WEBVTT - Jana's Engaged Part 2 0:00:01.960 --> 0:00:05.400 Wind Down with Janet Kramer and I'm Heart Radio podcast. 0:00:06.160 --> 0:00:11.840 All right, so welcome to part two of wind Down. Everyone. 0:00:11.920 --> 0:00:20.160 Welcome my fiance Alan Rosso. We get to keep him forever. 0:00:21.520 --> 0:00:24.520 He's like, what did I sign up for? He's like, 0:00:24.560 --> 0:00:31.520 it's me and my three wives. Is so Mark, that's Mark, 0:00:31.680 --> 0:00:41.200 that's our we call him Daddy. He's like the podcast Dad. 0:00:41.840 --> 0:00:44.080 Mark is a huge soccer fan, and so he was 0:00:44.120 --> 0:00:45.680 the one who said I think you should date a 0:00:45.680 --> 0:00:52.680 soccer player. Oh yep, sorry that it just. 0:00:52.600 --> 0:00:56.080 That just seemed like right to me. It just seemed right. Okay, 0:00:56.280 --> 0:00:57.760 I don't know why that was in my head, but 0:00:57.840 --> 0:00:59.560 it seemed right and it turned out to be very precious. 0:00:59.600 --> 0:01:00.880 I mean, you're of a psychic Mark. 0:01:01.720 --> 0:01:02.960 Maybe I AM could. 0:01:02.840 --> 0:01:04.520 Have used you about nine years ago, Big Mark. 0:01:04.880 --> 0:01:10.040 Okay, the old magic gate ball didn't that much to say. 0:01:12.560 --> 0:01:14.720 So do you have any questions? Mark? I know you 0:01:14.760 --> 0:01:15.440 have to go soon. 0:01:15.760 --> 0:01:17.480 I mean I have a lot of questions. I'm trying 0:01:17.480 --> 0:01:19.440 to think a word to begin. I guess we'll start 0:01:19.480 --> 0:01:22.560 with how long have you known? How long have you 0:01:22.600 --> 0:01:24.959 known that you were going to be taking a knee? 0:01:26.680 --> 0:01:28.399 Oh, she told you that I took a. 0:01:28.360 --> 0:01:31.319 Knee, not that she told me. 0:01:36.000 --> 0:01:36.640 Pretty much. 0:01:38.319 --> 0:01:41.600 Yeah, from the moment I met really wow. 0:01:41.680 --> 0:01:46.080 Yeah, yeah, you knew very quickly she was the one 0:01:46.120 --> 0:01:50.400 I did you. Wow. That's lovely. 0:01:51.360 --> 0:01:51.480 Uh. 0:01:55.120 --> 0:01:57.680 I feel like I have lots of questions about you 0:01:57.720 --> 0:01:59.480 and and I hate to double up if if this 0:01:59.520 --> 0:02:01.880 has been cover on the pod before, but we haven't. 0:02:01.880 --> 0:02:04.480 Honestly, he's very private, so like we don't. I don't. 0:02:04.520 --> 0:02:09.280 I haven't even said like his anything like really truly. 0:02:09.360 --> 0:02:12.200 I mean I've really respected his privacy on things, but 0:02:12.240 --> 0:02:13.720 I mean he can he can. 0:02:13.760 --> 0:02:15.960 Should I also respect his privacy on things, And I'd 0:02:15.960 --> 0:02:16.640 ask these questions. 0:02:16.680 --> 0:02:18.040 I think people want to get to know him, and 0:02:18.080 --> 0:02:20.000 I think he's open to I would like to. Yeah, 0:02:20.040 --> 0:02:20.800 so let's try it. 0:02:21.680 --> 0:02:24.240 Well, h are you have you been married before? 0:02:24.800 --> 0:02:25.280 I have you? 0:02:26.400 --> 0:02:27.560 Okay? You have kids? 0:02:28.120 --> 0:02:30.919 Yeah, I've got a little boy who will be sixteen 0:02:30.960 --> 0:02:35.280 this year and a stepdaughter who will be twenty four. 0:02:36.760 --> 0:02:37.200 Twenty four? 0:02:37.280 --> 0:02:38.600 Oh wow, and you were married for. 0:02:39.600 --> 0:02:40.480 I was married for. 0:02:42.880 --> 0:02:50.320 Eleven years together for together for yeah, like sixteen years 0:02:50.400 --> 0:02:51.480 fifteen sixteen years. 