1 00:00:01,240 --> 00:00:03,920 Speaker 1: It's a beautiful day to be a hurdler, what's shake 2 00:00:03,960 --> 00:00:06,480 Speaker 1: and rock Stars? Only a body here. You are listening 3 00:00:06,519 --> 00:00:09,800 Speaker 1: to another hurdle moment from Hurdle, a podcast that talks 4 00:00:09,800 --> 00:00:13,040 Speaker 1: to everyone from entrepreneurs to top CEOs and athletes about 5 00:00:13,039 --> 00:00:16,239 Speaker 1: how they got through tough times hurdles of sorts by 6 00:00:16,320 --> 00:00:21,520 Speaker 1: leaning into wellness. This week, I'm talking all about priorities. 7 00:00:22,079 --> 00:00:24,640 Speaker 1: I think it really takes a strong person to understand 8 00:00:24,640 --> 00:00:27,120 Speaker 1: that everyone's priorities are different. There are going to be 9 00:00:27,120 --> 00:00:29,360 Speaker 1: times when you feel like something is more important than 10 00:00:29,360 --> 00:00:32,080 Speaker 1: someone that's close to you, and sometimes that can be 11 00:00:32,120 --> 00:00:34,960 Speaker 1: a little bit of a letdown. But today's episode is 12 00:00:35,000 --> 00:00:37,600 Speaker 1: not to put down others for not sharing your view, 13 00:00:38,080 --> 00:00:40,440 Speaker 1: but instead to help you figure out what it is 14 00:00:40,520 --> 00:00:43,400 Speaker 1: that's truly important to you and how to make time 15 00:00:43,440 --> 00:00:48,920 Speaker 1: for it. Plain and simple, action expresses priorities. Let me 16 00:00:48,960 --> 00:00:54,400 Speaker 1: say that again, Action expresses priorities. Got it. It's easy 17 00:00:54,400 --> 00:00:56,560 Speaker 1: to get into a new routine where we act on 18 00:00:56,600 --> 00:00:58,800 Speaker 1: things in life that feel urgent, but we owe it 19 00:00:58,840 --> 00:01:02,640 Speaker 1: to ourselves to spend more time on what's important. A 20 00:01:02,680 --> 00:01:05,640 Speaker 1: quick example, I was talking to the guys behind Heyday 21 00:01:05,720 --> 00:01:08,520 Speaker 1: last week in their episode of Hurdles coming soon, and 22 00:01:08,640 --> 00:01:11,120 Speaker 1: Adam ross Or, one of the co founders, mentioned that 23 00:01:11,160 --> 00:01:13,200 Speaker 1: he used to work in a job as an investment 24 00:01:13,280 --> 00:01:17,280 Speaker 1: banker that paid him a ton of money pretty sweet rate. 25 00:01:17,760 --> 00:01:20,040 Speaker 1: The thing is is that during that time, he had 26 00:01:20,080 --> 00:01:22,160 Speaker 1: a hard conversation with a friend about how he wasn't 27 00:01:22,200 --> 00:01:26,400 Speaker 1: really showing up anymore. It triggered him to evaluate his priorities, 28 00:01:26,720 --> 00:01:29,640 Speaker 1: and by doing that, he realized that no amount of 29 00:01:29,640 --> 00:01:32,000 Speaker 1: money was going to make him happy if he felt 30 00:01:32,120 --> 00:01:36,920 Speaker 1: unfulfilled in his relationships, so he stopped investment banking and 31 00:01:37,000 --> 00:01:39,080 Speaker 1: made a huge career pivot. I'm going to talk you 32 00:01:39,120 --> 00:01:41,600 Speaker 1: through an exercise that helps you figure out not only 33 00:01:41,680 --> 00:01:44,560 Speaker 1: what your priorities are, but how do you give them 34 00:01:44,600 --> 00:01:48,960 Speaker 1: all quality time in your schedule. As always at Hurdle 35 00:01:49,000 --> 00:01:51,280 Speaker 1: Podcast at Emily a Body, I want to be