might be her father. She approached her mom and she

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Speaker 1: denied ever having sex with me and told her daughter

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Speaker 1: not to talk to me anymore. And she is doing

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Speaker 1: just what her mom told her to do. I just

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Speaker 1: want to know if she is mine. If so, If so,

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Speaker 1: then I missed twenty one years of her life, and

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Speaker 1: she has two kids that can be my grandkids. My

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Speaker 1: family and friends are telling me just to leave it alone,

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Speaker 1: but I can't. Can you all? Give me some advice, please. Well,

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Speaker 1: first of all, is your dad, Yeah, this is this

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Speaker 1: is a really tough situation here, And if you are

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Speaker 1: her dad, I do think you have every right to know.

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Speaker 1: If you have a daughter, I think you have you

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Speaker 1: have that right to know that. The problem is why

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Speaker 1: the mother doesn't want you to know. Is she currently married?

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Speaker 1: Does her husband think the child is his? There's obviously

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Speaker 1: a lot writing on this lie or this situation, whatever

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Speaker 1: it is. Um, your friends and family are right to

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Speaker 1: this degree. Uh, leave it alone in the sense that

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Speaker 1: don't bother the daughter. This is a situation between you

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Speaker 1: and her mom. I mean, if you want to know

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Speaker 1: just that you're her, that you're her dad, that's one thing.

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Speaker 1: But if you want to be active in her life,

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Speaker 1: this woman has grown now, so it's really kind of

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Speaker 1: her decision. So it sounds to me like the mom

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Speaker 1: doesn't want to have anything you to have anything to

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Speaker 1: do with this because maybe she's married, even though you

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Speaker 1: didn't say that, but maybe she's married right now and

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Speaker 1: she doesn't want her husband to know because all these

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Speaker 1: twenty one years, her husband is thinking that this daughter

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Speaker 1: is his. I think you know that could very well

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Speaker 1: be a problem. And that's why maybe the family and

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Speaker 1: friends are telling you to leave the situation alone, but um,

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Speaker 1: the daughter is respecting her mom. But then again, the

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Speaker 1: daughter is grown. So maybe later on down the line,

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Speaker 1: you guys can take a DNA test, But right now, UM,

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Speaker 1: let the situation die down a little bit until the UM,

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Speaker 1: I guess, until the daughter gets a little bit older,

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Speaker 1: because right now she's still dealing with her mom and

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Speaker 1: what her mom says. Steve, Uh, it's a very simple

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Speaker 1: thing right here, you know, I want to know if

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Speaker 1: she's my daughter. The problem in all of this letter

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Speaker 1: is with all of this fighting you on it and

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Speaker 1: wanting you to stay out of her life and not

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Speaker 1: giving you information, and that baby ain't talking to you,

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Speaker 1: and your friends telling you leave alone. I only have

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Speaker 1: one question. Does not answer in this letter? Who has

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Speaker 1: the daughter grew up believing her father to be because

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Speaker 1: the mother has had to tell his daughter something about

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Speaker 1: a father somewhere. You need to find out who the

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Speaker 1: daughter grew up believing her father to be without DNA

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Speaker 1: testing or paternity tests. You are out on this so

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Speaker 1: far that you can take some other actions. But so

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Speaker 1: far you are, but you really need to find out

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Speaker 1: who this daughter has believed her father to be all

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Speaker 1: these years, and obviously it's not you. We'll come back

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Speaker 1: and discuss some more, alright, Steve. Part two of your response, Well, see, brother,

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Speaker 1: um here, I want to share something with this man. Sometimes, man,

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Speaker 1: when you do something that's casual and meaningless and then

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Speaker 1: you revisit it and the people remember that it was

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Speaker 1: casual and meaningless. You said that I recently came back

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Speaker 1: in contact with the female that I was dealing with,

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Speaker 1: not that I was in love with. Are we just

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Speaker 1: dealing with? So I'm assuming it was just casual little thing.

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Speaker 1: He found out that she had a daughter that's twenty one,

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Speaker 1: So you started asking a question. She got real defensive,

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Speaker 1: so you just came out and asked what she your daughter?

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Speaker 1: She said no? So I asked could I see a

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Speaker 1: picture of and again she said no, but she told

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Speaker 1: your name. So you went on Facebook and now she

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Speaker 1: was and I know she's mine because she looks like you.

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Speaker 1: Is that why? I guess? I wrote it and explained

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Speaker 1: her father. Okay, my man, First of all, can I

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Speaker 1: tell you how stupid that was? You contact a girl

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Speaker 1: on Facebook? As a old as you are to tell

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Speaker 1: her you her daddy. I mean, damn dog that that

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Speaker 1: that didn't think that didn't come across your head. That's stupid.

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Speaker 1: So Pardoner, Since you did it like that, then let

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Speaker 1: me tell you what's happening. Maybe the woman who has

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Speaker 1: his daughter is twenty one years old, and after running

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Speaker 1: back up into you and talking, you realize that you're

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Speaker 1: still stupid, and then maybe this ain't the best thing.

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Speaker 1: So then she tries to she tries to protect her daughter.

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Speaker 1: She because then she goes to her mom, mom, this

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Speaker 1: man said he might be my father. Her mom says

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Speaker 1: she denied ever having sex with me and told her

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Speaker 1: daughter not to talk to me anymore. And she's doing

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Speaker 1: just what her mom told her to do. Okay, bro,

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Speaker 1: what you wanted to do? She don't even know you.

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Speaker 1: You ain't been in her life. You come on a

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Speaker 1: Facebook page and say I'm your daddy. Bro. The worst

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Speaker 1: way you could have done this the great intentions, brother,

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Speaker 1: appreciate you want to and take responsibility, But we'll take responsibility.

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Speaker 1: How child's poort days old? Where way you been? Now?

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Speaker 1: Guess what? Who has this girl grown up thinking her

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Speaker 1: father was And now you ain't even considering that I'm

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Speaker 1: your daddy. Hold On, man, who this little girl been

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Speaker 1: thinking her father was. You can't come in there like that. Man,

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Speaker 1: I'm sorry, Bro, that's really the wrong way to do it.

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Speaker 1: Great intentions. Good to see men when they want to

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Speaker 1: step up and say, hey, that's my baby. Beautiful as

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Speaker 1: might at. But I was just watching Bishop TV, Jake's

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Speaker 1: on TV last night. He said, you know what temptation is.

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Speaker 1: Temptation is fulfilling a need, but going about it the

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Speaker 1: wrong way. And sometimes, man, you may you you got

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Speaker 1: the right idea, you just went about it the wrong way.

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Speaker 1: You so gone. Hold you want to show her you

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Speaker 1: his I saw a picture she might she looked like

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Speaker 1: you come on, dog, stop that you know what I mean?

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Speaker 1: Black people look like. Have you talked to anybody on

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Speaker 1: your job that thinks that we look alike? So, Bro,

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Speaker 1: until you get a blood tests and some DNA down

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Speaker 1: a paternity test, you really kind of out on this

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Speaker 1: one right here, and you really need to apologize to

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Speaker 1: this girl about how you want about it, because that

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Speaker 1: had to be some shocking news. You know. I've just

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Speaker 1: gotten some information on my Facebook about somebody say they're

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Speaker 1: just a damn relative. I'm a cousin and I don't

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Speaker 1: like that. All right, Steve, we gotta go. You know that,

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