0:02:51.520 --> 0:02:54.639 Wow, Okay, I mean I don't need to get into 0:02:54.680 --> 0:02:57.079 that stuff. I mean that seems like your business. So 0:02:57.120 --> 0:02:59.440 it's a blended family, but not like in it, you know, 0:02:59.480 --> 0:03:01.400 where the kids will be playing together, like there's a 0:03:01.400 --> 0:03:02.400 big age gap there. 0:03:02.840 --> 0:03:06.160 Yeah, there's a few age gaps. Yeah, but they all 0:03:06.200 --> 0:03:06.400 got on. 0:03:06.480 --> 0:03:11.440 Well yeah that's good. And Janna's met the kids adult 0:03:11.600 --> 0:03:14.000 and teenager and everything hit it off. 0:03:14.040 --> 0:03:15.200 Well yeah, yeah, it was nice. 0:03:15.240 --> 0:03:18.320 They were out here about three weeks ago, three four 0:03:18.320 --> 0:03:21.280 weeks ago, so here for like ten or eleven days, so 0:03:21.320 --> 0:03:21.880 it was nice. 0:03:24.080 --> 0:03:26.400 And how are we going to handle logistics here of 0:03:26.440 --> 0:03:28.040 London to Nashville. 0:03:29.360 --> 0:03:33.160 I go back for about ten days a month, so 0:03:33.320 --> 0:03:35.880 I've got fast and foremost I go back to see 0:03:35.880 --> 0:03:39.720 my kids and then I've got some business stuff back 0:03:39.760 --> 0:03:42.800 in London as well, So yeah, roughly. 0:03:43.960 --> 0:03:46.680 A soccer coach, football coach, right, and. 0:03:46.720 --> 0:03:47.440 A football coach. 0:03:47.520 --> 0:03:50.320 Yeah, but I've got a protein bar business as well, 0:03:50.600 --> 0:03:51.520 which I go back for. 0:03:51.680 --> 0:03:55.840 Oh wow, but during the season, the football season, you 0:03:55.880 --> 0:03:57.080 wouldn't have to be there full time. 0:04:00.800 --> 0:04:04.000 And the moment, I mean, I stepped away from from 0:04:04.000 --> 0:04:06.560 my last club about nine ten weeks ago, and at 0:04:06.600 --> 0:04:09.160 the moment, I'm just weighing up the options of where 0:04:09.200 --> 0:04:13.200 to go next, whether it's whether it's Yukia, whether it's America. 0:04:14.840 --> 0:04:18.560 Oh wow, Oh so okay, that's great. So we were 0:04:18.640 --> 0:04:21.120 undecided if to where the like you know, the marital 0:04:21.160 --> 0:04:23.800 home might be or maybe would be an international you'd 0:04:23.800 --> 0:04:24.839 have multiple. 0:04:25.200 --> 0:04:27.039 Well, I think if we're going to go international, we 0:04:27.040 --> 0:04:30.760 need to talk to the rest of the couch because 0:04:30.800 --> 0:04:33.000 the rest of the couch is a little codependent. 0:04:34.400 --> 0:04:37.840 Yeah, it feels fair. We're not moving, are we. 0:04:38.040 --> 0:04:41.040 I think we'll have a home in both both sides 0:04:41.080 --> 0:04:41.720 of the wall size. 0:04:42.400 --> 0:04:45.440 I can't wait to visit the other home. I think 0:04:45.520 --> 0:04:48.920 home bases. You know, we have definitely the new Nashville home. 0:04:49.360 --> 0:04:52.680 And then you know, I've always said to him, like, 0:04:52.839 --> 0:04:55.320 wherever the job takes you, like I just want you 0:04:55.360 --> 0:04:58.920 to be happy and successful in your career, Like we'll 0:04:58.920 --> 0:05:01.880 be fine regards less, which is again very new for me, 0:05:01.960 --> 0:05:04.880 because but I just I trust him and I trust 0:05:04.920 --> 0:05:07.640 what we have, and I'm like, I'll, you know, we'll 0:05:07.640 --> 0:05:10.000 figure it out. Like I think you make work what 0:05:11.360 --> 0:05:12.720 you you know you really want. 0:05:13.120 --> 0:05:16.320 And if I'm correct, you two. This is another example 0:05:16.360 --> 0:05:21.200 of a dating app success story. No wrong, no, oh, 0:05:21.240 --> 0:05:22.400 I read that somewhere. 