putting 36 00:01:51,320 --> 00:01:53,320 Speaker 1: up a graphic on social media this morning where you 37 00:01:53,360 --> 00:01:55,600 Speaker 1: can fill out your priorities and share them with me. 38 00:01:56,080 --> 00:01:58,240 Speaker 1: Also going to be making a new highlight at the 39 00:01:58,400 --> 00:02:03,160 Speaker 1: Hurdle Podcast Instagram that'll contain all these little notebook fill 40 00:02:03,160 --> 00:02:06,200 Speaker 1: in the blank sort of things for safekeeping, So look 41 00:02:06,240 --> 00:02:08,000 Speaker 1: out for that. Let me know what's important to you 42 00:02:08,240 --> 00:02:10,919 Speaker 1: and then maybe let me know one thing you're changing 43 00:02:10,919 --> 00:02:13,799 Speaker 1: to be better about your time, better about those priorities. 44 00:02:14,000 --> 00:02:17,320 Speaker 1: Shoot me an email. It's Emily at hurdle dot us 45 00:02:17,760 --> 00:02:20,080 Speaker 1: and do me one more favor this week. Head on 46 00:02:20,160 --> 00:02:23,320 Speaker 1: in on your podcast app, rate and review Hurdle over there, 47 00:02:23,400 --> 00:02:25,920 Speaker 1: and share the episode with a friend. You guys are 48 00:02:25,919 --> 00:02:42,359 Speaker 1: the best. Let's get to this week's hurdle moment. Everyone 49 00:02:42,400 --> 00:02:45,919 Speaker 1: has their own agenda. Generally speaking, that agenda is filled 50 00:02:45,919 --> 00:02:49,079 Speaker 1: with a mix of different priorities. Whether that involves work, 51 00:02:49,240 --> 00:02:52,120 Speaker 1: or friends or family. The list goes on as to 52 00:02:52,120 --> 00:02:54,800 Speaker 1: what components make up the bulk of our time. I 53 00:02:54,880 --> 00:02:57,160 Speaker 1: recently took the month of May to take a step 54 00:02:57,200 --> 00:03:00,280 Speaker 1: back and analyze my priorities. From March and April, I'd 55 00:03:00,280 --> 00:03:03,600 Speaker 1: been working what felt like constantly, putting in eight her 56 00:03:03,680 --> 00:03:06,440 Speaker 1: days in the office, taking a quick break likely to 57 00:03:06,600 --> 00:03:09,639 Speaker 1: maybe change my clothes and drink some wine, and then 58 00:03:09,840 --> 00:03:12,120 Speaker 1: sit back down at my laptop for a few more 59 00:03:12,160 --> 00:03:15,079 Speaker 1: hours before going to sleep. I'd get up at five am. 60 00:03:15,440 --> 00:03:18,200 Speaker 1: I'd do it again. To be real, I was just 61 00:03:18,680 --> 00:03:23,800 Speaker 1: so drained. I felt tired and cranky and unsure. And 62 00:03:23,840 --> 00:03:26,400 Speaker 1: when I was doing the things that weren't work related. 63 00:03:26,520 --> 00:03:29,400 Speaker 1: I felt as though I really couldn't fully concentrate because 64 00:03:29,400 --> 00:03:30,680 Speaker 1: I had a to do list in the back of 65 00:03:30,720 --> 00:03:33,920 Speaker 1: my head of a zillion things to get done. Now, 66 00:03:34,200 --> 00:03:37,560 Speaker 1: don't get me wrong, hard work pays off. I know this. 67 00:03:37,880 --> 00:03:39,480 Speaker 1: There was a reason that I needed to put my 68 00:03:39,520 --> 00:03:41,640 Speaker 1: head down and grind and get things done for those 69 00:03:41,640 --> 00:03:43,920 Speaker 1: two months. But when I came out of it, I 70 00:03:44,040 --> 00:03:46,080 Speaker 1: understood that I needed to make a shift for the 71 00:03:46,080 --> 00:03:49,360 Speaker 1: betterment of my