0:05:22.480 --> 0:05:25.200 Yeah, he DMed me. 0:05:26.800 --> 0:05:30.440 Oh so it was app based, but not like Riya, 0:05:30.600 --> 0:05:32.400 this is like Instagram DM. 0:05:32.680 --> 0:05:33.640 We did not meet on Rya. 0:05:34.080 --> 0:05:36.880 He so what why what drew you to her in 0:05:36.880 --> 0:05:38.240 the first place? Were you a fan? 0:05:39.680 --> 0:05:41.200 It was a big one tree killer Mark. 0:05:42.760 --> 0:05:48.000 Well, no, my friend got a job here and Memphis 0:05:48.000 --> 0:05:51.000 as a as a head coach, and we discussed me 0:05:51.080 --> 0:05:53.520 possibly coming out to work with him. 0:05:53.839 --> 0:05:55.040 So I was looking a lot. 0:05:54.920 --> 0:06:00.040 On my phone on the Memphis and Nashville area, and 0:06:00.240 --> 0:06:03.960 as your phone does, it thinks of algorithms and spits 0:06:04.040 --> 0:06:07.000 things out on your phone, and this little face popped up. 0:06:08.480 --> 0:06:09.719 I didn't know that. 0:06:09.720 --> 0:06:10.320 That's cute. 0:06:10.480 --> 0:06:13.000 And then did you like if if it's me, I'm 0:06:13.000 --> 0:06:15.360 doing my homework at that point, I'm looking in I'm 0:06:15.360 --> 0:06:17.440 googling her. I'm seeing who she is and what she's 0:06:17.480 --> 0:06:19.640 all about. Did you do that before you asked her out? 0:06:21.120 --> 0:06:23.440 That didn't look into it too much? Now I think, 0:06:23.520 --> 0:06:25.040 do I feel background check? 0:06:25.160 --> 0:06:25.200 No? 0:06:25.920 --> 0:06:29.600 No, that's just what girls do. That's what I did. 0:06:29.600 --> 0:06:31.919 That's what I done. Did you know that she was 0:06:31.920 --> 0:06:34.000 a musician, that she was an actress, this stuff and 0:06:34.040 --> 0:06:38.120 if she was a musician, yeah, okay, gotcha, And that 0:06:38.160 --> 0:06:41.240 I was a man? Yeah, okay, that's good. 0:06:42.440 --> 0:06:44.600 Yeah. So you knew those things. 0:06:44.320 --> 0:06:46.440 And then yeah, I mean, I mean, obviously I knew 0:06:47.080 --> 0:06:49.760 once I looked up Push she was. I knew about 0:06:49.839 --> 0:06:52.960 being an actress in the music industry and that she 0:06:53.040 --> 0:06:55.280 looked like an amazing mom and had a couple of 0:06:55.720 --> 0:06:56.560 amazing kids. 0:06:56.720 --> 0:06:57.479 So I knew that. 0:06:57.600 --> 0:07:00.000 Yeah, and his message was very respectful. 0:07:00.080 --> 0:07:01.640 Sorry, go ahead, that's what I want to hear. I 0:07:01.720 --> 0:07:07.279 want to hear that initial message roughly. 0:07:06.160 --> 0:07:10.360 Yeah, roughly, I don't. I actually can't. I actually can't remember. 0:07:10.040 --> 0:07:12.520 Because I don't know that that's could be educational for people, 0:07:12.560 --> 0:07:14.160 Like how do you do that? Like a stranger to 0:07:14.200 --> 0:07:18.000 another stranger, dming them with romantic interests, Like it's more 0:07:18.040 --> 0:07:22.000 than just a hey, right, it's like a hi, Alan, 0:07:22.280 --> 0:07:23.720 I'd like to get to know you better. Like what 0:07:23.840 --> 0:07:24.760 is it? What's the vibe? 0:07:24.800 --> 0:07:25.440 I think it was. 0:07:25.520 --> 0:07:27.560 I mean, I'm quite a traditional person enemy so I 0:07:27.560 --> 0:07:30.480 think it was. It was very respectful and monoly, and 0:07:30.520 --> 0:07:34.360 I think it was along the lines of you look 0:07:34.440 --> 0:07:36.440 like an amazing person, a great mom, and it would 0:07:36.480 --> 0:07:40.640 be it'd be good to connect something along those lines. 0:07:40.760 --> 0:07:44.160 So don't quote my words on it, but it was really. 0:07:43.720 --> 0:07:47.000 Like it was really handsome and like not slimy. It 0:07:47.040 --> 0:07:49.640 was the part that was it was very appropriate and 0:07:49.760 --> 0:07:51.080 just like courtship. 0:07:51.360 --> 0:07:54.440 Like so this was immediately shared with you two when 0:07:54.440 --> 0:07:55.840 she got to steer Mark. 0:07:58.120 --> 0:08:02.960 Mark. We're all marying Allan, all of us. But it 0:08:03.040 --> 0:08:05.000 also was something where I saw it and I'm like, oh, 0:08:05.000 --> 0:08:07.560 he lives in London, like I'm not. And at that 0:08:07.600 --> 0:08:10.120 point I was very happy being single and like I 0:08:10.280 --> 0:08:14.440 was good, and so I kind of let the message 0:08:14.440 --> 0:08:18.960 go for a bit and then for some reason, I 0:08:19.000 --> 0:08:22.360 kept thinking, I'm like, there was this football player coach 0:08:22.400 --> 0:08:24.640 I think like he and so I kept going kind 0:08:24.640 --> 0:08:26.640 of back to the message and then I gave him 0:08:26.760 --> 0:08:28.680 we kind of what stopped a few times, but then 0:08:28.680 --> 0:08:31.000 I went away again for a few weeks, and then 0:08:31.000 --> 0:08:35.240 he would text and but he stayed pretty stayed pretty persistent. 0:08:36.080 --> 0:08:52.520 Yeah, was the first date here or there. 0:08:52.720 --> 0:08:55.320 Well, so he was like, hey, you know, if you 0:08:55.360 --> 0:08:57.360 want to come over here, and then I was like 0:08:58.280 --> 0:09:00.720 hm hmm, like if you want to me, Like yeah, 0:09:00.760 --> 0:09:02.160 I don't know this guy, you know what I mean, 0:09:02.520 --> 0:09:03.200 Like I do you know what I mean? 0:09:03.480 --> 0:09:03.800 For sure? 0:09:03.920 --> 0:09:06.760 Come here? And I've kids and I'm like I'm not 0:09:06.880 --> 0:09:10.040 doing that, you know, And so he had. 0:09:09.840 --> 0:09:10.600 A Yeah, I was. 0:09:10.640 --> 0:09:13.040 I was already in the US, so I made a 0:09:13.080 --> 0:09:15.880 short trip to Nashville from where. 0:09:15.640 --> 0:09:20.880 I was and yeah, he was again very respectful, very 0:09:21.080 --> 0:09:22.880 And then the second we met at the One hotel 0:09:22.880 --> 0:09:24.920 in Nashville, and when he turned around, it was like 0:09:24.960 --> 0:09:26.439 I was living my I told the girls. I was like, 0:09:26.480 --> 0:09:28.600 it was like we were in our own version of 0:09:28.600 --> 0:09:30.680 like a Christmas movie, because like the lights were already 0:09:30.760 --> 0:09:33.439 up in the hotel, and like he's wearing this long 0:09:33.640 --> 0:09:36.240 like pea coat and just like I just see like 0:09:36.600 --> 0:09:39.040 his behind, you know, his jacket. But I knew it 0:09:39.080 --> 0:09:41.960 was him, and so I was like, I'm walking into 0:09:42.040 --> 0:09:46.360 the hotel and then I go hi, and he turns 0:09:46.400 --> 0:09:49.720 around like a slow mo It was like a slow 0:09:49.840 --> 0:09:52.480 mow thing with like a little the end the ends 0:09:52.520 --> 0:09:55.640 of his peacoat kind of like in the wind. And 0:09:55.679 --> 0:09:57.959 he's like, you know, he says, I can't impersonate his 0:09:58.000 --> 0:10:00.760 accent to save my life. But he was just like hello, Joanna, 0:10:00.880 --> 0:10:04.240 because that's how he says my name. And I was 0:10:04.320 --> 0:10:07.040 just like, oh, I'm done, done, done so. 0:10:08.240 --> 0:10:09.959 And did you feel the same, Alan when you saw 0:10:10.040 --> 0:10:11.199 in person? You were pretty pleased. 