mental health, and so I made a list, 72 00:03:49,400 --> 00:03:51,200 Speaker 1: as one does when they're just trying to figure it 73 00:03:51,240 --> 00:03:53,920 Speaker 1: all out, and one of the lists that I made 74 00:03:54,280 --> 00:03:57,200 Speaker 1: was to address what my priorities are. I talked about 75 00:03:57,200 --> 00:03:59,320 Speaker 1: this on the podcast before when I sat down with 76 00:03:59,400 --> 00:04:01,960 Speaker 1: Diana Trout. She's the CEO and co founder of health 77 00:04:02,000 --> 00:04:04,960 Speaker 1: Aid at Kombucha, and we talked about her bucket theory. 78 00:04:05,400 --> 00:04:07,680 Speaker 1: This bucket theory is that we all have certain things 79 00:04:07,720 --> 00:04:11,080 Speaker 1: in our life, certain priorities, and each of those priorities 80 00:04:11,120 --> 00:04:13,880 Speaker 1: has their own bucket. Let's take a quick lesson to 81 00:04:13,920 --> 00:04:15,920 Speaker 1: a clip from episode forty nine. 82 00:04:16,160 --> 00:04:20,039 Speaker 2: Now, imagine you start. They're all full of water right now. 83 00:04:20,040 --> 00:04:21,920 Speaker 2: You drill a hole into the bottom of each of them. 84 00:04:22,240 --> 00:04:24,880 Speaker 2: So now they're it's dear Liza, there's a hole in 85 00:04:24,880 --> 00:04:28,960 Speaker 2: your bucket. So basically, my theory is, if you let 86 00:04:29,040 --> 00:04:30,960 Speaker 2: one of these things go and you don't refill it 87 00:04:31,000 --> 00:04:33,200 Speaker 2: with water, it will eventually empty out, and if it's 88 00:04:33,200 --> 00:04:35,880 Speaker 2: empty for long enough, it will go away. And so 89 00:04:35,920 --> 00:04:38,560 Speaker 2: if you only feed one bucket, it's the only one 90 00:04:38,560 --> 00:04:40,720 Speaker 2: that will feel full, and the others will not, and 91 00:04:40,760 --> 00:04:43,200 Speaker 2: you will feel lacking. Even the people that give to 92 00:04:43,240 --> 00:04:47,120 Speaker 2: themselves perfectly on our super self care people, they even 93 00:04:47,120 --> 00:04:49,359 Speaker 2: come to you and say they're unfulfilled sometimes, and the 94 00:04:49,400 --> 00:04:52,160 Speaker 2: reason is they're not thinking about the other things important 95 00:04:52,160 --> 00:04:54,440 Speaker 2: in their lives and giving to it enough. 96 00:04:54,760 --> 00:04:57,120 Speaker 1: She's got a point right. When the month of May started, 97 00:04:57,200 --> 00:05:00,320 Speaker 1: I was working deliberately to do some self reflection and 98 00:05:00,400 --> 00:05:03,280 Speaker 1: also just working less and giving myself time to do 99 00:05:03,360 --> 00:05:06,360 Speaker 1: the work. I began to think about what my buckets 100 00:05:06,400 --> 00:05:08,080 Speaker 1: consist of for me, and I have a lot of 101 00:05:08,120 --> 00:05:10,520 Speaker 1: things that are important in my life, but not all 102 00:05:10,640 --> 00:05:13,479 Speaker 1: those things can be a priority. So I wrote down 103 00:05:13,520 --> 00:05:17,120 Speaker 1: my buckets. They are being a good friend, being a 104 00:05:17,160 --> 00:05:20,120 Speaker 1: good daughter or family member, being a good partner, being 105 00:05:20,120 --> 00:05:24,320 Speaker 1: good to myself, and being good in business. Now, in 106 00:05:24,440 --> 00:05:27,240 Speaker 1: order to feel fulfilled, you have to make time for 107 00:05:27,360 --> 00:05:31,000 Speaker 1: all of your buckets. So to do this, I do 108 00:05:31,080 --> 00:05:35,880 Speaker 1: the same fifteen minute exercise every single Sunday morning, whether 109 00:05:35,920 --> 00:05:38,360 Speaker 1: I'm in New York or on the road or wherever 110 00:05:38,400 --> 00:05:40,479 Speaker 1: I might be. It just helps me get out of 111 00:05:40,480 --> 00:05:44,880 Speaker 1: my own way, get unstuck and commit. It's pretty simple too. 112 00:05:45,560 --> 00:05:49,919 Speaker 1: Step one, I open my Google calendar. Step two I 113 00:05:50,040 --> 00:05:53,320 Speaker 1: transfer my appointments into a planner or just another piece 114 00:05:53,360 --> 00:05:55,720 Speaker 1: of paper. Now I use a planner that I bought 115 00:05:56,240 --> 00:06:01,479 Speaker 1: really inexpensive at Anthropology from Rifle of Paper Company, but hey, 116 00:06:01,680 --> 00:06:05,599 Speaker 1: literally anything could work for this. By writing these things 117 00:06:05,640 --> 00:06:08,000 Speaker 1: down and transferring my appointments and my dates and my 118 00:06:08,080 --> 00:06:11,159 Speaker 1: to dos, I a cement my schedule into my head 119 00:06:11,160 --> 00:06:14,200 Speaker 1: and then b am able to digest what's really on 120 00:06:14,279 --> 00:06:17,120 Speaker 1: deck for the week. Once I do this, I then 121 00:06:17,240 --> 00:06:20,520 Speaker 1: commit to adding in at least two things each week 122 00:06:20,960 --> 00:06:24,960 Speaker 1: that pour water, so to speak, into the buckets. So 123 00:06:25,640 --> 00:06:27,760 Speaker 1: what does this look like in practice? Well, the one 124 00:06:27,800 --> 00:06:29,919 Speaker 1: bucket I feel like I never need to work to 125 00:06:30,000 --> 00:06:32,919 Speaker 1: fill is business. That's because I guess on most days, 126 00:06:32,920 --> 00:06:35,680 Speaker 1: I'm usually in an office by around ten am and 127 00:06:35,720 --> 00:06:38,240 Speaker 1: I'm out by four pm. That's a lot of time 128 00:06:38,440 --> 00:06:42,279 Speaker 1: working on me, on my business, on my work. Then 129 00:06:42,440 --> 00:06:44,120 Speaker 1: I look to see what plans are on deck for 130 00:06:44,200 --> 00:06:46,520 Speaker 1: after work and before work, and this is where I 131 00:06:46,560 --> 00:06:49,279 Speaker 1: have the opportunity to be a good friend, a good daughter, 132 00:06:49,320 --> 00:06:51,640 Speaker 1: a good partner, and good to myself. For you, this 133 00:06:51,680 --> 00:06:53,880 Speaker 1: could look as simple as scheduling a midday lunch with 134 00:06:53,920 --> 00:06:56,360 Speaker 1: a friend who works near you, or penciling in a 135 00:06:56,400 --> 00:06:58,880 Speaker 1: call mom on Tuesday when you're making your to do list. 136 00:06:59,279 --> 00:07:01,920 Speaker 1: There are also ways to easily integrate this without a 137 00:07:02,000 --> 00:07:04,920 Speaker 1: huge time commitment. Something I started doing at the beginning 138 00:07:04,960 --> 00:07:07,559 Speaker 1: of this year was sending handwritten notes to two different 139 00:07:07,600 --> 00:07:11,000 Speaker 1: people each month. This practice probably takes about ten to 140 00:07:11,000 --> 00:07:14,360 Speaker 1: fifteen minutes total time between buying and writing the cards, 141 00:07:14,440 --> 00:07:16,800 Speaker 1: and in that small amount of time, I feel happy 142 00:07:16,800 --> 00:07:18,720 Speaker 