0:10:11.200 --> 0:10:13.480 I told you pretty please, pretty please? 0:10:14.840 --> 0:10:16.760 And was it just drinks? The first day was drinks 0:10:16.800 --> 0:10:18.080 at the bar hotel bar, and. 0:10:18.240 --> 0:10:19.199 Did we get fits? 0:10:19.440 --> 0:10:24.520 So what happened was we give no, Well, what happened 0:10:24.600 --> 0:10:26.080 was is we were sitting down, we got a drink. 0:10:26.120 --> 0:10:27.240 He's like, what would you like to drink? And I 0:10:27.280 --> 0:10:29.200 was like, I'll take a gossip wine, I think I said, 0:10:29.240 --> 0:10:32.560 and he got a drink. But then someone approached me. 0:10:33.520 --> 0:10:36.560 They're like, oh my god, I'm wake one Tree Hill. 0:10:36.840 --> 0:10:40.520 And I was so embarrassed. I was so embarrassed, embarrassed. 0:10:40.559 --> 0:10:42.640 That's a big deal. That's like an after easy act, Like, 0:10:42.679 --> 0:10:44.439 oh my gosh, she has fans. 0:10:44.880 --> 0:10:49.120 So after I paid that girl twenty bucks, she left 0:10:49.160 --> 0:10:50.640 Alan and Jane alone. 0:10:51.000 --> 0:10:53.640 It was just for the effect, you know, we got. 0:10:53.440 --> 0:10:55.240 To that effect. 0:10:55.440 --> 0:10:59.920 Yeah, no, And but then we ended up I'm kind 0:10:59.920 --> 0:11:01.680 of trying to find a different place to go, and 0:11:01.720 --> 0:11:05.680 then we ended up going up to his suite. But 0:11:05.760 --> 0:11:08.840 we've just stayed in the sweet department and we ordered 0:11:08.920 --> 0:11:11.400 we ordered a take in member because we didn't want 0:11:11.520 --> 0:11:13.520 I wanted I didn't want anyone to see us because 0:11:13.520 --> 0:11:16.560 it was like, you know, even though I felt mad 0:11:16.600 --> 0:11:20.040 attraction in a connection, you have to be careful. There's 0:11:20.080 --> 0:11:24.120 people around Nashville that talk, and so I just wanted 0:11:24.120 --> 0:11:26.920 to keep it quiet in private. And so we had 0:11:26.960 --> 0:11:28.600 a lovely time. And then I saw him the next 0:11:28.679 --> 0:11:31.000 day and the next day, and then we faced the 0:11:31.000 --> 0:11:34.040 next day. Do you mean that you saw him the 0:11:34.040 --> 0:11:38.680 next morning or I had I got I had a sitter, 0:11:38.840 --> 0:11:41.920 and I had to go home. And that's the responsible 0:11:42.040 --> 0:11:46.640 Christian thing to do, was to go home in Jesus name. Amen, 0:11:47.320 --> 0:11:49.600 I just want to clarify for the folks, Yes, I 0:11:49.640 --> 0:11:54.080 went home. No, I know, they need to know. 0:11:55.160 --> 0:11:55.520 Uh. 0:11:55.600 --> 0:12:01.559 And then she last, yes, I understand. And then he 0:12:01.600 --> 0:12:05.800 went back to England a couple days later, and then 0:12:05.840 --> 0:12:09.360 that was my when, like then I started flying there. 0:12:10.800 --> 0:12:13.800 Yeah. I need to go soon. But I do have 0:12:13.840 --> 0:12:15.480 one more question. I want to set the scene for 0:12:15.559 --> 0:12:19.040 the for the listeners that he's very handsome as you 0:12:19.040 --> 0:12:21.720 as you all have googled by now, I'm sure. But 0:12:21.760 --> 0:12:23.760 he's in a black T shirt, he's in black jeans, 0:12:23.920 --> 0:12:25.480 and he's in flip flops. And I'm not sure how 0:12:25.480 --> 0:12:29.439 I feel about the flip flops. Janney, your thoughts. 