1: that I've let someone special to me know that I 143 00:07:18,800 --> 00:07:23,040 Speaker 1: care about them. I will say this, Arguably, getting good 144 00:07:23,080 --> 00:07:25,520 Speaker 1: at this much planning takes time, and for some people 145 00:07:25,560 --> 00:07:28,840 Speaker 1: it can be a struggle. Sometimes it's hard to make 146 00:07:28,880 --> 00:07:31,000 Speaker 1: time for all of your priorities when you're not used 147 00:07:31,040 --> 00:07:32,760 Speaker 1: to it. So I want you to do this for 148 00:07:32,880 --> 00:07:37,320 Speaker 1: me right now. Write down your buckets. I'd say cap 149 00:07:37,360 --> 00:07:42,080 Speaker 1: it at six total. Then below those buckets, write down 150 00:07:42,160 --> 00:07:44,760 Speaker 1: one thing you've been meaning to do lately, but have it. 151 00:07:45,240 --> 00:07:47,800 Speaker 1: I know you have something there. I know there's that 152 00:07:47,880 --> 00:07:49,880 Speaker 1: one thing. It's the monster. It's the thing that we 153 00:07:49,920 --> 00:07:53,120 Speaker 1: put off over and over and over again. For me, 154 00:07:53,600 --> 00:07:55,760 Speaker 1: this sounds so simple. I have a gift card to 155 00:07:55,800 --> 00:07:58,720 Speaker 1: go get stretched at an assisted stretching facility down the 156 00:07:58,760 --> 00:08:01,240 Speaker 1: street from my office, and I, for some reason, just 157 00:08:01,280 --> 00:08:05,760 Speaker 1: can't take the twenty five minutes to get there. I've 158 00:08:05,760 --> 00:08:08,320 Speaker 1: been putting it off. I'm going to do it. I 159 00:08:08,360 --> 00:08:10,840 Speaker 1: promise I'll come back to you about it this week anyway. 160 00:08:10,880 --> 00:08:14,920 Speaker 1: One last note, having priorities also means having some boundaries. 161 00:08:15,000 --> 00:08:17,280 Speaker 1: So if you want to make time for a partner, 162 00:08:17,480 --> 00:08:19,800 Speaker 1: sometimes you need to say no to the third work 163 00:08:19,880 --> 00:08:22,360 Speaker 1: drinks event of the week. Or maybe you need to 164 00:08:22,360 --> 00:08:24,000 Speaker 1: make sure you're in bed by ten pm so that 165 00:08:24,040 --> 00:08:26,520 Speaker 1: getting up at six point thirty to work out doesn't 166 00:08:26,520 --> 00:08:29,360 Speaker 1: make you feel like a total zombie. It's a give 167 00:08:29,400 --> 00:08:32,160 Speaker 1: and take. What you'll realize is that once you make 168 00:08:32,200 --> 00:08:34,199 Speaker 1: time in your life for the things that you care about, 169 00:08:34,640 --> 00:08:38,560 Speaker 1: life is better. You are better, and hopefully you won't 170 00:08:38,559 --> 00:08:41,320 Speaker 1: feel so stressed. Trust me, you guys have got this 171 00:08:41,400 --> 00:08:44,440 Speaker 1: one in the bag again. Anything new can always feel 172 00:08:44,480 --> 00:08:47,720 Speaker 1: a bit overwhelming, but the first step is a step 173 00:08:47,800 --> 00:08:50,840 Speaker 1: in the right direction, getting comfortable with the uncomfortable and 174 00:08:50,960 --> 00:08:54,200 Speaker 1: understanding that you have the power to do anything that 175 00:08:54,240 --> 00:08:56,480 Speaker 1: you set your mind to. That's it for this week 176 00:08:56,520 --> 00:09:01,240 Speaker 1: at em Laybody at Hurdle podcast, Another hurdle conquered. Catch 177 00:09:01,240 --> 00:09:02,000 Speaker 1: you guys next time.