0:12:28.240 --> 0:12:32.040 The most American thing about him? 0:12:32.800 --> 0:12:34.000 They're his house slippers. 0:12:35.840 --> 0:12:37.240 Yeah, you don't mind that. Huh. 0:12:37.320 --> 0:12:39.920 No, I like a guy in flip flops. He actually 0:12:39.960 --> 0:12:42.960 never he's usually he's always in trainers, so it's like 0:12:43.280 --> 0:12:45.000 it's weird to actually see him in flip flops. 0:12:45.120 --> 0:12:46.640 It was wrong with flip flops. 0:12:47.600 --> 0:12:49.720 I'm not I know, if I were walking around my 0:12:49.720 --> 0:12:51.840 house and flip flops, I would get my wife would 0:12:51.840 --> 0:12:52.480 be like, what's going on? 0:12:52.520 --> 0:12:52.880 What do you do? 0:12:53.040 --> 0:12:55.079 Really, let's let's put those away. 0:12:55.240 --> 0:12:55.560 Yeah? 0:12:55.640 --> 0:12:58.160 Yeah, I just think guy's feet aren't attractive. Does he 0:12:58.240 --> 0:12:59.000 have nice feet? 0:12:59.400 --> 0:12:59.559 No? 0:13:00.080 --> 0:13:00.760 Cute man feet? 0:13:01.320 --> 0:13:03.320 I confirmed just now when you said the flip flops, 0:13:03.360 --> 0:13:04.800 I had to take a good gander. 0:13:05.760 --> 0:13:09.040 I forget like a long life of playing football. I 0:13:09.080 --> 0:13:12.679 feel like there's some damage done to those and some 0:13:12.720 --> 0:13:15.400 broken toes, and yeah, I bet I knew. 0:13:15.240 --> 0:13:16.920 I was sitting with them underneath the table. 0:13:17.040 --> 0:13:23.440 So I actually have a question period. Mark had asked 0:13:23.440 --> 0:13:26.359 a question. So the one part one of the podcast, 0:13:26.520 --> 0:13:29.280 I was like, you know, the announcement is I engaged? 0:13:29.320 --> 0:13:32.040 And he was just he was taken back a little 0:13:32.040 --> 0:13:36.880 bit given the short time period in which we got engaged. 0:13:39.080 --> 0:13:43.240 Does that bother you at all? Like how quick we 0:13:43.280 --> 0:13:45.000 got engaged? Or I mean I guess not because you, 0:13:45.440 --> 0:13:48.520 but I'm like And then also a two part to 0:13:48.559 --> 0:13:51.600 that is when you looked up my past, did any 0:13:51.720 --> 0:13:55.719 of that bother you with my past, like divorces and 0:13:55.800 --> 0:13:57.680 marriages and relationships? 0:13:57.960 --> 0:14:00.000 No, I think I mean sounds of the first question. 0:14:00.800 --> 0:14:02.480 I don't know if it was your question, mark over 0:14:02.520 --> 0:14:03.760 it yours. 0:14:03.920 --> 0:14:07.840 Well, yeah, I was wondering what the rush is? Necessarily, 0:14:07.920 --> 0:14:09.800 why not wait a little longer. 0:14:11.000 --> 0:14:14.000 I'll try, and I'll be blunted about this. So I 0:14:14.040 --> 0:14:17.079 think I think you see, you see people who wait 0:14:17.160 --> 0:14:19.840 for years and years and years to get engaged and 0:14:19.920 --> 0:14:20.520 get married. 0:14:20.560 --> 0:14:22.080 And I mean. 0:14:22.000 --> 0:14:25.280 I've got friends who've waited years and then they get 0:14:25.280 --> 0:14:29.760 engaged and they split up a year later, six months later, 0:14:29.880 --> 0:14:32.080 or they get married and a split up three four 0:14:32.160 --> 0:14:34.800 years later, and they've waited years to do it. I've 0:14:34.840 --> 0:14:38.280 got friends who did it within weeks and have been 0:14:38.320 --> 0:14:41.320 together for over twenty years. So I don't I'm not 0:14:41.360 --> 0:14:44.200 so sure there's a set of way to do things. 0:14:44.200 --> 0:14:48.280 If something feels feels right in your heart and your soul, 0:14:48.320 --> 0:14:53.280 then I think you should you should follow it. We've 0:14:53.320 --> 0:14:57.240 got a relationship that's we trust each other and it's 0:14:57.280 --> 0:14:59.440 built on respect, and for each other. 0:14:59.520 --> 0:15:02.480 And yeah, I didn't. There was no there was no 0:15:02.640 --> 0:15:05.720 rush to do anything. That's all. It just it felt 0:15:05.960 --> 0:15:06.600 it felt right. 0:15:11.240 --> 0:15:13.440 Well, I think that's lovely. I think that's great if 0:15:13.440 --> 0:15:15.840 you when you know, you know, as they say, right, so, yeah, 0:15:15.840 --> 0:15:17.360 I mean why not? And she also meant you're not 0:15:17.400 --> 0:15:18.800 going to get you're not going to actually tie the 0:15:18.880 --> 0:15:21.160 knot for a while yet. So it's not in that sense. 0:15:21.200 --> 0:15:22.640 Is you're not really rushing into anything? 0:15:22.760 --> 0:15:23.920 No, well not not, so. 0:15:25.640 --> 0:15:26.520 It's just a commitment. 0:15:26.600 --> 0:15:28.280 What about the past stuff. 0:15:28.800 --> 0:15:30.520 Yeah, that's a good question, Joan. I kind of wish 0:15:30.520 --> 0:15:31.280 i'd asked that one. 0:15:31.920 --> 0:15:35.080 I was, I was really I was taking your energy 0:15:35.240 --> 0:15:37.360 of like, Okay, what would Mark? What would Mark ask? 0:15:37.520 --> 0:15:38.840 A good one? That's a good one. 0:15:38.920 --> 0:15:41.520 Yeah, that's a good question. I think. 0:15:41.960 --> 0:15:46.640 I mean, everyone regardless of how what the past has been. 0:15:46.680 --> 0:15:50.960 Everyone has a past, but it's how they've they've learned 0:15:51.000 --> 0:15:55.080 and grown and managed those situations. And and I don't 0:15:55.560 --> 0:15:57.720 I don't judge Janna on anything from the past. I 0:15:57.720 --> 0:16:00.120 don't judge anyone on anything from the past, as long 0:16:00.120 --> 0:16:01.760 as they as long as they show up for me 0:16:02.760 --> 0:16:04.360 and the people that I love and the people that 0:16:04.400 --> 0:16:08.200 are important to me. Then it shows that they've they've 0:16:08.240 --> 0:16:11.760 grown from from any sort of decisions or mistakes that 0:16:11.840 --> 0:16:13.120 might have been made in the past. 0:16:13.400 --> 0:16:14.680 And for me, that's attractive. 0:16:14.760 --> 0:16:18.080 And it's just one of the many things that it's 0:16:18.160 --> 0:16:22.760 hugely attractive about Jana. A's how she she has had 0:16:22.800 --> 0:16:25.640 all these upsets in the past, but she she moves forwards. 0:16:25.640 --> 0:16:30.400 She's a little warrior mm hm. And that's and that's attractive. 0:16:32.720 --> 0:16:34.640 I think you're getting a good version of Jenna. 0:16:34.960 --> 0:16:35.640 I think you are. 0:16:41.760 --> 0:16:43.120 Has everyone crying in the room. 0:16:44.800 --> 0:16:45.640 I've got tears. 0:16:45.720 --> 0:17:00.520 I think Cat's okay, our little warrior here. 0:17:01.160 --> 0:17:05.159 Yeah, I'm happy for you. I think it's great. I 0:17:05.200 --> 0:17:07.280 think I think you're getting a great version of Jana. 0:17:07.359 --> 0:17:08.840 She's done a lot of work on herself. She's been 0:17:08.840 --> 0:17:11.399 through a lot of stuff, and I wish you both happily. 0:17:11.440 --> 0:17:13.280 Ever, Aft, thank you so much, Thank you Mark, thanks 0:17:13.280 --> 0:17:13.920 for popping on. 0:17:14.200 --> 0:17:14.960 Pleasures to meet you. 0:17:15.040 --> 0:17:17.360 My pleasure, pleasure to meet you. I hope we'll see 0:17:17.359 --> 0:17:20.879 your own Bye. Mark gets you on the show frequently. 0:17:21.680 --> 0:17:25.639 Talk talk football. We love you, Mark girls. Do you 0:17:25.720 --> 0:17:26.560 have you guys? 0:17:26.600 --> 0:17:26.840 Bye? 0:17:26.880 --> 0:17:30.400 Mark Girls, Do you have any last things you want 0:17:30.480 --> 0:17:35.240 to say to Alan, I'm just glad we get to 0:17:35.320 --> 0:17:38.160 keep Allen forever. I wrote that. 0:17:38.240 --> 0:17:40.000 When she sent the picture, I was like, you guys, 0:17:40.000 --> 0:17:41.199 we get to keep Allen. 0:17:42.359 --> 0:17:45.960 I did because I love him. Yeah, it's wild though, right, 0:17:46.080 --> 0:17:49.600 Like I. 0:17:47.960 --> 0:17:50.560 We have really can I just we have just really 0:17:50.560 --> 0:17:52.359 put up with a lot of douchebags, and I just 0:17:52.440 --> 0:17:55.119 am so thankful we have like a man in our 0:17:55.160 --> 0:17:58.840 world now who's just like respectful and seize you for 0:17:58.880 --> 0:18:02.639 who you are and like can handle his own. Like 0:18:02.720 --> 0:18:05.160 my favorite thing about Alan is that Alan is such 0:18:05.160 --> 0:18:08.760 a secure person in himself, so like he gets to 0:18:08.760 --> 0:18:10.639 come in and like finally you get someone to like 0:18:11.640 --> 0:18:16.280 step in and partner up with you instead of attaching 0:18:16.359 --> 0:18:19.879 to and clinging to and like it just I can't. 0:18:19.960 --> 0:18:21.120 I just love him so much. 0:18:21.720 --> 0:18:24.680 Well, and I think, like, you know, I can go, Okay, 0:18:24.720 --> 0:18:26.560 what's my part? I you know, in the past, like 0:18:26.600 --> 0:18:29.560 I attached, I clinged, you know, for because I was 0:18:29.600 --> 0:18:31.240 still had a lot of work I to do too. 0:18:31.359 --> 0:18:34.240 So I think where we're at is we both did 0:18:34.320 --> 0:18:38.200 the work and then we found each other. Yea, Yeah, 0:18:38.520 --> 0:18:44.200 timing was perfect. Remember our little Christmas party Queendom. Yeah, 0:18:44.280 --> 0:18:49.679 I'll never forget it. Oh my goodness, I did I did? 0:18:49.800 --> 0:18:51.600 I have a video? I forget it, you guys, I 0:18:51.640 --> 0:18:54.560 have a video saying I know this sounds crazy, but 0:18:54.600 --> 0:18:57.040 I'm going to marry him. And we were all like 0:18:57.080 --> 0:18:59.480 asking a million questions and you were just smiling. You're like, 0:18:59.560 --> 0:19:00.919 I was just like, I know, I just know I'm 0:19:00.960 --> 0:19:02.840 going to marry them. I know that was there was me. 0:19:03.000 --> 0:19:04.760 I was like, oh, she said she's gonna marry I 0:19:05.040 --> 0:19:10.000 marry him, the hopeless romantic. We all we all had 0:19:10.000 --> 0:19:13.040 our personalities then, like everyone I know. 0:19:13.080 --> 0:19:15.679 Sarah's like, I mean all of you guys, Yeah, like, 0:19:15.720 --> 0:19:18.600 how is this gonna work? Pamulan's like getting out the 0:19:18.600 --> 0:19:22.800 globe and spending and I'm like, I know, I just 0:19:22.880 --> 0:19:25.240 I don't know why or how or what, but I 0:19:25.280 --> 0:19:28.919 will marry this man. And then I started googling what 0:19:28.960 --> 0:19:32.200 a Scottish bridesmaid could look like and I really went 0:19:32.280 --> 0:19:34.719 with it for a minute. Yeah, we have not discussed 0:19:34.760 --> 0:19:35.760 those details yet, but. 0:19:35.680 --> 0:19:37.639 Maybe next year, are you guys, you're gonna be one 0:19:37.640 --> 0:19:39.520 of the brides that doesn't have any bridesmaids after all 0:19:39.520 --> 0:19:40.000